The Livy Method Podcast - Livy Method Day 86 - Fall 2024

Episode Date: December 3, 2024

Gina Livy's Facebook Lives from The Livy Method Fall 2024 Support Group hosted on Facebook. This is a recording of the Day 86, 9 AM live. You can find the full video hosted at:https://www.facebook.com/groups/livymethodfall2024Topics covered:Taking the time to reflect on your journey so you can normalize that everyone’s journey is different.Maintenance is a whole different process.The best way to bridge the gap is Personalizing The Plan. Cultivating a mindset around goals that works best for you. Remember the basics because they add up!What does it mean to make a plan for yourself?Make the choice for you that honours your capacity over the break between the program.Paying attention to yourself over the course of the program -both physically and emotionally- can affect how you see yourself and others.Shift your mindset to embrace trusting yourself and the tools you’ve developed throughout The Program will help you to make the most of this part of The Process.To learn more about The Livy Method, visit www.ginalivy.com. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I'm Gina Livy and welcome to the Livy Method podcast. This is where you'll have access to all of the live streams from my 91 day weight loss program. With a combination of daily lives, guest expert interviews and member stories, there is something new almost every day. Miss the morning live? Want to re-listen to one of our amazing guest experts? Well, this is the place. This podcast is hosted on Acast, but it's available on all podcast platforms, including the one you're listening to right now, Spotify, Apple,

and Amazon Music. Day 86 of the program. I'm chuckling a little bit. I'm just reading some of the comments in the check-in video today. Some of you just barely showing up. That's okay. You are showing up. That counts. That counts. So many of you recognizing how you got here, reflecting on your journeys. So many of you really proud of the fact that you are still here regardless of what happened or didn't happen on the scale. So many of you crushed your goals. So many of you, I don't think, you know, came close to reaching your goals, but you understand why. And that's what it's really all about. In the conversation yesterday, in the live last evening, we talked about how we really need to normalize the journey not being perfect. And the journey also not being what you thought it was going to

be. And the journey being interrupted by life and all the other things that you have going on in your life. We really need to normalize that everybody's journey is a little different. Some people will do their first program and crush it. Some people will sign up for their first program and not even make it halfway through. Some people will crush the first program and, you know, feel like they're just really struggling through the second program and crush the third program. Someone might, you know, have to try the first program a few times before they crush the next one and the next one. We really need to normalize that for so many reasons, everybody's journey really is individual and profound and profound. I got that off of one of our amazing members who we had join us during one of our Real People, Real Journey conversation. Terry Paisley is going to join me today. She's my guest for this afternoon. She's

been in maintenance for about a year. We're going to talk to her about what maintenance is like. Maintenance is a whole other conversation. It's a whole other, dare I say, can of worms. It's a whole other beast of a program. For a lot of people, losing their weight's the easy part. It's the maintaining and sustaining. Just because you're done losing, even though you've lost in a healthy, sustainable way, doesn't mean you are done with the mental part of things, working through the issues, the associations, the beliefs, the traumas, the triggers, all of that, which brings me to my guest tomorrow. So Sandra Elia is going to be back tomorrow talking about holidays and how to not be triggered. I think we called it health and happiness during the holidays. I think we're

going to call it how to survive the holidays. Honestly, because I don't want to make it seem like it's easy peasy. For some people, they definitely will be challenged over the holidays for sure. And you'll also get to meet one of our new guest experts, Sandy Vamp. They're actually friends, which is really cool. We met both of them at the Canadian Obesity Summit a few years back. So I'm really excited to have a conversation with them. Good morning. Trying to get myself back on track, right? That's it. Just kind of string things together, focus on the water, focus on your breakfast this morning, then your snack, then your lunch, snack by snack, meal by meal, day by day, that's it. The thing, the downside, although it's not a downside, but I'm going to say for lack of

a better word, the downside of doing a program like the Libby Method is that you get to feel what it feels like to feel really good. Like you actually, you're like, wow, I feel fantastic. And once you know what it feels like to feel really good, it's almost like, you know, when you really know when you don't feel good, it's like you are in tune to both. And when you feel even when you're even slightly off, you feel really, really, really off. But the exciting thing is it only takes you are in tune to both. And when you feel even when you're even slightly off, you feel really, really, really off. But the exciting thing is it only takes you a few days of doing back on track to feel like, okay, I'm back at it. Back on it. You guys are talking about hitting up Trader Joe's. So I've got a good story about Trader Joe's. Load up those

questions. We are not done yet. I'm going to get to them. Tony and I were in LA this summer, and I keep hearing about Trader Joe's, how amazing it is. And I really don't really pay attention. I just know this Trader Joe's is amazing. And so there's a Trader Joe's right beside our hotel. And Tony's like, oh, we should go to Trader Joe's. I'm like, yeah, let's go on the last day. So I like figure we're going to spend like three hours at Trader Joe's. We're going to like shop. It at Trader Joe's. We're going to like shop. It's going to be amazing. We're going to find all this cool stuff. And then I walk in and realize it's just a grocery store.

