The Livy Method Podcast - The “I Ruined Everything” Lie

Episode Date: April 27, 2026

Tempted to start over after one bad day?Today, Gina Livy talks the real work of sustainable weight loss, sharing why consistency matters more than perfection and why there’s no need to start over after a tough weekend. Patterns behind overeating, emotional eating, self-sabotage, Gina offers practical insight into how awareness of your habits, thoughts, and triggers is key to sustainable change. From navigating setbacks to understanding mindset, behaviour, and daily choices, this is about how to stay focused on your goals, trust the process, and keep moving forward.This episode aligns with day 8 of our Spring 2026 weight loss program. You can find the full video hosted at: www.facebook.com/groups/livymethodspring2026To learn more about The Livy Method, visit livymethod.com. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I'm going to be honest with you, this podcast is unapologetically a hot mess because that is what midlife feels like sometimes. Why, though? And how do we make it better? Do we all just need facelifts and gLP ones? I mean, let's talk about it. No bullshit, no wellness wangery here because we're trying to make real change and change is hard. But we're in this together. Welcome to the Livy Method podcast. Well, day one of week one of our spring weight loss program is underway. today, how are you doing? There is still time to sign up if you have any friends or family or anyone you know who is interested. They can just follow along, dive right in and keep going. Because what are we doing here actually? We are creating a space for you to focus on reaching your goals. Right? We're giving you resources. We're giving you our app, Facebook support group. There's

our book on Amazon, journals. What podcast? What resources do you need that are going to to work best for you to make change. We are sharing expert advice. We have incredible qualified experts coming on in the program and sharing their knowledge with you to help you on your journey. We have an incredible support group, our incredible community that you can connect with. And I'm here every single day to guide you along the way. But why is it so hard to make change? Really? is because of life, right? Life makes it incredibly difficult for us to do the things that we need to do each day to reach our goals. Is that a reason to not show up and follow through? Absolutely not. Some days you're going to be like a rock star and you're going to get, you're going to be so proactive and you're going to accomplish so much. And other days you're hanging on by the skin of your teeth, honestly, wondering like, oh my goodness, am I ever going to get this done? I have a comment here in the group, if I didn't crush last week, should I restart or continue going? This, need to, and I appreciate this comment so much because so many people feel like this because we've been taught in the diet industry, it should be quick, it should be fast, right? We love a good

start again. We do. We love the motivation behind a good start again. But the reality is your life is one big continuation, right? We don't want to go back. We don't want to repeat steps. We don't want to wait until it's perfect. Every single day of your life counts. And that's why I want to talk about this weekend, right? So if you've completely just, you crash this weekend, crash and burned this weekend. If this weekend was just a mess, you were off the rails, it doesn't matter. It is what it is. You just have to keep going. That's it. Now, if you want to go back and you want to learn, because I'm not a big fan, I'll let it go. If you want to go back and you want to learn, okay, what was that about? Here's what I would do. Okay, so last week, let's say you started

prep week. Prop week is an opportunity for you to kind of ease, you know, get into the program if you're new, start following that food plan, which is also the focus this week, turning member, get back, get back into it. Let's say all week you crushed it. You were like, you were amazing last week, and the weekend came, and I don't know, you went to the Jay's game like me yesterday or the Raptors game, right? It's a great day in sports in Toronto yesterday. Maybe you went, something happened that just threw you off.

I don't know, you know, whatever that, whatever that is. What happened that you went off the rails? like where? So what set the, what set the stage for that? How was your week? What was going on? Friday came. Did you make a plan for yourself for the weekend or just kind of freewheel it? Right? Other way. It's no shade other way. Making plan is great. Just kind of be in the moment also great. There's no right or wrong way to navigate this. When did it start to go off the rails? What was happening in your life? What was going on in your mind? Right. So say you got some bad news about something. And that just kind of like, oh my goodness, you need something to cope. You fall back into coping mechanisms. You open the wine. You open the chips,

whatever that was. Say you got an impromptu invitation to go out for dinner. You were in the midst of dinner and then, you know, someone ordered this, someone ordered that. You started talking and then maybe you just ate things you didn't plan on eating. You ate too much and then whatever. Right. So what got you into that circumstance? What happened? What was going on in your life? And then what happened in your mind? So you chose to indulge in something where you thinking, oh, this is so wonderful and delicious. or, oh, this is bringing me peace and really helping me right now. So what was happening in your mind? And then what happened after you were done eating?

