The Morning Stream - TMS 2963: It's A Sit Day
Episode Date: February 12, 2026Fellowship of the Two Kings. Whatever Happened To Rebecca Black? Y'Know She's Questionably Got Talent! You MUST wear brown slack! Wee Little Ginger Man. You'll get No Denise Crosby No Regina King and ...No Lt Yar. Clay-tality. Deep, but not Chicago deep. My favorite kind of pizza is the one closest to me. MORTAL FROGBAT!! Hair eating chair. X-Men's Greatest Villain. New York is Crackery. Beat Box Breathing. I Like a Mouthfull of that Dough. Growing Your Stunted Growth Thingy w Wendi and more on this episode of The Morning Stream. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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The first thing Tony Soprano did after walking out to get his paper in his robe was to march right back in his house and sign up at patreon.com slash TMS.
It's true.
Coming up on the morning stream, Fellowship of the Two Kings.
Whatever happened to Rebecca Black.
You know she's questionably got talent.
You must wear a brown slack.
We, little ginger man.
You'll get no Denise Crosby, no Regina King, and no lieutenant yard.
Platality.
Deep, but not Chicago Deep.
My favorite kind of pizza is the one closest to me.
Mortal Frogbat.
Hair eating chair.
X-Men's greatest villain.
New York is crackery.
Beapbox breathing.
I like a mouth full of that dough.
Growing your stunted growth thingy with Wendy and more on this episode of the morning stream.
Got your pizza for you.
Your mom ordered for dinner.
Pizza all right.
Don't open that door.
Come on, can't open the door.
You find your pleasures where you can.
The Morning Stream.
Well, of course, I am the Supreme Being.
I'm not entirely dim.
Well, well, well, hello, everybody, and welcome to TMS.
It is the morning stream for February 12th, 2026.
I'm Scott Johnson.
There be Brian Ibbett.
Hello.
Feeling a bit better.
A little bit better.
Enough better to be here.
Not enough better to be standing up.
It's a sit-down day.
It's a sit-day.
Yeah.
I mean, we're like, like it's a Friday.
Yeah, pretend it's a Friday, you guys.
Friday, Friday. Let's get down on Friday.
All right.
Yes.
That had an anniversary, that song, didn't it?
Rebecca Black.
Ten year?
Oh, geez.
Something like that or 11 maybe.
There's some anniversary for the song that just hit yesterday.
So it's funny that came up.
But she, you know, still, still suckling at the teed of success from that song, I guess.
Is she, though?
I mean, I don't know.
I don't know what she's going on.
I'm curious as to what, you know, whatever happened to Rebecca Black.
I mean, is she, I'm curious as if she, yeah, March 14th, 2011.
So, oh, that's even longer.
Yeah, 15 year.
Well, in March, it'll be the 15 year on Pi day.
It'll be the 15 year anniversary.
It says here, here's her career.
Okay, early songs and covers.
2016 to 2020, she did a whole bunch of stuff.
2023 Black was here and let her burns.
Zah, Zah, Zva.
Brand new album in 2024 called Salvation.
So she seems like she's, oh, she did a mashup of Friday over Charlie XX's something's song.
Oh, 360 was the song.
Oh, but didn't work with Charlie XX.
She just.
I think.
It was announced Black was serve a supporting act for Katie Perry in her Lifetime's Tour.
She seems like she's doing okay.
She's doing okay.
She did do a, she did a Saturday song too.
Oh, my gosh.
No.
I need to hear this.
Yes.
Was that 2013?
Yeah.
Yep.
Friday was 2011, 2013.
Oh, geez.
Heartful of scars.
That sounds like a emo song.
Oh, geez.
Yeah.
Crumbs.
I bet the lyrics from that were written in a three-ring binder during biology.
Yeah.
Yeah.
I mean, I don't know.
Maybe she's doing all right.
It's 28 now.
Just living that Rebecca Black Life.
Oh, there we go.
The song's music video was released on February 10th.
2011.
It was officially released as a single.
So, yeah.
So two days ago was the 15-year anniversary of the video, which, you know, is all that
really matters.
Wild.
It's weird to think that was the first year of TMS, and we share that with her, you know?
Oh, geez.
Share it with her and, uh, duh, Tiger Blood.
Yep, Tiger Blood.
We share it with Game of Thrones premiere.
Oh, wow.
Yeah.
We share it with Skyrim.
Skyrim was the year of TMS.
Hmm.
First, first came out.
People think of Skyron was a lot older, but it came out 2011.
Well, 1111.11.
Oh, really? Oh, funny.
Yeah.
That's smart.
These game companies rarely get to have those because they usually delay them.
Yeah.
Yes, right.
Because there was.
It's like this was the planned date, 11, 11, 11, but we had to push it to this date and then this date.
Yeah.
I think Star or, shit, but Starfield, their other game, was supposed to launch on 2.1.21.
So 2-1-2-1.
But it got delayed, so they screwed that.
Dumbasses.
Hey, Brian, do you ever see in the show Southland?
That ever come across your radar?
I have not.
No, and that's another Tyler Sheridan thing, right?
No, this is old.
This is like, well, I say old 20,
like 2008 through something,
or maybe even shorter than that
because one of the main characters
or actors went on to be walking dead.
It's a cop show.
Yes, okay.
It's Michael Fidelitz or Cudlets or whatever his name is.
Yeah.
It feels a little like a, who did NYPD Blue?
Can I think it was named.
Botchco.
Bocco.
It feels like a Botchco joint.
It's not, but it's this lady showrunner who came from that, though.
She worked on all those other shows.
So it's got that vibe.
Anyway, it was on NBC for like of half a minute, got canceled.
And then it got picked up on T&T and then ran for however many years.
And we just were, Kim and I, the other night,
were just randomly like, what's this?
I forgot this existed.
Oh, it's got a bunch of actors we like in here.
Okay, that's cool.
Let's see what this is.
So we fired it up.
And we ended up watching the whole thing over some nights.
That show is good.
Southland was good.
It was gritty and unflinching.
And I'm not surprised NBC couldn't handle it because it was, you know,
actually you can tell where it got canceled from NBC.
Because the NBC run gritty, but no swears.
Yeah.
And then suddenly T&T gets it.
Oh, let the F bombs, S bombs.
Let it all flow.
Sure.
Let it rip, which really, you know, I think helped make it more authentic.
But very flawed characters, I don't know, kind of maybe Breaking Bad style.
They weirdly don't.
They hardly use any music at all.
So there's the intro.
And then the show itself is almost documentary style.
Not really, but it's done in a way that doesn't have music.
You know, there's no crescendo or whatever.
Interesting.
Yeah.
I saw somebody comparing it to the.
wire, kind of that grittiness of the wire.
I would say that's a fair comparison.
Oh, it's funny. Luke Skywalker just said the
sidewalker just said the same thing.
Yeah, the wire is, I would say, very adjacent to the sort of thing.
Cut from the same cloth. Yeah, this kind of thing.
It didn't run as long, but really quite good.
Regina King's in it. She's fantastic.
We already like her, but she's really goodness.
Oh, it looks like Denise Crosby's in there?
Or is it just like a little action figure?
It's just her avoiding the camera at all costs.
Yeah. Okay, good.
Yeah. I don't know about action. A little cop action figure, I think.
she holds up and go,
Little cop action figure.
It's a punch and John
action figure.
Yep.
This is such a,
this is a cut that about.
It's such a deep cut,
but if you know,
you know, if you know,
you know, and that's all that matters.
Anyway, it's really good.
I'm going to go ahead
to give it just a quick little
recommendation.
People should check it out.
