The Ramsey Show - App - Debt Is the Enemy of Your Freedom

Episode Date: September 16, 2025

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Normal is broke and common sense is weird. So we're here to help you transform your life from the Ramsey Network and the Fair Wins Credit Union Studio. This is the Ramsey show. George Camel, Ramsey personality, host of this. George Camel hit on YouTube and the Ramsey Networks. He's my co-host today, number one bestselling author. And we're happy to have the leadership team from Fairwinds Credit Union here with us today at Ramsey Headquarters. Welcome, you guys.

If you haven't heard, Fair Winds is our new studio sponsor. We've had a relationship with them for a little over a year, and they've done a lot of wonderful things for you folks out there that have contacted them, and they've even developed products just for you to get help. And as you guys know, I'm not a fan of. of, actually, I detest large banks. So stuff like Bank of America, why would you do business with them if you don't have brain damage? So are people like fifth third?

And I can go on from there and just name off all of my anti-friends, but I won't. So instead, we tell folks to go to small town, local banks, and to credit unions, and we always have for 30 some odd years on this show. And because you get treated like a human being there, not a number, and you actually find competent people there who care. That's an unusual thing, too, in the banking world. And so that's why we're so excited to have fair wins on as our studio sponsor and a partner for Ramsey. And they are doing some really cool stuff.

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I got to see it, and it's actually a real one. It says right on the front of the debit card, debt is normal, be weird. Now, that's a way to pay for some stuff right there. That'll catch some attention from the cashier at checkout. Well, I mean, when you go to Target, like everybody in there that's ever worked there for more than 10 minutes is trained to try to sell you one of their target cards. and you just have to go, no, look, right here.

Read this. Read my card. Read my lips, right? And so, no, uh-uh, right here. Debt is normal, be weird. No, I don't do your target card, baby. So there you go. It's a daily reminder.

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Hey, Madison, what's up? Hey, Dave. I have some questions for you. Me and my husband are not seeing eye-to-eye on our car debt, and I need your input. Okay. We just had a baby, our second baby, three months ago, and my husband pays all the bills, and I just pay the car payment. Well, I'm sick of paying this car payment.

We owe about $12,000 on it. We've had it for four years. And I'm just like, hey, let's go get, you know, a cheap, cheaper car. But he's all about reliability. He's like, the older cars aren't as reliable. And so I'm like, is it smart to go get like a $7,000 car pay cash for it? Or do we, you know, keep making this car payment? I mean, I only make like $600 a month working part time and being a stay-at-home mom.

So our car payment is $3.65 a month. And I'm like, that is just over my, you know, That's all my money, basically, so. How long have you guys been living like roommates, like this, splitting up bills and Venmoing each other? Ever since, every since we got the car, I mean, he's always provided. Like, you've always paid everything. No, darling. The car.

No, darling. Answer George's question. Okay. This is a pattern. There's other things going on here. This isn't just about the car payment. But you're making $600 a month, and he's like, well, that's your car. You handle the payment.

I'm not touching that. hand him one of those kids and say that's your baby I ain't touching that one oh okay yeah this is ridiculous okay stop it's ridiculous the way y'all are doing this is what's causing the problem okay okay you need to combine your finances all of your income is our income when you went down the aisle done dun dun dun the preacher said and now you are one he didn't say and now you're a joint venture and I sure hope you can pay your car payment with your part-time job. The preacher didn't say that. Okay.

No, I did it. And so you guys need to combine your lives because you have combined your bed and your children and everything else. And so this idea that you have to argue over who paid for the mustard in the refrigerator is asinine for a married couple. You guys need to sit down together, develop a game plan, work together on the whole thing. And then, yes, you'll probably need to sell this stupid car. I don't disagree. And this idea that there's no such thing as a reliable used car is ridiculous too because 100% of the time that you drive a new car off the lot,

you are now driving a used car. Okay. So Dave, we also have a savings and we have like $10,000 in the savings account. And he's like, what if we pay the car off and we sold $2,000? That'd be okay, too. That's okay, too. If you want to do that and keep the car, that's fine. We decide that together.

and then we have a monthly budget on every dollar, and we are spending our money on our goals, dreams, and fears. Okay. Really, are you going to do that? You really have to do that, hon. I know, I want to do it. I want to do it. Yeah.

But thinking about the same dreaming. No, just demand it. Demand it. Okay. You have to do this because the people. who do it have a higher quality marriage relationship and the people that do it have a higher probability of becoming millionaires. We've got data that backs us up. You guys are not pulling together. You're pulling at each other. And when you start pulling together instead of at each other,

you make more progress, both relationally and everything else. When you can agree on your spending, you have communicated at a deeper level of intimacy. When you can agree on your spending, you have agreed on your future. You've agreed on your fears. You've agreed on a stupid car. We can have an argument about reliability versus the $10,000 savings account. We can take all of those things and mix them in together. And you're missing out on all of that because you're treating this like you're married to your college roommate or something. And no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, please.

Hey, try it my way and push through the awkwardness for 90 days, do what George is suggesting and Dave is suggesting. You'll never go back. But if I'm completely wrong, you can go back. and then you'll see a marriage counselor, which is what you'll need because you can't combine your lives. And that's what you'll be down to.

But please try it. Yeah, right now I can tell they have separate accounts and he's going, well, this is my money, this is your money, I'll cover this, you cover that, and hopefully everything will work out. Well, she's going to be in debt and resentful for the next five years, and who knows what he's doing with his extra money, nobody has awareness or transparency in this marriage.

There's no trust here. Just scorekeeping. Well, the biggest thing is there's just a tremendous amount of waste in this disorganization of chaos. Yeah. It's like one of those finger traps. They're pulling away and they're just stuck where they are. You've got to be moving in the same direction. That's the key. I haven't thought of those things in years. I'm always thinking about those finger traps. Why do you find that metaphor? I love it. Chuckie cheese near you, I think.

Chuckie coming from it. Chuckie cheese near you. Brittany's in Missouri. Hey, Brittany. How are you? Hi, I'm good. How are you? Better than I deserve. So my question is, my boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half. We've talked about finances upside down and sideways. But from my past experience, a lot of relationships say they're on the same page with finances, and then once they get married, one of them go and end up being a bigger spender than they originally led on to be.

So, wait a minute, your past experience, you've been married before? I have been, yes. And that's what happened before? Oh, yes. So you married a man without integrity? Yes. And probably that lack of integrity bled into other areas, which is actually why you got the divorce, right? Yes, absolutely.

Okay. Go ahead. I'm sorry. So I guess my question is I trust my boyfriend, but how do I, like, I don't know. I guess I'm terrified that we will get married and then it won't be everything we talked about. But I know it's just my past experience. that are making people that way. I think we talked about it a minute ago in a sense,

and for me, looking at it, I think it's wisdom to ask the question because you got burned before, right? Right. But there's not, the only way to guard against it is to marry a guy of integrity. Yes. Okay, and I didn't say he was Jesus,

and I didn't say he was perfect. I just said he had integrity, meaning he is who he is. he is, who he is, who he is. I mean, it's kind of like saying, okay, how do I ensure that my boyfriend won't call his old girlfriend after he's my husband? Because he's a person of integrity, and I would kill him. And, you know, both and.

You know, but I mean, you can't, you can't be sure of that, except as sure as you are of the man's character. Yes. And so you need to date long enough that you are sure of his character. And you probably sit down and talk to your counselor, your pastor, about your wounds, which are valid wounds, and go, okay, I don't want to, I don't want to superimpose the other jerk on the new guy. That's not fair. But I also want to be wise and not let that happen again. So how do I balance those two things?

And, you know, and for me, I'm just going to be talking to your new boyfriend a lot about that if I'm you. Okay. We talk about it like every day. Yeah, he's probably sick of it. Yeah. Yeah. So is he in debt now? He is not a lot. He's got probably $20,000 to $30,000 in debt. I have none, but I also make no money to be in debt. So. Okay. And is he actively trying to get out? He is. Aggressively? He still spends? No. Okay. He still spends, but he is working towards it. I know he's paid off probably $20,000 to $30,000 in the past year. Okay. So you think in another year he could be completely dead?

debt-free? Yes. Okay. He could be debt-free in the next six months if he wanted to be. Okay. So independent of you, whether you were there or not, he seems to be trending in a debt-free direction. His behavior is there. He's not just giving it mouth service. He's actually doing it. Yes. So I guess my next question is, is it stupid to wait until he's debt-free for us to make the next step of getting engaged? I know you always say to just put everything together and pay off the debt together. No, I would not, I would not base my engagement on debt-free. I would base my engagement on his pattern of behavior.

Okay. If he's going in the right direction and you're comfortable with his character and this is who you want to spend your life with, then spend your life with him. I'm not, you know, if you have to put out an ultimatum, I don't know, in order to earn my hand, you will have, that, that's a little much. Yeah, I'm not doing it. How long have you guys been together? A year and a half.

A year and a half. Okay. So this is still progressing toward an engagement, maybe in the next year? Yeah. Yeah. We don't tell people to wait to get married or have babies based on their debt. We do tell them to wait on those things based on how they're treating their debt. Are you being a freaking adult and addressing the issue? Are you still being a baby child?

