Determined Society with Shawn French | Adversity & Mindset - Falling off TRACK

Episode Date: November 17, 2021

Who falls off track!? EVERYONE! Shawn French sees so many people shaming the shit out of themselves for falling off track. The only thing that attracts is more bad decisions that will keep you down. If you fall of track do these 3 things. 1) reconnect with your why! 2) get right back on track with the very next opportunity you have to make a great decision or a bad decision, 3) stop beating yourself up over it and RISE ABOVE THAT SHIT! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/shawn-french/message Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

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So I want to talk about something today that I think is very, very important to explore and to get out there. falling off track, right? Who falls off track? Literally everybody. I'm sorry, there's times where I don't care who you are, you're going to fall off track. You may not fall off track in the gym. That may be one of the things that you truly love to do every single day, but you might succumb to maybe, you know, a night out drinking or, you know, having your favorite food or, you know, late night snack, maybe even some chocolate. Listen, I am, I am. I am no different than anybody. There are a lot of times where I can fall off track. And it's typically when I lose focus of what it is exactly I'm looking to accomplish. Listen, the problem with falling off track is that there's a lot of shame that the public wants to place on you for falling off track or some self-inflicted shame. Look, guys and girls, if you fall off track, so what? you can get right back on track the very next decision, meaning if you have, if you have a meal that is outside of your plan, all you have to do is the very next meal you have make it as nutritional as possible, right?

If you miss a day in the gym, because life gets in the way, something happens, or you just need time for you that day and you don't feel like going to the gym because, you know what, at that point, it's not a lot. about mental toughness, it's just something that you need for you just to do nothing that day, then listen to your body, listen to your mind. And honestly, don't beat yourself up over it. So then the next day, you wake up, you feel energized, you go do your workout, you do all those things that you normally do. It's called balance, ladies and gentlemen. Now, I know there's a lot of programs out there that focus on being perfect on a day-to-day basis. 75 hard is one of them you know i'm a big proponent of that program i love the program uh i'm doing it again right now um recently failed on day six how to start over from day one i mean to day one

and i immediately shamed myself oh my god i can't believe i didn't get my second workout in or you know i had something that wasn't on my my diet plan that's on me you know i have to acknowledge the fact that I made a decision, I decided to, quote unquote, fail the program and start over, right? And taking that responsibility is huge when you fall off track because that's going to give you the most position of power, right? You feel empowered in that moment because you know it was your decision. So with that being said, you know that the very next decision is yours to make or not to, right? So what I want to chat about briefly is when you fall off track, it's super important not to fall down that rabbit hole of binging and going more and more off the track and you're all the way in the weeds because I've done that too, right? I'm no different than anybody.

I make a lot of good decisions when it comes to my health recently in the last couple years. But then there are times within those moments, like maybe like three to four weeks out of time sometimes where I'm not. making the best decisions. The lifting weights will never stop. But like, I'll eat too much pizza or I'll do something, you know, where I'll have a late night snack. And the next morning, I feel terrible. And then I'm like, okay, well, I'll just go to the gym later after work.

And then that whole day, I'm making not the best food choices. So what I'm doing in that point is stringing bad decisions together, back to back to back. And that's when you can kind of fall into this deeper, self-shaming or, you know, you can fall into a depression that way. So, quick tip. Pro tip. Is that what they say? When you fall off track, the very next decision you make is very critical. Do you get back on track or do you continue to fall off the track and go into the weeds?

Let's decide, right? If I decide to have a pizza pizza, which I can't for the next 45 days, of summer, I'm sorry, 75 days. You know, from that point on, it's like, okay, I had a piece of pizza. Do I beat myself up for it and then feel sorry for myself? And then stuff my face full of bad food three hours later, or am I going to get right back on the horse? So the key guys is getting right back on the horse. And if you have a food, you know, a food item that is off your plan.

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Like, I fail and I can't believe this. This is on me. I'm a loser. Blah, blah, blah, blah. Like, guys, it's not about that. This shit's supposed to be fun. You have an opportunity every single day to make the most out of your body in your life. If you have an able body, that is something to be grateful for.

I know plenty of people that had able bodies and they lost the use of their body in a boating accident or car accidents. And then they struggle daily to keep a positive mindset because, of course, they do, right? they've gone through a lot of adversity, a lot of pain, and a lot of loss. So when we have the opportunities and we have the body to do it, you know, honor yourself, go do something. I'm getting, I'm like way off on a tangent now. I apologize. I can do that sometimes.

You know, but it's just super important not to shame yourself publicly or even internally about something that you may have fallen short on, right? It's supposed to be fun. This whole journey of self-development, you know, physical development, whatever it is you're shooting for, you're never going to find it. If you, one, think there's a finish line because there's never a finish line. You're going to get to your goal and then you're going to want more. And that's okay as long as you keep things in perspective.

