The Livy Method Podcast - Livy Method Day 75 - Fall 2024

Episode Date: November 22, 2024

Gina Livy's Facebook Lives from The Livy Method Fall 2024 Support Group hosted on Facebook. This is a recording of the Day 75, 9 AM live. You can find the full video hosted at:https://www.facebook.com/groups/livymethodfall2024Topics covered:What do you need at this point in the process?Doing the work to reach the Big Goals.Finding grace for who you are today so you can continue to become your best self today.Honouring where you are today is a way to incorporate hope into your day.Doing what you can and trusting that it is enough for now. Using your emerging mind-body connection in all areas of your life.Remember that your body needs time to catch up to the changes you’re making.To learn more about The Livy Method, visit www.ginalivy.com. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I'm Gina Livy and welcome to the Livy Method podcast. This is where you'll have access to all of the live streams from my 91 day weight loss program. With a combination of daily lives, guest expert interviews and member stories, there is something new almost every day. Miss the morning live? Want to re-listen to one of our amazing guest experts? Well, this is the place. This podcast is hosted on Acast, but it's available on all podcast platforms, including the one you're listening to right now, Spotify, Apple,

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25 of your weight loss journey with us. What do you need today? That's the question. What do you need today? What do you need if you've fallen off track? What do you need if you are, have fallen behind? What do you need if you are crushing it? What do you need if you are second guessing? What do you need? Where are you at? What do you need? That is the question that I'm posing to you today. Man, it's so easy to feel the pressure of the end of the program. Sometimes I'm just like, what have I done? Right? Like I created this 91 day program to make it flexible for people. Someone might only need one program, whereas someone else might need 10, 20 programs, just like any other diet, you start a diet and you keep going until you reach your goals.

But sometimes I feel the pressure of the end of the program really gets to people and it gets them thinking they don't have enough time. They haven't done what they wanted to do. And that really deters them. And sometimes I think paralyzes them from being able to move forward or do the things. It's kind of like, you know, how you are, you've given your two weeks notice on a job, but you're still there and you're like, okay, you know what I mean? Like I'm here, but, um, kind of the same thing. I mean, I haven't been in that position where I've given my notice on a job probably for like 30 years, but I remembered that feeling. Um, kind of the same thing. Is it worth even trying? Should I just, the idea of a fresh

start is like, Oh, I have a love of fresh start. Why don't I just say, fuck it. And let me start again in January. Right. I'll feel more confident. Things will be more aligned. You know, I got a lot going on right now. And it's really easy to fall into that. It's really easy to follow it into. In fact, I think that the percentage of people I was, I'm working on some new things for the app, trying to make it more motivating and exciting to use. One of the things I'm doing is helping you collect your own data that gives you a summary of your day. So how well are you drinking? Kind of like, kind of like the like the if you if you use the apple watch and it's got those rings that tell you where you're at on your steps and your standing and your exercise

something similar to that in that there's a visual representation of how all your efforts are adding up each day so you can really see what's going on with your water and your you know your foods and your movement and whatnot but i I was asking the team, like what percentage of people are still tracking their weight? What percentage of people are still tracking this? I think something like 40% of people are tracking their weight. And this is not like, this is not unusual. In fact, our rates are actually how more people are tracking their weight still at this point in the program than any of our other programs. So there's people who are just not using the app anymore, just not tracking their weight anymore. I know there's some of you who got the journal and you

started, you got a few pages, stopped using it, right? You can go back to using the journal. You don't have to go back and fill it all out, right? There's some of you started the supplements and you started taking them and then stopped taking them, right? Maybe you started that, you know, get out there and move your ass routine and then just like, right? And it's so easy to give up on the things because we haven't established a habit. And so part of the 91 days was it takes that long, 12 weeks to establish habits. And if you've been a little hit and takes that long, 12 weeks to establish habits. And if you've been a little hit and miss, obviously it's going to take a little longer. So it's going to probably take longer than what you like, just like anything else in

life. I don't think anything I've ever wanted to accomplish in my lifetime has ever happened on my timeline. Nothing has ever happened on timeline. It's good to have goals. I don't think anything has ever happened on my timeline. So it's good just to have a conversation and be like, okay, what am I doing here? Like, let's, let's take a look. Big picture. I want to lose this weight. Where am I at in that