Right. And that's the deal. He's very responsible. He's definitely addressing it. Yeah, he's doing it. Everything you've described about the guy is solid versus the last guy. and so but I you know it's fair to say you got burned and so I've got this this spot and man you just really I'm going to be super sensitive about this subject because I got burned before and so dude you're going to have to be super diligent to stay on the path I'd share your your fears and

feelings with him and say listen this has happened in the past I don't want to project this on to you but I want you to know this is how I'm feeling and if I'm him now I'm going to be real sensitive and probably more aggressive to getting out of debt so that you feel like man he's he's going to provide, he's not going to be making dumb financial decisions that move us backward. Yeah, Brittany, I'll give you an example. Okay, we went broke, we had a brand new baby, a toddler, and a marriage hanging on by a thread. My wife was terrorized by our water being cut off, our lights being cut off, and me filing

bankruptcy. She was in a constant state of fear. That was 30 plus years ago. I still, as a loving husband to this day, need to be aware that there is a wound when it comes to security around the issue of money with Sharon Ramsey. She's not a walking wounded warrior. That's not, and the wound has healed progressively over the 30 years, and my behaviors for 30 years have been different than the get rich quick moron that went broke.

Okay. So I've earned the right of trust. But I, as an act of love towards her, need to remember that if I even walk near the drawer where the emergency fund is kept, where the little file, you know, so we can get to the emergency if I even walk near the drawer, like I'm going to use that for something else, it puts her in a way different state of mind. And I need to keep that in mind in how I interact with her. This guy needs to keep in mind that you got burned before and you've got this sensitive

place. And it'll be less sensitive as time goes along. but you just need to be aware of each other's wounded spots and go, why would we go there? Yeah. And so I'm just real aware, Sharon needs to be reminded that we're okay. And you earn it every day by continuing that same pattern of integrity. And the crazy part is it takes a long time to build the trust and you can destroy it in a second. But even then, it's not unfair to me to, even though I've rebuilt a trust and a pattern's been for 30 plus years, right?

it's not unfair to ask me to be aware that she has that sensitive spot right as a matter of fact that's just how you live together if you're married and so that's fair it's fair brittany for him to be aware of this it's not an invalid feeling it's not an invalid uh concern and there's tactical things you can do once you're married like combining your bank accounts so you both have transparency into what's going on financially doing that budget together freezing your credit so that no one can go just take out alone willy-nilly and if he goes and takes out debt behind her back well clearly there's a very clear violation of trust here and so that's your biggest fear and I think there's things we can do before then and I guess my point is in this case were he to do that knowing that she has

this sensitive spot this is more than just a violation of trust this is like saying I don't really want to be here yeah you're you're like you're it's a game over you're shooting you're shooting the debt I mean you're shooting the cow you're it's over man it's just dumb so you go you know you knowing that she's got that spot. So it's quite the opposite way to approach it. So it's a good question, Brittany. Thank you for bringing it up. And it's a pretty standard thing.

If you have been down the, you know, you're going into a second marriage relationship. If the first one had some kind of money problems, which, by the way, money problems, money fights. Number one calls a divorce in North America. So if you went through a divorce, high probability that there's a money issue in there. And then you take that to the next relationship and how do I deal with that and not have that happen again. That's why I want to spend a minute on her question because it's not just for her. It's for, you know, out of the 40 million people out there listening, it's probably a couple more just like her. A lot of people have that baggage from previous relationships, whether it's

family or a loved one, a marriage, and it takes a long time to heal from that and to trust again. Yep. And at any moment, you're going, my body's saying, this could be broken. This could be broken. Alert, alert. And so it takes time, like you said, to get away from that and to heal from that and hopefully over time you guys build the right habits you do the things we teach combine bank accounts get on a budget and that'll sort of disappear into the back of your mind yeah when there's no money being spent that you're not aware of and have agreed to that makes trust really easy and that's called a budget that's called doing your every dollar budget together as a couple when you're married

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Find a local Ramsey trusted real estate pro for free at Ramsey Solutions.com slash agent or click the link in the show notes. Shane is in Michigan. Hey, Shane, how are you? Hi, how are you doing? Better than I deserve. What's up? So my wife and I were in a serious accident, and we both lost our left leg, and things kind of just, well, it goes very fast once that happened. So we went and we're in the hospital, we got out, and now we're starting to do our recovery. And then we got lawyers involved, of course.

Luckily, I hit all the right boxes on my insurance, so my medical for our injuries are going to be covered for the rest of our lives. but the lawyers I didn't know they were so fast like they closed and I said hey in 45 days you're going to get a settlement of roughly $350,000 and I'm you know we're factory workers we tried to do the best we can but you know we're not prepared for you know a quarter of a million dollars so my question is you know I ask friends and stuff but what do I do from here to set myself up for success, not right now, even just in the future, because we are going to have hurdles and we are going to have challenges? So that's my question is how do I not blow this big lot of money and set us up for a good future?

Yeah. Man, you guys have been through hell. I'm sorry. How long ago was the accident? uh we're not even three months through um we're both in rehab and doing pretty good and uh and you're both lost a leg i'm afraid we did yeah we were going through a green light and somebody decided to uh turn left and um we were doing 55 and uh it it took both of our legs so you're on a motorcycle on a motorcycle yes sir yeah and we we're through we're getting recovered and all that recovery is covered so let me ask you this the first thing that comes to mind is is that it doesn't sound like you're getting enough well that's the thing he was an underinsured motorist so we got $50,000 each from his kind of an insult to losing a leg but um i luckily i i checked the

full pip so all of our medical stuff is covered from my insurance my car insurance um and then it maxed out at 250,000 each, and then the lawyers take their chunk, and we're left with, you know, what's left? Your lawyer is getting a chunk of your insurance? Yeah, we got a lawyer to make sure we got everything right, and they take 30 percent. Of whatever insurance. And basically, they got nothing for you. I mean, they got his underinsured motors, which is basic stuff, and they got yours

that you already had. there was no big negotiation here they just caused the insurance company to write a check they should have written anyway correct this is not a good deal for you okay you're paying way too much an attorney's fees for them to do something that that you probably could have done on your own this is not this is not an injury lawsuit here this is just your insurance paying its claims it was a it was an insult when we got it because I mean we're well it's not an insult it's all they had the guys broke he's not going to get you can't get blood out of a rock but yeah yeah but um it wasn't it wasn't like a personal insult but it's it's a sad small amount okay well at least i know how we got there

now back to your question uh oh man um okay 350 um mathematically is not enough for you guys to not work the rest of your lives correct so you're i mean let's just pretend you invested it at 10% for easy numbers. That's $35,000 a year. You're not, you know, that's not going to work out. No, we made about 70 when we were working and we get 80% pay for like three years. Okay. So that's going to be helpful while you rehab and retool for a new career.

We also, just before that, we need a new roof, which we couldn't really afford. So we refinanced. We put all of our debt into the house. I know how you feel about that, but I was out of options. The house would have deteriorated too much. So we owe $150,000 and we have no other debt but utilities. So what I would do is to try to during the time you're getting your 80% pay to create a career for each of you where the net is that you actually end up

with your new careers making more than you used to make. Okay, that's what we're kind of thinking, too. If you get there, then you don't have need of this money for survival. Right. Then we can use it in the ways that you would rather use it, which would be paying off the house and investing it. And that was my question, too. But I'm not doing that until you got an income, dude. Okay.

All right. That's what I was wondering. Yeah. So you've got to. What are you all going to do? Do you have already thought about this? What do you think you're going to do? I'm not sure uh you know when I so the the bummer too was that um my friend had a trash truck

driving job for me which would have been a substantial step up and they match like double digit for your retirement which we have none um and uh they would it would have been better pay I got my permit and then two weeks I was going to you know start the classes and uh I had that job lined up and then we got hit and that kind of I don't know once I get the prosthetic and I get better with it, maybe I could do something like that, but we're still talking manual labor with a leg that's, you know, not great. I don't have any idea. I don't know how.

But wow, that's the stuff you're facing. So you've got to solve for income. And when you solve for income, then that frees up the money and then you can decide what to do with it. And it's pretty basic because you don't have a lot of options. I mean, you know, you pay off the house. and I would sit down with a SmartVestor Pro and get this money invested and pretend like I don't have it, in other words. I don't have a house payment anymore.

I don't have any debt anymore. I'm going to live on a budget, and I'm going to create a sustainable life with my income and never touch the rest of that money. So you would pay off the house and then with the rest of the money. Investing. Yes. And get somebody to help me because my firm's like money market account. No, no. You don't know.

Don't listen to your broke friends about money. I know. I know. Hey, I know. Right away, I was like, I don't know, I need somebody, I think, professional. No, and just go to Ramsey Solutions.com and click on SmartVestor Pro, and they can help him, George. Yeah, and then make sure you get an emergency fund before you invest that money, set aside six months of expenses to cover you guys in case of emergencies before you use the rest of that money. But that'll set you up.

You get that foundation right and get the income going. You've got a great quality of life. The money will turn into a lot of money over time. if it's invested and you keep your hands off of it because you've created a sustainable income with your new careers. Yeah. So, hey, I'm going to send you a copy of Ken Coleman's book finding the work you're wired to do

and it'll maybe help you on this journey of figuring out what your next new normal looks like. What a, man. Wild, horrible thing to go through. Who, 55 miles an hour. With no protection there on that motorcycle. Yeah, that's just, wow, man, crazy. But here's the news on the compound growth, like you mentioned.

You leave 150 grand sitting there for a couple decades. It turns into a couple million if you add nothing to it. And so that's the good news is that this could add a nice cushion to their nest egg. And who knows what the rest of their life looks like with expenses and medical and how this affects other areas of their life. Exactly. Well, the great news, he's got 80% pay. That's pretty good workers' comp right there, man, or whatever it was, he's got.

