The Livy Method Podcast - Livy Method Day 72 - Winter 2026

Episode Date: March 17, 2026

In this candid and relatable episode, Gina shows up exactly as she is: under the weather, in her robe, and still committed to the conversation, sharing a mix of real-life moments and practical guidance for those in the thick of The Program. She reassures listeners that feeling unsure in the early weeks is completely normal, especially for those new to the process, while reinforcing the importance of consistency, trusting the method, and staying through to the end to see how it all comes together. She highlights how each tweak builds on the last, encouraging listeners to stay focused on their body’s feedback, lean into mindfulness, and recognize that the real magic happens when everything starts to click.This is a recording of the Day 72, 9 AM live. You can find the full video hosted at: www.facebook.com/groups/livymethodwinter2026.To learn more about The Livy Method, visit livymethod.com. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I'm Gina Livy and welcome to the Livy Method podcast. This is where you'll have access to all of the live streams for my 91 day weight loss program. With a combination of daily lives, guest expert interviews, and member stories, there is something new almost every day. Miss the morning live? Want to re-listen to one of our amazing guest experts? Well, this is the place. This podcast is hosted on ACAST, but it's available on all podcast platforms, including the one you're listening to right now, Spotify, Apple, and Amazon Music. Good morning.

If you're watching me live, you may notice the obvious. I am still in my robe just out of shower. I did the check-in last night. I pre-recorded it knowing that I was not going to get up this morning. I'm not feeling so hot. I got whatever that nasty freaking, I don't know, sickness that people have that I've seen other people suffer with. Let me just put it that way.

But I'm here. I want to show up. This is my happy place. I'm here. I'm not going to stay on long today. But I also didn't want to cancel last minute either. We'll see if I can read the comments with my eyes. Do you know what happened to me? Good Lord. So I've had this thing with my eye where every time I touch my eyeball, it like hurts. And I'm thinking my eyes just irritated from my contacts. I had a conversation with a girlfriend. I'm like, can contacts get stuck up in your eye? You're like, oh yeah, but you'll know it'll hurt like really badly. But mine are. like soft contacts. So like every night I go to bed and I have this like little thing here and it's kind of hurting me whenever I touch it and I think oh I've just scratched my eyeball because I've done that before. This is probably going on for a month and so on Saturday night it was really bothering me. My eye waters is like itchy and so I got up in the middle of the night I'm like is there something in there I try to look and I've just just had this idea that there's definitely something in there

and then I um on Sunday night at Tony's like I'm like how do you get under your eyeball is like get a wet cute cute tips I'm looking I don't see anything and then I'm on live with Odette in the maintenance program yesterday and my eye I feel something like making my eye blurry because I didn't wear my my my eyes were so sorry just wore my glasses and sure enough there's been like a contact like rolled up in my eyeball anyway that's my story today how are you doing how's your week It's March break. So it's quiet around here. Oh, it's also St. Patrick's Day.

Oh, I missed that. Happy St. Patrick's Day. If I had a green robe, I would have worn a green robe. I would have worn a green robe if I would have had one. But I don't. But happy St. Patrick's Day. Did you see that? We posted that video last week that I did with.

Lynn Crawford, where she made this everything green salad and green goddess dressing. I think green goddess dressing was really popular a while back. You got to get you. You got to make this dressing. Honestly, I totally had forgotten all about it until the team reposted that post. One of my favorite all-time dressings ever, super easy to make. But it was really good. That happened to you, eh?

Shirley, like brutal. I didn't even know you get contact stuck in your eyes. eyeball. Had to call out of work today because I'm feeling extremely weak and faint from my period. Yeah. I don't get that anymore. Thank goodness. I thought I would miss that. I thought I would be sad about it. No, it's not fun. Make sure you're also like, too, if you have really heavy periods, one of the things we don't talk about is making sure you're getting enough iron, right? I know we're always like, I know whenever I had mine, I always crape steak, but make sure you're getting enough iron in your diet that can make it feel really tired really low energy as well i am going to be 53 i don't

get my period anymore but i get pimples still i don't know what's going on with me maybe it's probably hormones or something um but i got really too really wonderfully huge you know those hard ones that hurt and it's like such a piss off when you're my age it's like what is happening hi everyone yes green goddess goddess dressing young it was really young it was really young it was really good You got any questions for me today? Otherwise, I can talk about what we have coming up. You saw my check-in. You saw my check-in this morning.