journey? How am I feeling? Am I feeling demotivated? Am I feeling motivated? Like it's, it's also really important to recognize when you're feeling fantastic, when you're feeling super motivated, hold onto that, catch, catch that feeling, right? You want to reinforce that feels really good. I love how I feel when I do this, when I do that, whenever I'm in a really great place right now, that's just as important as recognizing when you're in a slump and you're not doing the things, right? So what do you need? What do you need today? Where are you at? What do you need to make sure that you just keep moving forward? The Libby Method is so great in the sense that all the things that you're doing to lose weight are all the things that you're doing in life to make sure you're living your

best life, to make sure you're feeling your best, getting the best sleep, helping you manage your stress, moving your body, doing all the things. There's literally no downside to the things that you're doing on the Libby Method, right? But because it's got that diet-ness to it, we feel like, oh, we need a fresh start or it's taking too long. And, you know, taking too long what, right? Taking too long what is the question? Taking too long to, I don't know, get healthy, taking too long to manage my stress, taking too long to get that better night's sleep. What are you giving up on when you choose to just let it go and start again? So what can you do to pull it back together to give you that momentum to not only finish

the next two weeks of the program, but to finish your weight loss journey? How you finish this program is probably going to be representative of how you finish your weight loss journey. How you finish this program is probably going to be representative of how you finish your weight loss journey. If you finish this program is probably going to be representative of if you finish your weight loss journey, right? How we show up in the 91 days is probably how we're going to show up when it comes to reaching our goals in general. The exciting thing is, for those of you who you're just like, this is amazing. Great. You're going to absolutely reach your goal. For those of you who are maybe like, yeah, I don't know. You can change.

You can change little and often, right? The little bits that you're doing that add up. That's how you make change slowly over time. So keep going. Keep going. Good morning. How is it day 75? I know.

Wow. Right? Big scale, big non-scale victory. I bought a long warm vest for walking and a sales lady said the medium was too big. Never did I think a sales lady would ever say that to me. And I got it for half price. What a great feeling making sure I stay strong right until the end. Oh, I love that. I love that. I'm going to Cuba in January. I want to be 20 pounds lighter, but I've hit a plateau. Super frustrating. Well, I want, I want to win a million bucks. I keep playing my lotto ticket, but I haven't won yet. Super frustrating, right? Um,

you really got to watch this. You really got to watch this. You can want to lose 20 pounds. Are you doing the things you need to do to actually reach that goal? Like I'm hoping that you've managed this. You've done some deep, you've, you've done some deep breathing exercises. You're actively playing a role in managing your stress. Your nighttime routine is bang on. You got your, you got your sleep on track. You are moving your body. I'm assuming that you are weightlifting at least three times a week. You're doing some cardio. You got your food so intact. You are asking those four questions. Like you have to be like, I'm all for big goals, but you got to also hold your ass accountable and be like, like, what are you frustrated at? Right? Like what, what are you frustrated at?

My guess, and I'm going to be honest with you is that you are frustrated that you are not actually doing the things that you need to do in order to reach that goal. Or, or you haven't been doing those things. And maybe you're doing a lot of things because I'm all for big goals, but you got to show up, put your big girl panties on, and you got to fucking do the things that you need to do in order to reach those goals at the end of the day. Right? Like I'm not going to have a billion dollar company by not doing the work I need to do. Oh, I'm so frustrated. I, my company is not worth a billion dollars yet. Oh, well, have I earned that? Do I, have I even earned the right to say that? No, no, no, I haven't. I haven't. Right. So, so I'm all for big goals, but make sure you are, before you get super frustrated, make sure you are actually doing the things that

you need to do to earn that goal, right? That's really important. And then your frustration, where's that coming from? Your frustration could be that life is not making it easy for you. Maybe you want to do the things, but you can't do the things because life is really, you know, slapping you in the face. And that's what's frustrating. So I'm big on words. That's the theme this week is really understanding what you need and then really understanding the words that you are using to describe where you are at. So why, if I ask you, why are you super frustrated? Well, I'm super frustrated that the scale isn't moving.

So then I'm expecting that if I say to you, okay, how's your water? Oh, it's bang on every day. Super in tune to that adjusting. How's your, how are you moving on? Getting it's bang on every day. Super in tune to that. Adjusting. How are you moving? Oh, I'm getting out. I'm weight training. I'm lifting weights three times a week. I'm getting out.

I'm getting my steps in every day. Right? How are your meals and snacks? Oh, I'm super consistent. Really drilling into those four mindful eating questions. How's your sleep? Oh, my God. My sleep hygiene is fucking amazing.

