The Livy Method Podcast - Maintenance & Mindfulness: Mindset Mondays - April 28, 2025

Episode Date: April 28, 2025

Maintenance Mindset Mondays is all about cracking open the conversation about what REAL maintenance looks like – beyond the scale and deep into personal transformation. Join Gina and Odette as they dive into the week’s focus, share insights on all things maintenance, and answer your questions. Whether you’re new or experienced, there’s something for everyone!This week on Mindset Mondays, Gina and Odette are focusing on what it really means to solidify your maintenance mindset. Life doesn't stop throwing curveballs just because you've reached your goal weight, and today they’re getting real about showing up for yourself even when the world feels heavy. It's not just about maintaining your weight; it’s about maintaining your growth, your awareness, and your new habits. This journey is bigger than the scale. Tune in, get inspired, and remind yourself why you started.You can find the full video hosted at:https://www.facebook.com/groups/ginalivymaintenanceandmindfulness Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I'm Gina Livi and welcome to the Livi Method Podcast. This is where you'll have access to all of the live streams from my 91 Day Weight Loss program. With a combination of daily lives, guest expert interviews, and member stories, there is something new almost every day. Miss the Morning Live? Want to relisten to one of our amazing guest experts? Well, this is the place.

This podcast is hosted on Acast, but it's available on all podcast platforms, including the one you're listening to right now, Spotify, Apple, and Amazon Music. Welcome to Maintenance Mindset Mondays. We are officially rolling into week one of our maintenance program with the focus on solidifying your maintenance mindset. Joining me as always is Odette, who is the manager of our maintenance program. Hi, Odette. Hello. Hi. How are you today? I'm feeling pretty good. Yeah, me too. Feeling pretty good. You know, there's a lot of stuff going on right now in the world and we know

that this is can be an emotionally charged time for a lot of our members. You know, we have a lot going on in our own country of Canada, but there's stuff going on everywhere. So we just want members to be able to acknowledge their feelings and how they're feeling and, you know, where they are now in their maintenance journey is also still important, even though it might seem trivial with everything else going on. We just want them to know they can validate their feelings.

We respect their feelings, but, you know, they can come here and they can still care about themselves at the same time. Yeah, so Odette and I were talking to this behind the scenes because although we want the weight loss program and the maintenance program to be this place that you can come in and focus specifically on that, the conversation in maintenance is a little different because now you've lost your weight,

you're at your goal weight, you're looking to maintain that. And part of that is sort of going through the whole year of being challenged with birthdays and holidays and vacays and, you know, emotional days, anniversaries of good things, bad things, all of that. And it's it's about not falling back into old habits, not falling back into old patterns. And my goodness, life has a way of challenging us. For example,

today is a big election day here in Canada, there's a lot going on in terms of politics. We like to stay out of politics, we like to stay out of things in general. We like to stay in our lane. But I think days like this that are more emotionally charged, there's a horrific thing that happened in Vancouver, actually, I was out golfing and I didn't even, wasn't even aware and I was posting on Instagram about the last day to sign up yesterday. And then I was like, what? I saw someone post something and I was like, this is horrible, what is this? And you know, the life goes on, the world continues to roll and we're faced with these, you know,

times in our lives where not only weight loss, but just focusing on your weight, trying to maintain it in general can seem so insignificant compared to what you got going on in your life. But you also worked really hard to lose your weight in a healthy way physically and mentally. And now this is like this is bigger than just maintaining your weight. It's understanding who you are now and having that sense of awareness to help support yourself in times of need and how to cope in a way that isn't setting you back into old habits and old patterns. It's having a hard day and not drinking a bottle of wine and chips.

