The Ramsey Show - App - A Financial Plan Only Works If It Matches Your Reality

Episode Date: December 24, 2025

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The phone number is AAA 825-225-2-25-3-2-25-2-2-5-2-5-2-5. All right, we're going to get to your calls. We're coming up very soon. Really fun story for my colleague here. You may know her journey. She and Sam her hubs paid off half a million dollars in debt. She gets you, folks. You're in debt.

She gets you. She really does. Fun story I asked her to share. I've gotten to know her and Sam very well. And so that's coming up. You don't want to miss that. Those of you who are kind of on that edge today are going, can I do this? Can I make it?

You can make it. She's going to tell you how. It's going to be fun. But first, Jack is up in Indianapolis. Indiana. Jack, how can we help today? Hey, guys. Thank you so much for taking my call.

I bought a RV for $60,000 on a 15-year loan at 18% interest. Wow. Why did you do that? I'm realizing how bad of a decision it was. It was to live in to save up eventually for a house. and I'm realizing like how the interest is 800 a month on just interest

my goodness only 50 bucks goes to the principal and I'm realizing it'll be like 16 months before I even scratched the surface under what I borrowed so I was wondering because obviously I want to get out of it now I started the baby steps.

All I had was like a thousand personal loan, 2,000 personal loan. I had some student loans. I had some credit cards. But I only made $2,000 a month when I bought it, so I don't even know how I got approved for it. Right. But I went one by one.

And I got rid of everything except for the camper. My income is about $4,000 a month now. Okay. So, um... Where are you living? Uh, I'm... I got a job as a truck driver, so in the truck. Okay.

Okay. Are you okay? You don't sound okay. You don't sound very okay to me. And maybe it's just your voice, but I'm just... I'm really nervous. I'm really nervous. I just...

Okay. Yeah, no, I'm good. Okay. Okay. So you've got, did I understand correctly when you're... you said you got rid of all the other debt except this RV? Yeah, everything. Okay, good.

I did make a little mistake. I know you're supposed to save a thousand first with the first thousand. I put it towards the debt. Okay. But yes, I have my $1,000. Everything else is gone. Good. Except for this camper.

And you still owe 60. What's it worth if you were to sell it? The dealership offered 31. Oh, Lordy. But what if you were to sell it? private sale. Have you looked into that? I have it listed for 38. And I've been trying to call the show for a couple months now. So I owe 48 on it now. You owe 48 on it now, and you could sell it for 31? 38. 38? I've got a list to that. I have a list to 38. So it's a $10,000 deficit there.

What keeps you from going down to a credit union or going down to a bank or getting any kind of loan to clear this out? Why don't we do that? I canceled my credit cards when I remove them and it brought my credit score down pretty low. What about a credit union? Have you gone into a bank to see? Because at this point, here's my thinking on this. My rationale is there's not a worse loan than the one you have. And this is going, you're going down. You're going from $48,000 of debt to $10,000 of debt, I'm going to take that deal every time, even if the terms aren't great. Well, yeah, because you're going to knock it out. You make $4,000 a month.

You knocked out the other debt. Why can't you knock out this $10,000 of debt very quickly? That's true. I was because I was trying to rent it as well to see if I could try to get money out of it. But every moment you wait, it's dropping in value because you're in such a bad one. loan, right? The interest alone is $800 a month. So you got time is not on your side, my friend. Listen, we're coming to you from the Fairwinds Credit Union Studio. I'd call our friends at Fairwinds and say, hey, I was just on the show with Jade. You can. And here's my situation. And I've made

progress. Well, you guys help me out. And if they can help you out, they will. And to your into Jade's point, then if we can sell this thing and then they take over the loan for the minimal amount you're going to have left, you can knock that out. So you want to get rid of this because this is a depreciating asset. That's why she's telling you that. You've got to get rid of it. I would only, and for anybody listening who's like, Jay told him to get a loan, she told him to take it out on a credit card, she told him to take a bad loan. We're going down, people. We're going from 48 down to 10. We're not going up. He's not taking a loan to go into debt. He's taking a lesser loan to get out of debt. So that's the difference there for anybody who's trying to clock something that's not there.

Yeah. And now, is this truck job? What's your opportunity to make more money than the $4,000 a month? Well, in the beginning, it was like, that's what I was getting because I was in training. I also do all the services on his trucks because he owns a trucking company, so I do all the mechanic work on them for side money on cash when I am at Indianapolis because it is long haul. So as we look forward, how much more additional money can you make then than the $4,000? Four to $6,000 a month, I'd say take home. All right. And long term, is this a great opportunity for you to get to the six-figure range? It seems like it, yeah.

Okay. All right. Well, what's the lesson here that you've learned? You know, because a lot of times we'll teach out of this. I want people here from you today. Because you're sitting in this calling us with a pit in your stomach. So what's the lesson for everybody else? Don't get the dealership markups.

Don't get the warranty stuff. Don't buy new. Like, ask someone older than you. Yeah. You know, I haven't, yeah. I'm definitely not doing debt anymore. Yeah. How old are you, Jack?

I just turned 20. 20 years of age. You learned a great lesson at a young age, my friend. That's awesome. I wish you did it cost $60,000. Yeah. That's all right, but it's a good lesson to learn. Hey, no one, no one gets out.

Let me, not no one, few people get out unscathed when you walk into the real world, right? You get out of college, you start your life as an adult. Few, Jack, get out of this without making major mistakes. That's how we learn. And for you, I want you to look at this. Don't look at it as, oh my gosh, my mistake. I ruined my life. Just look at it as some research you did.

You did a little bit of research and you found out that buying an RV to live in, or buying anything that goes down in value is not a good idea. Now you can stick that in your pocket and keep it as a knowledge base for later. Yeah, I love it. Makes me think of the old song. What? By Ray Charles. Hit the road, Jack.

And don't you come back no more, no more, no more. Hit the road, Jack. That's what he's saying to debt. That's good. Yeah, come on. You know, sometimes I think of these old school things. Now, if Rachel were next to me, she'd have no idea what I'm talking about. I thought you were going to say something totally different.

No, hit the road, Jack. I like it. the road and the 18 wheeler. He's getting after it. He's 20 years of age. You learned his lesson. I love his lessons. He did a great job, America. You heard Jack. And he's going to be okay. He's going to do great. He's only 20 years of age. He learned a big lesson. Now he's on the road to being debt-free. Americans don't have enough life insurance or they don't have any at all. I don't understand this, John. Why don't people want to take care of their family? They think they're going to die or

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Welcome back to the Ramsey Show America. So glad you're with us. I'm Ken Coleman. Jade Warshaw is alongside AAA 825-5-2-2-25 is the phone number. AAA 825-5-2-2-25. We go next to San Jose, California. Jeff is there.

Jeff, how can we help? Hi. Yeah, me and my fiancé were about a million dollars in debt right now. And we kind of, most of it's student loan debt. but we still have a million dollars. We just don't know how to really tackle it. Oh, my goodness. What type of degrees did you guys have?

Yeah. We're both Dennis, so I guess that's a good thing, kind of. Yeah. Yeah, I can tell you're fired up by that. Bless your heart. Yes. Are you making money? Like, what do you guys making every year?

So what we're told when we go into this is we'll be able to pay it off. Don't worry. That's right. We make about probably average $170 a year. That's what you guys are actually paying yourself? Yes, before taxes. Oh, my gosh, 170 gross. And are you separate practices?

We are currently, but we're probably going to group in together and just try to grow, I guess. Did you say $170 each or combined? Okay, okay. 170 gross each. That's not bad. And you're living in, okay, well, San Jose is expensive. That's an expensive part of the country. What is your debt?

Break it down for Jay. Let's go you first. You're the one on the phone, and you're not married yet. So what's your debt? About, let's see, $450,000 right now in all student loan. Okay, and no other debt. Luckily, we're both pretty good on that side. Okay.

Pretty good. good. Good. How long have you been practicing? Um, about a year now. We just kind of, we just came out of school. It's just kind of a nervous thing to be a million dollars in debt just and how, no, no, listen, brother, this is real and I, I, I, I, oh, this makes me so mad on your behalf. Not mad at you, but people are just selling this and now you're facing it. It's like staring down the barrel of a gun right now. I can feel it all over you. And, you know, Well, here's the thing I'm asking about. You're only a year into this.

Based on, I don't know if they teach you any business skills. Probably not. But do you have any... Unfortunately, they don't. They don't. Any sense of how big your practice is in its first year? Are you small for first year? Are you medium size?

Do you have any sense of that? I would say we're probably small, getting to medium, hopefully by the end of this, by the end of this bill. Do you know any dentist at all that are very successful? Huh? Yes, I do. Are you in contact with them on a regular basis to go, how did you grow your business? No.

You need to be. I'm not. You need to be. I'm not kidding you. Jay's going to give you some financial advice, but I was leading you this because let me tell you something. They don't teach you how to run a business. They teach you how to take care of teeth. but taking care of teeth is not enough to be a successful dentist.

You have got to know how to get people in the chair. Yeah, that's right. And I want you on the phone, I'm going to give you as a gift of mine, Christian, at the end of this call, I want to give him the proximity principle. It's worth a quick read. You get the audiobook if you want that. We'll give you whatever version you want. But I want you to be in touch with successful dentist, and I mean successful.

And I want you telling them, I need your best advice. What would you say to me where I'm at right now about growing my business and try to replicate this with two or three other successful dentists, get all that feedback in one bucket and start doing it. Because the quicker you grow this business, the more you can pay yourself. And the more you pay yourself, the easier it is to do what Jade's going to tell you. I just wanted to give you that. You've got to be like a, and she's got to be the same way. If you guys combined practices, this can't be like, we're married and we have to know. You both are like, you're the most, I don't want to say desperate dentist we've ever seen,

but it's like you've got to get creative in the community and be competitive so that everybody's coming to you to get their teeth cleaned. Okay, can I ask a question, and this is both to Ken and you, Jeff. So you come out of dental school, you've got all the goods to be able to practice. Are you working for someone else or you started your own thing? I'm working for someone else, but we're working on a contract. to hopefully partner ideally. Is that going to cause you to have to go into more debt?

Because that's what I'm trying to get a sense of what your next plan is. Because I don't want you to go into more debt. And that's why we're trying to hold off. No, bro. Okay. More debt? No, you can't. You got to do your own practice, man.

