Determined Society with Shawn French | Adversity & Mindset - That Weak Motherfu*ker In Your Head

Episode Date: October 5, 2021

In this episode Shawn French speaks about that weak motherfucker in your heads that tries its hardest to hold you down and torpedo your very existence. That voice is there!!!! Acknowledging that it’s there is the first step in winning versus that voice. Think of your most wanted and desired goal and envision how it is going to feel when you achieve it! Pretty fucking nice right? Now envision that weak voice coming and telling you that you CANT. WHATS YOUR RESPONSE? Here’s mine….. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/shawn-french/message Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

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A lot of y'all are probably thinking, well, shit, it's about damn time. I can't tell you how many messages I've gotten and like, hey, man, when are you going to drop another episode? When are you going to do this? When are you going to do that? You know what? I'm sorry. You're right. Before we get to it, listen, guys, the only way I'm growing and bringing more listeners to this podcast

is if you guys do your part, listen to it. If you find value, share it on your social platforms. send the link to your friend, leave a review on Apple Podcasts. Please, that's the only way this is going to grow. And the more people that are listening, of course, I'm going to have more of responsibility in order to put more consistent content out with my podcast. So please, share the fuck away. Today I want to talk about that voice.

You know, that weak motherfucker in your head that tells you you can't do anything or you can't do X, Y, and Z. And listening, here's the deal. We all have those voices. There's not one successful male or female, influencer, successful business owner,

president of the United States, governors, whatever, astronauts that don't doubt themselves at some point. But we have to understand something about that. That should be our trigger to move in spite of those thoughts. Because if we move in spite of those thoughts, because if we move in spite of those thoughts,

thoughts we improve, right? For me, starting this podcast and the determined society and starting my infancy and, you know, attempting to influence people to live a more determined and productive day and life. That shit's scary, man. You know, from the imposter syndrome to all these different thoughts flooded into my mind. And I'm just going to say it because I'm always going to be transparent with you guys and I tell you guys that all the freaking time is who's going to want to listen to me. I know many people back in California that know the old Sean, right? They don't know a damn thing about me now and that's okay. That's my fault, right? I was young and dumb. I blew up relationships. No big deal, right? You move on. Some of those relationships have circled back around

and we have some back and forth on DM and things like that and we understand each other and they're seeing my growth but the point is the fear and that voice inside my head says no one's going to give a shit what you say who are you well Andy Vrcellus said one time and I've said this before everybody was nobody until they were somebody so why not me right why not me just because it's small scale now doesn't mean it's going to be small scale five 10 years down the road so here we go you got to think of the one thing that you want more than anything I don't care if it's fitness, financial, spiritual, relationship, whatever it is. Think about that one thing you want mostly.

Not mostly. The one thing you want most. I don't edit things here, guys. Sorry, I'm not big enough yet. I don't have all this fancy technical equipment. I just roll. All right. So deal with it until you don't have to, right?

Because eventually one day, it'll be high production value. But for right now, this is where we're at. deal with it. So think of that one thing you want most in your life. Think of how exciting it's going to be when you get there. You're going to think about all the work and all the blood and sweat and tears that you have to go through in order to achieve that goal or those goals. To be your highest self, you're going to go through some pain.

You're going to get kicked in the nuts and you're going to have to get right back up and keep going again. And I'm not talking about tomorrow get back up. I'm talking about like you get knocked down. the next second, you're back up. No standing eight counter, whatever the hell it's called. You're back up and you're fighting. So think about all those positive emotions that you get when thinking about, you know,

being who you want to be, being authentic, but leveling up on yourself so big that you look at yourself and you go, damn, what just happened. But I want you to understand something. There's some other thoughts that come along with that too. And those are the self-limiting thoughts. Well, you know, people are going to do. judge me for saying this. They're not going to understand it. They're going to think it's stupid, yada, yada, yada. Who cares? You're not living your life for other people, meaning you want to help

other people. But the only way you're going to help other people is if you put your imperfect shit out there and people see it and then they relate to it and go, you know what? I get Sean. I understand him. So you know what? It gives, it's going to give me the courage to go out there and do just what he's doing. I'm not going to worry about if my Instagram post sucks. I'm not going to worry about my podcast sucks. I'm not going to worry about any of that. I'm just going to go do because I know eventually what I want is on the other side of those limiting beliefs and that fear. And you have to look at where that fear and when those limiting beliefs come from. Man, it comes from childhood, adolescence. It comes from people that you love, people that are just trying

to give you good advice. Hey, what's your backup plan because, you know, you might not be a major league baseball player. Well, first of all, that's shitty advice. And just because they're your parents or they're your family members or they're your best friends doesn't mean they're giving you good advice. All it means is they're giving you their perspective through their paradigm, their lens in which they see the world. So you have to understand that. And no, it's nothing about you. I digress. There's a lot of things that you're going to go through. when you're looking to achieve your goals. I don't care if it's a body fat goal, whatever it is.