It's maybe going for a walk, calling a friend, trying to trying to do things in a new way that supports your new lifestyle. So I think we'd be remiss not to talk about current events and how they factor into. But at the same time we have people who are, you know, joining us from literally all over the world. So you know, we can't get into every little thing. So just using what's happening in our own backyard as an example, that stuff is going to come up, that's going to throw you off,

set you back, all those things. And you just, you got to keep showing up. You got to keep moving forward, putting one foot in front of the other. And it's a big part of what we are learning to do here. What you are learning, the skills you are acquiring and the tools you're putting in your toolbox, why you are losing, we know help you in maintenance. So the tools and the skills that you're requiring in maintenance are going to help you get to that place where you just live your life. Wake up, look good,

feel good, go about your day, making good choices, learning to trust all of that and whatnot. Yeah. And I think this is a great, like you said, it's an easy example of our own backyard and our members might not even understand why they're feeling the way they're feeling. I know we've talked about this before, like, oh, what's going on with me today? Why do I feel this way? Why am I feeling like not quite like myself?

And I think it's, you know, just to bring that awareness is such a big step that they've already taken and using this or anything that comes up for them as a reminder that they have come so far. They have, you know, they do have that self-awareness and it's okay to, you know, have off days and be able to move on.

Yeah, well, that's part of like week one, the focus for this week, if we're in the weight loss program, it's fine tuning and adjusting that basic food plan. You already got that down. This week is about solidifying your maintenance mindset and what exactly does that mean? So where are people at with week one this week? What's the conversation here?

So so far, I mean, it's still early into week one, but so far coming into today, there is an immense sense of pride with our members. So our members are feeling very proud of themselves. They've had they've mentioned a few different ways. So they've said that they're proud of themselves for doing something new and uncomfortable. So taking the leap into the maintenance program, leaving their weight loss journey behind them, leaving the weight loss group behind them. And they're proud that they have taken that leap and would forward and trusted themselves in that. They're feeling proud of the self-awareness that they already have. You know, we talk about your self awareness is going to keep growing now that you're in

the maintenance program. But just being aware already that, you know, I know that I did this on the weekend and that's okay because I it made me feel this way. I'm able to move on from that. I know that I have the tools to bring myself back to feeling my best, just having that self awareness. And then also not having self awareness just around food and what they did on the, you know, what they maybe ate on the weekends, but self awareness and knowing like, Oh, my sleep really suffered this weekend. So I need to, you know, put more time into that. Or, you know, I'm feeling a bit more stressed out. I need to be able to manage it a bit better, better, that self awareness versus just sitting there like, I don't feel well today, I'm just going to do what's most comfortable. So I think,

you know, an immense sense of, of pride in themselves for being where they are at right now. I love that. I mean, the maintenance program is different, right? You're in a different place, you're in a different space, the focus is completely different. I love that sense of awareness part because it's about being intentional. It's about being intentional with this program. In the weight loss program, it's so much easier

because your goal is to reach your goal weight. And what is your goal here in the maintenance program? You have to kind of be even more intentional about it because that is so personal, right? Your goal is to solidify your weight physically, give your body time to adjust to your new weight. It's also to dig deeper, level up even more. And it's also to solidify that maintenance mindset

where you are no longer a person chasing the scale every day, right? And then you're not done yet. Even when you make it through maintenance, then you have to like, you know, then it's a matter of like, do you trust yourself to be able to just live your life and make good choices and continue to be mindful in all of those things, right?

So it's really about being intentional with this program and process. So it's a great, great idea at the beginning of each week and just remind yourself of why you're here, right? And to be as all in as possible and to understand as much of it as it sucks. Your work isn't done, but you work so hard to lose that weight. Now we want to work hard to be able to maintain

and sustain it. Okay, so what exactly does solidifying your maintenance mindset mean? Can you just like clarify that for the members? Yeah, yeah, I think, you know, there's a lot of change happening as you know, you're changing programs, you're changing the way that we were changing the conversation a little bit here.

So when we're talking about, we're talking about solidifying that maintenance mindset, it's really about embracing that change and having normalizing different expectations. So you can't expect the same things to happen. So yes, we're following that basic food plan, we're staying hydrated, we're talking sleep. We're talking stress, all of these things that are familiar, but you have to have different expectations here. And you have to understand that the same things that happened during your weight loss journey are not going to happen here. And let's take the example of the scale for instance. The expectation when you were on your weight loss journey was that you were there. You were expecting the scale to move.

