The Livy Method Podcast - Livy Method Day 47 - Fall 2024

Episode Date: October 25, 2024

Gina Livy's Facebook Lives from The Livy Method Fall 2024 Support Group hosted on Facebook. This is a recording of the Day 47, 9 AM live. You can find the full video hosted at:https://www.facebook.com/groups/livymethodfall2024Topics covered:We are midway and the bigger picture is coming together!Building our house – The little bits add up to big change in the end.Each round looks a bit different - Why we need those Fresh Eyes.How to see your progress charts and data in the app.The body needs time to process change and solidify our loss – So does our brain!The difference between “eating healthy” and what we are doing with The Livy Method.Confirming that change is happening - Non-Scale Victories for the win!Speaking the truth about how we feel - Own what you need and where you are at.Navigating people’s reactions to our weight loss journey.Tips to get back on track – What do to and what we learn.When life shows up – Tips for meeting yourself where you are at.Layering in and habit stacking – The little bits add up!Name your struggle, honour your feels, but keep following the plan you have made.Maximizing Momentum – New habits and routines are coming together.We are heading to the National Menopause Show this weekend– Hope to see you there!National Women’s Show is happening Nov 8th, 9th, and 10th – We can’t wait to hang out!So many great conversations to come next week – We are in this together with you.To learn more about The Livy Method, visit www.ginalivy.com. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I'm Gina Livy and welcome to the Livy Method podcast. This is where you'll have access to all of the live streams from my 91 day weight loss program. With a combination of daily lives, guest expert interviews and member stories, there is something new almost every day. Miss the morning live? Want to re-listen to one of our amazing guest experts? Well, this is the place. This podcast is hosted on Acast, but it's available on all podcast platforms, including the one you're listening to right now, Spotify, Apple,

and Amazon Music. It is day 47 of the program. It's a Friday, right? It's a Friday. We are rolling into another weekend. We are downsizing. We are midway through the program. We've had a lot of conversations leading up to this point. My goodness, that I'm hoping if you've had an opportunity to watch or listen to them, really understand how everything ties into the program and process. The guest segments that we have, the conversations that we're having, the science Saturday posts that we're rolling out each week really give you a bigger picture and understanding of the program and the process.

There's a lot to it. There's so many layers to it. It's really cool at the end of the program. And I think this is why people are so excited about the living method and truly why we're so successful is because at the end of the program, you're really able to reflect back and be like, okay, wow, I see how it all comes together. Okay. Wow. I did that. And you can break it down into more digestible chunks of time. The 91 days is for a rhyme and a reason. 91 days is there because it takes at least 12 weeks, although the program is 13 weeks,

in order for your body to make change, like really foundational change. It takes at least that long for your efforts to add up, but they're adding up into something concrete. Again, it comes back to that analogy of building your house, right? So you got to plot a land. We give you the tools each week to build your house. You're showing up every day. Some days you're more productive than others. Maybe you also have to take a step away. You don't work on your house on the weekends or you go away on vacations here or there. But at the end, the time that you've spent building your house adds up. There's a foundation,

there's walls, there's windows, there's a roof, there's all of that. So at the end, you're able to see your house and be like, wow, okay, yeah, even though I had days where I couldn't show up and be as productive and get as much done, look what I still accomplished. So given enough time. So it's really cool looking back, but it can be difficult if you are a new member and you don't know what's to come and you're not really sure of how it all works. And you're really kind of stuck in the, like the feels of it. First time around tends to be very physical, trying to get the shit together, keeping up with the tweaks each weeks, you know, tend to be more focused on that scale. What's happening with your body physically.

Second time around, definitely a more mental process. Each time you do the program, it's just as effective physically. We have this whole post called Fresh Eyes. Every time you do a program, you want to show up to it like it's your first time kind of doing the program. Because you can't expect it to work exactly the same. Meaning your pattern on the scale is going to look the same. In fact, one of our members shared their group over group scale, and it was really fascinating.

What was going on in their first program, scale-wise, was different in their second program, was different in the third. Each time, just as successful, but the pattern on the scale is a little different because what you work on this, this group is what you're going to work on this group and you're going to make some real changes. So what you need to work on next group is going to be different because you've already worked on the stuff that you worked on this group. And so second time tends to be a more mental experience because you know, all the physical stuff, you've got the routine down, you know, what's to come

with the tweaks. Like you got that part, right? You know what to eat, you know what's to come with the tweaks, like you got that part, right? You know what to eat, you know what to eat and when you got the maximizing, but tends to be a more mental part of it. Knowing you can do it can get in your way, right? Assuming certain tweaks work better than others can get in your way. So it's really interesting. Sabotage can pop up a lot more the sooner, the closer you get to your goal, right? Is there a way to see our group over group chart? No. So we don't have that feature yet in the app that we're working on it. But if you have been using our app, you can see your complete chart for each group that

you've done. Like if you are using our Living Method app, there's's a lot of real cool features, some people might not even know and you are tracking your weight on the scale. If you just click beside where it says weight check in, if you actually click the scale icon, that will pull up a graph that will pull up a graph. Same with the sleep quality, the body movement, all of that, it'll pull up graphs. What we're working on right now for our app is that you'll be able to see the graph in real time and see all your efforts day to day actually adding up in real time, kind of like the Apple Watch, where you're closing your rings. Obviously, we're not going to do the Apple Watch thing. I don't feel like getting sued by

