The Livy Method Podcast - Livy Method Day 57 - Fall 2025

Episode Date: November 3, 2025

Gina Livy's Facebook Lives from The Livy Method Fall 2025 Support Group hosted on Facebook. This is a recording of the Day 57, 9 AM live. You can find the full video hosted at: www.facebook.com/groups/livymethodfall2025.In this episode, Gina gets real about the emotional layers of weight loss, calling out the patterns that keep people stuck and encouraging honest self-reflection. She speaks to the discomfort that comes with real change, the ways fear can fuel self-sabotage, and how easy it is to slip into avoidance when things feel hard. From recognizing your own excuses to managing the rollercoaster of progress, Gina highlights how staying grounded and compassionate with yourself can be the difference between giving up and growing through it. Success, she reminds us, isn’t about doing it perfectly—it’s about learning to feel good in your body and your life.To learn more about The Livy Method, visit livymethod.com. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I'm Gina Livy, and welcome to the Livy Method podcast. This is where you'll have access to all of the live streams for my 91-day weight loss program. With a combination of daily lives, guest expert interviews, and member stories, there is something new almost every day. Miss the morning live? Want to re-listen to one of our amazing guest experts? Well, this is the place. This podcast is hosted on ACAST, but it's available on all podcast platforms, including the one you're listening to right now, Spotify, Apple, and Amazon Music.

Hello and happy Monday. Also, happy week eight of the program. Let's get right into it. So it's been a busy past week with the Jays. Are, you know, a lot of us were tired, lots of emotions. It was Halloween. The time change, we were switching over to holiday mode. There's a lot going on there.

There's a lot going on. So how are you feeling today? If you saw my check in this morning, I talked about this, just kind of taking stock of where you're at and what you need. I had a great opportunity yesterday to meet some of our incredible members at our first ever walk, which was absolutely amazing. If you didn't come out, make sure you do for the next one. It was great to connect with people and that's what it's all about

and really talk face to face with where people are at, they're going through how they are doing. And, you know, I was thinking this morning, what does it take to make real change? Like, this is so much more than just going on a fucking eye. it. It is so much more. I want you to lose the weight because I want you to feel calm and comfortable in your body. I want you to not spend another day trying to lose weight already. And it's beyond weight because what we're doing here is losing weight in a healthy way and not just physically but mentally.

But what does it take to make real change? Like have that conversation with yourself. Like what's going on with you? Right. Like what's going on with you? How did you get here? What do you truly want to achieve. What's that going to look like? What's that going to feel like? What do you need to do? And it's about making real change in your life. And if you're not happy with your life, you've got to make some changes in your life. You absolutely can reach your goals. There's zero science that suggests that it's impossible for you to lose weight. In fact, your body doesn't want the fat any more than you do. So if you're telling yourself, this is just how it is, that's not just how it is. There's probably some things that you're not doing or you're not giving your body the time like I don't know what it is right I'm

throwing it out there it could be things that you're not doing where your stress is out of control you're not sleeping you're drinking drinking all the time and you know that's messing with things but you know whatever um that's hands up on me for that one um you know do you are you working out or not joining a gym but are you moving your body like really where are you at what you need and not the i'm not talking the surface shit that's not where I'm at real sustainable change that's going deep, making actual changes that impact your life, that's not surface shit. That's like that's deep, deep, deep, deep, deep stuff. What do you want to talk about today?

