The Livy Method Podcast - Livy Method Day 52 - Winter 2025

Episode Date: February 26, 2025

Gina Livy's Facebook Lives from The Livy Method Winter 2025 Support Group hosted on Facebook. This is a recording of the Day 52, 9 AM live. You can find the full video hosted at: https://www.facebook.com/groups/livymethodwinter2025Today's episode is all about what sustainable weight loss really looks like—spoiler alert: it’s not about being perfect! Gina is covering why The Livy Method works, how to navigate Feeding the Metabolism, and what the weekly tweaks are actually teaching you. She's also getting real about success—it’s the little things that add up. Plus, a deep chat on what happens when weight loss no longer defines you, why setbacks are just setups for progress, and how to handle the reactions of those around you.To learn more about The Livy Method or to sign up for the Spring 2025 Program, visit www.ginalivy.com. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I'm Gina Livi and welcome to the Livi Method Podcast. This is where you'll have access to all of the live streams from my 91 Day Weight Loss program. With a combination of daily lives, guest expert interviews, and member stories, there is something new almost every day. Miss the Morning Live? Want to relisten to one of our amazing guest experts? Well, this is the place.

This podcast is hosted on Acast, but it's available on all podcast platforms, including the one you're listening to right now, Spotify, Apple, and Amazon Music. Do you have business insurance? If not, how would you pay to recover from a cyber attack, fire damage, theft, or a lawsuit? No business or profession is risk free. Without

insurance, your assets are at risk from major financial losses, data breaches, and natural disasters. Get customized coverage today starting at $19 per month at zensurance.com. Be protected. Be Zen. Hello, hello, hello. Happy day 52 of the program. Okay, so I've been having some technical issues with these Facebook Lives, not when I have my live guests, because we do a different platform through StreamYard. Anyway, Facebook is not taking my inputs, but I think I found a workaround on it. So here we are. Hopefully I am going live in the Facebook support group today. Yes, there I am. Hi.

So this morning I was thinking as I woke up, the world is trying to figure out the secret to sustainable weight loss. I mean, everyone's trying to figure this out. How can we actually help people lose weight in a way that they're healthier? How can we help people lose weight in a way they can maintain and sustain? I mean, when I went to the Canadian Obesity Summit a few years back, I'm going back in May again, this was the conversation. We have techniques, surgeries, drugs that can help people lose weight, but we can't figure

out how to help people maintain and sustain their weight. And every time they come up with something, yes, it helps people lose, but then there's this curve and it goes back up. And this is what the brightest minds in obesity research are trying to figure out. And so then you take me, little old me, and how did I figure out the secret to sustainable weight loss? Well, the reality of that is I spent most of my life actually helping people lose weight,

talking to them, trying to understand them. For some people, it was food, but for most people, there was something else going on, something tied to their past, something about their association to food, something about what was happening in their mind and their thoughts. This is really how I came up with the Living Method and trying to understand that from a physical perspective, what the body needs, it's pretty much the same for everybody unless you have special needs like you have allergies or food sensitivities or there's something going on in your body where

you can't have certain foods. For the most part, the body has certain needs. It needs proteins, it needs carbohydrates, it needs good fats, it needs leafy greens for roughage. There's certain basic things the body needs. And so really, the living method was a combination of, okay, what's the most basic food plan that someone can start with? Just covering the basis to give their body what it needs.

And then how do we help people get in tune to their specific portions? Because everyone's needs are different and your needs change day to day. And then on top of that, how do we help people deal with issues and associations tied into food? How do we help them even recognize that that's a big part of it? Because the diet industry is duped you believe that all you have to do is eat less and exercise more, and no one is debating if that's going to help you lose weight. As you get older, of course, that gets harder, but it doesn't help you maintain and sustain

your weight. I'm really hoping at this point where we're at, especially after the conversation that we had with Dr. Dina Kara-Shafer and Dr. Beverly yesterday, that it's just so much more than that. It's it's so much more than that. And if you stop, you take a minute about where you're at in your journey, and you're like, Okay, what's been going on with me up into this point? How am I doing? What do I need? Am I supporting all my needs? Am I really trying to understand the changes that I need to make and why I need to make them? Am I really trying to understand the changes that I need to make and why I need to make

