The Ramsey Show - App - Hope Always Lives on the Other Side of Hurt

Episode Date: September 19, 2025

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Starting point is 00:00:00 Normal is broke and common sense is weird. We're here to help you transform your life from the Ramsey Network and the Fairwinds Credit Union Studio. This is the Ramsey show. Alongside George Campbell, I'm Ken Coleman. We're thrilled to have you with us. the phone number to jump in on the conversation today is AAA 825-5-2-2-2-5. You're ready to go, partner? I am ecstatic. I see you got your really fancy denim jacket on today. I save the best for you. I appreciate you cleaning up. Let's go to Kathy in Texas.
Starting point is 00:00:46 Kathy, how can we help? Hi, I'm 68 years old, and six months ago I got involved with an online investment group. I eventually borrowed $50,000 for my brother. He invested. 10010. I retired from my company. I took out all my 401k and pension. And last month, they ghosted us and froze our accounts and we lost it all. I lost $487,000. My brother lost the 50 I borrowed and the 110 he invested. And my brother would like his money. Oh, boy. And I have a house that's paid off. I live in Texas. So I have a homestead on it. I have a $30,000 loan from American Express.
Starting point is 00:01:30 So I'm wondering, do I file bankruptcy? I tried to get a reverse mortgage, but my husband died, so my house is not in good enough condition. I'm just lost. Okay. Oh, absolutely. Not only you lost, I'm guessing you're just emotionally stunned. You know, that's an unbelievable.
Starting point is 00:01:50 Yeah, and I'm so sorry. Is this scam still out there? It probably is. I filed with, you know, FBI and all the agencies, but they didn't have a whole lot of hope for me. Yeah, it's rare that in these situations you get your money back. So how much debt total do you have right now? You said you have 30K on an American Express card? Right.
Starting point is 00:02:14 That was a loan. The other two are 2000, maybe 3,000 total, so 33,000. So 33,000. And I know you retired recently. Yes. What is your, what is the future look like as far as work? Because that's, we absolutely have to consider that right now. Oh, I know.
Starting point is 00:02:35 I've been applying, but like I said, I'm 68. I've had my job for 36 years. I did sales so I can do that. But I'm, you know. How long have you been out of the workforce? Since May, end of May. What about your past company? Have we called them up and told them what's going on?
Starting point is 00:02:53 my job once you quit you're gone I'm easily replaceable okay wow well bankruptcy you know it'll clear the american express debt but i don't think it's worth i don't either bankruptcy over this yeah because you just you lost your retirement money you're not going to get that back right and the pension as well so you took the pension out as a lump sum use that in the investment course took cashed out every dime of your retirement and threw it into this course. Correct. All I have is $2,000 a month Social Security now. What is your... $500.00. I make $2,000 a month.
Starting point is 00:03:35 And then what was the other thing you were about to mention, $500 something? I promised my brother $500 a month. Well, the promises are over. I mean, you don't have money. Sorry, brother is on his own. You both got screwed in this, and so you just simply don't have the money to pay him back. Okay. I mean, he got you into this if I heard you correctly. No, I got him.
Starting point is 00:03:58 Oh, okay. It doesn't matter. It doesn't matter. That was just me kind of being on team Kathy, so I misunderstood. But no, you can't take care of brother. Brother's got to take care of himself. You both made a poor decision, and now we got to figure out of it. You were what the bank would call a risky borrower.
Starting point is 00:04:15 And so you borrowed this money, and he knew full well he might never see it again. He had faith in me, and I've never disappointed him before. Well, I hope you can pay him back one day, but it's not today. You're not going to be making him payments because you've got to put food on the table. Can you live off of $2,000 a month? My bills really are $800 a month plus food and then my homeowner's insurance and So all in, what does it take to run your house for a month? Include food, include HOA, every single little thing.
Starting point is 00:04:54 Yeah, pretty much 2000. Okay. Okay. So you're just going to hopefully survive, and that's where getting a job is going to come into play. Listen, I'm going to tell you, I'm going to jump in real quick on the job thing, because I think coming off of something this emotionally difficult, one of the best things you can do is get to work. Now, I understand that you have been applying, but I think you're going to have to take some opportunities
Starting point is 00:05:14 that you wouldn't normally think about now. I mean, that's maybe Starbucks, Walmart, Target, I mean, you're functional, your former salesperson. We need income. And if we can get some benefits out of that, so I mean, you're doing everything you can. And your number one goal right now is tell everybody your story. Now, this is very difficult. I understand what I'm saying. I completely understand what I'm asking you to do, which is to share your story.
Starting point is 00:05:40 It is a thing that is going to be difficult because you're ashamed, and I understand that. but you aren't the only person who has been duped before. And I think a 60-year-old lady who's a good person who has lived her life well, this is where we can't do this on our own. We cannot, Kathy, do this on our own. No advice that George and I will give you is going to alleviate that fact. This is the time to go. everybody I know here's my story here's what's going on and and this is what I got to do
Starting point is 00:06:22 and I think that there's nothing wrong with that because you need some kind souls to go I'm going to help Kathy and I'm going to give Kathy a job that's what has to happen right now what is your house worth probably 350 for a flipper it's on paper what do you mean for a flipper. You know, if somebody came in and wanted to flip it and make some quick money on it. I'm saying if you listed it on the MLS, on the market with a real estate agent, what could you get for it? Well, I asked and they said $375 to $4.25. Okay. So your house is worth about $400,000. I would keep it for now, try to stay afloat, try to get a job. And there's a worst case scenario here where five years from now, if you're out of options, you're unable to work for some reason. You could sell the house downsize
Starting point is 00:07:13 and invest the difference to try to create a little bit of a nest egg. Well, that was why I was going to do the reverse mortgage route. No. I mean, they will just screw you with all of the fees. You're going to lose all of the equity in your home. Right. It's a terrible, horrible financial product, and they prey on desperate people like our friend Kathy to try to get them into these.
Starting point is 00:07:39 Kathy, I'm going to ask a question to George on your behalf very quickly. George, I agree with what you said about the house, but I'm sitting here going, if I'm in her shoes at 68, I wonder if it's not a, is it a feasible idea to not sell the house now and take the entire proceeds and get that back in the retirement accounts to try to grow over the next five years? As you said that, I just, what are your thoughts? Yeah, I mean, that was my initial thought was could we just liquidate the house, invest every penny of it, and live off of the growth? there is risk there because we don't know what the market's going to do. I don't want her to live off of it. We don't know how long it will last. That's why I want to see right now, can we create enough income and then
Starting point is 00:08:20 play that card later on down the road when necessary? Instead of just going to that route and then not working at all. That's my fear. So Kathy, I'm so sorry you're going through this. I wish I had a magic wand and can just get these scammers to give you your money back. But the relationship with your brother, it's not going to be
Starting point is 00:08:36 the same. The future you had, the retirement you dreamed of, it's not going to be the same. So you've got to grieve what was and just create a realistic picture of what comes next. All right, Chris is up next in Houston, Texas. Chris, how can we help today? Well, Ken, George, thanks for taking my call today. You're on my favorite combo.
Starting point is 00:09:02 Oh, wow. We will send you a check. Kelly, make sure we pay the man. Make it a Venmo. Yeah, Venmo, make it easier. Thank you. Thank you, Chris. Appreciate that.
Starting point is 00:09:11 What's going on? Okay, so my wife and I are really concerned really right now about our future retirement. So just a little background, we don't have anything saved, don't have three or six months expenses, just started doing the Ramsey steps on a baby step two. So we're talking about selling our home to get the equity out of it to basically just pay everything off and just kind of start fresh and be able to put some money back and then start, you know, guessing 15%, like the Randolph step says. But I'm not sure if that's the right answer to do that or not.
Starting point is 00:09:49 The other option is, you know, I keep working like a madman like I've been doing, keep the house. But we have a pool, and I don't know if that should be like included, like with the mortgage payment, even though they're separate or that's considered consumer debt with our car note. How big is the pool loan? The pool loan is $73,000. And what's your household income?
Starting point is 00:10:12 About $8,200 or month after taxes. Okay, what about before? Just give me the gross household income for the year. About 128. Okay. Yeah, I would put it up there with your mortgage since it's over half of your annual income. We'd kind of treat that like a second mortgage at that point. And so I would focus on a consumer debt first.
Starting point is 00:10:33 How much is all that add up to? Well, we've paid off all the credit cards, which is about $16,000. Now, all we have left besides the pool is a car, which is about $27,000. What's the car worth? 42. Oh, I know what we're doing there, George. Tell him what he's won. You just won $15,000, my friend.
Starting point is 00:10:56 That's the difference. If you sold that car and took the proceeds and got something cash, you just freed up a payment and became consumer debt-free outside of the pool. And let's stay right there, Chris. How much is that car payment? It's $500 a month. All right, so we just found you $15,000 in cash, and we then saved you $6,000 a year of net income. Hello.
Starting point is 00:11:19 You see that magic trick right there? Yes. And we still have a place to rest our head that we can call our own. So what you won is a cheaper car. That's what you want. Now, what's the mortgage payment? What's that, say that again? Unfortunately, that's from my wife, wins.
Starting point is 00:11:35 Is she on board with this? she is if that's what we have to do yes it is what you have to do well here's the thing do you want to be eating alpo in retirement but have a nice car or do we want to make a short-term sacrifice so we can retire with dignity that's the trade-off here wow we're not trying to punish you right to the dog food that was dark and it's honestly dog food's not cheap i take that back i tell you my dogs eat really good food it's going to be ramen i guess but you know chris the reason i'm saying you guys have to do this is because you're 53 and you don't have any retirement. So we have got now, now, this is where George is like, I love, I love when George,
Starting point is 00:12:12 oh, I see him doing it. I wish you could see him right now. He's already got, he does the one-hand keyboard thing. He's got the Ramsey investment calculator, which you can access at ramsysolutions dot com. So the reason we're going to be super aggressive here is because you guys can catch, you can start to make headway, but we're talking, we got to sell the car and it lists today. And we have gotten to change. So let's run the numbers, George. Yeah, are you guys in pretty good health? So that's a good question. So I had a heart attack back in March. And I've changed a lot. And my help has gotten a lot better for sure. I've gone to test and all that stuff right now. And so that kind of leads me to, you know, I've been, you know, I've worked my regular job,
Starting point is 00:12:53 which I work 50 plus hours at, I've been door dashing on the side about another 50 hours a week. Wow. Which is a lot because I'm working every single day from morning to night. How long you've been doing the door dashing? I've been doing the door dashing now for about three months. Did you include that in the credit cards? Okay, good for you. Did you include that, though, in the number you gave us on the $128,000 gross? No. Okay. No, I did not because I don't know how long I could sustain that because I'm working every Saturday. Only day, I'm taking off on the Sunday. That's it. Okay, and what about your wife? My wife works as well. She works full-time. Her money is included in that number as well. Okay, and what are you guys doing for work?
