The Livy Method Podcast - Livy Method Day 78 - Winter 2025

Episode Date: March 24, 2025

Gina Livy's Facebook Lives from The Livy Method Winter 2025 Support Group hosted on Facebook. This is a recording of the Day 78, 9 AM live. You can find the full video hosted at: https://www.facebook.com/groups/livymethodwinter2025Ever wonder what it really means to Personalize The Plan? In this episode, Gina breaks down how to use personalizing as an opportunity to assess where you're at and why that matters for reaching your goals. She zooms out to the bigger picture—what you’re learning while you're losing—and talks about the very real reasons why some people may gain weight back. This week’s tweak? It's all about checking in with yourself, especially when it comes to navigating cravings, hunger cues, and your changing body. Gina also shares how the Maintenance Program has evolved and what comes next, plus a special segment just for the men in our community. If you’re experiencing slower weight loss, don’t panic—get curious. Rewiring your brain takes time, and that’s exactly what we’re doing here.To learn more about The Livy Method or to sign up for the Spring 2025 Program, visit www.ginalivy.com. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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and start listening today. Here we are, day 78 of the program. How are you doing? Rolling into week 11. Okay, so this is such a great week, personalizing the plan. This is not you doing your own thing. And the reason why I keep saying that is people I think don't trust themselves. They think if left up to themselves, they're going to eat donuts or they're going to whatever they're going to do. Your body doesn't want that. You're probably feeling really great. You probably don't want that.

You probably still want to focus on getting and keeping that scale moving. So show up every day and set those intentions, right? There's a lot of safeguards in place for you. One, there's your intentions. There's your end of day reflections. So when you wake up in the morning, this is what I'm focusing on today. End of day reflecting. There's also your why, your why that motivates you every day. It reminds you of why you are here. Plus, you're not doing anything that you haven't been doing all along. So a couple

of people on the weekend were like, well, can I just do downsizing? Can I just do feeding the metabolism? Can I just do the basic food plan? That's just you doing your own thing and you're missing the context behind and the systematic nature of the program. Downsizing really only works off the heels of eating dissatisfaction, right? And splitting up the meals and snacks really only work off the heels of downsizing as another way to get in, too. And then the revamp last week, it was really about dropping down the number of times

that you are eating, which is a big change when you're used to eating six and people using bonus snacks, like seven, eight times a day. Also, to help you understand that protein and fat hits differently. And so this week, you're checking in at breakfast, at morning snack, at lunch, first afternoon snack, second afternoon snack, and dinner. You're still choosing from the same grocery list that we started with.

When it comes to your lunch and dinner, there's no longer a star of the meal anymore, but you still want your vegetables, your proteins, your leafy greens, your healthy fats, and lunch is still the best time to add in those heavier carbs like your rice is in your quinoa, your grains, your squashes, your potatoes, that type of thing. If and when you feel like you need them, you can still add them in at dinner. If you feel like you need them, like if you're really active and whatnot, still drinking the water, still taking your supplements, still maximizing, which is all those other things, trying to manage your stress and get better sleep. This really just gets you an opportunity to no longer have to force yourself to eat if

you are not hungry. So you're not skipping meals and snacks, you are simply choosing not to have them because in the moment you are not hungry. And so it might look like the basic food plan. Like you might have breakfast and morning snack and lunch and your first snack and your snack and snack and your dinner. And then the next day, maybe you're not hungry for breakfast. So you choose not to have breakfast and you have your morning snack,

then your lunch and then after lunch, you're not hungry for your first snack. So then you have your second snack and then you have dinner. And then maybe the next day you have breakfast and your snack and then come lunch, you're really not all that hungry for it. And so you choose not to have it. And then you have your first afternoon snack, you're not hungry for your second afternoon snack, and then you eat dinner. Or maybe you have breakfast, then your morning snack, then your lunch, your first snack, second afternoon snack, and you're just not hungry for dinner. So you choose not to have it. That is totally normal.

This concept of larger meals, right? You don't need a large meal at breakfast. You're just breaking the fast, right? You're waking up, your body's using the energy it stored from the day before. Having a bigger lunch, like there's no reason for it, and a bigger dinner. There's no reason for it. Like there's literally no reason at all to have these larger meals at certain times a day. We've just created that to be social.