I guess disability income is probably what it is. is. Yeah. Wow. Yeah, he had checked the boxes on the insurance. Lawyer ought to be ashamed of himself, taking a fee on that. Katie is in Louisville, Kentucky. Hi, Katie. How are you? Hi, I'm great. Longtime listener. First time caller. I'm so excited. Well, thank you. How can we help today? Yes, hi. I'm calling because I have a mother-in-law who has been scanned out of probably somewhere between $150,000 to $200,000. She lives a quarter mile from our house in a patio home, which she purchased from the sale of her home in North Carolina. That patio home is in my husband and I's

me, and we're wondering if she should move in with us. Why would she do that? Well, she no longer can pay for the mortgage out of what she is currently getting. Oh, so she didn't pay for the home when she bought it. She took out a mortgage when she bought it. She took at a mortgage. The mortgage is in our name, my husband and I. so she didn't have enough money from the sale in north carolina to buy the house

no well she she did she she stockpiled the rest of it in a savings account and then when she had an online scammer tell her that he was going to come to the united states and marry her not once but it was a romance scam yes the romance scam that's exactly right and And so obviously, you know, my heart bleeds for her because she's lonely. She lost her husband probably 11 years ago. And my husband and I, when we first got married, he said, FYI, when my dad does, my mom's moving in with us. And I said, that's great. I love your mom.

Plus, she gives me diamonds. Okay. So if you sell the patio home and she moves in with you, then you've gotten your wish. what's the question yes yes so the patio home it was probably 200 and 50 some odd thousand dollars however my husband and my mother-in-law don't want that to happen we are supporting my mother-in-law with not a lot basically $50 to $100 a month to stay in her patio home but we can't afford that either My husband and I are both horse trainers. We got into a little bit of tax trouble after the sale of a horse a couple of years ago.

Now we have a great accountant on board, and I see the light at the end of the tunnel. We are, could probably be debt-free. What is your household income? We are averaging. I'm using the Dave Bramsey app, which I love. We're averaging about $7,200. a month. You can afford $100.

Pardon me? You can afford $100. You said you're giving her $100 a month to stay afloat, and I can't afford that. That's not true. You can't afford it. You have $7,200. $100 is not breaking you.

It's not breaking us, but we are like by the end of every month. Yeah, you have other issues, then. It's not your mother-in-law. You have $7,100 worth of other issues. Yes, yes, we do. Okay. And the other part is, if mother-in-law can't pay the mortgage, you're getting foreclosed on because it's in your name.

Yeah. So that is also correct. Yeah, and she's paying that with her Social Security, I assume. She is paying that with her Social Security. and then on top of it barely has enough to pay for the medication that she needs. Right. So this is unsustainable for her to stay in this house. Yeah. Well, at $100 a month, it's sustainable is what she's saying. Yeah. They're giving her $100 a month. That's making her budget balance.

And it's what her husband and the mother-in-law want to do. And she wants to sell the house and have her move in for $100. No, you don't have a math case to make this case. If you guys as a family want to do this to take care of her and everyone involved thinks it's a great idea, it's not a problem. For me, sell the patio home and put the money in an investment, and you'll be fine from the equity in that thing. But the idea that $100 a month is not sustainable when you make $7,200 is not true. There's other things going on in your budget that may not be sustainable. So if that's what they want to do, you can afford it.

I just wouldn't be my first way to get. If she wants to live there, it doesn't want to live there. I don't want to force her to live there. So it's just... It sounds like she's more lonely than anything at this point. Yeah. But she's a quarter mile away. She's not too far.

Austin's in Oklahoma. Hey, Austin. What's up? Hi, Dave. So about three years ago, my wife and I, we bought our home. And then now my life is looking at going and getting her doctorate degree. And so if we were to do that, we would have to move away for a little while, probably three, maybe four years at the max.

And so my question to you is, would you suggest we sell our home and take that equity to pay off and not get any student loans? Or would you suggest us just renting the home, taking on some loans or some debt for that student for the doctorate degree, and then eventually we'd like to come back. And so that's the main reason we would want to rent instead of just selling it. I don't know. What are you thought? Why is she getting a doctor degree?

So she can be a professor. In what? It's like a biblical theological studies. And does she have a career now? She does. What does she make at her career? About 40,000. Okay.

And so she could make 100 as a seminary professor? Yeah, probably between 80 to 100. Yeah, that's probably about right. I agree with you. So that's the return on investment in the Ph.D. And what's the Ph.D. It's about 60 to 80. Okay.

So you're going to send 60 to 80,000 to get a $40,000, $40,000 raise. That's probably okay. That's been 60. I wouldn't spend 80. But, yeah. And that's going to take how long? I think the max is typically four years. I think it can be done in three at some schools, depending on which one.

Is she working while she... But also, then she has to go somewhere where she can get that job after she completes it, and it probably won't be your hometown. Yeah, we do have some connections in the hometown with a couple of schools. So there is, like, there's a chance, not super high. But, I mean, it's not a sure thing. So number one, I'm not going to tell you to borrow money for student loans, period, ever, under any circumstance. Number two, I'm not going to tell you to borrow money on student loans so that you can keep a rental property.

So that could just double down. So, no, I'd sell the house for sure. Okay. Yeah, if she wants this dream and you guys are on this dream more than you want this house, then it sounds like you do. Then the proper thing to do is use the house money to get the Ph.D. and then use the Ph.D. to get your next house. Okay. Which we do have savings.

But you don't have enough to do this. You don't have enough to do this because you said you were going to take out student loans. But it would cover about half of it. Yeah. There would still be student loans. No, don't do student loans. Pay cash for the Ph.D. or don't do it? What's your household income?

about 180,000. I mean, you could save up in a year and knock this out and cash flow it. Here's an irony for you. Here's an irony for you. You can't find anywhere in the Bible that God used debt to finance his plan on the earth, not once in there. And she's going to study biblical studies. so no don't don't be borrowing money to do this no you know it's too much irony here to chew on don't don't do it no no don't do it and don't go into debt for a phd don't go into debt for a

master's don't go into debt for a bachelor's there's lots of ways to get your education out there today it's ridiculous to do that and and then try to keep in mind that what you're looking for is a return on investment on this education and the lower the investment the better the return so get the cheaper PhD because nobody's going to give a rip where you went to school. Welcome back to the Ramsey Show in the Fairwinds Credit Union Studio, George Camel Ramsey personality, number one bestselling author and co-host of the Smart Money Happy Hour. He's my co-host today. The phone number here is AAA-25-225.

Julia's in Colorado. Hi, Julia. How are you? Hi, how are you? you guys better than we deserve what's up um well first of all love you guys so happy to hear that um i have been listening to you guys for like the last eight months me and my husband and i um and we've been working on getting through steps one and two uh we just had a baby not that long ago in may and i heard just through the great vying um that my mother is going bankrupt i think she

already filed actually and she has a parent plus loan from my first two years of college and has been just recently just started asking me to help pay for it which we already agreed that I would pay for it that was the goal but I had like no idea what we signed up for and I don't know what it looks like with her filing bankruptcy. The parent plus loan is not bankruptible it will depend on what type of bankruptcy she files as to whether it will affect the loan at all. Okay. There's two types of bankruptcy that might work.

One would be Chapter 13 bankruptcy, which is a payment plan for five years. If she puts the Parent Plus loan in the Chapter 13 bankruptcy, which if she's doing one, she probably did, then they're going to be paying payments inside the bankruptcy on that loan through that five-year period of time. okay and so it's it's a mess

it's a mess and so um the if she files chapter 7 bankruptcy which is what most people think of when you think of bankruptcy which wipes the slate clean the parrot plus loan is not bankruptable and it'll still be standing after the bankruptcy

it'll wipe off her credit card debt it'll wipe off her medical debt it will wipe off any unsecured debt but it won't wipe off a student loan or an IRS debt so it's still so she's still owes it. But the bottom line is you morally owe it because you promised

to pay it, correct? I did. So it's not, either way, it's not going away. And so either way, you're going to get the opportunity to do what you said and pay the bill. But you don't even know how much the stupid thing is. I do actually. It sent me a statement last year.

And I just had trouble, like, getting in there because I thought I was co-signed on it. You're not. No, you're not. Not on a parent place. You're not. You can't get in there, but what was the balance? It was about 19,000. Okay, good, and what's your household income?

A couple hundred. So my husband and I, we make anywhere between 40 to 50K. We're working on growing our income right now. He just started a business, and that's gradually growing as time goes by. And how much debt do you have other than this 19K parent plus loan? So without that would be about 30. On what? On what?

16 is on credit cards. He has a credit card. And then we have a car, which is only about 9,800 of it. And then the rest is other student loans because I went back into school thinking I can do it now that I was sober. Because I went through this whole time period where I was struggling in addiction and I really got behind on finances. How long you went to a long time to catch up? this is my fourth year good for you proud of you what were you what were you on what were you addicted to um mainly so i started on on psychedelics and then i would use weed to kind of make up for

it yeah when i gave up the harder stuff and you've been drive for four years good for you kiddo and you got a baby and things are turning around your husband's got a new business good good good for you i'm glad yeah good thank you are you working full time right now so Yes, I am working full-time. I'm an independent contractor in the marketing industry as a brand ambassador. So I have busier seasons, like, throughout the summer and spring into fall. And then winter is our slower season. So we like to make up for it with Instacart.

