Determined Society with Shawn French | Adversity & Mindset - PRIMETIME to SHINE w/ Bo$$ Babe Christy Primmer

Episode Date: February 4, 2022

Listen in as Shawn French sits down with Christy Primmer, A world-renowned thought leader on self-care and financial empowerment for women. She spent two decades facilitating trauma counselling and naturally transitioned into the coaching industry. As a personal development author, Christy is obsessed with helping women create their EPIC life. This episode is abloute fire and full of energy. Women all over the world benefit from her empowerment strategies. Why should you be any different? Find Christy: https://primetimecs.com/ IG:  @christy_primmer --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/shawn-french/message Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

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Christy Prime. She is a world-renowned thought leader on self-care, financial empowerment for women. She has a niche, guys. She's incredible. She's an author of three books. She's been featured on ABC, NBC, and the CW, just to name a few. She's building healthy and wealthy women one conversation at a time guys one conversation at a time building that shit women she's educating women to stand in their power and become confident as fuck meet christie how you do christie i am doing really well thanks so much for having me sean hell yeah dude like what else am i going to do on us on a wednesday afternoon i'm going to have a badass woman on my podcast i love it let's let's do this Share you with the world here. So hey, before we get into all the, I mean, I gave a brief overview of your background, right? And we're going to get into, I want you to expand on all that. But before we do that, let's just have some fun. Yeah, let's do it.

So what is one funny thing that people may not know about you? I would say, if they don't know me well, I am literally a walking dance party. I am always grooving and moving. I'm singing all the time. and usually in like a high-pitched voice to drive my husband and son wild. You want to drop the bar right now? I could definitely do that. Like, let's go. There she is. I love it.

I'm prompting, but. Yeah, never missing an opportunity to just be you. To live, right? That's what it's about. To live. To live. So you love to dance. You love to sing, which brings me the next question.

Like, what's your favorite song? What's your favorite music? Oh, my favorite song would definitely have to be smooth criminal, Michael Jackson. And then my second favorite song is two out of three ain't bad meatloaf. Which one? What is it? Three out of three ain't bad by meatloaf. Wow.

So is that your go-to karaoke song or a smooth criminal? Both. Damn. Both. Okay. And when I get to Florida, I do karaoke every Thursday. In our community, we have it every Thursday. you got to come out.

Yeah, I was just about to say, like, I'm holding your ass to this. When you come to Florida in a few weeks, we're doing karaoke. Oh, yeah. I am terrible. I don't know what my go-to would be. You're going to sing Sir Mix a lot with me. I like big butts and I cannot lie. I was thinking more of like Jason Alvine or some shit,

and you're throwing off Sir Mixel, whatever. I will, I will surrender to the process. It'll be fun. I love it. Oh, shit. So you do a lot of things for men and women, but mostly women. And you help them understand their worst. They can be empowered and stand on their own.

But let me ask you a question. What do you do? Because you're a self-care junkie. Yes. What do you do for self-care on a daily basis? Yeah, you know, for the last 12 years, I've had a non-negotiable morning routine. It's served me well. I wake up.

I start with a prayer. I meditate. I work out, shower, get ready for the day. And then I journal in between a coffee and, you know, enjoying the quiet time. That's the standard, whether I'm traveling, whether I'm at home, whether I'm at the cottage. Because it's been my foundation that's kept me mentally well, focused, clear, physically well, really strong. So. day basis to keep us right so we can empower ourselves in order to empower other people.

Yes. And what I found is that individuals like you and like myself, we give so much to the world and we want to help so many other people that sometimes we have to have daily check-ins and minute-by-minute check-ins with ourselves like, hey, Christy, hey, Sean, slow the fuck down a little bit. You need to fill your cup up. I know it feels my cup up, but what fills yours up? You know, I've really been practicing mindfulness being in the moment.