I thought that's what we were talking about. You can't go into debt. It's not worth it. No. Like you got to work for someone else until you can afford to do whatever the next step is. Is your income fixed, though, after all that big speech I gave? Is your income fixed, or are you able to go recruit new patients and get some of that? No, not fixed.

So you can benefit from hustling like I told you to do. Yes. Okay, okay, that's good news. That's all I was trying to get at. And I don't want you to go into any more debt until this is cleaned up. Because, again, what you're realizing now is true. Yes, you have agency over this, but there's no guarantees. And there's no guarantees at how quickly this will go.

and so going into further debt, I would not advise that. Looking at the numbers, the hard part for me is you are in an expensive area. What are you paying? Like, what's the housing situation? Are you renting? Do you own a place? What is it? We're going to be owners because it doesn't, it almost doesn't make sense to rent

because then we're just throwing that away from the math. What are you doing right now? What's the situation now? About 4,500 a month. For your place. Or are you guys together already? Together. You're already together.

It'll be $4,500 yet. Okay. To rent. But to buy it's the same. Yes, but you're going into debt to get it. You're adding more debt to your name. We will be, yes. And you're tied to that.

Like, you got to pay it and now you're adding expenses to your life as well. You can't afford to do that. You need to be living as cheaply as possible. And if it's the same price per month, it's not really the same price. your complex or whatever is paying for yard and garbage and all those things. So I don't want to add weight to you of having to replace an AC or having to replace a roof or having to, do you say what I'm saying? So that's, or adding insurance, you know, all that stuff is really expensive. And so I would continue to rent. You're not throwing money down the drain. You are

buying yourself time until you can truly afford to buy. So please promise me, your homework coming off this call is to promise me that you won't go into debt, uh, into this practice. right now and that you will not buy a home right now because that would add insult to injury. And I'm going to throw in here, I'm going to challenge you to get a much, much better rent situation. Just try. Find a place over an old lady's garage. I say that all the time, but I'm telling you, I don't think you guys should be paying anywhere near 4,500 a month. Not now. You guys are so broke. Yeah. You need to be, you almost need to be staying in a place where they're paying you. Jeff, you're going to have to fight, Jeff, you're going to have to fight hard because the truth is you guys,

have got these shiny degrees. You're in a great profession where there's the potential to make a lot of money. And the people around you, probably the people that you're working with, they're coming in with their Tahos and their Cadillacs and their Teslas and they get expensive salads and juices for lunch. You don't do that. You eat lean cuisine and you drive a Ford Taurus. And I would prescribe a lot of fasting for this couple. It's the new, it's the new craze. It's a biblical principle. and I think it's got some financial advantages here. Y'all need to try fasting three days at a time. You're going to look great, but you can't even afford to buy cold cuts.

Carl Budding. Do you remember? I don't know. Listen, Jeff, I don't know if you remember when I was coming up, the cheapest cold cuts you could buy were called. We're older than these youngsters. But in all seriousness, Jeff, listen, you have got to reduce your living expenses right now. That's one of the biggest raises that you could give yourself.

So I'd be, as soon as this rental term is up or whatever's going on, I would be looking to slash those costs. I mean, big time. Okay. Even if I got to driveaways at this point, I'd rather pay gas. You know, y'all ride together. It's called public transportation. Everything's on the table now, right, Jay?

Everything. You get you a bus pass. It's on and popping. It's the truth, there. And by the way, you're brown bagging it and you're recycling the bag. Oh, yeah. Do you know what I mean? That thing's going to be all crinkled and you rinse out the Ziploc bag and you got to dry it out and use it again.

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The phone number is Triple-8-8-25-5-2-2-25 if you want to jump in. Triple-8-8-25. 5225. Sam is up in Birmingham, Alabama. Sam, how can we help today? Hey, guys. So I wanted to know if you would honestly recommend that I start with a $1,000 a month emergency fund and why after kind of reading you off some stats here. So I have a 30% interest rate on a $33,000 car loan. I have 9K and back taxes owed 5K in credit card debt nothing My ex-girlfriend has 50k in credit card debt that I kind of want to help her out with

Your ex-girlfriend? Unfortunately, yeah And you want to help her with the debt? Yeah, wow Sorry, I just got me Really nice guy, I'd like to know more Why are we doing this? Well, you know, she's, it was a six-year relationship

I lost her last Q4 I was pushing myself too hard finally burnt out after about 10 years of extremely hard work and I just feel responsible for a lot of that I'm sure some of it's mine I'm sure a good bit of it might be mine You used her card? You used her card sometimes?

Well we look together you know like it was a like she would help out with like I don't know I think someone I think my car insurance for example is on the credit card things like this right you think so you don't even know listen how does that change your opinion does it change your opinion I'm going to say something really controversial right now oh I'm very excited she probably rode in your car lots of times does she need to help you pay off your car you know what I'm saying like you Sam, she may have used, you know, your credit card debt.

You may have paid for some things for her. I think, I think what it sounded like, I don't know, but it sounded, you said she got away. It sounds like you're still recovering from this. He's dealing with guilt. You still care for her. You might feel some guilt. Obviously, you still care for her, but I would, I would not feel any obligation to pay 50K to an ex. Is she asking for money?

not well not really no do you want to know what i think do you want to know what i might think as your older sister who cares for you okay this is like when you go on a date with somebody i think this was from Seinfeld and he would leave something in her apartment on purpose so he would have a reason to come back and knock on the door brilliant move yeah i feel like this is a reason for you to come back and knock on the door yeah well i love her I mean, and oh, well, you're not, you're not, you're not ready to let go. If you could dedicate a song to her right now, what would you dedicate? Oh, great question. Sam, take this seriously. What is it?

Take this. Well, so listen, there's too many to count. I'm writing, I'm writing letters about every day. Oh, I'm sorry. To her? Art situation. Look, I know that's the biggest debt, but this 30% interest rate on the this $33,000 car loan is really bugging me. I didn't know what that meant when I signed the contract. I thought it meant 30% of the car's value in total. I didn't know that that was like appreciating. I didn't know that that was every year.

It goes, you know. 30% right? I thought you said 3% when you first said it. It's 30%. No, no, no. It's 30%. And it's an Italian car. Oh, okay.

Break down. I'm sick to my. stomach for you, Sam. You have to take, oh my goodness, what's the snowball? Where are we at on the snowball? Did we get there? No, because your initial question, I'm sorry, I got hung up on your love situation. The initial question was, do I really want him to go down to $1,000 of an emergency fund? Yeah, is that where I start or where do I start here, guys? Yeah, that is where to start. So let me just go through the baby steps with you right quick, Sam, just so you see how this all fits. And how long have you been listening to the show? Are you a new listener?

Um, I'm a new, I'm a new listener. Yeah, you guys are on, uh, on my YouTube shorts. Oh, okay. So you only get bits and pieces on that. Thanks for watching, but you only get bits and pieces. So the first step, this is seven baby steps for you to achieve financial piece is what we're talking about. So you do them, all of that I'm saying, you do them consecutively in order. That's the first thing. You got to do them in order. If you jump around, it won't work and you'll be wasting your time. The first step is you get a thousand dollars saved. So if you don't have any money saved, you got to go out, work, sell stuff and get it done. If you do have money saved, you drop it down to $1,000. And then the next, whatever money you had left over is going to go to baby step two, which is you paying off all of your debt except your mortgage. This is all the consumer debt.

Okay? And you do this using the debt snowball method. Debt snowball is we list all the debts, smallest to largest. You pay minimum payments on everything. and then any extra money goes to the smallest debt. Does that make sense? Yep. Okay. After that, now we stack up that emergency fund. Three to six months of expenses is what we're looking for.

You get to decide, is it three, four, five, or six. After that. So number three is three or four thousand dollars a month in expenses. Three to six months of basic living expenses. So just for round numbers, let's say your number, let's say you had five thousand, thousand dollars worth of expenses every month. What we're saying is, is that's three months is 15,000, six months is 30,000. You tracking? Yep. All right. So that's what we mean by an emergency fund. We give you the kind of the, we say three months is a minimum. So that'd be 15,000 on this

example. That's what she's talking. That's right. And it's for baby step three, it's really about your basic budget. It's not three to six months of paychecks necessarily. It's what it takes to make your house go on a basic level. Okay. Baby step three B, It's B, because it's not the case for everybody, is if you're looking to buy a house, now is when we start saving up a down payment for the house. After that, you go to Baby Step 4. You could do 3B and 4 at the same time if you want to. You're putting 15% of your gross income into retirement funds.

So that's your 401k, Roth IRA, that sort of thing. Then after that, if you have kids, you're planning for kids, you can put an amount of your discretion towards kids college. We say a 529 or an ESA is where you would do that. and then finally baby step six if you have extra money in your budget again at your discretion you're throwing extra money towards paying off your house early most people who do that pay off their house in like 10 12 years so that's and then finally baby step seven you just live like no one else you give you're a happy person and you got no cares right so that's kind of the big

artian cars with cash hey okay but let can we talk about i'm dying right now you did such a good job can we talk about this man's car yeah tell us about what's the car worth sam paint us a picture? Oh, man. The car is like 21K. I bought it for a very, I think Dave will appreciate this. So like I'm 29, I have an online business and I bought an Alfa Mayo because it was the coolest car you could get under 30K. Love. How much did you pay for it? Yeah. So all in taxes, I had no down paying those about $33,000. So that's the loan I'm paying off. Okay. I was like, yeah, extra. So it's worth $21. Okay. I think I can get a little more for it. I think I might be able to get like 24, 26.

Okay, good. I mean, you got to, I think you got to sell this car right now at 30% interest rate, Jade. I know that's extreme. He said it's 3%. I thought he said 30. Is it 3? No, it's 30. It's 30. You asked that twice and he said 30. Oh, can I not hear? Can I hear? Listen, I just turned 41 in my old age. I can't hear anything. He's paying 30% on this car. That's painful. Yeah, you got to get out to. day. Like, you got to sell it. Do you have any money saved? No, I can get some money this month, though. I mean, the income's good. Yeah, you got to find, you got to find at least $10,000 so you can get out of this and get

yourself a little beater car to drive around until you can save up for a better one. So, yeah, but is that, is that, you know, here's the reason I bought this car. It's the coolest car under 30K. And, you know, it doesn't matter how cool it is. What do you make? Well, I'm $9,900 a month consistent. recently for two years. The last Q4 I was paying myself about 14K in month. Really going overboard with the whiskey

and the oyster. Here's what I want you to do. Listen, what a life. Here's what I want you to do. I want you to apply that 9200 to get out of debt. I want you to quickly save up what you can to get out of this car,

buy something cheap in cash. It's only temporary. You're going to be out of debt in a year and then you're going to save up and you're going to buy the same car in cash. All right. Jade and I are going to look into some whiskey and oysters ourselves. I know that's right.