them? Am I really trying to break old habits and really understand that I need to create new ones and not only create them but sustain them because they are going to support the life that I want? I'm hoping at this point in the program you're really recognizing when I say the living method is so much more than what you eat and when. Sustainable weight is weight loss is so much more than what you eat and when. I just wanted to take a minute and say that and it may seem like, oh my gosh, we figured

it out here. Yes, we have actually figured it out here. Now, this doesn't mean that once you go into maintenance, it's easy peasy when you're done. What I realize is people struggle in maintenance because maintenance is a whole other can of worms trying to embrace the new you when you spent your life over size and now you are finally at what feels like the right size, owning that, understanding who you are, having the people around you adjust to the changes

that you've made. You're supposed to change, but change is unnerving. It can be very unnerving for people in your life if they know you a certain way and now you've gone and changed. It's like all of a sudden adapting a new accent out of the blue. Who is this person? Feeling like you're worthy of the change that you've made. There's a lot to it. There's a lot to it. But listen, here you are. You've made it seven weeks in. It's

a really exciting time and place to be in the program. At this point, it really is about working the tweaks. Try not to overthink them. I think people who are trying to overthink the tweaks are trying to just hold on to that physical part of weight loss. It's not that. At this point, have trust, have faith. We're showing you success stories. We're having real conversations with people. The Living Method works.

We're showing you the science behind it. We're having our guest experts come on. If you're tripping up in the tweaks, just fucking do them. And understand that probably your issues and the problems that you're having or the frustrations have nothing to do with the tweaks. And it's about going deeper for you. It's about going deeper for you. Here's Sarah Help. I love some suggestions for time management when it comes to these new tweaks.

Too often I eat and I'm out the door and often most of my snacks are in the car already. Set alarm, set alarms. Use the Living Method app. If you haven't yet, you can still use it. If you need any help, just reach out to tech support. They can help get you set up. You can advance to the day that we're at now. And the Living Method app, this is one of the things that people who don't use the app don't realize, is that in the app, there's actually a place where during this week, you can check off starting tomorrow, you can check off that you've split your meal or snack.

It's also in the journal, I don't know why I'm pointing over here, I had a journal here yesterday. It's also in the journal as well, that you can check off what you've had. But you can set alarms in your app or use your watch or use your phone, fancy phones, set timers or alarms to remind yourself to eat. So this is work, right? You might have to implement some systems to help remind you and make things more efficient

for you. So that's that. I need suggestions and tips because I'm not going to have 20 to 30 minutes to sit around and wait to be efficient for you. So that's that. I need suggestions and tips because I'm not gonna have 20 to 30 minutes to sit around and wait to be able to eat. So this is not at all sitting around, it's not at all sitting around and waiting. That's fucking ridiculous. No one would expect that.

Let's all just sit around all day and wait to eat our food. Sorry, I just had a visual of that. It's funny. That's not what it's about. Right? And so you, like you just said, you eat most of your food on the cart and in the go. So you're probably not sitting around at all trying to eat your food.

And you're talking about what you're going to find when you do it. Now, I should have brought some water with me. I hope that's, and that is not Tony. I do not have any. I have an some water with me. I hope that's not Tony. I do not have any. I have an old tea from yesterday. I'm probably going to need some water. When you split that first portion, you're going to realize you're not really all that hungry for that second portion.

So if you're on the go in the car and you're eating your food, you have a container or whatever you're eating, just eat that. And then 20, 30 minutes later, pull it out again and eat the rest. Listen, at the end of the day, you can just follow the basic food plan. But this is four days. I know that's eight. We're going to do it for two weeks. This is four days really worth even just attempting it, attempting it at the end of the day.

I need suggestions and tips because I'm not going to have 20, 30 minutes to sit around and then wait to be able to eat the next half of my food, especially my main meals, which are plated and not grab and go. So this is where grab yourself some takeout containers. You can order them on Amazon. That's like 25 cents a container or something like that. And if you just do it for lunch, that's a dollar, right? Or if you have any, order yourself some Tupperware or something like that. And then so if you eat your food at home on a plate or wherever you are, put the other half into a small container. By then it's only going to be a small little container and just put that in there.

