The Livy Method Podcast - Maintenance & Mindfulness: Mindset Mondays - March 2, 2026

Episode Date: March 2, 2026

Maintenance Mindset Mondays is all about cracking open the conversation about what REAL maintenance looks like – beyond the scale and deep into personal transformation. Join Gina and Odette as they dive into the week’s focus, share insights on all things maintenance, and answer your questions. Whether you’re new or experienced, there’s something for everyone!In this episode Gina Livy and Odette sit down for an honest conversation about what it really takes to keep going when the work gets real. Together, they unpack the pressure so many women have carried since their teens to shrink themselves and challenge the outdated diet beliefs that chip away at self-trust. The focus shifts to building belief in yourself, even on the days you feel off, and learning to be authentic and real about what’s coming up instead of pushing it down. It’s a grounded, relatable reminder that this journey is about showing up as you are, trusting who you’re becoming, and backing yourself every step of the way.You can find the full video hosted at:https://www.facebook.com/groups/ginalivymaintenanceandmindfulnessTo learn more about The Livy Method and our Maintenance & Mindfulness group, visit livymethod.com. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I'm Gina Livy and welcome to the Livy Method podcast. This is where you'll have access to all of the live streams for my 91 day weight loss program. With a combination of daily lives, guest expert interviews, and member stories, there is something new almost every day. Miss the morning live? Want to re-listen to one of our amazing guest experts? Well, this is the place. This podcast is hosted on ACAST, but it's available on all podcast platforms, including the one you're listening to right now, Spotify, Apple, and Amazon Music. How are we this Monday?

How are you doing? I'm good. I'm good. I had a nice weekend. It wasn't as active as yours. I was exhausted just watching your stories. I'm so tired, honest. I feel like a fucking rock star.

Yeah. I've been broken down old ass, wannabe rock star, but rock star nonetheless. Listen, rock stars still, you know, have to take their vitamins. go to bed at 9 o'clock sometimes, you know? And then someday and then other days they are staying up till midnight. So it's all about it. Do you follow that guy? I'm trying to think on Instagram. What's his name? Like what I got to get out of my things here. Let me go here. Joey, God,

he reminds me of my dad. I swear. His name is Joey Bro. Joey Bro. Joey, B-R-E-A-U-X. He's like this, he's just like this dancing guy who just like dances in his and he sings sometimes and the other day I'm like oh maybe maybe you should just stick to dancing and then I found out he's in a band and I'm like well what the fuck do I know he just I just love it you do you you do you that's right so that's the kind of rock star I am listen sometimes you got to tell yourselves you're you're a rock star right Like sometimes just look at it look in the mirror. Remember the whole Mel Robbins thing from years ago like the high five was the high five in the mirror? Yes. You know like that was such a huge thing and it made you feel so good. And maybe now we just got to go back to that. Look at yourself in the mirror and say that you're a rock star. You're smart. You are confident. You don't have it all together, but that's okay. I love that. I love the simplicity of that. Now Mel has, I love Mel, but she has us doing a million other things now. Yeah. I like the let's just do the hi hello high five well I I you know when I was saying this morning like

when I say how are you I I mean that as like actually like I'm one of those people who you know people ask me how I'm doing I'll be like I'll tell them like I'm assuming they want to know because when I ask you how you're doing I don't want to be like oh yeah I'm good like I actually like let's talk about how you're doing and I say that as a check to people on a Monday just seems Monday fucking keeps coming around, which is so great because how blessed are we that we get to see another Monday. But it's like, how do we, it just gets away from us. So how do we like set the tone for a week and really check in with ourselves? Everyone wants a fresh start because I know we're talking sabotage, right?

And, you know, we all want a fresh start. Screw it. Let me just worry about it later. But every Monday there's an opportunity for a fresh start. But no one really like creates a fresh start because in order to do that, you have to take stock of where you're at. and what you need and be really intentional, really intentional. That was the exact question we asked in the group today. You know, we're thinking about what do our members need to hear?

What are our members? What do we, what do they need to know? Like we want to be the biggest cheerleaders. We're going to tell you every single day that you can do this. But we also want you to, to, if you're having those days where you don't feel like you want us to be your cheerleader, it's okay to talk about that too and figure out why. What's going on?

Like if you woke up today and you're like, ugh, it's March 2nd. It's another month. I'm not feeling it. That's okay. Own that. But if you woke up today, you're like, oh, my gosh, it's March 2nd. It's a Monday. Let's get going.

You know, let's have those real conversations. Have those questions. We're asking how you are because we really want to know. We really want to know what's happening. Yeah. Just looking at Joyce, she just posted. I think that's an avatar. I think we're matching.

