The Overshare with Gemma Atkinson - Does Gemma need anger management?!

Episode Date: September 23, 2026

Are you single and ready to mingle?! Gorka has some advice about where your next holiday should be! Also, Gemma has been getting irate in a supermarket car park, Mia accidentally busted Gemma’s lip and Gorka finds out why he shouldn’t call anyone at the train station!Contact us at [e-mail] or WhatsApp on 07761039898.Producers - Henry Hewitt & Molly CarterSocial Media Producer - Cassidy RebeloProduction Assistant - Emily SpunginProduction Manager - Sarah NichollsExecutive Producer - Laurence BassettHead of Production - Cat MoranChief Creative Officer - Lucie CaveFollow us on social:www.instagram.com/lost.in.podcastwww.tiktok.com/@lost.in.podcast

A Rio original podcast. Coming up. Proximamente. Walk up in the morning. I had a headache in my finger. You'd like ghost them for months. And then your message saying, hey, I'm just checking. Are you on your own tonight?

Yeah, yeah. And you go, reply, see? Told you no one wants you. Please God never left with that, yeah. If we ever broke up, I'd occasionally pipe, but I wouldn't have a relationship with anybody. I'd be going to see the Jonas brothers with Papa. And I'm like, yes, girl.

I said, wait, have a bit of patience. There's people in front of me and a vehicle reversing so, wait. Yeah, ma. I think you have an angry issue. So we're back. Yes. I've not seen you for days.

I know yesterday and before, the day before. You've been stuck on a train? Yeah, I mean, I wasn't stuck on a train, but yeah. You were stuck in London because of the trains. Yeah. Not a bad place to be there. and when you got mates there at this. Yeah, but it's just the trains.

Yeah, it's a nightmare. Everyone I speak to at the minute has had issues with the public transport. I was on the train now and every stop was extra five minutes delays. Oh! And they would say, if you turn at the weekend,

make sure that you travel before Saturday at 4pm or Sunday after 4pm do disruptions in the lines which will cancel trains. Always at the weekends also. Of course it is. I hope it's not like that when we go down. We're taking the kids to London soon.

We'll tell you about that on the next step though. this morning I got to the station you know how in Houston now outside you have the you know how you have the screens inside yeah they have them outside and I got there and I was like oh no I panicked because I saw so many red crosses

and I was like oh no don't tell me these trains are cancelled today and it was three trains also cancelled what is the track track four five and six were close so they were like with the red what's going on with all these trains and of course the morning of Gorka being stuck in London

we had an engineer coming to fix our CCTV and we leave for school at half eight and I thought to myself when the engineer was booked in I was like well gocro can stay with him while I take the kids but of course gook was stuck in London he came at 20 past eight bless him and I was like we're leaving for school in like nine minutes so if this job isn't done in nine minutes I don't know what's going to happen kids can be late for school no and he ended up he was really good he ended up he just waited he was like don't worry you go and I'll just wait so I just left him with benjie did the school run come back and we got it fixed I am quite comfy here look at me with my calves out look at them calves look at them

and listen you matching socks matching socks I can believe I can't believe life's good fix CCTV and my socks filthy on that camera why you have tan calves

why is that bruise I have no idea I'm bruising like the peach my lip oh my own child headbutted me I was quite impressed actually when Gorka was away

bless her, Mia said to me, can you lie with me till I fall asleep. And normally she's dead good, we're going to bed, didn't she? They both are, they're like, we're tired, let's go bed. And I think it's because you were out. She was like, can you lie with me till I fall asleep. So I said, yeah, course I can. So I lay with her. Within minutes, she's gone, like normal.

But she's a very light sleep in me, isn't she? Thiago's like me, you'll sleep a lot. And then you move, you're like, oh, you're going? Yeah, are you going back down? But I went to kiss her forehead because I thought she was asleep. Because I always kissed the kids. I go in the room. Even, like, we put the kids to bed, I'll go and read a book.

As I'm nodding off, I have to go and give him a kiss before bed. Just this weird thing I do all the time. Yeah, I always have to do it. And I kiss the monitor. It's bizarre, but I have to do it. So I went to kiss her forehead. Engers and good things, you know. Yeah, I went to kiss her forehead thinking she was flat out.

She was in that in-between stage of sleep. I made a jump. She went, whoa! She flung her head up, literally split my lip. It absolutely wrecked. And probably you went like that, and you bite, you're not. I was moving in and then she went oh you made me jump and I went it's okay and then she went your lip it's actually quite sexy you know what I cut lip yeah I give you a bit of rough

why don't you let me do tie boxing again then I'll look rough yeah and the one I have broken nose that's true or broken eyebrows you know um but no it's it's split and then she was I'm so sorry and I said oh don't worry it's fine and I went into the bathroom and I went oh my gosh it is actually a lot better now it's you know if you put the you know like the yogurt natural yogurt and you just leave it there, and then like this, it heals quickly. But you'd eat it, you'd eat the yogurt? No, but just let it sink a little, like, if you do like that with the yogurt and put it there, because of the probiotic of the yogurt, it regenerates the mucus of your inside.

Salabar. No, saliva. The tissue of inside of your mouth, it regenerates quicker. Oh, okay. I know it because when I was competing, my partner turned, and instead of having their arms fully straight, she bent them, and she was in double turn, so I have a full elbow in here. Yeah, and he broke all inside. Yeah, it's not good.