Apple. But we're going to do our own version where you'll actually be able to see how consistent you are and how that's up kind of like a closing of the rings thing, which will be really cool. We got some new features that we're working on. Okay, I can't believe I finally stopped eating after dinner for the last few days only took 45 days to do that. I don't give up trying on solidifying my weight. Yeah, listen, it can take time. It can take a lot of time. 91 days seems like forever when you're in the middle of it, but it's really not that long of time to address some of the things that we need to address, like habits that you've been doing for like years and years and years and years and years. Once you do catch how good you feel after not eating, I think this is why people when they're older, they're really insistent on not eating after a certain time at

night. They're like, no, I'm not doing it. I'm not, no, I'm not eating late at night. My, um, my ex-husband's, uh, mother, for example, she will not eat late at night. She's like, I'm not doing it. I don't feel well when I eat late at night, I'm not doing it. So she's got to have her dinner as early as possible or she ain't doing it. Um, I think there's a lot of things that by the time we get older, maybe we start to learn, um, the weight loss part of it and really understanding the food choices that you're making, the effect on you physically, right? Like if you're new to that, that can take time to really understand it and enough to work through old habits and create new ones, right? Create new ones, which is really interesting. Feeling like I'm on a struggle bus with self

appearance, but I'm hoping that a good side-by-side comparison picture this weekend will bring me back to real life. Ashley, you look fucking fantastic. I mean, honestly, but here's what I can tell you. I actually saw your latest photo. So I follow Ashley on her Instagram account. I follow a lot of members on, on anyone who has a public account. I don't, I don't request people who are private. I'm assuming you don't want me following you. Um, but I follow Ashley and your latest, I actually just showed it to Tony, uh, a couple of days ago and I was like, wow, wow. So what's happening with you is the weight that you've lost. Your body has actually had time to adjust to as well. And it is happening so fast that your brain is not

catching up. Your brain is not catching up. And so a couple of things, a couple of things after about three months, like you say, you stop losing weight today. After about three months, people will be like, Oh my God, you've lost so much weight. And you're like, No, I haven't. I haven't actually lost any weight. And it'll look like you've lost a lot of weight because this is where you're going to start to settle into your body. Your skin is going to have time to regenerate around your new frame and your brain will have time to actually process all the change. But the feeling that you're having is very, very normal. You just got to give it time for that weight loss to settle, for it to become your new weight, for you to become the new you, like wholly, physically, mentally.

91 days, like I said, is like not a long time, although it can seem like a long time. But the change that you can see happen in that time frame is pretty mind blowing for some people because it's designed to work. It's very systematic. It's low stress on the body. One week leads into the next, leads into the next. One week builds on the next, builds on the next. And you can get a lot of traction and momentum with that. And this is why I always say, if you just followed the basic food plan, eventually you would lose your weight. It's going to take a lot longer. The tweaks each week are purposely designed to get the body's attention, to support it taking action, to really unravel a

lot of the layers mentally and bring up those feels, which is why it can be a challenge and can be a struggle. It's meant to cause you to step out of your comfort zone. How many of you have tried losing weight in a healthy way and you just got frustrated? This isn't working. Look what happens when you go and you eat healthy. Okay. Like imagine someone saying to themselves, okay, I'm going to try to lose weight in a healthy way. And they start eating healthy and their weight goes up, right? Their weight goes up and they start eating healthy and they feel bloated and gross as their weight starts to drop. Even they're just like, this isn't working for me. I'm eating healthy. My weight is going up. I don't feel great. I'm supposed to eat healthy and I don't

feel great. I'm eating healthy. I'm supposed to have that S shape Dr. Oz Oprah poop. What's happening? I'm having all these loose bowel movements. So people are unaware of what really truly healthy weight loss looks like the ups and downs on the scale, look how hard some of our members are having really just accepting that, right? And I understand why. And then physically having the things happen where you're like, I'm eating healthy, I'm supposed to feel amazing. And you know, have these nice poops and, you know, all of that. And people don't understand the realities of what healthy, truly healthy fat loss looks and feels like in comparison to weight loss. Oh, for example, they're trying to eat healthy to lose weight and their body starts to lose it in layers,