And then on your way to the bathroom or in between meetings or whatever you can try to consume that second half. And if you can't, so, and this is for you, if you could just do it for some meals and snacks, if you can't do it for your main meals, do it for your breakfast. Do it for your dinner. If you can't do it for lunch, do it for your snacks, or don't do it at all. And if you don't do it at all, then you got to double down on asking those four mindful questions maximize your fucking ass off at this point, you want to be leveling up, right?

Like if you just follow the basic food plan that will work for you. But these tweaks are designed like this is designed for you to recognize that probably your lifestyle right now is feeding into your need to lose weight. And if you keep going and doing what you're doing on the go, not making time, eating in a rush, you're probably also living the rest of your life like that. Not taking time for yourself, prioritizing yourself, whatever it's probably leading into and one of the reasons why you have weight to lose. And so that is that understanding.

What about my lifestyle? What about the way I'm living, where I can't go the bathroom when I need, when I can't eat food when I want? And now I'm not trying to say, of course, it's a lot easier said than done. And for example, teachers just can't start mowing their food in the middle of a lesson or whatever, right? So this is why it's not an all or nothing attitude, but it is about figuring out how to do it, right? So there's a lot of obstacles there.

So set alarms, timers, split up the meals and snacks that you can, get yourself some takeout containers, you know, make foods that you can kind of eat cold. Right? Sometimes people can play, well, I don't eat my food cold, but how often are you actually eating warm food? Most people are not. Also, salads are cold. Do you know what I mean?

I think every day I eat my food cold because usually Tony will make dinner or whatever. By the time I come upstairs, it's cold. Or yesterday when I ate my food hot, I circled back around and the bok choy was still sitting on the plate and I finished the bok choy and it was cold at the end of the day. So, come up with ways, okay, what can I do to make this easier for me to make my way through these four days? But again, it's not just splitting up the meals and snacks, it's bringing awareness

to how you're living your life, right? And how you make time for yourself or how you don't make time for yourself. Wish me luck traveling by car, ferry, bus, train and plane to get to Moose Jaw from Vancouver Island, pack snacks, water ball and feeling fiercely livy bound. I love this, right? And you might not be perfect, but setting yourself up for success is great. You might not be able to drink all your water because you're on planes, trains, automobiles, and all of that. But right, but sip on it, stay hydrated.

The little things, here's the thing, it's not any one big thing. It's the little things that you do that add up to make a difference that save you, right? That save you from just making it all a hot mess and then having to recover because you didn't drink water, you left yourself open to vending machines or fast foods or whatever. And even if it's just the snacks in between, it's going to give you the energy, you're going to bring more peace of mind, your body is going to feel more content, it's just going to make everything easier.

I mean a non-skilled victory for me this week is with my relationships. I've decided some friendships are like eating a bag of Doritos, fun in the moment, but toxic in the long run. I might have a bite and bit and bite, but will focus on healthier, sustaining interactions with people I choose to spend time with. Oh gosh, I could go on. I could go on and on. You know what? I love this because you're starting to realize again, this is we've covered so much and this point it does become taking a look at your relation of your lifestyle of your relationships.

I'll tell you a story of I had a best friend for 20 years. I was best friends with her and her sister. I had been through a lot with them. I'd been through so much shit. In fact, I'm sure my life, because I'm a sharer, you might have noticed, I'm like a bit of a sharer. I just lay it all out. This is my life. I think with my friends, your family and your friends are the people who one, you should be able to tell them anything, and two, should be the people who are real to you. Sometimes we get pissed off because our family tells us like it is, but if not your family, then who?

