The Livy Method Podcast - Livy Method Day 31 - Fall 2024

Episode Date: October 9, 2024

Gina Livy's Facebook Lives from The Livy Method Fall 2024 Support Group hosted on Facebook. This is a recording of the Day 31, 9 AM live. You can find the full video hosted at:https://www.facebook.com/groups/livymethodfall2024Topics covered:What does Finally and Forever weight loss mean?Seasonal tweaks - what changes are you making as the temperature drops?Getting real with how you’re showing upReasons your weight might be slower to moveNavigating Thanksgiving and other celebratory weekendsSending our prayers to those in FloridaManaging stress, change and prioritization - yesterday's conversation with Dr Deen Kara ShafferHow are you showing up? Are you ready to make changes?Are you trusting the process? Are you trusting yourself?The vicious cycles of weight loss - past diets were not designed to support sustainable weight lossChoose days vs cheat days - the importance of the words we choose and the decisions we makeYour journey is perfect - the road to DisneylandSomething sweet after dinner - is a little bit of a big deal?Managing stress, recognizing patterns and offering ourselves compassionLooking a year out - how do you want to feel? What does your life look like?You’re still here - let’s get this done! Be sure to catch the conversation on anxiety with Kyle Buchanan tomorrowTo learn more about The Livy Method, visit www.ginalivy.com. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I'm Gina Livy and welcome to the Livy Method podcast. This is where you'll have access to all of the live streams from my 91 day weight loss program. With a combination of daily lives, guest expert interviews and member stories, there is something new almost every day. Miss the morning live? Want to re-listen to one of our amazing guest experts? Well, this is the place. This podcast is hosted on Acast, but it's available on all podcast platforms, including the one you're listening to right now, Spotify, Apple,

and Amazon Music. going on. How are you feeling? Talk to me. This is a weight loss program. You signed up to lose weight. There's a lot to it, right? People will say, oh, that Libby Method program, there's a lot going on there. There's so much to do. Yeah, you're fucking right. There's a lot to do because I am absolutely serious about you losing your weight truly, finally and forever. What does that mean, finally and forever? It means in a way that you never have to diet again. Now, it does not mean that you do not have to make change. It does not mean that you don't have to continue to be mindful. If anyone gains weight back after following the program, I want them to understand why. It happens all the time. Situational change, something happens

in their lives, they revert back into old habits. That's what's going to get you. That's what's going to get you putting that weight back on is not making real change in your life. You cannot see change without making change. You can't do it the way you used to do it. And this is where portions come in because I, you know, I love food. I love eating food. I don't really love cooking food, but I love eating food. I love indulging in food. I love my chips. I love, like, I just, I love good food and there's nothing wrong with enjoying food, loving food, but you can't just overeat every time you eat, right? Although eating good nutrient rich foods doesn't cause you to gain weight,

overeating your foods is not helpful when trying to lose weight. So every little bit counts that you do. I always talk about maximizing is all the other things that you can do. And there's so many things, which is great. But we do have to put some effort into the food plan, being really consistent, being mindful of our food choices, and especially of those portions. So downsizing this week, that's the topic of conversation. Today, join Kim and I at 12 o'clock. We're going to talk about the tweak this week. So I'm going to talk more about the rhyme and the reason behind it. Well, one, to get in tune to those portions. Two, to really start to bring up the feels. It's less about eating less and more about the feels that get brought up with this process, which reminds me the conversation with Dr. Dina Kara Schaefer yesterday. Are you listening to the conversations?

Are you listening to our guest experts? I'm telling you, game-changing conversations. But we got to get into those portions. And downsizing is just one way that we address portions. I saw a comment from someone yesterday, how long is downsizing? I feel so deprived. What do you mean how long is downsizing? Read the guidelines, ask questions, know exactly what you are doing. Don't sit there and be like, I'm so deprived. Like, am I doing this forever? No, you're not doing this forever. You got to get into it. You have to know and understand what you are doing. I will talk to the ends of the earth. I will talk to the ends of the earth to make sure you are confident in what

you need to do, but you got to show up. You've got to be into this. If I say to you today, are you into this? Are you really into it? Are you really here to get this job done? Do you believe that you are going to continue to show up every single day for as long as it takes? How are you showing up? What's going on in your mind every day? Are you getting on yourself? Are you bitching? You're complaining. You're half assing. How are you showing up for yourself? Right? So midweek regroup Wednesday downsides and let's get into it. Okay. Hit 60 pounds lost today. Feel pretty incredible with myself. So happy, so impressed and so ready to keep going. That's the vibe I'm starting this day with. Let me read that again. Hit 60 pounds lost today. Feeling pretty incredible

with myself. So happy, so impressed and so ready to keep going. Fucking right you are. Fucking right you are. Because that's what it takes. That's what it takes. You have to keep showing up. You have to keep going. Now, you might have some days where you're eating chips for breakfast. That's okay. That's okay. That's okay. You might have days that make it very difficult for you. That's okay too. But man, we, have days that make it very difficult for you. That's okay too. But man, we, y'all, we got to show up. We got to just keep showing up. We got to keep working towards our goals. We cannot give up. As long as you keep showing up, you cannot mess it up. You cannot mess it up. Good morning, Pamela. How are you? Happy Humpty Dumpty hump day

