The Herd with Colin Cowherd - Unbreakable Episode 112 - Happy Holidays

Episode Date: December 24, 2024

Welcome to Unbreakable! A mental wealth podcast hosted by Fox NFL Insider Jay Glazer. Holidays can be REALLLLLLY hard for a lot of us. So on today’s episode, Jay dishes out a full serving of tips and insight into things you can do to help deal with things that may trigger you, loneliness, family… whatever may make the holiday a struggle.  Follow, rate & review Unbreakable with Jay Glazer here! https://link.chtbl.com/unbreakablewithjayglazer #fsrSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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I was six years into my career, the 80-hour weeks, and just the first one in, the last one out, and I ended up burning out. There was a large chunk of my 20s that I was just so wanting to be out of that phase out of my skin. And I just like really regret not living in the present more. You don't need to have everything figured out right now.

You just need to understand yourself a little bit better. Listen to the psychology of your 20s on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts. This is Unbreakable with Jay Glaser, a mental wealth podcast. Build you from. the inside out. Now, here's Jay Glaser. Welcome into Unbreakable and Mental Wealth podcast with

Jay Glazer. I'm Jay Glazer. It's a special holiday edition. So the guest today are you and me. What I want to do here is I know the holidays are hard for a lot of us. And I always wanted, looking back now, I wish the guy I'm now could help the guy was back then to get through some of these holidays. Holidays are difficult for a lot of us. A lot of times dealing with family is hard. A lot of times loneliness is hard. It hits us hard. So what I want to try and do today is see where I can help, see if I can coach, see if I can maybe inspire people to make these holidays a little bit easier for all of us and some of the things that have kind of helped me along the way. So first of all, one of the things that we could really do for people who, and I'll get into

people who could be triggered in a second. But there's holidays where I didn't go anywhere else, or I had to work. And, you know, kind of that lowliness on those holidays gets to. Even though I knew I was working, it still kind of got to me. And the loneliness was really hard. So what I try to do on those years is I decided I'm going to go be of service.

And I would go feed homeless during Thanksgiving. I would go to shelters to help during Thanksgiving. In the past, also, I've got a military basis, and that was Q Fox. But my point is, if you're of service, it really takes away. And this is a big goal of mine in dealing with the gray. Dealing with your depression and anxiety, when we're of service, it cuts through that gray. And it gets us to see the blue. Well, no better time for you to be of service than the holidays.

And say it on yourself, you know, I'm going to actually celebrate, celebrate myself by being of service, helping others. It could be an animal shelter. Whatever it is, figure it out. When I was really broke in New York City, I had a bartend on the holidays. And there was a bar called Let's Make a Dacquery at the South Street Seaport. I would then go get food. And I would go out and hand them to the homeless.

And I'd be like, I'm going to have Thanksgiving with them. Odd as that sounds. Some of the best Thanksgivings I've had. People will really appreciate it. And again, when you were of service, it's really hard to tell you bad things about yourself. So right now in holiday times, we tend to beat up on ourselves a lot if we are alone. When you're of service, the roommates in your head don't get that voice. The roommates in your head don't get to set the narrative. So I can't tell you enough how important that is. And by the way,

even if you do have somewhere to go, figure out a place, something, some way, you could still be of service because you have that in your back pocket, no matter what. It really helps us during the holidays. Number two, lean into your teammates. You hear me say this all the time. And what I mean by this is even before you're going to go where you're going to go, call your boys, call your home girls, call your sisters, your brothers, call your people and say, listen, this may be a hard one for me. Are you going to be available? Can I talk to you if they are? If I need to take a step away, can I holler? Because a lot of times, too, somebody will say absolutely, and they needed it also. So lean into your teammates, really lean in also, like I'm saying in a time like this, going into it.

If you know that you're going to go, let's see family, and it's going to trigger you, talk to your crew about it, talk to your crew about it going in, get ideas from them. How could I better handle this? How could I better not get beat up? How can I prevent myself from going down these rabbit holes? So I have these talks immediately, immediately. call your crew, lean into your teammates. I look at when I'm really struggling, I call two people, used to be forward,

two people to tell them I'm struggling, and then two people to not tell them I'm struggling just to check up on them, because that's being of service. So it's another thing, right? If you're having difficulties in the holidays, just call some of your teammates, check up on them, see how they're doing.

