The Livy Method Podcast - Livy Method Day 45 - Spring/Summer 2024

Episode Date: June 5, 2024

Gina Livy's Facebook Lives from The Livy Method Spring/Summer 2024 Support Group hosted on Facebook. This is a recording of the Day 45, 9 AM live. You can find the full video hosted at:https://www.facebook.com/groups/livymethodspringsummer2024Topics covered:Deepening your understanding of what you are doing and why. You know best: Dig into the reasons your scale may be slow to move. Changing the conversation: Weight loss is much more than calories in / calories out. Feeling energized? Support your body through seasonal changes. Changes in appetite when managing anxiety. Make the connection: Experts and guest conversations bring us together as a community. The benefits of slow and steady weight loss. Rewind, rewire, reconnect: bringing awareness and change to how we eat to cope. No pressure: self-compassion is a powerful tool when prioritizing yourself. Sustainable weight loss versus quick-fix dieting. Self-sabotage - so many reasons we undo our best efforts. Setting yourself up for success with grounding and gratitude practices. Declare it! Make this your own! Why do we berate ourselves when trying to make change? Being in tune with what you need now. It's GO time: time to go deeper and level up to finish strong! To learn more about the Livy Method, visit www.ginalivy.com. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Day 45 of the program, we are rolling through our last week of downsizing. How are we all doing with downsizing? Are we doubling down? Are we asking those four questions? Are we being as consistent as possible? Are we maximizing our efforts? Or are we stressing about the time that we have left and not really showing up doing things that you need to do? How about that conversation with Dr. Alinka yesterday? Hormones. So I talked about this in the check-in this morning. Hormones are probably the number one question that I get.

If I have problems with my hormones or hormonal issues, will I be able to lose weight? And it's not just, I mean, of course you can. This goes back to our very first Science Saturday post that we talked about set point theory and the fact that your body just gets used to functioning at a certain weight and every extra pound of fat is hard on you. So your body doesn't want this fat any more than you do. It's just that it's gotten used to feeling like it needs to store that fat. And so hormones are very complicated. And so I'm on a mission to really simplify this conversation. There's a lot to your hormones. People just think like it's sex hormones or you know fertility

hormones when there are hunger hormones and stress hormones there are over 50 hormones in your body and as you get older there's only a couple that stop working so hormones will always be an issue especially when it comes to insulin and cortisol. And so I want to keep weight loss as simple as possible, as easy as possible, as doable as possible, but also a big believer in having a deeper level of understanding as to what you are doing and why, because I truly want you to lose your weight finally and forever. So just as much as you need to know what you need to do in order to lose weight, you also need to know how to avoid gaining weight and how once you've lost your weight, it is still important to manage your stress and try to get the best quality sleep

and move your body and do resistance training. And a lot of you come from a generation when it comes to exercise of just like burning the fat off, right? Burning the fat off, doing that cardio when, you know, with all the diets that you've done, just eating away at your muscle mass so that by the time you do roll into perimenopause, menopause, you start storing that fat because you don't have that, you don't have the muscle mass anymore. And so yeah, walking your dogs three times a week is great. But if you feel like hormones are an issue for you, and the scale isn't moving for you, you've got to do some sort of resistance training. And there's a lot that you can do there. There's a lot you can do online, at home,

it doesn't necessarily mean you have to go to a gym. And here's the thing too, is that we've all got ourselves in a situation where because we didn't prioritize ourselves and take care of ourselves, and because we did all those crappy shitty diets, because we didn't know any better, we just did what we were told, we're left in this situation where we have a lot of work to do to help our bodies get healthy again. We have a lot of work to do when it comes to being in tune and knowing what your body needs. Again, asking those four questions, following this food plan, and doing all the work that's for you to really understand and be able to trust when to eat, what to eat, how much to eat, how the choices that you are making are

affecting your body and how you feel and how you are thinking. Also to understand the need to work through issues and associations and habits, right? Those old habits die hard, which is why we keep falling back into them. But we have to just keep reinforcing the new habits that are going to support the life we want to live and who we want to be. It's also working through beliefs like are you worthy? Do you feel like you will never be able to sustain your weight even if you lose it in the healthiest of ways? And traumas, so many of you working through traumas, especially where food is concerned. So there's a lot going on. This is just a taste. So the beginning of the program

is really focused on that food plan, kind of calming that body down, reestablishing that routine for our returning members. And then each week you're going to be implementing these tweaks. So we're going to be done with downsizing at the end of the week. So make sure you're all in for the rest of the week. We're going to switch gears moving forward next week. It's a really cool tweak. I'm not going to get into it yet, but if you do want a taste of it, Kim and I are going to talk about it today during our tweak this week conversation.

And then it's really digging in. Like if you're showing up and you're like, I'm doing all the things. I don't know why my scale isn't moving. You should know exactly why your scale isn't moving. That's where I want you to get to. You are telling us why you think the scale isn't moving and we can help you with what you can do about it, right? Like we had that conversation, four reasons why your weight might be slower. It's like, we'll have people still not losing weight at this point who haven't added in the basic supplements. I don't need those basic supplements, but they're stressed out.

They're not taking omega-3. They go from work from morning to night. They don't get outside. They don't have their vitamin D, right? Their digestive system is a mess unless they have the coffee, they don't poop for days. And they're like, I don't need any of that. But you know, why isn't the scale moving for me, you know, or four reasons why your weight might be slower to move. I had some the other day to say my weight isn't moving, but none of those reasons affect me. Like what? What are you talking

about? All of those reasons actually affect everybody. It's just to the scale in which they affect you. So if the scale isn't moving for you, then why? And my response to that was, what do you think it is then? You tell me why you think the scale isn't moving. Yeah, so hit me up with your questions. Just some things to think about midway through the week in our final week of downsizing. As you can tell, I've got a bit more spring in my step these days. I'm excited with where we're at in the program. Six weeks in, if you're here now, you are going to be a success story at the end. Also, I've been swimming.

I just got out of the pool. So I'm a bit of a mess. I am doing 91 days of swimming. I have to admit, yesterday, I didn't get my swimming in because I was going to get it in earlier the day. I had a bunch of meetings and then I had to go, I had to get my nails done and a bunch of stuff. And, um, when I came back, my kid was home, which I'd love having my kid home, of course, which he lives here. So it makes sense that he's home, but he was home with a couple of friends and they were like, Oh, we're going to barbecue and we're going to swim.

And I was like, Oh, okay. Well, all right. Then maybe, and then they're like, Oh, we're going to barbecue and we're going to swim. And I was like, Oh, okay, well, all right, then maybe and then they're like, well, let's swim first and then barbecue. So then my plan was like, okay, so while I'll let them swim first, and then they'll barbecue. But of course, they didn't do that. They barbecued first, then they swim 930 at night, they're still in the pool. And I'm just like, I'm tired. But it was really kind of weighing on me. It was interesting because I was like, I made this promise to myself that I would go swimming for 91 days in a row. And I was just like, fuck. And then I was like, have I ruined everything? I felt like such a failure. And I was like, why do we do these extreme things to ourselves, to motivate ourselves, to do the things that we want to do that we're not doing? And so I was like, I was so tired. Fuck it. Like, I think they were still in the pool. I don't know

what time, 10 o'clock, 1030 last night. And, um, so then I got up today and I had to, one of my kids woke up and she was like, not happy. She was like dealing, she was in a mood. She was sad. And I said to her, get your bathing suit on. I'm like, let's go. We're going swimming. It meant she was a little late. So sorry to Taryn's teachers today. She's a little late getting to school. But she was just, I knew if I sent her off to school, she'd just be in a, just a really sad mindset, stressed out, sad. And instead we went in the pool and we did some races back and forth.

