The Livy Method Podcast - Livy Method Day 72 - Fall 2024

Episode Date: November 19, 2024

Gina Livy's Facebook Lives from The Livy Method Fall 2024 Support Group hosted on Facebook. This is a recording of the Day 72, 9 AM live. You can find the full video hosted at:https://www.facebook.com/groups/livymethodfall2024Topics covered:Let’s talk Back on TrackA comfortable body isn’t in a hurry to lose weightThe scale and Sickness ProtocolReframing your mindset to acknowledge and accept your accomplishmentsCultivating an awareness of what your reactions to the tweaks are telling you about your habits, issues and associationsUsing the CBT model to support you at this time of yearThe power of having a meaningful whyTaking the time to use the tools in your toolbox helps to establish the mindset you want to developGive yourself permission to process your feelings regarding your progress at this point in the ProcessPersonal growth is at the heart of success on The Livy MethodDigging deep to finish strongTo learn more about The Livy Method, visit www.ginalivy.com. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I'm Gina Livy and welcome to the Livy Method podcast. This is where you'll have access to all of the live streams from my 91 day weight loss program. With a combination of daily lives, guest expert interviews and member stories, there is something new almost every day. Miss the morning live? Want to re-listen to one of our amazing guest experts? Well, this is the place. This podcast is hosted on Acast, but it's available on all podcast platforms, including the one you're listening to right now, Spotify, Apple,

and Amazon Music. Back on track is the technique that you will implement whenever you find yourself going off the rails to the point where you feel like, oh, OK, I got to get back on track. It is not for little bites of bits here and there. That is really important. It's not for fluctuations on the scale, which are normal, are going to happen for a variety of reasons. Also, it's normal for your weight to be up before it goes down. So if your weight is up before it goes down, you want to keep that momentum going with the current tweak. So back on track refers to the original food plan because it's so ingrained. It's so

familiar. It's very low stress on the body. And it's just a great way of helping the body get over any backlog that you're experiencing. Because let's face it, if you are feeling like you're off track, probably you've been indulging foods that cause inflammation in the body, maybe create a bit of a backlog, maybe that your body's sensitive to, you're probably not drinking enough water, maybe you're drinking a little extra alcohol and you're dehydrated or it's messing with your microbiome or maybe you just haven't been getting great sleep, whatever that is. So back on track, you want to absolutely minimize the need for back on track. So while you're trying to lose weight, you want to stick to the plan as much as possible. Every choice that you make that gets you one step closer to your goal is going to add up. So you obviously want to minimize any need for back on track, but it's there if and when you need it.

Back on track, you are going to use for as many days as you need until you feel like you're back on track. It has nothing to do with the scale and everything, everything to do with how you feel. That is really important because we'll have people like, oh, I've been doing back on track for two weeks now trying to get my scale back down. That's not what it's there for. People also will say, well, why can't I just keep following the basic food plan? You could keep following the basic food plan, but the thing is, is your body eventually it gets used to it and it gets quite happy following it.

And a happy, content body isn't necessarily in a hurry to make change. And so in the most simplistic way, of course, I'm saying that. So the tweaks each week are designed to get the body's attention, to keep things moving and grooving, to help you unravel layers of issues and associations. It's about messing with your mind and all the best ways to get it to see things from a different perspective. So there's a rhyme and the reason behind the tweaks, obviously each week. So if you go off track and you use back on track, the basic food plan to get back on track, as soon as you start to feel better, you want to move forward into the current tweak because

that's a more effective and a more effective tweak at the end of the day, right? So here we are. It is Tuesday, week 10. I know some people are feeling the pressure of the time that we have left. So I just want to remind you again, I organize these weight loss programs in 91 days. I run them in the fall, which people after the summer are looking to lose weight. I run them in the winter, which people after the, in the new year are looking to lose weight. And I run them in the spring, which is where people are looking to lose weight.

So the three major times of the year when people are actively actually looking to go pretty hardcore or be pretty serious about a diet. I've broken them down to 91 day increments because it takes 91 days for your body to make change. It takes like 12 weeks to reinforce any new habit. It takes 12 weeks for your skin to start regenerating around your frame. It takes 12 weeks for your body really to get into it and start making change. So that's the reason why I picked 91 days. I also come from a background of working in the fitness and diet industry of pressure sales, subscription services, making it very difficult for people, one, having to lock you into a year and make it very difficult for you to cancel.

And I wanted people to kind of break free from that and have a different way. And for you to be able to customize your weight loss journey. So you might only need to do one program, which is great. I love that, which is why my goal for any program is to teach you everything that you need to know or share everything that I've learned for you to lose your weight in a healthy, sustainable way. Or maybe you need 10 programs. And maybe you're able to lose all your weight in one program, but you need another five to solidify the mindset, right? It's to really be able to customize your journey.