You were expecting to see that number go down. And when we look at maintenance, you can't expect to see that lowest low every day. That's an expectation that is going to get you down every single time. So it's really about shifting, what are my expectations now? What am I really trying to accomplish now? When you think of the number on the scale, that's old diet dialogue that's starting to come back. You need to maintain. So say your lowest low is 140.

I need to maintain that 140. And if I don't maintain that 140, regardless of how amazing I feel, regardless of all of the amazing things I'm doing to myself, for myself, because that expectation is I need to see 140 on the scale, you'm doing to myself, for myself, because that expectation is, I need to see 140 on the scale, you're going to forget everything else.

So I think it's really shifting that, that, you know, your expectations need to change a little bit and normalizing that things are not going to be the same. Well, it's important again to mention that your set point isn't one number, it's a range. And it can be like three to five pounds for someone or upwards of 10 pounds.

My range, my maintenance range, my set point range was 120 to 130. Times in my life I'm on the lower end, times in my life I'm on the higher end. And really understanding that that is totally normal. And I think people are thinking that they hit that lowest low and that's where they're gonna stay. But think about all the things that you were doing,

maximizing in this, managing your stress, in your sleep, in moving your body, constantly to see and achieve that lowest low. Now there is nothing wrong with expecting to see that lowest low if you are doing the things day in, day out to see that lowest low lowest low most people when they're just back to living their life even when they're doing the maintenance program aren't trying to put that kind of time and energy

into seeing a low low they just want to maintain looking good and feeling good. We've had a lot of people who are like I've been able to maintain my weight easily but I don't feel as good as I felt while losing because they were taking those extra steps to move their body more to manage their stress to get better sleep because they were chasing a number on the scale. And so if you want to see your lowest low, I don't think there's anything wrong with that, but there are certain things you need to do to maintain seeing that number. And if you're, and if you're maintaining and you're not maximizing,

because that's not the intention, chasing that number anymore, chances are you're gonna see that range fluctuate between three to five pounds. On top of the regular fluctuations that you're always gonna see, temperature rises, you're hot, your weight will go up, didn't get a good night's sleep, your weight will go up,

didn't drink water, your weight will go up, you had a hard workout, muscles are sore, weight will go up. None of it, again again is real weight gain. It's not real weight gain and weight loss, it's not real weight gain and maintenance, but you're right. What are those expectations on the scale, right? So I think that's really, really important.

Here's Lori, I'm 61 and I've reached my goal weight, but I still have a round belly. I have colitis and yes, menopause. Is there anything I can do to reduce that? Well, when you lose weight in layers with the weight loss program, you're losing it in layers. So if you store it more in your belly, it might take you a while until your body gets around

to that belly fat in that area. So this could be a situation where you need to lose a bit more weight. It could also be, like you said, inflammation, menopause, because you could have someone who have lost their weight doing our weight loss program and they're 40, now they're 45 or whatever, and or, you know, now they're really in the thick

of perimenopause or menopause. And that is where, you know, you might wanna look to increase your muscle mass, because when your body's breaking down your foods, what's happening if you don't have that muscle mass is yes, the glycogen is being stored in your liver, in your muscle and in your fat. If you don't have that muscle there, then more of it gets stored in your fat, especially around that midsection. That also has to do with the lack of sleep that's happening, your high cortisol levels with stress, right? What's happening hormonally.

