The Livy Method Podcast - Maintenance & Mindfulness - April 29, 2024

Episode Date: April 29, 2024

Gina Livy's Facebook Live from the Maintenance & Mindfulness group hosted on Facebook. This is the live recording from April 29, 2024. You can find the full video hosted at https://www.facebook.com/groups/ginalivymaintenanceandmindfulnessTopics covered:Are you in tune?: Sabotage in MaintenanceRoutine and getting to the place where you feel your best. Getting back to feeling good and understanding the things you need to do.Are you ready? Personalizing The Food Plan or redoing The Program What is your focus? Are you actually done losing your weight?Assessing your needs: Capture, Cancel. CorrectPutting time into routine to get better at understanding your needs!Getting stuck in the weeds of lifeBored with food? what else is happening for you?Are you overthinking it? Are you eating just salads and protein? To learn more about The Livy Method, visit www.ginalivy.com. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Hello and happy Monday. Welcome to the M&M Live. Hello, all of our amazing members in maintenance. How are you doing? How are you feeling? Where are you at in your journey? If you have any questions, I'm here for you. Let me know. Okay, so here we are. I know some of you are doing another round of the weight loss program in order to solidify your weight. Now we are currently working on a maintenance program. Right now you have this group, you have all of the maintenance information stored in the

guide. Day to day, Odette is rolling out the information, mimicking what's happening in the weight loss group, but putting a maintenance spin on it. So if you are following over in the weight loss group, this is where you can have that discussion on maintenance, specifically in the maintenance group. You'll notice everything that we're talking about week to week to week in the weight loss program, we are spinning that into why is it important now that you are in maintenance. And I think there's a lot of value in that to keep your focus specifically on maintenance. Now, there's value in everything we're talking about in the weight loss program, relevant to maintenance.

For example, we're talking sabotage. So sabotage, we all know sabotage when you're trying to lose weight. But there's also sabotage while you are trying to maintain your weight, not feeling worthy, feeling uncomfortable in the dynamics changing, maybe with your friends or your relationships or at work, not trusting yourself, falling back into old habits, you know, there's a lot you can sabotage yourself, not just while you are losing weight, but once you've been successful maintaining your weight. So there's something to be said about sabotage. This week, the focus is on you know, that basic food plan, and it's all about fine tuning and adjusting. And this is where this is where when it comes to your portions

and reestablishing that routine or getting into that routine, is are you just stuck on what you what you've been doing and the routine of it? Or are you really in tune? Have you been asking those four questions? Are you just stuck on having one egg every morning because that's what you were eating when you you know, reached your goal? Are you finding that you're extra hungry in the evening, but you're not adjusting? Are you back in the habit of skipping dinner? Sorry, skipping, skipping breakfast every morning, but finding that you're extra hungry in the evening, right? Like this is where you you always want to assess where you are at now what you need now. And especially after you've lost weight, and you're spending time in maintenance, your body, you're just becoming more and more in tune.

Your metabolism is getting higher and higher and higher. And so you really want to like really tune into where you are at now. Hi, Andrea. Good morning. I've been dealing with a lot of stress and not being in touch with my body for a few months. There you go. Right. And you could be easily maintaining your weight.

And then all of a sudden you run into a really stressful time in your life, right? I've moved into a less stressful time and I'm working on getting back on back on track and in touch with my body, but it feels like a big hill to climb. Okay. Yeah, this kind of like, I don't know if you work out, but like, you know, when you're working out, you're moving, you're grooving, you feel fantastic. And then you stop working out for a bit. And then just the thought of it, it's just like, oh my gosh. And then you get into it and your body's sore for the first few workouts. You're like, this sucks. And the next thing you know, you're back and you'll be like, why did I ever stop exercising? Like, I feel amazing. And I think this is no different. So because you are, you get so

