The Mel Robbins Podcast - 8 Things To Tell Yourself Every Morning
Episode Date: September 11, 2025You can reprogram your mind for success. In today’s episode, Mel shows you how to start your day right, with 8 simple sentences that reset your mindset and rewire your brain for the day ahead. Eve...ry morning is an opportunity to take control of your thoughts and your focus. Don’t waste it. Using research and proven affirmations, Mel will teach you how to train your brain to see more opportunity, focus on the positive and get excited about your life again. Speak these 8 lines to yourself every morning, and over time you’ll become almost unrecognizable to yourself. These affirmations won’t just set the tone for your day. They’ll inspire you to: -Finally tackle the thing you’ve been avoiding for months -Expect good things and create more of them -Stay open and present -Notice opportunities you usually miss -Calm your morning anxiety -Move through the day with more confidence -Celebrate your effort and use it as fuel -Release the pressure to be perfect -Speak up, share your ideas, and stop shrinking yourself Mel also teaches you what she calls the most important skill she has ever learned: The ability to be in a good mood for no reason.Mel has spent years honing this skill and she says she owes her success to it. Today she is showing you how she rewired her brain to constantly default to a good mood (instead of a bad mood, which she did for years). Learn the 8 sentences that help you stay happy. Use these affirmations to help you control your mood and your mind. They are the positive morning motivation you need to spark self love, inspire discipline, and erase self doubt.Use these sentences to create a healthy mind, and create a fresh start every day. In less than 2 minutes, you can change how you start your day. For more resources, click here for the podcast episode page. If you liked the episode, check out this one next: How to Design Your Life (A Full Step-by-Step Process)Connect with Mel: Get Mel’s #1 bestselling book, The Let Them TheoryWatch the episodes on YouTubeFollow Mel on InstagramThe Mel Robbins Podcast InstagramMel's TikTokSign up for Mel’s personal newsletterSubscribe to SiriusXM Podcasts+ to listen to new episodes ad-freeDisclaimer
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Hey, it's your friend Mel, and welcome to the Mel Robbins podcast.
What if I told you the only thing keeping you from waking up tomorrow and feeling incredible
is eight simple sentences? I'm serious about this. There are eight tiny phrases that you can
say to yourself based on the research. They're so short. It takes less than 30 seconds.
and they program your mind for more positivity, more energy.
They're going to make you feel instantly excited for the day ahead.
And here's what I love about these eight simple sentences.
They're so short.
You have no excuse not to use them.
They're backed by science.
They're ridiculously easy and they work.
And you can start using them tomorrow to change the way you feel the second you wake up
and I'm going to teach them to you today.
because I want you to feel empowered when you open your eyes. I want you to feel excited about the day ahead. I want you to feel like no matter what happens, you are capable of taking it on because you know what? You are. And so today I'm going to share eight things to tell yourself in the morning that will reprogram your mind, boost your mood, and help you have a great day. And then I'm going to show you exactly how to use them. So let's get in.
into it.
Hey, it's your friend Mel, and welcome to the Mel Robbins podcast. It's always such an honor to be
together and to get to spend this time with you. And if you're a new listener, or you're here
because somebody shared this episode with you, well, first of all, I just wanted to take a
moment and personally welcome you to the Mel Robbins podcast family. I'm so glad that you're here
and that you chose to listen to this episode because today, I'm not. I'm so glad that you're here and that you chose to listen to this
episode because today, I am going to share the eight things you should tell yourself every morning.
And the first one is you need to tell yourself, today is going to be a great day.
And this is something you should say the moment you wake up. Today is going to be a great day.
And you should say that even if things have been going bad, even if you got a lot going on today,
because you can still make it a great day based on your attitude, no matter.
what it is that's going to happen. And I promise you, even when you're going through a challenging
time, starting your day by saying, well, today is going to be a great day. I'm going to make it a great
day today. I promise you that when you start your day with this first sentence, today is going to be a
great day, that there will be something great that can happen. And I wanted to start with this one
as the first one, because just this morning, for example, we were getting ready to tape this episode
and to talk to you today. And the team was going back and forth in text because we were
figuring out what kind of coffee you were going to get. And I, of course, had to text Ben and say,
oh, Ben, when you pick up my coffee, could you get a ham and cheese croissant for me too?
Because I really love the ham and cheese croissons at the place that you're going. And Ben texted
back. Yeah, absolutely. I'll pick up that ham and cheese croissant with you. Mellon. I'm going to
be to the studio in about a half an hour. And then he ended the text with, and it's going to be a great
day. Just reading that, I was like, you're right, Ben. It is going to be a great day. You want to know
Why? Because you said it's going to be a great day, and now I'm feeling that it's going to be a great day, and we're going to make it a great day. And by the way, this isn't just like some empty platitude. This has so much research, and we're going to unpack it throughout our conversation today. For example, I'm going to start with Dr. Daniel Aman. So Dr. Aman has been a guest on the Mel Robbins podcast. He's made a big difference in my life. He is a psychiatrist. He runs the Aman Climics. He is a world-renowned expert on the brain. In fact, he has scanned nearly 300,000 brains.
And you want to know what the first thing Dr. Daniel Amon says to himself every single morning?
Can you guess? What is the sentence you think Dr. Amon says to himself? You're right. He wakes up every day and says, today is going to be a great day. Now, why does Dr. Amon say that? I'll tell you why.
Because Dr. Amon says you have to program your brain. And one way you can do it is by repeating simple sentences to yourself. And so that's how I want you.
to start your day. In fact, he even takes it a step further. Once he says today's going to be a
great day, he will often add in, huh, well, why do you think today is going to be a great day for you?
And the reason why he kind of prompts himself that way with that simple sentence is because
you're doing something that Dr. Eamon calls directing your mind. See, your mind only knows
what you put into it. Your mind will seek what you tell it to seek. Directing your mind with that
sentence, today is going to be a great day. Why might today be a great day? It puts your
brain in a positive state, and it makes your brain start to look for reasons why it could be a
great day. And so we're starting these eight simple sentences with the sentence that Dr. Amen starts with,
boy, I want to say the sentence that the world's leading expert on the brain says every morning,
don't you? And let me just address something, because the conversation we're having today
is not this sort of like throwaway positive advice. There's deep science here. And I want to acknowledge
something. You may be going through a really challenging moment in your life right now. You may be waking
up and you've got a really difficult thing that you've got to do today. Maybe you're going to a
funeral. And so when you wake up in a challenging moment, when you wake up in a day where you got
something really hard to do and you say, today is going to be a great day, that's not denying
what's happening. It's you taking a positive step to direct your mind so that your mind can help
you have a good day, even though you're going to go through something hard. So if you wake up and
you're going to a funeral today, and you say, today is going to be a great day, even though I have
to go to this funeral. And then you ask yourself, well, why is today going to be a great day?
