The Mel Robbins Podcast - Stop Feeling Behind: Get Back on Top of Your Life in 1 Day
Episode Date: March 16, 2026If you constantly feel behind, overwhelmed, or like your to-do list is running your life, you’re not alone. Here’s the good news: today, you’re going to get your life back on track – and it�...��s easier than you think. You’re missing a simple system to handle the endless “life admin” that piles up every week. Things like: -scheduling appointments -answering emails -organizing paperwork -managing finances -planning your week -and dealing with all the little tasks (aka “life admin) that quietly drain your time and energy. In this solo episode, Mel will show you how dedicating one single day to handle your life admin can completely change how your life feels. Instead of spending your weekends catching up, stressing about what you forgot, or constantly feeling behind, you’ll have a clear system that puts you back in control so you can move through your week with more clarity and momentum. Mel calls it Life Admin Day, and once you try it, you’ll wonder how you ever lived without it. In this episode, you’ll learn: -Why you constantly feel behind, even when you’re working hard -The hidden reason small tasks pile up and drain your energy -How one simple framework can help you get your time back -Why handling life admin during the week gives you your weekends back -How to organize your tasks so you stop feeling scattered and actually get things done -The exact way to structure your Life Admin Day so it actually works (this 5-part framework is based in cognitive research) -Why this one change can help you feel calmer, clearer, and more in control After listening to this episode, you’ll have a practical plan you can try immediately. Stop playing catch-up and start feeling on top of your life again. For more resources related to today’s episode, click here for the podcast episode page. If you liked the episode, check out this one next: The 7-Day Reset for More Time, Energy & Happiness (Backed by Science) Connect with Mel: Order Mel’s new product, Pure Genius Protein Get Mel’s newsletter, packed with tools, coaching, and inspiration. Get Mel’s #1 bestselling book, The Let Them Theory Watch the episodes on YouTube Follow Mel on Instagram The Mel Robbins Podcast Instagram Mel's TikTok Subscribe to SiriusXM Podcasts+ to listen to new episodes ad-free Disclaimer Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
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Hey, it's your friend Mel, and welcome to the Mel Robbins podcast.
I have been dying to talk to you. I'm so excited that you're here today because I have a hilarious
story to tell you about what happened at work the other day. This is going to explain why your life,
why my life, why it just feels harder than it should, and more importantly, what we're going to
do about it. So first the story. So we're all having lunch, and Cameron, one of our amazing producers
here at 1443 studios, turns to us all and is like, so check this out, you guys. My TV remote stopped
working. And she was kind of laughing as she was telling the story. And she said, so, you know, I open up the
back and the batteries, they're dead. But she went to look for double A batteries and she couldn't find any.
So what did she do? Well, she did what you and I do. Instead of buying new batteries, she took batteries
out of her keyboard and put them into her remote control. Problem solved, right? Because now the remote works,
but her keyboard doesn't. So now Cameron's laughing at herself as she's explaining that she basically,
basically walks around home with the only two double A working batteries in her pocket.
She moves them from the remote to her flameless candles, to her bathroom scale, back to the keyboard.
She's just popping them in and popping them out, and we're all laughing, because we've all done this.
I bet you have a story like this. We all do. We all have stories about needing to go to the DMV or calling your credit card company and being on hold for two hours or having an overdue appointment that never gets scheduled.
or you've got this pile of shame where you've got Amazon returns that have taken a permanent
residence in a corner of your house. These are these tasks that are called life admin.
This is what it feels like when the administrative aspects of your and my life gets out of
control because we're not stopping to fix the problems. We're just moving them around.
Like the batteries in Cameron's pocket. You're moving the stress from one room to another,
from one day to another, from one year to another. This stuff just follows you everywhere. It's almost like
you and I have an invisible backpack of stress because we never run the errand. We never make the call.
Or worse, you try to make the call on your lunch break, only to find that the doctor's office is
closed during the lunch break. You're spending more time and energy, staying behind than doing the actual
thing that gets you ahead. And then what happens? The weekend comes, and it doesn't even feel fun because
half of your brain is still tracking all the things that you didn't get to do during the week.
So here's what we're going to do today.
First of all, I'm going to tell you this is normal.
We are all struggling with life admin.
We are buried alive under our bills and battery boxes and receipts and phone calls we need to make.
And today, we're going to fix that.
Today, I'm going to show you how to take one weekday and finally deal it.
this. You are going to get on top of your life again because today on the Mel Robbins podcast,
you and I are doing the perfect life admin day. Hey, it's your friend Mel and welcome to the Mel Robbins
podcast. I have been dying to talk to you. I am so excited that you're here. It's always an honor to be
able to spend this time and to be together with you. And if you're a new listener or you're here
because somebody shared this with you, and I think this is going to be one of these episodes,
that a lot of people get texted to them.
I just want to take a moment and personally welcome you to the Mel Robbins podcast family.
You have picked an incredible podcast to listen to her watch because today you and I are going
to do the perfect life admin day together.
I have thought about this.
My team and I have unpacked this.
We are going to help you take all the invisible stuff that is quietly driving you crazy,
that is making your life harder than it needs to be.
I'm talking about the calls you haven't made, the appointments you keep putting off,
the errands that live in the back of your mind and steal your energy, even when you're trying to relax.
We all have the things that are piling up and driving us crazy that we can't get to.
And so here at 143 Studios, we call those kinds of things life admin.
And so here's what we're going to do.
I'm going to show you how to trade one weekday.
And you're going to finally deal with all this because you're going to have to.
this stuff handled, just one focused day. I call it a life admin day. And if you're sitting
and they're going, okay, well, what exactly is a life admin day? It's exactly as it sounds.