Right. Like, what's the pattern there? Did you, are you immediately full of regrets? Right now, you're at, you know, you're at home or at night afterwards. You're like, oh, my God, why did you eat that? I ruined everything. And then what happened the next day? Did it snowball into this neat?

Okay, today I'm just going to not eat. I'm going to starve myself all day. Or I'm going to work out to try to make up for what I did. So it's that pattern that you really want to bring awareness to. And there's not much you can do about it until you really see that pattern and really understand why you are making the choices that you make, why you are thinking the way that you are thinking. And then that's where you can actually do something about it once you have that awareness. Right. So you can make a plan for your weekend. Once you bring awareness to that, you'll have the tools to be able to pause and be like, okay, like is this the best? Is eating this thing, this wine the best way for me to cope with this stress that I have, right? Oh, I can actually go out for an impromptu lunch and it is choosing foods that make me feel better, the better way to go because I know if I eat this, I'm going to have the aftermath of berating myself the next day. Or I did all of that. I indulge, today's a new day, didn't stop me from reaching my goals, right? So it's that kind of

thinking that we want to put into this process, which is so much more than just what you eat in my. So however, your weekend was great. Take a minute. Be really proud of yourself and be like, yeah, I crushed that. Awesome. If your weekend was shit, just be like, okay, maybe give some thought. If you feel like it, it's still new in the program, lots of time for self-reflection. You're like, what happened there?

What went on there? Don't just let it go, but like, what happened there? What can I do to better support myself moving forward? And if last week, so if last week you signed up for this program, you were so excited and life just went to shit, Today's a new week. That's it. You just keep going. There was a time where I was, you know, my husband got sick. We couldn't work because we had a business together and I had to drive where we lived was, you know, about a half hour away from our business. He got sick, almost died. We couldn't work. We got months behind in our rent. I got my car repossessed. We ended up getting a divorce. He couldn't help me. I was left with four kids on my own. Didn't know what I was going to do. How to close my business. Like I really, I really, I really, Really, just wondering how to make $5 stretch to feed my kids for the week. Like that was my situation. And now my situation is completely different.

If you were to ask me how I got here, how I achieved the things Canada's top 100 most powerful women, this hugely successful business, all my, you know, 12 number one bestselling books, all of that stuff, I don't have a fucking clue. I don't know how I got here. I knew that I had a plan for myself. Like I, ideally I wanted, right, in my life. So I would write down, you know, kind of the thing. that I would like in my life and, you know, not obsess about it every day. And yes, I might have

watched The Secret a hundred times. Those of you were kind of my age to remember the secret. Just trying to stay. I tried to, I did things to try to stay in a more positive mindset and I just kept going. If I thought to do the thing, I would do the thing. If I thought to call the person, I would call the person. And but I don't know how I did it. And all I know is that it was just one foot in front of the other and I never gave up. And your goal here in weight loss might be different then what my goal with like how I was going to feed my kids and my career and stuff, it's obviously not the same, but doesn't matter what your goal is, the steps are the same. The steps are the same.

To be aware, to self-reflect, to take time, to take a pause, to acquire the tools and skills that you need to not just make change, but also be able to sustain and maintain that change, right? So that's what you're doing here. And we're providing that place for you to do that. That's a little deep for a Monday, eh? It's just, I get this. a lot back to this question is you know if I didn't crush last week should I start it again I

get that all the time oh my goodness I didn't do what I need to do should I just wait should I start again is this even worth doing and yeah absolutely it's just no of all the science that's out there in the world especially around weight loss and dieting and whatnot there is zero reason why you can't reach your goals and lose your weight your body doesn't want this fat any more than you do It's just our method in the past of addressing our body was to starve ourselves and deprive ourselves and that was it. And yes, that worked for weight loss. But your body learned that it needed to store all that fat back plus more every single time because your body's only job in life is to keep you alive. So the way we've been taught to lose weight was actually fighting the body

