The Livy Method Podcast - It's Not About Doing More. It's About Doing the Right Things.

Episode Date: June 1, 2026

Six weeks in, doing all the things, and still frustrated? You're not alone, and you're probably not doing anything wrong. Today, Gina Livy gets honest about why "doing more" is rarely the answer, how seasonal changes affect your body's signals and what it actually looks like to listen to what your body needs right now. Plus: the real reason weight comes back, how to navigate situational change without falling back into old habits, and why loneliness might be the missing piece in your health journey nobody talks about.This episode aligns with day 43 of our Spring 2026 weight loss program. You can find the full video hosted at: www.facebook.com/groups/livymethodspring2026To learn more about The Livy Method, visit livymethod.com. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I'm going to be honest with you, this podcast is unapologetically a hot mess because that is what midlife feels like sometimes. Why, though? And how do we make it better? Do we all just need facelifts and g-lp-1s? I mean, let's talk about it. No bullshit, no wellness wankery here because we're trying to make real change and change is hard. But we're in this together. Welcome to the Living Method podcast.

Happy Monday. Is it a happy Monday? Are we feeling happy? I hope so. Okay. Here we are. It is day 40. Three of the program.

You've been showing up for 43 days. Some may be better than the others, but you're still here. It's so, gosh, it is so beautiful outside finally. Hopefully you're getting outside, especially after, especially for a walk after larger meals. Game changer. Absolute game changer. When you eat, your insulin levels can go up. your blood sugar goes up obviously going for a walk helps to bring them back down um absolute game

changer also an absolute game changer not eating late in the evening which can be trickier with the nicer weather you know we're barbecuting barbecuting there we go that's my mind we're barbecuing we're barbecuting barbecuing later i had a migraine last night so i'm a little off today i haven't had one forever ever since i turned post menopause um i feel really great i used to feel like I was on the verge of getting a migraine every single day. And then that just went away. And obviously a lot of that was hormonal. It went away.

And then last night we went to play pickleball. And I started to get the whole, I get the whole eye thing. That's how I get it. And I had a pretty bad headache. So I took some drugs. It took some drugs. Anyway, the change in the season matters. You can feel it.

So you really want to adapt to the change. What's really a plus is that you can eat a little bit later into the evening because it's still nice and light out. Also sunsets, have we been, like, what is with the sunsets? Absolutely gorgeous. I think just in the wintertime. Like, we were in, like, darkness the whole time it felt like the sunsets have just spectacular lately. But yeah, so you do have a little bit more wiggle room to eat a little bit later at night.

Getting your water in is a bit trickier. When it's hotter, it can feel like you just can't drink enough. if you drink a lot of tea in the winter that's me. I drink a lot of tea in the winter so that's how I get my water in which is almost easier for me. I found finding the right water bottle like I need one with like a little like a straw but not an actual straw and I found a great one. It's on my Amazon if you want to check it out.

The beige colored one. I love that. It helps me drink lots of water. It's a little heavier though because it's tin because we don't have plastics these days apparently but you know it's a little bit awkward to lug around because it's like it's like it's kind of like a thick one because I like to put lots of water in it but then it doesn't sit in like my little car holder whatever but finding the right water bottle can be a game changer of getting your water in a lot of this just comes down to also being in tune with your body and that's what obviously downsizing is this week really practicing listening to it that that's what the tweaks are really practicing listening to be in tune with your body understanding its cues I was reading

the post in the group today. If your body could talk to you, what would it say? Well, your body is talking to you every single day. All day, every day is talking to you. It's talking through you through smell. It's talking to you through taste. It's talking to you through, you know, your hunger levels. Really, we just don't take the time to check in with it. And that's what this week is about downsizing. It's less about eating less. Yes, you do want to get in tune to your portions. That's really important. What you eat is more important than how much you eat into where you're getting those portions from. If you follow me on social media, if you follow me on social media, I reposted, there's some great videos out there.

I've re-posted a couple people who are into counting calories, but they show you the difference between how much you can eat, what you can eat and how much you can eat when you're eating good nutrient-rich foods. I mean, the volume of foods was just, it's like insane. Like, you can't even eat that much food compared to foods that are lower nutrient-dent foods who have the same amount of calories. Like, for example, for what you would get in like a breakfast sandwich, you can eat like a ginormous bowl of, you know, eggs and fruits and veggies and fats and all sorts of stuff. I'm going to put one of those together for you, just showing kind of the food plan itself.