It's one day that you schedule, that you take for yourself, not so you can go on vacation,
not to just kind of relax on the couch, not to run errands for everybody else, not to clean the
house, but one day that you are going to dedicate on purpose to getting absolutely everything
that is piling up in the corners or riding around in the back of your car waiting to be dropped
off somewhere or sitting on the countertops or nagging you in the back of your mind,
one day to attack it all. And here are some examples of what I'm talking about. These are things
that people on my team said, oh my gosh, this is what I would use the life admin day.
desk that's still in the box. I need to set it up. Broken boots that you think about every morning,
but you haven't gotten them to the cobbler. A Wi-Fi router. You got one of those that has moved
apartments with you twice? Amazon returns or returns that you can no longer return because they've
been sitting in the corner waiting to be returned that they're past the day to return. Pitcher frames
that need pictures. Birthday cards that haven't been sent. For those of us in the U.S., the real ID, that
ID that none of us have, 90% of people don't even have this thing and you needed to get on a plane.
That's what this day is for. It's for appointments. It's for the phone calls you don't have time to make.
And I promise you, if you can just commit one day of your life on purpose this entire year to plowing through all of these administrative tasks that drive you crazy and take up space in your mind and ruin your weekends because no one else is going to do it, holy cow, you are going to feel on top of the world.
You're going to get your weekends back because you're not going to have to spend your weekends trying to fit all this stuff in.
And in just a minute, I am going to teach you a very specific five-part framework that you will follow on this one intentional day that you're about to schedule for yourself.
Here are some of the payoffs from just one day.
You will schedule between six and 12 overdue appointment or tasks.
And I'm going to teach you a simple trick so that you don't have to think about them again for the rest of the year.
I'm talking about your hair appointments, your nails, your dentist, your doctor, the veterinarian, all those appointments for the next year.
You will check off between 10 to 20 open items.
I'm talking returns, repairs, things that need to get mailed, stuff that needs to get fixed.
You will eliminate, like, bye-bye, between two and five things that just annoy you every day.
You know, the missing light bulb, the batteries, the second set of keys that need to be made?
you know what I'm talking about. You think about it once a day. You're going to handle three to five things that you've avoided for months, whether that's a DMV appointment, it's paying for a bill, it's calling the doctor's office, it's talking to your health insurance, and you're going to free up future weekends and evenings and most importantly, by simply taking this one intentional day and following the five-step framework that I'm about to teach you, you're going to feel capable. You're going to feel capable. You're going to feel
back on top of your life again, you're going to get so much brain space and peace back.
So let's get into the specifics.
Okay.
The first step of the life admin day process is just pick a day.
And the day that I recommend that you dedicate to doing life admin, if you can, is Monday.
So I do want you to open up the calendar.
If you're driving, don't do that right now, but maybe think ahead.
You can come back and listen to this when you have your calendar open.
open up a calendar, look at the next couple weeks, pick a day.
Pick a day on purpose that you're going to designate as your life admin day.
I mean, Valentine's has a day, St. Patrick's has a day, Groundhog has a day.
You get to have a life admin day.
And so I want you to pick it.
And so I know you may be thinking, well, hold on, Mel.
You're saying I got to take a day?
Yes, you have to take a day.
And you may be thinking to yourself, well, I don't have time to take a day.
And so let me just address this notion that you don't have time to take a day to address things that are piling up and making you feel like you're behind in life and stressed out.
I mean, you might be struggling financially right now and you're working a bunch of different jobs and you say, well, I can't afford to take a day.
Or you're constantly spending your time caregiving or you're mourning or you're going through a setback or a diagnosis.
and so you already feel beaten down.
And life admin just feels like another mountain
that you don't even have the energy to climb.
And so let me speak directly to you,
if this is you.
Avoiding all of this
because it feels hard and overwhelming
just makes it worse.
It really does.
You can handle this
because simply saying,
I'm going to block off my calendar,
I'm going to move the distractions,
and I'm going to dig in. I'm going to open up these bills even though I'm scared to. I'm going to make
the phone calls, even though I'm confronted by it. I'm going to find the time to get to the DMV or to get my
new license or whatever it may be. Simply doing that signals to you, to your brain, to your life,
hey, there's a lot going on, but I'm still in charge. Before I walk you through how you are going to
move through your life admin day to get the most stuff done and to feel the best by the end of it,
I got to cover some ground rules because the ground rules also expose the mistakes that I've made in the past when I've tried to take a day to get on top of stuff. These are ground rules that are mandatory. Okay. So ground rule number one, your designated life admin day is not a decluttering day. You are not allowed to organize closets or sort through doors or do a spring cleaning. Decluttering distracts you.
Because decluttering is this thing that feels really productive as you're moving stuff around and you're making the drawer really pretty.
But it's a trap because even if the drawer is pretty, you still don't have any batteries.
You still have bills to pay.
You still don't have an appointment for your hair or your kid's wellness appointment.
You still have cable boxes to return.
You still have a bag of clothing that needs to be dropped off that's been in the back of your car for five months.
And so it's stealing your energy.
And this is energy that you need in order to finish all.
the life admin stuff you've been putting off. So rule number one, no decluttering. Don't even think about it.
Ground rule number two, try to get your house or apartment as quiet and as empty as you can.
If it's possible for you to be alone, I mean, what a luxury, I get it, but if you can be alone,
no people, no pets, no nobody that needs your time right now, the day works for life admin,
if you can stay focused and uninterrupted.
I just want you to make space to be able to do the five steps.
Ground rule number three, this is your life admin day.
And so your life admin day is about you.
And the way that I'm going to walk you through these five steps,
you need to think about yourself first.
Then you're going to think about other people.
Because you already try to handle everybody else's administrative stuff first,
and that's why you run out of energy before you can get.
to your own. The reason why the life admin day in these five steps that I'm going to walk you through
is going to work, because we're going to focus on you. And the final ground rule, there's absolutely
no shame, no moral judgment when it comes to when you take the life admin day, how you take
the life admin day, what you're going to be digging into during your life admin day, a life admin
day is for you. And so by making the time, even though it may feel overwhelming, you are saying to
I feel capable. I am capable of handling this. And you will feel better simply by scheduling the day.
