The Livy Method Podcast - Maintenance & Mindfulness: Mindset Mondays - June 2, 2025

Episode Date: June 2, 2025

Maintenance Mindset Mondays is all about cracking open the conversation about what REAL maintenance looks like – beyond the scale and deep into personal transformation. Join Gina and Odette as they dive into the week’s focus, share insights on all things maintenance, and answer your questions. Whether you’re new or experienced, there’s something for everyone!In this episode, Gina and Odette hold nothing back as they explore what it really means to show up during this stretch of the Maintenance Program. From embracing the discomfort of downsizing to confronting the mental patterns that keep us stuck, it’s a raw and empowering check-in. Gina calls out the temptation to coast and reminds listeners: you didn’t come this far to half-ass it now. Whether you skipped downsizing earlier or you’re wrestling with the pull of your lowest low, this conversation is your push to dig deeper, reconnect to your why, and level up—one mindful bite at a time.You can find the full video hosted at:https://www.facebook.com/groups/ginalivymaintenanceandmindfulnessTo learn more about The Livy Method and our Maintenance & Mindfulness group, visit livymethod.com. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Hi Odette, how are you? I'm good, how are you? Good. I'm excited for this one. I'm excited for week six. Yeah, I like week six around here. And I like where our members are at right now. I was gonna say, let's get excited.

You fucking lost your weight. So you're here in maintenance. You're doing the work to help you get to a place where you're just gonna live your life. Like you are so close. You can taste it. Don't fuck it up. Don't fuck it up.

Dig deep, level up. Let's go. If you're just kind of showing up being like, la dee da dee da dee da, come on. You owe yourself more than that. Reflect on all the years you put into this. You finally have done it like show up like you've done it go and i and i love this place where we are doing downsizing again like we did

it a couple weeks ago and some people did it i think and some may have been like i don't think i need to i might be past that already you know and then we get to this week and you know we've been saying over the last couple weeks, the tweak is not just the tweak. And I think our members are really starting to listen. So we're not, you know, if you feel like you are already in your belly, if you are already super in tune with your portions and what your body needs, it doesn't mean that you don't have to do downsizing because downsizing can bring up so much more. So I think members are realizing that. And I think they're coming back around in like, okay, I didn't do it a couple weeks ago, but I'm going to do it this week. And

I'm going to figure out what it means to me to downsize. Like, what does that mean? Is it just, you know, getting back into your belly or is it really about feeling why maybe you are avoiding it? You know, maybe it's like thinking about that or thinking about like, it's bringing stuff up, but I'm good, I'm in my belly, so I don't need to go there. So I think it's, members that didn't give it a real fair shot a couple of weeks ago, I think are back and giving it a real shot

and digging a little deeper. Yeah, practice, practice, practice, practice. You wanna know when you're hungry, when you've had enough versus satisfied versus slightly unsatisfied. You don't want to have to ask those four mindful eating questions for the rest of your life. You want to just know it intuitively, instinctually, right? And there's always more to learn. There's always a deeper level to go. There's always layers to unravel. And so that's

what this is about. And if you're not doing it, why are you not doing it? Right? Like, I'm all for coasting great, you've earned it. But like, come on, you're so close. Let's like get into this. Here's Kim. Okay, I'm coming clean. I feel like I'm a bit off the rails lately, my mindset has been off of that chasing my lowest low, but I'm pretty sure that is not the purpose of maintenance. All the fields are coming up. Any words of wisdom to get my focus back

on the bigger picture? Yeah, take a hot second and recognize where you're at and what you need and where you wanna go and what you wanna get out of this. Don't you wanna fucking be done already with this weight loss journey? Don't you wanna be just living your life and you're caught in between the losing and the living?

And so what does this mean for you? Right? What does this mean for you? This is that last push, that final solidifying, not just of your weight physically, but of your mind, like how much deeper can you go? How much more can you level up? Make it more than just about maintaining your weight at the end of the day, right?