I'm getting up early. Sunlight on my face. I'm using my energy bucket. I'm getting up early sunlight on my face. I'm, I'm, I'm using my energy bucket. I am, you know, prepping my new routine. I'm sleeping like a fucking, I'm like, I don't even know baby. I don't know. Babies don't sleep great, but I'm sleeping amazing. Right? Like my, how's your stress? Oh, I've got my stress. I'm like, so I'm so chill. I know exactly what I need. I'm managing my stress, right? Health issues you got going on, right? What do you got going on your health issues, managing those consistent, taking

my supplements, doing all the things. So then you may like, yeah, Gina, I am. And I'm still frustrated. And when I say to you, it's like, okay, so you're doing all the things that you can do. Yeah. 100% to your max ability. Yes. Then keep going. Keep going. Because although you have a number in mind, you're only going to do what you're going to be able to do. You're going to lose what you're going to be able to lose. And that's going to be good enough because you'll have known that you're doing all the things. So if you are doing all the things, what are you frustrated in? Because chances are you're seeing all sorts of non-scale victories. Chances are like you are well on your way, right? Like if you like, right, if you're putting that 20 pound pressure, I'm sure there's a reason for you for putting that 20 pound pressure

on you. Some people are coming in, their bodies are a hot mess, starving, depriving yourself for years, going all day long without eating, gaining weight, losing it, gaining weight, losing it, right? Horrible sleep habits, drinking wine, still eating at night, not really making an effort, still eating salads with a hunk of chicken on it, not making it nutrient rich, right? But we're doing a lot. Sometimes we think that we're doing so much, we should see the results that we want to see. So this goes back to the very first science I already post. Is it science or the second one, the psychology of effort? So psychology of effort is all about, I've been trying to lose weight for so long, for 20 years. I should have already done it by now. I deserve to have lost this weight. Yes,

you do. Right? Yes, absolutely. But how long you've been doing this program for, right? How long have you been consistent in doing the things that you need to do in order to see the kind of results that you want to see, right? You are drinking more water than you ever have, but is that enough water, right? You are moving your body more than you ever have, but is that enough for the results that you want to see, right? So I'm all for like big goals, but you got to be, you got to be doing the work to be able to put that kind of pressure on yourself. And then also, I do want to say the reality of weight loss is one to two pounds a week. So if you want to lose 20 pounds by January, and there are how many weeks until January four, five, seven, seven weeks for January, right? So realistically, one pound a week would be amazing. Two pounds a week would be like

incredible. That's 14 pounds. See what I'm saying? So 20 pounds is more than two pounds a week. You better like be doing all the fucking things like, and day in, day out, there is no, there is no wiggle room for error on this. And though this also comes down to what else you got going on, right? Are you dealing with some of the reasons why your weights might be slower to move? You got inflammation, you got to deal with that. You got a hormone situation, got to deal with that, right? Food sensitivities, you got to cut out that gluten, cut out that dairy. You got to like, right, really take those food sensitivities seriously. You got gut issues, taking probiotics, prebiotics, microbiome, ever taken antibiotics,

you got to get everything fucking in line. Do you know what I'm saying? So this is where with all of that, and the point that I'm saying this is, you might want to go easier on yourself. You might want to say, Okay, Gina, when you put it that way, I should just be really happy with what I've accomplished so far. I honestly may not be doing all the things, but I'm doing the best I can. And if I am doing all the things, then it is what it is at the end of the day. I just got to keep going. And what I don't need is put that pressure on myself and these feelings of super disappointment or super frustration or all of this. Because at the end of the day, I'm losing weight in a healthy, sustainable way. Right? Healthy, sustainable. I also have people who will have not followed the program. They start seeing other people be successful. They come in, they've been at it for like four days and like, they're super frustrated and this isn't working.

Or people are super frustrated and this isn't working. And I click on their name and they're, they've never, it's the first time they've ever asked a question. They're not even asking a question. They're just frustrated. Well, where are you been? What's going on? Right. Come on, let's go. And then you're putting pressure not only on yourself, but you're putting pressure on us. Like, how come this isn't working for me? I don't know. You haven't asked a question. You haven't been participating.

I know nothing about you. You tell me. You tell me what's going on. So this is all about you really knowing what you need and thinking outside of like, so taking, what I love about this is take your feelings, take the words that you are using and be like, what is this about? What, why am I feeling like this? What is this about? What, what is this word again? And I love that you shared this frustrated, right? Like this, the super frustrating, right? Um, what is, what am I frustrated with? And chances are, it probably has nothing to do with your efforts,

probably has nothing to do with the scale. Maybe it has to do with you're frustrated that it's taken 20 years for you to accomplish this because the diet industry screwed you over. You're frustrated because your job doesn't create a lot of time for you to focus on yourself. You're frustrated because constantly putting other people above your own needs and the guilt that comes with that, and it's hard to move past that, right? Like really getting into that because right now, like you're setting yourself up for failure, right? If I don't reach that 20 pounds, I will have failed. So you've

