The One You Feed - Keep Trying- Mini Episode

Episode Date: March 13, 2016

Real change is possible but it takes time- Keep Trying! JK Rowling was broke and depressed and her book had been rejected by 12 different publishers. This was right before Harry Potter was finally accepted and hit the big time. It took me three different attempts to finally achieve sobriety. Gone with the wind was rejected 38 times. Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance was rejected 121 times Edison famously tried 1000 different approaches before getting the light bulb right. We often cite these examples as encouragement to keep trying at things like business or success. What if we applied the same principles and tenacity to our internal development? What if we kept trying at emotional and mental change? We have to do this stuff over and over again, change takes time. There are no easy answers or shortcuts to a life worth living.Our sponsor this week is FractureVisit Fracture and use the promo code “wolf” to get 10% off!!    The Tale of Two WolvesA grandfather is talking with his grandson and he says there are two wolves inside of us which are always at war with each other. One of them is a good wolf which represents things like kindness, bravery and love. The other is a bad wolf, which represents things like greed, hatred and fear.The grandson stops and thinks about it for a second then he looks up at his grandfather and says, “Grandfather, which one wins?”The grandfather quietly replies, the one you feedThe Tale of Two Wolves is often attributed to the Cherokee indians but there seems to be no real proof of this. It has also been attributed to evangelical preacher Billy Graham and Irish Playwright George Bernard Shaw. It appears no one knows for sure but this does not diminish the power of the parable.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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And there's a whole lot of things catching my eyes these days. Listen to the I Am Rappaport Stereo Podcast on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, and wherever you get your podcasts. Hey, everybody. It's Eric from The One You Feed back with another mini episode. from the one you feed back with another mini episode. She was depressed, just gotten divorced, had a young daughter who she wasn't sure how she would feed, and then went on to be rejected by 12 publishers. This is J.K. Rowling, the author of the Harry Potter books, before Harry Potter broke out. The Beatles famously were rejected. We've all heard the stories about it took Edison a thousand times to make the light bulb. You know, a thousand tries that didn't work

and he finally made it. Zen and the art of motorcycle maintenance was rejected 121 times. It took me three tries before I achieved my first long-term sobriety. So these are the sort of stories that we hear all the time, and they're usually presented to us in the sense of things like keep trying at business, or keep submitting your book, or in my case, keep trying to get sober, which are all very valuable points. And I think we all need reminded of that success doesn't often come right at the beginning, that it takes us a while to achieve success. But I wanted to talk about these ideas in a slightly different way today.

And I wanted to talk about them in the sense of what it takes to change the way our mind works and what it takes to change our emotional makeup and how we deal with the world. Because the things that we talk about on this show a lot, mindfulness and meditation and getting some distance from our thoughts and learning to question our thoughts and taking action even when we don't feel like it. These are all things that take a lot of work. And I know for a period of my life, I would try something like this. I would hear like, do this thing, question your thoughts. Let's use that as an example. And so I would question my thoughts for a day, and I would still have the same crappy thoughts at the end of the

day, and I would give up. So all of these practices that we talk about take a lot of time. We have to do them again and again and again. We have to have the tenacity, like the author of Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance did, to submit his book 121 times. Apparently, Howard Schultz, the founder of Starbucks, was rejected by over 200 investors. So the point is, these things take time. So if you're working on a meditation practice, if you're trying to be more mindful, if you're working to change your thoughts, if you're working to change your thoughts, if you're working to question your thoughts, if you're trying to build an exercise practice and you failed again and again, keep trying. That message is so important. We just have to

keep doing these things. There are no easy answers. I wish there were. I wish there was a way to say three special sentences to you and suddenly all your troubles in life would disappear and all your negative thinking would disappear. But that's not been my experience. And believe me, I've looked high and low for those sorts of things and they don't exist. So the only real answer we have is to keep practicing these things, do them over and over and over and be patient on the results. But by taking these practices, we will see benefit. We'll see small benefits right away and we'll reap larger benefits over time. But it's definitely a thing you have to keep working for, keep trying.

So if you try that new communication technique with your wife tonight and it doesn't go great, don't go, well, that didn't work and give up. I mean, I've been guilty of that. Like I'm going to go home and what I'll do is when that person gets angry with me, I'll respond with kindness. And I do that and the person still is angry with me and I think this just doesn't work and I give up. But I need to realize that patterns that have been put into place over years and years and years take some time to unwind. The same with thought patterns that we've been having since we were very young. These take some time to unwind, but it's worth doing. Keep at it. Stick with it. Be patient with the process.

If you're looking for a little bit of guidance along the way, we have the One You Feed coaching program. You can go to oneyoufeed.net slash coaching to learn more about it. We'll have another episode out on Tuesday as always. Thanks for listening. Take care. Talk soon. Bye. Thank you.