The Knowledge Project with Shane Parrish - #29 Dacher Keltner: Survival of the Kindest

Episode Date: February 21, 2018

When Pixar was dreaming up the idea for Inside Out, a film that would explore the roiling emotions inside the head of a young girl, they needed guidance from an expert. So they called Dacher Keltner. Dacher is a psychologist at UC Berkeley who has dedicated his career to understanding how human emotion shapes the way we interact with the world, how we properly manage difficult or stressful situations, and ultimately, how we treat one another. In fact, he refers to emotions as the “language of social living.” The more fluent we are in this language, the happier and more meaningful our lives can be. We tackle a wide variety of topics in this conversation that I think you’ll really enjoy. You’ll learn: The three main drivers that determine your personal happiness and life satisfaction Simple things you can do everyday to jumpstart the “feel good” reward center of your brain The principle of “jen” and how we can use “high-jen behaviors” to bootstrap our own happiness How to have more positive influence in our homes, at work and in our communities. How to teach your kids to be more kind and empathetic in an increasingly self-centered world What you can do to stay grounded and humble if you are in a position of power or authority How to catch our own biases when we’re overly critical of another’s ideas (or overconfident in our own) And much more. We could have spent an hour discussing any one of these points alone, but there was so much I wanted to cover. I’m certain you’ll find this episode well worth your time. *** Go Premium: Members get early access, ad-free episodes, hand-edited transcripts, searchable transcripts, member-only episodes, and more. Sign up at: https://fs.blog/membership/   Every Sunday our newsletter shares timeless insights and ideas that you can use at work and home. Add it to your inbox: https://fs.blog/newsletter/   Follow Shane on Twitter at: https://twitter.com/ShaneAParrish   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to the Farnham Street podcast called The Knowledge Project. I'm your host, Shane Parrish, the curator behind the blog Farnham Street, which is an online community focused on mastering the best of what other people have already figured out. The Knowledge Project is where we talk with interesting people to uncover frameworks you can use to learn more and less time, make better decisions, and live a happier, more meaningful life. On this episode, I have Dakker Keltner. He's been a professor of psychology at the University of California, Berkeley, attaining full professorship since 2002.

His writing spans the world of emotion and power. He's the author of several books, including Born to Be Good and Understanding Emotions. His latest book, The Power Paradox, explores our limited understanding of power and influence, including how we gain and lose power. I'm pleased to have Dr. Keltner on the show. I want to talk in broad themes about some of the things that you've been studying and writing about. So much of your work surrounds the role of emotion in human life, especially positive emotions like awe and compassion and love. Give me a primer on emotion.

Yeah, you know, so. My interest in emotion, and really I think that the primer for the scientific study of emotion begins with Charles Darwin and then also one of the great founders of American psychology who was William James. And Darwin focused on expression in 1871 and James on the body. But what they were arguing for, if you read them carefully, is that our emotions and how we express them in our facial expressions and our voice and what happens in our body are really about building the structure. strong relationships that define the human species, the attachments we feel to offspring, the patterns of love we feel for partners, the feelings of awe and reverence and gratitude we feel towards friends and social groups. So out of that thinking came a more recent science that I've been part of that really says that emotions are the grammar or language of social living.

What are the differences between the man and the woman in terms of a physical connection? The woman has a baby growing inside her for nine months. The man doesn't, how does that affect our emotional connectivity? Yeah, I think, you know, that we are seeing increasingly, you know, we're an unusual primate in that, you know, like chimpanzees, males don't even know who really know who their offspring are given their reproductive patterns. and I write about this important to be good. You know, the female goes into estrus, mates with every male around, and then there's sperm competition, and a baby comes out, and the male doesn't know.

So they aren't really engaged in too much parenting. And in humans, for a lot of interesting reasons, fathers are in the game, and they know who their offspring are, and they provide care. But I do think, Shane, you are pointing to something that we often overlook, as scientists, but which is fundamental is the physical connection between mother and child, you know, just the having a child grow in the womb. And then through breastfeeding, which, you know, the human average across history is four years of skin-to-skin contact and the provision of nourishment and the oxytocin that's released and the prolactin that is this oceanic feeling of

connection, that's foundational. So I, you know, we shy away from those raw facts at times of our evolution and these interesting sex differences, but they are there and I think have interesting things to say about why women are more collaborative and live longer and handle stress in different ways. I think a lot begins with just that basic source of caregiving they provide. The connection between happiness and emotion seems strong, and you're writing you talk about Jen, which is a concept I haven't heard of before. Can you explain that? Yeah, you know, the connection, you know, happiness, our sense that life is going pretty well is strongly driven by three things in the vast scientific literature now, you know, and one is

the positive emotions we've been talking about, like mirth and laughter and love. and sympathy. Another is how you handle stress and negative emotion. And the third is social connection. And, you know, Shane, when I was, when I, I've been teaching human happiness at Berkeley and then online at edX for a long time. And there, there's just this amazing array of findings from labs all over the world showing that, you know, like Elizabeth Dunn, when I, when I share money with another person, I get happier than if I spend it on myself. Investigators at the University of Oregon, led by Harbaugh and colleagues showing that if I give money to charity, it activates the reward circuits of the brain, much as if I receive

that gift. Other studies showing that when I'm volunteering, which activates the vagus nerve and oxytocin, presumably in certain regions of the brain, I live longer. And I'm happier. And so I was trying to, you know, the English language, for interesting historical reasons, doesn't have a great set of words that describe that phenomenon of like serving others to that in an ironic way that build up the social fabric. You know, we like scientists use it were pro-social. And, you know, it's kind of absurd. And then, you know, I've been a fan of Eastern thought for since I was 17 or 18. And in Confucianism, in the analects of Confucius, which is 2,500 years old, the central idea,

and I remember this from when I was 19, is called Jen or Ren. And it's about bringing out the good in others, right? And so to quote Confucius, a person of humanity or Jen brings the good and others to completion and does not bring the bad in others to completion. So at its core, it has this mixture of love and compassion and reverence for other people. And that seemed to be, in my readings, one of the best ways to capture these emotions and tendencies like volunteering and feeling compassion and, you know, soothing somebody and listening carefully that really contribute to happiness.

