The Livy Method Podcast - Livy Method Day 31 - Spring 2025

Episode Date: May 21, 2025

Gina Livy's Facebook Lives from The Livy Method Spring 2025 Support Group hosted on Facebook. This is a recording of the Day 31, 9 AM live. You can find the full video hosted at: www.facebook.com/groups/livymethodspring2025In this episode, Gina teases the return of the Big Huge Ginormous Sale—the biggest deal of the year, where members can lock in the Fall Program for under $75! She also offers real talk on perfectionism, reminding listeners that showing up, even when life feels full, is what truly moves the needle. Gina breaks down the importance of naming your struggle so you can actually do something about it and reminds the community that maintenance isn’t an afterthought—it’s the real work. She clears the air on the scale (your body isn’t broken!) and reinforces that downsizing is not starving, it’s mindset. Hunger at night? That might actually be your body getting ready to drop. From resetting your relationships to redefining obsession as intention, this one’s packed with perspective shifts and encouragement to keep showing up for yourself, even if it’s messy.To learn more about The Livy Method, visit livymethod.com. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I'm Gina Livi and welcome to the Livi Method Podcast. This is where you'll have access to all of the live streams from my 91 Day Weight Loss program. With a combination of daily lives, guest expert interviews, and member stories, there is something new almost every day. Miss the Morning Live? Want to relisten to one of our amazing guest experts? Well, this is the place.

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people that we are having our big huge ginormous sale on Monday this is where you can sign up for our fall programs to cure your spot you can tell your friends and your family and save money so you can pick up the cost of the program for under $75 this is our biggest sale of the year. So if you wait, you're not going to get a better deal. I know that's how other companies do it. That's not how we do it. We have our big, huge, ginormous sale always a few weeks into our current program

for our next program. Now, all you have to do is go to our website on Monday and get signed up. We don't we're not giving any codes, anything like that, so you can tell everyone you know at any time on Monday. So we run that sale for 24 hours if you're interested. Now sometimes people are like, well I don't know if I'm gonna need it, I don't know if I'm you know sure about this program. That's okay. Even at its regular price of $99, that's still a ridiculous value that you're getting.

It's really just for people who know they're gonna keep coming back. And more importantly, it's for all the people who are on our wait list, who didn't get in to our last program, who are constantly messaging us about our next program. So the time has come to sign up for our follow program if you're interested.

You can save what else, what else, what else, what else? We are having our menopause add-on starting up again June 2nd. So in the next couple weeks for anyone who is interested in that, we are going to have Dr. Jennifer Zelevitsky come and join us next Wednesday

and talk specifically about menopause. She'll also talk a bit about andropause as well. Otherwise, we like to take that conversation out of the group. Obviously, it's not relevant to everyone and there is quite a bit to talk about. Well, it used to be called the menopause add-on. Now we call it the Livy Learning Series because we're going to do more of these series on other topics and whatnot. And so it is specific to menopause and weight loss. You would still follow the Livi

method. It's just sort of additional information conversations. Dr. Jennifer Zelevitsky is going to be joining us for the four weeks. We're going to talk about anything and everything related to menopause, perimenopause, postmenopause. Interesting, I want to mention, the last time we were kind of talking about this in the groups, a couple of people mentioned that they are postmenopause and they feel left out of the conversation because no one's addressing it.

And I just reminded them that when someone uses the term menopause, it's like a catchall term. So technically menopause is one day. One day, 24 hours after not getting your period for a year, it's like one day. And so when someone talks about menopause, they are also talking about perimenopause that comes or pre-perimenopause, perimenopause,

and also post-menopause. So that is something that we also address for anyone who's interested in that as well. All right, let me know where you're at and if you have any questions. I can't seem to find my live today. Where am I? Am I live? Am I live? Yeah, okay. I'm live. Can you do the menopause session without being in the current Libby program? Actually, yes, you can. The information is still really relevant. We do talk about nutrition and the importance of getting protein and anything involved in nutrition.

For anyone who's not doing the Libby method, that would still be very relevant to them. If you are looking to lose weight, you would obviously want to sign up for the Living Method weight loss program. But we do have people who, for example, will be signed up for fall, but will want to do the menopause add-on. So it's for anyone interested

in that topic of conversation for sure. Good morning. High dose of prednisone is making mindfulness and downsizing much more difficult. I feel like my sensors are off. Probably, Cathy. Yeah. Like I never feel satisfied.

