The Livy Method Podcast - Why Grit Beats Motivation

Episode Date: June 23, 2026

Success isn't about perfection, willpower, or never falling off track, it's about grit. In this episode, Gina Livy shares why persistence is the real secret to reaching your goals, even when life gets messy. She dives into the importance of maintenance, the reasons we fall back into old habits, and how stress, hormones, sleep, medications, and self-sabotage can all impact our progress. Gina also opens up about her own health and fitness journey, why nighttime snacking can be a major roadblock, and how learning to navigate life's ups and downs is the key to sustainable weight loss and long-term wellness.This episode aligns with Day 65 of our Spring 2026 weight loss program. You can find the full video hosted at: www.facebook.com/groups/livymethodspring2026To learn more about The Livy Method, visit livymethod.com. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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I was just listening to this podcast or this TED talk on social media today. about grit. The secret to success. The secret to success is not how educated you are, how much money and resources you have. It is about grit. Being gritty. And I don't know about you, but I think just being raised, you know, in the 70s and 80s, I learned a lot of grit. I think, you know, when I have patience, I have patience and I just do not give up. Maybe it's the fact that I'm a tourist. I'm not sure. But I think it's really important to understand that every time you fail, you learn something. And every time you try again, that is what creates grit. And that's what this is going to take for you to reach your weight loss goals in a way that

you get to move on with the rest of your life, in a way that you walk away feeling empowered, in tune, knowledgeable, confident, calm that you are going to be able to maintain and sustain your weight no matter what. That's what this is about. And think about like the whole world is against you because the diet industry has been designed in a way where it's all about quick fix, you lose the weight, you praise the diet, you gain it back, you blame yourself, right? And I'm not saying people don't gain way back when they follow the living method. Yes, they do, but also the goal is to understand why, what's happening, falling back into old habits. Physically the way you lose your weight, it gives you a chance to be able to maintain and sustain it because the way

you lose your weight absolutely makes a difference because you're maintaining muscle mass, you're in tune to your body's needs, you're learning to trust when to eat, what do eat, and how much to eat. And it's really falling back into old habits, which created that version of you where you wanted to lose that weight in the first place. And I shared this yesterday in regards to my room, right? Like I get my room organized, clean, bed made every day, feel like a rock start. It makes my whole life easier. My morning routine is easier. Getting up to workout is easier.

My bedtime routine. Everything just makes me better. But life happens. You know, next thing you know, I got this thing, that thing, whatever. I'm not feeling great. And then next thing you know, I fall back into old habits. In my room is a fucking disaster again. It's the same thing.

Dieting is this thing where we think that we will arrive and we will stay there. You will stay there, but that takes work. And this is where I've said it's about being able to ebb and flow, right? So I've lost over 100 pounds, probably close to 150 pounds, 30 years ago. And I've been able to maintain ever since. There are times in my life where I'm on the low. end of my range. So my weight was always like between 120 and 1.30. Right. Today I'm like 1.32. And so there's times I'm on my lower range. Sometimes I was happy in life and had all my

shit together and I was working out and I was feeling good and I was eating well and I was low stress. And other times I was on that low range because life was shit and I wasn't eating great and I was stressing out when you were young and you stress and you don't eat. Oh, yeah, it's a recipe for like, you know, losing weight. And then the problem is that you go through that enough and you end up gaining my because of it. And there's other times in my life where I'm on the higher end. And yeah, sometimes I'm on the higher end because life is shit and maybe I'm using food to cope but I'm just not moving my body. Or it's because I'm happy and I'm, you know, met my, you know, we started dating a guy and we went out to eat and life was good. And so it's that ebb and flow.

It's that ebb and flow. Now there is a point in my life and I know I've shared this a million times where my weight just started going up and up and up. I wasn't really changing anything I was doing. Still following the program, eating healthy, all of that. What was that? I was like a glitch in my like my, my, so what's going on with my brain. I'm feeling really hormonal last couple days. I don't know what it is.

You know, and then there, there, there, there was a lot of stress in my life, right? So stress with one of my kids, stress with the kids dad, um, stress with, um, with work and all of that. And then, of course, hormones. And so my estrogen, estrogen starts dropping. I'm going through perimenopause, through menopause, and I'm drinking wine because I'm stressed. And, you know, wine is very inflammatory. And then, you know, I start getting that like tummy midsection thing, no matter what I'm doing.