So I came up with this idea of, you know, we should really try to define our day according to high-gen actions, you know, sharing laughter with a friend, giving some resources away, empowering other people as a path to the good life. Why do you feel like they're the key to happiness? Like, what's the connection? Well, you know, it's interesting. I think that one connection is, you know, we've long known that it, that, you know, that we have these sayings in our cultures and their sayings like this in almost all the great contemplative spiritual ethical traditions that, you know, to give is as meaningful as to receive, you know, you find yourself in serving others. And indeed, a lot of studies are showing, bringing out the good in others, giving to others,

promoting others, just gives you this burst of happiness. And we're, Shane, it's really incredible. There's a region of the brain that you might loosely call the reward circuitry, and it involves a couple regions that produce dopamine, like the ventral tegmental area and the nucleus accumbens, down in the middle of your brain, they project to your prefrontal cortex in the frontal part of your cortex. And that's your reward circuit associated with eating good food and getting a massage and so forth. And what new studies are finding is that that circuit is activated when you feel love, when you feel compassion and help somebody out, when you give resources to another person, when you cooperate with another person, it all activates this reward circuit.

And what that tells us is the brain has been wired to make it feel good to do good, right? And we don't know why in the deep evolutionary sense, but that tells us, it gives us a neuroanitomical explanation of that feeling people report all the time, like, God, I was serving food to some homeless. And we have too many people who are homeless in the United States, sadly. and I just felt so good, right? And now we have an explanation of why high-gen behaviors make us feel happy. I like that a lot.

It seems like our definition of good can change, though. And how does that affect the brain's wiring? I mean, what's good today or what we consider culturally good? Yeah. Like not every culture would have the same sort of... Yeah. Well, that's where culture is so dynamic, you know, and it is so, and that's my conversations like this one and the work that you're doing and, you know, why we write books, which is

we contest and try to define the good in ways that are ideally, in my philosophical perspective, of good for society in the world and the sustainability of our species. And, you know, one of the things that the happiness literature has brought into focus is that, you know, the past 30 years, 40 years in the U.S., and then we're seeing this in Canada, less so Canada, actually, but increasingly in some of the fast, you know, the quickly industrializing societies is we've moved away from an other orientation, right, to, hey, I'll share resources or I'll cooperate with you or I'll trust you. We've moved towards a more self-focused, materialistic, ego-focused, greed-based

focused set of values where people really boldly with great fanfare define the good as self-expression, right, as maximizing your self-interest. One of my favorite champions of this is Ian Rand, who probably, probably the most influential philosopher of the 20th century, you know, everybody's atlas shrugged and so forth. And I'm going to quote her from 1964 where she said, for any civilization is to survive, it is the morality of altruism that men have to reject. And, you know, I think, you know, as we grapple with carbon emissions and how hard it is to get people to stop consuming, we are grappling with the outgrowth of that definition of what is good, of maximizing your own

pleasure. So it is a critical thing, Shane, to really contest and converse about what we define is good. I like the notion of maximizing your pleasure. I think of it in terms of maximizing the first order benefits instead of maximizing your pleasure because there's a huge second order negatives to all of this stuff. And so I see it as this inability to almost delay gratification. Yeah. Some cultures, I mean, they display very little kind of outward emotion and some explode with joy and sadness and laughter. I mean, from a methodological point, the standpoint, like how do you approach the problem of determining what's part of our genetic wiring, what's given to us by culture? Yeah.

you know it's it's amazingly complex and so I'll tell you about a recent study we're just about to publish this with Dan Cordero you know you you go to other cultures and and you are struck I think people anecdotally are struck by two things and one is wow you know I was traveling in remote Nepal or in down in you know a remote part of Ecuador and I saw some kids playing and laughing and they it just looked like what I do with my my what I did with my brother I saw people flirting and and there just seems to be this similarity and then at the same time you you come away thinking but there's all this amazing difference you know that in terms of the intensity of the expression so we know that for example

East Asian cultures say Japan tend to have more muted emotional facial expressions than somebody from the United States. And so how we approach that, and I think you have to really approach it with really precise, sophisticated measurement, and you have to move beyond language, because when I say that person was smiling, that that is ambiguous. And if I say, you know, the person from Norway never expresses emotion, that is, that observation comes and coming through language, potentially a certain body. biases in it, right? Stereotypes and so forth. And so what's emerging in the scientific literature

is this idea that we do have this common language of expressing emotion in the tone of voice, in facial muscle movements and body movements, gaze activity, just the stuff that evolution equipped us with. And then cultures have ways of picking out of this rich language of emotion, and creating their own emotion dialects, right, where we might express anger with like a dramatically raised set of upper eyelids, right? And so my student, Dan Cordero, did this amazing study that's just been published where he traveled to five countries and he had people express 22 emotions, you know, from awe to compassion, to anger, to disgust, to contentment,

some of the positive emotions we've been talking about. And then he took about six months coding every visible movement that these people recruited to express emotion. It literally almost left him blind, you know. And what he found, which is interesting, is that across these five different cultures, China, India, Japan, Korea, the U.S., really different cultural systems, about 50% of any expression that an individual would admit is this universal expression. You know, where if you get embarrassed, you turn your head away and you show your neck

and you smile in an awkward way and you avert your gaze. And then about 25% of what you express is really this culturally specific dialect, right? Or you might add a little, a high face cover of your mouth if you're laughing in Japan. or you, you know, when you express pride in the U.S., you expand your chest in an alpha primate type way. So I think that's a pretty reasonable way to think about. You know, a lot of who we are is due to our mammalian evolution and is universal, but then culture comes in and has this unique language.

It's a very significant part of how we express ourselves. So it's similar enough where we can, we understand another culture despite some of the nuances, but it's not similar enough that it looks the exact same. Yeah, and I think that, you know, when you think about experiences with people from other cultures where you don't share a language, this estimate of 50% being universal and 25% being really different seems pretty sensible, which is like you get a sense like, oh, we're all, this situation is kind of funny right now, people are sharing laughter, right? but maybe there's a little bit of irony or self-deprecation that you can't pick up that is expressed in a particular dialect.

So I do think that it is this sense of part of us is shared and then culture adds its nuances. In Bord to be good, you have an interesting play on Darwin instead of saying survival of the fittest, you say survival of the kindest. How do you differentiate between the sort of kindness we displayed to those in our groups and the more general, sort of. of kindness we hope to display it as strangers, we might have nothing in common with. Well, this is one of the, you know, this is a fundamental question in evolution and also in ethics and morality chain. And you're really right to zero in on this. And, you know, and thanks for bringing this up. So first of all, you know, when I wrote Born to Be Good, and I was doing all this work on compassion and the vagus nerve and oxytocin and parts of the brain,

They're involved in compassion and really sacrifice and altruism. I read Darwin thanks to the recommendations of a Darwin scholar Frank Selleway at Berkeley. And he said, you know, if you're writing about emotion for Born to Be Good, you should really go back to all of Darwin's writings and dig deep. And we have this notion of Darwin as being founded on survival of the fittest. And it's the strong and the nasty and the manipulative and the Machiavellian who thrive in evolution. And Darwin didn't believe that at all. And in fact, he anticipated a shift in evolutionary thought today in when he said that, you know, it really is the communities that have the most sympathetic members who will flourish and raise the greatest number of offspring.