And so with that, it's going to take you the time that it's going to take. So a lot of people try to fit their journey into my little box that I've created one of my programs that's either in the fall, winter or spring, trying to fit their all the weight they need to lose into 91 days. And that's just not realistic. And I think we are taught that from like the 21 day diet or the whatever it is, right? So, so just remember, it's going to take you the time that it's going to take. And so try not to, although I know we do put that pressure on yourself. Good morning, everyone down 13 pounds after two weeks of being on sickness protocol, win-win for me. Yeah. So listen,

you know, if anyone took what I said out of context in this program a lot of things that I say obviously that wouldn't be ideal but I can say when you are sick it's a great opportunity to capitalize on the scale because it's detox your body's detoxing the sickness out your body is trying to get this cold or flu or virus out of your system this is why you want to drink lots of fluids, get lots of rest. And while you've been giving the body what it needs, so it no longer feels the need to store fat, guess what else is going to detox along with it? Detox is detox. And with the Livi Method, we are essentially piggybacking the natural detox process in helping the body release fat that no longer serves a purpose. So although it can be a bit of a bummer when you're

sick, because you're like, well, I want to keep up with the So although it can be a bit of a bummer when you're sick, because you're like, well, I want to keep up with the program, it can actually kind of fast track what's going on in your body because your body's actively trying to detox. And now this only works when you are actually sick. And a couple of things can happen when you're sick. Your weight might be up while you are sick, right? So if you take, oh, well, someone lost weight when they're sick, your weight might be up while you're sick because your body's retaining water. And so you'll notice that weight will come down usually after you start to feel better. And this is why you want to follow that sickness protocol until your appetite starts to come back. When your appetite starts to come back, then you can jump back, pick up where you left off.

Also, when you're sick, you're going to notice a couple of things. You are either going to not be hungry at all, which is totally normal. That's your body keeping you low energy so that it can focus on detoxing. It's not interested in you eating because eating takes a lot of energy and you not eating when you are sick is not the same as being fully functioning and healthy and not eating because you're trying to force your body to burn fat. Right? So when if not eating or keeping your foods light when you're sick is not going to reinforce the need for your body to store fat. That's just that's why your body naturally stores those reserves. Four times when you are sick, your body's not interested in carrying any excess around. The other thing that

will happen is you'll be like really like craving a lot of carbs and sugar. Oh my god, I just need to have something sugary. That is not what your body needs. Your body's probably screaming at you to drink more fluids and you misinterpret that signal and have carbs and sugar instead. So that's why you want to drink lots of fluids and get lots of rest, get lots of rest. Of course, if you have an appetite, then you want to keep your food choices as healthy as possible. And this is where you might still be able to follow the food plan, but maybe you might want to do something like a chicken soup for lunch as opposed to something a little bit heavier, you know. Turning 40 this Friday and feeling the best I have, letting go of thinking I need to be a certain weight on my birthday. Yes, yes, yes, yes. And just wanting to feel good and have energy. I am down 60 pounds and happily

heading out on a vacation tomorrow morning. Oh my goodness. Well, have the best time and have the best time heading out on a vacation tomorrow morning to celebrate your Mindstone birthday. Oh, I love that. Happy birthday, Angela. 60 pounds. That's amazing. I love that though. Letting go of needing to be a certain weight on my birth. It's good to have goals. It's good to have goals. It's good to have goals, but at the same time, right? You woke up today. That's a win. You woke up today. That's a win. You get to celebrate your birthday. That's a win. It's amazing the confidence I feel in my body these days, but when I look in the mirror, I can't help but see all the issues. So I've been trying hard not to look. So you want to, so,

so the universe is always going to, the universe pulls into what you believe. That's how it works. It's kind of like that red car, right? Like you, you go get a new car. Let's say it's a red, I don't know, Honda. And you, you, you see it at the dealership. You're like, wow, I love this car. I've never seen it before. You get the car, you drive it away. All of a sudden, everyone's driving a red Honda. You're like, what, what is going on here? Because it's in your mind site. So your mind is pulling in all the things. And so your brain does this when you are, your brain does this when you are, again, it's like, I just, um, click something on Instagram today. I was going to share it. Your brain does this for you. It basically proves it's constantly proving you right.

And what it's, you're pulling in what you're, what you are seeing. Where is this post I said today? Ah, here it is. For example, repetitive complaining. So if you're always complaining about things will attract things for you to complain about. Repetitive gratitude will attract things for you to be thankful for. So if you are, if you are looking in the mirror and start looking for things that you're not happy with, you'll continue to see more things that you're not happy with. Also, this could be where this could be the way your brain is wired. And this is what I mean by we are rewiring how our body is functioning physically, it's need to store fat, and your your hormones, your insulin and your and your leptin and whatnot.