And I feel like, okay, so if I swim this morning and I swim later on tonight, that's going to make up for the swimming that I missed yesterday. All right, let's get into you guys. Um, I'm listening to the audio book worthy along with the source. Also Mel Robbins podcast along with Gina's getting all the good stuff in to help me. Yes. Yes. You know, I'm actually on a mission. I talked to my team. I'll totally talk to my team for me yesterday and talk to them about really like we are having this amazing conversation in here. There's a conversation happening out there in the diet industry. And when Oprah started having it, right, about hormones,

about, you know, the effect of dieting, like there's a massive conversation happening out there and we've been having it in here, right? I was saying like, we've been having this conversation for years in here, but you know where we haven't been having it? We haven't been having it in here, right? I've been, I was saying like, we've been having this conversation for years in here, but you know where we haven't been having it. We haven't been having it out there. And so I'm on a mission to produce more content, to get it out there to the world. So I know many of you are doing the program and you think, oh, my friends should do this and whatever, but they're like, I don't want to sign up for a weight loss program, or I'm not ready, or maybe you don't want to tell them, but there's a lot of good conversation happening out there right now. Like probably I actually, dare I say it, I'm happy that the diet industry has gone through what it's gone

through because it was really crap. And then people just didn't believe in diets anymore. They're like diets don't work. And that's sort of when I was like, I was like, okay, but hello. Yes, they do. It's just, you guys are doing the wrong diet. They do work. And then there was a whole body positivity movement. And that was really, that was really interesting. Um, yesterday when I talked to my spill, the tea guest, um, who was absolutely delightful by the way. And we talked about this, Kim, this body positivity movements. And it's one thing to like embrace yourself, be like, okay, I'm carrying excess weight. I just need to be happy with that. My doctor says that's just how it's going to be.

I'm hormonal. So that's just going to how it be. I, you know, I just have to just accept myself the way I am. But the problem is, is that that doesn't mean that you can't want to make change. So there was this diets don't work, you have to love yourself just the way you are to the point that people took it to such extremes that when people did, so when body positivity promoters lost weight, they're like, Oh, you're not authentic. You know, we can't relate to you anymore. And they're like, No, I still I love

myself, I just still want to lose weight. Right. And so now the diet industry, that kind of has settled down. And what's interesting with this new wave of like weight loss medications coming in, people are now being like, well, that's not necessarily what I want to do. Not that that's a bad thing. So you guys know my stance on, on those medications. I'm all for them. If you need them. I also think there's work do, like the work you do in this program when you're taking them. And I know we have people in the program taking them and we want to be here to support people. So now I think people are now thinking, okay, like losing weight by not eating is one thing,

but like, how about like how we live our life or enjoyment of food, our good habits, all of those things, right? And so I now it's opened up this conversation to really be what it needs to be. That weight loss is so much more than calories in, calories out. In fact, that is not it at all. So there's a lot of great podcasts, a lot of people out there talking about how to just, I don't want to say self-help, but self-realize. Self-realize because no one's helping you at the end of the day.

It's self-help. You're the one who has to do the work, right? I love that Worthy book. What's her name? Jamie Kern Lima. I was actually, I ran into her stuff. I followed her for years. And so I, when I was off, I think with my back or just getting back, she was doing this

day long kind of conference on YouTube, obviously to promote her book, but she had Oprah, she had like, she had a whole bunch of speakers, motivational speakers, come on and join her. And I thought, oh, what's this? Like, I feel worthy. I feel worthy of, you know, me time. I feel worthy of being successful. I have worthy. Apparently I don't. Apparently I don't. See, the thing is, is I thought if you didn't feel worthy, you weren't successful. You weren't this, you weren't that. The reality is a lot of people who are very successful don't actually feel worthy of their success. Or for, you know, someone doing the program, you don't feel worthy of looking your

best. You don't feel worthy of feeling your best, right? Like maybe when you got glammed up one time, someone said to you, why are you so, why are you so dressed up? Where do you think you're going? Right? And then you don't feel worthy of like celebrating yourself and getting dressed up. So be open. There's a lot of great resources out there, but I love that worthy book. It's a, it's definitely a good one. She had this great series. She has actually a lot of great conversations on YouTube. I highly suggest that's her whole thing is feeling worthy. And I thought being a successful person that I didn't need to hear that. It turns out I did. I did. Janine, good morning. Bike to school week with the kids. And I legit feel so amazing, even with downsizing. Can't believe how much energy I

have. Yeah. So a couple of things going on. I love this because it's not just a whole vibe. Like, isn't that, isn't that what we wanted? We wanted to have kids. We wanted to have fun with them and whatever. And then it turns out we were just so tired. But this time of year, you're going to notice with this time of year, the days are longer. Your body's pulling you out of that natural hibernation mode in the winter with your lower vitamin D levels. It doesn't, it does kind of slow your ass down. And that's why you don't feel very productive in the wintertime because your body is literally let's winter let's shut her down. And then as the days get longer, and this is this is something that naturally happens. This is why like the fish swim upstream to spawn. This is why the geese fly south. Like this is just an instinct that our bodies have.

And so with this time of year, your body has been pulling you out of that winter hibernation mode. This is why when you, and adjusting your body temperature too, this is why, you know, when that first heat wave comes, like at least here in Canada, everyone wears shorts because it seems so hot, but it's not hot compared to how hot it's going to get because your body's not used to, it hasn't regulated its body temperature yet, but it's giving you more energy. And what your body does is like, okay, let's get rid of that winter weight that we would have gained for the winter time. Cause as your vitamin D levels drop and it gets colder, your body's more inclined to store fats. This is why you have to eat those heavier,

heartier foods in the winter time. That's why you're tweaking what you're eating season to season. And so now your body's giving you more energy. And so this is where, you know, you maybe want to swap out some of those heavier carbs, bump up your fruit intake. Remember, we had that whole summer seasonal tweak post, right? Make those adjustments. I've seen a lot of people saying, can I have more fruit? So you can, you still want to go high protein for breakfast, but you can add like some fruit to breakfast if you want. Obviously, your fruit snack is still fruit, but that'll be changing as we go. You can add some fruit to lunch like berries on a salad, some grilled pineapple in in in for for dinner and whatnot, decrease those heavier carbs and make it so much easier for your body to get the energy that it needs. So that's a little swap

up. Also, just where you are at in the program, and we talked about this with Dr. Alinka, your body gets in this reserve mode where it feels like it needs this fat. It will not allow you access to utilize those fat reserves. And that's why I'd rather burn through muscle than it would burn through fat. This is why it's so important to lose weight in a healthy way. And so your body's actually giving you more energy because you've been consistently giving it what it needs to sustain a nice high metabolism. So your metabolism is the amount of energy your body basically is using and giving you each day. So that's why it's normal at this point to be like, oh shit, I feel like going for a run. I don't run. Who am I? Like you almost feel bajiggity. That's the word I use to describe it. You're like, I gotta, I gotta do something. And you

almost get annoyed if you can't do something. And this is where all that time in your brain, you're like, I'm going to go for walks. I'm going to go, I'm going to start running. I'm going to start playing tennis. I'm going to start playing pickleball. I'm going to start riding my bike, whatever. Before when your body's feeling you need to store fat, your brain was like, I know that would just be so good for me. And the feeling would be amazing. But your body's like, yeah, no, no, thank you. No, thanks. We're not doing that. No, we don't have the energy. We're not doing that. Even though you obviously are carrying around a shit ton of excess energy. So it's a great time to put those running shoes on, get on your bike, get out there, start swimming, do something, and do something out of your comfort zone even.