which is less stark. You know, you're not losing it in certain areas like you do when you do a deprivation diet, your body will take it from where it least needs it. And so you don't get that huge hit of weight loss off the jump, your body, it doesn't really look, even if you've lost weight, it doesn't look like you've lost weight because you lose it everywhere else in a much healthier way. And so that's why a lot of people don't follow through on losing weight in a healthy way. This doesn't work, right? They don't put enough time into it or understand it at the end of the day, but there is a disconnect that can happen once you've lost your weight. Um, yeah, your transformation is incredible, but so what I want to, what I want to tell you is how you are feeling is normal. Here's what you can do about it. Start focusing in on your non-scale victories. Start

focusing in on your, how shiny your hair is, how glowy your skin is. Start focusing in on those little things. You got to bring attention to what the positive things that you are seeing, the positive things that you are doing. The rest will fall in place. The rest will fall in place. Also, it can make people feel uncomfortable. You are changing. You are changing physically. You are changing mentally. Therefore, you are changing the energy that you are showing up with in life. And other people can notice. You can start to have people comment.

You start to have people say things. And you can start to get attention that you never really asked for, even though you're just looking to lose weight. That can make you feel very self-conscious that you're starting to get this attention and people are looking at you. Maybe you felt like you were invisible before, you were hiding behind your weight, and now that's not the case. And you're getting a different type of reaction and response.

People are treating you differently. And so this can be all very unnerving, very unnerving from a physical perspective and a mental perspective, right? Change is uncomfortable. But just stick with it. You'll get there. Hi, Christy. Hi. This week, I've been listening more to myself and pointing out to another, their idea of support is not supportive at all. Ooh. If you want to know, ask me. Stop assuming you understand without questions. Wow. Huh. Huh. One of my kids said something to me the other day, and they're like, why can't we just say things? Why can't we just say how we feel? And I said,

well, you can, as long as you say anything with love, your intention isn't to be mean. Your intention isn't to upset somebody. But if you feel like there's something that needs to be said or something that you feel you need to express, you should be able to do that with love and how the other person receives it at the end of the day is up to them. This is a conversation literally I just had last night. Like everyone's into free speech and everyone should be able to do everything. Yes, but there's a way you can say things. There's a way to say things and say things with love that are, you know, are meant to get a point across. But I love this. And this is like the, you are changing and the energy that you are putting out there is changing. So I had some friends.

I had some friends and it's important that you say the things that you need to say. It's important that you own who you are and it's important that you put out there in the world what you need. Some people have very supportive people in their life and some people don't have support at all. But rather than cutting off a friendship or relationship or ignoring it, I like to give the person the opportunity to see what they're doing, express how I feel, and maybe they'll change. I had some friends where I had shared in my life, the realities of my life, right? I was in a not a great relationship with my, with my husband at my ex-husband at the time. I was struggling financially. I, um, I had four kids and now I realize I for sure had postpartum

depression. When you think about throwing your kid out the window and you just don't want anything to do with it, that's probably a good sign. Something's going on. Um, love my kids, by the way, I gotta say, but I'm really being honest. I had some dark days. And I shared that with them throughout my friendship. And what happened was, is that eventually, I got my, you know, things, I worked on a lot of stuff. I moved past postpartum, I, you know, my, my, my ex husband at the time, you know, got sick financially, I got back on my feet, we separated and divorced. And I got to a place where I sick financially. I got back on my feet. We separated and divorced. And I got to a place where I was like, okay, back on my feet again.

I wouldn't say get my shit together. I want to say I was back on my feet again. And I learned a lot. I learned a lot through everything that I went through. And I was becoming a new person. I believe in reinventing yourself consciously, but also paying attention to how you are changing through the things that you are learning and how you are evolving in life. And my friends kept treating me like I'm this idiot.

They kept talking to me and treating me like I was a person who wasn't capable or I didn't know better, or they constantly needed to give me advice because I was just sharing honestly how I would feel. And I said to them, I have changed. I have changed. I understand that you've known me for a really long time, but I need you to start treating me like the person I am today. Not the person I was 10, 15 years ago, the person I am today. And they just couldn't do it. They just couldn't do it. And when I say, oh, I have an idea. Well, you can't do this and don't do that and whatever. Like if I, and the friendship ended because it needed to. And if I, Tony and I were just talking about this the other

day, if I remained friends with them, I would not be where I am today because what people say affects you. I would have listened to them. I would have followed their advice. I would have had them blah, blah, blah, blah, blah-ing in my ear. And it was incredibly difficult to let that friendship go. It still hurts me to this day. But it is the best thing that I could have ever done. And you are changing. You are evolving.