I'm a very high achieving, ambitious woman, if you can tell. And what really fills me up is being in the moment, being present, being present with my son, being present with my husband, being present when I'm coaching clients, being present if I'm watching a movie, I used to be on my phone. And, you know, that might sound foolish to some people. But being present and cognizant of what I'm doing and appreciating it has elevated my life. certain my health and my relationships to a whole new level. I love it. So with that being said, I want to touch on two things, but we move on. Gratitude and being present. So what are your common gratitude practices? Because I feel like we cannot truly have more in our lives unless we're grateful for what we have in them at the current state. Give the people some advice on some nice

gratitude practices that they can do on a daily basis. Yeah. You know, I like to simplify it because throughout my career history, I've worked with people that maybe have been in a struggle, a really not so great situation. And they'll say to me, Christy, I don't have anything right now to be grateful for. So what I do is simplify it. Be grateful for waking up. Be grateful for your heart that beats without being told to beat. Be grateful for clean water. If you're more advanced in your gratitude practice, then literally thank God. Thank the universe for the blessings, for the miracles coming. Pray for somebody else's blessings. You want to elevate your gratitude game.

Start thinking about the people in your life that are showing up for you, that engage with you, that check in on you and pray for them. Speak gratitude over them. You will expand your heart center in a way you've never imagined. Powerful. Powerful because I found that when I wake up in the morning, the first thought is always like, uh-oh, I'm a little tired. I'm a little sore, right? So right away, I have to go into the gratitude. Thank you for the breath of my lungs.

Thank you, God, for allowing me to wake up another day. Thank you that I can look over and my wife is breathing. Thank you that I can look on a camera and see my kids are moving around and they're alive. There's so many beautiful things, right, in this world that we need to be grateful for in the present time for us to go out there and do our daily, we call it a day-to-day crime, right? And it's just super important. It's super important. can you think of times in your life where maybe your gratitude practices have kind of suffered a little bit. And what has that done to your state of mind?

Oh, absolutely. I mean, I'm human AF. I would say one of the greatest times was when I went through a divorce. I was young. I was a new mom. Went through a brutal divorce custody battle. And it was really hard to find the things to be grateful for because I was so focused on getting through the day, getting food, like providing, figuring things out.

And it really affected me. I can look back and connect those dots because I wasn't in the right state to actually have the success or the wins that I needed. I didn't use that language back then per se, but because I was so focused on fear and worry. And when we can shift that, even in the most mildest minute way, we really start to energetically change and it affects our environment. and the people around us.

So that's just one example. That's probably one of the lowest points in my life. Now it would be keep putting off my travel to my Florida home. You know, that's frustrating or feeling like, you know, I worked at my house and I live in my house and I clean my house. I don't get out of my house much. That's frustrating. So then it's like, oh, I'm so grateful that I have a beautiful home that I can be in. So I think, yeah, it's circumstantial, but definitely.

And I think journaling for me is another tip that I'll share. It's really, really powerful to see, not only think it or speak out loud in a prayer in talking to God or the universe, but to actually write down people or things you're grateful for because you can reflect on that in times when you maybe aren't feeling so certain. Yeah, I mean, like writing them down and actually feeling the feeling of gratitude for that specific thing. And so, I mean, it's one thing to say, I'm grateful for my family. I'm grateful for my dog. That doesn't necessarily do anything, does it? Like, we have to sit there and we have to be in that,

that moment of gratitude, like feeling like that when you wanted that husband, when you wanted that wife back in the day, you were courting that person, you wanted that person. There was a certain feeling that you had. And now that you have that person, it's not enough just to say, I'm grateful for that person. Yeah. You don't feel that right here.

You got to feel all your body. Like, that's when we vibrate on such a high level. level, right? We're throwing out all the good shit in the universe. And it just so happens that day or those days seem to move freely and easily, doesn't it? Oh, absolutely. And let's face it, we can be so grateful for our spouses and our children, but there's moments where we're like, really? Are you kidding me, bro? Hey, we and he's saying like, is that just me? Is that just me? Yeah, no, seriously. And he's sitting like, seriously, girl, like that's what we're fucking doing. Like really?