Like it's just so stimulating for your brain, honestly. So good, so good, so good. I just started medication for anxiety that reduces my appetite, so I'm losing but feel it's cheating. I'm glad I developed these good habits beforehand. Okay, so yes and no. So what suppresses your appetite is your GLP-1. We talked about that. So this is your GLP-1. This is also where you add leafy greens and stuff to the program like GLP-1 is built, supporting your GLP-1 is built into the program. We actually talked about that I think on the leafy green post when it comes to detoxing. So GLP-1 is a chemical, and we talked about this with Dr. Olinka yesterday, that decides when you've had enough, right? There's your leptin, there's your ghrelin, there's your I'm hungry, and then there's your satisfied, and then there's that GLP-1 feeling. And so that is what floods with your body and says, okay, I'm good. I've had enough. I've had

enough. So with a new weight loss medications, what they're doing is they're injecting that. And then rather than staying in your system for like a minute after you eat, it's staying in your system for a whole week and suppressing your appetite. Antidepressants that you take are a little bit, they're not like that, actually. It's what they're doing is they're calming your mind. They're calming your body down. So you might not notice, you might note it might not notice, or you might notice that before when you have when you're anxious, you're revving all the time, you're just constantly you're stressing. I mean, you're not shaking, but you are sometimes,

sometimes, and you're just constantly in a state of like, yeah, internally. So that takes a lot of energy and stresses your body out. So when you're addressing that, and you're allowing your body to relax, you're almost decreasing your energy output. And that's not the kind of energy and stresses your body out. So when you're addressing that, and you're allowing your body to relax, you're almost decreasing your energy output. And that's not the kind of energy output you need. Right? That's not I mean, start swimming, going for walks, whatever, you will notice your appetite come back, it's just a different type of calming you down. Plus, at this point, guaranteed, you're still eating way more food than you need. And so this could be a combination of like what you said, you doing the program up to this point, addressing your body's needs are kind of reconciling that,

putting you more in tune with your body's needs. And then when you add that in to really help calm down and take that edge off, you're actually noticing a lot of your hunger was driven by anxiety. A lot of your hunger was driven by the fact that you weren't getting sleep because you were like, you know, up in the middle of the night, right? A lot of your hunger was driven by the fact that you weren't getting sleep because you were like, you know, up in the middle of the night, right? A lot of your anxiety was based because your cortisols were all fucked up and out of whack. And that was actually driving your hunger levels. So now your body's actually having an opportunity to calm down or calming down that vagus nerve. And you're actually like, oh, I'm okay. You're going to really realize towards the end of the program, we eat way too much food. We just eat, we've gotten out of control with our portions,

with how much we're used to consuming. It's not us in this program when you're feeling satisfied on one to two eggs and then you go to a breakfast restaurant. Are you fucking kidding me with those portions? Right? Like my kids love them. They're like, oh my God, this is amazing. But it's not us that are eating weirdly. It's everybody else that can eat the three eggs with the two stacks of pancakes, plus the extra sausage, plus the slice of toast with the thing. And then that's just breakfast. So we talk a lot with Dr. Alinka how our bodies are wired on is still a very primitive level do you think

that we would have been eating like breakfast lunch dinner huge massive meals all day long no now mind you are we living longer than ever yes absolutely i mean i'm sure part of that has to do with our you know vaccines that are being created and know, the way that we're living our lives and nutrient rich foods and access to this and access to medication and, and healthcare. But our bodies still function on a very primitive level. So by the end of the program, we're going to do this thing called personalizing the plan, which is really about you're still following the program. And then you're checking in at every single meal and snack time assess your situation. And some people are wowed by the fact that there are days that they're not really all that hungry in fact there are days that some of you are downsizing and you're not even hungry even

with eating less you're noticing it so so i i think amanda with the work that you've done the combination and the medication that you're taking you it's just you're kind of meeting yourself in the middle and that that would be my assumption of what's happening with you. Listen to my first spill the tea yesterday and Kim's story was just what I needed to hear. I love the advice she shared and being in in the mid program feels I woke up feeling committed as ever ready to maximize and focus on downsizing this week as much as possible. Thank you, Kim and Gina for these real and honest conversations. Yeah, so you're so everyone has their own individual story, but also a very similar story because it's dieting and it's weight loss. And that's what has us all connected here. And so many of our guests I spoke

to along the way started dieting at 12. Right where it was Kim and her liquid diet because her friend someone suggested she was chubby and their mom's like, let's do a diet. I mean, right? Where it was Kim and her liquid diet because her friend, someone suggested she was chubby and their mom's like, let's do a diet. I mean, that was like, if you are sort of my age, dieting was very cool back then. It was something that we just freely talked about. There was no stigma attached to it. Like I remember when I was in high school, I did not need to lose weight, but neither did my friends. And we all did this, like we did every, some of the craziest diets. I think it was just something that we did socially or bonded or see how long we could go without eating or, you know, the chocolate, the hot chocolate diet that I did where we just have

hot chocolate every day. And that was it, you know? And so whether you've been through trauma, right? Like traumas in your life, reasons why your weight has gone up and then down. And I was speaking to someone yesterday. I'm going through those, you know, when we did like giveaway sessions with me. So I'm doing the sessions and it's my favorite thing to do. And I was saying to the person I was helping yesterday that it's never about the food, really. It's never about the food, really. It's about all the other things, right? It's about all the other things. So when you can find ways to connect and then also believe, oh, they did that. That happened to me. This happened to me, too. This happened to me.

Oh, my gosh, that's me. Okay, I can relate with this. It deepens your belief. It deepens your belief that you can do this this too. And that's why the conversations are so important. That's why the conversation, the conversations with our guest experts is that deeper level of understanding. It creates so many aha moments. Oh, oh, oh, oh shit. Okay. Like you've been told not to eat at night because of calories. It's not about the fucking calories. It's about your cortisol levels and your melatonin and your body winding down, prepping for a sleep. It's about when you go to bed with a belly full of food, your body has to work on processing and digesting. So you don't get that deep sleep. It's about the fact that if you

don't get that deep sleep, you wake up the next day and you're hungrier than normal. And you're craving carbs and sugar and your metabolism is lower and your body processes your foods differently. That's what it's about. So when you listen to our guest expert conversations, if you're not, you're totally missing out. And then also our amazing Spill the Tea, our real members. So on Mondays, we highlight our Livvy Loser Spotlight with Patsy this week. It's just down 62 pounds. Amazing. And like we don't pay people.

