The Livy Method Podcast - Livy Method Day 66 - Fall 2024

Episode Date: November 13, 2024

Gina Livy's Facebook Lives from The Livy Method Fall 2024 Support Group hosted on Facebook. This is a recording of the Day 66, 9 AM live. You can find the full video hosted at:https://www.facebook.com/groups/livymethodfall2024Topics covered:We all second-guess ourselves sometimes.Dr. Beverley’s tips and tools in our chat this week are so good!Flexibility and this week’s tweak – What does this look and feel like for you?Why we are stepping out of our comfort zone and changing things up.Portions - Learning to give our body what it needs.True hunger versus cravings.Momentum – Everything we have done has led to where we are at now.Supplement check-in – Is your body missing anything?The signs the scale is about to move – Supporting Detox.Sending extra love and support to our community member Robert.Why are salads just not cutting it right now? Tips for seasonal change.Nighttime snacking – Using intention, the skills we have, and practice, to work through this.Bringing peace and awareness to the choices we make.Alcohol – Be curious about what it represents.Working through food waste issues that run deep.See you tomorrow to chat all things fashion and body image with Tanya!To learn more about The Livy Method, visit www.ginalivy.com. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I'm Gina Livy and welcome to the Livy Method podcast. This is where you'll have access to all of the live streams from my 91 day weight loss program. With a combination of daily lives, guest expert interviews and member stories, there is something new almost every day. Miss the morning live? Want to re-listen to one of our amazing guest experts? Well, this is the place. This podcast is hosted on Acast, but it's available on all podcast platforms, including the one you're listening to right now, Spotify, Apple,

and Amazon Music. 66 of the program just popped into the group, checking out the questions on the check-in video. Y'all talking about Lonnie, our conversation from yesterday down 78 pounds with the living method. Talking to real people about their very real journeys is so important. I mean, not just for me, but actually listening to the conversations, the more you can make it real, the more you can make it tangible, the more you can, the more you do that, the more you believe that you can do the same. You can also reach your goals. You can also be successful. We have a lot of thoughts that pop into our mind and a lot of feelings that make us feel doubtful, hopeless, unsure, second guess ourselves, all of it, right? And it's hard enough. And life sometimes likes to remind us

that sometimes it's hard to do the things that we need to do. Or sometimes life makes it hard for us to do the things that we need to do in order to reach our goals. Great conversations this week, not just with Lonnie. Dr. Beverly joined us on Tuesday talking about where you are now, where you want to be, and how to get there, how to get there. Not just our conversations with our amazing members who are sharing their journey. And everyone has a different story. We don't just pick people who are successful. We like to get a great mix of people with a variety of different experiences, hoping that at some point these stories

and these shares are going to resonate with you, help motivate you. It comes down to, again, the right thing said at the right time can be make or break in someone's journey. Dr. Beverly on Tuesday gave us a lot of good tidbits and takeaways, a lot of, you know, tools as well. She talked about the cognitive behavioral therapy model.

She also talked about FEAR, F-E-A-A-R. We've shared both of those in the group. So if you want to check those out, really they're tools to help you figure out what's going on with you, not what's wrong with you, why you can't do the things that you need to do, why you can't lose weight, why you can't whatever, what is going need to do, why you can't lose weight, why you can't whatever. What is going on with you? What's happening in your environment? What's happening in your mind, with your thoughts, with your feelings? What's happening in your body?

What's happening with your behavior? Helping you to bring awareness, to gain insight into where you are at and what you need to do to get you to where you want to go. Okay, so it's Wednesday, midway through the week, we are working our revamp. How are you guys enjoying that? A little bit more flexibility with the food plan itself. So off the heels of splitting up your meals and snacks, you should notice you are even more in tune to those portions. Most of the time feeling more satisfied on less, although portions continue to be what they feel like, not about what they look like. Meaning one day you might need one egg and you feel satisfied. The next day you need three eggs to feel satisfied. Doubling down on those four