Now, is being social a big part of why we eat and making food a big part of our life? Absolutely. Being social is huge. Love having lunch with friends. Love having dinner with your family. Also like big social times. But that doesn't mean that you need to eat more food at any given time than any other. So this just gives you the flexibility. And bigger picture is, bigger picture is when you're done losing your weight, when you're done maintaining your weight and you're just living your life, you want to trust when your body tells you when to eat, what to eat, and how much to eat. And this is part of that learning. How you are going to be able to lose your weight and move

on and not gain it back is through the things that you are learning while you are losing. That is really important. In fact, Ruth Cain is going to join us tomorrow. She's going to come on. So she's been studying the living method. She to join us tomorrow. She's going to come on. So she's been studying the Libby Method. She's been studying maintenance. She's going to tell us what she's found. And I can tell you already, 98% of people who go through our maintenance program feel confident that they're going to be able to maintain and sustain their weight because they understand they've learned the things they need to learn. They work through the things that they need to work through to be able to do that. On the weekend, and the reason this sort of got me going, because I've seen a couple of people on ads or on our posts,

and it's been like just two, it's literally just a couple, where someone was saying they were struggling with their weight, and someone's like, everyone I know who did that program has gained their weight back. I'm like, first of all, I hate when people talk like that. Everyone I know, all of us, I'm probably talking about one person. People tend to generalize like that, drive me crazy. Let's get specific here. How many? Was it just you or was it you and your friend? And then I'm always like, why? Like if you really did the program and you paid attention,

you would know it's not a magic pill. It's what you are learning. So what happened? Why'd you gain your weight back? Why'd all your friends you know gain your weight back? I'll tell you why. Because you didn't put time into maintenance because people are like, oh, I don't need it. I'm just gonna go back to my life. You gotta put time in maintenance.

That's why we have a maintenance program. Right now it is literally $75 and you get in there. And that structure is gonna change by the way. I saw some of you asking if I get it now, am I in? So we have one maintenance group, and we're coming up with a new maintenance app. We've got a maintenance book coming out. Right now, it's pay one price.

You're in for $75. That is the most fucking insane deal on the fucking planet. That's it. Pay one price, $75. Because we want you to be successful. So they didn't put time into maintenance. The other is situational change. So things happen in their life that cause change and they didn't adapt to the change, right?

So they lost their way to home. Now they go back to work. They're back to all day long without eating. They're not being mindful. They're not paying attention. They're not adjusting. Their stress levels are through the roof. They're not helping their body.

Like your body doesn't want this fat any more than you do. And I wonder what those people's body says about them when they say, yeah, I gained it all back, your program didn't work, your body's like, are you for real? Like, what? We were feeling great. Remember when you were managing our stress, trying to get better sleep, moving your body, making those healthy nutrient choices?

Remember you being mindful in tune, you actually fucking cared how we felt. Yeah, okay. So not adapting to situational change, not being mindful. Like you have to be in tune to your body. You got to stay connected. You got to stay connected. I was talking to friends about this on the weekend and I said, you know, it's kind of like a hoarder. So just bear with me on this. So if you have someone who's a hoarder, I don't know if you watch that show Hoarders, people who like hoard stuff in their houses, and someone came along and just clean their house out.

Right, they're like, I'm gonna help you. I'm just gonna clean your house out. Let's say it's like you did a diet, it was a quick fix, you lost the weight real fast, right? You starved, you pried, you quick fix, lost the weight, took weight loss medications, right? Great, love that you lost the weight. And someone came into your house and you're a hoarder

and they cleaned your house. And then you got to go back into your house. And then maybe, yeah, for a little bit, you're like, you come in, you put your groceries away, whatever you do, you're putting things back where they go. You love your clean house. This is amazing. And then, you know, you have a hard day at work and your way of coping was to maybe to

go buy something and then you go buy something, you bring it in your house and you're depressed because you had a hard day at work so you don't put it away. Right? And then you get on yourself, okay, I got to go do this. And then it snowballs. The next thing you know, you're getting more stuff and you're just dumping it in your house. Right, because that hoarder who had their house cleaned

didn't learn why they were hoarding in the first place. They didn't understand their triggers. They didn't understand, so they have a bad day. It causes them to relapse, to go back into what caused the hoarding in the first place because they didn't understand, so they have a bad day. It causes them to relapse, to go back into what caused the hoarding in the first place, because they didn't learn about themselves. They didn't learn why they were hoarding. They didn't learn their triggers.

They didn't learn their issues and associations. Don't understand their relationship with themselves, their relationship with other people. So the next thing you know, they're just back sitting in their mess again. And it's very similar to weight loss. You lose your weight, you're excited, everyone sees you've lost your weight, and then you just go back, fall back into old habits.

You just stop being mindful, stop doing the work. It's going to take the work to create new habits. That's the thing. That's what this is about. This is why we have all of our guest experts that come on and share their knowledge with you. That's what these tweaks are about.