It was a long one, I know. But I really sort of want to, with where we're at, week three of the program, if you're new to the program, first of all, I love that you're here. If you're new to the program and you're still here at this point, that's amazing. You're going to find this, it's always hard when it's the first time doing your program when you don't really know the tweaks and everything are new to you. When you're here at the end and after you see the tweak that we're doing next week, you're going to look back and you're being like, oh, okay. Like, I really get that, the way you see

everything come together. And then at the end, at the end of the program, if you're coming back with us, you'll see kind of like why we're a repeating step. So each program is the same essentially. We mix up the conversations. We change a few things here and there, but the same tweaks because there's a lot of science behind the tweaks. There's a lot of science behind routine, the system, the method that we have here. So each time you redo the program, you have changed, but the program stays the same. all three weeks left. I mean, we're going to be two and a half. But you do really want to follow right to the end. But this week is kind of like the lead up and set up. So last week it was

kind of about switching up the routine a little bit. This week you really want to focus on how that protein and fat is making you feel a little bit more satisfied and really digging in to those four sets of mindful eating questions. Next week is our personal personalizing the plan where you you check in at every meal and snack and assess if you're hungry and need to eat. And if so, what's the best thing to eat. Of course, choosing from the foods that we've been consuming all along. Nothing new added in. Still a lot of guard rails and guidelines there.

Assessing if you're hungry, I need to eat or could eat, maybe you're not really hungry, but you want a little something, something, or should eat because if you go too long without eating, right, then you might chances are going to fall back into old habit. So try to think of that this week. So people are talking about how if their weight isn't dropping the tweak, doesn't work for them. So just want to remind everyone that beyond just what you're eating and when, even if you're just following the basic food plan, you should still expect that scale

to move in a sense. If it's not moving, it could be, yeah, for sure, your choices. It could be your stress, your sleep, the fact that you lost weight, a good chunk of weight last week, your body just needs time to adjust and whatnot. So each tweak is designed to help you. There isn't a tweak that's going to not help you. Each tweak helps you physically and mentally. A lot of people get stuck on. Well, last week, when we were doing this, my weight was dropping. And that's great. It did drop. If you were seeing a drop, chances are at some point you need to plateau. So that's really normal. Started a new HRT. Hi, Kelly. Two weeks ago, now my weight jumped up four pounds. Yeah, that would be very normal. I know that's frustrating. Whenever you're messing with your hormones, whether it's like birth

control or hormone therapy, you'll notice your body react to that. You want your body to react to that. You do because it's something new that you're introducing into your your system and your body will be really reactive. It causes a reaction. Then your body reacts to the reaction and that's where it starts to factor in. So it's going to take a while. It can take like, especially when I've worked with people who are on birth control, even IUDs and whatnot that have stuff in them as opposed to just the blocker. It can mess with your, it can mess with their weight for like about six months. Now, I don't want to. to be like, oh my God, your weight's going to be up for six months. You can still absolutely

focus on fat loss while your body's adjusting, but it can take a while for your body to adjust that. Anyway, let me read what you said here. Really frustrated. My sleep is definitely better, but just as I was starting to feel progress, my weight jumped up, hard to know what I should focus on. So that's, so what you're, like we've had Dr. Jennifer Zalewiczki, hormone therapy is great because, but you're not going to lose weight on it. Like it's not going to help you, it's not going to help you lose weight in that if you just take it, it'll help you lose weight. It helps you lose weight in the sense that now you can get sleep. Right. So when you start to sleep better, your body can actually repair, rebuild, regenerate, rejuvenate. Your body can actually focus on

detox more effectively. When you are getting more sleep, you're not craving as many carbs and sugar. You eat 300 less calories per day, pretty much. Again, it's not about calories, but still. So it's 80% lifestyle and like when it comes to, like when it comes to weight loss and HRT. So the fact that you've been doing the program, for example, is really great. You're already ahead of the game. So this is just a matter of your body factoring in something new into your system. It's the same thing if you get like a vaccination, start taking birth control, anything like that will have your weight up. Now, you also want to look at what else is happening in your life lately.

Sometimes it's like circumstance where you think it's, well, I started hormone therapy, but really it's because you're stressing about something else. You've been staying up maybe a little bit later. you've been indulging in a little bit more alcohol. You know, you've been, it's week 10 of the program. You haven't been as consistent. Do you know what I mean? Like you do want to factor in what else is going on in my life besides the fact that I'm taking this hormone therapy.