mindful eating questions, not skipping any meals and snacks, still having those token amounts, prioritizing protein at breakfast. You've always done that, but just doubling down on that because nine weeks in, we tend to fall back into old habits. We fall back into what we like, what we love rather than what's going to give us the most bang for our buck. More flexibility with your morning snack. So you can have your fruit and combine it with a protein and fat, or you can have something else altogether. We've created a list of alternatives. Switching up the focus for lunch and dinner. So protein, now the focus for lunch and vegetables, now the focus for dinner. Although you shouldn't find that you need to make anything different than what you're used to. Just making sure you

are really focusing on the elements you need to focus on. Afternoon snack is down to one rather than two. That can freak people out. Bumping up that protein and fat slightly is going to feed into your satiety hormones. You should find after a couple of days of just dropping it down to one afternoon snack, you feel fine and might not need that second snack. A lot of times the feeling of the need for that second snack is just because you're used to it or mentally you're a little nervous about not having it. Still adding in bonus snacks for those of you who need for like shift workers, people who are more active, but try to avoid adding in those bonus snacks if you haven't needed them up until this point. There is a certain level of uncomfortableness or change

that you will notice because you're changing what you're giving your body. You're changing what your body is used to. So that's totally normal. You need to step out of your comfort zone slightly. And when you are feeling a little uncomfortable, you'll notice your body is noticing. And again, this whole program is about giving the body what it needs, right? Giving the body what it needs so it no longer feels the need to store fat, helping it specifically focus on fat loss, getting its attention of all the things the body needs to work on. You're helping it find space to focus specifically on releasing that fat. And also towards the end of the program where we're at now is supporting the body and its needs.

So great time to, great time to also pull up that maximizing post. Shivering in bed last night from the cold. Does that count as exercise? Man, it is winter. We, Tony and I took our son to school today and I like stepped outside and you could smell winter. You could smell it, right? Like it's just like, it's cold. And then it was like two degrees this morning, high of five today. So happy. Weight down another 1.5 since starting this tweak. Was up for the first day, but it dropped down lower in the end. Was worried it wouldn't move as I felt I was eating more. You really got to get it out of your head that eating more or eating in general causes you to gain weight. It's really about giving your body what it needs. So again, back to portions. They are what they feel like not about what they look

like. And we've had so many people like I'm eating more than I ever have. Why am I now losing weight? It's because it's about giving your body what it needs. So it no longer feels the need to store fat. Don't underestimate the power of that. You don't want to purposely eat more than what you need. But if one day you feel like you are hungrier than you are used to being that's probably a great sign your metabolism is increasing. Right? There's a there's a rhyme and a reason why your body is asking you for more. You want to trust that. So one day you might need one egg. Again, feel satisfied the next day three, right? It's really about getting in tune to your body's needs, not trying to manipulate your body's needs or giving it what you think you need. It's just really

doubling down, asking those four mindful eating questions. Remember, though, also, if you're extra hungry, it's normal to be extra hungry, heading into the evening after eating all day right before the scale is about to drop. That's normal. You also want to discern between actual true hunger and cravings. So you being hungry versus you craving carbs and sugar, maybe because you're dehydrated, you're not drinking enough water because it is cold outside. So maybe you're kind of cold and drinking water isn't all that appealing. So try to get teas in, right? Drink some warm water. I like to boil a kettle and then make some tea. And then I just keep using the warm water sometimes to drink or room temperature water makes it a lot easier than drinking cold water this time of year.

If you're craving salty foods, could mean that you're having an extra stressful time in your life, bump up your fat. So understand the difference between hunger and cravings, right? Also, you got to bring some logic to your hunger. Like if I just ate half hour ago, chances are if I feel hungry, I'm not actually hungry right now. So what's going on there? Is my tummy rumbling? Is that my migrating motor complex kicking in? Right? So this is where