My stomach is always growling. Another reason I'm glad I'm on this program at this time, I can only imagine what I'd be eating. Yeah, we talked about this last night, actually, during the evening live. Someone was sharing that they're just having a hard go of it. They had a lot going on and we talked about how we never talk about, of course, this is a weight loss program, but for some people in certain seasons of their life, meaning what they have going on, it's good just to not gain weight, right? Like if you, like how would you exactly like you've just said, what choices would

you have made if you weren't as mindful? Or when you're going through a very stressful period of time in your life, it's hard to prioritize yourself, take time for yourself. I know the weight loss is the motivator. Weight loss is that this is why I'm here and that's what you sign up of course. But sometimes it's just about not gaining weight. And the tools and the skills that you're learning to lose weight while you're here are tools and skills that you're going to use for your life and other areas of your life as well. So the living method is so great because you're not just starving and depriving yourself. You are actually doing the things that are going to help you stay healthy, right?

Physically, mentally at the end of the day. Yes, of course, weight loss is the end game. And then I was also talking about how you're trying to fit into my box. I'm running the program fall, winter, spring. There's a start date and end date that I pick for those 91 days. And then you have to fit your life into that timeframe. And so we all want to show up and do it perfectly, of course, like we talked about with Dr. Dina Kara-Shafer the other day, but no, it's something to consider. And this is why it's not about being perfect,

it's doing the best you can, given what you got going on, where you're at, what you got going on. People will say, I'm not losing weight or I'm having a hard time. Well, why is that? Someone mentioned yesterday struggling, I'm struggling. And we're gonna have Dr. Beverly David join us again in the program and talk about this. having a hard time. Why is that? Someone mentioned yesterday, struggling, I'm struggling.

And we're going to have Dr. Beverly David join us again in the program and talk about this. Like what is the struggle? What are you struggling with? Sometimes it's not the food, it's the fact that, you know, this is really, you got a lot going on in your life. Maybe you're selling your house, maybe you're taking a course in school, maybe you've got something going on with one of your kids.

And it's your, your struggling because you have all these other balls that you were juggling at the same time. So yeah, so I don't know why you're taking the prednisone, Cathy, but I hope that, you know, everything is okay and you feel better soon. You feel better soon. That's a tough medication for sure. The token bites, is that Fort chews or actual new bites? Great question. So token bites are enough to stimulate

your digestive system. I would say like three to five, like you eat something, chew, chew, chew, chew, chew, another bite, chew, chew, chew, chew, chew, maybe another bite, chew, chew, chew, chew, chew. It depends on how many times you chew. Sometimes people are a bite, chew, chew, and then they're done. So it kind of depends on the amount of chew chews that you do do, right? You really just want to stimulate

your digestive system. Just the thought of eating food can stimulate your digestive system. If you think about eating something like a lemon, for example, like if you bit into a lemon right now, when you actually think about that, your mouth just saying that, my saliva glands get stimulated. So that is stimulating your digestive system. Smellings can stimulate your digestive system. So there's more to it than just chewing. But just enough chewing action that your digestive system kind of turns on, your body gets the message food is incoming.

So that can depend, right? So you can have a smaller amount, but chew more often, depending on the number of chews. We should also spend a little more time, most of us, chewing our food as well. I don't know about you but last night I was really hungry and we were eating and I was, we had like Greek food and I was having, I think it was pork, I was eating chicken, I can't remember, and I was eating it. I was so hungry and I realized like I'm not even chewing it. I'm just like two bites. You really should be

chewing it 20 times. Sometimes that's hard when you're really hungry but also when you're not kind of taking the time and being in the moment and that's where you really kind of want to take a deep breath before you eat and think of all the things. Be mindful. How am I feeling before I eat this? How am I feeling while I'm eating? So I caught myself, of course. I was like, wow, Gina, slow down. That's not good for you. And then I just kind of Took my time for the rest. That's that sense of awareness, right? I'm getting close to my feel-good weight. Not a number, but a feeling. Do I solidify my weight by doing another program or do that in the maintenance program? What if I sign up for another program? Can I switch it to the maintenance program? Yeah, I highly suggest you do once you reach your goal weight,

I think you should do as many programs as you need until you reach your goal weight. What you don't want to do is be in the maintenance program trying to lose weight because all the verbiage is around maintenance. And so if you're new to the program, we have this incredible woman called Ruth Kane. That's her name.