in tune with feeling really good that when you are even slightly off, you feel really, really off. And again, this is just the body communicating with you. So it feels like there's a big gap between how you feel now and getting back to that place where you feel really good. So understand your body wants you to feel your best. Your body wants you to get back to that place where you feel really good. So understand your body wants you to feel your best. Your body wants you to get back to that place where you're feeling really good. And a little will go a long way. That's the beauty of back on track. That's the beauty of doing another round of the program to solidify your weight is that your body loves the routine. It knows the routine, your actions are tied into your feelings. So you feel good when you're doing

the things you need to do. And then just knowing that you're doing the things you need to do makes things a lot less stressful for you. Like, you know, I have been getting up the last little bit. I've been off my workouts for a while. I had my back injury and then my gums, and then I just been off and I feel schleppy. I just feel like blah. And I have been getting up and then my gums and then I just been off and I feel schleppy. I just feel like blah. And I have been getting up and doing my workouts. They have not been amazing workouts. I'm not like sweating real hard. I'm not like working out real hard, but I feel so amazing because I got up and I did something like it's not even like in doing all of the things. It's really just when it comes to the stress, I think knowing that you are doing what you need to do. You don't have to do it well. You don't have to

do it perfectly, but you are doing like you are here today, right? Like you, you get like a massive pat on the back because you're showing up for yourself. This is half the battle. This is the getting here, being here, recognizing where you're at. That's the hard work. The rest is just getting into that routine. And I find sometimes if you just embrace the uncomfortable, you embrace the hard, then it's like, okay, I know that it's going to be uncomfortable drinking my water again. I know it's going to be uncomfortable not having a snack after dinner again. And you can kind of be like, the whole time, you can be like, oh, this sucks. I got to, you know, set your timers and your alarms. Like, I don't wake up every morning and be like, oh, I can't wait to work out.

I'm like, fuck. Like, that's how I've been rolling out of bed. Even today, I was like, oh, my God, I'm so tired. And then, you know, Tony's like, get up, work out. You're going to feel great. And in my mind, I'm like, fuck you. And then here I go and I'm rolling out of bed and I got nothing to wear. So I just wore my pajama pants and I'm just like, fuck it. And I was so begrudging about the whole thing, but then I felt like a freaking rock star when I was done. So you don't have to embrace it and love it or even like it. You could just be like, okay, I got to get back to feeling good. When I was doing this, this and that, I felt amazing. So there's going to be a bit of a gap between where I am today and getting back to feeling amazing. I just got to do the things I need to do. Make a list of non-negotiables. You don't have to do all of the things either. Like just drinking your water for the next few days will be a game changer.

You drink your water, you feel better hydrated, you'll have better energy, you'll sleep better, and you won't be craving, you know, sugars and salty foods, right? So that's going to really help. You know, get that breakfast in, start with breakfast, then maybe get, you know, I got my fruit snack here, right? My fruit snack, and then just kind of slowly pull the things in. A lot of time, it's the it's the stress of the all or nothing, right, right? I have to do all of the things or it's not worth doing. And it's never a good time to do them. And but then once you get back to it, you're like, okay, I feel amazing. So that is sort of like the downside of being

really healthy and in tune to your body's needs is that when you are feeling amazing, you feel rockstar amazing. And when you feel even slightly off, you feel really, really, really off. But it's actually you can get back to feeling good quite quickly. And this is where you can be like, okay, remember when you lost your weight the first few days of the program, there was a lot you're trying to get your shit together. But the thing is, you had that motivation. I'm excited, I can do this, you had that kind of motivation, kind of like, you know, keeping you going. That that kind of like, you don't, at this point, sometimes you don't have that motivation. So assessing your why, why are you even doing this again, right? Like, like taking a minute,

even after you've lost your weight, but? Like, like taking a minute, even after you've lost your weight, but maintaining your weight, take a minute, regardless of where you're at, take a minute, and really assess that why and remind yourself why you're doing the things that you need to do. And then actually, usually within like three to four days of following back on the basic food plan and getting back on track, people are like, Oh, I got, I, I got this. It happens to me when I had private clients and every Thanksgiving, Christmas, whatever, you know, people would, you know, call me and be like, Oh my God, I need to sign up and do your program again. And I'd be like, what, why? Oh, well, I just totally indulged over the holidays and you know, my weight's up eight pounds and I just feel like shit. And I got it. I'm like, you don't need to sign up with me again.