Sometimes you need to let go of people around you to open the door to new people who will embrace the new you. We are meant to change. We are meant to evolve. But sometimes what keeps us stuck is us. Is us not owning who we are, not saying the things that we need to say. If something is bothering you and you feel the need to say it, then say it. And I'm going to bring this back to weight loss because what's going to happen is as you start to be successful, people will say things, oh, don't lose any more weight. Well, why not? I clearly have weight to lose. I feel fantastic. I'm really proud of the way I'm going about my weight loss. I've never felt better. I am absolutely going to lose more. Thank you though. Right? Rather than, oh yeah, well, but I'm doing a, you know, what you

say to other people, you are saying to yourself when people say, oh, you're still eating. You're eating a salad again. You still on a diet. Yes, Sally, I'm still on this fucking diet because it's going to take me a lot longer than a couple weeks to lose 60 pounds. Thank you very much. Yes. Is it bothering you that I'm still on a diet? What's your problem with it? Let's talk about it.

Do you have questions about it? People keep nattering at you about it, making comments to say, hey, listen, why don't we talk about this? You seem bothered by the fact that I'm doing a diet. You seem bothered by the fact that I'm losing weight. What's that about? Let's talk about it. I'm still me. Yes fact that I'm doing a diet. You seem bothered by the fact that I'm losing weight. What's that about? Let's talk about it. I'm still me.

Yes, maybe I'm changing. I'm getting more confident. I'm feeling better. I'm really in love with myself right now and the changes that I'm making. I feel great. I'm far from my goal. I'm going to continue to show up every single day and work towards my goals. The things you say to other people are the things that you say to

yourself and are just as much as part of your success as it is what you're eating and when, you know, so I have mad respect for this. I love that. I love that. And if you're not getting the support that you would like from other people, it's worth talking to them about. Maybe they just don't know. On the other side of the stuff that shit people say, sometimes people don't want to jinx you. If they've seen you on your weight loss journey before, they don't want to jinx you. Sometimes they think that, and they believe that the dieting is bad. And if you are being successful, you must be starving yourself. You must be depriving yourself. You must be doing some weird shit, right? Shooting stuff in your ass, taking pills, whatever that is. Not that that's weird, because I actually appreciate

weight loss medications, there's definitely a place for them. But they might assume that that's your and if it is, then there's nothing wrong with you owning that either. Right? But they might be assuming the worst. And this is where they're saying to you, please don't you don't have to lose any more weight. I love you the way you are. You are great the way you are. And that's truth. And you can say, oh, I love you. You're such a great friend. I love that you love me exactly the way I am. I though really would love to make some change, right? So sometimes people, they just don't know what to say. And they just want to express that they love you. They don't think you need to change, but that doesn't mean that you don't want to change. Some people are like, oh, don't lose

any more weight. Like, and that's because man, if that bitch loses one more pound, it's really pissing me off because I'm trying to lose weight and here she is losing weight. And I'm not doing the things that I need to do. And now I'm upset. You know what I mean? So the conversations that you have with people in your life who are supporting you or the shit people are saying, it's, it can be complicated for sure. It can be complicated for sure. But if you find that you are saying things, you are doing things, you are feeling things you've never felt before, great, because you are probably doing things that you've never

done before. You really, truly are changing. And energetically, on a cellular level, you are literally and actually rewiring how your body's come to function physically and rewiring how your body's come to function physically and rewiring how your brain is wired. So your reaction to something, you know, like how you were to reacted to something three months ago will be different, you know, to how you react from something three months down the road, like you really truly are making change, you know, which is really cool.

My scale is not moving either, but I'm losing inches. People keep asking me, how much have you lost? And I keep saying that I haven't lost anything. Yes, that's your body taking time to adjust to the weight that you've lost. If the scale isn't moving, you should be noticing actively noticing non-scale victories, like your body changing, feeling better, changes in your sleep, your energy, your bowel movements, all of those things in your body, especially major non-scale victory yesterday. I bought new bras and I am down from a 38 to a 34. It's crazy. Yeah. And it's hard to see because you do lose it in layers, but it will add up. It will add up for sure. Uh, so thankful for the advice Gina gave me Monday night about making, hi Melanie, about

making small goals of sticking to it for like three days because of my struggle to stay on track. Yes. Yes. Because sometimes the whole thing can feel overwhelming, especially if you feel like you're behind or you're off or any of those things. So proud to say I stuck to it for four days, no extra bites or wine or alcohol. And I weighed myself

today and I'm down three pounds. And best of all, I feel amazing physically, a little worried about the weekend rolling around. We'll try to make a plan to make sure I can stick to it and follow the plan with no extras. Thank you again. You know, it's not a matter of thanking me. It's about having mad respect for yourself that you did that. That's not an easy thing to sit in those fields. We talked about, you know, getting back at it, right? And feeling like you're just lost. You, you're way behind all of those things. You just can't get it together. That feeling, right? And then so many other things can just overwhelm our feelings to get in the way of making the choices we need to make in the moment. And this is where sitting in that uncomfortableness of like, okay, like you don't have to be like, oh, I'm just going to embrace

