The Livy Method Podcast - Livy Method Day 57 - Winter 2024

Episode Date: April 9, 2024

Gina Livy's Facebook Lives from The Livy Method Winter 2024 Support Group hosted on Facebook. This is a recording of the Day 57, 9 AM live. You can find the full video hosted at:https://www.facebook.com/groups/livymethodwinter2024Topics covered:Week 8 and eating more often to feed into your metabolism; it's about getting even more in tune and prioritizing yourself.Trusting the process: Are you getting the urge to go back to other tweaks?When you lose during downsizing, it's because of all the things you did leading up to itAre you doing your own thing? Ask yourself why you may be resisting.Falling back into old habits in dietingTaking a step back to look at what you need to double down on and hold yourself accountableFalling back into old habits to recognize how far you have comeThe two things that are really important to making change are being proud of yourself & recognizing old habits are no longer working for youStepping back; The psychology of effort and are you really doing all the things you could be doingRemembering the basics and how the scale responds during detoxJust because you did the things to get the scale up, the scale can still be on its way downIs there such a thing as too much exercise?How the change in season and longer days can affect your energy levels Coping: making the connection between WHY you got triggered and the action that you tookUtilizing The Livy Method app when Facebook is being challengingGetting triggered and coping the only way you can doesn't mean it is sabotageGina shares how she has coped with wine in the past and how she is developing new coping mechanismsYou are allowed to be successful; you ARE worthy!Gina discusses a new book she is reading, Worthy by Jamie Kern LimaAre you picking up on signs that you're sensitive to certain foodsCelebrations and having your cake, so much bigger than what you are eating and whenBringing mindfulness into your exercise routine and the 10-minute ruleMaximizing and levelling up can mean just being more in tune with what your body needsWeek 8: reassess what you need to do NOWTo learn more about the Livy Method, visit www.ginalivy.com. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I'm Gina Livy and welcome to the Livy Method podcast. This is where you'll have access to all of the live streams from my 91 day weight loss program. With a combination of daily lives, guest expert interviews and member stories, there is something new almost every day. Miss the morning live? Want to re-listen to one of our amazing guest experts? Well, this is the place. This podcast is hosted on Acast, but it's available on all podcast platforms, including the one you're listening to right now, Spotify, Apple,

and Amazon Music. Happy day 57 of the program rolling into a whole new week, week eight, same old tweak as last week, but it's a good one. It's a good one. So last week you had an opportunity to get your feet wet with the feeding metabolism tweak. So much to be learned from this tweak, taking the same portions that you were eating to satisfaction, splitting them in two, taking that pressure off of not being allowed to eat the rest of your food, being worried about not eating enough of your food. Because guess what? You get to eat even more often. It helps you really get in tune with your portions when you eat that first half, wait that half hour.

And then, you know, you really have an opportunity to assess how you feel after your body starts to process and digest your foods. And week over week over week, you've been working on being as in tune as possible to your body. So really working on that mind-body connection and knowing what your body. So really working on that mind-body connection and knowing

what your body needs. Remember, the end game is to reach your goal, lose your weight, and then be in a calm place around food physically, mentally, and being able to trust when to eat, what to eat, and how much to eat. You don't need math in order to lose weight, and you don't need math to know what you need to eat in order to maintain your weight. Once you're done losing your weight, we're not trying to control anything. We're not trying to moderate anything. You are just going to live your life mindfully and in tune. That's the end game here. So a lot of these weeks, someone was asking this morning about, can they downsize and, and not have their next portion? And can they they do this and can they do that? And what's the point of all of it?

And so at this point in the program, I want you to be super clear on the point of all of it. The living method is not a quick fix. It's amazing how quickly some people can lose a lot of weight, but it is, we're going after finally ever and forever kind of weight loss. And that's not a magic pill. And there's a lot of work to do, not just physically and how you are losing the weight, but also mentally, right? And that's where the big work is. So this tweak is so cool for that reason. Yes, making the body work harder by eating more often is making the body work harder by eating more often, which can feed into your metabolism, right? It also makes

you prioritize yourself. You constantly have to think. Even if you're not splitting up some of your meals and snacks, you're thinking about splitting up some of your meals and snacks. You have to ask those four questions even more. So eventually, once you reach your goal and you lose your weight and you're working on maintenance, I don't want you to have to need to ask the four questions. I want you to be able to know as you're portioning out your food, look at your meal if it's being served to you and already know, is it too much? Is it not enough? Is it just right? Right? How, what am I hungry for? Right? What do I want to eat? When to eat? Right? I'm hungry now. What to eat? I want a steak. I want a salad. How much to eat? Just by looking at your food. So,

so I want you to ask those four questions so often that you don't have to ask them when you're done losing your weight and you're in maintenance. I want you to get in the habit of prioritizing yourself so it doesn't feel foreign to you. So you don't feel guilty. You know what I mean? You're just used to prioritizing yourself. And I want you to be so in tune with your body's needs that you are just so in tune with everything across the board. What works for you, what doesn't work for you, not just when it comes to what to eat and when. So, so really big picture to all of that. I do want to talk and you guys roll out those questions. So I'm going to get to them in a second. I'm going to talk about this

need to go back to other tweaks. So, cause we get that a lot. People get very resistant to moving forward. I want you to understand one thing. I want you to be successful. And sometimes there's this, because I think of past diet mentality, there's this trust that's not there cause you've done diets before, but probably the magazine lose 20 pounds in two days. There's a lot of mistrust that you've probably,

you've learned to mistrust the diet industry. And so I want you to really take a second out here and think about this for a second. I do not benefit in any way by you not being successful. And I want, I want to say it again. It is only beneficial to me, say I'm the most selfish person on the planet and I'm just in it to make the money. How I'm going to do that is by helping you reach your goal because you're going to be successful. Everyone in your life is going to see that you're successful. Your friends, your family, your coworkers will want to be successful too and they will want to sign up for the program.