Like, just get back on track. Like that's it. Right. And then I'm like, listen, do a week of back on track, a couple of days of back on track. If your weight doesn't drop back down, you're not feeling significantly better. Give me a call and you know, we can work together. And nine times out of 10, they're going to be like, Oh, I'll call them and be like, Hey, checking up. How are you doing? Oh my God. I feel amazing. Yeah, I got this. I'm good. Thanks. Right. But it to be like, oh, I'll call them and be like, hey, checking up. How are you doing? Oh, my God, I feel amazing. Yeah, I got this. I'm good, thanks. Right? But it's just like when you feel that, you feel like, oh, here we are again.

I'm never going to feel like, oh, I'm back here, right? You know, you're not back here. You're just paying attention to where you're at. And noticing that when you do put an effort into prioritizing yourself and making choices that make you feel good, you really notice it, right? How's that? Does that work? Is that a good prep work? Is that a good prep talk? Is that a good pep talk? Still wondering best plan for me at that stage, personalizing the

plan or working well for me. However, I am in the spring weight loss group as well. Does it matter? Terry, I love you. Why the fuck do you not, have you not figured this out by now? What is going on? Come on. We've been talking about this. You know the deal. What is going on? And I say this because you have to figure out what is going on here. Now, the simplest thing that I do to decide what's going to work best for me is how am I going to feel, right? And this is exactly where you don't want to be. You do not want to land in nowhere zone. And this happens all the time, right? Like, well, I'm not sure what to do. Should I follow the program? Should I personalize the plan? And then all of a sudden you're in the no nowhere zone. And so you hugely successful,

right? You know what you need to do. Why are you not doing it? Why are you struggling with this? And so this is where you say, okay, how would I feel if I just rely on personalizing the plan? Oh, I'm not sure. I'm not sure. I'm not sure. If you're not sure, how would I feel if I just rely on personalizing the plan? Oh, I'm not sure. I'm not sure. I'm not sure. If you're not sure, that's your answer, right? Like when it comes to personalizing the plan to solidify your weight, this is where you need to know 100%. That's what you're going to do. The redoing the program to solidify your weight is a no brainer. It's structured, it's routine, it gives you an opportunity to level up the mindfulness stuff that you might still need to work through. Personalizing the plan is great because it provides flexibility. It's really for people

who are super solid. If you are not super solid in personalizing the plan, then you're not ready to personalize the plan. Right? So this is where I would be. It sounds like you still need that structure of the routine again, in which it's only beneficial to do another round of the program, even if you did two rounds of solidifying your weight. So ideally you wanna lose your weight, you wanna do a solidifying round,

and then you wanna move on to personalizing the plan, right, and then you go live your life. So if you are not ready and excited about personalizing the plan to solidify your weight, you should do another round of the program. If you've already done another round of the program to solidify your weight, and you're and you know, then it means that you're ready to move on to that next stage. If you're hesitant about moving forward to the next stage, maybe you're not ready to move on to the next stage, right? So ask yourself, how would it feel if I move forward just personalizing the plan? If you're unsure, then go back into that structure of the program, solidify the shit out of that so that

you will get to a place where you're confident about personalizing the plan and move on to next steps. That's how I make every decision. How would I feel? And, and, and sometimes it's like, you know, I have to worry about what other people think and feel and how that affects them. But I'm like, okay, like, you know, say someone presents me with an opportunity. How would I feel if I did this? How would I feel if I did that? And then usually that gut instinct will tell you what the right move is. And, and I can say that to you because after doing the program, you are that in tune that you know what works for you. Now you can get into that.