It's not just eating less, exercising more. It's about learning how you got here, working through the issues and associations and the baggage that you're carrying forward with you. It's learning about new life skills. It's about understanding the life that you want to live. That person who is that hoarder in that house, I'm sure wants to live a wonderful life, they want to have friends over. They want to cook, they want to have a

nice clean house, but is there it is there is their state of mental health, which yes, of course, there's that peace, right? It's their habits or associations, there's there's triggers all of that. I mean, for some of you, that may not be the best analogy, but I'm just thinking clean slate, you've lost your weight. It's you have to continue to work at it. You have to, and that's what you're doing here.

And so that brings me to this week's tweak. If you are nervous about this week's tweak, ask yourself why? Really the only difference is you don't have to force yourself to eat if you're no longer hungry. Those same, the same thing you wanted to do in the beginning when you didn't want to eat. Right? Now, every day, again, might seem very familiar, but it's about really checking in with yourself.

Am I actually hungry here? Do I need to eat? Am I hungry? Oh. I'm not talking about go all day long and not check in and just forget to eat. That's what I'm not, because you're checking in at breakfast. You're gonna open your eyes in the morning,

you're checking at breakfast time. How do I feel? Am I hungry? What if I was to eat something? What if I was to not eat something? How am I feeling? Oh, I just finished eating some quiche. I had a quiche choice.

Like, I could eat. I could eat. So I popped a quiche in this morning and I've just sat down and had a little piece. So could is like, I'm not really hungry. I, like, if I don't eat, I'll probably hungry soon. So I could eat, like I'm gonna, I'm gonna have a small little mouth.

So you're gonna check in at every single meal snack and it says if you're hungry and need to eat, and then depending on the time, what's the best option for you to eat within the guidelines. And then there is the, there is the, I should eat. The should eat is if I don't eat now, like you're going into a meeting, right? Maybe you're going into the meeting in the afternoon and you're like, if I don't eat my lunch, I'm not hungry for lunch.

But if I don't eat my lunch, I know I'm going to be in that meeting for at least four and a half, five hours. So I should, I should probably have a token amount of my lunch, even if I'm not hungry for it, because I don't want to go too long without eating. So that's that should situation. Now three and a half, four hours has kind of been like up into this point. We're extending that a little bit. It's like four, four and a half.

I definitely wouldn't push it like five is just like you don't want to not the end of the world, but you definitely don't want to be pushing it any longer than four or four and a half hours without eating, right? So, so excited for the next round. I've learned so much. I went for a, went for a South vacation a couple of weeks ago and engaged in mindful thinking the whole time I was there, never felt stuffed or deprived, had a glass of wine with supper, but just did not crave on sugary drinks and desserts at all. On the plane ride home, caught a bug, so when I got home, followed the sickness protocol and right now back at it.

So far down 35.6 pounds. This program works. My life and eating habits have changed for the better." And that is it. And this is beyond, I love that you shared that. This is beyond just losing your weight, maintaining your weight. It's getting to the living of your life part. And I want you to be able to enjoy all the yummy bites of bits that come with life.

If you love pasta, there's no reason why you can't add pasta. Pasta and breads and pastas minimizing them help you lose weight. They never caused you to gain weight. It's not like you eat them and you gain weight because of them. Maybe now though you'll have a pasta, maybe add some side salad and maybe have some protein with it. And you'll have to eat a whole giant bowl of it because that's your one time you're going to get your pasta.

Just like if you want to eat pasta, be in tune. Eat enough to feel good. Like that's it, right? People are always like, when am I going gonna go back to how we ate before? Well, how were you eating before? Right, you're not gonna be able to go back to how you were eating before. You're gonna have to still be mindful.

Protein at breakfast is always gonna be beneficial. You just don't need heavier carbs. You wake up, you're full of energy. It just like spikes your insulin from the get. It's not a great way to start your day. Then you just crave carbs and sugar all day. Protein at breakfast is always great. Getting your snacks in.

But you don't necessarily need all of the snacks, right? Once you're just living your life, we want you to be in tune with that. We want you to be surrounded by your favorite foods and not be stressed out. We want you to be able to enjoy dessert if you want to dessert but not feel like you need it after every single meal, right? So that's the end game.

That's the end game. That's the end game. For sure, can I buy the maintenance now? And I would have it for when I actually am on maintenance. A lot of people have done that. You can totally do that. I mean, the maintenance program is kind of weird in a sense that we just started it as a group because I didn't think we needed it.

I was like, I'm teaching you everything you need to know in the weight loss program. And boy was I wrong. Boy was I wrong. So two years, I think, are we coming on three years? Maybe three years. Oh my gosh. I think we're coming on three years of running the maintenance group. And originally it wasn't a structured program.