My weight goes up close to 150 pounds. I think I got this. I know what I'm doing. Really needed to check in with my doctor. Really needed to check it. I had like H. Pylori. I had to take antibiotics.

You know, the stress and all of that. Menopause did not help with that. And then slowly over the last couple years, I've been able to like tick it back down to where I feel like I'm feeling good again. And a big part of that, though, of my change was, you know, and I know I've shared this is like, yes, I stopped drinking wine for a while. I still don't drink it very often. But I cut it out for a while. I went from hardcore workouts to long walks. And then I made a decision to like just say no to everything for a year because I was overextended and whatever, right?

So it's about learning what you need to learn to prevent dipping back into old habits. And so anytime you've failed, if you've been dieting for 20 years and you failed, that was really just following shitty diet advice. It really was. Oh, God, there's still more shitty diet advice that there. It's everywhere. But that was really shitty diet advice. You kept showing up.

You were persistent as fuck. You, you know, you kept showing up. And now, armed with all this information and knowledge, it's going to be a different outcome. but you cannot give up. You cannot give up. And sometimes you get tired of it and you're bored of it and there's bigger things happening in your life. And that's where when you follow this program, what's so great about it is all the things you need to do to keep you alive and keep you, you know, as healthy as possible are the same things that you can do to help your body focus on fat loss, you know, don't give up. Keep showing up. Keep showing up. Grit. Grit is the secret sauce behind

success, secret sauce behind success. That as MD, Gina, lost all my weight and more and kept it off for about a year, but then started piling back on not enough time and maintenance and all kinds of other contributing factors, but I'm back and more aware. This is exactly it, right? Like, the thing about it is you didn't just starve and deprive yourself and you lost weight, right? You helped your body lose weight in a healthy way.

So you didn't make things worse, put it that way. And then yes, it's so easy to fall back into old habits. Like that's, this is about, I was so resistant for people calling this a lifestyle program because I'm like, I don't want you to do this forever. Like lifestyle is the way that you choose to live your life day in, day out. And what you're doing is you're creating or designing the life that you want to live. That's what you're doing right now. This version of you having lost 20 pounds, 80 pounds, even like 150 pounds, how does that

person navigate life? How did you get here? and what were your coping mechanisms and what's your relationship to food what's your relationship to yourself like these are all the things we want to work on and work through so we can fucking live our life without having to try to lose weight and just feel calm and comfortable in our bodies right and we're all striving for this like perfect you know like I've been following all these uh I know I probably look really great but I in my mind I'm still that girl carrying that 150 pounds I think that just never changes you know um I went to a Pilates class yesterday and

And boy, I was really depressed the whole rest of the day. Although I felt like a rock star because I went to, so it's my daughter and I have been trying to go to this club and do a Pilates class for like three years. We went and we bought passes after her dad died and she's just, she's had a rough go. She was like she had an illness when she was younger that kept her from going to school for like her last couple years of public school. She finally gets into high school, finally starts to meet friends and the pandemic happens. And then she just has a really hard time and then her dad dies.

And so she's just like, thank goodness, she's, she's finished high school and she's going to be going off to college next, next September. We got to get her out of the house. We got to get her doing stuff. And so we're like, okay, we're going to sign up. We're going to go. This is a great club. It's all women.

There's a lot of young girls there. Hopefully she'll make some friends feel like she's part of something. Three years, it's taken us to go. Finally, we went yesterday. And we went to a class that was way too hard for us. I thought it was a beginner Pilates class. it wasn't. And I used to teach Pilates. This is the thing. I used to teach Pilates. I used to teach Pilates. I used to teach yoga. I used to teach spring classes. I was on stage. Here's a photo of me that I keep here.