And also we're rewiring how your brain has come to function. And so your automatic go-to when you see yourself trigger negative. And so maybe you don't have the same issue to complain about. You'll just find something new to complain about. So as opposed to avoiding the mirror or looking at yourself, you want to say, well, I love my beautiful eyes. I love my skin. I love my, do you know what I mean? If you don't like the look of them, I love that my eyes help me see the world. I love that I can listen to my favorite music. I love that my legs carry me throughout my day. Like it doesn't have to, and I know it might sound really corny, but you're retraining your brain to look for positive things, right? So you don't want to not look, you actually do want to look. And so I've worked with a lot of people and I'll be like, well, are you noticing your body change? They're like, no, what do you mean? I don't know. And I'm like, well, are you looking in the mirror? Are you noticing? And they're like,

no, I don't look in the mirror. And that's like, it's a great way to reconnect with yourself. It's a great way to see what you see as flaws in yourself, right? And really understand like the depths of how far this goes. What do you really think about yourself? People talk about self-love all the time. But if you don't know what you don't love about yourself, or you don't know how you're actually viewing and seeing and talking about yourself, how do you know how to self-love yourself? Right? And so you not wanting to look at yourself or, you know, acknowledge even what

you're seeing out of fear that you're not going to like it, it says a lot about your mindset, right? It says a lot about your mindset. That is going to give you the insight in order to change that and reconnect, but in reconnect in ways that are going to resonate with you. You going to the spa is not going to help that, right? Do you see what I'm saying? So that's not the kind of self love that you need. The kind of self love that you need might be repetitively looking in the mirror and pointing out things that you can find that you love about yourself. Even if it's not something that you're, like I said, like you don't like the look of something. You like the fact that you're, it's the action or something, right? But I hear you on that. I hear you. You have to really train your brain. Good morning. Hopeful to do my very best in this awesome program week 10. However, hearing back on track does take some of my confidence for me. I'm not even considering back on track, at least not now. So this is where I would be like, evaluate what you just said. So why does implementing a technique

for you to use, if ever, like this is make no mistake back on track is not an invitation for you to indulge. And if it is, you're looking for one, you're looking for one. And it's good to recognize you're looking for an out, you're looking for an excuse. You're so back on track is and the reason why we implement it in week 10 is because you don't want to be using it up before week 10. And it's not really for while you're following the program. And that's why I said you really want to minimize your use of back on track. But the reality is some people are indulging. Some people are indulging and it is the holiday season. And so back on track is for when you really, really, really need it,

but you will know you need it because you would have done a number on yourself. So it's better if you do a number on yourself to actually have a plan, right? Because what we do before, starve, deprive, that type of thing. We're also coming to the end of the program in which we're going to teach you guys how to bridge the gap between the end of this program and the January program. For those of you who've signed up, there are some people who are also done following the program because they've reached their goal and they're going to be moving into maintenance and back on track comes into play in maintenance. Not when you're solidifying your weight, but when you're living your life in maintenance, like whenever I go off the rails,

I'll implement back on track for a couple of days. My weight was up. I was feeling shitty or whatever. A couple of days comes back down. And your body wants this and craves this anyway. Ever go away on a vacation and just trash yourself. And by the end, you're like, oh my God, I just want to eat a clean salad and drink some water and sleep in my bed. Like that's the same thing, right?

So your body craves that. Your body's like, oh man, this has been fun. But can we like, like the Halloween candy, right? Okay. That that's fun. But it gets to a point where like, okay, yeah, enough with that. Like we can that in, in, in our own ways, our body's already asking for this. This is just having a structured plan, but there's a couple of things that I want to point out to you. And I love that you shared hopeful to do my very best. Yikes. Hopeful is not a very powerful word. Hope is having hope that you can lose your weight.

Yes. But you used it in an action way, right? Like there is no reason why you can't do your very best. And when you say, cause I just am a big believer in words matter. Like I'm not going to say I'm hopeful. I'm going to have the number one weight loss company in the world. You bet your fucking ass. I'm going to have the number one weight loss company in the world. You bet your fucking ass. I'm going to have the number one weight loss company in the world. See the difference. I'm hopeful. I'm hopeful. I'm going to reach my goal. I'm going to do everything in my power to make sure I'm a success story in the end. Right? So what you are doing is already setting yourself up for failure. And thank you for

sharing. Cause I think this is a lot of people do this. And it's a great example. You're setting yourself up to fail. I'm telling you right now, I would not bet money on you. And you may be like, oh my God, I can't believe you're saying that. Based on this sentence right now, I would not bet money on you because you are setting up yourself to successfully fail. I am hopeful to do my very best. I love how you threw in the awesome program. That's passive aggressive, right? That's passive aggressive, right? Right. That's passive aggressive. Um, um, however, another, however, I'm hopeful. Um, however, right. Um, hearing back on track, hearing and hearing a technique that will help me does take some

of my confidence from me. Right. Um, so do you see what I'm saying? So how about I'm gonna, I'm gonna, I'm gonna crush this program. And it's not that's not gonna be based on the number on the scale or anything like that. I'm gonna crush it, meaning I'm gonna do my best to show up every single day. I'm gonna prioritize myself, I'm gonna support myself, I'm gonna do the best that I possibly can. That's it. And I love that there is a technique that I can implement should I need it. I plan on not needing it, but I love that there's a backup plan for me. Right. And so see the difference, like even just saying those kinds