The only way you doing this program benefits me is if you are successful. So I want you to lose your weight. I fucking need you to lose your weight so I can continue to run my company and pay my employees. You know, I've reached my very selfish personal goal of having the most successful weight loss business in the world. But in order for me to do that, I need you to be successful. I also need you to not just lose your weight. I need you to be able to maintain it. That's my goal. I want to be known as that diet that's going to help you not only lose your weight, but be able to maintain it and move on for the rest of your life. That's what I want. That's what I want. I don't want you to keep giving me your money forever

for a lifetime. Yeah, I want you to sign up for our amazing program, right? And I want you to do it until you reach your goal. Then I want you to roll through maintenance. And then once you're feeling confident, I want you to go live your life. That's my goal for you. So I want you to keep that in mind

when it comes to these upcoming tweaks. Because if there was a better, faster, more effective way for you to lose weight, I sure as shit would let you know. I would let you know. I do not assume to know it all. I am very good at weight loss. And if there was like something new or a tweak, and this program has evolved. It has evolved because I'm learning what's working, what's working even better, what's happening, what's going on. We're taking in feedback and stuff. So we want to make sure we're doing all of the things we can to provide a really effective

program and support you and make sure we are minimizing the chances of you not following through. We are minimizing the chances of you not being successful. So we have a whole survey at the end of the program. You'll be able to fill out and tell us what you think. And if you have ideas, we've made a lot of changes based being successful. So we have a whole survey at the end of the program. You'll be able to fill out and tell us what you think. And if you have ideas, we've made a lot of changes based on that. But I am always, I am still doing my research

and I'm still looking into the science behind things. So if there was a better, faster, more effective way, I would let you know. And so there's this need to like, well, I wanna go back to downsizing that worked for me. But here's the thing, downsizing probably wasn't what worked for you. It was the weeks leading up that you put into the program and the process that caused your weight to move in downsizing, right? Like people perceive,

well, when I was eating less, that's when I was losing weight. Well, you've been eating less throughout the entire program. And it's not what you did. If your weight moves today, it's not what you did yesterday. It's what you've been doing leading up and all the little things that you're doing, adding up. Now, if you just followed the leading up and all the little things that you're doing adding up. Now, if you just followed the basic food plan, yeah, you would lose your weight. It's going to take you a lot longer in order to do that. Downsizing seems to be people's go-to, but heads up. Downsizing, like again, was not about eating less.

Downsizing was about bringing up the feels that you need to work through to get to the other side of this weight loss journey. If you're just downsized, you're just doing, you're just, you're just eating less. You're just doing a diet. It's not the same thing. So some of you are going to be very resistant moving forward. I highly suggest you get over that, figure out why you're being resistant, why you signed up for this program because you want to lose weight because chances are you know somebody's been successful. They're successful because they did the program in the way that we advise. Now, ask all the questions that you need to understand it for sure, but watch that need because you can very quickly go from doing a program that is backed by science, that is backed through years and years and years of like surveys and research and knowing what works

and then very quickly doing your own thing or some weird version of your own thing. And before I get into your questions, the reason why I'm such a stickler about this is because when I was personally working with clients, I've worked with some really powerful people. Powerful, like, you know, other in business or just got a lot of money or, you know, whatever that was, celebrities or whatever. And so when I was younger and got intimidated, they would tell me what they needed to do. Well, I want to go back and do that thing that we were doing last week. Well, I don't want to do that. I want to switch this around. And well, this doesn't work for me. It's inconvenient. And you know what happened? I would end up so stressed out and it would never work.

And I'd be like, I know, but there's a reason. Well, I know, but that doesn't work for me. So figure out another way for me to do it. And I'm like, well, okay. But the way I'm suggesting is the way that's going to work. So people have this thing where they want to make it convenient. They want to do what works best for them. But sometimes what works best for you is by doing what you need to do rather than what you want to do. Right? So ask for clarity. And I'm saying this because moving forward, we've got some tweaks coming up that you want to make sure you're all in with, including finishing this tweak of feeding the metabolism.

All right, that's enough for me. Let's get into your questions. Let's see where you guys are at. Let's see how you're feeling rolling in off the weekend. I hope that you're excited. It's a great time to be in the program. Trust the process. Polly, hi.

Look at the people here who have lost shit loads of weight. We're not lying. We're not lying. We're not lying. Yes, this. Thinking I'm doing the program, but when I look honestly, I'm letting those bites of bits come in, which is ultimately doing my own thing. Yeah.

And it happens. That's why I'm talking about this. I want to get ahead of it, right? It happens because we fall back into our old patterns. We fall back into like, okay, so even people who, even people who are really successful fall into this because, well, well, if this is working for me and I'm doing this, if I just did what I did on that diet and then did what I did on this diet on top of doing this diet, it's going to make it work even better. Right? When a lot of times what happens is you're working against yourself. You finally just reconnected, your body's working for you and

you want to go back into what worked before, right? It's really hard not to do that. It's really hard not to do that. It's also like at this point, eight weeks in, it's just like, okay, do you know, and there can be this program fatigue that you cannot use as an excuse. You cannot use as your excuse. That's like your kid saying, you know, I'm tired of going to school. Like, you know, I think I need a break. I mean, maybe that's why they add in March break or reading weeks or whatever. And there's nothing wrong with taking a step back from the program and kind of reassessing

your why and what's motivating you and what you need now and meeting yourself where you're at and what's going to help you and what you can double down on. Let me double down on journaling. Let me double down on pulling out that maximizing post. Let me rewatch that troubleshooting session with Gina. What can I do rolling into week eight to like regroup, reassess, you get my shit together, for lack of a better word. It's really easy at this point, because you've been juggling so many

balls, that's exhausting, when this is the longest you've ever done a diet, where, you know, you sort of feel like you got a lot of things, other things going on in life. And you're not used to prioritizing yourself or prioritizing yourself for this long, right? For this long. So that's where it can feel like you're juggling a lot of balls and so easy to have some of them drop. So that's why I love a whole new week. It doesn't have to be a whole new tweak. It can be the same old tweak, but a whole new week. Great opportunity to be like, okay, where I'm at, what do I need to do? You know, let me kind of like, you know, dig a little deeper, level up a little bit more. Let's see what else I can pull in. Let's see what else I can switch out. Am I so hyper focused on, I don't know what I'm eating and when, when that's pretty routine, but you're not managing your stress,

you're not managing your sleep. What can I do for moving my body and leveling up with that? Right? So, so to have that honest conversation with yourself, have that on, it's so, it's so, it's so normal to be like, you know, and to kind of like fall back into those, those patterns. So you want to check yourself. That's what you want to do. You want to hold, hold yourself accountable, right? People will, sometimes when people are struggling with the program, they'll reach out to me and they're like, what can I pay you? I need to be accountable to you. I'm not doing this. I'm not, I'm just not doing the thing. So if I pay you money, then I will be accountable to you. And I'm like, oh yeah, no, I don't do that. I don't do that because that never works. I've had so

