The Livy Method Podcast - Time to face what you've been avoiding.

Episode Date: May 12, 2026

In this episode, Gina Livy shares about what sustainable changes look like when life keeps life-ing (which sometimes means dealing with that thing you just don't want to deal with). Broadcasting from the Cotswolds while working on her upcoming lifestyle book, Liv Lighter, Gina opens up about the pressure people put on themselves to be perfect while trying to lose weight, and why that mindset is often what keeps them stuck. From emotional eating and old dieting habits to enjoying meaningful moments with family, food, and travel, Gina reminds you that sustainable weight loss isn’t about restriction or obsessing over every bite. It’s about learning how to live your life while making choices that support your goals, your health, and your happiness.This episode aligns with day 23 of our Spring 2026 weight loss program. You can find the full video hosted at: www.facebook.com/groups/livymethodspring2026To learn more about The Livy Method, visit livymethod.com. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I'm going to be honest with you, this podcast is unapologetically a hot mess because that is what midlife feels like sometimes. Why, though? And how do we make it better? Do we all just need facelifts and g-lp-1s? I mean, let's talk about it. No bullshit, no wellness wankery here because we're trying to make real change and change is hard. But we're in this together. Welcome to the Living Method podcast.

Well, hello. Happy Day 23 of the program. It's Tuesday. Okay. So I'm hopefully my Wi-Fi is secure. Yesterday I had a bit of an issue checking in, but I'm in the Cotswolds and just got me thinking about what I am doing here and why and how it pertains to what's happening in the program. So I'm writing a book called Live Lighter, which is all, which is like a recipe book for lifestyle.

And this was, the idea came to me after talking to Greta. and hearing her story. I had previously met Greta Podletsky. So if you know Greta, she's been on before, she has the number one cookbook in Canada right now called Every Salad Ever. And it's been on the bestseller list for, I think, 55 weeks, so over a year. And I love Greta because she's like a self-made woman. So she originally started out with her sister doing books, but she does the photography. She does, she writes the recipes she does all the production of the book everything and she sent out to do a book in a different way and i always admired her books because you know i'm not like the biggest cooker person in the world but i just thought they were so inspiring so indigo asked me to do a book with them and

i was like i know exactly what i want to do i want to do a a recipe book for lifestyle a recipe for lifestyle the name immediately hit me live later and if you're new to the program maybe you've seen me hashtag it or use it and talk about it. Obviously, Liv being a play on Livy. But Live lighter was a concept that was originally an idea of members where we did like an advertising because, you know, sharing is caring and it's hard to share the program when you don't know anything about it. And so we did this marketing campaign with our members and we asked people what

what following the Livy method meant to you. and there was this theme that came out that was not about weight at all. It was about this feeling of living lighter. Living lighter, yes, in your body, but more so living lighter in your mind, in your relationships, in your friendships, getting out there and doing things that, you know, you never did before. And one of the members involved in our campaign, I was thinking about her this morning, And I remember going back, we did a photo shoot with our members, like they were flying through the air, which was super fun. One of our members that did that campaign with us lost her husband not too long ago.

She'd lost over 100 pounds. And I was remembering a conversation I had with her just about her life and how great her husband is and her kids and her family and lives in a small town and whatnot. and, you know, thinking about her now and in that moment, like, how she was feeling and describing living lighter and just how life can be very difficult and it can be hard and it can be very trying and stressful and, you know, challenging. And, you know, beyond just losing the physical weight when it comes to following this program, I know so many of us, like I'm reading the comments and, you know, you know, you're so hard on yourself for not being perfect. And that's where I keep talking about you have to learn to live your life while also working through old habits and creating new habits that are going to support the life that you want to live.

Like you can feel how you want to live. And let me tell you, you are never going to enjoy life by counting and weighing and measuring everything you eat. It's not a sustainable way to lose weight. And once you lose your weight, you want to be living in a way that you can easily maintain and sustain that, where you can,

I always say enjoy all the yummy bites of bits that come with life, but truly enjoy life and indulge in those moments. And food is such a big part of those moments. You know, yes, we need to eat to fuel our body. So making healthy food choices is really important, right? We also use food to celebrate, to show love, to bond over. you know someone you know Bakes you might my son for example

Make cookies for me on he sucks at buying gifts Like he absolutely sucks at buying gifts He's like the worst But he had been working all week on perfecting the cookie dough To to to For these specific cookies And that was his love Like his love language to me was to