I learned this about my mom, right? If not my mom having an opinion about my life, then who? Then who? Right? But your friends and family are people that you want to trust and are the people that should accept you as is, but should also be able to be frank with you. Anyway, my one friend, she just, she recognized she was going through a lot of stress in her life. And I was always going to her house. I was going to help her or whatever, and her life was

equally odd mess, but she didn't realize it, didn't see it, didn't talk about it. And I very freely shared my life. And it came to a point where they were treating me like this person who just couldn't do anything. Like, my marriage failed, and this and that failed and therefore, like, I was just kind of like this idiot trying to make their way through life. And I had done a lot of work to change, just like you all are doing a lot of work to change. And I came to realize that the way they were speaking to me, treating me, wasn't working for me anymore. And like, I would be like,

oh, I'm going to do that. Why are you doing that? Or I'd have my friend calling, you said this, why would you say that? And la la la la la, you can't do this. And trying to like, I would be like, oh, I'm going to do that. Why are you doing that? Or I'd have my friend calling, you said this, why would you say that? And la la la la la, you can't do this. And trying to like, what they thought was help me, but really trying to control me to do what they wanted, would fit into what works for them, how they would do things. And not really respecting who I was

and the changes that I made. And there was a time where I was like, okay, you guys, like I've changed, I need you to recognize I'm not that person anymore. And I had a few conversations, it just wasn't working. And I was starting to not want to pick up the phone when my friend called. I started to not want to go out with them when they asked. And these are but I, you know, I thought I would work it out. It was just a phase.

And then something happened one weekend. And it was really a misunderstanding, something that a simple communication, a simple phone call, a simple conversation would have addressed. And she just blew it up. And she's like, I'm never speaking to you again and whatever. This is like my friend for 20 years. And in that moment, I was relieved. I was like, and I was like, whoa. My best friend of 20 years is pissed at me.

And was I in the wrong or the right? I had my share part of it. But again, a simple conversation would have fixed it. It's a bit of a misunderstanding and a blow up because she wasn't in a great place and she just freaked out and whatever. And I also had some friends that were intertwined with her friends and those friends worked with her. So my core group of friends, she decided I was out and they all cut me out. And it was the best thing that ever happened to me.

And every now and then I think about reaching out and sharing my like, you guys want to know the real like, we should, should we, I feel like I want to validate. But I, I, every time I do, I'm like, Gina, you're a good person. This is like, it's their, their narrative is not what happened. And they know this. So the one girl reached out to me afterwards to apologize because she knew it was this fucked up shit. And every time I think back, I'm sad about my friendship, but it's the best thing that ever happened to me because it wasn't good for me to have them in my life. And it left me on an island by myself where I had an opportunity to be like, what do I

want to do? How do I want to do it without people telling me what to do? And it opened up a door to meet people. All these amazing people just flooded into my life because I spent all my time with them. And it just was like, opened up in my end, opened up real conversation where I met people who talked about their lives in a way that I talked about my life and I felt validated. I felt like I could actually have conversations with people about hard stuff, real stuff, come up with solutions and felt like I wasn't alone.

A lot of times we have friends and family, tons of them, but we feel alone. A lot of times we live in a house full of people, but we feel alone. And in really truly be embracing who I was, embracing who I was, it's really interesting. Everything kind of started to fall in line because I made choices that worked for me, not based on what other people told me I should do and I shouldn't do. Let me tell you, it's probably one of the hardest things I've ever been through. It is gut wrenching to lose good friends and to let people go. And you know how they say people come and go out of your life. Well, I was changing and I believe this is the universe working for me. I have since seen those people and the friends who kind of sided with them have also come back around, I think, to see, okay, maybe there was more to this story.

And, you know, Gina's actually this pretty cool chick who's actually pretty great. The people who are meant to see you and be in your life will find you. But sometimes we hold on to old relationships and we're afraid to let those go. And the reason why I'm sharing this story is because what's going to happen moving forward

are people going to have all sorts of things to say about your weight journey. And you losing weight is going to make people uncomfortable, especially those of you who have a lot of weight to lose. If you take a look at your friend circle, and then this comes back to how I started this conversation, man, this factors into, believe it or not, sustainable weight loss. This is something no one's talking about. When you do lose that 420, heck, and you've killed confidence, 40, 60, 100 plus pounds, you are changing,

and you're changing dynamics around you. So if you were the fat friend, right? Take a look at your friend circle. And all of a sudden, you're no longer the fat friend. That means one of your other friends has got to step up and now play the role of the fat friend. That's going to fuck up that dynamic. Right? You were the person who at the office was always on a diet, you know, was always whatever maybe you're on another diet, try this, try that. Now you're no longer that woman in the corner office

