The Oprah Podcast - Your Life Changes When Your Beliefs Do with Shawn Achor and Oprah
Episode Date: July 14, 2026Buy the Book: The Power of Beliefs by Shawn Achor https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0FBVK3HYN?lv=shuf&channelId=500&plpRedirect=mhFallback Oprah sits down with renowned positive psychology researcher and b...estselling author Shawn Achor to discuss his new book, The Power of Beliefs: How Strengthening Seven Core Beliefs Predicts Greater Success and a Better Life. While teaching at Harvard University and working with organizations around the world Shawn has spent more than two decades studying the connection between happiness, success and human potential. In this conversation he reveals why our beliefs don't just influence how we see the world they can actually predict what happens next. Drawing on groundbreaking research and deeply personal stories Shawn shares the seven core beliefs he says have the greatest impact on our life. Oprah and Shawn also explore the power of gratitude and how that practice alone can change what you believe to be true. Through audience questions and personal stories this episode offers a hopeful roadmap for anyone feeling stuck or disconnected. Thank you to our fantastic partners at The Farmer's Dog for presenting this episode. Their real, human-grade food has been clinically shown to support healthy aging, so you can have more good years together. URL: www.thefarmersdog.com/oprahpodcast 00:00:00 - Oprah on success 00:05:20 - What are your core beliefs? 00:07:17 - Welcome Shawn Achor, author of “The Power of Beliefs” 00:12:50 - Belief: Your behavior matters 00:16:09 - Belief: The power of gratitude 00:21:00 - When Shawn’s beliefs were tested 00:28:53 - Belief: I have something to give 00:34:06 - Woman’s vulnerable TikTok 00:37:30 - The value of knowing we are not alone 00:42:52 - How Shawn helped Flint, MI 00:46:30 - The placebo effect and beliefs 00:52:00 - Can belief change? 00:58:00 - Times when beliefs can change quickly 00:59:36 - Belief: Believing in something that’s greater than you 01:02:02 - What Oprah believes Subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/@oprah Follow Oprah Winfrey on Social: https://www.instagram.com/oprahpodcast/ https://www.facebook.com/oprahwinfrey/ Listen to the full podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/0tEVrfNp92a7lbjDe6GMLI https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-oprah-podcast/id1782960381 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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We saw a TikTok with 17 million views of a young woman who was crashing out.
Do you want me to be honest? I'm angry. I'm mad. I'm mad. Because I care more about you than you care about me.
And no matter how much I try to let go of it and give it to God.
It's still so heavy.
Wow.
You were having a day.
I was.
You were having a day.
Beliefs are more powerful than I think we give them credit for.
You wrote a whole book, so you give them a lot of credit.
I'm a big man of beliefs.
You're actually giving them a lot of credit.
There's lots of definitions of belief.
Mine is just a simple one.
It's the lens to which you view the world.
What advice do you have to this generation of people who are dating
who have no belief that finding true love is real?
That question is going to him, not to me.
I know this for sure.
You do not become what you wish for.
You do not become what you want.
You do not become even what you aspire to.
You become exactly what you believe is possible.
Okay, so Forbes was doing a list on 250 of the greatest self-made people in the country.
And guess who's number one?
I usually don't, honest of goodness, I usually don't care about these things
because a person just sent me another person who's on the list,
who sent me the list.
And they said, oh, I'm so happy to be on this list with you.
And I said, what list is it?
Oh, it's the Forbes list.
Now, what's great about this list?
It's about the people who are the self-made people in the country.
And also, one of the way they measured it is the distance that you've come from where you were
to where you are.
And this makes me want to cry
because it in such a long way
from Cazisco, Dirt Road, Mississippi,
to here.
It's like it's like it's another planet.
Born to a teen mother, poverty, Mississippi,
racism, misogynism, sexism, all of that stuff.
But I will tell you this.
That's why this show is so important.
It never occurred to me in all the successes that I've had
that I wouldn't be successful.
Never occurred to me that I wouldn't be successful.
And the reason it never occurred to me
is because of what we're talking about today, your beliefs.
Because from the time I was that little girl
in rural Mississippi on my grandmother's back porch, screen porch,
and her, y'all who know me, you've heard this story,
she was hanging out the clothes on the line
because she was a domestic worker and would bring the sheet,
home to boil them in the big black pot because we didn't have washing machines.
And she was boiling the sheets in the pot and taking them out and putting them on the line.
And she said, Oprah Gale, you better watch me because one day you're going to have to do this for yourself.
And I could feel inside myself that the Forbes list was coming.
It would take seven to here.
No. Of course, I didn't know one darn thing about a Forbes list,
but I could feel inside myself that I am not going to be hanging clothes on a line
and boiling them in a pot because I believed that this is the belief that has carried me my whole life.
I believed that I was God's child because I would sit in the service every Sunday
and I would listen to the preacher say, you're God's child.
And because I didn't have a father, didn't know who my father was at the time,
I didn't know my father until I was seven, eight years old.
I thought that God was actually my father.
And therefore, Jesus was my brother.
And that we were just all in the family together.
And that through God, all things are possible.
So I actually believed that.
So in every endeavor, every contest I was in, every speaking engagement,
when I moved to Baltimore, when I got the job,
there when I got my first job at 16, when I moved to Chicago and everybody said, Chicago is the most racist place you can ever go for a job.
It never occurred to me that I wouldn't get the job because I was a woman or because of the color of my skin.
I thought if I don't get the job, it's because they don't like me.
It's because I'm not funny enough. I'm not warm enough. I'm not good enough.
But it never occurred to me because why?
I'm God's child.
That is a core belief that I have had
that has carried me everywhere.
So I wanted to know what are your core beliefs
because I know this for sure.
You do not become what you wish for.
You do not become what you want.
You do not become even what you aspire to.
You become exactly what you believe is possible.
And those beliefs carry you forward.
You make all your decisions
based upon what do you really believe.
And so if you're not getting where you want to go,
you have to look at what is the ceiling of my beliefs.
OK?
So who wants to answer that?
What do you believe?
What do you believe?
Yes.
Yeah.
I want to stop the suffering to help others.
OK.
I really believe that I'm here to serve others.
And what way?
In their mental, just capacity.
Yeah.
But also to find themselves.
OK.
That's a core belief.
That's a core belief.
OK.
OK.
OK.
OK.
Alexandra, where's your core belief?
My core belief is that I'm worth something.
I'm worth something.
That you're worth something.
Yes.
Okay.
That you matter.
Yeah.
Okay.
Core belief?
My core belief is that what's for you will flow to you effortlessly and without force.
Okay.
And how has that shown up in your life?
I'm a very hard worker, very ambitious.