Starting point is 00:13:35 Are, is there area for growth here? Yeah, I'm in sales. I mean, there's potential for commission. I just started a new job. I'm really good. Chris, that is far better than driving Uber. Forget Uber. Number one, spend 50 hours on the phones and email selling.
Starting point is 00:13:54 Yeah, I'm no doctor. I would like to play one on TV. I want to point that out. And he would make a great one. I think I would look good in scrubs. But the point here is that you're better, your health, and the financial ROI for you is way better to go after that commission. But even at the 128, George, let's paint a picture here.
Starting point is 00:14:13 If we sell the car and so we come up with 15 cash, so we got 15, George, to work with. Yeah, you take that 15, you buy yourself a used cash car. There we go. And then you're debt free. Now we can work on the emergency fund. So for the next, let's call it six to eight months, just stack away cash to build up that emergency fund. then we can begin investing. So let's just paint a picture.
Starting point is 00:14:36 A year from now, you're 54, right? Yes. And you're debt-free with an emergency fund, and we begin investing 15% of our income. That's about $1,600 a month. Are you tracking? Yes. By the age of 70.
Starting point is 00:14:50 Now, this is assuming you're going to have to work longer because we got a late start. You would have $750,000, likely, in that one account. Now we're talking, okay, if we have a paid-for house and $750 grand of the bank, we have a fighting chance of surviving, right? Now, what that doesn't include, Chris, is those commissions and more income, socking it away. What's left on the mortgage? What's the balance? $3.70.
Starting point is 00:15:16 Okay, and how many years left on the mortgage? Took out a 30-year note when we bought the house. I still have 26 years on it. What's it worth? That's why we're talking about selling the house. What can you get for the house? fresh about 600 so that would you'd walk away with roughly what um when i looked at the numbers i think i would walk away with about 180 but then paying off the car in the pool um that we need with about a hundred i think yeah that pool i have to put no pun intended exactly i see what you
Starting point is 00:15:55 did but then with the pool i mean i'm sorry what would i have to have left would be about 20% on the house, which only lead me with about $11,000. Yeah, but. Towards a three-six-months expenses. Yeah, I like, it's aggressive, allows you to start with the emergency fund immediately and start investing. And you guys can downsize. Is just the two of you?
Starting point is 00:16:17 No, we have two more kids at home, but, you know, they're older. They're fine. They'll be out at some point. That's right. They live where we tell them to live. George, what do you think about this? I'm actually leading towards this. I like this move.
Starting point is 00:16:28 I'm trying to think, would you go rent somewhere for a while and just keep stacking cash? Because you're not going to be able to afford anything for $180. Well, and that doesn't pay off the pool. Well, if we sold it for $600, I think I, like, we sold it for $600 today. I could pay off the pool and the car and build to end up with about, after I put 20% down on a house, on a 15-year note, I think I would have about $11,000 left. That was including that. And then it would be quicker there, then I'd start, you know, saying for retirement since I get that built up.
Starting point is 00:17:03 Yeah, you're just, you're going to be back to having a giant mortgage is my fear with today's rates and today's prices. So that's the part you have to weigh. I would crunch those numbers heavily. I just selling a house is always the last answer, not my first solution. Because number one, it doesn't actually change the behavior that got us here. It just feels like a get out of jail free card. And it kind of moves you backwards instead of building equity. and getting that house paid off, now we're liquidating and starting from scratch again in our 50s. And so I would, I wouldn't, I would hesitate before just jumping on that. But I love the idea of you guys getting debt-free faster, having more to retire with, but you would also have to go, we're going to downsize our lifestyle and change.
Starting point is 00:17:45 I don't like the idea of you just keeping everything going, well, we're going to keep the car, keep the pool, keep living how we're living, and get the cake too. And so you're going to have to make some deep sacrifice. Agreed. And I feel like if we keep the house, then I just don't see an insight how we could pay off the house eventually. I just feel like with the income where it's at, even if I go up another 20,000, I just don't see how I pay off the house. Yeah, George, I'm going to tell you, I like the aggressive approach here.
Starting point is 00:18:13 I rarely disagree with you. But I like where he's at to reset, even if they've got a rent at this stage for a couple of years, I think a reset to try to really get focused on retirement investing. I don't know. It's aggressive, but I like it. It's a reset for sure. Best of luck, my friend. All right. If you died tomorrow, how would your family keep the lights on? How would they pay the mortgage? How would they afford just the basics, like groceries?
Starting point is 00:18:44 If anybody in your life depends on your income, you need life insurance. Life insurance has one function, and that is to replace your income if you die. Term life insurance is the only kind of insurance that does that. Others like whole or permanent life insurance try to add the investing angle to it, and it's just a bad product. So here's what you need. Life insurance policy that is worth 10 to 12 times your annual income for a term length of 15 to 20 years, and it should be a level policy, meaning the premium stays the
Starting point is 00:19:17 same. If you'd like more info on this and some actual resources, use our free term life insurance guide, go to ramsysolutions.com slash term life guide. That's a life guide, excuse me, RamseySolutions.com slash term life guide. Danielle is up in Cleveland, Ohio. Danielle, how can we help today? Oh, hi. How are you doing today?
Starting point is 00:19:40 Thank you so much for taking my call. Sure. So my question is whether we are on baby step two or six. reason being is so is this a trick question it's a riddle wrapped in a rhyme it really is truly we were all excited we were debt-free we are baby steps six right now so all we have left is our mortgage we didn't take into consideration that we do actually have a vehicle loan out for our son who is paying it but it is in our name so does that mean that means that we go back to baby step two, should we consider going ahead and paying the loan off while
Starting point is 00:20:28 still making him responsible for it or continue on with putting everything towards our mortgage as we have been. Do you have the cash to pay it off today? Well, so we have our emergency fund, our six-month emergency fund, and so we were thinking that if that loan puts us back to baby step two, that technically we should use that to pay get off and then we go hurry up and re you know rebuild our six months all right george tell her what's left on the loan 18,000 okay and is he making payments right now or are you guys making the payments no we do not make the payments the car insurance all of that hmm the loan just happens to be in our name well you
Starting point is 00:21:14 owe the money if he stops making payments it's on you so it's your debt correct even if someone else's currently making the payment. And I hope he continues to make the payment and do the honorable thing. What if, is he making the payment directly to the lender? Or is he sending you guys the money and you actually do the transaction? Yeah, we make the transaction. We actually, he gives us the money, we make the payment. I'm just wondering if you guys paid it off, but you make him continue to make payments to you guys, that sort of gives him the responsibility of what he said he would do, which is make the car payments while absolving you guys of the risk, the debt, all of that, and the interest. So that's kind of the way we were leaning.
Starting point is 00:21:59 Same thoughts, because at the end of the day, we do have, even if it fell in us, if he, for some reason something happened and he stopped making the payment, we have the money to pay it. We just weren't sure if we should go ahead and use emergency fund and then go ahead and rebuild that, which we could do in about three months. What's in savings right now? So we have 25 in our six-month emergency fund, and then we have a couple other counts with, you know,
Starting point is 00:22:27 like let's say 5,000 in one and a couple thousand in the other. Okay. But we have no other debt other than our mortgage. So really most of our money is stinking funds and then paying extra on our mortgage to get debt paid off. Okay. Well, I mean, if we're going to talk semantics, in the baby steps. You are in Baby Step 2. And we would consider this, you know, where you're
Starting point is 00:22:52 going to liquidate your savings to pay off any debt, just like we would tell anyone in Baby Step 2. And you'll rebuild it really fast. I would have him continue to make the payments unless you just go, hey, bud, you're off the hook. You know, congratulations. Mom and dad just wanted to be generous. Early inheritance for you. We want him to be responsible. We're trying to now get him in, you know, Ramsey program and started him a Roth, and we want him to do the responsible thing, which should be to pay for his vehicle. Good. Well, if you want the truly responsible thing, it's the discipline to actually save up and pay
Starting point is 00:23:27 cash for his next car. And so just making payments has left a lot of people broke. Agreed. Yes. So it's an honorable thing that you guys have followed the steps. And I would talk to him. I don't know when, but say, hey, this was a mistake. We want to do everything with cash.
Starting point is 00:23:45 We don't want to owe people money. It's going to free us up mentally, emotionally, financially, and we wish the same for you. I have to tell you, George, if we could go back in time, if we were doing following that. Please do it. FCC will come down on us hard. Is that right? Yeah. They've been very busy lately, Ken.
Starting point is 00:24:04 Oh, I see what you did there, too. Right out of the headlines, George. We're having a good time. You are on it today. But I didn't know you watched the news, to be honest. I try to keep up. There's so much. I'm trying to help Danielle.
Starting point is 00:24:16 I'm trying to keep up with the news. Well, Danielle, I'm so happy for you guys. You're going to be dead free today. Oh, I know. It's a good day. I have to tell you. I know you guys hear this a lot, but you are my favorite duo, and I really appreciate all of your advice and how helpful you all are.
Starting point is 00:24:30 You all are so kind. By the way, if anyone's keeping scored, it's two for Ken and George today. If we get three, we get a race. Is that right? Oh, okay. Let's milk that. Oh, that's a great question from the Danielle. It is actually a really good question, Danielle.
Starting point is 00:24:42 And I don't know if you caught it. she said they could rebuild their emergency fund in three months so really the absolute best move right here but you got to tell sparky you know yeah you got to tell them well you don't tell him because then he goes wait well my dad aren't making payments you know i'm actually glad you said that because i wonder do you tell sparky is it deceitful i don't know that part is the ethical part of me goes i don't know i like a good philosophical i don't think it's deceitful what about charging your kid rent they pay it off he's paying them anyway they don't have to tell him they paid it off that was thinking. Regardless. I think to your point, it puts him
Starting point is 00:25:15 an attempt to kind of a temptation situation where he's like, oh, Mom and Dad paid it off, and I'm going to flake out and put their love to the test. Maybe I'll miss a payment this month. I hope Sparky's listening. I might be reading his mail. I might be reading his mail. Rex is up next in Houston, Texas. Rex, how can we help? Yes, I just have a question. I'm 66 years old.
Starting point is 00:25:38 Still working. I have a 401k. IRA. and my question is, should I take money out of my IRA or 401K to pay off my existing debt? How much do you have in the retirement accounts and how much debt do you have? IRA is 1.1. The 401k is 200,000. Debt's about 300,000. What kind of debt? That's including my mortgage, a school loan, personal loan, cars, and credit card. Wow, you got a little full bucket there. Yeah, at 66, I would want to simplify my life.