You'll be surprised because you'll be able to answer that question. I mean, you could hug
everyone a little tighter at the funeral to make it a great day. You could make a point to talk about
all of the positive memories that you love about that person to bring their spirit to the moment
as you're talking to their loved ones. And that could make it a great day. You could go for a
hike afterwards or go spend some time with your dog or go sit in your favorite spot and have
an amazing cup of tea. And that could make it a great day. And so you might be wondering,
why does this work now? And why does it work in the morning? Like, why is it matter to do this
in the morning. Because I do think that these meaningful, simple sentences that you're going to say in the
morning, it really does matter that you do it first thing. And here's what I want to ask you. When was the
last time that you expected something good to happen? I want you to be honest with yourself. I mean,
aren't you always bracing for the worst? Don't you wake up and you are just bracing for what's going to
happen at work or you're worried about how things are going to go at school or you're thinking about
something that happened yesterday, it's almost like your brain is always looking for a disaster.
And the problem is, is if your brain is always bracing and your brain is always looking for
reasons to worry, and if your brain is always thinking that today's going to be a bad day
or how is this thing going to go, you're going to walk right past all of the good stuff
that's actually there, and your brain will find exactly what you've been bracing for,
which is the bad things, the disaster, the hard stuff. Because if you're not looking for
the ways to make your day great, you're going to miss them.
And I've talked to so many experts who have done research for their entire careers to back this up.
I mean, I've already mentioned Dr. Daniel Eamon, the board certified psychiatrist and award-winning researcher and New York Times best-selling author.
He calls this directing your mind on purpose.
But I also want to bring into this conversation the late and marvelous Stanford neuroscientist and neurosurgeon, Dr. Jim Doty, who says you can literally change your brain.
when you use simple sentences like these and the next seven I'm going to give to you
to change your brain and change the way you experience life.
And before I tell you sentence number two, I really want you to think about something at a
common sense level, okay?
If you're not programming your brain on purpose, it's still getting programmed.
I must say that again.
If you're not programming your brain on purpose, it's still getting programmed.
And if you're sitting and you go, well, by what, Mel, I'll tell you what, by the headlines,
by your past, by everything you're worried about, by your to-do list, by that mean voice
that's in your head that was probably the voice of your parents or somebody else from
your past, that stuff has been going on repeat since you could talk. So your brain doesn't
care where the programming comes from. It just runs the programming. If you ever heard that
coding term in engineering with computers, garbage in, garbage out, well, you've had a lot of
garbage in your brain that's been running on repeat, and it's time to get that garbage out of your
brain. And the only way that we're going to do that is if you wake up and take control of the
programming in your mind, that's what these eight sentences are about. And I want you to say these
eight sentences every morning because it's going to be the first thing your brain hears. Because
when you have beauty in, you have beauty out. When you have positivity in, you get positivity out.
when you have optimism and hope and excitement in, that's what comes out.
So we've already said today's going to be a great day.
Good job.
Now we're going to move on to the second thing.
And that second sentence is, something cool is going to happen for me today.
Now, here's what I love about this.
The first sentence you just said is, today's going to be a great day, which has lifted you up, right?
And you're like, okay, yeah, today's going to be a great day.
Let's make today a great day.
I love starting the day like that.
When you say this second thing, something cool, it's going to happen for me today.
You know what I love about this?
We have gone from now lifting ourselves up and really putting positivity in our brain.
This second sentence, it creates anticipation.
You know, when you have something cool that's in your calendar, you know something cool is going to happen.
But what if you said this sentence, something cool is going to happen for me today?
It's almost like you turn the day into an adventure.
And you're not doing that right now, are you?
Oh, no, no, no, no.
you are turning your day into a nightmare because what are you doing? You're waking up and you're
bracing for bad news. You're probably assuming that something bad's going to happen. No, no, no,
let's do the opposite. Let's assume something cool is going to happen to you today. And you don't even
know what it has to be because this is like a surprise. The sentence, something cool is going to happen
for me today creates this mental scavenger hunt for good things in your life. Here's a really
relatable example. What if you just bumped into an old friend at the grocery store?
store who tells you about a job opening, you've been looking for a job. I mean, that's a cool thing
that happened to you today. What if a college roommate that you haven't talked to in a while
suddenly texts you something funny? This actually happened to me the other day. My college
roommate, whose daughter is getting married, was visiting her mother. I know this is like a
long-winded story. I'm going to make it short, I swear to God. She texted me and all of her
bridesmaids from 30 years ago out of the blue wearing this silk,
thing. It was like a, it was like this thing that she made us wear, where we had to wear this like
garter necklace that had this big silk flower on it on our neck, like a giant tumor. And it became
this, this hilarious joke among us for the last 30 years. Now her daughter's getting married,
so she finds this thing, texts, all of her old brides fades this thing. And then it created this
hilarious string of photos where I made one out of like paper from a notebook and held it in place
with my shoulder, texted it. That was a really cool thing that happened. I wasn't expecting that to
happen. But I believe when you say something cool is going to happen to me today, when cool things
happen, you actually notice them and enjoy them more because you primed your brain to look for
them. And here's one other thing that I want to just unpack. If we go a little deeper into
these eight sentences. You know, one of the single best skills that you need to develop in life is to
have a good attitude for no reason. I want you to stop and really consider that. It is a skill in
life to have a good attitude or to be in a good mood for no reason. I mean, most people are
pretty good at being in a bad mood and having a bad attitude for no reason, right? And we give people
with a bad attitude a pass. I mean, it's almost like, okay, well, they're in a bad attitude. They're always
in a bad mood, I want you to flip that. What if you could train yourself to be in a good mood
and to have a good attitude for no reason at all? That is the single best skill that you can develop
because it helps you go through life. I think we've trained ourselves to have a bad attitude or
to be negative for no reason at all. We kind of expect it to happen, even though we might not have
evidence that it's going to happen. I want you to learn how to do the opposite. Wake up and train
yourself to be in a good mood and to have a good attitude for no reason. Just assume that good
things are going to happen. And I fundamentally believe that when you assume good things are
going to happen and you have a good attitude, good things do happen. Because based on all this
research, you are training your brain to believe and to look for good things. So you see more good
things, which mean you experience good things. This is a skill. Just stop and ask yourself honestly.
Do I default to kind of a negative attitude?
Do I easily slip into a bad mood?
Like, is it super easy for me to scan the world and find tons of reasons to be in a bad mood
and to have a bad attitude?