you want to take everything that you've learned up to this point and kind of assessing the situation when it comes to your hunger levels. My body seems to like this tweak. Yeah. I mean, your body's going to like every tweak. So let me give you a heads up on something. If your weight is dropping this week, it has nothing to do with what you've done over the last couple of days and what you've done over the last week and two months. That's, that's what's going on here. Let me say that again. If your weight is dropping this week, it has nothing to do with what you've been doing the last couple of days. It has to do with what you've been doing leading up to this point. Weight loss is based on momentum, not what you did yesterday or the day before. Now, does what you're doing add into that momentum? Yes, because the systematic nature of the program is one week leads into the next leads into the

next, right? Or one builds and then builds and then builds and then builds. But it's not the tweaks this week. It's what you've been doing up until this week. And then as you progress, that's how it works. A lot of people, and this is why if you're coming back and joining us in January, and that will be your second program, this is your first program, we talk about this, really approaching your next program, each and every program with fresh eyes, not assuming that certain weeks worked best because a lot of times people will assume certain weeks work best based on when they were dropping that week. And it wasn't actually that week that got their scale moving. It was what they were doing the previous week. So, um, but your body should love every week and tweak because we are getting even more

in tune to your body's needs. And maybe that's what you're meaning by this is that you're feeling this is more of a natural way of eating that protein and fat, really giving your body that sustaining energy. You're probably even more in tune to your portions at this point. And then this week and then next week, we're also doing the revamp. And then the following weeks we're going to get even more in tune to your body scenes which is really cool it's definitely worth making it to the end just just to make it to those weeks hi hi Krista checking out the live on my flight to Toronto to see Taylor Swift with my daughter oh that's so fun sister and niece oh my goodness

yeah uh Taylor's in town or she will be, I think tomorrow, Thursday, Friday, Saturday. I think it's so fun. I heard something like she's bringing $238 million to our local economy. I know that can be off-putting for people who live locally. We have tickets to the Raptors game. So nine of us, Tony's family's in town. So we're all heading down to the Raptors game and we totally forgot Taylor is going to be there as well. So we're like heading down to the Raptors game and we totally forgot Taylor is going to be there as well. So we're like, fuck, how are we going to get down there? And we're like, okay, we can take public transit. And I'm like, maybe we can stay down there. No, we can't because hotel rooms are like the cost of hotel rooms are like super jacked up. I just think it's fun. Um, I remember, I mean, some of you maybe will remember the Beatles back in the day, there have been some, um, you know, hyped up bands. I'm not the most biggest music person,

but I remember taking my sister to New Kids on the Block many years ago when it was like, just, it was chaos. I think they played Maple Leaf Square or Maple Leaf Gardens. Um, and it was like, oh my God, it was amazing. I just think it's like, that was a real kind of core memory. I think it's so exciting. I think it's so fun. So everyone who's going this weekend, have the best time. My goodness. I might see you down there. I'm not going to the concert, but you'll might see me on my way trying to, all nine of us trying to truck it to the Raptors game. So fun. Thanks for the motivation to level up my health. Hi, Jessica. I got a blood test yesterday and as expected, stuff is not great, especially my very low iron. Yeah, low iron, that'll get you. Right? Just kind of checking the basics, checking the basics. How are y'all doing

on those supplements? At this point in the program, nine weeks in, sometimes we're starting to drop some balls. We've just been doing some things for so long. Sometimes we're like, what's going on? Why do I feel the way I feel? Why do I not feel as great? Then you're like, oh yeah, I remember not taking my omega-3 anymore, not taking my vitamin D. I take iron, so does my daughter. My daughter has a real iron issue. Do you think we would be mindful about taking our iron? Nope. Nope. We're all tired. We're exhausted.

And we're like, oh, yeah, maybe I should take my iron. I'm with you on this. I'm with you on this. Am I weird? I love this weather. No. Tony's like, yes. Yes, you are.