Starting point is 00:26:18 And so you would deplete 300,000 out of your 1.3. So it would bring you down to a million? Somewhere around there, yes. I like this plan because here's what it does. It frees up all of those payments. So if you added all of those payments up, the mortgage, the consumer debts, what would that be every single month? Yeah, it's about $4,500.
Starting point is 00:26:38 Woo! Now, could you then invest that? exact amount? Could you promise me in America that you would do that? Well, pretty close. Right now, I put 10% from a paycheck into my 401k and an additional 5% into savings. So here's my thinking. Are you going to work for another five years per se or what's your plan? Yeah, the plan is to, I'm not taking Social Security either right now, so I'm went to 70 to Social Security plan is to work to 72. Wow.
Starting point is 00:27:12 Well, I did some math for you. If you take that $4,500 and you start investing it from $66 to $71, you would end up with $3.48. So you will have more money than this debt was costing you. Okay. And also, if I take it out of there, of course, I don't have a penalty being $66, but I am in the high tax market. So you are, it's all in traditional, so you would pay taxes on that? Yes, traditional hour rate. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:27:39 I would sit down with a tax pro or a smart vester pro. You can jump on to Ramsey Solutions.com, crunch some numbers and see, hey, maybe I knock out consumer debts this year and the mortgage next year and try to minimize some of the tax damage. But either way, you're going to be debt-free real soon, my friend. And I would consider maybe selling these cars. If we have some equity in these cars, let's not rob from ourselves. Let's have some discipline on that side.
Starting point is 00:28:01 Minimize the damage. Yeah. Thanks for the call, Rex. all right let's go to john in kentucky john how can we help today hey how are you guys good how are you sir blessed blessed um just a quick question uh i recently was promoted and um with the expectations of moving out in uh colorado and um the job's been great and i'm trying to find out either a what kind of home price i should be looking at to make sure that when my wife, we have our first child, she can work from home or just not work
Starting point is 00:28:43 at all. Or if I should end up renting for a year to be able to put down a lot more on the home. Great question. Okay, lay out some numbers for us. Yeah, so currently I'm in sales, but minimum is usually about 17K per month. Some months, it's really great up to 30, but it's usually between 17 to 22,000 for my income. Amazing. Hers is about 5K per month, but we're expecting to bring her home after the first child. Okay, so we'll just remove that income from the equation, and you're going, hey, how much house can I afford if I make about 20K a month?
Starting point is 00:29:24 Yeah. Okay. And what are you looking at right now? What price range? Yeah, so we're looking between 300 to 500,000. But I've also been speaking with a realtor about trying to find an assumable loan. I do have the option for a VA, which would definitely help with lowering that monthly income or the monthly home price. Well, what it'll do is just allow you to get in with less equity, less down payment.
Starting point is 00:29:54 And so that part worries me, especially for a guy making this kind of money. Are you guys not in a good financial position? Do you have debt? No. I've spent the last few months paying off all any credit cards, anything like that. She has a car loan that has a little less than 10K. I've got about 35,000 in the savings, about 20 to 25 that I could access through the 401K. And then with sales, I should be expecting another 15 to 20,000 before we decide to pull the trigger. John, are you familiar with our baby steps? yeah yeah okay so when you tell us you have 35,000 sitting over in savings and your wife is carrying a $10,000 car loan what do you think we're thinking you should get that paid off immediately yeah so this is fine I love when someone else knows what we're going to say so sure the question
Starting point is 00:30:47 I have is what is keeping you from doing that knowing that that's what we were going to tell you to do yeah that's a great question um one of the things that I've been thinking about is with her coming home, is it worth paying off the car now, or is it worth making sure that I have the emergency fund saved up in case something ever happened to me or the job, that we would have a nest egg to then make decisions on finding a new job or going from there? When is she coming home? We are trying now, so nine to 12 months. You get what I'm saying here?
Starting point is 00:31:23 I already knew the answer. You don't know when she's coming home. sure you guys she's not even pregnant sure and so i'm adjusting these numbers to what you gave me you you immediately in laying out the numbers for george you discounted her 5k a month that actually takes your range of income between 22 and 27 not 17 and 22 to george's point you you're rolling buddy and so getting up a really good down payment is not going to take along with those numbers am i right george yeah and you have a lot of flexibility with your level of income well our parameter is no more than a quarter of your take-home pay going towards this mortgage. And that
Starting point is 00:32:01 includes the principal, the interest, the property taxes, all of that, the homeowners insurance. And so with your income, if you bought a $500,000 house with $100,000 down with a 15-year fix, you'd likely be looking at a payment of about $37.50 a month, which is very reasonable if you consistently make $17K a month, agreed? Yeah. And so having a down payment of that, Could you save up $100,000 over the next 12 months? Yeah, easily. I guess I should have mentioned, there is an expectation of moving out there before February, March, time frame. So that's kind of the thing I'm going with.
Starting point is 00:32:40 Where's the expectation coming from? From taking the promotion. Yeah, but you don't have to buy a house just because you're taking the job. Correct. I rented for two years with three kids. When I moved here 11 years ago, I rented a very much smaller house. because we wanted for us it wasn't just the financial it was I didn't want to make a massive decision like that about where my kids were going to be until I knew the area so I love this
Starting point is 00:33:06 question John and I say this I want you to feel older brother vibes here okay sure I love how planning and how intense you are and all this stuff but dude take a deep breath you have no idea how quickly you guys are going to get pregnant and and you can pay off her car today As soon as you hang up the phone, you still have $25 in cash. And between the money you guys have... Another $25K is going to slip through your hands in the next 30 days. So I wouldn't be worried about the emergency. You're going to be stacking up cash so fast.
Starting point is 00:33:40 Especially once this car payment's gone, which I know it's not a lot compared to lead to your income. But I would just be stacking cash for life. Rent, rent, rent, until you guys get planted in this new place. You guys are a young couple. How long have you been married? uh less than a year oh good heavens you guys are just learning how to be married yeah how old are you john uh 32 32 um yeah man like this is exciting this call is great and then you're in great you mentioned you mentioned the 401k never touch that retirement account if you're not 59 and a half
Starting point is 00:34:17 you're essentially taking on a loan for 35 percent by cashing that out early so i would just leave that money alone you have a great income go rent in february in that new city, sign a six or nine month lease. And by this time next year, you're going to have $100,000 in a down payment account. And you can get a half million dollar home. And it's going to be so peaceful to do it slow and steady instead of rushing into all this at once, especially when you're bringing a baby into this world. Man, it just adds a whole other layer of stress and nesting. And so you don't want to be moving while she's eight and a half months pregnant. Yeah. And to that point, I just want to give you one other little encouragement.
Starting point is 00:34:55 even if she got pregnant tomorrow and the babies, I mean, the income, if you have no debt and the income you have, you're fine. You'll build up the emergency, but that 35, you're going to replenish that. You've got more than enough to take care of this baby. All right. So I love your earnest intensity. I really do. You're a sharp young guy. You're in good shape. Good shape. I appreciate it. Just breathe, man, you know? Yeah, that's been the tough part. Just trying to make sure, you know, in introducing a family that I do everything right. Well, buddy, I'm going to tell you something.
Starting point is 00:35:33 You're a poster child. I mean, you are. You are just a, you know, if you look up fine young man in the dictionary, nobody uses that terminology except people that are... Well, I'm 51, folks. We have an expanded vocabulary, all right? Can I get some love in the lobby? You've heard you've used the phrase.
Starting point is 00:35:51 That's a pity clap, if ever seen what it is. No, that was a nice par putt clap is what that was. Respectable. But listen, John, you are absolutely doing a phenomenal job of providing for you, your wife, your future family. You are way ahead. George, just to put you on the spot, because you're in the numbers on this particular stuff more than I am, the average 32-year-old, if you were going to make something up,
Starting point is 00:36:19 an educated guess versus John to encourage John. And also to paint the picture for other people to be in his spot. What would you say the average 32-year-old dude, his financial picture looks like in America? Probably has a big truck that's about $700, probably still has a student loans, probably still fooling with credit cards, and probably making $4,000 to $5,000 a month, not $20,000 a month. So this picture, I'm just like, this kid is going places. He just got to tweak a few things and have a little bit of patience, but he's going to be catapulted when he's making 20 grand a month, no debt with a reasonable house payment,
Starting point is 00:36:56 which means he's going to pay that house off early, mom's going to be at home, not stressed, taking care of the baby, raising the family. This is a poster child for the baby steps if he can do this, right? Yeah, so John, man, we are team John, and you've done such a good job, and it's really important to be able to get perspective. So glad you called today if we could just be a little bit of a sounding board to go, man, you're doing great. You just got, as George said, the tweaks and enjoy life.
Starting point is 00:37:21 and don't be so scared because you are really, really in great shape. And we're praying for you guys, hope the baby and all that. Everything comes along when you want it to. It's such an exciting time. You're doing well, young man. Thank you for the call. Welcome back to the Ramsey Show in the Fair Winds Credit Union Studio. I'm Ken Coleman, thrilled to be alongside my pal, George Camel.
Starting point is 00:37:49 We're here for you. Triple-8-8-25-5-2-2-5. We go to Ohio next where Jennifer is waiting for us. Jennifer, how can we help today? Hi. I'm a lot more nervous than I thought I would be. Well, it's George. He's intimidated. It's the height, mostly. Just know that I'm here to just take care of you.
Starting point is 00:38:09 I'll make sure he's nice. Okay. So I'm on Baby Step 2, and I'm still about $50,000 in debt. however I'm sorry I don't want to cry on the phone I have to make a hard decision to say goodbye to my buddy
Starting point is 00:38:28 my dog next week oh no about 17 and I've had him 15 years and he's been with me he's moved across to another country with me and all the things
Starting point is 00:38:38 what's his name his name is Ulysses Ulysses yeah but you know like Ulysses and then my last name that's a great name Ken loves that historical name.
Starting point is 00:38:50 Yeah, I'm nerdying out right now. What kind of dog? Yeah, what kind? I don't know. He's some kind of poodle mix. His first owner was a hoarder, and I think was trying to, like, breed dogs or something. It was a bad situation. So he's just a sweet.
Starting point is 00:39:08 He's a total love bug. You know, he's almost 17. Well, George and I. Like, his tail would still wag, and he'd come up and try to – He's just luckily. Well, listen, you're talking to two dog lovers here. Yeah. I was hoping I'd get you, too.