Let me know. I got my questions here. I'm going to get into them. Kim sent me some questions this morning that I will get into here. Self-sabotage weekend. It's a whole new day. Yeah. But also, let's talk about that.

did you self-sabotage weekend? So what does that mean exactly? Right? Like I love the whole new day. I love that mindset. I love that. Because all you got is today. Love that mindset. But that doesn't reconnect the dots on anything. So let's go back. What happened? What was going on in your life? How come you're not happy and you're viewing it as self-sabotage this weekend? Because that is going to keep happening over and over and over and over and over until you do something about it and you recognize, right? And so this is where you look back and be like, did I have a plan for the weekend? Where did things go sideways, what could I have done differently? Like really taking a minute so that next time you're in a similar situation, you're not going to make the same choices again, you know? So just having

that self-realization, like that in itself is really huge. That in itself is huge. Okay, let's go. My weight is slow to shift, okay? Still not quite at five pounds loss. So, you know, one pound a week, still amazing around here. Some people just started to get that scale moving. Why? What's going on there, right? So if you're not seeing the weight happen on the scale, what is going on? If you made all of these changes, how are you feeling? You should be noticing a ton of non-scale victories. So your weight will drop or you'll notice non-scale victories and your body will change, right? What's going on there? I have been eating more than the plan some days. Okay, like snacks after dinner. That's huge. Stop fucking doing that. Stop fucking doing that. And I'll tell you why. And I love

this comment, by the way. I'm recognizing my eating behavior has less to do with satiety. than habit. Absolutely. Right. Love this. But I'm becoming frustrated and discouraged. Okay. So I think that's interesting. And thank you so much for sharing. So I'm going to break this down. And whenever I do this, this is for everybody. So you are becoming frustrated and discouraged by your own behavior. Right? Like we got to own that. That's not the program. This is not the plan. Eating after dinner is so detrimental to fat loss because your body needs a break from eating and your body needs the sleep, right? And so recognizing, this is why you don't just let it go. This is why you got to go back and be, what's this all about? So now that you recognize that behavior, you got to get

uncomfortable and knock it off for you, because you're getting discouraged, right? You're getting discouraged with yourself. You're frustrated with yourself. So no one's going to come and do this for you. So you got to say, okay, this is this just not fucking, how's this working for you? Right? So you're going to say, how is this working for me? Is this really working for me? So full I'm drinking a lot these days. I got to knock it off. It makes me feel like shit. I don't feel good. Physically, mentally, all of that. Sure, I have a great time, but I have fine when I don't drink. So what's it all about stress? And it's just not working for me. I said to Tony, like, when am I going to learn? When am I going to learn? When? And I sat there and I'm just like, okay, so I'm going to stop drinking like I think for like a year. Okay, well, next week I'm going here. I'm going here. I'm doing this. I'm doing that. I have holidays coming up.

I'm going to want wine. I'm not like, why? Okay, why does it be so black and white, Gina? Because I think I know myself and I think just being like, oh, I'll just have it whenever. The last time I went 12 weeks without drinking, I've never felt better in my life. And so this is a whole discussion with myself this morning. Like, what is it that I actually need? I didn't really come to a conclusion. I'm still working on it. But this is where like, I'm not happy with my behavior. It's not working for me. No one is going to change this for me. I've been here before. I go back and forth. I keep sliding. You guys know I talk about it all the time because that's just the thing that I'm dealing with. So that's my reference. It's not about me at the end of the day.

But how do I change this behavior of mine? I have to make a commitment to changing it. I have to get to a point where it really truly is not working for me anymore. And so this is where you have to make that choice. And I have to get uncomfortable. So what does that mean? I have to get uncomfortable about going into situations and not drinking. I'd be uncomfortable with that feeling of missing out. I have to be uncomfortable with, you know, it's not going to be fun. It's probably not going to be enjoyable, but it's truly a move that I want to make, right? Because this, what I'm doing now is not working for me. And I'll go a month. Well, won't have anything to drink. And then when I do drink, I, you know, whatever. Then it's days and then it's a

week. And then it's like, whatever. So it's just, I've gotten to this place. You've got to get to that place. Like, how is this working for you? And are you ready to get uncomfortable and make the change truly? And maybe yours is a short term so you can reach your. your goal, right? I mean, that's the great thing about losing weight. But at the end of the day, too, it's about if you're not happy with how your body's responding, how can you get your body to respond in a way that you are happy with it? And that nighttime eating, it's never about hunger. It's never about hunger when you're hungry at night, unless you've gone all day long without eating, but that's not the case. If you're following the program, giving your body everything it needs,

you don't need to eat at night. So this is where you might want to dig into the science. There's a couple ways in. Okay. Do I understand truly why, it's detrimental for me to eat at night. Like really understand the science there. You've got to give your body a break from eating. It really truly messes with your sleep. Even the smallest amount after your body starts that wind down process, you're interrupting your sleep.