And that idea has really come to life in recent evolutionary thought we've been talking about, which is we have very vulnerable offspring. They're the carriers of our genes. If they don't survive, we don't survive as a species. And so we've evolved these emotions and communication systems like tactile contact to connect and attach and raise offspring. And we need collaborative networks to do that, which is a new line of thinking and evolutionary and thought about what's called alloparenting,

where we take care of young offspring that aren't ours. And so Darwin had a much different view of our sense of evolution. And, you know, that really, really sort of shaped how we really need to rethink kind of the origins of human emotion as being this fountive of sentiments like appreciation and compassion and loves. In an increasingly, just to go back to something we said earlier, in an increasingly self-centered world, do you think you can be too kind? Yeah, yeah, there's no doubt.

You know, I mean, I think that it's, you know, one of the things that I teach in human emotion is, and it's interesting, is Aristotle, the great Greek philosopher, had this principle of moderation, which is we need all the past. passions in the right place and to the right degree and in the right context, you know. And anger can get you into trouble. If you're a young boy and you, you are constantly expressing your anger, data show, studies show you're going to have trouble, right? You're going to get suspended and so forth. And Aristotle's idea is really mapping onto kind of a new line of work on, we need all the emotions to moderate degrees and tailored to the context in the right.

way. And ironically, some of the positive emotions, like compassion or joy, if you have too much of them, you will pay a price. So, you know, we've done work in my lab on people who show a lot of hyper-connectivity and compassion to others. And, you know, they tend to fit a profile of being vulnerable to mania, right, where you walk around in your daily life. and you feel connected to the homeless person and you give away a lot of money, you know. And then you go to work and there's a woman who's, you know, feeling sad and you feel too connected to her

and you become merged in an inappropriate relationship. And then you go out, you know, back to your family and you're wild-eyed with a sense of positive emotion and connection and your kids feel, you know, a little distant to it. So I think it's a really telling lesson that even too much compassion which is one of the most pro-social ethical emotions, it can produce these social costs,

these secondary problems that you've talked about, when pushed to the extreme. Do you think that applies to groups as well? Can groups or cultures be too focused on, or not focused, that's the wrong word, but too prone to one without a balance or harmony with the others? Can cultures be too compassionate?

Yeah. Wow. Yeah, you know, probably, you know, and we just, you know, and it's back to a question, Shane, that you asked, and I got distracted and didn't answer it because I got carried away thinking about Darwin, so I apologize. You know, it's the question of like, how much compassion should you feel and should you feel compassion towards other groups? And Darwin laid down this idea of, wow, we've evolved to be sympathetic, and the science is showing we're sympathetic towards young offspring and family members and also friends, right, people who are part of our social groups. And that raises the question of can, and can we push sympathy to extend to other people who are not part of our groups? And this is one of the challenges that is laid down by a lot of the great ethical traditions. right? Peter Singer, the great ethicist, said, we have this thing called the circle of care, and really the growth of human history is about expanding our circle of care. We not only care about our kind and our family and our village, but we care about people in other villages

and other species and all sentient beings in the Buddhist phraseology. And I do think that that is the, that is where we encounter the limits of evolutionary biology and we have to get to cultural practices like extending compassionate people who are not like us. That raises the question of if you practice this optimal compassion or maximal compassion like the Dalai Lama does, are you vulnerable and as a culture? And, you know, I think you could think of instances in which that's the case where, you know, if a small hunter-gatherer tribe was purely compassionate, they could be invaded and taken over by another tribe. And so I think that raises interesting questions about the limits of compassion. I want to come back to Darwin for a second because

you discuss him a lot. You discuss the dissent of man quite a bit and born to be good. It seems like that book has, it's relatively unknown. Like it's fallen out of favor over time or it seems like it's fallen out of favor. Why do you think that is? Well, you know, the, um, the, it fell out of favor, um, you know, the descent of man, Darwin wrote, it was his first book about humans and origin species is about other species and he has nothing to say about human beings. Uh, and then he started to face a bunch of critiques. And it's important to remember, you know, at the time that Darwin published his theory of evolution, 50% of scientists were creationists. They really felt that God had designed nature and laid it down in unfixed fashion. And so Darwin encountered these

critiques in the public conversation and he had to write about humans. And he did so. He made his case for evolution in humans by charting the emotions. And he wrote the expression of emotion of man and animals in 1872. And he also wrote the Descent of Man, which originally was going to be part of one book with the expression book, but he broke it into two. And Darwin's, you know, the reason that it fell out of favor is, one is, and this is a subject of debate in Darwinian circles, is, you know, was he a bit, was there a little bit of racism in the book when he talked about other cultures? And like many, you know, he? in that Victorian period, which was a pretty racist period, he did, there are some shades of

thinking in essentialist terms about racial categories, which we know is misguided today. But it's modest compared to the racism of other scientists. And I think that the second thing that it, you know, Darwin, I mean, he offers this theory of sexual selection in the descent of man, which is all about, how, you know, a lot of human characteristics, like our tendency to want social status and our tendency to beautify ourselves and our tendency to, you know, for men and women to take the particular physical shapes that they have are shaped by sexual selection, our attempt to attract mates and to reproduce. And for interesting reasons, scientists felt embarrassed to study sex.

So that wasn't picked up for a long time in evolutionary thought. And then I think that this other line of thinking that's a very small part of the descent of man, but a richer part of the expression of motion in man and animals is Darwin was clearly making the case that a lot of our moral tendencies, we share with other primates, we share with other mammals like dogs,

we are they have biological foundations and that was not a popular line of thought for a long time to think that human morality and human goodness is shared with other species and is crafted by evolution there's a lot of interesting things in that answer one of them that I picked up on that I kind of want to explore just a little bit is why do you think that we tend to write people or things off based on something that has nothing to do with the wisdom we're acquiring from it or the knowledge contained in it. Can you elaborate on that? Well, you mentioned that, you know, there was a bit possibly of racism or what we might think of today as racism. And if that has a notion, I'm trying to explore the tension between that sort of impact on a book and then our desire or lack of desire

to then pick it up and learn something from it. It's almost like we write it off mentally in terms of, oh, this has nothing good to say because we insert some sort of blanket statement and then we miss out on so much because we're not willing to explore ideas of people and separate them or distinguish them possibly from the person. And I'm only mentioning this in the context of Darwin, but I think it exists in the context of almost everything. Yeah, no, I agree.