Everything that I've worked hard for leads me to opportunities, but the ultimate thing that really pushes me forward usually flows to me and comes to me.
Okay.
Wonderful.
Melanie?
believe is to treat yourself and others with kindness because you never know what somebody's going
through. Okay. And how has that showed up in your life? How is that manifested for you?
It's manifested because the people that have come into my life, I feel like have taught me about
myself and especially because you never know what somebody's going through. And I've had sadly friends
who have, who are no longer here because they've taken their life. And I think that has been an opportunity
for me to learn how to lead with kindness to be able to show up for our brothers and sisters.
And so that's what you do.
That's what I do.
And that's been a guiding principle in your life.
Okay.
All right.
Well, I'm so happy today because my guest is a renowned positive psychology researcher
who studies the connection between happiness and success.
And we met many years ago when I first interviewed him and now he's written a new book
call The Power of Beliefs, How Strengthening Seven Core Beliefs Predicts Greater Success and a Better Life.
It's wonderful to see you again.
Sean, a core.
Now you've heard the audience talk about some of their core beliefs.
The subtitle of your book is How Strengthening Seven Core Beliefs Predicts Greater Success and a Better Light.
I loved it when she said, I matter because that's one of them, right?
Yes.
Yes, yes. Welcome.
Thank you.
Good to see you again.
So good to see you again.
Wasn't it good to hear people talk about beliefs?
It was.
I think it's the core of, it's the core predictor of what happens next in our lives.
that these beliefs don't just shape our experience of the present.
They predict what happens next,
not only in someone's lifelong term,
but also in the course of going through cancer treatment
or trying to be a student trying to find a job
or trying to find love in this world.
And tell us why, because your definition of belief is...
There's lots of definitions of belief.
Mine is that it's just a simple one.
It's the lens to which you view the world,
but that that lens is something,
that's unique to us and human.
Yeah.
And we have AI right now that can predict
whether or not someone's going to
their likelihood of surviving cancer
or their likelihood of finding a job.
We can predict the odds,
but what AI can't do is believe.
It can't believe you will ever beat the odds.
It will never believe that you can beat the odds
to be successful if you started at one socioeconomic place.
It can't believe you'll beat the odds
and find a job or find love or overcome cancer,
that's uniquely human because that requires willpower and determination
and hope in this quiet fire that says that I believe my behavior still matters.
Wow. Okay. So what I was saying earlier, you and I've talked about this before,
that I don't think you just get what you want in life. You don't get what you want,
no matter even how hard you work. If there is somewhere a subconscious belief that you
can't have it. That's right. If there's a subconscious ceiling somewhere that believes it because
you are a woman or because you're short or because you're black or brown or whatever your race,
if there's somewhere inside you that subconsciously believes that, that will prevent you from
going forward. I don't, I've seen it over and over and over again, but I don't actually understand
how that, you know, physically works. Can you explain it? I can. But there's actually amazing
research on this very phenomenon that you're talking about. They did studies where they had a
student come in and they were about to give them a math test. But if it was a woman about to take a
math test or a black student, before taking the test, half of the students would be given a neutral
article just talking about the world right now. And then half would read an article about how women
are not good at math or black students are not good at math. And then they take the test. And what they
found is that the students were randomly assigned. The scores, the math scores should have been the same
for both groups. But the groups that heard that they do not perform as well, when they read that,
they start to believe that. And when that happens, the math scores actually dropped significantly.
And they've done this over and over again. But I have to tell you, as I heard your introduction,
there is something that we've heard some of these studies before. It's called stereotype threat,
that if I threaten you with a stereotype,
you perform worse across the board.
But what's amazing in the research
that not many people know about
is that there's a 10% minority report
that we never talk about.
10% of the women or those black students
that read that racist article beforehand,
10% of them do better on the math test.
They hear that belief that you're not good at math,
and they actually perform better
than if they had not.
even had that prime of that prime and the reason for that is that you've touched on a signature belief
something that they believe so deeply that no matter what the world says yeah they believe that
eventually my behavior matters have linked to the right people yeah yeah because i was thinking if
i was taking that test i would have i would have thought well i'm going to show you exactly yeah i'm
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Up next, Sean Acour explains why he believes your future is shaped less by your circumstances
and more by what you believe about them.
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shapes your life. So we don't have time to work today on strengthening all seven, all seven,
but I wanted to just focus on the first three. And number one is my behavior matters. So let's
talk about how we can begin to focus on behavior and why that matters and why that makes a difference
in your future. Okay, and as I'm speaking, if you, if you guys have a question, please let us know,
because I think this is the key to having a successful and happy life
is the power of your beliefs.
And ultimately, it's do you believe that the world is for you or against you?
Isn't it?
Do you believe that the world is for you,
or do you believe that the world is stacked against you?
So I think we live in a world that doesn't look like it should.
And in the midst of that world, we keep reading news stories
that we keep feeling like my behavior doesn't matter.
or we get a negative feedback at work,
or we don't get a job,
or we go through a breakup,
or something bad happens in our life.
And what happens in those moments
is if you take the same broken world,
but you give a different belief
to that same individual,
their outcomes change dramatically.
If you take the same student with ADHD,
the same young mother who's trying to overcome the debts that she's in,
or caring for aging parents,
or the same person that's growing older,
If you take that same person at work or just getting a cancer diagnosis,
and you have changed one belief.
And that belief is my behavior matters or my behavior doesn't matter.
What happens next, changes dramatically in the science we do.
So what we find is if you believe your behavior matters and you have stage three cancer,
you eat healthier.
You go to the doctor.
You take the medication you need.
You deepen your relationships with your friends because you know that that's going to help you.
And what we find is their outcomes change.
Same world, different beliefs, different outcomes.
This is so amazing that you're saying this,
because I had a friend recently, he was going through cancer
and also struggles with eating.
And when they got the cancer diagnosis,
actually started eating and eating and eating and eating and eating and eating.
And said that they were really just trying to take themselves out.
Yeah.
And after, you know, I basically did an intervention.
to say your behavior makes a difference.
And so you have to be a participant.
And first of all, believe that eating healthy is going to make a difference.
Right.
Yes.
But the important part that I would add to that is that positive beliefs don't guarantee positive outcomes.
But they do propel us towards them.
That if I believe in hope that a good outcome would happen from a cancer,
It doesn't guarantee that outcome will happen, but it propels us towards.
It changes the way you approach it.
It changes the attitude.
I know that my wife and I, Michelle, every time she was pregnant, I prayed and hoped and believed
that our children would be okay and be healthy.
And we went through two miscarriages.