already kind of failed because losing 20 pounds by the time January comes around is probably not going to happen unless you have a significantly large amount of weight to lose and your weight has been dropping. And you know, as you, as things come together, obviously that's where you start to see that payoff. I'm not saying it's impossible, but chances are you're not going to reach that goal. So you have already failed before you even started. Right. I know this is not very motivating, but I want to, I want to, but what happens if you go on your vacation and I'm talking to everybody right now, I'm talking to everybody right now. What if you go on your vacation and you would have lost 10 pounds and you're feeling the best

you have in a really long time, right? And what if you go on vacation, you make choices that when you come back, you, maybe your scales up a little bit from flying dehydration, whenever it comes right back down. And then the next month, you end up reaching your 20 pounds. What if you end up losing 30 pounds by the time the summer rolls around? Right? And so the goal is maybe you can't reach 20 pounds by the time you go away on vacation, but you can absolutely look and feel your best. You can feel better than you do today when you go on that vacation in January, right? Again, it's that whether the pressure is the end of the program two weeks or the pressure is a specific date, my vacation or my who's wedding or whatever that is, it's great to have these goals.

But if you're putting the pressure on yourself to have your body perform in a way that you want, chances are you're going to be let down. And you're setting yourself up for failure at the end of the day. You're setting yourself up for failure. So what is that about? What are those words about? What is their words about? I track every day in the app and my journal is full. I even have extra notes, loving the program and I can't wait for January. Love that. You know, kudos to you, Liz, because that is not an easy thing to do. And chances are, I'm preaching to the choir here,

because those of you who are still here are probably the ones who, you're probably the 40% who are still weighing and still tracking and still using the app, right? Still using the app. You're probably the ones that are doing that. Hi, Megan. Good morning. I'm doing great on all aspects of the program except exercise. Okay.

That's okay. That's good. Sometimes something's got to give. The maximizing post isn't do all the things. It's doing the things that you can do and do them the best to your ability at the end of the day, right? So exercise has not been your thing. What's going on? It's an issue in my head. I know. Okay. But trying to figure out why I don't want to exercise.

Well, I mean, I can come up with 100 reasons why I don't want to exercise today. I'm tired. I'd rather lie in bed. I have a lot of other work to do. I just don't want to. I could go on and on and on. Want, you, I don't think wants your word. I don't think you're not, you might not ever want to exercise. You need to exercise. You get to exercise. Those are two words, right? Want might be your problem, but let me keep reading. I think it's because I taught group X exercise for 25 years. Stopped during COVID. My health, strength, cardio have all gone downhill. Now when I try to exercise, I'm so disappointed in my decline that I walk away discouraged. Any advice or kick in the ass would be appreciated. Oh girl, I feel you on this. This is me. This is me. I was the exercise queen. I was personal trainer. I was very good at it. I was one of those aerobic

demonstrators that when you go to the aerobic conferences, I'm on stage with my thong up my ass, the whole bit, the whole aerobics routine. I used to teach classes where there'd be 150 people in my classes. I was amazing. I was like, yeah, like that was my whole jam. And I was really good at it. I mean, celebrities used to come to my classes. That's how good I was at teaching aerobics. I also, the place I worked at was where the celebrities went. And if the people who were better than me, their classes were full, they'd come to mine. But I was up there with the best of the best. And then I got into working, like I got into television and whatever, and I would still teach classes on the side. And, you know, I had my own studio and I would teach classes. And then even when I met Tony, I was,

you know, still doing classes here and there and whatever. And then a few years ago, God, I don't know how long ago, this is where my vertigo kicked in. I woke up one day and I couldn't sit up straight, walk straight, whatever, went to the doctor. Anyway, they thought I had a brain tumor. And it took a while then to figure out that I didn't have a brain, walk straight, whatever, went to the doctor. Anyway, they thought I had a brain tumor. And it took a while for them to figure out that I didn't have a brain tumor. But the brain tumor freaked me out so much because they suggested I just not do any exercise. Don't do any exercise right now. And so I didn't do any exercise.

Like thinking I had a brain tumor really fucked me up. And I stopped exercising. And I never went back. I didn't go back. And now I feel like the most uncoordinated person. So it doesn't matter why you stopped, right? That was my reason. Now I feel like the most uncoordinated person. I used to be able to wrap my leg up around my head or both of them. No one needs this visual right now, by the way, but I'm going to do it anyway. And yes, I'm showing my feet. My kids will like, my kids will be like, I can't believe you showed your feet. I used to be able to wrap both my legs over my head. Right now I do this. I feel like I'm going to pull a muscle in my back. I can barely touch my toes. I, I feel so inflexible.