Well, if you're like 99.9% of human beings, the answer is yes.
That the default is to just slip into a bad attitude, to slip into negativity.
And I'm here to tell you, it is a skill to train yourself.
and to train your brain to default to having a good attitude and to being in a good mood
for no reason. You deserve to be in a good mood for no reason. I want that to be your natural
setting. I am tired of defaulting to negativity. I'm tired of being in a bad or negative mood,
aren't you? And the reason why I'm saying this is because some of the most accomplished scientists and
researchers in the world have come on the Mel Robbins podcast and talked extensively about how your
brain has been programmed by your past. Your brain can seek negativity by default if you're not
careful. And you and I got to wake up and recognize that you can learn how to be in a good mood
and have a good attitude as a skill. That could be your need to default. Wouldn't that be awesome?
In fact, a lot of this comes from Dr. Paul Conti, who is a renowned psychiatrist trained at Stanford
and Harvard. He gave us a master class on the Mel Robbins podcast on how you talk to yourself
matters. And I want to read a quote from him that really illuminates how your negative self-talk,
so the negative sentences that you say to yourself on repeat, that it is programming yourself
to default to a bad mood, to default to a bad attitude. Negative sentences, negative self-talk.
Dr. Paul Conte says, so just an example of negative self-talk can be, what do you say to yourself?
in the quiet moments.
What do you say to yourself if you do something wrong?
What do you say to yourself if you drop something?
What do you say to yourself if you approach a new social situation or a new challenge?
You probably are like, I'm an idiot.
I never do anything right.
I'm not good enough.
Why do I always screw things up?
Oh, God, this is going to be terrible.
On repeat, you are defaulting to a negative.
attitude and negative sentences. We've all been trained to do this, and I'm here to tell you it is a
skill to train yourself to have a good attitude and be in a good mood for just no reason at all,
because this is just what you've programmed into your mind. And that's why these eight sentences
matter. That's why I believe the single best skill that you can develop is to be in a good
attitude in the absence of a reason to have one, right? I mean, you can be in a bad mood in the
absence of a reason to be in one. We all know people like that. We don't want to be near them.
So today, we're using these eight sentences every single morning so that you can train your brain
to have a good attitude and be in a good mood for no reason at all. And to have a good attitude
even when challenging things are happening. Why? Because it helps you to rise to these moments
in your life. That's why this matters. When you train your mind to be in a
good state, it changes the way you filter the world. It changes what you see. It changes how you
handle stress. And I'm not making this up. Literally, expert after expert on this podcast has told
you in me that when you change the words, you feed into your mind. You change your entire life.
And so that's what these eight sentences are about. These are the same things that I tell myself in
the morning. This is how I have developed the skill of being in a good attitude and a good mood,
no matter what's happening in my life? Because why do I need to let the outside world change the
programming in my mind? The answer is, you don't. And I actually wrote extensively about this
in my best-selling book, The High Five Habit. I actually want to read to you from it. Chapter 7 is all
about how you can use what I call meaningful mantras, which are basically these eight sentences
to program your mind. But here's the truth. I'm reading,
you from page 75, chapter 6. Everyone has a negative mantra or belief about themselves. I screw
everything up. I'm a bad person. I'm ugly. I'm a failure. Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
And look, maybe you have failed. Maybe you have royally screwed things up right now. Maybe your
life is a mess. Maybe you aren't winning any beauty pageants. Maybe you are the shortest one of all
your friends. Maybe you did lose your job. Maybe all of that is true. But here's the question
I want to ask you, is thinking these negative things helping you?
You know the answer, don't you? Of course it's not. I mean, isn't it time to feel better
about yourself? Of course it is. Do you think that feeling better about yourself is going to happen
by mistake? No, it happens on purpose. It happens when you program your mind. And that brings me to
this statement, this fact, this truth. This is the single best skill that I have in life. I have
trained myself to have a good attitude for no reason. I'm teaching you how to develop the skill for
yourself, to learn how to have a good attitude and be in a good mood for no reason at all. You're
training yourself that this is just who you are. You are the kind of person that is an arresting
state where you have a good attitude, no matter what is happening. And these eight sentences help.
And if you're a worrier, oh my gosh, you're going to love this third sentence.
No matter what happens today, I can handle it.
No matter what happens today, I can handle it.
This sentence packs such a powerful punch.
If you're a worrier, if you get anxious easily, this is an anchor.
And let me tell you why.
I believe that anxiety is a moment of uncertainty.
where you doubt your capacity to handle something.
That's what anxiety is.
Something is about to happen in the future,
and now you start doubting your capacity to handle it.
That's why this sentence, no matter what happens today,
I can handle it, is such a game changer if you're a warrior or you're anxious,
because it goes right to the heart of the crisis in those moments.
In those moments, you are doubting yourself.
you are doubting your ability to handle what is going to happen, whether it's at school or at work
or at the funeral that you're about to tend or the fact that you're going to a party tonight
and your ex is going to be there. So now you start worrying about it. What is the worrying?
The worrying is anchored in this belief that you can't handle seeing your ex. And you want to
know what? It's complete garbage because you're going to tell yourself, hey, look, no matter what
happens today, I can handle it. No matter what happens at that party tonight, I can handle it.
no matter if this ex of mine brings in the most fabulous new person that they're, I can handle it.
I can handle it because you are now challenging the core belief of somebody who worries and who is
anxious, the subconscious belief that you cannot handle it. And you are hitting it. It's like a
hand-to-hand combat with your own brain. You're like, oh, no, no, no, no, no, no. I am not going to
believe that lie that I can't handle this stuff. I am not going to allow myself to get anxious because
is here's the deal. No matter what happens today, I can handle it. And if you begin the day with
this sentence every single day, no matter what happens at work today, I can handle it. No matter what
happens at family dinner tonight, I can handle it. No matter what happens when I open up my bank
account and I see that it's really a lot lower than I thought of it, I can handle it.
When you say that, you are summoning up resilience. You are telling your brain, look,
I'm not worrying. I'm not going to let you take me down the anxiety train like you have for 57 years.
because no matter what happens today, I can handle it.
And here's a relatable example.
Let's say you wake up and you get an email from your boss that says,
I need to talk to you today.
No specifics.
What did your brain just do?
Your brain just went, that's what your brain did.
Your brain was like, it just immediately jumps to the negative.
No, no, no, no, no.
That's the old you.
That's the you that raced ahead.
and your brain now, because garbage in, negativity, breeds garbage out. Now you're thinking out into the future.
And oh, my gosh, this is a disaster. I'm going to get fired. This is the worst. No, no, no, no, no, no.