on the diet again, you're that woman. Now you're no longer that woman in the corner office on the diet again, you're that woman who lost her weight, you feel fucking fantastic because you've done the hard work to make change in your life. You got more energy, you're more confident, you feel worthy. If you feel worthy of losing weight, worthy of prioritizing yourself, you will feel worthy of everything in life. And so now those co- around you are like you're forcing them to look at themselves. In relationships, you know, you were overweight, maybe it stopped you from going out. Now you're a person you want to get out there and experience in the world. And,

you know, maybe your partner is not that kind of person who wanted to do that. Or maybe that partner is now jealous. Maybe they are overweight and they've walked, watched you work hard and this wasn't for them. But now you want to go, you're going out for walks, you're going out and you're being social. All your energy is changing and they no longer feel like you're that person anymore. But you are that person. And as you being that person, you should be allowed to

change and evolve. And so this also, this also is part of your weight loss journey. And so, you know, that's why I love that, you know, I've a non-scale victories with my relationships, I decided some friendships are like eating a bag of Doritos in the moment. It's that friend that you meet every Friday and you go for burgers and fries and you walk away feeling like shit, right? You wanna be able to go and order whatever you wanna eat that's gonna make you feel good and walk away feeling good. But you know, oh, you're no fun anymore.

You're no fun anymore because you don't engage in the donuts that Sally brings in every Friday. You're no fun anymore because you don't wanna drink wine and get drunk anymore. engage in the donuts that Sally brings in every Friday. You're no fun anymore, because you don't want to drink wine and get drunk anymore. I think I'm actually more fun when I'm not drinking than when I'm, you know, I am drinking.

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Her issue was she became a personality based on a very public personality, based on the fact that she was overweight. She was self-depreciating about it, made jokes about it. She was always showing the stuff she was indulging in eating it. And as she started to lose weight, she was afraid that that would change how people perceived her and that people would judge her and people would no longer accept her for who she was. And this was tied into her career because she had created a persona of the diet girl and the eat whatever she wants and then joke about how she's overweight,

trying to put her pants on. And you know, I've since seen she's made change, but I also know she's done a lot of work to get to that place. Right? She's done a lot of work to get to that place. I once had another person who did the Living Method who, again, their whole persona was this overweight person. And then once they lost the weight, they didn't get the engagement that they normally got. So they were no longer relatable. And so they gained the weight back because they realized it was in the conversations of struggling

where she got the most feedback and support. And people are really good at supporting people's failures. Like if you say, oh my God, I ate a chocolate cake today, people say, oh, that's okay. Tomorrow's another day. Let's go finish it off by going out and burger. You fucked up the day anyway, so let's go have some burgers and fries or whatever, rather than why did you do that? You were doing really well and obviously you're not happy with that choice that you made. So what's going on there? That's not the conversations we have when people

talk about how they indulged and they did this. I recognize this once because I was at a gym and the women were talking, one woman't, we don't, I recognize this once because I was at a gym and the women were talking, one woman talked about how, oh, she ate this last night and cookies or something. And someone else like, oh yeah, I did this and that. This is after pounding the shit out of our bodies and working really hard and wanting to make change. And the next thing you know, they're like swapping,

oh, I have a good cookie recipe for this, a good cookie recipe for that. And I was like, wait a minute, someone is sharing that they overindulge, they just kind of, they feel like shit. I know we're trying to make them feel better, but swapping cookie recipes isn't it. It's like, hey, what was going on?

You know, what was going on? Like if I was like, oh yeah, fuck, I drank a bottle of wine last night, I feel like garbage. You know, it's like, okay, why? You okay? Are you okay? Why did you, like, I'm sure you feel like garbage. Like, what was going on?

You want to talk about it? You know, you had a whole bag of cookies last night. Are you all right? Like, what's going on? You work so hard to make change in your life. What's going on? Can I help? Like, what do you need?

All right, let's come up with a plan so we can get back at it tomorrow." We are not having this conversation. We like to bitch and complain and indulge in a failure because we feel like, oh, it's validating. I feel like a failure too, but we're not coming up with solutions. We're not thinking big picture of what's the conversation that's going to get us out of this situation, move us forward, actually help us make real change.