of words and your energy. And the reason why I'm saying this is a lot of people will sabotage themselves at this point because of the fear of the end of the program, what they accomplished, what they won't accomplish because of the fear of the program coming to an end because of the fear of getting closer to the goal because of the fear of change. Right. So, so just a, just a, just a little, like me sharing what I'm, what I'm seeing. So if you just take a minute and be like, okay, what is my issue with this? So all Gina's done is implemented a technique that if I do find myself indulging, go away on vacation or whatever, and you might not even need it now. You might not even need it in the next year. You might need it in maintenance. Um, why is that making me, why is that making me feel like I might not be successful or I might not,

whatever that is, right? What's, what's, what's the deal with that? What is that? It might be, it might be, and then I'm generalizing, I'm talking to everybody here, by the way, I'm talking to everybody because a lot of people can feel like this at the end. This can be, this can be insight into the fact that maybe you don't trust yourself. Maybe you don't trust yourself. And the reason why I'm sharing this is because a lot of people, once they reach their goal and get into maintenance, feel like even though they've lost their weight in a healthy way, even though they've done the work, they don't trust themselves. They feel like if I was to leave it up to myself, I'm not going to choose healthy foods. I'm going to choose whatever your

goat, your chips and the chocolate and the donuts. That's what I'm going to choose. I can't trust myself. Otherwise I'm going to trash myself. Right. And so there is that kind of layer of trust that's happening. And sometimes that can like really get you not at the beginning of the program, but at the end of the program where you start to realize you, it's possible for you to reach your goals. It's possible for each goals. My first program, and I'm loving it down 18 pounds and several inches surpassed my goal weight. I love that. Good for you. Good for you. So totally normal for people to have to readjust their goal weight. Totally normal. Sometimes we're hesitant. We don't want to set ourselves up for failure. So some people think, Oh, you know, I'm not sure. So I'm just going to set

this goal. And then they reach it and they realize, ah, I'm going to go for more. That's up to you. That's up to you. That's up to you. Here's someone else. I am in the same boat, uh, struggling, struggling, but still here. So it's just this, this time of year can make us struggle for a little bit. Like, what is it? So I want to remind you of the, the conversation we had the Dr. Beverly David cognitive behavioral therapy model. What are you struggling with? Is it your feelings? Is it your thoughts? Is it physically in your body? Is it behavioral? What is going on? So rather than being on them struggling, because I find this interesting, right? Same boat, same boat, same boat. And so let's, let's, let's break this down for a second. How do you know it's the same thing? One person could be

struggling because their spouse just passed away. Somebody else could be struggling because they just lost their job. Someone else could be struggling because they keep falling back into old habits. Someone else could be struggling because they're sabotaging themselves. Someone else could be struggling because they're having a hard time finding the time to, to food, food prep. Right? And so this is where you really want to watch that attachment to struggle. And you really want to be like, what is it specifically that I am dealing with? Because when you can break it down and be like, I'm specifically dealing with this, you can come up with ways to help support yourself, right? Help support yourself.

What is it that I need in the moment? And we had a really interesting conversation last night in the evening live. And it was really about individually. And this is, I think, what this conversation here today is about, too, is like, is really knowing on an individual basis where you are at, and what you are working through, and what you need to do to help support yourself. And it really, truly is very individual. It's also about knowing yourself best. And so what's your, what normally happens? Like if you have some feels that are popping up, like maybe you're feeling insecure, you're not very confident, you're not sure where's that

coming from? Where's that coming from? And you know, old habits are hard to break. So chances are we as we get towards the end of the program, we can start to get like a fatigue of keeping up with the new. And this is where some of the old might kind of creep in. And this is where it's easy to fall back. Or maybe you have never gone on a diet this long. Or maybe this is like, this is how you all like how you are showing up in your diet is probably how you show up in your life. Right? So maybe you quit things. And sometimes we quit things because we know that they're just not working for us. But sometimes we convince ourselves that they're not working for us just because we're scared, or we're unsure, or whatever. So it's about you really knowing yourself best.