Starting point is 00:39:23 We hurt for you. This is not fun. Okay, so we got this hard decision coming up. Tell us what else is going on. Well, so here's what I've done. And I guess I'm just looking for some reassurance, but financially I've done the right thing. So part of how I knocked out the debt was I had a non-retirement mutual fund,
Starting point is 00:39:41 and I cash that out. And what I did is I knew this was probably coming. I took $400 and I put it in a sinking fund just in my savings account to say when and if. Where I'm struggling, and I hate it because what I want to do is have them premed and get the earn back like I did for my other dog. Yeah. But that's $200 more. I do have the money in the sinking fund. I just, I'm struggling with like, I've been so good about I don't eat out, rice and beans, beans and rice.
Starting point is 00:40:12 I'm doing handmade gifts instead of gifting. Like I'm doing all the things. But I just want to know that I'm not being completely irresponsible to spend the 240 instead of just 40 to cremating get my pups out and his ashes back. And I know not everyone agrees with that. Well, what's the other option if you didn't do it? Well, there's two. So one is it's just $40 for the cremation. And I just pay that and I don't get them back.
Starting point is 00:40:38 Oh, okay. Gotcha. I'm sorry. They do that like in mass. And then the other is the least expensive is I could bury him in my parents' backyard. but I can't pick him up once he's gone. Like, I don't think, I can't do it. Like, I'm even having a panic attack thinking about it.
Starting point is 00:40:52 Oh, well, that's tough. That's tough stuff. Jennifer, spend the 240. Just spend it. You're not being irresponsible. You're never going to look back and go, dang it, why don't I spend that 240 bucks? I could have got out of debt four days sooner. Yeah. Okay, thank you.
Starting point is 00:41:06 I've been so diligent about, like, everything that it's like... Yeah. This is not an impulsive girl's trip. Yeah, this is not craziness. This is like a big, this is a huge deal. All of us who've had to put a furry friend down, it is tough. And this is a, yeah. You're not like emotionally spending to go, you know, retail therapy.
Starting point is 00:41:30 This is something that you want to do as your way to say goodbye. It's not going to derail your financial journey. And if it really makes you feel guilty, here's what I would do psychologically. Go make $240 doing something, selling something. something as part of this journey as a way to say, you know what? I didn't derail my financial goals and I got to grieve the way I wanted to grieve. Yeah. Okay. Thank you. Thank you very much. You're the best. We're so sorry. So sorry. Give you, Lizzie. Give him some love for George and I, a little extra pat for the best boy. I will. I will. Yeah. Thank you so much. Oh, my gosh.
Starting point is 00:42:06 What is it about dogs and pets? It just crush us. I think it's the unconditional love and innocence. Yes. And can we just say, I love naming dogs. It's one of my favorite things in life. What's your dog names? We've got Ellis and Honey. Oh. And they are doodles. Ellis is the big guy. He's like that white perfect curl. Like he just, and he's a human. He's, Ellis thinks he's a human. I've stared into his eyes. You have. And I treat Ellis as though he's a human. And then Honey is our mini golden doodle. And our daughter actually owns, she bought her. That was a big thing, big purchase for Josie, our daughter, and she did it. And she's just a little miniature doodle. And she owns me. I mean, you know what I mean? She's just unbelievable. So, well, especially as
Starting point is 00:42:54 the kids get older and they don't like you anymore, the dogs will always love you. I'll tell you who's always excited to see me when I walk in, Ellis and Honey. Stacey's not always excited to see me. And I don't blame her. I mean, let's be clear here. I mean, it's been how many years you've been married? 27 years, you know? Some days she just doesn't want to see me. She goes, hey, Ken, You left the laundry out. What did I tell you? Yeah. Stacey didn't sound like that, I promise.
Starting point is 00:43:17 I was going to say. That's a horrible impression. Let's go to Ben in Kentucky. Ben, how can we help today? Well, I'm about to retire. Not that I want to. It's just the company's closing. And I have 300,000 in CDs.
Starting point is 00:43:33 And I'm wondering what to do with that. And I also have 100,000 U.S. savings bonds. I mean, do I leave them in CDs and savings bonds? or should I put them somewhere else? Well, I mean, you're just leaving a lot of money on the table. You're basically just kind of keeping up with inflation, but you're not going to make anything above and beyond that. So if this money's going to sit there for the next 10 years,
Starting point is 00:43:54 I'd much rather see it invested into the market instead of just on the sidelines. It's time for the investment calculator, George. Should we play the game? We should. What caused you to put almost half a million dollars on the side here? Like, what is it, are you scared? Well, I'm about 67, 68 years old, and I'm just worried in the market because, well, as you know, it doesn't always go up, and sometimes it takes a long time to come back up, and I just didn't want to lose it, and I just don't know what to do. I like it to be safe, and that's why I was wondering, I mean, because I do have a little bit in stocks, but not much, but.
Starting point is 00:44:37 Well, the thing is, when you say I want it to be safe. safe, it's actually riskier to leave it in their long term. Yeah. And the risk is, instead of making 20, 30 percent this year, you're going to make 4 percent. And you're going to go, what, how does what happened? My money just kept up with inflation. Well, it could have turned into half a million. Quick thing on this, Ben, if the things, and I'm not going to make you tell us for sake of time, but if the things happen that you're worried about happening, that would make money in the stock market risky, guess what? Your money's not safe in the other situation either and we're all probably in a bunker somewhere. You just have to play that out. Does that make sense what I'm
Starting point is 00:45:19 saying? Like all of the apocalyptic things that would make you think, well, the CDs are safer. If that were to happen, the CDs, none of it matters. You with me on that, George? Yeah. I mean, I don't think that's an extreme statement. Let's get a bigger financial picture here. Do you have any debt? No debt. Okay, do you have a nest egg outside of this money? Well, I have a simple IRA, and that's about $600,000. Okay, so you are invested in the market through that IRA? Yes, uh-huh.
Starting point is 00:45:51 Well, you trusted the market on that one. And here's the math on it. From 68 to 75, you just leave that $300,000 in there into the market. It'll turn into $600,000 by $75. Ben. So that's just average rate of return 10%. So I would move that money over, leave enough, maybe a year of expenses if you're in retirement to cover a market downturn. But I would not just leave half a million parked on the sidelines, my friend.
Starting point is 00:46:20 Hey, folks, we'd love for you to share the show with folks that you think might enjoy it that might need it. That's how we grow. You guys are the ultimate marketing campaign if this show is in any way impacting you. a positive way. We'd love that. Subscribe, share, like, follow all the things. Thank you, thank you, thank you. Caitlin is up in Texas. Caitlin, how can we help? Hi. Thanks for taking my call. Can you hear me? Yes, loud and clear. What's going on? Thank you. So my husband and I have been married for eight years. We have a seven-year-old autistic son, and he has a 24-year-old daughter from a previous marriage. Now, he was estranged from his daughter for a while, so now they're,
Starting point is 00:47:05 they have a great relationship, but we were talking, and he said that he wants to give her 20% of his 401k when he passed away, but when I'm still alive, and I feel very frustrated with this, so I don't know if I'm wrong or what I should do. Ooh. And did you tell him this, how frustrated you are, and why? yes and how did he respond to that well his reasoning is because he was so he used to be a he was in prison he was a drug addict at one point but he's got sober now he's been sober for 13 years and he has rebuilt his relationship with his daughter and I think that he's the money is trying to make it for lost time and that he doesn't want her to feel like he left her behind without things
Starting point is 00:48:00 about her. And she is, and she is his daughter. She is his daughter and she's 24. The reason why I'm frustrated is because my son, our son is special needs and I feel like he might not be able to take care of himself. And, you know, we have a, we have a trust set up. It's a special needs trust. And I guess we have a will, but I thought that all our assets were going to go into his will, I mean, to his trust, and he's saying, well, that's fine, but 20% of my 401k is going to her. Sure. Well, I'm just going to say that, let me ask another question.
Starting point is 00:48:38 If this daughter was your biological daughter, do you think you'd feel the same way? I mean, I, maybe, I think that, I mean, I guess. Let me put it another way. Do you think it is normal for, let me make it super personal. Okay, I have three kids. Okay. And so in my will, do you think it would be abnormal if I gave all three of my kids some money? No, that would be fair.
Starting point is 00:49:15 All three, we're like the same amount? It doesn't matter. I'm not even getting into the specifics. I just want to, I'm trying to walk you into, I'm really trying to coach you here. So you think that's normal for me to do that, yes? Yes. Why? Why is it normal? Why would that be totally normal?
Starting point is 00:49:34 For you to give your money to your children when you passed away. Now, would you give that to them before your wife passed away? Well, without getting into the details. Yeah. I'm not going to get into the details of my situation. But I'm making a point here that I don't think that this is abnormal, and you don't either. I think it's very emotional for you, and I'm not judging you in any way, shape, or form. I certainly see how you are where you are, because you shared it with me, and I see how you got there.
Starting point is 00:50:05 Because of the challenges of your son and what his situation would be, I get it. But as I'm saying, and I'm going to bring George in, and George may have a completely different opinion. I'm just telling you that I totally see where he's coming from, and I don't. have some fundamental problem with it, philosophical problem, and I don't have a financial problem with it. George? Yeah, the piece I'm curious about, are you going to be okay if something were to happen to him? Would I be okay if something happened to him? Financially. If your husband dies today, are you okay? If you get 80% instead of 100%, are you still living a comfortable life? I mean, he hasn't been in the workforce that long. I probably have more investments than he
Starting point is 00:50:55 does. So I'm trying to get at, is this actually a financial? There's really no, if I get 80%, I'm not going to be doing okay versus 100. So it's really just the idea that he's valuing and prioritizing his daughter over giving you the entire share. And maybe you feel like it's unfair to the son. So the next question is, is the sun set up to succeed if something were to happen? Is the special needs trust funded and have you guys done a good job to make sure that he would be okay? Well, so far we have, he's seven, and my husband are both 50. I had him a lot later in life, and I think that, I mean, I could see that. I think that it was just an emotional feeling.
Starting point is 00:51:45 I kind of felt that he wasn't thinking about us, and he was more concerned about his, a grown child that's self-sufficient. I think that's what it was. It absolutely is, but here's the thing. As an objective bystander that you called and asked this question to, I don't think he's demonstrating that even financially. The blind share, the big chunk is going to you. And for your son, he's giving her a percentage.