You know, it's such a funny thing because it's like we, and it brings me to this. Like we have moments, right? It's like, okay, you can say you're having a shitty day or I'm having a shitty day with my spouse. Are you really having a shitty day? Are you having a shitty fucking moment? Because there's, it's different. Yes.

Yes. And, you know, I share this. My husband and I did the hump day show every Wednesday for about seven years, all videos are free on on my Facebook page if anyone wants to check them out now we do paid pump day shows for events and things like it's incredible and it was just with the intention to show up and deliver and bring value because we have an incredible marriage we are a power couple and it's taken a fuck ton of work and it continues to but what i always like to do is quickly go back to how does the healthiest wealthiest version of me right now in this moment talk to my husband or my

son. Oh, oh, she might have to turn the dial a notch. And then I can shift and still feel what I'm feeling in the moment, not just credit my feeling, but be like, okay, do I want to be reactive or do I want to be responsive? And I want to be responsive. But it's so funny because we all think that way, we're in a certain moment, we're pissed or sad or whatever it is. And I always say, okay, Sean, is this how your highest self would be acting right now. Because a lot of people, a lot of people, and I was always taught this, like in my last career, one of my leaders said to me, hey, the moment you're going to react to something, I want you to think about something, think about somebody you admire and think of how would

they react in this situation. Like, I can't, I couldn't relate to that. How about this? how would my future self, my superhero version of me respond, fuck reacting, respond, respond. And what I found is that when I put myself in that state of being, everything changes. Because I have control over that. I don't have something. It's a fucking assumption, right?

And it's such a poor, vibe vibe. If you're the one nagging and you're irritated and something didn't go right in your business, or you're taking it out on your kids unintentionally. But when you can really take control of your mood, you change your life. Everything. And you know what? More importantly, too,

you have the ability to change the lives around you. Yes. And let's move. Let's use that as a launch pad to get into what you do because you are so multifaceted. Like if I were someone coming to your website, brand new, didn't know you, I'm like, shit, I can go here.

go here. Like I can buy affirmation cards. I can have her as a speaker. She can coach me one on one. Like tell the world what it is you do and what and more importantly, what led you to that. Yeah. So I legitimately build healthy and wealthy women. And I do that one conversation at a time, one book that, you know, I've got books. I write specifically to women. A lot of men buy my books and love them, but I do write specifically to women through my mentorship, through my team trainings, you know, speaking, all of those things, my television show, I use those platforms and my free social media content. I use those platforms and opportunities to speak life and to speak wellness over women so they can live and love better with the career history of being a trauma

counselor for 21 years, helping people live a better life, dealing with sexual violence, domestic violence, PTSD, anxiety, all these things. What I learned the key thing for men and women was they had to realize they were worthy of living a better life, right? You could use any modality of therapy you want, but if you can't actually help that person open up and see there's something different on the other side of their pain or shame or whatever's happening, you won't have action. And what I do, I'm very intuitive.

I can read people. I've crafted that over the years and homed in on it. And a lot of times what we think we want isn't what we need. And that's what led me to, you know, I've had my own private practice for 10 years. I just closed it two weeks ago, well, end of the summer, but two weeks ago, retired from the profession. But I've been coaching for at least nine years, probably most of my life, if I really think about it.

And with the coaching, I help women help themselves. help their partners be a better partner, a better mom, if they have children, a better business owner. Like, I'm literally helping women have a greater impact. And I will never, ever take that for granted. I'm very humbled by the privileges I've had to work with such amazing women and their families, essentially. And that's what led me to that. It was just a natural progression into the coaching industry from trauma counseling background. You know, it's, you bring up a lot of good points. And the biggest thing that I'm taking from this is like, you have the most amazing opportunity every day to be the vessel to change a woman's life. And by doing that, not just by

changing her life, you're changing her husband's life, her children's lives, her friends' lives. Like, you have such a fucking ripple effect. Like, it's, it's, it's so impactful and it's impressive. Like, what is the most, what is the hardest part of getting a woman to understand her true perfection, her true power. Oh, definitely taking her blinders off and topping into her own heart center, tapping into her own thoughts. A lot of times women are living the life that their mom wanted them to live or their parent or a partner or an ex.