No matter what happens today, I can handle it. I don't know what the conversation's about.
So why would I torture myself and assume it's going to be bad for no reason? Because you don't have the reason yet, do you?
and if you're going to assume, why not assume that no matter what happens, you can handle it?
Why not assume that maybe something good can happen?
This is what I'm talking about when I say you can train yourself to be in a good mood and to have a good attitude,
even when it feels like something bad might happen.
And that good mood and that good attitude, it not only changes how you experience life up to that
meeting, but it also ensures that you're not going to hijack yourself by worrying and being
anxious, because the meeting's going to be the meeting. Whatever's going to happen is going to
happen. And if you have a good attitude, you are going to be able to weather that meeting better.
Why? Well, sentence number three, no matter what happens today, I can handle it. And I want to dig a little
deeper into the research as to why I keep recommending that these eight sentences are things you say
first thing in the morning. If you're a warrior, if you're anxious, or if you have somebody in your
life that you love that is a warrior or anxious, and they're always bracing for the worst,
and they're always, like, doubting their ability to handle something, and you look at them,
and you're like, why are you worried about that? Like, you're so much stronger than you think.
Like, stop worry. And they just can't get it. Send them this conversation, because they need these
eight sentences. Because here's some research about morning anxiety. Morning anxiety. Morning
anxiety is this feeling when you open your eyes in the morning and your heart is already pounding,
your mind is already spinning. And maybe that was this morning for you, you know? Like it happens a lot.
And here's the reason why anxiety can be worse in the morning for a lot of people and maybe it's
worse for you or it's worse for somebody that you love. It comes from the fact that your brain is
scanning for threats and negativity before you even get out of bed. And some common symptoms of
morning anxiety or racing heart, tight chest, tense muscles, headaches. Now, I'm explaining this because
I struggled with morning anxiety for decades. I would literally wake up and feel like I was pinned to
that bed with this sense of dread. Why? Well, because I was pretty used to being in a bad mood
and being pretty negative and doubting my capacity to handle things for a long time. And so I would
just think it and think it. I basically trained my brain to do this. And the research also says
that there's several factors that contribute to morning anxiety. It might be your circadian rhythm.
It might be the amount of stress that you've got. It might have to do with sleep problems or your
diet. It might have to do with past trauma. It might have to do with the fact that you went on a
bender last night and now you're waking up hungover and one of the biggest symptoms of a hangover is
anxiety because as you're processing alcohol overnight, all of the hormones and sugar levels
and everything else in your body goes all haywire and it screws with your cortisol. And that is why
you're starting to experience anxiety. It's not because you're supposed to brace for something.
It's because your body is trying to process all the alcohol that you drink. I didn't know this,
by the way, until I was about 50, which explains a lot of my 20s, 30s and 40s.
And so even the way you start your day really matters. And I found something very very
interesting when I was researching this. There's something called the cortisol awakening response.
And this is when the body's stress hormone, cortisol, it rises sharply within the first 30 to 45
minutes of waking up. Again, the word, if you want to Google it, cortisol awakening response
or the CAR. This is a normal process in your body that's designed to increase alertness and create
energy for the day. But here's how this can backfire. Like the cortisol awakening response,
is supposed to like organize the hormone cortisol to get your butt out of bed, but here's the
problem. If you're somebody that's prone to worrying, if you're somebody who doubts your
capability of handling things, for no reason. It's just kind of your natural state. That was
Mel Robbins for a long time. That cortisol surge can feel like real panic. It can feel like a
real threat. It can truly feel, you know, as you have an elevated heart rate, erasing thoughts or this
sense of dread that something actually is about to happen. And then, of course, what do you do?
You doubt your ability to handle it. Mm-hmm. That was me. Like, I never said, no matter what happens,
I can't handle it. I said, I need to sleep all day because I can't handle this. I can't handle
school. I can't handle the conversation. I can't handle seeing so-and-so. I can't handle the text
that I sent last night that I now regret. I can't handle anything. And if that sounds familiar,
I do have good news. Because without understanding this, you're going to feel like you don't have power.
do have power. Because when you start to understand, oh, wait a minute, first thing in the
morning, I've got this cortisol awakening response. I got these racing thoughts because I've literally
trained myself to have a bad attitude or to feel anxious for no reason or to train my brain
to just search out into the future and find a bazillion reasons to convince myself that I'm not
capable of getting through the day. But your friend Mel Robbins is here to tell you that you are
capable of facing no matter what happens. And you are capable of doing simple things like
grounding yourself in the morning and reminding yourself intentionally that today's going to be a
great day because I'm going to make it a great day. And something cool is going to happen to me.
And by the way, no matter what happens, I can handle it. You are telling your brain to look for the good.
You're telling your brain that get excited because something cool is going to happen. And you're telling your
brain that all that stuff that I normally freak out about despite the cortisol awakening response,
uh-uh, no matter what happens, I can handle it. You're signaling to your brain, stop looking for all
the crap that's going to go wrong and start reminding me that no matter what happens,
I can handle it. That is game-changing. If you double down on what you're capable of doing,
you're so much more capable than you know, you're so much more capable than you believe, and it's
time to start training your brain to help you believe that. I mean, that's why you're here,
isn't it? You want to look for what's possible. That's why you listen to this podcast instead of
listening to something mindless. You want more out of your life. You don't want to just go through
life with a bad attitude or being in a bad mood or bracing for the worst. You want to feel
capable. You want to wake up and feel empowered. And I want that for you as your friend. I want
you to feel like you can handle it because you can. And that's where these sentences come in.
And we've got five more simple, powerful sentence to unpack and for me to teach you.
So I don't want you to go anywhere.
I'm going to hit the pause button real quick.
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Welcome back at your buddy Mel Robbins. Today, you and I are talking about eight simple sentences
that will help you program your brain for positive.
Resilience. I love this topic. We've already covered the first three sentences. Today's going
to be a great day. Something cool is going to happen to me. And no matter what happens, I am capable of
figuring it out. Now let's move on to the fourth mantra. Ooh, I love this one. You ready? This is a good
one. Okay. An exciting new chapter in my life is starting today. I love this. Because
it really makes your brain look for a fresh start. It's almost like when you say an exciting
new chapter in my life is starting today. You are intentionally turning the page and ending the
chapter, right? Yeah, why not live each day as a chapter? Who cares? We're making this stuff up so we can
make it up and feel empowered. If you feel stuck in the same old routine, this is going to shake
things up. Because when you say an exciting new chapter in my life is starting today, it signals to
your brain that you're ready. Oh boy, we are ready for what's next. I am ready for change. I am ready
for a fresh start. And you might find yourself if you say an exciting new chapter in my life
is starting today. When you tell your brain that today's today, we're going to sign it for the
class I've been thinking about for months. Today's the day I'm going to update the resume. Why?