It's got that.
Peacock.
Yep.
No, sorry.
Netflix is where it is.
Netflix.
Oh, right, right.
Because, yeah, they picked it up.
They picked it.
Well, T&T picked it up.
After TNT, yeah.
I think Netflix has just happened
to be running it right now.
I don't know if it'll stay forever, but it's quite good.
And it was just the right little thing between the other stuff we watched and this.
And then I think next we're going to finally watch that department Q business.
Oh, good.
Yeah, that's so good.
I heard that was awesome.
As you should.
And you should also watch Wonder Man.
Oh, yeah, I got to watch that.
Right now I don't have Disney, but I do have some complex friends.
Yes.
Use a complex way to watch it.
They don't have, they didn't put that on Hulu, did they by itself?
I don't think that did.
I don't know.
No, I think stays Disney.
I think you stole, yeah, Disney, yeah.
I have been continuing my, my rewatch of after our future discussion this weekend of Lord of the Rings.
Yes, the one that we haven't had yet till this weekend.
So time travel, after our future discussion, I started watching.
Yeah.
Fellowship of the Ring, which I think I called Fellowship of the King to somebody and I merged.
Fellowship of the Two Kings.
Sure.
Perfect.
All three movies in one.
I like it.
But I'm currently on the second one.
I love those movies.
And I'm doing the, you know, screw you, Dunnowy.
I'm doing the special editions, of course, because you have to.
Yeah, Dunaway thinks that the theatricals are the other way to go.
I'm kind of split on it.
It depends.
Because sometimes the extendeds throw me because I saw it so many times in theatrical.
Oh, really?
So it's like, oh, what's this new?
Yeah.
I just kind of makes it feel a little off, but it's only, it's the same, it's the same beef I have with that aliens extension where I never saw it until we saw it for film sac.
So I didn't know what those new additions were.
And it's just so different though what I'm used to.
I think that's just purely a me thing.
It's just a perception thing.
Like it's Newt and her family on the on the tram, right?
Yeah, the tram bit.
There's some other stuff later with some kind of helicopter thing.
Yeah.
There's a part where Ripley goes back to, she's back on Earth and she's hanging out at some office talking about.
or no, a doctor's office.
She's talking about her mother.
Her daughter.
Her daughter, who's now older than her.
That's what it was.
Yes.
Yeah.
Or she had died.
I don't know what the deal was.
I can't remember what the deal was.
But then we get,
we get Ripley's daughter in lore,
don't we like in,
or not in lore,
but like in future other,
other,
she's in,
um,
the video game.
Right.
Uh, isolation.
Alien isolation.
That's your,
that's who you're playing us.
That's a great video game,
by the way.
Really good.
Yeah.
Holds up.
Cool, cool, cool.
Another 2011 joint,
I think,
I may have been later.
Anyway.
Oh, nice.
To bring it around, you know.
Yeah.
Guys, I don't know about you,
but we should sure go for some news here on the show.
Let's do some news.
All right.
That's what I'm getting to.
Today's news is brought to you by...
Brought to you by Coverville today.
Shortly after TMS, you know why?
Because I want to do both shows and then I want to go nap for a little bit longer.
Yeah.
Great idea.
Still not sleeping great.
But today, focusing on.
The wee little ginger man, Ed Shearin, it's funny.
I wasn't thinking he'd be Coverville's subject when I did thinking out loud for Filmsack this last weekend.
But sure enough, he's turning 35.
The wee little ginger man is turning 35.
And so, of course, you're going to have covers of all of his hits like Photograph and the A-Team and Castle on the Hill and happier.
all those things coming up today, as well as a lot of covers.
He's done a lot of great covers.
Pink Floyd, Elton John, hosier.
So be here for all of that.
Nice.
Twitch.tv.tv.
We'll probably do a raid, right?
We'll just do a little sendover for everybody.
Yeah, sounds good.
Sorry, had to hit that cough button because a little cough attack.
That's what they're for.
It should be really good for the show.
Oh, it would be great for the show.
Absolutely.
Well, Wendy gets here.
she'll talk a lot.
There we go.
I'll just keep going, uh-huh.
Oh, uh-huh.
Oh, interesting.
Uh-huh.
Is there a book?
Then you'll mute for a while.
I'll mute for a while.
It'll all work out in the end.
There's a little button I have on my roadcaster.
This actually reminds me, I need to clear this up.
If somebody just told me that redheads, speaking of little ginger boy,
yeah, that redheads have a harder time metabolizing medicine.
Dr. Tolbert, someone, someone,
jump on this. I don't know if he's listening right now.
But that they,
you have to give them more
anesthetic. If it's that,
pain reliever, if it's that,
nicotine. Not nicotine.
What do you call it in your mouth for the dentist?
Novocaine. Novocaine. Yeah.
You got to have more Novakane to do the thing.
There's something about their,
I don't know if you say genetic makeup or something,
but how redheads do, they process that stuff differently
in the same way that they are way more sensitive to
sunlight and the way more. Oh, they're also very repellent of hair removal. So if you go in to get
your like your pits done or something, you're a lovely redhead lady and you're like, I'm on
burn out, I'm a laser off all this. That doesn't work very well because something about the red
hair and the red lasers don't jive. Yeah. And I know there's, there's skin like pigmentation
stuff usually associated with that too, right? Yeah, with the sun thing part for sure, right?
Yeah.
I don't know.
Hyper sensitivity to UV rays and stuff.
And I know that they always say like babies,
they get rashes more and things like that.
And it's been true of Ramona.
This is why this all came out because Nick's kid is a total ginger.
We don't know where she got her orange hair from.
Like honestly.
They look,
she looks just like her mom and dad,
but neither of them,
they both have had moments in their lives where there's a little bit of red, maybe.
Sure.
But this kid just said,
what are those jeans and I'll eat them all?
let's go. I'll take all of them. Yeah, exactly.
Anyway.
But if that's true, I'm just curious. I have no, I'm purely speculation.
I have no idea if this is true.
Amy in the chat room is saying it's all true.
I think she was applying to everything you said is saying, yep, it's true.
All right. Amy's our resident redhead. She knows.
She is.
It's good to know. It actually might explain. I have a little bit of that.
If you hit the sun just right, you can see some red in my hair.
But it has to be that.
And I'm a little bit oversensitive to something.
things and under sensitive to others, I need more
Novocaine or at least more time for it to take
hold, but also
if I take just
mild sedatives
or a half a freaking
normal low end gummy in Vegas
or whatever, it is really strong for me.
Super effective. I'm kind of
the same way. I had
very red hair when I was a
kid, like up until
five or six, I should find some of my old photos
but I had like very red hair.
and that totally went away, turned dark brown until I decided to shave it all off.
Nice.
Like right now, if you went...
You wouldn't get a tinge.
If you went crazy and just said, I'm going to go whatever I've got out, would it be...
Do you think it would show up as brown?
No, I wouldn't even have that tinge of red like you're saying.
And it's probably because you're his lighter, right?
Because you've got more of a blonde.
And like I say, it only happens if I'm in the sun.
You know?
Like, I'll go out in the sun and be like, oh, yeah, look at that weird.
picture of me and my hair looks red.
Go in the house same day. It'd look brown.
Go downstairs. It looks blonde.
Right now, it's a combination of like
light brown and then if you get in the right light,
very gray.
F that shit.
You get in any light with this beard and it's
very gray. Yeah.
Bobby says, only research that exists seem to
suggest that redheads need more anesthesia than
others. The other stuff is anecdotal
with no good research. So yeah, I don't know.