She is a professor at the University of Ottawa and her and her team have been studying the Living Method independently from us. She just so happened to have done the program, lost 70 pounds, she obviously is a big fan of the program, but she works independently and actually received government funding a few years back. And so she originally started by studying

the process of the Living method, the online learning, and how people could do the program from remote areas and actually make change. Then she moved into studying the efficacy, how effective was the living method? And we have learned that people are losing a clinical amount of weight more than a clinical amount of weight while doing the living method,

which is really incredible. And there's no downsides of doing the Libby Method. And she learned all sorts of great stuff that she presented at the Canadian Obesity Conference. Then she moved on to maintenance and studying people. And she's done hundreds of focus groups and surveys on what's the commonalities between someone who's able to maintain their weight

and someone who isn't. So she's not just talking to people who've been able to maintain their weight and someone who isn't. So she's not just talking to people who've been successful. She also talks to people who haven't been successful to try to find out why. And she was at the World Obesity Conference last week presenting what she has learned about maintenance. And so as she was studying maintenance, she came up with these six pillars that people were really, you know, part of people being successful.

And we've incorporated those six pillars into the maintenance program. So although you're going through the motions again, in terms of what to eat and when, the focus each week is different and the conversation is different. And the program is different. Obviously there are not like, you know, 30,000 people in every maintenance program that we run. So there's one maintenance group right now, and you pay one price, $75, and you get in it. And then we run the programs on Facebook every,

three times a year in line with, so right now we're running a maintenance program right now. And they're also downsizing, but then they're also focused on something else. So all the verbiage is skewed to maintenance and that is the conversation in there. So if you're looking to lose weight even if it's just five pounds I would still stay in the weight loss program and then when you are done done move on to the maintenance program. I think the maintenance program is crucial and I'll tell you why. A few years ago before we started the maintenance program is crucial. And I'll tell you why. A few years ago, before we started the maintenance program, people would be like, you know, you

should do a maintenance program. And I'm like, no, you don't need it. I'm sharing everything that you need to know about maintenance in the last couple weeks of the program. The way you have lost your weight is going to help you maintain your weight. And boy, was I wrong, because maintenance is a whole other can of worms. It's a whole other beast. Let's take A type personalities. We have A type people who just follow the guidelines

and they lose their weight and they're like, that was so easy. And then when the structure of the program is gone, they have a harder time because they didn't necessarily work through the mental stuff that they needed to work through. And now they find that they're doing that in the maintenance program.

Things like you can lose your weight and then be terrified you're going to gain it back and then sabotage in maintenance. You might not trust yourself in maintenance. You could have lost your weight and then not felt worthy. And so it's really interesting the conversations that we're having over there. We're having conversations that nobody in the world is having when it comes to maintenance.

So I highly suggest that every person who works to lose their weight invest in the maintenance program. Right now, the way we have it structured is insane. It's literally $75, and then you could just stay in there, and then you could do as many maintenance programs as you want. We don't have a maintenance app yet, but we're working on it. And then you can ask as many questions as you need. So I highly suggest doing the maintenance program.

In fact, my guest yesterday for a real people, real journey conversation, Elizabeth, if you haven't listened to the conversation yet, she's down 152 pounds. 152 pounds. She signed up for the maintenance program, of course, because you don't work that hard. Whether it's 5 pounds, 50 pounds, 150 pounds, and you want to put that time

into solidifying your weight. How we used to do it was doing another round of the living method. And that's okay, too. Some people do that because they love the community. And so what we're working on is where can we all go after this is done to stay connected to the community. So we're actually working on like a third program, because we have this incredible community and people love being connected to it.. So we're actually working on like a third program because we have this incredible community and people love being connected to it. It's a great space to work on any goal that you have.