I feel not strong. I don't even, I can't even relate to that girl who used to get up and do like 45 minutes on the elliptical, a stair climber, stair master back in the day, we didn't have the elliptical, um, and then jump on a bike for 45 minutes. I used to do two hour long spin classes. And now I feel like I just am uncoordinated. I have no strength. I like, and there's been other reasons, right? And my, I've just been a slow decline. And I, every time, especially with my back, I go to get on my, so today I have to get on. I've been doing my outside walks.

I feel amazing. I'm going to get to this in a second. There's a whole point to all of this. And then I hurt my back. And then I started going for walks. I could barely walk. And you're right. Defeated, depressed, like what's happened to me? I'm broken. I'm getting old. I'm just like, I'm fucking tired. Right. And the thought of all of it, because I should be able to go to just today. I screenshot it. I will show you

the last photo on my phone, the last photo on my phone. I screenshotted, there's this club, it called Function Studio. They have the best classes in Newmarket. This is the, literally, that's the last photo on my phone. And they're Reformer, five classes for 99, group fitness, 599. I would die in one of those group fitness classes. I would not make it five minutes. I know because I know the caliber of classes, but here I am old school. Gina is like, yeah, let me go to one of those classes. I would die. I will not make it through it. I know I won't cardio wise, strength wise. I don't know what I'm doing. I'm not ready for that. Am I thinking of buying some classes? Yes. Am I hopeful that one day I'll be ready? Yes. But there has got to be

a middle ground from where I am now to getting back to where I was. And I can buy the classes, but if I never go, they're not going to help me. And if I don't fill in the middle part, I will never get back to being able to go to one of those classes again. And so what am I doing? I am in the summertime, I was doing some swimming. And then I got some light weights. And I was consistent about the swimming. And I knew I needed to lift heavier weights, I started to lift, I started to get stronger. And then as the weather turned and my pool closed, I started walking. And I just started walking, I didn't put any pressure on myself. I walked once around the block. Now I go twice around the block.

And just last week, I started lifting up. I picked up some weights at home. It wasn't nothing fancy, but I lifted some weights and I could feel my muscles the next day. And so I recognize there's this middle part and I've just got to start doing the small things. And I know if I keep showing up, I'm going to get to where I'm stronger. I have better cardio. I'm going to get to where I'm stronger. I have better cardio.

I'm going to, I started working on my flexibility again, and I'm going to get there. Like me feeling a little bit better and getting a little bit further ahead is way, is like, it makes me feel hopeful. It makes me feel like, okay, I, because think about it. I could totally be doing exercise videos. I could totally, like, I could make a fortune doing exercise videos. I'm very good at it. Right.

But I don't even feel worthy of talking about exercise because I'm so out of shape right now. If you're looking for flexible workouts, Peloton's got you covered. Summer runs or playoff season meditations, whatever your vibe, Peloton has thousands of classes built to push you. We know how life goes. New father, new routines, new locations. What matters is that you have something there to adapt with you, whether you need a challenge or rest. And Peloton has everything you need, whenever you need it. Find your push. Find your power. Peloton. Visit Peloton at onepeloton.ca. I'm not out of shape right now. I'm out of shape when I compare myself to the shape I was in before.

That's the problem. This used to happen a lot when I worked with men, like one-on-one, where I'm like, okay, what are you doing for exercise? I'm going to go back and hit the gym and do my old football routine. What? When was the last time you played football? 30 years. Why the fuck would, what? You can't go back and do your old football. What are you talking about? Your old football routine, dude, go for a walk, but we're the same. We have, we'll hold onto younger versions. When I, when I was fit and I did that and I got to go back to that. No, you don't. No, you don't. You don't have to go back to that. So you need to figure out, you need to figure out, first of all, you might not want to do the exercise. You might not want to do the same exercises you did before. Figure out who you are

now, what's going to fit into your lifestyle and what you might like doing. Right? Like I wanted to get a treadmill because I was going to run. I'm not going to run. Love the idea of running. Tony's like, you're not. No, no, no. He's like, get a walking pad. So I got a walking pad and I'm walking, right? Maybe after I'm consistent in walking and I feel like I really want to run, maybe I'll get there. But that's me. I was just going to go for the big old, I don't know, like, like industrial size treadmill

so I can, I can start training for a marathon. I'm not going to do that. I'm not going to do that. I'm not going to do that. I'm not, I want to. So this is where the difference is. I want to be a mayor. I want to be a marathon runner. I want to be the kind of person that gets up and goes to the gym, does my weight routine five times a week, right? I want to be that person. I want to be able to go to these fitness classes and crush it. I want to be, I want to be, I do in my mind, I want to be, but I'm not going to do that because as much as I want to be like that, I don't like the idea of what I need to do in order to get back to that. Right? So what do I get to do? I get to go for walks. Right. I need to go for walks. I need to go for walks for my physical health, my back, my mental health, my hormones. I need to go for walks.