Is there a maintenance program? Yeah. Yes. It's what it, yes. See how excited I got? Yeah. Heck yeah, we have a maintenance program. We, Ruth Kane, Professor Ruth Kane has been studying the Living Method, actually took quite

a bit of time and talked to hundreds of focus groups in the maintenance group and me. Through her findings, we came up with a maintenance program. We've had a maintenance group for two years to help people while they're navigating maintenance. The process for maintenance was to do another round of the Living Method to solidify your weight and then we teach you this process called personalizing the plan to teach you how to phase off the program and the plan and eat in tune to your body's needs once you've lost your weight. So you don't have to follow a program or anything like that. You have to kind of take the basic principles obviously and the changes that you've made and reinforce those and move forward and live the living way, but it's not by following a certain plan.

And we've found out a lot about what people need. And just like it took me 30 years to figure out what people need to be able to maintain and sustain their weight, it's taken us time and every day we're still learning about what people need when it comes to maintenance. And so I can tell you that 98% of people who sign up for our maintenance program and group feel confident about their ability to be able to maintain and sustain their weight. And the people who have been successful, and we do talk about people gaining weight back, it happens for a variety of reasons, right? Not solidifying weight, situational change, not being mindful, we talk about that.

Other people who've gone on to successfully maintain their weight for years, there was one common thing. They know that they're not going back to how they live their lives. They made change and they are sustaining and maintaining the change. Not just the choices that they're making, not that they're avoiding bread or pasta or any of those things, but the lifestyle changes that they make, they have to reinforce those and they cannot go back to eating the way that they were. They cannot go back to their busy lifestyles and not make time.

They cannot go back to staying up all night and watching Netflix day in, day out. They cannot go back to drinking a bottle of wine and trashing themselves every day. They cannot go back to letting their stress levels go through the roof, but they don't have the tools and the skills to be able to maintain and sustain the change that they made. So that's where that's coming from. I think my nose is, oh my God, I'm a hot mess today. I am still sick, if you can imagine.

So we do have a whole maintenance program. At the end of the program, we go over maintenance with you. And so we do talk about maintenance with you in the last week of the program. So we set you up for success. You do not have to sign up for the maintenance program. Although if you've lost your weight with the living method, you will want to do the maintenance program for sure. I've gotten through no comments today, you guys. I suck. Yeah, we start splitting meals and snacks tomorrow. So love the new post on diet fails and fixes, by the way. Thanks, Marilyn. So, you know, I'm trying to people so many times people think they're failing. And so that post

came about because I thought like, let's just put it out there. Why do people fail at diets? And it made seem really strange putting it in right now where we're at. But I think it's, if you're here at this point, you've just come so much further. Like you really are, you're doing the work like you're getting it, right? You're getting it. And that's where now I think it's interesting to reflect on like, why do people fail at diets and how do you break that cycle? And now just in being, I think it wouldn't have hit the same in the beginning, right? And I think you'll agree that post, if you've read it, if you haven't read it, it's available today. That post wouldn't have hit the same in the first couple of weeks of the program.

It's only now that you can like read that and then reflect and see the things that you've done to make change that you're like, oh man, I'm hoping your takeaway from that post is to realize the work that you have done. All of the work that you have done to get you where you are today and be able to fuck back and be like, oh shit, yeah, I'm actually doing more work than I realize I am doing with this program. That's my takeaway for that. Um, hi, Diane. Good morning.

Falling behind. You are exactly where you need to be. You are exactly where you need to be trying to get back on track after vacation, honestly, probably the hardest program so far at number 10, feeling like I'm going backwards in so many ways, but here I am, I'm going to try to push forward. Okay. The setback is the set up for moving forward. And so for whatever reason, you're revisiting these fields, you're revisiting this, whatever you got going on. And you getting out of that and moving forward is just like that, that's part of your journey.

