The Livy Method Podcast - Maintenance & Mindfulness: Midweek Motivation - May 14, 2025

Episode Date: May 14, 2025

Welcome to your Midweek Motivation!This week, Gina and Odette get real about the stuff that often gets brushed aside—mindset, sleep, stress, and the routines that either support or sabotage your goals. From finding meaning in a rainy day to redefining what’s non-negotiable in your life, they explore how even small shifts in thinking can change your trajectory. They dig into the power of rest, why quality always trumps quantity, and how motivation doesn’t show up—you have to. Plus, Odette shares a little “long weekend homework”.You can find the full video hosted at:https://www.facebook.com/groups/ginalivymaintenanceandmindfulnessTo learn more about The Livy Method and our Maintenance & Mindfulness group, visit www.ginalivy.com. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I'm Gina Livi and welcome to the Livi Method Podcast. This is where you'll have access to all of the live streams from my 91 Day Weight Loss program. With a combination of daily lives, guest expert interviews, and member stories, there is something new almost every day. Miss the Morning Live? Want to relisten to one of our amazing guest experts? Well, this is the place.

This podcast is hosted on Acast cast but it's available on all podcast platforms, including the one you're listening to right now, Spotify, Apple and Amazon Music. Oh, well, hello, and welcome to midweek motivation. Hi, Odette. Hi. You look you look wet today. You look, you look wet today. I feel, I feel, I've been wet since we got to St. Lucia. Beautiful. When the sun shines, let me tell you, it is sunshine, rainbows, it is glorious. I was trying to think of a good analogy of like when, I don't know, when life gives you lemons, you make lemonade, when life rains on you, you swim, you go in the hot tub.

I don't, I don't, I don't know. When life rains on you, you just let it wash everything away. Like you just let it, let it like, wash all those bad vibes away. Just get out there and off they go. I'm, I'm all about, like, so I've been here this week, so we know full transparency for our members. I'm here in St. Lucia, trying to scope out some resort spaces to bring our community together,

because I can't imagine anything more fun. It has been raining all week, but trying to make the most of it. I'm here with Sonia and Tony. Tony's been in the room working all week, but Sonia and I have been in the pool. We have been in the hot tub. We are like making the most of it. And I think this is sort of like, when it comes to different seasons of your life or different, you know, seasons of the program, like sometimes you go on vacation

and it is sunshine and rainbows. And sometimes it is like raining literally every fucking day. But you make the most of it and you do what you can. And maybe that's cliche, I don't know. Well, I don't think it's cliche. I think it's true. I mean, I don't know if you remember back, I don't know if it was this year,

it wasn't this year, maybe last year. And we had, I think 1,782 days of gray skies. We were just like, what is happening? What is going on? But we talked about that. We said like, get outside anyways, like look for that glimmer somewhere. Like you look for the glimmers. Yeah, because if you just sat in you're like, well, it's raining here in St. Lucia, the whole trip is messed up. I might as well go home. I mean, there's still so much beauty there. There's still so much to love about it. You get to be with Sonia, change the scenery,

change your environment, make the best of it. You've got no kids to feed. You've got no dogs to walk. You know, you still, somebody else is making your bed for you every day. Well, and I think that's what this week week of mindfulness is about is just being aware where you're at and what you need and and you're right like I'm grateful. I'm grateful to be able to get on a plane to be able to afford to get on a plane to come to a nice resort and if it rains it rains

I can there's only so many things I can control. I am mindful to make the most of it. This morning I got up I opened the curtains and Tony's like, are you fucking kidding me? Is it ever, like, is it ever sunny here? And I'm like, I'm getting up and I'm going to go to the gym. And then I went to the gym and it was so busy. And I was like, you know what? I'm going to go and I'm going to go swimming in that pool

even though it is raining. And then I'm going to this and I'm going to that and I'm going to keep going. And you know, I think this week is all about what is your checking your attitude you are where you are Where are you and what do you need this week? I know you want to get into it There's a few things you want to talk about. So where do you want to start? Yeah, I just want to say when you said there check your attitude I think it's also check your approach, you know, like I like what how are you looking at things?

How are you gonna come at it? You know because I mean your attitude sometimes you know, like, like, what, how are you looking at things? How are you going to come at it? You know, because I mean, your attitude, sometimes you can control, sometimes your hormones are going to affect your attitude. Sometimes, you know, other outside factors are going to affect your attitude. But if you can, you have control over your approach and how you see things, maybe your attitude too. But you know, you can really turn it around. You can, you can decide, am I going to be angry about this or am I just going to have the approach like this day will pass to better days are coming? You know, I think that's that's also how we want to look at it. Well, you just heard you're taking me way back to when.

