The Livy Method Podcast - Livy Method Day 47 - Spring/Summer 2024

Episode Date: June 7, 2024

Gina Livy's Facebook Lives from The Livy Method Spring/Summer 2024 Support Group hosted on Facebook. This is a recording of the Day 47, 9 AM live. You can find the full video hosted at:https://www.facebook.com/groups/livymethodspringsummer2024Topics covered:Losing your weight Finally & Forever. All the little things add up – you have to do the work!Continuing the hormone conversation - Hormone Mini SessionsThe holistic approach of The Livy MethodRecap on our guest expert segments over the past few weeks – levelling up your health and wellness with The Livy Method – Making real change that you’re going to be able to sustainA look ahead into Feeding the MetabolismEmbrace the feels that come with change – becoming calm around foodThe benefits of grounding - connect with the present momentReconnecting your associations with food – choosing NOT cheatingLooking and feeling your best while you’re on vacationThe diet industry is catching up to The Livy MethodThe majority of people want to lose weight in a healthy and sustainable way!Stay tuned for an upcoming segment with Dr. Rice, Plastic SurgeonUnderstanding the choices that you are making – what’s working for you, what’s not working for you?Making real sustainable change in your life – Dirty fishbowl analogyPeople’s perceptions of diet culture and people’s reactions to your weight lossTake time to review the information and podcasts this weekend!To learn more about the Livy Method, visit www.ginalivy.com. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I'm Gina Livy and welcome to the Livy Method podcast. This is where you'll have access to all of the live streams from my 91 day weight loss program. With a combination of daily lives, guest expert interviews and member stories, there is something new almost every day. Miss the morning live? Want to re-listen to one of our amazing guest experts? Well, this is the place. This podcast is hosted on Acast, but it's available on all podcast platforms, including the one you're listening to right now, Spotify, Apple,

and Amazon Music. Day 47 of the program. That means that you have been following along for 47 freaking days. Congratulations. If you are listening, still here. A lot of people give up. A lot of people give up. They quit. They're just like, ah, this isn't for me. And then they go back and try all the other things and then they lose their weight maybe. And then they gain it back. They lose it and they gain it back. They lose it and they gain it back. I'm assuming that you don't want to spend the rest of your life trying to lose the same weight over and over and over again. So the living method is different in that that's the goal here is to help you lose your weight finally and forever. So everything is for a rhyme and a reason and everything works together. The program itself is very systematic, multi-layered. And so all you

have to do is keep showing up. It is amazing, mind-blowing how all the little things that you are doing on a daily basis add up to make a big difference. It's not any one thing. And it's not just like having the perfect day. It's just about showing up day after day after day. The reality is, is that people do quit and then they come back. And I love that they come back. I love that they come back. But what can happen is they come back at the end of the program. So they start the program and then three months to them flies by, flies by, flies by. And at the end of the program, we're going to do a post and people start posting about how successful they are. Not just with weight loss, but coming off medications, how they're feeling, like really making a change in their lives. It's

a whole vibe. And people who bailed for whatever reason, and there's so many good reasons why people stop following along, which is why I love that they come back. They're like, Oh, well, how do I get that? I want that. Wait a minute. And I've had so many people reach out and be like, Oh my gosh, like I want, tell me how to do this. I want to, I want this. And then I'll say, well, what happened? Like, what's your story? Well, I started, I just wasn't losing weight quickly enough. I was so frustrated by the scale going up and down. I, you know, it was really hard to get fit in all those snacks. I couldn't watch all the lives. I had all these things. And they're like, but, but, but I want that now. And I'm like, you have to do the work. You have to go, you have to

do the work. You've got to put the time in. There is no way around this. You have to walk through that fire. You have to walk through it. You have to show up. You have to do, you have to work through. You have to do some seriously hard work, But here's my goal for you at the end, at the end of this, you're going to lose your weight in a way that you know how to, you know how to maintain, where your body is not feeling inclined to store fat, where your hormones are more regulated. So we've had this amazing conversation with Dr. Olenka this week on hormones. So I know there was a lot of questions that went unanswered. What about the men? What about PCOS? What about aging? What about, I mean, hormones are a never ending conversation. So you've heard me talk to Dr. Alinka, we're

working on like a summer series. Then I got thinking, well, people are busy on the summer, they got things to do, maybe we might start it sooner than later. She doesn't know this yet, but I'm going to talk to her and see if we can get it started in the next couple of weeks. And then I'm thinking, what can we do to really dive into this menopause conversation for those of you who are interested in it and maybe like running a group alongside of this group? I don't know. There's my thoughts. Clearly, this needs to be addressed.