Originally we suggested that you did another round of the program, which is great, it's all about intention, right? Another round of the program to solidify your weight. And then we had these incredible conversations in maintenance. And then we've had Ruth study maintenance, and she's come up with these like six pillars of maintenance. And so out of that, out of Ruth's research and talking to our members in maintenance

and really understanding the conversation more, we've created a maintenance program. So right now it runs kind of old school. So it runs three times a year in line with the weight loss program. We don't have an app yet for it. We're hoping to get the app ready for the fall. Odette is working on a book.

So we have a book that we're hoping, a maintenance book, that will go along with it. And this is a Facebook base where you pop in, you review all the information. It's all geared towards maintenance, which is really super cool. We've had people who've purchased both, and they're just kind of sitting, waiting.

You can join it and then listen to any conversations you want to listen to. Maintenance is really for people who are done losing. That is the conversation for sure. So you don't want to be over there asking your weight loss questions. You can totally purchase it now, sit on it, use it when you're ready. Or you can join now and then use it when you're ready. If you want to do that, absolutely.

We're going to cover maintenance. We're going to cover maintenance all next week for people who are ready for that conversation. We're going to talk maintenance and for everybody who's not ready to. So you kind of get a sense of what maintenance, the whole process of maintenance. Cause again, it's not losing your weight, being able to maintain and sustain it. And then again, it's not being able to maintain and sustain it. It's moving on to live your life. That's what we're after.

But it is for everybody else still looking to lose. We go right to the very last day, assuming you are still looking to lose. And then we're also going to talk this week about next steps. So next steps for those of you who are coming back. I don't know if you've signed up yet for our spring program. What are you waiting for? Get your ass signed up. Let's go. Some common questions people have like, am I resetting? Yes, you have the opportunity to do it all again. But with everything that you've learned and everything that you've done. So you're starting fresh with this whole body. And then you're going to take yourself through the process again with a whole new fresh perspective. So every time it's an opportunity to dig deeper,

level up even more. Your body does not get used to the program. That's like saying your body gets used to being healthy. It doesn't. There's always more you can do to level up. So we'll talk more about that this week as well. Tomorrow, Dave, I see Dave Stewart. Dave Stewart and Jason Penney are going to join me on my real people journey tomorrow. So definitely tomorrow 4 p.m. join me for that. And Sue Moyer, I've had an opportunity to meet. She is our member spotlight this week. If you want to show her some love, she's just fantastic. Hi, Kathy, my cravings left me on day one. I can't believe that every single day I answer that question in the journal. None from day one. Yeah, I mean, this is because cravings are not your body trying to screw you over. Cravings are your body trying to let you know what it needs. And when you're

dehydrated, your body craves high water content foods, like fruits that are sweet, so we think we want sweet. When we are stressed, we tend to crave salty foods. Because your body associates salty foods with higher fat foods, you give your body what it needs, and it's going to be like, this is great. And this is why I want to talk about hunger levels. Because if you do find, let's say you choose not to have lunch, part of this is mental, oh my God, I didn't have lunch, oh my God, what's going to happen? Am I starving? I'm starved, I'm feeling like, la la la, I'm so hungry.

Or if you choose not to have dinner, and then at 11 o'clock at night, you're like, oh my God, I'm hungry. Of course, your body is going to be like, yo, it's 11 o'clock at night. Are you going to eat? What are you doing? You're going to eat. You're going to stay up. This is where you got to be like, no, I'm going to bed. Right. So it's going to mess with your hunger levels. That's a good thing. It's going to shake things up a little bit. That's a good thing. You are, even if you choose to not have a couple meals and snacks, you are far from starving. Remember your body is meant to let you know where it's at energetically. So your body will be like, hey, based on our energy reserves, our glycogen reserves, you might want to start thinking about eating because your body knows going to take you time to find food, to prepare

the food, to eat the food, and then process and digest the food, which reminds me I got a cool post coming out for you tomorrow. It's called Maximizing Your Food Plan. And it's where you might have heard me talk about before, how certain foods take longer to digest, like fruits take 20 minutes, 30 minutes before you break down, get energy from them. Vegetables, like 90 minutes to, you know, 90 minutes.