And it's a really complicated issue with scholarship. which is, you know, people will write books in historical political contexts that are then used by other people, right? People in politics and that may have little to do with the intention of the scholarship. And then in hindsight, future scholars may write off the contributions of that person. So, you know, one of those famous examples is Martin Heidegger, you know, a philosopher who ended up kind of, you know, being popular amongst Nazis. And so people are very skeptical about a scholarship.

You know, the thing with Darwin, you know, because he is, you know, arguably the most important scientist or thinker ever, I think that, and this is really brought into focus and it really shaped my receptivity to Darwin by a spectacular book on social Darwinism by, I think it's a philosopher named Degler from Stanford. You know, ironically, Darwin was, in many ways, a very 21st century person. You know, he was a devoted father, very involved in his family life, really close to his kids, a good community member, really cooperative, rated by historians as one of the kindest historians. It's interesting to me that Darwin, unlike a lot of Victorian scientists, didn't care about social class, right? And he learned a lot about evolution from talking to working class poor, ostracized pigeon breeders, right? And he learned about how they created new breeds a pigeon through processes of natural selection.

So he, in many ways, he was a deep egalitarian in how he treated his wife and contributed to child care and the like. But what happened is how the social Darwinists, after Darwin, used his thinking. And what they did, as is characterizing this really important book on social Darwinism by Degler's, they said, hey, there's this English scientist who says, you know, we can explain human beings through evolution. And then these social Darwinists looked around and they said, wow, the most sophisticated society in the world right now is Victorian England. So therefore, we're a different race. We evolved according to different principles. than other cultures.

And that turned out to be a fallacy and really a political use of Darwin. So that often happens. And you're right, Shane. I mean, this is the challenge, right? Of the legacy of scholarship is if it occurs in a political context with problems we perceive today, what do you do with that scholarship?

And I think that in spite of these critiques of Darwin, you know, that he used certain phrases that felt a little freighted with racist language, he stood the test of time, for one, because his family had a long history of abolitionism, which is important to remember, for two, because of the quality of science. And then I think that science tells us, as we've learned and been talking about today, that the noblest of human tendencies, right, our love of art, our sense of morality, our ability to care for vulnerable things, are really common to all human beings, which is what Darwin ultimately was arguing. Right. I worry that if we can't separate people

from ideas, that we inadvertently get into almost a moral selection bias. Yeah, yeah. Who are you worried about in particular? Is there a particular? Oh, no one in general is just kind of a theme that I see people that see plays out, right? You mentioned somebody maybe that's contentious, and then maybe you're hitting on an idea of that person, but we already write them off as having nothing of value to contribute. It has nothing to do with the idea that you're talking about. It has to do with the person. Yeah, you know, and it's funny to me that artists in a way can get away with it. Yeah. True. So Caravaggio, one of the great painters killed somebody. I think Norman Mailer stabbed somebody. You know what I mean... It's part of what makes them famous now, right?

Right. But the minute scientists, you know, have like a slight implication that, you know, whatever it is, they get written on. They get into trouble. So I think it's a, I'm glad you're raising the question. We should always try to separate the person from the science in some sense and the context in which they write. Since you're a psychologist, I have to ask, what is your take on the reproducibility crisis kind of in the social sciences and some of the non-social sciences these days. How do you approach this problem of non-replicable research and sort of being careful not to draw conclusions that are false? Yeah, you know, well, I mean, the first thing to, you know, to remember, and when you've been around science, you know, I was in grad school 25 years ago,

30 years ago, is sciences go through crises, right? And when I was a young grad student, The big crisis was whether, you know, all of the great studies of social psychology, the Milgram obedience to authority studies, the Solomon Ash conformity studies, these are the most famous studies almost in psychology. Were they true, right? Or were people just pretending? And that was a crisis, and we debated it, and then we used our reason to assess the validity of the findings, and they've stood the test of time.

Today, the reproduction crisis, I have a couple of reactions to it. One is that, you know, a lot of our journals very painstakingly require replication. So, you know, you do a study several times with slight variations to really have a sense of the reliability of the finding. A lot of our statistical techniques now recognize the need to replicate when we do what. what are called meta-analyses, where we look at what is an effect size or how strong is a statistical relationship across labs and studies. So I think we do care about replication. I will note, you know, it's interesting to me that the replication crisis has targeted certain kinds of studies, so we're not attempting to replicate really intensive physiological studies, which could

take years to do or they've tended to really target studies that you do online or that are quick and kind of catchy that are easily reproducible don't cost a lot of money to verify yeah and that makes me worried so when I looked at some of the tables of like here's what's being attempted to be replicated it's a very narrow swath of social cycle um you know no one's attempting to replicate a long-term study of marriage, right, or because it's just takes a long time. So I think that it's been overblown somewhat personally. And secondly, that it reminds us we need to make sure we replicate findings. Third, it will lead to improvements in our methodologies. And the fourth, And this is really interesting and it hasn't been grappled with, I believe, substantively in the field, which is that I'm in social psychology. By definition, we believe that phenomena change as a function of the social context. That's the heart of social psychology. If I'm in one situation, I behave differently than in another situation or one context. And I think that what we should start to make sure we do is systematically think about.

the historical context of a finding, right? So let me give you one example. You know, I did a lot of early work on power that I write about in this book, The Power Paradox, in the late 90s. And that was a much different political economic context than today. And we know that factors like, you know,

the new social media and Facebook and inequality influence the human mind. So I think we need to start thinking about systematic ways of capturing how context change and might produce the failure to replicate a finding. I want to come to the power right after I have one more question, kind of unborn to be good, which is toward the end of that, you make a somewhat controversial statement, in my opinion. I mean, that human groups evolve toward more morality.