You know my other daughter For example made Made like this music box Because she loves like a little minifference or houses and stuff. And together they created this frame and whatnot. And, you know, the last thing I want to be doing on Mother's Day is stressing about whether or not I should eat the cookie that my son made for me. And there's always, like there's Mother's Day comes around every year. Your birthday comes around. You know, I'm away. You know, I have a great opportunity to, yes, I'm away. I'm traveling

with friends, but I'm also working and doing a book. And food is a big part of that. We enjoyed the meal yesterday and the last thing I want to be doing is stressing about what I mean because I'm trying to follow the program while I'm here and I'm making an effort but if we're not perfect we put this pressure on ourselves and then what happens you put the pressure on yourself and then then you just stop following it's not worth it I'm not getting value out of it I'm unable to do it perfectly therefore you know what's the point of doing it and that's that's where you have to really step back and see this as a process like if whatever like what is your issue. What's your issue? Right? Can't seem to get into it. Okay, then if you can't seem to get into it,

what is going on in your life, right? What can you do? If you think of, okay, I may not be able to go to the gym every day, but can I go for a walk around my block, right? I may not be able to, you know, maybe I'm having a hard time getting my water in. Okay, what can I do to make it more enjoyable? You know, what can I get a, is there a certain glass that I like? Can I buy a new jug, you know, water bottle for myself. Can I use the app and set an alarm to remind myself a couple of days? Is it just so you feel too busy? Okay, well, you're too busy to make time for yourself to feel your best in your own life. Maybe something has to give and it's whatever you got going on in your life has to be more important right now. But where can you find that time for yourself?

You know, being really intentional about, okay, what is going on in my life right now? What do I want to do? what am I having a hard time doing and then how can I set myself up for success and you know being here I'm pulled in all these directions um it's interesting my my friend Lynn that I'm here with as I'm thinking like I got to go live I have to do this I got to you know get dressed wear a shirt that's not hanging down showing my boobs like I'm wearing right now wrong choice um and she's like what can I do help what can I do can I set up your thing what can I do and I was like isn't that so lovely and my go-to was like, no, no, no, I got it, I got it, I got it, I got it. And then I came down stairs and she had it set up for me in this little room, which was so nice. And I'm like, oh my gosh, that's,

that's so nice. Imagine if we showed up for ourselves in the way that we show up for our friends, you know, caring about them, wanted to help for them, you know, what can, what can I do to make this easy for you? It's really about staying power. It's not any magical thing you're going to hear me say to you. It's not any one thing that you're going to do. It's truly about you following through making real change that's going to change your life, right? How you feel, how you think, like actually is going to make a difference in your life so that you are still not trying to lose weight 20 years from now or spend the rest of your life trying to lose weight, right? Like what you can feel the change, you can feel the life that you want to live. What are some of the things that you can do each day to get

you one step closer. And I know Dr. Beverly talks about this all or nothing attitude, but what are a few things? And some of the things that come to mind when you think of mindfulness, and that's what this is about this week. Yes, of course, it's about the portions in digging in. But, you know, stress. I can't tell you how many women I talk to that are just beyond stressed. And they just don't have time for this. They don't have time for that. But they don't take time to just do a couple deep breathing exercises throughout the day. Like literally just. Oh, oh my gosh. Okay. You know, like take time to research. set that didn't cost me any money i have to breathe anyway it really didn't take me any more time

and has a massive impact on my nervous system helping me calm down right um so i think sometimes in this pursuit of like what can i do what can i do what can i do what can i do what can i do what can i do? it's like what can i do right now right piling more and more and that's the systematic nature of the program is that you know like if you're new to the program right prep week was intended to just help you kind of feel it out, right? If you're a returning member, I don't care if it's your 25th group, to give you an opportunity to ground yourself in this 91 day session and be like, okay, this is what I got going on in my life. Here's where I'm at. Week one, fine tuning and adjusting. So if you're new to the program, you understand, this is what we're doing. And this is starting to fit it in. This is starting to, you know,