this chilly fall morning. So today is the coldest day here that we've had in five months. So winter is coming. Don't forget about those seasonal tweaks, right? It's harder to get your water in, at least I find when the temperature drops. So start busting out those teas. There's all sorts of great herbal teas that you can use. Sometimes I will boil a kettle for some tea and then I'll just keep using the hot water just because cold water is just not appealing to drink. Switch over. Are you forcing yourself to eat salads, but what you really want is soup or chili, right? Add some potatoes in. Don't be afraid to add some

of those potatoes in, especially at lunchtime. If you're looking for some heavy or hearty squashes, potatoes, any kind of potatoes, sweet potatoes, regular potatoes, all potatoes are great. They actually have this resistance starch, which is really great for you. Don't be afraid of potatoes. Add them in. Make those seasonal adjustments. Hi, Rosemary. Love the live with Nazeen yesterday.

On a plateau despite downsizing and following 100%, I often cheat myself or sabotage. Okay. Let's get real. I hear this a lot. I'm following a hundred percent. I'm following to a T except when I'm doing this, except when I'm doing that, except this, except that, right? You ain't following a hundred percent and, and, and that's okay. And I'll tell you why. Because you need to recognize how you are showing up. You need to get real. Sometimes it's like, I'm doing the best I can. And maybe it's 60%, but recognizing that's the best I can do. Maybe I won't berate myself so much or get on myself when I know, hey, I'm doing the best I can. Right? On a plateau, despite downsizing,

following 100%. I often cheat myself or sabotage. Which one is it? Are you following a hundred percent or do you cheat yourself in sabotage? Right? There's a lot that we can learn in the words that we are using just to describe our journey. We'll stay on plan despite upcoming Thanksgiving. So, so I love this. I love that you said I'm on a plateau. So I think what you're trying to say is I'm doing the things, I'm on a plateau because sometimes what your body needs is time. Sometimes you literally can be doing all of the things, but your body just needs time to adjust to the weight that you've lost. That's hard, right? That's hard. That's hard to kind of reconcile that. You're working hard. You want the scale to move. This reminds me of our, um, the psychology of effort. There was a great science post called the psychology of effort. And this is quite complicated because many of us have been

trying to lose weight for so long that it's not just this journey. It's not just this program. You're bringing all of the baggage and all of your history into this journey where you feel like, okay, I've been at this long enough. I've been at this for 20 years. This scale should be moving already, right? Rather than breaking down and looking where you're at and what you're doing right now. This is where you really want to look to things like your sleep, what's going on with your sleep right now, what's going on with your stress, what's going on in your life, what's going on in your environment. This is where if you are following to a T in terms of food choices, what is happening around you, right? What is happening around you? You always want to show up like the scale is moving,

regardless if it's moving or not moving, and almost show up like you're expecting it to move, even though it's not going to move every day. Still normal at this point to not see any action on that scale. We are going to talk to Dr. Paul Herkel though next week about four reasons why your weight might be slower to move. And this sucks if it's you, but also you want to make sure you listen to that conversation because there's a lot that you can do. So inflammation is a big one. That's a big one. Food sensitivities is one, like if you're eating dairy, if you're eating gluten. I don't like to vilify foods, but some people have a real intolerance to those foods, but eat them anyway, even though they feel bloated and off and whatever. Gut issues. So if you've ever taken

antibiotics, that can really mess with your, or you've been super stressed, that can really mess with your gut microbiome. You might've heard a lot of talk recently about your microbiome. It's like you have a second brain down here that works along with here. And the two are trying to talk and communicate and tell the body what to do. And then if you have inflammation in your body, that can make that really, can really like dampen the messaging and make it really muddy and not clear. So your body, that can really dampen the messaging and make it really muddy and not clear. So your body's not getting clear messages. And of course, then there's hormones we're going to talk about.

We're going to talk about hormones, your cortisol, your insulin, your hunger hormones. We're going to talk about hormones and how they factor in. There's a whole separate conversation on menopause, perimenopause, menopause, postmenopause that we are going to talk about and address as well. But that's the conversation there. But the reason why we haven't had it earlier is because this is the foundation. The things that you are doing are the foundation of change. And so one of the things you'll hear from our guest experts is that they love working with our members because you're already doing, you're already eating better, exercising better, making an effort to, you know, get better quality sleep, address your stress, all those things. So

then they can really get into what is going on with you. Great idea. Just a reminder, check in with your doctors, get your blood work done. You know, there's a lot there you can do to be proactive, but I love this. So let's talk about third. Let's talk about Thanksgiving, Rosemary. Thank you for bringing that up. So Thanksgiving is talk about Thanksgiving, Rosemary. I thank you for bringing that up. So Thanksgiving is coming up. It is not the pie on Thanksgiving. It is not anything you are going to do on Thanksgiving that is going to stop you from reaching your goals. It is starving yourself leading up to Thanksgiving dinner, starving yourself the day after eating Thanksgiving dinner. That is going to be more detrimental to you