And they've got all of this stuff up in their head. It's complete bullshit most of the time. I would say 98% of the time. But they're conditioning of who they think they are and what they're capable of. And when I can snap of a finger, help a woman have an eye-opening experience that she could feel a little bit better, she could release the anger or her pain or her hurt. And she could love better, starting with herself. It's a game changer. And I'm not saying it doesn't take work.

Everyone's at different spots, places, and their lives. But when that can happen, the transformation that follows is usually very quick. and powerful. You know, it's a good point because so many times when we work with, whether it's a male or female, we have to get inside. We have to peel back the layers.

I was on a podcast earlier today and I was talking about this. And it's like, we have to facilitate the acknowledgement of how someone is thinking about themselves or blocking themselves. And then once we help them realize what the deal actually is,

we have to give them the tools to deal with that emotionally because that moment where that person realizes what the fuck is really going on and why they're suppressing their true inner badass, it's emotional. Oh, yeah. And we have to be able to give the tools, like I said, to help navigate them through. Like, okay, this is good. Like what you're feeling is good. It's neutral.

Let's just move on from it. And let's see how we can impact our day. our tomorrow, our month, and then our year, and then eventually our whole lives. Can you think back? And you've worked with so many, so many people. And you've had so many speaking engagement, so many media appearances. Can you remember the first time where you unlocked that door in someone's mind and the look on their face and how did you feel learning that? Wow, that's the best question I've ever been asked on a podcast. And I have told you we're coming with this shit man you know i want to say i have to be honest i don't think i can

remember the very first time um but i can remember from a the very first man that i worked with and had that happen tell me about that because it's different than a woman like we're very wired different very very very much so and a lot of people say it's a myth but no men and women are wired differently and have different societal constructions and constraints placed upon them. So that's that's legit. That's a whole other conversation. I can remember this is probably back in, oh my gosh, I'm going to say 18, 17 years ago, I was working with a man, an indigenous man.

And he had been court ordered to see me. And a lot of stuff, very tough, came in, you know, he wasn't talking to nobody. You know, and I remember I just looked at him and I said, listen, I've got to sign your attendance form. Let's use this time to accomplish something. So you walk out of here a little less pissed off than you are right now. And it was that quick that that man, I could see his shoulders because I didn't act afraid of him, because he could tell from my energy, I genuinely gave a shit about him. it diffused his defensive mechanism.

And I can tell you that person now has overcome addiction, has overcome his past child abuse. He is a thriving man. He's very wealthy. He has an incredible family. He's a leader in his community. He helps build teens and tweens. And it was progressive.

But every time I got to see him, it was a weekly thing. It was a court order. He would share a little. bit more and share a little bit more. And I remember I asked him, I said, what, what really made you open up to me? Because I'm always learning. And he said, he looked me right in the eye and he said, because I could tell you gave a fuck. And I said, and I had tears. I'm like literally sitting there trying to fight tears. And I said to him, if I can be one person in your life. And I've said this to thousands of clients, but if I can be one person in your life that will hold space for you right now in this

moment, not yesterday, not tomorrow, right now, and help you see how valuable you are, no matter what you've done, no matter what you've said or what you didn't do, I've done my job. And that's the shit that causes change. You know, I'm smiling because I love you. I love everything you're saying. And guys, listening, I'm going to tell you something, her authenticity, her raw authenticity is true. And when I met you virtually, just like this on a Zoom call two weeks ago, right, I could tell you literally gave a million fucks about me.