That's really important. We don't pay people. We don't pay our guests. These are not paid people. They are literally sharing their very personal and profound story in the hopes of actually inspiring people. Right? And so our spill the tea conversation, I just think the right thing said at the right time can be make or break.

You want to know why? Because how many of us have a story where someone said something to us long ago and it affected our whole life and how we live, right? Affected our whole life and how we live. Sometimes for the better and sometimes not so much, you know? So I love that. I love that you took the time. And I'm so grateful to all of our members who take the time to share honestly. After a week of feeling like I have not been doing good, I had a one pound drop today, it always helps bring me back the drive to keep going. Okay, so this is where I would rewind and be like, why did you think you weren't doing good? Is it because the scale wasn't moving? Right? Like, take the scale as a tool. And so this is an opportunity to reframe. So connect that mindset, take the scale out of it, take the 1.4 pounds out of it, go back to how you felt, think about all the things that you've done, and have it be, oh, look at all the things that I did. And this is what happened, right? So that you want to reconnect

those thoughts and feelings because you're probably like doing the things and being like, oh, I'm not doing good this week because the scale's not down. But in reality, you were probably doing the best that you possibly could. You're probably kicking ass and, and maybe it felt like you couldn't do all the things, but you were still doing a lot of things, right? Still doing a lot of things. It's about connecting it and taking that scale out of it, taking that scale, taking that scale out of it. I am listening to the, oh, that's you, Pam. Hi, Pam. That's where I started. Hey, this halfway point, proud of us for hanging in there and continuing to show up. Yeah,

a lot of people you've been doing a diet for longer than you ever have. Hi, a lot of so excited broke the 200 pound barrier today. Down a total 7.4 slow and steady. Yes. So we talked about this with Dr. Alinka yesterday, not that weight loss has to be slow, but if you're noticing that your weight loss is slow, why is that? And if hormones are playing a role, slow and steady is amazing. Slow and, because here's the thing too, because we're going to talk about this in maintenance. People who do slow and steady spend less time in maintenance. They have less work to do because they're doing the work along the way. Whereas you can have someone who crushes it, reaches their goal in one program or two, and then they struggle more in maintenance because it takes more for their body. They have to solidify that way. They get to stop the work

through those issues and associations. I mean, every now and then we get a person who's never dieted ever. Like they're all, I think there's like, I don't know, like 2% of the people who sign up or something like that. Every now and then we get people like, this is the first diet I've ever done. I'm like, lucky you. Wow. That's amazing. I think that's pandemic related because I think people's lives radically changed during the pandemic and people gained weight during the pandemic that wouldn't normally have gained weight because all of a sudden they were stressed and all of that. And, you know, so every now and then we get someone, but for most people, right? Like the, the, what is really good is one to two pounds a week. That one to two pounds a week is amazing. Now, some people lose one to two pounds a week. Some people lose nothing for four weeks and they lose four

pounds in a week, right? Like that's, that's how it happens for some people. Now it wasn't that you just lost four pounds in one day. What you were doing over those four weeks led into your weight dropping four pounds, right? So that's the average. I mean, the average is anywhere from 12 to 16 loss per program. Obviously, we have people who have more to lose, and they lose way more than that. We have people losing 40, 60 plus pounds. Obviously, there are people who have more to lose, but their bodies are healthier in a sense that they don't have the issues that some other people are dealing with. Right. If you're looking for flexible workouts, Peloton's got you covered. Summer runs or

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I almost wishing my scale wasn't down this morning because there was no punishment for sabotaging myself last night with those late night snacks. Such a, such a mind crap shoot. Still working through that. Okay. I could not love this more. Okay. Let's unpack this. Thank you for sharing. So what did, so what I want you to learn, what I want you to learn is like, okay, so a couple of things you wanted those snacks. So remember, so my God, this is so, okay, so a couple things. You wanted those snacks. So remember, so my God, this is so good. There's a couple things going on here. Obviously, you're extra hungry last night because your body's in detox, which is why the scale dropped. So that's where you have to be like, okay, it's not normal to be hungry this late at night. Am I being triggered?

Is this a habit? Or is my weight about to drop? Right? That's something to get excited about. Okay, so I think, how am I feeling? What's going on? Am I feeling a little bloated? Like what's happening? You know what I mean? So obviously you're extra hungry because your weight is about to drop. So that's one. Okay. We're reminded to two is like, okay, so you had the popcorn and chocolate because you probably thought it was going to be fun, bring you joy, whatever. Did it, right? Did it bring you joy? Like let's, free wines. You had the popcorn chocolate. Did you actually enjoy it? Or were you like riddled with guilt the whole time you're eating it? Oh, I shouldn't be eating this. One more handful. Why am I eating this? I should stop eating that. Well, I've already

fucked it over now. I might as well grab some chocolate. I just have one piece. Now I've had 10. Now I've ate the whole thing, whatever. Oh my God. Did you lie in bed thinking, oh my God, I'm so fat. I've ruined everything. I'm the worst. Blah, blah, blah. You get up on the scale this morning and you're like, oh my God, you know, my scale. Now it wasn't up. It was down. So now it's a conundrum. Is that how you use that word? I'm not really sure. So you were expecting the scale was to be up. So then you were going to punish yourself. So you didn't do that again, but you got fucked because guess what? The scale's down. So now what the fuck do you do with that? What do you do with that? Right? You're all confused. What the fuck?

So here's, so here's the thing. This is why you don't need to punish yourself. And since when is punishing ourselves, berating ourselves? Like, sure. Okay. So then what were you going to do? You're going to eat, you're just going to not eat all day, punish yourself, right? Like that's, you know, go run, go burn off the fat. Like since when has that ever worked for anybody, right? So now here's what I want you to do. I want you to get to a place. So I want you to rewind those feelings and reconnect them, right?

So, okay, I was hungry last night. Why? Probably because I was heading into detox, right? Maybe you also had a stressful day. Maybe you also had a stressful day and you were just lying there and you're like, fuck me, my fucking life. Oh my god, what a day I had. And you just were like stressed. And you're like, I just want to have some popcorn and I want to have some chocolate. Okay, so you're gonna have popcorn, you're gonna have chocolate, you're gonna allow yourself to I'm gonna have a bowl of it, I'm gonna enjoy it. Right now. Did you just bring the whole bag to bed or to the couch? Right? You could put it in

a bowl. Was there a way that you could have done that differently? A few pieces of chocolate, put some popcorn in the bowl and then be like, you know what? I am just going to really enjoy this and then have that popcorn again and enjoy it. Right? Like, ah, God, this is so yummy. I love popcorn, butter popcorn. I love the chocolate combination. This is so yummy. Pay attention to what's going on in your brain, right? Take time to enjoy it. This is a nice treat. I love that. This is totally fine to have every now and then, you know, and then that's it. And then you would have got up this morning and your weight would have been down. And what'd you learn? You learned that if you have the popcorn and chocolate, you didn't ruin anything. You didn't ruin anything. Didn't ruin anything. You're still going to reach your goal. That's it. Didn't ruin anything. Now,