many people pay me lots of money. It doesn't make you show up and do the things that you need to do because you have to figure out, you know, what, why you want to do the things that you don't want to do that you have to do, you know? So it's all about being accountable to yourself. I've been on a very long, uh, I've been on very long, it's, I've been on a very long time to pretty much this whole program. Um, I'm, I'm going to assume maybe a plateau. I don't know what you're saying here. But this weekend, I gave in on the struggle bus. But for the first time after I did it, I understood why and got right back on track the next day. Sometimes you need that. Sometimes you need to fall back into those old habits, those old patterns, those old

beliefs, those old thoughts to recognize how far you've come and recognize they no longer work for you. This is the basis of progress over perfection and why this isn't about being perfect. Sometimes you need to fall back to recognize the only way you recognize, oh shit, how's that working for me? That doesn't serve me anymore. That's not working for me anymore. Okay. Before when I got stressed or before when I was struggling, maybe I indulged, I binged, I whatever, or other people go the other way and they don't eat or whatever and punish yourself, neglect yourself, whatever that is, gorge yourself. And unless you fall back and do that, you're not recognizing, you're missing the opportunity of recognizing, oh man, that doesn't work for me

anymore. Right? That's huge. There's two things that are really key to making change. One is to be really proud of the changes that you're making, like taking time to actually actively be proud of yourself. I am here week eight. Everyone should just be, give themselves a massive shout out right now and pat themselves on the back and be like, I'm really proud of myself. Like I'm really, I'm fricking proud of myself. I am still here. I am showing up. I am proud of myself every morning when I get up and get my ass on my walking pad. Some days my workouts, you know, cause that's what I need to do. I need to move more. I sit at my, I'll be sitting at my desk all day, 12 hours a day, never get up. And it's not good for my physical health. It's not good for my mental health. I'm not trying to have a super hot bod or none of those things, although I wouldn't mind

that. Um, what I'm trying to do is just like take care of my mental health. So every time I get my ass out of bed, I'm so proud of myself. Every time I get a glass of water, I'm proud of myself. Every time I get my ass on my walking pad, I'm really proud of myself. When I'm posting that and showing you guys on Instagram, yeah, I'm hoping it inspires you to move, but I'm showing myself that I'm proud of myself. Being proud of doing the things that you are doing is so key because when you're proud of them, you're more likely to keep doing them, keep doing them. And then you also need to have those times where you're falling back into old habits, where when you like fall back in those old habits, and then you recognize, oh man, that's not working for me. That is that precipice of change. That is where you get that aha moment. That is where you're like, recognize, okay, this is no longer working for me. That's huge in making change. Now, you might do it a

couple more times. But now that you're aware that that is what you do, now that you're aware that that doesn't work for you, now that you're aware that that is not what you want, you might do it a few more times, but you'll get to a point where you're just like, okay, this is just, it's time to move on from that. Because once you're aware, you're no longer going to get out of it, what you thought you were getting out of it, or what you weren't getting out before that you're no longer getting out of it. And so those are really important. It's really important to step up and be proud of the things that you are actively doing. And it's also really important to allow yourself to fall back into those old habits and then recognize how they're no longer serving you anymore. Really

huge in making change. That's why it's not about being perfect. It's not. It's not about being perfect. It's not about being perfect. I understood why and I got back on track. I'm a massive fan of the step back. I am massive. Sometimes you cannot see the forest from the trees and you're trying to figure out what's wrong with me. Why am I not doing the things I need to do? Why am I this? Why can't I that? All of that, right? And because you're just like, you want it so bad. So I had a great idea to go back to our very first science hour. No, it was a very, no, it was I think our third science Saturday post on the psychology of effort. You want it so bad. You think about it all the time. And so you think you deserve it. And you do because

you've been working at it for a really long time, but the things that you're doing are not aligning. And that's where you need to have that honest conversation with yourself and be like, okay, you know, what's going on here? Am I really doing all the things that I could be doing? Like, what am I focusing on? So that's a big part of that. Big part of that, big part of that. And then, and so a step back, I always love a good step back. Sometimes you need a minute, not a week, not a month, not a year, a minute to be like, okay, I need to take a break from this and then come back at it like fresh, come back at it super fresh. Like I think that's how you, sometimes that's how you can make big changes in your life.

You need to like take a step back, remove yourself from the situation, rise above, see it from a different perspective. And that's the tweaks that we're making each week. We are trying to see it from a different perspective. We are making these changes that force us to prioritize ourselves, force us to do the things to be more in tune, force us to bring up the feels. And that's what we're trying to do. We're trying to step back from the traditional diets. We're trying to see it differently, right? So we can really figure out what you need. That's the whole point of all the changes that we're making. So it's like an active step back.

But I do love a good, I just need a minute moment. I need a minute. I need to take a step back. And sometimes you might need a day. You might need a couple of days. And not that you won't still make good food choices, but you just need to take a minute constantly thinking about it every day. Maybe you need to step back from the scale. You know, I love working on my shit. I do. I love working on it, but it seems like the minute I work through some shit, more shit lands in my lap. And that's like getting on the scale every day can

be like that too. Yeah. The scale is great. It's a great tool. And it's great for bringing up the feels so that now you can figure out why you have those feels. You can work on turning that negative dialogue into a more positive, bright dialogue, but it can be exhausting. And so, you know, you can not weigh yourself for a couple of days and still follow through on the program. You can still, you know, eat healthy and make good choices, but not have a day where you're so hyper-focused on what you're eating and when. There's little ways that you can take a step back that don't have to be, I'm just going to, like taking a step back doesn't mean I'm going to stuff my face with chips and wine

all day and, you know, totally like, you know, obliterate myself. Like that doesn't have to be your step back. There are different ways you can take a mental break, physical break from doing the things you need to do with the program, right? Sometimes you need that so that you can come back. Sometimes you need to trash yourself and feel like shit so that you recognize how good it feels when you feel good and you're doing the things that you need to do. I'm up 2.4 pounds today after having the scale moved down previously. That makes sense. I did have sushi last night, but I split the meal and had mostly sashimi, so no rice. Did you have any soy sauce? That's

guaranteed to have the scale up the next day. But more than that, if your weight has been dropping, it's so normal for your scale to go back up. That's expected. I also had a few drinks yesterday, but I would compensate with more water, so I don't know. So basics. As we continue to build on the things that you have done and make the tweaks you tweak, do not forget about the basics. It is normal to feel extra hungry after a day of eating when your weight's about to drop. It's normal to wake up in the middle of the night, three or four o'clock. it's normal to feel bloated and have your weight up right before it drops. It is also normal after you see a drop on the scale to have your weight go right back up. Don't forget about supporting the body and detox, right? Always assuming once the scale starts moving, it's going to continue to drop for like three to five days.