And right now you might be in between your old self and your new self. And that can be kind of tricky. Oh, old self would totally just give up at this point, trash myself and whatever. New self, right, is going to just say the chorus, you know, pull up that maximizing pose, you start journaling, double down on the things I need to do, right? Even though the middle self is finding it very difficult, difficult, I'm being torn. And so this is about really getting real with yourself, but not getting real with yourself, berating yourself, what's wrong with yourself? Like, come on, really understanding who you are. And therefore, then really understanding what you need and what you can do to make sure that you keep moving forward and really to make sure that you're not just here at the end of this program,

but that you are truly here at the end of your weight loss goals. This goes back to the science that there is zero science to suggest that you can't be successful at losing your weight and maintaining your weight. It's just it's a lot of work. It's a lot of work. So are you going to be the person that follows through and does the work? Or are you going to be the person who just stops following or bails or quits for whatever reason? And there's, there can be a lot of reasons for that, right? And so, and that can be a constant struggle. It's like, I know, I know I'm going to have the number one weight loss company in the world. I know it. I'm not, I'm not one reaction in my body. Otherwise, 100%, I know it. Does that mean I'm confident every day? No, it does not. I would say more, most days I am not confident. There is

an underlying feeling of, uh, not feeling confident. I mean, end game. Absolutely. I have the vision. I'm confident, But does that mean day to day to day? I'm confident. Does that mean every single day I'm super productive in doing the things that are going to get me one step closer for that goal? No, there's a lot of feels wrapped up in that. There's a lot of feels and wrap that. And then that's sort of like, that's your, your, your why is that's, that's why your why is really important to reflect on your why every now and just kind of remind yourself why you're here. So when you are struggling, for lack of a better word, you, you know, okay, well, okay, I'm struggling today. Let's define it. Let's support ourselves in

working through it. But just to remind yourself, okay, this is why I'm here. This is why I'm doing it. So that that can be really strong, having a really strong why or really strong end game. I know what my end game is, but that doesn't mean I'm not weak sauce. Crying along the way, right? Due to my feels and whatnot. Due to my feels and whatnot. Positive mindset makes a huge difference in all aspects of life. Learn that through my back surgery recovery. And even though I'm still stumbling, but I'll get there. I mean, Joanna,

my goodness, Joanna has been with us for a while. She was a rock star and lost a good chunk of weight before she even found us. Really crushing the program, even though she had concussion, back issues, major back surgery in the hospital forever, broke her leg while she was in the hospital. I mean, there's a lot and it can, life can just feel like it's one thing after the next, after the next, after the next, right? This is why coming back to back on track, it's good to have a, it's good to have a backup plan. It's good to have a safety net. It's good just because you're, you have a safety net, right? Like that's, there's no shame in, in falling back into old habits and being like, okay, shit, let me get back at it. Right. There's, there's no, there's no shame in that.

There's no shame. It's like you got on a horse using that step ladder, right? And I don't know, you fall off the horse and then like, you're trying to get back on the horse. But you got to use a step ladder, use stepladder, right? I thought that's a really bad analogy. That's a really bad analogy. Oh my goodness. Elaine got the flu. Oh, that's in COVID shot yesterday. Oh my gosh. Yeah. I feel you. I'm fighting something myself. Um, make sure you take, make sure you are not in a rush to get back at it and really take the time that you need to heal. Say something positive for every negative thing you notice, saying, uh, notice yourself saying to yourself, and soon you will

see the change. And that takes work, right? Like that's exactly it. And this is a Dr. Beverly's capture, cancel, correct. Like, so Ashley, if you're looking in the mirror and you're like, oh, I hate the way I, whatever. Whoa. Why am I saying that to myself? You would never say that to your friend. Oh, I hate your legs. Oh, I hate your this. Ooh, ew. Like you would never, you would never say that to your friend. What? And if you, if you, if you catch yourself saying it to yourself, just be like, whoa, what is happening there? Let me just catch that for a second. Cancel it.

No. And correct it, right? Cancel it. No. My legs are, you know, whatever. Yeah, okay. Maybe my legs don't look the way I would ideally want them to look. But here I am.

And my strong legs got me out of bed today. They're going to get my ass to work today. They're going to get me out to dinner with friends today, you know, and then throw a compliment. You're working really hard to make change. And so it's really about that's that neuroplasticity of the brain and not to get too sciencey about it, but your brain is designed to rewire your thoughts. Your thoughts have become a representation of what's been going on in your life, how you were feeling, right? And maybe how you were raised that negative mindset. And sometimes we just keep going with that. You can absolutely change that. Absolutely change that.

I look in the mirror and don't see the changes. But when I look at my first picture, and then update picture, I can see the changes. There is something in your brain that it takes a while for your brain to register the changes that are happening in your body. You might've experienced this. If you've gotten a smaller pair of pants, you pull them out of the dryer and you're like, whose pants are these? Cause you can't believe that these are actually your pants. Um, it's not registering in your brain. There's a word for it. I can't remember it right now, but there's a word for it. It's like the delayed react, like it's a delayed reaction to changes that are happening in your body to register in your brain

and the way that you see yourself. And so that can take a little while. That can take a little while. Back on track for president. When you listen, when you let's say you let's say you you do a program, you crush it, you do another program, you crush it, whatever. Let's just say you're doing great. And then you go away on vacation and you have the best time you indulge, you come back, weight is up 10 pounds, you implement back on track, weights didn't come right back down. And you're just going to be like, wow, that's amazing. That's amazing. I went away, my weight went up. Because you know, flying dehydration, salty, whatever came back, wait, and just to help my body get over the indulgences. And my weights come right back down. Like that's amazing. That's all that it's there for is to kind of help the body recover from any indulgences.