And then, yeah, it's frustrating. But in terms of what to do and what to focus on, you just want to be really consistent at helping your body focus on fat loss. So following the tweaks each week, really asking those four sets of mindful eating questions, setting your intentions, end of day, reflections, journaling, moving your body is a big one, right? Managing your stress. Still, HRT can help with sleep, but are you going to, like, are you, what's your sleep environment like? Do you have a really solid sleep routine? Are you getting up consistently each day at 7 a.m?

So this might where you might want to go back to that sleep week series that we did and listen to some of the conversations. But it'll help in the long one. This is just kind of like an initial reaction. And then your body will calm down from that. And then, help in the long run. So it's all about, like whenever people try to lose weight, like I had this friend, even though this is what I did in life, right? Like I help people lose weight. She always just did it on her own. Every fucking week she was doing something new. I don't understand why this isn't working for me. Literally, I'm like, because she had access to a lot of like amazing things, right? She was like in the, like, she's like one of those famous people and she had access to this person,

that person, this thing, that thing. People would send her the next thing. And every week, literally, she tries something for a week, switch it up, switch it up, switch it up, switch it up. And so what's happening is like, especially when you're taking this or taking that or doing this or doing that, it can come in and kind of like add little stress bombs here or there. Now you're doing this. Now you're doing this. Now you're doing this. Now you're doing this. So it's really about taking everything that you're doing under the same umbrella. So and be consistent with it moving forward. So now all you've done, right, which you have already already been doing is added in the HRT with that or MRT, whatever you want to call it. added that in. That's going to blow things up a little bit. It's going to cause your body to react

because it's affecting your hormones. And then it'll calm down again because that's why you then just dig into the routine is really effective. Then it'll calm down and then you'll move forward again. That's all you just want to factor in anything new that you're doing. This could be like if you factor in an exercise that you weren't doing before all of a sudden you started to weight routine that can affect that can have your weight up too because your muscles are sore and inflamed and all of that. So that's like a stress bomb. It's a good one. Same thing with HRT. It's a good one, but it's still a stress bomb, you know. But I hear you. And I can really fuck up how you feel, too. Right. I really did not do the work this time. And that's okay, mostly just surviving and

floating. But I know my results show that, but I'm still proud I'm here. I'm still checking and still being mindful. Yeah, like this is so normal. I would work with a client for a year. And there would be times where they were moving and groove and they can do everything. And other times or it was literally like, hello, what's going on? Survival mode. And people always have the best intentions, of course. You have to be optimistic in anything that you're doing. Like in a relationship, you want to be optimistic in the beginning. It's going to work out, right? A job. You want to be optimistic. That's going to work out. Same thing with this. You do want to be optimistic, but you also want to be real with what's going on in life. You also have to be really real with yourself.

And be like, okay, so this is my, this is my reality right now. I cannot do all the things. right so what can i do to stay in the game for lack of a better word right to not blow up this whole situation i got going to not make things worse well so what can i do to just maintain sometimes it's just about maintaining your weight in certain periods of your life and that's why you know i think sometimes i'm like i always say to my team why did i create this 91 day thing well i created the 91 day thing because it has a lot of benefits in it right there's a start there's a middle and there's an end And if you can follow through on one 91 day live session, you can follow through on your whole weight journey. All you got to do is keep showing up.

And then just like any other diet, you keep doing it until you reach your goal. Right. And this is where also you can see what this chunk of 91 days of your life has been about this season. This is why I run the program. There's so many layers to this. This is why there's a fall program. There's a winter program. There's a spring, summer program.