Yeah. And there's not a whole lot of people that can hold that amount of care for an individual that they never truly met in person, never hugged. But like, I feel like you were able to tap into my inner beings. Like you, you understand who I am. And I think I know that is your true gift. Your superpower is being authentic and truly caring about the person in front of me. It really is. And thank you.

I received that with such gratitude. And I think the reason I want to share this to be very clear for anyone listening, the reason I can do that is, yes, I am innately gifted in certain ways. We all have different gifts. That's one of mine is. being able to read people. But it's because I've done a shit ton of work on myself, and I know who I am and I'm solid and who I am.

And I am aware of my strengths. And I am mindful of my not so great moments, my weaknesses. And when I show up as me with pure intention, I attract people that do the same. It's just the law of attraction at its finest. And I can see through things quickly. And for you, I see a big heart, a heart for change, for impact, not just for you and not just for your family, but for the lives of

millions of people that are going to have the great pleasure of linking arms with you, listening to your podcast, working with you, hearing you speak. And that's why it's easy for me to care. Like, I genuinely think if all of us would just get out of our own heads and give a shit about other people, we wouldn't just change the world. We'd start within, change our lives. Yeah. I mean, absolutely. Like, I mean, that's a frequency that, you know, we, we really need to get on. Yeah. It globally, right? The thought that I, you have to lose in order for me to win, I, if you're unhappy, then I can be unhappy. That is so without. And it defies all the laws. Like people, philosophers are talking about this way before us. This is nothing new, right? And we have to understand that in order for us to truly be happy, we have to have that human connection. And the only way we have that connection is truly caring about somebody.

And I don't know where, you know, my mom is a fucking same dude. She's got such a big heart, right? To a fault, right? But she's a beautiful person. I have always cared so deeply about people, right? My wife is the same way. My wife is an empath to the degree. I'm an empath in a different way. I can feel something move on, but then it comes back, you know, it hits me later on and then I, you know, have to work through it. But, you know, for me, what's the point of being in this world if we don't want to see other people succeed?

That's right. And there's a lot of mentors out there and coaches out there that are selling a really good speech. They got great branding. They've got a great message, you know, they might even be verified. I don't know. They are living in such lack. I've seen it. I've seen people come to me. that can't pay their mentors, but they're telling people they live in abundance and they can help you make seven figures. And I always say to them, without judgment, but I always say to them,

slide back into the real deal, slide back into authenticity and watch everything change that quickly. Right? Slide back. It's so, it's that word, authenticity, raw authenticity. To me, it means so much more than an actual definition,

because I, when I'm in that state, right, and I'm sure you can attest this, when you're in that raw authentic state and you're bringing yourself and you're doing a video, you're on a TV show, you just flow. You're not thinking, right? You're taking this out of the equation and you're going right here, right? That's the hardest distance to travel, this distance from here to here. That's where the magic is. And that's where we can impact so many people.

but when I'm in that state, it is so liberating because I don't have to worry, nor do I give a shit what people think. Right. I mean that in the most caring and loving way, right? I'm not saying I don't care about you or my wife or my kids or the stranger across the street walking their dogs. That's not what I'm saying. What I'm saying is I know where I'm at. I know my place. And I think that and I know that that is a place of power and accountability.

absolutely and you know for any area of our lives our personal development professional development when we are just true to who we are in the moment knowing we can change knowing that there's more possible for us not rushing our advancement or success but being eager for more right happy where you are content where you are eager for more it's just such a different way to live yeah I mean, it truly is. I mean, I've, I've lived on the other side of it, right? I grew up in a scarcity mentality. Sports kind of teaches you scarcity mentality, right? Yeah. I mean, look, baseball can teach you so much about life, right? But it can also teach you so much on how not to be. So, you know, growing up, you know, you want to be the starting, I was a catcher. So you want to be a starting catcher, right? You want to be a starting pitcher. Well, if someone beat you out from a position, now you're sitting there like, why? how do I beat them out? So it's a competition. So sports teach you to compete against somebody else. And what we have to realize sooner than later that the only way you're going to outshine an opponent, an opponent is to meet your ultimate self. You have to chase you.