All right. Are you ready? You're ready to walk through how exactly we do the life admin date now that
you got your day scheduled? First of all, you're going to do a brain dump the day or the night
before the perfect life admin day. It's as simple as it sounds. You're going to take everything that is on
mind and you are going to dump it onto a piece of paper. Everything that's unfinished,
everything that's bothering you, everything that is piled up somewhere in your house,
every errand that you keep meaning to run, everything you keep meaning to return. In fact,
as we were preparing this episode, I was laughing with our senior producer Amy and I'm like,
Amy, when you come over to tape this thing tomorrow, I want you to look to the right.
when you walk in our front door and you are going to see a clear trash bag that is full of summer clothes that have not fit me in a decade.
They are sitting there.
And by the way, they are on the floor under where the long coats are hung because I'm kind of hiding them.
It's been there for four months.
And you know what I did yesterday?
Because I was embarrassed once I told her.
I actually moved it to the garage.
Now, that's not life admin.
That is moving my problems around and not actually fixing anything.
Every time I walk past that clear-vastic bag, you know what I say?
And then I also see the purple.
I've got this like sundress in there that's like a light lavender with a dark purple stripe.
And it reminds me of the summer that I was really, really thin 10 years ago before menopause.
And then I'm like, ah, and then I think about how much money I spent on that stupid thing.
And then I feel like I only wore it three times.
And then I feel conflicted.
And then I keep walking.
and then donate summer clothes goes back up into my mind, but not when you do a brain dump.
Because if it lives in the paper, it actually can die in your head.
And there's some really interesting research that explains why this works.
If you're watching on YouTube, I am holding up the research from Baylor University.
This is such a fascinating study.
Let me tell you about it because I love this study.
We've talked about it before.
So this is right here from the director of the study.
He's talking about, this is Michael K. Skullen, who's got a PhDs, the director of Baylor's
Sleep, Neuroscience, and Cognitive Laboratory.
And he says, we live in a 24-7 culture in which our to-do lists seem to be constantly
growing and causing us to worry about unfinished tasks at bedtime.
And most people just cycle through their to-do lists in their heads, so they wanted to explore
in this study, whether the act of writing down all the unfinished things that were on
your to-do list before you go to bed, if it had any impact on your ability to go to sleep.
Now, here's what they found. This is super fascinating, and it shows you the power of writing down
everything in your mind that you're currently holding on to. They found that writing a to-do list
offloads all of those thoughts that are up in your mind, and it reduces worry. And they found in this
study that when people would write down their to-do list, they would fall asleep faster. And they
tested this against a control group that was writing down all the things they did. So you write down
all the things you did do, right, blah, blah, blah, all the things that you got done. And then the other
group wrote down, they did a brain down. What are all the things that I'm still worried about?
What are all the things that I have left to do? It was the group that wrote down their to-do list
that wasn't finished. That fell asleep faster. Why? Because putting it on paper allows it to live on the
paper and it erases the worry in your mind because you have it on the paper. And so that's what we're
going to do in phase one. You're just going to write down all of the things that are bothering you.
And feel free to walk around your house. Walk around your house. Look in the garage if you have one.
Look in your car. What are all the things that you need to do that are bothering you? The bills that are
stacked up, the returns that you don't have time for, just keep writing them down. You can do this
throughout the day before, because things are going to keep coming up. Let me give you some examples
of things that our team currently have on their brain dump to attack on their life admin day.
You're ready for these? Okay, Ben has an air friar that he's ordered, but he's too tired to put it
together, so for a couple months, he just keeps looking at it and ordering takeout.
Jesse has a car registration that's two years late.
I guess this is her version of gambling every time she drives, because you could,
Jesse, you could get a ticket, an expensive one for crying out loud.
Here's another one.
Tracy has a lab core bill from two years ago that she needs to do something with, but she can't
figure out the lab core login. Like when you really stop and think about it, what is this going to
take? Ten minutes? And we've been carrying this stuff around for months and years. A doctor who needs
a copy of a scan that you got and you've been putting it off for a year. There's a picture that you
need to hang in your bathroom that's framed. Good job. You got it framed. But it's still sitting.
Actually, I just thought of another thing. I bought the cutest little hook thing for keys.
It's brass. It goes with everything. It's in the entry. Do you know where it is? It has been
sitting on top of my grandmother's cabinet three inches from where it needs to go with the screws,
with my keys on top of it for probably, what, three months you guys have seen it laying there,
as if some magical fairy's going to come and put it up for me? Oh my God. Walking Pad. Another person
our team ordered a walking pad four months ago. Guess where it is? In the box, in the closet.
Oh, another person takes holiday cards and then puts a three-hole punch in them and then puts, I guess, a ring on them and then stores him that.
That's a cute idea, but now it's haunting her because that was three months ago.
For me, the dogs, our dog homie has gotten quite large, and I realize I'm probably overfeeding him.
And I'm the one that's making him quite tubby.
And I need to do a little bit of research, probably take him to the vet, find out what he weighs, and what I should actually be.
feeding him? I've been thinking about this for six months. Again, what was one of the ground
rules, everybody? Life admin, no judgment. And now here's what I want you to do. Now you're going to
choose your top five to ten priorities, okay? And I want you to take a highlighter. These are the
priorities that are going to be top of the list for life admin when you wake up tomorrow morning.
Now, how do you choose these? You're going to highlight the things that bother you the most.
They're the things that you've avoided for months.
There are things that cost you money or time by not doing it.
There are things that create daily friction.
For example, TSA pre-check or getting that real ID.
There's something called a real ID that's been here in the United States for, I guess, for like 10 years,
have been warning us it's coming.