than if you just ate all the things and then just got right back at it. So it is not the Halloween candy on Halloween, the chocolate on Valentine's day. It's not any of that that is causing you to gain weight. And it's not any of that that's going to stop you from losing weight. Now, if you have Thanksgiving, just make an effort to like keep your shit together leading up to and after, right? So have a normal day, eat your protein focused breakfast, get your snacks in, get your lunch in, you know, whatever you end up, maybe you have like you're bringing out some hors d'oeuvres stuff or some, you know, bites of bits around three o'clock or whatever. You're having an early dinner. It might throw the timing off. That's okay. That's okay. Enjoy it. And also like enjoy it. Don't choose, don't go through Thanksgiving like, oh my God, I shouldn't

be eating this, but I'm going to eat it anyway. Why did I eat that? Oh my God. Like, don't stress yourself out. Just really enjoy it. Maybe this is an opportunity this Thanksgiving to really taste the food, to find joy in the food, to think about when you're sitting around with your family and you are lucky enough to have food on your table, how fucking awesome that is, right? And really indulge in that and be like, what is it about the food? Is it the food tastes really good? Or is that I really love being around my friends and my family and all, you know, the conversation that happens over food. They call it comfort food for a reason. We associate overeating with happy feels because normally when we overeat, we are surrounded by friends and

family or loved ones and we are eating and we are laughing and we are joyful and we are all those things. And then we also associate that feeling, those jacked up insulin levels, right? That kind of, you get that euphoric kind of, ah, and then you feel really full. And like a lot of people associate full with satisfied. They feel satisfied, right? And so there's nothing wrong with enjoying food in that way, as long as you don't start getting on yourself. Why did I eat that? Why did I eat this? So this is an opportunity if you want to indulge, indulge in a very mindful way. Indulge in a way that if you do find yourself getting on yourself afterwards, just be like, that was so worth it. That was amazing. Oh my God, that pie tasted awesome. That turkey was so moist. Whatever it is, right? Really have an opportunity. Rather than, to me,

that is so much more beneficial, rather than be like, come hell or high water, I'm not eating anything off plan. I'm just going to stick to the plan and do that and just kind of miserably trudge your way through Thanksgiving or whatever celebratory meal it is, kind of just kind of willpower your way through and be like, no, I'm not having that or whatever, right? To me, there's so much to be learned by having it. The living method, yes, about losing weight and making the change off the top that I said you need to change, but also it's about learning. So it's about learning to reconnect with food

in other ways. And so to me, there's a lot to learn in having the things, in celebrating the food. We want to reconnect with food in a way where we can still use it to celebrate, where we can still use it to show love, where we can still enjoy. There's a lot of foodies, for example, doing the program where you might feel like you're missing that indulgenceness of the foods. You're going to get to a place where you're going to love it just as much, if not more, because your taste buds are going to be all enhanced. You're going to notice your food tastes more flavorful. You're going to notice you're not berating yourself before and during or after you eat. You're able to enjoy it fully, right? Taste it, smell it, take time to like eat it, chew it, all of it, right? So you're going to reconnect with food in a whole other ways. And Thanksgiving is a great opportunity to do that.

Thinking about everyone in Florida. Oh my gosh. I was actually just watching the news on the hurricane. My uncle is down in North Carolina, at least he was. He works in hydro and he was down there trying to just give people power after that last hurricane. And man, there's just another one. It's just craziness. And to see how emotional all the forecasters are about it. I was just watching this woman who's deciding to stay there. And I'm just like, wow, that's so crazy. But then I also really thought it's probably a lot of people don't have the resources or maybe the family support to go anywhere else. It's a scary situation. So we have people from all over the world doing the program. There's, man, there's always something going on, which is so crazy. But if you are in

that area, we're sending you lots of, I mean, just, I don't know what prayers, lots of prayers. Yeah. Horrendous after Helene. It is. It's crazy. And then that's that stress. So we had a great conversation. Talk about that. You know, it's been a bit of a stressful week for a variety of reasons. Like I said, there's always something going on. We talked to Dr. Dina Cara. Because listen, it's all relative, right? You may think that you have it easy compared to someone else, but your stress is just impactful on you than someone else that is dealing with something that you may perceive as much bigger, right? It's all how we individually process our stress. And Dr. Dina Cara joined us yesterday, great conversation with her about how to, that

you can do hard things. One, how making change. So this was a great conversation about, the reason why we had her yesterday specifically at this time is that it's hard to move on from following the food plan, eating dissatisfaction to stepping out of our comfort zone and all of a sudden bringing up those fields with downsizing. And we're going to continue to make changes to the food plan that are going to be equally unnerving every time we make a change. The changes, the tweaks that we do each week are designed to kind of bring up new fields. We approach weight loss in a variety of different

angles. Like our way in is different, which is interesting because you'll notice how differently you react to the same but different. And it really, those tweaks help things progress. But change is difficult, even the smallest amount. And it's hard to, we talked about prioritization. How do you prioritize yourself when other things just seem so much more important than trying to lose weight? There's so many moments in life where like, really, I'm trying to lose weight. There's so many moments in life when there's things going on in the world. And I'm like, really, I'm talking about weight loss right now. But for the most part, we all want to truly live our best lives. We want to live as long as possible. And we want to feel as good as possible. And we want to be as our best lives. We want to live as long as possible and we want to feel as good as possible and we want to be as strong as possible. We had a great conversation with her

yesterday. If you missed it, I highly suggest you check that out. I sure am showing up. Just signed up yesterday for round five. The scale has been dropping little by little this week and I'm feeling pretty good. I can love that. So off the top, I asked, or how's it going? Is your weight dropping? Is your body changing? Are you showing up? What kind of energy are you showing up with? This is where we don't mess around moving forward. I assume moving forward that you're here.