Starting point is 00:52:12 of his overall. Now, I don't know the relationship or the past history, but do you think there's some guilt here that he feels as a father to go, I feel like I owe her something because of what she has gone through? Yeah, absolutely. So I think I would try to put myself in his shoes and just talk to him honestly and say, hey, here's how this hit me initially. I want to hear you out and hear your heart behind this. I want to come to an agreement and make peace with whatever we decide on as a couple. And I want to see the numbers to know that our son's going to be taken care of. I'm going to be taken care of and your daughter will get her share as well. Okay. I think focusing on the facts, the logic and the heart behind it, the motive behind it will help you step away from just the emotion of, well,
Starting point is 00:52:56 I'm his wife. I should be getting whatever he leaves. Yeah. And a little dose of perspective, Lord willing, you guys live 20, 30, 40 years. You guys are early 50s. You got some work to do anyway on this to really bump these numbers up. So it is all emotional. I love that being honest. You're very self-aware on this. And we're not judging you at all. Totally get where you're coming from. But I see where your husband's coming from. And I think this is a marriage issue. And I think this is going to cause a lot of resentment if you don't get to a place of acceptance over this and go, oh, okay, we can come together and take care of our son. We can come together, make sure we're debt-free and walk the Ramsey baby steps out and retire with a tremendous amount of peace and, and, and,
Starting point is 00:53:39 margin and not even worry about this. Can I ask you, who is the beneficiary on your investments? My husband, 100%. There we go. So now it feels unfair. That's where this is stemming from. Is there a way where you could say, hey, he's 80% and I'm going to do 20% to the special needs trust? I could. I could do that. And I think he would have been, I think he would be fine with it, you know. I also know that if I give him 100%, I definitely trust him where he's,
Starting point is 00:54:09 he would never, he would do everything he could to make sure our son is safe and everything. And there's, okay, there's the statement. There it is. What you just said is what you have to remember when this emotion comes up. I trust him and I know that he would do everything he can to take care of us. And this is the same man who also wants to do something for a daughter that he failed. I admire this. I admire this. I admire this. move. It's not traditional. I get it. But this isn't a traditional life you guys have. This is a unique story. And I hope you can mend this resentment and go, hey, this is what I felt, because I'm sure he felt some of this coming at him. And I think you've got to support him in this move.
Starting point is 00:54:58 Yeah. Well, thank you. You're a good lady. You're good lady. You know, you're not, this is a, I appreciate you being really honest. George, these things. Yeah, this is not an out of bounds thing. What you're feeling is normal, but I just want to go further than that instead of just leave it at face value of, well, he should give you 100% you're the wife. Again, this is a complex situation and it requires a more unique solution. Yeah. Thank you, Kaelin, for sharing with this. You're a good lady and you guys have a lot of time to do what's necessary to take care of your son. Focus on that. That's a unified goal and a worthy goal. All right, George, we're going to do something new.
Starting point is 00:55:47 This is going to be fun. How about a video call? Would you like to help somebody out? This is something we have never done on the Ramsey show. We're doing it right now. We're going to go to Sarah in Minneapolis, Minnesota. Hi, Sarah. Hi, guys.
Starting point is 00:56:01 I hope you're doing okay today. We're doing okay. It's so nice to see you. It is so nice to see you. Thanks for joining us. So how can we help today? Well, after about seven years of hard work at paying off my debt, I've found myself in a bit of a better financial situation.
Starting point is 00:56:21 And I've been working for seven years at 70 to 100 hours a week. What? And I'm wondering when. Tell us what kind of work this is. A little bit of everything I've been a bartender, a legal secretary I currently work bartending as a legal secretary and in logistics
Starting point is 00:56:50 What's your full-time job? I work in logistics. Okay, that's 40 hours a week? Yeah, yep, at least. I sometimes am working overtime. Okay, and then at night, you're going to the next thing to the next thing to the next thing For seven years, you've done this.
Starting point is 00:57:08 Yes. Are you done with the debt? I am not. I just got my student loans refinanced. They were at a 14% interest rate, if you can believe it. And I cut it down to six. Okay, okay. Wow.
Starting point is 00:57:21 Give us a quick snapshot of your current debt situation. So I have $85,000 left. I got my credit cards completely paid off. last year. And based on my current income and the rate at my refinance, I'm able to pay double sometimes two and a half times my minimum. Are you doing the debt snowball where you're just focused on one and making minimums on the rest? I only have the one loan because they got consolidated when I refinanced to get out of the 14%. Oh, so you have an $85,000 loan that you're just tackling.
Starting point is 00:58:08 And what are you putting towards that? What is the amount you're putting towards that every month? So the minimum is $1065, and I am currently paying per month somewhere around $2,500. Okay. And I sometimes can go a little higher depending on the hours. So because you just told us $7,500. to 100 hours and the emotion came out. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:58:35 What's going on? What's that emotion coming from? It's just been a lot for a long time. Yeah. And three years is basically what I have calculated left at. Okay. And that just feels absolutely overwhelming. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:59:00 Yeah. Yeah. Okay. So what we want to do here is we want to go, okay, it's okay to take a deep breath on this whole situation and go, okay, I can't keep this up right now. You feel like you're at your breaking point. That's what you feel like. A lot of days, yes. I mean, my boyfriend is incredibly supportive and he tries to do as much as he can to help out. But he really, he really, doesn't know what more to do for me. No, okay. So let's see what we can do.
Starting point is 00:59:35 Well, you're not. Let's start there. You're not stuck. You're exhausted. Okay? You've done a great job. All right, let's look at the day job, the 40-hour-a-week job. What is your income from that?
Starting point is 00:59:49 About 54 before any overtime. Okay, $54,000 before overtime. And then how many overtime hours are available to you? It depends. Um, currently I'm working anywhere from four to ten a week. Okay, so four to ten hours of overtime? A week, yeah. Okay, great.
Starting point is 01:00:11 So that puts us at most 50 hours. So 44 to 50 hours. And then you are working these extra jobs on top of that, correct? Yes, that is correct. Okay. And if you were, if I were to say to you right now, hey, take a month off of these other jobs and let's just focus on the day job and the overtime that comes at the day job. So that's going to put us in a 44 to 50 hours a week, okay?
Starting point is 01:00:42 Just knowing what you know about your finances, how much would that affect your ability to make that $2,000 payment a month? What would that drop? Would it drop and what would it drop too? It would drop about $1,500. Okay. So it would be that substantial? Yeah.
Starting point is 01:01:04 Okay. And that's what's saying, if you keep this up, you're on a three-year pace, George. I want to bring you in on that because I think there's another way out of this on the three years. Yeah, I'm trying to get to the root of, you know, you've been at the seven years. On average, it takes people about 18 to 24 months to get out of debt. So what was the original balance you were facing of all the debts? So part of what this is I went and got a master's story. and my field that I work predominantly in is known for not paying very well
Starting point is 01:01:38 but I would try to write in my free time I have a degree in history so what was your master's in? Military history actually oh boy were you trying to get a job in that field or was this just for fun Yes, actually, I would, my eventual goal is to teach, and I have the lead on potentially getting into a Ph.D. program in the next couple of years. Oh, forget it. Which is paid. Let's put that on ice. It's paid. I know, but right now. So, so let's go to the ones. I know, and that's kind of where I'm at.
Starting point is 01:02:15 Let's go to the logistics. Was that all that, so what kind of debt was this and what was the original balances? Because it sounds like you added to it over the seven years. In my mind, you were just crushing down the debt, but instead you were adding to it while trying to. keep up. I actually paid as I was in my master's program in order to keep doing that and still held my minimums or my undergraduates. So was this like $500,000? I am not entirely certain. No, I, so I was a little bit stupid and I didn't know what I was doing when I went into my undergraduate program. That's most everybody. took care of all of the loans, and he put them on variable interest rates. And so I have no idea exactly what the starting amount was. Are they in his name or yours?
Starting point is 01:03:07 He's my co-signer. Oh, this just got more interesting. So the debt is also his. Okay. Yes. I think we've got to talk about, first of all, you can't keep this up. I don't think you're in a, now you might be able to come back to 70, but 100 hours. Like at some point, You're going to have to be really, really smart about you and your mind and your body trying to keep this up. All right. So what is two or three ladders up, two or three rungs up the ladder look like from your logistics career where you are now? What does it look like? Is it attainable and does it pay substantially more?
Starting point is 01:03:47 Yes. That's the focus. If we can double your income and get you working 40, 50 hours, we solve the problem. That's what we're trying to do here. Well, that's one of the things I've been working towards for the last year is to earn the promotion that comes. And I think I'm actually close to it. You're close. Can I tell you something else?
Starting point is 01:04:09 You keeping up the schedule you've been keeping up while I admire it. And it is gazelle intensity. You're the poster child. So proud of you. But that's affecting your ability at the day job. You're going to become more promotable when you're, you are more refreshed, mentally, physically. So you're not stuck.
Starting point is 01:04:31 You're not putting the best effort. Your effort's amazing, but the effort's not going to the best place. I want to see you get promoted. I want to see you use that logistics resume in the building that you're in right now, okay, or outside of that building because the logistics experience and skill set, George, is where she has the greatest opportunity for growth. Now we can work 50 hours a week. week, maybe the occasional 60, but we got more income. Yeah, I would try taking a few months
Starting point is 01:05:00 off. I think you should. You know what? Let me see what this does for my career. Let me see what this does for my emotional and mental health and physically. And then we'll reset in January and see, do we need to put the foot on the gas again. Yeah. Sarah, we're rooting for you. You're a warrior. Keep going. All right, let's go to Amber in Georgia. Amber, how can we help today? Hey, guys. So I guess my primary question is how do you stay motivated?
Starting point is 01:05:36 Or how do I stay motivated when I feel deprived and restricted by a budget? Who made the budget? I got a feeling it was somebody else was it you you made the budget no I made the budget there's more to the feeling restricted yeah what area do you tell us what's making you feel restricted sorry I thought I was gonna be able to keep it together listen people cry on the show all the time you're okay we're good I have had a very difficult life. It's been really, really tough. And I'm just now starting to get help. And part of the things that have been tough have been financial. I have spent money
Starting point is 01:06:27 just because I was filling a void. And I didn't know or realize that until recently. So I've gotten myself into a lot of financial trouble. I was married to a man who got us in a lot of financial trouble. We almost lost our house. We wound up filing bankruptcy. I had to file bankruptcy a second time in order to avoid a legal situation. I just feel like it doesn't matter what I do. I can't stick to anything yet. So you're beating yourself up big time. This isn't about the budget, Amber. You feel hopeless because life has knocked you down and you need to heal from all the things that have happened to you and that's okay so where are you at today are you single again working um i work i work about 52 hours a week um i've got two jobs that
Starting point is 01:07:29 i work those hours between and then i work 12 hours a month at a third job um i do have a boyfriend um but he lives an hour and a half away what do you make what are you making with all three jobs Around 62,000. Okay, do you have kids? An older kid. Okay. So you're only responsible for you right now? Yes.