Now, with this conversation being so huge, what's really exciting with the Libby Method, you are already addressing your hormones, albeit cortisol, or maybe you're, you have diabetes and you're dealing with insulin levels or your cortisol is causing insulin resistance. Um, your hunger hormones are off. You're not sleeping. Like regardless of what hormonal issue, thyroid is a mess or messed up or a miss, whatever you want to say it. The Living Method is all about this holistic approach that is so much more than what you were eating

and when it comes to weight loss. It is how it is all connected and how it works together. When people diet, they do this, they do that, they do this, they do that, they do this, they do that. And sure, they get bits and they do bits and pieces and get bits and pieces of results, they can starve and deprive that weight off. But then the reality is, is that people are bigger than ever. obesity rates are climbing year over year, we have all this access to all these diets, and people are not losing weight, they're actually gaining weight to the point when you are successful at losing weight. People think that you have done it in an unhealthy way because diets just don't work. And this is

where the living method comes in. It's a beautiful time for the living method right now. I sort of came at a time where diets don't work. Love yourself, body positivity, which is great. And now they're adding in these weight loss medications. And I think even the living method fits with these weight loss medications because you can't just take a pill. A pill doesn't help you work through your issues and associations. A pill doesn't help with how you cope with food. A pill can help with your appetite. Yes. But once you stop taking that pill, if you just go back to old habits, doing what you were doing and never address the body's needs, you're just going to gain it all back. And that, that's like, there's science behind that. They know this, right? This is why you're going to

see a whole bunch of these GLP-1 diet supporting things pop up, GLP-1, you know, maintenance programs and whatever pop up. So essentially the Libby method. So the Libby method is your ticket to not only losing weight in a healthy way, but to be able to sustain and maintain. Those four questions that you're asking, they're all about getting to a place once you've lost your weight that you don't have to ask about, are you hungry and your portions? You just know. You'll know exactly if your food is too much, not enough, just right. You'll know exactly when you're satisfied. You know exactly when you're going in to make a conscious choice in order to overeat because that's food's yummy. You also will have dealt with the mindset that if you make a conscious choice to overindulge that you're not

going to break yourself and feel like shit for hours afterwards mentally. Because you know, as soon as you just get back to normal eating, your body will recover from any indulgences and then you'll just move on your merry way because your body has no need to store fat because you address that with the Libby Method. Those four questions, paying attention, all the work that you have to do puts you so in tune to your body's needs. You don't have fucking time to be worried about anything else going outside of yourself. You don't have time to be worried about anyone else's business because you are so focused on yourself.

And that's how you should live your life. Focus on yourself, where you are at, what you need, prioritizing yourself. That's what helps you show up and be the best version of yourself so you can help other people. But those questions and paying attention to all those things will enable you eventually to trust when to eat, what to eat, and how much to eat. So everything that you are doing is all about the end game, is all about the end game. So amazing conversation with Dr. Alinka. Make sure you take a listen.

You don't have to be in menopause. You don't have to be dealing with any of that to have this conversation be of value to you. We started this with our first set of, so let's backtrack, right? And I'm going to get into your questions in a second because I see them coming in. The first set of supplements, basic supplements, omega-3, vitamin D, magnesium, probiotic, prebiotic, you know, addressing your basic body needs so your body can function just on the most basic level. Because a lot of us are coming in at a deficiency, starving, depriving, stressed out, neglecting ourselves, all of those things. Your microbiome, right? There's so much talk about your microbiome and digestive system. And then we had the conversation with Dr. Dina,

which is all about learning. You are learning, you're collecting data to, you need to know where you've come from, where you're at and where you want to go, right? How do you learn? How are you framing this whole program, this process? Dr. Beverly David coming in with us, all diet schema, or all diet mentality is affecting us today. How the way you have lived your life up until now is affecting the choices that you are making. And then we got into that amazing sleep stress conversation series, right? How sleep is like the number one pillar of health and how if you're not getting your sleep, then you're waking up the next day and then it affects your hunger hormones, it affects your cortisol levels, your cortisol levels are affecting your sleep. And so the ticket for many people when it comes

to losing weight is not the food, it is managing your stress and managing your sleep. So we had that with the psychology behind sleep, we had sleep hygiene, and we had Dr. Linka coming in with how sleep and stress affects your hormones. Then we had Dr. Paul roll in with four reasons why your weight might be slower to move. So one is inflammation. Your body is carrying excess inflammation because of health issues. Your body carries excess inflammation because of the fact that you're storing excess fat. And there are foods that cause inflammation in our body. So how do we address those, right?

The other one is food sensitivities, right? Really getting real about that. If you have food sensitivities, that leads to and causes inflammation. The other one is your microbiome, gut dysbiosis, how your microbiome functions and the communication between your brain and your gut and your actual brain, right? And how that leads into inflammation. And then hormones tied into that conversation, right? Where do your hormones factor in to that conversation and your ability to focus or

your body's ability to focus on fat loss. Then he came in and hit us up with that secondary supplement list. Things that you can do to help decrease that inflammation, to help, you know, address your stress, adaptogens, CoQ10, right? L-theanine to help manage your stress, you know, so collagen and whatnot. And then we had the conversation with Dr. Alenka this week. And, you know, hormones are like this orchestra. You have over 50 different hormones in your body.