I would think this... More morality. Yeah, so I think this connects to your idea about survival, the kindness. Now, I kind of want to push back a little bit and lean on that thesis. If we have such a well-developed sense of positive morality and doing good things, feels good to us, as you explained in your book, then why do individual humans and groups consistently do such heinous things to each other? Perhaps the worst atrocities in history have been committed only a few generations ago

after tens of thousands of years of human evolution? Yeah, you know, I sympathize with that critique, Jane, and I think that the science that I report on and born to be good about love and compassion and, you know, laughter and play and joy and gratitude, those are new sciences and they, the older science on anger and fight or flight and aggression had, you know, stress had been well worked out. And so I prioritized the good and should have, you know, I think the more realistic perspective that I take in my scientific inquiry or when I write about human emotion more generally is humans are a very complicated bundle of an array of social strategies that manifest in emotions. And we have a lot of pro-social tendencies and we have a lot of unnerving anti-social tendencies from, you know, violence and genocide and, you know, evolutionary psychologists have made a case that rape is a evolved strategy and it's a human universal. And regrettably,

we see it everywhere. And so that's the struggle of human existence and the struggle of society is to, and history is, wow, we have all this complicated, all these complicated tendencies to be kind and to be harsh. And that, and then. And then, you have to think about what are the contextual factors that allow for the expression of the good things and not the bad. And that becomes, you know, different intellectual tasks. So I think you're right. I think it is this interesting balance or mixture or set of competing strategies to the question of, you know, what direction are we going in as a culture and is it in our history. you know, and I was really, when I made that statement that human groups are moving in this pro-social direction, you know, I had two sources for that statement, and one was, you know, Steve Pinker was starting to write about the decline of violence. And, you know, that for the past 500 years, we see less rape and less bullying and less murder and you're less likely to die on a battlefield and there's less torture and we turn.

treat people with mental illness better, and we don't enslave people, which was very commonplace three, four hundred years ago. And I believe that. I feel the slowly the direction of history is towards a little bit more kindness. And you could contest that, and people have contested Pinker's thesis. And then the other thing that I really, you know, that influenced me is the broader study of, you know, from almost from the archaeological record and then, you know, the study of deep human history, which is, you know, when you read people like Christopher Bohm on politics and social organization and hunter-gatherer societies, he really sees it as being very democratic and egalitarian. And there's a lot of gender equality. And I think gender equality is one of the great

indicators of how healthy a society is. And then we go through a period, you know, as feminists have long been noting, where women did not fare well in many traditional religions and social organization of the last, as we moved out of hunter-gatherer societies to more stable, larger kingdoms. And I believe the last 50 years, we're seeing a rise of women to power, which tells us that, on that almost most significant indicator of how healthy a society is we're moving slowly again in the right direction I wonder on the violence thing yeah having not read a lot on this if it's the frequency of the violence is going down but the magnitude of the impact of the people committing violence goes up because the technology or the weapons is almost asymmetric to where

it was hundreds or thousands of years ago yeah I you're absolutely you know we've moved away from You know, when I read about Machiavelli for this power book, and I just read about how violent the 1500s were, it's pretty astonishing. Just, you know, hand-to-hand combat and torture, physical, and it's unbelievable. But now we have these new technologies where an atomic bomb dropped on Japan kills 150,000 people. There are other problems with the thesis. You know, I volunteer in the prisons, and in the U.S. we have two and a half million people in prisons.

Many have mental illnesses and are there for minor drugs. And prison can be thought of very sensibly as a form of violence, right? As a way to, it shortens lives and inflicts harm. So it's worth contesting. Let's come back to McAvelli.

So you're, let's talk about your more recent work on power, I guess. We'll lead off with McAvelli here. So the cultural notion of power that most of us have in one way or another derives from kind of Machiavelli's 16th century book The Prince and that is power is about force kind of strategic ruthlessness and making progress at all costs the interesting thing to me is that you argue

this is a limited and outdated notion of power why well you know the and boy do I seem like a fool and you, from a certain vantage point on today's political context. So, um, so, I'm going to bring that. Um, I don't think that people are a fool, but I definitely think that, you know, the current climate might, um, yes, differ. Call this into question. Yeah.

Um, yeah, so here, here's what's really interesting. Um, the, you know, when you, when you take a step back and you think about the broad. sweep of human evolution. The, you know, the best most reliable data on hunter-gatherer societies, small groups, 75 people, we evolved in these groups for 200,000 years, was that power was collaborative, it was distributed across people, and it was kind of horizontal. It was hard to, there weren't really vertical hierarchies, right? People kind of collaborated in finding food or taking care of offspring, defense, play, courtship, etc. And it was egalitarian.

And that's what Christopher Bum writes and, you know, kind of the definitive statement of what power was like back then. And it almost gave me goosebumps, Shane. I was, there's this book by a couple of archaeologists, Marcus and Flannery, and they, on the origins of inequality. And what they know is 12 to 15,000 years ago, and I will get to Machiavelli, I promise. 12 to 15,000 years ago, we moved out of small itinerant nomadic groups into interlocking tribes and settlements of thousands of people and then we started to store grains in agriculture. And when we shifted to this level of organization, hierarchies and power move from collaborative and horizontal to vertical.

And what you see is the emergence of some really interesting things, which is you see systematic violence towards people. You see the emergence of religion that dictates who is powerful and who is not. You see polygamy where men start to have multiple wives and you see slavery emerge, where people really start to feel in these more vertical hierarchies like I can own these people or these are my indentured servants. Really radical shift. And you fast forward, Machiavelli, you know, in the Renaissance 16th century, writes in a time where vertical hierarchy is at its peak, right, or almost at its peak, which is, you know, monarchies and mercenaries and, you know, indentured servants and a really subordinate status of

women. And in that particular historical context, and it's also worth noting, you know, Europe at that time was profoundly violent and there was torture everywhere and rape everywhere and public executions. Mockyville wrote the prince in this cocktail of wild politics just after being tortured. So he writes his book, The Prince, and it's important because he says, look, power is not about morality. It's amoral. And all those ancient Greeks, Aristotle, who thinks power is based in virtue. They're liars. Power is ruthless. And it's just go get it. Be coercive. Lie to people. Trick people. Act like you're religious when in fact you're not. Kill your allies. Hold on to power. And that probably was right for his times.