Nuts and seeds, 90 minutes to two hours. Fish, 40 minutes to an hour, red meat 5 hours. So, you know, obviously, depending if you eat fruit, right, obviously, you're going to be hungry or sooner, because you're going to, that's going to digest quick. This way, if you combine that fruit with the protein and fat, you get that fruit energy, plus you get that sustaining energy from the protein. But now, you're not taking the whole fruit and just adding more to it, right? So you're gonna be half the fruit and add the nuts and seeds to it. And yes, when we go back and do another round of the

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Hi, my girlfriends. 40th birthday on Saturday night where there was Jamaican and Italian food and a whole lot of yummy desserts. Hi, Stephanie. I went in choosing to enjoy and have a good time with some limits. I took a little bit of all the good foods, jerk chicken, curry, goat, now you're making me hungry meatballs, and a sliver of a few different cakes. I never went back for seconds and I just enjoyed what I had. I made sure I drank lots of water though. It was also a very late night. Next day I emptied it all back out. It ran right through you, I hear you.

And kept drinking lots of water. Today I'm up one pound, but totally fine with that and I'm back on track. No shame but not letting it railroad me. Stay strong and move forward. So this is probably your drinks. I'm going to guess if you had some alcoholic drinks. That can be inflammation.

I had some wine on the weekend. My body's so inflamed, like I can just feel it. Could be the late night, just the lack of sleep, body catching up from that. Could also be your weight up before it drops. Because if you had a great week leading up to that night, and your body's deciding it's going to go into like release some fat, it's going to do that. Even if you did find yourself somewhat intelligent. And you know what is so much like that took a little bit of work, right? Like that took a little bit of work, but probably a whole lot less work than,

Oh my God, what am I going to eat? Should I eat this? Should I not eat this? Oh my God, I'm eating this. Oh, I ate way too much. Oh, I feel disgusting. Now I feel gross. Oh my God, I'm tired. And then you walk away. Oh my God. I'm like, Oh, so gross. And then I wake up the next day. I'm like, why did I do that? I feel horrible. I'm so fat. I'm never going to lose my weight.

I'm just, ugh. That's a lot of work. That's a lot of work, right? All those feels, the weight that you carry from making choices like that, that's a lot of work. Being mindful, I'm like, OK, this looks good. What can I have here? And then I hope that on top of that,

you took time to actually enjoy that food. Whoo, this is delicious. This is yummy. Smell it, chew it, taste it, all of it. That's where we're going. A lot of times we treat ourselves because we think, we think that's a treat and we enjoy it.

But meanwhile, we're really just berating ourselves the whole time that we're eating it. That's where it's where we want to get to. That's where we get to. So, you know, I have maintained my weight for 30 something years. Does it go up? Does it go down? Yeah. During really stressful periods of my time, you guys know, you all heard me talk about this last couple years, my weight went up 20 something pounds, right?

Took me a while to get a handle on it because my stress was way elevated. I just was more stress, more stress, more stress, more stress. So even though I was eating healthy and trying to whatever, this is stress just kept. And then I had to like really dig harder in stress. I had to say no to things. I had to be like start walking a lot more morning, night, got to get out, manage my stress, stop drinking alcohol and because it just messed with my head, added more stress, made me depressed.

Like there's just, you know, and that's where my weight went up, that's where my weight went down. Now, did that mean I wasn't able to maintain my weight? No, that meant life was slapping me in the face every five seconds and I did my best to kind of keep up. And then when things calm down, my weight dropped right back down. And so this is what it is. It's about being mindful.

It's about living your life and stressful. Now is it what I was eating or was it the stress I was under and what was going on in my life? Right? Did the living method not work for me because I gained 20 pounds? I didn't gain 120, so that's good. Right? And this is the same situation.

This is why it's what you are learning about yourself. It's about working through issues and associations like we've talked to Sandralia about when it comes to our food, because we use food for so many things. You're not gonna stop using food to celebrate, right? You're not gonna stop using food to bond over. You're not gonna stop using food for a variety of things.

But if you're using it for coping, is that bond over. You're not going to stop using food for a variety of things. But if you're using it for coping, is that helping you? Is it bringing you peace? Really understanding what you've been through, your weight story, where you are now, where you want to go, the things that you need to work through and do. So that's what this week is about, right? This week is all about, so you're going to personalize a plan for two weeks.

Not only is it effective for losing weight, it's also what you want to do in between the group, in between the gaps between the end of this group and the start of the next. Now, if you just want to no brainer it and work the basic food plan, you can do that too. Although I really think you should give personalizing the plan a try in between groups. Try it for the next two weeks. Try it for the next two weeks. If you're like, if you go and eat donuts, and you're like, oh, this week is causing me to eat donuts,

that is a no. I am not going to let you get away with that. That is you choosing to eat donuts. That is not you following the program and the plan. Right? So that's what this week is about. So what are the feels that are being brought up? What are the thoughts being brought up?