Why am I hesitant? You can get into that. Why am I hesitant about personalizing the plan? Maybe I don't trust myself. Maybe I, you know, I don't feel this or maybe that, or I'm sure of this or like, who knows? You could go down the rabbit hole, which is always great to figure out. But at the end of the day, you know how you feel. You know how you feel. You got this. I should mention that I reached my goal last session. Yeah, I know. I know who you are and what you got going on. I'm paying attention. I'm paying attention.

That's what I'm saying. You crushed that, right? So now here you are, what do you do? Now, this could be, are you, you've reached your goal. Now this could be, when do I get the best plan? Personalize the plan or working well for me, however, in the spring weight loss group as well. So it doesn't matter. It doesn't really matter. It really is what works best for you. Now, are you actually done losing your weight? This is a whole other conversation because we get people who reach their goal, went into maintenance and then they're like, but I would still like to lose a few more pounds. So this is where you also can't land in that nowhere zone, that wishy-washy,

you know, acting like you're in maintenance, but wanting to see the scale move every day. That doesn't work either. This is where you have to say to yourself, like, I want to lose a few more pounds. And this is where then if that's the case, then obviously you're in the weight loss group, show up like you're looking to lose, see what happens on the scale. And then when you decide that you know you are done, then you can kind of go into that more maintenance mindset, right? So moral of the story here, and I'm glad that you brought this up is that you really need to know exactly where you are at and what your focus is, or you can kind of get in this space that it's not really taking you anywhere. And that's the worst thing you want to do,

right? Is this be more confused and not know where you are when you like you work so hard to reach this goal and be here, you really want to be here and fully here, not every day wondering, should I do this? Should I do that? What about this? What about that? And you can't do like a mix of both. It has to be the structure of the program, the way it is structured that one week leads into the next leads into the next, and then bringing up the fields and building on that. Or it is just the personalizing the plan. The two don't combine really well. I think that's where people get confused. Hopefully that helps. Did that help at all? I'm hoping that it helps. I'm hoping that it helps. I'm hoping that it helps. Hi, Frankie.

Well said, Gina. Yes, I either want to feel on top of everything and amazing or when I don't, I think, why did I go back here? Yeah, right. I feel so in control some days or maybe just feel like I'm moving forward. I know you had that control world where I hate the word control. Yeah, in tune. I like to say in tune, or hate,

I hate when I'm feeling like I'm going backwards, versus just a blah day back on track really does work for three to three to four days. Yeah. So you know, there are going to be times that you fall back into old habits. Right? But it's like, there's so much to be learned in recognizing that you're doing that and then recognizing this isn't working for me. Right? Like, it's just, it's not working for me. It's great. Like, it's great. Like, full disclosure, I had some wine on the weekend. Loved it. But then when I was having it, I'm like, yeah, okay. Like, I haven't had any wine since November. And then, you know, today I woke up and I'm like, okay, I did that. I'm done. I'm done. Whereas before I might have kept drinking for a week. Right? Like, I love wine. Let me get more, let me get more. And now today I'm just like, yeah, okay. I'm not, I'm so over it. And I'm glad that I had it. Not that I didn't

enjoy it, but now I'm just like, now I really recognize I'm at a place where I'm just like, I thought I loved it and missed it so much. I had some, it was like, whatever. And had I not done that, then I would have, wouldn't have got to this place where much. I had some, it was like, whatever. And had I not done that, then I wouldn't have got to this place where I know I am now, where I don't feel like I need to drink wine tonight. And the next day, the next day and keep the process going. I feel like, okay, I did that. It wasn't as, you know, whatever as I thought. So I think for so many reasons, falling back into old habits is kind of really what propels us moving forward if you're open to learning from that really being open to is this working for me? How am I feeling? Why am I feeling rather than

ragging on yourself, like really be investigative about it. So yeah, so I you know, I think that, you know, when you when you're going backwards, you're not really going backwards, it's an opportunity to propel yourself forwards. Right? That's what I think that's there for. There's a saying somehow fall back to something. I don't know what it is right now. But it's always an opportunity for us to learn. Thank you so much. That's exactly what I needed to hear. I'll be saving this pep talk to my favorite so I can listen to again when I'm here for you. I'm here for you. And this is where we need the pep talk ourselves, right? This is where we need to like assess our situation.