So when people say they have issues with hormones, really the ones that affect you with menopause, you know, are the estrogen, progesterone, and testosterone. Those are the ones, if you're a woman, they really stop working. And they're only dealing with a few where you still have all these other ones. You have your insulin and your cortisol and your leptin and your ghrelin. And there, there's, there's, there's a lot of things at play than just that, you know, transition that you're going through with perimenopause menopause and what's happening in your postmenopause. This all gets fucked up because of dieting, starving and

depriving, neglecting. This all gets fucked up because we live a very stressful life. This all gets fucked up because we are sedentary and we're not moving our bodies in the way that we should. Then we are dieting, forcing our body to burn through muscle mass. And then we are cardioing our faces off and not doing any type of resistance training. We also are not being social anymore. That community component, that social component. We are social beings. We need to be around people. And then we just came off this pandemic where we were all isolated. Now we all have anxiety, right? And so this is where I'm hoping that you can see at this point, six weeks into the program, how this all works together and how this is coming together for you. I do not want

you spending any more time than you need, um, learning the things that you need to learn in order to be successful, but it is such an investment in your time to be watching our guest segments. Then we're bringing in that personal component of our spill the tea guests, really understanding that you are not alone in this very real people on very real journeys. And this is what I love about the Libby method. So congratulations. If you are here, you have found the most amazing program to not only lose weight, but to level up your health and wellness. It's like a, how to get healthy one-on-one physically and mentally. You are actually making real change, real change that you're going to be able to sustain. So I just wanted to pull that all together because sometimes when we're in it, we just see this coming, this

coming, this coming, this coming, got to do this, got to do this, got to do this, and not really understanding how it's all working together. Now, moving forward, we're going to build on that. We're going to build on that week to week to week. So the tweaks that we have coming up next week are feeding the metabolism tweaks. So pop into the guide, pop in on Sunday, read the guidelines are all about taking the same portions that you will be consuming to satisfaction in the first few days of the week, same portion, and all you're going to do is split them in two. And then you're going to mindfully eat that first portion, then you're going to wait 20, 30 minutes, and then you're going to eat the next portion. You will be amazed that when you

take the pressure off you, how you are not going to be hungry for that second portion, because you can eat it and you have to eat it. So it's really interesting when you approach your portions from a different way. Downsizing is feels restrictive, right? I can't have it. I want it. I'm not allowed to eat it. I have to leave it. I have to see it. I have to, I'm wasting it. Oh my gosh. Right? Whereas feeding the metabolism is now you got to eat. Now you have to eat. So we take people who spend most of their lives trying not to eat and now you have to eat. Now you have to pay even more attention and eat even more often and you're just like, oh my God, what? So imagine what's that allowing you to do and allowing you

to approach this when it comes to portions in a whole different way. It's also about separating your proteins from your carbs to really understand why everyone is raging about protein and the protein feeds into your satiety hormones and makes you feel more satisfied. So the types of foods that you choose to eat are really important. And this is why calories in versus calories out, just it doesn't work because what you are eating, it factors in and makes a big difference, especially in terms of you feeling satisfied with the foods that you are eating. So it's a really interesting tweak. A lot of people feel like, oh my God, someone's here. I'm so scared of these tweaks that I'm going to mess them up. While at the same time, let me roll that up. At the same time, so excited for

this tweak. It's going to bring up so many different fields. That's exactly it. So this is what I'm trying to say to you. If when we're so in it, our emotions and our feels and our daily life and trying to get it done and all the things that we're dealing with, sometimes we're just so into that, that we're not really seeing big picture. And I'm a, such a fan of like a deeper level of understanding when you know, okay, but the feels are part of that. So here's what I got to say, Lisa, and I love that you're feeling like this because it's change. It's change, right? And it's about, it's about all being open to the feels because the feels are part of what you need to learn. The feels are part of what you need to work through in order to get to the other side of this, to be calm around foods. At the end, I want you sitting in your room full of your favorite foods and not even like bat an eyelash. This looks good. I'm

going to have some of that. Okay. Had a bite. Had enough. I'm good. Or no thanks. No thanks. I'm good. That's where I want you to get so calm that you are in tune, not in control. You're not moderating. You just know what you need. And then if you're like, hey, I'm going to have some of this, right? And then you enjoy it. Oh, man, this is delicious. This is yummy. Maybe you take a donut. Maybe you only take a few bites. Oh, that's so good. Oh my gosh, I can't eat. It's so sweet. I can't eat it anymore, but that was delicious. Or maybe eat the whole thing. And you're like, oh my God, that was like so good. And then that's it. That's it. You move along. That's it. Maybe you're like, oh my God, that was like so good. And then that's it.