So there was a woman, Barbara Coler. Call the Rooster. Thank you. Barbara Coleroso was her name, and she wrote it. How to kind of like raise your children. And it was about I remember one of the takeaways was I would say to my kid, Barbara Colaruso was her name, and she wrote how to kind of like raise your children. And it was about I remember one of the takeaways was I would say to my kid, OK, this is not going well. You are upset. This is what's going on. We are out of park. We're at like wherever we are.

My kids freaking out. There's something going on. They woke up, their pissy pants. And I will say, you have an opportunity to choose again. Now, you can continue to choose to be upset and you know, then this is what's going to happen, or you can choose to approach it differently, to feel differently. You are completely in control of choosing again. You just have to take that minute and say, okay, I woke up today, I'm pissy pants, or this happened and I did that, or I'm upset about this, or I'm upset about that.

I am absolutely in control. And I have the ability to choose how I wanna show up in this situation. And I think that's one of the things that we need to really talk about and dive into because as people are joined us for a while, and they've been in maintenance for a while, because people have been with us for a few years,

popping in and out, you're not just being in tune with yourself. When do you eat, what do you eat, how much do you eat? You are literally in tune with everything. What works for you, what doesn't work for you, not just when you're hungry and you're not hungry. Like there's this heightened sense of awareness of how you're thinking and how

you're feeling. And I do not believe that control and moderation have any place in dining whatsoever. But I think there is a place where you are in control. You are in control of how you are showing up and the energy that you're showing up with. I love that. I love that. Yeah. And I think, you know, this awareness too, and how you're showing up and how you're seeing things, I wanted to just bring up on Monday, we talked about intentions and non-negotiables. Like when does an intention become a non-negotiable?

And we put that in the group right after that conversation. And it was amazing what some of our members, like these aha moments they had. We had Janice, she said, so true about setting intentions. I have 17 for today, lol. I will try to separate them into negotiable and non-negotiable. And I think this is actually a powerful step too for Janice and for everybody else, that this is like a realization of who you are now. Like you don't have to intend to do these things. That's just who you are and what you do. Like you don't have to intend to do these things.

That's just who you are and what you do. Like you don't, you don't get up and say, I have to put my pants on. No, you have, like, you're going to put your pants on. Like you don't have to intend to drink your water. You're just going to do that now. That's who you are. Yes. Oh, I love that.

That becomes part of who you are. You're right. You don't intend, you're like, I got to get dressed today. Got to put my pants on. Got to put my shirt on. At some point it just becomes who you are. Ooh, I love that. Yeah. And I think that was, you know, just flipping that switch for some of them. I hope that they can feel that that is part of, even if they don't feel like they trust themselves yet or that's who they are yet. Maybe this is giving them a glimpse into, yeah, this is who you are now. You are this person. And those other non-negotiables, maybe those non-negotiables are your approach and how you show up for yourself and, you know, the

energy that you're going to bring. But but those, you know, those non-negotiables are those things that you're doing every day, day in, day out. you know, those non-negotiables are those things that you're doing every day, day in, day out. Also, Janice, are you an overachiever? Because my intentions are like, I max out at three. Yeah. Three, let alone 17. Are you, no, here's, I have a question for Janice. Are you excited? Like, are you a big goal person? Right? Like are you like, I'm putting out there, I'm doing this, I'm doing that, I'm whatever.

And if that excites you, then I'm all about that. Have 17,000, you know, intentions for the day. But are you at the end of the day going through and be like, oh, well, I didn't do this and I didn't do that and whatever, right? Like this is like, how many intentions are you setting? What kind of intentions? Are they just surface stuff? Are you maybe ready to go deeper? Like maybe it's just like, you know, I'm going to try to be in the more in the moments today,

right? Rather than ask the four questions and get into that, what's deeper than that is just be in the moment every single minute of the day. Do not make a decision without taking a minute, taking a deep breath and being like, okay, you know, are you being reactive all day long? Like is there a way to deepen your, is there a way to deepen your intentions? And I think that's true. I think, you know, at the end of the day, too, part of this, this grander idea of mindfulness is how do you feel when those intentions, like you said, when you're not able to just check that box, are you looking just to check a box? Are you really looking deeper at what you want to bring forward that day, that week, whatever it might be. So I think being mindful of how at the end of the day

that makes you feel too. Yeah. I think that's just part of leveling it up to that next place. I love Janice though. I love Janice. Her 17 intentions. I'm all about it.

That's like beyond, that's what I'm like. Yeah, I mean, she can't say she's not in it, man. She's in it. She's setting up her day. I love it, I'm all about it. Yeah. Yeah, so I love that for her. And there are a few different members that said that, too.