This is me on stage right here. This is me on stage at the Skydome. What used to be called the Skydome. I don't know what they call it. Roger Center. I don't know what they call it now. I'm teaching aerobics. Like this was me. I went to that Polaris class and I just was so weak and felt so, ah, I don't even know. Like one, really excited that I went and two, and really also motivated to get back in shape, but three also just like, what happened to me? You know, what happened to me? But I just fell out of being in shape. And this is what happens, right? So I just stopped doing the things that, you know, I needed to do to maintain that level of health and wellness. And do I want to be that in shape? No, but, you know, so what happens is I

look towards these fitness people out there and they all just look this next, next level. of healthy and fit. And I realize I'm just, I'm just trying to get to like the minimal level. So even I just want to say, even I really hard on myself for not being where I would like to be. Am I doing the things that I need to do to be? To be where I would like to be? Absolutely not. Absolutely not. And so this is where I got to say, okay, Gina, right? If you want that level of health and wellness or fitness, for example, and not necessarily the way anybody looks, but the way I want to feel, then there are things you're going to have to do in order to get there, you know.

Do not give up. Life is a journey. You got this, right? Life is a journey. I don't know how many women I have encountered and met over the years that come to me. And they're like, oh, I did this program. I failed at that. I failed at this.

And that's one of the reasons why I love the 91 day live sessions is you can see what was happening in the fall season of your life. What was happening in the winter season of your life? What's happening in the spring season of your life, right? And so they'd be like, I need to kick in the year. you need to help motivate me. I'm like, no, before I do that, because I love a good kick in the ass, I'm all about it. What is happening in your life? What was going on in your life where you feel like you failed at this diet? Oh, well, I was, you know, someone passed away. My husband died, right?

I lost my job. I was dealing with my parents. I, like, there's always something. There's always something, right? So, so just do not, do not give up. In my mind, I'm still that twiggy stick girl. Then one day I noticed I'm not. What a shock. Yeah. Right. Yeah, we had this, men do this a lot. And I would notice, I would notice this a lot. And here I am doing it now. Men would do this a lot whenever I would have an older gentleman as a client. And he'd be like, back in the day, I was, I'm going to start working out. I'm going to do this. I'm going to do that because I was like a football star back in the day. And I'm looking at him and I'm like, you ain't no football star anymore. And you can't go back into the gym and, you know, do bench presses and, you know, all of that, what you thought you were doing before. You can't. Dude, you're going to break yourself. You need to start with some core, some stretching, some light stuff. But we do, we have that version of our mind.

So in my mind, I had been like this person who was very fit. And now I'm just not. And, you know, I've been kind of avoiding that because I haven't gone to a class in a really long time. I've been like doing workouts on my own and doing a lot of homeworkouts. I go to the gym with Tony. I do my stuff. I'm always kind of knowing that if I ever went to like a class, I'd probably die. I could feel close to it, you know.

But we do, we do hang on to those versions of ourselves. And there are parts of it that we want to go back to, right? Yours is probably not as thin as you were, but as feeling as confident in your body as you felt. A lot of that could have just been that you were young, right? You were young. Maybe you weren't as self-conscious, who knows? I lost 12 pounds on the first program. now for lost 12 pounds on my first program now four programs and I'm actually up 12 pounds the scale

is not my friend living with pain condition on meds that cause weight gain but still here and taking it one day at a time yeah can we just talk about that too like success is also not gaining weight or not gaining as much weight as you could have right like that is also success getting back to like not wanting to call this a lifestyle program I'm warming up to that idea This is a place for you to focus on trying to be your best, healthiest self, physically and mentally. And there are times that life is going to make that easier for you and times that it's going to be harder for you. And sometimes it's just keeping your head about water. Sometimes it's just being able to maintain your weight.

Sometimes it's not gaining as much weight as you could have gained. So there's a lot of things happening. It could be, you know, what's sort of age and what's happening in menopause. And that's why you really want to make sure you are meeting yourself or you're at right now today. and not trying to do what you did before. So for example, when my weight started climbing and creeping up, I was like, oh, I'm going to just follow the program. I'm going to work out like I used to.