seasons of your life. What did this season of your life bring to you? It could be a lot of, it could be a lot of learning, right? A lot of struggling, a lot of like whatever, a lot of beauty, joy, whatever, right? And this is where you can see, you have to be able to see what's going on. You have to be able to be self-aware, not just like how your body is responding to foods, but what is happening in your life and what is going on in this season of your life. And that enables you to do that. Every single part of it is important. Every single day counts and absolutely matters. It's just with dieting, we've really disconnected from that. We're like, we're going to a diet, we're going to starve, we're going to lose our weight, and then we're going to be fine with

and then we don't. We're not fine. We keep gaining it back because we're not staying connected to everything else going around us because food plays such a big role in our lives, you know. So it's good for you for still being here. It's amazing. It's incredible. It's incredible. if you're showing up. That's why I said, like, you're showing up this week. Like, I'm betting on you. I'm betting on you. I had a really good sleep last night down to my lowest low this morning after being up for a few days. Right. Right? So that's supporting the body and detox. So your weight being up, if you're doing everything, chances are your weights up because your weight's about to drop. Sometimes we forget about the basics, especially as we start to fear the crunch at the end of the program. We forget you want your weight to be down so badly that you

forget that it's normal for your weight to go up. I see this. I'm doing everything you say. I'm drinking the water, I'm eating the food and my weights up. I'm like, and? And? Yay! Right? We forget about the basics. It's normal for your weight to go out before your weight drops. Your body's usually just retaining water in order to do that. Great night's sleep will really pull all that together. So that's where you want to support that body and detox. The scale starts to move or your weight is up and you know that that that's your pattern. Then you can get on the water and make sure you're getting a good night's sleep and all those things and help the body really focus on that, which is great. Now it might go up again tomorrow, right? So you might see your lowest low today. And then tomorrow you're like,

oh, it's back up. Make sure you stay on top of drinking the water. That's what people, as soon as they see that drop, they kind of pull back a little bit. This is where you want to assume your weight is still dropping for the next like three to five days afterwards. I wish sleep is my bane of my existence. Oh, I hear you, Barbara. Sorry. I'm a little gross today. sleep you want to really make sure that you are doing everything you can to get sleep and this is why like sometimes women don't take HRT because they're like I don't need it whatever but meanwhile they can't sleep and they're sleeping like crap really make sure you're doing everything you can to facilitate your sleep and a lot of times we think at night go to bed early turn off

the TV where blue blocker glasses whatever that is when it has to do really with your morning routine consistently getting up at the same time every day getting light in your face if you're not going outside for a walk or getting that sitting outside with your coffee or your tea. Get one of those sunlamps. I have one. It's a game changer. I flip it on and my whole brain is like, whoo. You know, really get that and use MCT oil in the morning, whatever that is, really focus on that morning routine. You know, and then take time to stress out during the day. Make sure you are journaling that night. And the only reason I say this is because I used to be the same way, oh, my sleep is so crap and there's nothing I can do. and then I actually, you know, I would talk to Atlanta, our sleep experts, and I would, I would know what they're saying, but then actually nothing really changed for me. You know, it's a difference between knowing and doing. I'm not saying that you're not doing, but I wasn't. I was like, yeah, I know this. And by knowing, I think I was doing a lot. I did some things. But when I really was like, okay, enough is enough here. And I put all the things that they said together. I've never had such, like, I left my phone in my office. I left my phone, I'm back to have my phone. I'm back to have my phone.

upstairs and whenever I left my phone in my office out of mine I like shut air down it really helped you know I got a oh gosh so a couple things I was talking with a friend and she was sharing about how her husband there's there's two people I was talking about and this would be good if you work from home or you stay home or whatever one was about doing a commute so I was working with them the new designer of our book and he was sharing with me how before he goes to work and after he goes to work he gets he does a commute now he works from home so he gets on his walking pad and walks to work and walks home from work because walking there gets him in the right frame of mind and walking home helps to decompress so that when his partner comes home the husband comes home he's in the right mindset for this

and this got me thinking because I work from home it has its pros it has its cons I would love to go into an office oh my god I would love it so much but then in some senses I would not be able to wear my robe into the office so But I thought that was really interesting, thinking about how you're starting your day and winding your down your day. Another one, and this might be more relevant if you do go to work and leave the house, a friend of mine was talking about how her husband would, once he hits a certain spot in the driveway, flips a switch in his brain where he's like gone from work to now home. Or if he's working from home, once he walks down the stairs and hits a certain mark on the stairway, he flips a switch. And I said to Tony,

this is so great for us because we're constantly, we work together, we're always talking about work, it would be great just to kind of leave it. And with so many of us, with our phones and whatnot, we're bringing our work home with us, we're bringing our stress home with us, we're bringing so much with us. We're like, we're being stimulated all day, every day and into the evening. And that might not be someplace. Like you may be trying to get to bed sleep and doing all the sleep hygiene things, but you're kind of like still got stuff on your mind. You know, I thought that was a really good tip. And so sort of my office is down in our basement. So I'm going to make a practice of once I hit like the top step, then I'm going to be like in like relax mode, mom mode, you know, family mode,

you know, wife mode, whatever that is. And then Tony and I, if we want to discuss business, we can go down into where we discuss business. So whether you are, you know, working from home or, you know, working out of the house, there are ways you can kind of help manage that stress. It got me thinking of when Atlanta said, schedule time to stress the fuck out. You know, that time could be, you know, pick that time where you are specifically taking that time to stress out rather than stringing along all day. So there's some great tips. Can I have Alyssa's flax loaf at breakfast with some eggs?