Your body repairs or rebuilds makes change in detoxes when you sleep. So sleep is so important. So understanding the science behind that could be like a game changer for you depending on how your brain works. You're like, okay, I get it. I really get it. This is really like this is, I'm really working against myself here. steps forward, two steps back doing this. Is it behavior? So if it is habits, right, then change your

habit. Start going for a walk. Brush your teeth, do your creamies, read a book, have a bath. Like you have to be like ding, ding, ding, ding, ding. Okay, I'm going to eat. And then, okay, what can I do? And you're not going to be happy about it. That's the thing too. I think people look at change. They're like, oh, I'm embracing change. Fuck that shit. Change is hard. You don't have have to be happy about it, but you got to do it. So this is where you say to yourself, like, fuck, I really want to have X right now, but I can't. So I'm going to be miserable about it and I'm going to do something else. Right. Go for a walk. Something that puts you in that uncomfortable place is that that's getting you to where you want to go because we're so used to the dopamine

hits. I deserve this. I deserve that. You deserve to have a treat. You deserve to have a snack after dinner. Life is short. Why the fuck not? I can't deal. And then we never get to where we want to go. what is it going to take to make real change in your life, right? And I don't know what that is. There's a few things that you can do. And then she says, can someone suggest free audio mindset shifts specifically to this program? I don't know that it needs to be specific to this program, right? Because reaching goals is reaching goals.

So we had that sabotage post today. You are sabotaging your goals. you probably also do this in other areas of your life. You don't just do it in one area of your life. It's just how you are. Sabotage or sabotage. Sabotage is sabotage. I really let that sink in.

It's so true. And so this is universal. The change that you're trying to make here is universal change. Atomic Habits is a really great book. You could probably get it in audio, in audio, right? Affirmations recorded that I can listen to on repeat. pita really find that helpful yeah so so maybe you guys have that that's a great thing to share maybe on a meditation page or something like that but i love this seek out what do you need

what do you need to help you make these changes so you actually make real change right oh i took up knitting keeps my hands busy i love that right yeah and this is so like you got to figure out what it is that's going to work for you. This is a big long one. Good morning. I know weight loss is a personal journey. I recall hearing from your expert of you of Ottawa that the average weight loss per program is 12 pounds. This is my third program.

I am all in this time. Sleep, stress, vitamins, meditation, exercise, along with following the food plan, and hydrating. I'm seeing a pattern. Very little weight loss in the first 30 days. A spike too higher than my weight start on day 35, then a drop. six pounds and six days since day 45 however the scale has been bouncing around that new low and anticipating another big drop this week but wondering if i'm setting myself up for disappointment

how long does it take for the body to say okay this is our new weight now and i feel comfortable to move on not sure this can be answered here but i'm open to any wisdom okay so one to two pounds a week is the average but that can look really different that can be literally one to two pounds in the course of like 91 days, that can be someone loses like 20 pounds, right, in like the first program and then, you know, maybe five, their next 10, their next program. Like if you took, you have to take that entirety of the time that you are losing weight and that always, even someone who's lost 100 pounds, if you take the time that it took them to lose that weight, right, like a year to lose 100 pounds, that's still like one to two pounds.