not eating after dinner. I'm just going to embrace not having bites of bits. I'm going to embrace not having wine. No, you can be fucking pissy about it. You're like, this sucks. But what you could do is catch on to how you are feeling when you are not indulging in those things. Like catch on to how you physically feel now. Whoa. Right. Catch on to what's happening on the scale. Like, whoa. Like, and that's probably just the icing on the cake. Right. So, so, so there will probably be another time where you will indulge in bites of bits. You will feel off. You will feel behind whatever. And then you're going to reflect back on this moment of how, yes, maybe it was hard to string

those days together, but you did it. You fucking did it. And now, you know, you can do it again. And now you can do it again. And this is kind of reflective of the program itself. This is reflective. This is exactly what I was saying off the top, whether it's getting back on track on three days or following the three months of the program. At the end of it, you're going to be like, I did that. I know I can do this. Now at

the end, you can reflect back. What's so great about these 91 day digestible chunks. You could look back and say, okay, I could have done this better. I could have done that better. I need to do this to support myself. I didn't journal last time. I'm going to journal this time. I didn't use the app last time. I'm going to use the app this time, right? Like this is where you can take stock of what you did, the results that you saw and be like, okay, I can, let me take what I've learned from this past program and put it into the new program. But sometimes you cannot see the forest from the trees and you need to take a step back. I am a massive fan of the step back. The step back is the set up, right? The step back is the set up. The fall back also a set up as well. Whether you're falling back accidentally and

you don't recognize it, you're realizing fall back into old habits. Oh, that doesn't really work for me. That didn't make me feel really great. Now when I did this, oh, that made me feel a million times better. You have to have reference. You have to have reference for this stuff. So it's hard to get somebody to get over that hump when they've never done it before. But each time you do, it's going to get easier and easier and easier. It's going to become like your superpower. You're going to get off track. No big deal. Just get back on track. You'll hear a lot of our members, our returning members talk about that.

Oh, my weekend was this, went away. No big deal. Back on track, back at it. Weight's already down. And that's called their whole attitude. They just, they have confidence in their ability to get back at it. So I love this. I love this for you.

Not an easy thing to do. Not an easy thing to do. Not an easy thing to do. My sister commented that my under eye dark circle is not as dark purple and I haven't noticed this, but she did. Yeah. There's so many, your skin is, is think about this, your body, you are what you eat in the sense that your body is taking what you are eating. And that's what it's, that's the building blocks. It's the repairing and the rebuilding the antioxidants. That's how your body does everything in life. And even your skin is getting all this nutrient, uh, nutrients to, you know, re repair, rebuild, regenerate, rejuvenate, and your skin is constantly rejuvenating and you are feeling healthier. You're

getting better sleep, better sleep helps your body repair and rebuild. So there's a lot of cool shit that happens. Uh, we're going to bring on a skincare expert and talk about skin specifically towards the end of the program as well. Hi, Ashley. Another Ashley. First program. Hi, welcome. And I'm 21 pounds down.

Good for you. Okay. Super excited. I'm finding it difficult to stay organized. I own two businesses and have a lot of staffing issues. It makes my days unpredictable. I'm trying to meal prep, but sometimes I don't get the grocery store fast enough and I'm missing certain items from my meals.

Okay. I'm also having a hard time making time to move my body with a three-year-old and 10-month-old at home. Trying not to be hard on myself as I'm making great progress, but I want to maximize as much as possible. Any tips? Okay. First of all, I commend you from recognizing where you're at and meeting yourself where you are. 21 pounds down is amazing. I mean, at this point, it is still normal for some people, and I know they hate me for saying this, for the scale not to move. I can't tell you how many people

I've talked to because we tend to dwell on and talk about and focus on people, rightfully so, because we want to help every single person get across that finish line. So we tend to spend a lot of time in this conversation with people who are frustrated. So I've ended up talking to a lot of people, very frustrated, didn't see much action on the scale. And the back end of the program, they go on to crush it. It's just a matter of the time. At some point there will be a breaking point, but at 21 pounds down, we can just talk about this for a hot second is incredible. That's amazing. So you are doing just fine. You don't have to necessarily do more and more and more and more, right? Like all of the things, isn't necessarily all of the things, it's all of the things that

you are capable of doing, right? So I'm very mindful of saying that, like I do, I do say to people, are you doing the things that you need to do? Like sometimes people are so focused on the food, but they're not getting sleep, they're not moving their body, they're not drinking the water. But also sometimes people can't move their body to the extent that other people can. Some people can't get in the water and that other people can. So I wouldn't call them shortcomings. I would call them the reality of your situation and taking stock of the reality of your situation really helps you follow through and finish because this is where you also have to align the expectation and the pressure that you're putting on yourself. There are times in life where something has to give, like when you have a three-year-old and a 10-month-old.

Now, I could tell you, well, you need to get rest so you can be the best mom you can, and you gotta move the body so you can be strong, lifting up your kids and do all the things. Fuck off. No one wants to hear that. No one wants to hear that. What you need to hear is that you are doing great

and the way you're showing up, you're showing up perfectly because it's the way you're showing up. Now, are there ways you can better support yourself? What do you need? You are doing great. And the way you're showing up, you're showing up perfectly because it's the way you're showing up. Now, are there ways you can better support yourself? What do you need? What do you need? Now, I don't know if you take your kids to the park or the play place.