Maybe it's, uh,
ooh, let's have a,
let's have a, uh,
Bobby, Amy, fight.
Fight, fight, fight, fight.
Round one.
Fight.
Wait, we got to figure out what their fatalities are before we move on.
Oh, let's see.
Let's do Amy first.
What do you think Amy is?
Amy's fatality would be puppet control.
She would pull Bobby, like something out of Bobby,
and his body would be hung by nerves, but operate like a marionette.
Yeah, I like that.
I like that.
A puppetry business.
I can't even think of anything else.
Oh, I know.
She
manifests a
pottery wheel,
yanks the pottery
off of it,
throws the clay in their eyes
so they can't see,
and then the pottery wheel
while it's spinning,
she kicks it,
it flips on its side,
and then it proceeds to kind of
kind of sonic the hedgehog thing
and then just wham right into his
face and just smash the skull.
What if she turns Bobby into pottery,
like spins him around
like he's pottery on a,
pottery wheel and then just like shapes
them into a blob that gets mashed down
love it. Love it. Like have it collapse and look all shitty
and then stomp on it. Exactly. Amy wins.
Exactly. What's Bobby's.
All right. Bobby
Bobby forces his opponent
into one of those
what is it called an Erlemyer flask
the angular one
with the like your
stereotypical science flask.
Is that an Erlemyer flask? Is that an Erlemyer flask?
Is that just a beaker?
Is that just a beaker?
I don't know.
I don't know what they call this.
But I like it.
That's great.
Jam him into one of those.
And they're all like,
ding, ding, ding.
Yeah, we just get the eyes in the, in the bottom of.
Yep, perfect.
All right, Bobby.
Bobby wins.
I'd watch this fight.
This game needs to happen.
Mortal Kombat,
freaking pad tad-tad Pooley edition.
Mortal Frogbat.
That'd be amazing.
Mortal frog bat.
Someone get that going.
We got programmers.
We got AI experts.
Stop all the stuff.
doing that makes money.
Yeah.
And focus on this.
Focus on this free waste of time project.
Exactly.
Guys,
here's your news.
Here's just why.
I don't know how many we'll get to the,
maybe a couple of these.
Amazon sold massage chair trapped.
I don't know what.
Oh, L.I.
is like Long Island.
There you go.
Yeah.
I always want to say that's it.
That's L and then another L.
Right, right.
Like the capital L lowercase?
Yeah.
My brain always will do that.
And I think I just have to come to grips with it.
Anyway,
this got.
trapped in this lady's hair.
So Amazon, you know, they sell you a chair.
You get the massage chair. You're like, oh, I'm going to put on
Shiazoo mode or whatever, and then suddenly your
hair's all. And it starts, it's like those
cabbage patch dolls that ate your hair.
Yeah. It was a cabbage, I guess it was a
wasn't cabbage patch. It was another doll
that ate food. But the girls
with long hair were getting their hair stuck in it
and it would just slowly be pulling them into her
face. Yeah, they had to recall them, I think.
Didn't that happen? I think that was pretty sure.
Yeah. This lawsuit in Eastern District
of New York, Tamaris Torres of
Farmingville,
claims that they, sorry,
she was using the chair in September of 2023
when an internal mechanism pulled in
and trapped her hair.
She suffered severe and catastrophic injuries,
according to the complaint.
She claims the product was defectively designed
and manufactured and lacked.
That's interesting.
Product was defectively designed
and manufactured and lacked adequate safety guards,
warnings, and emergency shot off features.
She also alleges the defendants
failed to properly designed test,
inspect and warn customers about the chair's dangers.
Let's see.
She wants 4.25 million in damages.
Amazon will probably fight it.
Probably.
I'm...
Amazon's not their chair, though.
It's the other thing.
No, it's their, you know, they just sell it based on another, you know, some other company.
U-gears, USA.
Yeah, never heard of them.
Yeah, you go in the gears.
It's right there in the name, U-GIRs.
What if it's U-GERS?
U-GERS.
U-GERS.
Yeah, if you buy a thing anywhere, I feel like the store's not responsible unless they made the thing.
Right.
I don't think it's not their responsibility to open the box, put warnings in the box, and then close the box, send it to you.
Yeah.
If I order this light that I just got and it electrocutes me, I'm not blaming Amazon for that.
Yeah, of course not.
No.
I don't like that.
There's a lot of reason not to like Amazon.
I'm just saying that I don't know how they have liability there, but, you know.
Boy, they are there.
there's some stuff going on with that whole Johnny Greenwood
a song that they used for Melania without his permission.
Oh, yeah.
Greenwood did the Phantom Thread soundtrack and they just said,
oh, we'll just use a song from the fandom threads.
I mean, it's the whole, you know,
it follows the whole playbook of,
I'll use whatever songs I want for my rallies.
But Brett Ratner, director of that movie.
Yeah.
Dushbag extraordinaire Brett Ratner.
Yeah.
for a long time, you know, whatever.
The X-Men's greatest villain, dude.
That's so true.
I mean, he did give us Rush Hour 1 and 2, and I kind of like those movies.
But other than that, he's scrambling around going,
well, we thought it was all done through the channel.
Look, you make movies.
You know how this works?
Yeah, this isn't your first rodeo, dude.
Yeah.
You know that if you put music in your movie, it has to be clear.
It has to be approved.
Yeah.
And if you didn't sign off on it, somebody in your production company,
did. Like, come on.
They have no excuse. They should get sued.
And it should be for whatever tiny amount of money
the movies recouped. That's what they should do. Oh,
I know. If that.
Just say, hey, we'll take our damages or whatever you made.
And then they'll say, well, only made a buck 50. Oh, shit.
Never mind. We want more. Here you go. It is all yours.
We'll double it for you.
We'll give you two. No, we'll give you
$3.00. We said we subtracted
39 cents for the stamp, but you get the rest.
Somebody out there listening right now is a huge fan of that movie.
I don't know who it is.
No, nobody listen.
Nobody listen to this show.
It's got to be one.
It's got to be one of you.
And I know I'm going to hear from them.
We'll circle back on this and see if I got any response.
I know, you know, we don't want to do anything political.
Or we try to stay away from that here.
But was it the, was it a Portland movie theater that had the, the marquee?
They're putting stuff on the marquee that was really,
funny. Let's see. What, switching
the letters up or something? No.
They would, so they were advertising, this theater
was playing Melania, but they were putting stuff
out on that barquee that said, to defeat
your enemy, you must know them.
Melania, now showing.
Does Melania wear product?
Find out Friday. Oh, my lord.
So Amazon pulled the movie
from their theater. Lake Oswego, Oregon
is where it is.
They changed, so they
pulled the movie from this theater.
can't show it anymore.
We're,
they changed the marquee.
Yeah,
they changed the marquee now to say
Amazon called our marquee made them mad.
All Melania shows canceled.
Show your support at Whole Foods instead.
That's great.
I love it.
Take that, Bezos.
Exactly.
Absolutely great.
With your huge amounts of money for no reason.
Well, I guess there's no reason.
There's a reason.
Amazon was very successful.
Yeah.
Yeah. Yeah.
Maybe it could be a little less of a weirdo now.
That's all I'm saying.
Jeez.
Yeah.
Let's talk about this one.
Man breaks into a little Caesar's, starts making pizza, and then started selling the pizzas.
Really?
So did he flick on the open sign and people just started walking in at whatever time in the morning it was?
That's a great question.
This was in North Carolina.
He's a North Carolina man is facing multiple felony charges after he broke into this little Caesars after closing time, started making pizzas.
So this isn't night.
Okay.