And although you may be expressing feels of frustration, you may be expressing feels of whatever, you're in it. I saw a comment yesterday. Someone's like, you know, I'm about to give up. I'm at a point now where I'm like, maybe you should, maybe you should just give up because if it's going to take convincing to keep you around, like if you can't see at this point, how different the Libby method is, there's no shortage of inspiration, right? Our social media, our website, you know, we've, we've had hundreds of thousands of people successfully run

through the program. We are approaching this in a whole different way. If you've done the same old shitty fucking crappy diets for 20 years, starve yourself, deprive yourself, starve yourself, deprive yourself and think that's your ticket. I am not your girl. I am not your girl. This is not your program. You are not ready for this. You're just not ready for it. And that might be the case. We've had a lot of people, a lot of members that we've spoken to talk about Nazeem yesterday in our Real People, Real Journey conversation. So I've been having that conversation for years. I've talked to people who actually quit. Kim, who is the manager of the weight loss program, quit her first program. I think she made it like three weeks. She lost like nine pounds in three weeks. She was doing well. She got in her head

and she quit. But sometimes you have to do that. Sometimes you have to take a step back to see the forest from the trees. Sometimes you have to quit to realize, oh shit. Okay. Maybe that was working for me. Oh shit. Okay, now what am I going to do? Right? I mean, if that's what it takes, you need to quit to then be like, oh fuck, okay, now what I'm going to do? Oh, maybe I'm going to go take one of the weight loss drugs. Okay, but guess what? You still have to work through your issues, your associations. You still have to change your habits. You still have to work through your beliefs. You probably will still have to work through some past traumas. You still have to learn how to eat and be in tune to your body's needs.

You have to make change in order to lose that weight in a way that's going to be sustainable. That's one of the things you'll start seeing that the Libby Method is being promoted alongside weight loss medications. This is exactly the program that you should be doing when you're taking medications like that. You can't just take a pill for the rest of your life. I love that it's so effective for so many people. It's also not effective for a lot of people as well, but why not? If you need that kind of medical intervention, I'm all about it, but that doesn't mean you're off the hook and doing the kind of work. So I'm like, if you're not ready to be here, maybe you aren't meant to be here. Maybe this isn't your time. Maybe you need

to step back and be like, okay, experience what you were doing before a little bit longer. I do not want to talk anyone into doing the program. I'm not interested. I used to help people on a personal level. And I would have people who think just by paying me, they will lose weight. Let me tell you, that shit does not feel good. I end up stressing about the fact that they've paid me to help them lose weight, but they're not doing the things that they need to do because they just think paying me is their ticket. And it's not, it's not, you would think I've had people throw money at me, but I will sit down and I will say to them, okay, so why do you want to do this? I want to work with you so that you hold me accountable and you make me do the

things I need to do. I'm like, nah, I'm out. I'm like, no, I'm like, I'm sorry. I don't, I'm just, I don't think I'm the right person for you because I'm a real fucking bitch. I will tell it to you straight. I don't sugarcoat things. I'm not wishy-washy. When it, if there's one thing I'm really good at it in life, it's knowing what people need to do. It's my superpower. It's my gift that I'm out to share. But I'm not spending my time on someone who is not ready. I'm not saying that you're not worth it. I'm not saying I won't, you know, wrap you in a giant welcoming hug when you really are ready. But sometimes you're just not ready. You're not ready. And that's the question I'm posing you today. Are you ready? Are you here? Are you all in? Or you got one foot out the door? Are you

four weeks in and still not sure? Right? Four weeks in. Why aren't you sure? What more do you need? So each week, we're going to highlight our members like Ashley yesterday, if you haven't seen it. We highlighted Ashley. They're sharing their real journeys. Yesterday, my conversation with Real People, Real Journey, talking to real people about their journeys. Like, I'm going to do everything I can to show you that the living method works. But at the end of the day, if you're not all in, you're going to get out of the program, what you put into it. So it's a good idea to constantly ask yourself, where am I at? What is going on? Scale move for the first time, but even more importantly,

I'm feeling calm in trusting Gina and the team, feeling encouraged today to trust the process. This, yes, this, I, there is no downside to following the Libby method. There's no detrimental effect to following the Libby method. We know this because Professor Ruth Kane and her team at the University of Ottawa have been studying. So separately from us, we don't pay them. They received government funding in order to study the Libby method. The first thing they started was the online learning process. How are people actually learning and making change online? Then they got into how effective the Libby Method was. And they were able to prove that people were losing a clinical amount of weight in three

months. The standard of the weight loss industry is 5% in six months. People were losing that in three months. So we know the Libby Method works. Now Ruth and her team are studying the sustainability factor. So if you've been maintaining, sustaining your weight for over a year, we want to hear from you, right? She's studying like, okay, people are able to lose their weight. Great. Are they actually be able to sustain and maintain their weight? And of course we're out to show the world that that's what we're all about. Because I think really, that's the one thing that sets us apart from other diets. But I got to sleep at night,

I want you to lose weight. If there was a faster, quicker, better way, I would let you know. And I want you to be successful. I think sometimes people come in and they think that I don't want them to be successful. I want it for you so badly. My team wants it for you so badly. And also, I don't know everything. I'm continuing to learn, right? What I'm doing with you is sharing everything that I've learned, spending 30 years. My job for 30 years has been weight loss, has been helping people lose weight.

