The Happiness Lab with Dr. Laurie Santos - Holiday Survival Guide II: Perfect Gifts and Fighting Fatigue (with Rainn Wilson)

Episode Date: December 15, 2025

What stresses you out over the festive season? Happiness Lab listeners sent in their holiday woes so Dr Laurie and guest Rainn Wilson (The Office star and host of Soul Boom) could weigh in with some science-backed advice.  In the second part of our Holiday Survival Guide, Dr Laurie and Rainn discuss what makes the perfect gift, how to slow down to enjoy the festivities, and why your smart phone should join the elf on a shelf. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Pushkin Happy holidays, happiness lab fans. This is supposed to be the most wonderful time of the year, but many of us kind of wish December came with a survival guide, which is why we asked you to tell us all your holiday stresses so that I and my special seasonal guest, actor Rain Wilson, can help find some solutions. You probably know Rain from me.

Dwight on the office, or his countless other acting credits. But Rain is also an author and a podcaster with lots of wise things to say about spirituality and what it means to be human. If you haven't already, you should check out his show, Soul Boom. Last time, Rain and I discussed dining table dynamics, like how to diffuse political arguments over dessert, and how to deflect annoying questions about your lack of a love life. But we only scratched the surface on all the seasonal woes you asked us about. So, let's dive back into that conversation. So, Rain, I'm just curious, like, when you think about holidays, what do you think about? Although I guess there's one thing you think about when you think about holidays, which is you think about your wife, whose name is holiday, correct?

My favorite holiday. Holiday. Is Holiday Ron Horn, my wife. So during the holidays, I'm thinking about a holiday. But, listen, I'm a member of the Baha'i faith. We have our own set of holidays or holy days. but I also grew up celebrating Christmas with big parts of my family and I have positive memories. My favorite holiday is Thanksgiving because I feel like if you can put the thanks and

Thanksgiving and really just enjoy eating together and connecting over a table, it's incredibly powerful. But yeah, I have good experiences and pleasurable thoughts, but I know it can be fraught for a lot of people. Okay, we're going to have interesting conversation because my instant reality, about holiday is not that it is awesome. It is like, you say the holidays are coming, and I feel my cortisol levels going up a little bit, my stress hormones, and, yeah, I'm not a winter holiday fit.

I'm a Halloween girl. I like the costumes. I like the spooky. I like the candy. Thanksgiving's fine, but the winter holidays, yeah, my stress levels rise. So I'm going to need your help here. You got it. Here we go.

Okay. Gift giving. Holidays feel like a time. when we're supposed to be giving people stuff. And it means that we sometimes get sucked into the consumerist culture that makes us feel kind of crappy. And this was something that Rachel brought up.

She noted that her holiday happiness sucker is the stress of gift giving. How much to spend? Is it a good gift? Do they actually want it? Who do I have to buy it for? Feeling shame or guilt, if someone got you a gift and you didn't match the gift,

how can we get past the consumerism in the holiday season? And I think the answer, correct me from wrong ring, but I think the answer is not Princess unicorns in the office. I think that that's like maybe not the answer. Is that right? I was actually going to say that it is exactly the answer. Because if everyone just gave each other Princess Unicorns, the world. No. Princess Unicorn dolls is for anyone, you know, office fan, unicorn fan, princess fan, toy fan, it scratches every itch. For those who don't know, an episode of The Office in which Dwight is buying up all the Princess Unicorn dolls because

They're the hot toy of that year, and it's the catchphrases, my horn can touch the sky. And it's a unicorn girl with a big horn. I think you can actually buy princess unicorns out there. I think they market them, but I think it's a great episode and a great stocking stuffer. You know one thing that drives me crazy, Lori, is like the pressure to bring something over when you go to visit someone or to have dinner with them. like you've got to bring a bottle of wine or flowers maybe chocolates but or something from your garden or a little plant right but those are and like why do we do that we don't have to do that it i don't like it when people show up like here's wine i don't drink here's some chocolates i'm trying to lose weight you know here's some flowers great they'll be alive for four days and then i got to throw them out and dump out the stinky water Like, why do we keep doing that? Well, this, I know you don't go through this, but this is like on extreme overdrive in the holidays, right?