But it's kind of like you do the weight loss program and then you're in the maintenance program and then what, right? So maybe a third program where you're just living your life and we talk about other things, you know? So we're working on that. I signed up and really looking forward to learning menopause because those symptoms suck as well. Glad to hear you all working on that. I signed up and really looking forward to learning menopause because those symptoms suck as well.

Glad to hear you all focus on that. Yeah, so menopause is really just managing the symptoms. You can't make it go away. There's nothing you can take away. One of the interesting things you'll find, everyone thinks that HRT is the be all end all to losing weight in menopause when that's actually not the case at all.

It helps you manage the symptoms. It can help you get a better sleep, which can help obviously when it comes to losing weight. So it can really help with managing symptoms. And so this is where people who can't take HRT are always like, oh my goodness, I'm doomed. When that's not the case at all, there's a lot of non HRT things that you can do that can actually make a big difference as well. Good morning. good morning. I was quite sick and following the sickness protocol for two to three weeks.

The scale has gone wacko, down 10 pounds, six back overnight. I feel like I haven't gotten the info out of the program that I should at this point. I missed quite a few lives and just couldn't concentrate. Should I go back on my own or just skip ahead to week four and downsizing and try to catch up? If you're following the sickness protocol,

you're still kind of following. It's if you don't have much of an appetite, right? This is where you wanna reestablish that appetite again. So perhaps, maybe perhaps not downsizing this week, just follow that basic food plan. It is a great idea to make sure you are reviewing all that information. You can take your time doing that.

Although it's really the guidelines that you want to pay attention to at this point. And then if you have any questions that pop up, you can ask in the Facebook support group, you can also ask in the AI section of your app, and then that will pull up any relevant posts as well. So that way you don't have to go back and read all of it, it's just if you ever have a question, you ask in the AI, it will also pull up any of the relevant posts. So that way you're not missing anything that was necessarily like relevant to you specifically. You can go back and pick up from where you left off,

but it's all about really what's motivating you. And if people I find have a hard time doing that, it's just best to keep moving forward with where you're at. We're going to do downsizing again. So if you just want to kind of stick to that basic food plan until your hunger levels come back up or follow the sickness protocol until your hunger levels come back.

I'm not surprised that the scale is really wonky. That usually is your body's usually retaining a lot of water. When you're not feeling well, your body's trying to detox, that sickness out, your weight will come back down. Usually sickness is pretty good for weight loss, especially if in the front end, you've been working on giving your body what it needs, and then on the back end,

you're back to giving your body what it needs as well. You wouldn't have actually gained any weight, but also that loss could just be, you know, at that point, water weight, depending on how you were feeling or what you had going on. So, and you didn't gain six pounds of fat, right? So chances are you didn't lose 10 pounds of fat.

You didn't gain six pounds of fat either. Also check the batteries on the scale. So sometimes that can be what's going on as well. So just think about what would be more motivating you, motivating for you. This is all about you and your journey. So you could go back to where you left off and follow through on your own timeline. There's nothing wrong with that.

But if you sort of feel like, oh, my goodness, I feel like I'm just going to be behind all the time. Just jump in where we're at and take your time getting caught up on any of the information. So I was saying they love this week this week. Yeah, I'm enjoying this tweak brings mindfulness into it as well. I love hearing that. I love this. Although this is a tweak that, you know, tends to bring up a lot of the fields

this week. Try to be try to have fun with that. It really is like how's my body responding? Some some of you are noticing like you're insanely hungry, but it's not you're not actually hungry because you're eating still eating good nutrient-rich foods six times a day. First of all, if you are if you are noticing that you're you're really hungry and you're not having breakfast, especially if you're really hungry in the evening and you're choosing to not have breakfast, have

breakfast, have breakfast. But it's only a few bites less and some people are using words like starved, deprived, I feel weak, I'm faint. That's not how you should be feeling with a few bites less because you should be eating this good nutrient rich foods five, six times a day. It's literally just a few bites less. And so you absolutely should not be feeling starved, deprived, faint, although the hunger signals could be strong, right? You shouldn't also be feeling like weak and lethargic either, just with a few bites less. But what's happening in your brain can really mess you up. Because it can trigger, oh my goodness, I'm on a diet, I'm not eating enough,

you're second guessing, I'm hungry. So a lot of that can just be what's going on in your brain, because that's how your brain is wired to all the diets that you've done before, where you literally were starving yourself, you literally were depriving, and you were like really hungry, right? Some people are asking a couple of questions. One is, if you are more active, should you be eating more food? And this is where you want to be in the moment. The reality is, one of the reasons why counting calories doesn't work is because your body's needs change every day.

