The Morning Stream - TMS 2637: A Moist Hug

Episode Date: April 25, 2024

Cobra Kai Soccer Academy. What does the Sloth Say? Do brains smell, 'cause I like really want to know. Have you ever smelled an organ? Aren't You a Little Scottish for a Stormtrooper? Social meteor. P...reserving the Dookie. Tripod Unit. Screaming Sloths. TMS: New Vegas. 106-Year-Old Breadmakin' Lady. Fargo 4 Patch. Ya, you betcha, that's a scary Xenomorph over der. No shows next week. Taking Out the Trash with Wendi and more on this episode of The Morning Stream. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Starting point is 00:00:34 That's the sound of happy and satisfied TMS patrons like Andrew Winter, Justin West, and Hugh Peterson. Be like them at patreon.com slash TMS. Coming up on the morning stream, Cobra Chi Soccer Academy. What does the sloth say? Do brain smell because I like really wanted to know? Have you ever smelled an organ? Aren't you a little Scottish for a stormtrooper? Social meteor.
Starting point is 00:00:59 Preserving the Duky. Tripod unit. Screaming sloths. TMS, New Vegas. 106-year-old breadmaking lady. Fargo 4 Patch. Yeah, you betcha. That's a scary xenomorph over there.
Starting point is 00:01:11 No shows next week. Taking out the trash with Wendy and more on this episode of the Morning Stream. Tonight, I'm home alone. The VCR is rigged. The junk food is stocked, and I'm ready to go. I think she's in a family way. The morning stream, steady as she goes, number two. Just talking to Scott Fletcher last night.
Starting point is 00:01:49 I am so excited to see the Fletchers. Me too. There's the only chance we get to ever see those guys. We don't go to Illinois. They don't come to Utah and Denver. We got to go all. We have to all. We have to all go to Vegas to make that happen.
Starting point is 00:02:00 Yes. Yep, exactly. We need to, it's like the stand. We all need to find that one place in Fort Collins. Where, Colorado Springs? Where is it? Oh, shit. I forgot.
Starting point is 00:02:12 Colorado Springs. Colore Springs sounds familiar, right? I haven't seen. I haven't read the book. Oh, you should. I need to. I need to. It's probably the most recommended book to me to read.
Starting point is 00:02:23 Oh, man. I've read it five times over. I'm ready for a sixth. I love that book. Oh, Boulder. That's right. Boulder. Okay. Yeah, and you're going to find Miss, is it Miss Abigail chat room? Remind me the main lady there because there's a lady in Boulder who's basically got the shining. And she's, and everyone's all the good people who can tell, who have the, also have the post-apocalyptic shining. It's essentially the shining. They all go meet up with her in Boulder and then she's like the leader. And I can't remember. It's like Miss Abigail or lady something. She's like a 95. year old black lady oh what a oh she 106 that's what it is and she makes her own bread she makes own bread that's her other thing it's fantastic gosh dang
Starting point is 00:03:06 that book's good uh anyway we're here it's a thursday it's a me and brym we got stuff to talk about things to cover it's a tms the way you like it the way you love it and uh you know i'm just gonna just put it out there that little kids are brutal they can be brutal we think that oh no we just think old you know we think adults are the ones fighting you know starting wars and that's true generally speaking but sometimes kids, man. I go to this hockey game, or hockey, soccer game last night.
Starting point is 00:03:33 I'm thinking about hockey a lot because we had our team introduction yesterday at the Delta Center. Dude, that place exploded. They had 23,000 people showed up just for the welcome the team night. Wow. Holy cow. They had lines wrapped up on the block. Yeah, big time. And they, there are some people are already saying, wow, that's already a better reception than they ever got here in Arizona.
Starting point is 00:03:56 And I'm like, yeah, that's right. That's how we do it up here, boy. Anyway, the point is, that's why I'm thinking of hockey. So we're at this soccer game, and Vann's playing, and it's a bunch of five-year-olds. And our team's fine. They're, you know, kick the ball, occasionally, sometimes make goals. It's mostly just kind of hurting cats. But Van's a kind of kid.
Starting point is 00:04:17 If another kid falls on their team or his, it doesn't matter. He'll stop and go try to help them up. And there are other kids like that. They're all very kind-hearted little kids. Not on this other team, man. they were shredding each other and if it wasn't pushing the other team to the side which fan was not used to getting just thrown around like that
Starting point is 00:04:34 they would throw their own people around because they were trying to get the ball and one of their own kids there'd be a pack of three fighting over the ball but they're all wearing black jerseys and by the time it's done two are on the ground crying the other one's limping like what's a frick man
Starting point is 00:04:50 I don't know what's going on over there it's just some late to the cobra kayak soccer academy That's what it felt like It's like you all are too into this Someone talked to their coach or something And I looked over and the coach isn't some Like I expected some rah-rah dude You're expecting the coach to look like
Starting point is 00:05:07 What's his face? Like the dude from the The dude from the karate kid First karate kid movie that runs the Cobra Chi Dojo Can't think of his name but that guy I can't either yeah Yeah that's the sort I expected But instead it's just some lady
Starting point is 00:05:20 Just some soccer mom And I don't know if it's just the kids there's something in the water or their black jerseys make them seem cooler than they are. Something's going on. But these kids were just like pounding each other. Wow. So I'm just saying, you know, calm down. You know?
Starting point is 00:05:36 Like, spend, if you're, if Venn goes against them, that team again, just keep an eye on her the whole time and just, you know, watch the coach and see if, you know, they look really nice. But then there's a time that, like, one of the kids will look over at her and she'll go. Yeah, just nods. And she'll nod her head. And then that's when the kid takes out another. one or elbow to the face yeah the figure to the throat thing yeah I really was it was like weird
Starting point is 00:06:01 because and we got dominated as a result like it worked for that other team but they're five years old they're not even playing like real rules I'm not even sure we're keeping score so I don't know why these kids were so freaking competitive but whatever it is what it is uh all right we got a clarification on that Canadian gravy story that we had okay yeah regarding the TMS Gravy News. Somebody sent gravy to the, was it the prime minister? No, who was it? Who did they send gravy to?
Starting point is 00:06:31 I don't know if it was a parliament up there. Yeah, somebody. Something like that. Oh, no, it was Rob Ford's brother. Right, that's right. The mayor of Toronto or the mayor of. The coward. The coward Robert Ford.
Starting point is 00:06:46 Yeah. The coward Rob Ford. Anyway, so we got this anonymous text. regarding the TMS Gravy News on Tuesday, the Sunshine List is a list of federal employees that make more than 100K a year. Wow. And so I guess that's a note to them to say, here's some gravy for your gravy train. Yes, exactly. The Sunshine List.
Starting point is 00:07:07 I love that. It's so Canadian because if we had a list like that in the U.S., and there probably is a list like that in the U.S., no way is it called anything as fun and uplifting as the Sunshine List. No. Yeah, I like how you guys do it. You guys are nice. Even when you're trying to be rude, you're nice somehow. I don't get it. Also, I got chewed out because I said something wrong. I've been talking about Fargo a lot, you know, into it. I love the show playing the games again. That big patch is out for four today, so everybody grab that. Just kind of all into it. Wait, you mean fallout, not Fargo. Did I say Fargo again? You said Fargo. I was like, It's not the first time. Fargo lately? Okay, that's cool.
Starting point is 00:07:53 Yeah, it's good. It's absolutely just, I do this every time I talk about either show now. I don't know why. Anyway, Fallout is what I meant to say, because there is no, there is no Fargo 4 patch today. It's Fallout, everybody, okay? So I don't get it. Fargo 4 patch. Yeah, because I don't want any more emails.
Starting point is 00:08:11 It just adds a bunch of deleted scenes to the first season, so check it out. That's right. But here's where I missed up the other day on that. I'll just play the call. Scott, dude, a couple episodes ago, you were talking about the Fallout show You were talking about how you love the music, and you talked about the song called The Big Sidearm. It's the Big Iron, the Arizona Ranger with the Big Iron on his hip.
Starting point is 00:08:32 Big Iron, Big Iron. Yeah, he's right. I don't remember saying Big Sidearm on his hip, but I probably did. That's funny. We finished that show last night. Fallout. Far out. Far out.
Starting point is 00:08:50 Far go out. out. Yeah. Fargo out. Yeah. Loved it. Oh, my God. So good.
Starting point is 00:08:55 Yep. It's amazing. Can't wait for season two. Let's hurry up. Yeah. I mean, I think it'll go into production probably later this year and they'll probably get it out for the 2025 season. I don't know, but I would love that.
Starting point is 00:09:07 So please give me year over year, Fargo. Thank you so much. Fargo. Freaking fallout. Give me more fallout. I don't know. Holly's too busy working on that alien series. God, when is that?
Starting point is 00:09:20 Do we have a date on that yet? 2025 is what I heard, but I don't know. Okay, all right. I hope that's right. I'm very excited about that. Maybe you could combine them and do an alien series, but kind of in the style of Fargo. Sure, sure. Maybe he will.
Starting point is 00:09:36 Maybe that's what he's doing. Just see that beg xenomorph over there? Oh, sure, yeah, you bet you'll bet you. This is a scary xenomorph. But then make it really scary and bloody right after they talk like that. Right. I'm in. Sign me up.
Starting point is 00:09:50 Whatever, I'll follow that guy wherever. He goes. He's so good, I accidentally say Fargo instead of fallout all the time. Yeah, exactly. Yeah. No, it's a series, not a movie. I think it wasn't it originally going to be a movie, and then they said, no, we're going to do a series,
Starting point is 00:10:05 or was it always a series? There's always a series. There's still a movie coming, but it's not from him. That's what it is. Okay. Alien isolation or something. Nope, that's the video game. You're thinking of Alien.
Starting point is 00:10:16 Inoculation, Alien. amateurization. Because that movie takes place between alien and aliens, right? Yeah. Let's see. That is correct. The upcoming movie. It is called Romulus.
Starting point is 00:10:30 There it is. Romulus, that's right. Alien Romulus, 2024. Oh. Oh, okay. Good. Still this year. I thought it said it got delayed.
Starting point is 00:10:41 I'm glad that here it has not. I want to see this. Pretty bad. That director, Fayette Alvarez, he made, Don't Breed and the Evil Dead remake, those are amazing horror movies. Oh, really? Okay. Yeah, that guy's really good. So watch that.
Starting point is 00:10:54 Do you see the Evil Dead remake? I feel like I did. 2013's remake? Yeah, I think I did. Really good. I've high hopes for that guy. You know where they find, in the basement they find, they each find a, I don't know, that's something different where the kids who go to the evil dead house in the basement,
Starting point is 00:11:15 that they each find a different. Oh, no, that's the new one. I'm thinking that, you don't know, I'm thinking of freaking, I'm thinking of a freaking cabin in the woods. Oh, oh, right. Yeah, no, that's true. But there is a similar thing to the, to the newer one where they're in an apartment building.
Starting point is 00:11:31 The Evil Dead, whatever that was last year. That's like that. The kids all find. That might be what I'm thinking. Yeah, kids all find separate shit and then things go to crap. Yeah. Well, anyway, look forward to that. It should be good.
Starting point is 00:11:44 Cool. Cool. We got a question from someone I disagree with, but we're going to read it anyway. Okay. Let's comment more like. Here's what he says. He says, I enjoy the form. There's another non-name on this one.