Yeah, absolutely. Her flax loaf was, had protein in it. Also, super high fiber. This is not a low carb like diet. It's right carbs at right time. And although this is a lower carb week, it's more because people get back into what they like and what they love, right? Like having oatmeal for breakfast every day, rather than switching it up and going for something a little bit higher

protein. Some people still adding in those rice, potatoes, things like that at dinner time, not because they needed them, but because they, you know, it was part of family routine. And we're really trying to lower your insulin, right? Lower the amounts of insulin your body is using or making, producing all of that on a daily basis. So you absolutely can. You just want to make sure you're focusing primarily on that protein. But fiber is so great, right? Also fiber can be hugely beneficial. I'm not sure. Hi, Ruth, where to submit my questions outside of the live. I'm in my second program, and I find that despite drinking a minimum of eight glasses of water today, which is huge for me, I'm finding with all this high nutrient dense food that I've had difficulty with unfortunate

constipation more ever in my life. I'm moving around, going to the gym every few days. Any suggestions as I wonder if I'm having too much fiber, veg, leafy greens, and lentils. My weight has not changed at all things. So, okay, so where you can ask questions is on any written posts. So the lives, we don't circle back around, usually in answer written responses. So if you want a written response from the team or myself, the post at the top of the page. So the check-in video each day is where you're going to want to ask questions. There's also the app, which is really great. There's an AI section in the app. So if you open up your app. Make sure you're updated your app because it sounds like maybe you haven't.

There is a little icon in the bottom corner like these little like purple dots. Click on that. You can ask any questions. You can ask the same question in the app and it will give you a response. So eight glasses of water per day. The problem with just eight glasses and I understand that that is really big for you. So one of the reasons why you need to drink enough water when you're trying to focus on fat loss is you lose more weight or more fat when you're hydrated. So it's about your body metabolically releasing fat is what it does. And it gets released when you pee, you poo. It's not like fat globules or falling out your nose or anything.

When you pee, you pee, when you breathe and when you sweat. And just by breathing every day, you need at least 500 milliliters of water. Like if you took a small water bottle, just by breathing. Just by breathing, you need that much water. When you're eating foods, your body needs water to process and digest those foods. And not drinking enough water is one of the biggest blockers that people have when it comes to a losing weight. And it's not the vegetables and fiber. It's not like, if you were taking like a salium fiber or something maybe that was kind of like you were taking too much of it, that might be one thing.

Or like chia seeds. Chia seeds can really kind of like bind you up as well and not drinking enough water. It's too much fiber, not enough water. But usually that's by way of fiber supplement, not the kind of fiber that's in vegetables, in fruits and whatnot, right? So although eight is great, although eight is great, it might not be enough for you. Like it's been a very cold winter. People have their heat jacked up really high. So that can be very dehydrating.

If you've been exercising it all, that can be very dehydrating. Eating more often throughout the day, obviously there's an increased need for water. So for some people, that's the work. More so than the food is actually making sure they're getting enough water in. So with the eight glasses a day, although that's more than what you're used to, which is great, you probably need more, to be honest. So two and a half to three and a half liters, that's not just me peeling a number out of thin air. That's like science.

That's at minimum how much your body needs for more optimal health, not just like survival. So you're probably drinking enough for survival mode. And if you measured, what I would suggest that you do first is take those eight glasses of water per day and put them in and measure them. And be like, how much is that? And compared to two and a half, three and a half liters. I don't know how tall you are or how active you are or anything like that. So I'm going to start with that. This could also be, I'm finding with all this high nutrient dense foods, I'm having

difficulty constipation. So the vegetables, leafy greens, that would all help with that, right? That's the kind of fiber that doesn't cause constipation. That's the kind of fiber you need more of. So then what is constipation? It could be like if you are having gluten, you have a gluten sensitivity to that. It could be dairy. You know, bananas can be really great for constipation, but some people, they feel constipated.