And so this is where it doesn't have to be all or nothing. And you're not going to just instantly wake up one day and be back where you were. So I could say, let that go. But you know, that's such a cliche thing to say. You know you know, you can do that, right? You can, you can get back to some version of that again, but I just want you to know, I understand this and it's, it's very, it's sad almost because what happened to me, why didn't I keep that up? Do you know, it feels like, oh my God, it's such a big jump from here to get back to there. It's very similar with people who've lost weight before, and then you gained it back and you're like, oh, I was there.

I had that. Why didn't I stick with that? Why didn't I keep that going? Right? Like we are, we're here right now. So this comes back to how I started this conversation today. What do you need right now today? Where are you today? What would make you really happy today? What's one thing that you could do exercise wise that would make you feel good? I guarantee you, if you put your running shoes on right now, even if it's raining and you go outside and you walk around the block, you will have walked. When you come home, you'll be like, ah, I did that. I did that. It'll take the pressure. I did that. I walked for around the block. That felt really good.

Maybe you have some weights at home. And after you walk around the block, you can pick up some five pound weights and just do some bicep curls. That's it. Not a whole routine. That's it. Okay. I did that.

Right. And then the next day, what can I do today? Oh, I don't feel like going for a walk, but I'm going to put my shoes on. See how far I get. The other day I didn't want to go for a walk. And I got to get back into the routine because I was doing it every day and I've been off. And so I was like, you know what I can do? Because I like, I said to Tony, if I feel like, I feel like if I go for a walk, I'm going to get out there and halfway there, I'm not going to want to come home. I'm going to be tired. And then I'm like, wait a minute, Tony can just come pick me up.

If I get halfway there and I walk too far, I don't want to come back. I can just call Tony and he can come get me. Okay. So why don't I do that? Why don't I just go out, see how far I can go and then call him when I need him to come pick me up. Cause maybe I don't I do that? Why don't I just go out, see how far I can go and then call him when I need him to come pick me up because maybe I don't want to come back or maybe I'll get out there and then feel so much better once I'm out there that I'll want to keep going and I'll come back. Right. I think we have these all or nothing attitudes and that's, that's the sense I'm getting from you is you just want to get back to that. You know, you can do that. You should be able to do that. That's what you want to do, but you don't want to do the things that you need to do in order to get

back to that. So let's break it down and simplify it. What can I do now today? That's my advice, right? Any advice or kicking the ass. So you don't need the kick in the ass because you, and this is, I heard this a lot at the national women's show. I need to kick in the ass. No, you don't need to kick in the ass. You already know what you need to do. You already know you can do it. You just have to have permission to start in a way that's not all or nothing. You just need someone to say to you, the little things that you're doing is good enough. What you're doing is going to add up.

You are going to get there. You just need to start. And maybe you're paralyzing yourself from starting because you're expecting too much. You're already setting yourself up for, for to fail because you want to get back to cause to where you were right to where you were before. And so when you're out there walking, be like, I'm so proud of myself for getting out there and walking today. I was brushing my teeth and I did some squats again. And I was like, wow, Gina, this literally just happened this morning.

I am so proud of you being able to do a squat because being so out of shape and with my back, if I was to squat down, I was like, I could barely, like I could barely move. And I was brushing my teeth and I was like doing some squats. And I'm like, wow, I'm so proud of how consistent you have been and how far you've come. Now, have I been hit and miss this last week? Absolutely. But was I really great for the weeks leading up to that? Yes, I was.