A week, right? So everyone's a little different. Some people drop in a little bit. Some people drop bigger chunks and then what seems like a long, longer plateaus. Some people lose like a big, big chunk and then go weeks, months without any loss. So it really depends. Plus, you add on top of that what's going on in your life. If you have fat to lose, you have fat to lose, right? And your goal isn't really a number. So setting, if you have fat, if you can grab your fat, you feel, you don't feel comfortable in your body. I mean, obviously I have to assume that everyone is being reasonable about the amount of weight that they want to lose. There are, you know, eating, you know, disordered eating and, you know, body dysmorphia and whatnot. So I have to, you know, there's a

caveat there. But there's no reason why you can't reach your goal weight, whatever that is, as long as that's a healthy weight for you. People are like, oh, I guess it's because it's hard to lose weight. My body doesn't want to let it go. And this is just how it is. Your body's like, really? Right? Sometimes what happens is we get stuck on doing the same thing. So I love that you picked up on the pattern of this, but are you just continuing to dig your heels into the same thing, right? Like so, for example, maybe you've lost weight, you were eating salads and now we're rolling into the fall and your body's like, this is not, this salad is not doing it for me. It needs a little bit more oomf, right? Bumping up protein, fat, you know, adding in like healthy carbs in there, sweet potatoes, quinoa, that type of thing,

right, where you actually feel like you need a little bit more oomph. Maybe this is a stressful time right now for emotionally whatever you got that stress add in bump up those omega threes you don't do some deep breathing exercises so there's no reason why you can't reach your goal weight it's all about trying to lose weight because that's what we're doing here we are give the body what it needs so it doesn't feel the need to store fat right help it specifically focus on fat loss and then support in its needs and if you're intentionally and actively doing that there's no reason why you can't lose weight so we have people who will reach their goal for example then they will go into the maintenance program and go through the maintenance, like the maintenance mindset and still

lose some weight without even trying because your body's not a machine. So it's going to release any fat that it no longer feels like it needs at the end of the day. There are some ways to side track the body from doing that. But there's no reason why you can't reach your goal. It's just, it's, it might be like if you're, if that's your pattern, you know, it's setting yourself up. maybe you're just, like, setting yourself up for a disappointment. Like, what, so if you're not happy, probably your body's not happy either. Right? If you're not happy, your body's not happy.

And there's no reason why you can't get to a place where you're really happy and content with how you look and how you feel at the end of the day. So just keep working on it. Just keep working on it. Two, two, two, two. It takes two years to solidify your weight. That's what they're, so once you reach your goal. weight. It takes about two years for your body to make that your new weight, just to answer that

question. This is why I love our maintenance program, because it's actually helping you intentionally solidify your weight. So it's not just, that's like someone who's just lost their weight, counting, weighing, measuring. They lost their weight. Now they're trying to maintain and sustain it during chaos, right? That's why the system that we have in place for maintenance is really effective because it fast tracks that whole process. Um, I told my doctor I joined the living method. She said it's a really good one. My cardiologist agreed, saying Gina's program is excellent. She's quite well known. Well, that's so nice. The program is really great. There's no downside to doing it, just like, you know, unlike all the other diets that are out there. And this is

one of the things that Ruth Kane and her team at the University of Ottawa have been researching hundreds of focus groups, surveys. Like, we actually get a lot of thousands and thousands of thousands of people filling out our surveys at the end of the program. You'll have an opportunity to do that as well. We're actually going to try to get that all of her research on our website too for you guys to check out. We are in the process of gathering that from Ruth. So you can actually check that out. Hi, Suzanne Rowling. It was so nice to see you yesterday. I lost my focus since the spring when health issues revisited me. To be honest, I've been feeling quite depressed. Changes in medication are working. Pain and mood are improving. I've been working on resetting

my mindset, intentions are key. The only one that can create my change is me. You know, yeah, and thank you for saying that because this is sort of what has what I've been thinking about this morning. Like, so many people are dealing with so, like life is so hard sometimes. And that we're trying to do this thing that's so important to us. And it can be very trying. It can be very trying. It can be very trying. We were talking about health issues on the weekend. We were talking about grief. Some people are working through an insane amount of grief

and then trying to show up for themselves every day. So difficult. And then in order to make that change, sometimes we have to get uncomfortable when our lives are already really uncomfortable for us. And I think that's the takeaway today is like you are trying to lose weight. You are losing weight, not trying.

in a way that is so healthy for you that's actually giving you the tools and skills that you need. It gives you the platform to work through the stuff that you need to work through. And I'm not just talking physically, but mentally, it's so much more than just losing weight. And I think that sometimes we focus on the weight, focus on the weight, focus on the weight, focus on the weight. But the key to success is to focus on all the other things, right?