So chances are if you were eating all this food to satisfaction, actual satisfaction, And even with downsizing, you're still eating more than enough. You're just really, the biggest focus is making sure your food choices are nutrient rich. Focus on not skipping meals and snacks so that you go for smaller portions, but you're eating more often, which keeps your blood sugars a bit more stable. So this week is eating a few bites less at every single meal. You want to bring up the feels of kind of being hungry because this is where you want to know the difference between satisfied, slightly unsatisfied, ate too much.

really hungry, right? So that this is part of trusting when to eat, what to eat, and how much to eat is really being, really being in tune with that. Sandra Lee is going to join us tomorrow. She's our food addiction counselor. We're going to talk about whatever you want to talk about. So the poster's going out for her. If you have any questions for her that you want me to chat about, make sure you add them to the poster. Like, let me see where you. Hello, good morning. Hello, all. I had foot surgery last week and I'm parked on my butt with a foot wrap to the sides of a small football, proud to say, being trapped in a chair.

I'm catching my first live. Well, hi. Hi. Oh, no. I hope the surgery is going to make things better for you. I don't know the situation there, but I hope it makes things better for you. So this is where if you were more active, right, and now you're kind of more sedentary. I used to work a lot with my clients, people who were very, because I worked in a really active gym.

And a lot of times people come to me like, I have this surgery, I'm doing this thing. I won't be able to exercise in the way that I was used to. I'm so worried about gaining weight. And then they would actually end up losing weight. So this is where you would pay attention to your changing activity level. Everyone gets a little freaked out when they start exercising and they're hungrier. And there's actually nothing wrong with that. Your energy output is more.

So you can actually eat more. And usually it's just more nutrient-rich foods your body's looking for. And so you really want to pay attention to the adjustment. If you're used to being active, you might find that you are not as hungry if you are not as active. But then you also might be hungrier because you are bored or maybe you're like feeling a bit emotional about not being able to move around or whatever that is. And this is where you want to this changes. So this is what we would call situational change. Let's talk about reasons why.

I just have it to take a sip of my coffee. Let's talk about reasons why you gain your weight back. you gain your weight back if you don't give your body enough time to adjust to your new weight and you go back into your old habits because you're old you were an this is really about changing habits because you were an invite you were a product of your environment your body learned to function in that environment and your brain learned to function in that environment and dieting on top of that but not giving your body time to adjust to your new weight which is why absolutely you want to do the maintenance program um number two is situational change and this was what this is something

like we would call it situation change. Situational change could be something traumatic like someone you love passes away. It could be, you know, you got let go from your job, you moved that type of thing, or, you know, you got first surgery and you cannot move in the way that you did before. You can't live the life that you were living before. Like socially, maybe you're finding it hard to get out of the house. You know, there could be a lot of things. So situational change is really important because it can very quickly have you go back and falling

on old habits and coping mechanisms. And so what do you need? What kind of changes do you need to help you adjust to your current situation? And also bonus, help you heal. Help you heal, right? The other reason why people gain the way back is just not being mindful, not knowing where you're at, what you need, what's going on, and being mindful about, you know, food choices, for example, in terms of like really listening to when you're actually hungry versus bored versus triggered, habit, whatever, and then at the other side. So anyway, happy healing.

Happy healing, speedy recovery. Speedy recovery. I'm glad that you're here. I'm glad you're here. Good morning from sunny Chicago. I'm sad. I'm home from Canada fishing trip, but man, it was hot up there. Good morning.

Oh, you were in Canada. So you live in Chicago and you were in Canada from a fishing trip. It was hot. Wait. And Canada was hot. We really get that. I have a feeling that temperature is going to just be crazy. It seems like super cold.

The winter, probably super cold, super hot in the summertime. It gets to a point where it's hard to drink enough water. And that's where you really want to start thinking about electrolytes or making sure you're salting your food because that helps your body retain water. Not, like people back in the day when people felt bloated, they used to take like water pills and whatnot, thinking it was because they were drinking too much water. Now we know it's because they weren't drinking enough water and that's why they were feeling bloated.

So you actually need to make sure that you're getting sodium in your diet or lactolites in your diet. That's another way. I like the trace minerals that you can get. It's on our supplement list. Trace minerals that are great to add in your water because sometimes you can drink and drink and drink and your gut just feels slushy and it feels like you just you can't drink enough water. Also what helps, and I saw some of you guys putting suggestions in that. Someone asked about how to drink more water in the summertime. Mint leaves, like kind of like herbs in your water,

frozen fruits, lemons, obviously, things like that. Cucumber slices. That can kind of help as well. Just kind of help your body kind of process that water a bit. Of course, my comments aren't working really great. I am learning that giving myself time at your new weight isn't just physical. but mental, yeah. Absolutely.