Oh, yeah. Going for my morning walk is not an intention. That's just what I do. So that's my non-negotiable now. That's what makes me feel good. And that'll give you capacity to have these other intentions. I think it can shorten that list so that the ones that are really on your list are the ones that are really important to you.

Yeah, what about the conversations with Dr. Beverly and then Alana today? How are people reflecting on that now that they're in maintenance? I think Dr. Beverly's, just the way that it, when you look at sleep, she said something in her conversation was, you look at, when you look at sleep she said something in her conversation was you look at when

when you are well rested and you're and you know your well-being is in check because you've had good sleep. I mean she talked deeper than sleep it's not just about not being tired it's about how impact your decisions how it impacts your well-being your mindset your brain and I think our members really took into account that they actually see themselves differently when they're well-rested. You know, they don't see themselves through this cloud. And I don't mean like a cloud of being tired and fogginess, but they're nicer to themselves.

They can see themselves in a kinder way. So Dr. Belbeer said, like, actually think you, she didn't say more attractive, but you look at yourself like you're prettier, like you are more handsome because you just have this feeling of lightness and happiness and I think that really resonates with those members in maintenance because they're not just trying to get,

they're not trying to figure out how to get better sleep. I mean, they are, there's always tips and habits, but what they're trying to do now is figure out how to get better sleep. I mean, they are there's always tips and habits. But what they're trying to do now is understand when they do get better sleep, how does that have an effect on them when they don't have good sleep? How does that have an effect on them? They're not just trying to chase good sleep. They're trying to understand what happens to them when they do have good sleep. Yeah, they're not trying to chase good sleep to chase the

number on the scale. And that is where, you know, that whole sleep when I'm dead, don't have time for sleep, how it affects, it affects what you think, it affects how you feel, it affects how you show up. And it's one thing to focus on maximizing your sleep when you're trying to lose weight and do all the things. But what does it mean to you when you're just trying to live your best life? And what kind of mindset or mind frame are you showing up with when you're not getting sleep

versus when you do get a good night's sleep? For me, like I've been away this week and I know I shared it this morning or yesterday with Dr. Beverly, but I said to Tony, why do I always sleep so well when I'm on vacation? And it's because I can't do anything about my kids. I can't do anything about my dog.

I can't do much about work. I mean, I can though. I work from home. And so it's not like much has changed. It's literally my mindset. I feel like there is, I'm cutting distance between it and you can do that while you're at home too. And then when, as soon as I come back, like I'm here, I'm up early, I've got energy to walk and to swim and to go to the gym and to ride horses and to do this and do that and whenever. And yet I come home and I'm just fucking exhausted

from the minute I opened my eyes and I'm stressed. And then because I'm stressed, I'm just fucking exhausted from the minute I opened my eyes. And I'm stressed. And then because I'm stressed, I'm not sleeping. And then before you know it, like it's just this massive snowball of that. And you don't really realize how it's affecting your life. And so after the conversations this week, interestingly enough, I've been able to have them in this renewed manner.

Something today we're talking about routine, Alana's talking about the routine and really being sacred about your sleep, and being like, you know what, I'm gonna block out time for me to like, okay, let's finish up my work stuff, let's finish up my kid stuff, have a conversation with them, let's make sure my dog's got her medications or whatever she got going on,

and then let me wash my face, put on my creamies, have a bath, read a book. Even if Tony wants to stay up and watch Fast and Furious, 95, I'm going to go to bed, right? Like, I'm going to go to bed. And he doesn't watch those. But you know what I'm saying. A lot of times I stay up with him because I want that to be me time.

In fact, that's what I missed out on Atlanta today. I was going to be like, how do you get over that? Wanting to have me time, wanting to spend time with Tony when our day's been so busy, that feeling like that's the only time that's for me. And yet I'm not seeing this good night's sleep for me. Do you do that? You start going with that? I struggled that too, because we often have, like we like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I to do, but I still not talk to my husband who doesn't work at home, so I don't see him. But then I actually just wanna watch this trashy TV

at the same time, but I also wanna have a bath or I just wanna like text my girlfriends and send them funny memes. Like, so you do feel like that, you do feel torn. Like I just want this me time, but then when do you fit in everything else? Of course, yeah, I struggle with that too some days. And I think there's a balance.

You know, some days I put the dishes away after I've washed them. And some days I just go watch a trashy show. Or some days, I'm like a PG rate in trashy show. Just to be clear. And so yeah, I think you have to find that balance of some days you're going to be able to do those things you want to do for others. And some days you've got to find that balance of, you know, some days you're gonna, you know, be able to do those things you wanna do for others. And some days you gotta take that time and you just have to take it.