Even sabotage, for example, I've talked to so many who have lost their weight and then they sabotage themselves and gain it back because it's hard for them to accept who they are now. It's hard for them to believe that they can actually maintain and sustain it so they ruin it themselves, right? They start to get attention or compliments that feels uncomfortable. So they just, they go back to what they know. Like your whole mindset, so many have been tied into your weight. For some of you, you always being on a diet is defining who you are. You've always just been on a diet. And so even though you know you can reach your goal, that can feel really uncomfortable because you really are changing who you are.

You know, so this is, we need to normalize the struggle, but not dwell on it, but we need to normalize that for so many people, it's not just following. There are people who follow the food plan. Easy, peasy, lose their weight. Great. Every now and then they pop in. Hey, still maintaining my weight over here that's amazing that's like that i love that so many people that's their that's their journey but for so many others it's it's really more personal than that because it's like tied up we have to eat we have to eat and we use food for so many things but this is like working through all of that to be able to enjoy food again right so it's a lot so listen if you haven't given up on yourself i applaud you i have such mad respect for

who had done well and then life hit them and then they're back. You haven't given up on on yourself, right? That, that is it. There's only, there's no way, it's the same in business. If you think about business, there's so many successful people out there. Nobody's story is like, oh, it was so easy for me. Nobody. Nobody. Right? There's, they always have a story where they so many knows, you know, things happened like that. It's the same. This is what this goes back to the what you need to do to reach this goal is no different than reaching any other goal you are going to be set back right and then you just keep moving forward and that is that's life so so the goal is to try to enjoy the journey whatever that is for you how you frame it frame it like i don't

know like is this a do you do well with a course right are you like you like signing up for courses you're like home are done does that motivate you maybe you want to look at like a journey you know you know you don't even you don't know what's to come but you're here and you're just in the moment every day right or a project and you're the you're the project you have to make it resonate with you but this is why self love this is also about a lesson in self love taking the time for yourself figuring out what you need you know you being a person who steps up and takes care of you and it's like okay this is these are the things that I need to do I need to find a way to make this work for me you know not an easy thing not an easy thing not an easy thing not an easy thing

Sitting in Billy Bishop, waiting for my flight back home, was in the area for my birthday. Happy birthday, happy birthday, Diane. I'm flying out today, too. That's why I can't do the live tonight. I'm going to try to keep up those evening lies for you, but I'm going to be flying. I'm going to Atlanta for they're doing a big mass of obesity week. So we're going to talk and go see what's new. New, new, new.

Hi, Rees, old habits die hard. It takes time, patience, perseverance, dedication, compassion, understanding, but it is possible to break. This is it. This is what it's about. What you need today? Where are you at? How'd you get here? Are you happy with how you show?

Are you like, fuck yeah, I'm a fucking rock star? I am so happy with how I've been showing up for myself. You signed up for this 91 day program. How do you feel about that? And this is not to berate yourself and get on yourself if you haven't. This is being like, okay, no. Or I started to in the beginning and then I fell off. Why?