Starting point is 00:11:56 If you guys want your names on your text, you just have to tell me what your name is because all I get is your number. And I'm not giving those out. I enjoy the format, exactly. I enjoy the format of half-hasses, but it feels lame sometimes because the questions are so hard. It all, it all, two to one. But that's just my dumb opinion. Brian, what do you say to that? What do you think?
Starting point is 00:12:17 No, you know what? There are times, because we've had more times in the last couple months, more times where it's been zero-zero coming out of the third question. It's been a little bit more difficult. But it's not because the questions are hard. It's because you guys, you know, you shoot for the fences a little too often. If you know one for sure, take the point. Take the point. But there have been, I've thrown out questions because I think that they're just way too hard.
Starting point is 00:12:52 So you're getting questions that I've even, like, said, yeah, they can handle this one. So you're vetting them, sort of, right? I mean, not sort of. You're looking at all of them before you. I'm vetting them. And you know what? I hate to say it. I've taken out ones that I thought were, I've taken out one or two, very, very few that I thought were too easy.
Starting point is 00:13:10 but maybe I should leave those in. I just felt like it was a guarantee you guys were both going to get three or get five points on that one, but I'll, you know what, I'll... Usually it's just a round thing for me. Like some rounds, oh, yeah, that one was impossible to know because I don't know anything about that. And the very next round, it's one I know about. So it's not like it's a, it's not like the entire episodes worth of questions
Starting point is 00:13:35 are overly hard. Like, from my perspective, there are some that are hard, but then you usually have others in that same day that are not as hard. So I don't feel like, that's why I disagree with this. I think I feel like it's pretty even. I agree. And the boy who cried, dot, dot, dot, dot,
Starting point is 00:13:52 named too long to be shown in my IRC chat program says, I just thought the games were for comedy, not for actual competition. You are 100% right. Three points to Gryffindor. Yeah, it's for fun. It's not for. It is all in fun.
Starting point is 00:14:05 And hearing you guys struggle, with something isn't, isn't, you know, the lack of comedy. It'd be fun to kind of have a little mix, but I'll do a little bit better about making sure. I do try to make sure that if I've got like a history and Byzantine Empire or something that I have like Movies with James Cameron or something like that in there, so that you've got a chance on at least one of the questions to score some points. I like it. I like it.
Starting point is 00:14:37 But anyway, we love your feedback. matter if you disagree with something we do or not you guys can send it in keep it coming all right yeah yeah please yeah we do love the the feedback and and uh you know we changed up i think we changed up feud because it made sense not to give you guys the most points for the easiest answers i think based on based on feedback or did i i can you remember i don't remember that uh that might have been something or may have been something you were already doing and the listener just sort of echoed it or something maybe that's it yeah yeah yeah something like that we get that a lot.
Starting point is 00:15:10 Content. Yep. Speaking of people who write in, call in and give us information that we did not previously have. Dr. Nicky has weighed in on do brain smell. All right. That's right.
Starting point is 00:15:21 Oh, yes. Because this all came from like babies and why do babies smell so good? Because you're smelling their brains seeping through their skulls, their soft skulls. And one of my super educated children. Carter, you over there? She's not here. Carter did go to college, right? She did. She graduated college, but somehow she was under the impression that it was because their skin is so thin and their skulls aren't formed that we are smelling their brain.
Starting point is 00:15:48 And it's a sweet smell or a nice, flowery smell. And that never sat right with me. I thought that was weird. And so when we brought it up on the show, we had a lot of back and forth from different people. Basically, we had put it to bed saying it sounds like bull crap. But Dr. Nicky has specific experience in her career smelling brains. She deals with sheep brains all the time. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:16:08 Yeah, she has smelled brains before. So she's going to tell us what's up. Here you go. Hi, Scott and Brian. This is Nikki, aka Dr. Sheet. You asked about smelling like if his baby smelled it because you're smelling their brain. I have an answer. I'm a neuroscientist.
Starting point is 00:16:23 I smelled actual brain. So I think I can answer this for you. First of all, if you're smelling brain, you're not wearing the proper PPE. You should be wearing a mask. Otherwise, you're at risk for infection or a disease or something. But I literally extracted some goat brain. last week. They smell like most other organs, which is like blood. I have never noticed any particular smell to goat or human brain. So I think that is nonsense. I love the show, though.
Starting point is 00:16:51 Have a great day. Bye. Don't smell too many brains. All right. Yeah. I'm going to make sure I don't smell too many brains. But that confirms what I believe right in my gut and soul, which is, come on. Brains don't smell like flowery, cute little sugar balls. It don't smell like baby powder. You know what smells like baby powder? Baby powder. That's right. It's the shit you. put on that baby or the bath you just gave them okay so quit passing that weird thing around carter carter has officially acknowledged that yeah that sounds like i was fed bad info like really you think that's bad info man anyway tallie his smell brains too tallie do you have any uh you just
Starting point is 00:17:24 uh throw a throw a comment in chat about uh any anything to add about the way brain smell yeah do you ever catch a a good whiff of a god of a dr niki brings up a good point which is the you know, wearing protection because, yeah, no kidding. If it's a, especially if she's dealing with a sheep that died from some sort of weird bacterial infection, like, oh God, yeah, make sure you're not smelling the brains because that means some of that brain bacteria might be getting in your nose. Yeah, I assume if you could smell it, it's somewhat airborne, right? Yeah, yeah. Well, now we got a new question. When you smell a fart, you're actually taking little tiny particles of poop into your nose.
Starting point is 00:18:06 Well, there you go. Talley's not answering, which tells me that... Oh, there we go. No major smell. I feel like if you really heard what I said, I would have gotten a way bigger reaction in that because it feels like a what gross scout out the most moment. Yeah, yeah, it's pretty gross. No major smell that just like normal organs. Well, see, I don't have it... I don't know what any organs smell like.
Starting point is 00:18:26 Like you don't... Brian, have you ever smelled an organ? An internal organ? Hey, let's move on to the... Like, you know, like an internal, like somebody's liver. their heart or something. I mean, no, no, I've never smelled. I've smelled like raw liver when I've cooked it.
Starting point is 00:18:42 Yeah. Yeah. Okay, that may, you know, that kind of counts, right? And raw liver smells a little like blood or copper. Yeah. Like she was saying. So, yeah, the blood. You're smelling the iron, the blood.
Starting point is 00:18:55 Yep. Really, basically. Big iron on his hip. Back to that thing. Make sure to come smell organs in Las Vegas next week at Viva TMS Vegas. Yeah. Dr. Nick, you'll be there to help confirm what you're smelling?
Starting point is 00:19:08 It'll all be great. Brian, tell us about the Marvel Snap tournament bracket you're making. Yeah, last night I came up with the idea of, you know, a lot of us who are going to be in Las Vegas at Viva, Las Vegas, are Marvel Snap players. And it's so fun when you play, do a friendly tournament. You know, I'm doing a friendly little battle across the internet is fine. It's okay.
Starting point is 00:19:28 I've done it with September and played against Amy. Amy is so damn good. And I got stuck in a battle where she had, lactose and I had nothing, nothing I could do, basically. By the deck I went in there with, I was screwed the whole time. But we're all going to be in one place and it would be fun to like to just put together a really quick, simple, easy bracket for anybody who wants to play. I guess the best way is to just shoot me a DM in Discord or email me or something.
Starting point is 00:19:59 I don't want to do a whole Google form for this. Sorry, I've done a lot. I've put out a lot of crap In the last nine, eight months Since before, friggin' Black Friday for this event I wanted something easy Just DM me Or if somebody wants to take this on, actually
Starting point is 00:20:18 It'd be even better But yeah, we'll do a little A little Marvel Snap tourney Maybe, you know, it might only be eight of us playing Maybe only 10 or 12 of us or something like that So How long does the tournament like that take If you had to clock it, do you think?
Starting point is 00:20:32 Oh, like, I mean, each match is probably like 10 minutes, 15 minutes. I do need a hug. I can't wait to get hugs. I'm a hugger in Vegas. Just be prepared. Might be, you know, if you catch me at the wrong time, might be a little a moist hug, if you know what I'm saying. Yeah, yeah, you'd be smelling Brian's entire set of organs. If I'm running in from the car carrying all of Tina's in my luggage, then don't hug me right away.
Starting point is 00:20:58 Give me a little chance to. so 10 minutes a match and you're talking eight people so what are we looking at that's like but those eight people can all be playing concurrently right so you could have four of those games going on at the same time to um this sounds like something that could happen during the ballroom time then to me that's what it sounds like yeah that's what i'm thinking the board game ballroom yeah that's what i was yeah that's what i'm thinking yeah that seems right to me yeah yeah the animas is going to do um you know those games uh there's it's called it's on steam i think it's just called marbles but it's like a bunch of marbles rolling down a slip and slide kind of thing and you just in chat you say which marble you think is going to win he's going to do a live stream of that but we'll be actually live there to pick which marbles we think are going to win awesome i love that the one where they all kind of are random at the top and they all bounce around and then you're not really sure which one's going to make it oh i'd love shit like that yes marbles on stream that's what it's called stoak squirrel uh just just so you know there is no
Starting point is 00:21:58 gambling in the board game ballroom. No. They're not zoned for it. Illegal. You'd be surprised what's illegal in Vegas. You'd think that would be, you should be able to gamble anywhere. Nope. Yeah. I'm wondering if I can teach people craps in the board game ballroom.
Starting point is 00:22:13 If no money is involved, if no money is changing hands. I don't know. Maybe they would. I mean, you should be able to sit around and play poker, Texas hold them, and not have any money involved. I'm sure you can do that. They just can't have money. They'd have to prove that you're exchanging. cash for wins and losses but yeah anyway more on that as we get there all right yeah and
Starting point is 00:22:35 there's a lot of board game stuff so don't worry you don't have to if you don't have marble snap there's plenty to do okay god yeah so much stuff we will we will not have a shortage of fun things to do the whole weekend let or the whole week let alone in the board game ballroom truth now this it's time for the news brought to you by brought to you by Coverville today at noon at twitch.tv.tv slash Coverville. Just such an exciting, exciting topic today. The National Recording Preservation Board. You're like, what the hell, Brian?
Starting point is 00:23:11 No, no, this is actually kind of cool. So every year, the National Recording Registry at the Library of Congress chooses 25 recordings, a mix of singles and albums and things like that that show the range in diversity of American recorded sound heritage so that they, can preserve it and showcase it kind of thing. So only 25 a year, and this year, it's stuff like, it's really cool. It's stuff like Blondie, Patty Page, Perry Como, and newer stuff, Jefferson Airplane, Bill Withers, Lily Tomlin, Abba, the Cars, Dougie Fresh, Ladi-Dottie by Dougie Fresh and Slick Rick. It's getting pulled into the National Recording Registry.
Starting point is 00:23:58 don't worry be happy stuff like that so oh dukey by green day the whole album is now in the national recording preservation nice well how do they choose is it just stuff that stood the test of time kind of thing or what exactly and stuff that's representative of the culture and the the um the style of music that is prevalent at the time that that album came out like basically is it is it well max trollbot says Jefferson airplane is newer newer compared to uh the Wisconsin folk songs from 1937, yes. Yeah, I mean, new, it's all relative, obviously,
Starting point is 00:24:33 but it's not like they're going to tell you last year's winners from last year's releases. Exactly, yeah, nothing. The newest thing on here is the Dixie Chick's wide open spaces. I think this follows the same rules as the 25-year rule of like the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame, except instead of having to be around for,
Starting point is 00:24:55 no, it's probably the same thing, right? They have to have been around for 25 years minimum from their first release. Let's see. Wide Open Space is... 19908. Oh, this says 2003. Why, why, why? I don't know.