It's a whole other can of worms maintenance. This is why the way you lose weight here is so important. But in maintenance, it's like, okay, especially if you're somebody who's lost and gained and lost and gain and lost in gain, being able to trust that, really adopting your new lifestyle as who you are, learning to navigate life now at your new weight, you know, conversations that you have with other people,

your relationship with other people, you change. You go through a process of like the living method, and I don't care, you don't even have to be here to lose weight. right there's a lot of people who just want to eat healthier um you go through a process like the living method and it changes who you are you're doing the work you are meant to change the energy you put out in the world changes because you've changed and that's a lot right that's it's a lot I would say most of it is mental I'm learning that giving yourself time at your new weight isn't just physical but mental I was walking around downtown with a friend and she asked how it

felt to be a normal weighted person it felt weird I'm figuring out I'm giving it time right I mean just the fact that like that it's there is something like yes you I've talked to so many people who have lost a considerable amount of weight and there's a couple things one people do treat you different which is like really like you know frustrating and annoying and irritating and irritating and quite frankly can make you be like what the fuck because you're the same worthy person you were all along but there is that stigma out there right and the other is just more how free move. Like we've talked to people who, you know, they can open their door in a parking lot, parking spot. And this was a non-scale victory. We don't have been talking about non-scale victories

enough. Need to do a post on this. You know, they could open the, just, they don't have to worry about how close they were parked to another car. They could get out of their car, right? Go on a book an airplane seat and not have to worry about getting an extender when they're on, right? Just also like just your associations to everything changes. I think this is beyond just your weight, right, Dawn. Like, you have changed so much. you are like actively intentionally made change you're the one who's kind of like this it's like the world is the same just you are showing up in a different way like the way you move through your your your world is much different and that's something to get used to and then people have a

hard time that can feel very uncomfortable you know I got my IUD removed and I'm really struggling with the hormonal changes it took a week to be emotional it worked I took a week to be emotional and a big grump watching the struggle bus go by. Okay. Today I waited up the stop and got on. So here I am until day 91. This is important. I am here for me.

Okay. First of all I love that. We talk about the struggle bus all the time. People are inside their house. They look out the window. There's a struggle bus. Next day. Struggle bus.

Struggle bus. Meanwhile, the bus driver's like, get on the fucking bus. Bitch. Let's go. Get on the bus. So name the struggle. What is it that you're struggling with? Right. Name it to tame it, Dr. Beverly.

Struggling is such a big, like, it's a huge, massive word. So what exactly are you struggling with? The changing hormones being like, I don't know how old you are. I don't know how old you are with this. So it could be like getting older, the hormones, what the hormones mean, what getting off the IUD means. Like there's a lot, there's a lot happening there. I can be very emotional. And so this is where you wanted.

This is Grace. kindness, compassion, what do I need, right? Like lots of rest and allow yourself to be kind of like grumpy or whatever that is. Like it might not just be the physical changes of the hormones depending on IUD. It's hormonal based. Can also just be the whole reasoning behind it and what's going on in your life. Could be a big part of that too, right? And this is this is where the living method, it's really.

It's beyond a, like weight losses, people's in. Weight losses people's in. But it's really what I love is helping people make change. Like that's, you know, how do we continue to show up every day when life is hard? How do we normalize life being hard? How do we normalize not being perfect and doing all the things on our to-do list when we should just be really happy we can do a couple? How do we normalize that sometimes showing up for yourself can't be about weight

because you've got other things going on, but it's about not gaining weight or it's about just trying to help you be as healthy as possible, right? And that all of that leads into, you have to be healthy to lose weight. All that leads into you being able to not just lose weight, but maintain and sustain your weight when you can figure out how to go through hard things and not binge, eat or fall back into old habits that then have you spiraling, which caused the weight gain in the first place. And so that's where like this is all part of that. And I love the recommitment, Maryland. I love the like maybe the health issues or whatever you're dealing with that led up to this. Maybe this is like, okay, this is time for me to focus on myself. And that's that

intention. It's about being really into. I've been thinking about you guys today because of the summer, right? Is anybody here? They still motivated? How are people feeling? I think we're feeling overloaded on social media. I feel like people want to be more social, more connected. They want to spend less time online. They want to, you know, live their best lives and they want to get out. And so I've been thinking about how to help people who their everything is changing in that sense. Like, you know, we built the living method during a pandemic. It was a great place for people to come while they were at home and be social and connect. And now people are back to work and they're busy and their lives are moving again.

And yet they have these same goals. Right? You still have this goal that you want to reach and how do we continue to show up and work towards that. Right. So I love that commitment. And this reminds me that we're having our big sale today. I should have led with that. We're having our big one day sale.

One day sale, if you want to sign up for the fall program, lock it in for 75. Already the price is ridiculously insane. I mean, even if you can't watch all the things, do all the things, just like just using the app is worth it. Just having watch one guest expert video is worth it, right? The community and access to that is worth it. But our mantra has always been affordable, affordable, accessible, doable, and sustainable. That is our, that's like, that's our mission.