Even with downsizing, there are people asking about token amounts because they're not even hungry. Even in downsizing, you might have days where you're not hungry at all, and that's normal. So one day you might be really hungry and the next day not hungry at all. So we really want to be in tune with that. So this isn't counting and weighing and measuring, this is being in tune in the moment. So portions are always what they feel like and never about what they look like.

So even with downsizing, you might one day need to eat three eggs and then the next day two eggs and then the next day one egg and then the next day you're not even hungry at all. And so it doesn't matter if you're exercising or being more active because it's all about being in tune in the moment.

And so I know this is difficult, especially for those of you who pack lunches and then you're trying to portion out a portion and you might, you know, obviously if you're one day, you might find that you need that portion plus more. And then the next day you're not even hungry for it. So it's not an exact science. It's more bringing awareness to your portions. And so it doesn't matter if you're actually exercising because you're in the moment if that makes sense,

asking those four mindful eating questions and leaving yourself feeling slightly unsatisfied. Also people are having a hard time being hungry at night. What can I eat? So I also want to remind you as the week progresses and you're eating slightly less and leaving yourself feeling slightly unsatisfied, you'll notice you'll start to get more satisfied on smaller portions. So in the beginning of the week, you'll feel like really like your body will let you know, where's the rest of our food? But towards the end of the week, that'll really kind of taper off a little bit. And then next week, we're gonna bring it back to eating enough to feel satisfied.

You'll notice that you are just naturally feeling satisfied on those smaller portions. But that, I wanna remind you, if you're extra hungry in the evening, that can be a sign that your weight is about to drop. So even when we were eating dissatisfaction in the last few weeks, there were people who were eating all this good nutrient rich foods all day and still really hungry in the evening.

That can be a sign that your weight is about to drop the next day. So that's where you want to switch up your routine, try to hold off, have some tea, really understand that your body's eaten enough throughout the day, even when you're hungry. And when it gets dark outside, your body starts producing melatonin. And this is where your body really needs to get that deep sleep. What it needs more than you eating more food is getting that deep and REM sleep.

So just a heads up on that. Sometimes just understanding that. And then you can be like, well, I'm hungry. Like you don't have to, it could be like, you know, I'm really hungry. Like you can be like, well, I'm hungry. Like you don't have to, it could be like, you know, I'm really hungry. Like you can be aware of that. And then, you know, be like, okay, I'm gonna have some tea. I'm gonna go to bed.

I'm gonna read a book. Like you're not, it's, you might need to sit in that uncomfortableness because what's happening is you are being, some people are being triggered by the downsizing, eating slightly less. Seeing that food on your plate is very triggering. Feeling like you can't eat more is very triggering.

And so you might have to sit in that uncomfortable feeling of like, that resembles how you felt when you were on a diet. But it's not the same. It's not the same, right? So my weight is going up as I'm sure I'm inflamed due to fibro, today I feel so much better and I hope I'm at the tail end of this flare up.

Today I'm all in. Dr. Paul Herkel is gonna join us and talk about reasons. When is he joining us for that conversation? Yeah, next week. Dr. Paul Herkel is gonna join us next Tuesday and talk about four reasons why your weight might be slower to move. And one is inflammation.

Right, Annette? Like you can really feel it. Not that it won't move, not that it won't move, not that it's impossible for you to reach your goal. It's really important. But four reasons why your weight might be slower to move. Inflammation is a big one. In fact, everything is tied back to inflammation.

And that's sort of where when we were talking about the pregna zone earlier, it might not be the pregna zone. Obviously, that's sort of where when we're talking about the pregnant zone earlier, it might not be the pregnant zone, obviously, that's playing a role. But whatever you're taking the pregnant zone for, in combination can affect the messaging of your body. Right? And your your messaging system is important, because that's your hormones that are basically dictating what the body's doing with everything. And so inflammation is a big one. gut issues, like what you got going on in your microbiome. There's a lot of studies going on about your microbiome.