Yes. Every single day. It's not, I'm not worried about another person out there doing the same thing as me and you shouldn't either. Am I better than I was yesterday? that's right you versus you you know i want to i want to share something really quickly i just i did another podcast last week recording and the guy asked me a question and he said how do you deal with like haters he said you're always so positive and optimistic how do you deal with haters and i said you know i haven't really had that many haters maybe maybe an ex that's like got a fake profile i don't know so our friend i've outgrown rolling your ass i don't know but i said you know i always remember one thing and that is no one can ever know my heart except God and I will not waste my energy

defending myself and my intentions when I know that they're pure to anybody. And in addition to that, no one could be as cruel to me as I used to be to myself. So I mean, if it stings a little, I process it, I ask what's the lesson and I move on. And usually I'll have a glass of wine and laugh with my husband and be like, who are these people? And why are they spending their energy trolling on people that are spreading love and light in the world, right? I mean, and it could come up in so many different ways, right? I mean, like, I was, I had the opportunity to counsel, not counsel, but, you know, talk with one of my friends the other day, but he's like, dude, like, I got this hater come on my page

and, you know, call me a liar. Like, I said, do I know you? I'm like, dude, no. Like, you have the opportunity right there to receive that as neutral feedback and to be, like, not I'm responsive, right? Like, you can respond internally, like, I'm going to pray for this individual. They don't know me.

They don't truly know me. What they say about me is not about me. It's about how they see the world. They are mad at something. And I resemble that energy somehow, so they're tying me to that liar. And I'm not that person. I'm not that being.

So it's funny, I gave me, he said, thank you so much. And immediately, immediately. Someone hopped on one of my reels. And it was, I don't think there was any ill intent because I know the person.

It was, I, the music is distracting me from the message. What? And I'm like, I thought about it. I'm like, oh my God,

like, this is cool, right? This is cool. It's an opportunity. Like, and I didn't think he was hating on me. What,

for me, it was like, an opportunity to work through like, oh my God, I messed up. I'm not that perfectionist, you know, program that trigger kicks in that, you know, I chose to subscribe to because of everything that was being fed to me when I was a kid. And I immediately thought about it. I'm like, damn, this is really cool.

Then I said, hey, thanks for the feedback. I go, this music is really hard to figure out. I'll adjust it next time. Oh. He helped me get better. Yeah. Right. And so it's all about the way we look at it. And I haven't, I mean, I'm sure I have a bunch of silent haters. My, my follower count drops every single day that it goes up. That's the other thing. People are going to hop off your train.

If you don't serve their purpose in their life anymore and you're not on the same frequency, they can hop off and make room for people that want to be on there for your journey that need you, right? Yes. And you don't want people around that don't vibe with you. Like, I feel that way in my friendship. I feel that way in my business mentorships and masterminds that I pay to be in. You know, I feel that way in with my clients. Last year, I fired $75,000 in clients. There's three clients. I fired them.

I said, we're not a fit. And you don't want to do the work. And so this isn't going to work for me. And there was a part of me that was like, holy shit, you know, I could have used that $75,000, right? But the bigger part of me was, no, I. in my best walking testimony, I live the life. I say I can help other women live.

It wasn't aligned. Next, within a week, sign a new one. Right. And that's the thing. It's like when you are working with somebody that chooses not to engage, chooses not to follow through with their commitment, like, if you force the square page into the round hole, your branding is going to be messed up.