No. Anyway, I was proud of her because she's got a strong head. Do you know what I mean? One day she might need to nut someone. I mean, she's very mad, so she has a strong... Well, yes, so she gets the big brain from you and the strong head muscles from me. Perfect combo. So you go for her?

Without further ado. Bomenos. As well as my busted lip, I've had an infected finger about that. What? My bust lip. Oh, I can do something else. That's gone down. now. I've been in the walls, haven't I? Look at me, feeling sorry for myself. You have very

glimios, no? No, I had a random idea the other day. It's not a random idea. I've wanted to do it for a while, painting our back fence, the whole fence. Now, it's quite a tricky job. It's a big fence, isn't it? It's a long, you know, very lucky we've got a big garden, so a lot of fencing. I had to go underneath the bushes and it took me. I started, it was about 10 to 11 when I started, and what time did I finish? When we came out of them, big at me, everyone's cool. But I had more to do then That's what I mean Yeah, you can't read until like 7

Yeah So from like literally 11 until 7 I was painting And in our garden There's one area There we have a big like a rose Brose bush yeah And she was painting

You go hit Ah Ah Oh Bloody egg I'm still I've still got some of the scratches I was scratched to death

I've got paint all over me But I just thought No You look there's the scratches I thought you've got to get through it So I was just painting away Going ah Ah

Ah! Like you know just doing it. Yeah, and then they were like, can you take this out for me, please? And then I had them in my finger, and I came out and I said to go, can you take these out?

Anyway, he was pulling the thorns out my fingers. Thought nothing of it, went bed, woke up in the morning, I had a headache in my finger. I was like, oh, my finger's pulsing, and I looked. It's swollen up, on it. And apparently it goes through your own.

All red, like yellow bit in the side, and I was like, oh, that's weird. And when I bent it, it felt like it was going to pop. I obviously FaceTime my mum, because what else was a near 42, year old woman do within an emergency Do you start your mom

on holidays? Yeah, my mom was on holiday I was like, Mom, look at my finger and pizza you know, Peds, engineer marvelous everything

he said Thorns travel up and I didn't know this He goes to your artery Yeah, he said You need to get them out I said well Gawker pulled them out And he said yeah

But did he So then I thought So he went and got a spy glass My mum's got a magnifying glass In her house I went and got a spy glass Yeah Pulled them out

properly and they're just going down. So it was quite therapeutic though, like with tweezers and a pin pulling out the thorns because you hadn't got them out properly. You know, as a kid, I was scared about moving them, yeah? Moving thorns. Yeah, because you have to do like needles or the twikers. The tweezers, not tweezers, tweezers. The tweezers.

And how you call it? No, it's chestnuts, the one that are like inside of like a spiky ball. Like a conker. Yeah. So what I used to live, it was like a conker forest, and we used to go there at the auto. And I slept on the ground and fell backwards. So I put my hands, so my whole palms were full of the little things of the conca. And I had to take them all remove.

Imagine I was like, my hands! I can imagine. With the little like needle, they have to do it. It was horrible. So my mom did with a towel, like a rough towel and vinegar, put it there, and you brush it because the vinegar and take it out. Yeah. And milk is well, apparently.

Yeah, that's what I was. Yeah, Ryan's stylist. He said, put your finger in some milk. Dole. Put finger in milk doll, doll. It'll suck it out. That's what he said. Changing conversations, yeah.

So we have some questions here, actually. I was going to say, we've made it all about us, but we have had some lovely questions. But we had Fraser come and stay with us. Speaking of questions. And we got our own little questionnaire going, didn't we? So Fraser's not recently broke up. him and his missis broke up. A few months ago.

All amicable, both lovely, just not right together. So for those ones who may remember, or those ones who know Fraser, a few episodes back, we were talking about random tattoos that you got down when you were young

and he's my friend with a foxie and his butt chick. Yeah, he's got a tattoo of a fox on his ass. No, a foxie. A foxy. The one of the Tolle Pepper. Foxy. But he came up and because he's single now

and he's living in Glasgow at the minute, but he's lived in Cardiff, he's lived in London and he works for a company who travels like all over the place and they travel to New York a lot and Gork has said to him didn't you you were like mate why don't you go and live in New York

tell them why you suggested he live in New York because the company probably I work with them and they are based in New York so I was like if I was you you're 31 32 you're single now you don't have like responsibility like no children no dogs no anything yeah

So I was like, if I was you, I'll go to New York for like a few months, stay there, working there, you know, meet some chicas, just, you know. He specifically told them, told them where to meet these chikas. Because I saw them there. Because he saw them and said to Fraser, or you want to go this place, you should see the girls there. No, I didn't say that. I said to Frasier, if I was you or if I was single, I'll go to New York.

I said to him, you don't spend money in cocktails and nights out and anything. I was like, because when I went to. running there for the thing, I have to do the filming on the running thing. So if you go to the west highway of the Manhattan... Specific location of these fit girls. Between 5.36 in the morning to like seven hours there, it's all these roundclubs and it's all the kids with the all-yoga outfits running there, walking their dogs, looking at the boys' topless there. It's like, ah. So that's the advice Gawker give him. Go to New York, our 5am run club and you're hooked up. So if you and I one time break up, hopefully not. That would not. Touch would.