if you went through the whole rigmarole that I said, right, I want you to recognize that you have work to do on that mental part, because I want you once you're done losing your weight to be like, Oh, I'm going to have some popcorn and chocolate tonight and enjoy that and actually enjoy that. And then when you wake up the next day, even if the scale is up and you feel all salty, cause it was super salty and your eyes don't open. You're like, that was so yummy. Oh, why do I feel like this today? Oh shit. Yeah. I had that popcorn last night. Oh, so good. That was so good. That's it. Right? So it's not about controlling. It's not about willpower. It's not about punishment. It's about how your brain is wired and connected. So you were going for a dopamine hit, right? Like you

wanted to pick me up. You're maybe feeling down, maybe cross, like a little bit of hunger happening too. So it all felt like the perfect combination. I'm going to have that popcorn and I'm going to have that chocolate. And then you went, Ooh, feel good, crash, then punish yourself, berate yourself, all of that. That's a vicious cycle. That's not really, you didn't really get joy from eating that. Now the dopamine hit comes before, and this is why I love the Atomic Habits book. It explains this. A lot of times the triggers to habits are connected to a dopamine hit that you get before you even eat the food. It's not even the eating of the food. It's like, ah, I'm going to eat this. It's going to be good. I'm going to enjoy it. Yummy. But then you eat it and then it's just like, you don't enjoy it. And then you feel like shit afterwards,

right? So this is a perfect opportunity. But if you go the punishment route, the berating route, why do I do this? You do that because you're probably extra hungry because your body was heading into detox. You're probably triggered by something maybe you saw on TV or you're triggered by the habit because that's normally what you do. You watch a movie and what were you doing? Stayed up late. So you're tired. When we're tired, we're looking for a pick me up, right? And your body's like, Hey, yo, I see you're still awake. Yeah, you're still awake. Okay. Maybe we should think about eating if you're going to stay up, you know, any longer. So that's why, right? So that's, you got to figure out why did I do that? That is why you did that. And there's nothing wrong with doing that, which is now this, I don't think,

I don't think me telling you this is giving you the okay to snack every night. Because what's going to happen if you snack every night, you're gonna have shitty sleep, you're gonna have shitty sleep, you're gonna wake up extra hungry, you're, you know, your body's gonna process your foods differently, your body won't have time to repair and rebuild, regenerate and juven night, you're going to have shitty sleep, you're going to have shitty sleep, you're going to wake up extra hungry, you're, you know, your body's going to process your foods differently, you won't, your body won't have time to repair and rebuild, regenerate and rejuvenate, you won't see the results that you want on the scale. So I think, you know, you understanding the reality of that, and you not punishing yourself is not going to lead to you reinforcing that behavior. What is going to do actually the opposite is, oh, I understand, that's why I did that. Oh, I didn't actually get what I wanted out

of eating that. Oh, it didn't really make me feel great the next day. So that's not really working for me anymore. So then tonight when you're lying there and you're extra hungry, what's going on with me? Oh yeah. And my weight is still dropping because my scale was down today. What can I do? Have some water. Maybe I can have some tea, right? Like I want to feel, how did I feel yesterday when I did have that? I didn't feel great. I don't want to feel like that again. I don't want to feel like that again. And then, so that is going to make you more, more likely to not repeat that behavior, right?

To know what and how you want to feel and to know how you don't want to feel. That's why thinking on that is rewiring and reconnecting your brain, rewiring rather than it happened, let it go. I'm not a big fan of it happened to let it go. I'm not a big fan of it happened to let it go. Why did it happen? Right? What could I have done differently? Right? What was my thought process when it did happen? And so this is because we are not going to stop eating snacks at night. We're not going to stop having popcorn when we go to the movies. We're not going to stop using food to celebrate amazing, awesome

events or wonderful things happen in our lives. So this is about learning to reconnect with food. It's okay even still if you use food to cope, but make choices that make you feel good. And if you're using food to cope, you have to recognize I'm making a conscious choice to use this food to cope, then operate yourself afterwards. So there is a way even you can utilize food to cope with things when you're feeling emotional. Like if you want to have some ice cream, because you're having a poor me pity party, and that's totally okay, nothing wrong with that. But what you can't do is have that ice cream and then rag on yourself and punish yourself the next day, because that's not self care. That's not loving. That's not being

understanding to yourself, right? So it's about reconnecting with food in these new ways. In new ways. Hi, Sandy. I'm waiting to go in the audience for the TV show, The Good Stuff with Mary Berg. She's great. Isn't she a whole vibe? You'll have to watch for me. Well, she's a whole vibe. I love her. I love her. I walk two miles a day. Once in a while, I don't, but I just think of your advice regarding keep going. And one day is only one day. Yeah. Right. And we don't have to put all these pressures on ourselves. We can be, we can be like, I didn't have the best day yesterday. It wasn't a great day. I was feeling great, excited to come back to work. Didn't have a great day. I was not good at all.

I had some moments where it was amazing, like spending time with someone and helping them. Like I had moments and then I had other moments and I'm just as feeling like, Oh my God, here we go again. Um, and, uh, yeah, I should, I should really, I should rewind that whole situation and feel more compassion for myself yesterday. Right? Like by the time I went to bed at nine 30, I had a headache. I just was like, so done. I was like, you know, and it's just cause like, I'm, I'm working on, I'm working on me and you know, there's going to be good days and not so great days. And I should show myself compassion for that. Not rag on myself because I didn't get my 91 days in. But I'm getting it in twice a day. Not because I'm punishing myself. Not because I'm punishing myself, but I'm prioritizing myself because I love swimming. This morning when I got in the pool,

I'm like, I love this. It's like totally my happy place. I haven't been in the pool for a few months. Membership expired and not renewing until September. Would rather swim in the lake. I love a good lake swim. I love a good lake swim. You know what I think is so funny about having a pool, like, because I will swim in a lake. I'll swim in a swamp. My kids, like, we used to live on a lake that was pretty, like, there's tons of weeds and fish and whatever. They'd be out there all day, every day. We'd be swimming around. I'd paddleboard. We'd jump in. Like, it's like, but, you know, I go in my pool and there's one fly. I'm just like, one leaf, one fly. And I'm like, you know, could you imagine what's in a lake? I love lake swimming. I love lake swimming. There's't know what that means. I don't know what you're trying to say there. I've had numerous people I know join and not follow through and quit. Yeah. Okay. That's okay. This program is not for everybody. Like I, I am the worst salesperson

of my program because I don't want you to join if you are not ready. I actually care about people losing weight. I get stressed out when people are frustrated. My team puts their heart and soul. It's a very emotional job for them because they really want you to be successful. And you know, the things that people say when they're not ready are always, are sometimes not that nice. And this isn't working and whatever. And we know, we know, you know, it will work for them. But you can, you can't convince somebody to make change. You can't convince someone to care more. You can't want more for them than they want for themselves. So what you can do is be like, hey, like sharing is caring. And that's where it stops for me.