Yeah. Families try to one up each other and you're really worried about that. And so, yeah, I mean, given that you experience it in the context of the going over the folks' houses for the gifts, like, how do you deal with it? I mean, one of the strategies I like to tell people about is to try to get back to the best kinds of gifts, which are your presence, maybe a fun experience. maybe a fun experience, curiously asking someone deep questions about their lives, those are the things that are going to make them feel much better than a pair of socks or a new gadget or something like that. So getting back to the reason behind the season, as cheesy as it sounds.

The reason behind the season. I love that. Yeah, I think a framed photograph is always good. And you can get maybe even a photograph they sent you throughout the year or something like that. get it because a lot of people you know we have these libraries of like 15,000 photographs in our photo library that we only occasionally pop up in memories people rarely stop to get them kind of printed out and put on their shelf so i'm just just bonus i'm not really dealing with the psychology behind it but bonus a photograph is always a great stocking stuffer and the beauty is i think relative to other

gifts relative to like, you know, I don't know, an iPhone or a trip to Europe or something, it's actually pretty cheap. Yeah, pretty cheap. And that gets to a different thing that comes up in the holiday season, which is the stress of finances, partly about gifts, but partly about, you know, having the best holiday presentation, how much food you buy and all this stuff, traveling to visit family members, this can be a time when people are feeling like they just don't have enough. Any advice for kind of that crunch feeling where you're like, I just feel like I don't

have enough money right now. Yeah, I mean, I think that if you have to cancel, I think that that's fine to take care of your finances. And I just think on the family's part, we have to always be very cognizant of like, you know, what percentage of someone's salary or savings are they doing? Because flying has gotten way more expensive, by the way. I don't know if you've noticed it, but used to kind of be able to fly anywhere for like, oh, 200, 400, 600 bucks, get anywhere. Now it's like double, triple that. It's a big investment. So we have to just be very sensitive to where people are financially. Yeah, but I don't know. What do you think? What do you, what do you tell folks when they're struggling with their balancing commitments and obligations

and they want to be a part of a family, but you may not be able to afford it? And maybe that brings low self-esteem because you feel like, oh, I should have more money to. to be able to spend $3,000 to travel my family for a Christmas trip. Yeah. Well, I think this gets back to figuring out what things are really about and maybe something I know you talk a lot about in Soul Boom, which is like coming up with your own rituals, right? We had the rituals that we're supposed to do. You know, we fly to the family and we've all these presents or whatever it is.

But we can get creative with the rituals if we figure out the value that's under it. Like the value is that we're spending some time together, right? You know, maybe that means we get together over Zoom and we play. some like, you know, goofy games. We go back to like old COVID, COVID days. Right. Connecting that way if you can't fly out. Or we do no presence.

You know, maybe all the presents are just crafts or something we make for each other. Or it's photos that we print out, drawings that we give each other, bright poems for each other. It sounds cheesy, but really what we want to be doing is showing our togetherness and connection. And, you know, the latest gadget isn't really going to do that. Well said. Yeah, I love that. All right. We had lots of questions on give giving.

I know this is not your domain. expertise. And so maybe I'll have, I'll have you ask me the question. Okay, let's do it. I like this one because it really feels a little bit out of an office Christmas special. Like maybe it actually happened on the office, but you can, you can tell me. Okay, here it is. This is from an anonymous viewer. I once gave an office mate a foot massager. The very same gift she had given me the year before, which I had forgot. Then I had to make up something about how I knew she liked it so much that I got her one, too. Very embarrassing, taught me not to re-gift. That sounds like an episode of the office right there. That is something absolutely so many characters. Dwight, Andy, Michael could

re-gift me like, I got you that last year. Like, oh, no, no, I knew you liked it. So I got you a new one. But I'm a huge fan of regifting. In fact, I talked about people coming over like they'll give like little things or chocolates or sometimes it's like coffee and we have this secret stash of like the stuff we've been given and we're going to take that out i have a little baggie a beautiful little baggie with some gourmet coffee beans in it that someone gave and i can't wait to go over to someone's house i'm just going to grab it off the shelf and be like i got you some coffee so i'm a big fan of the regifting but yes you think there's nothing nothing wrong with this you maybe write down on a little post-it note who gave you the coffees you

You don't give it directly back to that person when you find it in the re-gift closet? I'd like to live dangerously. Just go for it. I live on the edge. I may give it back to the exact same person who gave it to me. That's how I roll. But, yeah, I think re-gifting is awesome. Okay.