But what I try to argue in Born to Be Good. I mean, the power paradox is the last 500 years have seen a lot of changes, right? The rule of law, which has its biases. Forms of literacy. new forms of social organization, the rise of women, the rise of move away from monarchies to governments, constitutions, individual rights, et cetera. And so today, you know, when I teach in organizations, governments and Google, you know, et cetera, science, you know, biotech, yeah, you know, you got to be sort of Machiavellian at certain times, but you need a lot of other skills to get things done. And that's the critique of Machiavelli's. We've changed since that. historical moment. You got more than you asked for it. No, I was just deconstructing that a little

bit. I think that sets a really good call, like contextual tone for the Machiavellian sort of thinking and why we've evolved that way. In the book, you have a concept called the power paradox. Can you explain that and why it's a paradox? Yeah. And just to, you know, just to finish up on Machiavelli, you know, the other reason to critique him is the empirical data, there are measures of Machiavellianism. And if you're a Machiavellian, you know, and you lie and manipulate and don't mind really harming people to rise in power, you'll do well in one-shot negotiations, but for the most part, you don't do too well in rising in power and having good friendships in most organizations. Yeah, the power of paradox is the heart of the book. And it's this puzzle that

I encountered in my science for 25 years, and then a lot of labs have replicated and, you know, extended and critiqued and modified and sharpened. And the paradox is this, Shane, you know, when you look across studies of how do I get power, right? How do I have influence in this group or this social context? What you in general find is you gain power by what Hannah-Aren and Michelle Foucault, two of the greatest theories of power talked about, which is by animating a social network, right? So if I'm at work or I'm on a sports team or I'm a community activist or I'm in church, I'm an adolescent on a seventh grade playground,

my power is rooted in my ability to stir the actions of other people around me in an effective way. And I think that's about as good an assessment of power as you can conceptualize. And what studies find is, you know, you do that by being bold and by being empathetic, by knowing what other people want, animating them in ways that move them in that direction. And so you get power, you know, and this is, I sort of push the thesis by being good to others, you know, by stating things that would be of interest to them, by pointing, by inspiring them,

by listening carefully to them, by reaching out to people and building strong social ties. And that idea you see replicated in military units and schools and organizations, even a careful look at a lot of non-human primate power politics points to that, that you get power by moving the social network effectively, and it takes these social skills. And then here's where the paradox comes in, which is another part of my lab was studying, what happens once you feel powerful? You've done all this smart work, you've animated the social network,

and now you feel like, yeah, you know, I'm the master of the universe. And it's as if your frontal lobes are destroyed and you lose all the social skills they got you power in the first place, you know? And, you know, we show when I feel powerful, I read people's emotions less effectively, I interrupt them more,

and then all hell breaks loose, and you know, you swear at people and you're more likely to have sexual affairs, you flirt inappropriately. We did a study that got a lot of attention where people driving really powerful cars are much more likely to drive through pedestrian zones and almost hurt pedestrians. And that should remind people what's happening today. So it's this paradox of human life.

Like, I get power by Jen, by lifting up people. But once I get power and feel it, trouble breaks loose. I'm wondering if you've ever heard the quote by Robert Cairo, who has written a lot about Lyndon Johnson, I think it's for like 40 years now. And before that, he published a famous biography on the most powerful men in the 20th century, which was Robert Moses. And he said a few times he said that following, which I want to quote here, which is I often hear that power corrupts and that absolute power corrupts absolutely, which is Lord Acton's kind of rule. But what I have found to be invariably true is that power reveals. Would you agree with that sentiment?

Yeah, you know, Shane, man, you are a good reader of thing. I really appreciate it. And I'll give you a little bit of science on this and the struggle. You know, the science, so I push the argument that power leads to these really selfish, problematic behaviors. And I believe that to be true. So a lot of our work, more recent work with Paul Piff, in particular, and Michael Krause, two cherished collaborators, is about privilege. and if I come from the 1% how do I behave and

it looks like you are more abusive right if you have a lot of wealth you know and so our studies show fitting this power abuse hypothesis that if I'm from the well to do and you know or feeling I'm from the upper class I'm less

likely to attend to people carefully when they're speaking I in an experiment I'm more likely to lie and say I got a really good score on a test to win a prize, even though I have more money, you know, don't need the monetary prize. I drive in a problematic way, which I talked about. I'm more likely to take candy in a bowl than the candy says it's meant for the kids in this

institute in which the study took place. So power seems to corrupt in that case. But I think Carrow's hypothesis is really more apt, which is that it's the context of privilege and being from an upper class background that allows you to just grab up. gratify your desires. And so when you feel powerful from that background, you're just more selfish. You're more likely to ignore other people, as Marie Antoinette said, and let them eat cake or whatever she said. You know, so in that sense, Carol's right. It reveals. And I push the thesis, the Lord Acton hypothesis, you know, that it corrupts. Because in a lot of contexts, it does.

But there are critical experiments that show that Carol really was really, in the end, I think, offered the more sort of the more representative statement that power reveals. So one of my favorite studies in this is by my Berkeley colleague, Serena Chen. She found people who were really Machiavellian and competitive or really warm and generous. And she gave those people power. And the opportunity to help somebody else or to gratify their own interests in what she found, consistent with the corrupt thesis, if I'm really competitive and self-serving and I get power, I'm even more competitive and self-serving and corrupts. But critically, if I'm kind and Dalai Lama like and I get power, I'm even more sacrifice-oriented and other focused, right? Power reveals. So I'm glad you brought up Caro.

I think you're right. I think it's more about revealing than necessarily corrupting. One of the underlying themes of the book is that groups give people power. So how is it that groups can't filter out these sort of character traits, if they are? Or is it that once you have power, the environment nudges you? And does it nudge you slowly and then all at once? or is it this process that you start surrounding yourselves with people who tell you what you want to hear and then gradually you become insulated from the group that, you know, in theory, gives you power?

Yeah, you know, so I think, you know, I've been teaching organizations for 20 years, thousands of people in different organizations from, you know, as I said, from governments to, you know, biotech firms to startups to Google to you know really every imaginable kind of group and and what you just described chain is is what they speak to as being one of the fundamental issues in the health of an organization is how they handle and rein in the potential abuses of power and there are unhealthy groups that you know where they don't critique people in power and they don't have voice for subordinates to offer alternative ideas or critiques or speaking truth to power and there are no forms of accountability or transparency of power holders and literally it can

become chaos like you see in Enron where it's just you know people get mad with power and they sink organizations because they're not keeping the powerful in check and then there are other groups where they build that systematically into the structure of the group, right? And they have open critique and peer review. And you make sure that structurally the people who are of lower power or lower status have ways of speaking truth to power, be it in peer commentary or having a voice at a collective meeting. And those groups tend to, as you say, keep these impulsively. of tendencies in check. And this is, this analysis, and this has seen in a lot of different social sciences from

political science to even the thinking about what was so healthy about the democracies of hunter-gatherers, because they made fun of leaders, they critiqued them, they gossiped about each other. So they really kept in check these more, you know, sort of problematic tendencies that power can produce. It's really, this science casts a really interesting. light upon today's politics, you know, which is when someone undermines news, that's fake news, even though, you know, the newspaper tradition, the right kind is a, has a pretty solid way

of finding out facts. You are undermining one of the checks on power. When, you know, you are no longer care about your reputation or people don't care about ethical violations and we no longer deem ethical behavior is something we should expect from leaders, you are another step down the path towards greater abuses of power. So it's really important to think about the context of power. So groups put in kind of checks and balances for power. What does successful people who not only attain power but seem to use that in a way for the benefit of the group, how do they differ from people that don't? Do they put in their own checks and balances? What are do they have some sort of mechanism by which they make sure that they don't sway too far?