Sharing is caring. Like the sale. I'm letting you guys know if you want to sign up, I'm going to do it for 60 bucks. Sharing is caring. I'm not trying to pressure you into it, whatever, right? Like sharing is caring. And so once, once, once you've shared that you've done your job, right? You've done your job. Um, last I talked to someone who wanted to do WW, I shared lots of info on the LM and told her it's not a quick fix. No, it requires work. I never heard from them again. Yeah. And also like people, people, if they don't follow through, it's their own issues and they might be embarrassed by that. They might, there's a lot of fields. Oh my gosh, you guys, you know, how do we feel after all of the years of failed diets? How many people we talked to Sharon Burton, Rob, for example, a high Sharon, if you're, if you're listening and watching, she's lost 163 pounds. She didn't tell anyone she was doing the

push. That's a good spill the tea, by the way, you should go back and listen to. She didn't tell anyone that she was doing the program because she had her own feels and ways about it, right? She's done the diets before she's done that. She didn't feel like she wanted to share, you know, what's going on. There's a lot of feels in and around losing weight right now. And people are really messed up even how to talk to it. That's one thing that the diet industry has done. They've made it so we can't talk about diets anymore. The diet industry is bigger than ever, yet nobody is talking about it. No one is talking about it because they're afraid to talk about it because you can't promote diets and then you shouldn't want to diet. You should just love yourself. And then what if you do lose weight and then people

think you're sick or you do lose weight and people think you've taken drugs. Who the fuck cares at the end of the day, right? But we do sometimes. We do sometimes. So here's what you can do. You share, hey, I'm doing this great program. I think it's amazing. If you want to check it out, there you go. I think it's not for us to judge what other people are doing, right? Like I think it's amazing. If you want to check it out, there you go. I think it's not for us to judge what other people are doing, right? Like, I think that's really important if they want to go do like, so I've worked with a lot of people who they're, you know, they're working with me and their ways may be slower to move. They're like, but my friend Sally is doing keto or intermittent fasting. She's already lost 20 pounds. I'm like, yeah, yeah, yeah. Just, just wait, just wait, just wait,

just wait. Right. And then I don't know my friend. I saw my friend Sally the other day and gosh, she's lost so much weight. Okay. All right. Great. Just wait. And by the time I am finished with my clients, Sally has lost her weight and gained it all back plus more every single time, every single time. I'm like, see, now she's gained all of her weight back plus more tanked her metabolism, burnt, burned through a shitload of muscle mass. And you have gone and lost your weight in a way that you physically healthy, mentally healthy, you are in tune to your body's needs, you know, and then, and then they're like, Oh, okay. Do you know what I mean? And the next thing you know, Sally's asking, so what, what did you do? What did you do? People are weird like that. Like you could lose 60 pounds, look and feel amazing, right? Say you have 10 more pounds to lose. And Sally says to you, Oh, you're still on that diet.

Oh yeah. I got 10 more pounds to lose. Well, I'm doing this diet. You should come try my diet. Why would the fuck would I try your diet when I've just lost I'm doing this diet. You should come try my diet. Why would the fuck would I try your diet when I've just lost 60 pounds doing my diet? So everybody feels like that about their own diets and everyone has their perception of what works for you. So I've worked with so many people. There's a, there's a diet place called Bernstein here locally, whenever I think it's clinics. And I would work with people who'd be like, you know, I, the only thing that ever works for me is Bernstein. I'm like, Oh yeah, yeah. It's the only thing that works for me. I'm like, whenever. I think it's clinics. And I would work with people who'd be like, you know, the only thing that ever works for me is Bernstein. I'm like, oh yeah. Yeah. It's the only thing that works for me. I'm like, okay. So how many times have you done Bernstein? Five. Five. Oh yeah. I lost 80 pounds. And then the next time I did it, I lost 70 pounds. The next time I did,

I whatever. I said, so how much weight did you have to lose? Well, I only had like 80 pounds to lose. So, so you lost it and then you gained it back. Yeah. Yeah. I gained it back. I said, so how much weight did you have to lose? Well, I only had like 80 pounds to lose. So you lost it. And then you gained it back. Yeah, yeah, I gained it back. I could, I just, I gained it back. And I wasn't doing this and wasn't doing that. And so then you did it again. Yeah, I did it again.

And then I lost weight again. And then, oh, okay. You know, in the meantime, I had my gallbladder removed and my hair fell out and went, that's fine, whatever. But it's the only thing that works for me. If you have to do that fucking diet five times, it's not working for you. Now the living method is different because the way we structure the program, you want to do as many rounds as you need until you reach your goal. And then that

also doesn't mean sometimes we, you know, we're really great. We lose our weight and then we fall back into old habits, right? And then people come back and they're like, oh shit, my life fell apart. I fell back into old habits. I gained some weight back, you know, and then they, they dropped back down. And then the end game is reaching their goal in a way they're going to be able to maintain and sustain. So, so people really feel stuck on diets that worked for them before. And then you, you add in, everyone is so used to that quick fix. Everyone loves that dopamine hit of that quick fix. You lose that weight quick. They forget once they lose that initial weight, they can't go past that. Or when they do, they have to starve and deprive, eat less, exercise even more, and then they forget the part that they gain it all back, right?

So what people do is that they give praise to those diets, that diet worked for me, that's how I lose weight. And then when they gain it all back, they blame themselves, then blame themselves, well, how come you gained it back? Oh, I just, you know, I didn't do this, I didn't do that. No, I just ate or I had a piece of fruit, gained all my weight back, you know? So I totally get that. If you can imagine, I go places and I listen to people talk about their cleanse, their teas, their ketos, their whatever. Like, show me someone who's done keto, who's lost their weight, sustained it and doesn't do weird

shit in order to maintain and sustain their weight. I mean, keto works eventually have your high cholesterol and you're just not good for your liver. And it's just like, it's a hot mess, right? Like I, so I, but I don't judge. I'm just like, oh, you do you, you do you, you do Lou totally lost the plot and trying to get my head in the right place, working through the mindfulness and working hard to figure out why I self-sabotage. We have some great conversations with Dr. Beverly. We're going to have more about this. We're going to have some upcoming conversations with her.

But if you go back into our old, well, the older podcast on our Living Method podcast and over on our Way in Regina podcast, and you search, go into our podcast and search Dr. Beverly there, or even Dr. Dina, they, they both talk about self-sabotage in different ways and you can pull up. There's some amazing conversations that we've had about this, but why? Yeah. Right. Are you fear of failure? Oh my God. I can't stomach failing again. So it's a self-fulfilling prophecy. I knew this diet wouldn't work, right? Fear of success. Well, when I do lose my weight, I said I was going to start dating or start in this. I was going to quit my job, I was going to whatever. Like, oh my God,

if I lose my weight, then I'll have to do all these other things, right? Not feeling worthy, right? People, you start losing weight and then you start getting compliments and you don't feel worthy. Feeling like you don't belong, right? You were the fat, funny friend and now you're like getting serious about your life. You're making some serious changes. You want to make change. You start to lose weight and all of a sudden your friends are having a hard time relating. You don't lose any more weight. We love you the way you are. Do you know what I mean?