Starting point is 00:25:09 Oh, no, I'm sorry. It received diamond status then. Yeah, you're right. 98. So, yeah, you're right. You're never going to see anything that's like last year. Did I go away again? I can't hear you.
Starting point is 00:25:20 Really? I can't hear you. Really? Yeah. Oh, there we go. Now you're back. What is up, Discord? What website are you pulling up?
Starting point is 00:25:26 I mean Wikipedia. Scott, how many tabs do you have two? I literally have two tabs, morning stream, and this one. So I don't know why it does that. That doesn't make any freaking sense. I don't get it either, but oh, well. All right. If it does it again, let me know.
Starting point is 00:25:44 I didn't have this. I always do. I'll do this. Maybe I'll do. If I need to, I'll do. I had a whole bunch of calls yesterday and nothing, this never happened. with anybody else. I don't know what's going on. It's freaking weird. By the way, I used
Starting point is 00:26:00 a device and pulled this thing out of my nose. Is that, is that a problem? Like, is that a... You're being tracked. Yeah. It was weird. It was a recording of me telling myself to do it after I put a wet towel on my head. It was really weird. That is weird. Wow.
Starting point is 00:26:15 The deal is, yeah. It's a good look, though. It's having that hang out of your mouth. I have a whole box of these, and I can't wait to tell people why I have a whole box of these. You won't know you won't know in Vegas, but a whole box these little lights. Oh, they're lights. I was going to say,
Starting point is 00:26:29 look like old radio tubes or something. They look, I mean, they look like little bullets, but they have a, like the tip. Yeah. Oh,
Starting point is 00:26:37 yeah. There's a light. Oh, look at that. They're individual. I thought maybe you had to plug them all into something.
Starting point is 00:26:43 No. That's cool. They are self-contained little, little penlight batteries, and this will be, this is a thing after Vegas. A nice little quick thing after Vegas.
Starting point is 00:26:52 Okay, very nice. Well, let's get to this news. We've got a giant pumpkin story, all right? Oh, it's a great pumpkin. Yeah. Johnson. Kind of is.
Starting point is 00:27:02 This guy who took this down a river. I mean, my gosh, you guys got to see this. I'll put it up here so they can see it. Hold on. Look at that guy. He looks a little like you, if I'm honest. It kind of does, yeah. He's got the full on, oh my God, he's got a pipe.
Starting point is 00:27:18 He's got like the Popeye pipe. This guy wins. He wins everything. Look at him. He even named the damn company. It's called Cinderella. Anyway, biggest grown pumpkin in Australia is an Australian guy. Oh, it's an Australian pumpkin.
Starting point is 00:27:31 Yeah, lucky Phil. And that pumpkin will kill you. That's right. Let's see. He had this opportunity after his friend, Mark Peacock, grew a royal Easter show blue ribbon-awarded monster pumpkin, is how this is described. 407 kilograms, this thing. It's really big. It's named Tormond, even though he wrote Cinderella on the front.
Starting point is 00:27:53 but it's called Tormand after the Game of Thrones character Tormon Giants Bain was the biggest pumpkin awarded at any show across the nation in 2024, according to Mr. P. Cock, a former Commodore of the Tumet Canoe Club, Mr. Farquar, Farquharson, Farquharson, does that look right? Farquaharson? Sure. Fourth paragraph. Farcar, Farca, Farc, Farc, Fark, Fark you, Harson. Fark you, Harsen.
Starting point is 00:28:25 You can't Farka Harsen my property anymore. That's right. It's not legal here in this town. He said he had attempted to grow a giant pumpkin big enough to paddle down previous years, but it turned out to be an, sorry, an abject and hilarious failure, unquote. It grew about the size of a softball, rotted and died. Oh, bummer. So when he found out about this big guy, he pounced and says. Yeah, I would think you basically would have to wait until it got, you know,
Starting point is 00:28:52 Don't decide you're going to paddle off in the pumpkin until it's a fairly decent size. Don't start it. This is going to be the one. This is going to be the one I'm going to paddle on. This is the pumpkin, yeah. Yeah, it needs to be big before you make that decision. There's actual video of this of him going down the river. Actually, it looks fun.
Starting point is 00:29:08 I just sent you a photo I took in Vermont when I was at the pumpkin farm with the award-winning giant pumpkin from that year. Oh, my lord, look at that. Yeah. Wow. It's misshapen. So it'd be much more difficult to paddle in, but... That is a monster. Just from knowing, like, all right, I know the size of a little flatbed trailer like is going to be.
Starting point is 00:29:33 That's massive. Yeah, that thing's a single pallet. That's massive. It's absolutely huge. It looks a little wrinkly like it's been sitting there a while. It probably has, yeah. Why does it have a number on it? 1379.
Starting point is 00:29:46 Oh, that's how many pounds it is. It's 1,379 pounds. They have to write that on there. That's funny. Yeah, for the contest, yeah. Wow. All right. Big pumpkins all around everybody.
Starting point is 00:29:57 That's all right. Here's a story about a reported armed man at a Scottish train station. Turns out he was dressed up like a stormtrooper from Star Wars. Aren't you a little Scottish for a stormtrooper? That's what I would say. You don't see a lot of Scottish actors. Well, that's not true. Ewan McGregor is Scottish.
Starting point is 00:30:17 Yeah. I'm trying to think. Are there any others in Star Wars? I don't know. I feel like we don't see enough Scottish actors who are just allowed to have their accent in movies. Yeah, yeah, right. Yes. Because even... You know, I'll bet. Because there were so many British actors in the first movies, right?
Starting point is 00:30:32 Like, the entire empire was all British actors, but there probably were a lot of Scottish ones in there as well. Yeah, and there's some great Scottish actors out there working, but most of them are faking American or British accents all the time. And I don't get it. Why not just let them rip, man? That gets the coolest accent in the history of the world. anyway reported armed man oh so here it is police in Scotland I do mean English yes sorry yes oh did I I didn't mean to suggest no me nope me I know it was me was me saying I got I got just gently unlovingly correct oh someone in the chat is telling you I thought you meant I told
Starting point is 00:31:06 you and I'm like I do not remember saying that I had a rough night but I don't think my brain's that addled this morning um anyway a reported or where the hell am I oh here it is police in Scotland said a man who led it to a train, a man who led it to a train returning to station turned out to be a Star Wars cosplayer on his way to comic book convention. The man known as Grampian Stormtrooper on social meteor. Meteor? Social meteor.
Starting point is 00:31:33 You ever been on that social meteor? It's a hellscape. Was dressed in his Imperial Stormtrooper costume with a Scottish twist. He was wearing a kilt because, of course, that's what they do. when he boarded the Scott Rail Of course it's called Scott Rail I need to just move there Now I've ridden Brit Rail
Starting point is 00:31:52 Yeah how was that How was Brit Rail? Do you like Brit Rail? BitRail took me into Scotland Strangely enough Because I wouldn't think Brit Rail Would go into Scotland Because you know it's Brit Rail
Starting point is 00:32:01 Not Scott Rail But Brit Rail Yeah Britney Rail Mained after the famous Britney This is Poke Polke
Starting point is 00:32:08 That's what I'm doing I get you I feel you Yep Poke and the Mute I thought you'd already done that, but anyway. I know, I did. I did.
Starting point is 00:32:21 He says he was met by two firearm officers, three police, Scotland, two British transport police, and I had a chat with him all in his office. Basically, the firearm he was carrying was just a blaster plastic prop, and they thought he was in trouble. Yeah, that's, but he was wearing his stormtrooper costume. It's not like he was just wearing his stormtrooper gun on his regular street. clothes. Right. He was just, to me, I would have seen it and went, oh, a guy pretending to be a stormtrooper. I would have never thought anything else. There's no other reason for this guy.
Starting point is 00:32:54 And even if you, I mean, you could be, sure, people out there unfamiliar with Star Wars. I still feel like if you haven't seen Star Wars, if you're a certain age, you can still identify a stormtrooper. Yeah, I don't, to me, it's like seeing Mario and being confused. Like, you know who this is. even if you don't care about Star Wars, you know who it is. I could show my grandmother Carol, who I'm pretty sure hasn't seen any of the Star Wars movies and doesn't care. I could show her a picture of a stormtrooper and say, do you know what this is? And she wouldn't say, oh, yeah, that's a, that's somebody who's going to shoot up a train station.
Starting point is 00:33:26 It's the, it's some science fiction movie character, right? It's the definition of cultural, universal universality, right? Everyone knows some of these things. It's just the way it is. There's plenty of things like that. There isn't just, you know, it isn't just American shit. So, I don't know. They're just cautious over there, I guess.
Starting point is 00:33:45 Over here we have... He did have the Stormtrooper costume on Hobbs Dogg. It says the man, known as the Grampian Stormtrooper, which I don't know what that means, was dressed in his Imperial Stormtrooper costume with a Scottish twist, a kilt. So he had his Imperial Stormtrooper costume and then a kilt on top of it.
Starting point is 00:34:02 Yeah, he was wearing the whole get-up. And he had this... He had a blaster, like the rifle blaster that those guys carried. But here in the state, they make you put an orange tip on those. that we can take them out in public. But over there, they don't do that.
Starting point is 00:34:14 Maybe that's what the freaked them out. I don't know. Well, all right. Well, there's a fun story for you. How about this one? This was sent to us by Gru. It showed up in our Discord. Man grilling and shopping cart using a sword as a skewer was arrested in Santa Monica on the pier.
Starting point is 00:34:30 Oh, this would be something to see, wouldn't it, Brian? I would love to see this, yes. A man was arrested in Santa Monica. He was seen using a shopping cart on a sword to grill barbecue in the middle of the street. That sounds good right now. Video from... Just like skewer a chicken and put it on the sword and then like roast it, turning it, that sort of thing.
Starting point is 00:34:51 I'm pretty sure there's video. Let's see. Is there? Oh, yeah, sure it is right there. The main compartment of the car... Oh, sorry, I'm jumping ahead in the article, but main compartment of the card is filled with flaming wood while the man uses a sword as a skewer to hold meat over the flames. Yep, yep.
Starting point is 00:35:05 It makes a good grill, like a good lattice work, you know? I will let you read the next line out loud, though, because it might be the best line. Oh, look at all that meat he's got going. Does he? Let me see the video here. Oh, my gosh. There's also a good photo below the video of a cart full of wood burning and then meat on top.
Starting point is 00:35:24 Yeah. And he's got meat wrapped around that sword. That's great. Anyway, where were we? I wonder if he's selling it or what the deal is or if this is just for his own. That's a lot of meat for your own consumption. It's a lot of meat. He's probably, you know, just like a.
Starting point is 00:35:41 Like thinking that that's how you become a vendor in Santa Monica is just by having food. Yeah. If you have food, you are a vendor. Just walk down the street with food and people will buy it. Heck with licenses and things like that. Let's see. It was before 3 p.m. on Sunday along the Ocean Avenue, in the video, the man is seen dragging a shopping cart through a bike lane.