I think you got the beige cardigan in the... Yeah. Yeah. I, you know, when I originally created Facebook support groups, I wanted to be a safe positive space for people because the world was negative enough. And now I don't say positive anymore. It's, you know, people for a while talked about toxic positivity. And I don't think that's it.

It's not about trying to avoid toxic positivity because we can all use some motivation and pick me up in a good laugh here and there. But it's a safe place for us to show up and really be real. And this is sort of where like even your motivation, right? Like what is your motivation for showing up? If it's surface level, it's only going to get you so far. Like, what's the next layer and the next layer and the next layer and the next layer. And I even said that to my team today, like, if you're going to put something out, make sure it's real. And then take a minute and be like, is it actually real or it's just kind of like show for show? And I don't want anyone here for show. I don't want to have these conversations for show.

I want to, like, no one is getting real. Everyone's getting real in a very showy way. I feel like people have mastered the art of authenticity. And people are doing that in their own lives. Well, look at me. I'm going to the gym. Look at me. And I'm doing this.

And, you know, you have very few friends where you can just be really real with, you know. Yeah, this is a place to get real. be real, like to be real, listen, you all can be real with us. I think anything can be said to express how you're feeling in a nice way, though. I'm going to preface that for a hot second. Yeah. I mean, it's, being real is not about, being real is not about being judgmental. Being real is not about, you know, having those opinions. I mean, you can have your opinions. It's not about, it's not about feeling like you can say whatever you want to say and hurt people's feelings and they say things that are unkind.

That's not what being real is about. I think for so long we've been told to just, I mean, we've said it too, like fake it till you make it, right? And I think sometimes you just don't want to fake it. You want to, you want to just be like have it come to the surface. Let me not be okay. Let me say the things that I need to say and let me be real about that. And then, yeah, when we say fake it till you make it, it's like, you know, it's that thought

process. It's that inner dialogue. That's what it is. It's not about suppressing how you really feel and suppressing, you know, what's really going on. That's not what fake it till you make it means. It's really just about having those real conversations, recognizing having an awareness of that inner voice and allowing yourself to be real when you need to be. Well, because it's not just what you're saying out loud. It's what you're saying to yourself because you're always listening. I think there's a difference between manifesting though, like that fake it till you make it is like living life like you already. are there. And that's when I'm, that's when I say, well, that version of you, how does this version of you that you know you are meant to be? And maybe you feel like you're not there yet.

How does that person wake up in the morning? What is that person's nighttime routine? How does that person go on vacation? And I think there is a bit of that fake it. It's, it's not fake it to you make. It's be real with where you're at right now. But then there is also that manifesting and acting like you are already there even if you're not there. Right? Like that's, I think that's where. I think, yeah, we say so much that words matter. Language matters.

Maybe the faking it is, maybe faking it is not the right word. Maybe there's another word that's better than faking it, whether it's manifesting or believing or seeing or something else. You don't want to like have to pretend you're something that you're not until that becomes true because you're always just working towards that person that you are. And then it's not real, right? I think that's the difference. You have to know what's real or not.

You can, like, if, like, if you're waking up and, hey, guys, I'm so motivated today. I'm having the best day, but you actually really aren't. And that's really disconnected. I love Kathy. I always feel our M&M questions on the post are real. And I answer as such. That's, they're meant for that. Right?

Always believe our community wants to hear from each other, even if we are here, especially in an age of, like, AI now, right? Like, people are asking AI questions. asking questions using AI, answering questions using AI. And it's just so like, I'm tired of it already. I'm tired of it already. I love AI for helping to explain things to me like I'm a 10 year old. That is like one of my go-to personal questions.

I'll go to AI and be like, explain it to me like I'm 10. I'm like, okay, that makes sense to me now. And then, you know, like that's, I love it for that reason. And I don't love it for, you know, just telling you what you want to hear, telling you what you need to hear or thinking for you. I don't want it to think for me. No, God. But I want it to, I use it to help me understand and get to, you know, have a better understanding of things. I think it's great for learning.

I think it's bad for communication. Oh, yes. Yeah. It's not good for communication. Yeah. I've heard a positive spin that says, be it till you become it. Oh, I love that. That's way better than fake it till you make it.

Be it until you become it. I mean, isn't that exactly what we are doing here? We are trying to live this life. We are trying to be this person until we are that person. Exactly. We want to be it until we become it. I mean, this is you. Who said that?