So then you feel like you don't, where the fuck do I belong? Relationship, where you measure yourself up with other people. What's going on? Changing your lifestyle. Well, I love how I feel when I go for walks and when I eat healthy and whatever. But if I go with my friends who meet up every Friday and they drink and they order burgers and fries, I can't no longer do that because I want to order something healthy for myself. Right?

Like there's so many reasons we sabotage. It's really right. It is for you to figure out. But there's some great resources. There's two posts that we have on sabotage. It's great to read them just to highlight all the different ways that people sabotage themselves. You're like, oh yeah, I'm doing that. Oh yeah, I'm doing that. Oh shit, I am doing this and didn't even notice. More than that though, one of the things that you can do,

and here's what I suggest, and I follow this girl, she does neuroscience, um, she's like a brain expert. And she's like, you have to do the hard things. Like I, I got to make myself go swimming because I love swimming. I love the way it makes me feel. The more, the more I feel like that, the better I'm going to feel, the more likely I'm going to continue to do these types of things. So you, you have to like make yourself kind of do the thing, the hard things. And they don't have to be like, oh my God, hard. But, but if you're sabotaging yourself, setting your intentions, setting your intentions in the morning, like just, it takes so little time. Today, I'm going to focus on water. I'm going to, and not like bombard yourself and give you a list of, it's not a to-do list. It's not a to-do list,

right? It's setting your intentions. I am going to try to be more calm. And then what do you, what do you do to be more calm? Take no more deep breaths, go for a swim, go for a walk. I'm going to try to be more in the moment, right? Like, so, and even if you fail miserably at the things that you want to do, you are, you are bringing this whole process to the forefront of your mind. You're waking up in the morning saying, I am doing this. And these are the things within that, that I am focusing on. And then you also want to do before you go to bed at night is reflect on your day. Okay. I woke up and I wanted to focus more on drinking. Well, how did I do? Okay. I didn't do great. Why? Well, cause I was on the road and I forgot my water bottle or I don't have a water bottle. Maybe I had water. I don't want to use

recycled like plastic ones. So I don't want to do that. So then go and get yourself a nice water bottle. Okay. Set yourself up for success. Oh, I wanted to be in the moment today. Then why wasn't I? Well, cause I scheduled myself like a crazy person and just didn't have time. I just went from one thing to the next, the next, next. Okay. What can I do? Can I, in the moment that I'm driving from one meeting to the next or picking up my kid, focus on some deep breathing exercises. Maybe I will set my alarm when I'm going to pick up my kid tomorrow that says, remember your deep breathing exercises. So it's not berating yourself. Oh, you didn't do what you said you're going to do. You fucking loser. It's not that it's, it's like, okay, I'm waking up. I'm saying to the world, this is what

I'm still here. I am still on a mission to lose my weight. These are the things I'm going to focus on today. And then at the end of the day, you're going to be like, okay, what did I do really well today? Right. I got my water in check. Amazing. Good for me.

Pat myself on the back. What, what did I not do so great at today? How could I better set myself up for success tomorrow? If you just do those two things, guaranteed you're going to show up. And before you know it, you're going to feel so good about what you're doing or so self-aware that you're going to start doing things that make you feel good. And then when you are aware of the things that you're making that make you feel good, you continue to, you are more likely to continue to do them. And that is going to get you back. The action is going to get you centered again. The action is going to give you

the plot back. That's what it's going to do. It's not, you can't sit there and be like, okay, you can, you can assess your why and remind yourself why you signed up. Sure. You can do that. That's really important to you. You can go back and reflect on, you know, what you don't want in your life anymore. You can visualize how you want to feel, you know, a month from now, two years from now, one year from now, whatever that works too. But in terms of an action plan, now you could use those intentions and you can just point out what you're grateful for. Like maybe you're just having a really hard time in life right now. And you just, I'm like, maybe it's not doing the things. It's just like,

just be even showing up. Right. So then be proud of yourself. Today, I'm going to show up for myself and I'm going to be grateful about the fact that I'm alive today. That's easy. Step one, I am alive today. I'm grateful about that. Step two, I have a car. I can afford a car, maybe just barely, but I have a car that I get to drive to and from work every day. I have, you know, amazing co-workers. I have a couple of really great friends at work that make going to work a really joyful experience to me that are always great for giving me a few laughs. My kids are safe, right? I, my, everyone in my family is safe right now. And you know, like it doesn't have to be weight loss related stuff. It just gets your brain wired in a way that you are like, you're grounding yourself. This is what's happening in your life. You are

grateful to be here. It's going to like leave you feeling a lot less stressed in a more positive mindset in which you're more likely to make choices that fall in line with your goals. You know, I love the self-awareness of this. This is what I love about this program. It's the self-awareness. And you know what I love is that you came in here and you declared that that's like, what's so fucking awesome. Cause you've just done that. So, right. So you just do what you did today, but you do it in little ways. I'm declaring, this is where I'm at. I feel like I lost the plot. I, you know, I got to get back in the game. I love that. That's like, that's not, that's not to me. That's to you. That's to the universe, right? Where you're saying that

you're saying, I'm back, bitches. I got this. I'm going to be all in. I'm going to do the things I need to do. I want this. I am here. I am, you know, I may not feel like I'm doing my best, but you are here and you are doing the things. Round four, up and down by little bits this round. But as of today, I'm at my lowest low this round with four pounds gone. Hi, Suzanne. That's amazing. I'm feeling lighter in my skin and I have a definite skip in my step when I walk. Shouting it out from the rooftops, a big four gone. Yes. Shout it out. Be proud. Be proud. Didn't lose one ounce after one day of clear fluids and the cleanse for colonoscopy. Maybe the sugar in the juice and jello. Back to healthy eating today, my body will be healthier. Yeah. So you wouldn't lose anything in a day

by having a juice cleanse. I mean, if you did, it would just be like they, cause they cleaned your system out. It's no different than having a poop first before you get on the scale kind of thing, right. But it's good that you, you know, you also must be, you know, your mind is clear. You had your colonoscopy. You're good, right? Your body will be happier for it. I love that. Why do we think we need to beat ourselves up to do things? I don't. So one of like, so one of the things that I think if you say you want pizza, eat the pizza, okay, but we feel we need to beat ourselves up. When we don't do it again, why do why do the thing that we keep doing and do it again. So I think there's a couple things in the diet industry, like you're told, especially people go into those meetings and stuff. Well, if you've gained weight, look at the biggest loser. Okay. So you know that show, the biggest loser. So I used

to watch this and these are people who have a lot of weight to lose. And I'm thinking, and they get on the scale that week and they haven't lost a pound or their weight is up. And I am screaming at the TV because everybody thinks it's because they ate the donuts. You're not working hard enough. You're not doing this. You're not doing that. But what was happening? They were overtraining. They were overtraining. Their bodies were sore. They were under eating. I used to scream at the TV. I used to get so mad because I'm like, it's not because he's eating donut. Look at this. He should be able to eat a donut and still be able to lose weight. This is such fucking bullshit.