That's it. You move along. That's it. You maybe you're starting to crave sugar later in the day. You're like, what do I want sugar? Oh yeah. I had that donut earlier. So that's why I want more sugar. Right. So let me have some, you know, protein and fat offset that drink a little extra water. Yeah, I'm good. No big deal. Right. Maybe you like super indulge. You feel so bloated. You feel so gross, but your face is like in your whole vibe is like, oh my God, that was amazing. That was so hashtag worth it. Every now and then I take my kids to Mandarin and you know what they don't do? They don't walk away complaining that they are full. They're like, oh my God, I'm so full. We ate so much. That was so good. There's no like, oh, why'd we do that? Why did I have that candy floss for my appetizer? You know, they don't do that. They don't do that. They're so happy to have this food and indulge in this food

that they're walking away with their bellies full and they're just content and happy. And that was amazing. They got to go to a restaurant, eat whatever the fuck they wanted to eat and like, like literally candy floss for an appetizer, go for it, whatever you want. And they don't walk away being like, whoa, I'm so fat. I'm so gross. You know, I'm never going to reach my goals and whatever. And you know, so I want you to be able to go and enjoy, we want to be able to enjoy food, right? And all the yummy bites that comes with it. Okay. Yesterday I did a thing. I was feeling so down and realized that some of my issues for the feelings and a client suggested that when I go for a walk to go to the beach and get my feet in the sand. I love that idea. So that's exactly what I did. Yeah. So that is grounding, right? You don't have to go to the beach. You can do this. I can do this right now. Put my feet on the ground, feeling my feet on the carpet, connecting to mother earth, connecting up to the divine, you know, wrapping myself in a warm blanket or centering myself in the circle,

taking a few deep breaths in. What that does when you do like a walking grounding, put your feet on the grass, put your feet in the sand. It's more of like an actual tangible. And this is where Dr. Beverly said, like, feel your feet, smell around you, like hear your breathing. This really puts you in the moment. There are so many different ways to be in the moment. And when you are in the moment right here, right now, you're not worried about what happened yesterday and not worried about what's happening tomorrow. You are just right where you are. Also, what this can do is it can make you feel really small in the world and really understand that this world is a big, huge, massive, amazing place. And probably the little things that you are dealing with, these are not things you're going to be worried about or stressed about five years from now.

You know, they're not really factoring in. It's just because of everything else we got going on in our life or our feels are feeling really big because they're bubbling to the surface in order for us to work through them. Let me get back to this because I love this. However, after getting my feet in the sand and sitting on the beach and having a cry, I'm thinking of what I need to do for myself in a very gentle way. I ended up driving to the ice cream shop, which I associate with going to our riverfront. Okay, so I got two scoops of my favorite ice cream and I sat in the car at the river. I ate it very slowly and I enjoyed every bite when I came home. When I came home, I went about my evening and watched a good movie. I do not feel bad about what I did. I guess I just needed to do something for me. Did it solve

my problem? Definitely not. But sometimes, uh, she just has, you just have to do the thing. Okay. This is great. This is also very conflicting. But this is where you want to get. So weight loss, it's not just not having the ice cream. It's not that. It's being grounded, being in the moment, being able to make a choice that's not guided by triggers or habits or coping or anything like that. What you did in this moment is you grounded yourself and you realize that you are worthy. And this is exactly what I was just talking about. This is all, this is about enjoying all the yummy bites of bits that come with life.

This program isn't about being perfect, flying through, following all the rules. There are no rules. There are no rules. There are guidelines. You want to reach your goals sooner rather than later. Make as many choices as possible that fall in line with your goals. An ice cream is not going to stop you from reaching your goals. It's just not. Now, I don't think that you having this one ice cream, mindfully enjoying it and having a moment is going to cause you to eat ice cream today or the next day or the next day or the next day. Now, if you had, oh my God, I'm driving to the ice cream shop. Okay. This is going to be the last ice cream cone that I ever have until I

reached my goal and I'm going to eat it. And then you drive home and you're like, why did I do that? And I'm like, oh my God, I'm so fat. I'm so disgusting. Well, I might as well eat this bag of chips and I might as well wash it down with a bottle of wine. And you got up today and you're just like, I'm the worst person on the planet. And today I'm going to starve myself because I had that ice cream last night. This is a perfect example of where we are headed, where you are headed. This is losing your weight in a way that you are in tune where you are reconnecting your association with food. So what you've gone and done, and you've taken this ice cream that you love, that has a memory attached to it. And you were able to ground yourself and be in the moment

and be like, I would like to go have an ice cream. And then you enjoyed it. That's a very empowering choice. You chose, you didn't cheat. You chose. And this is going to feed into when you reach your goal, because you're going to reach your goal, being able to maintain and sustain your weight. It's so huge. This is just as much a part of sustainable, maintainable weight loss as the weight loss part of it, as the weight loss part of it, right? It's just, it's, it's so huge. It's so huge. Um, what is somebody asking for here? Blah, blah, blah. Hello. Hello. Hello. Hello. Heading to Newfoundland for a two week tour tonight. We'll follow the plan as much as possible, but also enjoy some good stuff too. We'll definitely miss my Libby loser fam, though. I might be able to catch a Monday night live.