happening, your high cortisol levels with stress, right? What's happening hormonally. And so there are things that you can do there to obviously get better sleep, manage your stress better, build muscle in your body. So it's not always about losing more weights, right? So maybe it is, maybe you just not done your weight loss journey and your body still, that's just where the fat is. And it's yet to come off in that area because you're losing it everywhere else and that's where you stored more or maybe this is where you want to look into doing some weight training actually building that muscle or you know put a little bit more emphasis on that sleep on managing your stress there's also supplements that you can take by bumping up your omega-3s adding some creatine in there like there are some

things that you can do as well, right? So, and of course, like any ab exercises. So maybe it's just a matter of your muscles that are toned. So this falls in line perfectly with that conversation of expectations. Now, if you're not chasing that number on the scale anymore, maybe this is what kind of improvements am I looking to make in maintenance? Colitis, for example, taking probiotics, prebiotics, digestive bitters, anything that you can do

to strengthen that, that digest microbiome in your digestive system. Maybe this is where, you know, you, you're still eating some gluten, you're still eating dairy where, you know, minimizing those types of foods, even though you're able to lose the weight, maybe that is attributing to also inflammation in your body, right? So just figuring out what specifically are the things that you need to focus on now in the maintenance program. So yeah, I love the point you made about building muscle because we talk about this in the weight loss program, how your body shifts and changes. And I think when you know, when we get to maintenance, we talk about getting stronger and we talk about, you know, putting muscle mass on, but,

you know, your body is still changing physically. Like maybe oftentimes this is such an important thing that we don't talk about is our posture. And sometimes when we are feeling a little bit weaker, our posture could be off giving, not saying that she doesn't have weight around the belly, but like, you know, making that belly look like it's a bit rounder, you know, or making you feel like it's a bit rounder. So putting on, you know, a bit of strength and working on posture, and like you said, getting that core nice and strong, you know, that could also help with what is really going on there. So I think exactly what you said, figuring out exactly what is happening with you as an individual and taking and thinking about all the little things together. Maybe

it is there's a little bit of, you know, weight there that's to be left to be able to lose. Maybe it is getting stronger. Maybe it is, you said, like you said, looking into inflammation and all of that, I think really just getting personalized with it and having, like you said again, you know, knowing that having different expectations, but also having a real realization for what's going on with her specifically. Yeah, so recognize where you are at and what you need. Let's move along to the food plan

because people are following that food plan again. And we introduced obviously prep week just to get people back on track with that basic food plan. And then now we are of course continuing that into week one of the program. So how are people feeling about that? Are they having any questions, having any issues with that?

Yeah, so first I wanna just talk to everybody in the group. We have this maintenance program and it's here for our members to be following to solidify. But we also know we have members that are beyond that who have moved on from them from the solidifying conversation, who are out there personalizing the plan a little bit. So I think those members need to be really intentional with where they are and understanding the information that's coming out. So we had someone say today, a member asked today, her name is Alissandra,

she said, after morning workout, is it okay to add a little cottage cheese to my fruit snack? And what we want to say here is if you are doing the maintenance program, you are solidifying, you are following that basic food plan. So you want to at this point, we're having fruit on its own in the morning. You are following the food plan exactly as laid out, familiar place for the body to be, familiar routine for you. So that's the simple answer to that. If you're following the maintenance program, you're here, you're solidifying, you know, whether it's your first round of the maintenance program or the second round, you still had some more solidifying to do physically and mentally, you're following the food plan as laid out. Now for those members that are beyond that, because they are here as well, and they are personalizing the food plan,

this is where it is really time to lean into what your body is asking for, what you're needing, asking yourself those four questions every time you go for a meal or a snack and knowing what your body needs and how you're going to react. So for the sake of the maintenance program, yes, it's basic a food plan. This is where we're at this week.

Just wanted to keep it clear. Don't fuck around with it. No, don't. Don't do your own thing. Just like there was a rhyme and a reason to following the the tweaks each week, including starting with that basic food plan, the weight loss program equally important in the maintenance program. It's all about routine. We talked about routine, the importance of body loves routine routine is the foundation of change. Again, we're always thinking bigger picture. This is beyond you being in maintenance. This is now you we're assuming that you're going to solidify your

weight, you're going to go live your life. Whenever you do find yourself indulging that back on track will be very effective for you because it'll be very familiar. So we're working on solidifying that right now. Again, and creating that baseline that foundation of the maintenance program. So don't go doing don't't get caught in between. You're either personalizing the plan, in which of course you can add protein and fat to your food or whatnot. And if you need a refresher on personalizing the plan, you can go back and get a refresher on that.