I'm going to like, again, it was like hardcore like spin classes, like doing hard stuff. And what I really needed to do was get better sleep, not be so overextended, really be mindful of my stress, do things like walking that's going to help my stress and stop drinking. Right? Because any of the stuff I did before that works. for me was just really not working for me. And so that's where that's where you need to maybe take a

look at like, okay, where am I, what's going on in my life? My age, am I going through, you know, menopause, perimenopause, menopause, even post menopause, like recognizing that. What's going on in my life, what are my life stressors, my environment that I'm living in. So life would be family stuff, something that's happening. Life stressors, work environment, your daily routine, those those types of things, right? Like what is, and then my health and wellness, what's going on here? And then there are times where your health and wellness just needs to be more important than weight loss. However, the things that you are doing to be healthier are the exact same things that you're going to need to do to be able to reach your goals. And sometimes life does not make it easy for us.

And definitely medication. So a big thing with medication and why they cause weight gain is one of them they cause dehydration. And so that's why you really want to make sure that you're drinking enough water. and then when you're dehydrated, you tend to crave more carbs and sugar. Also, with your microbiome, they really are disruptive of that. You can get really bloated and just like really not feel great. So see if you can take a probiotic or probiotic and prebiotic combination along with that. And that can really help with that just in terms of how you feel and whatnot. Because also medications can really mess with your bowel movements and your whole system of your body food, right? Food coming in and the

byproduct going out and all of that can make you feel a little messed up. I am up from where I want. to be. I'm around, let me see if I can, why can I not read that? Okay. I'm out from where I want to be. I'm around 12 or 13. I'm stubborn. I realized last night that I've been spending the last couple of rounds really concentrating on hearing my stomach and stopping myself from overeating, which is great. Okay. I've done the four questions. I'm pushing my plate away when I need to, but I'm eating junk. Y'all, I love this. Not that I love this for you, but I love the realness of this, right? Yeah, you can be, I am doing all the things, but then I'm also doing this. Nighttime eating, if you, like nighttime eating, if you are struggling with your weight and you are nighttime eating, it's probably the number one thing that's working against you.

Fricking game changer. If you could just go to bed without eating at night because it messes with your microbiome. It messes with your sleep. Your body, that's the main time when your body is naturally, your body's always naturally burning fat and always naturally detoxing. But that is like where your body does most of its fat burning and most of its detoxing is when you sleep. Plus, when you sleep, your body repairs and builds, regenerates, rejuven. plus when you don't get sleep you are less sensitive to insulin and so you're also 30% hungrier so you're craving more carbs and sugar on top of that. It's like it's a recipe for not just weight gain but for making it harder for your body to focus on fat loss right so I love the realness in this. I've done the four questions I'm pushing my plate away I know I need to but I'm eating junk I've been eating brownies I've been going for ice cream and hot

chocolate bar and the hot chocolate bar that's that's not helping me at all. So while I may know enough of when to stop eating, so I'm not full, I'm still not going out and I'm still going out and getting crap food. So that makes the scale go up for me. I'm definitely learning stuff about myself. Yeah. Can we also think we spent, I don't know about you, I spent like X amount of years functioning one way and now I'm trying to like recreate how I'm showing up in the world. Like that's, that's a lot. And that's like like 91 days and isn't going to do that for you. Twelve weeks is enough time to make change. And even if you've done it for a year, two years, three years, four years, five years,

this is about continuing to work on yourself and help you be as healthy as possible and help your body focus on fat loss. So you get to a place hopefully will you reach your goal, then you get to a place where you'll learn to maintain and sustain it. I made a big mistake by not pushing maintenance enough. I didn't want a maintenance. People asked me for a maintenance program forever. So how you used to maintain your weight is do another round of the weight loss program live session, right? Because just because you're done losing your weight doesn't mean you're done working through the issues and associations, the habits and all of that. And so then over the years, we created, I finally was like, let me create a support group for

maintenance. So for people who are working on maintenance, we'll have a place to support them and have conversations. And then I took that same structure of the living method. And then we had Ruth Kane and our team at the University of Ottawa study people in maintenance, people who were successful at maintaining and sustaining the weight and people who were not. And what was the difference? What was the commonalities? And out of that came the maintenance program. So on the surface, it looks like the same program, but it's not.

It's completely different in the sense about your intention. And what I've learned is like one, science now has caught up to realize it takes two years for your body to adjust to your new weight, to make your new weight your new set point, right? Now that is two years just kind of like live in life and chaotically. Let's say someone lost their weight through a deprivation diet, counting, weighing, measuring. They finally reached the goal weight. Goal weight takes them like two years to be able to stabilize at that weight. Obviously with the living method, we are like, there's a system we're following, right?