And so I don't think just one week of kind of not doing the things means I've ruined everything. And so I started saying nice things back to myself. I'm really proud of you for, um, you know, getting that squat, getting that squat in. And because I did that squat, I'm really proud of myself. I feel like, okay, I'm going to go get on my walking pad today cause it's raining and I'm going to put on a Christmas movie or something. And I'm just going to get on there and walk. I'm not going to run. I'm not going to put pressure on myself to get a certain amount of steps and I'm just going to do it and I don't know if this is helping but this is sort of what and what I'm sort of sharing is what goes through my mind and my mindset and then once you start doing it you

can build on it build on it build on it build up what would you say what would you say to someone starting out right as a fitness instructor what would you say to someone? Hey, just go at your own pace. Modify. Someone come to your class, they're new to exercise. Okay, don't feel like you have to keep up with us. Modify the workout for you. Take lots of breaks if you need them, right? That's what you would say to someone who's new starting a class. You'd be kind to them and you would say, hey, you know, you can do this, you can do that. If you got to leave you when you if you feel like you've maxed out, it's okay. Right? That's all right. Make sure you do some stretching at the end. You know, what would you say? What

would you say to yourself, right? If you were someone new, starting your classes, right? I don't know if that helps, but I certainly do. I feel you on this. I absolutely feel you on this. I feel you. I feel you. I feel you. You don't need a kick in the ass. You need a realistic plan. This is what many of you who feel like you need to kick in the ass. You need a realistic plan. You need to have a real conversation with you. You need to recognize where you are at and put a plan together for what you need and slowly but surely do the things that'll help you get to where you want to go. Right? That's it. That's it. It's not the big things. It's not the big things. Feeling stressed. Hi, Cindy,

about a few things lately, but following this program and doing all the things helps deal with crap so much better. We'll head to the gym after this live. Yeah, that's it, right? Like, so feel the energy. What I love about this program, before I go, is that it puts you in tune with when to eat, what to eat, how much to eat. It puts you in tune to portions. You're paying attention. It makes you focus on yourself, right? When you're hungry, when you're not hungry, all of that. You're keeping your energy directed at yourself. You become very in tune to everything. You're going to know what works for you. You're going to know, eventually you're going to know when to eat, what to eat, how much to eat. It's going to just be second nature. You're going to know when you've had enough, when you've overeaten,

second nature. You're going to know what works for you, what doesn't work for you. You're going to be able to feel the energy that you are bringing forward and the energy of the words and the weight of what you're thinking. And so this is sort of like, how would I feel? You know, it's just like, how would you feel if you ate a Big Mac right now? Let's say a Big Mac, like a big, greasy, dripping Big Mac in your head, you're like, oh, yummy. But no, think about your belly right now. If you're eating a big, heavy Big Mac, right? Or let's think like a greasy donut, like a Boston cream donut. Okay.

In your mind, yummy, right? The chocolate, the filling. Go in your belly after you've eaten it. Like do it right now with me. You can kind of feel your belly's like, ugh, like you already know, right? How about this one? You know that alcohol that you drank that made you throw up? Think about it right now.

How's that? Think about drinking a nice glass of what is it? Peach snaps, tequila, lemon gin, right? Like, think about that out of your head. How's it make you feel? Right? How's that going to make you feel? Right? How's it going to make you feel if you have a nice fresh bowl of fruit? Right? How's it going to make you feel if you have a nice leafy green salad, nice bowl of soup, nice, whatever, you can feel it. It's gonna make me feel good. Right? How would you feel make you feel if you have a nice leafy green salad, nice bowl of soup, nice whatever, you can feel it, it can make me feel good. Right? How would you feel if you lied in bed and watch movies all day? Comforted. That's feels nice. Right? But how would you feel if you went for a walk before you lied in bed all day and watch movies? Oh, wow, I actually feel uplifted.

The idea of that is like, oh, right. But sometimes we go for the idea of it, the motivating feeling, but the thing is so big, we're not going to be able to do it. Right. So the little things, the little things, that's what it's about. Like, how would I feel if I went for a walk right now? How would I feel if I got on my, as much as I don't want to do it, how would I feel if after I'm done this live, I go and get on my walking pad, as creaky as my body feels, pop on a Christmas movie, already making me like smile, right? And just walk at a nice leisurely place. How am I going to feel when I get off? I'm going to feel like I'm a fucking rock star. That's how I'm going to feel. So I think we just don't spend

enough time really like thinking about what we need and feeling what we need. And so you don't need a kick in the ass. A kick in the ass is going to what? Shove you one step forward, but it's not going to be enough to keep you going. Not going to be enough to keep you going. Not going to be enough to keep you going. What do you need? Where are you at? What do you need today? I went to the doctor yesterday and he was really happy with my weight loss and exercise routine. Teresa, I love that. He told me that he is doing a clinical study for weight loss and bookmarked the Gina Livy program. I'm going to have blood work today and go do my Pilates effort. That must feel fucking fantastic. That must feel fantastic to have that validated.