I've learned a lot. I guess, okay, I've learned a lot. I guess, okay, I also worked in television, but when I worked in television, I was talking about health and wellness. So I do have that side of me that worked in television as well and hosted shows and whatnot. But for the most part, even when I worked in television, I was helping people lose weight on the side. So that's what I've done. That's what I'm really good at. That's been my career my entire life. You may have been a teacher, you may have been an accountant, you may have worked at a bank, you may have been whatever you are, right? I have done weight loss. And so what

I'm doing is sharing everything that I've learned with you. It's just a matter of are you picking up what I'm putting down? And I think having that, this is why I think the best experts and the science posts and being engaged in the community, you have to make it real for yourself. You have to find that trust in you. Sometimes it's you who you don't trust. You don't trust yourself to make the changes that you need to make. You don't trust yourself to follow through. You don't trust yourself to not sabotage yourself. You don't trust that when you lose your weight, even though you're doing it in a different way, you're going to be able to maintain and sustain it. That's a whole conversation we have in maintenance, by the way. So we have this maintenance program and support group. It's really incredible, the conversations that we're having over there. I mean, that's why we have it because we want you to lose

your weight. I want you to lose your weight using the living method. Then I want you to go into the maintenance program, be super confident about maintenance, which 98% of people who run through our maintenance program feel confident about their ability to sustain and maintain their weight. The job's not done. Once you've lost your weight, there is more work to do. I hate to tell you, but the conversations we are having over there are really fascinating. And I wish there was a way to show you that everything that you are doing while you are following through on the process to lose weight is factoring in to your ability to sustain it and maintain it in the end. I'm working on breaking the vicious cycles of years of losing and gaining and not paying attention, really concentrating on

being mindful and connecting with my body needs. I have so much respect for this. We were taught not to pay attention, right? Like I just want to be mindful of how you're framing this, that you just did something wrong or that you just weren't paying attention. Every diet that you've done where you've lost the weight, you've probably praised the diet. And then when you gained it back, you probably, it was your fault. And I find that happens a lot, right? Oh, this diet worked really well for me. I gained the weight back. You're the one at fault. You're the one who couldn't this, couldn't that. That was a great conversation we had with Nazneen last night. And this feeling of her, she felt like I'm a successful person, but I have all this shame because I was unable to be able to lose weight and keep it off.

And when those diets really were just never designed for sustainable weight loss, just like the forcing of your body to burn your fat, sure, you'll lose it. Your body will use that. And then we'll simultaneously store it all back because now it thinks it needs it, right? So we're teaching our bodies to store fat back and more plus more plus more plus more. I love the mindful part. It's the vicious cycle of years, the vicious cycle, right? And that vicious cycle, a lot of that is what's happening in our brain, our thoughts, and

how your brain becomes wired in a certain way. And we're trying to rewire how the body has come to function and like address why it's feeling a need to store fat. Like we've taught it that every now and then you, you go through a period of starvation, you have to use the fat and then the body's like, oh shit. Now let's like take everything we get, store it all back, save a little extra because the body's super smart for next time that happens thinking it's doing you a favor. So we're actually teaching it to gain, that it needs that fat. And that gets to a certain set point. Your set point is the way that your body feels comfortable functioning. Not that it feels happy, but it's like, okay, this feels safe. And so this is why the first

few weeks of the program, it's not about moving the dial on the scale. It's really about giving the body what it needs. So it no longer feels the need to store fat. So it feels like it can break that pattern and release fat that it doesn't need because it's consistently getting the nutrients it needs to function, right? So that's why that routine is very important. What you're trying to do is convince the body, you don't need that fat because we're just going to keep giving you all this food. And remember, every extra pound of fat is hard on the body. So your body will be looking, I don't need this fat. Let me release the fat. Now that may be oversimplifying, but the diet industry doesn't understand how to do that because everyone's trying to do that with a quick fix. And yes,

people can lose a lot of weight quite quickly on the Libby Method. That's because it's designed to get in there and get you to do the fucking work. That's because it's hard work. You're making changes, you're showing up, you're being consistent. You're not just counting, weighing, measuring. You're really putting real work, which is why it can feel like people can lose such a large amount of weight so quickly on the program, right? So I love this breaking the years of cycle, being aware of that. That's your ticket. That's your ticket to sustainable weight loss. You're going to lose your weight. Everybody here is going to lose your weight. As long as you keep showing up, you're going to lose it. Eventually you're going to lose it. Even people who are having a hard time

because they do have hormonal issues or inflammation or whatever they're doing. We're going to, we're going to tell you what you need to do to address that. Even you, you'll get there. You'll get there. Almost down 13 pounds. I was WW for years, but so grateful for this method. I'm excited to keep going. I know I have some cheats, but that works for me. So Darlene, if I can just change the verbiage there. So we don't call them cheat days. We call them choose days. You are not cheating on yourself. You are not cheating on your diet. You are just every now and then choosing to eat something for whatever reason, because it's the only thing you have, because you really enjoy that, because you want to indulge. I want you to make it a conscious choice. Oh, this is so