According to the police,
sapped on Sunday,
the police,
uh,
is there the day after the massive snowstorm hit the state and the suspect kept all
the money for himself.
Yeah,
but who was coming in after closing hours?
That's weird.
Who knows?
Yeah.
I mean, this was, uh,
you know,
after hours on a Sunday even.
Yeah.
It was during that big ice storm.
It's according to the Kingston department of police.
They said on February 2nd.
Uh,
let's see.
An arrest was made after the suspect tried to break into the shop a second time.
Uh,
uh,
let's see, breaking and entering, blah, blah, blah.
Okay, upon arrival officers are advised the 41-year-old Jonathan Hackett.
He's definitely hacking it.
Yeah, or a former employee.
Oh, he'd work there.
That's interesting.
Okay, well, good.
So he knew how to make the pizzas at least.
He wasn't putting out inferior product, which is good.
No, he knew how to make whatever that dough is.
Yeah.
Look, I like a mouthful of that dough.
I do too.
I'm all right with Little Cesar's for the better part of a year in 1988.
worked for a guy.
Oh, what was his name?
He was...
That man was Jonathan Hackett.
No?
That's right.
No, he was Middle Eastern,
and he,
second day I worked there,
I'm wearing black dockers or something,
or dark gray dockers.
And he says,
Brian,
you must wear a brown slack to work.
Oh, yeah,
I've heard of this guy before.
Yeah.
You must wear a brown slack.
I actually really like that guy.
That was fun.
It was like there, there was the first place I remember that had the conveyor belt.
Mm-hmm.
So you didn't have to worry about checking the pizza and making sure it was cooking evenly and that sort of thing.
You basically, you put your uncooked pizza on one part, which a conveyor belt that is constantly going.
Yeah.
Put your pizza on one side.
You come and get it.
It comes out the other side and then slides down into a little holding pen.
And you don't have to worry about it.
You don't have to say, ooh, let me check that.
Let's look at the bottom, all this stuff.
always came out exactly the same, always was, uh,
I watched a guy inside a window of a little series the other day.
And so I'm wondering if this is something you had then or if this changed.
But the cutter he used.
Yeah.
Was a big round.
It was like, kind of.
But it wasn't a blade.
It was like a circle.
Well, it was a circle of blades.
So you had, if he put it right in the middle, you had exact sized, you know, cuts.
Oh, gotcha.
So it cut all of them at the same time.
Yeah.
Oh, yeah.
I think that's newish or newer.
because back in the day.
We had basically a single blade bat lift
that you dropped it down,
you did your Csaint.
First cut, you turn at 90 degrees,
cut, and then you went two-thirds
cuts, chichung, chichung, ch' ch'ch-ch-ch-ch-ch-ch-ch-ch-ch-c.
And then you ended up with a
12-slice pizza.
And I'll bet you were good at that. Some people are not good at that.
I was a pro.
Some people give you two giant-sized pizzas
and then a bunch of little slivers.
Actually, I guess little seasons,
We rarely had the round.
It was always the square.
So it was like the, you know,
it was the,
back in the day,
it was always the square thing.
So it was like,
you had,
oh, that's right.
You had,
so you got the pizza out onto a thing
to do the cutting,
because you wouldn't cut it inside the box,
and it had little lines indicating,
ching, ching,
really?
Yeah.
And then you,
then you slid your,
your pizza peel underneath it,
slid it into the,
the back then again I don't think this is the case anymore it was a cardboard flat
that had a little divider in the middle because it was always pizza pizza you always got two pizzas
all right and so you had your two pizzas separated by a little cardboard flap that went up
that kept the pizzas from from getting frisky with each other right because it was that was part
of the reason the square happened because they had to keep it compact right that was the idea
Exactly. And then the whole thing went into a paper
a paper sleeve that went over the top.
That's right. You basically, you know, you had your cardboard thing with
pizzas on it and then this paper thing that went over it. So you basically tore into it.
Yeah, that's right.
To get your pizza. It's like a package. Now I think they do boxes.
Yeah, they do regular boxes and they do round pizzas now. So it's like very different.
But yeah, watch that guy. It was a big circular blade and he was just like kind of.
That's wild. You know what? You've spent a coin and eventually it's low.
and it kind of does the spin.
It's like he's doing that.
He's rocking it in a circle.
That's how he would do it.
And then you lift it up
and all the pieces were identical.
That's cool.
The bat lift that we had
was still a rocker.
Like it was still curved down in the bottom.
So in like a real,
quote unquote,
real bat lift.
The actual Klingon Batlift.
The actual Klingon Batlift.
But it, yeah,
it's still,
you kind of juke,
and you basically rock it
on the pizzas to get the cuts.
Now I want pizza,
so we didn't.
Then we did it.
I want pizza.
right now.
The best thing about those deep dish
little Caesar's pizzas was the
really crispy, greasy
cheese edge that you got
on all the outside pieces. They were really good.
You never wanted the
one of the inner pieces of
a Little Caesar Square pizza.
Yeah, you're right.
No crest to hold on to.
The insanity with which we all
wanted crazy bread is another whole.
whole another from oh i know yeah it's just like crust bread right that's all it was just the dough
but made into these sliced up whatever's they're basically breadsticks but they were so addicting my
gosh i could put one of those away is um tvs Travis says that's Detroit style pizza i do the square
square pizzas are Detroit but are they deep dish or they uh I don't think they're crackery dish yeah
they're more well I mean I've never been is crackery Chicago's deep dish never had a deep or so I've
had, I've been, I've had pizzas that I was told
was traditional Detroit.
But I've, I can't really say for sure, because my only time in Detroit was in a
airport for three hours.
So I don't actually really know for sure.
But my understanding is that yes, they are square, but I don't think they're deep
dish. They're just kind of thick, but not like Chicago, you know.
Yeah, yeah, lasagna with a crest.
Yeah.
Yeah.
When I say crackery, excuse me, New York style, it's a much,
thinner crust that is
crispier than
a soft deep dish
um
pizza like a Chicago pizza.
The New York style is more of a
like I guess not really
crispy but you can fold it and the outside edge isn't soft.
It is it is you know
like a yeah you fold in half but the crust
the crust is crispy right?
Can't I think can be.
I think sometimes they're a little loose or whatever.
But basically what we get at
The hidden pizza place at the Cosmo is basically New York style, right?
Yeah, yeah.
I think.
I guess that's it.
Yeah, I guess it's right.
They call it tavern style is the thinner, crispier one.
That sounds so good.
I love thing crust pizza.
We delve so often into food talk here.
I know.
It's killer for both of us.
I really is.
So I think the answer to this is to, we're going to water it down with this.
Something wrong, Batman.
Has anybody seen Wendy?
I have.
She's my sister.
I've seen her lots of times.
She's here right now to talk about pizza addiction.
Take us away from the food talk, Wendy.
Please.
Help us.
Really quick.
I took a pizza making class in New York.
Did you?
Yeah.
And the style is, it's the thin crust.
Yeah.
Motivated by the Italian, like, their actual style.
Really?
Chicago deep dish is its own invention.
It's an American thing.
Uno's invented it.
It could be a little Sicilian in the south.
Like, they're like, you know,
we need this thicker.
Well,
UNO's claim to invent it.
They said that they invented
the deep dish.
I believe it.
Is UNO's a New York place?
Yeah, they're UNOs and duoes
in Chicago and then when they
became more of a broader train,
they called it Pizzeria Uno,
which you probably had some of in
Salt Lake.
Something about that's familiar.
Yeah.
I just know if the thinner the crust,
the happier I am.
But I doesn't mean everybody likes that.
Yeah, I like a thin crust pizza.