Right? Yeah. Tell him to reach out to the Libby Method. I'd happily do a clinical study with him. That must feel fantastic. That feels great. That feels great. And so that is probably why you are looking forward to doing your workout, right? Because you recognize how it makes you feel. Don't forget all the kick-ass house cleaning we also do as a good workout. It's something you do practically every day on top of the other things like going for a walk and what we can do. Yeah, absolutely. Or the fact that you are motivated to do your house cleaning or feel better while you're doing your house. It's like you don't want a house clean,

but man, how do we feel when our house is clean? We feel amazing. Same thing. So exercise is the same thing. You might not want to exercise, but how do you feel after you've got it done? Right? I, a lot, I say this also knowing, and this is why I spent so much time sharing how I personally connected with that because it's a lot easier said than done. It's a lot easier said than done, right? A lot easier said than done. Non-scale when I feel healthier than I have in my 30s. I'm lifting weights again and feeling so strong. I take supplements with knowledge now and took whatever before and hoped I was getting it right. Yeah, you know you're on the right track. This is a feeling.

This is a feeling, Dave. Now I'm grabbing a donut on the drive up north. Boston cream. That's my favorite. My favorite is Boston cream. Cause I, I'm one of those weird people that eat all the chocolate bits off the top. And then I do all the creamy bits in the middle. And then I save the donut part. I probably don't really eat the donut part. Sour cream glazed, sour cream, glazed tin bits. When those came out, those sour cream glazed sour cream glazed tin bits when those came out those sour cream glazed donuts oh my gosh it's been a minute hi kim whoa all right what you got here i was feeling frustrated about a two pound weight loss in my fifth program yeah i bet you're entitled and i have been maximizing the shit out of this round i take all all the supplements. I drink four to five liters of water a day. Okay. You're only five tall. That's okay. I quit drinking. I weigh, I journal, I

Insta journal, and I have a gratitude journal. Follow the plan. Added the menopause group to learn more. Sleep has improved. I have an inflammation drink I take every morning. Probiotics, prebiotics, added weightlifting, yoga, cardio, 10,000 steps a day, 100 to 200 squats daily. I was out for a walk with a beautiful friend, a Livvy partner as well, and she told me how incredible and fit I look. There you go. My back, my arms, my face. I look in the mirror looking for this stuff, but I still not seeing it. However, her cheer and her kind words made me realize I have had so many non-scale victories and my body is changing. Possibly muscle is my plateau. Your body sometimes just needs, hey,

can you just hold off a minute? I got to adjust to this fabulousness. My skin, my heart, my heart rate, my body temperature, my hormones, I got to adjust. You are either going to lose your weight, weight's going to drop, or your body's going to change. Both of them are a massive win. Both of them are going to be a massive win. Also this past program, I experienced some real shit from work. Stress. Here we go. Character defamation slander. Lost my incredible father in October. So thanks to our walk and her beautiful personality, I feel great and ready to rock the program sex stress. There you go. Right? Stress, stress, stress will get you. Stress will get you, but look how strong and fit you are. And look how that has given you the wherewithal to deal with

everything. Sometimes, you know, weight loss is so much more than what's happening on the scale. And the things that you are doing to achieve the weight loss are so important in all areas of your life. Man, I love that for you. I love that for you. I'm going to end on that note because that's awesome. That's awesome. Do some exercise all or nothing, right? That's exactly, I'm an all or nothing person. Listen, I'm just learning middle ground. That's why I'm saying it's a lot easier said than done. I'm learning the middle ground. I'm either like, this is going to be amazing or this is going to be shit. And Tony's like, there's, there's some middle ground. There's some middle ground. I'm either going to reach all my goals or I'm going to reach none of them. There's some middle ground. I'm either going to, you know, I don't know, run a marathon or I'm going to reach none of them. There's some middle ground. I'm either going to,

you know, I don't know, run a marathon or I'm going to lie in bed all day. Middle ground. There's some middle ground. There's some middle ground. All right, everyone. Happy Friday. I hope that you had a fantastic week. Oh man, I could not be more excited that you've made it this far in the program. Congratulations. Honestly, you're just a, you're a rock star for being here at this point. Super excited about the tweak next week. You're going to love it. Keep in mind when you read the guidelines on Sunday, the only real thing that's changing is you no longer have to eat. If you're not hungry, you no longer have to force yourself those token amounts. If you're not hungry, unless you're going to go longer than, you know, four and a half, five hours without eating gives you a lot more flexibility. You are still following all the guidelines.

You are doing all the things. You are not doing your own thing. You are not adding in any new foods. Keep that in mind when you read those guidelines. Pop into the group. Let us know if you've got any questions. Have a fantastic day. Have a fantastic weekend.

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