So you're fast tracking everything. You're fast tracking weight loss. You're fast tracking maintenance. And so maintenance is a whole other thing. Maintenance is like now that you arrived learning to trust that, learning to maintain the changes that you've made, right? Understanding when you do fall back into old habits, how to get back on track. Like I really didn't understand the importance of that. until we started talking to people in maintenance. So like maintenance is a,

maintenance is a whole other thing. And if you are losing your weight through the living method, or, you know, honestly, anyone who loses their weight any other way, definitely want to follow through on maintenance. Maintenance is really important. Spend that time in maintenance. Get to learn what being, that maintenance looks like and feels like to you. A lot of people sabotage themselves after they reach their goals because people treat them differently. They don't feel worthy. Like it's a whole thing. This stuff is really complicated. At 60, I want to be as healthy and as functional as possible and for as long as possible. The method enables everybody to do this, whatever pace is fit for their life and towards their best life.

I do too, right? Like, I do too. I want to, I want to be healthy and well. Like my mom is 21 years older than me. She can kick my ass at pretty much everything. Right? But she's out. She's being social.

She works out. She does all those things. That's what I want to get to. I want to feel fantastic. I love a segment on different people who have maintained and how they decided they were at goal. So we, God, we have so many conversations, Dawn, that you can go back into from our maintenance program where with the structure that we had before, we used to be able to bring members on. And we would talk a lot about this.

And when they decided that they reached their goal, here's what I can tell you of all the people that I've spoken to. So if you were on our membership, you can actually go and if you're using the app, actually switch into the maintenance group. And so all you have to do is use your to actually get into the support group where you can join us for lives. Use your same code that you use to get in here and add it to the maintenance group. And then you can flip back and forth and listen to all conversations. But over on our podcast, if you search maintenance, we've talked to so many members. And of all the people that I've ever spoken to about how do they know they were out their goal weight, I can tell you it was never a number.

Never, ever, ever, ever a number. It was a feeling. And then there's a lot of people who reached their goal weight and then went into maintenance, but then kept trying to lose weight because that's what they had always done. It's really interesting the conversation. So you have access to all of those over on our Living Method podcast. If you search maintenance, they will pop up. And we've had a lot of guests join us over the years and talk about that.

That doesn't mean that we still can't have members. So usually the last segment in the weight loss programs, the 91 day programs, we do bring on a guest who's been in maintenance. But yeah, that's a great comment. Because everyone's always like, where's it? If so many people lose their way, where's all the maintenance conversations? They're happening in the maintenance group. They're happening in the maintenance group.

Finally, finally, went for a 45-minute walk this morning and planning on getting back to badminton tonight, finally feeling motivated to my body. I love this for you. Yes. Love that, badminton. We just started pickle balls. We're going to actually go play. Today, you feel great, right?

You're out there. moving your body. Got one last night. Got one night in last night. Okay, man, I was thinking about you. I was like, we should start a no snacking club or like create a post in the group that's like committing to not snacking tonight. Like I know that sounds maybe weird, weird, but like and yeah, because there's no live every night and you don't have to sit there for a half hour alive to remind yourself not to snack, but it could be like a no snacking commitment post. I am, I am, I am committing to not snacking tonight after dinner and then, you know, see how you make out. See how you make out.

But I went to bed thinking about you last night. It's weird as that might sound. And I woke up thinking about you this morning. Talking about this, not eating after dinner. So got in one night of no snacking after dinner. Went to bed early, not 7 p.m. but still early. Tomorrow we plan to head downtown Vancouver to take in the Vibe World Cup game. So it'll be a day of challenges and some indulgences.

So, okay. So that's a one-off, right? this is a World Cup stuff once in a lifetime, you know, like it doesn't have to be three nights in a row. And you did that, right? You did that. And then tomorrow is a different day. And then the next day you can be like, okay, I'm going to not eat again. Like this is that one day at a time. And when I know last night we talked about try stringing three days together. But also, you know, if it's going to be an impossible situation. And also we don't want you having to stress about food during this once in a lifetime thing that's with the World Cup that's happening either.