And, you know, in the midst of when our hopes are dashed, when we feel like the world
doesn't look like it should, in those moments, if we've been.
given up the belief that my behavior matters or is that I matter or that we still have something
to be grateful for or that there's something greater than me we wouldn't have our children right now
right and and we would have a very different view on the world okay so my behavior matters key number
one but you just said we still have something to be grateful for you know great gratitude is actually
my religion it is my greatest spiritual practice and there is you know no one
who has more gratitude for where I've come from to where I am.
There's not a day that I don't think about it.
There's not a day that I'm not aware of the work that I've done,
but also the blessings that I've received for it.
So I think being grateful is key to everything.
Yes.
And even in the worst of times, when you're feeling the worst,
the way to turn around those negative vibrations,
those negative feelings, I think,
is to sit and think about what is you're grateful for.
And if you can't think of it,
just listen to yourself, breathe, that you have breath,
that you have breath.
What do you think about gratitude?
Well, my first book was called The Happiness Advantage.
Yeah.
And what we found was that when the brain becomes more grateful
for the world that we're in,
it doesn't mean that we're grateful for everything that's happening.
Right.
It doesn't mean we're grateful for the inequality
or the discrimination or the racism that's in our world right now.
But when we find those moments that things we're grateful for,
in the midst of it, it allows our brain
to actually move from the part of the brain that sees
how my behavior doesn't matter, that fearful part that says,
things will never get better or that I will never be okay.
To the front part of the brain that moves forward.
And what we find is as somebody becomes more grateful,
what we find is that almost every single business
and educational outcome we know how to test for improves dramatically.
It just does.
Our sales rise, our productivity improves.
We live longer, we become more altruistic.
Everything we test for on the ACT and SAT serendized test rises.
Our creativity nearly triples, our intelligence rises.
it turns out having a grateful brain
is one of the greatest possible advantages
you could give to someone in the midst of a world
that doesn't look like it should.
Yeah, I will say this just to share with you guys,
I've kept a gratitude journal since like 1992, I think.
And there was a period where I had a whole lot of stuff going on
and was not writing down my five things every day.
And I started to feel more disconnected, more...
I wouldn't say depressed, but just like disjoint it
and things started to go wrong and I couldn't figure out.
And I went, oh, I know what it is.
I haven't been practicing gratitude.
And that's why now I say it's a religion
because I practice it religiously.
It's like it's like the last thing I do
before I go to bed every night.
I love that.
Yeah, yeah.
And I've been doing it for years.
I have journals and journals and journals.
It's getting better because it used to be like filled with food.
I had the best pancakes today.
and the best is today, and la-da-da-da-da-da.
I'm so grateful for this whipped cream on the bottom.
Yeah.
But the little small things, you know, like water pressure in the show.
Isn't water pressure a thing to be grateful for?
Oh, my God, when you're in a hotel in the water, drip, drip, drip.
So when you go to a hotel and the water pressure, it's like, oh, my God!
It's so great, great, great.
And so I think that that actually changes your brain, doesn't it?
Isn't it, the gratitude?
It does, because gratitude is searching for the good that's in the world around us.
And it changes not only what we feel when we have water pressure or central air or food on our
plate, it changes what happens next for people.
There's this amazing demonstration experiment that was done by a researcher named Richard Wiseman.
And what he did is he had people come into a room like this one, and he would give them a
survey and find out, do you think that you are a grateful person and that you're a lucky person?
The good things just seem to happen to you, that if you work for it,
the world can conspire in your favor.
Or do you think you're an unlucky person?
The bad things just keep happening to you
no matter how hard you work.
And then he hands him a newspaper.
And in the newspaper,
he wants you to count the number of photographs that are in it.
So you go quickly through it,
and if you get the number correct,
you get five pounds if it was done in the UK.
So the people start doing it as quickly as possible,
looking for all the photos in the newspaper.
But on page two of everyone's newspaper,
but in big letters, but not in a photo,
It says stop the experiment now,
we'll give you 10 pounds if you stop now.
And here's what happens.
The people who felt that they were unlucky,
the people who are the pessimists
or the people who felt like good things
wouldn't happen to them,
they finished the experiment and they get paid
because they get the number correct,
they get five pounds.
But the group that thought the good things just happened to them,
that good things can happen in this world,
the optimist, it turns out that they stopped the experiment
and not only get double pay,
but they saw,
an opportunity that other people didn't see in that reality.
And neuroscience has found out why afterwards.
Why?
They found that when we're in a grateful state,
when we're positive, our brain thinks it's possible
for there to be good things around us.
So your brain scans for it.
But if you don't believe that it's possible
that there are good things in the world around us,
you don't look for them so you miss out on those possibilities.
I'm reminded of this quote by my favorite author,
who's C.S. Lewis, and he said that there are people
that believe in miracles and sometimes see them.
And there are people that don't believe in miracles
and never see one.
I think the same thing is true for people.
They're scanning for the things
that they're grateful for in their lives.
Well, it's been over 10 years now
since we had our conversation.
And eight years since you published your last book,
was it Big Potential?
Yes.
Yeah.
And you reveal in the power of belief
that you intentionally took your foot off the gas pedal
for a while,
just of your career.
because you wanted to, what?
Well, eight years ago, I had this book come out,
and my wife, Michelle, was pregnant at the time,
and we were going to have a baby at the end of April.
So I decided, let's have this book come out
the first week of February,
so I could go on the book tour, sprint,
and then get off the road and be there with my wife and new child.
The day before the book came out was the Super Bowl.
And during the Super Bowl, during the first quarter,
while my team was playing, my wife's water broke.
We didn't know that was what was going on at the time,
which is very important to this story.
It was three months too early,
and it was during the Super Bowl.
So she Uber to the hospital.
Husband of the year.
I got her in Uber XL, so that's fancy.
And she got there, and they said,
ma'am, your water broke.
You need to stay here for six weeks
trying to hold this baby in.
And two days later, she was rushed into emergency surgery.
We didn't even have a name for this child.
it was three months too early
and we almost lost her three times
in a two-day period of time.
And she kept sparking back to life
and we found her name.
Her name is Zoe Sparks, A-Core,
and she just turned eight.
Oh, nice, nice, nice.
But instead of going on a book tour
to talk about research
on how you pursue happiness and success,
instead, my happiness as a researcher
sat in the NICU and an incubator
for the next 50 days
why these doctors tried to keep her alive.
And what happened in that moment overnight
is my beliefs about what was important
and how I mattered changed.
And what changed next in my life
was because of those beliefs.
I remember holding Zoe's hand,
this little three-pound baby
that was under the purple light
with all those wires just keeping her alive.
And I decided that I was going to not only take a step back from work,
but I was going to become a full-time dad
for the next couple years to take care of Zoe
and our family.