Okay, Gina, what's going on today? Why are you feeling like this? What's the underlying issue? You know, that capture, cancel, correct. You're crushing this. You know, you're doing great. Okay, you don't feel well because you didn't drink your water yesterday. So you had this or you that or, you know, things are getting busy for you.

You're probably feeling off because you're being pulled in a bunch of different directions. Like what's going on there, right? Have these little talks. You know what you need, right? You don't have to talk to a friend or whatever. Have a little conversation with yourself and be like, okay, what do you need? If you're looking for flexible workouts, Peloton's got you covered. Summer runs or playoff season meditations, whatever your vibe,

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it is. We'll continue to follow the plan this session and test out how I do in the Bahamas in May. It is all coming naturally. I love that. See, you know, right? And then when you're in Bahamas, this is where you can do the personalizing the plan if you want. If you don't feel like following that structured formula, you go away, you personalize the plan, which is better than doing nothing, right? And that gives you that flexibility. And then you come back and you pick up exactly where you left off and move forward in the program. Or it's just like, you know, kind of doing back on track, whatever works for you. You do have options at this point. You know yourself best, but it's where you get in that confusing,

you're not really sure what you're doing. That's when it becomes problematic. So you could do, follow the program, the structure up until, like you do follow the program, the structure up until like, you could follow the program and the structure up until week eight, and then be like, you know what, I'm ready to move forward and personalize the plan. Like I feel like, okay, I feel super solid. And then so, so solidifying the time, whether you are redoing the program again or you are personalizing the plan, is really putting that time into that routine. Yes, obviously, redoing the program is more structured. But also when you're personalizing the plan, you're minimizing indulgences. You're just allowing the body to function, status quo, like really super routine.

Maybe every day looks a little different, but it's the same, it's the same, but different. So you can, you can, you know, redo the program up to a certain point and then decide you want to personalize the plan, the rest of it. You want to put that three months into it, but you just don't want to do a day to day wishy-washy, don't know what you're doing type of thing. Um, but, but, but, but, but, but, but we'll wait till personalized the plan till the summer. Yeah. Which is great. Cause that's perfect. Great flexibility, right? I had went, went wine on vacation. Ditto. Didn't miss it. Yeah. Right. It was just a habit. Yeah. So a lot of times we fixate on things we think that we're missing and then we have it and we're like, Oh shit, this whole time, this whole time,

you know? Okay. Um, Oh, this is what Odette, I just went through the sheet Odette wanted me to go over. So as you guys know, in the Monday Live, so many people can't make it to the Monday Live, but sometimes you have questions or things that you want to talk about. So keep an eye out for that poster. I think Odette posts on Sunday. She wanted to talk about approaching setbacks as learning opportunities. Look at that. Talking about not festering in your funk or feeling set back, approach it as a way to learn what maintenance will look like and feel like to setbacks as learning opportunities. Look at that. Talk about not festering in your funk or feeling set back. Approach it as a way to learn what maintenance will look like and feel like to you. Okay. Mission accomplished.

This time, hi, Anne. I'm totally invested in doing the weight loss program as written and not on my own variation of it. Yes, different mindset this time working hard on the mental part. I'm with you on this because you're so like so knowledgeable, right? The structure works really well because our body loves routine. And because it is committing to working through the fields because of the routine and the fields that are brought up while following the program. And it's got a very systematic forward kind of nature to it. And there's a lot of benefit in that there's a lot of benefit into the structure into the routine into leveling up. It's no different if you're looking to accomplish a goal or learn something new. Like say, say you want to get better at,