All right. Well, we'll leave that one in there. I think maybe a piece of advice for this particular person is a little bit of self-compassion. We all give gifts that, like, bomb sometimes. I have occasionally given a gift to someone that I gave them the year before, not re-gifted, but just like literally the same gift because I didn't have a good idea of what to get them. And so that's a time to take a deep breath and say, nobody's perfect. Everybody gives crappy gifts sometimes. It's okay. It's the thought that counts.

The thought that counts. Which is a nice transition to how we can have thoughts that don't feel so overwhelmed during the holiday season. Next holiday woe that we heard lots of folks bringing up is how we can improve. prioritize balance and rest in a tough holiday season. One anonymous, a listener on Instagram, said that her holiday woe is that it's so hard to be married with so much to do. How do we find ways to take stuff off our plates during the busy holiday season? Boy, that's great.

I feel like this should have been an episode for the office ladies. I feel like Jenna and Angela would have like nailed these questions so much. Well, we could do, I could call them up and see, we'll do a second round and I'll do exactly the same questions with them with you. I love it. Or they'll do next year's Christmas episode. But yeah, you know, my favorite analogy, it's used a lot. And people have probably heard it. But it's like they say on the airlines, like when the oxygen mask drops, like you put on your own oxygen mask first so that you can put it on your kids later and other people's. And that's kind of how life works. Like we have to take care of ourselves first. so that we can be there for other people. And the purpose of that is so that we can be there for others and be a service to others. So it's super important to get enough rest, not overwhelm,

you know, ask people for help. Again, that perfectionism. And I would love to hear a little bit more about how perfectionism works and it oftentimes takes us so far away from joy, just that pressure we put on ourselves to exceed expectations. the to get self-esteem from what we do instead of who we are because I think a lot of that like if you're if you're really that busy that you can't be merry you're doing Christmas wrong something's wrong if you're so busy there's not time for joy I'm sure that's not what

Jesus and the saints wanted from us yeah I think it the key is that like we need to again it gets back to this idea of vigilance, right? Like, you kind of have to notice what's going on. And it gets back to this idea that negative emotions are telling us something really important. We were talking before about grief and sort of noticing our sadness. That means we need space and time to deal with it. I think an emotion we really need to notice and allow during the holiday season is overwhelm. Like, you know, when you're baking the cookies and you're slamming the sugar around, you're like, like, that's telling you, oh, this is a signal, like the tire button coming on in my car, this is a signal that my, you know,

overwhelmed tire light is coming on and I need a break. You know, I need to maybe do a little bit less, less events, less stuff, take something off the plate. When we think about having a happier holiday, we often think what we could add. You know, we need more presents or we need more time or more Christmas carols or more whatever it is. We often don't think of what we can take away. But I feel like the solution to so many of our holiday woes is take something off. our plate. For example, taking some work off our plate. This was something we heard a lot, which is that a lot of people have a hard time being merry in the holiday season because they experience a lot of work stress. Yulea on Instagram says, hey, I saw your post about the holidays. Here's my wo. It's

hard for me to stop and settle into a relaxed rhythm without thinking about work. Any ways that you can fight workaholism in the holidays, that you're settling in with the hot chocolate, but back of your mind is like, you have to edit that podcast radio or like those emails in your inbox, who's going to answer them? Yeah, I just, I think that workaholism is something that has to be unpacked. So it often comes from kind of a most overused word of the decade, trauma, but there oftentimes is a trauma component to workaholism of like, I'm only going to get love by a And not only that, I've got to accomplish a lot. Not just accomplish the regular amount. I've got to accomplish more than anyone else. And that is going to get me love. It's going to get me notice, get me acceptance, get me embraced, get me complimented. And if that is the case, that's going to take a little work. That's going to take years, not months, to kind of undo about, it's kind of like, it's similar to like a deprivation. mentality. There's so many people that grew up poor and they just feel like they need to earn