It's another way for you to be of service, but it's keeping you connected to your teammates. And that's protecting your own sanctity. It's building your own fortress about what can keep you happy and keep you safe. The whole point is we've got to keep ourselves safe here. Number three, stay in your rituals. I now have all these rituals, breathwork, meditation, gratitude lists, working out. I do a cold plunge that Michael Phelps, my brother sent me called Chili Goat.

A little plug there for them. We do, I say these prayers with Rosie and myself. But I have these rituals that I now do religiously. thing for my hips to open my hips up every day kind of help me I do this stretching routine I do again breath work I do that a couple times a day stay in your routine so when you go somewhere and you know it's going to trigger you again you want you you want your rituals and your your schedule to be as structured as possible so don't let yourself get thrown off course thrown off base by being somewhere else it's such a an important thing because we tend to go

somewhere else and you put it on hold, it's your support system. Don't get rid of your support system. When you need your support the most, make sure, no matter what, you prioritize what your rituals have become. Okay. Another thing here, a lot of times when we get triggered, okay, we feel like that helpless little kid again. That's hard. Okay. And you feel like that helpless or beaten down little kid. So a couple of things. Number one, if you are triggered, first and foremost, immediately forgive yourself. Immediately. Just go in that next room. Go in that next room, forgive yourself. But the other thing I want you to do is go in the next room and love that little kid up. Okay. So I learned this from these monks in Thailand. And these monks said to me,

hey, we want you to come to do the month thing. We want you to not talk to anybody. And we want you to, for three days. I'm like, not talking to anybody for three days. Hey, months, I got ADHD. What are we talking about here? And they said, what are you to do? What did you call yourself growing up?

Was it Jay? I said, no, it was Jason. Okay. We want you to not talk to anybody. And we want you to just meditate and picture little Jason. And hold his hand. Put your arm around him. Tell him you got him.

it's going to be okay and show him some compassion because he probably doesn't feel like he's had enough or had any. Love that little kid up. It changed my life. A lot of the issues I've had has been that triggered little kid

that beating down little kid. Not, I wouldn't physically beat down my parents or anything. But man, I was a run to the litter. I was tiny growing up. It was rough in the Jersey Shore when you're so tiny, man. I wrestled 101 pounds in high school. I got one-on-one-pounder.

He got, phew, man, it was rough. I built myself up in a Jay Glazer who I'm now, because how rough that was. But love that little kid up. And like I said, to this day, when I have these little outbursts, I realize it's him, the little kid who's screaming out for help, feels like he did something wrong, feels like he deserves to be punished. So show that little kid compassion. Literally, go to the next room.

Forgive yourself if you get triggered and love that little kid up. And recently, I haven't had an issue. I had an issue in sparring. I was having like he's little, I wasn't myself. And I went to Greg Harden, may rest, happily in peace. It was the mental performance coach for Tom Brady and Michael Phelps and Charles Woods and these guys. He's like, Jay, for some reason, that's scared little kids coming out of us.

Like, Greg, I've been sparring and fighting for years, man. I started wrestling in 1982 and boxing in 88 and MMA in 2000. And what do you mean? He said, there's something going on with that little kid. Well, he's horrified right now. And you got to let him know he's safe and comfort him. And I started talking my therapist about it, and I got to the bottom of it. And now I got his back.

I make sure I get that little kid's back. So, and those kinds may sound a little foreign to people. That was a lot for me. Like that scared little kid, he became the dominant voice instead of Jay Glazer, Warrior Jay Glazer being that dominant voice. And I couldn't shut him up because you don't want to shut that kid up. You got to comfort him. So now we're at the holidays.

We get triggered. A lot of times it's that same kid. And you may have a hard time with parents or brothers and sisters or just your hometown, wherever it is. But you become that scared little kid again. So make sure that you practice. I got you. I got you. Love that kid up.