I don't know what I thought it was. I don't, I don't know what I, Trader Joe's. So I walked out with three spice things of everything bagel seasoning. That's what I got. But I was just, I don't know what I thought. I got to, I thought it was going to be like a winner's or a home sense, but like with food and all these other, I'm not saying like I was disappointed. I got my bagel seasoning, but at the same time, I went the same time. I really don't know what I expected. Good morning, Sunny here in Etobicoke. I went for a walk, but I really need to stay in, finish my cleaning. Oh, I hear you. Listen, you know what you can do when you're doing your cleaning is bend down and do some squats. Try to be as active as possible when it comes to doing the cleaning in your house. Make it a whole workout.

Hi, Suzanne Rowling. Good morning. It's lovely and sunny here in Etobicoke. Oh, that's you. I'm reading from two different comment sections. Two different comment sections. Good morning. Good morning. Good morning. Good morning. Taking a quick break while in my morning dog walk to say I love listening to this every morning on this walk. Hi. Down 10 pounds today. That's nice. And finishing strong this week.

I'm ready for the in-between and signed up for January. Okay, yes. Please sign up for January sooner rather than later. The price is going up in January to $99, which is still an amazing deal. However, you can pick it up for 75. Secure your spot, manifest it so you don't have to worry about it, stress about it. Man, I have seen everything over the years. I've seen people sign up tons of their friends and family and then forget to get themselves signed up. It's just going to give you peace of mind to know that you have already done that. You've already done it. You're going to be ready for it, right? Make sure you're super clear on bridging the gap. So the

best way to do that is continue with personalizing the plan. It gives you more flexibility. It's more proactive. Yes, it's doing all of the things, but if I can frame it in a way that you want to feel your best this holiday season and you got to eat, right? You got to stay hydrated. You feel better when you get the best sleep possible. It's really important to your health and wellness that you manage your stress, right? It's really about checking in at every single meal and snack time. And it's really about navigating your way through every holiday, every sort of, you know, social opportunity, holiday, celebratory days, whatever that might be, they're going to keep coming around and around and around and around and around and around and around. It's never going to stop. So this is an

opportunity to experience that. Even if you, even if you, for lack of a better word, fail miserably over the holidays, you will walk away knowing exactly how you don't want to feel and knowing exactly how you got to feeling like that. And that will give you insight. It's good to know what you don't want so you know what you do want. So regardless of how you make out on the other side of the holidays, it's going to be a benefit for you as long as you're open and aware to learning from that, right? Because you want to be able to navigate these holidays stress-free. It is not the holidays. It is not the vacays. It is not the Halloween candy at Halloween. It's not

the chocolate at Valentine's Day. It's not the stuffing on Thanksgiving. That's not it. That's not why your body's feeling you need to store. That's not it. That's not why your body's feeling you need to store fat. Chances are your body's feeling you need to store fat because of years and years of starving and depriving it. High stress, lack of sleep, long periods of time without eating, all the things that reinforce the fact that your body needs to store excess fat, right? So it's not those holidays. You want to learn how to navigate, learn how to navigate those holidays. Oh, I've never been to Trader Joe's and you just burst my bubble. I am sorry. I thought it was like a cracker, cracker barrel, like you described,

right? I don't know what a cracker barrel is. I don't know what I thought it was. I just thought it was going to be all, I don't know, clothes and things. And I got spices though. Hi, Helen. Sickness protocol starts tomorrow after surgery. Okay. Sending you well wishes, healing vibes, all of that. What a way to end this round. Then a new start. Surgery will help me move my body more after I heal, right?

And if I can add the fact that you've been so diligent in really trying to be as healthy as you possibly can, it's going to make a difference in your healing process for sure. Happy 50th birthday to Trudy. Hi, Trudy. Happy birthday. Hello.

I got myself signed up with your generous sale of 65. I think it was actually 60, Trudy. Yes. So the price is going up in January to $99. But, you know, I have a feeling we'll probably still do our early bird sales moving forward so as long as you get in on our early bird sales that price increase shouldn't affect you and be sure to tell your friends and family be sure to everyone likes to save a few but I personally I you know guys I got issues with money I like to save money

oh hi Nicole that's so nice I'm so thankful for everything you've done. I feel blessed to have found this community truly hands down the best community ever. I am 20 pounds down and have one pound to get to this rounds mini goal. Congratulations. That's amazing. That is amazing. I'm going to lean on the basic method until the January program because I didn't finish as I wanted. But the next program I've decided to change my weight goal set it at 40 pounds. Okay, this is a reasonable amount in my eyes. I have my first wedding of my youngest baby in July. Oh, that's so exciting. I have to do this for me. My goal was too daunting and it makes me fall off setting a more attainable goal

may be my key. I know this works. Now it's time to tune in and work a hundred percent. So goals are really there to help motivate you. And I was saying yesterday, I don't think I've ever like reached a goal on the timeline that I wanted. I don't think I've ever accomplished anything on the timeline that I ideally set out for myself. Though, I think goals, if you look at them, they're like a, your goal, there's your goal. And then there's also your why, right? There's, there's the goal and then there's your why. And I think sometimes we put the pressure on ourselves to achieve our goal within a certain period of time. And I don't know that it's about sending a more realistic

goal, if that's what motivates you. And as long as you're okay with coming as close as you possibly can, right? Like you may not have reached your goal in the three months, but you've gotten one step closer to reaching your goal. And I think you have to, you have to do like you've done and be like, okay, what's going to be, what's going to feel more motivating to me? Is it've signed up for a course at school and you got to go to school every day and there is, you know, there's information you have to read, there's homework and things that you need to do. If that motivates you, then maybe a course is a good way to frame it. If it's a journey, you're in a journey on self-discovery and, you know, you're showing up every day, taking it day by day and just kind of seeing what comes and, you know, maybe it's an adventure. I don't know what the