rather than working with the body. And that's why if you're looking at this program and being it's different, you're not sure. Yeah, it's different for a reason. So there's no reason why you're not going to be able to reach your goals. I'm going to teach you everything that you need to know and do in order to reach your goals. And maybe life is making it hard for you, right? So maybe your shift work is making it hard for you. We're going to help you with that. Maybe your stressful situation, taking care of aging parents, kids, whatever you got going on, right? How do you manage your stress is probably your focus more so rather than what you were eating about? Maybe you have health issues, right maybe you have maybe you have diabetes thyroid issues PCOS like insulin resistance whatever

those are if you have those health issues your body wants you to be even healthier than you want your body to be healthier right so so your body is working with you it's just our techniques for for losing weight up into this point have really been working against the body right so so why are you here where are you at what you what do you want to accomplish giving some thought to that giving some thoughts that can be your ticket. I don't think I've ever seen the beginning of a live. I'm looking on the app or support group and clicking and eventually seeing it already four minutes in. What am I doing wrong? Okay. So the app, believe it or not, what technology is a manual process because there are two different platforms. If you are using the app, once the live starts, the team goes in and pops it

into the app so it can link into the Facebook support group. So that's why that takes a few minutes. you're not missing anything off the top of the live. Usually it's just me going on about something. Even if you miss the live, you know, you don't have to catch any of the lives. The best way to find it though, if you are on Facebook, is not to wait until it pops up on your feed is to actually go into the media section of the Facebook support group and find it playing there. And that's where you will find it rather than going up. Because if you go on the page, you have to refresh your page, just go to the media section. I actually, I want, I am. streaming again one last time for my public page into the group because speaking of

Facebook support groups one if you're just using the app which so many people are if you want to participate live you can join us in the Facebook support group it's a great place to do that connect with the community I see a lot of you talking behind the scenes and two there are a lot of fake groups out there so some people have actual support groups outside of our group which is great I love that but they will have their own names it won't be Livy Method Gina Livy. So there's a lot of fake groups out there or groups that get started. And I see people, I was just in one this morning.

And I see people in there asking questions that, like my team is not scouring the internet looking or scouring Facebook looking for all your questions. They work inside the Facebook support group. So you want to make sure you're in a legitimate group. There's only one legitimate Facebook group per season, seasonal session. So winter we had our group. Spring, we have our group. So you want to make sure you're in the right group. First of all, that's really important. Looking for a little insight. I mean, I'm a theater actor. Hello,

hi, Sarah. So I work from 7 p.m. to 1 p.m. at night, 1 a.m. maybe you're thinking. I eat, right? That's a long, that's a long thing. Let me see. I keep, okay, let me see. Okay, yeah, you said, whoops, what am I doing? I'm leaving the page here. I'm trying to find that. Where was that? I work from 7 p.m. to 1 a.m. Let me just try to find that again. Looking for insight. Oh, here we go. I'm looking for insight. I'm a theater actor. And so I work from 7 p.m. to 1 a.m. at night. I eat regularly through the day. But then always wonder if I should be eating after. I expend all the energy on stage. Thoughts, advice from other night shift workers. So we have some content. If you want to search in the app or search the group, pull up shift work. And then obviously, if you ask this question in the group, the team will help kind of you navigate that. But I'll answer it right now. Shiftwork is hard because it messes with your sleep. So that's the thing you want to

protect most when it comes to helping your body focus on phallis. Of all the things your body does, we're trying to help it specifically focus on fat loss, right? And you need sleep because sleep is when your body repairs, rebuilds, regenerates, rejuvenates. That's when it detoxes and makes change is when you are sleeping. So you want to protect your sleep at all costs. Now, if you are, eating normally. I would I would ask you what time do you wake up, right? And you want to start your day from there. So, so if you work late, but you don't wake up, if you sleep into like 11 o'clock in the morning, for example, you just kind of want to like shift, shift everything. This is like shift workers too. So if you, if you sleep during the day and you wake up at like 4 o'clock in the