Like, how does that, how does that look? It's interesting when people talk about great leaders and there have been studies, historical studies, for example, that I write about the Paraparadox of who were the great presidents? You know, who had a lasting legacy? Lincoln had a lasting legacy. Nixon's legacy did not. have, do not really endure for his ethical violations. And when we talk about great leaders, we often think about kind of their attributes, right, their qualities. And that's a common

tendency in Western Indian thought to think about characteristics of the individuals being the source of greatness. But we do talk about things like, you know, one of the defining characteristics of Lincoln was empathy, his ability to listen to other people. Jim Collins in this, you know, probably the most widely read book on leadership, you know, millions and millions of copies sold, has this final level of leadership, which is about service, serving other good to great, right? Yeah. People often talk about the great leaders.

Aristotle had a whole theory of great leadership as really being rooted in virtue, like courage and humility. So we talk about these attributes. And I do think that that's a very important part of the story. But I think your question and observation is really the more important, and I think as leaders we can commit to these attributes, but your observation is what kind of social context do we create that empower great leaders? And so one is what John F. Kennedy did after his Bay of Pigs disaster with Cuba is he appointed people in his cabinets to be devil's advocate. You have to have critics of everything that leaders do. And, you know, I just think that that process is essential.

Just any kind of proposal that a leader should make should be met with the counterproposal. And then you reason through it. I think that, you know, great leaders listen to everybody. And they build contexts like Lincoln where he would have a time during his day. You know, this is an older historical period where citizens would come to the White House and they would talk to him. And, you know, he would hear them, you know, and he wasn't sheltered. So I think that you have to listen. And then I think that there's something about transparency, like building contexts in which things are really transparent that makes for effective power.

And when you think about the collapse, the 2008 economic collapse that Michael Lewis wrote about, You know, all of our ways of rating these commodities and economic, these products, just there was totally, you couldn't, no one could understand them. There's no way to assess them. There's no transparency. And then people ran roughshod over ordinary investors. So, so I think you need to build context where you're challenged, where you listen, and where your methods of leading are open. And when you have that, things will go well. In your book, you talk about empathy deficits as a means towards not only losing power, but if we map that to born to be good, we can probably hypothesize that it also leads to decreased happiness, which losing power, I would imagine, would obviously cause decreased happiness, but just in general, what does it mean to have empathy and what does that look like? Wow, such a nuanced question. So empathy, you know, we often confuse empathy.

with compassion or sympathy, sympathy and compassion are when you feel you're concerned about someone's suffering and you want to lift up their welfare or you just want to enhance the well-being of another person. Empathy is really, you know, people talk in the scientific literature about cognitive empathy, which is where I know what you are thinking about and feeling. And then emotional empathy is I feel what you feel, right? You laugh and I start laughing or you're feeling joyful and tearing up, and I feel the same thing. So there's cognitive and emotional empathy. And, you know, this was really the first, one of the first big clues to why power produces so many problematic effects in society, the abuse of power, which is labs started to

show that, you know, if I get power and I'm randomly assigned to have power over other people, I judge their emotions less accurately. I can read emotions less effectively from photos of facial expressions. One of my favorite lines of work is in the neuroscience realm, the work of Keeley Muscatel, who's now at the University of North Carolina, she is interested in regions of the frontal lobes that are engaged when we listen to other people talk. And if a friend is talking to you, parts of your frontal lobes are actually. so that you start to think about, what's that person feeling and what were they intending in that

situation? And why might they have acted in that fashion? And where are they right now? You're just empathizing in many different ways. And Keeley found that if I come from a place of power and privilege and I listen to my friend, those regions of their brain aren't activated. So it was stunning to realize how deep these empathy deficits are. And you know, you had this really astute observation chain and I really, I think it's one of the deeper veins of implication in the happiness literature that's really worth thinking about that I touch upon in Power Paradox, which is, you know, it's one of the puzzles in the happiness literature is that you don't, you're not as happy as you might expect when you make a lot of money

or you have a really powerful title that power and success and wealth don't bring you as much happiness as we tend to think. And that is well replicated. The relationship between wealth and happiness is pretty modest when it really boils down to it. And I think that it has to do with the empathy deficits that wealth and power produce,

which is our lab has shown, if I'm feeling powerful, I don't take as much joy in your joy, right? I don't take as much inspiration in the things that inspire you. I don't laugh as much. If you laugh, you don't have empathetic joy, which I think is one of the most delicious kinds of happiness that we can experience, that power tends to undermine.

How did you go about teaching your kids' empathy or encouraging them to the extent you could have empathy? I failed, you know. I hope they're not listening to this. No, no, you know, they're, well, what can parents do to, especially in this cultural generation, to encourage their children to have and develop empathy for other people? So I'm going to say, you know, I will tell you, Jane, you know, I, you know, it is so humbling to be a scientist of the good stuff and then you, you know, you have kids and you're just, it's, you know, it's, you know, it's. you're just wiped out and tired and the kids get into trouble, you know, you get into trouble, you know, and so it's humbling. And I took real solace and found incredible insights in the

developmental science of how you teach empathy to kids because it is hard work. And it goes like this and it's really funny, you know. So there's this work by Judy. Dunn and then Nancy Eisenberg, who's a Berkeley grad now at Arizona State. And what they notice, and I think this is the first piece you got to really grapple with up front, is there's a lot of conflict in American families. And early family life is about emotional struggles. So Judy Dunn found, for example, the average siblings, two little beautiful, you know, laughing two and four-year-old siblings are fighting with each other six times an hour, right? So every 10 minutes, they get into a squabble or they're wrestling or pulling each other's hair or worse. And on top of that,

the average parent is getting into a conflict with a child six times an hour. So you've got 12 conflicts in that in young families. And parents will immediately rip you. They'll be like, God, that's so true. And I remember reading that. I was not to mention parent conflict. Oh, my God. We won't even go there. Right. So what Judy Dunn found, and she was really interested in documenting, like in this rich stew of American emotional life, and I would argue the emotional life of a family, there's all this conflict. How do you get kids to empathize? And the first thing she really encourages is that parents have to get their kids to, they have to ask questions and let the kids reason through things. So you don't get kids to empathize. And I failed at this by saying, the Dalai Lama thinks that compassion is the ultimate virtue and you decree that right they're like who cares you know how you get them to empathize is by asking questions and then and then being quiet and letting the kids reason so you know if a conflict's happening the parent who leads the kids

towards empathy is saying things like god you know why is your little sister crying you know and what and then why are you crying right now oh I see and and then why did she take your toy and why did you burn her doll or whatever it is? Right. And you get kids to reason through. Second thing is it really matters the developmental science shows to just use emotion words. You know, we have thousands of emotion words. They refer to all kinds of interesting states.

