The Herd with Colin Cowherd - Unbreakable Episode 109 - Holiday Special

Episode Date: November 27, 2024

Welcome to Unbreakable! A mental wealth podcast hosted by Fox NFL Insider Jay Glazer. Holidays can be REALLLLLLY hard for a lot of us. So on today’s episode, Jay dishes out a full serving of tips and insight into things you can do to help deal with things that may trigger you, loneliness, family… whatever may make the holiday a struggle. Ways to Be Of Service, Lean Into Your Teammates, Stick With Your Rituals, FORGIVE yourself and give yourself grace IMMEDIATELY if you are triggered, don’t let the little kid inside feel beaten down, and more. Follow, rate & review Unbreakable with Jay Glazer here! https://link.chtbl.com/unbreakablewithjayglazer #fsrSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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This is Unbreakable with Jay Glaser, a mental wealth podcast. Build you from the inside out. Now, here's Jay Glaser. Welcome into Unbreakable, a mental wealth podcast with Jay Glazer. I'm J Glazer. It's a special holiday edition. So the guest today are you and me.

What I want to do here is I know the holidays are hard for a lot of us. And I always wanted, looking back now, I wish the guy I'm now could help the guy was back then to get through some of these holidays. Holidays are difficult for a lot of us. A lot of times dealing with family is hard. A lot of times loneliness is hard. It hits us hard. So what I want to try and do today is see.

where I can help, see if I can coach, see if I can maybe inspire people to make these holidays a little bit easier for all of us and some of the things that have kind of helped me along the way. So, first of all, one of the things that we could really do for people who, and I'll get into people who could be triggered in a second, but there's holidays where I didn't go anywhere else or I had to work and, you know, that kind of that lowliness on those holidays gets to. Even though I knew I was working, it still kind of got to me. And the loneliness was really hard. So what I tried to do in those years is I decided I'm going to go be of service.

And I would go feed the homeless during Thanksgiving. I would go to shelters to help during Thanksgiving. In the past, also, I've got a military basis. And that was due Fox. But my point is, if you're of service, it really takes away. And this is a big goal of mine in dealing with the great, dealing with your depression. and anxiety, when we're of service, it cuts through that gray, and it gets us to see the blue. Well, no better time for you to be of service than the holidays.

And say it on yourself, you know, I'm going to actually celebrate, celebrate myself by being of service, helping others. It could be an animal shelter, whatever it is, figure it out. When I was really broken New York City, you know, I had a bartend on the holidays. And there was a bar called, let's make a daquiry at the South Street Seaport. I would then go get food. And I would go out and hand up to the homeless. And I'd be like, I'm going to have Thanksgiving with them.

Odd as that sounds. Some of the best Thanksgivings I've had. People will really appreciate it. And again, when you're of service, it's really hard to tell you bad things about yourself. So right now in holiday times, we tend to beat up on ourselves a lot if we are alone. When you're of service, the roommates in your head don't get that voice. The roommates in your head don't get to set.

the narrative. So I can't tell you enough how important that is. And by the way, even if you do have somewhere to go, figure out a place, something, some way, you could still be of service because you have that in your back pocket, no matter what. It really helps us during the holidays. Number two, lean into your teammates. You hear me say this all the time. And what I mean by this is even before you're going to go where you're going to go, call your boys, call your home girls, call your sisters, your brothers, call your people and say, listen, this may be a hard one for me. Are you going to be available? Can I talk to you if they are?

If I need to take a step away, can I holler? A lot of times, too, somebody will say absolutely, and they needed it also. So lean into your teammates, really lean in also, like I'm saying in a time like this, going into it. If you know that you're going to go, let's see family, and it's going to trigger you, talk to your crew about it. Talk to your crew about it going in. Get ideas from them. How could I better handle this? How could I better not get beat up?

How can I prevent myself from going down these rabbit holes? So I have these talks immediately, immediately. Call your crew, lean into your teammates. I look at when I'm really struggling, I call two people, used to be forward, two people to tell them I'm struggling, and then two people to not tell them I'm struggling just to check up on them because that's being of service. So it's another thing, right?

If you're having difficulties, the holidays, just call some of your teammates, check up on them, see how they're doing. It's another way for you to be of service, but it's keeping you connected to your teammates. And that's protecting your own sanctity. It's building your own fortress about what can keep you happy and keep you safe. The whole point is we've got to keep ourselves safe here.

Number three, stay in your rituals. I now have all these rituals, breathwork, meditation, gratitude list. Working out, I do a cold plunks that Michael Phelps, my brother sent me, called Chili Goat, a little plug there for him. We do, I say these prayers with Rosie and myself, but I have these rituals that I now do religiously. I do this whole thing for my hips, to open my hips up every day, kind of help me, I do this stretching routine. I do, again, breath work. I do that a couple times a day. Stay in your routine. So when you go somewhere, and you know it's going to trigger you, again, you want your rituals and your, you're scheduled to be as structured as possible.

So don't let yourself get thrown off course, thrown off base by being somewhere else. It's such an important thing because we tend to go somewhere else and you put it on hold. It's your support system. Don't get rid of your support system. When you need your support the most, make sure, no matter what, you prioritize. what your rituals have become. Okay. Another thing here, a lot of times when we get triggered, okay,

we feel like that helpless little kid again. That's hard. Okay. And you feel like that helpless or beating down little kid. So a couple of things. Number one, if you are triggered, first and foremost, immediately forgive yourself. Immediately.