So this is where it's normal to have that first drop and then it can go back up the next day, probably because you're not drinking enough water, salty food, drinking alcohol, even when you're matching it with water, that is enough to easily have your weight up. It doesn't mean that your weight is stopped moving. So that's why you want to make sure you're supporting the body and detox and doing all the things. But just don't forget about the basics. It's normal to have your weight go up before it drops. And it's normal after your weight drops for it to go back up. And it's normal after it drops to go back up and have it stay there for a week and plateau before it goes back up again, and then back to a new back to that new low and then down even further. Don't forget about the basics. That's really important. You know why?

Because this is just a regular normal expected pattern of weight loss. So you're trying to look into what's going on and you're forgetting the most basic thing that it is so normal for your weight to go right back up after it's done dropping. So it doesn't mean that you gained weight back. It doesn't mean any of those things. It just means like that's very typical of what's happening, right? Maybe it's because dinner was a bit later than usual. I mean, that could also a few of these things could add up, but that doesn't mean that your weight has stopped dropping either. So what I would do is like, okay, so if your weight is up today, of course, salty, any kind of soy sauce, even with the sashimi, it's not rice. I, rice would not have your weight up. It's not the rice. It's the, it's the salt. It's the salt. And if

you're talking seafood, seafood is like, it's salty, right? It's salty. Um, so that's probably what it was. You add some alcohol to that, then you didn't definitely, if you drank alcohol, you're not getting a great sleep. Even if you drink the water, that's messing with your sleep. So that's it. Plus you ate dinner later, right? Or maybe it's going up before coming down. Exactly, exactly. So this is the process. So this is a perfect example of like, okay, what's going on? What's going on? Right? So all of those factors together might have your weight up also to have your weight go back up after a drop. But the bigger thing is, is that your weight can be up like this and also

on the way down at the same time. So you could be getting another few days of a drop. I'm feeling confident around food. So that's a non-scale victory. I'm definitely not resistant, but I'm trying to understand the scale. Yeah. And this is exactly how you do it. This is a perfect example. Okay. Good on the scale today. What is going on here? Right? So there are reasons why your weight would be up. So it could be that it is normal to have the scale go back up after you see that drop. So it could be that, but I don't know what, how often you like, how long you've been dropping, but regardless, right. Don't just be like, okay, that's what it is. Make sure you double down on supporting that body and detox. Cause you might see that scale continue to move, even though it's still up at the same time. So love this. This is exactly where you want to be

at this point in the program or where you want to get to where you're like, you're understanding where you're like, okay, this is what's going on. And this is why keeping a journal is so great. If you have not been keeping a journal, it is not too late to start a journal and pick up on your patterns of behavior. This is, this is, I love this. This is exactly how it's done. Well, I changed the batteries on the scale. Looking forward to getting it to move now that I can start my workout routine. Took a month off for concussion protocol. Yeah. Concussions are no joke. My daughter has a concussion right now. I find the exercise is a game changer for me.

Is there too much exercise limit? I mean, there's, you know, obviously with a concussion, you're aware, right? You want to take your time with getting back at it and, you know, be aware of your symptoms if you are overdoing it personally because of a concussion. Absolutely. You want to be very mindful. But if you are a fully healthy person and don't have a concussion, Absolutely. You want to be very mindful. But if you are a fully healthy person and don't have a concussion, you have the okay to exercise. Is there such a thing as too much

exercise? I mean, yes. If you're not giving your body enough time to rest, because exercise is, I mean, there's getting your heart rate up. So that helps to strengthen your heart. There's going for long walks that can be very therapeutic. Um, you know, it can be active repair and rebuild, you know, it's great. Endurance training is really great. Walking is amazing for you, for your brain, for so many reasons, walking is so beneficial. Yoga is really great because you know, it's, it's active, so it can be active meditation time. It can be, um, it can be great for active repair and rebuild. It can also be very taxing depending on the type of yoga that you're doing or you are doing a lot of resistance training.

Lifting weights is literally ripping and tearing your muscles. So when your muscles are sore, they're damaged. And so the body needs time to repair and rebuild those muscles. So if you're constantly damaging your body, damaging your body, damaging your body, damaging your body, damaging your body, then what happens is, is that this is where you get overtraining from. And you'll actually, I've seen this a lot with runners who aren't eating enough, they're running long distances, and their weight will actually go up and up and up and up because they're overtraining. And they're just constantly putting the stress on their bodies and not giving their bodies time to rest. Now you could do weights every day. You could do upper body one day,

lower body the next day. You know, there's, there's like, there's ways, you know, resistance training, you know, yoga one day, mixing it up. You, I mean, unless you're, unless you're a professional athlete or you're like, you know, I've, I've worked with bodybuilders who are working out like four to six hours a day, right? And even then they're switching off body parts and whatnot. But there's no such thing as sort of too much exercise as long as you're giving the body rest. And then there isn't a sense of too much exercise. If you're using exercise as a way to manage your weight, you don't want to be doing that. Well, I had burgers and fries and indulged on the weekend. So I'm exercising extra hard today. That is problematic. But as but as long as you're giving your body time

to rest and then also understanding if you do a hard workout, um, like today I went skiing, Tony and I went skiing yesterday. I feel like I've been hit by a truck. My body is so sore. I haven't been skiing in a year. I totally overdid it. I knew when I was doing it, I was overdoing it. My body is literally, it's every part of my body hurts today. And my weight is up three and a half pounds. So I'm like, for sure. Now also we did go and have food last night, which is super salty afterwards. So I know I got on the scale today. My weight is going to be up between the salty food, not drinking enough water because I was on the hill for like three hours, didn't drink any water. And I went hard. I went, I went like a go hard,