90% of us in my company either don't know what it is or we don't have it,
which means we don't have it because we don't know what it is.
we are still traveling with our passports. I have no idea if I have that thing or not.
Doctors appointments, car service, the broken doorknob, underwear, I'm going to say it.
How long have you pulled on underwear that is stretched out, stained, disgusting, and you're like, I need to buy underwear.
And they're like, oh, God, okay, well, I'll get to, I'll get to the underwear.
Instead, I got to read this headline. Okay, that's the kind of thing that can be on your brain down.
sky's the limit. You're going to find that there's lots of things that make the list.
You can keep adding to it. I want you to highlight the top five to ten things that you're going to
commit to tomorrow. And here's the thing. Just making the brain dump is going to shift something
inside of you because you're shifting the mental load from managing it upstairs to putting it on a
piece of paper. And so don't be surprised if after doing the brain dump and highlighting what you're
going to do, you feel a little excited. You feel a little motivated. And if you feel that way,
you can grab a few wins tonight. There's no problem doing some laundry or starting to kind of
get yourself organized. Like, if you start to feel like, wow, it feels really good to get this
down on paper. Wow, I'm really proud of myself that I'm taken tomorrow to just plow through all of
these things that drive me absolutely bananas. I'm getting excited that I'm getting on top of my life
instead of life constantly knocking me down. And now you have set yourself up to hit the ground running,
to have the perfect life admin day. I'm so excited to explain this to you. You know what else I'm
excited about? Our sponsors. So take a minute and listen to a few words from our sponsors. And I also want
you to take a minute and either text this episode or email this episode to the people in your life
who you feel like you're always doing their life admin. You know, your adult kids, your sister,
your parents, I know you love them, but you're doing an awful lot that they could be doing for
themselves. Take a minute and send this episode to them because they need the formula for the
perfect life admin day, because if I can get them doing their life admin, I'm freeing up time for you
to do yours. All right. And don't go anywhere because we're jumping right into the five time blocks
of the perfect life admin day when we return. To stay with me.
Welcome back at your friend Mel Robbins. Today, you and I are
talking about the life-changing power of scheduling and doing the perfect life admin day.
We've already talked about why this matters. We've talked about setting yourself up the night
before. You've done your brain dump. You've highlighted the things that are really bothering you
that you kind of want to prioritize. Now you are ready to jump into your perfect life admin day.
Now, we have thought and researched extensively about how to structure this. We've looked
at research related to productivity, to what's called cognitive load, which is the kind of mental
heaviness that you get. We've looked at decision-making fatigued. We've looked at research on the
best time of day to do things. And what I'm about to walk you through is the structure of the
perfect life admin day. And we're going to do our life admin day in five specific time blocks.
and the first time block of your life admin day is what we call the call block.
And it goes from 9 o'clock in the morning till 11 o'clock in the morning.
You're going to spend two hours making phone calls and scheduling appointments to set the future you up for success.
I want you to sit yourself where you're going to be the most productive.
And for me, for me, I cannot do this at my desk.
The reason why I can't do this at my desk is because I'm more productive.
at the kitchen table. I'm less distracted. My computer isn't there. And I, for whatever reason,
just tend to move, move, move, move, move through things. And so wherever you're going to be the most
productive, to be able to just put your head down and move through the call block, that's where I want you
to be. We're going to give you two hours to make phone calls. And here's how I want you to think about this.
Now, for me personally, I don't like working with a computer calendar.
And the reason why I don't like working with a computer calendar when I'm going through
a life admin day is it's way too easy for me.
I'm highly distractible to jump into Slack, to jump into texts, to all of a sudden be
looking at emails.
That's not what you're doing.
The way that you're going to be the most effective is if you've got everything that you
need when 9 o'clock strikes in the morning.
You can print out your calendar for the next couple months.
that way you don't have to open up your laptop and look because if you open up your laptop,
you're going to get a text, you're going to look at social media, you're going to start responding
to emails, that is a death trap. So print out your calendar, so you kind of have a sense of what
days you can book appointments for, have your brain dumped next to you, and then start making your calls.
And we're going to start with the appointments that are related to you personally. And by personally,
I mean, your physical, mental, emotional, maintenance of you. And here's the pro tip. We're going to start
at your head. And then we're going to move down. So what's on top of your head? Well, if you have hair,
haircuts. We're going to move to your eyes. I know it sounds so dumb, but we got to get everything
for you, right? Do you need to get an eye exam? Do you need to get your glasses fixed? Your nose,
your heart, your gut, your legs, your knees. Oh, I forgot your teeth, your dentist. I want you to really
think about yourself, top to bottom. And here's another incredible tip. You ready? When you call to make
your hair appointment, or you call to make your eye exam, or you call the dentist, you call for your
manicure, nails at the end of your hands, make the appointments for all year. Don't just make it for
the next time you're going. Make sure you make the next one too. Put it on repeat. If it's a monthly
maintenance, go ahead and schedule it all year. If it's an annual appointment, do this year and next year.
This is why I'm always frustrated because if I haven't done a life admin day and I'm calling it the last
minute, all the freaking appointments are taken by people like you who are organized. And so I want you
to use that tip. You're not just making one appointment. Hey, well, I got you on the phone. Let's just
schedule it out for the rest of the year. So I get my haircut every six weeks. Let's go out six weeks.
What week is that? Okay, let me flip to my calendar. And we're going to start.
with you physically, then we're going to move to your stuff. We're going to talk about insurance.
Do you need to book your car to be serviced? Do you need to call the pharmacy or your doctor's
office to refill prescriptions? Can you order everyday essentials in bulk like toilet paper,
detergent? Can you set up a subscription that you actually use? Once you figure out the kind of
maintenance and upkeep of you, now you're allowed to move on to other things.
and other people, like the vet, like appointments for your kids that are driving you crazy,
appointments for your mother. Then we're going to move on to any place that you've been avoiding
calling, any appointment you need to reschedule, anything that you've been saying, I'll do it later.