in order to survive, even though they've got plenty of money, but like kind of a panic sets in. It's like the old stories about people that grew up in an orphanage, and they're living in a multi-million dollar house later on in life, but they still hide cookies under the mattress. And this is a phenomenon. This actually does happen where there's a feeling of safety of having that cookie under the mattress. So workaholism, you know, a deprivation mindset, these are kind of cookie under the mattress moments and you've got to go back to the beginning of like, hey, where did this come from and why? So sometimes it's hard in the holidays. You've just got a lot of it. It's the end of the year you got a lot of stuff do. And it's just how it shakes

down. Being prepared, planned, say, here's going to be my work days. Here's the days I'm, especially with phones and emails. I took email off my phone. Nice. Because I feel like, you know, I could check my email three times a day from my computer. I don't need to be checking my email, Lori, 20 times a day and getting back to people. I always feel this compunctional. I've got to get back to them right away. The itchiness. The itchiness. Yep, yep. Yeah, yeah. It's a lot. It's. I can slow it down, 5 p.m. I'll get on. I'll respond to three or four emails and then move on. But, you know, I've got to unpack this workaholism, see where it comes from, and recalibrate to feel like I am enough. I'm going to have enough self-worth. I don't need to accomplish so much and be so perfect in order to get love. Yeah. This is great because there's two pieces of advice in there. One kind of local for the holidays and one broader. Local.

is do little silly hacks to get the work out of your holiday celebration. So if that means just deleting your email app just for, you know, one week in December while you're home with the family, great. And then it'll make it a little bit harder, give yourself a little bit of friction to go to the normal itchy finger, check your email or jump into work. That's the kind of local. And let me, let me say part two of local. Another thing that really works, because I am a phone addict, okay, straight up. phone on a shelf, elf on a shelf? Phone on a shelf, yes, yes.

For your holidays, here you heard of here. Phone on a shelf, folks, phone on a shelf. Have your phone, don't worry, just put it up on the shelf, have it not in your pocket, interact with people. You feel that itch, just go over to the shelf. You can check it real quick. If you want to take a photo, go get it, take the photo, put it back. But this will reduce, I don't know what the data is, but for me, when I do something like that, I would say I'm interacting with my phone 10 times less, but I'm not missing out on anything. Yeah, this is the sad thing about human psychology is how easy it is to put in a little bit of friction.

Like, it's not like you put your phone in Antarctica. Like, it's just on a shelf. Or a safe or something. Or a safe, you have to crack it. No, it's just on a shelf, but just not being in your pocket. in your hand right next to you on the dinner table. It just makes it a little bit trickier to go for it. And yeah, you'll just use it a little bit less. So phone on a shelf. Hashtag phone on a shelf 2025. There you go. Hashtag phone on a shelf. My wife and I used to host these like kind of youth events

when my son was a teenager and preteen. And we would always have a basket and all the phones go in the basket. And because a bunch of 15-year-olds doing activities or playing games or what have you is so much better when they're not just on the phone documenting everything, looking all the time. And maybe families can do that. Can you have over the holidays, you find a great deal more connection and mental health by putting phones in a basket or kind of say, hey, for this dinner, I've got a basket. Everyone, let's put your phones. What do you think? And you could decorate the basket. It could have little pieces of holly or like, you know, menorah symbols or whatever your own faith tradition is to put the phones in a basket. Or characters from like one floor of the cuckoo's nest

because it has to do with mental health. So, you know, deranged human beings and say, we're not going to end up like these people. And we're going to put our phone in a basket. But that might be something you want to communicate ahead of time to say, hey, for our Christmas dinner, I have this idea. What if we put our phones away and not just in our pockets, but away. We got off track here a little bit, but there was something else you were going to bring up. Oh, but yes, but there was there was the meta point, which I love, which is workaholism, you're not going to solve it between, you know, December 24th and December 26th. It's a bigger issue that you need to process some trauma and so on. And I think this is a broader point for everything we're talking about here. Like some of our

families have some deep-seated stuff. Some of us are going through some. grief that's really hard. Some of us are navigating lots of perfectionism beyond just the holiday dinner table. Take a breath. You don't have to solve everything over the holidays. But noticing those moments of frustration, noticing the pain points during the holidays, gives you a nice checklist of things that you can pay attention to in the new year when you get a little bit of a breath later. So it's kind of, you know, if your tire light comes on, you don't necessarily have to immediately screech off the road and deal with your tire light then. but you kind of take some time to put it in the queue to deal with later.