And then we also do ministry on the side. So we have some fundraising money that's coming in, and we're starting to learn how to fundraise a little better for that stuff. Yeah, and he's got to get his business going because y'all don't make any money. no we don't make a lot yeah you we need to really get the career going both the careers going and get them going because basically what we're saying is you got $30,000 for the debt plus 19 that you promised to pay of your moms and again you're not legally obligated so what I would do is deal with what's in your house right now let's get your income up and address these debts

smallest to largest and once you're out of debt then I would reach over and start taking care of the parent plus loan that you promised to but it's not in your name. You are not legally liable. You're just morally liable because you did a handshake with your mom said, I'll pay it. Right. And I think the problem is, like, I explained that to her recently that we're trying to do a snowball. We're just getting our household in line and then paying off the way you guys teach. But we don't have the best relationship. It's already strength and like we don't talk she hasn't even met her grandson yet because i don't feel like i can and let her into my life yeah well that's okay i mean you still are going to go and play the bill

when you can pay the bill but you paying a bill one way or paying it another way's not going to fix your relationship with your mom and it's not going to fix her money problems either right she's not paying it now so i mean if you want to start paying the minimum payment on it as a part of your plan. Pay minimum payments on everything with the little one, attack the little one, and when it's gone, attack the next one, that's snowball process, right? If you want to pay this and put this in the debt snowball that way,

I don't have a problem with that. But pre-paying that loan before you take care of these other things, no, I wouldn't. Regardless of if it upsets the person that's already upset. Oh, well. Right. Yeah. And what kind of business does your husband do?

so he kind of does a lot of different things related to music he rents equipment and then he's a show promotion promoter and he runs a record label so there's a lot of different things going on in that area which one is most lucrative the most lucrative would probably be his show promotion and planning we make we're we're making up to 200 a show right now so he needs to do 10 shows a month to make two grand? About, yeah. Is he doing that? No, but we're just getting started.

He just got started with that, like, a couple months ago. I would make this a side hustle, and he should be working full-time doing something else, even if it's retail, because you guys need consistent income right now. We can't hope for a show and hope for a brand ambassador gig. We need stability. Yeah, when Instagram's your fallback, it means you need new careers. Right. So the problem is he had a manager job last October, and there was a lot of politics with the regional manager, and just last minute, lost his job when I was pregnant.

And so he's been trying to get a lot of, like, jobs that doesn't require, like, 60, 70 hours as a manager, and they won't hire him unless he's, like, full time. Yeah, he needs, he's got a baby. He needs to be working full time. He's in crippling debt, and his family needs him. He should be working 60 hours a week right now. We've got a mess to clean up. Yeah, great place to go when you're broke to work. Our question of the day is brought to you by YREFI.

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I bought five single-family homes, all 100% financed, for a total of $825,000 and thought, wow, I'm a genius. I also had 175,000 personal mortgage and $40,000 in student loans. I had my wake-up call last week when I had to take my three-year-old with me to post an eviction notice on a tenant's door. I just didn't take into consideration the time and the emotional stress this leap would require, not to mention the constant calls for repairs. The house's cash flow and the tenants pay on time, but at this point, the return doesn't outweigh the hassle.

I bring home $150K from my day job, and my wife, who's a stay-at-home mom, could work from home if needed. How do I get out of this mess? Man, this guy sounds like a young Dave Ramsey. That's exactly, well, except I had a little better situation than he's going. Yeah, he's 100% financed. He's got personal student loans, and he's going, how do I get out? Well, the good news with the house is you can sell them. So that's maybe one way out of this mess.

George, that was insightful. I'm Yoda of the finance world. That's it. Just sell the house, dude. I mean, why do you even mean to ask the question? And he might take a loss on some of them. I mean, who knows what the... Oh, well, you pay some stupid techs for doing stupid stuff.

Play stupid games get stupid prizes. But, yeah, I mean, I've done that. Right. And you have to. Everybody's done that. But yeah, you just woke up and went, I just did a bunch of $825,000 worth of stupid. The good news, I can probably get $800,000 worth of it. And it'll only be $25,000 worth of stupid. So, and it make $150, so I'll clean up the mess. Yeah, the good news is his day job has a great income. And so maybe they went up in value enough. He said a few years ago. Yeah. So if this is, you know, 2022, we've seen some decent appreciation over the last few years. Yeah, South Carolina. Maybe you can make a little money on it even and get out. whole. That would be incredible. Knock out your student loans in the process, get you an emergency fund and restart from there and do it the right way, which is slow, which is let's get rid of the personal mortgage first, then save up and pay cash for any investment property. Katie's in Utah. Hi, Katie. How are you? Hey, Dave. I'm better than I deserve. How are you? Just the same. What's up?

So I am the mother of eight children. We just had our eighth back in April, and I homeschooled them. I stay home with them. And my husband is a physician assistant. And a couple years ago, we bought our first home, top of the market, top of interest rate. We were kind of lured into it by the 2-1 buy-down idea. And our mortgage hit its full scope in July, and I feel like I'm going crazy. So I'm wondering if you would advise us to actually sell our home. How much is your house payment? $3,900. And what's your husband's take-home pay he makes 120,000 and that's um he works full-time at one clinic and he works he picks up a couple extra shifts at another clinic and he's also donating plasma every week

so we can pay for groceries yeah because your house payment's 50% of your take-home pay i know i know and it was before the two-one started even i mean it already was in the stupid zone when as soon as you moved in the two-one didn't even buffer that we were living with my parents and I was expecting my seventh child and my husband was eating an hour every day yeah but I mean you went from you went from homeless in your mother's basement to $4,000 a month I know this is not like a small step this was a great leap I know yes you got to sell your house kid you bought a house you can't afford unless his income is about to double which I don't think that's in the cards I know it's not the thing

Two is that he loves his job so much, and where we live is actually very, very expensive. So even renting, like, a three-bedroom house who costs us around 3,000 a month where we live. Well, you can't afford to live there, then. I've been telling him this for a long time. Back in May, when I had my four-week-old baby, I said, let's just sell our house and live in a trailer. I'm willing to do anything, but it's hard for me to get him on board with making a name. I'm not saying live in a trailer, but you go to extremes. You go to extremes.

There's been $3,000 a month rent to a trailer in one sentence. I know. Why don't you just go do something reasonable like $2,000 a month and live out far enough away that you can find that and let him go to work? Okay. Yeah, and let's get rid of this problem. But yeah, yeah, don't, you know, and then let's start talking. Maybe you can find something you could buy that fits in that.

I don't care if you own or not. But the house payment needs to be more like a fourth of your take-home pay, not half of your take-home pay, especially when you have eight little birds to feed. I can't imagine eight kids in a trailer. No, we're not doing a trailer. And we're not going back to Mamas either. None of that's necessary. But, I mean, we're a fur piece from there at $4,000 a month. Okay?

This is a big, big, serious, nice house here. So there's a lot of different things we can do. Millie is in Washington. Hi, Millie. How are you? Hi, thank you for taking my call. Sure. What's up?

Well, I've had to pay the stupid tags, and I did the wrong thing in the past, and I'm trying to do the right thing now, so I'm calling you asking for advice. My question is, should I cash out my index fund? And if I should, should I use it to pay towards students? loans or for car repairs or for both. What's wrong with your car? One of the problems, they're not sure they can't figure it out. The other one is like a cooling system.

He's replacing their estimate for that is 1900. Whose estimate, the dealer? No, the mechanic. You have an independent mechanic that doesn't work at a dealership? Correct. Good. Okay. Is it just you, are you single or you're married?

I am single with five children Okay And what's your income, ma'am? Up until this month is about 3,000 But I am increasing my hours And I did just get a raise I do have some health issues from keeping me from Working too many hours or physical labor

But for the job I have How old are the kiddos? I'm working what I can My youngest is 12 and the oldest is 18. She set it off the college here this week. Is there any child support or alimony? No.

Wow. In lieu of alimony, when we divorced, I did get a little bit extra on the house when we sold it. And that money is in the index fund. How much is in your index fund? 7,800. Not much, okay. And how much students?

Loan debt do you have? About $90,000. Okay. Well, number one, you're out here fighting this by yourself, so you've got to get the car to where it's reliable. Mm-hmm. Period. And more debt is not the answer to do that.

So, yes, we have to use some of this to get the car reliable, and the rest of it, you know, we're going to try to make sure that you continue to move up in your career and continue to raise your income because that's going to be the issue to address the 90,000. What did you get your degree in? I got it in marriage and family therapy. Okay. Undergrad or did you finish your master's? My master's.

You're licensed? Yes, sir. Why are you not doing that? I am doing that. $3,000 a month? Yes, because I was only working three days a week, but I just increase it to four days. And like I said, they just give me a raise, so it will be going up.

Yeah. Part of the issue is that I work 50 miles from home. So it makes it a little bit of a juggle with the kids and making sure they're out the door in the morning and such. Can you do any remotely part-time? Not with this company. Because, you know, if we can rearrange this situation a little bit, a typical marriage, licensed marriage and family therapist don't make 100 plus a year.

Yes, but I only am at an associate level right now. I'm not fully licensed. Why? Because I just graduated in 2023 and just got this license in 2024. Oh, you've got to get some hours in to move up. Okay. Yeah, you're going to have, I mean, income is going to be your overall answer, not a $7,800 index fund.

For now, the answer is, yes, fix the car. But long-term, the answer is, let's rearrange our situation so we can get our income up. And I think that's going to be really, really important in order to be able to create a sustainable situation. If you're tired of living paycheck to paycheck and feeling like you can't get ahead, join one of our free every dollar trainings. There are new trainings every week this month, and they're all. hosted by one of the Ramsey personalities, George or Rachel or Jade. We're going to show you how to stick to a budget and even find thousands of dollars of margin using every dollar so you can get out of debt and start building wealth.

Plus, you can ask us any question during the live Q&A. Sign up for free at Ramsey Solutions.com slash webinar. Greg is in San Diego. Hi, Greg. How are you? I'm doing well. Thank you for taking my call. Sure.

What's up? So after listening to your show, I learned that I acknowledge that I made an impolars. decision. I attended a faith-based event in 2024, and the event pretty much motivated faith believers to invest in the real estate market and also the stock market. I paid for that training. I didn't have the money, but they told me that if I charged it on credit cards, that I would be able to make that money up during the zero interest period and pay off the charge and learn how to trade. Well, that period is gone and it didn't happen. So now I'm stuck, you know, because now I have a $20,000 credit card debt from that.