Food sensitivities, that's a big one, which lead to inflammation. And then hormones. And so we're going to have a conversation with Dr. Paul about those four things. But why are we waiting until next week to have that conversation? Because the things that you're doing now are laying the foundation to address some of those issues. So just a heads up on that. If you are having a hard time still getting that scale to move and wondering what you can do, definitely continue to check on that maximizing post. I haven't brought that up in a while. Maximizing checklist. It's not just the 20 questions in the file section of the Facebook

support group. There are 154 sub questions that can help you kind of get to the bottom of, you know, what are things that you can do to be more proactive? At this point in the program, once we have that conversation with Dr. Paul, we've given you a lot of resources to figure out what's going on. Why are you not losing weight? Are you stressed? Are you not sleeping? Do you have deficiencies? What's going on with your food choices? Like what do you need to, you know, like is it hormones? At that point we're gonna have covered a lot to help you figure out what you specifically need to focus on. And that's where we're going with

that. The guest experts are amazing. Yesterday's lab is great. Always get useful tips. Yeah, whether it's your first program or your 21st program, our guest experts are really, if you don't have time for the lives, like every live, if you watch those guest experts. So the one where we started off, if you miss it, the very first one, what's the secret to losing weight with a living method?

Like that's a big conversation, right? How to make the most of the information, how to stay organized, how to stay organized, how to stay motivated, Dr. Dina Kara Schaeffer, how your history of dieting affects your current journey. Like you may not, and go back and listen again, right? Because when you were where you were at in the beginning, you might have been like, what's going on, all of this. And then now that you're here and you listen to it again, you're in a different place. Conversations that we've had with supplements, that's a big one at the time,

you might not felt like those are relevant, but then what you learned after our stress and sleep series with the ladies, you might be like, oh shit, actually, I might wanna consider taking some of those supplements. And of course, Dina joining us again, and we're gonna go deeper and deeper and deeper and deeper with all the conversations. We are far from done, we're far from again. And we're gonna go deeper and deeper and deeper and deeper

with all the conversations. We are far from done, we're far from done. We are far from done. Well, my birthday was last week and I overate, but this is the first time in many months and this week going into two luncheons. So must be aware of what I'm doing. But good thing almost every day drank 92 ounces a day

and hardly have eaten bread and pasta over the past two years and do not miss them. Yeah, I love this, Edith. You're gonna have times where it's going to feel harder. I know some of you are having a hard time getting back at it after the long weekend, right? That's your and for a few reasons. If you ate your face off and ate some yummy bites of bits and processed foods, you're you you you could have some inflammation going on. Trying to get cut up on your water. If you had a few alcoholic more than a few

alcoholic drinks, it can take a while. If you had a few alcoholic, more than a few alcoholic drinks, it can take a while. If you had a few sleepless nights, because you ate, because you drank, or because you just had a great time, that can take a while. It can take almost a week for your body to recover from any indulgences that you have. And that can make it feel like you're having a hard time.

This is where using the Living Method app can really help. Just kind of with that structure and really digging into that routine, you can set alarms to remind yourself to drink your water, to eat your foods, those types of things. What I love about the program is that when you are following it, you feel like, oh, I'm rock star amazing. And then when you feel slightly off, you feel really, really, really off. However, it doesn't take that long to get back at it when you are consistent. So a lot of times we're driving that based on our mind and what we should you feel really, really, really off. However, it doesn't take that long to get back at it when you are consistent.

It's a lot of times we're driving that based on our mind and what we should, or we're back at it based on the scale rather than back at it into our routine, back at it into how we feel. So it can take a while. It can take a while. It can take a while. You also, this is why it's also,

you know, you're gonna have birthdays and this is something we talk a lot about in the maintenance program, because someone could have lost their weight. And then you're almost going like a full cycle, right? Where encountering every birthday, holiday, vacay, you know, significant days that may not be great days, you know, and how would you fall back into old habits?

How do you handle those? How do you handle those? How do you navigate those? Because you could be like doing everything perfect, for lack of a better word, and then something rocks your world, and then you fall back into old habits. And so this is something we talk a lot about in the maintenance program.