But if we break up and you don't know where I am, find me in Manhattan. I'll find you in New York. You'll be in Manhattan. Running. That's a good movie name. Find me in Manhattan. Yeah. I don't think I'd date.

If we ever broke up, I'd occasionally pipe, but I wouldn't have a relationship with anybody. This is like, I won't date occasionally pipe. No, the thought of someone else having to, like, get to know someone again and go for a first meal. So do you're going to pay you naked and the first... So then you're going to pipe just random people? No, really pipe. Well, you say you don't want to date. At least you have to have a couple of days to pipe someone.

If you go, I don't want to date. No, every girl has the emergency pipe. Means I go like, hi, nice to meet you, pipe me now. No, everyone has the emergency pipe person. You. In an emergency press pipe. He needs one of them next to the bed. Wait, let's go back.

What do you mean emergency bag? Who is your emergency pipe right now? I've not got an emergency pipe person now because I'm in a relationship. But when you come out of a relationship, every girl has that. So is the one that you go back? Always. When you finish our relationship, you used to go back always with the emergency pipe. No. No, because if they're an ex, they're an ex for a reason. So you'd never go back.

So you won't go to emergency pipe to your ex? I'm joking. Would I hell go for an emergency pipe? Can you imagine? Would you emergency pipe me if I was your ex? If we and you split up and you met someone else and you split up with them, would you come back to me? No. I mean, it's good with you, you know. Yeah, but you... No.

I'm missing. You wouldn't. You wouldn't. I might explain it's clear with you because I can come with you and you mess, but I will miss that. No, yeah, you'd miss the pack. But no. It's too good, so I missed it. Oh, should we move on?

Why? Because we're giving too much way about piping. In fact, piping wasn't even a word until we did this podcast. Now, loads of people I know, genuinely, people at work, people at the radio. You know, I only find out what pipe it wasn't, I imagine strictly, yeah? And no one else in strictly knew what pipe it means. You were going to apply, everybody was going like, but are you piping or not? And we're like,

That's what I mean, everyone says it now. And everybody knows you just pipe, yeah. So how long ago was that? Nearly 10 years, that's how long. Me and my mates have always said it. Since we've been, seven. Since we've said it. Like, me, I can't remember that we've always called,

you must have, Enrique, being from Berry. I've heard, I don't use it myself. But you've heard it. I've heard it. I know what you mean, yeah. Yeah. Have you heard of mine? I mean, is this lang on the rubber, you know?

No. Is this lang on the rubber, you know? See, listen to songs like that, so that's why. That's true. We have had questions, though, from you guys. But as always, we start with a question from our producers. Yeah. Henry would like to know, what are the best and worst things about being in the public eye?

Hmm, that's a good question. What's the best and the worst? I'd say it's the same answer for both. It's the double-edged sword answer. The best is that you can have a platform to showcase and to help and to maybe do good things, but also you have a platform to be always pick and be like, criticize or like there's always for example the negative sizes no matter what you do if it's right or wrong there's always going to be an opinion yeah what you wear your head up why you wear your

head down why you're blown now why you brunette it's always an opinion i like the fact that some people say oh i saw such a thing and this and because you said that i've now done this and because because you mentioned this person i've followed them and now i'm all okay with this like help people to maybe like reach other things yeah but then you will get. If you say you like bananas, someone will message you, giving you abuse for not liking apples. Yeah, don't need bananas. What did I say to you the other day? Oh yeah, it was. Oh, Gorka going with no helmet on the bike. Yes. I was on the lines with my daughter, that's not fast cycling. So I was with a no helmet because I was wearing a helmet on. Gorka was on

an office bike and it was a tiny little parkway and we put a lovely video and someone, but they message me, giving me, again, whenever they've got an issue with you, they message me giving me grief. I feel like saying to him, tell him. I'm not going to say, oh, by the way, Susie something on X says you should wear a helmet. And he'll go, okay. Do you know what and tell me? And I went on a bike.

Gawker said to me, can you ride a bike? And I was like, what do you mean? Can't ride a bike? Of course I can. He said, go on then, go on mine. So I did. And it was awful. It was awful.

I grew up with BMX's, so you're quite low on the seat. Gorkas is a proper, as you all know, a proper race bike. bike. So your ass is higher than your hands and I didn't feel very safe. I did it though, didn't it? It was the wobbly there. Yeah, but I did.

I did the full live. It is true because they are very thin. The wheels, the first time that you get it is very like wobbly. You did good. From the bag, you look amazing on the bike. Thank you. He's been very complimentary.

You think I look nice with a broken lip. No. So what's happened? Nothing is hungry. Is there going to be a butt coming? Am I going to get home and there's going to be a bombshell or something's happened? No, but those length will look nice.

These are the leggings I wore a holiday that you didn't like. No, I didn't say they were quite big. Like I said, they were not. So have I just put timber on? No, they're still big, but it doesn't mean they, do you see? Oh, yeah, they're very loose. That's what I'm saying, but they look nice. I'm doing a bit of three-quarter action today.

Three-quarters, yeah. But you are being very complimentary. Do you think he's being suspiciously complimentary, I'm here? He's not normally as complimentary, is it? We've got our debates next. I was going to say. There you go on. What's your debate?