No, from 9 to 11, you're going to do it now. And if you're somebody who has trouble sitting,
and just focusing.
Here's what I want you to do.
It's going to sound ridiculous,
but I saw it on Instagram,
which means it works.
You're ready?
You're going to get a leash or a rope or a belt,
and you are going to tie yourself to your chair.
I know it sounds ridiculous,
but if you leash yourself to the chair,
you will catch yourself every time you go to get up
because you're going to want to get up
because this is very boring.
But the payoff is so incredible to know that this is done
that you have bulked these bookings, so you've taken care of it for a year.
You got your dog grooming for a year.
You've got your dentist appointment this year and next year.
You got your well visits for your kids way before sports season so you get your physicals.
You are on top of this.
You know how fantastic you're going to feel by 11 o'clock?
Holy cow.
Now, why does this work?
And why are we doing calls first thing in the morning?
because decision fatigue, which is you're just exhausted by the decisions that you need to make,
it's the lowest in the morning.
And these calls create the biggest mental relief because you can bang them out.
And if we push them later to the day, a lot of these places are closed during lunch.
A lot of people start having hold times later in the day.
And so you doing it first thing in the morning creates momentum.
You are leveraging your brains like firepower first thing in the morning.
first thing in the morning and avoiding this. A lot of these calls you've probably been avoiding
or forgetting to do for six months. And that's created weight. The second you just pick up the phone
and dial and you schedule it, it's like, boom, that's done. Cross it off the list. Boom,
something that you've been avoiding for six months takes under six minutes. You're not going to
fix anything. You're not running errands. You're only scheduling. You're only calling. You're only
putting things in the calendar for the future, one task at a time. When it's done, big checkmark,
that's a great win, and you move on. If it requires tools, a car, any emotion, it does not belong
in the 9 to 11 block. And now, I know you're probably thinking, okay, Mel, if I'm doing calls,
oftentimes you end up on hold. Like if you have to call your cell phone carrier, you know, I'm like,
oh my God, you're on hold for so long, or you're on hold with the health insurance company.
while they forward you or cancer, or you're on hold to change tickets for the airline and you're on hold.
What are you going to do? Well, you can have some things that are here with you that you can be doing while you're still in the chair.
Because I don't want you leave the chair because if I tell you to go do laundry, you're now going to get distracted.
If I tell you to unload the dishwasher while you're on hold, you're now going to be unloading the dishwasher and then you're going to be making lunch and then you're going to be doing something else.
I need you in the chair to get these calls done. But here are some suggestions.
for what you can do while you're sitting on hold. Number one, you can keep putting other things on the
brain dump. Number two, you can continue to look forward through your calendar and highlight days
that are open for appointments. The other thing that you can do, you can take your kids school calendar
and make sure that it is laid out into your calendar while you're on hold, so you have key dates
for what your kids have coming up in the next year in the calendar so that as you're making appointments,
you have the key dates there. If you have a purse or a backpack from work, have it right next to you.
If you've got a 30-minute hold, pull that sucker out because you've been trying, you've been dying to
like clean it out and get it organized and throw things out. Another pro tip, you can have your
laundry basket next to you. You can be folding laundry while you're doing it, matching socks,
anything that you can do in the chair while you're waiting on hold, awesome. You know how incredible
it's going to feel to look up and it's 11 a.m. and you've made 20 phone calls and you've booked all
these appointments and you've taken care of yourself and you're on top of it. I mean, that alone would
be worth the day. Now, once you've done all that, once you've got it in the calendar, once you've
got the year mapped out, oh my God, give yourself a round of applause. Doesn't I feel good? Of course it
feels good. Of course. I'm so excited for you. It feels so good. And we're just getting started.
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Welcome back at your friend Mel Robbins.
Today, you and I are talking about how to create the perfect life admin day.
We've already talked about the first time block of the five time blocks.
It is the call block.
You did that from 9 till 11.
Good job.
Now you can get up out of your chair because we're going to move on to time block number two,
which is all about errands.
And I love this block.
but I want to talk about what type of errands I want you to be running on life admin day.
Because Aaron Block is not doing the errands that you do every week.
If you can get to the grocery store every week, we're not going to grocery shop from 11 a.m. to 1 p.m. today.
Today, I want you to take the two hours and I want you to do all those things that you can't seem to get off your list.
And I'm going to give you a bunch of examples of this, okay?
we're going to be doing things like dropping off the clothes that have been in the back of your car for the last five months.
This is showing up and getting that interview done for the TSA pre-check here in the United States.
In fact, Charlotte on her team was telling us a story that she rescheduled this exact appointment eight times because she kept telling herself she did not have time to do it.
And then finally, she just made the five-minute appointment work.
That's all it took. When she was done, she was euphoric. She's like, why did I reschedule this eight times? Do you know how much time it took to think about it, to reschedule? No, this is the kind of errand we're running today. You're going to get the oil change because it's been overdue for six months. You're going to go to the DMV and you're going to get your driver's license renewed or your car registration done. You're going to show up at the bank and close that account that you've been meaning to close because it only has $13 in it. And it's just time.
to do it, you're going to get your voter registration done, your flu shot, you're going to stop
by the hardware store and pick up that part that you need or that battery that fits in your dog
fence collar and you can't seem to find the right one online. You're going to find that one
screw size that you need in order to fix something and you can't get it online because you're
not quite sure what it is, so you need to bring the screw. It's been in your car for four months,
in the cup holder. You remember it every time you put your thermos down and it wobbles. There's
that thing I need to do. We're doing that today. You're going to drop off the two laptops that have
been collecting dust since your kids were in middle school at that local nonprofit. You're going to stop
at the hospice Regional Center. And you're going to sign up for the training and get more information.