Have the best time. Tis the season. This is the season. This is a great segue into the conversation of this is summer. This is the spring and summer program. Now, this is about looking and feeling your best while you are on vacation, and you can do that. What's really great about the timing of the Livvy Method right now is it gets a lot more flexible. Now, of course, we got to make it through these feeding the metabolism tweaks and weeks. And then moving forward, there's a lot more flexibility. You will be able to enjoy your holidays and enjoy your summer and still be able to focus on losing weight. Again, above and beyond the food, there are so many things you can do to be proactive. I don't want anyone going away and stressing about their vacations and their holidays. Let me scroll back to see if I got

any other questions. Good morning. Good morning. Just heard a diet pill ad on the radio. Either they are quoting you, Gina, word for word, or the diet industry is finally catching up to you. I hope it's the latter. Thanks for everything. Love learning all these things. Have a great day. I was just saying this to my team. the diet industry is catching up to me. I feel this. This is why you're going to see on our social media a lot more of me sharing the things that we are talking about out there with the world. I have been having the conversations the diet industry just started having, been having them for years. And it is time that the world knows about the Livi method. Even with the weight loss medications, you know, again, they're not a quick fix. I mean,

they are a quick fix. They're not a sustainable fix. And so we've had people taking Ozempic to manage their diabetes for years doing the program. This is nothing new. I think if you are taking any of those weight loss assisted medications, this is exactly the program that you want to do. Here's the thing, you know, weight loss is like, is like skincare. There are some people who are going to get a facelift. That's kind of like getting bariatric surgery. For example, I know it's, I know, I know skincare is vanity, barric surgery for some people is a necessity. So I'm not equating them the same as that.

But, you know, so maybe there are people who get bariatric surgery. That's like getting a facelift. Then there are people who are going to take, you know, medications, right? Or sorry, those are for skin. So there's facelifts and then there is Botox and lasers. And then there is just good old-fashioned skincare products. And weight loss is the same. There is bariatric surgeries, balloons, different things that you can do. Then there is weight loss medications. The majority of people are going

to want to lose their weight in a healthy, sustainable way, in a way that not only do they lose their weight, but actually helps them get healthier in the process. A friend of mine, Dr. Rice, some of you may know Dr. Rice, he comes on, he's going to be on this group talk. He's a world-renowned plastic surgeon. We're going to talk about things like liposuction, which is not for weight loss. It's contouring, but not weight loss. That's one of the things that we learned. We're going to talk about skin surgery because, you know, some people when losing a lot of weight, they do need that. You know, not necessarily because losing weight on the living method, because you're losing it in a way that is really, you know, beneficial to the skin. But if you've done a lot of diets, that might be an issue for some people. So we're going to have the real deal. He's very frank. We have a very

real conversation. I absolutely adore him. So he opened up a new clinic in Yorkville. So I went last night to go see it. It's really cool. He's actually doing liquid butt lifts and liquid boob lifts. So you no longer have to get implants. You can actually get like liquid. Anyway, I'm not going to get into that because each his own, each his own. I've got four kids, right? I've been thinking about getting my boobs done for years, but I've just, I'm not into the implant thing and I'm waiting for technology because I'm all about, I love getting old. I love getting old, but I am going to try to, I might maintain my youthful appearance for as long as possible.

And I'm unapologetic about that. My point is though, he talks about so many people are coming in with Ozempic face, Ozempic butt, and Ozempic body, where although people are losing weight, it is not making them happy with how they look. They are just transferring their weight to now what's happening physically. So it's like same, same, but different. It doesn't just make you happy and make all your issues going away. So I thought that was really interesting. I thought that was really interesting. But yeah, the diet industry is catching up. It's about fucking time. It's about fucking time. It's about fucking time.

You know, I'm not too worried about it. There is more than enough for everybody. I love that I'm finding more and more people that are starting to have the conversations that we are having. This is the way that dieting is going for sure. Almost ate a whole bag of chips last night, feel down and woke up feeling sick with a massive headache. Okay, so I love that this happened to you. I love that this happened to you. So let's go back to you were feeling down. And you obviously wanted to cope, you wanted to self medicate, you wanted to self soothe with food. Right? And because if you just want to eat that whole bag of chips, I've done that. I've eaten a whole bag of chips. And I'm like, that was so good. I wake up the next day, my eyes are salted,