Or you were doing around the maintenance program in order to solidify your weight. What you don't wanna do is do something in between that isn't really doing anything about anything. Because the personalizing the plan is really about getting you to a place as well. You have to be intentional about that. If you are someone who's personalized in the plan and your maintenance, when are you getting to the place where you feel like you are confident to wake

up, look good, feel good and not follow any plan? Right? Like I love the maintenance program because there's a start date, there's an end date. And then beyond that, if you kind of want to test the waters, you've done run round of the maintenance program, you're moving on to personalizing the plan. Eventually, there has to be a point where you are living the liby way and no longer following a plan where if you do a hard workout, you think, okay, I just need some fruit right now to quickly pick up my energy levels. Or I feel like fruit and some nut butter or fruit and some cheese or fruit and some nuts, something with that protein and fat to give it more oomph. This is where you should be asking yourself, what do I need right now? Right? Maybe one day it's fruit, maybe the next day it's yogurt, right? Maybe the next day it's leftovers from the night before. So, so where are you in your maintenance journey?

Are you solidifying your weight with a maintenance program? Are you personalized the plan because you're beyond that? And then, or are you just getting to the point where you are living your life, the, you know, the livy way for lack of a better term? So that's really important to know where you're at. Yeah, I think that's the point that we wanted to make because I think, you know, when we're seeing,

when we're seeing all we're seeing questions Come in we don't meant we don't want members to think You know Oh, I have to be doing this or I have to be doing that you you have to know what you should be doing Based on where you're at and only you can decide that you so I just wanted to be clear with that So yes, if you're following the food plan, sorry if you're following the maintenance program We're doing the basic food plan this week And not only is it amazing routine and a comfortable place for your body, but it's a comfortable place for you too. When we talk about, you know, understanding

different expectations and changes happening, if you have, if you're feeling like you're not quite comfortable yet with this whole maintenance program, maintenance journey, following this food plan is going to give you the capacity to be able to put your energy and your thoughts somewhere else, because the food plan is there for you. It's there, it's comfortable, it's easy. You know what you're doing day in and day out. You're asking those questions, but you have capacity to think about some other things

because you're not thinking about, you know, having to make everything so personalized at this point. Yeah, and I think we should clarify for some of our new members who are doing our maintenance program is that this is a support group for everyone, regardless of what stage they are in. So we are rolling out the information on a daily basis relevant to obviously the maintenance

program. So today is day eight, we have started week one of the maintenance program, but we have people in the support group who have been in maintenance for years and years and years. And every now and then they will pop in, engage, be part of the conversation and whatnot. So this is a place for everybody, which is why again, it's important for you to know what you are focused on and what you are here for.

I see someone talking about this comment from Joe, if truly not hungry for one of the snacks, should we do the four token bites, three to five, to stick to our routine or is it okay to listen to our bodies and skip the snack? Again, this is another one. If you are following the maintenance program, you're following what is outlined

in the guidelines each week. If you are personalized in the plan, I would love to get rid of the verbiage of skip the snack and then just listen to my body and choose not to have a snack. Right. So you would still want to have those token amounts. If you're following the maintenance program, you're eating all the meals and snacks, you're making them nutrient rich, you're focused on eating enough to feel satisfied when you walk away 10, 15 minutes later, if you are not hungry, you are still having that token amount, which is those three to five bites.

If you are personalized in the plan, then you can be more in tune with what you feel like in the moment. Right? So again, just another example of being clear, but let's take this and be intentional about the language that we're using, right? You're not choosing to, if you're personalized in the plan, you're not choosing to skip a meal or a snack. You are choosing to not have that snack because, right?

You are not hungry and don't need it. Or maybe you do are choosing to have it because you should eat it. Because if you don't actually make time to eat that snack right now, you're still running the risk of going way too long without eating, right? Or could eat it, you know?