And it was amazing.
And it was also hard at the same time.
in a way I didn't expect, because I saw all these opportunities that I wanted seemed to pass me by.
And the world seemed like it was passing me by.
But I'm grateful for that time because not only did shift my beliefs, but also it gave me space.
And when the pandemic occurred, these hospitals and schools started reaching out about what could they do when they were suffering so much.
And I had the space, but also that meaningful belief to try and help in those moments.
And what I learned from those people, those nurses, the doctors, those school teachers was the same thing I learned from Zoe, that the lens to which you view the world changes not only a present.
It changes what happens next.
We have to take a break.
When we return, Sean shares a personal story about a time when he felt he no longer mattered and how only an instant, an unexpected stranger flipped his perspective.
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We're back with positive psychologist Sean Acore
and we're talking about the power of beliefs.
Maybe this conversation has you asking yourself,
What do you believe?
What beliefs are you holding back?
You write about the pause in your work life, and you also, can you tell the story of the morning you woke up in Minneapolis to speak at Target?
Yes.
Yeah.
So this is a petty story, but it leads to something good.
I think that's important to say because beliefs are real, even if they're not true.
If a child, if a student is surrounded by people who love them and care for them and parents that care for them and teachers that care for them, and teachers that
care about them, but they believe that they're not lovable or believe that they're alone.
That belief is not true, but it's real.
It creates real effects.
So in this period that I was a stay-at-home dad, I started to feel like these opportunities
were passing me by.
And I showed up, I got to the talk at 3 a.m. in the morning, so I was tired.
When I woke up the next morning, I got a news alert that someone had made in my space,
had gotten the New York Times number one bestseller.
And I thought to myself, I wish I had that,
but I'm a stay-at-home dad now, so good for them.
And then- It was a happiness book.
Yes.
And then I got another note, literally five seconds later,
that someone got this incredible opportunity
that I really would have wanted.
And because I was tired, in that moment,
I went into a mental tailspin.
And my brain thought, you know, if you stopped working,
the world wouldn't be like, no, it would just shrug.
And then I started to feel like,
maybe I'm mad or less now.
And then I thought, maybe I don't matter.
And as soon as I had that belief, things started to change.
What happened immediately is I was blind to the opportunity to get to speak at Target.
I was blind to the fact that I had taken time to be there with Zoe and Leo.
And I remember getting into a car to go to the talk and sitting in the backseat, looking out the window, despondent,
and just feeling like I was watching the world pass by.
Well, the driver took me to the wrong location.
He took me to Target headquarters, but I was supposed to go to a theater.
And so the organizers called me on the phone and said,
stay where you are, don't go anywhere.
We're going to send somebody to come get you.
It's clear you're lost.
And I felt lost.
But I decided to go up the escalator into Target headquarters.
And while I was doing that, this guy jogged up the stairs next to the escalator.
And he said, are you Sean Acor?
And I said, yes, thinking that this was the escort.
And he shook my hand awkwardly over the railing as we were going up the escalator and stairs together.
And as we got to the top of the escalator, he said, I just wanted to let you know, your book changed my life.
And then he went through a turnstile into Target headquarters and disappeared.
And I have no idea who he is.
I have no idea who he was.
I have no idea why the research, not my book, but the research had an impact upon his life.
But as soon as my brain heard that message, something happened.
There's a study that just came out in nature where they found that if you provide new information to the brain,
you, these neurosciences can actually watch a neuroscans.
They can actually watch you encode a new belief almost at the speed of life.
speed of light. And that's what happened in that moment. Suddenly, the scales fell from my eyes.
I felt like I could see that this talk was an opportunity to maybe help somebody else.
And then maybe I'd done something meaningful in the past. And the talk went so much better because
it was not about me. It was about the people that were there. And when I got back into the car,
I got in back in with the same driver and sat in the same seat. And I looked out the same window.
I still felt replaced at work in the world. But I could again see that I'm at the same seat. And I
mattered in the midst of it.
Yeah, that's why knowing that you matter is so vital to every human being.
And that's, and, you know, it's one of the lessons that I learned during the Oprah Winfrey
show all those years is that after every show, somebody would say something like,
was that okay, was that good, was that all right?
No matter who it was that I was interviewing would say that.
The president said it, you know, Biante said it.
Everybody would say in one form or another, was that okay?
and I realize that the common denominator in our human experience
is that we all want to know that we matter.
Yes.
Every argument that you have, every conversation that you have,
everybody wants to know, do you hear me?
Are you listening to me?
And does what I say matter to you?
That's what everybody wants.
Back at the divinity school,
I learned that the word for angel is just simply messenger.
And that guy was an angel
because he delivered a message to my brain right when I needed.
to hear it. But we need those people within our life, those messengers, and that messenger could be
a teacher or a parent or a good friend or a therapist. We need those people, but we are also those
people. Yes. You are those people to make other people understand that they matter in your life.
And that's your number one role as a human being is to let other people. You matter to him.
You matter to let other people know that they matter. I think that's one of the course. The other
essential belief that you list is one of the seven is I have something to give. Ah, I thought that was so important
because she was saying I'm here because I'm here to serve. Yes, let's talk about I have something to give.
I love this because I think there's oftentimes in our life we feel like we don't have something to
give. If we don't have a ton of money, we might think I have nothing to give and then we don't even
give $5 to a charity. Or if we think I'm too busy, I have no time right now. Then we think I don't
have time to send that text to a friend to just check in to hear how they're doing.
What happens is that we go back and forth between these beliefs.
We either feel like we have enough or we feel like I don't have enough, but then we go
too far in this.
In the book, I pair, I don't have enough, not with I have enough because I don't think that
that's true.
I don't think that we always have enough.
We might be in debt or we might be sick or we might want things that other people have.
That's not where I'm going.
The opposite to me of that I don't have enough is I have something.
to give. And there's amazing research about how this changes us. There's a study that I've
read about in every one of my books, because I love it, is called the Good Samaritan Study. And the Good Samaritan
is a famous psychology experiment. And they had these pastors read about the story from the Bible called
the Good Samaritan, which simply was about how there was a person that was injured on the side of a path
or a road. And all these people that should have helped didn't. And then the person who you never thought
would have helped was the one who actually helped the Good Samaritan. So the pastors learned this,
are reading about the story. They're writing up a sermon, and then they have to walk across campus
to deliver the sermon, and there's two conditions. Half of them, they told you have plenty of time
to get over there, just walk down this path and you'll deliver your sermon to the people
they're waiting for you there, but you have lots of time. The other group, they said,
you are so behind right now. You took way too long to do this. You need to get over there waiting for you.