I'm going through that shit right now. The amount of limiting beliefs that I have in my head because of my past and the things I chose to believe and own about myself, I fight every single day. Right? So it was on me to subscribe to that shit, but it's also up to me to unsubscribe.

And that's what I'm doing every day. That's why you guys see me doing 75 hard again. You see me doing all these things, this personal development, this influencing type deal, because this is for me and you. This just isn't me trying to get out there. This is me. And these are my struggles. And you're going to see my wins too.

You're going to see my family. You're going to see the LSU football stuff, right? You're going to see my dogs every now and again. You're probably going to see my wife getting a dog crate. Guys, if you've seen those reels, God bless you. She's funny as hell. She's gorgeous. She's beautiful.

She's funny. She's smart. But on the weekend, she takes dogs with naps inside their cage. Anyway, there's my humor. Sorry, baby. You have to acknowledge that weak person inside your own mind. You have to acknowledge that they're there, and you cannot push him or her away. You have to move in spite of that.

For instance, last night, long night, still have an outdoor workout my reading to do after my baseball game that I coached. It's a passion of mine. That's my zen. okay um i get home around 8 45 p.m i still got to do a 45 minute outdoor workout now it's not late right by any stretch of imagination but i still need to eat my dinner i still need to read i still need to shower and i want to spend some time with my wife so all these limiting thoughts go through my mind you yeah man that's stupid don't do just man just do a walk just do this do that i go through those things I am not telling you it's abnormal to think of in your mind,

this subconscious is going, just take the easy way out. What the issue is is when you take the easy way out. That's the issue. So when I heard myself say, hey, just do a walk. It'll be fine. You do a fast walk. Maybe throw on a weight vest. So I said to myself, all right, well, that's what you want to do,

but that ain't going to be what you're going to do. You're going to overcome these thoughts in your mind, these limiting beliefs, and you're going to fucking run. right and you're going to run further than you did yesterday and only thing that you're going to focus on is one foot in front of the other nothing else matters but the next step and guys that's my pretty much my final point here in this quick little podcast is one foot after the other it's one step at a time you cannot win tomorrow unless you win today and what i mean by that is you have to deal with what's in front of you your job every single day is to win that day

to make great decisions and put it into that positive piggy bank of you growing as a person, professional, father, wife, mother, whatever, right? That's the goal. So, ladies and gentlemen, that weak person inside your head is real. And he or she was put there by advice you listen to or just plain you not loving yourself enough to do anything about it. And hi, I'm raising my hand guilty as charged on that last statement. I'm not pointing at you.

I'm pointing at me. The decisions that I made from the time I was 30 years old all the way up until I was 40, the yo-yo dieting, the getting fat and getting skinny, thinking I need to cut out carbs in order to lose weight. By the way, that's bullshit and that's another podcast. Okay? I'm not even going to get into that right now. We can do that, but not right now.

So all these limiting beliefs, that's, is what you wake up with every single day when you're on fire. In the moment you decide to gain courage and attack those dreams, that inner voice comes and said, no, you can't. It says, no, you can't. But what about this? Well, what if this happens? To hell with that shit, y'all.

To hell with it. You fight that inner voice, every step, every movement. And so it's a point where you have that goal and now you level up. You probably level up before you get to that goal because you realize, well, shit, if I get there, that means I'm done. We got to expand our horizon so we keep chasing ourselves. Because again, I've always said, my hero, I have a lot of heroes, but my true hero is me 10 years from now. And every single day, I chase that guy. I didn't come up with that.

That was a Matthew McConaughey thing, so don't think I'm ripping somebody off here. I know where it came from, okay? but it's the truth. So before you give in to that voice saying you can't do something, listen to this podcast again and just know that you can. Because your actions are going to speak louder than the things you say or are being said to you inside your own mind. Go out there today, guys.

Attack the day, win it. Do whatever you got to do to stay focus and keep pushing yourself forward because you know what? You're fucking worth it.