I feel bloated, but I'm just I'm like, so good. I would do it again in a heartbeat. Love my chips. I love chippies. But you are not feeling like that today. You are feeling sick, and you have a massive headache. So your body's letting you know, hey, that maybe that's not the best way to help us manage. So you were feeling down, cortisol levels, not sleeping, probably affecting your hunger hormones. You know, you're looking for a coping mechanism, so you go for the chips. So let's take it back. Let's rewind to when you started feeling down, why you were feeling down. How did you feel? What was your thought process? Um, did you think, what did you think the chips were going to do for you? Did the chips do what you thought you were going to do? How did you feel immediately after eating

the chips? And then of course, tie that into how you feel today. Now, tomorrow I want you to wake up and be like, okay, I did that. And it's not stopping me from reaching my goal, right? Move it along tomorrow. Maybe not today. Cause you might still be in your feelings today. Your body is telling you that, okay, that doesn't work tomorrow. When you feel better, I want you to take a moment and recognize no harm done, no harm done. Move it along. I'm good. It's really important to make that connection. I did that. No big deal. Not ideal. Not ideal. And so I think what you're realizing now is it's not working for me. So with this program and getting so in tune to your body's needs and asking those four questions and

prioritizing all that, you're going to not only at the end of this know when to eat, what to eat, how much to eat. You're going to very clearly know what's working for you, what's not working for you, what's working for you in terms of the choices that you're making, in terms of the environment that you're in, the job that you have, the friends that you have, the conversations you are having, you will know very clearly what is working, what's not. So you are noticing that that way of coping is not really working for you. I'm assuming because you came up, you showed up today and you're saying it out loud, right? So you are saying to yourself, I did that. I feel like shit today. This is not ideal. That is not really working for me. So then we want to go back, rewind to when you started dealing with feeling down, what was going on? What could you have done?

Now think about it without judgment, without stress, and be like, okay, I felt really down. Do you have a pool? What if when I, or go for a walk, what if when I started to feel down, I didn't go lie in bed, I didn't have a nap, and I didn't whatever, I met a friend for coffee, or met a friend for a walk, or jumped in my pool, put on my favorite jams and just swam around, right? Not take your dog for a walk, not go out with your kids, like something for you, right? Whatever it is that would just take your mind, go for a bike ride. I don't know what that could have been. What could you have done? Now you could say, well, I wasn't in the mood, right? You probably weren't, but you can make yourself in the mood. So now let's say, um, you were feeling down and then you decide, okay,

I'm going to go for a walk. So you put, uh, you put a podcast in or some favorite music. You got your running shoes. You did not want to do this. You felt like shit. You're like, fuck this. I don't want to do this. Maybe it's raining. Maybe it's cold. Don't know what it is, but you're like, I don't want to do this, but you got on your shoes and you start walking and then picture yourself walking, right? And you're starting to be like, okay, maybe you start crying. Maybe you start whatever. Then you start hearing the birds. Maybe you see a, I don't know if that's that night, a raccoon runs in front of you. Like, you know, whatever that is, you're walking, you're starting to, you're calming down your vagus nerve. You're getting in a mindset, you're feeling your body walk,

you're feeling your breath, you're in the moment, you're listening to your favorite jams, maybe you got some good memories popping up, times in the clubs with your girlfriend, that time on vacation, whatever that might be, right? By the time you come back home, you're like, I feel really good. And also you feel really good because you went out and moved your body. Then what can you do? Then maybe you go and you grab a glass of water, you make a nice tea. Are you reading a book? Maybe you go sit in your favorite chair. Maybe you go outside. Maybe you go up to your bed. Maybe you make a bath. Maybe you don't really want a bath, but you're like, oh, let me just, I could just, it's a quiet space. You make a bath. You don't want to be in the bath. You get in the bath. You're like, oh, this is nice. Okay. You're calming yourself down. All right. This is good. You get out of

your bath. You brush your teeth, right? You're feeling you're tired. You're very emotional. The feelings haven't gone away, but you're like, okay, you know, I'm all right. I'm going to be like, I'll figure this out. Cause you know, when you sleep on something, you feel like it's a game changer the next day. But when you've trust yourself and you feel like shit, when you sleep, you wake up, you still feel like shit. So then you get into bed, right? Maybe rather than watching Netflix or maybe you do watch, I don't know, Memo in Paris or whatever it is that you're watching. You know, you read a book and then you go to bed. And then before you go to bed, you say, I'm really proud of the way I showed up for myself.

I really wanted to eat that bag of chips. I really wanted to drink that wine. I really wanted to bed. And then before you go to bed, you say, I'm really proud of the way I showed up for myself. I really wanted to eat that bag of chips. I really wanted to drink that wine. I really wanted to whatever, but I didn't. It wasn't easy, but I did that. Then you're going to wake up the next day. And because you would have gotten a good night's sleep, or maybe not, but you would have slept. It's a different day. Your whole mindset is going to be completely different. Completely different. Because you don't have the physical reminder of the shit that you feel, right? So sometimes we want to trash ourselves and eat things that give us a physical feeling that equal up to the mental feeling that we have. So I am so sad. I'm going to trash myself to equally feel like shit. I am so mad. I'm going to trash myself to equally feel like shit. I am so upset,