fuck that's going to happen, but I'm here for it. You know, maybe you're the kind of person just shows up on Sunday, reads the guidelines, like, okay, here we go. Right. Like how, how you frame it is really, or, or when it comes to your goal or your why is about making the process more individual to you and making it resonate in a way with you that's more motivating. I love that no matter how you do that. That's amazing. I hope that your young is getting married. That's exciting. Any tips on how to get leafy greens? Lately, I haven't had much luck incorporating them into the meals. I find them blah and not satisfying now that the winter is cold. So I like a good winter salad.

So I had the one the other day. It had like walnuts on it and some butternut squash on there with a little bit of quinoa. So sometimes we think like that the lettuce with the tomato and the cucumber and that's really not. It's kind of cold, refreshing, not really appealing on a like a warm winter day. You can switch over also from lettuce to maybe spinach or kale. I like also making like, I like doing some spinach and then sauteing some mushrooms with garlic and onions on there and putting that on there. So rather than having like a salad salad, you can also incorporate your greens into your meals like like a sauteed spinach with nice and warm,

you know, chop things up, put them in a stew or a soup or whatnot. But I find if I like to put warm things on my salad, it makes it way more appealing for me to enjoy the salad, especially in the winter months. So maybe like do a Google search on winter type salads that might help, um, rather than the traditional, like the cucumber and the carrots and the tomato and the, the, the, you know, the lettuce type of things, which is kind of cold and not really all that appealing. And then of course, cheese, I love cheese, but you can also listen in terms of, um, I don't know that leafy greens are satisfying. I think what you put on a salad makes leafy greens satisfying. Leafy greens are there for roughage. They support the natural detox process. And so really, you know, also, you know, high nutrient

value. So it's just really about taking the leafy greens and munching on them and getting them in at the end of the day. So it could be one of those things where you're feeling bored with your foods or, you know, but satisfied on leafy greens isn't really, I could see how you'd be satisfied in the summer and spring where you're looking for that kind of fresh type of foods, but in the winter it's a little different. Cabbage, cabbage is a green. I saute kale, spinach, bok choy. Bok choy is a good one. Yep. Pretty much any Chinese greens with olive oil and garlic. That's a good one. Cabbage is another good napkin. Cabbage, put it on top of anything, right? Throw spinach and cabbage into soups. There you go. Plop some baby spinach on a plate and nuke for 30 seconds and put

on top of your meal. Those are some great ideas and great tips. We truly do have the best community. Where is Colleen? Colleen, I saw you here on my notes. I wanted to see if I can find you. Close to a hundred pounds. Is that what I read there? I am so close to a hundred. Oh, 10 pound lost. I just, my eyes are a little tired today. I thought I read a hundred pounds. 10 pound is still good. 10 pounds is still good. I'm close to 10 pounds, 1.8 away. Can I do it? Up in the water and listening to my body, no bites of bits. So 1.8 pounds away. You might lose that tomorrow or it might take you another four weeks. Who knows? So a couple of things you don't want to forget about the basics. The little thing that you're doing every day, add up, make a big difference. Being consistent, taking in your supplements,

making a big difference, maximizing, doing all those things, make a big difference. And really at this time of year is managing yours, trying to get that better sleep and managing your stress. Those are two big ones. You might've noticed that stress levels start to start to climb this time of year. So really getting a handle on those things for sure. What you don't want to do is kind of pull away and be like, try to, now is not the time to implement. I saw someone the other day who was like, oh, I didn't, I want to plateau. And what should I do? Should I count calories, do keto? Everything they named, I was like, oh, yeah, that's the opposite. You spend all this time getting your body to trust that you no longer need to store fat. The last thing you want to do is pull back on that and reinforce old diet principles, right? Old diet principles.

I've been known to drop a bit on scale over holidays. Yeah, we've heard that many, many times, likely due to work or school break, less stress. There you go. More daylight for outdoor walks, buckets of tea in a Christmas mug, right? That's a good five. I've talked to so many and this is why I am not concerned about you. One, it's even if you do a number on yourself, it's not enough time to mess up the actual work that you've done. That's the difference with the Libby method. You're not just starving and depriving yourself and going back to eating. You're not just doing keto and put your body in ketosis and going back to eating. You've made real change here, real change, and your body loves it. Your body loves it. And you know, you really have to do a number on yourself to really unravel

everything that you've done over the last, you know, whether it's 90 days or, you know, 21 programs that you've done. But I do understand the fields are valid. So there could be a trust issue where some of you just don't trust yourself. Some of you are nervous about your new weight loss, what people are going to say, how you're going to navigate, you know, just being around food and social situations that can be higher stress. So there can be higher stress. So there can be a lot of feelings involved in this. And this is why, how are you going to look at the holiday season? Is it going to be a challenge? Are you just going to take it day by day? Are you going to build on the momentum? And then you're going to look at specific times where