figure out the food plan, get into that routine, figure out and see what things are getting in your way are making it harder for you. You know, people who are returning members, right? So you had your get back into it. That second week is all right. Let's get into that groove. You know, week two, you know, all about consistency and maximizing. So, okay, this is what I need to do each day. Let me get into that routine, whether you, you are new or returning member, maximizing. What are the things that you can do beyond the foods that are going to help you? Move your body, right? Man, just stress, get better sleep. Do you have health issues? Is there a way to address them? Take that to the next level. Thyroids. If you have thyroid issues, there are all sorts of foods that work really well,

certain types of veggies and fruits and whatever. Just eating those alone might not have the impact with everything that you're doing in combination. And so now we're at this place where we're laying on the mindfulness. And this is where that routine really sets in, where you want to be so routine that it's allowing the thoughts and the feels to bubble to the surface. And so, and so, struggling is part of the process. If you can kind of, what is it that you're struggling with, right? Whether it's just trying to be consistent, show up every day, move your body, manage it, whatever it is. That's the work. That's the work for you. So that's what mindfulness this week is all about. Yeah, so living lighter. What can you do to live lighter in your life? Chances are the

things that you can do, this is my whole point. Chances are the things that you can do to live lighter in your life are the things that are going to actually help you be physically lighter when it comes to the scale. Because it's going to help you show up with an attitude and perspective that chances are is going to get you to the end. You have to follow through. You have to finish. You have to do the work probably that you don't want to do in order to reach your goals. And that's what these 91 day sessions are. I can smell. They're cooking some pizza. It smells so good. These 91 sessions are not it. It's not one and done. This is like a way of, we're all in real time, collective energy, going through this. You have, you have information, expert advice, support. You're using the app.

Like, you're committing to 91 days of prioritizing myself in this time frame. Now, when the 91 days is done, you have to continue your journey. And what I love about that is you're still building on everything you've done. It's not like you just starved and deprived yourself and you're done. and you start over, right? And we are, we are going to have a summer program, of course, with the fall and we have the gym. So we are going to be here for you. But if you have an opportunity to frame this 91 days in a way that's more motivating for you, game changer. Game changer. I canceled my gym, my gym class this morning so I could walk during the live and the sun. Love that. I love that. I went out, we went out last night. It was late. It was getting kind of dark and

we just kind of like, we were on a weird time change and we had eaten food and it would have been so, much easier to go to bed and have a bath. And I'm like, you know what? I could feel myself. I could feel like what my body needed was a walk, but I did not want to go for a walk. I was like, I'm tired. I'm whatever. Anyway, I was just like, get your shoes on, Gina. I like put a sweater over a sweater. I got my shoes on. We walked, we went out. Lynn joined me. Your daughter joined me. And then we went for this walk and it was exactly what I needed. And the walk wasn't a physical walk. It was like, there was a lot going on my mind. I was upset that the. live got cut off yesterday so I thought you know everyone's going to hate me and ruined everything.

I got to get this book done. I got to be thinking about this. I got stuff going on with my family. And I was like, I, what do I need in this moment? Is a bath going to help me? Yes. Can I have that after my walk? Also yes. So I love that. And the point of that, MJ, is like you, you were like, how is the gym going to be for me today? Maybe you don't want to face people. Maybe you don't want to wear your gym clothes. Maybe you don't want to drive there. Maybe whatever. Okay, so then what, what is going to serve me today? And that's the kind of mindfulness that we were looking for. This is not surface bullshit mindfulness. This is really like, okay, you're the champion, the cheerleader, the coach for yourself. You're your best friend. Right. What do you need? What do you

you. Um, yeah. Struggling is part of the process. So true. And the way the struggles are part of life and this program isn't happening in a vacuum. And that's it. And, you know, anyone, I'm not saying that you can't do a program as super motivated and people are a hardcore. I know a woman who offers a program and she's super hardcore. Like you got to exercise your ass off. You've got to drink pro live off a protein shake. She's like, come on. She's super hardcore. And I also have taken note over the women that she's helped over the years that I personally know. And it's just not sustainable. It's not sustainable. And then when yet you do another, and not to say like there's value in working out hard, there's value in getting your protein in. I love that, right? Feeling strong.

But it gets to a point where also like you eat that all or nothing, you cannot uphold that. And I think you've got to teach that middle piece, right? Like it's a great goal to be able to do like 57 pull-ups or whatever and be a certain size or you know but at some point you just can't keep that up and so there's got to be there's got to be like it can't just be that all or nothing you know and that's where you see and i think about oh yeah you posted that super fitness photo of yourself and it's great that's the accomplishment and that was good enough but i know for a fact though women are feel like i did that i felt like i sacrificed everything to achieve that and then where is it you know And so that this is the kind of sustainable.