Because an exciting new chapter is starting today. Today's a day I'm going to call
that friend that I've been meaning to reconnect with. Today's the day that I'm going to go home
from work a different way. I'm going to commute home differently. I'm going to start a new chapter
in my life. Today's a day I'm going to go for that walk. I'm not going to have a drink tonight
after work. Holy cow, next thing you know, you see a new chapter starting. You see yourself
journaling. You have different ideas. You look at yourself differently. You find a new coffee shop
where all of a sudden you're talking to somebody next to you instead of sitting there alone,
feeling like a loser and thinking negative thoughts. Oh, no, no, no, no, because you are not the kind of
person that just is in a bad mood and has negative thoughts for no reason. You're the kind of
person who is waking up today saying today, an exciting new chapter is starting. Let me ask you a
question. Why do you only think about starting a new chapter once something horrible has happened?
Like, why do you have to wait for something to end? You can create a new beginning anytime you want.
wouldn't today be the perfect day to create a new beginning?
I mean, your brain would love one.
I want you to stop for a minute.
And see how actually waiting, waiting for something to slow down,
waiting for this chapter to end,
waiting for this relationship to be over,
waiting for the semester to be over,
how that delays the good stuff.
You get to start a new chapter any day you decide to,
so why not do it today?
And here's the thing I want you to understand.
your brain looks for whatever you tell it to expect and look for. It does. This is simply what the
research says, that your brain is neutral. Your brain has to be programmed by what you tell it to do.
So if you expect an exciting new chapter to start today, if you expect things to be good,
you're training your brain to find it. There's so much research around this. In fact, I write about it extensively in the high five habit.
there is something called, in your brain, there's this filtering system in your brain
called the reticular activating system. I like to call it the RAS. The RAS, the reticular activating
system. It's a filter. I want you to think about it. It's almost like a hair net that sits
over your head. It's a network of neurons in the brains that acts as a filter. And this sucker
has a big job. The RAS has to filter all the information in the world. And they have to decide
What is the tiny fraction of information? The headlines, the emails, the cars passing by, the music playing in the background, the 15 pastries in front of you at the, you know, at the, you know, cafe that you're at right now. Like, there's so much insane information coming at you, you don't even realize it. If all that information got into your conscious mind, you know what would happen? Your head would explode into a million pieces right off your shoulder, you'd be dead. I swear to God, it'd be like a car engine.
burning up. So the RAS is protecting you from information overload. And so it only allows a tiny
fraction of information to come in to reach your conscious awareness. In fact, there's only four things
that it allows into your mind. You ready what it is? Your name. Have you ever been in a crowded area
and you're like, wait, did somebody just call my name? And you turn around. That was your RAS saying,
oh, come on in. Let's make sure you hear that. Another one, any threat to your safety.
haven't you ever noticed that you are literally a first responder if somebody's like who and you're
like that's the r a s letting all of that information in so you don't die another one oh when you
think somebody is interested in you you pick up on those signals pretty quickly don't you and we
just like the rest of the bar just disappears you could be at a party and all of a sudden
you think somebody else is like interested in you there's nobody else in that room
that's your RAS, laser focusing on that. And here's the holy grail. You ready? This is why these
eight sentences work. The RAS, this filter in your brain, allows in anything that your brain believes
is important to you. I'm going to give you an example that will really illustrate what I'm
talking about in terms of how powerful this is and why it is essential, that you stop just allowing
your brain to be a negative space and you get serious about programming it with what's important
to you that's positive. This filter, the RAS, it is working in real time 24-7. It never takes a
break. And it updates in real time based on what you focus on and based on what you think is
important. I want to give you an example of how this works so you really understand how powerful
this is. Have you ever been interested in buying a new car? Let's say that you're interested in buying,
I don't know, like a green pickup truck.
What's interesting is the second
that you're interested in buying a green pickup truck
and I just noticed Ben
looked at our senior producer
Amy because I have a feeling that he's been
thinking about buying a green
really?
Oh my, are you kidding?
What?
Okay, it's freaking me out too.
We are brain melding, Ben.
See, this is what happens, everybody.
When you have positive programming
in your mind, all kinds of
a wacky stuff starts to happen because your thoughts are energy. They are. Like, there's physics
around this. I must have just picked up on that, Ben. I don't know what. He's RAS, by the way.
So let me tell you this. So let's say you are like Ben, you're like, I want a green pickup truck,
okay? What's interesting is before you get interested in green pickup trucks,
you never see them. You see all kinds of cars.
You never think about green pickup trucks.
You don't see green pickup trucks.
And then you start thinking, maybe I'm going to get a green pickup truck because that's a unique color.
And I don't think there's a lot of green pickup trucks.
Green pickup trucks just got important to you.
Your brain is paying attention.
And the second you said, I think I'm interested in green pickup truck, guess what your brain did?
The filter changes and is like, Ben is interested in green pickup trucks.
Let's let the green pickup trucks in.
Next thing, you know, Ben is driving down there.
He's like, does everybody have a green pickup truck?
Because now he sees him everywhere.
When he walks into the dealership to go test drive one, guess what?
The brain is now getting programming.
Oh, he's really serious about this because he's now taking steps to do this.
Ben is going to see even more green pickup trucks, so much so he might now question whether
or not he wants the color green.
Now, he's laughing because it's true.
Now, here's the really interesting thing.
Those green pickup trucks were always there.
you just hadn't told your brain they were important to you.
So you, in the past, because you didn't tell your brain this was important to you,
your brain just blocked them out because your brain only lets these four things in to the conscious mind.
When you tell your brain that something is important to you, what are you doing?
You're deliberately programming it.
That's what you're doing.
You're telling that filter in your mind, this matters to me.
And one of the ways that you program your mind is that you repeat your interest in something,
which is why these sentences are so important.
If you start waking up every day and you say, today's going to be a great day, your brain
and your Arias start going, oh, okay, this is important.
I got to now change the filter and look for reasons for this to be a great day.
If you wake up and you tell yourself something cool is going to happen to me today,
your brain's like, oh, this is important.
I got to look for something cool to happen.
If you wake up every day and you say to yourself, no matter what happens today, I can handle it.
Oh, okay, doubling down on your capacity to handle things.
Really important to keep reminding you and showing you examples of that.
I got it.
I got it.
This is important.
And if you tell yourself, an exciting new chapter is beginning today, your brain is like, new beginnings, let's go, let's try some new things, just like the car.