you know you're going to indulge. Like this is what I mean by making a plan for yourself and having an idea. It's kind of making a plan for yourself. It's kind of like a larger scale version of setting intentions and end of day reflections. Just you're going into it knowing what you want ideally. So you're going to pull in all the things that are going to help support you in that. And that's why continuing things like if you are journaling every day or setting your intentions, end of day reflections, even on Christmas day can be a benefit. Again, this isn't just a diet where you're starving and depriving yourself. It's helping you to lose weight in a way that's healthy for your body, healthy for your mind. And in a way where you are rewiring physically, rewiring mentally, acquiring the skills and working through the things to get

to a place where you're just calm. You're calm. You're calm around food. You're calm during social situations. You're calm during the holidays. And you really just get to enjoy it. And the only thing you think about is what you're bringing to that party or what groceries you need to buy for dinner. And that's it. And that's it, right? Like, so all of this big picture. So the feels are valid. The feels and the thoughts will give you insight into where you are at when it comes to food and how you feel on the holidays. So don't dismiss that, right? Like really be open to that. Like, how are you? Are you feeling nervous? Are you feeling whatever? Like, what are those feels? Give you great insight into your issues tied into food over the holidays.

Food over the holidays, right? Great opportunity to learn. I'm down 12 pounds. I'm very happy. I have three more pounds to go. Should I just keep going as usual and following the plan? I bought the box. Should I just go back from the beginning till I hit my goal?

Thank you for everything. I bought the box. I bought the box. I bought the box. Should I just go back from the beginning till I hit my goal? Thank you for everything. You bought the box. You bought the box. I bought the box. What's the box? What's the box? I don't know what the box is. Um, so I think you should keep going. I think, so I want everyone to be as successful as possible. What I think you should do. Uh, I don't know what your next plan is. You have three more pounds to go until you reach your goal. So I don't know if that's your goal for this program or your goal ultimately. I don't know if you have plans to move over to the maintenance program. So our next weight loss program starts January 6th. Our next maintenance program starts January 6th. So now that you're, once you do reach your goal, you want to spend at least 91 days doing the maintenance program, ideally to

solidify the weight that you've lost. Just because you're done losing doesn't mean that you're done solidifying. And then from there, you move on to just, you know, understanding what maintenance is like, and then just get to a place where you're ready to move on with your life, right? You work through the issues and associations, you're in tune, you can trust your body when to eat, what to eat and how much to eat. So ideally, what I would suggest for you is that you just keep moving forward with personalizing the plan. It's by far the best move forward. Now, if you don't have the capacity, you could go back and follow the basic food plan. The basic food plan, like redoing the program has its merit, its rhyme and its reason

to doing that reset in the beginning, because you're, you're bringing a whole new body into the process physically, mentally, and then you're getting even more in reestablishing that routine. That reestablishing of that basic food plan is really yes to a book, maybe a book. Yeah. Is to, is to really establish that establish that routine that the body loves. But you're going into that new program, your metabolism is higher, you're more in tune, you're really just leveling up the whole process, reestablishing that baseline again, which then will allow you to dig into all the tweaks that you need to make. But when it comes to in between groups, I think that

personalizing the plan is the best way to go. I saw someone the other day who was like, okay, I don't want to sign up for the January program. So I'm just going to pick and choose. I think I'm going to do this week of the program, that week of the program, this week of the program, that week of the program. And I'm going to tell you right now that never works. Literally, I've spent my entire life helping people lose weight. And if there was a better, faster, quicker way, I'd advise it. I highly advise against you just doing your own thing. I've had so many clients say, I'm just going to do my own thing. It never, ever, ever works. Because if you miss the fact there's a rhyme and a reason to every little detail of the program, you can't just mix and match. It's just like you missed it. You missed it. You missed it.

So there's two ways I would do this. And if you just kept working the basic food plan, you know, eventually you're going to lose your weight. It's just the personalizing the plan is a more proactive method, right? You're checking in, you're doing all the things, you're asking the four questions, you're, you know, to me, it's a more proactive method. But if you're not comfortable with that, then I would suggest just working the basic food plan. But also, if you're not comfortable with that, if you're not comfortable with personalizing the plan, I highly, highly, highly, highly suggest for the sake of really losing your weight, truly in a way you can move on, do another round of the program because you don't want to move on

unless you are like super solid in that personalizing the plan. Because the personalizing the plan is essentially living your life. The difference when you move on and you're just ready to wake up, look good, feel good, is that you are naturally personalizing the plan. You are checking in at every single meal and snack time, but it's just second nature. You are asking the four questions, but you're not because it's just second nature. So if you are uncomfortable with personalizing the plan, you got a lot more work to do. And so that's where I would practice, practice, practice, practice, practice, personalizing the plan, personalizing the plan. That's where I would

go with that. Did I even answer your question? Should I just keep going as usual and follow the plan? Yes, I would. What I would suggest to do if you bought the book is to keep like personalize the plan in between groups and then do the January program if you bought the book is to keep like personalize the plan in between groups and then do the January program. That is the best way to do it. Spending some time personalizing the plan in between groups and then doing a complete reset is hands down. And I'm not trying to, listen, I don't care what you do at the end of the day and I'm

not trying to sell anybody. What I am trying to sell you on is losing your weight in a way that you will truly not have to keep dieting for the rest of your life. So that's always where I'm coming from. We have no problem with sales in our program. So, and I'm not a, I never, you never want to pay me enough to work with somebody who's not ready. So that's where my, always where my advice is coming from in my experience. What I think is going to help you really get to a place where you can move on from your weight loss journey. So that's where I would go with that. That's where I would go with that. So, so personalize the plan and then reset in January. That's what I would do.