And listen, that doesn't mean that there aren't going to be times in your life where something's got to give and something traumatic happens or sidetracks you or whatever. But you got to be able to know what that feels like and what you want. And then when you feel yourself going off the rails, be able to be like, okay, what are the steps that I can do to get back to feeling my best? and that those steps are the very things you're struggling with. See what I'm saying? So, so if you're having a hard time getting, not getting into the program, imagine how hard it is to get back to doing the things

that make you feel your best even after you reach your goal. So let's say you reach your goal, you feel fantastic, something happens in your life, sidetracks you. You know, hopefully you get back to doing the things, that you need to do before, you know, you gain your weight back. This is you don't gain your weight back and not notice. So I recognize this way for me, this way of dealing with drinking a bottle of wine every night and eating and eating chips for breakfast and going all day without eating. It's just a

recipe for weight gain, feeling like shit and being depressed. And I'm okay with that. I have a good pity party for so long. The minute I start feeling really uncomfortable and it's just affecting everything in my life and is beyond the pity party is now creating more pity parties for how I feel rather than deal. Pity party to deal. Yes. That's when I'm like, okay, I have to make a conscious decision. Turn the page.

Let's go. It's hard for me to get back on my water again. It's hard for me to get back to moving my body again. It's hard for me to, it's 30 years I've been maintaining my weight. It's still hard for me. And it always will be. But you have the tools and the skills to know what you need. And so the things that you, that are coming up,

up while you are struggling is that's why that's the work. I have A type people who do the program all the time. Like there's, you know, 25,000 people doing the program. A lot of people just using the app. If you're not using the app, you should use the app, but 14,000 in the group. And there's, you know, a small percentage of people who are vocal. We love the people who are vocal because they create the community. I can't tell you how many people I've spoken to who are like, oh my God, I love being part of the community. I never say a word, but here I am. And, you know, I have so many people who do the program. they never say a word because they just follow and everything's easy peasy great good for them a type people love that amazing now they tend to struggle more in maintenance because a lot of times they just

follow the rules they do what they need to do physically with what to eat and when and exercise and do all those things in order to achieve a goal and then once they reach that goal and their maintenance this is where they have all this stuff oh my god can i trust this do i do i this do i that so we know people will spend more time in the weight loss program, taking longer to lose their weight, actually have an easier time when it comes to maintaining and sustain their weight. So at some point you have to work through that stuff. The point is we also know that the living method works for losing a clinical amount of weight. It's, it works.

It doesn't matter the health issue you have thousands of people, you know, been studied, research, all of that. Living method works. That's it. It's just like making it work for you with the life that you are living. So we know that part of it works, but that's just such a small part of it. The rest is showing up when it's not easy, getting back at it after kind of, you know, just letting other things become a priority.

Things like time can make it difficult. There's a lot of reasons. Hormones. Getting those hormones, right? I don't want to say the word balance because, you know, you can't balance your hormones. but you got to keep showing up and working through those things. If you truly want to lose your weight in a way, you are truly going to be able to... I could sell you all a quick fix over and over and over again.

I'm not interested in that. You want to know why? Because I want to see you. I want to like keep these community events going. And I want to see people who, you know, have lost their weight. And years later, they're still maintaining and sustaining their weight. You know, that's the goal here. That's the goal here.

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Hi, Cherry, have a great day. I have been an emotional wreck for so long. Could this be significant reason by my weight is plateauing? Super slow to move down a pound, super quick to move up a pound. Yeah, I see Maryland here. Stress raises cortisol. Yeah, stress is like a recipe. High stress, lack of sleep, long periods of time without eating is like a recipe for

weight game, as is menopause. It depends on where you're at. You know, I don't know, Deanna, how old you are. You know, there could be some physical things that are like high stress. It's cortisol. It's not really the stress. It is the inability for your body to calm down from the stress. Stress is good.

There's like there's good stress and then there's just stress. And stress itself is not bad. It's our inability to calm down from the stress. For example, taking time to take, sorry, I'm like, talking time to do some deep breathing exercises to calm your body, meditating, grounding yourself, visualizing, going for a walk, listening to a podcast. Like, this could very well be one of the things that is slowing you down, but that you need to focus on.