You need to get over, walk as fast as you can down that path. So there's a hurry condition and non-hurried
condition. So some of them believe, I don't have enough time. These are pastors that are reading the
Good Samaritan story about helping other people. And along the path, they put an undercover researcher
who is standing in the doorway sick and slumping over and it's clear he's in distress. And the majority
of the pastors who felt like they had enough time, stop and ask the person if they can help.
And the majority of the pastors who were reading the Good Samaritan story who felt like they didn't
have enough time, don't stop to help the person.
What this means is when we feel like we don't have enough,
we stop being the type of person that we want to be.
We stop living out the values that we have,
providing love to other people.
So as you described, that your value,
your core value is being a servant to other people.
We have to believe that we have something to give in that moment,
and it might not be money.
It might not be a lot of time that you have to spend with that person.
But even a smile or a wave or a note of kindness or a hug or a touch on the shoulder,
we've all known has a huge effect upon us and starts to help us live out our lives.
You know what else? I found this too, Sean. I found that whenever you, whatever your jobs are,
and everybody here has a different job, you know, either really like or you don't like,
but whenever you shift the paradigm of whatever it is you're doing, whatever your job title says,
whenever you shift that to service, how do I use this thing that I do in service to service to
something other than myself, it shifts. It shifts the air around it. It shifts the frequency. It shifts
the vibration. Because I believe that we are all here in service to each other. And so are you a hair,
I was just having this conversation with my hairdresser this morning, Nicole, y'all saw.
Looks good.
Good. Thank you, Nicole. I was just having this conversation with Nicole and Derek, who beats my
face into reality every day. And I was saying, gosh,
Just this morning I said to them, guys, I'm just so blessed to have you.
I feel so blessed to have you because you change the way I see myself
because I'd get up looking like, God knows.
I'm God's child, but I look like only God knows that I'm his child at that time.
So the fact that you do hair or you work in a salon or you do makeup, some people see that as a
a job, I see it is offering a different way for other people to see themselves and experience themselves.
Some people work in a florist shop. You think you're selling flowers. I see you're offering
beauty to people every day. So I think whatever your job is, whatever it is, you feel like
you have been called or not called to do, if you shift the idea of that to how do I use this
thing that I'm doing as an offering in service to someone,
it changes it changes it changes the way you see it and it also changes the way the people receive it
i love that don't you think i do yeah i know because when i said that to nicole this morning she says
well thank you i really i i see that myself i see that people change when they come in my chair and
they see themselves transformed you know that's great okay so while the team was working on this
episode we saw a tic-tok with 17 million views
of a young woman who was crashing out.
Here's a video.
You want me to be honest?
I'm angry.
I'm mad.
I'm mad because I care more about you than you care about me.
And that's how it's always God.
I'm tired of it.
I'm mad.
I'm angry.
I'm tired of feeling so much.
I'm tired of being in my head.
I hate it.
And I'm not.
matter how much I try to let go of it and give it to God.
It's still so heavy.
Wow. You were having a day.
I was.
You were having a day.
What was going on there, Daly?
I get emotional every time I listen to it.
And when I tell people about it, they're like, I want to see the video.
And I'm like, I can't handle it again.
I can't.
For context, I got out of a three-year relationship back in October.
And I found out that he had cheated on me.
And I hit a wall.
I just started a successful cleaning business
in the Kansas City area.
And it completely devastated everything.
I've dealt with anxiety and depression my whole life,
but this was it for me.
And I was trying to find anything to fill that void.
And I just found that nothing, nothing was working.
And I was so sad.
And in this video, this isn't the first time I posted
a video of me crying on TikTok,
and it's always gotten traction.
And I think that's because there's
And I think that's because there's power and vulnerability and relatability.
And so when I posted it and saw thousands of people, let's say 18 million views now on TikTok alone.
Everybody saying we relate, we see you, you're not alone.
That was healing for me, but also for other people.
Now since then, I'm doing much better now.
Certainly look at today.
In fact, I chose Jesus Christ and I turned and I fully surrendered everything because I was so
I was fed up. I was hopeless.
And since then, I've just been healed.
I've been made new.
My business is booming.
I'm healthy, physically, mentally, emotionally, everything.
That's what happens when you become God's child.
Amen, sister.
And I chose gratitude every single day.
So you're saying that I was like, that was confirmation
that I meant to be here right now.
Now, since I've dropped out of the dating pool,
I don't date anymore.
I give all of my time and energy to my cleaning business,
which is great.
Yeah.
I know that means.
Alongside a lot of women in this generation of dating feel hopeless when it comes to finding love with hookup culture with dating
With dating apps it feels hopeless. It feels pointless.
Yeah.
So what my question for you guys I guess would be?
No, it's for him. It's definitely not for me.
That question is going to him, not to me, but go ahead.
What advice do you have to this generation of people who are dating who have no belief that finding true love is real?
Well, church.
Look at the church.
Look at the church went,
Mm-hmm.
We hear you daily.
Amen, sister.
As I listen to your story,
I hear so much from this research.
Like, I think from the very beginning,
I think you heard that you're not alone.
Yeah.
I think that you helped other people know
that they're not alone in the midst of it.
That's one of the most powerful beliefs we have.
There's a study of one of my favorite studies in the book
that found that if you're looking at a hill,
you need to climb in front of you.
If you're looking at that hill by yourself,
your brain shows you a picture of a hill that looks 15% steeper
than if I put someone next to you,
do you believe is going to climb the hill with you?
That shouldn't be happening.
The hill's not changing,
but our perception of the hill that happens instantaneously
before you do anything is different based upon,
do I think I'm alone or am I with other people.
And it wasn't just the physical ones that were affecting us,
it's the emotional ones as well,
overcoming anxiety or depression or loneliness
or trying to date or try to find a job in the midst of a world that doesn't look like it should,
those mountains are collapsing or expanding based upon whether or not we think we're alone or we're with other people.
So my first thing that would say is that when we look at those challenges,
this is why happiness can't be self-help.
As soon as you put happiness books in the self-help section of a bookstore,
we make it 20 to 30 percent steeper for people to achieve because they think something's wrong with the world,
but something's wrong with me, I need to fix it.
And then once I fixed it, then I can be successful.
And what we're finding is the greatest predictor of long-term levels of happiness and success
is your social connection score.
It's other people.
It's a breadth, depth, and meaning in your social relationships.
But the other thing that I think is so important about where you're saying is that you're searching for hope,
like many people are in this world, hope not just for dating, but hope that people have
for a job or hope that they'll get over cancer.
And I talked to a pastor, one of my friends named Matt Tuggle in Dallas,
and he says that when people are crashing out or when they're at the bottom,
where a relationship fails or marriage fails,
or they don't get the job that they want or that they lose someone,
his goal at the bottom is to help them to start to believe
that the future you hoped for is not the only future with hope.