Teach his own. I'm a summer girl. I love the beach. I love swimming. I love like, it can't be too hot for me. Like I love it hot. I love it so hot. We, we have picked up skiing in the last couple of years as a family, um, which makes it a lot easier to tolerate. Um, I used to love when my, I was thinking about this this morning when my dog, my oldest dog, Jasmine, she's now 12, 13. She doesn't like doing much. She likes to sleep all day these days. But when she was young, I used to take her for like, I used to take her a lot in the woods. And we used to get out in the woods. And I love the winter, getting out for walks in the forest in the winter. Then I think the pandemic happened and then everyone from the city came up who didn't have

dogs. And then it became like a leash situation. So I used to take her like way out in the forest where she could just run and run and run and run and run and live her best life. And then the pandemic, obviously people who don't have dogs didn't like the people like me who had dogs. And so we stopped going to the forest because it became a stress. She's not happy on a leash in the forest and became a very stressful situation. But I used to truck the kids with us. We would get all in our snowsuits and the snow falling off the trees was magical. I digress.

It is fun. And if you can embrace it, if you can embrace it, I think keeping up with our vitamin D seasonal affective disorder, we had actually had a great conversation with Kyle Buchanan in our maintenance group. That podcast is available, I believe over on the Libby Method podcast where we talked about this. He gave us all sorts of great tips for kind of our stress this time of year. But we also did talk about seasonal affective disorder and getting like those, those sad lights that you can get where it kind of like mimics the sunshine. And I think for a lot of people, it's because it's dark now in the morning when they go to work, it's dark now when

they come back. That's probably like that sense of gloom is probably what's going on there. My weight is dropping after a long ass plateau. Love that. Love that. Good for you for hanging in there. I woke up and he did some spicy veggie soup I made, warmed me up. I'm not a coffee or tea person that did the trick. Oh, I love that. Tony made some soup yesterday. He made some chicken noodle soup. He's done that. A couple of weeks ago, he got up and made some spicy Italian sausage soup. It was delicious. Delicious. Love this tweak. Was really hungry yesterday. My weight jumped due to flu shot and sore back and dropped three pounds from yesterday. So probably a combination, weight being up and then your weight is down, really hungry again, right before the scale moves. It's totally normal. Again, watch that.

Sometimes that's combined with right before your body releases fat or detoxes anything, even when you're sick, you have your menstrual cycle, whatever that is. It's wanting you to increase your water intake. Your body's retaining water in order to support the natural detox process. So a lot of times we're craving sugar, carbs, those times things extra hungry because our body's looking for extra water. Remember supporting the body in detox, right? As well. Once that scale starts to move, there are things that you can do to keep it moving.

Sometimes we forget the basics this far into the program. I'm still experiencing technical issues. I see I can view all the comments, but your video is frozen. The live videos are not working for me. I did reach out. This is so odd because if you can't see me, you can't see me telling you this. I did reach out to tech team, but no response. So that wouldn't have anything to do on our side. That would have to do with Facebook. You can try if you're doing it on the app, uninstalling, reinstalling. So that would be a, that would be an, like we broadcast to everyone all over the world. So that would be an issue on your end. Also remember when it comes to our support team, we have real people answering

questions. And I know in this day and age, people are expecting immediate responses. A lot of that is because you're getting AI canned responses from tech teams and whatnot. So we have real people working nine to five on our teams. Because sometimes people like I reached out to customer service like three times and I go, Oh my God, what's going on? I reach out to my customer service team. They're like, yeah, they reached out three times within an hour, like at two o'clock in the morning. We just haven't gotten back to them yet. Uh, we have a really great customer service team. So you're going to want to reach out to your provider or see what's going on with Facebook or see what's going on on your end. Any technical issues that

you have with Facebook is Facebook. All we are doing is streaming through Facebook. So it's not on our end. I know you can't even listen to that. Maybe you'll listen after the fact. You'll listen after the fact. You'll listen after the fact. On a liquid diet today to prepare for a test tomorrow. As Gina was talking about drinking warm drinks, I was finding that cold drinks today were turning me off, boiling my kettle and took out other drinks out of the fridge so I don't get dehydrated. Hi, Robert. Hi, Robert. I didn't get to say goodbye to you. First of all, it was really lovely meeting you on the weekend. I know we got interrupted in our goodbye. I just, I wanted to say that I'm thinking about you. I'm praying for you. Uh, y'all, Robert's, uh,

getting some tests done. He's got a lot going on in his life right now. And I know he would love, we love Robert and he would love some collective prayers. If you guys would wrap him in a big hug and send some love his way. I'd appreciate that if you can do that for me. He's just absolutely lovely. He is as kind and generous and just as amazing in person as he is taking part in our groups and being part of our community here. So if we can send Robert some extra love, an extra big, warm hug and some prayers today. I'm thinking about you, thinking about you, thinking about you. Marley and hygiene, I got my squats in. Oh, I love that. Yes. I'm like getting my squats in.