You should always want more for yourself because if you can provide more for yourself, then you end up providing more for your family. family, right? And it all helps with the mentality on a day-to-day basis, right? So, have fun with it. I mean, I just, it's really hard to see people get so down on themselves. And honestly, it's hard for me when I get down on myself because it just puts me in a bad mood. And you know who suffers? My kids, my wife, because I'm mad at myself, right? Because I'm going against what my core beliefs say. My core beliefs say, stay on track of the nutrition, work your body as hard as possible, read good things, do good things. When I get off track, it creates a conflict with inside me.

So my advice to everybody is if you're shooting to do a program, 75 hard or whatever it is, and you fall short on a day, it's all right. start over, right? Because if you get to day 30 and something happens and you fail the program, your body doesn't start over on day one, your progress doesn't start over on day one, just you're counting. All right. So let's really focus on moving on from quote unquote failure, right? Just get back on. Just don't think about it. Don't think, oh boy, here we go again. right when we think that and there's times where i've you know like i said i've failed 75 hard i've completed it twice i've failed it twice sorry three times right so right now i'm on my third i'm on my i'm going to complete it for my third time that's the goal that's what's going to happen right um so i think

it's it's really smart to keep things in perspective of day to day decision by decision minute by minute The only day that matters for me is day three. That's where I'm at, day three right now. I got to get through day three, right? By making good decisions and proper planning. Whatever that means to you, you guys need to do, right? Just we can't, it's just, it gets frustrating because I see so many people tear themselves down for falling off for the weekend or whatnot. And a lot of that is, if you look at Instagram and everything's going on right now, you know, there's a lot of, quote, unquote, perceived perfection.

And so what we're doing as a public is we're chasing that perfection. And guys, we're never going to get it. There's no such thing as perfect, right? So while my message may be jumbled today, I may be going off in many tangents. I'm really passionate about this. I'm super passionate because I live it. And what I'm trying to convey to you guys to help you guys and give you guys some tricks to get back on track right away, I hold dear to my heart because I go through it. And I truly believe people want to hear from people that have a genuine story to tell.

I've struggled with weight and not having the body I want my whole life. and I am determined, determined to get that end result by the end of 2022. And if I can get there sooner, great. And then I got to maintain it. But I share that with you because throughout my whole life, I've gotten in great shape and then I backslid back in the back shape. That's yo-yoing. It's really hard on your body.

But more than anything, it's hard on your confidence. It's hard on your mind. Right. So it's super important to understand that everybody, see on social media or every podcast you listen to, those are human beings and they struggle just like you. They are no different. They haven't cracked the code of adversity. They just know how to work through it. Right. So when we feel the adversity, we have to accept it and we have to move in spite of that adversity. Now, don't get me wrong. If you're waking up every day and you don't feel like,

well, I'm not going to go do this for work or I'm not going to go work out just because I don't want to, well, you're never going to reach your goals. And you're just, you're creating that self-fulfilling prophecy that you don't believe you deserve it. And yes, yes, you do deserve it. You deserve everything you want. But the trick is to stay focused, understanding what the goal is, what the most important goal is in every single decision you make has to match up with that end result goal. That's just the way it is. But you guys already knew that, right? Everybody knows that. that. It's just it's, it's, sometimes it's hard to, I guess, stay in line with. But more than anything, guys, that I want you to understand in this podcast is that in a specific episode is that people

fall off track. You're no different. I'm no different. But the trick is to get back on track right away, like immediately and say, okay, the next time I eat or the next time I have a decision to make whether I'm going to go work out or not, despite how I feel about it, I'm going to make the right choice that is in alignment with my end result goal. And you better have a big why behind it too. You better have a big why. So one, have a big why. That should be number one. It has to be emotional. You have to feel it. It has to give you goosebumps. right for me i'm going to get very very honest right now for me it's going to a a beach or a pool party and not feeling insecure i said it now all the five people that listen to this podcast

know my insecurities i hope there's more than five people that listen to this podcast i have the analytics it's a little bit more than five so share it guys seriously share this Have a big why and into the next decision you make, decide to do what's going to support your goal. And then do that over and over and over again. And just get through that day. And at the end of the day, when you're sitting there on the couch, watch your Netflix or whatever it is, and you want to reach for that donut or you want to reach for that, that ice cream, ask yourself this, does it support my end result goal?

And if the answer is no, then don't do it. That's with anything in your life. Is skipping work going to get you to your sales goal? Nope. So don't skip work. Go do it. Do the work. Right?

We're supposed to rest sometimes. We've got to earn that rest too, guys. All right. So listen, that's all I got today. I hope it was decent for you all. Remember, you fall off track. Just get back on. All right, guys.

I love you all. Talk to you soon. on.