And so we like to do one price, every group at a lower price for those of you who want to do the single sessions. You can also tell your friends and family and anyone who's interested. So for one day today, we put our fall programs of the 91 day session on for $74, I think it is. If you were on our subscription, you're already good. You already got an amazing deal on that, so you don't have to worry about purchasing that. the month subscription, the new membership will also get you access, ongoing access for the summer and includes all of the live sessions. Do not have to worry about signing up for new ones because it's already included with that.

But the 91 days, this is exactly what it is, right? Marilyn, this is the 91 days is like, I'm taking 91 days. I'm going to commit to doing my best. I'm going to commit to doing a push towards my weight loss goals. Or I'm going to commit to being mindful every day to showing up. and doing the things that I need to do to be healthier to whatever that is. And the 91 days, it's kind of like if you, the way I would like to frame it is, say you signed up for Weight Watchers, which is counting way, measure a haphazard, kind of just trying to figure out how to lose weight, eat less exercise more or whatever.

But they also offer it. And Weight Watchers, don't steal my idea if you're listening. I don't know they always are. It's like if they took their Weight Watchers program, so you could sign up, you got their app, you went to their meetings. We don't do in-person meetings, but this is kind of like an online. This is like a meeting. And then they offer these 91 day kind of like challenges or sessions where they guided you live and you had real conversations and all of that. That's what you want to frame this like, right?

These 91 days are you committing to yourself that I'm going to challenge myself or I'm going to go on a journey or I'm going to focus on the project of me, right, in order to like help me reach my goals. That's what they are. And it is an opportunity to commit to your. to be intentional about what you're doing to be like, okay, I'm going to take this time and I'm going to focus on. It's the same as having a goal, right? A lot of people have a specific goal. Like, we're more motivated by a why. Why are you, because our why isn't, your end game is actually reaching your goal. And a why is going to help you understand why you show up every day when you don't feel like it. Also, like 91 days are like goals too, right? At the end of 91 days, my goal is

too. And there's a goal there. So your, your big. why is you're like why you're trying to reach your ultimate goal and then you can have like many goals with these 91 days. It's really about framing how to how to stay motivated and what's like what what's the commitment to right? Sometimes people are like I'm not going to drink for example until whatever or I'm going to you know whatever that might be. So I love that you're here. I love that you're here and I love that day 43 let's crush day 43 yes right. Good morning. I'm struggling this time around doing all the things and only down six pounds total. Very frustrated.

I don't know what to do. Okay. So first of all, week six of the program, six pounds down is amazing, right? I'm not trying to dismiss the fact you're frustrated. You're allowed to be frustrated. You're allowed to be frustrated. But I just want to point that out six pounds, six pounds down is great. Six weeks into a program, that's actually amazing.

What's going on? So if you sat down with me and we said, okay, let me figure this out for you. So let me, let's do this right now. Let's figure this out for you. So you've done the program before doing all the things, all the things. It's not about doing all the things, but I hear what you're saying. So you're following the food plan, you're whatever. So six pounds down.

I would start with, okay, so you, what happened last time? How was that for you? What did you find really easy to do? What was a struggle for you? Okay, great. I had just a little bit of chit chat, just to reflect on your last program. or your journey up to this point. Then I would say to you, okay, so what's going on?

Tell me what's going on in your life? Like, I would be like, how's your stress? Right? On a scale of 1 to 10, what's going on with your stress? Like, what's your environment? How's your work? What's going on work? Is it like a push time?

Are you an accountant right now? Or, you know, like you do taxes? Like, is it a busy time? Are you a teacher wrapping up school? What's going on at work? What about at home? What's going on with your family? What's, you know,

got going on. Maybe you got kids here and there. You know, and it could have been like you were doing great in the beginning of the program. And then now you got like your life's a little bit more chaotic. Whatever you have going on at home. That what's what's changed there, right? What's going on with how you're feeling? Like what's happening there? How's your sleep?

As your energy? Do you have any health issues? What's happening there? And then talk about sort of the routine and then go through your breakfast. Like are you still eating the same? Are you eating the exact same foods that you ate last time and the exact same portions last time that helped you lose weight? That's a big one. People get stuck on. Well, last time I did this and they try to replicate exactly the same thing, except the thing is that you have changed. Your body has changed physically. You have changed mentally. So rather than, and you don't have to just eat eggs for breakfast, but maybe last time you ate two eggs and now you're actually, you need three eggs because maybe you started playing pickleball. You are more active. You're going to the. the gym and you actually need more food, but you are stuck on exactly what you ate last time. So rather than really digging into those four sets of mind bleeding questions and being in tune with where you're at, you are trying to control the process, right?