Yeah.
I guess it depends on the mood.
Honestly, if it's in front of me, let's go.
Like whatever.
My favorite kind of pizza is the closest one.
Yeah, the closest one to me with the most slices available.
Well, Wendy, it's good to have you here.
And Wendy is a therapist.
She helps people all the time with their problems.
And she comes on the show on Thursdays and helps you with some of yours.
I hope you had a good week.
You're doing it right out there?
Everything holding together.
Totally nothing else is going on.
Remember you guys all had the news?
Everybody left.
It's fine.
Yeah.
We all think there has.
It's worse than it's ever been.
Yeah, and you know when it gets worse is when people stop paying attention.
So we got to knock that off.
You should look at everyone, Google yourself the ice maps.
You can see them and look at Chicago, look at L.A.
and you will see a couple dots.
And when you look at the Twin Cities,
and now what's happened is they've spread out to the surrounding suburbs.
And so it is like hundreds and hundreds of dots.
Oh, gosh, look at all these dots.
I don't like this.
I'm looking at it now.
Yeah.
We got a problem.
Yeah, we got a bit of an issue.
Also, let's see, they've been spotted.
This is recently, where is this?
2100 South and state.
There's something going on there today.
Get down there and tell those guys what you think of them.
Yeah.
Get a better job.
I'm just waiting.
Just waiting.
Colorado's another one of his least favorite, least favorite states.
So just waiting.
It's one.
Well, he probably claimed that he won there, but you guys cheated or something.
No, just note, I mean, there's not, there's been no, nothing like there has been here, right?
And there's a very good reason when I can't even say her name came and said, hey, we'll stop all of this if you comply with three things.
And the one was something, I forgot the second one.
And then the third one was just give us your voter records.
Yeah, if that.
I mean, is it not clear what this is about?
Yeah, the last time this state went for a.
A Republican president was 1964, I think.
Oh, yeah.
So consistent.
Yeah.
Never.
Not even Reagan.
Reagan did not win here.
Reagan won everywhere and ruined the country.
Yeah.
We can stop the explode of your planet, Princess Leigh.
Just give us those plans.
Yeah, give us the plans.
Exactly.
We have heard this before.
And they were like, no.
And so then they've decided to continue to torture us.
Great.
Well, well, well done.
Jerk holes in charge.
Let's get to this.
We're going to read an email we got from a listener, and Wendy's response to this was, oh, good one.
I like it.
So that's always good when I hear that from her.
Here's what it says is from somebody we're going to call C.
Hi, Wendy, Brian, and Scott.
I am a 40-year-old gay male who has struggled with connection my entire life.
After years of bullying, past trauma and isolation, I recently used intensive therapy to work through my self-esteem issues and my own likely ADHD brain.
Although it says A-U-D-H-D.
Yeah, that's autism.
Autism blend of ADHD.
I didn't know that was a thing.
What a cocktail.
That must be cheese.
I thought that was just a typo, but it's good to know.
Okay.
It's golden.
It's golden DHD.
Yeah, golden DHD.
Chemical symbol.
Nice.
You just made the song come back to me from the K-pop demon hunters.
Well done.
It's working.
I've joined a local LGBTQ plus social group
and started making real world friends.
The dopamine hit of finally connected.
feels like a drug, but it's triggering a new challenge, my anxious attachment style.
I'm terrified these new friends will leave, which puts my body into a survival mode where I become
overbearing. I find myself texting too much, being too much and being too much in an effort
to maintain the connection, even though I know it might ironically drive people away. How do I manage
this physical anxiety and autopilot response so I can foster these friendships healthily rather than
scaring people off. Thanks heaps, says C.
That's a really good question.
I would probably do the same thing, right?
It'd be like, oh my God, I've got friends.
Now I need to do everything I possibly can to keep them.
Yeah, when it's good, you don't want to lose it.
So you're always questioning whether you're doing enough and you might be doing too much.
And I think this could apply to any group, any anybody.
Like if you, I want friends who also play Magic the Gathering.
I found a bunch at a game store.
Oh my gosh, I think I'm driving them nuts.
It's like it's really, you can kind of be anybody and I think this could apply.
So I feel like we're going to help more than just see today.
Wendy, what do you want to, what do you want to do?
Yeah, first of all, way to go see.
That is like the real work of understanding your brain and working on your self-esteem issues that come from years of being maltreated, right?
the fact that you can get over any of that,
I don't know if we can emphasize how,
what a big deal that is.
And like you have to do the work to do it.
And it sounds like he's come so far,
which is awesome, awesome, awesome.
Yeah.
Yeah.
And this sort of, this is like the,
the bad problem to have or the good problem to have, right?
Because I have, now I have friends,
but the lingering issues of,
first of all, not practicing friendships for,
40 years, right? You haven't practiced a lot of this. So this is going to feel new. And so I don't know if
this framing is helpful. I hope it is. But to imagine, and I would say if I knew more of C's story,
I'd say, okay, when did the bullying start? And if he said five or 10 or 12, I'd say, okay,
we're going to start looking at what is developmentally normal for a 12-year-old and friendships.
And we're going to talk about, I would go through the developmental models basically of like what is expected in a sort of typical development and to recognize you got stuck there.
So when you, just for clarity on my own head, when you say normal development or developmental normalness, for lack of a better way of saying it, that's interesting because that is not the same as social norms or any maybe any other application.
You're talking about like the studied healthy norms, right?
That's kind of what you mean about people's development.
Remember when you had a baby and you were like, are they pushing up?
Are they rolling?
Are they crawling?
Are they walking?
Those are like physical developmental milestones, right?
We have those throughout our lifespan.
We're still discovering things.
So that's part of why it's cool.
It's like ongoing.
And especially psychological or emotional or social development.
there's spiritual development thing.
You can also look at, like so many people have studied this stuff.
And so we have a couple of ones we kind of all look at.
And they are often like these things we have to figure out in terms of our sense of identity, selfhood versus, you know, separating from our parents.
All of these different myocels we go through and that are considered healthy, developmentally appropriate at certain times.
and what I have found over and over is when we find where someone, it's like growth gets stunted
when we aren't getting what we need or there's a traumatic sort of break in the time continuum.
So that's why I would say, thank you for having me clarified that, because it may not make
sense to someone, but when, like, let's say I'm talking to see and I say, okay, when did the
the bullying or abuse or anything that happened or when did you realize you were gay and that
that wasn't okay in your community or whatever. Like you find the moments where some of that
realization came online or the social fears started because of course you're going to develop
around the scenario you're in. Not, you know, you're going to have good or bad days. That's
going to be part of normal social development. But to be chronically told you're not safe,
you're not welcome, you can't be yourself, all of those various things means you're going to
have a block, right? There's going to be some kind of stuntedness. So I'd have him go to that age.
Let's say it's 12 for fun. And what is a 12 year old? Let's see if you guys remember this.
All right. What is a 12 year olds? What do you expect from a 12 year old? I think this is a boy,
a 12 year old boy who, yes, megal, who socially, like what should they be able to do and maybe not do
by 12? By 12.
Oh man, what a nightmare 12 can be.
I mean, it's just, it's like,
your hormones, especially boys.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Girls, and that's the other thing I was going to say.
Girls at 12, I remember this so vividly that girls
seemed a thousand years older than us and wiser in every way.
And it was,
and it's true that they were.
But at the time, my just, it was basically based on this perception of there's
something wrong with me because all my friends that are girls are rad and
smart and are making all these great decisions at 12, whatever those decisions may involve
when you're only 12.
And I felt like a dummy, you know.