afternoon, ideally you're going to want to have breakfast and then start the food plan from there and then stop eating at least three hours before you go to sleep. So that's sort of like your window, right? You should be eating enough throughout the day that your body has the energy. Like you're not eating to give yourself energy. You eat to replenish your glycogen stores. That's really important. Let me say that again. You're not, like if I eat something right now and then I go for a walk or go to the gym, my body is not using the energy from what I eat right now. What I'm eating right now has to be processed, digested, broken down, and stored in my body as fuel to use. So if I eat right now, it's zero used to me. I go at the door, I go for a walk, go to the gym. My body's not using that. Unless it's

something quick like sugar, like a banana that breaks down quick and you get the sugar hit from it. My body's not really using that energy. My body is using the energy that is stored. So when you eat, you are replenishing that stored energy. And so what would be really important for you is if like if your last dinner was like, if your dinner was at six, you can easily go through the nights. Your body eating is not necessarily going to give you energy or keep your energy levels up. You're going to want to make sure you're hydrated.

And then you're absolutely going to want to make sure you get breakfast the next day. So then that creates like a longer fasting window for you. So as much as you don't want to go to bed having eaten food, you also don't want to go to bed starving either. So it really depends on if you're actually hungry when you come home. If you're craving carbs and sugar specifically, it could just be that you're dehydrated. So you really want to make sure that you are drinking enough water to be properly hydrated. Or this is where you can kind of extend your day a little bit, maybe add in a bonus snack. I don't know if you have the opportunity to eat between seven and one. If you do, this is where you might want to bring your dinner with you.

So if you added in a bonus snack, so let's say you had breakfast, snack, lunch, bonus snack, then push back your first afternoon snack, your second afternoon snack you're having around six, and then your dinner you are having maybe like around nine or ten, right? Then you work and then you come, then you obviously want to leave that window of at least three hours before you go to bed. So I expend all the energy on stage. So it just depends on how you feel like, so if you just come, home when you flake out and go to bed, like I would highly suggest avoiding anything you eat

because it's going to mess with your sleep. If you come home and you flake out at one o'clock and you're like, okay, I should probably eat something or whatever. Could you actually go to bed? Like that's where you want to say to yourself. Like could I just crash right now or am I looking to decompress so I'm going to eat something and flake out in front of the TV or scroll or whatever you do? And then like a half hour, hour later you're going to go to bed. It just depends on how long you're flaking out for and what time you go to bed. So you want to give yourself at least three hour window without eating. So you'd have to come home, eat, stay up late. So if you can just crash, I would just crash and go to sleep. Because if you were to eat anything, unless you give your body

time to process and digest your food, you're going to bed with food and your bed. And this goes to everybody, right? Like this is nighttime eating. The biggest thing you can do is not eat after dinner. It's so important to have a fasting window where you're not eating food and really allow your body to do what needs to do when you sleep. So everyone who's like eating well throughout the day and then snacking at night, snacking at night, snacking at night, as hard as that is. And I'm going to have food addiction counselor, Sandra Alia join, join me tomorrow. We're going to talk about this. Why is it so hard? Why it's hard is because of a few things. Not because you're actually hungry. Because if you eat enough throughout the day, you're not actually hungry at night. If you're to ask yourself,

am I actually hungry? Not in my head, in my body. Am I actually hungry? You're probably going to be like, no, I'm not actually hungry. I am pissed off because, you know, something happened at work and I'm using a coping mechanism. I am sad because I am dealing with whatever. I am stressed out. I'm looking for some reprieve. I out of habit always eat when I watch this show or this is my nighttime routine. So my body's like, hello, where's our treat? It's like your dog, right? Like if you have a dog, you know, they're so routine. They do this. They get a treat. They do this. They, you know, they get to eat. We're, we're, we're, We are very much conditioned to when we do something, we eat something. So what we're going to get into talking about like actual hungry,

hunger, right? Hunger. So yeah. So there you go. I don't know if that helps. But nighttime eating is very is is tricky, but not because we're actually hungry when you're following. And I can say that when we follow the food plan.

So, but if you keep skipping meals and snacks, right? If you keep not having breakfast, you keep skipping meals and snacks and then you're hungry in the evening, that probably. is why. So it isn't like, what do I eat at night? This is what people say, what can I eat at night? I'm like, it's not what can you eat at nights. Why are you hungry in the first place? Probably because you're skipping meals and snacks. And or the other side of that, if you're eating all your meals and snacks and doing everything, being extra hungry in the evening can actually be a sign that your weight is about to drop. Right. So here's where we're at. You guys have been, some of you hit the ground running last

week. Some of you are new. Some of you are seeing your weight already start to drop. It's normal if if it hasn't at this point. Some of the signs that your weight about to drop is one, you're extra hungry in the evening, right? This is why you really want to hold off. Feeling kind of bloated and just kind of like, God, for eating so healthy and doing all the things, I just don't feel great.