Starting point is 01:07:54 Okay, let me just throw something in real quick, okay? I'm proud of you, and I think you should be proud of yourself. I hear a lady who has had a rough go, and I think you blame yourself for a lot of it. Not all of it, but I think you're dealing with a lot of shame. And I just want to say to you that the fact that you're working three jobs and making $60,000 a year and trying to rebuild, I'm just want to say, you are a strong person. So just wanted to, the rest of a phone call, I want you to know that and believe that because that's what I see. And, George, you see it as well. Yeah.
Starting point is 01:08:27 And you're resilient. Okay, so let's keep walking through. George Walker through the financial stuff. You make $62K. How much debt do you have right now? About $88,000. Okay, I'll break that down for us. Okay, $3,000 is just random miscellaneous debt.
Starting point is 01:08:47 I've got $2,000 in credit card, $7,000 on one vehicle, $21 on another, $25,000 in student loans, and $30,000 to my parents for my divorce. Okay, and this is all post your last bankruptcy? Yes. Okay. So the cycle has just been continuing every single time. Is that correct? Yeah.
Starting point is 01:09:16 Okay. Yes. And what you said you're trying to seek help, what kind of area you share as much as you're comfortable with, but what is the root of this? If you had to say, hey, when this happens, this is sort of a trigger for me that causes me to spiral and go want to spend a bunch of money that I don't have and go into debt. What causes the loop? Aside from mental health, I don't know. When you say mental health, what are you comfortable telling us? Diagnose yourself here.
Starting point is 01:09:48 What is this thing is what George is getting at? I was recently diagnosed with PTSD and bipolar disorder. Okay. And are you currently with a medical professional working on treatment and medicine to get a hold of this? Yes. Okay. And in the meantime, your original question was, I feel restricted by living on a budget. So when you made this budget, what is the area or line item where you go, oh, this is so restrictive?
Starting point is 01:10:21 What can't you do that you want to do? Well, I mean, part of it is your bills, right? You have your rent. You have your utilities. You have insurance. You got to put food on the table and get some groceries. So what is restrictive about it? so I feel restricted in the sense that I'm so accustomed to having two incomes
Starting point is 01:10:41 I went from $175,000 combined to you know 50,000 at the time and I at the time you know I could buy whatever I wanted and it didn't matter we were in a decent financial position and I'm still in that mindset that I just can't get out of Paying my bills is not the problem. Bills are paid. I can't put money away because wherever money I have left over, I want to buy nothing, anything. Well, okay, so let's reclassify the word you're using because words matter. But before we do that, quick context, yes, you had two incomes, but you told us that your ex-husband put you in a massive financial hole on his own.
Starting point is 01:11:30 So it wasn't that great. It's just you guys were living like it was great. True or false? Both true and false. The financial predicament happened years later, and then we got on good terms. Right, but my point is, is it was great for a while, and then it wasn't great, and we're still living a long time ago. And so I don't think you're restricted. I think that you're dealing with a form of depression.
Starting point is 01:11:57 and I don't know I'm not I'm not a I'm not clinically diagnosed I'm saying this is like financial depression because it's like I had this life this is what it was like and now I'm just chipping away and I'm not even having any fun there's no fun at all and welcome to the journey there are people sitting in this lobby today that have felt that if you felt that before raise your hand out there yeah I mean millions of people that have turned their life around at some point in the baby steps baby step one and two george are grueling yeah so do you have a thousand dollars right now ember no has that been hard for you to come up with i had it and that i had it and then um something happened that we really shouldn't i had a lien placed on something
Starting point is 01:12:52 and I had to get the lien off in order to replace what I needed to replace. Well, that lien should never have been placed because that particular balance was included in the bankruptcy. But because I legally needed to drive, I had to pay the lien. So there went my entire savings. Okay, but $4,000, let's say, will pass through your hands in the next 30 days, correct? Yes. Before you pay the bills, can you set aside $1,000 over in a savings?
Starting point is 01:13:22 account outside of your checking account and still pay your bills? Yes. Okay. So there's baby step one. Part of the hard part of this is you just have to do it. And there's always going to be something that comes up and you just have to make getting out of debt and getting to a better financial spot the priority before anything else. And there's going to be more setbacks where that came from because here's the reality.
Starting point is 01:13:49 You're right. Looking at the budget, it is restrictive. because you're broke. You make 62K and you have 88K to pay off. That's hard math that you're facing. And so my hope for you is that we can go, how do we clear this debt fast? Like these cars.
Starting point is 01:14:03 Do we need both of these cars? Can we sell one or both of them and clear those payments and then buy something used in cash? No, because they're both underwater. Buy how much on each? on one of them probably 4,000 and on the other maybe 6 or 7 okay so now we have a solvable problem if we come up with 10 or 11k we can clear these
Starting point is 01:14:34 payments and breathe a little bit more and then we clear the next smallest debt breathe a little bit more so you're going to have to get creative I hope you can get your health in a manageable spot and just know this looks different now your life changed the reality changed. Hang on the line. I want to get you into every dollar. It's more than a budgeting app. It's going to walk you through this whole journey. Hang on the line. We're going to help you. Welcome back to the Ramsey show in the Fair Winds Credit Union Studio, alongside the incomparable, the charming. George Camel. I'm Ken Coleman. You like what I did there? I was actually shocked. I thought there was someone else you were going to announce. I think you
Starting point is 01:15:15 are charmed. I really do. I don't think you get enough credit. it for your charm. Thank you. People just love your brain. They do. They love it when you crunch the numbers here. I do like to crunch a good number. All right. Cindy's ready. Cindy's joining us now in Ohio. Cindy, how can we help? Well, good afternoon. First of all, my son wants me to say hi on his behalf. What's his name? What's his name? I would prefer not to say it at the moment. We get it. We were trying to give him a shout out. We were going to do a shot. But never mind. He'll know. Is he listening or watching? What was the deal? So he will, he is aware that I'm on the phone with you.
Starting point is 01:15:50 He will see this later. He will, he will later. Okay, let's do it. Hey, buddy. Hey, Braxton. I'm just going to guess a name. I don't know. You can't make up a fake name.
Starting point is 01:16:00 I can do what I want. Now he's going to be confused. Cindy, I apologize for my co-host. Well, tell your son we said hello. We love to meet him sometime. All right. I will tell him. What's up?
Starting point is 01:16:11 Okay. So my question has to do with my next step and the baby step. So I am single. I have a six months fully funded emergency fund. So I'm excited to start on my 15% investing. Awesome. Yeah. So however, I'm not sure if I should because my company that I worked for was recently
Starting point is 01:16:34 purchased, and so there's some job uncertainty. So I know that maybe a reason to save up cash. However, I was notified that if I stay with the company for at least another year, that they will give me a retention bonus. Okay, hold on. Let's pause. Let's pause real quick, because this is interesting. You're feeling because of the acquisition that your job may be in trouble,
Starting point is 01:17:05 and yet they just gave you a notification that if you stay for another year, you get a benefit. Yes. So that's a good sign to me. Yes? What am I missing? It is. They did say that if they haven't decided exactly which path they're going to go.
Starting point is 01:17:26 They're kind of still in the figuring things out stage. So they did say that they could end my employment at any point in time. Oh, I missed that part. I must have interrupted you before that. Okay. I get you. All right. I'm sorry.
Starting point is 01:17:38 That bonus would be payable to me regardless. if it's a year from now or if they determine that my position will be eliminated, I still get that bonus. Okay, any hint, any hint or ideas or hunches on when they're going to make this decision? That I don't know, but I also do know for a fact that if my position is eliminated, I will get that retention bonus along with a severance, which is in excess of 10 months of my current salary. Give us that number. It would be over $100,000. Okay. I'm thinking that Cindy would be okay with that $100,000. That'd give you a little bit of padding to find another job. Is that true? Yes. Okay, so I'm taking a deep breath if I'm you, yes? Yes.
Starting point is 01:18:31 Okay, I'm not missing anything. No, I think that I'm okay to go ahead and start investing since I know that I've got six months in the bank already plus some. How much is in the bank? What's the number? I've got about 35,000 in the bank, and my emergency fund would be about 19,000. Okay. You're more than okay. I would not pile up another dime. I would just go ahead and ratchet that investing up to 15%. You have a good retirement account through your employer? I do. I have about 300 and something in there. Way to go, Cindy. Come on. Let's go. Single mom?
Starting point is 01:19:07 yes yes and how old are you? That's amazing how old are you? Oh we're not supposed to ask I am 47 okay wonderful very young by the way so I'm just thinking I'm just thinking how much this investment account will grow on top of you contributing to it I have no doubt that you will be a baby steps millionaire if you just keep following this path that is correct what just for fun George what's the I love when you do this give Cindy a another reason what's your income full. Every year? My base is about 136. Love it. Okay.
Starting point is 01:19:43 He's running a number, Cindy, on what that 300 is going to look like if you don't do. This is going to be exciting. Are you ready for this? Here we go. Oh, boy, I sold the number. 47 to 67. You already have 300 grand. You're going to add 1,700 a month if you do 15%. You're going to be at about $3.5 million. So I wouldn't be worried. Now, I hope you never lose your job. And know that if you ever did, you're in the best situation possible, knowing that you have an emergency fund, you have no debt, and you have the severance package here.
Starting point is 01:20:15 So I would be sleeping well at night, just crushing it at your job. And if they let go of you, you're going to be so valuable, someone else will scoop you up and you'll probably make more. That's right. Awesome. Thank you. Hey, I know you didn't call about this particular piece, but I want to give you this. I wrote a book years ago called The Proximity Principle, and in the entire book could be summed in one sentence, the right people plus the right places equals opportunity. And so anytime somebody calls or I run into somebody who's got a situation like this and they're like, I'm unsure
Starting point is 01:20:47 about my employment, beyond all the money stuff that we just covered, the next thing I'm going to tell them is start connecting like crazy. You just start connecting in your industry or you're just and you're not going out and telling everybody the sky's falling or that my job. But you can say, hey, I just, just part of an acquisition. And so not sure where that's going to go. Could turn out great, but really not sure right now. And so I'm out making connections, coffees, lunches. You know, I am letting everybody know that I might very well be a free agent.
Starting point is 01:21:24 And you would be surprised how much peace that's going to give you, number one. But number two, you might be surprised that even though you might not be looking for anything, something might come to you. And the idea here is I want to get around the right people. people that are in my industry and reconnect. And that means tell everybody because you've got a real good reason to share that right now because anybody in your situation would feel the same way. You're not laid off.