And this is why I said last time and doing the exact same thing. Nighttime routines. How's your sleep? That's another thing I would say. Like what's going on with your sleep there? Is your sleep plan interrupted? Has your routine change at all? Because we do really want to adapt with the season.

right are you getting up any earlier you know are you still are you getting up earlier now which is so easy to do because it's like beautiful at like six o'clock in the morning and yet you are still going to bed at the same time so you're actually losing sleep like what's happening there um going on with that and then of course any any health issues allergies for example um because if you're looking at the whole six weeks since you started like you could have been like feeling feeling super fantastic and then you know two weeks ago you got a cold and then now you're dealing with allergies. Like it could be a combination. A lot of times people just blanket what's wrong. What am I missing and not really understanding like what is happening in their lives because

they're just focused on what to eat and when part of it. Right. Like so you have allergies, what's going on there. And then the food part, how can you maximize your food choices, right? Like there is a difference in the different types of proteins that you consume. Right. Is your, is your, you know, we're not worried so much about calories, but you do want to make sure you are mindful of, you know, eating good nutrient-rich foods and not adding more, like, you know, are you adding cheese at every single meal? Are you eating too much cheese? Right? You know, because I'll ask people that because they love adding cheese to things. Are you eating too much cheese? Because you do need out of the fats that you need, you need more omega-3s than omega-6

and then, you know, obviously your saturated fats, which is cheese is. So are you getting an overabundance of saturated fats, not enough omega-3? Have you added in supplements? And sometimes people are like, well, I lost weight fine last time, but now your body is actually functioning on your metabolism is higher, which can create more deficits if you are not matching your output, right? So are you getting enough of omega-3 in your diet? Were you taking omega-3s last time? Were you taking supplements last time that you didn't think were helping so you stopped, or you lost weight and you were good, so you thought I'm good? In reality, they were having a bigger impact. So this is sort of really where you want to go through that and figure that out.

And that's what the maximizing post isn't for you to like do more things. It's to really be like, okay, maybe Kim, I know Kim's watching or one of the team. Let's repost the segment I did where I took people. And I'll do another one. So I do these kind of troubleshooting sessions where I take people through how I sit. When I, when someone says, hey, Gina, can you help me lose weight? I literally sit with them for an hour trying to understand. who they are, how they got there, their issues with food, what's going on with them physically,

what's going on with them mentally, what's going on with them? Like, what's their work environment that they're trying to make change in? What's their home environment that they're trying to make change in? What's going on in their mind? That, you know, that what's their, what are their pain points? What are their hangups? Get a sense of their lifestyle. And sometimes we don't even recognize this about ourselves.

And that's where this brings me back to that post. What would your body say to you? If your body could talk to you, what would it say? So this is where I would say to you, if your body could talk to you and you're like, what the six fucking pounds, bitch, what's going on? Like, it'll literally be like, what is going on? What am I not giving you? What am I not?

Why are you not focusing on fat loss? That's what this is. This is creating the environment for your body to focus on fat loss. This also could be hormones, right? where you can be, you could have lost weight easily doing the program and now you're like full on perimenopause and you're not sleeping, hot flash. I mean, really menopause causes issues because you're really not the symptoms. You're not sleeping really. Not sleeping. It's affecting your stress. It's affecting your hormones. It's not like all of a sudden you just go through perimenopause and your

estrogen drops and you gain weight. It's just your estrogen is very anti-inflammatory. And so when that starts to decline, you don't have that layer of. protection. So you're more susceptible to alter pulses foods, more susceptible to drinking wine, all that just takes a little bit longer. So you could have crushed a program, then all of a sudden you're going into perimenopause and then all of a thing, you're like, talks going on. So if your body could talk to you, what do you think your body would say is the deal here? Or if your body could talk to you, what would your body say is the things that it needs you to focus on? Not doing all the things, your body's like, okay, I appreciate you doing all the things, but you're not doing the one

thing that I need, right? Like cutting out alcohol was a big one for me because I was going through perimenopause also because I had stress and then I just wasn't sleeping. And then the alcohol just made the sleep even worse. So I was like, let's go work out hard. For example, I was doing all the things to manage my peri menopause, right? Menopause, doing all the things. Except I was still drinking wine. And I was going, I was working out, but I was working out hard. So it wasn't, I was following the food planting you. I know what the fuck to do. And so cutting out wine was a game changer because it helped with sleep. The other, the biggest, the three biggest things that I did was cut out wine, even though I love wine. And now what I did was I would have an old fashion every now and then

because when I drank wine, I love wine so much, I'll drink like a whole bottle. I would drink, I would have an old fashion every now and then or like an espresso martini or something. So like I didn't, I didn't like cut out alcohol altogether. I just knew wine was my vice. It was my coping mechanism is what it was. A huge relationship to wine as a coping mechanism. Two, rather than working out really hard, I started walking. I'd walk a lot. I'd like get outside and just walk and walk and walk.