And what I loved about this is that we get fixed on one version of,
hope that changed for you, that there were other futures that had hope. But once you see that,
it gets back to the newspaper study. When we believe that there's possibility out there,
when we believe that there's something greater than me, what we find is scientifically, our beliefs
predict what happens next. And I'm not surprised to hear the incredible successes you've had in your life.
I'm so grateful to be here. I really am. Thank you. Thank you.
Thank you, Daley. So the very same week that we were working on a podcast about the power
our beliefs with Sean, my producer sent me this video that popped up in her feet.
Take a look at this.
You're okay. You're okay. Are you okay? Okay.
So that was 25-year-old me. Let me give you a little backstory. There was nothing
bigger than the Oprah Winfrey Show. Oprah was it. Growing up in a small town, I was fascinated by
people like her. How someone built a life that big. I think I just needed proof that a woman
could build something that powerful. At 24 years old, I moved to Chicago. I was an elementary
school art teacher. My best friend who also loved Oprah moved here shortly after me.
One day, she scored last minute tickets to the Oprah Winfrey show. I remember her saying something
that stuck with me when I was younger. Luck is when preparation meets opportunity.
When you stick to something and you keep grinding and you keep at it, had I not moved to Chicago,
this night at the United Center would not be happening. Don't quit. Keep going because you never know
what's on the horizon for you.
Shannon, Shannon.
Oh.
Good to see you.
Wow, that's a fun story.
So what do you know for sure about beliefs?
That they are real and they are powerful.
And I think they shape the way we move through life.
I also think that who we surround ourselves with,
what we watch, what we listen to.
Just like I was a teenager watching the Oprah Winfrey Show
when you inspired me and I'm like, she lives in Chicago.
It must be pretty good there.
Like, I think I'm going to take a chance and do this.
And, you know, my life is great there.
And I've had so many opportunities that I know for sure I wouldn't have had, had I not, you know, been inspired by you.
So I think that people shape us.
But I think ultimately it comes from within.
When you decide to take action and you try things and you fail and you grow and you learn and life beats you up a little bit and you keep going, you start to gain confidence.
And then you start to like really believe in your own power.
Wow. Well, good to see you again.
Good to see you. It's great to see you.
Wow, wow. In the book, you write about a former public teacher.
I want to talk schools with school superintendent. Tell us about that.
Yes. So I got the opportunity to work with a superintendent of Genesee County, which is where Flint, Michigan is.
Yeah.
And was invited in to share this research on beliefs and happiness.
And I was nervous going in because it's Flint. You've got entrenched inequality.
and discrimination, racism, and lead in the drinking water,
they had to turn off the water fountains while they were there for the students.
In the midst of that, to come in and talk about happiness and optimism
was daunting, but also, I believe, so crucial.
Because when the teachers believe that their behavior might not matter,
they left on average after two years.
So our goal was, could we change the beliefs for the teachers
and see if it had effect upon the students?
Oh, so Dr. Hagle is here.
Tell us how positive beliefs changed your district.
Yeah, thank you for having me.
Thank you for being here.
So I think all of us know that systems themselves don't change.
Right.
People actually make the difference in change.
And so with Sean's work, we really intentionally focused on people
and did a lot of training and time intentionally with people
and used his first book, Happiness Advantage,
and the strategies within happiness advantage
to focus on our greatest asset,
which are the people inside of the intermediate school district,
and worked to ensure that the staff and the students
inside of the intermediate school district knew that they are valued,
that what they do mattered, how they feel mattered,
and ensure that...
Because isn't that what everybody wants?
Every person, no matter what everybody wants.
Every person, no matter what they feel mattered.
what their role is inside of the school district.
Everybody wants to know.
Everybody felt that they were important.
So over what period of time did you all do this work?
We had, this work began around 2012, and it continues today.
It's not just an initiative.
It is a belief.
Yeah.
It's a way of being.
It's a way of being.
When you go to work, the way you show up to work,
it's a different.
It's a deeper meaning of care so that you are lifting each other every day.
And so that through Sean's work, you know, happiness fuels more happiness and more success.
Yeah.
And now the people actually believe that.
Yeah.
Now we all believe we matter.
Now you believe that.
And you're protective of that.
And children believe that and it shows up in their academic success.
Oh, that's huge for children, isn't it?
Huge.
Yeah.
When the teachers started to believe that their behavior mattered, that they were not alone.
What we saw was in the classrooms where the teacher's levels of optimism rose,
the teacher's students test scores rose,
but we weren't working with the students.
We were working with the teachers,
and you could see the contagious effect of positive beliefs,
not just upon ourselves, but upon the people that we serve as well.
And we got reports to people in the community
who sometimes the teachers never even met,
the guardians or the parents of those students,
that their well-being scores were improving.
So we worked with the teachers,
but you could see an effect upon the students
and upon the community,
which I think both of those stories,
that both of you described about how beliefs,
beliefs are more powerful than I think we give them credit for.
And I think one of the most exciting things.
You wrote a whole book, so you give them a lot of credit.
I'm a big fan of beliefs.
You're actually giving them a lot of credit beliefs, yes, yes.
But here's something amazing that I didn't know
until I started working on the book that changed,
I think, everything for me.
So I would love to share this because I think
is both of what you're saying,
is that we've heard of something called the placebo effect.
The placebo effect is the belief that,
If I give you a fake pill or a fake intervention,
but you believe that it's real,
you show real health outcome benefits.
In fact, every drug that the federal drug administration has to test,
we compare it to the power of beliefs.
We've known this for a while.
In fact, well, we've known this,
but we underestimate the power of beliefs
because there is a study back in 2001
called the sham knee surgery,
which is a famous one because what they did is they invited 300 gentlemen in
and they had terrible knee pain that would not get better.
I read that.
I would have been very pissed if I was in,
Oh, you can see that.
They don't know what's coming.
Okay.
Because two-thirds of them,
so they got a free,
they were offered a free knee surgery.
I don't even know how they got away with this,
but go ahead.
I don't know how they got this.
Two-thirds of them did get a free knee surgery.
The doctor came in at the Baylor College of Medicine,
created an incision,
fix the ligaments,
fix the cartilage,
and sutured them back up,
leaving a scar.
For the other third,
they just get a little incision.
The doctor comes in, gives them an incision,
goes has a coffee,
and then comes back and sutures them back up,
giving them a scar but no surgery.
But when they wake up from anesthesia,
they have a scar,
so they don't know if they got a real surgery or not.
Here's what happened.
At the six-month mark,
the healing effects for both groups
were almost identical
between the real surgery and the sham surgery.