You're going to drop off all the books that you checked out from the local library. You're going to
sign up and take a tour at the gym that you've been meaning to join for six months. And while you're
there, you're going to set up a free training.
with someone who works there so you can get a tour and be walked through and understand all the
equipment this weekend. You're going to actually mail the Wi-Fi router from your move two
months ago. And here's a pro tip for your errand block. I highly recommend that whatever errands you are
choosing to run today in this two-hour block, you write it on a Post-it note. Why? Because I know.
you. And the second you get in your car, you're not going to feel like getting your oil changed.
You're going to feel like going to your favorite store that's on the same road and wandering the aisles.
I want you to keep yourself honest. And if you put a Post-it note on your dashboard in your car,
or you keep it on your phone as you're riding the subway or walking around the city,
you now have your marching orders. And you are not allowed to take a detour
while I'm in the neighborhood.
And this will keep you focused
because you only got two hours
and you got a lot of stuff to get done.
As soon as this block is done,
the errand block, it's going to be one o'clock,
it's time for lunch,
and you are going to feel so amazing,
oh my God,
because at least three to five things
that have been haunting you
are now done.
And if you stopped right here
at block number two,
this day would have already been worth it.
Holy cow, because block one was calls,
boom, we got that done,
we got your life schedule,
out. Now block two, boom, we got all those errands done that you don't normally fit into your week.
Now we are cooking. And that brings me to the time block number three. And we call this the money block.
Now, don't get all freaked out because I know facing money can be a little confronting. I remember when
my husband and I were struggling, the last thing I wanted to do was do a money block. But here's what
you're going to love about the money block. Because remember our ground rules, there's no judgment.
There's no moral implications. We are just going to use this time block in a way that reduces
stress for you and that helps you get on top of something that's probably really bothering you
subconsciously. Okay. And all we're going to do, I love this because the money block isn't about
anything other than creating boundaries and power around money in just two hours. And here's what we're
going to do. We're going to follow the advice of the world-renowned financial experts that have been
on the Mel Robbins podcast. We're going to link to all of their incredible episodes so that you can
watch them if you want to and really focus in on the specific tactics and advice. I'm talking about
world-renowned experts like David Bach, Morgan Housel and Tiffany Aliche, and and
And Tiffany Aliche in particular is very specific about what she wants you to do.
But all of them say the same thing.
Are you ready?
And this is what the money block is for.
You can't get control of your money unless you first know where it's going.
And that's all we're doing with the money block.
That's it.
From one to three, we're going to figure out where's your money going?
And then, you know what I know what I are going to do?
We are going to block access that people have to your money, that they shouldn't have access to.
because you don't realize how many people are sucking money from you.
So how about we use the money block to just put up some boundaries, to just see where our money is going?
So you can be like, I don't think so.
I think I can do better than this.
And so here's the first thing you're going to do in the money block from one to three.
You're going to print out your monthly bank statement.
You get bonus points if you print out two monthly bank statements.
and you are also going to print out all of your credit card statements.
I'm talking the charge cards.
I'm talking store charge cards.
Whatever they are, I want you to print all that out and take a deep breath.
Nobody's going to make you wrong.
I'm telling you to do this because this is what every single financial expert recommends
that you and I do.
If you do nothing else but print out your monthly bank statement and your monthly bank statement
and your credit card statements, and by the way, it might take you two hours, because you may not know all your logins.
You may not know which credit cards you have.
Just taking two hours to get on top of that, you win.
You're amazing.
And the reason why this is so important and why I want you to print it out, okay, is because then you're going to take a look at what is going in my bank account and what is coming out.
What are the charges on my credit card?
And here's what I want you to do. We're going to take that highlighter, right? And we're going to highlight where your money's coming out. Because I think you're going to be really surprised by how many little amounts of money and big amounts of money are seeping out of your bank account every single month. Charges and fees, you didn't realize somebody's sucking from you. If you see charges but you don't want to pay anymore or you're like, what the hell is this or why am I paying for that? Or what is this for? Highlight that.
sucker, okay? Because if you have left over time at the end of this money block, which is from
one to three, you get extra points for canceling those things that are coming out on a reoccurring
basis. I guarantee you, there are things coming out of your bank account and being charged to your
credit card that you don't even realize you're paying for. You may even have a credit card that you
have not used in two years. In fact, I overheard my father on the phone when I was visiting him last
weekend, and he was on the phone with a credit card company, a really big one. He was like,
hi there, yes, I'm calling because I received two new credit cards in the mail with different
account numbers, both of which charged me a credit card fee for opening up the credit card.
And I believe that that happened because I spoke to two different representatives, who I would
imagine each opened up a different account so they got credit for it. And I want to cancel the
one with the higher interest rate, and I want to make sure the record show that it was canceled
at the cardholders' request, so this doesn't ding my credit. And I was standing in the hallway
like, damn, go dad. And then I thought to myself, do I, how many, do I have credit cards that I don't
know of? Like, is this, like, I once had a credit card that I didn't realize had renewed.
I had canceled it. And somehow in the cancellation of the credit.
card, the renewal came like within 48 hours because this is the other thing you're going to find.
When you print all this stuff out, especially credit cards, you're going to be like, oh, wait a
minute, this is about to renew, which means they're about to hit me with the annual fee. I don't even
use this thing. I need to cancel it at my request now or I need to just like do. I need to figure out
what to do instead of just letting this stuff run me over. Every single person on our team at 143
studios, every single one of them said there is a streaming service on my bank account or my credit
card that I meant to cancel. I bet you have that too. You know, you sign up for something to watch
the Olympics or to stream that big event or to watch that movie that just came out and you're like,
okay, well, I'm just going to sign up for this streaming service once and I'm going to do the trial
offer and then I'm going to cancel. And then you forget to cancel. And then next thing you know,
you're getting billed $49 a month every month. This is how you're going to use this time block.