So I don't know, I don't know, I don't know what that means.
What they should be able to do, what, what social, uh, social situations, you should
be able to do as a 12 year old boy.
Jeez.
Um, video games.
It's really it.
So connect with someone else and do a thing together.
Do the thing together, sure.
Yeah.
Sports, baseball, ping it out.
Yeah.
That you can complete the thing and still, like, be buddies at the end.
Right.
Yeah.
One of the reasons girls are so much more advanced in this way than boys is it, like, second, third grade, they are navigating tribes and hierarchies and systems that boys are like absolutely not even paying attention to.
And so by the time they're 12, they've figured out a lot more.
And it doesn't mean it's easy to be a 12-year-old girl.
let's just get in line for that. It's not easy either. But the practice of certain things they get
more of in that communication space and collaborative and, you know, fights. You know, there's a lot of
drama that is being worked through. And then, okay, so around 12 of what's happening for a boy is
they've just sort of gone through latency stage, which is the supposedly not sexual stage, right,
where you are just hanging out with people of your same gender and you're,
doing dumb stuff.
And then you start to get interested in girls and hormones start kicking in.
And so what's tricky is if you didn't do some of those regular things, then when hormones,
we add that to, I'm already alone.
I'm scared.
I don't know how to connect with anyone.
So some of those practices of connection just didn't get to happen.
So now imagine you just keep going and living your life and you're practicing staying safe all
the time.
So think of it as you got a sword drawn at you at 12 and you no longer can trust that anyone
isn't going to draw a sword again.
So you keep them away from you.
And anytime someone's like too nice, that could be that they're going to secretly
pulled out the sword.
Or, you know, you can imagine just the fear and the lack of safety in a developmental sense
means you are going to have certain interactions later on that at 12 you might have learned
or safe, but instead you were told and taught by being bullied, you are absolutely not safe.
You can't be yourself. You can't show up in a room and just say what you want or think however
or act however or love whoever, right? So, you know, you've got a lot of baggage that might
mean you're stuck. And so what's cool is he's done a lot of therapy. He's figured out a lot of
things, which means, you know, maybe we're at a different place now. He's done some practice.
But I like to have people go to the bully age where it started and think a little more linearly.
Like, okay, we're going to practice safety.
Because his exact question is, my body is acting like I'm still, we're saying 12.
I don't know the time.
Yeah, we don't know.
It's acting like I could be bullied at any minute.
Someone's going to pull out a sword any minute.
You know, like it's doing this even though in my brain, I'm like, no, I have friends.
It's okay.
right and he used the right terms right which it's his anxious is anxious attachment style gets like
triggered right and we've talked a little bit about attachment styles it's thinking a general way to
think about it is like um when you are in a relationship you are feeling calm and secure and it
feels mutual and that's great or you're in a relationship and the whole time you're wondering if
they still love you so you're asking them all the time and you kind of drive them crazy or there's
the avoidance style, which is when you're actually really close and connected with someone,
it's too much and you actually pull away.
Right.
Right.
And you can imagine the one that works out the best is the secure one, which is, you know,
so it sounds like as he's experiencing actual connection, this anxiousness comes out
and it comes out for good reason.
It's because he was taught before that someone isn't maybe safe.
And so his body is like, guess what?
I'm never going to forget.
You know?
So it comes back down to the idea of practice.
So think about not practicing at 12.
You are now a 40-year-old practicing a 12-year-old skill.
And it's not to demean anything.
It's to just go through it again.
And so to give yourself a whole lot of grace,
because I would like you to don't do this.
That sounds wrong.
Go find a 12-year-old to watch.
We know what you mean.
But you will see that it is a,
struggle and it's hit and miss and you've got to figure things out and try again. And, you know,
in that case, you're in school. And so you're having lots of chances to practice and work through
some things and work heal some things. You know, at this point, it sounds like he's found this really
good group who are real life friends. It's a great place to practice. So we have two things to
practice. One is the actual skills of maintaining this connection. And it sounds like he's already doing
that and you know there's lots of books to be helpful with this or you know you could talk to the
therapist more about this the skills to be practicing and then the other one is to practice soothing his
body and having his body calm down so for example um well you know everyone probably has an example
of this where there it's like they're like a mode gets triggered right
I had a client who's had a bunch of snow, trapped them.
They live somewhere south.
So there's not even a snow shovel for miles and miles.
And was snowed in for like a couple days and had just the very real strong reaction of like it was COVID happening all over again.
Oh my gosh.
Being locked in.
The trapped.
That's not a good feeling at all.
With the kids trying to run it around screaming.
You know, it was just like a.
Right.
And so that is not something you would think.
You're like, oh, it's snow.
We'll have a snow day.
But what has happened is what's trapped in the body is this still something that maybe
hasn't been processed, right?
So the processing of the abuse and the grief of all of that, the loss, you know, that is
really helpful.
But there will be often sort of these lingering sort of biological processes because you're
still teaching your body that it is safe.
to be close to people.
Right.
So we're going to focus on one thing real quick.
When he thinks he's being too much, okay?
Yeah.
He's texting too much.
He feels like he's too much.
Which is good that he realizes it.
Like that,
you know,
that he can identify that.
Yes.
Yeah.
That's true.
And what happens is that doesn't solve it.
Like it's one step to go,
oh,
this is a skill you would be learning at 12,
which is like how much do I over,
over talk or how much do I, you know, you sort of get the immediate feedback that all the kids
walked away when I was telling this weird story, right?
Or whatever.
Like, okay, mental note, don't do that.
Yeah.
Don't do that, yeah.
And you kind of learn as you go.
And so that process is happening, right?
There is also something I would be interested in whenever I hear anyone say they're too
much, that there is a thing that is often something to be interested in.
And he's already got a diagnose, which is audy-h-d-h-d-d-h-d.
So that is some mild autism mixed with ADHD is a tricky combo because in your sort of scatteredness with the ADHD and you're missing some of the social connection and cues happening all at the same time, it is really easy to miss how you are coming across and miss the cues people are giving you that you are being too much.
So that's what I would have gone there.
If he hadn't have written that down that he has ADHD, I would have said, oh,
you definitely want to go look at get tested for a couple of things just to double check that's not
happening or in your history of abuse or bullying you were trained to believe you were too much
that is another sign of neglect or poor parenting when a kid's delightful energy has been treated
as too much their whole life if that makes sense right and then we just act weirder right we're
in our heads and we have all sorts of um ways that we are like trying to
manage what's going on. I had a client the other day described. He's recently moved to New York
and is meeting all sorts of new people, definitely has ADHD. It's also a gay man. It's not the same
guy, but very similar kind of dynamic. And what he's finding is he's like, I'm good at the beginning
part. And then I just spend the whole rest of the evening thinking I'm so awkward. Everyone thinks
I'm so weird. And so I had him actually asked somebody he'd recently met just like, sorry,
this is so weird about my therapist because you can do that in New York.
You can say my therapist asks me.
Yeah, totally say it.
To ask you.
Just like a little feedback of like, nice to meet you.
Like, you know, am I being weird?
And the guy's like, no, you're fine.
And he's like, oh.
And he is a very calm person.
It's not like he's being really loud or anything.
He's just so deeply in his head that it looks like somebody who's not interested in the group
or would rather say,
on their phone or distracted or something, not what's going on inside, which is inside, he's
having almost a full panic attack that no one cares about him or that he's going to be alone forever
because the anxiety piece. So that would be the other question I would ask, see, as if there's
any anxiety diagnosis anywhere here. And even if there's not, that it's showing up in your body.