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Ken Coleman and it has, people ask it, has it replaced the Ken Coleman show? Yes, because it is a very different format. Imagine you're sitting in on a deep dive conversation with somebody who's a thought leader, someone who has done something extraordinary in their lives. They are a man or a woman of success. And you get to be a part of the audience. And you're sitting around with us asking a question. Well, that is the format, live format. We record it. And then also we have a virtual format where people can zoom in, if you will. So we're bringing the audience to the front row seat. That's the concept. It's on YouTube now or wherever you get your podcast. A new episode comes out every Tuesday morning. If you want to get better personally, move up professionally, and lead

effectively, those are the conversations. Wow. How do you, how do you source your, like, guests? How do you pick, how do you select your guests? Because you've got had some wonderful guests. Yeah, some really fun guests. And the way it goes down is, you know, we're selecting people within those categories. So for instance, people that can help, experts can help out in the area of personal growth. So that would be an expert maybe on sleep or nutrition or exercise. Wow. Okay. Right. And so we're mixing it up, right? And then, of course, we have people that are professional gurus. It can help you on certain soft skills. Like we just had Charles Duhigg. We just recorded that or come out soon. Pulitzer Prize winning author of the book Super Communicators.

Wow. So we're talking about the three types of conversation. So how do we use those types of conversation to win in our profession, but also win at home? That's so helpful. And then, of course, leadership experts. So it's very intentional between those three buckets of content, if that makes sense. Well done, Ken. Thank you. I'm really excited about it. It's beautiful, by the way. If you want to check it out on YouTube, the team did a great job with the set. Looks really, really fun. So the front row seat is the name of the show, Front Row Seat with Ken Coleman. You can get it on YouTube or wherever you get your podcast. Let's go to Brianna, who's joining us in Dallas, Texas. Brianna, how can we help today?

Hi, yes. I have a question. Well, I need some advice. Me and my husband are thinking about selling our home because we're just drowning in debt and we just don't have any other option to try to get out of it, but to sell our home. So, yes, that's my... What has created that scenario where you don't believe you have any other options? Give us some details. Well, we are just drowning in debt. I know y'all, we sell, say, sell the cars and we looked into it.

We owe, in one of our cars, we owe like $9,000. Okay. And we try to see if we could sell it, but we will be under. It's really not worth selling. It's just, I guess, right now we're just better off paying it off. And the other one is $12,000. And that one as well is negative. So we're like, okay, we might as well just try to hang on to those.

and try to pay those off. And everything else is loans and credit cards, student loans, IRA. Go through the other ones. Go through the other amounts for us so we can get a picture of this. So the $9,000 car, the $12,000 car, what else? And then loans, like, personal loans, like $20,000. Okay. Credit cards is around like $35 to,000 to like $40,000.

Okay. Student loans is my husband. It's like $73,000. Okay. How much are yours? I don't have any. Good. And my real IRS is like $9,500.

Okay. And then I have medical bills that's like $3,000. Okay. Okay. What's your combined income? Combined income is like $10,500 to like $11,000 per month. Yes. Okay.

And have you added up, if you don't know, it's okay. But if I were to ask you on the spot, like how much does this cost you? doing payments every month. Do you know the number to that? Like the debt alone is like 4,000, probably a little bit more. Okay. So you're paying 4,000 in payments. And then tell me what's your mortgage. Tell me about the mortgage. Tell me what you owe on it. The mortgage is like 31, 3,100. Okay. And that's what you're paying per month. But tell me how much you bought the house for. the house we bought it for her 386 what's it worth right now is worth uh like 385 387 well sweetheart if you sell the house that's not going to give you guys any much money at all i i know we owe 340 on it right now

right but after you pay your realtor there's very little of this that is going to actually solve this problem. Right. That's what we were like, okay, should we just try to fight for it or should we try to sell it and try to at least get out of it? Jay's got something to tell you. The only thing I was, we were thinking is because my husband drives like an hour and a half commute to his job. Okay. Interesting. So he wanted to move closer to his job because it's a long drive. Could you rent for less money? in that location? Sorry, Jay.

That's okay. The rent's probably going to be like 2000. Yeah, not much different. Not much difference. Well, no, you said you're paying $3,100 per month. Oh, yeah. That is actually a huge difference. Right?

3100 plus the HOA. Oh, that's not including HOA. What's your HOA? No, 250 every quarter. Okay, every quarter. Okay. I would consider moving, Jay, in this situation, because that's a long way to commute number one.

Well, there's a couple of things. You got that big commute. I was going to ask you, is it an hour and a half each way, or is that combined? Because if it's 40 minutes, that's not as big of a deal. No, it's each way. Ooh, girl, yeah. So he has to drive into the office three days out of the week. So two days he'll work from home.

But three days out of the week, he has to drive to the office. It's still a lot. Three hours driving in a day is a lot to get to work. So that's one green light. It's not the biggest reason. Because like you said, it's not like he's going in every day. is a reason. The biggest reason for me to consider getting out of this house is because it's more than 25% of your take home pay. And at this point, you need every dollar that you can get your

hands on. Now, there is a thought here. And you guys need to sit and talk about this because there's a thought where I go, okay, if you guys really start side hustling, if you start picking up your income, there could be a world when this debt is over that this is not 20, that this is 25 percent of your take-home. You see what I'm saying, that you raise your income, and it becomes something that you can keep around. Today, though, it's really a problem. So I would say your homework to sit down with your spouse tonight would be to say, what are all the things we can do to make money? What are your opportunities that are directly related to your job? And what are mine? Do you, do you both work? Yes, we both work. So he has his main job, and then he has a part-time job on the

weekends to make like some extra income. I try to work overtime. I work at a daycare. So I try to work extra like overtime whenever I can. How consistent can that happen? Is that like a daily thing or is it like a couple times a month? It varies. It depends on the teachers. Like I just found out I have COVID so I have to be out all week. Gotcha. So what I'd be looking for when I'm looking for a side hustle, I'm looking for something I can count on. That's the whole point. So I'd be looking, if I'm going to spend the extra hours working, I want something that's like clockwork, I can get it, I can go bust my butt and do it, and it's there. So you both need that. And then if something, if, you know, part time pops up at the job and

you have the levered, you know, the place in your schedule to do it, you do that too. But right now, I want, here's my main job and a go-to side hustle that's always there. I can work it every day, every weekend. Got it. So that's you guys' job to come up with that tonight. And then after that, have you made a budget? I tried the dollar thing. I just downloaded it. Okay, good. I did like the free trial thing, but I'm going to have to pass it because it's like $18 a month. Okay. You don't need to stop borrowing money. Yeah. You got to stop borrowing. Ken is right. Yeah. Like you got in this mess because y'all are trying to do too much and you don't have enough money for it. So if you can't afford every dollar to get a budget, you better get it out on

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Welcome back to the Ramsey Show in the Fair Wins Credit Union Studio alongside Jade Warshaw and Ken Coleman. Dustin is going to start us off here in New York. Dustin, how can we help today? Hi there. Thanks so much for taking my call. You bet. What's going on? Well, I have a question about housing and budgeting. So let me give you a little bit of context. My wife and I are in our early 30s. We've been working in baby steps. We've been married about two years and in about the year and a half mark. We paid off, we finished paying off around 70,000 worth of debt. Way to go. Oh, thank you. And so we currently live in a one-bedroom

co-op in the Hudson Valley, which costs us around $1,600 a month. So with that in our budget, we're able to save between $3,000 and $4,000 a month. And we've been doing that since we got married. Um, and so we're about to have, we have a seven month old now and in the coming May, we're going to have our second child. And so that's a lot of people to put in a one bedroom apartment. Yeah. So to, yeah, to get to a bigger place, it would be about $2,400 a month at least in this area, just because it's the Hudson Valley. Um, and so in our child care costs are likely to go up in the coming August, um, once paternity and maternity of you leave is done. And so my question is like, do we, do we stick it out here? Because our long-term

plan is to move out of state in about two years once my mother-in-law retires. And so we're saving up for a down payment. But in the meantime, Indiana, we want to go to Indianapolis. In about two years? In about two years. How much money have you got saved up? So we currently have around 17,000 saved up. We just finished paying off all of our debt. So we're like we're just getting started on that saving process. But you're saving a lot per month, which is great. Yeah, yeah, exactly. And our living situation really helps with that. And we've got family nearby and all that. So the location is good. It's just the square footage is not great. Yeah. And so, you know, do I, do I sell our co-op in the meantime so that during that two-year waiting period, we can have, you know,

have a, you know, more expensive but larger place, or do we just kind of stick it out in the one bedroom with four people? I mean, if I would, what I would do is I'd stick it out for as long as I possibly can because the more that you can save on your living is the more money that you can save for a potential down payment. And I don't have to tell you, you need a lot of money saved for a down payment these days, right? So the more that you can get saved in the next two to two and a half years, that would be my number one goal. Matter of fact, I'd run it back and say, okay, based on Indianapolis home prices and based on what we want, which I got you over here, whenever you're ready, whenever you're ready. Yeah, we're going to plug that in and then we're

going to run it back and say, okay, what must be true for us to move in? And then that's the, that is the silver bullet of what we're saving for in the next two, two and a half years. So, Kim, I'm going to, I'm your assistant. I'm giving you some numbers here. My computer died, so I don't have it. It's okay. I got you. All right, you got it. That's what I'm here for. All right. So an average price for a three-bedroom home. I did three-bedroom because it's going to feel like a castle to him.

Love it. Oh, I love hearing the little one in the background. That's real. We like that, folks. 230 to 299. This approximately. $230,000 to $299,000. Some specifics, if you look at Marion County, because I typed in Greater Indianapolis area.

So I'm given, so this is just what this is the homework you need to. to do, my friend. But you've got Marion County, median price is 229. Hendricks County median price is 303. Johnson County median price is 298. So let's add some, other surrounding. So you're in that 230 to 300,000. And then let's add a little inflation to that. Let's say 240, right? That's what I would say, because this is two and a half years from now. So you say 240 and then knowing that what you're attempting to do is put 25% down, then you can go and plug-in estimated taxes and insurance and all of that. And that number is what you need to be working towards. I got him at, if you guys continue to save, if I was listening correctly,

you were saving $3,000 to $4,000 a month, you guys can have a shot at getting close to $100,000, just your savings, not including any equity in the co-op, right? Correct. Yeah. So I, I... What's your equity in the co-op? We think based upon comps that I've read, I'm in the area that I can get around 50 after the sale. And so that brings us pretty close to that 20% down payment with what we have saved. Great. And we're targeting a house in Indianapolis around the 300,000 mark.