No, you haven't done anything. They're annoying. me, the only thing you've done is, not embarrass me, but I felt awkward. Embarrass you? You know, like, oh, don't do that, Gemma. You know, we are on the public eye. What I mean? Well, we were going to the supermarket.

You were going to the park of the Emmettis. No, it was deserved. Yes, but I'm going to tell the story. She was on the car, and it was a car behind, and didn't, so there was a car in front of Gemma, and she couldn't move. So she beeped, and Gemma went like, it's not, no, it wasn't just that. It was, there was an elderly lady, two, elderly ladies on zimmer frames in front of my car my car's quite big they were in front of my car slowly

edging across right behind them there was another car with reverse lights on and i said to you oh my gosh you shouldn't reverse and hit them he didn't he'd seen them so you've got a car with reverse lights on two elderly ladies with zimmer frames my car and a car behind me the car behind me was quite a small car couldn't see in front of me all they could see was i wasn't moving so the bibbed the horn didn't they? And I said, I don't know what they want me to do. I can't go anywhere. Two seconds later, they bibbed it again. So I said, I'm getting hanging out. So I said to him, what's their fucking problem? I can't, I physically can't move. And then they did her. She was like, if she'd be able to baby, she was like, she opened like that.

And I was like, the freaking bite me. And I was like, broke the set. The third beep. She beeped again a third time for about six seconds. She had her hand on the horn. And meanwhile, this old pensioner lady looked at me crossing the road as if she thought I was beeping her and I thought, I'm not having it so I opened my car door went out and I says

fucking wait I says there's people in front of me and a car Can you do the full sentence and then we put the beeps? I said, f***ing wait, have a bit of f***ing patience, there's people in front of me and a vehicle reversing so wait the colour drained from her

With the axe and everything I got back in the car and then we're like Gemma I think you have anger issues and you just went, are you okay? You have anger issues. But she apologised when she realised,

because by this point, the pensioners had got past us. She probably went, oh, sorry, I didn't see them, I didn't see them. And I'm like, well, that's the point. You didn't see.

You were assumed and you were beeping your own up my ass for seven seconds. I'm not having it. I think she also realized who you were, and they were like, well, feeling bad.

It doesn't matter, like, what you do, who you are. You have manners behind the wheel. 100%. Yeah. But you also very... But he said to me, do you need anger management,

Jemma? And I was like, no, I just need that car to move, those two people to cross, and her to stop beeping me, get my shop and get home. You think it's part of your premenopause in there? Perimenopause, probably. The red mist. I'd get red mist quite frequently at the minute. You lose your shit very quick.

Yeah, well, because you shouldn't give me a reason to. Even just breathing, annoys you sometimes. No, what annoys me? And this could be my debate, because it happened today. And it's not your fault. It's no one's fault because no one can hear, but when you ring me and the service is bad, you go, hello, can you hear me?

And I say, no. And then you'll keep talking it, but, and I'm saying, I can't hear you, I can't hear you, Gorker, then it'll cut off, he'll ring straight back. Hello, can you hear me? No. And then it'll cut off again. And I think to myself, surely,

he'll wait a few minutes, he'll get a better service, and then he'll ring back, rings back again. My mum does the same. They keep calling, even though there's no service. and I'm saying go where the service the fifth time today when you finally got through you went can you hear me I said now I can

and what did you say sorry it's the service in the station so in my head I thought get out the station then I was walking out of the station I know but that's my debate when people ring and there's no service the way you say you can tell there's anger issues there you need to have some anger management you know

you need to convince yourself I just need a strong coffee Yeah. Strong coffee on a punch bag. Anyway, so that was our debates for today. That was our debates for today. We're actually quite fun ones, you know? I like them, yeah.

We've had a good few weeks, aren't we? Oh, yeah. We've had a nice few weeks. I've been off from the radio. My mum's been on holiday. So we've had, like, actual time together. It's been nice. Yeah, I mean, yeah.

Partly. We've done school runs together. Yes, and then sometimes just, yeah. Yeah, but now it's back to normal. I'm back on air this afternoon. Oh. Anyway, should we read some lovely listener message? Yes, so Sam from Blackburn says,

Thanks, Jamangorca for your recent game, the dog barks. I have two packs, Daisy and Dexter, who barks at the TV whenever they see an animal or hear an animal sound. So this was the outcome of your game. Oh, I like that. Remember when it was the... Washington, Norman used to do it. Norman used to watch dogs on TV.

No, but it's also when we were doing the movie with Madagascar. They look at the lions and everything. It's like... Yeah, Norman used to love watching Madagascar, bless him. Anne says, hi Gemma Rangorke, and producer Henry. Oh, can we get in a shout out? Hi, Anne. He's grinning Anne.

Also, today we have some malls here, and it's her birthday weekend. Anna says, I think that if you win the listener choice podcast award, then Gawker should agree to getting another fur baby. Benji needs a companion. That's from Anne. You've heard it from Anne Gawker. I'm actually turning the Christmas lights on for a dog sanctuary in Cleveland. First baby could be a horse also.

Dogs for rescue. I'm doing their Christmas lights, which are on this year. And they've said to me, we'll go and the kids want to come. And I've said, oh, I'll see near the time. Because in my mind, I'm thinking, no, because I'm going to come back with the dog. Where is he?