And so to really look at how to calm and work with your survival mode or your sort of overactive
worry parts that are, you know, in efforts to protect you might actually be driving you crazy
here and making you act weird in ways you wouldn't if you were just like, I belong and I'm fine,
right?
We're really different creatures when we feel like we're safe.
We belong and we're fine.
When we're not, we tend to just have anxiety driving a lot of what we're actually doing.
Decisions and yeah.
Yeah.
And then we feel out of control and then we're feeling like we got to.
over talk or apologize or all of those different things.
And so the handling of the physical anxiety really could be, I mean, I would ask a couple
questions.
One is, are you exercising regularly?
And that may sound like I'm always asking people that.
And there's a reason because it is such an efficient, healthy way of just keeping your
biological nerves, like utilized.
It's like giving them, getting the wiggles out.
Like just is that happening at all?
Is there any kind of regular physical activity?
Yeah.
But listen, Wendy, you told me two weeks ago not to get on the bike until March.
Yeah.
How's that going?
Yeah.
I got on the bike twice since then.
You couldn't help.
Don't tell me what I can't do.
That's right.
Exactly.
Exactly.
All right.
So whoever is let see, listen to me.
Do not exercise.
There you go.
Perfect.
Works every time.
So physical exercise is a good one.
Another one is any kind of tuning into your body that you can practice.
that so it could be breathing exercises it could be leoga is really good for this if you're into it
like finding ways where you're just practicing different kinds of deep breaths and tuning in because
what's happening is it's going to do it without your permission and then your brain just reacts
to this thing that's happening and so what we work on is how to see this reaction as a normal
response to my system trying to decide if I'm safe or not here. And so maybe you put your hand on your heart.
You take a bunch of deep breaths, do some box breathing. There's so many options. Have a guided
meditation you just have on hand that you use while you're texting. Stop texting for a minute and
deep breathe and remind yourself you're safe. What's that thing? Is box breathing that thing you told me
about where you do the one in breath and then another in breath and then a big exhale? Oh, that's a different.
has a different name, but the double in breath and breathe out slowly.
That works really well, by the way.
I've been doing that a lot.
You taught me that in Vegas on Barry's patio.
Right.
And I use that all the time now.
Right.
I know.
It's freaking awesome.
Should we mind see what it is?
Yeah.
So tell me if I'm doing it right.
I'll do it real quick.
And you tell me if this is right.
Real quick.
Box breathing is breathing in seven seconds, holding it for four, breathing out seven,
holding it for four.
There's different numbers.
Box breathing is a great way to go.
go to sleep.
Yeah.
That's a good one.
This is.
You hold up a box, breathe into it like a bag.
For those of you, you can't see what I'm doing.
I put a box up to my face.
Okay.
So let's go through it.
Yeah.
I'm sure.
I have a name.
So I probably has a name.
So tell me if I'm doing this right.
I'm going to demonstrate.
And then you tell me if I'm doing it right.
So I go, I do like a.
And then a.
Another one.
And then a.
Real slow.
Real slow.
Like a straw.
Like a straw.
Like the.
lowest out of the slowest.
Exactly.
Two or three of those in, I shave 80% of whatever I'm stressed about off right there.
It's crazy.
100%.
100%.
It is my favorite one because it's not super obvious.
You're not like pulling out the actual box or the bag and breathing, you know?
And you can do it anywhere.
And I've used it when I've done coaching for little kids or like teams.
And you just see all these kids like,
yeah.
So you're like you're like especially if they missed a shot or something.
Like it helps reset.
And what it does is we really oxygenate your system.
If you notice whenever you're freaked out, you breathe more shallowly.
That is one of the signs that you are in danger is that you are needing to, you know, like, that's the stress response.
Your survival mode is shallow breathing.
And so you are telling your body like, I'm actually all good because look at this crazy amount of air I just got.
And look how slowly I don't need to breathe it out.
Right, right.
You're just giving it biological information that you're safe.
It's similar to, and I think I talked about this before, that thirst is a, that biological need and trigger, and you can take one sip of water and your body already stops telling you you're thirsty, even though it has not even taken the water in.
Yeah, it knows that the water's there.
It just knows it's coming.
And that's the same.
You give your body oxygen and it's like, oh, we're fine.
We have so much oxygen.
You know, it's funny as though Kim gets annoyed because I'll be in line at something waiting to go into a movie or something.
And I'll do this just because I'm there and there's tons of people.
I'm like, I got a good opportunity to try this.
And I'll do the whole thing.
And she'll always grab my arm and go, are you okay?
You're all right.
I'm like, yeah, I'm fine.
Are you nervous about going into the movie theater, Scott?
Yeah, it's like, no, I'm just doing the breathing thing.
Wendy taught me, oh, okay.
She always forgets why I'm doing it.
Because you huff the air and it scares her.
I kind of huff the bad.
That's funny.
That's the best air.
So I would really recommend that C, find a couple things like that.
So there's one.
And like before you go to do the texting, before you, because here's the thing, you could
find a hundred people say, is this guy too much?
And you'd get some that would be like, yeah.
And others would be like, not at all.
In fact, I want more, right?
You're going to have a range of humans.
So we can't ever control that other half of it.
But what you can control is that your body.
does not need to be in fight or flight, it just doesn't know that it doesn't need to be. It's been
trained to be. So we're going to train it not to be. So breathing is a really good one. Regular exercise
is a good one. Like one thing you learn as you get older and have friends, and this is going to be
new. You're 40. 40 year olds, it's hard to make friends. So you're starting this process of the
experimenting later in life when a lot of people might be struggling to make adult friends, right?
So that is both a disadvantage because it's not like you're working with, you know, you don't go to school with a thousand, 40-year-olds that you could practice being friends with.
But there's a lot of people who also want connection really are thirsty for the same thing.
And so it's a great time to put yourself out there and it's a great time to, you know, practice.
But think how great if you're doing it relaxed and you're doing it centered rather than panicking.
So I'm giving very straightforward things to do, which is breathing, relaxation,
maybe regularly meditating.
I mean, many people with this same story will tell me that their meditation practice is
ultimately what to save them.
Like mindfulness, meditation, 10 minutes a day even, just a regular time where you're
tuning in, reminding your body it's safe.
You're like training it again.
We are retraining.
And we're doing what, there's no calm 12-year-old.
trying to figure it out.
No, they don't know yet.
They're figuring it out.
They're stressed about it, right?
And we want you out of that mode because you have worked through so much trauma and bullying.
And you've done the work to rebuild your self-esteem and yourself and understand your brain.
Like you, this is like the final bits, which is incredible.
So you should be really proud of yourself.
And this part is just like training your body.
And I, you're going to like it.
It's going to be great.
Yep, I think so too.
I think a lot of people will get something out of this.
Let us know how it goes.
Wendy, we're in sign up mode over at No Better You.com.
Yeah, I'm supposed to close that.
I forgot.
It's not.
We're in the middle of...
Because class has already started.
Because Time Master.
Yeah, I just started the beginning of the month.
And we have a good little group and it is, it's really fun.
There is, yeah, it's good.
It's so good for me to be reminded, too.
I'm like, dang, I'm so much better at time when I do this.
Yeah.
But people can sign up to be notified for the next.
time.
Yes.
Yeah, yeah.
So put your email in and then, yeah, I have some more.
No better you.
That's the letter you.com and get in there and get it taken care of.
Wendy, it's always good to talk to you.
Tell those boys to shovel snow or something.
I don't know what.
All right.
We'll see you later.
All righty.
We did it.
We pulled it off yet again.
There's a little bit of time for one more thing.
And that is this email.
All right.
Saved this from yesterday because I wanted you to be here for it.