Oh, because this happened, that happened, whatever. Okay, let's cut myself some slack here. What can I do? What can I do to rally? Get back at it. So this is the analogy. This is the analogy, right? There's two of them. When you started this program, we all got in our cars and we hit the road and we're driving to Disneyland. Some of us are driving, you know, fancy new sports cars. Some are driving some, you know, pretty beat up old cars. Now we're not sure going to make it. We're going to do our best. While we're on the road, we are moving forward every day. Some people are in traffic jams, right? They sit there for a bit and things get moving. They're in detours. They're being. detoured, right? Some people get a flat tire. And this is where you don't, you know, just because

you get a flat tire doesn't mean you drive back home and start again. You just change your tire. Some people are sightseeing. Some people are choosing to sightsee along the way. You go visit friends, right? Maybe stay overnight, have a nice dinner. You get back in your car. You keep moving forward, right? You just, you keep going. The same thing with building a house. So let's say when everyone started, you know, we gave you a plot of land to build your house, your house that you're living in. Each week we're giving you tools. So you started with your foundation, right? And now you've got some walls up, some windows. So you're building your house. Well, it's about you showing up every day and trying to, you know, spend as much time building your house. Some days you're going to be super

productive. And other days you're just going to be like, oh, fuck. So, you know, maybe there'll be weekends where you can't spend any time in your house vacations there'll be times there'll be big chunks of time some of you you just won't be able to work on your house but your house is still sitting there and you don't knock it down and start again and if you can kind of frame the journey the same way right what the 91 day live sessions do is they they're able to like you put that away right like if you're signing up for january you'll be like this is fall this is my fall journey okay great let's set that aside. I start January 1st, January 5th, where am I at? What's going on with me? What do I need to do to set me up for success for this 91 days? There's a start, there's an end, there's a middle, right?

We had a member a while ago who just looked at it as one big continuous journey because in reality it is. But sometimes we need to break it down like that, right? I get mad at myself when I grab something quick to eat that's not healthy. Yeah. But, you know, sometimes like, that's just life and you got to eat. So what can you do to try to offset that, right? Carry some snacks. You know, maybe some things are better like you put some nuts and seeds in your purse, like rather than grabbing like some crappy food or whatever. Maybe it's out of order, but still it's like still good, you know, some fruits. Like what can you do to best set yourself up for success? And I want to just say that for a second because it's just about eating good nutrient

rich foods you know yes there's a rhyme and a reason behind the order of the foods all that because the body just loves routine but let's not get crazy pants about it right sometimes we're we're unable to follow in the ideal way that we like no um i'm having a really hard time splitting my meals okay so why right this is when you want to say what it's not an easy thing to do it's weird but effective it's weird but effective so it's inconvenient so is that just how your life is right maybe you feel like you're rushed like you have a whole hour for lunch but you actually spend five minutes eating and then the rest getting caught up and work or scrolling on your phone. Do you know what I mean? This is a good opportunity to take a look at our lives and the

times that we allocate for ourselves to consume our food. We're always eating in a rush. Is it just like you see it, you can't stop eating it, really dig into those force that's mindfully eating? Like what, what is it that you're having a hard time with? It's not a convenient, easy tweak to work. So there's a few things going on there, right? Again, these are an opportunity to learn and shift our perspective. That's what these tweaks are about. I also want to say, too, when we talk about shift our mindset,

this is about paying attention to our thoughts and our feels. All of that, that's where the insight is. So the words that you are, if I was to say to you, how do you feel right now, the thoughts and feels that you pop up, that's kind of probably where you're at. How do you feel about your weight loss journey? My eyelash is coming up. How do you feel about your weight loss journey right now? What are some of the, what's the word that you would describe? If you're in the comments right now, what's the word that you would describe your journey right now and how you're feeling like today? Start with that. And then be like, okay, what is that

about? How do I want to feel? Right? How do I want to feel? So it's just really going to that, Like, you know, I had a great conversation with Jason Fung, who is the author of the Obesity Code. He's fucking brilliant. I'm so excited to have the opportunity to speak to him. He's written this new book called The Hunger Code. And yeah, he's big on fasting, but that's, he also appreciates the living method. And we are doing our own kind of fasting by not eating at dinner. He's just like the body needs a break from eating, which is true.