Like it's not going to be make or break. You are, it's not going to stop you from reaching your goals. If you choose to indulge in some food tonight, just kind of getting caught up in the, in the funness of it all, right? Also, if you want, you can be like, ah, you know, I've had the thing before. I'm just going to choose not to eat after dinner. That's all great.

So it's kind of a win-win situation for you. To be able to get to a place where you can enjoy the yummy bites of bits that come with this moment in time, and then tomorrow not punish yourself, just get back at it and get back to challenging yourself to not to eat at night, right? Like, there's no crazy rules around this. So if you go out tonight and you eat the things and you get back at it tomorrow and tomorrow night, you choose to not eat after dinner, that's a win. That's an absolute win. If you choose, if you choose to, uh, tomorrow go and, you know, um, not eat anything after after dinner, that's also a win. So tonight is,

but you still have tonight. You still have, you still have tonight. You still have today. So I would love to see you though at some point. String a couple days together to really see how you feel. I did this myself last night because you guys know I've been munching on things. Tony went and got like popsicles.

So it's been like in Dr. Pepper Friesies and, you know, those rocket ship popsicles and fudcical. So like every night he's bringing these to bed like 930, 10. And I just feel like garbage the next day. So last night I'm like, I'm not eating anything at night. And so interesting because I didn't eat, I also was so tired and ready for bed. Because when you had that snack at night, it wakes you up again. And it's like, you end up staying up later.

So I was like, I got to go to bed. I drank some tea. I did tea. I drank some tea. I drank some water. And then I went to bed. I woke up this morning, feeling a million times better. Not just physically, but also mentally.

Right. And so already today, I'm like, all right. I said to Tony, I just, I'm not. I cannot do any more snacks in bed. really have to make a push. I got to get back to feeling my best. So when you string those, you get that feeling, you're like, oh, I feel so much better. I was actually going to work on a post on that today about actually giving tips for not snacking at night. I feel like we've talked about it a lot, but I'm going to work on a post for that. Every time my weight drops, I seem to

self-sabotage that old habit of rewarding success with a meal. Yeah. And it's that dopamine hit, right? I've actually been with that neurodivergence post, it's interesting because I've been reading into kind of dopamine hits and people who are neurodivergent like autism, ADHD, your dopamine kind of centers are a little messed up. But it's interesting because a big part of that it makes you feel better. So you remember the dopamine, it's like you remember the fun part. This food, it's not actually eating the food. It's the thought of like, okay, I did this. I'm amazing. And now I get a treat and a reward. it, yay. Because that just feels fantastic. This is like, this is deep for us too, right? If your parents were ever like, oh, you know, like your dentist, you know, oh, here's a lollipop. You know,

you went through this like the experience, good for you. Here's this. Celebrating with food. Like it's so reinforced for us. When we do good things, we celebrate food or a treat or whatever is a big part of that. Except we're grownups. We're grownups. Right? We don't have to wait for our parents to give us a treat. We can literally buy all the treats that we want. It's so messed up. And yet, our mindset is we need to treat ourselves. And so this happens a lot. This happens a lot. And you should feel, I think it's misplaced worthiness.

It's that moment where you truly feel worthy when you should feel worthy all the time. And I didn't think I had a worthy issue because I thought people who didn't feel worthy were like sad and depressed. And mind you, I could have been sad and depressed. I've been very sad and depressed in my life. But I never saw myself as not feeling worthy until I watched this. this whole thing on worthiness. And, you know, I was like, oh my gosh, I really, I really deal with not feeling worthy, not feeling good enough. But I never saw myself as that because I was successful, right? I have a business. I, you know, I have a good marriage now. My, my kids are

three out of four kids aren't bad in terms of like, you know, doing okay in life. And I, I just, my version of what someone would look like or function in the world, that, not feeling worthy was was really different. Well, actually, my ex-husband was abused as a child. And so I was able to see reflected in him someone who didn't feel worthy and someone who spent their lives sabotaging themselves. Because I picked up this pattern of sabotaging myself. So because when I was with him, we would work hard and just when something really good

happened to us, he would do something crazy to sabotage that because he was, he was very fearful. He didn't feel worthy of success. worthy of anything really good in life. And it was a hard, a hard thing to break. And then when I thought when I split from him, that I,