you know, whatever that is, right? We want the physical feeling to validate because, because we don't take time to validate our feels. So sometimes we make choices that hurt us so that we can take that time and really feel our feelings, right? Rather than just honoring and feeling our feelings. So we don't feel entitled to have feelings. We don't feel entitled to need time for our feelings. We don't feel entitled to have space for our feelings. We don't feel entitled because maybe life is good and it wasn't that bad. And what are you so upset about? And one of those things, and it's going to be fine. Suck it up and don't worry about it. And don't stress, don't this, don't that. So we're told not to deal with

our feelings. And so we've learned not to deal with our feelings. And so we do physical things to make us feel how we feel mentally. But this is about rewiring your brain. You don't have to have done all of that. So now think about that. I feel like last night, like even just after going through that, I feel like last night I went for a after going through that, I feel like last night, I went for a nice walk. I made some tea, had a bath and read about that wasn't my night. I felt like shit went to bed. But I wasn't. I came home late. I had a great day yesterday at this event. I came back didn't feel great, went to bed, but I feel a little refreshed just even thinking that that might have been my night. So it's not just owning the feeling of what

you've done. It's like rewiring, understanding why you made that choice, connecting it to how you feel, because it's all about that dopamine hit. Those chips gave you a, the anticipation of having those chips gave you a dopamine hit that made you feel better for a second. And then you ate them, and then you've been paying for it ever since, right? So if you can rewind it back to before you dug it, you gave into that dopamine hit and you connect to how it made you feel, the next time you feel like that and you see those chips, you'll be like, no, you might have them and then you'll do the whole process again. Eventually you'll be like, no thanks. I am associating indulging in chips when I feel like this to feeling worse. And so you can't know what it feels like to have made another choice

unless you go through the process of understanding what it would have felt like to make another choice. It's a great practice. I'm telling you, it's going to be, it's a game changer. This is how you are rewiring and reworking how your, your, your brain has come to function and your association and your relationship to food, to yourself, to the choices that you're making. And that what is what makes you empowered and in tune. You're not trying to control yourself, berate yourself, moderate yourself. That's, that will always be outside of yourself. That will always be outside of yourself. I can see the difference in mindsets already.

It's like opening old burnt old fuse box and putting in a new one, up-to-date fuse that are more efficient, more reliable. Yes, it's about being proactive and actually doing something about it rather than just taking a vacation and then coming back. I call that dirty fishbowl. So you recognize your life isn't working for you. You go away for a weekend, you go away for a week, you feel so much better. You come back and it's just like you took the fish out of the dirty fishbowl, but you didn't clean the fishbowl. And now you're back in the dirty fishbowl. And then eventually everything starts getting to you again, because you have to actually make

real change, real, real sustainable change in your life. I think the diet industry is scared of Gina, they finally get it and are coping with you. They're copying. Yes, they are. They're copying me. Yes. Yes, they actually are. They actually are. Especially that two letter word one. I had an on scale victory the other day when I bumped into a friend I haven't seen in over a year and she said you look great. You have lost weight. I cried. She has been the only one that has commented. So this is really interesting because you are actually working really hard and losing weight in all of the best ways, like actually doing the work and the diet industry has fucked you over. But because people's perception is if you are successful at losing weight, you've either done

a crappy, shitty starvation diet or you're taking drugs or you're sick. And so it's so it's think about this, the diet industry is as it could, how big is the diet industry? What's the money? $173 billion? $176 billion worldwide, set to be 400 billion by when in 10 years, five years? By 2030. So the diet industry is only, it's only making more money, but no one's fucking talking about it because we're not allowed to talk about diets. We're not allowed to talk about it anymore because diets don't work, body positivity. You can't say you're on a diet. So we went from like, oh, we're talking about, the problem wasn't talking about diets. It was that the diets were really shitty. And you know, so so so diet culture, right? Starve yourself, deprive yourself. But that doesn't mean you can't talk about doing a diet. But now you can't. Now you can't say

anything. Now it's not even cool to talk about people's weight loss. What's not cool is you know, these highlights the whole big Taylor Swift issue, pregnant issue, not commenting on people's bodies is messed up in the media. The media should not be commenting or judging anybody's body. But if you see a friend who looks amazing and they are glowing and they've lost weight, just like, wow, you look great. You look like you've lost weight. Good for you. Good for you. Right. Good for you. The problem with that is is is that when people have done shitty crappy diets and we've talked to members about this that they were starving they were depriving and then they weren't happy but then they got reinforced they got all this attention so people spend lives thinking they're not good enough in their own bodies you need to lose weight oh you'd be so

cute if you just lost weight or you got such a cute face, all these things. So we learned that in our bodies, we are not good enough if we are at, or we need to make change if our weight is higher. And then all of a sudden we lose weight and people are like, oh, good for you. You look amazing. You whatever. And so people get complimented on and get all this attention for starving themselves, depriving themselves. And a lot of people, when they lose weight too, are not at the best, they're not having the best time of their lives, right?