Let me tell you, my mobility has increased. You guys know I had a bad back and I've been getting my squats in as I brush my teeth, getting my squats in right before I go into a shower. I've been off my walks, pretty tired from the weekend. So I haven't been feeling great, but off I am also, I'm also heading out for a couple of days. You guys, I'm going to be off the next couple of days. So I'm heading out for a couple of days of downtime.

But I've been getting my squats in. The difference even in a month of the squats I was able to do a month ago versus the squats I'm able to do now slowly but surely, I can just feel my mobility. It's pretty awesome. It's pretty great. So many benefits to doing your squats. You guys are being reminded to take your supplements. I love that. I love that. You guys are making soups. It's a great time for soups. You've got it. If you are forcing yourself to eat salads and you are feeling unsatisfied, like there's a difference between hungry and you're eating, but you just feel unsatisfied. Like, yeah, you're eating enough to feel satisfied in the moment, but there's a different kind of unsatisfied. It could be because you are forcing yourself to eat salads. You do want to get your leafy greens in, but you can saute them. You can add them into soups and stews

and whatnot. Forcing yourself to eat cold salads on a day where what you really want is some soups like a stew or a chili or something warm is not really helping you is not really helping you. So in the wintertime, your body kind of works like a heater in the spring and summer like an air conditioner. It's trying to keep you nice and cool. You crave cooling foods like like fruits and vegetables. When it's hot out, your body shuts you down, keeps you low energy. It's trying to conserve your energy, right? So you want ice cold water. You want refreshing drinks. When your energy dips because you're hot, you're looking for like a pick me up.

This is why you want to increase your fruit intake into the summer, decrease your fruit intake in the wintertime. In the wintertime, it's really important to give yourself those foods that create heat internally. If you're not giving your body those foods that create heat internally, guess what your body is going to look to naturally do? Store some extra fat to keep you insulated in the wintertime. The cold temperatures, the drops in vitamin D due to the shorter days is why one of the reasons why you want to make sure you're keeping up with your vitamin D as well is that low vitamin D signals weight gain. And so making sure your vitamin D levels are up, making sure you are getting those seasonal effective lights in so

you're getting that sunshine, anything you can do to trick your body almost into believing it's not winter. So therefore it doesn't need to store that excess fat or give it what it needs. So you give enough of your body of those kinds of warming foods that in combination, taking your vitamin D, get yourself some, a sad light, making sure you're staying active as your body tends to go into that hibernation mode. Right? That's why it's really important. Forcing yourself to eat cold salads is not making your body feel like it's getting what it needs. So it's not really helping you. Sometimes that happens because people will take what like what they did in the springtime and just try to replicate that in the wintertime. And that might work at the beginning in the first few months. You do want to make those seasonal

tweaks. I just weighed myself and the scale is going down again for the fifth day in a row. Consistency pays off and momentum is real. Absolutely. This is why you always want to assume once that weight starts dropping, it never just drops for one day. This way you got to remember supporting the body and detox, make sure you're staying on top of that water, even though it's not appealing, trying to get sleep, definitely not eating at night, being mindful of your food choices, of your portions, doing all of the things, because chances are it's going to continue to move for the Next three to five days. Next three to five days, three to five days. Three to five days. Oops. I totally lost my spot. I have two light therapy lamps. I need to bring them out. Yeah, exactly. Right. I'm going to do the same. I've been researching one, Jodi, who's on my team