Two years later, mobility, inflammation, pain
were all improved almost at the same level
between people that got a real surgery
and people that believed that they had a surgery.
surgery. But this is where things take a huge turn because we've heard about
placebos. This is the part that if you walk away from one thing from our
conversation together, it's that we live in a world where we feel like the power
of belief is on the decline. With technology and the way that the world is right now,
it feels like our beliefs are dwindling in this world. But scientifically,
we're actually getting the complete opposite message. So the placebo effect
remained constant over time. But I was looking at depression studies and I found that over the
past three decades, the placebo effect, the likelihood of a fake intervention that you believe is
real to have an effect upon you rose by 7% every decade for three decades. Why would belief
become more predictive of people's lives? So I got fascinated. And I started going deeper into
the research. I read over 100 articles and meta-analyses. And what I found is in all these
conditions, from heart disease to cancer, to childhood epilepsy, to depression, to anxiety,
we found that the placebo rate over the past two decades
has doubled if not tripled.
What this means for you is that the power of belief
is not dwindling or declining.
Scientifically, the power of belief to heal us
is greater now than it was 20 years ago,
that the power of belief is actually ascending.
Wow. Okay.
I still would have been very upset
if I got the fake meat.
surgery you know I would have been I mean how did those no and you would have been
better possibly there had to be some people that got the fakes that their
knees started to hurt after a while there had to be some absolutely and there were
people that got the real surgery and it didn't work okay I went through back
surgery myself and have the scar and you know I was one of the lucky ones that
it actually worked yeah but I don't know if I got a real surgery I was asleep
All right, all right.
So I wanted as you know, for you, too, Shannon,
after being on the Oprah show in that moment,
and how have beliefs carried you through the rest of your life?
I've always, I think I had really,
I had, have really supportive parents.
My dad was the ultimate optimist,
but he was a really hard worker,
and just he saw the good and everything.
And I think subconsciously he passed away
almost three years ago.
I'm carrying his spirit.
and his, I feel him in me, and I know that how I've approached things and I wake up in the morning
and list five things before I get out of bed that I'm grateful for. And I didn't do that before.
I think it just comes with age. I've evolved and changed, but I've always just believed,
just keep going. And I just have followed, you know, what I've always loved to do, which is
creating art. It's that grateful journal. It makes a difference. It does. Don't you see.
See it makes a difference?
Changes your vibration.
Yeah.
Simone, you have a question?
Yes.
I do. Thank you so much for having me.
This has been great.
So I'm 23 and just kind of entering the corporate world
from graduating from college.
And I think this discussion and your work in general
has really reminded me of the book Atomic Habits
and kind of how you change your identity
when you're kind of unraveling a smoking addiction
is like the example that comes to mine.
And it's changed from like, I'm a smoker,
so like what's the harm in another cigarette
versus I am not a smoker even if I'm smoking.
right now and I think that it reminded me a lot of like an attribute I've been praised for which is being
hardworking and we've talked about that a lot today and I think that it's something that I've
always thought was really important and I think as it's progressed particularly entering entering
the workforce I kind of don't want to sacrifice that but I kind of find myself in a place where work
dominates a lot of my life and so it's hardworking almost to a fault and where you're like
neglecting other areas and so I guess even though I think it takes work and effort to maintain relationships
whether it's socially or romantically,
like we were talking about before.
So I guess my kind of question is,
how do you go about a belief
that you're worried is kind of harming you in some way?
Or do you have to unwind that,
or can you believe in it too much to a fault?
It's a great question.
Such a great question.
Thank you so much.
It's a beautiful one that I think a lot of us wrestle with,
because what you're asking about is can belief change
and how do we change it, and what do we lose
when we change those beliefs?
I was worried when I took time away with Zoe
that the world was passing me by,
and it did have cost.
We're missing out all the time.
Right now, while we're here in this incredible moment,
someone's kissing for the first time, right?
Or they're winning a race, right?
Or they're having a baby, right?
Or they're having these moments.
We're missing out in different ways,
and they're missing out on this moment.
What we find in those times is we're looking,
can beliefs change and does it take a long time?
And I think that one of the most important things I've learned in this research
is about how those entrenched beliefs
that sometimes hold us back can actually change.
If I can, I would love to tell a story
that I went through, that was what made me experience that.
It relates to the Hill study that I mentioned earlier.
So a few years ago, my wife and I, Michelle and I,
got to go on an eight-hour hike in the White Mountains of New Hampshire.
And we decided this in February, but we were going to go in October
when the leaves were changing.
Then I got a brilliant idea.
What if we brought to your son?
My son, Leo, on this trip, who's eight.
My wife, who's the smarter of the two of us, said,
that's a terrible idea.
It's eight hours.
It's an incredibly difficult hike, and he's eight years old.
So I bugged her for the next eight months, but the answer was still no.
Until the night before the hike, with minimal coaching, my son Leo, went up to Michelle and said,
Mom, can I please go on that hike with you tomorrow, so I have something to be proud of.
So the next morning, the three of us got to go on an eight-hour hike in the White Mountains in New Hampshire.
We started our hike at 9 a.m.
We started our 8-hour hike at 9 a.m., and we finished the hike at 11 a.m.
the next day.
It started out so well.
We started hiking and we were in good spirits
and I saw some hikers past Miami and I know,
I know what they're thinking.
They're thinking he is an amazing dad.
He is so special to bring his son on this.
And it was special and unique
because there were no other kids out on this trail.
And it was just professional hikers passing us.
Well, the only problem with little kids
is that they have little legs.
And it took him six hours to do the first third of the hike.
And we got to the top of the mountain
and we realized that we were trapped
because you can't go back down there as too treacherous.
You have to go over three more peaks
and then down the backside.
So I huddled Michelle and Leo together
and I said, the sun is going to set in two hours.
We have to take no more breaks
and we're going to run, which was not a thing.
And we just realized that it ought...
We found out that it snowed on top of the mountain as well,
which we didn't know from the base.
So two hours later, the sun set,
and we were on the second peak.
And then a miracle happened.
We found an emergency hut.
that had been built back in 1888 for some reason,
and we huddled together for warmth in that emergency hut
in 34-degree temperature with no blankets and no flashlights.
And then the next morning, something utterly ordinary happened.
Some people are listening to the story being like,
he is providing a meaningful experience for his kids,
and others are like, I need to be calling child protective services.
I'm watching her reaction to this, right?
But the next morning, something utterly normal happened,
the sun rose, and then we rose,
and then we would hike down the rest of the hill.
And we did not feel any of the pain from the day before.
We felt like we had a new lease on life,
and we felt bonded a new way.
So I'm trying to understand where did your belief change in all this?