And if you wanna go back for more and chase more, go back for more. Like if you want to go and see your lowest low, if you wanna lose more weight like that, that's up to you. Also, we've said this a lot where people are okay in maintenance, but they don't feel as good as they felt when they were chasing their lowest low because you were probably more motivated

to mind your stress, move your body, right? Try to get better sleep and all that led to you feeling a million times better probably. So what is your why for showing up? What is your why for focusing back on the bigger picture? You know, that's where I would start. That's where I would start. Oh, dad. Yeah, I would start there too. And I would start, I would also think about, um, you can't rewrite your history. Like you can't rewrite that

you were always chasing that lowest low. Like that history has happened. That's your past. But what you can work towards now is chasing what's ahead of you. You know, chasing the story, the chapter, what is still to come. Like, we don't want to be defined like, oh, my, you know, this was my past diatrama. This is what I have. This is what I'm carrying through. This is where I am now. But this can that can stop now. Like that can that was in the past that happened to you. You honored it. you are aware of it. But now, what do you want to rewrite? Like where where do you want to what do you want the

next part of your life? What do you want that history to be with around your weight and how successful you've been and where you've come from and where you're going now? So yeah, you have that diet history that shaped you but don't let that chasing the lowest low and having that define you stop you from rewriting that next chapter, that next part of your history. I think you can define how do you want that next part to be? If you were to say, you know, the last 30 years have been this, 20 years from now, what do you want to say the last 20 years have been? You know, I think when it comes to your mindset around your diet history and your diet trauma, it doesn't have to be that. Here's Rhonda. I felt so much better losing weight. I woke up elated, knowing I stuck to the plan and feeling good with my food choices. Now I'm not feeling as good probably because I'm eating too

much and making the wrong choices or just different choices, right? There's no right or wrong. But yeah, and this will happen in different seasons of your life and different seasons of the year. I just came off a sprint where I was feeling pretty good and started eating the chippies here and the little bites of bits here and then eating at night and I just didn't feel good. So I'm like, okay, enough. Like I don't like I don't feel good when I eat those foods. So now I've made the commitment to until a certain date that I have in mind, I'm not going to eat those chips and processed foods. I feel really good when I stick to whole nutrient rich foods. And it's taking my body a while to recover from any of those indulgences, which quite frankly, don't do anything for me anymore. Like I just don't want it. But here I am, maintain my weight

for the most part for 30 years. I help other people lose weight and I just came to this realization like yesterday. Right? So this is sort of something that's gonna be ongoing where you're like, you make certain choices during certain times of your life. And then when you've had enough of yourself

and you're like, okay, honey, like get your shit together. Let's go check yourself before you're like, okay, honey, like get your shit together. Let's go check yourself before you wreck yourself, right? That's where you got to step in there and be like, okay, you know, I got to, I got to get my shit together. Here's, here's one from Bev. Looked back over my weight entries over the past year and it was fairly steady straight line. This is great collecting that data. I love it. I'm able to recognize when stressors occurred. I managed to check myself before I wreck myself and use the lessons I learned to help me. This is life, right? And so don't know how to use those lessons until you need to use the lessons. That's sort of the thing. Here's another one from Wendy.

Returned from a long vacation that I thought would stress me out. Got a walk in most days, mindful of portions and good choices. Absolutely shocked when I stood on the scale in almost six weeks and have only gained two pounds. How are you shocked? I'm not shocked. That's amazing. You said you made the choices. You were mindful.

You got out for walks. You did the work. You did the work, right? I think this is a real testament of solidifying that it takes time. It takes experiences. It takes living life and going through all of these firsts that are going to help you build that confidence and that trust. Like they were shocked, they were surprised.