But he's got this new book called The Hunger Code, which is about why you eat, right? It's about why you eat. It's about how you have physical hunger, you have emotional hunger, and then you have like societal hunger. It's really cool. It's coming out in March. He's actually going to come on in the January program and talk to us about this. But he talked about why a slow, stalled, slow and steady, disappointed, slow and steady, fantastic, slow, stalled, right? So, so, so, so, so, so, okay, I love this. That is describing the thing. So that, so he talked about, a great example. Thank you guys for sharing that. So he talked about the three, the three was asking three times. Asking three times. And he used the example of the Titanic. Why did the Titanic sink? Well, because it hit an iceberg. No. The Titanic sank because it was going to fast. Right? The Titanic sank because when it hit an iceberg, it was unable to handle the hit. So this is about going deeper. So stalled is how you are explaining the scale.

is stalled a feeling is stalled a feeling slow and steady is slow and steady a feeling so how do you feel so if slow and steady is it or stalled is it right or even disappointed okay so i love disappointed too let's go deeper than that let's go deeper than that what's really what's below what's beneath the slow installed. What's beneath the, you know, the disappointed, the slow and steady. What's beneath? Let's go to the feeling where you feel it in your body. So not in your head, feel it in your body. What's the word there? Right. And you want to go deeper. This is where you really want to make those connections. You want to really feel where you're at and what's going on. Positive. Same. Positive and hopeful. It's great. But again, deeper. Let's go deeper with that. Plateau exhaustion. So plateau exhaustion.

So what is that really about? I love that word, by the way, plateau exhaustion. So you're tired, you are tired of what? Still trying to lose weight? How many years later? Right? Like the plateau, like the plateau exhaustion. So what is it about being on a plateau that's so exhausting?

Right? That's where you want to go. That's where you want to go deeper on that. That's where you want to go deeper on that. These are all really great. I know spark of hope really yeah so so then so this is where you this is where we go slow but consistent discourage right it's emotional motivated go deeper on that go to go deeper on that go deeper on that my journey has been long but extremely insightful I know why I'm here I'm at it and why I'm in it

for the long haul yeah sometimes just getting that realization like sometimes we just need to recognize where we are at to be able to move forward you know eyes open Depressed. Yeah, so that's a big one. So depressed isn't about your weight journey. Right? And thank you for sharing. Depressed isn't about your weight journey. It's so much bigger than that. Because you're showing up. You were doing all these healthy things for yourself. Where's depressed coming from? That's where you want to go, go deeper into that. If I could use another word to like, depressed is a big word. It's like struggled. Struggle. like go go where's that coming from that's where you want to go deeper into that that's that's where we talk about your thoughts and your feels giving you insight into where you're at so what's what happens sometimes is we want to just own that feel so much that we just stay there we just stay there because we want to it's like when you know it's like when people it's like when when we're

dealing with grief we just want to physically feel our feelings to validate how we are feeling so sometimes we have other things going on in our life that we're depressed about that maybe we don't want to face. And I'm not saying this is you. I'm talking to everybody here. So we just stay stuck in that depression. Right. When you look at all the things that you're doing that are amazing for you while following the program, managing your stress, trying to get better sleep, eat good nutrient rich foods, move your body, all those things. Or maybe you're not doing those things. Right. And so then really understanding where that's coming from and what's going on. And this is way, if you just keep it stuck on this diet, that's not it. It's not just this diet. If you take

a step back, you'll probably realize it's the thoughts and the fields that you have going on in your life right now. And it's seeping in and affecting everything that you do. Because you can't just be depressed about the diet you're doing, right? How you feel what's going on in your life, your routines every day, your relationships with people, stuff you're struggling. with, you know, from the past maybe, right? This is where you have to start talking and unraveling it. Be like, what is that? That was my word today. Am I depressed in life? Someone once asked me if I was happy. Fuck, that fucking fucked me up. It really fucked me up because I have a good life. So I have a great life. I have a wonderful husband. I have my kids. I'm very blessed, all those

things. I love what I do. Someone asked me once, it was Dr. Paul actually. No, it was one of Tony's friends was talking about asking their other friend, are you actually happy? I was like, what a weird thing to ask somebody. And then I was like, fat, that's a big word, fat, right? So that's a huge, that carries a lot of weight, that word. So that, and that's a lot of weight. That's, that has a lot of weight, that word. Um, I was like, wait, am I actually, am I happy? And I realize it was not happy. But you see, I have a great life, a great, great husband. I have, you know, same thing, you're depressed, you're unhappy, whatever you're feeling here, but you're doing all these things. It's the same thing. You see that? So it's the same thing.