Nothing ever goes to plan. That's why resiliency is so important. It's so true. The goal I said at the beginning is what I'd like to be, but I knew it was impossible to reach in one round. Should I have made it smaller? Not necessarily. It's, again, it's whatever motivates you. Listen, I want to have the number one weight loss company in the world. Should I instead say I want to have the number one weight loss company in Canada? Ah, fuck that.

No, that is not motivating to me. It should be. It's a great goal. I don't even know if I'm the number one weight loss company in Ontario right now. I would probably guess not. To me, that's not motivating. I know that sounds probably insane. It's to some people. And it's not that I'm not grateful, excuse me, or happy with what I do have. It's just that if I feel it in my soul, I know that I want to have the number one weight loss company in the world. And that is what actually makes me feel lighter. That is what actually makes me feel more motivated. I, I, the thought of playing small does not work for me.

It doesn't work for me. It makes me feel claustrophobic and it's weird. I've always been like this. I remember one time my mom said to me, how can you, how can you have a job where you don't know how much money you're going to make every month? Like there's no job security in that. Like, how can you live like that? And I'm like, I don't know how people can live with just knowing they're going to make every month? Like there's no job security in that. Like, how can you live like that? And I'm like, I don't know how people can live with just knowing they're going to make a set month, set amount every month. So that might bring someone else security and they can plan

around that and that they really love that. To me, I'm just more motivated by going for it. What stresses me out is not going for my goals, right? Oh, that's a great comment. Don't shrink your goals to, what was that? Don't, who said that? Don't shrink your goals. Don't shrink your goals, enhance your belief. Ooh, I love that. I also recognize I might not become, well, even saying that just feels weird, but if let's say for shits and giggles, if I don't become the number one weight loss company in the world, I'm going to get as close as I possibly can to it. Right? Like I might not, maybe I'm not going to be the number one weight loss company in the world, but I'm going to get close or as close as I can get. And to me, that's enough. To me,

that's enough. Right? So it really is about, it just is sometimes it's true. To your point, Helen, sometimes it's because people, maybe they don't believe they can really truly get there. So they, or maybe they're scared that you've been there before. You lost the hundred pounds before you lost the 50 pounds before you lost the 20 pounds before. And then you just got it taken away from you, right? The minute you started eating normally, you gain that weight back, right? Like that's without, and that's just the way those diets were designed.

Um, but it doesn't stop. You do that enough times and you, you get, get, you're like, you're nervous about reaching your goal because you can't stomach gaining it all back again. Right? So there's a lot. There's a lot. It's complicated. It's complicated.

It's complicated. Hi, Kimberly. Good morning, everybody. Best non-scale victory. I had a fantastic news from my doctor who told me that I'm a gold star student because of my blood results, liver enzymes, inflammation markers, cortisol are down, blood sugar in the normal range. She said she was so impressed with my results that are better than some of her patients in her 20s and says it's because of your program.

She's now telling her patients about it. Oh, well, and this, this is why I'm such a stickler for the rhyme and a reason behind it, because it's just so much more than losing weight. It's the systematic method. It's the tweaks. It's the physical approach, the mental approach. It's all of that. It's the fact that you are still here. It's the fact that you've been able to consistently show up and do the things that you've been doing. And at the end of the day, it really truly is all you. It is all you. It is all you.

You did all that work. You did all that work. That's amazing. That's probably one of, you know, that's what I love most. That's what I love most about the program is that when your body is able to show you tangible results. So I love about working hand in hand with your healthcare providers because getting those blood results back, man, that is showing you that no matter what is happening on the scale, your hard work is paying off. Your hard work is

paying off. Feeling really happy and grateful to be here this week. Hi, Leanne, turning 40 on the last day of the program. I hope that you have the best day. I've managed to lose nearly 30 pounds, which when I think about that is insane. So thank you for the community and for the program. I'm going to treat the in-between programs like I did the rest of this program. Just take it day by day. That's a plan. I love that. Congratulations. 30 pounds. That's amazing. That is amazing. Still trying if I should go back to the basic food plan or personalize the plan. Here's what I got to say about that in between groups. You would only go back to the

basic plan because you just don't have capacity. You've got way too much going on in your life. You just can't, you need a break. You need a break, but you still got to maintain. You need a break, but you still got to maintain. Um, and you just feel like you're at capacity, like back on track over the holidays is for just hanging in there. And that is something I don't want to say just right. It really is. I just don't have the capacity. I need a bit of a break from constantly prioritizing and all the checking in and the maximizing all that I just need to maintain. I just need to hold it down for a hot minute over the holidays because I'm going to be here, there, everywhere. I got a lot going on. I just want the calmness of the routine. Personalizing the plan is I want to see this bitch of a scale move