I'm an emotional. I'm an emotional wreck. Okay. So to me, to me, let's break this down. Is whatever's going on in your life, is it affecting your stress? So what can you do to actually help your body calm down from the stress? And, you know, it can't be like, so I get vacation, right? Like, not everyone can go away on a vacation and sit in the sun.

So what are things that will help you feel less stressed? And I don't mean like just relaxing and going to a spa. I mean taking deep breath exercises, going for a walk, like being really intentional about helping your body calm down from the stress. sleep what's happening with your sleep and being emotional like it can really you know have you ever seen anybody after someone passes away right like i remember my mom um after her sister passed away it she was like you know you could see see it in her and it lasted a while and you know now i look at her and she has her light back and you know with that you that something

impactful like that it just it eats it your soul and I think some people like when they're younger like will lose weight so someone usually if people don't eat in that circumstance it'll lose a lot of weight the problem is as you get older and you've been through those situations in your life is that you can you lose that muscle mass and so each time like your body's go to then is almost to gain weight because it doesn't want to go there to that that that that kind of like not feeling like it's had enough and it lowers your metabolism. So, so how is the, the, like, because grief, for example, we have a post coming out this week, interestingly enough on grief. And grief is one of the things that we don't talk enough about and how it impacts. So grief of losing a loved one, grief of losing someone who's still

here, but you disconnect from. Like right now I'm dealing with grief with my oldest. Like, is this not the life I imagine for her? And it's not the life. family dynamic, I imagine, for my family. And it's just like it's, it's a very upsetting. Grief can be losing her job. Grief can be losing a friendship. Grief can be loss of like what you thought life would be. Grief could be looking in the mirror every day and, you know, trying to reconcile getting older. Grief can be, you know, loss of a pet. Like it can be, it can be sad. Grief can be sad for someone else who's going through something that you can't do anything to help them really. And we carry all of this back to the live lighter. We carry all of this. Is it why you can't lose

weight? It is absolutely impacting you. This is where what you eat and when is not going to really help you there. So when you are stressed, you tend to like your body depletes in nutrient value really quick. So this is where you might want to be looking at the supplements. omega-3, vitamin D, magnesium, right? Like that, those are, that's where if you're deficient because your body is so stressed, adding in a supplement, those supplements can absolutely help supplement, give your body what it needs until it's able to get there. So supplements, for example, could help with that.

Because the other way, right, you could be not have an appetite, which if you're not eating enough food that can impact so following the program being consistent with the food choices that you are making the stress obviously a big one going for a while i'm not talking to go to the gym and pound it out go for a walk call the friends deep breathing exercises um stretch like that that's so yes what can you do to help your body calm down from that stress um sleep right so what can you do to get it better and i said great dig gas at a bed and try to get that morning light you don't have to get on your gym gear and go for a walk and run it out drag your tired ass outside with your coffee get some light on you that's going to help with your body winding down at the end of the day so absolutely

that could impact plus i do believe that we we you know something traumatic happens to us we carry that weight we and you know when i ever i have clients when i were with personal clients and they want to work with they're trying really hard to lose weight lose weight and just seems like they can't break a plateau i'm like go do something something. Stop weighing yourself for a couple days. Go do something fun, interesting, different. Like take your so fixated on this number. And usually they're like, they're like, oh my God, it worked. And it's not that I told them anything magical. It's just usually by the time you feel like that, you're at that breaking point where it was going to move anyway.

So yeah, I absolutely, here's Teresa. I'm in a similar situation, widowed almost four years ago. Grief seems worse this year. But I understand. And stress puts the pounds on. It's hard to reverse and get your body to respond. We'll get there rooting for you. So sometimes with grief, we get really disconnected from ourselves. We don't want to feel the grief. So we are just, I mean, put it there.

And then we become disconnected everywhere. And so this week of mindfulness is about reconnecting. I actually realize that this is what I do. I am great at being really in tune with myself. And lately I felt little hollow. and there's a situation like I mentioned with my daughter that's going on. And she's just been horrible. I just,

I love her. I understand what she's, I get what she's dealing with, but she also has just been incredibly hurtful. And I'm just, I don't feel it. And I said to Tony, do I just not love my kid?