And I haven't made much money on the stock market. So now talking to my wife, I'm trying to decide, okay, do I keep trying to invest and pay and make money so I can pay off this charge that I accepted or should I just focus and go back to the snowballing the credit card debt? I'm sorry, Greg. you got scammed. Yeah, after the fact that I realized it, and we were doing, we were doing the snowball effect, we were on track, we were about 20K away from reaching zero.

But when I saw this, I said, hey, we can do this, and I'll all accept, you know, my leadership decision at my home. I thought it sounded great, but it is what it is. So I'll own it. You were looking for, you know, you're looking for an easy button. Yeah. And there is no easy button, yeah. And this easy button is broken, and you've discovered that now.

So I'm sorry, man. Yeah, you just got to pay your $20,000 off. And the last thing you do is keep investing the way they were teaching you because you're going to get in more trouble. So we do have money on the side because I was going to invest. So you're saying focus more off paying off the debt. About $8,000. Yeah.

Just, you know, you're going to do what you're going to do. But if you ask us, we're going to tell you what we would. have told you before you did all this and that's list your debts smallest to largest pay minimum payments on everything with the little one take all your money that's not in retirement accounts and throw it at these debts in that order and let's get them cleaned up because the shortest distance between where you are and wealth is not an easy button stock market course it is your income and getting that back and understanding that the borrower is slave to the lender is the only way to do it there's nothing worse than a scam artist except a scam artist that wraps himself in jesus

Oh, in charge of $20,000 for this quote-unquote training. Man, that's heartbreaking, Greg. That just pisses me off. It's so mad. It's just so wrong. But, you know, when you fall for stuff like that, you need to do a CSI on your character and your soul and your spirit and say, Lord, what is in me that allowed me to believe that?

And, you know, there's some interesting proverbs. He who is impulsive exalts folly. Impulsive exalts folly. Folly is the verb of a fool in action. And I have been a fool in action. I've been impulsive plenty of times in my life. But I exalt folly. I lift up a fool in action when I'm impulsive.

I become a fool in action. The other one says, Proverbs says, the wise see trouble and seeks refuge. The simple continues on and is punished for it. You just keep walking right off the cliff. Yeah, and just keep moving. And I've done that. I've done that.

I like, I know better. I know this is bad. He even said it. He's like, I know down inside of me, this is not, I know this. I know this is, and you walk right into it anyway. That wisdom section of the brain just shuts down. Yeah, there's something about it. And I'm simple then. That's another word for fool, right? And I've been that, I've been a fool in every one of these cases. And now, you start studying fool and proverbs. You start seeing yourself, it's painful. It's just like, God, I did that. Yeah. I did that. I did that one, too. And the number of times I've been a fool and it survived. Because a biblical fool is not a greeting. It's not like, hey, fool. No, this is like an idiot. I mean, this is like when I have done this, I was an idiot. You know? know, it's like, yeah. So Greg, I can relate, man. I can relate. It's been, I haven't done that one in a long, long time, but I did that one once myself. Not 20 grand, but I mean, it's, you know, you believe that there's an easy button and they'll sell you a course on how to get the easy button. A get rich quick scheme is what we would call it now, looking back at it, right? And you go, the wise, the wise see that. They seek refuge. They see danger and they seek refuge. The simple continues on and is punished for it.

Healthy skepticism with these Facebook ads, or however he fell for it. Yeah, here's a healthy skepticism on anything on social media, period. Is it even real nowadays, right? Is it AI, yeah. Oh, gosh. Did he really say that? I saw one the other day that I was promoting car loans.

Someone asked me, they said, hey, I saw a video of you and Dave promoting these car loans. I said, nope, that was a scam from AI and the devil himself. Yeah, I mean, if it's completely perpendicular to everything you know, about us, come on. I mean, how dumb are you to believe that? That's not AI. But yeah, there it is. And it's just, golly. But yeah, it's, we're there with you, brother, but I'm sorry you having to clean up the mess. The good news is you probably never make that mistake again. That's a good news. Amy's with us. Amy's in Chicago. How are you, Amy? Hi, thanks, Dave. Thanks for taking my call.

I've been listening to the show for about a year and almost through with the last bit of our debt. We've paid off $500,000 in medical. school debt. Wow. Yes, we got radical. We sold our house and used part of the equity to downsize and the rest to pay off the medical school debt. Wow.

So what's your household income now? Well, my husband's a doctor, so we're doing pretty okay. We make about $25,000 a month. Wow, good. I'm so glad. Congratulations. Yeah. Thank you.

Thank you. But I'm in a weird situation with a car loan. I'm an outside sales, and so I drive for work, and I'm putting on easily 2,000 miles on my car a month, and I had to buy the car for the job, and now I'm underwater. So I'm underwater about $7,000, and I've just been told that my company is going to be going to fleet vehicles in the next year. We have basically a year to three years to start participating in the fleet vehicles. So they'll give me a car, and they'll cover all the costs associated with it. Love it.

Yeah. That means between now and the time you get the fleet vehicle, you've got to get this one sold and cover the $7,000, right? Yeah. When are you going to get the fleet vehicle, do you know? It'll probably be sometime next year that they'll open it up for us to start doing that. And at that point, I'll have to have to have something to drive between now and then. Yeah, we'll just keep driving it.

What's it worth? Get it paid down. You've got great income. Yeah, that was my question. and do I keep driving this and just pay it down until I'm no longer underwater, or do I try and, like, sell it, get something cheap? Well, if you pay it off, you're going to get all the equity when you sell it. The difference in now in six months is it doesn't matter.

Okay. So just pay it off. Let's just get it paid off as soon as you can. And then you get you sitting there with a paid-for car, it's got a lot of miles, and you sell it when you get the fleet vehicle. I mean, you can knock it out before the end of the year, right? I think so. What's left on?

Um, it's 36,000. Yeah, you can knock it out. Because now you've got a $400,000 income, don't you? You make $25K a month if you throw $12k. Oh, he makes $25K. Yeah, you make how much? I make $165 base. He makes $165 base and we both make commissions.

Okay. All right, wow. Good for y'all. So, yeah, this thing's knocked out by Christmas and you don't, you're not losing sleep over it. And then you'll sell it when you get the fleet vehicle and whatever it's worth. And that makes you debt free, right? yeah let's knock it out

and then and be done with it man wow good for you good for you good for you Casey's in Ohio hi Casey's in Ohio

hi Casey how are you hi I'm doing great thank you for taking my call sure what's up so me and my husband are on

Baby Step 2, I have a debt about $6,000, and including his, it will be a total of $78,000, $4190.68, which I find very appalling, and we are not. Stop a second. I didn't understand what you said. You said he had $78,000 on what? No, so I owe $6,000, and adding my husband's debt, it's going to total up to $78,000. Okay. So your husband has $72,000 in debt, and you have $6,000? Yes. And his $72,000 is on what? It's mainly on student loans. And what's your $6,000? It's medical bill and credit card. I have $4,000 in medical bill. How long have you all been married? A year, but we've been together for six years. Okay. And what's your household income? What I make as a nurse is about 90,000, and my husband has his own insurance company, which is not doing well, and he makes about 30. He did get a new job right now, which he brings him 3,000 to 4,000 now monthly.

Our main issue is mainly him disagreeing on me giving tights. every month and I do not like the fact that he has leased a Tesla and sold our car which we only had two years and we could have paid it off so I'm not sure how we can you know work together together to tackle this debt and have yeah when when you all got married did you not talk about like doing life together I didn't think so before getting married, I was thinking about like, oh, my money's, my money and your money is yours, but I am watching your show. I just, I've come up on your show probably like a couple months ago, and that's when I realized that, um, yeah. So you want to get out of debt and he doesn't really

care? What's the status now? Well, he does care, but he doesn't agree with the baby steps. he wants, I don't know, he doesn't want to get a risk credit card. He thinks we need credit to get approved to buy a house to get a car and things like that. And one of your videos I watched, we're 33. Wow, you sound like you're 20. I, yes. He sounds like he's 20. He's so immature.

Yeah. Wow. Okay. So what's his plan? to get out of this mess? He just wants, he wants to pay off the smallest amount that doesn't have an interest. Yeah. I mean, that does have an interest.

He wants to start with that, but I know with the baby steps, you have to start with the smallest amount first, which I've been doing, I've been doing that myself, but he hasn't. I'm sorry, I'm just so overwhelmed. I've never been in this so much debt before. The most debt I've had was the $6,000. Yeah. So here's what you need to do, huh? Okay.

You need to sit down with him tonight and say, I'm so scared I can't breathe, and you are killing me. So I'm going to go see a marriage counselor because our marriage is in deep trouble. And I'd like for you to go with me. Okay. and you need to go see a marriage counselor you don't need to be talking to two gobs on a podcast when your marriage is falling apart

all right you got to sit down with somebody they can actually help you and him grow up and walk through the process of learning to respect each other combine communicate but this guy does whatever he wants to do and then just comes home and tells you at least a Tesla I mean that's a husband needs to be smacked

and so I can't help you with that because I can't reach him from here but it's clear he doesn't respect your opinions on money and he's not communicating and he doesn't make any money which is kind of humorous you're making triple what he makes and then he but he's got all these opinions that's hilarious

broke people with deep financial principles and so but yeah it's that all that comes out in marriage counseling but you're terrified and your husband's causing it so that tells me that we have marriage counseling issues and you need to sit down with somebody I'm sorry you're going through this kiddo all right Eric is next Eric's in Houston hi Eric how are you hey Dave how's it going buddy better than I deserve how can we

help yeah I do need some you know advice from Uncle Dave I call you Michael because I've been listening to you for a little while now so I just need some advice I'll give you the quickest, shortest story of rundown I can't. A year ago, I was facing some legal troubles, had to go to court, stuff like that. I needed a lawyer. So I went to my uncle. He was doing a little bit well off financially. So I taught him, if you can help me, find a lawyer, you know, but he decided to take on everything himself. He paid for the lawyer, you know, the lawyer went, you know, the lawyer went to court. Fast track a year up to, to ten, Um, you know, I've come to find out, you know, from the news and everything that he gained all his, um, all his money from illegal immigrants looking and seeking, you know, uh, legalization, uh, green card, stuff like that to be able to live here in the U.S.