Starting point is 01:21:49 This thing might turn out to be great. But I really, really recommend that you do that. And so keep going. But also, I'm always creating, it's like, you know, I'm flying to Virginia later today. And at some point before we take off tonight, they'll show us the emergency exits. I want people doing this same thing professionally. If I were to be laid off, or if, you know, what would be my emergency exits? Really important.
Starting point is 01:22:13 And a lot of people don't do that. And I think you can do that all the time and always put yourself in a good space. Last thing I want to say, Cindy, I know George is going to want to say something too. I'm putting you on the spot, pal. I want your son to hear from us that his mom has done a phenomenal job taking care of him. and buddy listen to the details today and sit down and talk to mom about what she's done and you learn from her but also I want you to thank her give her a big hug because she has really done a phenomenal job taking care of you pal no notes that was perfect so thank you
Starting point is 01:22:50 I was just hoping you would have an analogy for the seat as a flotation device you know in the career field what is that the severance well no I'll tell you what it is your connections are of the flotation device. And what about the mask? What are we doing with the mask? The mask is the money stuff. So if I've got the emergency fund, I don't have debt. I mean, I know that I'm not in desperation. I'm not going to die. We take the mask. That's the money. Stability. That's the mask. And then the flotation devices, I got connections. I got jobs. People want me. They love me. Keep going. All right, let's go to Joseph in Louisville, Kentucky.
Starting point is 01:23:37 Joseph, how can we help? Hey, guys. Appreciate you taking a call. Sure. I have a plumbing business. It's a one-man show, so it's only me. One question is, should I have a separate emergency fund for that business? My other question is, I have some debt, like a van, and I also have some plumbing equipment.
Starting point is 01:24:01 debt? I can write that off 100%, but should I just pay it off instead? Yes. In short, number one, you should have a separate checking account and savings for the business as some reserves there. So you have that separated? It is separated, but I didn't know if I actually needed a six-month emergency fund. No, a business wouldn't operate like your personal household would, but your reserves will sort of act like that. And as you've done the business over a long period of time, you'll kind of know what kind of emergencies you might be facing in a business situation. And part of that is reducing your risk will leave you not needing to touch that. And so part of reducing risk is getting rid of that
Starting point is 01:24:52 debt. Because the debt isn't, you know, Joseph's plumbing business. You signed the dotted line on that. So it's your personal debt. Correct. So I would pay it off. I don't, I'm not a fan of this like, well, I can write it off. It's not a dollar for dollar deduction here. Right. And so. And it's not a big deal. I mean, I have, so I have a, I could pay it off.
Starting point is 01:25:15 I have $127,000 in my personal account. Awesome. And what's the debt? I have $25 in my business account. I have a $20,000 emergency fund separate from that in my savings account. everything has paid off except for my house I owe $32,000 and my payment is $21,000 a month What's the what's left on the van? 40,000 on the van and $25,000 on equipment so I can pay it off without a problem
Starting point is 01:25:46 So why what is keeping you from doing that? It's almost like rent to own so I was thinking it may be safer to keep that money on hand but also I have no problem with I'm not in love with the money I have no problem with letting it go and paying the debt off yeah it's not rent-owned that analogy is kind of weird for me but you know look this is a van that is depreciating
Starting point is 01:26:14 every day and the debt is not doing anything and what's your interest payment on that 6.39 so what's the monthly payment on the van 669 Yeah, none of this makes any sense. For somebody who's got the cash.
Starting point is 01:26:30 You said there's 211 plus 669? No, the 211. 2.11 is how much the house payment is. Oh. $211 a month. So how much will you free up by paying off these debts? $1,400? A month.
Starting point is 01:26:46 Yes. And you have the money. You have the cash to pay off the plumbing equipment plus your house. Right. did if you just like wrote a check today and we're done with all of this and invested all of those payments you'd be so wealthy you would laugh at the tax write-off money you'd be making now i am 50 and i have zero retirement even more free you up to put fourteen hundred dollars away until retirement accounts now what's stopped you from investing i just started this business a few a couple of years ago
Starting point is 01:27:22 So my cash flow hasn't always been what it is today. So you're full-time plumbing? I haven't paid off the house. Yeah, full-time. Good for you. I have not paid off the house because at $211 a month, I would rather have the $32,000. I could collect cans and pay $211 a month.
Starting point is 01:27:40 That has been my logic on that. No, we've heard that. We've heard that a million times. How much is the van worth? It's brand new. I just bought it in February. you didn't it well how much is it worth i know what you owe on it what could you sell it for i honestly have no idea i paid 54 000 for it so i've already paid it down 14 000 in the last
Starting point is 01:28:05 since february all right i mean a van is it's got all your plumbing tools in it correct correct nobody's riding in it just you just me so you could get a cheap van get it wrapped nice and probably save 20 grand right there that sold it and got a cheap one. That's where I'm going. Well, the thing, the equipment I have will absolutely not fit in a minivan. I never said minivan. Nobody said a minivan.
Starting point is 01:28:32 I'm just saying you didn't need to buy a brand new van. I'm sorry. No, no, no. I actually would really respect a guy who rolls up to be my plumber in a minivan. I know I'm not getting ripped off if a guy shows up in a minivan. I was getting ready to say for some reason I trust a plumber in a minivan. I see a plumber in a fancy new van. I go, he's going to price gouge me because he's got
Starting point is 01:28:47 payments on that thing. I agree with the big fancy wrap. I just want to see a little square sign on the side of a red minivan. Well, let me play this game with you. If you freed up the mortgage plus your debt payments, is that now like $1,600 a month? Correct, yes. And could you invest more on top of that? Oh, yeah.
Starting point is 01:29:06 Okay. So how much could you invest every month on top of the $1,600 to get set for retirement? On top of the $1,600? I could do another $2,000. It's $3,600 a month. you could just start shoveling into investments. Yes. Okay.
Starting point is 01:29:25 Well, from age 50 to 67, you shovel 3,600 away. You could end up with almost $2 million. Correct. Yep. I've done the math on that. Well, math is one thing. Doing it is a whole other thing, isn't it? Well, I just now sort of got turned on to Dave Ramsey, so I'm kind of learning.
Starting point is 01:29:44 Yeah, he's supposed to make sure this was the right step before I paid. Yeah, we recommend any business, any entrepreneur, do it with kids. cash and move at the speed of cash. Do it slow. Don't get ahead of yourself. Don't say you're investing in the business by taking on payments or new fancy equipment. Just cash flow it. And it's going to reduce your risk, increase your peace, increase your chance of surviving if something were to happen in the business. And I hope the business continues to thrive. Sounds like you're doing great. Yeah, me too. I appreciate it. Yeah. I want to. Taking the town to speak with me. Yeah, Joseph, listen, you're doing great. I would love for America to hear this. How long ago did you
Starting point is 01:30:20 become a plumber and what was the qualification process like what was the length of that and the cost to become a plumber well so i started my business i just got started in this four years ago okay how long was the qualification process but someone wants to become a plumber they have to be an apprentice for a couple of years and they have to be a journeyman for a couple of years so you're looking at you know four years right okay and you did that you only have to be a You only need a master's if you're doing, if you're pulling permits, you don't have to have a master's. Right. How much did it cost for you to become qualified?
Starting point is 01:30:59 It doesn't cost anything. I mean, it costs the price of a test. I'm just asking you a straightforward question. I can't get the answer. A couple hundred dollars. There we go. A couple hundred bucks for you to get that training. And now you're making what?
Starting point is 01:31:11 As a solopreneur. Well, this year would be $2.50 before taxes. Ding, ding, ding. Did you hear that? Did you hear that? All right. The trades are. exploding. This is a guy who's crushing it. Way to go, Joseph. Thanks for sharing that.
Starting point is 01:31:25 And for every five plumbers that are getting out of the business, there are only two to replace them. Exactly. Which means we desperately need people like Joseph to get in the gap. There's a massive opportunity right now in the trades, and this is real life example. So four years, which is what undergrad would take you, a few hundred bucks, which is a heck of a lot cheaper than undergrad, and you could be making a quarter of a million dollars running your own business, owning your time. You didn't notice any student loans in there, did you? Nothing. Nothing in there. Telling you, folks, this is amazing. Little PSA to America's parents that listen to the show and grandparents who have influence over young people. The world is changing.
Starting point is 01:32:05 And this idea that a college degree is the only way to succeed is crumbling and it's crumbling faster. Gallup put out new data, George, first of this year, 46% of American parents. Listen to this, folks. 26% of American parents would prefer their kids go into trades instead of a college path. And that is because they see the handwriting on the wall. And I'm telling you, we've got to stop looking down our nose at the trades because you're going to look up five years from now, 10 years from now. There's going to be a lot of millionaires in this country who did exactly what Joseph did. It may be a little dirty during the day, but you can come home to Egyptian cotton sheets. All right?
Starting point is 01:32:45 This is good, honorable work, and it creates jobs. Remember, small business is what fuels the American economy. There you go. Thank you very much, America. All right, our question of today is brought to you by Y Refie. You've tried budgeting. You've tried making minimum payments. But those defaulted private student loans are still weighing you down.
Starting point is 01:33:15 Y-Refi might be able to help learn more at Y-refi.com slash Ramsey. That's the letter Y-R-E-F-Y.com slash Ramsey. It's not available in all states. Today's question comes from Tucker in Washington. The company I've been with for just a few months is experiencing financial struggles. Upper management has mentioned in a couple of company-wide meetings that there are only 10 months of cash left, and we have had negative cash flow month after month. I left my previous job because my manager was extremely toxic, and the company culture wasn't good. Will two employment stints of less than a year be a red flag on my resume? I just got married six months ago, and we want to start a family soon, so my job will be our sole source of income. Would it be wise to begin looking for another job,
Starting point is 01:34:00 or should I wait and see what happens with the company in a year? Yes. I think you should start looking yesterday. Here's the narrative, because I understand the question, George. Two jobs on the resume. You've got to tell the truth. You don't bash them. You say, okay, here's what happens. happened in the last job and got this other job. This is the story I was told. Story change. Here's where we're at. So I've just, I've had some really bad luck, you know, and that's different than you
Starting point is 01:34:28 flaking. It's not you job hopping. Yeah. So just control the narrative and absolutely be looking and don't have any shame over this. You know, you just got to take control of the situation. Now, we'll tell you this. The job market is a lot. Huffer right now. It's what we call a soft job market where companies are sitting tight,
Starting point is 01:34:51 kind of waiting to see what's going to happen with all the tariffs. That's one of the big things, a lot of uncertainty right now as to what's going on there. And the economy is, you know, with interest rates, what the Fed going to do. So when you get into a lot of uncertainty in the macro economy, companies tend to just slow down when it comes to hiring. And we're seeing that. This is a soft market, unemployment is up into the low force. So, yeah, I would not, you know, ride this out, ride the wave, not smart. And then just wait until the buzzer beater when they lay you off to go, oh, I guess I should look for a job. Yeah. Especially in this case, because he's the sole income. And the writing is very much on the wall here. They're telling you straight up.