The belief changed when we got back to the rental house.
So what happened was there is a creek behind our house,
and there was a board that went across this creek that was very flimsy.
And every time my son, Leo, would go up to that board,
my belief that was holding me back was I was a helicopter parent.
I felt like I had constantly had to be talking and protect.
Our house was bubble wrapped,
within an inch of its life until he was like until he was eight and um when my every time i saw leo go
towards that bridge my brain would immediately say say something so i'd be like leo stop hey buddy
watch your step hey look out that bridge can fall but this time without doing anything those
entrenched helicopter parent beliefs changed and in an instant my brain shifted to he's got this
and so for the first time as he would walk across that bridge i didn't say anything and he fell right into
the creek
No, he's fine.
But what happened in that moment is...
What a great dad.
Oh, but what a great dad.
So special.
Great dad.
Is this something I didn't think could change
or that I wanted to change
because it might harm him actually change in a moment.
And his beliefs changed overnight as well.
Because we went back to school,
we'd gone on dozens of hikes.
But for the first time ever,
he went back to school
and he told his teacher and his friend,
I'm a hiker.
I'm a hiker.
Now, if you believe you're a hiker,
what do you do next?
You climb more mountains.
That's exactly what happened to me.
I'm climbing more mountains because I now define myself as a hiker.
That's it.
It's exactly it.
And so I'm always like, I used to be going on vacation looking for what to eat.
And now I literally choose places based on where is the best place to hike.
I love that.
Yes, because I consider myself a hiker now.
We do the same thing.
Once you change that identity, the whole point of this book is that if you change your beliefs, beliefs don't just shape our reality.
They predict what happens next.
It happens next for you as you look for hikes,
but also we have these moments.
That was a change that occurred on a mountain.
But we have these, we worked really hard to change our beliefs sometimes,
and we have to sometimes with addiction or we think beliefs can't change.
Like we have a family member or maybe an in-law that we think that if they're born a pessimist,
they die a pessimist, right?
If you're born into a family that doesn't have religious beliefs,
you don't have religious beliefs.
But what we're finding is that change is actually radically possible.
I studied back at the Divinity School, and traditional, I studied Christian Buddhists, Christian ethics.
I'm a Christian, and I compared it to Buddhist ethics, because I want to understand how other people's different beliefs shape how we experience this world.
Why do we give? Why do we forgive? Why do we wake up in the morning?
And while I was doing that, I learned the traditional Buddhists believe that you have to work your way,
inch your way towards enlightenment through these habits and willpower and determination.
And then there's Zen Buddhism, which believes the change can happen rapidly in a car accident.
with the birth of a child,
with seeing someone that you fall in love with,
it can happen in a NICU ward in a hospital,
and it can happen even on a snowy mountain in an emergency hut
that suddenly are beliefs that held us back
could start to change almost at the speed of light.
I think it's really important for everybody
who gets the power of beliefs
to actually spend some time thinking about
what do you actually believe?
And if you are feeling held back in your life right now
and you're feeling like you're not moving forward,
or you're feeling stuck or whatever,
don't look outside yourself,
look inside yourself and ask yourself,
what do I believe is true or possible for me?
And if you can't, and if it is a belief that's holding you back,
you use this to help strengthen moving yourself forward.
I love that.
I love that too.
The last great belief that we need to strengthen is believing in something that's bigger than you,
the final core belief, that there is something greater than me versus there is nothing greater than me.
And what does that mean?
Well, it's actually one of the most powerful and predictive beliefs that we have, the belief that there's something greater than ourselves.
And I knew that I was going to get pushed back by putting it in the book.
People would say, you're writing a science book, stay in your lane.
But you tell people, if you want to skip this chapter, you can?
You can skip this chapter, you can focus on the other beliefs, for sure.
But from a scientific perspective,
religious beliefs are actually neurologically different.
What that means is we can tell on a brain scan
if you're having a belief about something that's supernatural
versus you're having an ordinary belief.
You can actually tell the quality and difference of beliefs based upon this.
And we also know that it's highly predictive of how long someone lives,
how much social connection they feel, how much joy they feel.
If they believe in something bigger than themselves.
I had a Harvard professor who didn't believe in God,
but he said if you can get religion, do it
because it's so highly correlates
with higher levels of happiness.
But what I find fascinating is you started
with the introduction about believing
that you are a child of God.
In 2000, 5% of people
claim that they did not believe in a God.
Today, it's 24%.
There's been a massive shift that's occurred within our world,
maybe up to 24% of people who don't believe,
now that they're a child of God,
when they might have back in 2000.
And it changes who we are.
My greatest hope is that there is something greater than us
and that there is an afterlife
because I believe justice isn't possible
if this world gets the last word.
But also, I'm a scientist,
and if I'm looking at the sun
and someone who's a scientist who doesn't believe in God
looks at the sun, we both see a ball of burning plasma.
but when I see that sun,
I also see something that was created by,
I believe, loving God.
And that belief activates all of the other core beliefs
that we have in psychology.
It changes the belief that I am not alone,
that I matter, that my behavior matters,
that I have something to give,
that I have something to be grateful for.
When we believe that there's something greater than us,
it pushes us to become greater than ourselves.
Amen.
Amen. Amen.
Amen to my God's
Amen. Amen.
Beautiful.
God's child!
God's child!
God's child!
Thank you all for being here for talking about beliefs.
I hope you think about it.
I hope you think about it.
I hope it makes you think about your life differently
and look at what you believe and to let that propel you
to become everything that you know you deserve to be.
Because I believe that we're all created to do exactly what you said.
to serve. And, you know, since I was a little girl speaking in the church when I was like three,
four years old, my Easter first Easter speech, people used to say, oh, had it made. That was my grandmother,
this is a talking child. This child can talk. But what I realized I was really doing, I was being
an inspiration. My role is to be an inspiration, to be a sweet inspiration. And that is the
thread that's carried me my whole life. And so that is true for me.
everybody has one.
You have whatever you were as a little girl that showed up for you,
whatever showed up for you as a young boy,
and that thread has carried you to this day.
And if you were to die tomorrow,
the people who know you the best would say,
oh, that's why you were here.
But it's really your job to know that that's why you're here.
And when you know that's your job,
you let every step move you in the direction.
You just don't let anything take you off the course
of who you were meant to be.
because every one of us is here for the offering that we have to give to each other.
And it shows up in different ways for all of us.
So thank you for being here.
Thank you for that.
Thank you for that.
Thank you.
Beautiful.
Thank you for the power of beliefs.
Sean Acre. Thank you. It's been wonderful to see you again.
It's so great to see you again.
And to hear what a great dad you are.
Power of beliefs.
Thanks, everybody.
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