Like how are you? And it's good to test. We also talked to Dr. Beverly David about this last time she was on. And this is an opportunity to test what you've learned and where you're at, right? It's kind of like if you were riding the bike with the training wheels on.

You're riding the bike with the training wheels on and you're like, okay, let's take the training wheels off. And maybe you're a little bit wobbly and maybe you have more practice to do and maybe like you'll feel a little better if you put them back on. But it's good to know how far you've come. I don't know if that makes any sense. The work is forever. Hi, Anna. The work is forever. Hi, Anna. The work is forever.

It gets easier as time goes by, but we should always be aware of what we eat every day and how we feel that day. Yeah, because food is what keeps us alive and we're living in our body and we need to take care of ourselves. It's no one else's job. It's like if you feel a cold or flu coming, you don't do anything about it and then you just let yourself get sick. You don't drink water, you don't take anything, you don't try to get rest, you just like, you just get sick. There's lots that you are in control. Control and moderation, I do not believe in using those two words when it comes to dying,

but there's a lot of control that you have in your life. It took me a year, it took years for me to get to this point. So then why would I think that after losing my weight, I can leave all my learnings behind me? And that's it, it's like learned behavior, right? Up until this point. It's why weight loss is unlearning and relearning and learning new things.

That's why I have a learning strategist who joins us, right? I have to remember how I felt and looked when I started the program. What made me start this journey in the first place and how I feel and look today, which is great. Yeah, time for reflection. There is no way I'm going backwards. Forward looking always.

This is actually my favorite week. I get to be in control and put my learnings in practice, right? And there's a lot to control, to be in control of, right? Choosing, like choosing to do this week. I love this week too. That's one of the things that Ruth will share with us tomorrow is that people who've been able to maintain, they're insisting their weight for like over a couple of years

because those are the people we have access to. I mean, I've helped people in my entire life who I see all the time that maintain for years. And it's they know, they're like when Ruth says, how do you know you're not going to gain the weight back? And they're like, I know how I gained it. I know how I gained it. I'm not I'm not playing that game anymore I'm not doing it. I know exactly what I need to do to be able to maintain and sustain my weight I know exactly what to do if I want to gain it back

So we are going to talk about how not to gain your weight back this week as well We'll talk about how not to gain your weight back this week as well. Who do we have coming on as guests this week? Who is coming on? Who is coming on this week? Dr. Ruth is coming and joining us on Tuesday. Who's joining? Oh, Tanya Jelcimino is joining us. Is that this week on Friday? Is she this Friday? I'll have to check. Tanya is really great. I don't know if you know Tanya Jelcimino. She lost quite a bit of weight with the program, been successful,

huge champion of it, just all around nice person. And she's into fashion. And what I loved about her, even in a larger body, she looked amazing. She always just dressed really great. I was like, wow, she's amazing. And now, of course, she's gone through this transition of losing a considerable amount of weight, and then having to, you know, dress her new body. And there's a lot of great conversation we've had with

her. It's not just buying a new wardrobe, it's now embracing who you are, you've made change. A lot of people when they lose their weight, although they're excited for shopping, they have no idea what they're going to get anymore. They feel weird. They go into the plus size stores still, and yet there's nothing there for them, which is really interesting because this is where you belonged and this is where you felt comfortable

and this is where you shopped and yet now there's nothing for you in those stores anymore. And that can mess with you. And so then now you're going into the new stores, you know, and you're, you know, then you got to figure out like, what is your style? What do you like? What, and the sizes are all messed up anyway, at the end of the day. And it's really about owning and embracing who you are. It's quite interesting. Everyone thinks, oh, I can't wait to buy a new wardrobe. But when you seriously lose weight in a way that actually changes you,

it hits different. It hits different, that's for sure. Is that who it is? Is that who it is confirmed? I don't know what's going on. Oh, this is last week. I got to go into this week. Yes, this is me in real time checking. Oh, I got menopause add-on guess.

I think Tonya. Yeah, Tonya's coming on Friday, so that's gonna be good. Training wheels. That's exactly what I pictured this morning when I saw my Day of Choices rolling out before me. Yeah, if you get freaked out by the tweak this week when really it's just not forcing yourself to eat those token amounts that you didn't even want to eat in the first place. What is that about? And it is so, so, so trust is a big thing that we talk about in maintenance.