I don't know, golf, for example, right? Well, you're not going to get better at golf necessarily by thinking about golf and just watching videos. You have to actually go and practice. You have to get into the right mindset. Like in order to become really good at something, you have to kind of master and practice doing what you're doing in order to become really good. And what you are trying to practice and master is being in tune to your needs, learning to trust when to eat, what to eat, how much to eat, be so super in tune to those portions, you don't even need to think about it. You want to dive deeper into your issues and associations and beliefs and past traumas. You want to work more on working through old habits that no longer serve you. Like I, I am 51 years old. Drinking has never really worked well for my body, yet here I am 51 years old. Um, drinking has never really worked well for my body yet. Here I am

still trying to fucking figure it out. You know what I mean? It can take us a while. Um, you know, like why though, you know, why though? Um, so to me, like there's always something and then there's so many layers. It's really cool. And I think this is why as you get older, they say you become more confident in who you are, because I think that happens naturally. And this process just allows you the opportunity to really dive right into that, to level up even more, to take the time to prioritize yourself, to practice things that help you get like those four questions. They're, they're really just there to have you practice so many times asking how your portions are. Are you hungry?

Are you not? How's this portion while I'm eating? How did I know when I'm done that you don't need to ask them anymore? And it's, it's the same with everything that you're doing, being mindful, paying attention, mastering, being mindful, mastering, being in tune, mastering, being in the moment. That's a big one for me, right? How to not get in the weeds of my life and get so caught up in all these little things that I'm not, you know, really paying attention to the bigger things that I need to address. Why? Why do I not? Do I? Why am I procrastinating on that? Why am I staying stuck on the weeds? Why am I so fixated on that? Rather than am I afraid of taking the big leap? Do I not trust what's going on there? Like it's an endless hole of shit to work through, which I like working through, which I like working through, you know. I am getting bored with my food.

How can I make it more appealing? Well, good for you. That's a great place to be. Food is boring. Food is something you should be eating in order to keep yourself alive, to make you feel really good in terms of giving yourself the energy that it needs. Food is like, that's boring, right? I think that you do want to enjoy all the yummy bites of bits that come with life, but you don't want to be getting all of your excitement out of food. If you were the kind of person who needed to get excitement out of your food, I would imagine maybe you indulge in cooking food. You love creating food. You love getting a whole bunch of like, like the fact that you're asking me this tells

me that you're not necessarily a foodie because you would already be following all the different people on the internet who are doing all these really cool things with food to keep you inspired. Like there's no shortage of inspiration when it comes to food out there. There just isn't. And with the living method, there's so much flexibility in terms of your food choices. And what you know, so there's no shortage of, you know, making food interesting. But if you're not already doing that, then is there some other thing that's happening? Right? So I'm getting bored with my food. How can I make it more appealing? Is it is it that you are getting more bored with your food? Or you're just food isn't like, oh, pizza, oh, donuts, oh, whatever. And then we forget about how we felt like shit afterwards. And we'd berate ourselves.

Are you just noticing the quiet and the calm happening in your brain where you're not so fixated on your food anymore? Right? Like, because you can go out, Tony and I went to a nice restaurant yesterday. And, um, I mean, it was pretty simple. What we ate, we ordered three dishes. We split all of them and their specialty was these short ribs, short ribs that they made. And you, you know, you put in lettuce wraps and you, they have like a variety of garnishes and that's what that restaurant is known for. So that's what we ordered. And normally it's a dish that you share with like four or six people or whatever. And we ordered the one dish and the guy's like, are you sure? And we're like, yeah, this is what we came for. Like we wanted to really, that's what we came for. That's what we're in the mood for. And so we really indulged in that.