Kim. Yeah. Yeah, that's, I love that because that's what we're always saying. You're creating this version of who you are. You're doing the work now. so that you can just live it later. Like we're, we don't want to always be trying harder.

We just want to be thinking less and just going through those motions the way, you know, the way that we've worked up to be to be at that place. Yeah, this might not be an original quote, Kim, but it's yours now. We're getting T-Suits.

Yeah. But is that, it's that, like you wouldn't, you wouldn't have a vision or a dream of, who you want to be if it wasn't achievable or some version of that. Like that, a dream can be like your guiding light.

You may not reach that exact dream, but by the time you get to that dream, you might realize that wasn't actually your dream to begin with. Like you may have, you may have a dream. Well, I want to fit in a size two or whatever that is. And then you, you get to a size whatever you get to and realize you're actually happy.

And what the, the dream that was motivating you, wasn't really what you really wanted in the first place. But if you had that vision, you are capable, I truly believe, of achieving that, or at least that's the beacon. That puts you in the direction. I used to think, for example, with the weight loss program, that I wanted to have the number one weight loss company in the world.

And I did in that moment when I said that, I thought that's what I truly wanted. So that is what I went after. I could give a rat's fucking ass about that anymore. But I believe when I was chasing that dream, the things I was doing was aligning to get me in that direction, got me to where I'm at now where that isn't it anymore. Like I want to help, I want to help one woman at a time. I want to make a real difference. I want to create something for women of our age group with this kind of like forgotten generation of women where we, you know, menopause has become our, the opportunity to speak when that shouldn't be our only opportunity to speak. Like there's nothing created for women in our sort of like age demographic.

And there's lots for young people. And there's lots of, you know, even for like the older, older gen, there's, you know, they have their own thing. And I don't want to have the number one weight loss company in the world anymore. I just want to like really make a difference. And but was it wrong to want that? No, because of the time, that's what I was inspired by. Right.

So that's just an example of that's your beacon, your shining light. You may get there and be like, yeah. it's not really what I want or you may never get there because something better was something better was there for you. Like this is better for me than what that one. Now I'm like, who the fuck wanted that? That was an exhausting thought, wasn't it? Yeah. Yeah. And I believed it wholeheartedly. I believe so much. That was my destiny because I felt that. That thought came to me for a reason. But turns out you're allowed to change your mind. Yeah, you're allowed to change your mind. And I think I think the point of that too is that it's not it's not time wasted. It wasn't thought wasted. It wasn't work wasted because it's not

like you're like, I'm working towards being the number one weight loss company in the world. In all of these steps that you took to get to that vision, to get to that point, was teaching you and elevating you and pushing you forward in a different way. And I think that, you know, our members can feel that as well. they can think, in five years from now, I want to be a size two. And everything they've learned to get there, how to eat, how to, how to prioritize themselves, how to make their habits automatic. All of this is learning and elevating them and getting them there. And they might get there and be like, I don't need to be a size two.

Because look at everything that I've acquired to get to this place. Look how special, everything that I've learned and picked up along the way and all the changes I've made have got me to be in this place. that is not a size two body, but it's this elevated version of myself. So even if you get, you know, you get a few years down the road and that's your mind changes, that's okay because you haven't wasted anything in the meantime. Well, you think this is about maintaining your weight and absolutely it is, but you have gone and lost this weight in a healthy way.

You're now going to be working on maintaining, staying your weight. So you don't have to spend time doing that anymore. and you're going to realize in so many other ways how this journey has set the tone for your future in the person that you attract in a relationship, right? In your friend's circle who comes and goes out of your friend circle. What you choose to do with your time and what you choose to do with your energy is all going to come from how hard you worked to become that person you want to be. It's not, it's beyond weight loss at this point.

It's beyond even maintaining and sustaining your weight. you are doing things now so that this is just who you are. It's basically learning to trust who you are now and to create infrastructure, right, or habits, beliefs that help you to be able to maintain the life you want to live, right? It's so like if you work so hard, like this is why, for example, people who, people who win the lottery end up being broke like a year later. I don't know. There's some statistic.

People who win a lot of money end up being broke because they won the money it came, but they didn't learn how to manage their finances, right? They didn't learn how to budget. They didn't learn how to like have hard conversations with people. Like they didn't, that's what happens. And so that's this part. You've already achieved it. Now it's learning how to how to maintain it, I guess, hence the maintenance program.

Yeah, I think this feels, this all feels like work because this is that repetition stage. This is that learning stage, like you said. This is where like you don't just go from that before and after. You don't just go from having no money to having money and understanding what to do with that. You don't go from, you know, having this body you had before to this body you have now and just thinking it's going to just stay there. It's easy. This is what this is why this can feel hard and messy and like work because this is what you're doing.