He was defrauding them, telling them that he, you know, he works for the law firm. he can help them expedite that situation. Your uncle was doing this. Yes, sir, yes, sir. How much do you owe your uncle for the lawyer? I owe him 10,000. And what do you make? Okay, but let me give you, let me give you just a quick sidetrack to that.

The money that he gave me, the money that he accumulated from all these people, it was about 1.4 million. FBI and everybody, they did a joint task force investigation. and, you know, what I'm at now, I'm trying to figure out morally, you know, should I pay him bag? I would like to try to help off somebody, you know, I mean. I don't know that you can. Have they seized his bank accounts? I mean, I'm guessing he's going to jail for a long time.

Yeah, they seized his bank account. He bought a couple of dollars. No. Okay, then it doesn't matter, does it? Yeah, I mean, I mean, but. But the thing about it, the thing about it day is that he's, he's been, he's been hounding me and he, you know, he's been. Pounding you for money you don't have. Exactly.

And he's been throwing my name under the rug to my whole family, making me out to be this bad person. But maybe, we don't have to worry about what he thinks, because he's a scam artist. He's going to jail, okay? We're not going to have some kind of moral competition. Nobody's worried about his opinion of anything. He's a criminal. He's a criminal. Yeah.

Yeah. So none of that matters, but what does matter is, is regardless of how horrible person he is, or what he said or did, he loans you $10,000 and you owe him $10,000. So someday, when you get some money and you get a job and all that, you probably ought to pay the man back what you owe him, regardless of morally, regardless of what he has done. You know, that's up to you, but you can do that. But that's your only option is either not pay him or pay him, but you. You don't have an option today at all because you don't have the money. So it's theory right now. He can call you.

He can hound you. He can tell all the relatives that you're a bad guy while he's sitting in a jail cell because the FBI raided him. That's funny. He's telling people you're a bad guy. That's that's kind of humorous if you think about it. But yeah, I wouldn't worry about it, Eric. When you get some money together, then deal with the problem. And when you get some money together, if you someday should pay the ban back what you owe him,

regardless of his character because you paying him back is not about his character it's about yours and so i want you to pay him but not today you don't have it it's living rent free in your head until you do pay him i can tell it's weighing on you you don't like what it's doing to your reputation so i'm not paying him because of anything he says or does and i'm not paying him because your mama calls because he called her i'm not paying him for any of that i'm just paying him because i owe it's that simple nothing more nothing less Welcome back to the Ramsey Show In the Fair Winds Credit Union Studios

George Camel Ramsey personality Number one bestselling author is my co-host today Open phones at AAA 825-5-225 Brianna is with us in Maryland Hi Brianna, how are you? Hi, Dave, I'm so glad to be here. Well, it's good to have you. How can we help? Well, I'm feeling overwhelmed.

I recently signed up for the free version of the Every Dollar app. I did all of my budgeting. I'm still feeling underwater, and I can't find the second job. But I'm calling because I want to find out if the 400% interest rate for the payday loan that I originally took out for $1,500, is considered actual debt. It's not on my credit report. I've already paid about $2,500 of it. and when I realized that I kind of like stopped answering their calls and ignoring them, so just not sure what to do.

Why are you ignoring them? I really don't have the extra finance to pay them, and I figured it wasn't showing up on my credit report, so it wasn't necessarily hurting me, and I kind of felt like they already got their money because the loan was for 1.5 originally. Well, it's debt. I mean, knowing anyone, anything for any reason is debt. And so whether it has shown up on your credit report or not isn't the issue. You've got clearly in a bad cycle. I mean, there's a lot of problems that got you into that payday loan, payday lender, right? What caused this? Yeah. Well, I do a lot of lending, I guess, to my family. And I'm actually currently trying to get out of like our family savings club. Like we,

all put in, like, $600 a month, and then when your month comes, like, you get the money. And then I recently got a car. It was $15,000, but I'm upside down. It's just $55,000 student loans. So I'm just trying to, like, make it day by day. I have a clear picture of my finances with the every dollar app, but I don't understand why it's so hard to find a second job right now. what's your total debt i got 75 000 and what are you making right now uh 61,000 a year about 3,800 net okay and your well your smallest debt is now what is it the payday loan no um a 900 dollar buy now pay later uh type thing what did we use that for uh i got a tv okay not long ago was that

Um, it was about two months ago, and I was paying the minimum. When did you start the every dollar out? I only started a few weeks ago. I just started listening. Okay, good, good. All right. Have you stopped your 401K? Um, I did.

I did stop that. It was only $900 in there anyway. And you're going to stop the family thing today. Just call the family and say I'm out. Okay. They're not going to take that well, but, yeah. I'm sorry. Tough. I'm broke. I owe a payday lender 400% interest. I don't need a family savings club.

You're taking out a 400% interest loan to put into the family savings club. Do you understand how crazy that is? Yeah. Yeah. So that stops today. Just, you know, sorry, guys. I'm sorry. I've messed up my finances and it's going to take me a little while to get them straightened out. And I've got this payday lender. I've got to get off my back. And I'm sorry. So, yeah, I can't put anything else in. and I can't participate in something that involves money right now. So I'm also not playing, I'm also not playing poker with you next week. So, you know, it's like, we don't have any money. So, and then I don't know why.

What do you do for a living? I'm actually a secretary for the Defense Counterintelligence Department. So, like, I really can't have my finances out of order, otherwise I lose my job. Yeah. Your finances are out of order if they did a security check on, You're in trouble already. Yeah, they did an audit. Yeah.

You've really got to get this mess cleaned up or you will lose this job. You're right eventually. The, so yeah, I, you know, there's lots of things you can do part-time. I mean, you can clean houses, you can pet sit. You can do all kinds of stuff part-time. And I would get with doing something starting yesterday immediately, six different things working my tail land off. See if you can return that TV.

You could do some secretarial work. You don't have time to watch TV. You've got nine side jobs you're about to have. And so just follow the debt snowball. It works. And get rid of this payday lender. I don't care what's on the credit report. You've got to get this monkey off your back.

Otherwise, it's going to be another fee, another rollover loan. And that's how people get stuck in these cycles. You know, if it's been several months since you paid them, you may be able to call them and settle it with a lump sum, but you'd have to have the lump sum. Say, look, I don't know what I owe you, but I've got $1,000. If you'll take that a settlement in full, we'll close this. out and but you need the thousand dollars in your hand to be able to have that discussion and that is involving extra work and extra income anything you can do to create some

extra income that's moral and legal you need to start doing it yesterday Lisa's in Georgia hi Lisa how are you how are you better than I deserve what's up um questions I've been married for 42 years and then the last few years my husband's been diagnosed with mild to moderate dementia. With that, has come a lot of radical changes in his personality as far as our finances. The latest is we have a second home we have for sale,

and now he wants to rent it out, and I'm at a point in our lives where I feel like we need to sell it, take the equity, invest it. That's our retirement. Is he aware that he has dementia? He's aware, but denial. strong denial. Then he's not aware.

He doesn't believe it. He doesn't believe he has dementia. One of the things he wants to do in our discussions now with the sale of the house, he's decided that he wants to take 50% of the proceeds and spend it any way he wants to. The answer is no. The answer is no. You have dementia and I'm not going to go along with anything you want to do. No.

That's the way I've been pushing back. No, you have dementia. You are not of your right mind, and no, we are not going along with any plan you have. I'm here to take care of you. I have for 42 years. I'm going to stick with you in sickness and in health, and we're not doing anything you want to do with money. You have dementia. So how do I move forward to do I need to do a court order that he can't?

Because everybody else think there's nothing wrong with him. Wait a minute. Everybody else. I thought you said the doctor had diagnosed him. That's true. Well, then everybody else doesn't think that, just the doctor. Just the doctor. But, yeah, it just, he thinks there's his friends and his.

Well, who gives a crap what his friends think? Yeah, exactly. So do I need to do get an attorney and do a court order so that he can't make these decisions? Because right now, we're 50-50 on account. He can do whatever he wants. I don't know how to move forward. Yeah, I think you have him declared incompetent in court. okay and your physician's going to have to go along with that because he's not a right mind we have to protect him from himself yeah i don't know that he's signed a power of attorney for you to have financial control no he's not going to do that because he doesn't think he's got dementia correct so he's going to be forced into it yeah so i mean in order to take care of him he's not of his right mind that's sad i'm so sorry that because you know when people get early onset they they generally turn either really mean or really nice and it sounds like he's gone the mean one so um wow i'm sorry

And so it's going to be really combative. But yeah, what his friends think doesn't matter. I mean, that's irrelevant. What his mama thinks doesn't matter. I mean, what the doctor says he's got this and you've observed the pattern, then your job as his spouse is to take care of him in spite of him. And, yeah, that's a court order. Ed is in Kentucky.

Ed, how are you? I am doing well. How about yourself? Just the same, sir. What's up? All right. Well, thank you all so much. So my wife and I were really excited. We bought our house back in 2008, and we have been throwing a lot of money to get it paid off, and we're on track to have our house paid off by Thanksgiving of this year. Way to go. Good for you.