So it could be certain foods that you're eating besides the actual vegetables and fruits and leafy greens and whatnot. And lentils could also be needing to add in a probiotic, prebiotic. I don't know what your bowel movements were like previously. And it could take time. You'll notice when you do the program that you'll notice improvements in your bowel movement situation. We do have a bell movement post. I don't know if you've seen that. There's things that you can take that can help.

Like, what is the... Gosh, I'm trying to think of the name of it. It's drops that you put in water. Oh, my goodness, my brain is fried. What can help? I'll just put in here. What can help with constipation? Sometimes you need more fiber, like also adding in, like, lower doses of cillium can help.

Trifalit is the name of it. constipation is super common. There are a few things you can do. Make sure you're getting enough water, eating fiber-rich foods. Going for a walk after meals, that's a good one. That can really help. Some fibres have magnesium. Magnesium is another one if you're not getting enough magnesium in your diet.

So magnesium draws water into your bowels and can help with bowel movement. So taking magnesium, especially the citrate, before a bag can really help or taking the doses in two. that can really help because changes in your diet can be tied to your bowel movements. It's not a bad thing just because you're constipated. And then also, if you have a bad blockage, don't like take something, like take something over the counter or, you know, take something that can help, right, get that moving to start. Probiotics, prebiotics can really help. And if you feel like it's something extreme, definitely check in with your doctor.

But happy to answer any questions that you have. Just pop them really on that check in post each day or any of the written content or videos. Just not the lives. This is one place that we don't circle back around. But we talk a lot about, talk a lot about, I think that my scale needs new batteries. The number dropped by eight pounds in one day. Could be. Could be.

Or it could seem like your weight drops or there was something wrong with your batteries where it wasn't. I had a woman. Listen, I had a, there was a lady that did my program. And for three months, every day complained about her scale not moving, scale not moving, scale not moving, scale not moving, scale not moving, finally chucked the batteries and her scale changed the scale and she was down 15 pounds. Like, I shit you not. She was like, oh my God, you'll never believe it.

And I'm like, probably I will. And her scale was down. She had been struggling the whole time. And her scale ended up being down 15 pounds because she changed the batteries. Definitely make sure you're changing the batteries. It can seem like you have a drop, like a big drop in what seems like one day, right? because, but that's the situation where your weight is down and up at the same time. Good morning. I've been having a really hard time these past few months. Hi, Rhonda. I've gained

weight indulging too much, giving myself too much permission. I'm having a hard. I was just going to say, that's not usually why people gain weight back. Right. I'm just, and I just saw the beginning of this. That was my first, my first response to reading that was, I've been having a really hard time this past months. I've gained weight indulging too much, giving myself too much permission. That is rarely the sole reason, the reason why someone would gain weight back, or the reason why someone would indulge is not because you're, you know, giving yourself permission. I'm having a hard time focusing, and now my mother's in the hospital. So I've been running back and forth to the hospital, bringing food with me, but still times grabbing something quick to eat. I've been eating

after supper, which I haven't done in about two years and my weight is creeping up. I'm really having a hard time. Okay, so let's break this down for you. right? I don't know if it's giving yourself, maybe it's, I guess this is a really interesting difference between permission and compassion and understanding. And only then, if you are compassionate with yourself and understand yourself, you might realize that you are using food to cope. Now, I understand maybe the mother situation. I hope everything turns out okay. The mother situation is new. Was there something deeper going on with you? Like this process can, unravel or uncover so much, you really get to know yourself, what works for you, what doesn't

work for you. Sense of awareness goes beyond just what you're eating and when. It can make you more aware of your situation in life where you're at, where you're not at, who you're with, right? What's happening in your relationship? Who your friends are, the people you surround yourself with. So there could be like a deeper layer there. And, sometimes we don't want to go there and we want to mask that with just distracting ourselves by food. Could also be something on the other side where you've done so well that you weren't so, for lack of a better word, excuse me, desperate to lose weight and you started to feel really good and that was really nice.

And you just want to feel quote unquote normal, meaning you just want to eat foods that everyone else seems to be able to eat and not have to worry about their weight. Like there could be so many elements to this. And so this is where I think you've got to go deeper than permission and maybe look back and be like, okay, when did it start? What happened in my life? Where was I at when I started to fall back? Because what you've probably done is fall back into old habits or started to use food as a coping mechanism or a distraction. Right.