Love that. That's very doable. And I'm with Jade then. Listen, the babies don't know. This is going to be tough on you and mom. But you know what? Two little babies. These are going to be memories that you two talk about when the kids are long gone.

For sure. And you're going to be like, we did it. And I think since we're not asking the kids to suffer, you guys aren't really suffering, but it is a form of suffering. And I'm with my partner on this one. Listen, she and Sam, I brag about this, she had Sam had one car for how long? Ten years. And how many years after you actually had the money to buy a car?

Long, let's see. We were done in 2018. I didn't buy a second car until we got huge. which was 20, 22. Which I don't recommend. I think she's bananas, but she's the real deal. So I'm with Jade. I 100% would suck it up.

They're little ones. It's going to be crazy anyway. Two years is going to fly when you've got two babies. I know that's right. The days are long, but the years are short. That's right. And I'm with Jade 100%. I'd tough it out and then make the triumphant entry into Indianapolis with a really,

really nice down payment. And by the way, cost of living there, fantastic. So, man, you're going to feel like from Hudson Valley to the greater Indianapolis area. Oh, man. What a change. Unless. Wait a second. No, no, no, no.

Hold on, Dustin. She's got an idea. No, it's not an idea. I was just about to throw some bait into the water. Go for it. I was going to throw it. You said it's a really great cost of living there. And I was going to say, unless everybody in New York,

get spooked and starts going to places like Indiana and Florida and Tennessee. Oh, we have some people raising their hands out there in the lobby. Indiana is the new Tennessee for New Yorkers. Are you all leaving upstate New York? I met you all earlier. Is that what you did? See, that's what I'm saying. Now, I'm not trying to spook you, but I'm just saying the migration is real.

They're more mature. Can we say that? They're a little bit more mature in age. I'm just saying that there are predictions being made. I'm just saying about another great migration. Oh, well, we'll see. We'll see. We'll see. The times will tell. Now's the time, folks. I thought I was setting you. That's why I said I was putting a line in the water. No, I'm not going to take it. Well, I'll say this. I'll say this. I'll say this. When people say they're going to leave this country based on some political change. Number one, it's their right to say it. We saw a lot of celebs say it. A few actually did it. Instead, they just went to Indiana. They went to England. The celebrities I'm thinking of. Yeah. But, you know, listen, are people going to leave over stuff like that? You better believe it. We saw. massive migration from California.

We saw it here in Middle Tennessee. Certainly a lot of people moving to Florida. It's certainly going to happen. But I don't think, and my brother-in-law and sister-in-law live in Indianapolis. So I apologize ahead of time. Of all the places people are going to flee from New York, I don't think it's Indianapolis. I'm not throwing shade in any of my friends. It's a nice area, sir.

It's a lovely area. But it's not on the top of anybody's list. Is that fair? Even he's acknowledging me. He's like, well, you make a good point. Lovely place to live. He's in a top destination? I don't think so.

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That's the theme there. So we'd love to hear from you. And how about a question from the Ramsey Network app, Jade? You up for one of those? Sounds good. Let's do it. All right. This is from Ann.

She writes, I'm engaged, and my fiancé just bought an RV. for, you're ready for this? Hard swallow. $240,000. But he's not sure how he's going to pay for operating it. Yikes. What? I'm concerned that he may take a loan out. So he'll not only have a monthly payment, but also all the expenses and upkeep that go along with owning an RV. My question is, how do I proceed? Because we plan to get married next year and we disagree on money. issues. Yikes. Oh, wow. Yeah, that's a big red flag. Dude went and bought an RV. I don't think I realized that RVs were this expensive. Oh, man. Yeah. That's a house. Oh, yeah. On wheels, basically. Okay. Yeah, yeah. Oh, but doesn't go up in value. Right. Drop in like a rock. Yeah, dropping like a rock. Okay. You should be concerned. The fact that she's

concerned that he's going to take a loan out makes sense. He took a loan out for the RV. So yeah, he'll probably take a loan out for the upkeep. The biggest issue is, they don't agree on the money issues. Ken, I don't know about you. I believe that money, it's one of those big overarching themes you've got to be aligned on. It's money, politics, religion, and how you see raising your kids and family, that kind of thing. I agree. And so, I agree. This is a big one. The best way I think to call this out is just to sit them down and say, listen here's what we've said our plans are together we obviously plan to get married um i i've started noticing that you and i have different views on how we view money and how we view debt um can you tell me a little bit more of how you see that playing out in the future and maybe just kind of set him up with some

questions hey uh in the future when we want a car what do you think we would do would we get will we try to save up in pay cash or do you think we would take out a loan and just kind of ask him learn more about what he would say. And then you, once you've heard his response, then you come back and say, okay, well, here's my viewpoint. I think that if we were going to buy cars, I'd like to pay cash, and here's why. And then lay out your side and say, I just want to have a clear conversation and see, is there a way that we can get on the same page with this? Because this feels like it could cause problems down the line, and I don't want that for us. And you just have to have a hard conversation. Yeah, I agree with everything you said. I'd probably ratchet.

it up the technique here. Tell me. Yeah. I'm going to go with the, he needs a text. What do you mean? I'm going to tell you. You're going to text him the questions? No, I'm going to text him and say, we need to talk. Ken, now you know that. That strikes fear. If you didn't have bubbles in your tummy, when you receive that text, you will have. You need bubbles. We need bubbles. This is a we need to talk. This is a bubbles level conversation. Oh, man. So you want to create uncomfortability going in? He needs to know how serious it is. Okay. This is not a manipulative power play.

It is a we need to talk. It's time to define the relationship. Ah. Because she says in this question, I am really concerned that we don't see eye to eye. And I think I agree with everything you said. I just would put some seriousness on it. Okay. It's not a threat.

Serious sauce. This is not manipulation. I'm just saying it needs to be, I don't know that we should be talking about getting married. Or no, I don't know. We shouldn't be talking about getting married. If we can't get this on me. We've got to press pause on this because this will break us down the road. And this has nothing to do with my feelings for you.

I think it's that serious. Okay. I'm approaching this as if she were my daughter. Okay. But here's, let me push on this a little bit. There we go. This is why people show up. Let me push on this a little bit.

I would be afraid because love goggles can make you change parts of yourself. Can you, and this is embarrassing. but give me a real quick 15 second on what love goggles means. I think I know but I'm not sure I've ever used it. Love goggles are you see them and everything's perfect because you've got like these you don't notice their back here.

You don't notice, you know, the little things that after you get married you'll start to notice, you know? Okay. So you think she's got love goggles? She did. She doesn't now. No, she doesn't but my point is if he has love goggles on if she makes it feel like an ultimatum

then he might change some of his answers in order to get what he wants. And I'm not saying like maliciously you're like in a diabolical way. I'm just saying that sometimes. You think he feels the pressure. Yes. Because the truth is you are your best self when you're in your dating phase. You're your best like you're on your best behavior. And so he could be like, oh yeah, yeah, honey, you know, we don't have to do debt, da da da da da. So you think my approach, help me, how is my approach not, how does she then make it I think if she just makes it a conversation and we're talking, she's more likely to get the real answer. But if she puts the stress of we need to talk, we need to define this relationship,

then he could feel the need to be like, well, okay, okay, yeah, yeah, no debt, no debt, that's fine, that's fine. But that may not be really where his heart is. That, I know. Okay, so, okay, so let's say I go with your approach. I'm not there yet. Okay. Fair enough. Let's say she has that conversation and then there's no real, there's no real outcome. Then I think she can, can ratchet it up. I think I would start a little more casual. If you like my plan, you just aren't ready to push that button here. Yeah, we're on, we're on like level two and you were coming in hot on like medium high. That's fair. And I'll, and listen, I can now say, I understand that, but you know, I was truly coming at it from. If it's your daughter. If it's my daughter

and she's having this conversation, she says, dad, what would you do? I went dad. I pushed the dad button everybody. Jade, thank you for pulling me off of it a little bit. If it was my daughter, I'd be like, let me go talk to him. Oh, okay. Hello. You just took me and said, hold my beer and I'm going to, I'm going to kick the door down. All right. All right. Very good. But you get my point. I do. I would say this. I think you said it well. And I want to, I want to park it here. Okay. Can we park it? Yeah, that's a good point. Because here's why. You nailed it on the things that cause marriages to, to splinter and unfortunately break. You gave a whole list. kids, faith, politics, money.

Yeah. And to that point, we have a lot of new people that are joining this program all the time. Yes. I'm parking it here because I think it's important that we share with people why this actually happens. There are deep-seated habits that come from beliefs, the environment, on all of those issues. You can pick any of this issues. We're only talking money right now. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

But when you have two completely different value sets, and you mentioned love goggles, let's just talk about money goggles. If the two sets of goggles in a way you see money are so different, it literally can cause chaos in your relationship, true or false. Is that too strong of a statement? No, I think that's exactly right. How does it cause chaos? Well, you know, think about it. One is, let's filter it through the question.

she is a person obviously a little bit more frugal she sounds like she's debt-averse she sounds like she understands the value of keeping your income every month and that might be because all of that belief is because of how she's experienced the world up until this point and then he's the opposite

I'm not saying he's a bad guy I'm just saying that his beliefs are based on how he's experienced the world up until this point and when you want somebody to change what they believe based on how they've experienced the world That is a hard fought.

That is a hard fought fight. Yeah. It's their default mode. It's their default mode. So it's not just as simple as we'll change. Well, I got to go back in and I got to figure out how do I feel about this? And what does that mean about me? Because I've always operated like this because of this.

So it's not just a surface level request. That's right. Hey, I don't want to use debt anymore. Oh, okay, no problem. Like it's never that. These are, and that's why I say when it comes to these money issues, we do say can, sometimes it might sound a little bit flippant, get on the same page with your money. And the point is, it's not a light switch that you just flip up or flip down one day. It's a journey.