go home. Like I did a total number on myself, had the best time and now I can't move today. So my weight is up today. So, but did I get up and walk? Yes, because I wanted to move my body and I knew that's going to make me feel better. So I did a, I did a light walk today and I might do some stretching or something later. Right. So, so just kind of like that you want to be mindful about your exercise. So, so it's hard to do too much of it as long as you are being mindful of, of how you're taxing your body and giving your body time to rest. Exercise is a great game changer. You know, you know, what's great is this time of year, you're probably noticing that your body's giving you, you're feeling more energetic as the days get a little bit longer and it starts to kind of warm up and

your body's pulling you out of that kind of winter hibernation mode. You should be noticing more of a spring in your step. This is because your body is actually pulling you out of hibernation mode. It's giving you more energy. Also just worth where we're at in the program, because this also happens in the fall program, rolling into winter, where you get to a point where your body trusts that you're going to give it what it needs. So it's not keeping you on reserve mode. When your body's feeling you need to store fat, it can keep you on like slow-mo reserve mode.

No, you can't use this extra energy. I'm not giving it to you. You have all that energy in you. Your body's just not allowing you access to it. So with where you are at in the program week eight, your body's like, okay, I can trust that you're going to keep giving me what I need so I can start making sure you have full access to everything we got going on here. So this is where we hear so many stories of people who are like, I put on my running shoes and went for a run today. Like, who am I? I am not a runner. I don't run. I just felt like I needed to get out the door

and go. And that's because you're noticing your body giving you access to that energy. So it's a great time to start any kind of movement spring, right? And then plus with we're at in the program, it's like that one time a year, that's really great that your body's just like look into, look into, look into, okay, I'm reading this. Hi, Joy. Went on a massive sugar bin a few weeks ago. Okay, I've been back on track for one week. I am so embarrassed because I gained a lot of weight. I'm very disappointed in myself. Was it worth it? Sort of, but not really. I had headaches. My body was very hot. I had sleep issues. I will not go back there. Yeah, so don't be, don't, you're going to feel how you

feel, but don't be embarrassed by this. Oh my God. Everybody, people do this all day, every day. For so many reasons, for so many reasons, right? So probably what, so I would go back to before, what was going on before? What was your trigger for that? Right? Like I wouldn't go into this sugar binge or focusing anything on that. What I would go to is what was happening before I went into that sugar binge? Maybe you were a dehydrated, maybe you came back from a trip and you were flying and you're very dehydrated, which, right? Maybe you were, we had a lot of stress happening. Maybe something triggered you. It could be something like you, I don't know, you went to a family reunion, you know, it could be what was happening in work, what was happening in your life, where were you at? Right. And so that's where you want to make that connection, not just like what you

did, but why you did that. So I love that you, you know what you did, you recognize you don't want to do it again, but why did you do it? So that's where we got to backtrack and be like, okay, so what was going on with you when you got triggered? And that was the action that you took. So what was that about? Right. And that's, fuck, that's nothing to be embarrassed by. My gosh. It's just a coping mechanism, right? Like, so this is why you may be going back into old coping mechanisms. You just didn't eat the sugar because of whatever. You were triggered. There was like there's a reason like that was your go-to.

And so that is huge. That is not only like it's so huge that you recognize. I can't even tell you how. That's how you make change is you recognize, okay, this is what I did. This is why I did it. And I'm recognizing that's not how I'm going to do it moving forward. That's a really – that's awesome. It's because you have to pat yourself on the back for a sense of awareness.

Like how many times have you done that before and then it stopped at berating yourself? I'm horrible. I'm never going to lose my weight. Whatever. After a couple of days, you start to feel better. And then you go back to some shitty diet to punish yourself, to try to whatever. Do you know? Do you know? And so this time is different. This time you're recognizing what's going on. That is so huge. Facebook won't let me reply to anyone now. Yeah. So you might be in Facebook jail for a variety of reasons. I happens to me all the time. That's why I love commenting in the group. I can't do it a lot because then Facebook, Facebook tells me that I'm spamming my own group. So ridiculous. Actually,

I'm going to be very mindful of everything I say about Facebook. Facebook is amazing. Meta is wonderful because they have this amazing way of taking down our posts and putting me in Facebook jail. And I love Facebook. I love Facebook. I love Facebook. Definitely. So here's the thing. This is why using our Olivia Method app is becoming more and more important because things like this are happening and it's not a perfect platform. It's very convenient though. It's very convenient. For what it does, it works really well. And this is why using our app is going to become even more important, even just to see those initial posts. And you know, to get that information, because sometimes they take them down or whatever. But yeah, that really sucks. We'll look into it from our end, see if there's anything going on, but you, you might be able to go in and dispute whatever is happening, depending on what's happening. So, but I'll take a look,

Suzanne, on our end and see what's going on. First time in three programs. And because I was sick Tuesday, now I'm behind. It's a little bit more organization wise to figure out how to participate in the lives and the daily combos had to level up my time and focus on energy. So using the app, right? So, so when you, if you like, so like Jan, I read your comment today, right? But how many other times have you listened to the lives and I can't get to everyone's question? Like, I love that you didn't, don't stop. Don't stop asking questions, you guys, because you never know. I don't plan what things I'm going to, I just kind of go through and I intuitively just talk on the answer answer whatever question that comes up. So a great way to do that is kind of be in your own world and, you know, follow along

on the app, read the posts that are linked to that post, watch the, you know, the check in for that day, listen to the lives for that day. But then there is something to be said about community and engaging. And this is where I would maybe like take a look at the guest segments that we have coming up, you know, engaging people in real time. So you know, obviously, we don't want you doing double duty, it's a lot to watch the live from that day, and then watch the live that's coming up. Although that can be beneficial, too, because you can kind of you see the conversation coming down the pipeline, you know, so you know where you're going, but you've done the program before. So you kind of, you know that, right?