It was delicious. I loved it. I loved every single bite. And I really took my time mixing the sauces together and taking time to enjoy the flavor of the foods that I was eating. Like I went there knowing that I was going to indulge in the flavor of the food and indulge specifically in eating a certain food. And so that's to me where you get your enjoyment or your excitement. What do you want to be entertained by? Like, this is where I'm going. What's going on here with you? You want to be entertained by your food. You want enjoyment from your food. Like exactly what is it that you are expecting your food to do? Right? Like to me, it's like fucking dinner. Like every fucking night you got to feed your kids. Like, oh my God, really? Like, oh fuck. Again? Like, you know what I mean? Like there's so much

into that. Like not every dinner is going to be like magical and, you know what I mean? Like, there's so much into that, like, not every dinner is going to be like magical. And you know, the best dinner on the planet. Yes, we are having chicken, broccoli and rice again. You know, so you kind of like you got to get Yeah, it tastes good, too. I eat too much. Yeah. So but you're a grown up. Right? Like you're a grown up. You, you can eat whatever you want. you can eat as much of it as you want. Like, so that's where you have to say to yourself, okay, like, I'm not maybe maybe this goes back to being a child, where you know what I mean? You are taught to finish everything on your plate. So maybe it comes down to putting the food on your plate, you have to feel like you

need to indulge in it. Right? Like there is a certain, like, there is certain like some people like love indulging in food. And I'm like, great, then choose to indulge in that food. But if you are indulging in the food and then berating yourself afterwards and then punishing yourself because you ate too much of the food, that's not bringing you joy.

You don't actually enjoy that. Are you actually enjoying, like it tastes too good. So you're enjoying the taste, but are you enjoying how you feel afterwards? Like you, this is where, this is what I mean by it's, it's deeper, right? Like it's, you like to cook. So then this is where you can try new recipes. So you can try new recipes, but which one is it? You like to cook or you eat too much of it? Like which one? See what you see what I'm saying? I think you're looking for a really easy. This is what is happening. You're bored. So you so are you bored? Or are you overeating? Are you

overeating? Because you are bored? What the heck is happening here? And this is what this is where you got to figure that out. Because that's really missed messaging. I'm getting bored with my food where you're the one fucking cooking it. Do you know what I mean? Like, go buy some new cookbooks, go follow some people step out of your comfort zone, be inspired. But then you are saying also, and I love this conversation, by the way, then you are also saying, well, if I make the food and it tastes good, then I overeat it. So this is why, this is why it's not going to, this is not going to be fixed by you making your food more exciting. This is not going to be fixed by, do you know what I mean? It's not what you think it is. So you're not really bored with food

because you like to cook, you can cook whatever you want. And then but then if you if you cook food that tastes too good, then you overeat it. So what is really going on here? Right? And you can totally be totally get into preparing like really healthy, flavorful foods, and then eat enough to feel satisfied and walk away feeling good. Imagine how it would feel to prepare this really fun, exciting, beautiful, delicious meal for yourself. And then when you eat it, eat enough to feel satisfied and walk away feeling really good. That was delicious. I enjoyed that. That's it. So maybe what you need to pay attention to is, is how you are feeling when you're overeating. Are you working, working to create this food that's delicious? Then you're overeating it. And then all you remember is that you ate too much. You're so full. You're never going to whatever, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Right? So, so I think what you perhaps crave is a way,

I'm a good cook. I cook for my family and I can't eat what I cook. So I eat salad and protein, it feels like I'm missing out what what can't you eat that you cook? Right? Like it's so you can, you can have pasta, have some salad with it, especially if you're in maintenance, I don't know if you're in still trying to lose weight, then that's a little difference. But I never really understood this. I never really understood when people follow the program, how they say they have to cook something differently for their family. I mean, I created the Libby Method with raising four kids. And so I'm trying to think what on earth is it that you're cooking that you can't also eat? Right? So maybe it's pasta, right? Is it

pasta? If you're a good cook, make some zucchini needles or spaghetti squash if you like that's do you know what I mean? If you're a good cook, what's the problem here? Like you shouldn't have to cook separate meals for you and separate meals for your family. Right? So so I eat salad and protein like that's not what the Libby method is about. I'm on maintenance. Kids like pasta. You can, okay. So if you are redoing the program again, so if you are redoing the program again, for the sake of solidifying your weight, this is what you're doing for the next three months. And so maybe you want to minimize pasta. You can have pasta that, I mean, that's