I agree. And I would say on all of those issues, I think all those issues should come up in premarital counseling. Can I just put that out there? But I certainly believe money ought to. Just press pause. Don't get married until you get on the same page with this stuff. I think you save yourself a ton of stress and everything else. It's that important. So just a little relationship thing. We talk about this. Relationships and money, folks, you just cannot untie those. They are tied together whether you like it or not.

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with less than 20 employees. Recently, I discovered that while my employer has been taking deductions from my check for my 401k. They had been holding the money and making a few small deposits into my account throughout the year and then one larger deposit at the end of the year. Huh, I confronted my employer

and their only response was that they were sorry. Does this sound legal or unethical? And is it time to seek new employment? Yeesh. That does not sound right. It does not sound right at all. Smells very fishy. Yeah, because you're,

missing out on time in the market if they are not investing the money into the funds that you chose. This needs to be dealt with instantly. Instantly. Like sitting down with lots of leaders going, hey, look, I'm- Immediately. I got questions. Don't go in accusing, but a lot of questions and good questions. Why has this been happening? Yeah. You said, sorry, that implies a mistake. Has it been remedied? What are you going to do about all the back stuff? But what's the tone? I need to know tone because I'm having a strong tone. I'm going to say serious tone. A serious tone.

You don't want to be, you've got to be careful. Oh, yeah. Very serious. Yeah. The question, let the, I like that you ask this. So I want to set this up well. Okay. The questions themselves take care of the tone.

In other words, you don't have to be accusatory, angry, a really pointed specific line of questioning. Uh-huh, uh-huh. Pre-thought out, maybe right there in front of you on your lap. or on your phone and in the moment the you're serious serious face we're not joyful about this no no smiles no amiableness yeah it is seriousness but i think the questions asked properly make it very serious they go this is a person who did their homework this is a person who has follow-ups there is a line of questioning they they feel as though they are on a witness stand and that's how it should be you don't have to be ugly and accusatory because

you're hoping to get to the bottom of this and get an actual solution. But by doing this, you're going to find out really quick if this is a fishy situation or if this is a fixable situation. That would be my take. I like that. I love a furrowed brow, but a nod yes. Like that way, first question, how did this happen? Yeah. Oh, okay. And stop talking. Yes. How did this happen? That's a serious question. Then the follow-up is, has it been fixed? will this ever happen again? What happens to the money that I earned that should have been put? That's the real question.

These questions are going to imply a whole lot of seriousness. That would be my posture. Spoken from a guy, by the way, who's not done it well. All right? I mean, because I get it. I get how the heat should be pretty hot under the hood there. It should be steaming. But can we keep that in and can we ask the questions that way?

That helps us hopefully get some real responsibility. I hope so. Yeah, this needs to be dealt with quickly. Would you seek, I almost might seek an employment lawyer on this. Not lock up a lot of time, but maybe a consultation. I don't think I, I mean, don't get me wrong, that this is not the type of thing that would ever happen here. But let's just pretend I looked at my investments and said, wait a minute, like my thing didn't go in there. I mean, I would go to my leader and or, you know, who's over HR or whatever and say, hey, here's what I discovered. I would not be lawyering at this point. I'd be doing what you're doing, which is asking

a serious question. This is the thing, though, they've already apologize, and so essentially, we have an admission of, we have an admission of guilt here. At this point, then I'd wait for the next round, and if I see it again, because my thing is, if I see it again, then yeah. I'm sorry, I should have done a better job asking you. If you know you've got to go have this conversation with the leader, which they do, I might consult an employment. Yeah, I probably would at that point. So I know what should be

That's, this is You know what I mean? This is very fishy. It gives me a look. Listen, I don't want to say to do anybody wrong, but they took a loan. It smells over there. That was alone. I get it.

Let's go to Denver, Colorado next where David awaits. David, how can we help? I'm starting to work the, well, I'm working Baby Step 2. And I have been using a credit card for all of my like day-to-day purchases. and I pay that credit card off every month, but I'm looking to stop using it, and I'm just a little hesitant to start carrying a balance so that I have the money to just use the debit card for other things

and then have to carry that as I pay that one off too instead of just paying it off. And so I'm not sure, like, is it something where I should wait a month or two and save up the extra money, or should I just go and carry the balance and pay it off as quickly as possible? So, okay, let me filter it through the baby steps.

So when you're paying off debt using the debt snowball method, what we say to do is you pay minimum payments on everything so that you're satisfying whatever your debts are for that month. You're paying, you know, you're doing the things on your budget that are necessary for that month, whatever they may be. I mean, everybody pays their rent or mortgage. You pay your groceries. You pay your minimums on your debt. And then the extra money after that goes to paying off your smallest debt.

so you do need to satisfy with your own cash the things that the month requires and which for you that's going to feel some type of way because you're used to doing that with your credit card so essentially you're used to taking all of your income and throwing it to your credit card to paying it off and this month you're going to go no I'm going to take my income and I'm going to use it on my life and what the margin is I'm going to use to pay off that credit card and what you're going to discover there when you do that is what has been true all along which is that money was debt and you were borrowing it, and now you owe it and have to pay it back. That's what that's going to feel.

Like, you're going to actually feel that you've been in debt this whole time. Does that make sense? Yeah. Yeah. Listen, I'm proud of you. I'm glad that you've seen the light. You've had that moment. What caused you to go, you know, I don't want to do this anymore?

It's just like, it's a little hard to plan, like, when you're the, bill is finished on the 20th of the month, but you don't pay for it until the 15th of the next. So it seems a lot more simple to manage the other way. Well, listen, I want you to have every dollar. That's going to be a great way for you to make this transition into using your own money. And let me just say, and Ken, I know you can speak to this,

when you have been a person who you've let credit cards run their scam on you, which what credit cards do is they say, hey, we'll make your life easier for you, easy in the word, in quotes. But what it really does is it steals your confidence to handle your own money. That's what it does, because you have this crutch that you've been relying on

that's always there. It's debt, but you don't feel like it's debt. And then the moment you remove it, suddenly most of us are like, oh my gosh, I don't even know what to do with my own income. It feels exposing. And so that you're going to feel that for a moment, and then you're going to go,

oh wait, I actually make money and I work hard for my money and I should have the dignity of managing it and spending it in and of my control. Okay. There you go. And what will change is, I was waiting for him to respond because, you know, the emotion there. He's looking at his wounds. He really is. But, you know, I love that he told you why the call, why the change.

The stress of living off of that credit. card way that a lot of people do that, well, I'm going to use it for this and then pay it off them. And for him, he's not wired for that. And I'm just thinking about how light he's going to feel. Yeah. You know, when he just starts to do it this way, the way you've told him, and they goes, okay, now I am in full control. I don't have that angst. And you're not behind a month. When you do that, you're always behind a month. And so what happens? You put everything on your American Express. And then what happens if you lose your job? Now you just owe the money, but you didn't get your paycheck.

Yeah. So there's method to the madness people. Good stuff. Thanks for the call, David. It's going to work. Take a deep breath. Maybe three or four. And it's going to be great.

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I had a couple of hospital visits pop up this year, and I'm anticipating the same thing next year. Okay. So even with the compounding interest, if I'm spending thousands of dollars each year, does it make sense to still hold on to the HSA? Well, it depends. I mean, when you do know that you're going to have qualified medical expenses, it could make sense to pay for them through the HSA. And in that way, you're not taxed on that money.

So that could make sense for you. So you're thinking about it more through the lens of your actual health purchase. you're not thinking about it as an investment vehicle, which a lot of our callers do, correct? Well, no, I am looking at it as an investment vehicle. I'd like to have it, you know, in retirement. Oh, okay. Well, in that case, an HSA is a great idea. If you know that you don't go to the doctor much, if you're willing to have that higher deductible because maybe you know that you're not going to meet it, that could be great for you. And then, of course, if you're thinking about it as a retirement vehicle, great, but it would not be my first choice. It would be what I would do maybe tertiary to

a 401k or a Roth IRA, and then I'd go in and do an HSA. Have you already maxed out those other options? I have not. Okay. So yeah, for that. I've been paying for everything out of pocket so far. Okay. So if we're looking at it through the lens of strictly investing, yeah, I'm starting with a 401k, if I have it through my work, you know, start with that. If there's no match, you start with the Roth IRA first. Now, for the use of, hey, I want to filter some of my actual health expenses through this, then, yeah, you could fund it up to the point of, yeah, I know that I'm going to spend, I don't know, $3,000 on health care this year.

So I'm going to put that in there. And then I'm going to use that HSA to then pay for those expenses. You could 100% do that. But I would not overfund it to the point of. of investing. Does that make sense? Yeah. Okay. It's set up weird where I have to have $2,000 in the regular HSA and then everything above and beyond I can invest. Yes. And if you know, hey, at this point, the $2,000 that are in

there, I'm actually going to use that on health care costs this year and this is a great funnel for it. Yeah, I'm all for that. But as far as you overfunding it to the point that you can then invest the rest. I would not do that until I've overfunded my 401k and Roth IRA. Make sense? Yeah. And I'm, you know, giving the max up to the match for the 401k and I'm slated to max out the Roth IRA. Okay, great. Good for you. Yeah. And if you do all three of those, you are what's known as winning at life. That's amazing. Yeah. Congratulations. Thanks for the call. Good call. By the way, speaking of winning at life, you drop tertiary out there.

I want to just give a little shout out to that. That's a great word. Yeah, yeah. That's a word, by the way. You figure out how to use that right, drop that in a sentence this week. You get a good brand at work. So there you go. Just calling that out.

Thanks for a call on. I was impressed. I appreciate that. Yeah, very nice. Word of the day. Connor's up next in Boston. Connor, how can we help? Hi, Ken.

Hi, Jade. Love you guys. Thanks so much for taking my call. You bet. What's going on? All right. So my wife and I just got married. We're in the process of combining our finances. And I basically have a retirement question. Okay. My question is, should we convert the money that we have in our traditional 401Ks into Roth?

Mm-hmm. Or should we just from this point forward put money into the Roth 401k option? Okay. What baby step are you in? We're in baby step 3B. We're currently renting, uh, and we're going to be renting for the next couple of years because we're not going to be in the city that we're in long term. Yeah, I mean, how much do you have? Can I ask you quick? How much do you have in your 401k? Yeah, so across my wife and my accounts, we have about 220,000 in there. Our household income is about the same. Okay, good. Very good. Typically, we would wait until baby step six to make a rollover like that, because the truth is you're going to be on the hook for some taxes associated with

that, obviously. Right. And with the goals that you have up until this point, in this case, it's saving for a down payment, it could really eat into that goal that you have. So for this matter, you may, you know, yeah, from this point on, I would do Roth style. That's what I would invest in. But I probably would wait to roll it over until you're ready to fit the tax bill and that it's not going to put a dent in your other very important goals.