Because this issue is going to come up over and over and over again. That free trial, you
signed up for, that thing that you returned that you didn't get credit for, the stuff that's coming
out. And here's the thing. If three o'clock rolls around and this third block, the money block,
is now over. Just get a folder and put these highlighted things. Make sure you sharpie out any
account numbers. You don't want that rolling around on a printout. But put all these in a folder,
and now you can stick that in your purse or your backpack. And when you have a lunch break,
when you're sitting in traffic, now these are the calls you can make. Do you see how this one-life
Admin Day now sets you up to use pockets of time effectively to set yourself up for success in the
long term. And that is our third buck. Don't you love that? I didn't make you do any budgeting.
I didn't make you do anything complicated. All I asked you to do in your life admin day is print out
your bank statements for a month or two, print out every credit card statement that you can find
so you can see the interest that you're paying. You can see when this thing renews. You can
compare it all. And then I just want you to look and ask yourself, where's my money going? And where
are the holes and the leaks? I'm going to plug right now. And simply highlighting it now empowers you
to be able to do that at any moment you got five to 10 minutes to make the call and cancel
whatever it is that you're paying for that you don't want. And there's also so many services
that it can help you do this that are free. So you don't have to do this alone. I just love this block.
And now that we're on a roll because you're like, oh, yeah, oh, yeah, get out of my bank account.
I'm taking my money back, man.
I know where my money is going.
Now we're going to move on to block number four.
Block number four is just like the money block, only we're going to do it with email.
I love this.
We are going to unsubscribe from all the emails and all the apps you don't use.
I mean, just think about that for a minute.
You're going to take an hour from 3 to 4 p.m.
the email block.
Delete, delete, delete, delete.
I want you to unsubscribe from emails and apps that you don't use.
I want you to unsubscribe and I want you to cancel apps that you don't want to pay for.
And I want you to clear out the clutter, the junk, the reoccurring garbage that's in your inbox.
because every time something hits your inbox that is meaningless, it takes your attention away
from something important.
And there's, even if you're the kind of person that can just, I can just ignore it,
you know, whatever, it still drains you.
And there's something crazy, just empowering when you're like, unsubscribe.
You don't get access to me.
Unsubscribe.
You don't get access to me.
I'm tired of receiving this email.
and I felt bad about unsubscribing because it was the mom of my daughter's middle school friend
that has started a substack and somehow I've ended up on this email list that I don't want to be on
and I don't want her to see that I've unsubscribe. Unsubscribe. Let her. Let her be disappointed.
You do not want to read her thesis on sourdough that she's sending you every week. Let her be
disappointed, you are taking your life, your inbox, and your power back. And as we were talking about
this as a team, our executive producer Tracy, who is like the poster child, it's turning out for
needing a life admin day. Sorry to throw you under the bus, Tracy, but all the stuff that you're not
taking care of is making me feel like I'm a little bit more on top of my life, not a competition.
Wait, I just broke a ground rule. I said there was no shame and no moral judgment. And I know you
can take it, Trace, and you've been laughing along. But I just want to share something.
because it's been so awesome to talk about and to create this episode with our team
because everybody has so many stories about the clutter that is blocking your life and your
brain.
And as we were talking about the email block, as we were just talking about it, Tracy started unsubscribing.
Check out the list of things.
A florist shop in New Orleans that she ordered flowers.
for a friend from five years ago.
She was on their newsletter list.
The gym that she belonged to in high school,
that was like 13 years ago,
still on the newsletter list.
Don't even get me started
when you do a really good thing
and you donate to a nonprofit or a political cause
and then you somehow have your email distributed
to some super PAC
or the national version of the nonprofit.
I realize you're doing good in the world,
but dear God,
Do not give my name to everybody because now you're going to have 500 emails from a cause that you were once excited about.
Now you're like, I want to die if you send me another email.
What was the other one that you had, Trace?
That was crazy.
Oh, oh.
She's basically like, here's another one.
From a restaurant I ate at once two years ago, I don't even live in that town or that state.
And I'm getting daily updates about the specials that they're offering tonight at the
local grill. Unsubscribe. You don't get access to me anymore. And taking this hour, I kid you not,
you feel like you're taking a part of yourself back because you are. Not everyone and everything
and every business and every cause deserves your attention. And we've gotten to a point in life
where people can slide right into the DMs and the texts and the inbox. And this,
email block is where you say enough. My inbox is already overwhelming based on work and my family
and the things I'm actually interested in. I'm going to take the hour and I'm going to unsubscribe.
And in doing so, I'm doubling down on the importance of my focus. I get to say in a world
that's trying to steal my attention, what is allowed in my inbox and what's not. Because you've
heard me say before, if everything's important, nothing is. And if you have to scroll through 35,
emails that you don't even remember signing up for. You can't find the unsubscribe because it's
buried somewhere in the fine print. If you have to scroll through those things, they're still draining
your focus. So let's just take an hour. Delete, delete, delete, delete, delete, delete, delete, delete, delete, delete, delete, delete, delete,
delete, delete, delete, delete, oh, don't you feel better already? Of course you do. And one of the reasons
why we left the email block to be from three to four is because, first of all, you're probably
going to be tired because you've made two hours of calls with the call block. You've done two hours
of errands that you never do in the errand block. You've also taken control of your money and seen
where your money is going, and you've started to put up very important boundaries and set yourself
up to be empowered there in the money block. The email block is the fourth block because, you know,
we can kind of do this without any emotion and energy.
You're going to start to feel, oh my God, so empowered.
You're going to freaking love this, that it's going to start to become a habit.
And I also didn't want you to do this earlier because once you're on your phone or your laptop,
it is so easy to get distracted.
But I don't want you to get distracted.
Don't be responding to texts.
Don't be responding to emails.
This is just about cleaning up your email inbox.
Those thousands of unread emails that you probably have.