At the morning, I'd get in the evening, walking. And I wouldn't listen to a podcast. I wouldn't take my dog for a walk. I wouldn't bring my kids. I mean, at a time I will walk with my kids. It was just for me. Just to just sit in myself. That's what that was for.

So mentally it was great, physically it was great. The other one, as I said no to obligations, things that I committed to that I just, I was saying yes to because I just wanted to be the yes person. And I was so happy to be invited that I would say yes and I would, you know, take on these work things and I cut those out. So see what I'm saying? Like I was doing all of the things too, but they weren't the things that were really the things that I needed to focus on and do. And so those in combination, right? The wine, I found other

ways of coping, help better with sleep and inflammation, obviously. Going for a walk was great. Also help with sleep, inflammation, helped to process and digest my foods after my bigger meals, also just mentally a game. And then saying no to being overextended, just really gave me the time to truly rest and, you know, just focus on myself. And it took a couple of years from me to get back to my weight had gone up to almost 150 pounds, which I recognize that some of you that's a goal. For me, my weight was normally around 120. And then, you know, I would sit sort of somewhere in between like 120, 1.30. And then it just kind of went up and up and up.

So just an example of you can think you're doing all the things, but are you doing the right things that are really going to help you. The other thing I would definitely do is get your blood tested. You know, go to the doctor, get your blood tested, see what's going on there. If you feel like six pounds is still great. Six pounds is really great. But if you feel like something is off, trust your intuition on that. Trust your intuition on that. So what can you do?

Make sure you're not just drinking water. You're drinking enough water, right? Making sure you're not just moving your body, but you're moving your body enough. Like you are doing resistance training. You're getting your heart rate up. You are, you know what I mean? Making sure you're not just like trying to get to bed earlier, but really practicing sleep hygiene. Oh my gosh, y'all.

I now have a mouth guard, ear plugs, and I'm wearing this eye mask. I found this really, that sleepwear company, I'm going to do the pajama line for, has this beautiful mask. It has this like nose thing over it so it doesn't like touch your nose. I am like, I don't even know what's going on. I'm like in a whole like zone with the eye mask, the earplugs and the mouth guard. And just like, I don't even know where I am. I'm getting the deepest sleep cover.

I look fucking ridiculous when I go to bed. Oh, amazing. I just thought sleep masks were like, I don't know, airplanes and photos. But no, they actually work really, really well. So do you see what I'm saying? Like, really what can you do to really make it a big impact? And it's not about doing more. I guarantee you it's not about doing more things.

And then the other thing is, I would say, Jackie, sometimes if you lost a big chunk of weight, your body might just need time to adjust to your new weight. But, you know, we've had people not lose any weight until week seven of the program and still go on to lose 30, 40 pounds in the back end, right? So sometimes your body just needs time focused on other things that, you know, will eventually lead to you obviously reaching your goal once or four. Also, you can be frustrated, right?

I think the goal isn't to be frustrated. I think the goal is to recognize that your frustration is a message for you. And we just, we don't really, we look at it as kind of annoyance and frustrated rather than being like, okay, why? Like, let's break that down. where is that feeling coming from? What am I feeling frustrated about? Is it really what I'm doing here?

Is it frustrated that I work a job that doesn't allow me time to eat? I'm frustrated that I'm taking care of my aging parents and, you know, frustrated that I have a kid that's out of control. I'm frustrated that my friend is this. Like, is that, is this the place that you're focused on you? So that is where that is coming out? And so what other things are causing you frustration? And then what is the message there for you?

What's the message there for you? You know, so allow yourself to be frustrated. You're allowed to be frustrated. Just don't fester in your funk. That's what I say. Don't fester in your funk and don't, and honor your feels, but follow the plan. Follow this is your plan. This is to keep you on track.

This is your like just your, you know, your daily doings. But yeah, honor that frustration for you. Let me see if I got any. Hi, Suzanne. This is a conversation that I really needed this right now. I was eating my yogurt and realizing that I was satisfied. put the reminder down intentional. Mindfulness. Yes. That's it. This is practicing being mindful. This is practicing being in tune. Nobody needs math in order to lose weight, maintain weight.