Yeah. Right? Because they're not going to get results. And then they're going to put a bad review. view of you, right? I worked with Christine and Sean, he didn't do shit. It was, he's a cross, you know, like, but the reality is, is like, that's that cancel culture to where, like, dude, you, you chose not to do the work. Like, this isn't like a guarantee, right? You, you have to exercise the strategies that are put in front of you and you have to do the work on a

day-to-day basis. And so I commend you for that. And that, and that to me also is another, another example. of your abundant living. Like you knew that was going to come back. Yeah. And you know, and I think that the more and more people, especially with this podcast, like this is legit fire. Like you are having an amazing guest. You're serving.

Like it's just amazing. And I think the more you get out there, you'll realize how many people are drawn to you just because you show up as you. And that's what I tell clients all the time. They're like, well, you know, so-and-so said this. And I said, listen, you invest in mentors to learn from someone who's doing or has done what you want to do. You also have common sense and your own mindset and your own responsibilities. Success is up to you. So take what you need, leave the rest, figure out your own, your own vibe,

your style, and just be you. That's the only sustainable way to have a healthy marriage, healthy friendships, healthy business. Like, do you want your children watching you be some fake ass person on a video or on a TV show or on a podcast. And then they're like, wait a minute, that's not who I live with. I certainly don't. My kid's 21. He'll tell you. He'll be like, my mom's straight up bomb.com. Because that's the relationship, you know? Yeah, dude, you're like, you're like my biggest fucking hype girl on the planet. And I dig it and I thrive on it. And that's the thing like, you know, you can pay all the coaches. People can pay you. People can pay me. But if we're not showing up as ourselves.

It's, there's no flow. There's nothing there, right? It's, it's like, everything's forced. And I think that my, my best day is when every single day,

I am who I am. And when I get on that camera, I flip that freaking thing around in the morning at like 5 a.m. I'm like, fuck, is this Sean French? Is this that motherfucker? Because if it's not, I'm not publishing it.

Yes. But your personality comes through. And I think it's so easy to support people like you because, hey, we just click, right? Certain people you just click with. And as far as setting up a coaching business, so to speak, I'm miles ahead of you because I've been doing this for over a decade. Why wouldn't I share tips and hacks with you to make your life easier, right? That's abundance in itself.

But I watch your videos and I'm like, yeah. And, you know, a couple of my sons watches me in the morning. I'm like, this is, this is Frenchy. We're going to meet him in Florida. Like he is, his wife's beautiful. His kids are beautiful. This is the real deal. And it's funny because now my son's like, oh, is that Frenchy you're watching?

Because he hears it, right? But I think that for not only the men that you work with and provide value for, but the young men, they need to have people like you to look up to that are real, that show up, that give, tips, tricks are talking about difficulties, overcoming, right? That's so important. How old are your kids? 21? I just have one. Yeah, 21. 21. He's 21. So like, I wish I had somebody when I was 21. Right? To help me along. Because like, dude, like, when I was 21, I had shit figured out, right? But I was living out of an alignment of who I was.

I was trying to be somebody else because I was trying to be what society wanted me to be. I was afraid to be myself because I didn't want to be bullied because I was over that shit, right? And like every time I was myself, it was like the invitation of the bully to the blindside me out of a party and break my jaw because that shit happened too. Like, hey, Sean, if you're listening, Sean Wetland, what's up, bro? I healed, bro. There you go. Boom, Baba. Boom, Baba.

That situation taught me so much. And I shout them out. I'm not being a dick about it. Thank you. Yeah. Thank you. Because I learned so much about me in that time that, you know, I had to learn it on my own. And I learned it when I was 40, between 40 and 43, like, you know, I needed somebody to walk me through when I was 21.

Yeah. Like, you tell your kids. to wash my shit. Tell them to follow my ass. Yeah. Well, yeah, I think, I don't know if he did or not, but I don't think so. I definitely will. And you know, I think just, I know there's so much we could talk about for days and days.

And we will, but just not on this podcast. No. But I think when people are, I guess just real that they need help, that they're transparent enough to say, not only am I being legitimate in my relationships, but I actually need some help and have the courage to reach out and say, listen, like, I love what you're doing. I vibe with your style, your energy. How can we work together? Instead of thinking, oh, shit, I can't afford it.