Starting point is 00:36:01 The main compartment of the car is filled with flaming wood. And the man uses a sword as a skewer to hold meat over the flames. I mean, so far it just sounds like he's cooking. of me, just can't do this in public, I guess. Yeah. A man continues down the road, pushing the cart with him, eventually stopping, apparently trying to fuel the flames with Bud Light. I don't know how that works, but that doesn't work.
Starting point is 00:36:26 It's not the kind of alcohol. I know it's got some alcohol in it, but it's not the good kind of like the stoke-the-flames kind of alcohol. Yeah, if you pour some vodka, I think you can pour like tequila or vodka on something and maybe set it at a flame if it's just like. Yes. Oh, for sure. Like the spirits, boom, no problem.
Starting point is 00:36:43 Yeah. Yeah, exactly. But beer? Beer will put that flame out, I feel like, yeah. Maybe he was thinking it would add flavor to the meat. I don't know. Let's say, it says also pitching the cart was a bottle of barbecue sauce. The video continues.
Starting point is 00:36:57 The man walks down the road. Eventually, the police department's cruiser pulls him over. Officers get out. The grill master then takes off running. They followed him down the beach, found out. Oh, no. Did leave the fire behind? Yep.
Starting point is 00:37:10 Yeah, he left it and ran. So they found him, cuffed him, he's in custody now. It's not something you're supposed to be able to do, but I don't know. I think it's, I mean, whatever, I guess fire's dangerous, and he's got a sword. There's too many things going against him here, but I don't mind if a guy wants to barbecue out in the street. He gives a shit. Yeah, exactly. Let him do it.
Starting point is 00:37:32 You know, I mean, I eat it. I don't want his food. I mean, it's not safe. You can't have, like, just, you can't walk down the street carrying, pushing a cart with an open flame in it. yeah yeah like if you have a i wonder if you have like a little um oh brian locked up my locking up or is just he locking up and also that's an amazing face he's making you guys still hear us right that isn't just me here i'm going to pause this hold on send a letter saying uh that they're going to be
Starting point is 00:38:07 working on stuff today but I wonder if that could be but look at that face you're making it's pretty good frozen face oh let me see it's pretty good right the sea ladies just imagine yeah you want to have that in your life hubba hubba hubba it's a good look and it's always it's so funny by the way to have the um the infinity gotlet behind me because for whatever reason it's like it always feels like it's part of the part of the action going on in the foreground yeah it feels like it's not way back there it's like like somebody's like the hand's doing this to you whatever your face is making it's doing it to you
Starting point is 00:38:44 from behind oh man scary I wish I could sleep that well at night look at that I'm sure yeah look at that guy well anyway let's do this story oh I was in the process I wonder if there's a safe like coming up with a safe version
Starting point is 00:39:00 of the way to cook meat as you walk down the street is there like oh probably in a license Could you cook meat with a taser while you walk down the street? I wonder about that. Yeah. I mean, so if you had a regular cart doing hot dogs, obviously, that's a way.
Starting point is 00:39:16 Yeah. Another way where you're not licensed would be a taser. What else you could do? Could you have a portable generator and a microwave? Maybe. Or even a hot plate? Maybe. Maybe that stuff's even approvable.
Starting point is 00:39:28 What if you had a giant, what do you call those? The lens, the burn antheels with it. yeah solar like one of those little solar reflector dishes yeah do like that and then that you could totally you absolutely could do that yeah just harness the power of the sun and there's no and really the only thing hot would be the the food I don't know yeah yeah I don't know I probably still have to get a license but yeah all right final story hospital staff plead with bite victims to stop bringing snakes to the emergency room plead people please uh don't my dad lose you again yeah but I'm back now. It goes away for a few seconds. All right, after the show, I'm restarting. I'll see if that fixes it. Or if they're, they might be in my backyard. They don't have a truck up front, but it's usually the precursor to stuff happening. But I didn't, like, nothing touched, no, no applications that are doing stuff in the background, nothing. I have no idea.
Starting point is 00:40:26 Yeah, it's something on the, it's something on the service end. It has to be for that, to happen like that. Uh, where was I? Hospital staff pleads with bite victims to stop ringing their snakes to the emergency departments. Quit doing that. We call it an emergency room, but in Queensland they call it emergency department. I like that. The emergency. Oh, let's get to the emergency. There's a, there's a, uh, uh, the wrong accent. That's not an Australian accent. No, not at all. But they have it. So they have, we have an ER. They have an E.D. But that's unfortunate because you don't want to go to the E.D for an E. No. No. No. Yes. I mean, no, you know, no shade to anyone with ED issues, but... I've got bit by a spider, I need to go to the emergency department. I'm going to bring my snake with me. Snake bite victims are endangered medical staff by ringing in the reptiles with them to the hospital to bit them in the first place.
Starting point is 00:41:18 In Queensland wide bay region, filled nowhere this is, I guess. Doctors have come face to face of some of the world's most venomous snakes captured by patients believing it'll help them with, identification and treatment, which is not the case. Don't bring them in. Take a picture. Bring in a picture. It'll last longer. Yeah, you'll last longer is what will happen.
Starting point is 00:41:41 In one case earlier this month, emergency staff at Bunderbundaburg Hospital. Bundaburg, yeah. I get their ginger ale. Oh, yeah? Bunderberg ginger ale. It's good. It's really good, yeah. Four hours north of Brisbane were handed a plastic food container with a small eastern brown snake inside of it
Starting point is 00:42:00 paring back at them. The incident is prompted the hospital director of emergency medicine, Adam Michael. That's funny. Why does that sound familiar? Adam Michael. Adam Michael. I don't know. Because we know a Dave Michael.
Starting point is 00:42:11 Adam Michael. That's really throwing me some reason. Anyway, to warn patients to leave snakes alone, we honestly don't want people interacting with snakes any more than they already have, says Dr. Michael. Why is that name familiar? Dr. Michael. I don't know. Dr. Adam Michael.
Starting point is 00:42:27 Please pick up a white paging phone. I can hear it. You have a blue. Code blue, Dr. Adam Michael, code blue. I don't know why it's so familiar. Anyway, we're going to take a familiarity break. When we come back from this break, my sister Wendy will be here. We have an email to discuss this all before we get to see her in Vegas.
Starting point is 00:42:47 It'll be great. So stay tuned. Brian, why don't you play a song until we do that. Let's do that. The band is called Swerve. They have a brand new EP called The Dark Room. It's coming out June 21st. Big thanks to Clarion Call Media for sending this one along.
Starting point is 00:43:01 This is their first single from the EP. It's called Just Pretend. Look, if you like bands like Teenage Fan Club, The Stone Roses, or the Replacements, I do, all three of those. Then you'll like this. I do as well. Here's the band Swerve with Just Pretend.
Starting point is 00:43:15 You're still pretty when you cry, mascara down your eyes, though I didn't realize how much it stayed. And I don't know what's wrong or right, we're both enamored with our fights, how every single night can last for days. After riding in the sheets A cigarette Live in your teeth You said you didn't realize
Starting point is 00:44:14 How much we changed Giving up on future Giving up on past Remember good times how they couldn't last The night has spilled your glass of wine You said it was fine We could just pretend That we really love each other
Starting point is 00:44:37 We could just pretend We're good for one another We could just pretend We're the servants of our own needs Masters of our own deeds Take it away Hey I'm trying through the scene
Starting point is 00:45:09 Giving in the day or three You said you didn't mind the way we carried all Giving up on future, giving up on past Tomorrow's always coming on too fast It will make it any ease here if I go away We could just pretend That we really love each other
Starting point is 00:45:37 We could just pretend We're good for one another We could just pretend We're the servants of our own needs Masters of our own deeds Take it away Hey We can't find out of the way we could carry in a while we could
Starting point is 00:46:13 play up separately just end and enjoy us know we could just pretend that we really love each other we could just pretend that we really love each other We could just pretend Working for one another We could just pretend Were the servants of our own needs And messrs of our own deeds Take it away
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Starting point is 00:47:28 I ain't going back. You can make me. And we're back. That is the band swerve and a song called Just Pretend. This is coming out from their brand new EP, which is called The Dark Room. Comes out June 21st. So if you want more of what you just heard, that is where you'll get it. Sounds good.
Starting point is 00:47:59 Let's see if we can get Wendy in. We're a couple minutes early, but she's online. Cool. So that should work out okay. Let's see here. We get the ringing. Let's see if we get the singing. The rings.
Starting point is 00:48:13 You know, she used to sing back in the day. Did she really? Yeah. I didn't know that. Yeah. She doesn't do it so much now. But I think, I don't know, in a pinch, she probably would for somebody if they asked her to or something for like an event or something. Oh, well, yeah, you know, we've got the karaoke Monday night.
Starting point is 00:48:29 I was one to ask people, you know, while we're waiting here, if there's anybody who needs, who wants to do a duet for a song, I can't, for whatever reason, I can't just go into karaoke solo willy-nilly. I need a warm-up. I need a duet situation. So if there's anyone who's like, oh, Brian, I need, I was really hoping I would, we could do that Mumford and Sons or the, sorry, not Mumford and the Sun. This is the band that sounds like them.
Starting point is 00:48:58 I'll just live in my and paw. Ain't nobody else would like you. Anyway, I have no idea. If somebody wants to do a duet, let me know. It doesn't even have to be a lady. I'll do a duet with a dude, sure. All right, maybe we'll do one with... To all the girls I've loved before, Julio Glacius and Willie Nelson.
Starting point is 00:49:12 Let's do it. Perfect. You can be Willie Nelson. Here's another Minnesota tradition that's not so easy to throw in the garbage. Oh, look who it is. It's my sister Wendy who hails from Minnesota, currently anyway. She's here. Wendy, I just told everybody that you used to sing a lot. Do you still do it here and there for stuff? Hello? Phone in the pocket. Okay, guys, I mentioned this before. That's right. That's fine. You know, it's been a week.
Starting point is 00:49:41 Okay, yeah. No, I sing a little bit, not too much. Yeah. You used it a lot when you were little. I was trained. I know. I sang for so, so, so, so long. Yeah. That sometimes when people hear me sing now, they're like, what? I'm like, well, well, I was four I didn't have a choice So somebody walks up to you in Vegas and says
Starting point is 00:50:00 Hey you need to sing for me right now You're not you're probably not gonna do it on demand I wouldn't recommend that Oh I could if I knew the song Okay All right Do you have a go-to song like in your car You're in your car
Starting point is 00:50:09 A song comes on That you do you absolutely sing I sing a lot Just walking around like in my house Or I will sing sentences And so one time a friend sent me this thing That was like Send this to the person
Starting point is 00:50:23 And if a million dollars were on the line, you couldn't tell them beforehand would suddenly break into song. And I was like, yeah, that would be me. Wow. I would probably just start singing for no reason. And it would be dumb. But I would win that million dollars. All right.