delicious. I'm going to eat more of it, even though I know I'm going to be full. And when I walk away feeling full, I'm not going to berate myself. It's not stopping me from reaching my goals. So when you get up the next day and you get on that scale and you've chosen to eat something the day before that maybe wasn't quote unquote on plan. I hate on plan, off plan. I hate good foods, bad foods. I hate all of that. This is why you just chose. I just, every now and then I, you know, I, I'm excited to keep going. I know I will have some, I will choose to have some things every now and then, but that works for me. I am all about it. So I learned this from my clients. I'm a little intense. I'm a little intense. You might notice like I'm like a get the shit done.

I'm like a go hard, go home, get the shit done. My dad once told me when I came second that I didn't win. I was like, Oh my God, I won second place. My dad, you didn't, my dad was the kind of guy who was like, you didn't win anything. You didn't win. Winning is first place. You didn't win. So second wasn't good enough to my dad. You had to win. You know what I mean? That's how I was raised. So that's not necessarily a good thing, but it's who I am. So I'm like a balls to the wall, get the shit done, go hard, go home. And at the detriment of my health and wellness. So I'm no martyr over here saying this. I'm working on, that's something that I am definitely working on. But I would have some clients say to me, Gina, lay off. I'd be like, what? They're like, yeah, I'm good.

Like, I'm really happy with my results. I'm really happy with how I'm showing up. I'm really just happy that I am here. I don't need to run a marathon. I'm happy that I went for a walk today. Right? Like I get the more I do, maybe the quicker I'm going to get there. I don't care. I am just so happy. I'm feeling better, sleeping better, pooping better. I'm making change. Like I'm really happy. I still want to have pizza night with my family on Friday nights. I still want to go to nice restaurants and I want to indulge in delicious food. Like I am good. And so I came to really realize that people function in different ways and hence all the resources, right? Like some people are super hardcore, some people not so much. That's okay, right? That's okay

because of the living method, everything that you're doing is just bettering your health and wellness in general. It's getting you there. It's like, so this is the difference. We're all on the road. Okay. So when we started the program, we all got on the road and we're driving to Disneyland, right? That's where our destination is, Disneyland. And some people are like, okay, I'm going to drive straight there, right? Maybe I'm just going to drive straight there. I'm just going to keep on going. I'm going to drive all day, all night, whatever. I'm just going to keep going. And other people are like, oh, Aunt Sally lives around here. Let's go visit Aunt Sally. And we go show up at Aunt Sally's house and she got a beautiful dinner. We're like, oh, we have great times. And we get back in our car. We're like, oh, it's so great to see her. And they're back on the road, right? And then we keep

driving. We're headed to Disneyland. And then we're like, oh, this is that tourist site. Let's stop here. And we have fun. We were like, oh, that was so fun. I'm so glad we stopped along the way. They get back in their car and then they keep driving. So there are some people who are going to choose to sight see along the way and make pit stops along the way, but everyone's headed in the same direction. There are some people, yes, who decide to drive right there. And there are some people that even though their intention maybe is to drive straight there, they will hit roadblocks and detours, and maybe they'll get a flat tire, right? That will get in their way, obstacles that will get in their way and will slow them down. Even though they wanted to drive all night, all day, every day, things will happen and get in their way. But what we don't do,

and I know this is so cliche, what we don't do is we get back in our cars and drive back home and start again. We just keep moving forward. So no matter how you want to navigate the program, it's perfect. It's perfect. It's perfect. It's perfect. It's perfect. You are showing up. Everything you are doing is perfect. Good morning. Still wanting a few candies after dinner. Major problem. Yeah. Stop doing that. That's not helpful. Why? Why, why, why, why, why is that happening? Are you used to having a dessert after dinner? Right? So you are, that's a habit. You have a habit of wanting something sweet after dinner. So your whole routine of having dinner is your body's expecting something sweet. And so that's probably what's happening. So until you break that, it could

also be that your water with the temperature dropping, I don't know where you live, but it could be that you are craving carbs and sugar because you're not getting enough water. So by the end of the day, you're starting to feel that. That could be what's going on. Is a little sugar hit okay? I mean, you, you, water ain't cutting it post dinner. What do you want me to tell you that you can have your jube jubes and lose weight too? Because if I say to you, yeah, sure. Some jube jubes, you know, that's not a big deal. Then you keep having jube jubes. You're spiking your insulin, your sugar at the end of your meal, which is why we were trying to, we're trying to minimize your carbohydrate intake, your heavier carbs at dinner for that

exact reason. So you might as well just eat potatoes and rice and whatever it is, right? Like we're trying to add those heavier carbs earlier. I love this question, by the way, I love that you asked this. So you were trying to move those carbohydrate, heavier carbohydrates earlier in your day when you can use them. And we're trying to minimize your heavier carbs in the evening to prevent the amount of insulin that your body uses when breaking down your foods. And now you're just jacking that back up. So you're kind of working against yourself. So you might as well just have some potatoes or rice or whatever with your dinner in lieu of jubes, because if you're actually hungry, so cravings, your body never wants sugar. So this is a you want sugar, your body doesn't need sugar. And so I can say to