So those same rules apply when it comes to personalizing the plan. Check in and assess your situation, but let's be mindful of the verbiage. Something to think about, right? As we really transition from being a weight loss person to a maintenance person to living our lives, we're not talking about things like skipping snacks or, you know, all that. We're just living our life and being in tune to our body's needs. So I love that. Yeah, and I think this goes into the next point too, that I wanted to touch on is, you know, we are introducing bonus snacks this week

and how you can fit those in if you need them. And we had a few comments about it being counterproductive. And this I think also plays into the token bite. I know, that's why we had to bring it up. We had to bring it up. That like, why am I adding in more food if I'm not hungry? Isn't that counterproductive if I'm not hungry? So I really want to make sure that we touch on this and get this explained for everybody. Sometimes we lose our money.

And for those of us listening and not watching, I'm sorry you're missing this. Yes, I have a very visceral reaction to that. First of all, if you don't need the bonus snacks, you don't need the bonus snacks, right? So just like in the weight loss program, if you don't need them, you don't need them. So if you're not hungry for them, you wouldn't need to actually add them in in the first place. Oh, and it's going back to that old diet mentality that good whole whole nutrient rich foods makes you

fat and causes you to gain weight and nothing that you're eating on the program while following the maintenance program is going to cause you to gain weight and it's not counterproductive to eat more if you need more. It is counterproductive to eat less if you feel like you if you need more. Again, reminding you the first few weeks the pro give the body what it needs. People get stuck on portion sizes and what you, again, what you were eating, not on what you need now. And this is a big mistake that people make as they continue to do subsequent rounds of the weight loss program,

let alone you get into maintenance. So it's a different season. Let's say you, this is your first maintenance program. You lost weight with us in the winter time. It was a different season. The days were shorter. Now the days are getting longer. You know, we are inside our bodies were on hibernation mode. Maybe now of a sudden with the nicer weather, you're going out for walks, you're being more active.

Your body is naturally increasing your metabolism this time of year as it pulls you out of that hibernation mode. Maybe you are being more active. Now you're going for walks. Maybe you're doing resistance chaining. So you're increasing your energy output. So your body's asking for more. Like this is where you wanna be in tune with that. While portion sizes always, always, always, and forever will be what they feel like and never about what they look like.

So just like someone who's losing weight, if you are doing the maintenance program and you feel like you need more food because what someone needs when they wake up at five o'clock in the morning and goes all day might be different than someone who wakes up at nine o'clock in the morning and goes all day. What someone would need if their job is very active, shoveling, moving, digging, like I don't, I'm trying to think of the active types of job where it's a physical job might be a lot different than someone just sitting at their desk. What

someone might need to stay up 24 hours to work a 24 hour shift as opposed to a person who got up at nine o'clock and is going to bed at 10 o'clock would need completely different. So do not be afraid to add in bonus. The mentality that more food makes you gain weight is just we want that's that maintenance mindset. You really that's that old diet shit creeping back in. Right.

You're not going to gain weight during the weight loss program. You're not going to gain weight doing the maintenance program. You're not. It's so hard to actually take the foods that you're eating and convert them into fat. So no, it is not counterproductive. It may be exactly what you need. you're eating and convert them into fat. So no, it is not counterproductive. It may be exactly what you need. If you, given your body everything that it needs

while losing weight, now you're in maintenance, you call back into old diet mentality, you start eating less and restricting and holding back. That's just gonna undo all the hard work that you did in the first place. Yeah, and I think this is a big part of, yeah, it's a big part of your expectations as well, and that you need to expect that your energy is going to change day to day, that your needs

are going to change from day to day. You know, like if you woke up at nine o'clock today and you needed a certain amount of food and then you wake up at nine o'clock tomorrow and you need more or less, that's still normal. That's still part of, you know, still part of what you need. That's an expectation you have to understand and accept. We did talk about this a lot when they were on their weight loss journey, but that continues here as well. Those expectations need to shift and change.