The lists that you got onto from the things that you bought years ago,
or that your kids, you bought for somebody for a present,
and now you're getting all kinds of updates about snowboarding gear,
and you don't even snowboard.
Just go through, hit unsubscribe,
and you'll never be emailed again from that address.
And now your inbox will be clean.
for the near future.
Isn't that awesome?
Oh my God, you've done so much.
Holy cow, are you ready for the final block?
The final block of the perfect life admin day.
Schedule your next one.
That's it.
That's it.
It takes five minutes.
Schedule your next one.
And here's from one friend to another.
Now that you've done life admin in the way that I've recommended it,
and you've gone in the order of the blocks from calls to errands to money to email to now scheduling
the next one. You see the power of it. You know the pitfalls. You know how much you can get done.
You can schedule it for any day you want. I don't really care because you now know how to do one.
You can schedule it on a Wednesday. You could schedule it on a Friday. You could schedule it on a
Saturday if you want. If you have a half day where you're not going into your hourly job or your shift
work until the afternoon, you could take a morning and do a call and an errand block. Boom, that's the power
of the perfect life admin day. Now that you understand the framework and the five time blocks,
it never changes. And you can insert one of these whenever you want. And the more often you do
these, the faster you can move through them. Because every life admin day is helping you
stay on top of the things that are important to you, and it's helping you clear out the clutter
and the distraction and the money-wasting things that start to get attached to you. It's the same
five blocks done in the same order every single time you do it. So end the life admin by scheduling
your next one, and boom, you did it. What can you expect to change after you've done the perfect
Life Admin Day, you've done all five time blocks. Well, I'll tell you what, you're going to have a great
night because you don't have to do anything. You're going to wake up tomorrow and feel lighter.
Your weekends for the next couple months are going to feel free because you don't have weird errands
that you need to run that are haunting you. The small tasks that feel impossible stop feeling so scary,
you're going to feel capable again. You're going to realize you're no longer behind. And more importantly,
you're going to have proven to yourself that no matter how busy and overwhelming life can get,
all it takes is one day and you feel like yourself again.
I'm so excited to see and to hear what happens when you take this episode and you follow these
five time blocks. Here's what I would love to hear from you. What's the thing that's haunting you?
What is in the corner of your room? What's where are you hauling around in the back of your car?
What is that thing that you cannot seem to get to, and you know intellectually it would take you 10 minutes to get it done, but for whatever reason you just keep putting it off and putting it off and putting it off?
Because I want to normalize all of these things that drive us crazy and drop in the comments, drop in the reviews.
Let us know what is the thing you're most excited to tackle or the dumbest thing you've been putting off that is causing you stress.
I know if you share what you're going to tackle in your life admin day, you're going to make somebody else feel a little less alone and empowered to do the same thing. I also want to thank you for sharing this episode in your family group chat. If you're tired of yelling at your adult kids about doing this stuff, let your friend Mel Robbins yell at them and explain to them how to do the perfect life admin day. And then that way you can focus on your stuff for your life admin. And they as young adults will know how to do their own life admin.
And one more thing, in case nobody else tells you, I wanted to be sure to tell you that as your friend, I love you and I believe in you. And I believe in your ability to create a better life. And taking one day and following this five-part framework to give yourself the perfect life admin day. Holy cow, that is going to lead to feeling so much better. You're going to have a better week. You're going to have a better weekend. You're going to have a better quarter. And by God, just that one change does create a better life.
All righty, I'll see you in the very next episode.
I will be there to welcome you in the moment you hit play.
I'm kind of at the same thing with towels.
Like, when is it like it's just time to spend the $11 and get a new towel?
I have one right now that's a white washcloth.
It's like so full of makeup.
I'm like, why?
Am I keeping this thing?
Okay, you're ready?
Okay, you're ready?
Here we go.
Okay.
Here you go.
So now her remote works.
but her mouse doesn't work.
So Cameron, hold on, let me start over one more time.
Let's do one.
We're going to go back to the top.
Then Tracy goes, okay, let me start one more time
because now I'm getting the story.
Was it good?
I loved it.
So good.
Okay, okay, great.
Are we good?
Okay, good.
I did not, okay, okay.
That's amazing.
Okay.
What else should I say?
Oh my God, that's great.
That's great. That's great. That's great. Okay, great. Is that helpful? Did it get what you need to done?
Great. Wonderful. Oh, perfect. Great job, guys. Great job.
And one more thing. And no, this is not a blooper. This is the legal language. You know what the lawyer's right and what I need to read to you.
This podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes. I'm just your friend.
I am not a licensed therapist, and this podcast is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional.
Got it? Good. I'll see you in the next episode.
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I was so floored. Now, in psychology, there is this concept called scaffolding.
Scaffolding means you perform better. I know I do. When someone gives you temporary structure just enough to support you in moving forward.
I realized that's what happened with co-pilot. I didn't need someone to have.
hang the frames for me. I needed structure. Co-pilot helped me find the structure and the confidence
to get organized and begin. And let me tell you what surprised me. I printed out the clean grid
layout that co-pilot made me. And as my husband Chris walked by, he pointed at one of the photos and
said, oh my gosh, remember that fishing trip? And suddenly we're telling stories about the memory.
We were remembering how little the kids were when we went on that trip and what was happening in
that period of our lives. Co-pilot is helping me create
something that's going to bring me and my family joy every day. Because the things that matter in your
life deserve your attention, your energy and your follow-through too. So whatever your photo wall is,
the project, the dream, the thing you've been avoiding. Take it for me. You don't have to figure
it out all at once. You just have to take the first step. And if you need a little structure,
a little clarity, a little nudge, co-pilot will provide the scaffolding and is ready to help you.
If you want to try it for yourself, visit Microsoft.com backslash Mel Robbins to download the
copilot app. Get started with co-pilot today for free and see how it can help you accomplish something
that makes you feel so good. That's Microsoft.com backslash Mel Robbins.