Because if you don't ask, the answer is always no. If you don't actually ask, how can you elevate your own life? People are just going to keep calling you or messaging you saying, hey, do you want to work with me? Do you want to work with me? Do you want to change your life? But as more and more people follow you and they see that you're not only the real deal, but you're actually thriving.

Like you're living a pretty good life. And they're like hungry for how do I get that kind of momentum in my life? How do I get to feel that good and actually show up and do all the things I want to do like Sean is or Christy is or whoever is? Yeah, it's so funny because when you get on those discovery calls or when people message you, you could tell that they're very confused of like where they want this to go because they're afraid to expose themselves, right? Yeah.

And they'll do their best to find any type of an avoided strategy. and that's okay. I meet them where they're out. I love them anyway. I'm here when they're ready. Like, I'm down. Like, let's do this, right? And I know you're that way too.

And I, and like, again, you know, you have speaking engagements. You have one-on-one coaching. So to kind of land the plane here, because you and I can go on a tangent for five hours. I have no doubt, right? So, and again, all your information is going to be in the description for the podcast, the episode. But, like, tell people.

In a nutshell, tell the audience in a nutshell exactly what you do and how they can find you. Yeah. So what I do exactly is I help women top into their personal power through self-care, holistic self-care, spiritually, mentally, physically, sexually, emotionally, and financially, and play a bigger game, be seen, be known as be paid. And the greatest place to connect with me is on my Instagram. Everything is there. My books, my website link, my free resources,

show me out. Tell me your takeaways. Share this out, the podcast out, share it with people that you care about. And tag Sean and I, let us know, what are you walking away from? And what are you going to walk into now that you've got this valuable knowledge in your pocket? Yeah, let us know. We want to hear it. We want to hear it. We want to help, right? We want to know we're making an impact in your life. And we don't know that if you don't tell us. So, you know, we're here for you guys. So my listeners, how can they best support you? you know i think that a take this knowledge and do something with it okay because knowledge is not power unless you use it right and um b you know if you have a woman in your life that you care about or

you are a woman buy one of my books right i have so many instant practical strategies fun ways to manifest level up in my books 20 bucks change your life right they're all on my on my link tree and my instagram and my website as well. But Christy underscore Primmer, you'll find me. It'll be in the show notes. But if you do nothing else, take action with this knowledge. Implement it. I love it. And if you guys can't find her, just find one of my reels. And you'll see her going, us going back and forth. Because she's always up in the fucking building. Like I said, she's my high school. With that being said, I want to close out with the most important question that I can ask you. How can I?

support you. Oh, I love that. You know, I would say you already are. You, you gave me this opportunity. You are in my DMs. We light each other up. You engage with me. You share me out. So, so you're, already doing it. Right. And I think to circle back, you can support me by coming to karaoke. We'll sing an Aldean song and we'll sing Sir Mix a lot and we'll record that shit. So then they'll know it's true. And then we'll retag the podcast. Dude, we can, we can, we can, we can put it together and we can do like a, like a joint reel. Yes. You know, where that, that'd be fun as hell.

Yeah. Or just like, or just like turned into like a, the reality show for the night. Yes. And, you know, all jokes aside, because I am going to, we are going to do that. All jokes aside, you know, it is my greatest honor to show up and and share time with people like you. I hope everyone listening is being brutally honest with themselves, right? The fluffy stage of life is over. It's time to be real.

It's time to be in it. And there's nothing wrong with you. If you need help, reach out. If things are going great, light up someone else's life. It's that simple. Pay it forward. I love it. I love it.

And I love you. And thank you so much for coming on the show. My pleasure. I know everybody's going to love it and share it out. And I have a feeling this is going to be. I'm going to say it, probably the most downloaded show I've had. So I love you and I will talk to you soon. You bet that's prime time to shine.

Always is, girl, let's go. See you guys.