Like, oh, because they didn't believe in that in themselves before, maybe. They didn't have that trust before. And now as they're going through, having these experiences, living life and learning, and you know, these experiences where I love that these two members are looking at these experiences as positive outcomes and they're not looking at it like, you know, I was stressed, I did fail on my

vacation, or I did do these things that were, you know, not really aligned with where I was. But that's okay. I can pull myself out of that. That doesn't need to be who I am and where I stay now. I don't have to, you know, belittle myself because I'm not I'm not, you know, learning as quickly as I want to learn or picking things up as quickly as I want to. So I love I love this for them. I love that they are just reinforcing that it does take this time in the maintenance program in life, just go through the

experiences, learn, grow, adjust. I think that's what it's really all about. Absolutely. Let's get into talking about downsizing this week specifically, because I hear Mary, I plan a goal for this week. I will throw out food at seven meals. When done, just threw out a few bites of strawberries. It's not hard for me to serve less or to save later, but not finishing the plate or throwing it out hurts my soul. I know you wanted to talk about how downsizing

can be uncomfortable, not just the physical unsatisfaction but what comes up for you. And maybe this is a way that you can structure leaving food on the plate differently in your mind or you can actually just take those small amount of leftovers, incorporate them into your next day's meal or snacks, right? So there is that

way if you don't like to waste food, then you can figure out how to, you know, incorporate any leftovers into your upcoming meals and snacks. And, you know, I love that you are challenging yourself with this and not just portioning out less, because if you're at a restaurant, you can't, you have, there's so many times where you're not in control of portioning out less. You can't, you have, there's so many times where you're not in control of portioning out less. What you are learning by this exercise, so I love that you're going there, will end up saving you so much waste

when it comes to food in the end, right? This is why to this day, I don't care how much food I have left at a restaurant, I'm taking that shit home. Yeah. Give it to me. Like I don't care if it's just a few bites, I paid for it, I'm taking it home.

Yeah. Any thoughts on this, Odette? Yeah. I think it's with... That was... Sorry, I'm just trying to look at the comment. I know I'm stumbling over my words here, who it was. Was it Mary that was saying that? Yes, Mary. So I read this comment in the group too, and she was saying that she's going to be throwing out food at seven meals and she did it by, you know, the strawberries, starting with the strawberries. And I think that what that's bringing up her acknowledging that that is bringing up feelings for her is like you said, going to help her down the line. It's not about giving yourself less because like you said, you're out there, you're going to be given food. You want to be able

to make those decisions confidently. You want to feel good about making that choice. And it's going to be uncomfortable. And this is where that uncomfortable part really works into this week and where that self-compassion part comes into this week. And it's about how you, how, you know, Mary or anybody else talks to them, talks to themselves in that moment.

And how are they, you know, are they, are they fighting with themselves with it? Like, I gotta, I gotta throw this food out. I don't want to throw this food out. Why am I feeling like I Like, I gotta throw this food out. I don't wanna throw this food out. Why am I feeling like I don't wanna throw this food out? Am I letting, like we said at the beginning, this diet history pull me back and those belief systems hold me back?

But I think just taking the step of just saying, I'm gonna try it. And this is what downsizing, yes, it's about the food. It's about the feelings that come up, but it's also about how you talk to yourself through this. And this might be something really difficult for Mary to do, and she doesn't feel good doing it, but this is gonna help her, like you said,

with food down the line, but it's also gonna help her in any other uncomfortable situations down the line. It doesn't have to be about food and what you're eating. It can just, this can be a catalyst. I know I wanted to use that word. It's downsizing to be this catalyst to be in an uncomfortable situation. So when you are in an uncomfortable situation, you have to make a decision. You're going to just be a bit more empathetic with yourself, a bit more compassionate with yourself, and you're going to be able to move through that versus, you know, feeling like it's hard, I can't do it, I don't want

to make that decision. You know, start here with a simple tweak of down. I know I called simple this little tweak of downsizing, it's going to set the foundation for you to be able to face those bigger situations later on. It's meant to make you feel uncomfortable. And it's usually the places you don't want to go are the places that you need to go. I know Dr. Ruth, right? She talks about how people who are successful at maintaining their weight,

they've learned to have empathy, understanding for themselves. They know it's so much more than just going through the motions at the end of the day. Yeah, and when you show yourself empathy and self-compassion, you know, Dr. Ruth was saying that these are the people that allow consistency to continue.