Starting point is 00:50:38 So you do, you do a, you basically do a melodic version of what I do. And I just make stupid sounds or yell out things that are in my head sometimes. Like I'll be in the shower and I'll just start, I'll just go, you got, you got what I need for no reason. Yeah, that's that. It's exactly that. And then sometimes it's a real song I haven't heard in so long and I'm like, where is this coming from? And then, you know, until I, you know, the earworm, until I sing the entire thing or listen to it, it's stuck for the whole day. I mean, mom used to run, what was that, you guys had a children's singing group or something. Yeah, she ran a children's choir and a little singing group. Choir, yeah. And you guys would go,
Starting point is 00:51:18 I remember this one time. There was a place called, oh, shoot, what was it called? called. Anyway, it was all like miniature golf, arcade machines, a batting cage. It was like one of those places. Oh, yeah. Well, I don't remember the name of that place. Anyway, it's now like a, it's all been bought out and it's like a lawyer thing. Now it's a whole different building. But at the time, I thought it was really cool and I'd take dates there all the time. Anyway, mom would get gigs there as the little kids choir director and you guys would all like get up on their little amphitheater stage up there and sing at that place. And a very specific memory of playing joust in one of these game pits they were like almost like gambling pits
Starting point is 00:51:54 so it was like dipped down into the ground and i'd be playing that and i could hear mom and you guys over there singing something from annie or something yeah yeah something like that anyway fun fun looking back now let's look forward uh to this email wendy's a real therapist by the way everybody she helps real people all the time with real problems and we have a question here which i think is interesting it's a bit of a follow-up to something you talk about a lot we'll keep this person anonymous to say hey self-esteem behavior and well-being they're all our nicknames it's pretty good that's great says often when he refers to mental hygiene as okay wait sorry i have to interrupt you go ahead it's the 49th street gallery oh that's it 49th street gallery that's it i'm so sorry
Starting point is 00:52:40 i was like if i don't say this now i won't i won't even listen to you it's going to be a problem No, I'm glad you did. For a while there, it was like a school extension for somebody, and they kept the towers. You know, they had those big glass towers on it. And I remember being so sad that they'd gotten rid of the fun part of it. And then the whole thing got wiped out and they built like buildings for some lawyer. And it just pissed me off. Part of my child had just drowned up.
Starting point is 00:53:03 Okay, sorry about that, everyone. All right, 49th year gallery. Here we go. Often when he refers to mental hygiene as, quote, taking out the trash, unquote, what are some techniques for taking out your trash? I know journaling is likely a part of that process, so it would be nice to know some potential journaling prompts that would help facilitate a productive journaling session. Love the show, though. Thanks. Yeah, we talk about that.
Starting point is 00:53:27 You use that term a lot, and often there's some specific reason that term will come up in the context of what someone asked us. But we haven't really looked at it in a general way, like what does taking out your own trash mean? So let's do that today, because a bunch of people out there, us included, everybody's got a little trash. How do we take it out? How do you? Yeah. And I think when I say that, probably what I mean more than anything is the own part. Like you have trash.
Starting point is 00:53:53 You need to take it out. It's no one else's job. And I mean, actually let's just elaborate on the trash analogy. When someone you live with never takes out their trash, how does it get taken out? Well, it's the burden is on someone else or there's a pile of trash. there's a pile of trash right like it's not pleasant right um and then it impacts your relationships and no one wants to live with you so that's how that analogy goes but but if we take this like idea of what is internally our trash or our business we've talked about the shadow before just
Starting point is 00:54:31 kind of the stuff that is yours alone that only you can take care of that's what I'm referring to so it could be that you you're in a relationship but some childhood experience have really influenced the way you interact in certain ways that cause discord in the life you're trying to build, right? And your partner is the one paying the price for that trash that never got taken out. So that's really what I'm getting at because there's a price. And I don't know if this is probably because it's on my mind, but travel sports. You guys, what are we doing, America feels insane to me and we I'm not participating in any event none of my children are we're kind of past some of that stages plus my last child refuses to play any sports so
Starting point is 00:55:20 yeah but do you think I would have been sucked in yes I would have I realize I would have so now I can sit in judgment because my kids did not want to do it right but this idea of like okay who what's happening so a friend of mine her kid plays baseball there is a game on mother's day. And my friend's like, who's the dad that decided that Mother's Day was the day for a tournament? Does feel like a dad decision. Definitely a dude. Definitely a dude. Anyway, but the idea is like, okay, wait, well, you're like, what does this have to do with anything? If we think about what trash someone has in their life, right? So their own, I'm thinking of like, you know, the Little League parent trope, right? So you're on the sidelines losing your ever living mind.
Starting point is 00:56:06 at seven-year-olds kicking a ball around, right? Right, right. Yeah. That is an example of, like, how someone hasn't maybe dealt with some things, and then it's just very public. So we have these extensions of the trash we don't deal with that impacts the people closest to us or impacts our job or. But I find the youth sports version particularly interesting because regular,
Starting point is 00:56:29 normal people, for the most part, and then there's something that happens. And it's a bit of, it leaks out. in a way that we all get to watch, and then you would not know how to find that thread. So this is the problem with how my brain works sometimes, though, because I want to go, oh, buddy, so you got cut from your high school team? Or, you know, stuff in your life is rough,
Starting point is 00:56:53 and it is so fun to have a kid be good, and you're having a really hard time not blurring that boundary, right? So that's a dumb, very specific example, probably because I'm reading this book called The Gifted School. Please don't read it. don't read it this is it's a switcher you just told us not to read a book
Starting point is 00:57:12 yeah it's a it's like a book club book and it's just all the parenting stuff I can't stand and it's everyone's like I love it and I'm like oh my gosh I don't love it anyway but it's it's it's it's a lot about living through your kids and trying to like navigate
Starting point is 00:57:27 this my kid's gifted is your kid gifted garbage that happens right so anyway so that's on my mind so apologize for my tangents example, but it's this idea of like, hey, I am not going to work on me at all. I'm going to just live my life. And often what happens is that just live in your life when stuff starts to fall apart or you find patterns start emerging or like, I just can't seem to be happy at any job I'm ever at or I can't keep a relationship going or, you know, it starts to show up in
Starting point is 00:58:00 certain ways as you age because there's enough time to establish this isn't working. So that's the motive, ultimately, to take your garbage out is to free your life up from sort of sticky patterns that sometimes are unconscious and sometimes are really just reactionary to pain or suffering you went through at different stages, right? Or compensating or whatever that might be. How do you do, well, maybe I'm jumping too far if I am, tell me. But if you've got a situation where you're trying very hard to find what your unconscious garbage is so that you can take it out and you're kind of doing all you can think to do to do that to identify garbage said garbage and then take it to the curb and you're doing that and it feels like well the but the person that
Starting point is 00:58:53 I'm either with let's say it's a in the scenario of garbage let's say it's a roommate all right So you can keep taking your garbage out, but if the other person is not taking theirs out, so there's probably a tendency to overcompensate for the person who isn't. It's more of like a marriage thing, right? Taking all the garbage out, basically. Yeah, trying to take all the garbage out and mine out. Yeah, that seems unhealthy too. There seems like a bad way of dealing with this stuff, right?
Starting point is 00:59:22 So let me put it in terms of like, let's take couples counseling. A very common thing will be people come in and one, you know, they have whatever the conflict that they have is going on. And then you're working with both of them kind of at the same time. Sometimes you'll refer them to each get their own individual counseling at the same time. If there's certain, like one is also depressed. Couples counseling is not going to fix one person's depression. So they need to have, you know, their own help over here. And then often I recommend that both are doing it at the same time.
Starting point is 00:59:55 because there is this inequality that can occur when one is really working with their stuff and the other one is not. It's like they outgrow, their skill set gets bigger. So it's actually a bit of a risk. And I think I've mentioned this on the show before, but just a risk to a partnership when one person starts counseling because they start to really grow and change and think differently and experiencing things differently. Right.
Starting point is 01:00:23 And so I always like to have people both having that same advantage at the same time. Because really, starting to take out your own garbage and setting healthier boundaries actually would mean you are feeling less and less inclined to take care of the other person's garbage. Right. It's usually because you haven't done any of the work, maybe you're raised in a household where it was very common for you to take on the emotional labor of, is mom okay or is dad okay? or is their marriage okay? And so you're really used to that.
Starting point is 01:00:55 So you marry and meet and marry somebody who also is happy to have you do that job for them, which is take care of them emotionally. And nobody is the wiser. They've just spent 50 grand on a wedding. And here we are, live in our life. And so let's take one of those partners. It goes, I'm exhausted. I'm burned out.
Starting point is 01:01:12 I can't do this anymore. They start getting help. They start setting boundaries. The other person needs a chance to also recognize what brought them to that state, why they were so content to have someone carry all of their emotional baggage, right? And so if you start to do it separately, you can end up creating some more space between a couple than you intend.
Starting point is 01:01:35 I don't think anyone's intention is like, let's ruin this relationship. But having people both have a similar chance is important. Okay. So especially in like marriages and stuff, obviously if you're dealing with a temporary situation like a roommate or something, that's different. Or let's say it's a working relationship. Like if you're at an office and your direct supervisor might be the one with all the problems, but you're just trying to take it all on yourself
Starting point is 01:01:58 and you don't know how to tell if it's you or them. Like that part seems hard to me. How do you know what trash is yours? You know what I mean when it's intermingled with so many other people's trash? It's funny. I tend to find that as soon as I get irritated with something that somebody does in my life. I really quickly look to say, am I irritated? Is that, is, am I projecting something that I do and getting irritated with somebody that does the same thing that I do and I don't realize it? Like, is their garbage really my garbage? Yeah. Share it. Share it. And it's never, it's always somebody else's garbage. It's never mine. I don't have any. I have zero garbage. I am a recycle. Yeah, it's a zero garbage zone. Garbage in, garbage out. No, it, um, it, um, it, it,
Starting point is 01:02:45 It, you know, it's sometimes it's a, it is an awakening. It's not an awakening. It's something that I have to like, obviously really say to myself, am I really? Is that really something that I never do? You know, is that really something that I'm never guilty of? And then it's like, nope, I do it. I can't get mad at this person for doing it because they're doing something that I do. Or I got them started doing it.
Starting point is 01:03:13 I'm the person who influenced them doing it. it. So, yeah, I have to. Yeah. So I have my, so I have my garbage. So again, what? I said that's really self-aware. Good job. Oh, well, thank you. Occasionally. Very, very occasionally, I can be very self-aware. Right. Well, and you're pointing to something that I, that actually is what I wanted to get into today is how do you know it's your, your stuff and your issue, and then what do we do about it? And we're going to talk specifically about journaling because that's what the person asked about. Oh, right.
Starting point is 01:03:47 And why that's helpful. But let's just start with, Brian, we're going to use your example. Somebody does something and your first clue, the first sort of road sign or trailhead is, I feel irritated or, oh, my gosh, what is that? You know, like you have an emotional response. And if you're very aware of your body, you would also notice that you have. have a physical response. Sometimes our physical responses are undeniably obvious.
Starting point is 01:04:18 Like I am now very cautious or my ears get hot or something. Like there's something like a pit of my stomach, a little pain kind of thing. Yeah. Yeah. And many people are disconnected from their bodies. And so they are, they're more just fully wrapped up in whatever the emotion is and maybe aren't aware that they're fiss or clenched or something like that. Right.
Starting point is 01:04:38 And so that's our first clue that somebody might have kicked our pile of garbage. Right. And so the challenge is where we have this vocalism problem where we are looking out at the world through our own eyes. And so we center ourselves in most narratives. We're the main character in our novels, right? And so it's tricky to flip the camera and go, huh, what's that pile of garbage? person just kicked and let me look at it, right? And that's, Brian, what you just said is I turned it around and said, wait, is this something I do and is, ah, this is a, this is a me thing, right?