People lost the weight. They know they lost it in a healthy way. They get to maintenance. They're like, I don't trust myself. I don't trust that I'm going to be able to do this. And so then what is that about? That's a whole other can of worms. I know I should talk about it in like a,

it's where you want to go. And it's amazing. And I love our conversations in maintenance. It's just there's still work to do just because you lose your weight physically. It doesn't mean there isn't more work to do mentally. And that's one of the things we've learned to with Ruth is that the more programs people have done to lose the weight, the longer it takes and I don't want to say the longer it takes them to lose their weight, but the more program someone has done the easier it is for them to maintain and sustain their weight.

done, the easier it is for them to maintain and sustain their weight. And that is because they spend more time unraveling the layers to themselves, right? More time reinforcing new habits, more time getting to know themselves, more time rewiring and reprogramming how their body is associated physically and mentally, right? That's what we're doing. Kind of rewiring when we're losing and then we reprogram in the maintenance group. It's really cool how it all comes together. There's Crystal, I've maintained my weight for over a year. This is the first time ever in my life

to keep the weight off after losing 80 pounds on the living method, right? And this is it. Like, there is, I always say, I don't know if this means anything to anybody, I always say of all the science out there and all the research that's ever been done on weight, there is zero, zero, zero science that says you can't lose your weight. There are lots of things that make it difficult and hard and there's work that needs to be

done, but there's, your body doesn't want this fat. Every extra pound of fat is hard on your body. It causes health issues. It's not healthy for you. It's just not. Your body doesn't want the fat. It has come to feel like it needs it. So that's what we're addressing here. Why does your body feel like it needs to store this fat?

Well, chances are high stress, lack of sleep, long periods of time without eating, years of yo-yo dieting, starving, depriving, right? Like that's just how our bodies are wired. We know that, which is really great. So how do you rewire your body? You can, it's called neuroplasticity. You can rewire your brain.

You can rewire your body. It's actually very cool. The thing is it just takes so long. But when you do it consistently and show up every day, it's a lot quicker than you think. And so people can't figure this out. You want to know why? Because when people come to lose their weight, But when you do it consistently and show up every day, it's a lot quicker than you think. And so people can't figure this out. You want to know why? Because when people come to lose their weight, they're like bits and pieces.

And then when they use the healthcare system, which you know, it's great, they go to their doctor, and then your doctor's like, okay, let's do this test, let's test this, and then it takes three months, then let's test that, let's take this, let's take that, you know. And then you go to, let's say you go to, maybe you need a psychologist. Once you get on the waiting list, you go to one session, maybe you start talking about something, and then you wait weeks, and then you go to another session, and then maybe you're going to a physio person. Look at all the people that we have here, naturopathic doctor, figure out supplements,

deficiencies. Your doctor doesn't do that, right? So then you go see them and then, you know, it just all fucking takes forever. And so this is like every single day, day in, day out, you are doing all of the things that you can do to be as proactive as possible. And then our experts come in and they give you, you are the expert.

They know where you are and they know what you've been through. They know where you are, and they know what you've been through. They know where you are at, and they know where you want to go. And with the program, they know the kinds of things that you're dealing with. I've done, next program's gonna be my 25th program. And the reason why people say,

wow, it's like you're reading my mind. It's like, it's not that I'm reading my mind, but if you do this, your body responds like that. The tweaks are designed to bring up certain thoughts and feels and emotions. I know with downsizing, if you spend any time at all dieting, or you were raised to clear your plate, or you come from a family where food scarcity was an issue, you got some issues, which probably factor into how you eat now. And so this is where it's all there for you. It's all there for you. It's super cool. But maintaining it, I always love here maintaining for a year. I love that.

And thank you for saying, because I think it's really important. Wait, I'm not a menopause guest, am I? Dave. Because that would be awesome. Can I just say to the men of the program, there are a lot of men in the program. We just, we don't hear from them as often. We know there's a lot of men who are doing the program with their wives, for example. I just want to say thank you for your patience while we do discuss menopause. It's a huge, massive topic. This is why we do have a menopause group where we talk more in depth about it. I literally could do like a menopause weight loss program and I'm sure everyone, 95% would leave this group and go do that.

The Living Method works for everybody. Young, old, male, female, anyone in between. Like I'm just, everybody is welcome here. And if you have a body, if you have a body, the program will work for you. If you are a human and you have a body, the program will work for you. And that's the place that I function from. But I also am working on a men's specific program too, a specific men's app, a specific men's program that I am working on as well. Men do tend to learn a little differently, but I just want to say thank you to all the men out there who join us throughout this entire process and thank you for your patience while we discuss menopause every now and then. Every now

and then. I've lost a total of 2.5 pounds up until now. Oh, that's good. I've changed my lifestyle and eliminated foods that I love, chips, etc. I do feel a little upset that I have not lost at least five pounds, but my body looks better. You're allowed, right? Like obviously there's something going on that sucks. You're allowed to be upset. You're allowed to be like, fuck. I mean, I've had people do the program who don't lose any weight. And do I have mad respect for them when they continue to come back? Yeah, because eventually they do reach any weight. And do I have mad respect for them when they continue to come back? Yeah, because eventually they do reach their goals. And this is just how healthy weight loss is, right?