This may sound so simple. While you are watching your kids, do some squats. Just do some squats. Squat down, squat up. Try to pick your kids up as much as possible. If you have a nice healthy back to do that, bend your knees, pick your kids up, drop them down while you're at home, right? There are some things that you can do. While you are, you know, lying with your kid or your kids watching TV or spending time, focus on doing some deep breathing exercises. They don't have to be these big, huge, sweeping things. Grocery wise, listen, I understand that financially we're not all the same.

And if you can buy some prepared snacks, like cut up veggie snacks, right? Things already in packs, that can be helpful, although it can be more expensive. If you can maybe ask a friend, hey, can you come over and, you know, hang out with me while I food prep and keep one eye on my kids so I can get this done for the week, right? Enlisting, you know, your tribe, your friends, whatever you have. Like rather than hang out, watch a movie, go whatever, whatever you do with your friends. Hey, can you come over and hang out with me while I do some meal prep? You could also ask friends something like, hey, if you're going to the grocery store, can you pick me up some stuff I can't get out?

Like when we don't think of these things, right? People used to do this all the time. That's what they meant by takes a village is that you would just be like, hey, can you, when you were going to the grocery store, can you grab my milk? Grab some milk for me, right? Whatever that is. What is that meal prep? Okay.

So meal prep is difficult. Can't always get to the grocery store. Don't have all the things. You don't necessarily have to have all the things. The things that you have are the things that you have and that is good enough. It's good enough, right? I totally get this because when you got to bring a three-year-old and a 10-month-old to the grocery store, that is a whole thing. It takes a lot more time. It takes your focus and your concentration. I don't know, maybe some other younger new moms. It's been a

while since my kids were that young. Have some tips for this. I don't know, maybe some other younger new moms. It's been a while since my kids were that young. I have some tips for this. I don't want to assume nothing, right? Like I don't want to assume that what's going on in your life. What's the other one? Making time to move my body. Yeah. So that is like incorporated into other taking your kids for a walk. Of course, the problem when you take your kids for a walk, it's like taking your dogs for a walk. I mean, it's not, but it is. Tony always says to me, oh, you're going for a walk. Take the dogs. The fuck? I'm going to get like 20 steps in. I got two dogs. They're always sniffing, which is the best part of their walk. They're always barking. They're always, what? That's not a walk. That's not a walk for me. One, I'm not walking

fast enough. Two, I like to listen to a podcast. It's stress relief. It's all these things. That's not a walk. That's not a walk for me. One, I'm not walking fast enough. Two, I like to listen to a podcast. It's stress relief. It's all these things. That's like taking your kids for a walk is the same. Your kid's going to want to in the stroller, out of the stroller. Can I get in the stroller? Can I smell this flower? I love kids for that.

But a walk with your kids is not the same as a walk on your own. Now, maybe you're trying to find time to walk for a whole hour, right? You don't need a whole hour. You just need to get out around your house. 10 minutes, do some squats in between. You're good to find time to walk for a whole hour, right? You don't need a whole hour. You just need to get out around your house. 10 minutes, do some squats in between. You're good to go, right? So I don't really have specific advice. If you can outline more of your specific situation and what you do have time for, I can help

more specifically with that. But it doesn't have to be big things that you are doing. It doesn't have to be all or nothing. It doesn't have to be an hour of exercise or no exercise, right? So I've adopted, for example, doing squats every morning when I brush my teeth. I also do now 10 squats. I've added 10 squats before I get into the shower. And then when I go for a walk every now and then, I drop and I go down and do squats. It was very difficult at first because I have my back injury and I just felt old and creaky. It's been a while since I've done any of that type of exercise.

And now I'm bending down. I'm like, oh my God, this is amazing. This is great. Some days I go lower than other days. Some days I'm just like, oh, okay, I'm doing it. So it could be the mentality that you have. Find little bits of time. Don't try to bank big sweeping amounts of time. There is that middle ground and that middle ground will add up and make a big difference. I see other people are giving you all sorts of tips. I roast a ton of nuts in advance, pop them in the mason jars, right? I do baggies. I buy the bars from Costco. I love all this. This is great. So if you can go give Ashley Veloso some tips, she'd probably appreciate that. This week I knew I was in detox. So so bloated scale not moving anywhere but up the

feelings of doubt kept creeping in my mind you're right I hear you but I kept reminding myself that I know this feeling it means good things are coming and to keep going then I lost three pounds great reminder to listen to my body. It's so, it's that, it's that reality. This is why sometimes people don't believe me, which I totally understand. And people are, there's a couple of things that I find that people do when it comes to this process. They think that I don't want them to be successful. Like they think I don't want them to be successful. And I have a whole team of people that want you to be successful. I, I, I, this is why I say to people, I want them to be successful. And I have a whole team of people that want you to be successful.