the whole, you can have pasta. You're not trying to lose weight, right? So maybe you do pasta, but you make a more of a bigger side salad to go with it. But you shouldn't just be eating salads and proteins. That's not if that's what you're doing, that's not what you want to do. You should be having like, you tons of vegetables, like you said, you can make some spaghetti squash and sweet potato for dinner. You know, there's there's lots of variety and options for you there that you shouldn't feel like you're making a whole separate meal for yourself versus what you're what you're I've never had to do that. And so you shouldn't have to do that either. You're really talking bread and pasta is only two things like you in if you're having, if you're redoing the program, again, for the sake of solidifying your weight, and then you're trying to minimize those heavier carbs, there's alternatives there, like right spaghetti squash, or some zoodles or something like that.

There's other load up on the vegetables and the proteins, not just the salad on top of that. So I think that you might be overthinking it if you think that you have to make a whole separate meal. Now, if you have kids, and you're making them chicken nuggets and pizza and whatever, I mean, let's I mean, as grownups, we should know that we need better food than that. Right. And I say that because kids do love chicken nuggets and burgers and fries. And my kids eat that kind of stuff, too. But I always make like, I'm not interested in eating that because I just don't feel good when I do eat that. And that's not to me, that's not like burgers. And so then there's a deeper connection, right? So if you're thinking

it's pizza and burgers or pasta or whatever that is, this isn't, you're not bored then because there's ways you can be creative. See what I'm trying to say? You have to get into what's really going on here. And this is where you have to, you, I can't tell you, I can throw a bunch of things at you. I can, you know, try to, you know, you know, ask a few questions, but you're not really bored, right? Like, are you bored because you are, you love to cook, so you could make so many great things and so many spins on what you're making the kids, but is boredom coming down? Are you bored because you can't have burgers and fries and chicken nuggets and pasta, right? So is it really boredom? Is it really boredom that you're working through? You have to figure out what this is. I know I got to go. So there's doing what you need to do right now for today. And then

also keeping in mind that the whole point of you losing your weight and solidifying your weight, and then going into maintenance so that you can enjoy pasta for dinner, right? Like I can have pasta for dinner tonight if I want to be able to maintain my weight. I can have a burger and fries for dinner tonight if I want. I can have whatever I want for dinner tonight because my body has no need to store fat. I'm in tune to my body's needs. Having some pasta for dinner is not going to cause me to gain weight. And that's the ultimate goal of where you're going. And that's the plan, right? Is you want to get to that place. So it could be either get to the bottom of figuring out what the feels are about, or just do what you need to do for the time that you need to do it to solidify your

weight. And then, you know, to for the ultimate goal of getting to that place where you can enjoy the foods that you like, be in tune to your body's needs, be in tune to your portions. But this thing of like, you need to get in you one of the things I know you need to address is just because the food is good. If you're a good cook, your food's always going to be good. You don't want to be eating more than you need. Right? So you got to get in tune to that. So you got to get into that. Interesting conversation. Yeah, Deborah, I appreciate you. Thank you for having this conversation. I know it's going to resonate with so many people on this. I love this getting into like, what really is it? What really is it? What really is it? You know, just some things to think about. I don't know because you're, it's you and, and,

and so it's up for you to figure out, but this is where we want to go with this. What is really going on? What's the underlying issue here? I got to go everyone. Um, gosh, I love talking about this stuff. Maintenance is one of my favorite conversations. Thanks for joining me today. I think I'm back on Wednesday for weigh-in Wednesday with you all. I think we have figured out our technical issues. So if you missed it last week when we went to go live, Facebook took away the ability to have guests on our segments. And so the team has been trying to,

they've been in meetings all week trying to figure it out. We think, I think they figured it out. I'm trusting that they have. So hopefully I'll see you then. Have an amazing day, everyone. And I will see you later. Bye.