That's it. That's it. Again, not, not like, um, not, um, not, uh, sorry, I'm just sidetracked by this. It's not about, I don't know what I'm saying. Let me go to Colleen. My initial goal was 20 pounds. I'm down 6.8 so far, so adjusting my goal to 10 pounds and signing up for the winter program, trying not to be discouraged. So let's sit with this, right? So you wanted to lose 20. Maybe you didn't understand. A lot of people, when they sign up for the program, it's their first program,

they don't understand the complexities of weight loss, healthy, sustainable weight loss. You just assume you've done other diets. Oh, my God, everyone's saying this diet works. Maybe you initially, you lose 20 pounds off the bat and every other crappy diet that tends to happen. You lose a lot of weight real quickly. And then, you know, you get a plateau, you can't lose past that. And then you gain that weight back plus more. And it's just not sustainable. That is not helping you feel any better. I know, but just want to set the tone with that.

And cause that's like your other option is to go in that direction. And so sometimes people just don't really understand. They don't understand how your, you know, what the state of your body, when you start, right? Like coming off a lot of restrictive diets, low metabolism, whatever that might be. And then there's hormones that can factor in. And I don't just mean like, you know, um, estrogen, progesterone, all of that, those types of, you know, midlife hormones. I'm talking about your insulin and your leptin, your hunger hormones, your cortisol, your stress, all of that. And also, I don't know how old you are, Colleen. So I'm kind of just kind of trying to figure it

out. As you get older, it gets harder for you to lose weight in traditional ways because of things like your hormones being messed up, the state of your body. If you've done a lot of diets before, your body has learned to store that fat. So it takes a lot longer to address your body's needs, address your body's needs, right? So a lot of times also too, you understand like you have to be really consistent in doing the things that you're doing and life can make it difficult. So although you chose this moment to sign up for this program, mentally, you might've been ready for it. Life-wise, you might be getting smacked in the face. And again, I'm just kind of throwing stuff out there and kind of guessing, not knowing anything about you. who prioritizes other people, it makes you make yourself a priority, which is not an easy thing to do. It makes you really go deep and reflect on things like your issues and associations tied into food, because we don't have things like cheat days. And we're not throwing you recipes for carbo nib muffins and low fat this and low carb this and whatever, where you feel like

you're distracted by being able to have your cake and eat it too, for example. So it's like you got to go deep and there's a lot, there's a lot to this. There could be a lot going on. And then we break it down into the four reasons why it's harder for some people to lose, right? So we're talking inflammation from whatever that is causing that, which could be a variety of different things, food sensitivity. So getting really real about that, although we may love our cheese and our bread and whatever, maybe it doesn't work so well with our digestive system, your microbiome, right? Spending any time at all stressing how you were raised, your, you know, how many antibiotics, that type of thing, your microbiome is a real thing. It's the messaging system for your belly to your brain, and how your body decides to do basically

everything. And then of course, those hormones again, right? So, so there's, there's a lot that people don't really understand sometimes when they sign up for the program. And so you're thinking, okay, I'm just going to go, I'm going to have my quick fix, I'm going to lose that weight, and it's going to be easy peasy, I'm done. And this can also really throw people who don't have a lot of weight to lose. And so they think, oh, I only have 10 pounds to lose this person, my friend lost 60 pounds on this program, I should have no problem. And that they think, oh, I only have 10 pounds to lose. This person, my friend lost 60 pounds on this program. I should have no problem. And that's because, you know, we've kind of been taught that.

Well, you only have five pounds, only have 10 pounds. When in my experience, it can be just as hard for someone to lose 10 pounds as it is for somebody else who loses 40, 50 pounds based on a variety of different issues I just listed. Right. And so that can really trip you up thinking, well, I should have lost more. 6.8 pounds lost in a healthy, sustainable way. That's like, I would say double that on any other program. That's like 12 program, 12 pounds, right? Like one to two pounds is really sort of the norm with any diet out there. Obviously people are losing a lot more than that on the Libby method, but one to two pounds a week is still pretty good. So we are in week 10 of the program, you've lost 6.8, if we

round up to seven, or you know, round down to six, that's still pretty great. What this tells me is that your body is willing to let go of the fat. And so then what is going on? So this is where you say, okay, why are there reasons why I believe that my weight hasn't dropped more? What's going on in your life, in your environment? What's going on with your stress levels? What's going on with your sleep? What can you do with movement?