All of a sudden, because of the science that I'm,
explaining to you, and the reticular activating system, I know I call it the hairnet that's not
that sexy, but then you can see it, right? It's sort of like you work in fast food and you got to
wear that ugly hairnet thing. I hated that when I worked in a restaurant. That RES is like
that. It's like, only four things are getting in here. That's why this works. And repeating it is how
you program it because the repetition is telling your brain, this is important. It's important
to me to see green pickup trucks. It is important to me to see reasons to have a great day.
It is important to me to expect something cool to happen. It is important to me to remind myself
that no matter what happens, I can handle it. Isn't that cool? That there's hard, amazing science
that explains why these sentences work. These four sentences that we've unpacked and the science
that you're now learning, if you tell them to yourself in the morning, they're going to make you feel
better. I want you to make someone else's morning better. If you're thinking of a friend who could
really use a boost, who needs to learn these simple sentences and all of this science to program
their mind for positivity, to learn the skill of being in a good mood for no reason. Send them this
episode right now. It is exactly what they need to hear today. I promise you. It is going to be a gift.
and don't go anywhere because when we come back, we are picking right up with the next sentence
that you're going to say to yourself in the morning, and you have to hear it. Stay with me.
Welcome back at your buddy Mel Robbins, and you and I are talking about eight things you
should tell yourself every single morning. Oh, I love this one, because you deserve this. This is the
sentence that I would say to you as your friend. I'm telling you right now. And this is why you need to
say this to yourself. Here it is. I need to give myself more credit for how hard I'm trying. Let's be
honest. You are trying hard. You have no idea how much you do every day. And you don't give
yourself credit for it. Do you know how hard it is to get through the day in today's world with a good
attitude for no reason? And yet you're doing it. You get up.
you do your best with your morning routine, you get yourself to work or to school, you are doing
your best, you're answering the emails, you're responding to the text, you're pouring your brain
power into those things, you're trying to take care of yourself, trying to stay connected to people,
you're trying to have fun, you're trying to make more money, like my God, do you know how hard
you're working, how hard you're trying? You need to give yourself more credit for how hard you're
trying. Instead of constantly scanning the world for the one thing you didn't do,
I mean, isn't it kind of amazing that you can get through your entire to-do list,
except for one thing, and that one thing that you didn't get to is the thing that you're
going to focus on?
You can do 115 things correct at work today, but you know what you're going to focus on?
You're going to focus on the one thing that you said in that meeting that nobody chimed in
about.
That's what you're going to focus on.
Why?
Because you've trained yourself to have a bad attitude and to be in a bad moment.
mood for no reason. You've trained yourself to see the things you're not doing instead of giving
yourself credit for all the things you are doing. It's time to stop that. If your inner critic is
louder than that inner cheerleader or coach or friend, this sentence is what you need to say.
See, effort counts even when the results aren't coming as fast as you would like them to. And it's
important that you double down and give yourself credit for how hard you're trying,
otherwise you're going to stop. Why would you continue to push through the hard periods of your
life if you're constantly bashing yourself and pointing out the one thing you didn't do well?
Sometimes the hardest work you're doing is invisible. It's invisible to the people around you. Do not
make it invisible to yourself. Your own acknowledgement matters the most. If there's one thing
that I do other than developing the skill of being in a good mood and having a good attitude for
really no reason. It's like my resting default. I have consciously programmed myself to think this
way. One other thing that I have done is I've trained myself to stop constantly criticizing myself
and to triple down on the things that I'm doing well, not out of arrogance, but because it creates
this like flywheel. If you are your own cheerleader, that's what the entire book, the high five,
habit is all about. It's all about the science of programming yourself for celebration and for
positivity and for really cheering yourself on because you need that in life. Life is hard enough without
you dragging yourself down. If you only feel proud of yourself when somebody else notices
and you're going to spend your entire life waiting for validation from other people and it might
never come. You got to give yourself a gold star right now because you've deserved it. You're the one
that's putting in the late nights. You're the one that makes the hard choices. You're the one
who is plowing through the emails in the to-do list. You're the one who keeps going when no one's
watching. You're the one who may have a bad week, but then you pick yourself back up and you get back
to the gym and you restart the morning routine. That's worth acknowledging. I mean, I'm always
here acknowledging you, but you got to pick up the slack, man. You got to help me out with this.
You got to recognize your own effort and fill your own tank up so you can keep going. It's easy
to see the big wins, but oh, wow, you want to start truly winning? You got to start clapping for the
little things every single day. You got out of bed? Good job. Excellent. Nice. I love that. You answered some
emails today. You're winning. I see you. You did that. You spoke up at work today, even though you were a
little, oh, yes. All right. You can handle it. I love that. You did school drop off? You held it together
through back-to-back meetings. You checked in on your mom and dad who are aging. You still managed to
shove some food in your mouth and have dinner and be present with your family. Holy cow.
As far as I'm concerned, you're winning at life, period.
And here's one of the other reasons why this sentence matters. I got to give myself more credit
for how hard I'm trying. I want you to stop looking outside yourself for validation.
Because when you do that, you give other people power over you. Like if other people aren't
acknowledging what you're doing, let them. We got to focus on the let me part. Let me give
myself credit for everything I do do. I'm good.
I'm working hard. I know my intentions are good. I know I'm a good person. So repeat after me.
I need to give myself more credit for how hard I'm trying. Mm-hmm. You start repeating that every
single morning and guess what? You're going to feel like you're giving yourself credit for how hard
you're trying. And that feels really good. And it also fuels your desire to keep going.
That's the secret. I love that. All right. I bet you're sitting there going, okay, Mel,
a couple questions. A couple questions for you, Mel. Do I have a couple of questions? Do I have a
I have to say them out loud? Do I have to truly wake up and be like, today's going to be a great day?
Yes. Yes. Because it engages more of your brain. And if you're a little shy or you're next to somebody or you feel a little embarrassed, I got you. It's okay. Let's just start by thinking them. Here's another way you can boost it. Write it down. Writing it down is even more effective. Why? Because when you grab that pen and you start to write these down, today's going to be a great day. Something cool is going to happen.
for me today.
No matter what happens, I'm capable of handling it.
Today's the beginning of an exciting new chapter.
I deserve more credit for how hard I'm trying.
When you write that down, you grab the pen, it engages your senses.
And the more senses you involve, guess what?
Your brain's like, oh, shoot, she's really serious about this right now because she got
the pen.
I'm feeling her write this thing.
I'm like, she's sitting down.
Like, she's putting pen to paper.
She means business.
I better pay attention.
This is important.
Let's add this to the list.