You're building that repetition. You're building that trust. I know that that was a recurring theme this morning when I came in reading from the comments over the last few days was, you know, my intention for the week is to trust and believe in myself. well, that's going to come from the more you follow through, the more repetition you have, because that's just reinforcing, you know, reinforcing your beliefs, your thought system and who and who you are now. Yeah. I'm sorry, I'm just like, yeah.

Today's a good day for people, I think. Good vibe that people have. How are you? You okay? Yeah, I'm okay. Actually, I was just talking. It looked great. Oh, thanks. Yeah. I do have a little pimple right here. Oh, of course. I think that's true. But thank you. I feel really good. I had a really great weekend. A really conversational weekend. I haven't really been going out or seeing anybody. And I had a friend stop by. She said, I want to stop by. I don't know if you're ready to talk. And I said, I'm so ready to talk. Because I don't want to make small talk. I'm not at that point yet where I think I'm in this. this place of grieving where small talk seems so insignificant to me right now.

But talking about my experience over the last, you know, month and then my experience over the last, it was a very fast process. This losing my sister was only about eight months, nine months, from diagnosis to when we had to say goodbye. Talking about what that experience has been like, this week felt really, this weekend actually felt really light. I felt really enlightened. And just talking about, you know, the parts that weren't great, but the parts that were so great, too.

So I feel really good today. I feel, I know that there's these different stages of grief and you can float in and out of them. They don't come in this order. I mean, I know you've been through a lot of grief yourself too. And some days are good and some days are bad. But I feel really good right now. I feel great. That was a long way to answer your question.

No, I'm listening to you and I'm thinking like your perspective is interesting because your job. is to help people navigate life and to help them, you know, maintain and sustain this big accomplishment that they've achieved in their lives. And, you know, so many things can seem trivial and insignificant when it's attached to weight or weight loss. And, you know, just, I think if you did take a step back and look at everything, there was a time, I remember we were together and you were optimistic about your sister's outcome. And you're like, yeah, she'll have to do this and that. But, you know, she'll get through it. And, you know, life is just interesting. And I think being able to take a step back and have that perspective and just not blow off everything else in life, right?

Yeah, yeah. There was that time. It was October, November. I mean, even Christmas. Like, we have pictures. We didn't see her at Christmas because she was going through treatment. We had to keep the germs away. But just pictures that we saw over the holidays of her, just being bright and being, you know, full of life.

And that was just not even two months ago. So yeah, you do have to step back. And we did think that this was going to go differently, you know, just a few weeks ago. And yeah, it's true. You do have to step back and look at it. And I mean, I think I've learned a lot here in this maintenance program myself on how to live your life and how, not even how to live your life, but just how to see it, how to see life. You know, you just said something to me that I think I've been thinking a lot. It's our 28th weight loss program.

And I feel so deeply that the conversation needs to move forward. It's interesting because, like, people still need the basics, new people. So many people don't know about the program. And you want to keep the basics. But at the same time, you want to keep the conversation evolving and moving forward. And I was thinking how many of the same conversations I keep having over and over. And why do I, like, where is it coming from that I can still show up with the same enthusiasm that I did on day one? And I think this maintenance program has a lot to do with that.

because I know where people are going. I know the next step I've learned so much from our maintenance members and our community that it's like if I can just get them here and then everything I've learned have kind of like, it's kind of like knowing what we talk about and deal with here and maintenance. And this is why we got to be really real here. It's kind of like reverse engineering and it helps me be able to help people better in weight loss knowing what's coming and assuming they're going to make it here is it's going to get them here like yeah and you know when you when you say that about um you how do you feel up and how do

you keep showing up and having those same conversations i i can read a comment from a member and be like oh i wish they had heard this conversation from 2023 like i wish so we need to have that conversation again because people are still need to hear it you know it's not like i i think about conversations we have and yes it sounds repetitious and yes sometimes we say the same things over and over again but there are people that still need to hear it and there are still people that need to revisit it they need to understand it they may have heard it once in passing you know but the but the words are so important the work is so important that when you you do have i mean we talk about repetition all the time saying having these same conversations and we do build a little bit each time we learn from

what a member says we learn from somebody's experience so the conversation elevates and does evolve, but I think those core topics, those core insights, those core aha moments, those might not change over time because people still need to hear those. Yeah, and hearing is different from taking action, right? And you have to be intentional. We talk about this all the time. And hence the tweaks. I know you won't be able to going, but I know you talked about the tweaks each week are designed to bring up the thoughts and the feels based on where you're at now. It's about being intentional about your awareness and what's popping up in your brain so that you can actually change that. You can only learn so much by just listening and watching it. If the thing comes up,