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Acast.com. It's the learning girl from a part you just got me. Today there was a conversation, a great share in the weight loss program, who was someone who's like, oh, I basically this weekend, I went to a barbecue, I ate, I felt like shit the next day, then I did the same baby shower the next day, and today I just feel so defeated.

And I'm like, well, that's the work you need to do. You need to not let it go, but figure out like, what was going on in your life? What choice do you intend to make? Why didn't you make that choice? What was going on through your mind? Not just the barbecue, then what happened the next day where you knew you felt like shit,

but then you did it again. Like you did it to yourself. You did it to yourself, but there's that learning opportunity. And maintenance, if you think about it, like we talk about in weight loss program, follow the program, and it's in those small moments when you learn. Maintenance, the whole program is about learning. It's the whole program is about understanding why you're thinking this,

why you did that. Like it's not just these little moments that you have while you're losing weight. That's the whole intention of the maintenance program is for you to learn. I love that. I love that you said that because I, you know, oftentimes when we're in weight loss, like I went through the program too, you know, I did a bunch of them to lose my weight. And I think when you're in that moment and you know, there's so much you have to learn and you know, there's so much that you have to think about, but when you're losing weight, that's, that's, you're almost consumed with that. Like I just want to lose weight. I just want to lose my weight. And then you do, and then you get to the maintenance program. You're like, I don't have to lose weight. Now I can really lean into those those thoughts. I can lean into learning. I can lean into making

adjustments because I'm not all consumed with trying to lose weight. So that's what we love. I love about this. And yeah, we're using downsizing as a tweak, but you know, just lean into downsizing and what is it actually bringing up for you? Like it doesn't need to only be about, you know, being unsatisfied, but it's that uncomfortable place of what that is going to bring up for you. What are you going to learn from this week? Even if you don't need to learn, you know, yes, it's a refresher. It's a reset. If you don't need to learn what slightly unsatisfied feels like, cause you feel like you have that, what else do you need to learn. Yes, it's a refresher. It's a reset. If you don't need to learn what slightly unsatisfied feels like, because you feel like you have that, what else do you need to learn this week? What do you have the capacity to open your mind to this week? What else do you want to say

about this week, this week? Because it is focused on downsizing. That's the action thing that you're doing. Yeah. But you also talk about compassion and coping. So what else do you want to say about this to just kind of round out the conversation today? Yeah, I think, you know, it can be hard. It can be hard to be compassionate. It can be hard to be kind to yourself. You know, oftentimes we can believe that being critical of ourselves or what we're doing means we're disciplined.

You know, like, oh, I didn't do that right. So I need to do better next time. You know, that's more of a discipline thing. Or I think members have this sense of loss of control. Like if I'm kind to myself, if I show myself empathy and understanding, it's going to open the door for me to spiral. You know, I'm going to lose control because I'm making these decisions that aren't disciplined. These are not, you know, these are not these critical decisions that I'm making. So I think that it can be really hard to accept that, to go there, to be kind to ourselves. How often do we hear or read a meme or on social media? It's like, being kind to yourself is the

nicest thing you can do or whatever that is. Like being kind to yourself is one of the best things you can do for yourself. And you're like, yeah, yeah, whatever. And you keep scrolling. It can be really hard to show yourself that compassion and that kindness. And I think when you put yourself into this week and just open yourself up to learning, I think just reframe it, reframe the way you talk to yourself, before you feel that commentary coming into your mind of I failed, I didn't do it right, what's the point? Would you, you said this on your live this morning too,

would you say that to your friend? Would you say that to somebody else? Like if someone's like, oh, I failed, like, yeah, you did, you're a loser. Like, would you say that to them? No, you wouldn't. You would try and, I mean, maybe, it depends on what kind of friend they are, I guess, but you know, you would want to try and lift them up

or reframe what they're seeing, reframing what their perception is. And this is, you know, we want you to be able to do that for yourself. And also recognize, like, pretend you are having, because we were talking about also accountability and, you know, how, you know, you're listening to all the things you're saying to yourself. And it creates that dialogue in your brain. And you are listening to the things that you say to other people. And if you had a friend who was really struggling, that's not an easy