It's not just the green pickup truck that we got to let in.
We got to let in credit for how hard you're working.
You may also be wondering, Mel, how long do I have to do this?
Hmm?
Like, how long before I'm going to, like, actually feel different?
Well, I research that, too.
Here's what I want you to do.
I want you to do this for 30 to 60 days.
Did you notice he just went 30 to 60 days?
days? That's too long. You know what that is? That kind of reaction, that is a example of the fact
that you've programmed your mind to have a bad attitude for no reason. You got 30 to 60 days.
You're going to live 30 to 60 days regardless of what you do. So how about we develop the skill
together of being in a good mood and having a good attitude for no reason? And we're going to do
that by programming your brain. See, when you rewire your brain, rewiring, take
repetition. You know how many times you've got to think about a green truck before you see them
everywhere? Probably 30 to 60 times. And then all of a sudden they're everywhere. You're kind of
thinking about it and noticing then boom. It's like it's everywhere. How long did it take you to
learn how to worry as your default? Your whole life. How long did it take you to learn to be
anxious? Your whole life. How long did it take you to learn how to doubt yourself at every turn?
Oh, you've been doing that your whole life?
So if you've been programming negativity and self-doubt for years and years and
years, I think you should give me a lousy 30 to 60 days, don't you?
I think a positive reprogramming is worth a little experiment for 30 to 60 days.
How about you stop doubting your capacity to have the programming take hold and
doubting your capacity to do this for 30, 60 days?
And you start saying, no matter what happens, I'm capable of handling this for 30 to 60 days.
Have you think about that?
I mean, you do have to override the programming.
So if you keep saying it out loud in the morning until you don't have to remember to say it out loud, guess what?
Your brain just automatically does it.
It's kind of like the way that Ben texts in the morning.
And the way, in fact, so does my family.
Everyone's like, hey, it's going to be a great day.
Have a great day, everybody.
Yeah.
You know what?
Come to think of it, I might just have a great day.
Thank you for reminding my brain that I get to choose whether or not I'm going to have a great attitude or I'm going to have a great day.
Or I'm going to look for reasons to have a great day.
see you wake up in a highly suggestible state that's why i also want you to tell yourself these things
in the morning we've talked about a lot of this your cortisol is high your prefrontal cortex is clear
your subconscious wide open whatever you put into your brain first thing is going to echo all day
i'm going to give you an example ever wake up and make the horrible mistake of checking texts or
email first thing you know what you just did programmed your brain whatever is in the text messages
programmed your brain. Whatever is in email, programmed your brain. Do not do that. I want the first
thing in your mind to be that first sentence. Today's going to be a great day. Something cool is
going to happen. You're getting the drift, aren't you? All right, let's get to the next sentence.
This is the sixth one. I'm allowed to be a work in progress. I love this. I love this because
you probably struggle with trying to make things perfect or looking for the perfect time.
or putting things off because you don't think you're ready.
That is an attitude that got programmed in a long time ago
based on negativity and fear.
When you start to repeat, I'm allowed to be a work in progress.
What you're basically saying is you're saying, hey, brain,
we're going to grow here.
We're going to make mistakes.
We're a work in progress.
So let's do this thing.
You're giving yourself permission to not have it all together.
You know, if you feel like you don't have your act together in any area of your life, just say,
I'm not going to worry about that right now.
First of all, because no matter what happens, I'm capable of handling it.
But second, I'm allowed to be a work in progress.
I don't have to have all the answers.
I don't have to have it all figured out.
My desk can be messy.
My kids can be fighting.
That big meeting later, you know, I don't have to have all the answers.
I'm allowed to be a work in progress.
You know, this podcast, it's always a work.
in progress. The Let Them Theory book, it was a work in progress that lasted two years. It still is. Do you know,
just this morning, I was on email before we were taping, and I was answering an email. Do you know how many
mistakes are in the Let Them Theory book that got published? Oh my gosh, you guys keep catching them.
It's a work in progress. In fact, a lot of the editions, it's coming out in 63 languages, which just
blows my mind has the wrong URL for the free downloads in the back. Why? It's a
work in progress? Oops. We set the wrong version of the manager. Oops. We're sorting it out
because it's a work in progress. Why not focus on the fact that six million copies of that book
have been bought and read by people around the world? Why not focus on the fact that the let them
theory and saying let them and let me is helping your relationships. It's helping you feel
peace and power. You know, when you say, I'm a work in progress. No matter what happens, we'll figure it out.
the wave. And a single email doesn't take you down or put you in one of those stress tunnels. Why?
Because you have developed a skill of being in a good mood and having a good attitude, not only for
no reason, but in despite of what may happen. Because you know that you can figure it out. You know
that you're a work in progress. You know that this is an exciting new chapter of your life.
And so let me hit you with the next sentence, because this one's a really good one, because it creates
momentum and it creates this sense that something awesome is coming. You ready for this sentence?
If I keep showing up, life will reward me. Let's say that one again. If I just keep showing up,
life will reward me. It is so easy in life to put your head down and do what I call the reps.
The reps are like those little, annoying, painful things that you have to do every day at school
or in your business or with your health or, you know, writing the song or writing the book,
just the little boring work doing the raps. Oh my God, it's the worst. And the results that you
are coming. It is so easy to quit. You know, in life, it's you against you. I personally believe
there's that famous Jay-Z quote. It goes something, I'm going to get it wrong, and feel free to
write in and tell me what the right one is, but it's something like the genius thing that we did is
we didn't quit. Like, I really do believe that you can achieve the things that you want. And look,
it may not look like you thought it would look. It may not occur on the timeline that you think
it's supposed to occur on. But if you wake up every morning and just say to yourself,
the truth, if I just keep showing up, life will reward me. And I love this because you're telling
your brain, I'm not a quitter. You know what we are? We just keep showing up. And we know,
that at some point life will reward me. If I just keep showing up, that's the game. The game
isn't achieving. The game is showing up. The game is not quitting. And so you can train your brain
with this mantra. If I just keep showing up, if I just keep doing the reps, if I just keep my head down,
and I just keep putting in the work day by day, week by week, month by month, year by year.
If I just keep showing up, life will eventually reward me. It is true. Every single person that you
admire everybody that has everything that you've ever wanted, whether it is the love story
that you want, or it's the health that you want, or the body that you want, or the career that
you want, or the success, or the music career, whatever it may be. I promise you, if you dig into
their story, you will see they didn't quit. They just kept showing up. And in those moments when you
want to quit, it is so easy to have a bad attitude or be in a bad mood because it hasn't happened
on your timeline and then you quit, do not do that. Do not do that. There is a reason to keep
going and the reason is the simple truth that if you just keep showing up, life will reward you.