I think when these holiday awokes come up, it's often a great signal to us that like, hey, this is something I might need to pay attention to down the line. You make a great point here, which I think encompasses all of the questions we've been talking about, which is like, what needs to be handled over the holidays and what needs to be handled over the 11 months that or 10 months that aren't the holidays? Yes, yes. Whereas like, wow, I am a perfectionist or wow, I'm a workaholic, or wow, I'm a workaholic, or wow, I feel lonely when I'm in groups, or, you know, I feel a pressure to have the perfect gift or whatever it is, there's stuff to be worked on throughout the year so that you're better prepared

for the holidays. And then there are stuff to kind of like, like you say, quick fixes and hacks and little things you could do to make your holidays better. But there may be, you know, some real tough conversation you have with yourself, with your therapist about, hey, I want to, want to work on X, Y, and Z so that I can go into the holidays next year with more joy and more freedom. You know, big picture. It's 5.23 p.m. One of your kids is asking for a snack. Another is building a fort out of your clean laundry. And you're staring at a half-empty fridge and thinking, what are we even going to eat tonight? Or you could just hello fresh it. With over 80 recipes,

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Being more able to look to people in the eyes. Not always hide behind a microphone? Listen to heavyweight wherever you get your podcasts. We now get to our last set of holiday challenges that we all need to do better about. And this is why I'm especially excited to have you on the show, because our last holiday challenge is ways that we can create more meaning and joy. And I think you, of all the people I know, have had some of the best insights into what we can do to deal with this crisis of spiritual meaning that we have all the time. But I think this comes out a lot during the holiday season.

I know soul boom talks a lot about what we can do to fix our spiritual crisis. Any soulful ideas, rituals, strategies we can use to feel a little bit more spiritually connected during the holiday season? A lot of people equate spirituality with religion for a very good reason. There's a big overlap between spirituality and religion in the Venn diagram. A lot of people view it as kind of synonymous with faith, synonymous with, let's say, church on Sunday or something like that. So the first thing to do is kind of separate spirituality from faith or religion or religious practice or the religion you grew up in. Because a lot of times with, the holidays can do is that can reignite a kind of a religious trauma that maybe you

underwent. Perhaps you were forced to go to church seven days a week or you were forced to be an altar boy or you were pressured in certain ways that you find very uncomfortable and triggering later on in life. And so a lot of people are really resistant to anything having to do with spirituality because of certain religious trauma. So that's very real. But I think putting the rituals of whatever faith denomination you're involved in aside what is spirituality well it's a it's a recognition that we are something more than the material that whether whatever you want to call it soul heart spirit essence life force that there's something in us about us in our consciousness that is more than just you know an animal with a big

brain in a meat suit. At least that's how I view it and people who walk a spiritual path like to view it. So there's certain things that go hand in hand with this concept, that we are spiritual beings having a human experience for 80, 90 years on the planet. And it's connecting with love. It's seeking greater humility. It's service to others. It's increasing our compassion to see kind of universal divine qualities in people. So all of these kind of spiritual ideas can be brought out at family gatherings over the holidays and help give our lives meaning and most importantly just help increase connection because we all know that it's through connection that we find the greatest joy and happiness.

So these tools, compassion, service, human. humility, love can give our lives meaning and can also give us joy and happiness. And I think there's so much room to bring those in more during the holiday season. Even for maybe some of the not so great parts of the holiday season, you know, we talked a little bit about grief, thinking about loved ones that have passed and so on. I think these are moments for developing little rituals where you can connect with them during these tough times in the holiday season. The holidays are all about nostalgia where you think back to your past and have these moments of like, man, it's been 10 years since we've been.

have in Nana's lasagna, and that can kind of give you a sense of awe about the time passing and so on. So it's like these rituals are open for us in the holiday season, not just going to some, you know, like religious service, but really developing your own tiny moments. And this is something I know you've talked about a lot in Soul Boom, too, that it's often not like the big things. It's like the tiny moments of wonder and connection that seem to matter a lot. Any recommendations for noticing and finding the tiny things that matter during the holidays? Well, something you talk about a lot is gratitude. Ooh, love gratitude.