Waking up at 3 or 4 o'clock in the morning, needing to go to the bath and that's a sign. And also your weight being up. Also your weight being up can be a sign that your weight is about to drop as well. So yeah. There you go. there you go. Let me see if I got any other questions. Does the same three-hour window apply for type two diabetics? So the program works really well if you have diabetes. You really want to do what

you are used to doing and not make any kind of radical change that we're suggesting if you're not comfortable. So this is so deep, right? How active are you? What time are you waking up? What time are you going to bed? Like this is a little, this is kind of next level where you have to figure out what works best for you, depending on what's going on. And so this is where you want to, like, make changes and kind of push that and test that a little bit, but within your own limits, within your own limits. We have a post. If you want to read it over, you can pull it up in the app and then also in the Facebook support group. At the end of the program, you know, we hear from all sorts of people who drop their A1C. They went from pre-diabetic, normal range.

Like, the program works really well because there's no downside. It's all based on being really healthy. But if there are health issues that you're dealing with or certain circumstances that you're nervous, like some people are nervous to eat fruit on its own, for example, in the morning. And okay, maybe you wouldn't want to go for fruit like a banana or something that's high in the glycemic index, but you can go for something that's lower on the glycemic index. But if you feel like you need to balance it out with protein, in fact, you can totally do that, although the whole point, again, is to replenish your glycogen store. So it just sort of depends on your circumstances. So we're happy to answer that if you have a little bit more context to that. But

but I wouldn't want to talk on that, just kind of generalized because it really would depend on on kind of what else you got going on there. Game changer to stop the nighttime snacks. Yeah, absolutely. Absolutely. If you're still snacking, you're working against yourself. Why do we work against ourselves? That's an interesting one. We're talking about sabotage today. Yeah. Day one of week one. Right? We're talking sabotage already. Yeah. Motivation is what got you signed up. Right? You were motivated to sign up. You want to lose weight. Okay, great. End of story. we got to deal with showing up every day. And that's hard. And sometimes people, like the only, only thing getting in your way of reaching your goals is you. The only thing getting in your way of

reaching your goals is you. And you can be like, no, it's not. It's my shift. No, it's not. It's my stress. No, it's not. It's my job. No, it's not. It's whatever. Where there's a will, there's a way. And there's always something you can do to still be proactive about reaching your goals. Right. If you got a lot of stress, great. Let's figure out how to manage your stress. It's not your stress. It's your inability to calm down from your stress, right? You're working shift worker. You got a new baby at home. You can't get your sleep. Okay, what can you do to get better quality sleep? Right? There's there's always some, there's always something that you can do there. But we are usually the ones who are getting in the way of doing the things that we need to do. In fact, usually it's

the things you don't want to do with the things that you are avoiding are the actual very things that you need to focus on and you need to do. So we're talking about sabotage. Some people sabotage themselves out of fear of failure. They just cannot stomach that this isn't going to work for them. So then they sabotage themselves. I see this all the time. I see this all the time in terms of planting the seeds of doubt. And this is where I see it in the group where someone will come in and they'll be like, oh, I can't eat fruit snack. Or I can't eat all this food. They make statements. They don't actually ask questions. They just make statements. They're leaving crumbs, right for themselves so that when they do quit they can be like oh yeah well i didn't like that girl

gina um oh i couldn't drink that much water i couldn't eat that often i couldn't whatever um you know and so they have a reason that's those planting seeds of doubt um fear of failure right like oh my god i've just tried so many things i cannot even i can't stand the thought of failing so i'm just going to fail i'm going to just take myself out before i even have to deal with those feels that happens um the other is fear of success right like oh my god what's going to happen if you actually reach your goals? Then you might be terrified that you won't be able to sustain and maintain your weight, been there before, right?