over the holidays. I'm going to get on that scale every day and I'm going to want to see it move. I'm going to want to make sure I'm doing all the things to make sure that that scale is moving and grooving, right? Or I feel really confident and personalize the plan. I feel like it gives me a bit more flexibility in terms of traveling, being here and there, being out and about. I like having more flexibility. It makes it easier for me to stay on plan. So in one way, it's personalized and the plan can be a lot easier over the holidays if you're traveling and busy because of the flexibility of it. Flexibility of those snacks, flexibility of checking in at each meal and snack time. But also, you know, back on track can also be easier if you just feel like everything else is harder in your life and you love the routine. You just like having that fruit snack, veg snack, nut snack, right? You just like consistently eating at, you know, those times that just work best for you. So that's where I would make your decision. If you want to be more proactive when it comes to the scale, personalizing the plan, definitely

a way to go. If you want to have more flexibility when it comes to the food plan over the holidays, personalizing the plan, definitely a way to go. If you want to better set yourself up for a reset in January, personalizing the plan is a better way to go. However, there's wiggle room. I only used to offer personalizing the plan in between groups. It was the only thing I suggested because it's the best thing between groups. It was the only thing I suggested

because it's the best thing to do. It's the best thing to do. Also, you might not feel confident in it, but eventually personalizing the plan is going to be your ticket to finally and forever weight loss to really, um, to really be able to move on from your weight loss journey. So you kind of got to test it out, dabble in it. You know what I mean? See what you got. And yeah, listening to, if you haven't done it yet, we had a great conversation with Dr. Beverly David, Dr. Lincoln, Dr. Dina about next steps, the end of the program. If you haven't listened to it yet, I highly suggest you do. But one of the things we talked about was this is an opportunity to see what you've done. Right. But I never used to give the option of

just doing the basic food plan in between groups until the pandemic. When the pandemic came, I realized although people had a lot of time, they didn't have capacity. So I've come to really understand this concept of capacity. I just cannot put the time and energy into thinking all the things and maximizing and whatever when I got so much other things going on. And so this is where I threw out the idea of just working the basics. And then of course, when you restart in January, the difference is it's your intention. You're all there, right? So that's where I would go with that.

That's where I would go with that. I don't know if that was helpful or not. How would you feel if personalized a plan? How would you feel if you do the basics, right? That's where, go by how you feel. Get in my last visit, she took me off my cholesterol pill. And now she was hearing more about the Gina Libby program in the office. It's such a great program. It is. I think it's like a, how to get healthy one-on-one like take away, take away the, um, you know, the weight loss part of it really is how to get healthy. Yeah, I hear you, Perry. Thanks for sharing about giving yourself a break. I got on the scale and was down 9.9 and I got mad I wasn't at 10. I mean, how ridiculous am I? I love that comment that goals never seem to happen on our time. Right? Yeah, you could be disappointed because you could have really wanted to see

that 10. It would have been really nice to see that 10. Like you've worked really hard. You deserve that 10. So don't, I don't want to dis, you know, dis, dis, disinvaluate. Is that not, that's not even a word. Disinvaluate. It is now. I didn't want to disinvaluate. I think that's opposites. It's disinvaluate. I don't think that works together. Anyways, you know what I mean. You know what I mean. But I know, right? Right? So our minds, you know, our minds are wired to what we know and what we believe.

And so those thoughts are just so much stronger and they have a tighter grip on our thoughts, right? They have a tighter grip. So they're just in there more solid. And so this is where we have to keep, you know, being proud of yourself. And whenever you have a negative thought, throw a positive, for lack of a better word, thought on it. And that's how you kind of rewire that.

I know sometimes the way we see things, right? Is anyone else feeling hypocritical about your body? When I was fat, I was just fat, but now I'm losing and I noticed the pouch on my inner arms, flabby arms and gut. I think you're bringing awareness. So I don't know that hypocritical. It could just be that now you are bringing awareness, whereas before you're like, I don't see it.

I'm just pretending it's fine. I'm ignoring it. It is what it is. You also could have been at a place where maybe you were like, it is what it is. And you know, which is not a bad place to be. And then now you have that hope, or you have that sense, or you know, you can actually lose this weight. And so maybe now you're not at that same mental place where you're like, okay, it is what it is because you know it can change. I also think sometimes we feel like we're more judgy in two ways, judgy for ourselves and judgy for other people, both of which I would say

at this point in the program is awareness. There is something to be said, you are now observing, you are now aware, you are also in the pursuit of change. So you are noticing change, right? And so you might notice that you see things on in someone's grocery cart, the cookies or the whatever and feel judgment, you might see what someone else is eating on their plate and they're like, Oh my god, that's too much. But really what you are doing is you're internalizing. If you ate those cookies in the cart, how would you feel? Oh, if you ate that plate of food, ooh, too much. And so what's happening is that it's becoming second nature. And so what you think sometimes is you picking up on judging other people and what they're eating and what they're doing is really

an instant you're seeing it, your body's like, if you ate that, you'd feel like this. Oh, if you ate those cookies, you'd feel like that. Right? So you're actually pulling in awareness and it's becoming second nature. Asking those four questions is so much more than just getting in tune to your portions, getting in tune with everything across the board, right? So I think it could just be that there's no, there's a sense of awareness there, and you are noticing. And then also your perception of what was before versus what you are, where you are at now, right? And you're much more self aware and perceptive, and you're paying attention. And so you're noticing, right? So what can you do about this? This is where I want to go

