Determined Society with Shawn French | Adversity & Mindset - Breaking The Silence

Episode Date: August 4, 2021

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some mistakes in it. I may stumble. I may bumble, but I'm going to get right back up. As is life, right? So I want to talk to you guys about something that's really, truly bothering me. And I'm going to title this episode, breaking the silence because I'm finally going to break my silence of what's been going on since 2020 and kind of, what I'm seeing. And what I mean by that is, oh, I'm not going to choose a side. I'm going to sit here and tell you guys that everybody's experiences are different. People are experiencing this climate, this pandemic in different ways. Some people have been touched by it. Some people have been touched by it. Some people have passed away. Some people haven't. Some people have had people pass away. Some people haven't. I don't. I don't

understand what I'm seeing. What I'm seeing is people shaming people for not thinking just like them. You don't wear a mask. You're an idiot. You wear a mask. You're an idiot. It's like this world is completely gone mad. And I know some people are going to be pissed off at me for coming out with this. And honestly, it doesn't matter to me. What matters to me is I have my own voice to this whole thing. I want you guys to listen carefully. I support you in whatever you feel is right for you and your family. I support it. I'm going to do me.

I'm going to take care of my family. I'm going to either put myself in situations or not put myself in situations based on my core values and how I need to take care of my family. I suggest that everybody be comfortable and secure enough in their own values and beliefs to do the same. what I continue to be disappointed about is when I see people that are mutually connected. Here it is. Here's an example.

I have someone that I know one of their family members is in the ICU of COVID. All right. And then there's another person who's also connected with them going on social media saying masks are a joke. well if you're connected with that person and you're truly friends with them they're going to see what you post while they're family members in the ICU how do you think that makes them feel regardless if you're right or wrong what i'm asking you to truly understand is to remove yourself from your own thoughts and truly think how you are projecting your thoughts onto somebody else and how they are being affected based on what's going on in their lives i just truly don't understand

I truly don't understand why we cannot support each other in the most crazy times since I've been alive. I'm 42 years old. I've never gone through this. I don't know what's right. I don't know what's wrong. All I know is I'm doing the best that I can. I'm doing the best that I can with the information that I have at my fingertips for my family and myself. And I truly respect everyone for doing the best.

the same thing. It's not just, it's not just COVID, guys. It's everything. It's fitness. Like, there's some people out there with some serious hubris here, right? Like program hubris. Like, my program is better than your program. My program's the only one that's going to work. Right? There's no question. Everybody knows that I do 75 hard, the live hard program. But there's many programs out there that can, that can create and sustain a healthy lifestyle, that you can be successful. for me to say like the only way you can be successful in life and be uber competitive is if you do 75 hard that's stupid i'm not going to say that if you've tried the program great if you haven't great if you've tried it and failed great

if you've completed it great there's lessons to be learned for all of us here but i think the biggest one is to meet people where they're at and have some empathy we have an amazing opportunity truly to support your neighbor, your friend, your wife, your mom. Anybody you have a relationship with, see, I told you that's going to make mistakes. Jumbo my words there. Every single day we should be trying to maximize our relationships, doing the best that we can to show empathy and to be there for one another. Now, we could sit there and get mad at people for not thinking the way we do. Sure, that's one approach.

but don't you just find yourself angry doing that, constantly putting things out there of why you're right and why everybody else is wrong? What are we truly getting out of it? Has it helped? Has this stopped? No, it hasn't. It hasn't.

What we need to understand is we are where we are, the reality is a reality, and we need to do whatever we can to get through it. And that is put your head down, focus on what you need to do, take care of your family, like whatever that means to you and be there for your people and be there for that stranger because guys you're going to need somebody at some point or another right and people are going

to remember if you were there for them so i just encourage you all to understand and to truly buy into the fact that everyone is different and that's okay you're not going to think just like everybody else you and your own spouse are significant at other or family member are going to disagree vehemently on what's going on right now. Trust me, my wife and I have had many disagreements about this. But is that important? You know, we went through something recently where, you know, I wanted to be right so much about our conversation.

And then it turned into an argument. Then it turned into a fight. And then it was like 12 hours of us not speaking together. What did I get out of that? nothing. I got 12 hours of pain, 12 hours without my best friend. Living in the same house, not speaking, that's not worth it. She is my best friend, my partner, my everything, my rock. We may disagree, and that's okay. And I need to get better at that too. And that's why I'm

coming out here with this. Because this isn't something that I've perfected. This is something that I realized the other day, I'm like, whoa. what am I doing? I'm being like everybody else right now. And that's not what I want to do. So anyway, guys, that's all I got for you today. The one thing I hope you got out of this is just love people regardless, because that's what we need right now.

People need understanding more now than they ever have. And you can either give that or not. If you don't, I think you're going to continue fighting with yourself and fighting with other people. But if you can find your way just to have some little bit of an understanding of somebody else, I think that can go a long way. All right, guys, hope you have a wonderful day. Talk to you soon.