Lost your weight so many times. People praise you. You feel amazing. You buy a new wardrobe. Life is great. And then bam, it just seems like you gain it all back overnight plus more. And so, right? That's why this program is designed.

This is different unapologetically because it's designed to help you not just make change, but sustain that change, right? Not just lose weight, but be able to keep it off. That's our focus. That's why I'm so fucking crazy pants about everything. everything that we talk around here. I don't take that lightly, right? Like, it really is not what you do today. It's what you are working on, working through learning, unlearning. You know, that's what this is about. Like doing it in a way you can actually maintain and sustain. But perhaps your weight is

working for you, right? Perhaps you want to lose your weight, but in another sense, it makes you fearful because maybe you said, when I lose my weight, I'm going to start dating and that makes you nervous. When I lose my weight, I'm going to quit my job. That makes you nervous. When I lose my I'm going to start my own business, that makes you nervous. When I'm going to lose weight, I'm going to travel. That makes you nervous, right? Like you've not just your weight law school. How many of you have a, when I lose my weight, I'm going to, right? When I lose my weight, I'm going so that can pile on the stress. Or, you know, maybe, maybe you have a lot of anxiety and you don't, like, you're nervous about going out, social situations, dating, whatever that is. And you use your

weight, sabotage queen. I hear you, Lisa, lose your weights. You use your weights. You use your, your weight as like a protective barrier for yourself, right? Where you're like, you want to lose this weight, but also at the same time, you're nervous about losing the weight. And so for so many reasons we sabotage ourselves. We are the ones usually who get in the way of, you know, reaching our goal. So there's a lot that goes into this. Why are you here?

What are you trying to do? What are the things that you're not doing that I feel seen? Yeah. I, I, that I know I need to do. Right? And listen, I am no martyr up here too, y'all. I'm right in it with you. I'm right in it with you.

Last program, I talked about how I was kind of like just trying to just do less. And that got me in this mode of not putting the pressure on myself and I ended up doing more. And I talked about organizing my house and cleaning my house and getting myself all organized. And I really worked hard at that for a while. And I got to a place where I was like, I am amazing. and don't let this little like set here fool you my fucking bedroom is a disaster i would be embarrassed if anyone walked in it and why because there's a lot of stuff i i came back i had to deal with some stuff i got like some you know i got my you i got a kid um right now who's you know

in and out of rehab and and um has like major mental health issues that is just disturbing and we got like we got stuff going on and so my capacity i hit a capacity and my room is no longer organized and thinged and whatever, right? So why? Why? Why? Why did I let it get like that? Why can't I get up? Last night, I had three hours before I was going to go to bed. Came home from the Jay's game. It felt great. I actually said to Tony, I could just spend three hours and get this room cleaned up. Did I? No. I watched six episodes of Frum. Instead, in my bed, watching zombies which rip people's faces off because that is all I had the capacity for at the time. But today's a new day. So what am I going to do to set myself up for success today? Right? It's,

I'm not going to be all or nothing attitude. I'm not going to be all or nothing. We woke up today and there was a dead duck on our stoop. That's weird. Right? We woke up today and there was a dead duck. I think it crashed into the window and the poor. So I woke up today and I'm like, okay, I'm going to just, today's the day. I'm going to get up. I'm going to work out. and whatever and I got hit with three things um one there was a dead Tony's like jeez there's a dead duck it's not funny it's sad because its mate was sitting there so it wasn't ripped up we have coyotes I live on a kind of ravine and it wasn't ripped apart so it just there's a dead duck and then I got some news from my best friend about her mom and so

I was just like and I'm like do I call her do I got to go live I got to whatever and then we got some weird business moves that so it's so weird and asked me if I worked out or or did anything I needed to do this morning. No, but today I'm going to, I'm going to, like, make a plan. Small steps, small actionable steps, right? So I just want to share that goals are goals and what's stopping us from reaching our goals, you know, is kind of universal, all the things. So, so what are the things getting in your way? What are the things you're not doing that you need to do, right? You, you, you've done kind of this before. What do you know works for you? What do you, what are you not doing that might work well for you, right?

that might seem like a lot. I know the duck thing was so sad and weird. I'm the queen. Yeah, self-sabotaged, but I keep coming back. We have to keep coming back. We have to keep coming back. Like that's what this is all about. This is all about.