This is why I say to people, I need you to be successful. This is my career. This is my livelihood. My husband is in this business. It needs to work so we can feed our very expensive children. I have a whole team of people that I want to continue providing paychecks for because it's their livelihood as well. It's to everyone's best interest that you lose your weight and you are successful. Our whole model is banking on maintenance, which is why we have a maintenance

program, which is why Ruth Kane and her team at the University of Ottawa are studying the maintenance part of the living method so we can figure out how we can best support people in their maintenance. So that's number one, right? I get other diets, they're corporate, they're whatever, they actually want you to lose your weight and then gain it back. And so you keep coming back. That's their whole business model. So that's number one. Number two, people don't want to accept the realities. They know old diets didn't work, but do they? Because I think a lot of people have been successful with those crappy quick fix diets. They remember, it's like their relationship.

It's like that old relationship. You remember the good things, you know what I mean? Not the bad things. It's like you remember that you lost the weight, right? Maybe the attention that you got. So you look at those crappy diets while you're so tempted to do them again, because you lost that quick fix and you love that feeling, but you were never, ever, ever going to be able to maintain and sustain that. It's impossible. The science now tells us that the way you go about those quick fix diets, losing weight so quickly is not sustainable.

Also, the way that you starve and deprive that weight off reinforces the fact that your body needs it. So your set point just gets higher and higher and higher. That's science that's studied. But people I think find it so tempting, oh, I'm just going to go back and do this because that's what worked, right? Especially when they're struggling with the scale. The other thing is really having a hard time understanding the realities of what real healthy weight loss looks like, that you lose it in layers instead of any one spot, that the scale does go up before it drops that you do feel bloated as the body releases the fat, right? Like they have a hard time the reality of that. And that's why I try to bring the reality through the science posts, the posts that

we have. Like, you know, I saw someone the other day, and here we are. And I love that she, she reached out. And she's like, I'm having a hard time under like with the scale going up, uh, before it drops. If I just understood it, that would really help. And I'm like, we've explained it in detail. Like we've explained it in the scale post. We've explained it in the, why is my weight up? We've explained it in the, um, in the, what real weight loss actually looks like. We've included graphs that visually show it. We've had people on to actually talk about it, but this can be our belief system. So when I talk about weight loss is also about your issues and associations, your habits, right? Working through

all like your issues and associations are what you think about food is fun and it's yummy. And I, you know, those types of things, what you associate food with as well. And then there's your habits, which are, that's an easy one, old habits versus new habits, right? Triggers, stuff like that. And then when I talk about your beliefs, your beliefs are, and deeper than that, your beliefs can be, do you feel worthy? You know, all of those things. Do you believe that you're going to be actually able to follow through? Are you going to really truly lose your weight? What's your belief, right? But your beliefs are also what you believe about what you have learned about the diet industry.

And that shit can take a while for you to unlearn all of that, which is why the feels, when you have the feels, your thoughts and your feels throughout that this program works. We know that. We just, we know. People are losing a clinical amount of weight. We've been studying it. We know it, it works, tangible proof, all of that. But that doesn't mean anything if you haven't experienced the tangible, the tangible proof. So all, this is why all the thoughts and the feelings that you're having is giving you, it's all messages. It's all insight into what you need to work through. And so we're going to talk about this with Dr. Beverly

David. If you feel like you're struggling, struggling physically, struggling mentally, struggling, whatever, defining what it is, right? Like what, what, what are you, what, what's the thing that you're having a hard time with? Is it emotional? Is it physical? Is it behavioral? Like what exactly is it? And so these thoughts and feelings that we're having, so why you have to validate them and honor them, honor the mood, follow the plan, honor your feels, follow the plan, honor your thoughts, follow the plan at the end of the day, right? It gives you great insight. So that's why I love, I love, let me read this again. So this week I knew I was in detox. I was so thirsty, so bloated. The scale was, was not moving anywhere but up. So scale was going up. The feelings of doubt kept creeping in,

but I kept reminding myself that I know this feeling. It means good things are coming and to keep going. So I love that. Maybe you didn't believe it, but you kept reminding yourself, okay, keep going, keep going, keep going. So you've, you've, you've felt the feels, had the thoughts, but and physically feeling, and you just kept going. Then I lost three pounds. Great reminder to listen to my body, right? Physically, but mentally. Could not love that more. Could not love that more. Could not love that more. Could not let that more. I was starting to doubt, but I just kept telling myself, trust the system. Hi, Anna. This has been hard as I only lost four pounds the first 41 days.