And that is how you program your brain to have stamina. That's how you program your brain for
hope. That is how you program your brain to move through obstacles because even if it hasn't
happened, it just means it hasn't happened yet. If I just keep showing up, life will reward me
and as your friend, I'm going to tell you, it's true. Life will. It's you against you. Don't quit.
That sentence is how you program your brain to not quit on you, okay? Because I don't want you to quit.
I want you to keep showing up so that life will reward you. And the final sentence that I love.
Oh, I love this one for you. I love this. I love this. I love this. I have an important
contribution to make to the world. Just let that one sit for a minute.
I have an important contribution to make to the world.
You do.
And we're friends.
You can be honest with me.
You know deep down that there's something greater that's meant for you,
that there's something awesome that you're meant to contribute.
You might not know what it is,
but you know that it's true.
that you do. And I want to tell you as your friend, if you've ever felt invisible, or if you've
wondered if what you do matters, if you've wondered if who you are matters, here's what I love
about this phrase, I have an important contribution to make to the world. It affirms that
deep belief that you have, that you hold quietly on your own, that you do have an important
contribution to make to the world. Your presence, your ideas, your stories, the experiences that
you've had in your life, the lessons that you have to share, the actions that you take,
the way that you move through the world, being in a good mood, being kind to people, these
things have a powerful ripple effect on the world around you. Saying something kind to the
barista, might be the only nice thing that they hear all day.
You know, out of 8 billion people on this planet, how many people do you suppose have your
exact voice, your exact story, your exact way of seeing the world, your DNA, your irises,
your fingerprint, you know how many people?
One out of 8 billion.
One.
You.
That's why you have something unique and amazing.
to give to the world. That's why your life matters. That's why your hopes and your dreams and your
energy matters. So I want you to repeat with me. I have an important contribution to make to the
world. And I'm going to share something with you. I believe that my important contribution is, yes,
this podcast is a big thing, but I actually believe it's the way I move through my day-to-day life.
I believe it's the positivity that I bring.
I believe it's the warmth that I just lead with, with other people, that the contribution that
I'm making person to person, energy to energy, really seeing people, being kind to people,
acknowledging people, that that's the contribution.
And we all have the ability to do that.
And when you say this sentence to yourself every morning, you write this sucker down
in your journal. I have an important contribution to make to the world. Start where you are.
Start with your energy. Be in a good mood for no reason. And make that good mood your contribution to
the world today. Have a good attitude. Just because you've trained yourself to have a good
attitude and take that good attitude to the funeral you're going to. Take it to work. Take it to your
to do list. Take it into your family dinner. That is a important.
important contribution that you can make in the world today.
Another one, you can share this conversation with people that you care about so that they have
these amazing eight sentences that they can use to program their mind for positivity,
their mind for resilience, their mind for stamina.
Everybody deserves that.
And it's a way that you can make an important contribution today to people that you care
about. How cool is that? Do you see it's just like right in front of you? But you have to get
intentional about programming your mind to help you move through the world like this. You have to
get intentional about developing this skill of being in a good mood and having a good attitude
simply because you do. And so here are these eight sentences that I want you to say every day.
Say them out loud, write them in your journal, repeat them for 30 to 60 days, and you
are going to notice something crazy happen. You're going to notice that you have developed the
ability to have a good attitude. You're going to notice that your mind is helping you. You're going
to notice that you spot opportunities. You're going to make more money. You're going to be in a better
mood. You're going to be more resilient. You're going to feel your worry and your anxiety start to lower
because you have been intentionally programming your mind to double down on the fact that you're
capable. You got a huge contribution to make that no matter what, you're going to just keep
showing up and doing your thing because you know the world is going to reward you. You know
people like this. In fact, I'm a person like this. And you can teach yourself and program yourself
to be a person like this. Because number one, it's going to be a great day. Something cool is
going to happen to you today. No matter what happens, you can handle it. An exciting new chapter in
your life is beginning. You need to give yourself more credit for how hard you
trying because boy oh boy are you trying hard you're allowed to be a work in progress and if you just
keep showing up life will reward you i promise you and you do have something important to contribute to
the world and you can do it today and in case no one else tells you today i want to be sure to tell you
as your friend that i love you and i want to say something about that the reason why i tell you that is
because love is not this big like blown out thing love is so simple love
is consideration and admiration. That's all that love is. It's admiring something about someone
and having them in mind. Love is making a cup of coffee for somebody. And, you know, I admire you,
by the way, for taking the time to listen to something that is going to help you deliberately program
your mind and create a better life. I really admire that about you. And I have you in mind.
I'm thinking about you right now. I'm talking directly to you. I'm showing up here with a level of
certainty and like passion for this topic because I know this works. This is how I went from
anxiety-ridden, negative for no reason, always in a bad mood, bracing, to one of the most
positive, optimistic, resilient, and supportive person that you probably know. And you can do it
too. And so that's why I tell you that I love you because I actually mean it. I admire you for
making the time to listen to this and investing in yourself. I admire you for being generous with
the things that you're learning and sharing these episodes with everybody that you care about.
And I have you in mind. And so that's why I tell you that, because it matters to tell people that.
And I hope you use everything that you learn today to not only create a better life, but to
program your mind. Because when you program your mind, the way that I've taught you to do today,
and you understand the deeper reasons why this works based on the research and the science,
there is no doubt in my mind your life is going to be so much better and you deserve that.
All righty, I will be waiting for you in the very next episode.
I'm going to welcome you in the moment you play.
I'll see you there.
Okay, you're ready?
Here we go.
Got it, got it, got it.
Okay, gotcha, gotcha, gotcha.
Okay, great, great.
Great.
No problem.
No problem.
Okay, great.
Great, okay. Okay, so it's okay, the second thing you should say. I'm just going to kind of like do, okay, ready.
Hold on a second. Here comes the way for a change shake. Sorry. Okay, here we go. What was the last thing I said? Do you guys know? The fourth one, no. The, oh, yeah. Yeah. Oh, okay, great. So, what is that mantra going? Now, I know. Hold on a second. Keep going. Great. And then so we've got five more, right? Great. Okay. Great. Okay. Great. Okay. Great. Okay.
Great. Great. I think we can just end it.
Oh, and one more thing. And no, this is not a blooper. This is the legal language. You know what the lawyers write and what I need to read to you.
This podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes. I'm just your friend. I am not a licensed therapist.
And this podcast is not intended as a substitute for the advice of events.
a physician, professional coach,
psychotherapist, or other qualified professional.
Got it?
Good.
I'll see you in the next episode.
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