and Brian and both have, Jodi has actually one of those red light face masks, which I think I'm going to get my hands on. Apparently that can do the same as well. And then Bryden has a seasonal affective disorder lamp. Apparently you just want to use them in the morning time. I was going out for my walks and now that it's getting darker, I'm like, I'm going to, ratatouille. We just, we were just talking about that last night. I call it Ratatouille, which apparently is not Ratatouille, Ratatouille, um, because that movie Ratatouille, Ratatouille, uh, one of our favorite movies was like number one in Canada last night. Great time for making your soups and stews and all of those. Uh, wow, Gina,

you just read two of my comments back to back. So when I let us know about the lamps, I will. And so I have a whole I have a whole Amazon section where I add in some great finds and stuff. I tend to order a lot of things on Amazon when they're good quality products. So if I find something on there, I'll let you know. But that is where I add some of my favorite stuff. I do have one of those storefronts. I never talk about it, but I try to kind of put stuff in there. So when people are asking my team, where did I get this? Where did I get that?

They have some place to send people as well. I have been so proud to not touch the extra bits at all. I have been saying to myself, will this help me in my goal? So will this help me in my goal? This comes back to also it's intention, right? And I love Sandra Elia. If you haven't had an opportunity to listen to the conversation that I had with Sandra Elia, she talked about now this is more in regards to nighttime eating. What is my intention with eating this? And you have the like this and listen, if it was just

saying this randomly to someone, I'm like, this is such horseshit because it takes practice to get in tune to your body's needs. And it takes practice to get to a point where you can actually take time before you consume something to ask yourself, what is my intention with this? But you nine weeks into the program, you have the skills to do this, you have the skills to do this, right? It's a lot easier said than done, like just send them someone randomly. And I was like, Oh, just take time to ask yourself, what's your intention? They're like, they're gonna be like, what? Do you know what I mean? But you have the skills nine weeks in to be able to have the wherewithal to yourself. Okay, I'm thinking of snack because you know, right? Let's

say you've had dinner, you've had a great day, you're kind of hungry, you've had a stressful day, you're whatever, you're just like, I feel like eating something. You're struggling in your mind. You're at this point, you're like, I know I shouldn't, but I want it. And I don't know. And I could just get back on track or you're, you're, you got thoughts going on in your mind anyway. So you might as well add more to it and say to yourself, okay, I'm going to allow myself to have whatever I want to have. I'm a grownup. This having whatever I want to have is not going to stop me from reaching my goal. I'm going to get there, but let me just take a minute and ask myself one of two things or both. What is my intention? Why, why do I want to eat that right now? And just take the time. Well, I had a

rough day. Okay. Is eating that going to help make my day better after I eat it? How am I going to feel? Oh man, I know I'm not going to feel great. I'm going to eat it. It's going to be over like that. And I'm immediately going to get on myself. Right. Or is this thing, I'm thinking of the chocolate bars I have upstairs because I know I ate one yesterday and I just felt like garbage afterwards. Garbage. I was like, I just, I have it. I'm tired. I'm going to have this. And then immediately I'm like, that was helpful. The few seconds that it took for me to enjoy it did like, was not worth the, how I felt afterwards. You know, I know better and I chose to have it anyway. Um, what, what is, what is your intention? And you might still choose to have it anyway, right? What is your intention with this?

Is it going to bring you peace? Is it going to bring you peace? That was another takeaway from Sandra Ilya. What is my intention? Why, why am I wanting this? Because it's good to know. It's good to know I'm tired. I just don't give a fuck right now. I'm just like, I just, I'm looking for a pick me up. I just want to enjoy some yummy chocolate, like really understanding what it is. There's that's how, even if you end up eating the thing, really understanding why you want the thing also super helpful. And then is it going to bring me peace, right? Is having this going to do what I'm expecting it to do? Is it going to bring me peace?