I've heard this before. I've heard this before. Hearing it is one thing. Have you actually taken action on it is the other thing. And I think if you actually take an action on it, then hearing it again is instilling trust. Oh, I do this. Oh, I got this. Okay. And it's going to give you, you a different feeling other than if you keep hearing something you're like oh i've heard this before that's not the feeling that you're going to have if you've not only heard this you got this you're going to be like i got this that's right oh yes okay me all right i'm amazing like the feeling that you're taking away is completely different if you feel like you've actually done it and taken action because then you don't care if you've heard a million times because you're like i got this is just

reinforcing trust as opposed to oh my god shut up. And usually that's because you're annoyed with yourself because you. I want to just, I just got thinking about this. So this week is about, you know, building those habits until they become automatic.

Letting your brain get into easy mode. Your brain loves easy mode. And the word is automaticity. But I just want to bring up, I don't know if you remember when we were sitting around, talking about this maintenance program, going through the data, looking at Ruth's notes, thinking what do we have to talk about in this week? Well, we have to talk about automaticity. There were four of us in that room and nobody could say that word. We're like, what is this word?

What? What was that word again? We were like, forget it. We got to call it something else. It's all everyone talks about. We were so ahead of it. We were so ahead of it. Because the reason why we can say it so often is you hear about it everywhere now. Yeah. And we've been saying it. So nope, we couldn't say automaticity. We're like, oh, we'll call it habit formation. And now we're just like automaticity, automaticity. Because we just said it over and over again. We practiced it. We repeated it. And that's just what it is now. So maybe this week is going to be called automatic from now. Let's change it. Let's change it. We can say it. We didn't want to be too fancy, y'all. That's what happened. We were like, yeah, and all of this, the, the, the maintenance program is

different. Same foundations in terms of what Tied and when, because there's still so many layers, right? You're like an onion, just peeling back those layers with the same routine the body knows and you know. But all of this was based on Ruth's research and findings. And yeah, automaticity, we didn't want to be fancy about it, but it's interesting because that was like, what, a years ago? Yeah. And now everyone, everyone is talking about automaticity. That's the sort of thing when you're like a front leader and you're leading the way and, you know, you're ahead of the game. I feel like I've been ahead of the game my entire life. which, you know, there's pros and cons to that. But yeah, let's own it. Automatic. It's become so automatic. And this was big on Jason Fung's conversation. He talked about three kinds of hunger. There's like physical hunger, emotional hunger, and then there's conditioned hunger.

And that conditioned hunger is that's the way your body has learned to function. Like you see something, you crave something, right? Your go-to when your stress is to eat this, like that learned behavior. And same thing with your brain. That food noise is conditioned hunger. And so you're still working on that conditioned hunger. And that's where you get to change, you get to choose to change how your brain is wired.

And you want it to become automatic in a different way of thinking. You're at the grocery line. You're not thinking about should I get the chips. Should I get the chips? You're around cookies. Should I have one? Should I not have one? You're over ate something, you know, whatever.

You know, okay, we got to go. That's our sign. What do we got coming up this week? What are we talking about? What are we coming up? Yeah. So we're talking more about this automaticity, you making making your habits feel like they are you just do them you don't have to think harder you're

just um just going through those we're talking about that more tomorrow we're also talking about prioritization prioritizing yourself because this tweak of fitting the metabolism can feel uncomfortable because maintenance doesn't have this like oh this this beginning and end date it's a forever thing right like maintaining your weight you want this to be a forever thing where in weight loss you may have felt okay putting yourself first because you had a timeline it's when i have my goal. So now it's just about, you know, putting yourself first and this feeding the metabolism, when you're having to check in with yourself that many times a day can feel uncomfortable. It's just a reminder in taking care of yourself is not a privilege. It's essential. It's necessary.

Of course, there's times in your life when you have to put somebody else or something, something else first, but that's not a reason to always put yourself last. Well, we'll talk about this more on Wednesday, but to your point, when you're splitting up meals and snacks and maintenance might look a little different than in weight loss because your family is like you already lost your weight. What are you doing? Exactly. Why are you doing that? Why are you doing? And I are just being weird. You know what I mean? So yeah. Okay. Thanks, Odette. Thanks, thanks, thanks, everyone for joining us. Have a great rest of your week. We'll see you on Wednesday. Yeah, see Wednesday.

Thanks, Ed.