It's in November, I think, last weekend in November. I'm on tour. Yeah. You know, there's only five days left until you can order Christmas food. What? Exactly. I've just seen an advert.

Five days to go. Five days to go. Five days to go. So by the time this is out, on Wednesday you'll be able to get your Christmas orders in for your food

Philis says what do you both want for your children's career path well that's interesting Phil he said would you advise them to go into your own careers in dancing

acting and media I'm a dad and a granddad and I know that you would want them to be happy no matter what but career wise what are your personal ideas and choices

I want them to do whatever they want to do and they like I mean Tiago's very very musical isn't he? You put any music on he'll instantly find the beat

and go, you'll dance every morning he wants the windows down and he wants Michael Jackson beat it on but really loud it has to be loud and he's going be there, beat it and he goes, mum, loud,

windows down, loud Where's the other one? The job that you put the other day? A jailhouse rock and he likes Tootie Frutty on the loose A wabam, a loomab, Bambu Bum

Tully on a loose He loves those songs and Mia's very she's very articulate in how she talks and how she presents herself like a newsreader like yeah

like communication yeah but she wants to be a teacher don't she when we ask her what she wants to do she wants she loves teaching she lines all her teddy's up and adults and she goes right class and she teaches

but I think with children teaching is very normal and also not like normal like I think for the children they recreate the way they've been teaching in school is a way to learn it because they're like teaching

to someone and also way to memorize. Do you have a sense? Did you always want to be a dancer? No, I wanted to be a doctor. Really? Yeah, then I realized it was too difficult to study and I was like, no. So then you just did the dancing?

No, I wanted to be a footballer. So what did you study? Did you go to college? Yeah. And what did you study? I did the computer in. Oh, that's why you're good with your computer. Yeah.

It's paid off. See, I wanted to be a sports therapist. I wanted to be a vet, but then the same as you as the doctor. It wasn't the fact of the studying. It was our vet at the time, Dr. Irving, Mr. Irving, we had with Fergie. He explained to me, like, because I remember saying to him, I'd love to do what you do when I was a kid.

And he was like, well, there's bad sides of it. And I thought, what do you mean? He said, well, when an animal has to be put to sleep, and I thought, oh, my God, I can't do that. So that put me off a vet. Then I thought, I wanted to be around sports, did some sports therapy, but then got Holyoaks. And then when people say to me now, what do you do?

I'm like, well, I have a podcast, I host the radio, do some presenting, I have a business, I've not really got one thing, yeah. So I think as long as they know they've got options, I'd be happy for them to do anything. I just want them to do whatever they want to do, but they are happy doing it. Like, people go, do you want me to be a dancer or do you be a dancer? I was like, no, I'm not fast about like, you need to be a dancer because I am a dancer, you need to continue my career. No.

No. I actually don't want you to dance because I know how difficult it is. how painful and how no appreciate it is. So I don't want to have really to be like, you know what I mean? But if she wants to dance, go dancing. We were watching the other day. There's a new series starting. It's not a series, it's a film, the new Russell Crow film on, is it Paramount,

the fighting one. Oh, yeah, yeah. And I said, oh, this looks good. I said, let's watch the trailer for this. And Gork was on the couch watching it with Mia. And it was like a boxing thing, so it was quite. And I said, I turned around to them. And I said, oh, I can't wait until we can start.

Boxing. taking you to live boxing matches Mia. And Mia went, oh, no. She said, I'm not going to do that. She said, take Tiago. So I said, I will take Tiago then. What did she say? She went, I'll be going to see the Jonas Brothers with Papa.

That's what I'm like, yes, girl. That's what she said. But thanks for those questions. They were really interesting. Sam and the dogs with the Pugs, Daisy and Dexter, Anne and Phil. If you do want to get in touch, by the way, it's lost in translation at bowermedia.com.

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And I'm like, I move out. Nice. No, no offense, Mum. No, I said I love them, but I move out. We've got a final message this week from Lisa, but it's also a dilemma to answer as well. Should we have a listen? So this week's dilemma comes from Lisa and it's on a voice note.

Good afternoon Gemma and Gorker. Basically I am currently single and I have been for the past five years. I went through a horrendous breakup. Nothing that I had done but even so not a nice one. It took me a good three years to get over it but I have become the most strongest version of myself. And I am currently looking for a new man but I will not put up with any shizzle, should we say? What that means? Shit. And some of my friends are saying I'm too picky because I don't want to settle for any amber flags, any red flags. And they're saying that the perfect man doesn't exist, which I completely get. Nobody's perfect right. But what do you think about this situation?

Do you think that I am being too fussing or do you think that I am just not putting up with rubbish and setting my boundaries? How would you guys cope with this situation? I don't think you've been too picky and too fast. I think you have an experience that you have whatever happened in the past, a relationship. But again, like you say, like, I'm happy on my own. I don't need that someone. If I'm going to be with someone has to be the way I want, no? I wouldn't see it as setting boundaries.

It's setting standards for yourself. Yeah. Like Gorka said, if you're good on your own, it's got to take someone really special to be that cherry on the top. Because a lot of people seek a relationship because they don't feel fulfilled on their own and they think that meeting someone else will make everything happy in life.