We just so out of touch. Dieting has screwed us over. Eat less exercise more. That's not. And this is really just understanding what your body. This is teaching you what you need to not just lose weight, but to be able to maintain and sustain your weight. That's mindfulness is huge. I moved up North 12 years ago. And I've yet to make any. friends. So my friends are on social media. I think this is my big issue is that I have no outlet to enjoy getting out, doing something fun unless I do it alone. So I tend to sit on my phone. This is so, Trudy, this is so huge. This is like, it was different when we were all in it together and we had no choice but to be home. Right. And then I think people almost connected with their inner circles a little

bit more where everyone had their little bubbles and created that like tight-knit community with the people or their family that they could be with. I think loneliness is an epidemic. I look at people just constantly scrolling on their phones where we didn't, like I remember when I was young and moved to the city and I didn't know anybody. I would go to the movie theater by myself. I would talk to people online. I would go out for dinner by myself and I would sit there and I would bring a book or just

like sit there in silence, talk to the waiter. You know, because we're on our phones, it's so much of an excuse to not have conversations with people anymore. And I find as you get older, you have to be intentional. Oh my God, I just had that in my dream. Just in my dream last night, I said to someone who I just, I just want to be your friend. I didn't think about that. This came up to my mom. I was in my little bubble. I'm very intentional. I meet people that I like and I'm like, I want to be your friend. I want to meet friends. And you also have to, Tony said to me the other day, you have to work at having friendships. So many times my daughter went to a party and hurt.

And this is like an epidemic with young kids too. They're just not going out. And she had a party and the girl was so upset because her friend, like they didn't come. People didn't come. And I said, you know, you have to be intentional about going and committing. Like one of the things you never miss. You don't miss weddings. You don't miss.

My son went to with his friend, one of his good friends. His grandma had passed away. So my son had gone. It was up north and spent the time with him. And I said, how was it? And asked his friend how it was. He said, it was really, and it was weird because it was really nice to be around family. And I said, yeah, you have to go.

You have to be intentional. No matter how far away you live, matter what, you've got to make an effort to get to weddings. You've got to make an effort to get funerals as well. And because that's your opportunity to really connect and deep relationships and connections with your family. But the same with your friends. You have to be intentional. And I have, I feel the same. I feel the same where I've had an opportunity to.

get to know a member through Spill the Tea conversations or behind the scenes. There's so many people I feel like I'm really good friends with that I haven't actually had the opportunity to meet. I can tell you this is one of the things that we're focused on. Like we're going to be doing a workout. We're trying to get together a workout this Saturday with Sherry Perez in Oshawa at her actual like where she teaches at the YMCA. We want to, you know, put things on where people can come.

You can make the trip in and whatever. we are supporting people in you like finding other people in your community um but it's hard especially if you live in remote places you don't have access to that is that you do have to be intentional about trying to find trying friends meet up with friends and be social I think it becomes more work as you get older and we need it even more like my mom lives in a um a small village I don't know population 3,000 give her like take could be more now and you know, you know, know, her sister lives beside her. My cousin lives below her.

My other aunt lives up the street. You know, they have friends across the street, over street, down the street, and they're always getting together, you know, doing something at the Legion or going camping or going to a concert. Like, my mom is so. She's 73, 4, 3, 4. 3. And she's like more, has a better social life than me.

you probably more fit than me, like just probably healthier than me. And I think that's one of the reasons why she's created a blue zone. So I think it's really important to be intentional. But I've gotten to know some members quite closely who I never had the opportunity to meet. And a couple of them even passed away while they were doing the program. And it really hit emotionally. And that's what made me realize connections are connections. Connections are connections.

The connections that you are making with people, even in this community, are real. They are real. We're just learning to connect in a different way. It would be beautiful if we could all get together in person. And it is. It's absolutely great. In fact, this is why I'm re-energized about this program is because I had an opportunity to meet some of our members before the spring session started. And it just reminded me that real people making real change on real journeys is cliche and woohoo is that sound that's actually true. And the program works. And it's a great program. It helps you learn be more connected to yourself, which. well make stronger connections to other people. But I do find you have to be intentional. But I just say, I'm like, I feel you. I'm trying to make friends. I feel like I have so many friends. But I actually, this is my Liv Lighter book that I did.

I met my friend Lynn. So my friend Lynn, for those of you still listening, because I know I'm over time. So I, my friend Lynn, my good friend Lynn, who I'm writing the Indigo book with, she randomly, she did the program. She was a loser. and she reached out and sent Tony an email and said, hey, I lost weight during your program.

I love it. I would love to as a thank you, offer you to come spend time in my tree house. So she has this gorgeous tree house. It's like beautiful. And right away, I was like, Tony's like, hey, some lady reached out and wanted to know if you want a tree house. I'm like, yeah, let's do it. He's like, what? You, what?