This comes back to the maximizing post. And so this is where I did that invitation on the check-in where I was like, if you want to go through the 20 questions and give us very detailed answers to each question, not are you exercising? Yes. But writing down exactly what you're doing for exercising, right? Like, like, like give us real details. We can really help you assess what's going on and what you can focus on. And maybe is there like something going on? Is there a reason why you can't, you can't figure it out. Here's what I can tell you. Most people just by running through that exercise for us will be like, oh, they can see it. Once they actually go into detail and spend time with that and really start breaking down

and assessing what's happening in their life, they can be like, oh, okay, well, 6.8 pounds is pretty good considering my stress levels are through the roof. I'm hardly sleeping. I'm in menopause. I, you know, I'm like, whatever you like, I don't know what you just finished having cancer treatments. I mean, I've heard it all. But but let's, let's, let's talk about the discouraged. So this is where I would go into what the word discouraged, where is that coming from? Are you discouraged? Is it

simply because of what's happening on the scale? Or is there something else going on? You're discouraged because life is not making it easy for you. You're discouraged because financially you're having a hard time. Like what? It's not just the piece of metal on the scale. And I'll tell you why. Because if you are showing up and doing all of those things, you've got to be feeling pretty good about the change. You would have had to make some changes in order to see that kind of movement on the scale. You got to be feeling pretty good with that. And not to say that discouraged isn't your word, but maybe discouraged isn't like that word isn't specific to what's happening on the scale. So what

else is it? The other thing is, is that you're allowed to have wanted to come in first place, but instead got fourth, right? Like you're allowed, you're allowed. I will. I wanted to come in first. You got fourth. Does that suck? People like fourth is still really good. You're like, fuck off. Fuck off. I wanted to come in first. Yes, fourth, I guess, out of 100 people is good, but I wanted first. And so let's just recognize that there are some uncomfortable feels there when we don't reach the goals that we want to reach, right? You wanted to come in first and you didn't.

Now, is it still worth all your effort? Because what you accomplished being in fourth place is still better than being in last place. And it's got you closer to first place. But the fields are still valid and real. So I would, I would not not try to be discouraged. I would just be discouraged, feel feel discouraged, but also try to understand what is what is that? Like, what's it connected? What am I really discouraged about? Right? What am I really discouraged? But trying not, so trying not to look at yourself when you don't like to look at yourself, trying not to be disappointed or discouraged. Let's stop trying to not do those things and really just like feel those feelings that come, like walk right through that fire of discouragement,

like feel that you're allowed to feel that you're allowed to feel discouraged. Is it going to stop you from doing the things that you need to do? That's the question. If I sometimes we feel if I allow myself to really feel discouraged, maybe that's going to stop me. But sometimes it just, it just actually makes you feel better. Okay. I feel discouraged, but I'm still going to keep showing up. And then as you keep showing up and the little things you're doing stream together, keep you moving forward, right? You're going to make it to the end. You're going to be really happy that you made it to the end.

Now, are you maybe going to be disappointed that you didn't lose all, all the weight you wanted to? Yeah. But will you feel amazing? Cause you made it to the end and you lost the weight that you did lose. Yeah. So we can handle all the feelings at the same time. You can still be showing up every day and feel discouraged, right? You can still be showing up every day and feel like you're

struggling on whatever that might be, right? You can still look at yourself in the mirror and not want to look at yourself in the mirror. So you can juggle all those fields. It's really about breaking down. And again, breaking it down into defining the words, name it like Dr. Beverly says, and don't own your ass, but get to know yourself. You know yourself better than anyone else. What is going on with you? What do you need? How can you better support yourself? These are the questions. Because what I said last night on the live is at this point, if you've made it here to week 10, it's not about the food anymore. It's not about that anymore. You're, you already got that, you know, you can do that. This is showing up and continuing to make the tweaks. This is where you, whether you like it or not, you are growing, you're evolving,

you're changing. You're, you're, you know what I mean? You're peeling yourself like an onion and the things are going to pop up anyway. And these are the things that you are being faced with because you are getting so close to your goal or one step closer to your goal. If you still feel like you're far away, think about your goal for a second, right? And think about what you need and the changes you need to make in order to not just reach your goal, but sustain that kind of life that you want to live. And some people beyond their weight loss goal are piling on a whole bunch of other things. When I lose my weight, I'm going to start dating. When I lose my weight, I'm going to travel the world. When I lose my weight, I'm going to start a business. When I lose my weight, I'm going to

this. When I lose my weight, I'm going to that. So not only do you need to acquire the skills to lose your weight and be able to maintain it successfully, which is working through all these issues and all these fields, is also to achieve all these other things that you piled on top of when I lose my weight, I'm going to, right? So the universe is just throwing at you all the things that you're going to need to work through to get to where you need to go. That's like all the things that I'm being challenged with on a daily basis. If I put it out there that I want this number one weight loss company in the world, there's a lot that goes along with that. Obviously, if I had the number one weight loss

company in the world, I'm going to have a lot of people working for me. So I'm going to need to learn how to manage people. And there's a lot to that I never expected, didn't realize. And I've never been a team player. I've been like, had my own business, been working by myself. And so I'm learning to work with others. It's very difficult for me. I love my team. I love working with them, but it's, it's not something I'm used to. And also, you know, with success comes with a bunch of other issues and other things. And I'm learning to navigate that. I'm learning to navigate that. I'm learning to navigate the person I need to be. I can't be the person who like, like drags myself out of bed, like at 855, like I did

today, right? Because I'm dealing with some shit. I got to like, that's not the lifestyle that's going to get me like, it's okay for today, but that's not the lifestyle that's going to get me drinking a bottle of wine every night to try to get through my day is not the kind of lifestyle that is going to support me running the number one weight loss company in the world. Right? And so these are things that I'm, these are these things that I'm learning now and I'm going through are making me resilient. They're giving me the tools.