Just go in that next room. Go in that next room. forgive yourself. But the other thing I want you to do is go in the next room and love that little kid up. Okay? So I learned this

from these monks in Thailand. And these monks said to me, hey, we want you to come to do the monk thing. We want you to not talk to anybody. And we want you to, for three days. I'm like, not talking about it for three days. A month, I got ADHD. What are we talking about here?

And they said, what do you do? What did you call yourself growing up? Was it Jay? I said, no, it was Jason. Okay. We want you to not talk to anybody, and we want you to just meditate and picture little Jason and hold his hand. Put your arm around him. Tell him you got him. It's going to be okay. And show him some compassion. Because he probably doesn't feel like he's had enough or had any. Love that little kid up. It changed my life. A lot of the issues I've had has been that triggered little kid.

that beating down little kid. Not, I wouldn't physically beating down my parents or anything. But, man, I was a run to the litter. I was tiny grown up. It was rough in the Jersey Shore when you're so tiny, man. I wrestled 101 pounds in high school. It's a one-on-one pounder. He got, shoo, man, it was rough.

I built myself up into Jay Glazer, who I'm now, because how rough that was. But love that little kid up. And like I said, to this day, when I have these little outbursts, I realize it's him, the little kid who's screaming out for help. It feels like he did something wrong. Feels like he deserves to be punished.

So show that little kid compassion. Literally go to the next room. Forgive yourself if you get triggered and love that little cute up. And recently, I haven't had an issue. I had an issue inspiring while I was having like he's little, I wasn't myself. And I went to Greg Harden, may rest happily peace. It was the mental performance coach for Tom Brady and Michael Phelps.

And Charles Woods and these guys, he's like, Jay, that for some reason, that's scared little kids coming out. It's like, Greg, I've been sparring and fighting for years, man. I started wrestling in 1982 and boxing in 88 and MMA in 2000. And what do you mean? He said, there's something going on with that little kid. Well, he's horrified right now. And he'll let him know he's safe and comfort him. And I started talking my therapist about it, and I got to the bottom of it.

And now I got his back. I make sure I get that little kid's back. So, and those kinds may sound a little foreign to people. That was a lot for me. Like that scared little kid, he became the dominant voice instead of Jay Glazer, warrior Jay Glazer being that dominant voice. And I couldn't shut him up because you don't want to shut that kid up. You got to comfort him.

So now we're at the holidays. We get triggered. A lot of times it's that same kid. And you may have a hard time with parents or brothers and sisters. sisters or, you know, just your hometown, wherever it is. But you become that scared little kid again. So make sure that you practice. I got you.

I got you. Love that kid up. Love him or her up. Hug them. Hold their hands. Another great thing for your guy is I'm doing this podcast because there's an awful lot of you. Well, awful lot of us and felt this way on the holidays. So when you think about it, wait, I'm in the majority today.

I'm not alone. I'm far from alone. Man, I'm not alone at all. There are so many other people who are going through it right now. So realize that you're probably in the majority. So we're not alone. If you get triggered, you're going to get triggered. It's okay.

Don't beat up on yourself. We're going to forgive ourselves, right? Then we're going to go to another room. We're going to love that little kid up, comfort that little kid. And also know that little kid's most important. Okay? Your mom, your dad, your brother, your sister, your friends, your hometown people, whatever. They're not most important.

That little kid is. I cannot stress this enough. That little kid is. You are most important. Give yourself some grace. Forgive yourself. Realize also, hey, this isn't going to be forever. It's a couple days here.

Stay in your rituals. Be of service, whether it's calling others or actually going and doing something. People who are in need on Thanksgiving with holidays here. Lean into your teammates. Make sure you're there for them. They're there for you. Lean into them going into it. be proactive about it and make sure that you're being good there as well.

And you're leaning into them also at that point. And make sure that you, no matter what happens on these holidays, you do know that you are loved. You may not feel it where you are, but you are. We all got teammates. God's a teammate of mine. My dog's teammate, Rosie's a teammate. Even though I didn't have her until, you know, four years ago, there were teammates everywhere. Right.

You just got to see it and make sure you know you are not alone. And, you know, finally, like I said, love that little kid up, but also love the adult and you up as well. And if you get thrown off kilter or give yourself, get yourself back on track, it's never too late to start over, even if you make a big mistake and you have an outburst or something along those lines or you have a meltout, just restart again. It's okay.

Start from square one. We're good with that. There's no shame in that. The great part is as long as you just keep moving forward. If you fall down, get back up, brush yourself up. Let's all keep walking this walk together. Love you all. Happy holidays.

And I am grateful and thankful for all of you. You guys have given me my purpose. You guys have all given me my why. Never knew that my pain would lead to helping others through theirs. So I am so incredibly thankful for all of you. in these holidays. Love you all. Hey guys, it's us. The Jonas Brothers. I'm Joe. I'm Kevin. And I'm Nick. And guess what? We created our own podcast called Hey Jonas. We invented a podcast? Well, we didn't invent it.

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Listen to a slight change of plans on the IHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Every family has its secrets. But what happens when you discover that your dad, has been living a double life. That is not the look of an innocent man. Is everyone lying to me about who they are? I felt such desperation. I felt it was what I had to do.

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