This is most of you, every now and then we get someone, this is the first weight loss program that I've ever done. I love that. I love that. Most of us have a history with our weights, right?

And we have a long track record of the things that we did and how that worked for us. And the thing with the diet industry, is that you perceive that if the diet worked, the diet worked. And if you gain your weight back, you failed. The problem is that those diets weren't really designed to try to help you keep it off. In fact, it wasn't like, they don't want you to keep it off, right?

They don't want you to keep it off. They want you to lose that weight and gain it back, lose that weight, gain it back. They want you to think that you cannot maintain and sustain your weight without, you know, doing their diet or without, for example, GLP-1s, right? and this program is such a great compliment to anyone taking gLP ones. It's the same work. It's the same work. And we know this.

People who take gLP ones just tend to eat less of what they were eating before. They don't make any changes. You absolutely can address the food noise and change your brain. You absolutely can lose weight in a way where you can sustain your muscle mass. You absolutely can lose your weight in a way that helps your body adjust along the way that you can maintain and sustain. It just takes work and it is too hard for anyone to explain. right? It's just way too hard and takes too long for your doctor to sit there.

First of all, your MD is probably not trained in weight loss at all. They don't know anything about this. And I'm not being flippant and saying that. I have mad respect for doctors. They will agree they have no training in this area. And I know because I've gone to all the obesity conferences where the doctors go to get trained. They just are not taught. It's the same thing with doctors were not taught anything about menopause, right? Doctors were not taught about anything that menopause. So it's just too long of a conversation for your doctor. Like people say, Oh, how does your program work? I'm like, you got 91 days? What do I need to do to lose weight? Well, do you have an hour? Because I got to ask you, like, what's your history? You got any health

issues. What's your daily routine? What's your sleep like? What's your stress like? What's your, do you know what I mean? I got to find out about you to figure out what you specifically need to focus on. So no one is taking the time. And no one wants to take the time either. So I'm in these conferences. They talk about how changing your brain. Oh my God. It's the whole ticket. We don't have We know how to help people lose weight now, which you help you once. We just can't figure out, or bariatric, whatever that is, we just can't figure out how to help them maintain it. But you know what a big thing is?

Oh, behavioral change. Right. Okay. So then why are we not focused on that? Well, because there's not enough psychologists in the world to help everybody. Because they help one person at a time. Doctors help one person at a time. I met someone who run a clinic in Quebec, and it's great.

They have an MD. They have a dietitian. They have psychologists. They have physiotherapists. have personal trainers, they have it all under one roof. I was like, oh my God, this is amazing. How many people do you help a year? 75. Are you fucking shitting me? 75 people a year? What? What? And I'm like, why is no one, hello? They're like, well, we don't know how to scale this. I'm like, I've scaled it. Teach people. They're not dumb-dums. They just no one is teaching them. No one is

teaching them. That's all you need to do. And so that's what we're doing here. I am teaching you here, or guest experts are teaching you are teaching yourself by bringing awareness, right? And so no one is, no one is taking the time to have these conversations and, you know, share this information with you because one, there's no money in it either for people. Like, there's just no money in people teaching you this stuff. Right? It's not that that's a service. Like, yeah, it's okay, I've created a business out of it. And I'm also, you know, trying to make it as affordable for people. And I'm, you know, I'm not apologizing for running a business, but my actual goal is to help you lose weight and be able to maintain it. But I'm going to go on and do just.

something else. I'm going to do something else. But yeah, so this is what this is figuring out. What do you need, right? What do you need? Having said that, got a roll. Have fun day. What did you say, Elfie? What did you say, Elfie? I missed it. I just show up. Oh, see more. I want to read that. Just show up. That's what this is about. It's about not how quickly or how perfectly you, I lost 20 pounds seeing a dietitian. She had me on a 1,200 calorie diet. 1360 calorie diet. I just guessed it 12. Well, after year, I gained it back. Yeah, no one is, listen, I'm not debating that those calorie restrictive diets don't work. They do. Because people will say, well, you need to be in a calorie deficit in order to lose weight. Okay. Yes, but no, because

