The Daily Stoic - You Know It’s Time to Change | Keep The Rhythm

Episode Date: December 9, 2025

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Welcome to the Daily Stoic Podcast, where each day we bring you a stoic-inspired meditation designed to help you find strength and insight and wisdom into everyday life. Each one of these episodes is based on the 2,000-year-old philosophy that has guided some of history's greatest men and women to help you learn from them. to follow in their example, and to start your day off with a little dose of courage and discipline and justice and wisdom. For more, visitdailystoic.com. this way for a while, set in our habits. We stay quick-tempered. We eat poorly. We are too distracted. We skip exercise. Hold on to a mean streak or timidity. Maybe we don't try hard enough

or we think we're not good enough. How is that working out for you? Mark is Surrealius in Meditations calls it madness to keep being the same person mauled and degraded by the life we don't enjoy, the one that doesn't give us what we want. What could this year be if you, if you're you actually lived up to your potential, how would some of the little changes, the ones you know you need to make, compound in years to come? Let's fast forward for a minute. It's now December 2026, and you're in the best shape of your life. You got rid of toxic habits or relationships or emotional baggage. You became the parent, the leader, the person you hoped you'd be. You found more joy, ways to be more present. You became less distracted. How did you do it?

One thing the Stoics can say for sure is that no one becomes this way by chance. And if you want to end up there this year, I'd like to invite you to do something that I do myself, with my team, with my family, with my friends, every single year. And that is the Daily Stoic New Year, New You challenge. It's something we started several years ago and we do every single year. And it's designed to help you become the person you know you can be. And over the years, people from all walks of life, whether their stay-at-home moms or CEOs, college students, artists, devoted dads, army generals, grandparents, professional athletes. They've all participated in the Daily Stoic New Year New Year Challenge. And this year, we've taken everything we've learned from the years of feedback and insights and lessons from the past years and distill them into what I think is our most powerful challenge yet.

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thousands of Stoics all over the world are going to be doing it together. Just ask yourself, what is one good habit worth? Right. What's one new perspective worth? Right. What's it worth to become part of a community to get a new friend or an accountability partner, right? If you could chip away at one thing you've been putting off, if you could make progress on one thing, what would that be worth? And I think this challenge is going to help you get there. As a As I said, it's 21 days of Stoic-inspired challenges, three live Q&As with me, access to the Daily Stoic community, and a bunch of other awesome stuff. It's going to be great. You can sign up right now at DailyStoic.com slash challenge. It's going to start off with all of us on January 1st, 2026.

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is something he learned reading from Epictetus. Told us students that while none of us can be perfect, we can catch ourselves when we begin to slide, when we drift from where we should be. So can you feel that rhythm this week. Can you point to examples when you really feel locked into it? And we have two quotes from Marcus and one from Epictetus, walked a long gallery of the past, of empires, of kingdoms, succeeding each other without number. You can also see the future. For surely it will be exactly the same, unable to deviate from the present rhythm. It's all one, whether we've experienced 40 years or an eon, what more is there to see? That's Meditation 749. And then Meditation 611, he says, when forced as it seems by circumstances into utter confusion, get a hold of yourself

quickly. Don't be locked out of the rhythm any longer than necessary. You'll be able to keep the beat if you are constantly returning to it. And then Epictetus' discourses 412, he says, when you let your attention slide for a bit, don't think you will get back a grip on it whenever you wish. Instead, bear in mind that perhaps because of today's mistake, everything that follows will be necessarily worse. Is it possible to be free of air? No, not by any means,

but it is possible for a person to always be stretching to avoid air, and we must be content to at least escape a few mistakes by never letting our attention slide. I was thinking about this, And I remember I wrote an article, wrote a blog post, I'm looking at this. This is March 4th, 2012. Trust me, I'm lying. It's mostly written, but it's not out.

I've moved to New Orleans. I'm transitioning towards this sort of a different life. And anyways, I wrote a blog post on my site called Return to Philosophy, and I'll read it to you. I've written this post before, but it remains a common theme. The busier we get, the more we work and learn and read. the further we drift. We get in a rhythm. We're making money, being creative, we're stimulated and busy. It seems like everything is going well, but we drift further and further from philosophy. So we must catch ourselves and return to it. Pick up meditations, Seneca, Plutarch, Hedot,

our note cards of quotes and reminders, anything from the shelf of great books. Stop and evaluate. Read something that challenges and informs. No matter how much learning or work or thinking we do, none of it matters unless it happens against the backdrop of extortative analysis, the kind rooted in the deep study of the mind and emotion and demands that we hold ourselves to certain standards. We must turn to the practical, to the spiritual exercises of great men, and actively use them. It's the only way we'll get anything out of the rest of our efforts. It's Simple. Stop learning or working for a second and refine. Put aside all the momentum and the moment. Tap the brakes. Return to philosophy. And then I found the other post, which is, wow, dated December 22nd, 2009.

Wow, I guess I'm 22. And I wrote, lately I have felt off. As I felt down, it occurred to me how long it had been since I sat down and read philosophy. I knew I should fix this, but I didn't. A new book would come and I'd immediately pick it up. I'd think I've spent so little time reading now. It would be ashamed to sit down with something I've read before. This was a sham. What I was doing was distracting myself. It's what Stephen Presfield calls the resistance. I made myself busy so that I would have no chance to feel better. I knew that philosophy requires work and self-criticism and one inevitable conclusion that my problems were almost entirely my own fault. Their resolution requires an active process that only I can initiate. Philosophy is the tool with which to do so, as one would say,

and I think this is Marcus Aurelius I'm quoting, doctors carry their tools on their person, or more ideally a boxer's tools are their person we should seek to do the same there is no excuse for being too busy or too distracted nor is there any alternative so anyways if you feel like you're slipping a little bit know that i do that too and i have now for well over a decade and a half and uh you just pick yourself back up you go back to the rhythm as marcus realia says you pick up your philosophy, you return to it, and you keep going. So I'll leave you there, and I hope you pick up the rhythm this week, and I'll talk to you soon. Hey, it's Ryan. Thank you for listening to the Daily Stoag podcast.

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