And to know me, I would never go to anyone's place. Like, I don't even like sleeping over at other people's places, let alone get in a car, drive two hours. somebody I've never met and I was like, something in me was like, let's just do it. And even driving on the car, I'm like, really were doing this? I'm like, I know, it's so unlike me. And then I got there and I met Lynn and her husband, Michael,

and I absolutely just adored them. And that's how we became friends. And then, you know, kind of getting to know Lynn a little bit, she has a friend named Norma. And she's like, hey, you should meet my friend Norma. We're going to go stay at this like little kind of like, you know, like, little cottage place and just get away for the weekend you want to come. And I'm like,

I don't know. I'm not everyone's cup of tea, but I went and I love Norma. And what I love about Norma, she was like, listen, I don't like to talk to people before 10. I'm like in bed eight. I like to have my bath. Like, she's got like rules for her life. And I was just like, is this Norma. Anyway, I fucking love her. And then Lynn was like, hey, we're going to go. Norma and I like to go on a trip every now and then. We're going to go. Do you want to come? And I'm just like, really? You're going to go away to like, it's supposed to be Ireland. And then you're going to go away with these ladies?

Like I said, this is what it takes to make friends now, I guess. I got to go. And I went and we had the best time. But it's work, right? And now we're working on this Indigo book and trying to respect what they like and what they want and then finding my voice for what I want and trying to navigate an adult relationship with the boundaries that you created for yourself. Like, it's so different than our younger relationships.

And it's almost takes a little bit more. It's less work in so many ways and also takes more work in so many ways because I've changed so much as you're in. And I don't want to revert back to the me that was friends with my other friends and, you know, quite frankly led to having some pretty shitty friends. And so, yeah, it's a whole interesting process. As you are changing, the people you attract in your life are changing too. And so this is a great opportunity to that.

But I hear you. I hear you. I reached out to someone and had lunch with someone randomly about a month, month ago. And I said, you know what? Like, I like you. Let's be friends. She's like, okay. And I'm like, okay, how are we going to do this? What kind of friends are we going to be? And she's like, let's get together and have a lunch like four times a year. I'm like, okay, let's do that. Let's just start. That's our commitment to each other. So we're going to make time for each other. And we're just going to meet for lunch. And we're just going to share our lives. She doesn't know we don't text each other behind the scenes, maybe the odd DM,

but that's sort of like, let's take our time, right? So I think there's a loneliness epidemic, and that's one of the reasons why I love this community so much, and I think it's so important. This is why if you are watching, if you are watching on the phone, on your app, if you are listening and you're not part of the Facebook community, I am telling you it's a game changer to come in. Just read the comments. Read where other people are at.

Read. And thank you to those who are sharing every day, who support other people. people who ask questions like you are the you are the community when you come in and you read you feel like okay I am not alone okay do you know and this is where you might need so many of our members have have met friends you know um I saw someone I don't know if you remember Patty Thompson um one of our really vocal members I still follow her on social media and she follows me and she people were asking her she did the she's still doing the living method she's like no but I had an to like I'm still friends with the people that I met from that community. And she says,

I miss the community. He's doing her own thing, which is fine, whatever. But she's like, I really love that I've stayed connected to people that I've met there, which I thought was just really lovely. Seasons come and go with the living method, right? You'll do the living method. You'll learn what you'll learn. You'll might be like, okay, it's time for me to do the next thing on or whatever. You don't need it anymore. I love that. But the, the connections that you're making, they are real, because we are all just trying to fucking do our best. every day, right? We're all just trying to get up, live our lives and try to reach our goals, trying to feel more confident, comfortable in our bodies, trying to lose this fucking weight

already. And that, I think that bonds us and that connects us, that just life, like-minded goal. Okay. Well, thank you. I needed this today. I just feel a million times better after. I just feel like I'm more grounded in my, in my soul. Thank you for joining me. Thank you for choosing the living method as well. Thank you for sharing all of those who you are. They're sharing the ad for our big one-day sale. Sharing is caring. We used to do these big advertising blitz. We're not doing that anymore. I love when we were just growing through connection. You would share with someone and that's how we grew and I just find that's like that's that's talk about bringing in the, you know, like-minded people. So thank you for all of you who have shared the living method with your

friends, family, co-workers, whatever. The reason why we talk so much about this deal is we do it and we move on. We don't have another one. And so many times people are like, I missed it. I missed it. I missed it one day only. So make sure you head over to the website, liby method.com, get yourself signed up. Have a fantastic day. Sandra Lee is going to join me tomorrow or Wednesday, I think. I don't know.

I got to check it. Do I get that right? I'm back tonight for a Q&A if you want to join me. Of course, that's not how you have to ask your questions, ask them in the app, pop into the group, whatever. But I'll be back tonight if you want to come hanging again. Have a great day. I'll see you then.