Yeah, which all great questions and concerns. And I do want to say this, reach out. Don't go one day wondering or like, I'm not sure or whatever, like, just in the weight, like in the weight loss program, we have a team of people here to answer any questions you got any questions, you're unsure about anything, reach out and let us know these are all really great questions. Finally, we want to talk about self sabotage because people even though they've lost their weight can sabotage

themselves and maintenance for so many reasons. One is that trust that fear that like, oh, there's so many thoughts and feels and emotions evolved in maintenance, you think that you've lost your weight and you've arrived in maintenance. And then you realize it's a whole other can of worms. It's a whole other beast, it comes up with a whole other set of issues and associations and beliefs and all my goodness, all of that. So before we go, we have a couple of minutes. What do you want to say about self-sabotage? What do people need to keep in mind? I think that what I want to be able to keep in mind is self-sabotage can come from a place of fear. And the post really lays it out in front for people. And it's just it's a fear of the unknown. What happens if what happens when I get there?

Is it what's it going to be like for me? And it's just, it's a fear of the unknown. What happens when I get there? What's it going to be like for me? What happens if I don't ever have to be a dieter again? That's uncomfortable. What happens if I have to keep promises to myself that I've been making but not keeping for so many years, and now I have to keep that promise? Now that I've lost my weight,

I said I was going to do these things. I said I was going to go on that trip. I was going to do these things. I said I was going to, you know, go on that trip, I was going to whatever it might be, you know, now you have to keep those promises to yourself that can feel uncomfortable. It's that fear of what's going to change in my life if I'm successful? Are my relationships going to change? Am I never going to be able to have foods that I, you know, had felt were comforting before? Am I having to give up all of that? So I think there's a lot of fear tied to that,

and you're almost talking yourself out of being successful. It can also be this, so fear tied to self-sabotage, but could also be this place of being tired. I'm tired of this journey. I'm tired of having to do the work. I deserve to take a break and step back. I don't want to keep doing this. You know, let me have, let me have a small break now and then I'll get back to it later on. You know, and we all know how that can go when

you get comfortable in that small break. So I think self-sabotage can creep up. I think it's not just about, um, you know, like those places in maintenance where, sorry, in weight loss where you're like, oh, I'm eating all the time. I'm self-sabotaging myself. I'm letting myself snack after dinner. I'm self-sabotaging myself. It goes a little bit deeper than that. It goes a little bit further.

Some of those same issues can come up, but they could be rooted in different areas. Especially doubt, right? Like I did think anyone was going to sign up for my next weight loss program. Like we've done 25 programs. It's amazing. It works. Like we have the best community, the best team, all these amazing experts. It's so much more than me. It's so egotistical. It's not about me anymore. And I love that. But I, you know, doubting like, oh my God, am I doing the right thing is anyone going to sign up again and of course they did but that's like there was proof in the pudding

it works there's science behind a great team great guest the best community on the planet proof is in the pudding and yet here I am on a down day oh my god everyone hates me this is not going to work no one's going to sign up again So that's just I think human nature in anything that you do So I think the doubts were normal along the way just recognize don't like set everything on fire because you have a doubty day You know, I mean don't be like fuck it. I'm not doing it. I'm shutting everything down I'm moving away and I'm doing this gonna hide in a cave for the rest of my life Like don't set everything on fire allow yourself to have those doubts and then say to yourself What is this about and this is where dr. Beverly David right is this behavior is this my thoughts is my feelings

This is something physical. Let me name this what what is going on here? You know, I had it's interesting I had a kid the other day She was just down. I was like, let's talk it out. What do you think it is? And it's coming up to two years since her dad passed away. And this is sort of where everything started because he was in the hospital for about a month leading up. And so this is like, everyone has that when it started

and what they did and didn't do and what happened and all of that. And she's like, oh, I think this is when, because once we broke it down, well, her job is great and school is going well and she's, you know, all these things. And she was like, oh, I think this is, it's starting to think of dad,

this was the time when he went into the hospital and this is when it all started. And then we're like, okay. And then you could see as soon as she recognized like, oh, that's of course, then she was like, it just freed her mind. And so I guess this is rounding out the conversation we started with today, sometimes there's things going on in our lives, and we don't see the big picture of how we're being affected by, by the vote today,