you, yeah, it's no big deal. But then what you can't do, you can't come to me bitching about how you're doing all the things. And Gina said, I can have jube jubes and I'm not losing weight right now. If you are losing weight at a weight, at a rate that you are happy with, and you're still having jube jubes after dinner, I'm totally okay with that. I'm okay with that. But what you can't do is come to me and say, I'm doing all the things. And I'm having jube jubes, and then be like, well, Gina said I could have them, right? Like, I would never advise my clients to have jube jubes. I'm like that you're what? No, that's totally counter opposite. So the question is, because you have to understand a little hit of sugar is a little hit of sugar, right? Like, it's not a big deal. But it kind of is at the end of the day, that little hit of sugar, you guys, a little hit of sugar, right? Like it's not a big deal, but it kind of is at the end of the day.

That little hit of sugar, you're going to start implementing in your life elsewhere. There's a lot of talk about the detrimental sugar. Again, I am not like a vilifying food person. I want you to lose your weight in a way where you don't have to have sugar after dinner because you need that little hit. You are choosing to have, you know, whatever it is that you, a dessert after. Many of our parents had dessert after dinner. My parents had a cookie after dinner every night. Then either one of them had issues with their weight, except for really

my mom at a time I remember, but she was also super stressed at work. And I remember when she quit her job, she lost like 30 pounds just like that. She had a cookie every night. I used to make them their tea and get a cookie with them every night. So this is sort of like, I want to get you to a place where you don't need that hit of sugar. And so you're like, once you've lost your weight, if you decide to have a cookie or a couple of jujubes after dinner, like you don't feel controlled by that. You don't feel like you have controlled by that. You don't feel

like you have to have it. You don't need that hit of sugar. You're just like, I like to have something sweet after dinner. Right? So that's where I want to get you to. It's kind of similar to the chocolate. Like you could have a dark chocolate, nothing wrong with it. Good chocolate's high in magnesium, like it's not high in sugar. But if we keep adding it in because we need it, then we are still using food for something other than nutritional requirement. And it's not high in sugar, but if we keep adding it in because we need it, then we are still using food for something other than nutritional requirement. And it's hard to break the vicious cycles. What we're trying to do is break the cycles. We're breaking the addiction. We're breaking the habit, right? So we keep feeding into your wants over your body's needs. Make no

mistake, that happens across the board. So then you're just going to continue to feed into your wants everywhere, not just with the little sweet treat after dinner. Feeding into your wants is feeding into your wants. So that's going to just be something that's going to like, you're just going to carry that forward. And so this is something that you really truly want to, this is like you want to break, right? And then you want to get to a place where if you want to have that, you're just making a choice to have it. You don't need that hint. Having a hard time this round, lots of stress. So taking one day at a time, each step will add up in the end. Need to give myself some grace, grace, kindness, patience, all of that. Like the fact that you're showing up is still huge, right? Kara, like that's amazing. The fact that we're all here today listening means that we're

being proactive about our, not just our weight loss, but our health and wellness. It means that we want to be here. It means that we're trying. And some days it may feel like hopeless. I, you know, what I want to do is I want to sell hope to people. I want people to actually believe that it is possible to lose your weight and live a life where you are not consumed with trying to lose weight for the rest of your life. I want you to know that you can make change.

I loved again, and not to, not to go on and on and on about my guest yesterday, Nazneen. She talked about this. She's 28.5 pounds down the program. She's on her third program. She talks about losing. She's losing it slow, but that's good for her because there's a lot for her to unpack. There's a lot for her to work through. There's a lot to do to get to that place. I know you want your weight loss yesterday. There's a lot to do to get to that place. I know you want your weight loss yesterday. There's a lot to do to get to that place. If you are in your head about this process, because I get A-type people who are like, oh, I did it.

It was so easy. I just did what you said. I lost weight. It was so easy. The majority of people at the end of our program say, that was easy. That went by so fast. That was easy. Thank you very much. But there's so many of

us though, who are really dealing with a lot of fields because we chances are have a history with dieting or we use food to cope or our habits that we've created for ourselves aren't so conducive to, you know, the lifestyle we want to live and how we want to look and how we want to feel. Right? So there's a lot that goes into that you're going to have some some, some programs where you did amazing, I did both followed 100% then sabotaged myself, I am over that particular behavior program pattern, right? This, this is where you want to get to, where you recognize, okay, I have a pattern of sabotaging myself, work through that I have a pattern of sabotaging myself. Work through that. I have a pattern of wanting get like sweet treats. I don't need those anymore. I love having them. I don't need them anymore.