is, you know, I embrace, I love that my body is changing because I am making change. And that is proof that my hard work is paying off. Right? I may not love the look of my arms, but my arms enable me to carry my children and carry my groceries and, you know, you know, help me lift those five pounds in my workouts. Like if you can find some qualities, it's going to retrain your brain so that when you do start looking at your body, you actually say nice things to yourself rather than say things that are, you know, again, more negative. They're only positive or negative because of the way we interpret. That's why I'm always very mindful when I use that word, positive or negative, because it's really, it's just a matter of how you're internalizing and

interpreting it at the end of the day. You guys are talking about all your leafy greens still. Trying to scroll down. Lots of comments today. I had a small amount of pasta the other day. My gut was not happy. Okay. Yeah. Great. I love that you did that. I love that you had the pasta. You recognize, oh, maybe that doesn't work so well for me. Now, you know, next time you want the pasta, your body's going to be like, yeah, that doesn't really, that doesn't really invalidate. That's the word. Thank you, Amanda. Now that this is it, this is the same thing. This is the same thing, right? Now that you know, oh, I don't, I don't feel good when I eat that. Now you might eat it a few more times and you might choose to eat it even knowing that it's not going to make you feel good. But this is where

you'll make that new connection that, oh, okay, that doesn't make me feel. So pay attention to the foods that, especially the foods that you are like, you are fantasizing about, oh, I can't wait to eat this or eat that during the holiday season. And you might be like, oh, I, they're not actually as great as I thought that they were, or, oh, they don't make me feel as good as I thought. Right. Hard to say nice things to my thighs. Your thighs carry you. They get you out of bed every day. They get you to work. You know what I mean? They enable you to bend, move, all of that. You can just pay attention to the fact that they are changing, right? Strong thighs, sexy thighs. Sexy thighs are not about the size of your thighs. You know what I'm saying?

You know what I'm saying? I'm nervous about personalizing plan as this has always led me to a plateau, inevitably sabotage. Okay. Let me just stay right there. Personalizing the plan has not led you to a plateau. It just is impossible. It's impossible because it's the most effective tweak. And in my 30 years of helping people lose weight and experiencing personalize the plan, it's all how you internalize it. You've collected data that makes you believe that you are on a plateau because of personalize the plan. I would say to you, and I love this question, by the way, but I want to break it down with you. Why do you think that? So maximizing, so all you're doing that's different is checking in at every single meal and snack time

You are being more self-aware. You're more personalizing according to your body's needs So i'm assuming you don't trust your body because you think you've got to control it By doing a more scheduled form of eating Or it could be like it could be also your what you're doing on personalizing the plan if you're going if you if some people Be like, oh when I personalize a plan, I forget to eat that i'm like you are not personalizing the plan. If you're going, if you, if some people will be like, oh, when I personalize a plan, I forget to eat that. I'm like, you are not personalizing the plan. If you are personalizing the plan, it would be impossible for you to forget to eat because literally it's about checking in at every single meal and snack time, taking time to say to yourself, am I hungry and need to eat? How am I feeling? Right? Is it, I'm not sure I could eat. I'm not like I'm not like

not hungry. Okay, so maybe I'll have a token amount. Or okay, I'm not hungry, but I should eat because I'm going to go longer than four and a half, about four hours without eating. Right? Or it's like, I am really not hungry at all here. Right? Like so, so personalizing the plan is doing all of the things, which is why personalizing the plan is not causing you to be on a plateau. It could be, however, your interpretation of personalizing the plan. If all of a sudden you're adding foods back in that are not part of the program, if you are going long periods of time because you think eating less often is better, if you're falling back into old diet habits.

But if you're following the personalizing plan proper, it's not causing you to be on a plateau. Now, are you on a plateau? Why are you on a plateau? Are you on a plateau because you just dropped weight and so your body needs time to adjust to the weight that you've lost? You say every time you've done personalizing plan. So every time we do personalize the plan is at the end of the program in between groups, right? And at a time where usually there are things going on. So for example, rolling into the holidays. So could it be that if every fall, for example, you do personalize the plan, you feel like you're on a plateau. It's also because this is when things get stressful at work, or this is where you're, you've had stress happen in your life, or this

is where the holidays are and you start to indulge in bites of bits. Could it be if at the end of every personalize the plan in the summer, in the spring is because it's summer, all of a sudden you're drinking more alcohol, you are, you know, going out and you're staying up later. You're, do you know what I'm saying? But let me let me finish reading. Uh, personalizing the plan has always led to a plateau and inevitably self-sabotage. So I think you just self plateau did not cause yourself sabotage. And this is what makes me think there's something going on with the time that you are, uh, personalizing the plan, that there are other things going on. And it could be that you are also sabotaging yourself while personalizing the plan because you feel like you

are on your own. You have more flexibility. Maybe you are like, if I went through right now and said to you, are you, are you taking your supplements? What's your score on the maximizing post? Like on the maximizing 20 questions, right? Are you like, what are you doing for exercise? What are you doing? What are you doing to get better sleep? What are you doing to manage your stress? Like you did some deep breathing exercises today, right? This also just happens to be at a time in the program where we're coming to an end that can freak people out. And this is where people can sabotage themselves because they feel like they don't have enough time. It's, you know, the end of the program, all of that for a variety of reasons. And so this is the personalized plan is probably hands down the most effective tweak. And you're human, you have a body and you're not exempt from that. It's just it's science at the end of the day