So when did I start doing that and why? Because that is like, I think sometimes we're like, we need to get back at it, follow the routine. And yeah, that works maybe on the first couple days, a couple days and weeks when you're motivated and you feel that kind of energy. life gets you. It's like life life is like, okay, honey, I'm going to give you, you know, you do you mismotivated thing. I'm going to get you. You know, as soon as like the motivation wears off and life smacks you back in the face, right? And this is sort of where that's, this is the work. It's like, okay, what is this all about? And I, you know, I believe this needs to happen. The setback is the setup. The setback is a set up. Sometimes we can't see the forest from the trees. We're talking like,

for whatever, however long, a few programs, a couple years, let's say even you've been at the living method. You're talking to that compared to the rest of your life of how you function, how you dealt, how you coped, how you whatever. And so this is why it's not a straight line to the finish line. This is where you are going to get knocked back in life. And each time, you're going to have more wherewithal, more awareness, more resiliency, more all of that to be like, oh, okay, I see you, I see what's going on. Let me get your life back on track. mentally, but you need to redirect. Sometimes it's something like we can't control, like what happens with your mother, but it sounds like this was happening before and now that is just like piled on top.

And so this is where to get back on track, it's so much more than just following the program again. You can absolutely be hardcore with yourself and make non-negotiables and be like, no matter what is going on with my life, I am going to commit to this eating, making sure I'm eating the meals, whatever it is. Like maybe it's just a breakfast every day. Maybe it's just water. Maybe it's one thing. The problem with that is that we don't give ourselves grace that when something kicks us off again,

we've, you know, it's back to that. We've ruined everything mentality rather than, okay, we just got off to, we got to just get back on it. It depends on what motivates you. But sort of deeper than that, it's like what's going on. There are things like you can set intentions, end of day reflections, checking yourself more often, obviously eating at night. is not helping. So what can you do to change your routine? Call a friend, go for a walk,

have a bath, like have a list of things maybe by your bedside or wherever you choose to eat. If it's on your couch, have a list of like things I can do other than snack at night. Maybe you refer to that list after dinner. So you're already kind of thinking about it, prepping for it. In knowing how you are and what you're doing and the choices you're making, what can I do? It's kind of like if you're trying to do an intervention, help a friend. you know so helping yourself setting yourself up for success giving yourself a fighting chance and it doesn't have to be all or nothing doesn't have to be all or nothing but i think that's the work for you is to realizing to see even if you did nothing you just kept doing what you're doing

to see why you're doing it obviously it's not working for you you know that but it's got to be working for you in a way this is where i would say to clients well maybe carrying excess weight is working for you. And they'd be like, what do you mean? I want this off. I don't want it. I'm like, that's not what I said. Maybe there's a reason why holding onto your fat is working for you. Meaning when you said you'd lose weight, you would start dating again. And maybe you're, you're using your weight as an actual barrier to keep you away distance to people. Maybe you're, right? Maybe it's stopping you, you have anxiety and it's stopping you from doing things. Really, it's your weight. So when you lose your weight, what's your reason to,

to not do this, not do that, right? Your coping mechanism can be how your weight works for you. This cycle of like do well and then sabotage myself works for me. Right? Maybe you were in a relationship where it was very sabotaging. And now you feel like the shoe's going to drop. And so rather than actually hold on to the feeling that you can do this, you like to know that you can do it, but then you sabotage yourself before anyone else sabotages it for you.

There's so many layers of that, right? And then that's the work. That's the work. Not what's wrong with me. What is going on with me? Why is this happening? So, and having a hard time, this could be a very hard time in your life right now. This is a hard season for you.

And so maybe this, what if this season was just not gaining weight rather than the pressure of trying to lose weight, not gaining? What if, let's go deeper than that. what if this season of your life was all about taking time to care for someone else while also trying to find time to care for you? And I'm not talking to lose weight. I'm talking have a bath, call friends, create a system for yourself, indulge in reading a book, indulge in taking time for you, indulging in getting your life back. Or maybe it's deeper. Maybe it's deeper, right? Maybe this season of your life is about figuring out being really solid on what doesn't work for you

and really getting to know you. And maybe you're pushing the boundaries and the limits there. You know, so this is what that's about, trying to figure out what's going on for you. But this is, I'm sorry you're having a hard time. That's a lot to, especially when someone, you're running back forward to the hospital. It's so hard. And then you want, just want some time to yourself at the end of the night. So of course you want to indulge in some wine or some food or something that just gives your mind a rest. You just want you time sometimes, you know. So that's try to be kind and be understanding. Hanging on by a thread this week under the weather right there with you, Heidi, hence my robe and wet hair and whatnot. Happy St. Patrick's Day, you guys.