They rely on that person for being happy. Isn't it to be happy themselves and then? Whereas if you're in a good place on your own, you're not going to just spend time with someone who's half-assing it because you're good anyway. But what I will say is well, and speaking from experience with awful breakups, not every man is the same.

And you can't tie them all with the same brush and you can't go into a relationship thinking they're going to treat you the same way as that person did. And there's also a warming up period in a relationship, isn't there? I'm sure when we first started dating, there was things that we probably weren't keen on with each other in terms of, I don't know, maybe habits or what we, I don't know, but you kind of think, I'll give it a bit of time,

see if you can... I think it's like, for me, we use the opposite. Really? Yeah. You liked everything at first and now you're slowly realizing all the red flag. No, no, I'm joking. But yes. No, I don't think you've been.

been too picky. No? But you're saying good standards. Like when she said, oh, it took me three years to get over it. I wouldn't say it also three years maybe to go over it. But it also could be on her own for that period because that's when you are happy on your own, you know? Sometimes people have a breakup and with a month it's in another relationship.

And they never like really heal or like, no heal, but like, you know how being happy and comfortable on their own? You know what I mean? To meet someone else. It's just from one to the other, one to the other It's kind of like you said They're trying to rely on someone else for the happiness What's the longest you've been single for

Obviously before you first started dating Not like the first like 12, 13 years of your life, whatever But even for example Before I met you My last relationship was One year Single So you've had a year on your own

Yeah My longest time on my own 18 months Not even like a year of like Not even like a year of like not Being in a relationship Not even wanted to go for dates Yeah

I don't want you to see any woman Really? Yeah, I was no bother What, because you had a bad experience So you just thought, I can't be asked No, no, I was just like, I was Working Yeah, working and I was like training

Anything I didn't go like, oh I want to go for dates I need to go on a date No, I never like that I did about 18 months on my own I loved the fact that I I had my house I had the dogs

I was working I was like you training I was just getting on with it I wasn't actively thinking I need to be with someone. I was fine on my own. Even like, it's different for lads, because the lads obviously, a lot of lads view sex differently.

Even without having sex, I loved it. I literally loved just being on my own. And then it was that time on my own, which led me to meet you, and it's that whole thing of being good on your own. You attract the right person, I think. So I think that you, will attract the right person when the time is right for Lisa

because she's in such a good place. Yeah. But give them a chance, Lisa. You know what you will and won't accept. So, but give them a chance to see if they might, not change for you, but they might kind of, you mould in together, don't you?

You kind of like clay, the perfect relationship doesn't exist, but it is a bit like clay. You mould into kind of what each other like and dislike and make a new model to work forward. Yeah, I agree Yeah But she's not set in boundaries

I'd change that word to standards Lease We all have to have standards When it comes to And it's not being picky It's just know what you want No Yeah

And don't waste your time If it's not right She's good Not wasting the time Yeah But enjoy Enjoy like fishing Is that what you call it

Enjoy testing the water She's single day to mingle Yeah Good for you And thank you for listening Thank you for getting in touch As always Go just paying some tapas there

I'll go to New York York Run Club? Is it men as well? Yeah, ma I'm telling you, I was doing the photo shoot there for liability. And it's not like, it's actually men running topless and girls walking the dogs looking at there.

It was this time, I was there. So the girls are going to look at the men, clever. To Tasha and J.C. Yeah? I was like, it's so funny. You see like a group of like ten boys or like running topless with the six packs and everything. And then these two girls with the park dogs

there like sat there like with the sunglasses. And I was like, you don't know what you're doing. You're just looking at them. That's what they do. We had a run club at work years ago, the radio. Round club? A run club.

I didn't do it, obviously. Our producer, Matt, was the only male on that run club. He was so embarrassed. He turned up thinking it would be all the lads, but it was all women, and he said they were all faster than him, and he only did it once because he said, I just looked like a pervert chasing girls through Manchester. Do you know that now, run clubs is the new social club to meet people and find relationships? I'd be single for life then if it involved running.

In London, if you go to London and Battersea Park, there is different types of run clubs and you have a like... How can you talk if you're running? Who is wearing the new outfit? It's easy, they call it sexy pace. You run a sexy pace, which is no hard. You can talk. And then you go and you have the new girl with a new outfit,

the boy with the latest trainers. And then, oh, which place are you running? I'm running at my pace or I'm running to your pace too. You know, they go like that. Should we run together? Absolutely not. I trip him up and say, leave me be,

I'm trying to breathe. And the new thing that's going to happen and the next two years is going to be cycling clubs. No, I'm not down for that either. With the tights and everything, yeah? Everything is tight,

in shorts and everything, yeah? No. Yeah. He had his cycling gear on the other day and even Ryan said he couldn't pull it off. And you know how it's going to be the dating and the cycling? You're going to check from the back

because you're going to go in the bag and then you're going to see who you like, you're going to be in the back. Because you're like this. Yeah. the bike. Your ass doesn't do that on a bike. You sat down. Your bum's not moving. Yes, because you're moving the legs. So a little bit it moves. You're like this. And you just clock which one you like. That's what they're going to do. You'll see it.