Thank you. It took a lot of hard work. but so you know we're really excited about what's coming up next but also that's a lot of unknown for us and so you know we we keep investing in our 401k i've actually upped my 401k contribution rate and she's going to be doing the same but just wanted to try to at least get an idea of what are some things that suggestions that you all would have for us post having the house paid off because after that we will have no other debts yeah way to go well maybe step seven we just say build wealth and give and so there's three buckets and you need to be very intentional with the money that you will have and you're going to have a lot of it now because no payments right um and go you know there's three things we can do we can have fun and enjoy the money and you need to do some of that you can invest some and you need to do some of that and you can be outrageously generous and you need to do some of that and so um you know you're still going to look at the pile of money coming in every month and you still going to assign it to something that falls in one of those three buckets,

and you need to have a pretty good rhythm where you're touching those buckets, at least annually, but hopefully monthly. Yeah, definitely, and, you know, definitely, you know, the fun part and the invest part and the generous part, yeah, that totally makes sense, and that's something that we really want to do. And we just want to also make sure about the time we retire that we can retire and have and peace of mind and so how old are you it was just like um i'm 42 and how much is in your 401 case now retirement account right uh well in my retirement account i currently are i'm currently

at uh 340 000 you and your wife and my wife um she actually has a little bit more uh she is actually at around 500 000 okay she got 850 000 in retirement right now what's the housework The house is worth a hundred and seventy-five thousand. Okay. So you're millionaires. Cool. That's pretty neat. Yeah.

The 800,000, if you don't touch it, you know, you said you're 40 what? I'm 42. You're 42. If it's invested in good mutual funds, when you're 49, it'll be 1.6. And when you're 56, it'll be 3.2. and when you're 60, 63, it's going to be 6.4, you're okay. You did it. You're real far ahead on retirement, so I wouldn't worry.

You keep investing. Don't, you know, let the foot off the gas there, but also figure out, hey, do we want to upgrade in a house? Could we pay cash for a different house, you know, five years from now? Yeah. Start setting some goals and you're spending, saving, and giving areas at least once a year and then check in and do the monthly budget. You've been so focused on this house,

there's some stuff you need to do in the fund category. You need to upgrade her car. You need to go on a trip you've been telling her for 20 years you were going to do. I don't know what it is, but there's some stuff y'all need to do. Renovate the kitchen. Yeah, something like there's some things like that you need to allocate some money to. And, yeah, while you're doing some investing and while you're doing some increased and intentional generosity.

And, yeah, you just keep all of those things moving and, you know, just make, just make, lists of things we want to do and then let's force rank them what do we want to do first what do we want to do second what do we want to do third and then you start you know fund that with what used to be a house payment and you're going to be in great shape man i mean you're really doing beautiful i'm proud of you pretty stinking incredible uh cantrie's with us in texas hi can'tri how are you yes sir i am doing good good how can we help uh yes sir So I'm currently joining the United States Army Special Forces, and if I pass, I will get a $34,000 sign-on bonus.

I'm used to being broke, so I'm not sure exactly what to do with that, but there's a motorcycle that I want to get that is about $20,000. What do you think I should do with that bonus? How old are you, sir? I'm 20. Thank you for serving your country. We appreciate you. Yes, so thank you.

Um, well, I, I, number one, if you invest in things that go down in value, you're going to be broke your whole life. Yes, sir. Motorcycles go down in value. I don't mind you getting a bike, but you don't need a $20,000 bike. What are they paying you? What are they going to be paying you, not counting the signing bonus? Uh, it's going to be about $2,500 a month. Good for you.

But, of course, I will be living on base, so I don't have to pay for living expenses. Yeah. Okay. Well, you need to be very, very careful with what happens to that $2,500 a month, and you need to be very careful with what happens to $34,000. I would spend some of it on fun, but I wouldn't spend two-thirds of it on fun. Yes, sir. So, no, I wouldn't buy a $20,000 bike.

You're $2,500 a month. You're brand new in the military. But if you want to get a $5,000 bike for fun, that'd probably be okay. You know, do you have a car? Yes, sir. Yes, sir. Yes, sir. I have an 0-1 silver out of it.

Is it paid for? Yes, sir. Also, I do have a loan that I'm currently, it's a $4,000 loan. I've already paid about $1,400 of it off. Good, okay. So, so I take that bonus. Definitely, definitely wrap that up, too. Knock it, knock that out.

Set you some money aside as an emergency fund. Get you a toy, but a cheaper one. Okay. Yes, sir. And then let's start talking about investing and doing grown-up stuff with some of this money. a lot of the guys you're running around with aren't going to be doing that good yes sir okay because we've worked with the military for 30 years and when you step off the base and most of the bases in the u.s down each side of the road for the next two and a half

miles is stupid every stupid thing a 20-year-old could possibly do is on each side of the road all the way down through there and it's like they set it up to suck all the money out of you guys and it's a shame but it is it's like stupid on parade right outside the base gates every where you go and yeah you can you really screw up here man so be a be a be a grown up and not a little kid with the way you're looking at this stuff and thank you for asking the question it's a good wise question yeah i mean this third four grand is going to disappear quick in a good way if you do the right things with it you pay off this loan that's 2 500 bucks maybe put 20 grand aside in your savings and spend five grand on a bike and fund a roth IRA with the rest of it

it's gone and then you can't do something stupid with it because it's gone yeah you're gonna be in you're I'm going to be able to do a lot of fun stuff with this over time. But, yeah. Use this to set yourself up with a great foundation as a 20-year-old man. I wish I was in that shape at 20. By the way, the $5,000 bike is probably a four-year-old version of your 20. That's how much it's going to go down in value. So maybe a Facebook marketplace.

Maybe a five-year-old. You'll find a 24-year-old who made that decision at 20, who's now trying to sell it. There you go. He's probably in the middle. military. Yeah. That could easily be the case. If you're on base and you jump on Facebook, all those people are probably in the military.

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Where do you live? I live in Menifee, California. Cool. Welcome to Nashville. And you're here to do a debt-free scream. How much have you paid off? $75,11717. I love it.

And how long did that take you, sir? 20 months. Good for you. And your range of income during that two years? $78,000 have included my bonus for my base pay and around 96, nine months after that. Good for you. What do you do for a living? I'm a CPA. Good for you. Wow. Very cool. How old are you? 25. What made you get in gear and say I'm going to get rid of 75,000 20 months ago? I was actually given a book called Foundations and Personal Finance. It was gifted to me in my last year of my MBA. And I started seeing, wow, that's a lot of debt. That was more than I was expecting because I went straight in, not realizing, you know, how much I borrowed.

And I saw I was in a big hole. So you said if I follow your plan, you know, be very aggressive towards the debt. I could pay it off within about, I believe you set a range of 20 to 24 months. So I said, okay, you know, I'll do it. I'm in a bad hole. I'll do it. Wow. You took Dave up on the challenge.

I did. And he was right. Yeah, he was right. As per usual with Dave. I love that, man. Congrats. So this was our curriculum, the kind of the workbook for the curriculum, Foundations and Personal Finance.

It was a green book. It was a thin little green book. Okay. Very cool. Went through that. Very cool. And the 75,000 was student loan debt. All student loans.

Couldn't bankrupt on it. Okay. Good for you. Did you attempt to? You sounded like, you're like, I couldn't. Well, I learned in my CPA exams that student loans, you can't bankrupt. Yeah. So.

So you're like, well, I guess I got to claw this out myself. I took it out. I signed the dotted line. Let's knock this out. Oh, yeah. Wow. What did you learn during the 20 months while you're working on this? It's more behavioral than it is actually mathematical. Because I would take a look at what you would talk about.

And, you know, I'm a CPA, so I would just check everything you say. And I say, is this guy really right? And he said through the snowball method, it's only around, you know, at most two months slower. And when I looked at the avalanche method, it came around that much for me. So I'm like, wow, this guy actually knows what he's talking about. So I followed it, and it worked really, really well, and it made sense. Wow. How's it feel to be free?

You know what? I have a lot of peace. Actually, it's pretty great because now I feel I can actually take risks I couldn't take before. Like what? Well, I was really taking a look at my course study work that I can be really aggressive in my investing now. So I can actually grow my wealth as, you know, within reason, to actually. grow my wealth more. I was learning through education where they said the three biggest risk in stocks was overpaying, having to sell before you have to, in bankruptcy. And by being

debt-free, I'm able to avoid overpaying by, you know, I can invest in Mitchell funds, you know, using dollar cost average, or I could do valuation with my background. Not having to sell before I want to is being debt-free. That's the only thing I would really force me to sell. You're not desperate. You've reduced your risk, and therefore you're less-de- to go do something stupid and miss out on the market returns you're staying invested consistently yes sir way to go man so if somebody's listening and uh they said okay got paid off 75 000 bucks in 20 months how did he do that what would you tell him the key as to getting out of debt well for me i was a college student so i delayed my life heavily um i moved back and home with my parents

i didn't finance a car i didn't go and get a mortgage for a home um i lived humbly and with my parents and then I just saved as much as I could my goal was to only live on about 25% of my take-home pay which I achieved and I put 75K towards my, not 75K, 75% of my take-home pay towards my loans

and then I had people who keep me accountable such as my brother and my parents Wow. So living on less than you make. Oh, that was a key. It was just be super disciplined about that and you'll be shocked at how quickly you can knock out the debt.

Absolutely. Which makes the avalanche method obsolete because of how fast you're knocking this out. Yeah. And even as a math nerd, you're like, yeah, you could, you might, but the people who actually become debt-free, it's behavior. It's behavior. Way to go, man. That's big. We're proud of you.