That'll give you a fighting chance at not having the thing. But what it's also doing is bringing awareness. So what you're going to realize is, okay, so maybe you end up having the thing anyway. It's also bringing awareness to how you feel. Did it bring me peace? No, probably not. And now I'm creating a new association to that thing. So each time you're presented with the chocolate or whatever it is, you're just going to want it less and less and less and less. And you're just going to get, it's like I can go months and months and months and months and months and months and months. Like I had all that, Tony was eating all the Halloween candy leading up to Halloween. I didn't have any of it. And then once Halloween came, I started having some. And then when you

have some, you want more of it. And that was sort of the remnants and leftovers, but I didn't eat chocolate the day before or the day before that or whatever. Right. So, so sometimes it's situational or circumstantial that you just happen to have it there. Uh, these two questions from Sandra Alia has really helped me. Yeah. Right. Like it just takes your awareness to the next level. I had a non-scale victory the other night. I wanted chocolate. My husband asked for one square. Do I just, uh, ask for one square? I just took one square. I stopped the urge and that was enough. Yeah. I mean, this is where you're going to get to that. This is where you're going to get to that. Um, I got, I, I have been known to keep a chocolate bar in my freezer and pull out a square piece whenever

I want it. I actually have a chocolate bar right now that's been sitting open on my dresser probably for two days because it's not my favorite chocolate bar. I opened it up and I took a bite and I was like, oh yeah. What was that one? What is that? Mr. Big? Mr. Big. I don't know. I'm on O'Henry girl. Mr. Big is, so I literally have like a, I literally have on my bedside table, a chocolate bar sitting there that has one bite out of it. It's been sitting there for two days, two days, two days, two days. When I tend to have treats, that's when I tend to have treats when I'm tired and I just want some downtime. Yeah. You know, it's interesting. And we had a great conversation with Lonnie yesterday, who's lost 78 pounds in the program. And we talked about alcohol,

alcohol addiction, and then how she kind of replaced alcohol with food and kind of her thoughts on food addiction. And really interesting conversation with her about that. And as she was talking about alcohol and what that represented with me, very much the same. It's not necessarily the alcohol. Once I start to drink it, I mean, I do love the taste of wine and a good old fashioned, I can keep drinking it. Wine more so. Old fashioned, I can have a couple and call it a day. But when it comes to wine, I just love it so much. I just keep drinking and drinking and drinking. But it is, it's really what it represents. And for me, when I was a younger mom and a single mom with four kids, the wine was like Thursday nights, Grey's Anatomy, pour my glass of wine. And that was like

mom time. That was like my one hour. Don't talk to me. Leave me alone. This is my one, this is my one hour or my one night a week where I just get to like sit down and it represented peace. It represented me time. And I don't know that I necessarily needed the wine for that, but I think it was like a, a physical, and if you, and if you, if you talk to my kids, they will say, oh yeah, when mom has a glass of wine, like leave her alone. When mom has a glass of wine, that means that's her time. And so not just the representation to myself, but also a signaling as such to my children, leave me the fuck alone. Leave me alone. It's my sanity time. And I think that kind of carried with me. So it's been really my go-to when it came to more stressful times in

my life. Obviously drinking a couple of bottles of wine when you are stressed, not ideal. It does not make you, it does not make you, here comes McDreamy. It does not really help. I've been chronically dehydrated and working on my drinking, my water and my hydration and my body is finally water levels on my scale brought me up to a normal level. It took three months to get there. It can take a long time to get, you know, and also you'll know you're chronically dehydrated because you just constantly have a chronic headache all of the time. It can take a long time, especially after you're flying in a long trip. It can take a long time to get your hydration levels back up. It can definitely be work for sure. It can be work for

sure. I have a friend who sprays Windex on leftover cake and chocolate. So this temptation ends. I mean, I don't even know what to say to that. I know it. I don't. She should probably just maybe so. So this is weird, right? So what is going on here? Your friend could have a food waste issue. So then after you're done, just because you buy the cake doesn't mean you need to eat the whole cake, right? Like just because I opened that chocolate bar, I had a bite doesn't mean I need to eat the whole just because you open the bottle of wine doesn't mean you need to drink the whole bottle of wine. We have like food waste issues run deep because why wouldn't your friend just be like, I'm done with this. I enjoyed my piece. Give it to the neighbor. If the kids aren't