They're helping me learn the things I need to learn in order to, when I my goal to be able to sustain and maintain my goal and feel worthy of my goal and not sabotage myself from my goal right like that's it too and so your weight loss journey is no different these are all all your thoughts and feels are so super valid you want to honor them and then get real particular about the words there's a lot of insight I find in the words that you use and so if I find that I keep saying the same word over and over and over, and then sometimes I'll recognize other people are saying this word to me. I'm like, what is it with this? And it tends to be what I'm struggling with. However, I'm feeling it tends to be very represented. Sometimes I notice it right away. Sometimes it just keeps hitting me over the head before I notice the thing that I'm struggling with. Right. And so last night, for example, last night, for example, we were all having a bit of a therapy session. And I was talking about how

I've been feeling kind of down and trying to pinpoint what it is that I'm down about. And it's, you know, there's a I'm on a bit of a low. It's been an exciting last couple of months. And now that all the excitement stuff is over, so I'm a bit down. I have a bit of a cold or flu. I feel run down. So it could be that. I'm also feel hormonal. I'm getting my period again. I can feel that. I also, it was my, um, my kid's dad's, um, mom. So their grandma's 75th birthday was the first time they saw that side of the family since their dad passed. So that was very emotional. And so there's all these things I'm counting up.

And then I suggested that people take a step outside themselves. Or what I like to do is rise above. Rise above and see yourself from where you're at. So if you're struggling right now, step back and take a look at yourself. Or rise above yourself and be like, what's going on with you? Let's see what's going on here. And so what I, as soon as I did that, I said to myself, whoa, what has been happening is that I've had a rough couple of years.

As you guys know, I've shared that if you've been with me for a while. And at the beginning of the program, I felt fantastic. I've been making a lot of physical changes that are making me feel better going for walks and doing that. I'm feeling better. And then I had this couple months of distraction, couple months of exciting things that have just distracted me from my feels. And so now that those things are over, what I'm realizing is the same things that I'm working through, they're still there. They're still there, you know, and that although I've been through a lot in the last couple of years and although that I've worked through a

lot, I still have some more work to do. So it makes sense that those feelings that I have haven't gone away, haven't gone away. I'm still dealing with my kids, dealing with the death of their dad. I'm still trying to adjust to what's going on in business. I'm still trying to, you know, work through my, my feeling of worthiness. I'm still feeling whatever, but it wasn't until I took a step back and was like, okay, what is, what is really going on with me? And it's like, okay, Gina, honey, it's great that you've had an exciting couple of months, but that's been a bit, a bit of distraction. So it makes sense that you're right back in your feels again, right back in your feels again. So what do you need?

What do you need in order to keep moving forward to help you work through? And so I'm sharing this because it's the same. We're all in the same boat in that way that we all need to figure out where we're at, what we need, so we can work through the things that we need to work through that are going to get us to the other side of this, the other side of the feelings, the other side of this program, the other side of your weight loss journey, all of that. My point is at this point in the program, this is where shit gets real. This is where shit gets deep because you can no longer, we've been through all the hard food stuff, right? We've been through the first part of the getting back at the food plan. We've been at the,

through the downsides. We've been through the splitting up the meals and snacks, right? Now we're doing the revamp. Now we're just getting even more in tune to our body's needs. So if you think about it, the distraction of the food plan, and this could be what's going on with the back on track because we have a plan now. The distraction of the food plan is no longer there. Week 10 of the program, you got that. You got that. So guess what's left for you to focus on and work through?

All the other stuff. All the other stuff. Okay, I got to go. Um, thank you for joining me. Remember that if we didn't answer your question, I'm sure there's, uh, quite a few, I did not get to today, pop them over on the question of the day page. The team will, uh, answer them over there. Um, great conversation with Dr. Sean Rice yesterday on skin. If you missed it, um, God, he's, he's one of my favorite people. He's just, I like, he's such a real kind of guy, I'm more great conversations to come. We are not done around here. You may think that we wind things down with two and a half weeks left to go. We do not, we put pedal to the metal. We have more guest segments. We have more tweaks coming down

the pipeline. We have so much more take a minute today and be like, okay, how can I finish strong? You want to finish stronger than the day you started. That is the goal around here. And what does that mean to you? That's for you to figure out. Okay. Have an amazing day, everyone. I'll see you later. Bye.