You get the rest of your life now to build wealth, to give, to enjoy. So you went like one step backward going, well, I'm missing out right now. There's probably some FOMO. But then you're catapulting forward exponentially. Yes. While your friends are going, dude, how are you investing that much? I don't have debt. that's incredible

well good for you good for you man that's awesome I'm proud of you very cool who was cheering you on as you went oh definitely my brother my father and my mother and I could tell that I made them really proud because I did something that they haven't done

yeah changing your family trade you can get out of their basement so yeah have you moved out yet no actually I'm glad I paid off my debt so quickly because I got laid off whoa yeah so one month after paying off my debt, being aggressive. They said, yep, we don't see you as being, uh, meeting our standards or valuable.

We got to let you go. We're going to go with other people. But, um, from there, it was just glad I was really aggressive. And you're working again now? It's only been about a month or so. Okay. So just been applying, applying aggressively. And I'm not too worried, uh, because my credentials and background.

I'm willing to move if I have to. Yeah, you, a sharp guy. Good for you, man. Well done. Proud of you, proud of you. And you brought your brother to stand. with you while you do the debt-free scream. Bring him up and introduce him. Hi, this is my

brother Danilo. He's following my footsteps. He's doing everything I'm doing, but better. I love it. Way to go, Danilo. Very cool. Very cool. All right, Leonel from California. $75,000 paid off in 20 months, making 78 to 96.

Count it down. Let's hear a debt-free scream. Three, two, one. I'm debt-free. Yeah. Yeah. There we go. Oh, my goodness. That was incredible. He gave it as all on that one.

That's fun. Left it all on the dance floor, as they say. I wish I had that energy. You know, I missed the 25-year-old energy. I'd probably hurt my back doing that now. Yeah, well, I mean, you're staying up all night with new mornings. Yeah, different phase of life. It affects your energy level, George.

I'm just saying. what a great story well done sir well done very very proud of you good work jasmine's in texas hi jasmine how are you hi dave i'm doing fine good how can we help um so my husband and i are on baby step two were kind of newer to the ramsie um teaching method and um i was actually recently laid off um as of yesterday whoa so it was yeah it was a little bit of a shock to us. You didn't know, you didn't have any idea it was coming?

Um, we had some differences and my, um, boss said that they, I wasn't meeting the expectations that the company was wanting. Um, so I thought I was fixing a lot of those issues and then yesterday, they asked me for another meeting after,

um, having a meeting last week. And then they said that we're just going to have to let you go. So I thought that I had a little bit more time to kind of save up. Hmm. And it turned out. I just had yesterday. What did you make?

I made $45,000. Doing what? I was an admin assistant for one of the businesses, local into the town that we live in. Okay, cool. All right. And are they giving you severance package? They are not.

Wow, okay. How long did you work there? About a year. Okay. Okay. Cool. All right. And what does your husband make?

He makes $65,000. Okay. So you used to have a 110 income, now you have a $65 income for this moment? Yes. Okay. Well, here's what we have found, and we faced your situation many, many, many times over 30 years. The first thing is it's really emotional. And you're semi kind of angry and scared at the same time, right?

right? Yeah. Yeah. The second thing is, if you push through that and go out there right now and go get another job fast, you'll probably get a better job than you had, paying more than you had. If you wallow in this for about six weeks, you're going to end up probably getting a worse job than you had. So you throw the shoulders back and you brush your teeth and you go to work again fast. Hang on, we're going to send you a copy of Ken Coleman's book, The Proximity Principle, which will help you get that next next. job quick quick you're better than they said you are girl go get you something better

our our our scripture of the day philippians 214 and 15 do everything without grumbling or arguing so that you may become blameless and pure children of god without fault in a war and crooked generation. Then you will shine among them like stars in the sky. Maya Angelou said, if you're always trying to be normal, you will never know how amazing you can be. Dave's in Maryland. Hi, Dave.

Welcome to the Ramsey Show. What's up? Hi, Dave. How are you, sir? Better than I deserve. How can I help? Well, first and foremost, I want to thank you for everything that you've taught me over the years.

You've helped me change my life financially. I never thought that I would be in the position that I am today with money, and it's because of everything I've learned from you. Wow. Well, good for you, man. I'm proud of you. Yeah, it's awesome. So I've been struggling for a while now in my current relationship with my girlfriend.

I'm just trying to figure out whether I should stay with her or not. And most of it has to do with our differences. financially how old are you guys so I'm 48 and she's 44 we've been dating for about five years and it's kind of at the point to where this is either going to be it or it isn't you know yeah that's a long time time's a long time to paint or get off the ladder right so what's the difference in financial values here well um I don't I'm a small business owner, and I think I do pretty well. And she's, I don't know, I'm more goal-oriented, money-driven, success-driven, than she is.

And she really doesn't have a whole lot financially or, like, possession-wise, and things like that. And sometimes I just feel like I would rather date someone that has a solid career path, you know, makes a good salary. someone that's more focused on their career and money. But on the other hand, we get along, I mean, she is just, she's an amazing woman. She's the best girl that I've ever dated in my life. So are you wanting someone who has the same level of drive you do? Well, maybe not drive, but just someone that's closer to me financially, you know. So you think there's a disparity between how hard you,

work to build your wealth and success and how little she cares to do that for herself? Yeah, something like that. And I guess it's also, you know, it's, I'm afraid, not afraid, but just being the breadwinner. And I don't know, it's a little difficult to explain, but I just, I wish that she had more money and she had a better job. You know, that's pretty much. What is she making? She makes about 60 a year. That's a solid income. And I'm, well, see, that's the thing, because if we combined our finances, I think we would do okay.

I'll make between 80 and 90 a year, and she makes about 60. So we would bring in around 140 combined, you know, and we've been talking about moving in together and things like that. But, you know, the money thing just kind of is what's been holding me back. I don't see any crazy red flags so far. Is she in crippling debt that she refuses to get out of? She has spending problems? No, she's very frugal. She's a single mom.

She raised her son pretty much on her own with help from her family, but she's a single mom. She's very frugal. She's independent. She has no debt. I mean, she might have like a one or $2,000 credit card. She rents her house and her car is paid for. I mean, you guys are going to build wealth together.

You'll accumulate more assets and you'll have a paid-for house together. And so I wouldn't judge this just based off of, well, she's not coming to the table with enough assets for me to move forward. You know, I would need a little more ammo than that to end this relationship. And it's not like you make $400,000 and she makes $30. And so the disparity is not as big as I think you think it is. It feels more emotional that you're worried you'll resent her and not respect her going down the line. Yeah, something like that. And also, I struggle a little bit because I grew up in poverty, you know.

So I've had this inborn fear of poverty my entire life. And that's why I saved so much. And I guess sometimes I think, what if the bottom fell out of my business and I didn't, I lost my money? Could I count on her to support us? I know that doesn't really make sense. but sometimes that's how I think, you know. Well, I'm not hearing any huge fireworks going off in terms of some kind of bad warning here.

This sounds like a lady who's rolled up her sleeves, raised a kid by herself, and has pulled off life pretty well. You know, maybe she's not quite kept up with you, but it's not like you make a million dollars a year and she makes $10,000 or something. I mean, this is not some huge disparity. It's fairly minor.

But here's the big question is not how much money she has or how much money she makes. That part, that shouldn't even really be in the discussion. What should be in the discussion is do you respect her character, her work ethic? Do you respect her intellect and what she can add to the equation? And if you don't respect someone, then it's very difficult to love them. And they go together. and so long term real lengthy 25 35 year marriage 50 year marriage love type stuff okay if you think she's deficit the whole time that's probably not going to end up being there and so but it's

not based on her income and it's not based on that actually the things you the her story that you described to me i think she's pretty incredible so um but you know you got to you got to think that um that it's not me i'm not marrying her so i got pretty incredible already i've already got that covered about 44 years ago so um but um yeah that that's what i'd be looking at um it sounds you know probably a good opportunity for some good pre-marriage counseling to sit down with a good marriage counselor and get this stuff out on the table and those fears out there kind of comb through it a little bit that kind of thing and um you know the other thing that might help too you kind you kind of brought up your poverty past uh let me send you a copy of rachel

Cruz's book know yourself know your money uh it talks about your family of origin and how it affects your view on money her family of origin how it affects her view on money even her story and it affects her view on money and how she got to where she is and um you guys get you know give you some jumping off points to understand each other a little bit better uh before you make the final decision on marriage or on breakup either one and you know that's that's definitely where i would go with that so hey thanks for the call We appreciate you joining us. Open phones here at AAA 825-5-2-2-2-5.

So, George, one of the big things we get, and I think that Know Yourself, know-your-money book is helpful for that, is with couples that are dating, trying to figure out if they're a match. And money is a good thing for that, not because money's important, but because money reveals a lot about your character.

It reveals a lot about your dreams. it reveals a lot about your fears. It reveals a lot. And Jesus said your treasures where your heart is. And so how you handle money, the way you look at money, what you're trying to get from money, all say a lot about you. And so it's a great way to get to know someone in a relationship like that is to study their money habits. Because as Dr. John Deloney says, behavior is a language. Yeah.

And if the values are there, then you can survive. You'll have a nerd and a free spirit, a spender, and a saver. But if the values are there at a foothold and foundation, you can survive the relationship. And so that's an important thing to look into is, hey, do I value living a debt-free life? If not, you're probably going to be broke for a long time. You know, that's a good point. Looking back on it, we didn't mean to do this. We weren't sophisticated enough to do it when we were dating and getting married.

But Sharon and I accidentally got married with having two extremely different families. but both families put a heavy emphasis on hard work and work ethic common sense yeah and so neither Sharon nor I have much use for somebody that won't work and so but and you know consequently we team up on that a lot like sheenie says you need to go to work and Dave does it that puts this hour of the Ramsey show in the books we'll be back with you before you know it in the meantime remember there's ultimately only one way to financial peace and that's to walk daily with the prince of peace Christ Jesus.