But that's the best way to kind of is just track on the days where you are tracking on your app and that can help keep you best organized. It's not the same, but you are here and this is what's happening this time. And you're still going to be hugely successful, right? And then make sure that you do, make sure that you do, what are you guys doing? Everyone do 10 squats. You guys have a game going on that I don't know about? Those squats. I'm so impressed with everybody. I'm so impressed with everyone doing their squats. If you missed it, Dr. Tam talked about the importance of squats, regardless of how you can do them, modifying, holding onto a chair. You don't have to have

perfect technique, none of those. So many of you doing the squats. I love it. Hi, Carrie. Back from back-to-back business trips, worked through the program, didn't journal diligently. Then lost our fur baby last week. And definitely noticed the feels as I was sabotaging myself by eating all the crappy things to cope with his loss. Back at it this week and checking the fields rather than burying them with food. Yeah, but no one can blame you for this because you haven't got the skills yet to not do that. And so you fell back on what you probably always did. And so this is going to happen to so many of you that you're going to have huge, massive triggers, like your pet passing or people in your life passing or really big, huge things that are just so huge that like you might not have the capacity in the moment. Like it's easy in hindsight. Well, I should have done

this. I could have done that. Yeah, but you did what you, you did the best you possibly could. And so yes, recognizing that is really huge. And as you go along in these little mini ways, hopefully they're mini, hopefully you don't encounter big things like this, but the little mini things that you're going through will help give you the skills and the tools that you need so that you'll just find yourself naturally coping in a different way. You know, but sometimes these things happen to us before we're kind of, we've got to that place. And that's a big way to learn that, which obviously isn't ideal, you know, so I don't think it was sabotage at all. So I want to take the sabotage away from that comment. You just you a big thing happened. It was incredibly sad

and emotional. And you just fell back on what you've done before. And now today you're recognizing, okay, that wasn't like the best way to handle that. And then, you know, that you might have a few more times where you fall back into those old habits and, you know, and then all of a sudden at the end, towards the end of the program, you're done your journey. You're going to have the tools where you're going to recognize, okay, I want like me now, for example, something happened on the week. Another thing happened with my kid on the weekend. I just, it's been one thing after the next, after the next, I love my kids, but Lord, have mercy and give me strength. Honestly. I'm not going to get into it, but it's big.

What's going on with my kid that we found out and it just took us back and we're like, whoa. And normally, as you guys know, because I don't hide it, I would love to drink a whole bottle of wine. I would love to drink. I've been sharing my struggle with wine. I love wine. I love wine. I love wine. It's my go-to. It's how I coped. It's how I cope with my stress. I cope with my, I used to smoke weed. I can't do it anymore. I haven't done ited. It's how I cope with my stress. I cope with my, I used to smoke weed. I can't do it anymore. I haven't done it for three years now. I can't physically. I have like an allergic reaction to it. So I can't smoke weed. God, I miss it. And I'm so mad. I used to have to go buy it on the street. Now you can buy it on every store. I'm so mad about that. I really never got to take advantage of legalized weed. It's not like I'm a pothead, but you know, I would,

you know, have a little joint at night or whatever. Can't do it anymore. So then I fell back on wine and I love wine and that's my excuse for drinking it. I fucking love wine and wine just makes me feel like shit. Wine doesn't jive well with my hormones. Wine is not helping with my mental health. Wine doesn't make my stomach feel good. Wine no longer works for me. And alcohol never really did work for me.

I've never been a big drinker, but I love wine. And so, so many times in my life over the last couple of years, my go-to was wine. Like when my kid's dad died, I drank a whole bottle of wine every night for like a month. Not lying. I'm not even exaggerating. I was expensive too. So my coping is wine. And so what's been happening in not drinking wine since November is the stress hasn't stopped. The triggers haven't stopped. And the reason why I express sometimes that I just want to drink wine so bad is because I just want to recognize it. And I verbalize that. Tony's heard me whine and cry about wine so often. And sometimes out loud, I'll be like, I want to drink a bottle of wine. But it occurred to me on the weekend that I didn't actually want to. I was

like, man, this is why I drank. And then I was just like, I actually don't want to drink. I don't want to. I don't want to. I don't know what happened. I don't know how I got to this place, but I actually don't want to drink. It's not my coping mechanism. I recognize it doesn't work. It took me a while though. The point is it took me a while to get to this place where it wasn't my immediate go-to and where I actually didn't go drink it. And yeah, I could have. No one is stopping me from drinking the wine. Tony would have been like, I will run out and get you a bottle of wine right now if you want it. And he would have not have said anything to me. He would not judge me. He never has. He's gone and got me the wine before. Not that he's enabling me, but he's like,

you're a grownup, make your own decision. And so I got to this place where I recognize on the weekend, I don't actually want the wine. I don't want the wine. And so that was really cool. But that's sort of like, you know, just to kind of say, you know, you're not sabotaging yourself. This might just be your go-to. And eventually as you start doing other things, you are also going to get to a place where you are no longer using food to cope with your emotions, to cope with your stress, to cope with whatever you're dealing with, but it will take time. But the things that you're doing each day, they're going to get you there. They're going to get you there. They're going to get you there. They're going to get you so many balls in the air. I had to give up feeling

guilty. I am losing weight and a friend wasn't. I want to have success. I'm having, oh, ah, that's huge. That is so huge. Don't we want to bring people along with us? I do that in every area of my life. I just want to bring people along, but even when they don't, I had to come to realize that sometimes people don't want what I want. And as much as I want it for them, I can't want it more for them, you know, and you're, you are worthy, you are worthy and you're allowed to work on you and make change and be happy and successful. I, sometimes I deal with this when being successful because people get mad that I'm successful, but they don't know my story where I had my car repossessed and I was fucking broke and had four kids trying to raise them on my own.

They don't know that since I was like 12 years old, I've had like 50 jobs. They don't know how hard I work. They don't know that I put myself through university. They don't know anything like that. And they don't know how hard I've worked and the things I've sacrificed. And yet sometimes they'll say something to me where it's just like, oh, you're just doing this and you're doing that and you're whatever. And I'm just like, okay, what? Like, isn't that what we're all trying to do? Live our best life, feel our best, look our best,

live our best life. Like, do you know what I mean? So I feel like that sometimes with success, I actually never talk about it. I've got, I actually picked up, I'm doing a couple of mentorships, which I'm really looking forward to and sharing. I think sharing is caring and I'm doing some mentorships to help some people kind of figure out what they want to do in business. And I feel this. So whether it's about your weight or another area of life where you're being successful, because I think you do this in all areas is what I'm trying to say. It's not just because you're losing weight and you feel bad.