So this is why it's not all about being perfect when you are losing your weight either because what you are learning by having, indulging in the long weekend, how you feel about that and how to navigate that. What you were learning by your birthday and how you feel about that and how to navigate that. We have one rule around here,

eat the damn cake on your birthday, unless of course you don't want it, right? Like it's not the cake on your birthday, the reason why you have weight to lose and having the cake on your birthday is not gonna stop you from it either, right? Like it's not the cake on your birthday. The reason why you have weight to lose and having the cake on your birthday is not going to stop you from, from it either. Right. So happy birthday, Edith. Happy birthday. Happy coming back from a hunting trip. Thank you, Ontario, for taking care of him.

I did really well without him anxious about him coming back and throwing a wrench and everything. Heidi. Yeah. I hear you. I always like to share how when Tony first did my program, so Tony's my husband, he also now works with me. There was a time where he didn't. He used to work at Amazon. And when we were together, he kind of knew what I did, but didn't really know what I did and was like,

I need to lose weight. And I'm like, good for you. And I had come out of a 20-year marriage and I wasn't about to have anyone tell me what to do. And I wasn't about to tell him what to do. I'm like, no, I'm not doing that. And so he's like, you know, help me lose weight. And I'm like, no, I'm not doing it. And because I didn't want to eat dinner and be around him and be his like, you know, accountability partner. I just was like, no, you do it on your own. And so he signed up for the program. He signed up for the program and he loved it. And that's, he fell in love with it and found it was amazing.

And then hence quitting his job to come work with me. And he now runs all the business that he's the numbers guy, the business guy, he's got his MBA and all of that. And it runs the business behind the business, make sure everyone gets paid. At the end of the day, He does a lot more than that. But I sabotaged him. I sabotaged him because I was uncomfortable.

I loved him exactly the way he was. I didn't need him to change. And I wanted to continue to eat my chips in bed. But it was really, I didn't realize I was doing it. It was really like I just loved him the way that he was and I didn't need him to change. And so I sabotaged him. I would bring chips in bed.

I'd be like, you want whatever. I would buy him the stuff. And it wasn't until I was actually having a conversation here on the program about someone else that I realized, oh shit, I'm doing that. I'm doing that, but I was, there's a couple of things going on, I didn't want him to change, and I didn't want to change. But really all it took was a conversation

where I acknowledged, oh my goodness, I'm so sorry. This is my issue, and I didn't even know I was doing it, and I will be a bit more supportive to you. Now, also, he didn't really say anything to me. And then, obviously, when we pointed it out, we had a conversation about it. He was appreciative, like, thank you, yes, I would appreciate if you supported me on this.

And so it could just be from you, just like, hey, when you were away, I was so good because I wasn't distracted, and I didn't feel like I just, I't want to feel weird around you with food. So sometimes I eat things because I would just want to be normal. But I feel so good following the program. I'm going to really do my best to stick with it. And so I might not just so you know, I might not indulge with you.

And if you could help me, you know, I'm feeling my best. Like this is really great. Not not it's not his fault. Right. It's like just like like it's not his fault. That's not how you want to come at it But if you came at it as like why in your way, I love that you're back babes I miss you so much. Could can I talk to you about something when you're away? I was just really into doing what I was doing. I felt really great and I you know, I feel like I'm seeing results I want to keep that momentum going and so I just want to talk to you about a few ways that maybe if you don't mind to support me. Now, what you can't do is like make it their fault.

Like, well, I need you to make sure I don't eat the chips. I need you to let me know when I'm doing this. Like I don't think that's fair to put on anyone, but like what is it about him being away that you feel like you're nervous about him coming back and then kind of pull those moments out and be like, hey, like, you know, maybe you are indulging with him. Maybe you're having dessert after dinner because that's what you do as a couple and you don't

want him to not have to the dessert, but you also don't want it. And maybe that's the conversation as you make that first dessert and say, you know what, like, here you go. I made you a nice dessert. And if he says, you're not having one, just say, I'm going to skip it. I didn't have dessert all last week. I felt really great about it. Right. So it's that conversation. So to kind of think of the ways that he's going to throw a wrench in everything. And then also what's your accountability? Are you using that as an excuse? I use that as

an excuse, right? Because this is about, this is about you are making change in your lifestyle. I'm coming around on the lifestyle thing. I used to be like, this is not a lifestyle, it's a diet. But what you're doing is creating the lifestyle that's gonna support you and your weight loss and the changes that you've made. And think about, because what you don't wanna do is lose your weight and then fall back into old habits

because what you got going on in your relationship either. And so this is where you might have to take time, maybe after dinner you go for a walk, rather than sitting down and have a dessert. I mean, you don't have to be that extreme. Not that that's extreme, but do you know what I mean? What are the changes that you need to make that are going to support your lifestyle moving forward? So it's not just about separating and you doing that and him doing him.