Starting point is 01:05:18 Yeah, usually, usually my eyes are on the outside of my little force field and looking out at other people's garbage, but occasionally I have to roll in. Yeah. Yeah. Totally. Totally. And and maybe you guys have had this experience most of us have where you are convinced someone else was wrong and it was their fault or they did whatever. And then when you realize it really was you, That is a very humbling moment, like, oh, I was parked in the wrong spot or something. You were convinced it was the other person, right? So that is that looking out rather than looking in thing. And so to first notice the feeling and then you can work with it, most of us just keep running with whatever that feeling is.
Starting point is 01:06:01 So some versions of this are, oh, I'm so upset, blah, blah, I'm going to find all the people in my life to confirm that I'm right and that this other person was wrong. So we are just building the case and making it stronger. And that's the opposite of what Brian you did, which was let me take a look at my stuff here. Listen, I don't always do it. I need to do,
Starting point is 01:06:23 I need to be better at doing it. Yeah. No, just kidding. I mean, the fact that you can do it once, I don't know if you can appreciate that that's still pretty impressive. Yeah. Yeah, well. And it depends, right?
Starting point is 01:06:36 It probably came from what you just described. as you know always thinking that it's everybody else's fault and then you realize oh wait no this one was my fault and then that just kind of like let me always check that it's my fault before i before i go too far yeah and let me let me play this concept really quick back to partner work is when you a relationship that survives especially long term has a couple of really important elements and one of the most important is their ability to repair and the repair happens along discussions rather than at the very end, I'm so sorry, and making up, it's along the way and how you repair along the way.
Starting point is 01:07:14 And this is business, this is school interactions, this is any friendship, any romantic relationship. These repairs go so far in building healthy relationships. And they are things like, I think I might have done that wrong, or that's my bad, or I'm so sorry, I realize I was doing this in this dynamic. It's taking the camera off of, you know, looking in just a little and then being able to offer that I wasn't perfect or my stuff might have gotten in the way and you can acknowledge that and build as we go, right? And that is, it's incredibly powerful, not so easy to do if you are furious, right? Or if you are can only, your eyes are locked straight ahead. Outside, yes.
Starting point is 01:08:00 Yeah. These emotions do this to us. It's like they take over and they're literally affecting all of your biology, you may not be aware of it, right? And unless you can soothe that, calm that down and think differently, it's how our brains have been evolved to work. So this is where journaling can be such a powerful habit that is like the opposite of I'm feeling, I feel tripped up or triggered, and then I'm going after this thing and defending myself. And some of that might be how, what was modeled to you, some of that might be, you know, just avoidance of getting in trouble. You know, if we looked at all your childhoods, then we could find out like, yeah, where'd you learn how to do certain things when it comes to these moments where you're feeling triggered
Starting point is 01:08:51 and why, right, and what you do with it. But let's say, let's say we got a trigger. Can you guys give me a good example of one? What's one where you just like you find something quite annoying? It kind of riles you up and it can get you every time. time. And then there's someone near you who it doesn't bother at all. So do you have an example of that? Oh, God, the what about Bob scenario. That's a, yeah. Trying to think of one. It's hard. Yeah. I'm also trying to, you know, not trying to involve an example that includes somebody who listens to the show. Yeah, that's always a challenge. is God does this
Starting point is 01:09:32 Here's one How about I can't I can't think of anything I mean when somebody makes a judgment about somebody else unfairly
Starting point is 01:09:46 Whether even if it's not me I feel like sometimes I have to Defend them and sometimes I You know Defend them to a fault And Whether or not I've analyzed really
Starting point is 01:09:59 how unfair their comment was like take the the initial shock of it the initial statement of it like oh my god you know you just made a complete generalization about this person without knowing anything about them or made this complete generalization about me without me getting a chance to let's let's put it on me let's let's yeah let's point the garbage at me but yeah because you can't be the hero in every story exactly yes it's the same driver right a little bit of like that unfair, okay, we're going to have it pointed to you. Okay, so someone just makes a generalization or mischaracterizes you without really knowing you. That could be real triggering for most of us, right?
Starting point is 01:10:40 So that happens and you give me three things you are going to just classic do in that situation. I will, I'll fumble for a really sarcastic and snotty response. I will stew on it for much longer than it needs to be stewed on. Like, an example, this guy really ticked me off the other day. So I was driving somebody who's doing a lift, and I was driving somebody and dropping them off. And basically, it was in this apartment building where these buildings are all really close together. There's not a lot of room. And I'm around this corner, and they're, they're, the,
Starting point is 01:11:27 the door that they said they need to be dropped off or their apartment door is like right around this corner right by these steps. I'm going to drop them off at the steps. Great, no problem. So I do that. And there's a guy who is who's sitting there with his truck and he's a big old pickup truck, a burly-ass dude. I mean, there's some people
Starting point is 01:11:47 you can kind of make very big stereotypes about, but yes, he's got a boat behind it. And I pull. And I pull. up and I, you know, I stopped the car and say, hey, all right, thanks for the, you know, have a good rest of your day, blah, blah, blah, what all the general crap I say, like and subscribe, no. And then the guy, like,
Starting point is 01:12:08 stares at me, hongs, and yells, can't you see what I'm doing here? You're an idiot. Like, he's yelling. And he wasn't moving at all when I came around the corner. But now that I'm looking, it's like, oh, he's trying to back this boat up into this corner. And I'm kind of in the way of that.
Starting point is 01:12:27 But my first response is, no, dude, I couldn't tell what you're doing because you were just sitting there when I pulled up. And then, like, I finally backed off, you know, back the car up. But I stood on that damn thing for such a long time. It's like, I'm sure he, to him, it was like, there's not a lot of space in there, but like it left his mind almost instantly. But the whole rest of the damn driving, it's like, how could that guy get so pissed off at me when he could, he could see I was, A, dropping off the passenger. and he wasn't moving when I pulled around the corner so I couldn't see that. So I'll sit there.
Starting point is 01:13:02 I will just stew on stuff like that for a long period of time. Now clearly, you know, in his perspective, he was about to start backing up and then all of a sudden realized he couldn't. But his reaction triggered my,
Starting point is 01:13:16 triggered my feeling of like, hey, I'm a super conscientious driver. I'm always really considered too. a fault in the car. And that really, you know, that really just got me because he misjudged, like, if he knew what a nice guy was in the car, he wouldn't have said those things to me. Right?
Starting point is 01:13:37 Of all people. Of all people. Yes. It's what if he was, what if he is also deeply kind? And this is, he's thought about it all day and wishes he could call you and apologize. You know what? That never even entered by. Of all right.
Starting point is 01:13:53 Because he is the other. I see aggressive, angry, angry driver. Right. Right. And so you have this thing where without a chance to obviously have a conversation, get to know each other and figure out your feelings, there was an interchange that came from somewhere. And your part of it is think about, okay, so we have this heightened emotional experience, right?
Starting point is 01:14:17 Someone yelling at you means your heart's going to increase and be, you're going to. And he's also. stomach or the hot ears or whatever it is yeah 100% and then it is also doubting you as a person like your core identity is being threatened in this moment because you really are the nicest driver ever and so we have a bunch of things happening there okay so i'm going to apply this to i you know pull over on the side of the road and get your journal out but the idea is dear diary today i am a good driver right after but if you take the the concept though right so here I have this experience where I am, I'm elevated.
Starting point is 01:14:58 It was an unfair interaction, and it was stupid and, you know, whatever. And they demonize the other person that comes really quickly. That actually makes us feel better a little bit. That's why we often do that. Like, that guy's just an idiot. And that's what he thought about you. That guy's just an idiot. And that's how we all just felt better for a hot second.
Starting point is 01:15:14 But the fact that it kept sticking in your craw, like, that's the thing that's more interesting. So when something does that to us, this is where you pull out a journal. and begin to process either just writing what happened can be helpful sometimes sort of looking at key things which are like what was I what was I was I afraid something was going to happen was there a fear mixed in here and you're just kind of working dude is pretty big pretty angry and pretty big yeah there we go yeah yeah salad right and and even that like what is going on for me if you want to go deeper like okay maybe if you were zen about it and be like oh like I must be having a day and you just moved on, you're like, well, how do I get to that?
Starting point is 01:15:58 And that is often because this is triggering some things for you. Whereas we could probably create another interaction, Brian, that you would not think about twice the rest of the day. That it would just roll off my back, like water off the ducts back, basically. It's because it's not running into your stuff. So we're going to just, thanks for being a guinea pig here. But let's just see if we can identify. Yeah, please do. Because let me, I try to live my life so zen everywhere else that,
Starting point is 01:16:23 when stuff like that happens, I kind of wonder why I can't just say, oh well, sorry, dude, something's obviously wrong with you. Bye. Right, right. As opposed to what, so give me an example of the sentence, and this is something you might do if you were writing,
Starting point is 01:16:39 you would write down this sentence that keeps replaying. So what was a sentence that was replaying in your brain? You know, it would have been, it would have been saying something to him that was much more clear about sorry man i really didn't see that you were you weren't moving when i came around the corner so just let it go kind of thing would be my you know okay so you were wishing i would have said
Starting point is 01:17:05 something a little bit more deescalating i guess so this is where many people are going to resonate with this i have the argument with the person after i walk away oh yeah yeah what our brains do what our brains do in that heightened state they're actually in five fight mode. And fight is, if you think about good conversation during a fight, you guys probably haven't seen that happen in life very often. And it's because the literally the lighting up of your brain is going to be moving from language centers to your quads. Like it's going to work to help you fight this off instead of actually communicate, right? So when you see people, when things are confrontational and they're crying, that's another example of like the biology is
Starting point is 01:17:51 taking over um because of the upsetedness or the the the um elevated physiological state we're in so our thinking brain is kind of offline a little bit right so that's why as that stuff calms down our brain is like oh i have so many good ideas let me tell you how my there's so many i know oh i hear here 18 things i should have said really easy to do later right and so this is where if you have a journal practice um might be really helpful to write the sentence, the fantasy sentences out. I wish I had said this. I wish I had said this. And what happens is when we then are translating them out of our brain, notice people will tell you, like, I have so many good arguments. They don't often come and work, work it through with you. But if you're on your
Starting point is 01:18:37 way to therapy, you'd walk in and go, this just happened. There's what my brain's doing. And then we would work directly with that, right? Perfect. Because it would still be fresh and you could act out like those those raw feelings right there yeah yeah and then we might find in the sort of some more cognitive space and then even just more integrated space you can find that like oh you know what i have a long history of big scary dudes with boats that you know tormented me as a child and then we're like okay all right this makes more sense right but what happens is most people get stuck in the thinking loop of it the chicken was a boat yeah yeah so yeah please continue The thinking loop keeps you stuck.
Starting point is 01:19:18 The journaling is what pulls you out of the stuckness of that sort of cognitive loop. Similarly with talking to somebody, this is why we get allies. We tell people the story. We're processing. We're processing. Because it's really helpful to get us to get out of that loop. So journaling is just free and not, you don't require a friend to have to listen to. And it's just basically like you're just getting it out.
Starting point is 01:19:40 Like even if I said, it wrote in my journal, that's what I should have said to this guy. I am so going to write about you in my journal. Then he would have totally backed off. Oh my God, okay. All right, you win, dude. It's okay. Yeah, totally, totally. Also, have you seen the T-shirt that says,
Starting point is 01:19:54 I talk to my therapist about you? No, but... It's similar to I journal about you. Give me a link. So this idea of you're just processing, though, if we think about, like, what it is you're trying to get to is back to emotional physiological homeostasis.