But if people would like get on you this and you that you go to the, you go to weight watchers, right? Your weight is up. They take your pin away. Your lifetime pin gets taken away from you because your weight is fluctuate up a few pounds when literally it could be because you did a workout. You had a crappy sleep. You had salty food, you didn't drink enough water. And we know that your weight fluctuates fluctuates all day long. Like if you weigh yourself in the morning versus at the end of the day, some of you might be up like seven pounds, you didn't gain seven pounds in a day. And also depending on when those meetings were, you go to a meeting at four o'clock in the afternoon of 7pm in the evening, your weight is going to be up from what

you registered from a meeting that you went to at nine in the morning, right? We are taught that, you know, plateaus mean that you're not doing what you need to do. Plateaus. Now, if you're on a plateau here, you want any plateaus. Are there things you can do to be proactive? Sure. But probably most of the time, your body just needs time. I also think I come from a work environment where people berated you and yelled at you to make you feel grateful that you had a job so you would never quit, right? Like that was a big thing growing up for me. The way people spoke to each other in work environments was pretty harsh, right? How come you're not doing this?

You're a loser. That's like you're a loser. You're not doing what you need to do. You're not working hard enough. You come on, like, suck it up, buttercup, like, figure it out. Like, you know, we come from a pretty harsh generation. I think, I mean, I don't, I mean, I do, I can look back and be like, why am I so hard? Why am I so hard on myself? Because my dad told me once that second place was not winning. You know, I've shared this before. I remember I was in my kitchen. I was in my first house. So I must've been under, I moved when I was 12, 13. So I must've been like 10, maybe younger. I was so excited. I got second place. I was like, look, I won second place. My

dad's like, you didn't win anything. Second place isn't winning. Winning is number one. And so I have tried to win my whole life because anything other than first place isn't winning. Right? So that's how I've lived my entire life needing to be first place. And then I would, and I'm the kind of person that when I start something, I'm not very good at it. So then I have to ask a million questions and practice. But when I do, when I get it, I get it and I'm the best. That's not a way to live. It's fucked up. It's fucked up. That's why I'm so hard on myself now. That's why I'm ridiculously hard on myself. I put a lot of pressure on it. So I think that's why, and this is where, you know, we're unpacking a lot of that. Why, why am I so hard on myself? And you can go back there too. Wow. When I was raised by someone who said, you know, like my same dad fell off a roof and broke his leg in three places and thought a

beer would fix it. And then he drove himself to the hospital. You know what I mean? Like this is suck it up buttercup, you know, figure it out. So he sucked it up, had a beer and then he figured out and drove himself to the hospital because, but that's, you know, his dad also went to war. His dad was in the war, right? His, his, his, you know, he was born or his, his brother was born in a bomb shelter with bombs going off. Right. And so we have to think back to like, so a lot of the shit that we deal with and why we think that is real deep. So between the diet industry and our, you know, generationally, what's happening to us and things we've experienced and things that were said, we create these, we think this is what we need to do. We have to force ourselves or the way we raise kids too, right? You have to make kids,

like there's something to be said about making kids do something they don't want to do, it creates resiliency. And if you look back, probably, if you look back, probably, I am grateful that my dad said that to me, because I am where I am today. Right? Like, if you look back, this mentality that you have a berating and getting on yourself is probably why you've survived is probably why you are where you are is probably why you've accomplished the things that you've accomplished. But that doesn't mean that you have to do that anymore. So my mom was the kind of person who was like, you're going to get a job, you're going to go, you're going to walk in, you're going to talk to the manager. And then if the manager isn't there, you're going to go back the next day, and then you're going to talk to them again. I feel I can

get any job in the world. I feel like I can have any job in the world because my mom taught me how to get a job. Go talk to the people, do what you need to do, follow up, whatever, right? Like my mom taught me that you're going to do this. You're going to go anywhere. You're going to whatever. And so when I was raising my kids, I just raised them to be happy. It's okay. Don't worry about it. I'll save you. I'll do it for you. And at one point I said to Tony, what the fuck? Like, why are my kids not like me? And he's like, who raised you? And I was like, my mom. And he's like, who's raising your kids? And I'm like, fuck me. I am the way I am because my mom raised me the way she raised me. So grateful, so grateful.

And my kids are the way they are because I'm a helicopter mom. It feels like I need to save them every five minutes, right? But just because you recognize that doesn't mean that I have to be like that anymore, right? So I think it's good to go back and be like, why am I like that? Recognize that that is not just a bad thing that has served its purpose, serves its purpose. But if you're feeling like that, I don't have to do that anymore. Like maybe you had to berate yourself and get on yourself because those diets were hard. You had to eat even less. You had to actually get your fat ass on the treadmill and burn those fucking calories. You're eating too much. You fat pig. Like maybe these are what dieting was hard. You were literally starving yourself and depriving yourself. So you probably had to be outside of yourself and be like, you can do it,

get your ass in gear, that but that you're not doing that kind of diet anymore. So when you're realizing this is about kindness, and compassion, and being supportive, and in tune those other diets, you were outside of yourself, you did disconnected from yourself, because starving and depriving is not natural, right? That's not being in tune. That's the opposite. That's controlling, moderating, making things happen. And sure, you lost the weight, but then you just get it all back plus more. Whereas this is about being in tune. There's no place for control or moderation. It's about being in tune to your body's needs, knowing what you need, understanding where you come from and where you are now and what you need and self-acceptance and self-love because we are learning that that way of doing it was very stressful on your body.

That was a big takeaway from the conversation yesterday with Dr. Alinka. Losing weight that quickly and doing that in an aggressive, get her done, pound the crap out of your body, starve yourself really hard on your body, stressing yourself out, fucking up your hormones. And so if we want to repair ourselves, a lot of you, you need to be driven by healing and reconnecting and, you know, rather than weight loss, even for, for a lot of you, like you're trying to lose weight and you're getting confused because you're trying to figure out, I did it this way that time and I was successful, but now I need to do it this time. Maybe this time you focus on healing, on kindness, on compassion, on prioritizing yourself, on self-love, on being grateful. Like if you feel the energy of that, that's very forward

moving. And then you feel good. I feel good. When I feel good, I want to make good choices. When I feel good, I want to move my body more. When I feel good, I'm mindful to get to bed early because I feel great when I wake up and I've had a good night's sleep. Right? So I don't know how I got on that topic. Um, I gotta go. What, what? 10 Oh three. Thanks for joining me today. Thanks for the conversation. I hope that you are so, um, excited about the fact that you're here today and that you're listening. Give yourself a pat on the back just for that. Uh, I hope that you are excited about the conversations we have yet to have because we are not done. We are so not done. We are just getting into it, just getting

into the guts of the program. Um, the other stuff has been like, just build that foundation, get in tune, la la la. Now it's go time. Six weeks in, it is go time. And not that you have to go harder, which we go deeper. And you know, you don't have to do more. We level up the things that we're already doing. Like that's, that's how we do it. All right, everybody, I got to go. I am back today, 12 o'clock with Kim. We're going to talk about the tweak this week. And then I'm back in the maintenance group today. We do this thing in maintenance called weigh-in Wednesday. It's one of my favorite conversations. So anyway, I'll see you all around. See you tomorrow. Remember that you can download and listen by way of our podcast, The Libby Method.

If you're looking to download and listen or get caught up on any of our guest segments that we've had so far. Okay, now I really got to go. Bye. Have a great day.