Like when the people run. So you clock the, you're like an ass and then think, I'll see what's at the front. Yeah, probably, yeah. I'm telling you. What have we become? In the next few years, cycling gloves is going to be the new social thing. Everybody's going to be cycling and going for coffees after. Because it's a thing, cycling and coffees. Oh. Yeah. that's why people doesn't go to your papists to drink and you'll find this is why touch would be done but this is why we can never ever break up gocker because I would be on my own for life

wouldn't I don't I hate running cycling I don't like unless it's a BMX but you will be happy because you just want to be with dogs and cats that's true but what happened to just meeting someone like walking down the street and seeing someone and going oh and then you look and they look and then you go and then you see him again and go that's like our nana's generation yeah but that's not really happening now because now

you know why people walk in the streets like this. I know we're not even looking at each other. We're looking down at our phones, swiping yes or no. How many times I tell you if you go to a restaurant now and see dates, they're like this? Yeah, we love doing that. So we'll go for food and we always actively say, let's not be on our phones. And we take cranes for the kids, don't we? And we'll look at couples sometimes.

They don't even speak. Especially young couples in holidays. They've not spoke for like 20 minutes. Yeah. There was a couple on holiday, weren't they? And he blessed him. He just sat the whole time looking down on his phone. Yeah, like that.

And she just spent the whole night taking pictures of herself, but with different backgrounds. And you said, are they, what are they doing? Are they together? I said, maybe the brother and sister, maybe they're just waiting for the mum and dad. They weren't, they were a couple. I remember our first holiday together with no children,

and he was on our first year, and he was in Greece. Oh, it was brilliant, wasn't it? It's just not foreign or anything. It was just amazing. We left them in the safe, didn't we? Most of the time. We left the phones in the safe. Yeah.

Took the little Greek... I loved it. Greek money. Went and played... We did bat and ball. Yeah. Then the gym. We did all kinds.

It was brilliant. We were starting the morning and doing the thing. Oh, anyway, we've massively digress. Should we move on to our game this week? So on the back of Lisa's dilemma today, our game today is all about what we would and wouldn't put up within a relationship. Okay. So we've got a list of scenarios and we have to decide. whether each one is either a green flag.

Red flag, green flag. So a green flag is something that we wouldn't mind. No, that we'd have. Or that we'd like. Amber is something that we're impartial about. Maybe you'd put up with it. Maybe you wouldn't. And a red flag is something that, no, finished.

So do you want to read the scenarios on, Ruech? So number one, someone who orders for you whilst out for a meal. Red flag. Controlling. I know what I want to eat. I don't need you to order it for me. What about you, Garka? If I'm well, if it means, can you order me this place?

I'm going to go to the toilet. Yeah. Yes, but I mean if someone says, you sit down for a table and I say, I know what you want, I'll get it for you. I'll order for us. You don't even look at the menu. They order for you. It depends.

If it's up to a restaurant and I've never been in and they don't know the menu, I'll go like, yeah, it's fine. So you're going amber or green? Yeah, I don't mind, yeah. Okay, scenario number DOS. Someone who always opens the card door for you. Green. I'll do it all the time, many times to you.

and the door. Always I let you the left go behind. You don't always open the car door for me. No, but for example, a door like this? Yeah, a door, if you're in front of me,

you'll hold the door open for me. So many men, they don't do that. So many people, not just men, so many people. Yeah, but normally it's a man doing for a woman.

That's a gentleman what you have to do. If I want to go, that all is open, yeah? And you and I are having a conversation and we are walking together, I shouldn't cross before you.

That's rude. I should always let the lady go first. I'd say Amber. If every time we went somewhere, I'm shopping or something, I'll do it. I had to wait for you to get out and walk around and open my car. No, no, no, come on. I'll just open it.

Not that, but I'm sitting in the situation, you know what I mean? Yeah. It should be like that. I did a film in Russia and there was an American guy from the South, deep south. They didn't do it, no? And no, he was beyond. Every time a woman got up to leave, he'd stand up and then sit back down. So he'd stand up with us and I'd be like, are you going somewhere?

And he'd go, no, no. And then he'd sit back down. I got to this stage I used to pretend to get up. Number three. Someone who always bitches about their friends behind their backs. Red flag. I'd say Amber, because you need to be the person who they can vent to

about friends, about colleagues, about situations. If they're doing it all the time as in like they're just horrible, then that's a red. It depends on bitches, if it's bitches like in a mean or bitches and like, yeah, like funny things or whatever. Yeah, if it's just like Gorg said, plain mean, no, but if it's to vent about something they've done, you need to be their person.

So I would say Amber for that. Someone who asks if you can sleep in different bedrooms. Probably. Amber. I think, I'm going to answer for you this, red flag. No, I think, for example, if I was maybe younger, I would say if there will be red flag. Now, all of this is about recovery and everything. everything, you have to sleep on your own.

A friend of ours, her and her husband, they sleep in different bedrooms. They always, because he snores. I tried to sleep a few times on this other bedroom than her, because I was very hot or whatever. Yeah. But then I go. She's like, I remember once I'm like, I'm going to go to the other room because I'm not going to try.

She's like, all right, whatever. I left 10 minutes later time coming back. She was like, what do you do? I can't relax. You said you couldn't relax without me. But yeah, during the heat wave, you saw. slept on the couch because you were so hot, weren't you? Yeah.

And like I say, our, the friends of ours, he snores really, really bad, and she's like, I just can't cope with it. So they're in a very, very happy, secure marriage, but they're just sleeping separate bedrooms. My grandparents and sleep separate. Most of people do. If you like a shift worker, people share sleeping separate bedrooms because otherwise you're disturbing each other.