And that's why this is something that you, you alone need to work through. And that's why I believe you are not behind. You are exactly where you need to be. There are gonna be many times in your life you're gonna be on vacation. You're gonna feel like you get off track or whatever. And this experience right here and how you navigate this

is gonna be a game changer. And it's gonna be one of the reasons why you're able to get back on track after all of the many vacations that you have coming up in your life. So you are exactly where you need to be. This is just a lesson for you. So you say the hardest program so far, why? What is going about it? That's your go-to. That's your go-to. And whether it's life, realizing life, man, fucking life, gets smacks you in the face. Whether it's that or whatever it is that you're dealing with, you know, your stress of life, time of life, winter vacations, getting in your own way, that's the lesson for you. That's the

lesson for you. So, you know, in a sense, I understand how sometimes the program, like it gets easier as you go physically, you can know what to do, you got the routine, you got to like, you know what to do, blah, blah. But then sometimes in knowing everything that you need to do, it gets harder because you are left with the big stuff, with the big stuff. With the big stuff. My friends have been amazingly supportive and happy for me. Hold on to that.

If you've got a spouse who's supporting you, lucky you. If you have friends that are amazing, ah, like I love's supporting you, lucky you. If you have friends that are amazing, ah, like I love that for you, right? My friends have really been amazing support. I'm so happy. I'm no longer that big girl of the group. My extended family, on the other hand, my weight loss makes them very uncomfortable, right? Especially your aunt, whoever who always makes fat jokes, you know, or your uncle who makes digs at your fat ass or whatever it is like, wow, they're gonna feel uncomfortable because what are they gonna say to you now?

Right? It fucks people up. It fucks people up. It really, really does. It messes with them. It has nothing to do with you, by the way, and has everything to do with their own issues. We're gonna have we're gonna talk more about people's reactions to your weight. You're gonna have people say, Oh, my God, don't lose any more weight.

And meanwhile, you're like carrying 20 40 pounds, you're like, but I want to, and this is where people, this is a really interesting conversation with Dr. Beverly and Dr. Dr. Dina yesterday, because I, one of the things I talked about with them is let's talk to people who are doing really well. What's the conversation for people who are doing really well, because there's the majority of people are crushing the program, doing great. The conversation there for them, interestingly, was own it. Own it. Like, own that you are doing really well.

Because a lot of times when people say something to you, you're like, oh, you blow it off. Oh, you whatever. You know, like Deena yesterday before, she's like, you look really great today. I'm like, oh my God, it's smoke and mirrors. My hair is disgusting. I stink. I'm gross. I whatever. And she's like, Wow, you can't take a compliment. Can you? Like, no, actually, I cannot. You know, and so this is like, this is like this. So so someone will say to you, Oh, you don't lose any more

weight and people say, Okay, yeah. But now you're saying no, fuck that shit, man. I feel fantastic. I'm going for another 40 pounds. I've never felt better in my life. I'm so proud of myself. I'm I'm I think because what you are saying to other people, you are listening to yourself. So this conversation is so much bigger than what other people are saying or not saying. It is again how you internalize and also what you say outwardly and what you own in that conversation. And so when your uncle or whoever your family said something to you, right? Yeah, I've made some changes. I feel fantastic. What the fuck are you going to say? Right? Yeah, Uncle Henry, I know I noticed for the last 20

years you make make comments about my ass, which one is weird. But two, what are you going to say now? Check back on me later that you know, like like, this is it, like what you are saying to other people is really what you're saying to yourself. And then there are people who will say nothing. Then there are people, now some people who say, don't lose any more weight, you're great the way they are. You are, that's because they love you the way you are. There are people, some people are jealous.

They're like, bitch, don't lose any more weight because it's pissing me off. Then other people don't lose any more weight because they think that you're starving and depriving and they love you the way that they are. That doesn't mean you're not entitled to change. Then there are people who say nothing. Nothing. Nothing. Nothing.

They say nothing. But because sometimes I think that's it. They don't because the world has made it really weird that we're not allowed to comment on people's bodies, or maybe they're afraid they're going to jinx you or whoever or whatever. You know, so people can get really weird, which can really affect your weight loss journey can really can really affect. I hear some of you stop. Yeah, you don't have friends like that because you stopped drinking.