Like, do I, what is it? Like, am I just so used to it? I have this situation with my dad and my sister. And both are like, and every time I let them in, it's just like more the same. And so I've kind of just created this disconnect so that they can exist and it doesn't bother me. But I don't want to be that with my daughter where she just exists and doesn't bother me.

But the reason why it doesn't bother me is I've created this massive block. And so it's not that I'm indifferent. I just completely disconnected from the feeling of it. And when we disconnect from one person, one thing, whatever that is, we can't. pick and choose what we're disconnecting from. So we disconnect from everything all around. And so what we're doing with this mindfulness, we're taking a minute to assess how we're feeling back in our own bodies

and trying to reconnect. If you think about, if you think about, if you think about food and you add dieting on top of it, trying not to eat when you're hungry. Right? Like the stress of just, you're actually hungry and you're trying not to eat. That's like super disconnecting.

Forcing ourselves to eat salad when what we want is a warm soup. Like we just have really taught like not even feeling our hunger and satisfaction, just eating according to a number. Right? Like we're so disconnected. And so that's what I guess this mindfulness is about reconnecting with yourself to be able to trust. What's going on with you?

What do you need? Are you actually hungry or are you just sad? you know what do you need to eat do you need a soup or do you need some leafy greens right and how much to eat knowing okay i'm not hungry because i'm really sad but tick talk time is going to go by so i should have something to eat we're going to get into that later on um but really understanding the minute you've had enough i really've had enough i feel good you know or knowing when you're about to go in and just binge the whole thing and making that connection. I want to eat this whole tub of ice cream and it's okay if I do, but I'm not going to layer on more grief, sadness, shame,

and guilt by having this ice cream because I know if I have it, that's the aftermath of it. You know, and we might not get that right. We might still indulge in whatever it is that aftermath will come, but this week you're going to be aware of that aftermath and be like, huh, okay, so I'm doing this thing that in the moment I think makes me feel good, but really I pay for it for days later by being an asshole to myself. You know, so that's what I think, I think COVID caused us to disconnect. Absolutely. Absolutely for me, COVID was really, I remember being in a grocery group. I remember the first day that we picked up the kids, March break, and they kind of, what was going on, grocery store was weird as far. It was so weird. People piling stuff. And I didn't have

understand the toilet paper and the stuff and you just felt oh my god i should do it too um and then we were afraid to go anywhere or do anything and we still haven't reconnected as like like collectively we disconnected from other people being around socializing so i thought like i was getting really edgy and i thought it was like the situation when i was in the grocery store during COVID and i was standing in line with my kids and waiting in one of those big ass long lines and i saw this person behind me and they were doing their own thing. And then the person behind me all of a sudden was like, what the fuck are you doing?

And I was like, whoa, what? And they're like, I've been standing here. You can't just come and butt the line. And I was like, and all up in my face. And I was like, what do you? I've been standing in front of you for like a half an hour. What are you talking about? And that was a very traumatic moment for me that I actually didn't go to grocery stores

for a really long time after that. And I became really edgy around people. And I used to blame it on on that. I'm like, kind of what's wrong with me? I think like it must have been that situation from COVID. And then I realized a big part of that was menopause. Like legit perimenopause. Just my nerves were shot.

I was super edgy. I was all of those things. And that's why I mentioned menopause when someone asked about the grief too because estrogen is, I know this might not seem like the connection, but estrogen is very anti-inflammatory. And so, you know, when you're stressed out, you're not getting the sleep. maybe you are indulging in inflammatory foods like chippies maybe you're having wine which caused your whole body to be inflamed like that's sort of where that as you get older too it can feel like such a fight

and that's what we don't want to do we don't want to fight our bodies we're trying to work with our bodies not fight we can't make it happen and fight our bodies you know so so yeah so grief is a big part of it and i think you know this is what i love about this program is like we're going to talk about that. You all know what to eat and not what not to eat like that's yes of course the method and the food plan is super cool and works but that's not what's hard about anything that we're doing here. And so that's why we have these conversations and that's what I want the living method to be. Yeah, these great motivating 91 day sessions but also support in between and that's why we have our app and our new membership. I was so resistant to membership because I'd worked in gyms before and I just didn't want