Four pounds in 41 days lost in a healthy way is nothing short of amazing. That in itself is incredible. However, the last week I have lost a total of three and a half pounds on top of that. See, I am hoping I'm one of those people that lose the most the second half of the program, keeping the faith. So this is where it adds up. Weight loss is based on momentum, right? Like those, although it can seem like a lot of people are losing in the first four weeks. And I think most people do like 93% of people experience weight loss in the first like month of the program, things are adding up. And so that three and a half pounds that you lose in that week, that wasn't like that wasn't in one week, that was

like now if you go back to what's been happening, right, that's that accumulation and things can really start to accumulate, especially in the back end of the program. And this is where you'll see people who haven't lost anything who go in the back end. But that doesn't mean just wait on that, right? That doesn't mean wait to halfway through the program. Maximize, pull that out, listen to the conversations with guests. Like, is there something going on? At this point in the program, if you haven't seen any movement and you also haven't seen or felt any physical change, you should definitely be experiencing non-scale victories. You should see change reflected in the change that you've made. If you're not seeing

change, you're not seeing any movement at this point in the program, you definitely want to pay attention to that conversation that we had about reasons why your weight might be slower to move, because there's probably something going on there for sure. All this talk about squats. I just did 30 squats. Maybe I should make this routine to do during the lives every morning. Yeah. Right. Exactly. Like it's just one of those things. It's hard to get started on anything. It's hard to make a routine of anything that you're doing, but when you, when you get it, you're like, okay, it seems easier. That's why I'm like, now I'm like, now I find I'm brushing my teeth and I just feel like

squatting because I feel great after I do my 10 squats. I feel like, oh shit, I did something. Right. And then the, what happened in the shower when I, when I was getting in the shower the other day, it was automatic. I was like getting in the shower. I was like, oh, let me wait for the water to heat up. Let me do some squats.

And I literally said to myself, what the fuck? What? Because it feels good to move your body. When you move your body, you have better energy. When you start to feel good, everything else feels easier and you can start pulling these things together. But sometimes it means getting over that hump of like getting back into it and stringing it together. Like when have you ever exercised and been like, oh, I wish I didn't do that? You know, but it's so easy when you're in it, you feel amazing. And when you're just slightly off, you really, really feel that. So just a matter of getting back at it, getting back at it. Okay. Uh, happy Friday, everyone. I am heading down to the city. I'm going to go to Toronto. Uh, we are going to be attending the

national menopause show, the first national menopause show. Uh, we're going to have a big, massive booth. Come hang out with us. I know we have at least three, four or five, maybe more of our incredible members coming. I'm looking forward to be there the whole day. You'll be able to find me. We have a booth like right in the middle. We got some fun swag. We're even bringing cozies y'all. We're bringing some, I got Beth to order me a whack of cozies. So we're going to bring some cozies down. We're going to hang out. I think I have a little talk that I'm doing around 11 in theies. So we're going to bring some cozies down. We're going to hang out. I think I have a little talk that I'm doing around 11 in the morning. So 11 in the morning, a little talk. I'm not on the main stage like I should be, but whatever, next time. I'm doing a little lattes

talk, which I'm really excited to do. More so, I'm excited to meet all of our incredible members. I know it's going to be the best time. So if you're in the Toronto area and you want to come down, I believe there's still tickets. You might still be able to use the code Gina15 to get in. And then if you can't make it to that and you want to come, we're going to be at the National Women's Show also in Toronto. Everyone else across Toronto, we're already talking about making our way across Canada. Because what would be more fun than to meet all of our incredible members? I can't think of anything funner than that. But November 8th, 9th, and 10th, I am going to the Friday, the Saturday, and Sunday.

We are going to be at the National Women's Show. I'm going to be there all day, all day. I also am going to be on the main stage all three of those days doing, I don't know, some sort of motivational talk. I've got to figure out what I'm going to say. I'm going to be there. So if you can't make the menopause show, if you can make the Toronto show, um, we will be there. I will not be hiding in a room. There is no VIP access. I will just be there. Uh, come hang out. So take some photos, share your story with me. I can't wait. Uh, our whole team, Kim's going to be there. Oh, dad's going to be there. We're going to have

a lot of our team there. It's going to be super fun. So come hang out with us. You can get your tickets there. It is Friday, which means it's the weekend. Keep your shit together the best you possibly can. That doesn't mean being perfect. That means that the little effort you put into keeping your weekend together is going to make a big difference when it comes to getting on that scale on Monday. And we do want to catch the momentum of where we're at because before you know it, we're going to be rolling into the holidays. Dr. Dina Karashefer and Dr. Beverly David are going to be joining me on Tuesday, the two of them together. We're going to talk about midway through the program. We're going to talk about some struggles. We're going to talk about how to get organized. I'll ask you for some

tips. We're going to have a good chat. So I will see you back here on Monday and then more conversations to come next week. We're not done. Actually, a whole new tweak that we're rolling out on Sunday. So pop into the group. Let us know if you got any guidelines. The team is around on the weekend. If you got any questions, pop in, ask those questions. Have an amazing rest of your day. Have an amazing weekend. If I don't see you, bye.