At some point, you're gonna have to come together and intertwine your lives in a way that it supports the changes that you've made, you know. It supports the changes that you made. Do, do, do, do, do, do, do, do. Really enjoying each week, maybe a bit obsessed, but in a good way. Yes, I love that you said that.

I'm signing up for a second program Monday. It's like a birthday present and that is my birthday. I love that you said that. I'm signing up for a second program Monday. It's like a birthday present. And that is my birthday. I love that. Worried almost about everything, not having the Living Method app and the lives and guests. So I guess I have to stay forever. Well, the whole goal is for you to lose your weight

and get the fuck out of here and go live your life. That's the goal. But you're welcome to stay as long as you want. We do need to normalize doing as many rounds of the program as needed. And there's no shame in that. It's just how we structure it. Just like any other diet, you would start it and then keep following it until you reach your goal, right?

If you think back at other diets that you've done, you didn't just do them for a few weeks and then been like, I'm done. The living method is no different. We structure it in the 91 days because I think there's a start and there's an end. And there's like a lot of value in that where you can look back and reflect on your previous journey.

Also, some person might need, some person, someone might need one program or someone else needs 10, someone else needs 20. It really just depends. Elizabeth, who we talked to yesterday in the Real People, Real Journey, she's done eight programs, took her four to really get started.

And then the last four, that's two years of her life, but she's also lost 152 pounds, right? And if you don't need to lose 152, you might not need that much time, or maybe you don't have that much weight to lose, but you really, you know, mentally, you got a lot of work at the end of the day. So I love this.

And it is about being obsessed. This is where you have been, it's not obsessed, it's intentional. So if you went to school and you were doing all the homework and you were working really hard studying because you're trying to get the best grades, would you call that obsessed? Right, would you call that obsessed?

No, you're trying to do the best you possibly can in the timeframe that you have while you have signed up and taken this course. And the living method is no different. It's not about any one big thing you're doing, it's all the small things that you have while you have signed up and taken this course. And the living method is no different. It's not about any one big thing you're doing, it's all the small things that you're doing consistently. So if obsession leads to consistency, it's what are you obsessed about?

Prioritizing yourself, eating good nutrient rich foods, moving your body, trying to get better sleep, managing your stress, being in tune to your needs, right? And this is what you're doing. You're taking this concentrated period of time and this is what we're working on. And it's going to affect all areas of your life in a really beneficial way.

Before I go, Carol, last question. I'm so frustrated this morning. The scale was down to my lowest low in 18 months. I had been on a huge plateau. I made a second trip to the bathroom and went on the scale again and even lower a few, even lower, lower, which was 2.4 pounds since yesterday. I was so excited.

I want to take a photo of the scale. I went to get my phone, got back on the scale. My weight was up one pound since yesterday. Ha ha ha. Scales are finicky like that. Don't let it stress you. Don't let that piece of metal ruin your whole day. Get really excited about the fact that that scale

is clearly moving for you and focus on that. Focus on that. I know you want it so bad and you have broken that plateau. Focus on that. Don't let that scale ruin your whole day. Check the batteries on your scale. It can depend. Move forward, step back, all of that. Gravity. Just go by that one number. I know, I know that you've lost. You know that you've lost at the end of the day, that's all that matters. Congratulations on breaking that plateau. All right, everyone, have a super fantastic rest of your day. I'm gonna be back this afternoon with Kim.

We're gonna talk about the tweak this week for those of you who want to just kind of know more. We're gonna answer some frequently asked questions if you wanna join us for that conversation. If you can't join us, we'll repost it in the guys. Have a great day and we'll see you later. Yeah, have a great day. I'll see you later.