Look at all the things that you're doing to be proactive and to help you reach your goal, but then you feel stuck, stalled, depressed, all those words. So I had this wonderful life and asked me if I was happy. I'm not, I'm, I don't know if I am happy still. So that's, that's my work. That's my work, right? Why am I, why am I not happy? happy. I mean, not happy with how I'm showing up. Maybe it's the drinking. I don't know, right? Maybe it's something I'm working through. Like, that's where you got to go deep. That's where you got to go deep. And that's what I mean. That's a good example. That's a good example. Um, change is hard. It's the struggle at times and I get tired. It is. And so that's where Susie, we started this conversation

today is change is incredible. Like take a step back and be like, what am I actually trying to achieve here and how will reaching my goal affect my life? What is that going to look like? What's I going to feel like? What is it going to feel? What is happiness going to look like to me? What is happiness going to feel like to me? Do I even know what that feels like? Like I have moments where I'm laughing and I'm happy, but in my core, if I can't say it, right? So, so you're trying to get somewhere, you're trying to achieve something. Do you actually really know what it is that you were trying to achieve. Are we just all trying to look like supermodels at the end of the day? Are we trying to look like a younger version of ourselves? What was going on in my life when I felt like that? Do I even

have a vision? Do I even know where I'm going? Do I know the destination? Do I know the kind of house that I want to build and live in? Right. That's where you want to take that, take that minute this week and be like, okay, here I am. How do I get here? Where the fuck am I fucking going? And what are the changes that I need to make. And then also bigger picture is see the bigger picture. What you're trying to do is just so much more for so many of you. Maybe some of you are listening to me like, fuck off, Gina. Maybe. I don't know. But man, change is fucking hard. So how do we actually get this fucking done? How do you become someone who loses their weight? They're successful at doing that and they're able to maintain and sustain it? What kind of change do you need to make to get to that

place. What kind of time do you need to put in? Right? Like this is where we got to go. This is where we got to go. I want bad. I just wish I could get to the destination sooner. Don't we all? Don't we all, right? We cannot control time. But can we feel better about the choices that we're making every single day? The more choices that we make each day that fall in line with our goals, the sooner we are going to get there. But festering in our funk, spinning our wheels, doing the same shit and not really going deep and really doing the things that we know we need to do, that's just slowing the process. That's just slowing the process, right? Wow, heavy, heavy discussion today.

This is where we are, though. This is where shit gets real. So, you know, throughout the program we do need to know, which is guidelines, nice to know all this, nice to know information here on in. It's about showing up and working these tweaks and really getting as much out of them as you possibly can. This is where you want to put the battle to the metal and not do more. just figure out the things that you specifically need to focus on, right? Some of you are going to

do one and do all the things. Some of you are just lucky to be able to do some of the things given where you are at in your life. But this is what it's all about. This is what it's all about. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Okay. Thanks, everyone. Like I said, I will not, I think I need therapy. Therapy is such a great compliment to this program. Therapy is such a great compliment to this program because this, yes, I'm all about that. That's why I love to having Dr. Beverly on. And so I mean, of our guest experts. Okay, I got to go, everyone. I got to catch a flight later. Have a great rest of your day. Thank you for joining me today. It's going to be a great week. Let's be, let's, how do you want to show up? Right? Like, let's challenge ourselves. Let's step up to the

plate. Let's step up to the plate, right? Let's step up to the plate. All right, everyone, have a great day. Thanks so much, and I will see you tomorrow. Bye.