and all the things about getting into. So there could be something in the self-sabotage piece that is happening. And you probably, having done programs before, you probably start doing this. As you know, Personalize the Plan is coming down the pipeline. Right? It's probably little things that you are doing to actually be the opposite of being more proactive. You probably don't put pedal to the metal at the end of the program, and you actually start to lay off. You start to get nervous. You start to get scared. It's where you start to self-sabotage. The feels start to pop up as you feel the end of the program coming. And I would tend to bet that there's

something happening in there that is getting you to this point where your conclusion is, personally, the plan doesn't work for me. Therefore, then I sabotage myself. Right? So that's where I would go back. So what can we do here? I'm nervous about personalizing the plan has always led me to a plateau because that's

your belief. Your belief is, and again, I don't know. So I'm just like throwing a bunch of stuff out, hoping that something resonates. Your belief is that you're going to be on a plateau and personalize the plan. So then are you actually doing, if that's your belief, are you really doing the things? I'm not saying that you're not doing a lot, not saying that you're not working hard, but if you can indulge me for a second, if you really truly believe that that's always going to be what happens, are you actually doing the things and are you all in with this tweak? And then inevitably self-sabotage.

So now you believe from what you're saying is that this tweak, you're going to have a plateau and that's going to lead to sabotage. That's why I'm saying probably weeks earlier, you actually started to self-fulfill this prophecy. It's like a self-fulfilling, right? I know, personalize the plan, puts me on a plateau, and then I'm going to self-sabotage. And you know that's coming. And probably that has affected your actions, right? Again, I'm just guessing. I'm just talking. Maybe I'm way off base. I'm

just trying to get something to be like, what is it? What's going on in my brain here, right? Going to really focus on staying mindful and not letting it get out of hand. So that is trying to control it, not let it get out of hand. You want to understand it. That's where you want to do. I think your ticket to working through this is understanding what is this about? Why do I feel this? So that's why I'm coming at you really strongly and being like, it's not personalizing the plan. I need you to know that because I need you? So that's why I'm coming at you really strongly and being like, it's not personalizing the plan. I need you to know that because I need you to know that because I need you to break this belief because personalizing the plan is how you're going to be able to maintain and sustain

your weight in the end, right? So, and maybe it's me saying that you're believing, well, then that's for a plateau. It's just about, it's just about knowing what your body needs. That's what that is. So that's why I want to come across really strong because I want to affect your belief system that it's the tweak. It's not the tweak. It's not the tweak.

It's probably how you're feeling. It could be how you're feeling about the tweak, which is probably some big feels tied into the end of the program, getting closer, reaching your goal. Your ticket is probably in that sabotage, that self-sabotage piece. Maybe you don't feel worthy. Maybe you're nervous that you're going to gain it back if you do reach your goal. I don't know. What I would do is get out that cognitive behavioral therapy model. Like, yeah, okay, yes, right? Setting your intentions, end of day reflections, using your app to track, being consistent, that's all that. But that's

just going to be, chances are, if you make it through the end of this program and then you do the next January program, if all you do is try to not let it get out of hand, then you're going to be back in the same situation at the end of the next program, feeling the exact same way, feeling the exact same way. So that's what we've got to under, we have to, you've got to get a handle on what's happening with your thoughts and the feels and what, what's going on there. What is that about? Hopefully that helped. I don't know if it did, but hopefully it did. Oh, that personalize the plan sabotage piece was very enlightening. Yeah. Thanks to the person who wrote that. Yeah. Thanks to all of you. Thanks to all of you. Does exercise slow down weight loss when it is introduced? It's not that it slows it down. Fat loss.

We're talking fat loss versus weight loss. When your body is focused on repair, ultimately in the end, having more muscle is going to help you. It's like it's a no-brainer. I wouldn't not exercise, but if you're nitpicking the scale every day, when you work out on a Monday and your body is sore from that, your muscles are inflamed, it can cause you to retain water, which can have the scale up. Right? But it's not real weight gain. It's not stopping you from losing fat either at the end of the day. I want to thank everyone who takes the time. A lot of what you're saying makes sense. Okay, good, good, good, good, good. And that's what I would do is pull up that cognitive behavioral

therapy model. Like, is it your feelings right now? Is it your thoughts? Is your behavior? Is it something physical? Like what is going on in there? Try to figure that one out. What is that about? I really appreciate it to everybody who's asked a question, made a comment, shared support on this.

Really, you are the ones who create the conversation, which I'm so grateful to come up here and have every day. I love talking about this stuff and I love the tough questions and the vulnerable shares. Those create the best talking points and give us the best insight because we're all dealing with the same stuff at the end of the day. It's not what we're eating and when y'all, right? It's not what you're eating and when it's so much more than that. So thank you to everyone who took time to share.

Please make sure also that if you didn't get your question answered, pop it over on the question of the day page and the team will answer it over there. Have an amazing day, everyone. I'm going to be back later today with Terry Paisley. She's going to be my guest, talk about being in maintenance and what that feels like, what that's been like for her. Sandra Ilya and Sandy Van joining me on Wednesday. We are going to be here all week. So make sure you take time, get all the questions asked that you need to ask. There's no limit on that. So ask as many. Have a fantastic

day, everyone. I'll see you later. Bye.