Starting point is 01:20:11 Let's get me back to that place. So our brain has certain, ways to try to do that. The looping is the problem. Journaling is just one way out. And it breaks the loop, right? Like basically it's saying, I've now got this on paper, so I don't have to think about it anymore kind of thing. Right. Right. And so we have some good research on journaling. And it's linked to improved happiness, better sleep, better memory function, better performance, like, you know, work, personal, anything like that. And so just people do better when they are regular, they journaling about their emotional experiences. So this works with health outcomes. This works
Starting point is 01:20:51 with emotional, relational, all those things. So here's something just to state though. If you are like, I don't journal. I can't stand it. Every time I try, it makes me feel crazy. Then it may not be for you. This doesn't have to, this doesn't have to fit everybody. But if you kind of don't mind it and you haven't really tried it, it might be a really great fit, be worth trying. Some people the old talk to they can't live without it because it is so helpful. Right. For the people who have a hard time with it can, because I'm not, you know, again, I might be one of those people.
Starting point is 01:21:21 I can't, I, I, I, my handwriting sucks, first of all. I've been so out of practice. I used to have just gorgeous handwriting. I can't write anymore. But, um, so typing in my phone, is there something like, you know, just a couple words, just to kind of say, dude in truck, tick me off or dude with, do it with boat. And then just that is. that enough to just kind of get it out a little bit like just a few words okay 100% and so you you
Starting point is 01:21:49 might find as you go along prompts that work better with you you're leading to my next point which is there is so many good resources online for journal prompts like I just thought oh let me Google a couple just to see and everything I found I was like whoa that is really helpful and how did that make you feel is one and you could write that that would be saving yourself on your therapy but it also things of just like if you just want some self-reflection there can be just you know your little basic like or what happened to me in the day you know those kinds of things then there's others just like like let me give you an example um what did i learn today right what's on my mind today is is a great one like what thoughts keep returning today so that's the
Starting point is 01:22:36 kicking of the garbage thing um might just be we get so in our head right we're we're living in that own video game. It's not as easy to just pop out of that. That's what this would be for. Like, what's one thing I really want to do? And I'd like to start taking steps towards. So they can be very positive things, right? It doesn't have to only be, I'm here to hash things out. The Brian Byrne book. Yeah. Yeah, exactly. So make some positive stuff in there. So even real deep, too. So even either like starting the day or ending the day. So not necessarily just doing it after any, any, uh, interaction, difficult interaction, but starting the day with it or ending the day with it,
Starting point is 01:23:17 that sort of thing might be. That's not a bad idea. Starting days often can be like, what is your ideal day look like today? You know, rating your energy. Like think about it is like the person who loves you the most in the whole world is just waiting for you to share something with them. And that's a book that is not going to talk back. But like, you know, what is it?
Starting point is 01:23:41 check in on yourself think of it like that like what do i need today where's my energy at what am i what am i craving like even just take you know that feeling i think everyone's had it where you're just like i need something and you're trying to find a thing to eat to fill the craving and it's nothing you put in your mouth all the time and it's because it's maybe not the food you're craving or you're have a vitamin deficiency something like that but it's also potentially like i got to think through what I actually need right now. And I would say if people took the time, whether it's a food craving, an activity craving, anything that's a craving is usually the most outward sort of face of a more inward need. And I mean, I'd love for somebody to give me an example that's not, but I feel like
Starting point is 01:24:30 it's pretty applicable to most things. So let's take, I just want something crunchy and salty. So you eat something crunchy and salty and you're not satisfied. Right. And you feel, guilty because like, oh, it totally goes against my diet. Right. And then I want to go eat something else until I get, and then you're never satisfied. It's like, okay, well, what was that actually about? So what if you stop and, you know, check in with yourself, what do I need? And sometimes it's, I need to not be lonely.
Starting point is 01:24:58 Like, or I need a nap. Or I need less things on my plate or, you know, so going to food or escapism in any form, often if we can peel back those layers and breathe through it and realize what it is, there might be something else going on. And then you're like, okay, I'm taking a nap, wake up, either don't have a craving or I'm like, now these salty peanuts taste good or whatever. So sometimes the working through is really what the power is here. And, you know, there's journal obsessed human beings online, you guys.
Starting point is 01:25:32 There's nothing you will not find. You could just do a year's worth of prompts and follow them every day. you could do, specifically if you're working on like self-love or growing gratitude or mindfulness, that kind of thing. You know, there's tons of things you can do in writing and thinking through. The power of writing ultimately is, and some people might have some issues with writing. They were told they weren't good writers or they failed all their English classes or they, you know, didn't feel like their strength lied there. So it could be verbal. You could just record it like on a memo app you can type it out somewhere you want to do that um you can sing
Starting point is 01:26:11 it taking it full circle just sing it randomly in the day um but but there's a lot of good stuff out there that from whatever you're struggling with to the some guy was mean to me today and they had a boat let me figure out why this makes it so mad and and one of our folks in chat bio cow said and do i need to go back and read uh my notes or listen to my journals or is it just the act of getting it out there is enough. The act of getting out there is 99% of the time enough. I have often had people come back to journals later and that can be really cathartic to see their growth and progress, right?
Starting point is 01:26:49 So here's that value to it. But think of it as much as you can take it out of the to-do list category because you're thinking, anything we make a to-do list, we get in trouble with, right? Because now we have a reason. want to do it or now I get blah, right? And so finding, tweak whatever you need to tweak so that it does work. Some people will find that it's a thing I check off and do every day and that works really well for them.
Starting point is 01:27:17 Others, you can maybe do it hit and miss and you are only going to do it when you notice yourself being really frustrated or triggered. And so the flexibility going in to make it a successful practice for you, I think is more important than how and what you do. but in the end just the act of writing is not it's not about documentation or the act of getting out these things right and I think so often we write for documentation or we think it's going to be read by someone else or whatever it really is just a mirror it's going to reflect our deepest thoughts it's like helping you know with our our camera eyes going out of our main
Starting point is 01:27:55 character energy it's like flipping it around and really looking through our fears or aspirations or emotions, like understanding ourselves, sometimes it might be like, oh, it is time for therapy, right? And other times it might be like, oh, I just need to do a couple different things in different ways. Recently, I have a client who is just an example of like how self-reflection sometimes is really difficult to do just because we're so busy, right? And the more busy we are, the more distracted we are, the less we feel good. This is maybe like, feels radical to go back to archaic writing or something, right, just to get us back a little more grounded. Anyway, so she is, she has a very high level position.
Starting point is 01:28:44 I am her therapist. She cannot tell me what she does, which is always like, wow, I have like legal confidentiality and, you know, all that. But she can't because she'd get kicked out and I'd get arrested. Like, it's like that kind of job. Anyway, which is so fun. I'm always trying to get her to trick and say what she's. She does, but she won't. She's very good at this. But anyway, we've been working on getting, like, using journaling as a replacement for the time that she was looking at the news. So even the best and brightest of news addictions, guys. Anyway, so what we did was we did a six week fast on all news. And this is a person who is supposed to know what's going on.
Starting point is 01:29:26 but does actually actually knows what's going on, not just reading about what is going on, right? Anyway, and so it's been a really cool process to watch as her brain creates space again. And so no social media and no news. And that may sound crazy to people, right?
Starting point is 01:29:46 I would have such a hard time with it, but I totally get it. Yeah. And it really is like a, think of it is like really like a colon cleanse. We're just cleansing the system for a minute. And then she'll go back to it eventually, but what we found in the in-between times, as the shake stopped in the first week, and she just had more space. It's so cool.
Starting point is 01:30:09 Like she started writing in a journal and things were available to her that just weren't. And so that's probably our number one challenge nowadays. I think journaling's been a part of the zeit guys forever and ever with therapeutic people and just historical. and like, you know, humans have been writing for a long time. But to use it as a therapeutic tool, we're using dopamine as therapeutic tools all the time, right? We're just escaping, we're scrolling, we're doing those things. But we don't feel better. This is, so you may hear this and think, I don't have time for journaling.
Starting point is 01:30:40 And if that thought popped in your head, listen, someone who's literally physically keeping this country safe. I don't know what she does. I'm making it up. Can do it. and find and still the thing is we have this this need and so so actually i'm going to tell you one other thing we talked about i said so who is in your head as a bad person who doesn't keep up with what's going on and she goes damn Freud it's my mother
Starting point is 01:31:10 and it is mother doesn't want any of it right and so so that's the power of let me really look at what is happening here? And so the journaling helped that come out. The conversations with me help that come out of like, oh, I am sucking my soul into the vortex every day so I can be a good, smart person because my mother, I'm rebelling against my mother. And then to stop doing that because you know it, well, man, it gives you so much time and energy back that's yours.
Starting point is 01:31:47 So that's the garbage, right? That's taking out a little bit of garbage. and sometimes we've got to clear our brains in order to do that, and journaling is a great way to do it. Well, there you go. I feel like this is a practice you've talked about before, and I kind of pick up here and there, and then I forget. Then I do it again, then I forget.
Starting point is 01:32:03 I feel like I need to do that more. I always find it cathartic. And like Brian, my writing sucks. I haven't, you know, my penmanship is terrible. There's got to be an app that will prompt you in the morning, like, hey, jot down a couple quick notes today. Like, how are you feeling today? What's something you want to accomplish today?
Starting point is 01:32:18 And then at the end of the day, did anyone in a big truck with a boat piss you off today, question mark? And then you can just fill in the bike. Does journaling help with and then write down the thing you struggle with? So I just did that and it filled in with oversharing. Does journaling help with liking yourself again? Does journaling help with? And just go to some of those sites where intrusive thoughts, negative thinking, blah, blah, blah. And you can just find prompts left and right and kind of create a thing for yourself to follow.
Starting point is 01:32:53 I have been doing this since my last birthday, and I'm going to brag about it because this is going strong. I was born in November. So look at me is every day I write a very small sentence. It's usually like, oh my gosh, I work too much today. But I write something small and then I sketch and I don't sketch, guys. This is like you saying you're not good writers. I don't draw well, right?
Starting point is 01:33:15 and so it is so cathartic and fun and you know who will never see it anyone never not you're going to show your brother huh like let your brother rate your sketches I want to say it on fire because I am trying to access
Starting point is 01:33:31 the writing part doesn't it is fine for me and it's just easy for me I don't have to think too hard about that whereas drawing feels like I am putting my soul out there and I like the challenge of it and as I've done it every day I just am more and more comfortable and guys I have no imagination we all know this so I have to I have to Google what is something
Starting point is 01:33:52 people sketch and then I sketch every day stupid things other people thought of and it's yeah but it does get me it gives my brain something it needs and I could you know scroll on Instagram or I could do that my brain feels so different after each of those things now I'm recommend a book to you because I got one of these for Tristan that that he really liked. It's a book basically full of prompts. So you open up the book and the page is a blank page with a piece of text, draw a waffle. And you just, you know, you don't need to Google what do people sketch? You've got it right there on the page. Draw a waffle. You're trying. You are failing to remember. I don't have an imagination. So I have to see it. Did you know what a waffle
Starting point is 01:34:38 looks like? You need you have to see a waffle to draw a waffle? I can draw a waffle. I can You can draw it. So you're not, you're Googling photos like what do people sketch, not Googling, you know, text that says, oh,
Starting point is 01:34:54 yeah, yeah. I've looked at prompts before and I thought, yeah, yeah, and I, there is an absolute block.