Do you do bedrooms or houses? No, bedrooms. Okay. The next one is someone who is a workaholic. Red. Yeah, it depends. Red flag for me. You should have a desire to work But it shouldn't come at the cost of your family

I don't think Yeah, no no Yeah Someone who isn't on social media Ooh I think that's I think that's quite a green flag But then the psychoscopio

And me thinks are you not on it Because you're hiding shit Do you know what I mean Half of me's like Good for you, good for you You're not bothered But then the other half is I can't see why

Someone you went to school with Like you post in 2014 Do you know what I mean? I would say a green flag. I'd say maybe amber. Half of me is good for you. The other half is I need to know why. Do you know what I'd go amber?

Yeah. Someone who starts a new hobby every few months. Red, because you've got no consistency and they don't know what they want to do. Someone who is jealous when you bring up an X. Red flag. Red flag. That means is unsecured, so then he's not confident.

and it's not like, you know what I mean? Yeah. I guess. And also, for example, it's the past. I don't care. Yeah. Whatever you did until you met me, I don't really care. You brought up my ex of the day, didn't you?

Olly. We're talking about food. And he said, Ollie used to do that. It was my trainer for... Because he was your trainer, yeah? Yeah. So, yeah, I think... I'm fine as some of your ex.

Yeah, red. I think it would... If you used them, if you brought them up as a threat, oh, she never used to do this, then that's a red flag, because that's just weird. But if you brought them up and, oh, I saw such a body, I saw a thingy in town today,

then, yeah, Green, that's fine. Someone who can't drive. You can't drive. If they can't drive, it doesn't bother me. If they're refusing to learn to drive, that bothers me. Like, if you try and failed, then obviously, please keep trying because you need to drive. It's independence.

I don't understand anyone who wouldn't want to drive. But if you've got the... I don't judge, yeah? No, but if you've got the facilities and the finances to have driving lessons. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And you're actively not doing that. For your stavorness. That is a red flag.

Yeah. Because it's just freedom, isn't it, to drive? But if you've tried and you just can't do it, then, you know, they're trying. So, Amber. Someone who doesn't like dogs. Red. Green. Red flags.

Green flag. I trust a dog when it doesn't like a person, but I don't trust a person when it doesn't like a dog. someone who has cheated on an ex before. Revlake. Why that's the mirror? No, I'm Amber. Because it would depend. If you were 20 years ago,

I did some horrible things because I was 20-year-old. Young kids, yeah. 20-year-old person, 20-year-old, didn't know what I was doing. I think everyone's done that. And you can't, like we were saying earlier to Lisa, you can't judge,

you can't tear everyone with the same brush. That whole wants to cheat, always a cheat, is kind of like, if you were constantly doing that, then yeah, but if you were 17-year-old me is completely different to 42-year-old me, do you know what I mean? And also you learn growing up and you experience and you live.

And then when you do things, good things and bad things, you learn from all of them and give you the experience to that, you know what? I've done all of this. Now I know what I want and how I want to be

and settle and everything. You know what I mean? Yeah. Like we in that, my mates used to do some horrible stuff. Like, if you like broke up with someone because they were horrible. Stuff.

No, no, you'd like... Budu. You'd like ghost them for months and then your message saying, hey, I'm just checking or you're on your own tonight. And you'd come back, obviously, straight away, yeah, yeah.

And you go, reply, see, told you no one wants you. Just leave it. Please God, never let him do that, yeah. It always works. I'm telling you, do that. If you would have broke out with me, you will bully him.

It always works. Leaving for a few months, text a bit of interest, are you alone tonight? They'll always say yes because they're eager. Yeah, of course I am, yeah, she wants me back. And then hit them with, I told you so, nobody wants you. Only if they've been snide on you. If it was an amical breakup, I wouldn't.

But if they'd been a bastard to me, that's what they got. These last one, I don't understand there, by the way. And finally, someone who has eyelashes on their car headlights. Oh, if they've just passed, and like we said, the 17-18, yes. It's fine. What is there? They put fake lashes on the car. Garker looking.

There is. Are you looking at the screen? So that, oh, see, that looks like a happy car. That does look like a happy car, Gorker. What would you do if I put them on your range? Would you be fuming with me? Yeah.

Why? So I would do like a... Yeah. So is that a red flag or a green? That's like... That's like... That's like a purple flag. That's someone who takes pride in the car.

No. No? If it's like a Mini Cooper, yes, because it's this shape. of the eye, no? That was a fun game that, Henri-A. I like this one, yeah. I like the games where we have to work together as a team

because teamwork makes the... Dream work! Yay! That's what we've got time for this week. Have you got a cold? You're a bit nasally, aren't you? Every time we travel, he comes back with the cold and then it goes through the household.

Excuse me, I went to London, no jacket. It was warm, then rain, then he went windy. I came here, it was sunny, then it started raining, then AC. I fell as living on the train with the AC, not jumper. the jumper was in my head I need to get some turmeric

Yeah You were with a call yesterday also Tiago You just came here I know It's flu season And also We share beds

We do Although it wouldn't be a red flag If we didn't You've just said that Thank you so much For getting in touch Thank you for all your messages If you want to get in touch

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