This is from someone who is on our Patreon, and his name is only for Patreon, which I assume is like his way of keeping his accounts separate and all that.
It goes well with his comments here.
Yeah, I think it worked really well.
He says, hey, Scott and Brian, regarding your TMS 2961 discussion of meta-AI glasses, while I respect your privacy choices, I'd caution against giving these companies your data.
though, or sorry, through both, through both direct sharing and third-party data mining,
meta builds massive profits, not just on you, but on- Profiles.
Oh, yeah, that doesn't say profits at all. It says profiles.
Not just on you, but on everybody you interact with.
Much like herd immunity, your data decisions have ripple effects.
Sharing your life helps them connect the dots for your spouse, your children,
and future generations who didn't get a choice in the matter.
Working in IT and data science, I've seen this play out.
it's similar to how old Facebook games
scraped contact lists
to map out networks of people who never even
played the game. Please stay mindful
of how your data impacts those around you.
Block the botts yo only for Patreon.
Yeah, it's a very valid comment.
Yeah, they do a lot of that stuff there.
It's easy to get conspiratorial and go, well, why else
would they make these glasses unless the whole idea
was to trick you into thinking
you have a neat gadget, but really all they're doing
is gathering a ton of information.
Right. Why not both?
I think it is both. I really do. I think it's both things. They, they, they, they, they, they, they, they're a company that needs to make money. How are you going to do that? Make a product that you want to buy. And give you some reason why you think you might need it in your life and you may very well need it in your life. Like our cell phones, for example. It's a kind of a good example. This, this thing I don't need in my life. And, and, um, these days, I'm wearing it when I, when I, when I Uber because here's, here's how it works really well when I Uber. Um, um,
Uh, somebody gets in the car, they're on their cell phone.
I can double tap on the temple and it moves the music automatically from car play to just my ears.
So all of a sudden now, I'm listening to my music.
I'm not eavesdropping on their conversation, not like anybody thinks when they get into an Uber.
Their, you know, their conversation is private.
Sure.
Um, but, um.
If something got weird, also you've got a way to film what's getting weird.
Like, yes.
If something does get weird, then all of a sudden it's like, press and hold and then like, what are you doing back there?
Yeah.
Put your wiener back.
Put it away, buddy.
Exactly.
Yeah.
But, yeah, and, you know, I'm not, I guess I wore it in social situations, like the Tina's party where somebody was coughing, by the way.
Oh, there was.
I was reminded about that.
Mm-hmm.
But it was wearing that to try out that new loud restaurant.
Amplify the person I'm looking at, it's conversation.
But, you know, I'm sharing his information.
Whatever he's saying is going up to the cloud because it's going into a microphone that's going to Meta's software.
They're always listening, right?
Because they do the whole wake-up word and all that.
Yeah, exactly.
You know, your phone is listening for the words, H-E-Y-S-I-R-I, but it's listening the whole time because it's waiting for those words.
Right.
Same with your A-L-E-X-A, your C-O-R-T-A-N-A, your O-G-G-G-G-L-E.
No, G-O-O-G-E.
Quir-O-G-E. Anyway. Quartana gone now, though, right?
Yeah, I think Cortana's gone.
What's their thing? Autopilot or something?
Is it autopilot?
No idea. I don't use it, so I'm not familiar with what...
I forget what they call it. It's annoying.
Windows users don't like it.
All right. Well, there you go, only for Patreon.
Thank you for letting us know.
The very, very good point, absolutely.
Let's get out of here.
A couple of notes.
FilmSack.com or film sack.
Frogpants.com slash TMS is our website.
You'll find all the links there that you might need.
A couple of PSAs about upcoming stuff.
There's no show Monday because I'm out of town until that afternoon.
And it's President's Day.
You know.
Oh, and it's President's Day.
Sale somewhere.
And celebrate, I don't know.
Presidents.
Other presidents.
Other ones.
Some that were maybe okay.
Better presidents.
Yeah.
Not them are perfect, but I don't know.
You know what?
John Adams is pretty cool.
I liked him.
Everybody since then has been crap.
Yeah.
He refused to have slaves, own slaves.
He was a pretty good dude.
Yeah.
And if you've never seen the HBO miniseries, you should watch it.
It's very good.
The John Adams series is so good.
Anyway, no show on Monday.
Where will we be celebrating that?
But also my wife is sneaking me out of town for.
Oh, that's right.
For the whole weekend.
All weekend, yep. That's why you're getting that absolutely not recorded yet episode of
film sack that we are definitely recording Saturday.
In the future, talk about Lord of the Rings 25 years later.
Yeah.
Shocking how that works.
We're taking the hobbits to Eisengard.
Still one of my favorite memes that ever come out of that.
And when I hear him say it in the movie, it throws me so hard.
Oh, I hate it.
It's kind of ruined that part.
Smash them, cook them in a stew.
Smash them, cook them, put them in a stew.
That's stuff so good.
Anyway, but on the note of programming today, as you heard, Coverville right after this.
That's right.
And she ran.
Yeah.
Check that out.
Turn 35.
Ed she ran.
She ran.
Then later today, 1 p.m. Mountain core.
And core will roll right into the PlayStation State of Play today at 3.
Oh, wow.
So we'll start at one, like always, do a regular core up to a point.
And then when that thing starts, we'll do live coverage of that.
Put it up as a separate thing, not as a whole separate episode of the month.
but you'll get you'll get extra content today no idea what sony's doing there's a bunch of rumors but um
yeah what i've heard is they're not talking about wolverine yeah which sucks yeah i would really like
to hear about wolverine i want to hear if the rumors are true if daredevil is uh being added to the game
yeah makes sense right yeah totally does also i just want to see him eviscerate enemies i can't wait to
play that good i know it's gonna be so much i'm really excited about that game anyway uh that's coming
up and also TMS Friday tomorrow where myself and Brian will be here once again tomorrow's not a
10th oh it is the 13th it is a teen it's the actual Friday of the 13th oh my gosh monica's ever a day to
have wicked kitten on it is tomorrow it's happening tomorrow so tune in for that we'll get a little
gore we'll get a little contest we'll have a little fun that's for patrons uh we do right now it's
just live for everybody because there's no great private live thing it's just they're not good
twitch yeah or anything even youtube isn't that great
Just like a bunch of problems with it.
So we're just going to be here and do the thing.
But you guys get the big unedited thing.
Yeah, you get the unedited show.
You get the show in general because you helped us out.
But you're going to get all that other stuff up on the site.
So watch for that.
Coming up soon.
Brian, let's play a song, though, to get out of here.
What do you got?
Sure.
Erica wrote in and said, my husband loves you guys.
I can definitely see why he loves us.
Today is his 43rd birthday.
It was actually two days ago.
Could you play a song for him?
He loves industrial music, but his entire aesthetic is nerdy, middle-aged man.
We get it.
We do get it.
I adore him.
You can choose the song.
I just wanted to know how much he means to me, signed Erica.
That's so sweet.
I love that.
Yeah.
I don't have a lot of industrial music, industrial covers.
There's a few in my library.
I mean, Cabre Voltaire.
Depeche Mode is industrial, of course.
Sure.
Kind of pop industrial or alternative industrial.
But I always think of kind that held for demighted, which is KMFDM.
It's not it doesn't stand for kill MREF in Depeche Mode.
We all thought it did because we were told that, but no.
We were told that.
They recorded a cover of U2's mysterious ways for a project called Shut Up, Kitty.
And we're going to play that one for you right now.
Here is Mysterious Ways by KMFDM.
Show is part of the Frog Pants Network.
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