Starting point is 01:35:01 Someone needs therapy. So there's an absolute block. I can't do it. But if I look at a picture of a waffle, you know what? You know what? I can almost make it look perfect. I'll bet.
Starting point is 01:35:08 Well, don't worry about making, no one's going to see it. It doesn't have to look like that. I'm just, no, but it's that I can, mimic, I just cannot.
Starting point is 01:35:16 All right, I'm going to find a book. There's got to be a version of these books that has a little, a little, here's how to draw a wall. Like on every page, draw a waffle. Here's what a waffle looks like. Gives you a big, wide open blank space for a waffle. By the way. What I'm going to do is since got a picture of something I drew just really quick.
Starting point is 01:35:33 It is a stupid, it's the head of a giraffe coming around a corner, and it has the creepiest human face on it. And because I can't draw. and Peter is obsessed with this. He wants, he stole it when I wasn't looking. He has framed it in his bedroom. Is it's got allowed to show me? I will, I will, you guys can all see it.
Starting point is 01:35:57 It's creepy, weird, and it's because I have zero talent, but somehow I captured some essence that he finds absolutely. Did you already, are you going to, how weird my child is? You're going to text it or how are you going to get it to me? Yeah, I'll text it. I will take a picture of and text it to you. While you're doing that, Matuba reminded me it's really funny because when this popped up on my home screen,
Starting point is 01:36:19 I immediately moved it out of my home screen. But in one of the more recent iOS updates, Apple added a journal app that prompts you to actually, like, fill out your day or talk about what you want to accomplish day or how you feel today or whatever. Like it is literally built into the Apple software. So there you go. Of course it is. Of course it is. Yes. Of course it is.
Starting point is 01:36:43 And if that doesn't work for you, find something that works for you. Okay. I'm going to take this picture. You're going to think it's so dumb. I have no doubt that I will like it. I will not find it dumb. So here comes and also let me just say. He put it in a frame.
Starting point is 01:37:03 It's so weird. Peter, Peter put it in a frame? Yeah, he like framed it. I don't know. I'll just. That kid is so. my brand of weird. I know. And it's freaking me out. Yeah, well, I mean, look, when you, and his guts were on the outside, you had no idea you would eventually raise a version of me with no belly button,
Starting point is 01:37:22 right? You didn't know. You had no idea. And I understand. You were the fake belly button. I was the fake belly button. All right. So I'll watch for this and pull it up as soon as it comes up. Also, I will say this about Wendy's time in Vegas next week. If you're coming to Vegas with us, we have some really cool. Oh my gosh, Wendy, this image. Sorry. Oh, no, we can't wait to see this. Oh, geez. I love it. I actually love this.
Starting point is 01:37:46 This is amazing. This is so, there's a raw something going on here. Here, Brian, and put it in our thing. I know. I know. Someone needs help. There's some kind of like, it's hard to explain. You know how when five-year-olds draw things?
Starting point is 01:38:00 And I don't mean that you look like you draw like a five-year-old. What I'm saying is. No, I know. What do you mean? It looks like a five-year-old. There's something about little kids when they sit a certain age, like Vans at this age right now, he's five. and when he draws stuff it is it's got like weird a weird power to it like a weird like
Starting point is 01:38:18 how do i don't even how to explain it but that's what this is that's actually a legitimately cool thing yeah i love this is awesome oh my gosh yeah everybody used that for your avatar on twitter and stuff i tried to draw a giraffe face that's the problem yeah but you gave it lips i think we need to look at i think we need to look at why you made it look who is that who is that who Who is that person, Wendy? Like, that's got, I think that is a person in your life. Who is that person? Yeah.
Starting point is 01:38:45 I think you gave, I mean, you gave it, you gave it lips. I don't have those lips. I have no lips, really. But giving a giraffe lips is a real choice. And I'm, I'm here for it. Yeah. That's a choice. That's amazing.
Starting point is 01:38:56 Like, the nose is really well done. I don't know. I mean, you, you know. I have a feeling she has nascent talent for this and just has never explored. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, I got a five-year-old's, an unfettered cord.
Starting point is 01:39:10 drawing potential. Because I'm telling you, when you get over a certain age, you start worrying about what everyone thinks about your art all the time, and it can affect the quality of it. When you're five, you don't give a crap. And it's just raw, creative, juice, man. Yeah, and that's what my journal is. It's the writing I think I'm probably more critical of, right?
Starting point is 01:39:28 But it's the drawing where I'm like, I'm going to be free to be me. If you, some people are getting tattoos in Vegas. So if any of you want to get a tattoo in Vegas, I'm based it on this. You should use this. I'm going to stick it in the TMS group and you just, it's up to you. Wouldn't that be amazing? You show up on Monday or whatever it is and you, and you like, someone shows up and says, look at my arm, Wendy.
Starting point is 01:39:49 Look what I just did this afternoon. You would have to take photos and send them all to Peter to show everybody, show Peter and you know what he'd say? He'd be like, absolutely. That makes sense because he loves it so deeply. Yeah, he knows what's up. He has an eye for it. This is fantastic.
Starting point is 01:40:05 All right. Wendy, always a pleasure next week. We'll all get to hang out. And there's some, there's a cool, something coming up. Yeah. Real quick, let me tell everyone this on a Wednesday morning. If you are in Vegas, on Wednesday morning, we're going to meet on Barry's patio. That's officially what it's called.
Starting point is 01:40:23 Barry's patio at 10 o'clock for a fun announcement. Scott and I have an announcement. And then I have an announcement. So come curious, if you would, and willing to maybe do some fun things. We did a DNA test and found out we're not actually serious. no that's not what's happening um yes so uh don't worry it's going to happen it's going to be great you guys are going to want to hear this and if you're even if you're not in Vegas we'll make sure you all know about it after so don't worry about it uh Wendy have a fantastic rest of
Starting point is 01:40:53 your time hopefully things aren't too crazy before you leave and I'll see you when you get in yeah see you guys bye my uh aunt Barb and Barb yeah it's more excited to meet Wendy than any anybody else or any other thing that's going on in Vegas. I don't know. She found out that Wendy was going to be there. Like her, she lit up.
Starting point is 01:41:18 Good. That's how it's supposed to go. Wendy is good stuff. She doesn't even realize how good stuff she is sometimes, but she is good stuff. All right. That's going to do it for our show.
Starting point is 01:41:28 You are all not allowed to ask my uncle George and Aunt Barb any personal questions about me. No. Or just won't Brian's not an earshot. Make sure you do that. I got to be there to vet the questions. I will have to be around.
Starting point is 01:41:40 We did it, guys. Luke from Boulder wrote in and said, hey, Luke from Boulder here. You gents did it. My last text from late March was about the pronunciation of the name Rise or phonetically Rees. When Matthew Rees came up today, y'all said it properly. While my text wasn't called out directly, I'm taking as a win that somewhere in your subconscious, my rees like Reesies pieces, monomonic, did the trick. You know what? I'll give you credit, Luke. It did. 100% did. Yep. That was absolutely in the back. It must have been in the back of my head when I said, you know, Reese, like Reese's these pieces. Yeah, there we go. There you have it. Okay, what else is going on?
Starting point is 01:42:22 Oh, if you're wondering what else is coming up, we mentioned today at noon, you got your, you got your Coverville live at coverville. Or, excuse me, frog pants. Coverville. Or Twitch.tv.combele. URLs, they're hard. But if you're wondering about everything else, there's a skim today. one, core tonight, all these other things coming up this weekend before we leave town. Frogpants.com slash schedule, has it all there, and it's all current.
Starting point is 01:42:47 So go check that out and find out what shows you want to be there live for. It's going to do it for us. Frogpants.com slash TMS for everything else. Brian, let's play a song and go. I like that idea. It's weird. I quit everything, like even had the show bot in the background, quit all that. No problems during Wendy's segment, but then it just blipped.
Starting point is 01:43:09 doubt on me again audio while you were doing the weird do you confirm anybody's in your backyard or do anything no I can't see my backyard and I'm still looking for a truck to go by but it's got to be TDS has got to be doing something so I thought all right well it did now I'm sure that it's not something local
Starting point is 01:43:25 because there's nothing I don't even have any apps to we've got the two Google Docs that we that we use for the show up right now yeah it's got to be something they're doing but ah ISPs they're the worst I guess you need him now. Anyway, let's do a song. What do you got?
Starting point is 01:43:41 Yes. Ambassador Domo, a.k. Robert Monti, said, it's my birthday. How the hell did I get to 60? I was born the same day as the Ford Mustang was first released. Is it too early to get a fish sandwich? I suggested a song, but if not possible, any 80s-era song cover
Starting point is 01:43:57 would be great. Now, this was on the 17th, and he did send me one today that reminded me, are you getting my other requests, Brian? So, yes, Domo, I don't know how I missed it. uh last week i was doing a lot of catch up last week and they were like four or five they were on the 17th um oh we didn't do a show on the 17th did we oh no that's why that's why yeah that was
Starting point is 01:44:18 we were off that day we were off that day so um is that a thursday last thursday right oh no it was the 18th so never mind we were there the 18 oh we just had another yeah just had another another 17th request i probably was going to push yours to the 18th and then it uh then it got well he can definitely he can definitely have one of these hey two are i get fished Hell, you can have one of these. Hey, is it too early to get a fish sandwich? You get both of them, man. Get them both.
Starting point is 01:44:45 Excellent. So, Domo, sorry, man. I hope you're doing okay in that abandoned church that you call a house. And I hope you had a wonderful, wonderful birthday. His request? Great one. This is just recently came out on the troll. I'm sorry, the Kung Fu Panda 4 soundtrack.
Starting point is 01:45:04 There is a spectacular video that goes along with this. If you haven't seen it, go check it out. This is Tenacious D and their cover of Britney Spears baby one more time. See you in Vegas. And now you're out of sight Show me how you want it to be Yeah, tell me, baby Cause I need to know now
Starting point is 01:45:50 Because my loneliness Is killing me And I I must confess I still believe When I'm not with you I lose my mind Give me a sign
Starting point is 01:46:09 me, baby, one more time. Oh, baby, baby, the reason I breathe is you. Girl, you've got me blinded. I'll pick it, baby. There's nothing that I wouldn't do. It's not the way I planned. Tell me how you want it to be.
Starting point is 01:46:34 I tell me, baby, because I need to know now. Because my loneliness is killing me And I must confess, I still believe When I'm not with you, I lose my mind, Give me a sign Give me, baby, one more time Hit me, baby, baby, baby, but not too hard. Hit me, baby, but not too hard, hit me, baby, but not too hard, one more time.
Starting point is 01:47:22 Oh, baby, baby, how was I supposed to know? That something wasn't right Oh, pretty baby I shouldn't have let you go And I must confess That my loneliness Is killing me now Don't you know
Starting point is 01:47:50 I still believe That you will be here And give me a sign Give me, baby, one more time My loneliness is telling me I must confess, I still believe When I'm not with you, I lose my mind Give me a sign
Starting point is 01:48:16 Give me, baby, one more time I saw the insurance forms from your weenie, doctor.

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