So, yeah, you could wait until Baby Step 6 to do that. okay great thank you very much absolutely love that call they're they're rocking yeah love hearing that uh Spokane Washington uh near your birthplace isn't that right the city where hey before we go to spokane okay let me go back to that because somebody might be like why do they want to do that what's the purpose oh okay uh so they're they're 401k that they have now they have not paid taxes on that money right and what they're trying to set themselves up for is a situation that when they into retirement, they can pull money and not have to pay taxes on it. So if you do a Roth account, you're paying the taxes up front so that when you're 59 and a half and older, you can pull

money from that and you're not taxed on it. So most people would like to carry that burden now instead of waiting for later. So that's the purpose of that. And whenever you attempt to move that money that you have not yet paid taxes on it, well, then you will have to pay taxes on it. Yeah. Okay. Yeah. No, good explanation. I'm glad you did that. All right, Randy's up in Spokane, Washington, Randy Hucklewiel. Hi, Ken. Hey, I was recently let go in my mid-50s from an executive position making more so $200,000 a year. And since I'm completely debt-free, everything, and I have a pretty good nest egg set aside investment-wise. I'm thinking about making a career change,

but to start out, I'd be making maybe 50 a year to first couple of years. later on, you know, it goes up, but it's something gets me out of the corporate stress and the hassle. I don't have to move. It's right down the road from my house that's completely paid for. Does that sound weird? No, it doesn't sound weird given what you just experienced. I mean, when you lose a job like that, that is a real shot. We know from psychology studies that it's the,

equivalent of losing a loved one. So number one, I'm sorry that happened to you. Number two, it's not weird for you to be thinking through this. My first question comes down to the transition phase. So financially, can you make ends meet making this pivot to the $50,000 a year deal? And then how long would you have to live in that situation? Yeah, so I'm cash-fowing it all out, and I have access to about a quarter million dollars in cash outside my 401K investments, Ross, all that. So my thought is that while I learned this new career path, and maybe I pay myself three grand a month out of that month of cash that I have. And, you know, we just... Okay, so that's...

something to what we were doing before. Right. So that's 36,000. Jayden and I are keeping track of the money. So, so, so, and would that, would that then get you to a place where we've got margin if I, if you used 36,000 of the 250 that you got set aside? That's what my, that's what my spreadsheets tell me. Okay. Now, what is the, I'm just curious, what is this new path? Being a surveyor, a licensed surveyor. Okay. And so, uh, how much, is it, excuse me, is that a government job? Is that like a county level, state level? Or is it private? No, it's actually, it's a little private company that they have their own little firm and run a little business. All right. And so $50,000 a year for how long before it goes up and then what does it go up to? Probably the first

couple of years. And then as you get more experience and you're running your own jobs and everything, and gets into 70, $70,000. Yeah. Well, at that point it's just me and my wife. And you've got In your investment situation, you started off the call saying your investment situation is good. In this situation, I'm okay with this. I just wouldn't limit myself just to the 50,000. I'd be doing some other stuff in the meantime because I really don't want to use any of that 250 I've set aside. That would be my advice. If you love it and you can make that change, then I'm okay with it.

It's not my favorite idea, but not a bad idea. This is The Ramsey Show. Welcome back to the Ramsey show In the Fair Winds Credit Union Studios alongside Jade Warshaw, I'm Ken Coleman and we're going to go to Matt who's joining us now in Fort Worth, Texas. Matt, how can we help today?

Yes, sir. So as of this past Monday, I had a truck that I've been paying on for about two years. I had an auto loan for about $30,000 on it. I owe about $23,000 still on it, and the motor blew up. It's unfortunately just a bad design from general motors. They've had issues with this vehicle or these motors for a substantial amount of years at this point. and I am now falling victim to said bad design

it would be about $15,000 to have the motor replace and I'm trying to decide what's my best option for it before I try to go trade it in and then it be upside down on it. You owe 23? Yes, sir. If you get the motor fix, if we could snap our fingers and it was just fixed today and it was paid off, Is this a truck you'd be happy to drive for a while?

And could you? The truck's in great condition. Other than that, if the motor were to be fixed, there is a company that sells a motor that has the system that caused it to have this issue in the first place, deleted, and that's the option that I went and got quoted from when I talked to a shop. Do you have the $15,000 in cash? I do not. what do you have in cash i i don't have much um my girlfriend just finished school and i was basically

the primary provider um for about a year and a half with us whoa whoa whoa whoa whoa whoa whoa how old are you about 30 years old you're 30 okay you compliment to you you sounded much over you did you did uh why are you the primary provider for your girlfriend you guys aren't married is she 32 No, she will be under me. How old is she? She is 27. You really don't know how old she is? You had to think about that?

That's kind of funny to me. That's a different issue. That's a whole other deal. Different show, different show. But I'm going to go ahead and tell you, you probably need to be on top of that one. Okay, you should, so you need to come up with 15 grand. What do you make? I work in public.

safety. So last year I made about $70,000. I'm probably on track for about the same this year. And if you weren't helping provide for your girlfriend, it's just you, right? Just rent, or do you own a home? What's the situation there? No, it would just be rent in my normal expenses. And I'm sorry for following up on this. Is she able to support herself now? Yes, she's working full-time again. She just started with the, the school year. Jade, I... She works as a American

sign language interpreter, and she started interpreting with a school. Yeah. All right, Jade, I don't know where you're at on this, but I, there's, there's a part of me that goes, because he's already upset down in this, the trading option to me is just foolish. You're just not going to get anything at all. I'd rather see him working

two, three, four jobs. Yeah. And come up with 15 grand to get that truck fixed. And then and then you got to swallow the pill and pay it off. but if it's a good if it's if the truck's in good shape other than this defect yeah that again I'm giving you the answer on what I would do well yeah I mean if you roll out the numbers if we if we looked it up and said what could you get for this with the bad engine I mean what is

it what would you be your estimate you have any idea yeah I've been shopping around with a couple different dealerships I reached out to GM recently because or I'm sorry GMC because they have the highest rebates and stuff right now. And what they say? GM would give me $9,000. Okay. And, and... I mean, because if you think about it like that,

and then you add what you would have to kick in to cover the upside down, plus to get another vehicle, do you see what I'm saying? You're still shelling out $15,000. So that's kind of the numbers on it. I can't see why you wouldn't just, at this point, I hate it. But, yeah, I don't think the numbers are good. for you either way. So it's do you want to keep the car and pay the $15,000 or do you want to get out of the car and get another beater, which I don't think you do. I think you'd rather drive the more

the nicer car of the two if you can just get the money. I've tried that. You can't go into debt for this. I'll tell you that. Like if you end up, if you can't find the money and you end up having to go the other route of, you know, because here's the thing, if you do a personal loan to get from upside down, your numbers are going down. And I can, I can advocate for that, right? I can advocate for you getting out of debt and then having to get a beater car and taking out a personal loan to do that, right? What I can't advocate for is you taking out a personal loan to keep a $23,000 car that you were already in debt for. Does that make sense? So if you can't come up with the money, you might be going down and value.

But I'm sitting next to a person who with her husband, they had one car for how many years? A decade. So where there's a will, there's a way. And what I'm saying is is figure out a way to get where you need to get. And I think you can come up with 15 grand pretty quick, a single guy who's able-bodied. Now you might have to stop taking care of your girlfriend. Oh, no, that's done. I'm already assuming because she's just your girlfriend. She's a grown woman. You got problems. So taking care of her problems isn't your problem. You can't. You know,

in fact, you guys have been, you know, playing house for apparently a long time anyway. So no date nights, no nothing. You got to come up with 15 grand stat. Did we lose you? No, I'm so there. Yeah. It's a bitter pill to swallow. It is. But I just think the way Jade broke it down is great. And that just, again, we're always trying to answer things like, what would we do if you're in your shoes? If you can get the money without debt, yes, keep the car. To your point, it's going to be a great car when you get it fixed. But you can't, you can't do debt. I can't let you take out $15,000 of debt and put it with a $23,000 debt. I can't let you do that. And you should say that to yourself too. And go back and listen to this call, right? Don't come off this call and go, oh, I can't get 50,000. I'm just going to marinate on it because when you do, you're going to see, oh, man, the last thing I want to do is go from being $23,000 in debt, you know, to being $45,000 in debt. That would be terrible. I agree completely. Are you stunned? Yeah, I've tried going that route. I just haven't been able to find a place to be able to do that. I initially did attempt to contact my bank to try for a

person alone because other than the faulty design, I don't have an issue with the truck. I enjoy the truck. I've been driving a truck for two years and it's been great. So then what do you think your option is? Because you're either not getting the car fixed or listen, your other option is take the time however long it takes you to save up the 15,000 and in the meantime you're taking the bus and you're riding your bike and you're getting ubers and you're calling up Leroy to hit you up for a ride like that's that's your option that's what i that's what i think you got to do yeah i don't think he likes that option i'm not even sure you heard that i went through that mistakenly i think it went in one here and out the other listen it's not fun that's why it's not

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but it's been really floppy this past year. So I really wanted to kind of get clear. We're on Baby Step 2. So how should I be using that salary account? Should I put in six months and dwindle it down and replenish it every quarter? Or should I have a full year's salary in there before I started attacking the debt? Oh, I see. Okay.

So are you the only – is it just you or you said you're married, right? I am married, yeah. Okay. Does your husband work? He does. Okay. What do you bring in a year and what does he bring in per year? So this year, I'm bringing in 130, and he's bringing in 40.

Okay. So what does it cost on annual basis? And we can look at this monthly. Let's look at it monthly. What does it cost on a monthly basis to make your household run? $4,000. $4,000. Okay.

So what I would be doing is, since you know that, it sounds like you're, whenever you get a big lump sum of money, you're throwing it in savings, and you're just kind of filtering in your portion of, you're of whatever makes the household run every single month. Is that right? Sort of. So all of my commission goes into the LLC checking account, and then I put in what I know I need to get paid for the next couple of months, which is $2,000 a month, and that goes into our personal account. Okay. And then you're trying to understand, okay, with the rest of it, can I go ahead and start paying off debt, or how much do I need to keep aside? Correct. Yeah, like I should do like six months and then replenish it.