Are you guys going to drink green beer? You guys going to drink green beer? Today is my my kid's dad's birthday. So we're doing, it was always on St. Patrick's Day. So we are doing, we are doing, my daughter's been making pepper pot, which was one of his favorite foods. And she's kind of taken over the recipe since he passed away. And we were making a cake, probably with some green icing. So that's what we're doing today. That all or nothing mentality is what held me back most of my dieting life. Yeah. Right? This program is still helping me work through years of this program five and I'm still learning. Yeah, that, right? And that's what this is. This is why I changed over our subscription to a membership. I was like, subscription just sounded like, what is that?

It's a membership. And I really love the idea of it. Like, I love the idea of the 91 day programs. You don't have to commit to like, if you don't need to do, you know, 10 programs, you don't have to. And I love the start again nature of the 91 days. You just need to do one, do one. But I love so more of the membership. And I've been thinking a lot more about what's going to keep us coming back every day, helping us to feel more motivated, right? What are the things that we're learning beyond just what to eat and when, really, you know, really like helping people connect. Like, what about if you're trying to lose weight after, while dealing with grief, right? What if you're, because grief never really goes away. It just adds to the weight. What if you're trying to lose weight

through a divorce, right? What if you're trying to lose weight through a breakup of a friendship? What are you trying to lose weight while raising young kids while your kids are leaving the house? Why are you taking care of aging parents, right? We're dealing with health issues. There's lots of ways we can stay connected. But that all or nothing mentality is true, right? It's other, and I can relate to this because I'm either like, this is going to be amazing or this is going to be a complete failure. And Tony's like my middle person.

My entire life, I've had people around me saying, like, well, what about the middle? Because I'm like, I'm a big dreamer. And I'm like, ah, I'll figure that out. And Tony's come along. He's like my middle person. Right? He's always like, why does it have to be a huge success or an absolute failure? Like, it could be somewhere in the middle. But yeah, I guess you're right. It's like actually a really good feeling of knowing that there's a middle.

And, you know, you want to enjoy. There's a start to your life. There's an end to your life. Right? And there's this whole middle part that we actually really want to enjoy. I'm going to go back to bed. What about wording weight loss? Maybe we should change it to fat loss. Yeah, I love thought loss. Right? Because that's really at the end of the day. what it's all about. They can change. This is, I think the, I think the thing is what is resonating with you? What needs, how do you frame this journey in a way that resonates with you? I used to say like a course, a project where you're the project. Some people don't like that. You're not a project. Some people like it. You take people like a project.

an adventure, a journey, self-discovery, you know, I don't know, I'll task you with that. I'll talk you with that. All right. Thanks everyone for, thanks for everyone for coming. I always thought dieting was about food. It's not. Yeah, dieting is in my mind. My thoughts and feels, oh gosh, Kathy, it's so true. Hi, Mom. I love you. My mom just popped up and showed me some love. Have a great day, everyone. Happy St. Patrick's Day. I'm going to be back tonight. night, I think, yeah, depending on how I feel. Keep an eye out for that. I'll let you guys know if I bail on that one, because we'll see how I make it towards the end of day. It might become, my evening live might be happening from my bed if I end up doing it. But I wanted to pop on,

want to say hi. Tomorrow, Dr. Sean Rice is joining me. We're going to talk about skin, all sorts of fun stuff with skincare. Greg from Bathoryam, talk about self-care. That'll be a good conversation. And then we're going to end the week with a special live from Cynthia Lois about finding joy and pleasure, which will be a good one. So have a great rest of your night. Oh, this afternoon, I'm going to be talking to one of our members who's down 81 pounds with our programs if you'll enjoy me for that. Oh, yeah, I've got to go nap so I can have some energy and drink some tea.

Have a great day. Thanks for joining me, everyone. Happy St. Patrick's Day. Bye.