Love me some gratitude. It's a superpower. So holiday gatherings can, when you feel overwhelmed, like, oh, Aunt Connie's wearing that perfume again, and Uncle Ronnie won't shut up, and Aunt Nana's chewing with her mouth open, and so-and-so's being passive-aggressive. Like, help shift your mindset to one of gratitude. Like, what are you grateful for? so everyone's healthy, that we all get to be together, that there's great kindness here,

that I'm grateful for the childhood that, you know, my parents help give me. And we can do that internally. You can do that with a list. It's really, it's also, as you know, more helpful to share that gratitude with someone. Yes. You could do it by text, but it's even better over the phone or in person to share a gratitude, takes it to the next level. And maybe this is something to bring into, instead of you talked about spiritual practices, little things, like instead of grace or in addition to grace, go around the table and one thing you're grateful for. It's an easy icebreaker.

It connects people. It opens their hearts. It shifts things away from politics and division in less than and stress. There's so many different ways to harness the power of gratitude for these kind of events. Yeah. And another thing we know about gratitude is that it can be a virtuous cycle, right? You know, you say one thing you're grateful for about your aunt at the dinner table. You know, I always love your cookies. You know, it makes me grateful every year when they come. But then that boosts her ability to notice the good stuff in life because it kind of shifts her negativity bias ever so slightly towards the positive. Then she sees it better. And so you can develop these spirals during your holiday get together where if you seed some gratitude early on, it makes it easier. for other people to find gratitude and joy later. The last thing I wanted to end with, which in theory should be part of the holiday season,

is our sense of awe and wonder. So often during the holiday season, I think we want to get certain positive emotions. We want to eat delicious stuff and feel good that way, or we want to get a good gift or have surprise. And I think one positive emotion that's really available to us that we forget is the power of wonder during this season. Any advice for how to get in a little bit more wonder during the holidays?

Yeah, I just got to meet Dacker. Dacher Keltner, who wrote the wonderful book called Aw. And the number of health benefits and psychological benefits to feeling awe and wonder are legion. And it usually and can start in nature. And it can, again, be another precious point of unity between people who are feeling like politically divided or overwhelmed or what have you. you know, noticing a hummingbird or a tree or, you know, or growth of the moon or the stars. It's a powerful emotion and it actually increases your health. And just like gratitude, and by the way, gratitude is something you can just express,

you can have a secret agenda to express gratitude. You can be like, hey, Aunt Connie, I'm grateful every year you make your brownies and you bring them and they're just so delicious. I'm really grateful for you bringing your brownies each year. It could just be that simple, can change someone's whole day and awe and wonder, go hand in hand with curiosity, and expressing those can have the same effect. I love your idea to get a little bit more nature in. I feel like I do this a little bit when I'm off in the Midwest for the holidays. Just take a little walk outside and look at the stars.

It's often very cold, so, you know, bring your hat and your mittens and all the things. But just like these tiny. moments of experiencing nature, even in the midst of a busy, busy day, it can really slow you down and give you that sense of awe and wonder. Well, Rayne, thank you so much for wondering about the holidays with me. I don't know if we've solved everybody's holiday woes, but I think everybody's going to go. I think we did. I think we solved everybody's holidays woes. A happier holiday to all and to all a good night. Is that the saying? I forget. Something like that. And to all a good podcast, Dr. Lori Santos and the happiness team, it's such a pleasure to see you again and speak with you.

And what a wonderful service you're providing, some holiday inspiration and guidance at one of the most stressful times of the year. I hope my conversation with Rayne Wilson shared at least one piece of advice that will help you have a happier and more restful holiday season. That's all from the Happiness Lab for 2025. But not to worry, because 2026 is just around. the corner, and we'll have some advice for making your new year as happy as possible. If you've been feeling stuck lately, you're in luck, because this January will be back with a whole series on ideas for getting unstuck and moving forward in 2026. That's all next year on the Happiness Lab with me, Dr. Lari Santos.

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