How about we come out of it? What if we come out at it a different way? How about you tell us how much you have in savings, or excuse me, in the LLC account right now? Right now we've got $13,000 in total. Okay. And how much debt do you have and list it out for Jade's smallest or largest? Cool. So small as so largest, we've got five in school loans.

Okay. Seven in a motorcycle. 21 in car and then 22 in credit cards. Okay, a few more questions about that. What's that motorcycle worth if you or he were to sell that today? Ooh, he rides in an awful lot, so I don't know. It might be worth five. Okay.

You notice I said if, I get, I get it. And it's such a small amount. You guys could knock that out, so we don't have to get rid of it. Okay, so, Jade, you've got a picture of the debt right now. What do you have in the pipeline as far as home sales? So I have two that are pending past their contingencies. That will be about 13,000 in the next 30 days. And then I also have five active listings.

So we're looking at maybe 20 more thousand. Okay. Okay. That gives you a better picture. Yeah, you've got 13 coming and then maybe another 20,000 in active. listings. And there's already 13 there. I probably, if your husband made a little bit more money, I might pull this number back. But if I were you, I'd want like two months there. Does that feel right? Two months in the account to know that I'll be okay. Yeah. So instead of 13, you said

$2,000 a month is what you pay yourself. So she's saying $4,000. Four or five. Okay, let's say five. and that gives you eight to put towards debt. That's what she's throwing out. Does that feel like, and then on a regular occurrence, that five, if it goes down, you're always replenishing it to where it's always five. You're paying yourself your monthly amount, plus there's always five in the contingency account. Does that feel good? Okay, so more like an emergency account.

Yeah, but I don't want it to be confused with your emergency fund. Because this really just is, it's kind of like if you have any other sole proprietor, you just want to make sure, hey, there's money coming in. I understand my income is very fluctuated. We would call this retained earnings in Entree Leadership Land, right? And so, but what we're also trying to do right now is we're trying to coach you up on what you can do with the 13 that's in there right now and make some headway. You've got a $5,000 student loan that you could knock out immediately. And how much money would that free up in payment?

Oh, but $50. Okay, it's still $50. bucks. 50 bucks is 50 bucks, which is great. And then the next month, my goal would be to knock out this motorcycle. Yeah. Okay. That's 12 grand. Although, over two months. Can I be honest? I'd sell the motorcycle. Well, I was going that direction. I'd get the two, I'd take $2,000 so that you're not upside down and I'd sell it. That's what I would do. But you said he rides it a lot. That's what the only reason I, you know what I'd do? I'd challenge him. Yeah. Yeah, I'd challenge him to go get a side hustle. What does he do, by the way, for $40,000 a year?

So we actually live in Anderson, which is like a smaller market, but he is in training to become an electrician. So he is going to skyrocket. He's going to crush it. Okay, you know what? He can keep it. That's where I'm at. I, yes. Joy, I mean, excuse me, Ashley, sorry, sorry. Actually, I think he keeps it and you guys go all in on this and knock this out. But I'd knock the student loan out today. I'd cut a check for five grand as soon as I got off the phone. Yeah, that's going to feel great. It's going to leave eight in there, Jade. And it's going to feel real good. Like, that's a massive momentum. Yeah. And then put the other three on the motorcycle. That cuts that in half, essentially. And then the next month, so that means in December, the whole bike will be

paid off. And now you guys will be setting yourself up to work on the credit card debt. Now, is it one credit card for $22,000 or is it littler ones? No, it's, there's two. Two. They're basically split in half. Okay, so, okay, great. So, yeah, I would work on, right after that, yeah, now you got $11,000, one $11,000 card and the next $11,000 card.

You guys are going to go so fast like this. I love it. I love it. What's your anticipated timeline for him to start making the money as an electrician? I think he's due for a raise in six months, but about a year is, and we'll actually know for sure when he'll get in there. I think you guys, if you really get after it, I mean, you're going to, going to be a long way down the line here on paying off this debt by the time he comes into some

really nice money. I think you're going to be done by the end of the year because I think you're killing it on real estate. Yeah. Yeah. And I think the more of this. I'm picking myself for not having it done now. That's all right. It takes a minute to get the bearings on this. Listen, we're not playing armchair quarterback and looking in the back and looking in the past. Ashley, you guys are a great young couple. This debt is very manageable. I'm so proud of you. The thing that made me smile by the way, Ashley, is when you told me what was in your pipeline, you know? Great. Five houses sitting out there.

Let's see if we can stack two or three more on top of that. That's a beautiful situation for you. And if he starts side hustling, yeah, mark my words. In 12 months, you're going to be out of debt. He's going to be, you know, increasing his income greatly. You guys are going to be, it's going to be looking good for you. Right. Well, thank you guys so much.

Yeah, you're in great shape. Head up, right? Super excited. we're going to put you on the spot before we let you go. What are the chances, Ashley, that you cut a $5,000 check today to pay off that student loan? 102%? Whoa! That's great.

That's what I'm talking about. That's like a nice birdie puck clap right there. I think that's fantastic. I love that. You know what I love about her? I love what people get it. She said 102%. That means it's happening, Ken.

I think she's cutting a check right now. That is. That's great. Boy, that feels good. Isn't it? Describe for people from a person who, with your husband, you paid off half a million. What is it going to feel like to her? Describe the feeling for somebody's yet to do it. Oh, oh boy. It's like nothing else because it never comes back. It's a stress that never has the ability to come back in your life again. It's wonderful. Deleted. Deleted. From the deleted files.

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Let's go to Chris in Sacramento, California. Chris, how can we help today? Hi, guys. I just want to say thank you for hearing me out. I'm 27, and I'm getting married within the week. And I have no debt, sorry, but 65% of my income is going to my house, and we're drowning about negative 20% per month on our utilities and groceries, and we've cut back.

and I'm debating on whether I sell my home, rent my home, I have an opportunity out of the area for a job that I would be able to live rent-free and just trying to figure out life. Wow. Well, what we know to be true is the 65% mortgage can't continue. So we know that's true, right? Right.

So that kind of takes a weight off of our shoulders to know, okay, we can't stay here. And then the question is, What do we do next? Because you said you've got an opportunity. Now we can start to say, okay, do we want to do the opportunity that's outside of the area? What does it look like? I think you mentioned renting this house. And so now let's talk about those other options. So is it fair to say that we both agree you can't stay in this house? Yes. Okay. So now let's talk about what do we do with the house. If I were you, I'd sell it. I'd gross about $150,000, I'd probably net after real estate fees about $135. I like that. What's wrong with that? Nothing.

It's more just my first home. I just put $100,000 into it the last two years. And, you know, I was envisioning having my kids here. Yeah. Yeah. So there's just the emotional connection to it. How long did you have the property? Two and a half years.

I put about $150,000 down on the house. when I bought it and I had a really good management position at a restaurant before and that's where I'm going to now for the new opportunity. I tried to start my own business and it didn't work out exactly how I hoped but I'm recuperating my losses and I'm just trying to get back on my feet. I'm currently serving at a restaurant right now and I've been getting by with that and me and my fiancee just our net income together is just we're at we're not we're not making it. in Sacramento. Why are you guys staying in Sacramento for jobs that sound like you could do them really in any part of the country? Well, and that's where, that's why we're moving. It's just more

of, do we rent the home and make a profit per month about $100, $200, or do we sell a home, put the entire, you know, net into a money market account? Yes. And make about $400 a month on money market. Let's do the ladder. Let's do the ladder. Because if you have the opportunity to to rent somewhere out of the area and they're covering the rent, then this is an opportunity for you to start over, let that money grow, that equity that you're going to get out of the sell of this home, let it grow over time because the time is going to come when you want to buy again. I did have a math question on this because I thought I heard you say that you put 150 down on the home. And then I also thought I heard you say that you put 100 into it. Is that

right? So you put 250 into this home, but you're only coming out with 135. What happened there? bad contractor um i got really jacked up by that i lost probably about 50 000 and yeah and i mean i i i'm not a contractor guy i i you know i was doing my job and i ended up going underneath the house and i just solved problems and i solve problems and i long story short cost me a lot more and i was paying the mortgage at the same time as i wasn't living in so i was you know unfortunately paying double or just really drain this doubt and then I just paid off all my credit card debt I had about $17,000 in debt. We're completely debt free. That's excellent.

Yeah. So there's some silver linings here. I think the hardest part is you had a vision for this house. You got taken for a ride and that sucks. And now as a result, you know, it's not going to be the house that you raise your family in. But I love that you have other opportunities. And I mean, you can, kids here on the, on the, on the, career side of this to weigh that out. I take advantage of that while you're on the line. Yeah. Well, Chris, if I heard you're right, you've got a really good manager gig you're heading into, so you feel good about this? Yes, I'm super confident. It's a nice restaurant and South Lake Tahoe. It's,

it's to the night. It's like my dream job. So it's fantastic. And did you say South Lake Tahoe? Yes. Oh, man. That's, that ain't a bad place to work. Come on, Chris. And I'd be going for a but, yeah, it just, it all makes financial set, and it's just, I just, I have, with my business, I've kind of had some regrets on that, and I don't want to have my cart in front of the horse. I love it. You're asking the right questions. Jay gave you great advice. You do not want to be a landlord from long distance.

This is time to move on. This is a clean start. And I think it's great for you. You're going into your dream job in one of the nicest places in the United States to live, and you're kind of get free of this house. which has just been nothing more than a money pit for you, unfortunately. So, yeah, sell and move on, my friend. Sell and move on. I love that.

Do you want to take another call or can I highlight this for the people? Hey, I want to highlight this because a lot of times people are like, why does it have to, you know, we teach that the mortgage shouldn't be any more than 25%. And I know there's a lot of questions around that. And this is a really great, it's just a cautionary tale of what takes place when you don't heed that advice. Because if you really think about it, you know, if you look at your, your money as a whole thing, you know, 100%.

I love that you've got an orange. For our listening to the audience, she has a little tangerine in her hand. Yeah, and if you think about it as segments, right? We've got to cut it up in a segment. It's going into segments. And so if you think, okay, if you do, let's pretend like, yeah, I'm taking your advice,

25%. Okay, now we got 75 left. And then it's like, okay, if you're a person who values generosity, most of us do. So you give another 10%. Now you're at 35. And now you say, okay, well, you've got to invest. Baby Step 4, I'm investing 15%.