Are you frustrated or angry? Wow, you're really enrage. Or you seem sad. Or is that embarrassing? Or now you're joyful or you feel compassion for the, the homeless guy on the street. So, you know, make your, your language of your family full of emotion words is important. And I think it's also, this is a real irony in parenting. But I think it's, and, you know, some parents may push back on this, but I think it's important for parents

to let kids experience suffering and to see suffering, right? To recognize that there's pain, that this is part of the human condition because that's really what activates a lot of the pro-social stuff is suffering. And, you know, they're really cool qualitative studies of families who raise really altruistic adults and they tend to have a, they tend to suffering and remedying suffering as a part of their family conversation, right?

They're trying to figure out mass incarceration or work against bullying or just, just embrace it, instead of shielding kids from it, to make it part of your family value system. So I would go with those three things. I have a friend who says that there's no learning without pain, and that doesn't mean physical pain. It just means, like, there has to be some sort of feedback mechanism that causes you to learn something, because without that, you don't actually learn it.

And I have no idea if that's true or not. But, you know, that's it. You know, and we talk about like how important it is to doubt when you're a young person and how the turmoil of developmental changes produces insight. And the older I get, the more I believe in them. Let's talk about decision making and bias for a second here. You've argued that our decision making is totally biased by our ideology. We look at the ideologies of others that we don't agree with and we project on them that they're the extremists. Yeah. Not us. And I agree with this. wholeheartedly, of course. But how do we solve this problem in ourselves? I mean, how do we catch our own version of that extremism? Wow, you're not asking lighthearted questions. Yeah, you know, we started to do this work, you know,

and I think it's more timely than ever today. And, you know, when we study people on opposite ends of the, or on different categories in different categories of ideological debates like abortion and the death penalty and the like and you know in other kinds of conflicts and and we notice this really interesting tendency and it really is twofold which is people tend to assume that they get the facts right and and you know we call this naive realism and other people call it phenomenal absolutism But it's the idea that when I look at reality, it's, it's, and we know how I look at reality is shaped by my emotion and my hunger and my social class and all these contextual factors.

But we tend to assume we kind of got the facts right, you know, that if I am in and debate and we're debating mass incarceration and I've read a bunch of stuff and been to a prison, and I will assume, like, yeah, I see the truth. And then the second thing that happens in this study, this research we did is when we encounter people who differ from us, like, oh, that guy thinks we should punish criminals more strongly, or that person has a different view of transgender identity. We assume that they are politically and ideologically motivated and are at opposite ends of the continuum. And time and time again, you know, this finding replicates. It's easy to find,

which is people think that disputes and debates are really, there are two extreme camps, and that's all there is. But the fact of the matter is that's a stereotype of debates. And really, when you look at people's real views, we have a lot of common ground, right? There are a lot of moderates in debates. There are a lot of people who agree, you know, I may disagree with somebody on tax policy, but I agree with them on funding public schools or whatever the case may be. So there's much more overlap in our ideological attitudes than what we stereotype to be the case. And I think that I feel, you know, we know from, there are a couple things you can do, you know, and one is, man, just get out and talk to people with different ideological views, you know.

And you will find that the person who really supports, this happened to me recently on an airplane, like this guy who supports a really strong police presence in cities, and I, you know, living in Berkeley, feel worry about police brutality and so forth, I understood him, you know, and I could appreciate where that belief came from. And we had a really productive dialogue. So get out and talk to people about this stuff. And you'll find there's all this common ground and this opportunity for mutual understanding. And then I think that, you know, what, you know, people like John Haidt, my good friend is encouraging is get out of your thought bubble, you know, and read stuff, read other opinions. You know, when I read Ian Rand and her philosophy of self-expression and just naked self-interest, I understand it, you know, and I feel it. And I know that that's part of me too. And I know my 18-year-old daughter may go through a period where that philosophy is really important to her. So, you know, you get out of your thought bubble and encounter different views. A lot of people think that you need to agree with it to understand it.

And I think those are two different things. You can understand something. It doesn't mean you agree with it or it matches who you are. What would you say is your most powerful idea? I mean, what would you like people to grasp most about your work? Can I say too? Mm-hmm, of course. I think that, you know, I remember I was on a panel with the Dalai Lama.

You know, there are a bunch of scientists and a bunch of Tibetan Buddhists and, you know, and whatever you think of Buddhism, and I admire it, one of the things that is true is they have been doing these deep inquiries, meditating for hours and reflecting and analyzing and taxonomizing and describing mental life. and they've worked really hard at it and in an open way and the Dalai Lama said you know that the and this is seen in a lot of contemplative traditions that the mind is compassionate and I that one just took me a back and and lo and behold that's what Darwin was saying right and I think that that is the big thing that was added to humans in our evolution is compassionate mind.

And it's manifest in regions of the brain and that vagus nerve and all the pro-social the fact that, you know, when people are asked to give money away to a stranger, they'll give away 40%. And to me, once you start your understanding of the human mind with that assumption or really generalization from the literature, a lot of things. come out of that. Like, God, it's so interesting. I find trees to be so beautiful and they have these patterns and I feel like I care for them, right? And that is an extension in the aesthetic realm of compassion or, wow, when I hear beautiful music, I tear up at humanity and I want to be around

people I care about. So to me, you know, that that is the core thing that has animated my research. And then it just so happened that in a lot of contexts, you, if you practice all the extensions of compassion, you'll do okay in terms of rising in social hierarchies and having a lasting contribution. So that's where I would, I'll shy away from two and I'll give you that one. Dr. Thank you so much. It was a pleasure talking with you. I wish the rest of my day was as interesting as this, Shane. It was wonderful to talk to you. Thanks for the really deep questions. Hey guys. This is Shane again. Just a few more things before we wrap up. You can find show notes from today's show at fs.blog slash podcast. You can also find out information on how to get a transcript there. And if you'd like to receive a weekly email from me filled with all sorts of brain food, go to fs.s.com slash newsletter. The newsletter is all the good stuff I found on the internet this week that I've read and shared with close friends, books I'm reading, and so much more. Lastly, if you enjoyed this or any other episode of the Knowledge Project, please consider subscribing and leaving a review. Every review helps us make the show better,

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