And, you know, last night was a perfect example. And I said, I wanna have a workout today. Like I wanna get a workout in. It was like quarter after eight. And I'm like, but I have to walk the dog, but I have to, I haven't even seen Chad all day today. So what am I gonna do? I just did the workout, but I have to, I haven't even seen Chad all day today. So what am I going to do? I just did the workout and Chad was there to hang out

for 15 minutes afterwards. My dog peed in the backyard. Like it was, it all worked out in the end. So, you know, I think that's really important because I think the theme for today is like, you have to figure out what you need and you have to be your cheerleader.

You have to be your supporter. You have to be your advocate for yourself. You have to be that one that says, like you, it's your job to know what you need. But also sometimes that's not an easy thing because you do have to factor in other people. And sometimes the things that you need to do for yourself, it's not an easy thing for other people to accept. Yeah, and I know Laina talked about this concept

of the slow down hour, the power hour, which is like, you know, you take 20 minutes to manage the next day, you take 20 minutes to pamper yourself and then you take 20 minutes to whatever helps you unwind. And I, you know, I love that concept, but for our members who I want them to think, like if it's not a power hour,

maybe you can give yourself a power 30, a slow down 30. Maybe it's 10 minutes instead of 20 minutes. Maybe that's how you start. Maybe if you're setting yourself for the next day, it doesn't take 20 minutes, maybe it takes five minutes and then you can take a little bit longer somewhere else. So I think I love the concept of taking that hour to yourself

but be realistic that maybe it's only 30 minutes for you I think I love the concept of taking that hour to yourself, but be realistic that maybe it's only 30 minutes for you, or maybe sometimes it's only gonna be 20 minutes total. But I think the fact is you wanna set that routine, you wanna set that time aside, make sure that it's an important place for you to be, and that's gonna set you up for those days when you can give it an hour. You'll know that that's an important piece for you,

even if you can't strive for that hour right away. I think, you know, I felt a little bit like an hour, oh my gosh, how am I gonna start an hour right away? Like, what? What? What do you mean? What do you mean? I'm just trying to wipe my face.

So I was just stressing you out. Yeah, fighting the time is stressing you out. I don't have a freaking hour, I don't got time for that. I don't have time for stress release. That shit. Yeah. So maybe. Yeah. Maybe we'll try 30 minutes instead, you know, and maybe that's where it is. I think, I think the real takeaways of the conversations this week around stress and sleep overall are encouraging. You know, I don't think that these conversations are here to be like, well, there's always threats and your sleep is going to be shit.

Like, no, it gets encouraging. There's things that you can do, even if it's not on a grand scale. There's things that you can do to help you make change. And I just wrote this down because I remembered after reading it in the group today, there was a member, her name started with a K and I can't remember if it was Kim or Christie or who it was, but she had said something about, I really focus, now that I'm here in maintenance, I'm really focusing on quality over quantity

when it comes to sleep. So, I think that before we knew how important quality sleep was, we're always, I need eight hours, I need nine hours, I need, if I don't get my solid 9 p.m. to 7 a.m., I'm gonna be a wreck the next day. I think it's just that shift now, and I think now in maintenance, everything is quality, right? Your mindfulness is more quality. The way that you talk to yourself is more quality. The way you believe

in yourself, the way you look at the world, the way you look at other things, it's more quality. You're not looking for the best of everything. You're or sorry, like the most of everything you're looking for that glimmer, that best of things. So I think that this conversations this week, that's what they've been about. They've been about really finding the quality, you know, finding those quality ways to manage your stress, finding those quality ways to really rest and find sleep and that sort of thing. That is encouraging. So you're not striving for more and more.

You're finding you're there for just enough so that you are getting the most of what you need. Quality in everything, the quality of food you choose, the quality of friends you have. It's not about having a whole bunch of friends. It's about having that one friend that you can call and have a really honest conversation with. I think it's, yeah, it's not like I don't need 15 hours of sleep.

I just need like five hours of deep sleep. Yeah, that really hits, Odette, that quality over quantity, I think, in all areas of life. In all areas of life. Yeah. And I think, you know, when you only get those five hours, and maybe you wanted seven, you get those five hours and you wake up, and maybe that's where that approach comes back. You're like, okay, I had five hours. It wasn't the seven I wanted, but they were, you know, a good five hours. And that's how I'm going

to take that's what I'm going to take through the rest of the day. Yeah, I'm going to take that I didn't get that, you know, that much. And I'm going to take that forward. Yeah, love that. All right. What else you want to talk about? I don't have my iPad. So I don't I'm Yeah, that was really it. I wanted to talk about, yeah, just the stress and sleep conversation. You know, we talked a lot about motivation on Monday, and that's also part of this week.