Now before you know, we're already at 50% of our income. And we haven't even paid our other bills yet. We haven't done childcare yet. We haven't put aside for kids college yet. We haven't taken a vacation. We haven't even done anything yet. And we're already out 50. So imagine what it would feel like if your mortgage was at 40% or 45%.

You feel that very, very, very, very quickly. So it behooves you It's a great word You know I like a good word It does behoove you to think about Okay what are my ratios here And is this sustainable long term Because 65%

Like you said they're burning 20% Every single month There ain't enough tangerine left over There ain't enough you got to eat the piss That is fantastic That's why I showed up today For that moment That was good

Yeah it's a wonderful illustration and then I want you to, while we're on this, also why we give him the advice, don't try to stay, don't become a landlord, don't keep that house because he think, well, I'm going to make 400 bucks a month. I want you to walk through the math, the real math, when people think that that's a good idea. Well, I think for him, it was more of a sunken cost fallacy. I feel like he thought, well, I put this much into this property. If I hang on to it for a while and keep dumping effort or whatever it is into it, maybe I'll get it out. And for a lot of time for a lot of us, that's kind of what keeps us locked in to something that's just a bad

break and you kind of have to just eat pith and go this. This was a bad break. It wasn't a good investment. You know, I got taken for a ride and walk away. And for him, going all the way from Sacramento to South Lake Tahoe, and now you're going to be a long-distance landlord. Yeah. Trust me. When he rolls in in that moving van to South Lake Tahoe, he's going to be like, I don't, I'm knocking Sacramento. Yeah. All right. But that's a. difference. He's going to be like, forget y'all. You want to leave all that behind. Yeah, you want to leave it behind. And he had a bad taste in his mouth. So I think for him to come out, he's clearing 135. It's not as much as he should, but it's still money. And it's going to sit in a high yield

for however long until they're ready to buy. I agree. And when they buy, they're going to put as much down possible on a 15-year fixed rate mortgage, hopefully, that they can get paid off quickly. He's already debt-free. Yeah. And so the principle of this whole segment is do you know what it is? You've been saying it. Don't eat pith. There it is. By the way, spell that for people. P-I-P-P-I-P-H, is that right? I think. I'm going to look it up. I'm going to look at it up. I'm going to look at it. We did. We got validation. The guys in the booth. Great. Yeah. Yeah. Think about the ratios of your income. Think about each section like this Clementine I hold in my hand. Oh, it's Clementine. It's even better. Mandarin. Love it. That's how we're going to do this. Make sure it's the right. I feel like we went back to Sesame Street. You laid it out for us. I love it. Good stuff. All right, quick break. She's Jade Warshaw. I'm Ken Coleman. We'll be right back.

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That's really good. Love it. Okay, Harrisburg, Pennsylvania is where we go to see, talk to you rather. Leo, how can we help? So I'm having a problem. I make decent money at my job, but I can't seem to save. It doesn't matter if I try, you know, separate accounts that aren't connected to my checking account. Mm-hmm.

you know and I just cannot seem to save money to have an emergency fund to pay off debts what happens you transfer it over there and then you end up just peeping back in there and sneaking the money out yeah yeah I just keep dipping into it whether it's for something important or just something that I want that's not important I just can't seem to you know connect to the dots between saving and not using it all right Leo so I got a question I'm asking us on behalf of my friend here. If we were following you around with a documentary crew for a week, what would be the top items that you're spending,

the type of things you're blowing money on, you're spending the money on. If we're following you around, we'd go, oh, Leo, he's spending money on this. Give us a top five, just off the top of your head. Oh, it's gas station, energy drinks, hunting supplies, You know, things that I don't need. Okay.

That was good. That's a good list. Anything else? Not really. You know, when I was younger, it was a, before I had kids and real responsibilities, it was a, oh, I'll make more money tomorrow. And I try to carry that over now, and I can't seem to get away from that. Trying to outer and bad spending habits.

I got to ask another follow up, Leo. If I'm following you, all right, and we're in the gas station parking lot, we're zooming in on the doors and you're busting out of that thing, what do you got in the arms? What do you got in the old bag at the gas station? I'm curious. Oh, I already know. Usually it's two to three energy drinks, maybe a snack for work, and a can of tobacco.

Dip corn nuts, mountain dew, right in it. Oh, man, that's disgusting. Say it's not true, Leo. Oh, it would be so? Oh, it is. You like it. I got to tell you. If I was on a desert island and the only thing I had was a bag of corn nuts, I'd starve.

I'd starve. I'd starve. I'd die. They're actually delicious. So let's help the man out with his budget, Jay. Okay. So I think I heard you say you had kids. Is that right?

Yes. How many? Four. Okay. And you're married still? I'm not. You're not. Okay.

We are dating. We are together. We live in the same house. We have not gotten married yet. Okay. So you have a woman that you're soon to marry. Yeah? Yes.

Okay. Okay. So let's talk about the money first and then we'll go back to the relationship because we're not going to speed past that like you didn't just say what you just said. Four kids. Okay. So first off, what you really need, I think the solution here is a good detailed budget.

I always say that budgets should be three things, detailed, realistic, and flexible. And that will really help you out because I think what's happening, like you said, you're kind of spending the money before you get it. And it's like, I can out earn this. I can out earn this. And if you don't, then you end up having to pull back out that savings. So we'll make sure that you get set up with every dollar. And what I want you to do, I want you.

to sit down and create your budget. And I want you to be so detailed about all the things that you know you spend money on. Even the energy drinks. If you know that's something that's part of your life right now as it sits, put it on the budget. If you know, hey, like I buy a hunting knife at least once a month, put it on the, like be realistic and honest with who you are in your spending so that you can begin to see, okay, I see what's going on here. Right. So that's a good place to start. And then obviously the same way that you're budgeting for all the other things, you budget for things like savings and you can actually see, do I have money to put aside in savings? Can I live the lifestyle I'm living and still have money to put aside in savings? Right now,

it seems as though the answer is no, but when you do the budget, you're really going to get a clear picture of what's going on. So that's thing one. Thing two, I haven't even asked you about debt yet. Do you have any debt? We have two vehicles that I pay for. And I have maybe $2,000 of credit cards that I'm slowly working on paying off. Okay, so putting everything into perspective, right now, if you do find extra money in your budget after you've budgeted for everything, right now the money wouldn't necessarily go towards savings. You'd save up $1,000 and that's it.

If you can get $1,000 and just set it aside, tuck it aside for a rainy day, that's great. Everything else needs to go towards paying off this debt. Okay. Okay. Now, let's talk about the elephant in the room with the relationship. Because... I don't know why mom is not paying for her car. I don't understand it.

I don't get it. Well, I don't understand why mom is not married. I don't go to school. Well, I'm with you on that. I'm as traditional as they get. Why aren't you guys just married yet? It's 100% my fault. I want to give her everything that I possibly can, wedding-wise.

Like, I want it to be the wedding of her dreams. Yeah. And with the money situation, I am not to that point where I'm comfortable spending that money on something like that. I hear that. So it's me holding back. She wants she's pushing for it, which I have new problem doing it, but I want it to be everything she wants. I don't want her to have to hold back on something. Listen, because we don't have the money for it. I 100% honor the idea that you want to give her a wonderful wedding party. But I want you guys to frame that as that's what it is. It's a celebration. It's a party. You can get married legally and don't

nobody have to know about you guys. And then you're at least protected legally. Huh? She's been looking into that through the courthouse and things like that. Yeah. How about this? How about you guys just get married and then you can throw a celebration years from now or you can rededicate your vows and she can put on the dress?

I mean. Spoiler alert, everybody is married before their wedding day. Everyone. The moment you get the document. Oh. The moment you go and sign the document. Boy, you had me there for a second. I was like, uh.

So the idea that it's like, no. I want to wait until the day. I'm like, we all get married on paper a week or so before we're actually married. That's right. So it's not even like, we make it more of a thing than it is. So I think for you guys, it's like, yeah, get married on paper. That way you can do all the things we just talked about with your wife.

Yeah. That sounds nice, doesn't it? Okay. It does. It does sound nice. Yeah. And then you guys can save up for this wonderful party. You can do all of it.

How much do you think you're spending a month in energy drinks, bro? Oh. plan here. It's usually about $10 a day. Yeah. Okay. So we're going to do 30 days in a month. All right. That's $300. Oh, my guy is Rick Flair on those energy drinks. I'm telling you, man. You need to get rid of the energy drinks. That's a $300 a month raise. Do some pushups, some pull-ups. All right. Get some good night's sleep. You won't need an energy drink. I don't need an energy drink. I wake up with the juice, man. Okay? I'm just telling you. I drink a little bit of coffee. But that's like two cups, max. The energy drinks, two cups? All right. Not energy drinks.

Those are horrible. But I'm not getting on your health. I'm actually saying $300 a month. I wanted you to see quickly how you just changed your life. That's a big deal. That's a big raise for you. True or false? You can get rid of the energy drinks.

Don't get me started on the tobacco. Well, I'm slowing down on that. Good. I know. That's why I didn't bring it up. I am trying to actually be sensitive. I get that one's harder to kick than the energy drinks. If you do this budget, I think you're going to be astonished. And especially when you share it with your new wife, since you guys are getting married this weekend, I think you're both going to be astonished. And there's something about seeing your behavior on paper written out that you go, like you clutch your pearls. You're like, I can't believe I've been spending my hard earned money on this when I could have. this. And so what you could have is what you and your wife, when the time comes, you need to be dreaming that up together. You're giving all this great financial advice. I'm trying to help

him, but in a different category. You're my friend. You are Mrs. Clean Eater. Yeah, I try. Give him some. No, you do a great job. Thank you. Give him a healthy snack instead of the chips at the gas station. What's he taken to the office for a snack? Come on. Ken, I'm glad you asked this. Let me tell you what I'm on right now. I knew he would like it. I take a Granny Smith apple. Oh, love a Granny Smith. Sour. Sour. I slice it up, right?

So we got slices. Then I get a little jar of peanut butter. It's not just that. We are separated at birth. I know you look like it. Wait, I'm getting more. Hemp seeds. So I go apple into the peanut butter, into the hemp seeds.

Last, salted caramel. I don't know if I need to be that chilled out at work. Just a little bit of salted caramel. It is so good. Is the hemp seed going to knock his intensity off? No, hemp seeds are, they're a complete protein. They're really high in protein. They're delicious.

I'm learning something. new every day. There it is, Leo. There's your healthy snack, man. We just saved you more money. Yeah, man. No more corn nuts. Put it in the cup holder. This is the Ramsey show. The