or by you know, what's happening. And you know, atrocities in the world are really more personal than that what's going on in our lives, right. And so, so you know, all the atrocities in the world are really more personal than that, what's going on in our lives, right? And so, so, you know, show yourself some grace. And if you're thinking of quitting, sometimes you need to allow yourself to say, okay, so what if I just say fuck all of it, then what? Sometimes you need that permission or be able to take a step back. I could say to you, what are you going to quit showing up for yourself yourself, eating healthy foods, sleeping, working out, what are you gonna quit? All those things are gonna help you live your best life.

But sometimes we just need a fuck it mental break from all of it and being like, fuck this, I don't wanna think about anything, right? So, yeah. I think that's so valuable, taking that minute to think about it and then taking a minute to think, what if I do quit? Like, what if you hadn't done the next round

of the Libby Method, because you're like, no one's gonna sign up, I'm not doing a spring group. And then these tens of thousands of people that are here now, you know, beyond that day, that, you know, look what happened. Imagine you said, oh, forget it, I'm not going to do it. And talking talking about your daughter there this time last year, so I was also moving my son home last year from school. And this weekend, and I've shared before he got really sick last summer, and he's doing great now he's in remission and we're holding steady. But this

weekend, we went and cleaned out his apartment to bring him back for the summer break again. And I said, what if we just leave him here for the summer? What if we just let him stay here for the summer? You know, we don't have him home. Then we don't have to remember how last summer went. We're not waiting for that shoe to drop. And he's already been home for a few days

before we cleaned out his apartment. And I thought we've had four, I mean, he's been driving me mental, but we've had four amazing days, five amazing days already of him being home. And that what if I just don't face it? What if I just don't go there? We don't know what the summer is going to hold. We want to keep that division. You know, I wouldn't have already had that death. What if we encouraged him to stay away this summer and live his life in another town instead of having him home and reliving all those memories again? And then you miss out on what could be or what you've already had.

So I think that's such an important point that don't let that fear of the unknown or don't let that fear of past experience keep you from being able to feel what is waiting there and what it can be so good, you know, just around the corner. I love that because they're trying to control the outcome rather than understand there could be something better. And

so your thoughts and your feels are being are valid. And what are they about? What are they about? Yeah. All right. Excellent. So I'm going to be back tomorrow morning going live again this week on Tuesday and Thursday. And then you and I are going to be back on Wednesday for our midweek check-in. What is the homework for people this week? Yeah. For this week, I want everyone to read that self-sabotage post.

It's laid out there for everyone. And we've had people read it and be like, oh, I don't see myself in any of this. That's okay. If you don't see yourself in any of it right now, maybe it's planting a seed in the back of your head. So if it does come up later on, it's there. So just take a few minutes, read that post here. It's stored in the guides. You can read it there easily. The other thing I want people to do is think about their expectations. What do they expect over the next couple of weeks? What do they expect maybe over the course of this week? What do they expect over the course of the next couple of weeks? And maybe what do they expect from this whole program? And if the expectation

is to always see that 140 on the scale, that's just the number I used at the beginning, maybe that's where we need to do a bit more self-reflection and think beyond that. I'm not just maintaining that number on the scale. My expectation for this program is to fill in the blank. I love it. I wanna say thanks to all of our members joining us live. I've kept an eye on all of your comments. Like Sean, I was talking about, I threw a wrench.

I threw myself a wrench though, with a bit of an enormous self-sabotage over the last few weeks. I'm okay though in grounding myself with the intention of self-care of this past program. Joe and Tracy and Lori and everyone else who joined us, thank you for joining us live.

Thank you, Odette, for another great conversation. I'm excited. I'm excited too. Yeah. I hope with the next few weeks and months we're going to bring, we're going to continue this conversation. Join me on Tuesday, Odette and I back on Wednesday, and then again on Thursday.

Have a fabulous week, everyone, and we'll see you then. Bye. Bye. Bye. Bye.