They're losing weight maybe because they're going through a divorce or they're whatever. And so that's where you get this. It's kind of like a touchy subject. But so it's one of those things. But in you having done all this work, isn't it nice when someone's like, wow, you're you are glowing. You look great. I think that's the difference. I think if someone says, wow, you look healthy, you look what are you? You look amazing. You look great. You are glowing. Girl, you got some good energy going on. You know, I think that is such a good compliment.

It's one sense we want people to notice the weight, but it's not really cool to comment on people's weights. So this is sort of where if you don't have people commenting on your weight, they might just be in their own head about, okay, I don't like... So there's a couple things happen. Some people don't comment because they love the way that you are and they may think think that you are losing this weight doing an unhealthy thing. And they don't want to perpetuate that. This is where you'll get like, don't lose any more weight, you look amazing. And you're like, I have 40 pounds to lose. I'm not done. So thank you, but I'm not done. You know, it's because they're saying I love you the way that you are, you do not need to change, you do not need to starve yourself to lose this weight, right? That's what they're saying to you. Some people,

they're saying it because like, bitch, I'm trying to lose weight. You're over there losing it. It's pissing me off. Please stop because like, I'm, I'm, I'm upset with where I'm at. And seeing you just makes me feel like I'm not doing enough. And you know, makes me feel less that, right? Then there's people who literally, they won't say anything because they just don't want to, maybe you've done this before, maybe you've lost before, you gained a back, maybe they just don't know what to say. So it is really nice to get complimented on. When you are complimented on, whether it's a backhanded compliment or whatever it is, you need to learn to take that compliment because this is what you are saying to yourself. If someone says to you, oh my God,

don't lose any more weight, you look amazing, Just say, thank you so much. But I'm, you know, I am looking and feeling my best. I have 40 more pounds to lose and I just like feel so good about the way that I'm going about it. I'm really excited when I reach my goal. I don't know when that's going to be. I will decide when I look and feel my best. Right? Or it's not really about a number. You know, someone's like, well, how much more are you going to lose? I don't really know. I'm thinking maybe 20 pounds, but I'll see when I get there.

It's really about how I feel, right? This is the difference. This is the difference. So what you are saying to other people about your weight is what you are saying to yourself. So it's really, it's more about what you are saying to yourself than what other people are saying to you. If someone says, wow, you look great. You lost weight.

Thank you. I've been working really hard, not just physically, but mentally on making some real change. If it's a friend who has known you forever and seen you do all the diets, just say, you know, I've done so many crappy diets this time around. I am, you know, I'm doing it a different way. I'm prioritizing myself. I'm eating healthy, nutrient-rich foods. I'm managing my stress and my sleep. Like I feel fucking fantastic. Thank you for noticing, right?

Because you're going to get this as we move forward. You're going to get this as we move forward. I can see Tony packing up. We are headed to the city today. We have a big team meeting. So I am, my husband and adult kids have complimented me and I know it's genuine. I feel great. So I was not concerned about one other thing. Some people have wonderful supportive people in their lives and some people are surrounded by people and don't feel supported at all. And this is what I love about our amazing Livi loser, Livi method community is that you are not alone in this.

You are not alone. And I do want to do a shout out to anyone who's listening by way of our podcast or just using our Living Method app. And if you are struggling a bit with this, I highly suggest you come into the support group and just read some comments, maybe engage with some people, share some feels like being part of your community is like, I'm just reading this comment. My weirdest comment ever about my weight loss is, are you having an affair with yourself? Yes, I am. I am in love with myself. I'm in love with myself. I am. I love that. Okay. I got to go everyone. I got, you should stop now. You look gaunt. You do not look gaunt. You do not look gaunt. That

is their perception of what you should look like when you lose weight. Now what's going to happen after you are done losing weight is your weight is going to settle because you are losing weight in a healthy way. Your face maybe has changed as has the rest of your body, right? So they're just, they're just what, what people know is what they associate with, right? So people are associating with what they know about dieting when they are judging how you look. And this is why, this is why we have to let the world know about the living method because there is another way. You don't have to starve and deprive yourself. Okay, everyone, have an amazing day. I hope you have a fantastic weekend. Pop into the Facebook support group. Tomorrow, we have some great recipes for you, our Science Saturday post. Team is around

to answer your questions. Of course, we're going to roll into our feeding the metabolism week and tweak. Don't let it scare you. It's a great tweak. It ends up being people, this is the tweak people feel most like feelings about, even more so than downsizing. And so people get like, they're like, I don't know about this. And then it ends up being their favorites week. It's only for two weeks. Um, back to eating satisfaction the first few days of the week. Anyway, read over that post. Um, if you are looking for something to do today, download those podcasts or pop into the group and, you know, listen to that sleep series. We did listen to the, the hormone, uh, two part series. We did listen to the four reasons where your weight might be slurred. Listen to the,

listen to all the conversations again from where you are at now, because when you heard them the first time, it might not have hit. But where you are at now, man, I'm telling you, game changer. I got to go. Have an amazing day, everyone. Bye.