I know it's making my husband uncomfortable, but he won't admit it. And so, you know, this is, this is coming conversations, right? Like this is like, hey, can we have a, can we have a minute? Like I know I'm feel like I'm all consumed in this journey right now, but I just want to talk to you about it because I've been consumed with weight my entire life and I just want to move on from that. I really think, and I know I've done a lot of programs before, but I found something that causes me to dig deeper, that's going to enable me to make real change, that I really

feel is going to help me get to a different place where I don't have to spend my life consumed with dieting anymore. And I can spend, you can have my full attention and I want to be able to enjoy my life with you. And I understand that I may be making changes and choices that maybe are different. But I'm trying really hard and I'm changing. I don't know who I am right now, but I'm trying to figure out that who is. But here's what I do know.

I love you. And I love you exactly the way you are. And although I'm making my changes, it doesn't affect my love for you. And that will never change. And that's a good conversation to have. And this is why originally I refused to help Tony lose weight. So there's a whole story about how my husband came to be my business partner. But he would ask me to help him lose weight. And I said, no, no, no, no, no, I'm not going to tell you what

to do. I don't want you telling me what to do. It ain't happening. It ain't happening. And so he ended up signing up for the program on his own. And I actually started to sabotage him. I did. I brought chips in bed. I sabotaged him because I was uncomfortable with him changing. I didn't want him to change. I loved him eating chips in bed with me at night. And I didn't want, I think I loved him and I want to reinforce, I love you the way that you are. I don't need you to change. But then once I realized I was sabotaging him, it really caused me to understand he wants to change.

He wanted to feel better. He wanted to lose weight. And I was being this really shitty partner because I was being so selfish, even though I run a weight loss program. Not only was I not helping him, not only was I sabotaging him, I didn't want him to lose weight because of me, because I thought it would change our relationship and me. And so even I, just saying as a weight loss expert, and as soon as I recognized that,

I said that to him. I was like, I have to apologize to you because I'm sabotaging you and this is why. And we had that conversation. You can do hard things. You can have hard conversations. Does the maintenance program have a journal? So Odette and I are currently working on a maintenance journal. We are also working on, so not this spring, but the fall we'll have a maintenance app.

And we're working on putting out a maintenance book. So I know you could technically use the journal. You could technically use the journal for maintenance as well. So yeah, you could totally do that. All right, I got to get going. My front nose and I'm going to cough my brains out here. That's a great story. Yeah.

Change chips in bed to sexy time in bed. Well we haven't even gotten into that, how losing weight, the living method, feeling good. But a lot of times we feel, we'll get it. That's one topic we have not touched on. And actually, I'm working on a third program, where these are the types of conversations we're going to have. It's interesting, because a lot of times,

in people in relationships I've spoken to, where they think that you're not attracted to your partner. It's interesting because a lot of times in people in relationships I've spoken to where they think that you're not attracted to your partner. And I'm not saying this is everybody, there's so many different dynamics to this, but really it was never about your partner. It was about how you felt about yourself. And this is something I hear a lot about because I've worked with people in relationships. Sorry. It was never about the partner. It was always about them. It was always about

them. So yeah, the Living Method, we haven't even gotten into how it can change your sex life for sure. Not to mention it's just your body being healthier, all of that. I got to go. That's a perfect time to get for me to be out. Thanks for joining me today. Thanks for putting through my hacking and all of that. I love where we're at in the program, if you can't tell. Great conversation yesterday, Dr. Dina Kara-Schafer. Andrew Blake, he's going to join me tomorrow. He's really interesting. He's a younger guy that's all about aging. And we're going to talk to him about working out, exercising, building muscle, aging, all of that. He's going to join me tomorrow. So I will see you guys hopefully tomorrow. If not,

have a fantastic day and I'll see you later. Oh, if you want to join us for the tweak this week, Kim and I are talking at 11 today at 11 a.m. because I have been asked by Obesity Matters and I'm going to do a talk with them. It's a free seminar series that they're running that you might be interested in that I posted in the group if you're interested. Okay. Have a great day. See you tomorrow, bye. you but more so motivate you. All you have to do is open up the app, tap into your well-being, and you can hear advice and get insight from leading influencers, experts, and professionals. Whatever your focus really or interest, there's a listen for you. You can find titles on better health like personal fitness or maybe some relaxation. You can hear ways to improve your relationships

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