that wasn't me anymore. And I realized I, I kept doing that. Out of my own fear of things being ruined, I would ruin things first. And that's where I thought that was coming from. But then the worthiness was so much deeper. Like it was,

it was, it was pretty deep. It was pretty deep. So that, that sabotage thing, is what is that right like you work hard you finally get like why don't we get the dopamine hip from okay this is working but we have to layer on top that that's celebrating so that's that's deep what is that about where does that come from i don't have an answer for you i can just i'm just

sharing sort of what my kind of like aha moment was about it um Jamie kernel lemma has a good book called worthy you might want to pick up and read that and maybe that's not it maybe it's so off base that that's not it for you so what what is that need to celebrate and Are you just, is this just your only moment where you get to celebrate yourself? Do you celebrate yourself in other ways? Like I think that's in, for so many of us, weight losses like this, it's our, it's our hobby, right? It's very defining of who we are. It defines conversations that we have. It defines how people see us. And maybe there's a fear of if you reach your goal, what are you afraid of? And we never think about that because we want this so badly. We never think

about, okay, what happens if I actually reach my goal? Because some people will sabotage themselves after they reach their goal, right? Because it makes other people uncomfortable, because they're uncomfortable, because they don't trust, whatever that is. It's happened so many times. I once had a client who was doing so well, reaching a lot of weight. And she's like, but, and she had this public persona. And then she's like, well, wait a minute. Are people going to still like me and relate to me if I'm not like trying to lose weight and living in a larger body? I'm like, what? Because, but that wasn't who she always was. And I was like, yeah, but carrying excess weight is not necessarily healthy for you. This isn't what you want. You feel uncomfortable in your body. Why would you

not lose weight out of fear of what people would think of you? But she had built a whole career around this persona. And then she was like, I just, and I just saw her sabotage and sabotage and sabotage. And I'm like, for how hard you are constantly trying, you are equally sabotaging yourself. But that was like, a really deep fear of people not liking her, not accepting her, maybe even deeper financially with her with this, you know, business she had built around this persona that people would no longer accept her because of that. Yeah, I've heard situations where someone had gotten lost weight and there was a family member who was uncomfortable with that and because of their love for the family member, they just gained that weight back. Right. So, so they're almost,

So that is sabotaging themselves after they reach their goal. And then there is sabotaging yourself before you reach that goal, which could be out of some of similar fears. So just taking that time and being like, okay, what's my deal here? Like, why do I keep doing this to myself? Like what's going through my? And this is where you could go back to like, let's see a moment where you sabotage yourself. Okay, let's rewind back to where you were feeling really great.

Oh my God. I'm feeling good. This is working. And then what was happening when you were faced with like, okay, I'm going to celebrate or I'm going to have this. I'm deserving of this. What was going through your mind there? Then what happened after you had it?

And then kind of feel the effect of that snowball of like feelings and physically, mentally, right? And then go back to what if I would have made a different choice? What other option or choice? It could just be a habit of rewarding like Pavlov's dog that Dr. Beverly talks about, right? That habit, that trigger, that habit of reward. You feel good about yourself.

You reward yourself. It's always been food or treats. And so is there another way you could have rewarded yourself, right? I don't know what that might have been. Like maybe get your nails done. Maybe I have a nice bath. It doesn't have to be something you spend money on, taking time for yourself, writing in your journal.

Like what could it have been a different way of celebrating yourself? And that's how you rewire and make those connections. But once you see it, you can't unsee it. And then so that's where like when you constantly show up in sense of awareness, you can only keep doing it for so long before you're real. okay Gina how's that working for you honey you know and you're like well fuck okay time to make a change time to make a change you know time to make a change how do I go uh to maintenance in the app okay so when you open up your app let me show you so you'll go up to your app open up your living

method app and then see at the bottom at the top here at the top it says spring summer 2026 so that's the program that you're in and then it'll take you to all the different if you have a history of doing all the programs so this is all my old program so if you want to to click on these, you can go back and see your data and all that from that program. But if you go back, if you click the top again, it says switch. So it says spring, summer, and then you can switch, and then you can choose maintenance spring session. And then you can go into the maintenance session.