You probably do this in all areas where you dumb yourself down, where you dim your lights, where you try to be less than in order to make other people feel more comfortable. Probably something has happened in your life where someone told you to sit the fuck down, to shut up, to stop, to stop doing that. It's, you know what I mean? And then you get that, you learn to like not be that person who you really are, because that's not acceptable, because someone somewhere in your life said it wasn't, you know. So crazy, do you, do you, do you, I picked up that book Worthy. Where is it? It's on my bedside table. There's a great book, Jamie Kern Lima, it just hit Amazon. It's called Worthy. And what's really interesting is that there's a big

difference between confidence and feeling worthy. You can be really confident with what you're doing. You could be crushing the program, but you might not feel worthy of your success. And I was like, ah, this is bullshit. Oh my God, it is so me. It is so me. And Worth worthy isn't what you think it is. It was really interesting. I highly suggest you pick up this book. I have, yeah, I have hardly watched the lives and that might be part of the program. I'm not looking for excuses. I truly believe that if I had been watching the lives, I might have been stronger. So you can watch the lives that are associated to that day. Be in your own little world. This is really about you, right? So this is really about you. This is about you and your journey and what works for you. You

can, you know, obviously you can watch the current day live. So to know where you're going, that's, there's a benefit in that. If you feel really solid, if you're working behind the, oh, sorry, this is a follow-up to Joy who talked about how she was working behind in the program. So if you feel solid in what you're doing day to day, you can still do that track in the app, right? Watch the check-in video, do what you need to do and participate in current day lives and the conversation we're having, what's coming down the pipeline. You can do a mix of both. You can do a mix of both. The terrible stomach pain from indulging in certain kinds of foods have been crazy. To think my body always felt this way when I ate it and didn't

notice is also crazy. Yeah. So this is why, well, one, you might be noticing your body picking up on signs that you're sensitive to certain foods that you've always eaten that you perceived didn't give you a problem because you just felt like crap all the time. And when you start feeling really good, you might start to pick up on certain foods that you're eating. It doesn't have to be indulgent junk food foods, but they just not making you feel great. So we had an interesting, I tell this story, the hoagie story all the time. So we, you know, we have this maintenance group and we had someone in the group who was like, ah, maintaining my weight just fine. This is great. The problem is like I went and had a hoagie the other day and a hoagie is like a big sandwich on a bun with the meat and whatever.

And you know, my, I, my stomach, I felt awful. When am I ever going to be able to eat, eat foods and feel normal again? And I was like, okay, so it's not because you lost weight or whatever. It's because that hoagie always made you feel like that. But you just didn't notice because maybe you didn't know what it felt like to feel really good. And you always just felt bloated and gross and off or you had the hoagie after having something else or wash it down with a pop or a thing or do you know what I mean? Like that those foods always did and always will make you feel like that. So there are certain foods, even if you love them, they're always going to make you feel that

way because that's your body's reaction and response to eating. There's lots of foods just because we can eat something doesn't mean we should be eating. So a lot of times like you might choose to have something that doesn't really sit well with you because you know, you want to enjoy it, want to have it. There's nothing wrong with that. But yeah, you'll start to notice that a lot of the foods that you ate just don't make you feel great. I am going extra long today, but I'm not apologizing for it because I'm here for me. 55 birthday celebrations lasting a whole week. I love this. I indulged, enjoyed, was mindful, but not beating myself up. Surprisingly, I feel great and not emotionally deflated this week.

100% pedal to the metal. Back on track. So this is a whole vibe. Nancy, thanks for bringing this to us on a Monday. First of all, happy 55. What an amazing place to be. You are still alive. This is amazing.

Every day that you wake up, you are living your best life because you're still here with us. This is what life is about. It is not the cake at your birthday. It's not your birthday week. It is not your anniversary. It is not any of the holidays or celebratory days. Those are not why you are here. And this is exactly the time while you were trying to lose

weight in a healthy way, physically, mentally, that you do indulge normally. It's not like you're going to stop wanting to have the birthday cake or stop wanting to have this thing or that thing, you know, especially on these celebratory days or where we're with family, where everyone's bringing their own specialty dish. Like I've got an Easter coming up. My aunt Lori better have those creamed onions ready because I love them. They're my favorite, you know, like that's like that. And they're always going to be. And so this is where we have to, this is where you want to actually, you don't want to not go. You don't want to avoid these situations. You don't want to not indulge. You want to indulge mindfully, right? And this is where you can kind of have your cake and eat it too. Not every day with your coffee, but you know,

during moments like that, this is exactly where you want to get to. Birthday celebrations lasted a whole week. I indulged, enjoyed, was mindful, but not beating myself up. Surprisingly, I feel great and not emotionally deflated. This is a whole vibe. I love that. That's where we want to get to. So much bigger than what you are eating and when. So much bigger than just losing your weight. So much bigger than that. So much bigger than that. In previous programs, I have done hardcore workouts. These past few months, I got away from those. Decided on the weekend that I really want to add them back in. This morning, I surprised myself by not counting any reps and sit-ups. I was listening to my body

and just pushing to what I felt was appropriate. I love that. Wow. Mindfulness is everything in life. This, yes. And when you take that pressure off yourself, you're going to have days where you go extra hard. And then you're going to have days where you go extra hard. And then you're going to have days where you're like, ah, you know what? I'm not feeling it today. And this is, I love, I have the 10 minute rule. I have a 10 minute rule. Cause no one ever exercised and was like, geez, I wish I didn't do that. No one ever went for a walk and was like, oh, what a horrible idea. You know what I mean? I mean, there might be like 0.1% of the time where you're really not feeling well and you're pushing yourself to get up and to go for a walk and really like you just you not

feeling so 10 minute rule. If you can just get up and do anything for 10 minutes, go for a walk, start your workout, whatever. By 10 minutes, you're warmed up, you're into it, you're starting to be awake if it's first thing in the morning, right? And then you're starting to feel really good. And then you're starting to feel what it's going to feel like when you follow through and you finish your workout, you're going to feel amazing. So let me just keep going. Right? Like I don't put I don't get up in the morning. And I'm not like I'm going to do an hour workout. I'm going to do this. I'm going to do that. I don't have a plan. I get up and what I love about my new walking pad is because I used to do a bike and sometimes getting up and sitting on a bike is like, I'm all like, oh, this is not comfortable.