conversation to have with them. Let's say you have a friend who is really struggling, that's not an easy conversation to have with them. Let's say you have a friend who is drinking too much, or they trying to lose weight, but you see them doing all the, and you wanna have a really like a heart to heart with them. It's not always an easy conversation. And I think we need to understand that a heart to heart with ourselves

is also not an easy conversation sometimes. And I think that is where that, that's where that compassion comes in, right? Like, come on, Gina, let's, it's not a, it's not a pep talk, you know? Like I think there's a time and a place for a pep talk, but this is like, you know, having a heart to heart with yourself about the things

that you're having a hard time doing, and the things that can get real about the things that you're not doing or the things that you keep saying you're going to do, but you're not doing, which is just eroding the trust in yourself. Like if you were standing in front of you, you might speak differently as opposed to a friend who was in front of you. So maybe that you might want to visualize the friend and say to you, would I say that, is that the way I would speak to my friend?

No, because it's just like me, you would take more care in that conversation with a friend and say, hey, listen, like I see the things you are doing and you're amazing and you're wonderful, but you say you're gonna do this and you don't, or I see you doing this destructive behavior or I hear you always wanting to make change, but I don't see you doing the things

that you need to do to make change. And then also then say what you would do a friend, how can I support you? How can I be here for you? How can I help you? And I think we can see our conversations heart to hearts with other people being difficult, but not seeing heart to hearts with ourselves as being difficult.

And you know, in this process, it's not, you're also not ignoring, you know, you're not trying to ignore when things don't go your way. You're not trying to ignore when things aren't, you know, for lack of a better word, perfect. You're trying to ignore a setback. But what you are doing is you are, you know, you're learning and you're growing and you're adjusting.

So you're not ignoring that those things are happening. You can't pretend that they don't happen because they're going to happen. So we talk so much about awareness, right? Those things aren't going to happen. You can't ignore it. What you can do is you can learn and grow from it. So then next time if it happens again,

you're like, I know what this is. I got this, I know what this is. And you're gonna, you know, that confidence is gonna be there. You're gonna be able to handle it a little better. So we're not ignoring those. We're not trying to pretend they don't exist or they don't matter because they do matter.

Because this is what's gonna catapult you into this, into this next place. It all adds up to real change. Like Gwen here, just heading home from an amazing almost two week vacation with great friends touring the UK. We had so much fun and food choices weren't always easy to find,

but all the walking we did helped to compensate the not best choices. But looking forward to get back into routine, not stressed at all because you have taught me well and I know I've got this. Thank you for always being there. I mean Gwen, thank yourself. Thank yourself for doing the work, for taking the time, for being mindful, for going the

extra mile for yourself to keep it together when you could, which clearly made a big difference in terms of how you feel. Like that's what it's about. Big picture. Before we go today, Odette, what's our homework for this week? What's our homework? What's the take? So our homework is for everybody,

anybody that's listening or anybody that is watching and you don't think you need downsizing. I'm gonna encourage you to just try it this week. I mean, if you're doing the maintenance program, you should be doing it for sure. This is, you know, seven days following this week. But if you've been here for a little while and you know, you're maybe beyond the maintenance program, you're testing things out, you're, you know, you're getting so much closer to your endgame, maybe give it a try, see what comes

up, see if there's anything that resets for you, or anything that, you know, comes to the surface. And if you are here following this maintenance program, you are week six, you are downsizing with us, just recognize the uncomfortable feeling, not just the unsatisfied, like, oh, my tummy doesn't feel satisfied feeling, but what else is uncomfortable? Like Mary said, is it the throwing at the food? Is it not being able to finish something that's delicious? And even though you know you can finish later, so find what that's uncomfortable places and see how you react and see how you approach it. I think that's the homework this week. That's a great takeaway.

Love that. Thanks everyone who joined us live and for all your comments and questions. And of course, thanks to you, Odette. We will see you on Wednesday for our mid week check-in. So we'll see you then. Otherwise have a fantastic day, everyone. Thank you. Bye.

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