where you get those calories from, absolutely. We don't count. We don't weigh. We don't measure around here. I had a great post that I re-shared where it was someone who's like, okay, here's 100 calories of blueberries. Here's 100 calories of like crisp. here's 100 calories of strawberries. Here's 100 calories of cookies. Here's 100 calories of broccoli. Here's 100 calories of chips. Here's 100 calories of whatever it was, something healthy, and here's 100 calories of chocolate. If you can imagine, the 100 calories of all the fruits and vegetables was this huge bin of fruits and vegetables. And on the other side of all the chips and the crisp and the chocolate was this little tiny and little amount of food. It's just that it's a complex, it's a complex, it's a It's more complex than eat less, exercise more, right? It's more complex than just the calories that you're eating. It is where those calories are coming from. Bigger than that, it's what your hormones choose to do with those calories.

Right. So that's why it's just like someone can push your up. I can put you on a restrictive diet and I could listen. I could sell my program. Losed however many pounds in X amount of days. You notice I don't do that because everyone's a little different, right? And yeah, I could, and then what? And then I could make you feel really shitty.

Well, if you keep putting the weight on, it's willpower. You just need to have stronger willpower. You know, you don't know how to count calories properly. You're not exercising. Fuck that shit. It's so fucking olding archaic. Did you know that this whole calorie situation was perpetuated by a woman, Lulu Peters, back in the day way, way, long ago?

She came up with this calorie thing was a way to ration food for when the men went to war and we gave them all of our food, the women were meant to ration a certain amount of calories. And it was never for weight loss. It was to ration out food. And if you were overweight, you were seen as like this like Lucy Gooseley, no willpower, kind of like woman who couldn't keep her shit together. Right? You can imagine the stress back in the day, the lack of sleep back in the day, like quality of feel. Oh my God, there's so much going on there. Anyway, so the whole, ask me how I feel about calories in versus calories out. Right?

I see some of you sharing the life is like really difficult right now. You got a lot going on. You know, this is why we're here for you, right? This is why we're here for you. We started the program. It's been difficult. Car broke down. I had the flu, but I'm trying moving out.

Okay. Thanks for sharing, Kelly. Here's what I want to say before I go. Let's normalize life happening while we're trying to reach our goals. Right? Let's normalize life happening. while we are trying to reach our goals, it doesn't have to be all or nothing. It's like, okay, what's the best I can do right now in this moment? What's the best I can do today? What am I learning?

When I choose to indulge in something to manage my stress, how about I just take a minute and be like, huh, how's that working for me? You don't have to do anything about it. Just bring awareness to it. And then next time it happens, you're like, oh, yeah, shit, here I go again. I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm coping. Okay, I use food to cope. Okay. what else can I use? And it's not overnight and it's not any one big thing. It's slowly but surely these small changes that you start making that actually change who you are. We need to normalize there is never a good time to lose weight. There is never a good time to lose weight. You will never, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever reach your goal if you give up. It's all about every single

day making as many choices of all the choices and possibilities you have because we set the bar high which are the ones that you can focus on. What can you do today? I'm going to start with my bathroom today. I'm not going to get my whole room done. I just don't have the time in my day. I'm going to start. That's where I'm going to start. And then I walk in my clean bathroom tomorrow. I'm going to be like, oh, this is nice. Okay, maybe I'll pick the clothes up off my floor. Right. Same thing. Start with water. Just drink water today. Try to focus on that. That's it. Set a timer, send an alarm. Whatever you can do. Find your favorite cup. Just start with breakfast. If the meals are overwhelming, start with breakfast. right just maybe get the snacks in what what can you do small tiny actionable steps add up make a big

difference okay got to go thanks everyone gosh it's so good to be back it's so good to be back okay so this is the first day of our first official week of the program if you feel like you don't have your shit together neither do i do i that's okay uh reach out for help we're here for you member every day counts right one day at a time have a fantastic rest of your day i'll be back in the group tonight for a Q&A. If you want to come join me. Again, just use the app. It's the quickest way to get your questions asked and answer looking for more support. Pop into the group. You definitely don't have to wait for tonight for me to answer your questions. So ask away. Have a fantastic rest of your day. Have a great start to week one. And if you know, you shit the bed today, fine. Tomorrow's a whole new day.

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