Sometimes it's your environment, sometimes it's your health, sometimes it's what you got going on in your life, sometimes it is a variety of different things. I love the fact that you're here. So as upset as you are, and I'll let you be that, also take time to be equally proud of the fact that you're still here. It's really important. I do feel a little set that I have not lost at least five pounds, but my body does look better. Is it kind playing tricks on me? Is it my mind playing tricks on me?

No, so as long as your weight is dropping, your body is changing. This is good. Something is happening with you. That's really huge. I really see a change in my clothes. How crazy I do want to lose 20 pounds in total though. I'm subscribed for the next session. Man, this is tough and rewarding. Yeah. So, so you're there's this is healthy weight loss when you notice your body change. So some people's body will take time focusing on change, repairing, rebuilding, regenerating, rejuving other people on the scale. And so you'll have someone who'll lose like 30, 40 pounds

in the first program, and then like maybe lose five pounds in the next. It's not that it didn't work for them, it's that their body needed time to adjust the weight. And in that moment, that time they'll notice their body changed like crazy. Now, so here's what I have to say, this is what I have to say to you, Jenny.

So first of all, I love that you're coming back. So you've heard the guest experts talk about reasons why your weight might be slower to move. So beyond just chips and stuff like that, how does your body feel? You should also notice better energy, sleeping better, pooping better. Yes, your body changing. Are you noticing those things as well? Then I would look at your environment and what is going on? Like what is my stress levels like? What is my sleep? What am I doing for exercise? Do I have a history of starvation diets? Did I get sick at any point in my life, lose a lot of weight and just don't have that muscle mass?

And so this is where you might want to think about doing resistance training and adding that in. Depending on your age, right? You may be going through perimenopause, menopause, postmenopause, what's going on there? What can you do, supplements that you can take? Like really get investigative. I love what you can do is go back at this last program and process and these are the things I did.

This is what I think might be going on. Listen to those conversations and just like sit with it. Like actually take some time, get out a pen and paper and be like, okay, how am I feeling, right? Like what's, have I noticed any change? Like you reinforce that, notice any change. Cause like, is it my mind?

Do I just want to see it? It doesn't matter. I can tell you at this point, if you've shown up and even if you weren't perfect, just did the best you possibly can, you are healthier than when you started. Physically, mentally, you can't be here in week 11 and not have made change. Now, maybe it's not reflected on the scale in the way that you would like. So look for other changes. Are you more calm around food?

Do you have a stronger sense of self? Do you feel like are you sleeping like all of those things and break it down? Then you get really investigated about what you need. What have you done? What have you, what haven't you done? What are some of the things that you think you might need to do? Right? That's where I would get with you. You've laid a really great base and foundation. And so that should be enough time for you. I've never seen anyone not lose a lot, not lose a lot, not lose a lot, not lose a lot, not lose a lot, not lose a lot. Usually they don't lose a lot in their beginning. And then by then 12 weeks, which is the length of the program, it's enough time to actually make change in your body.

So you should definitely be noticed that you're building on that base next time you come around. And also we're here for you. So reach out, reach out, reach out. But that's what you want. You want to get investigative, right? This is my first round. I can't believe how great I feel. And for the first time since starting menopause, I'm finally able to get a great night's sleep. That's exactly it, right? That's exactly it. Um, okay, I gotta go. I gotta go. Thanks for joining me today. I'm just so excited for you and where you're at week 11 of the program. And I just again, I know I talk a lot about it's what you are learning, what you're doing. I just really want you to understand how amazing it is that you're here and how all of your hard work,

regardless of what's going on in the scale, this is, I want you to lose your weight. I want you to be able to move on from it, like, and go live your life. That's the end game. Be calm around food. Enjoy the foods that you love. That's it. And it's the things that you are learning and doing and working through. So that continues to be your thoughts and your feels will give you great insight into the things that you need to focus on and work on. Don't forget to be super clear on the tweet this week. Ask as many questions as you need. I'm going to be back. I'm not going live today at 7 p.m. I'm going to go live tomorrow at 7 p.m. I'm going to switch dates. If you want to join me then, I'm back tomorrow.

Dr. Ruth Cain, and then we have our Tweek, our Real People, Real Journey conversation with Dave and Jason, which is going to be fun. And then go live. Where are we still? We have a lot left to cover. Don't go anywhere. Have an amazing rest of your day, everyone.

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