Right? So whatever that is, your habits, your patterns, your triggers, all of that, it's about, it's about visualize a year from now. So visualize a year from now, or let's maybe, maybe that's too far. Visualize rolling into summer next year. How do you want to feel? How do you want to look? How do you want to feel? How do you, what's the kind of energy you want to show? But what does your day look like? Like, are you just schlepping out of bed every day? Like barely getting out of bed and be like, Oh my God, I'm so tired. Or like, do you want to be that person that easily gets up in the morning, maybe goes for a walk, maybe makes their morning coffee and reads a book, exercises, meditate, you know, nothing phases you,

you're able to handle what's coming at you. Maybe you're doing this, maybe you're doing that, you go to your closet, and you're not stressed because everything fits, you feel good in your clothes. Maybe you're not at your goal. That's okay. If you had a lot of weight to lose, but you feel really fantastic. That energy of, I am really excited about what I've done. I feel amazing. Like, how do you, like how, what is this life that you're trying to create? And then what are the things you need to change that are going to support that lifestyle? Right? It really is like the living method is not a lifestyle because it's a means to an end, right? Like this is not how you're not going to be eating like this for the rest of your life, but we'll cover that in the end. Eventually you're going to eating into, into your body's needs,

but it is about making the changes that are going to support the changes that you've made along the way, right? You can't live the life you lived before. You can't do the things you did before and be able to sustain this new life that you want. And chances are you're here because that life wasn't serving you. That life wasn't doing anything for you. You weren't happy in that life. Physically, mentally, the way that you were living your life was not serving you. And so going back to that, it's not, that's not what you want. So then you have to think, okay, what do I want? What kind of life do I want? I, I want to, I used to be like an early morning gym person. I want to get back. I want to like, I want to get back to being an early morning gym person, getting up early, five, five 30, getting a workout in. I feel fantastic on days I get my workout or movement in,

right? I want to feel strong again, physically, mentally. I want to get back. I used to meditate every day. I want to get back to feeling grounded. I want to get back to that like calm mind. I know some of that is menopause, my hormones. I know that. I know that, right? But there's a lot that I can still do to show up for myself and to feel stronger, even though I'm dealing with some hormone issues or whatever. I want to be calm around my kids, not stress and feel like I'm ragging on them all the time. But I also want to be strong and be able to say the things that I need to say to them without feeling guilt. I feel a lot of guilt with my kids, but it's not helping them be resilient, right? I want to save them. I'm one of those parents that, I just want you to be

happy in life. And now that's not the way to go. I want to be that kind of parent that's resilient, right? I want to save them. I'm one of those parents that, I just want you to be happy in life. And now that's not the way to go. I want to be that kind of parent that's resilient, that knows I'm making the best decision for them as a parent without feeling guilt. You know, like there's a certain thing that I want to feel confident in my body. It's not about the size of pants I'm wearing. It's that I feel strong. I want to not feel concerned about myself and think, oh my God, I'm going to have a heart attack because I'm stressing through the roof. I want to be able to go out socially and not stress because I've got a lot of social anxiety that I got going on these days over the last couple of years. I used to think it was the pandemic, but now I'm thinking it's probably

some hormones and menopause kind of combined with that. So I want to live my life, live my life. I, I, you know, I, I, I look at my mom and her family and they're always out doing something fun. Like she's got more of a social life than I got. I don't like, I mean, and, and not because she's retired or has time, but because she, she, she, she, she recognizes the importance of community and being with people. And, you know, I want that. I want to spend more time with my friends and my family. And so anyway, I have a certain vision of what I want my life to look like. Am I doing the things that I need to do to support that? Some of the time.

So I know the reason why I don't have that yet is because I haven't really, really made the changes that I need to make to support that. I'm on my way. I'm on my way, but is there more that I could do? Yes. And so losing weight is no different, right? Losing weight is no different. It's about making it really understanding where you're going, where you're going, really understanding what you're trying to accomplish, really holding that vision, which is obviously your why, right? This is what I'm working towards. This is why I'm showing up every day. This is what I want my life to look like. This is what I want to feel like. It's not even about your weight at the end of the day. It's all the rest of it. Um, so I, I, uh, mad respect for the fact that let's just take a minute, mad respect for the fact that you are

still here, still here, right? Let's get this fucking done already. Let's get her done. Let's show up. Let's be into it. And showing up doesn't mean on just good days where you're excited, showing up on the days that are hard. Ask for help. Ask for help. We're here for you. Let's talk about it. Let's talk about it. Let's talk about it. I only planned on going for a half hour today, but here I am. Um, thanks for sticking around. If you're still here, remember that you can download and listen to all of these conversations over on our Libby method podcast, which is really cool. Um, if you're not into podcasts, like I was really resistant to podcasts, but you can easily download them on your phone and you can go for a walk and listen. Um, we also have our way in

with Gina podcast where we're eventually going to be putting all of our guest segments. So there's also some cool topics over there you might want to listen to. So we actually do have two podcasts. If I didn't get to your question today, pop it on the question of the day page. The team will answer it there. We have a treat for you tomorrow. Kyle Buchanan is joining me. He's super cool. He's going to talk about anxiety, how to calm your anxious brain, right? Because where does anxiety fit into your weight loss journey? So we're going to talk to him about that and no doubt a bunch of other amazing things. Thanks for joining me today.

Thanks for being here. Thanks for putting your faith in the Livi Method. Hi, Penny. Don't worry about Thanksgiving. Try your best. That's it. You can eat your face off this Thanksgiving and you are still going to reach your goal. You can eat your face off this Thanksgiving and you are still going to reach your goal. You can eat your face off this Thanksgiving.

It's not going to stop you from reaching your goal. So please do not stress. Please do not stress. Please do not stress. We're going to get into that more in a couple of days. It's only Wednesday. We're not there yet. Have an amazing rest of your day, everyone.

I'll see you later. Bye.