We're gonna talk about it a little bit more. You know, we talked about it today in the group too, and then tomorrow we have a fun post coming out just about motivation. And you know, the magic is in the action. The magic is not in being motivated. The magic is in the action and taking action, even when you don't want to. And it's leaning into those routines

and just getting it done. You know, I think for some people, they maybe are not proactive in their life. They are not the kind of people that speak up. They're not the kind of people who speak up. They're not the kind of people who demand, who maybe even want, who maybe they're just the people that sit back. And that, it occurs to me right now,

that might be uncomfortable for people. If you, one, aren't used to knowing what you want, but even haven't even allowed yourself to want the things that you want or recognize the things that you need, if that's not in your nature, that might feel really uncomfortable for people to make space for that or to find themselves deserving of quality or not an easy thing to do for people.

That just occurred to me. That might be a little bit of a foreign feeling for some people that they're just used to like, it's okay. It is what it is. I'm all right. Everybody else first. No, you go. No, I'm okay. Do you know what I mean? Like that's not an easy thing. Yeah, it's not an easy thing. But I think you know, those patterns can also be rewritten. You know, I think if people have that awareness, I'm not saying you have to have that, you don't have to rewrite your pattern. But if you notice that that is you like, hey, I want to speak up, I want to say something, I don't feel

comfortable that you do have that in you to be able to rewrite that pattern or rewrite that belief. And maybe it'll take time. And maybe you'll never be comfortable with it. And that's okay. But yeah, I mean, if you if that's something that you know, you want to you want to do it's it's there for you. It's it's it's achievable. Yeah, it's your life, you are already what do you want? How do you want to show up when you envision the life of your dreams? What does that look like? What does that feel like? What are the things that you are doing that are getting you one step closer? One of the things that you have still yet to do, you know,

put on that 17 list intention list. 17 list intention list. Yeah, maybe that's like a, you know, if you got 17, maybe we can spread them out. Like, you know. Spread them out. Yeah. Yeah. Nothing is like a bucket list. Yeah, you do you.

I love it. All right, homework for people for the rest of the week. Go, Deb. Homework for people. We're coming into a long weekend here in Canada, and then I know the US coming to a long weekend So I just want people to just you know We've been talking a lot about mindfulness and just continue that mindfulness through the long weekend If you can't get into the nitty-gritty of those four those four steps, just enjoy your long weekend Know that there's nothing just like in way less

There's nothing you can do in a long weekend that you can't come out of on the other side. So just enjoy it, whatever that might be. Take action. If they're not feeling motivated this weekend to do anything much more than lay on their hammock, that's okay, but if they are looking to level it up a little bit more, just take action.

Just start, just get moving. And just a side note that we're not going live on Monday because it is that long weekend. Yeah, it's also my birthday on Monday. What's the date on Monday? 19th. Oh, 19th. Oh yeah. Happy birthday. Yeah. Same birthday Monday. I feel guilty about taking time off for my birthday, but that's just me. So I'm going to just, I'm going to go, yeah. So I'm going to, yeah, that's right, I'm taking the day off. Take the day off, I'm taking the day off. It's not my birthday and I'm taking the day off, so. There you go. That was my excuse was just like, you know, with the team,

it was like, what, everybody's the day off. It's the weekend, like it's a long weekend, everybody gets the day off, so that makes me feel a little bit better about it. Hi, babes. Tony, say hi. Say hi. Where are you? I'm leaning. I was like where is he? Okay go you have a thing at 4 30 everyone I hope tunes into your it's on Instagram you're live right? Yeah I'm gonna go live with the T mamas. That should be fun. We were supposed to be in the pool drinking margaritas,

like whatever they drink here in St. Lucia, but it's been raining every day. So we're gonna make the most of it. So it is what it is. You get what you get, you don't get upset, you make the most of it. And I hope everyone has a great long weekend. I hope everyone enjoys the final segment

with Dr. Lincoln tomorrow. Whether you're in maintenance or weight loss or maintenance, I think it's all really relevant. I hope everyone enjoys the final segment with Dr. Lincoln tomorrow. Whether you're in maintenance or weight loss or maintenance, I think it's all really relevant. We could all use a good refresher and reminder. I know I have kind of dropped the ball on some of my sleep hygiene things. So I'm looking forward to that conversation for all. Thanks, Odette. I'm already looking forward to our conversation next week.

We'll see you then. Bye, everyone. Thanks. Bye. Next week, we'll see that. Bye, everyone. Thanks.