Now to take part in any of the live sessions, you're going to want to be in the Facebook support group. So you can just use the same code that you used to get into this support group over in that code. And so that'll take me, I don't know why it's taking so long. my connection. So there you go. So that takes me into the maintenance version of the app. And if I go into the guides, it's all of the maintenance content information. The AI is also geared towards maintenance as well. So you can flip back and forth. And if there's a guest, if there's a guest in there today, let me see. Well, this is from yesterday. So yesterday we have a conversation on Mondays,

mindset Mondays. And so then I can actually link to that conversation in the maintenance group. So it's as easy is that. It's as easy as that. And that's what we're working on with the app too. So that's with the membership and you'll have after the 91 days. If you want to continue your 91 days of this, if you're behind, you can do that. Obviously, after the 91 days, you still have access to all of your tracking, all of your graphs, all of the content, any new content that we add in there, the AI, all of that. And then over the summer, I'll still be checking in, going live. We'll have one support group for this summer. So in the maintenance group will have one support group for the summer club and then we're going to continue to keep the conversation going.

Maybe your plan is to lose way over the summer. I love that. Maybe your plan is just to maintain. Maybe your plan is just to try not to gain because you plan on having a great summer. However you choose, we're going to be here for you. So that's how you do that. Let me see. Oh, President's Choice has an awesome blood, orange and lemon popsicles in their organic section. You know, popsicles are really great. Popsicles are great, especially, natural ones if you make them for yourself in the summer because we're going to have some heat waves no doubt and we'll talk about that and how to navigate that because when it's really hot out

you don't have much of an appetite but you're craving a lot of sugar that's because your body needs that kind of instant glycogen brought into like carbohydrate that sugar to replenish your glycogen stores quite quickly so popsicles especially any natural ones or homemade fruit ones can be very effective as is watermelon that's why a lot of times we crave watermelon watermelon breaks down the quickest of all fruits to replenish your glycogen stores quite quickly. Before I go, someone said something really weird happens to me. Something really weird. Some nights when I really can't fall asleep, I'll go grab a spoonful of peanut butter and for some reason it helps me fall asleep. Yeah. So there are foods that can help you fall asleep. Like Kiwi is another one that help,

like foods that have triptophan in them, for example. There's a difference though. There's, there could be a psychological reason that you've had something so it's making you feel better. Also, any foods that bring up your insulin, then you have that bit of a crash. So there are foods that can help you fall asleep. However, what helps you stay asleep is completely different, completely different. So that's sort of that. So keep an eye on that, right? This is sort of why with our revamp tweak, we're doing hype, like we're really

focused on protein throughout the day. And that's why we are focused on those carbohydrates in the evening before bed. Kind of balance that out. and that will also help with sleep heading into the evening. So, yes, eating in some cases can help you fall asleep, but whether or not they help you maintain that sleep, which is really about getting that deep and REM sleep would be interesting. So you know what would be cool if you had like an aura ring or an Apple Watch,

something that's if you are into that kind of tech, and you can see the difference when you do have something to eat and what's happening with your deep and REM sleep as opposed to when you don't, right? So that might be something we're checking on. I know God, I already know at this point, I drink alcohol, my sleep is like shit. So I might actually sleep, but I wake up so much more often. I'm not getting that deep in my sleep. Okay, thanks for the conversation today, you guys. I appreciate you. Tomorrow, Kim is going to join me. We're going to talk about the tweak this week.

We're going to talk more in depth about the rhyme and a reason behind it. It's really cool. Yes, a lot more flexibility, which is perfect rolling into the summer. And then in the next couple weeks, because we're far from done yet, we're going to introduce our last week, which is going to be really helpful throughout the summer. And this is the setup and the lead up to that. Okay, have a fantastic day, everyone. So I shouldn't add the kiwi to my breakfast bowl. No, you can totally add kiwi. You can totally add kiwi to your breakfast bowl.

It can just also be, well, Kiwi's not going to help you sleep. Like, it's not going to make you fall asleep, but it can help with sleep in the evenings. But it's also great in the morning as well. So enjoy your kiwi. Hi, Mom. Love you. Okay, have a great day, everyone. I'll see you next time.

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