So I start on my walking pad. I start really easy. I'm not like busting, you know, like doing like speed walking or nothing. And I just started slow and I get warmed up. And then sometimes I jump on the bike and think, oh, I want to do a little bit of a harder workout, you know, with my Peloton and I get on there and I do a harder workout. Sometimes I like stop and I'm like, okay, I'm going to do some weights right now. And then as I'm doing my weights, I'm like, okay, I might jump on the back on the, on my walking pad for a bit more. Sometimes I spend more time stretching. Sometimes I don't have any rules. I just got to make it 10 minutes. I have to get out of bed and I have to do at least 10 minutes, but I allow myself if at the end of 10 minutes, I don't want to do it. I'm allowed to not do it. I'm allowed to be in tune where I'm at. Same thing with reps. I don't

count reps. I just lift, you know, and I see sort of go by how I feel. So this is being in tune to where your body's at. See, a lot of people think that, well, if I don't make myself do an hour, I don't make myself count those reps. I'm just going to not do it. Or my body's going to be like, well, I don't want to do that. I just want to go upstairs and drink some wine and eat some chips. I don't want to work out at all. When the reality is your body loves it. Your body loves it. And you love when you feel good and you always feel great after you move your body and you do a workout. So a lot of people don't trust that if they just be in tune to their body's needs, that their body's going to make the best decision for them. They don't trust that you

are going to make the best decision. So a lot of people think that, well, if I don't put these pressures on myself and follow these rules, then I'm not going to do it. When you'll be really surprised. It's like kind of like a feeding the metabolism week where you take that pressure off. So think about downsizing. So many of you so stressed because you had to leave the food because you couldn't have the rest. And then you're in your mind, I'm hungry, I'm starved and whatever. And a lot of that is just mental because of our associations to dieting. And now you take the same people and you have to eat. And then you're getting to a place like, oh my God, do I have to eat? Because there's no longer that pressure of like, I can't have it anymore, right? Now, you know, you can have it. It's waiting for you. And people are like, oh, I just, I don't want it.

So it's kind of the same with exercise, right? You just be like, I, my intention is to exercise and I'm just going to get myself out of bed and I'm going to just do something for 10 minutes. And after 10 minutes, I can take the pressure off and I'm just going to get myself out of bed. And I'm going to just do something for 10 minutes. And after 10 minutes, I can take the pressure off. And I'm just gonna go by how I feel you'll be amazed how you just take that pressure off. And you're like, Okay, look at me. And then you're gonna do it. And you're gonna feel amazing. And you're gonna be like, Wow, this is great. What a great workout I had today. That was perfect. Sometimes my workouts are not like super hard. But I'm like, I thought I did it. The fact that I did it is so huge because I was feeling so shitty. Like this morning, I literally, like I

stepped in later. I didn't get up early. I was lying there. I was like, oh my God. And then I, then it was interesting because I was lying there and I was like, okay, well, I don't have enough time to go back to sleep. If I fall asleep, I'm going to wake up and feel like shit because I'm not getting my full cycle of sleep in. Like I learned from Dr. Beverly and no Atlanta. And so I'm like, okay, well, lying here in bed is not really helping me because I can't actually fall asleep. If I do, I'm going to wake up feeling really tired because I'm not getting my full cycle of sleep. And then I'm like, okay, so I'm just going to kind of calm my mind, harmonize, visualize my day, grounded myself. And I'm like, all right, I just get out of bed. And then you don't have to exercise right away. Because I was really behind

on my schedule. Normally, I make tea, I feed the dogs, I do this and do that and whatever. And so everything was just late. And so normally, I do all that before I wake the kids up. So I was like, let me lie in bed till seven, and then I'll wake the kids up. And then I will, you know, then I'll follow through on my routine. And so it wasn't amazing, but I felt great and I got it in. So that's the point, right? We put pressure on ourselves to like go hard or go home. And that's not what maximizing is about. I just want to make that clarity. It's not like go hard or go home. When I say like dig deeper, level up, like leveling up can be like laying off your, your need to do hardcore hour long

workouts that are stressing you out. Leveling up can be being more in tune. Let me be more in tune to where I'm at and what my body needs. That can be leveling up your workout. Leveling up your workout doesn't mean lift heavier, go harder. That's not what that necessarily means. You know, so that like maximizing isn't about, you know, going harder, harder, harder, do more, more, more.

Maximizing is like, okay, what do I need right now today? What are things that can be beneficial to me that I'm not doing? What am I focusing on that I don't really need to focus on when I should be focusing more on this? Like you got the food, you got the routine, you're doing that. You're asking the four questions, but you're not managing your stress. You're not doing anything to, to, to address your sleep. Right. So, so, so go harder, go home. It doesn't have to be like what we're doing all the time, doing all the things. It's not what I mean by doing all the things at all.

You know, sometimes it's just like meeting yourself or your app. What is with me today? I've gone a whole hour. I have got to get off this live. You guys have got to get on with your app. What is with me today? I've gone a whole hour. I have got to get off this live. You guys have got to get on with your day. We have got to get on with this week. It's a good one. Week eight, be super proud of the fact that you are here. Take a minute, assess where you are at, pull out that maximizing post, reassess. What do I need to do now? Not what have I been doing? What do I need to do now? Right? Reflect back on all the amazing things that you have done to get yourself to week eight of the program. I don't know, put on a great podcast, put on some music, whatever you can do to kind of get in the right frame of

mind. This is a whole new week, same old tweak, but whole new week. So bring that kind of vibe and energy into it. Have an amazing day, everyone. I am going to be back tonight at 7pm. I'm looking forward to it. Hopefully I will see you then. If not, I hope that you have an amazing... Sorry, I just got sidetracked by a comment there. I haven't lost any weight, but going to now add movement to the end of the day. Yeah. So Randy, I know you've been reaching out. I've seen the back and forth with you because we do keep tabs on our members who are struggling. We really are here for you, right? There's a lot that you can do there. And this is where, you know, work with us, help us help you post those

questions to the 20 questions. A lot of times when people are struggling, they tend to tell us what they're doing and what they're not doing. And so just continue that back and forth feedback, continue to reach out. We're here for you, right? We're here for you. Have an amazing day, everyone. Happy week eight. I will see you later. Bye.