Love him or her up. hug them hold their hats another great thing for you again is i'm doing this podcast because there's an awful lot of you well awful lot of us and felt this way on the holidays so when you think about it way i'm i'm in the majority today i'm not alone i'm far from alone man i'm not alone at all there are so many other people who are going through it right now so realize that you're probably in the majority so we're not alone if you get triggered you're going to get triggered. It's okay. Don't beat up on yourself. We're going to forgive ourselves, right? Then we're going to go another room. We're going to love that little kid up, comfort that little kid.

And also know that little kid's most important. Okay? Your mom, your dad, your brother, your sister, your friends, your hometown people, whatever, they're not most important. That little kid is. I cannot stress this enough. That little kid is. You are most important. Give yourself some grace. Forgive yourself. Realize also, hey, this isn't going to be forever. It's a couple days there. stay in your rituals, be of service, whether it's calling others, or actually going and doing something, people who are in need on Thanksgiving with holidays here, lean into your teammates, make sure you're there for them,

they're there for you, lean into them going into it, be proactive about it, and make sure that you're being good there as well. And you're leaning into them also at that point. and make sure that you, no matter what happens on these holidays, you do know that you are loved. You may not feel it where you are, but you are. We all got teammates. God's a teammate of mom, my dog's teammate,

Rosie's a teammate, even though I didn't have her until, you know, four years ago, there were teammates everywhere, right? You just got to see it. And make sure you know you are not alone. And, you know, finally, like I said, love that little kid up, but also love the adult to net you up as well. And if you get thrown off kilter or give yourself, get yourself back on track, it's never too late to start over, even if you make a big mistake,

and you have an outburst or something along those lines, or you have a meltout, just restart again. It's okay. Start from square one. We're good with that. There's no shame in that. The great part is, as long as you just keep moving forward, if you fall down, get back up, brush yourself up.

Let's all keep walking this walk. together. Love you all. Happy holidays. And I am grateful and thankful for all of you. You guys have given me my purpose. You guys have all given me my why. Never knew that my pain would lead to helping others through theirs. So I am so incredibly thankful for all of you during these holidays. Love you all. Hey guys. It's us. The Jonas Brothers. I'm Joe. I'm Kevin. And I'm Nick. And guess what? We created our own podcast called, Hey, Jonas. We invented a podcast? Well, we didn't invent it.

We just contributed to it. We're the first people to do podcasts. We get to ask other people questions because we're sick and tired of being asked questions. Well, sick and tired is a strong way to put it, but, you know, tired and sick. Tired and sick. Listen to Hey Jonas on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. Just listen. We don't care where you hear it.

Another podcast from some SNL late night comedy guy, not quite. Unhumor me with Robert Smygel and friends. Me and hilarious guests from Bob Odenkirk to. David Letterman help make you funnier. This week, my guest, SNL's Mikey Day and head writer, Streeter Seidel, help an a cappella band with their between songs banter. Where does your group perform? We do some retirement homes.

Those people are starving for banter. Listen to humor me with Robert Smigel and Friends on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Your husband is not who you think he is. Your body is not what you thought it was. Your identity is formed by a secret history. I'm Danny Shapiro. And these are just a few of the stunning stories

I'll be exploring on the 14th season of Family Secrets. He kind of shoved me out of the way and said, move. And he went out the front door and he jumped in a car and drove off. And that was the last time I saw him. Listen to Season 14 of Family Secrets on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Turn someday into right now with Buddy by Jake Radio. Nonstop workout music and expert tips 24-7.

Hey, head over to iHeart.com. Search Body by Jake Radio and stream it for free right now. Awesome health and wellness tips 24 hours a day, seven days a week. Remember, stick to the fight. When your hardest hit, it's when things seem worse that you must not quit. Don't quit. Body by Jake Radio, where hope meets momentum. Search Body by Jake Radio and stream it for free.

Have a great day. I heart radio. Your 20s can be so exciting, but they can also be really overwhelming, confusing, and honestly, just kind of lonely. May is Mental Health Awareness Month and the psychology of your 20s is breaking down the science behind the biggest roadblocks we face. I was six years into my career, the 80-hour weeks and just the first one in, the last one out, and I ended up burning out. There was a large chunk of my 20s that I like was just so wanting to like be out of that phase out of my skin and I just like really regret not living in the present more.

You don't need to have everything figured out right now. You just need to understand yourself a little bit better. Listen to the Psychology of your 20s on the IHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.