going to eat it, just put it in the green bin, put it in the green wind. Your friend probably has food waste issues. If she feels the need to spray it with windex it's funny but it's not spray it with windex so she doesn't eat the rest of it probably because she has to wreck it or ruin it to justify tossing it right that's probably what's going on there yeah spraying it so it's an edible right a food addict will take it out of the garbage. Yeah, exactly. That's what I'm saying. It's funny, but it's not funny because there could also be, there could be a food addict, but it could also be a food waste issues as we learned, right? It's not just food addiction. It's also because I'm sure she has sugar. Again, people will be like, I'm addicted to sugar,

but you're not going into the, chances are you're not going into the bag of sugar that you have in your cupboard either. And so she could very well have food addiction. So out of sight, out of mind, but also the garbage is out of sight, out of mind. And you would think once it goes into the garbage, you would leave it there. And so spraying with the Windex could also be tied into a deep food waste issue and also a food scarcity issue as well. Right. So complex. My goodness. So complex. Totally food waste. I'd never throw out food, any food. I'd never throw food out, any food until it's bad. Right. But yet it's really, I find food waste issues interesting because people throw food away all the time out of their

fridge, right? Like even with us trying to recycle food back into our day, especially leafy greens, how many people hands up have been known once those leafy greens go all slimy, no one's eating them. And food can turn bad quite quickly for a variety of reasons. We have no issue tossing that come recycling day. But it seems to be deeper than that. It seems to be also your connection with feeling the need to you personally eat it, right? Like your kids probably don't care if you throw out leafy greens or vegetables that they didn't eat that week, right? You buy your groceries for your family.

For example, why does it all land on you in particular to finish everything in your fridge before it goes bad? Your husband probably doesn't feel that way or your spouse or whoever. Your children probably don't feel that way. So if we break it down, why does it land on us in particular to not be wasting that food? And more so it has less to do with cleaning out our fridge as it does with a portion that we're eating. We feel the need to eat the whole donut. We feel the need to eat the whole portion of whatever it is of the food that we are putting on our plate, right? That's the food waste issue because you feel an issue with the food that you are leaving on your plate. Do you also have an issue with the food that your kids are leaving on their plate or your spouse, right? Is your spouse,

like if your spouse leaves food on their plate, do you feel the need to eat that? Or other way around, if your kids are leaving food on their plate, are you forcing them to eat the food on their plate? And that's reinforcing the eat everything on your plate. Right? Shit goes deep. Shit goes deep. Shit goes deep. I cook an entire slab of pea mail, a box of sausage rounds, and a huge T-bone in one morning last week because our freezer failed. It was a good week. Not for my weight though. Weird how that works.

Right? But we're not, you're not, you are not wasting it. Let me say it loud and clear. You are not saving it by eating food you do not need. You are not saving anything. You are not saving anything by eating food you do not need. But I also understand it's a hard concept to grasp. We'll get there. We'll get there. Hopefully we will all get there without having to spray Windex on our food, y'all. Calm, calm around food, calm around food when it comes to food waste issues, food scarcity issues, all of it. Oh my goodness. Let's all just be grateful that we have food that goes to waste. goodness uh okay i gotta go

i'll be back tomorrow i'm actually gonna be around i'm not gonna go live on friday so just a heads up on those of you who are listening but i got tanya gelsomino uh we always seem to connect whenever one of us is away uh i'm gonna be out of town uh for the next couple days but i will be going live tomorrow tanya gelsomino i always love my conversations with her. We're going to talk about body image, how to embrace your ever-changing body. We're going to talk about getting off plan, getting back on, which I know she has done before. We're going to talk about dressing and embracing and trying to find who you are. Who's the new you? You lose 78 pounds. Who are you? You do a program like mine where you're actually changing, not just physically, but mentally. Who are you? What's your new style? What's your taste? How are you showing

up? How are you representing yourself? That's the conversation we're going to have tomorrow. She's awesome. Have an incredible rest of your day, everyone. And I'll see you then. Bye.