anyone to commit to anything that they weren't committed to. But it's also the sense that it is a continuation. And it's not just the party times. 90 one day challenges. It's what's happening in between. And that, I think that sense of like, it's, you have all day every day for the rest of your life to get it right. So, so right now, let's just one foot in front of the other. And like, just realizing that you're disconnected to yourself is really huge. Really huge. There's something happening. You know, you even allow yourself to feel it. Have you even allowed? yourself to grieve. This is a big one, right? Where we have people who, like, it's interesting with my four kids, they all grieved, they all grieved a little different. So I had one that cried

every day for the whole first year. She, and I swear she's the best, she's like the best one, because she cried every day for like a whole year, sobbing, crying every day. Then I have my daughter who initially cried and then she acted like, she's fine, I'm over it. People would say that. So I'm sorry to hear your dad done. It's fine. I'm over it. It's fine. I'm over it. And I would look at her like, oh, probably not. But I, who got a process feels? You know, and then I have my son who like just didn't even cry at all. And you can see it's starting to seep in and seep through.

And this is why therapy obviously is very, very helpful. But, you know, they might not still really truly grieve until years from now when, I don't know, when maybe they get married or. you know, when they graduate university or whatever, whatever that is, right? And so I think if we, now they're too young to know. They're too young to know better because it happened way too young. But we know, we've been through grief before and we know how we handle it. How we handle that grief is probably how we handle everything. And this is about being intentional in our lives and making space for it. Recognizing where we're at, if we can't ask for help, give ourselves the help that we need, you know that's and this is what the community is all about this safe place i see a lot of you guys

sharing right this is we're all in this we're all just i always say we're all just trying to do our best we're trying to wake up every day and get through our lives well we don't want to get through our lives and sometimes with this weight loss thing we keep chasing this weight loss thing when i lose my weight i'm going to this when i lose my weight i'm going to that and it's happening right now in real time today so whatever you are struggling with with weight wise is probably what you're struggling in life wise. And so that's why the thoughts and the feels and all of it work together. So that's what that's what I would say this week of mindfulness is. What's the shit that's holding you? What's the shit that's holding you back? What's the shit that's weighing you

down? What's the shit you don't want to do? That's probably the secret to your weight loss journey right there. God, that was a lot. That was a lot. Father's Day can also be a trigger. Yeah. Right? That's exactly it. And I, um, I don't. love these conversations. This is what has helped me lose my weight, not just the food plan, built up grief was huge for me. The program helped guide me on how to address it myself working on the fields. Listen, we would all love to have a personal Beverly David. This is it, right? So we know a psychologist is definitely, God, hugely important. We can't all afford a psychologist. We can't all make the wait list and we can't have access to some to psychologists all the

ton. So what can we do ourselves? Same thing with personal trainers, right? We may, if we know we got to work out, but if you've never been to the gym before, you're not really sure, maybe you can't afford $80 an hour for a personal trainer. Where do you learn this? What, what's the conversation there? You know, there's a lot of great menopause practitioners out there and doctors. Yeah, and if you pay out a pocket, you can see one, but maybe you can't afford to pay out a pocket. Or maybe just there's not one accessible to you. And that's, that's what these conversations are, you know? So how do you, what are the conversations that are for you. You don't have to listen to every single conversation. What's the ones for you? What do you need to focus on? What do you need to do?

Okay, I'm going to go. Thank you. We're all just grown up babies trying to make our way through this world. Exactly. It's exactly it. We're exactly it. All right. Thanks for joining me today. Gosh, it's nice to be back and I have working working Wi-Fi. I'm still, I'm away this week. So I'm not going to be doing the Q&A's, but I'm going to go live on Saturday. day. So you want to come hang out with me Saturday and then Monday's the holiday and they'll be back to hanging out with you guys. And now you guys get enough of me. You get enough of me. So I'm giving you a little bit of break. Thank you. I appreciate all of you. Where are you at? What do you need today? That's the question for yourself. Of course, practice those mindful eating questions.

I know it can seem like, oh my God, telling you, one of the things are going to say, get out of your head into your belly. You cannot think your way through portions. You have to feel your way. And I know it's just about food, it will help you reconnect with everything that you got going on in yourself. So if you're asking questions, you got nothing. Chances are that's how you feel about a lot of things. So don't get on yourself if you don't feel anything. Be open to it. Ask the questions. Am I even hungry right now? Yes, I am because I can smell the pizza that Lynn and Tristan are making. So I'm going to go eat some of it with some leafy grains. Have a great day, everyone. Thanks so much. I'll see it tomorrow. Goodbye.