Starting point is 01:35:34 And you know what else? I want to make sure to cover this. If your wife has the ability, I don't know what the family situation is, but if she has the ability to work, I would absolutely for a season, if you can do it, and it makes financial sense to do it, I would do it in this time as well, stacking up a little bit of extra cash that might be able to help us if this thing goes and falls before you can get another job. So this is when we act like a storm is coming, and what do we do when we know a storm is coming? And let's act accordingly. So really, really important. Ethan is up in Athens, Georgia. Ethan, how can we help? Hey, guys.
Starting point is 01:36:11 Thanks for taking on call. I really appreciate it. Sure. So I was driving a 2005 Toyota Camry, and I got totaled. I have a year left in law school, and I'm trying to set a budget. I'm buying a new, well, not a new car, but a used car. Did you get any money for the Camry? Yeah, so I got $6,000 for the Camry.
Starting point is 01:36:31 I have about $10,000 liquid cash, and then another $40,000 right now in stocks. non-retirement, you've just been investing on the side in single stocks? Yeah, well, not single. I've been trying to buy, like, the bonds and mutual funds and stuff like that, but yeah. Okay. Do you have any debt? No, no debt whatsoever. Wow, you're going through law school debt-free?
Starting point is 01:36:55 Yes, sir. How'd you do that? Did you get a full ride or what? Yeah, I did. Wow. Okay. How about that? Stud.
Starting point is 01:37:04 All right. So you're asking us how much cars should you? get? Pretty much, yeah. Well, I mean, you're going to want something that'll get you through law school and beyond. And so you can spend more than 6K. You're in a good spot financially. Are you working at all? Do you have any income right now? Right now. I have no income, but I already have a job set for next October once I pass the bar. Fantastic. And will it be in the current area or are you moving somewhere? A bit more towards Atlanta. Yeah. Well, Well, George, I don't know if you got a formula for this because he doesn't have an income and he has no debt and he's going to be making really good money.
Starting point is 01:37:44 What kind of money are you going to be making first year? I'll be making $190 my first year. Bro. Debt-free making that kind of money? With a full ride? Are you single? Yeah, not right now. Not for long with those numbers.
Starting point is 01:38:00 There it is. Hey, the ladies will be coming around for that one. I would just be reasonable. I got a number. person, especially dudes. They tend to overbuy in car because they want to flex. I hope that's not you. You don't seem like the type. So I would just buy something reasonable. What have you been looking at? I know you've been car shopping a little bit. Yeah, I've been just looking at New Camry, something like late teens with less than 100,000 miles. That's something newer, but I'm not
Starting point is 01:38:25 spending everything that I have. How much are those cars? Between 15 and 20,000. I was going to throw the number of 20 out and let George react to me. just based on your situation? Yeah, 20 felt like my upper limit for just a young dude. Yeah, I'm telling you a hot. Top line 20 is what I was going to say. Okay. And if you need to sell some stocks to do it, I would.
Starting point is 01:38:46 I wouldn't be in any single stocks. I don't know why you're even in bonds at this age. You're not 70. You shouldn't be worried about long-term market returns if you want short-term. I think he's an old soul. I'm going to guess he's an old soul. Is that true? Yeah, something I inherited to my grandpa.
Starting point is 01:39:04 Okay. There we go. Yeah, I could hear it on you. You, you are very mature. I would go car shopping. I would stick to independent used car dealerships and Facebook Marketplace, get a pre-purchase inspection on whatever you get. And I would also search the exact year-make model. Do your research and know exactly what recalls have been made on that exact model. What are the classic repairs that tend to happen on that car? And that will give you a lot of confidence as you step into it. All right. Awesome. Thank you so much, guys. I really appreciate it. You're bad, man. And listen, buyer beware, tight-lipped when you go to the car dealer. Don't tell them you're paying cash right up front. Don't tell them that.
Starting point is 01:39:43 Don't tell them you're in law school. Don't tell them you got a $190,000 job waiting on you. They will be on you like vultures on roadkill. I mean, all over you. So just keep it tight like you're playing some poker. Focus on the outlet. This is what I got. I'd like to just talk about the out-the-door price.
Starting point is 01:39:59 That's right. That's it. That's what I want to focus on. I don't want to talk about payments. That's right. Here's my budget. And if you walk in with a check. for that amount.
Starting point is 01:40:05 Oh, boy. And you have some walkaway power? Oh, boy. I love that game. These guys will start singing. They really will. They'll line up like a choir for you. You know what I mean?
Starting point is 01:40:15 They'll be the manager, the assistant manager. You ever seen these guys? It's hilarious. There's always like seven people in the back. You know what I mean? They have to go into the back to talk to some mysterious figure. Always love that. My manager is going to take me to the cleaners if I give you this deal, man.
Starting point is 01:40:30 But I'll do it for you. Hold on one second. Don't tell anyone. Give me a few minutes. I've got to go back. And it's like he's the wizard of us. Do they all go to the same hebi-gibi-sleezy school? I think they have a little room with like a water cooler and they go and they just look at
Starting point is 01:40:44 their phone for two or three minutes and then they come back and then they play the next negotiation game. They take a little vape break and then come back and say, all right. I think it is a vape break. I could get in a lot of trouble for this one. Yeah. But we can make it work. This is the best I can do.
Starting point is 01:40:58 I love that one. I can't stand it. I can't either. I kind of will just, can I walk back there with you? because I think we could speed this negotiation up if you walked me back to the Wizard of Oz. I'm sure it's okay. I'm sure he's going to be fine if I go back there with you. But it's the whole, you all stay out of here. Can I get you something to drink? Can I get you a bottle of water? No, you can get me a good deal. That's all I'm here for.
Starting point is 01:41:21 I don't care about the bottle of water. My wife and I brought a cooler. We have our own bottle of water. My wife can't go into those places. She has to sit in the car because she's too uncomfortable. Too stressful, isn't it? Yeah, I like the conflict. I like the, negotiation. You do. You know what you do? You get right to the fees. You go from the window price to what are the fees on this? I know you. Oh, I don't do. If they have anything other than a small dock fee, I'm walking away. They start pitching me on, hey, we did the window tint and we get the type. Nope, I'm out. Take that off of here. I'm getting out of here. Sales price plus tax,
Starting point is 01:41:54 maybe a $100 dock fee or I leave. You might as well be on Shark Tank. I bet you sit there and you cross your arms. Oh, the guys at the dealership, they see me coming in. They go, not today. I don't want to deal with this guy. Yeah. My last car, though, the finance office called me and said, hey, we noticed you were paying cash, and we just think that's a terrible idea. It's a much better, it's smarter to finance. Did you scream?
Starting point is 01:42:15 Do you know who I am? I almost went, hey, just Google me. I can't deal with this right now. That's a flex. That's a flex. Yeah. Hey, listen, Mr. Finance Manager, I'm going to send you a link. I'd like to click on it.
Starting point is 01:42:26 It's going to Breaking Free from Broke. You should read it. Look at that, folks. He snuck the book promo in just like that. I didn't even see it coming. It's a great book, wherever books are sold. Our scripture of the day comes from Hebrews 13, verse 7. Remember your leaders who spoke the word of God to you.
Starting point is 01:42:52 Consider the outcome of their way of life and imitate their faith. Our quote from John F. Kennedy, forgive your enemies, but never forget their name. All right. Two interesting things there. Contrasting. I'll chew on that. Chew on that. Tyler is up in Maryland. Tyler, how can we help? Hey, how are you? Good. How are you? I'm all right. How can we help? Well, I was calling me because I found myself in a situation with my wife and I. We recently moved October of 2024 from our first home to this being our second. And it was pretty much at the time of our price range. Pardon me.
Starting point is 01:43:40 I've lived in eight different homes growing up, and we have a two-year-old son and just found out we have another one on the way. And it was really, yeah, he's a tornado. But it was really important to me that, like, we both wanted him to have like a house that he grew up. You know, all of our kids just had a house they grew up in. So we stretched, we knew that we,
Starting point is 01:44:04 would be a little house poor, but we figured if we can, you know, uh, tighten our, tighten our belt and, you know, um, spend wisely that eventually our salaries will, you know, kind of, I guess, catch up to where our mortgage was. Um, and that was before, you know, I really got it to Dave Ramsey and, and learn more about the finances. Um, so since then, we've been, you know, gone on a year here and the mortgage is about $4,500 and month. months and our net income per month is about 9,400. So I think it's like a 47%, which is double what
Starting point is 01:44:43 I know is recommended. So in addition to that, we have, we only have one car payment, which my truck, three years left on it, about 15,000 left. What's the payment? Payment's about $5.36 a month. My wife also has student loans, which is probably a total, like, 20,000. And it was through the carrier that she was using, I guess, had a class action lawsuit. I guess somebody advised her not to pay it, so we stopped, and then that's now bringing her credit down.
Starting point is 01:45:19 So now we're trying to get current on that. And then we have a credit card debt, which is probably a total like 20,000 between three different cards. So pretty much what I'm thinking. What I think is inevitable at this point, you know, with having a family and with now realizing how expensive kids are and, you know, unknown expenses and activities for them and toys for them, it's, I'm kind of thinking getting out of this house might be the best thing for our family to, to downsize the smaller house with a much lower mortgage. And that's going to get your take on that. what could you sell the house for and what's left on the mortgage so we bought it for about 600
Starting point is 01:46:08 and it's about a year ago we're thinking about refinancing which would then put another 15 onto it because of the fees but I think we won't get 600 I don't think I think it's going to be and it would be a short sale why would it be a short sale
Starting point is 01:46:27 well I just don't It was on the market for probably about four months. It started out like 750, and it went all the way down to 600 before we bought it. How much did you put down? We didn't put anything out, bought it to the VA. Man, this is heartbreaking. Yeah. I'm having buyer's remorse, and I think I'm starting to realize what's,
Starting point is 01:47:00 what's probably inevitable, where my wife is, like, very in love to the house, and, you know, it's perfect for our big family, which is what she wants. But I just, you know, I come home, and it's like I just feel like this is no peace at all. Like, I know. Is she aware of this? Is she aware of how you're feeling? She's aware. Yeah, we've talked about her game plan, which is what we're doing now.
Starting point is 01:47:24 I'm giving her the grace of just seeing how it works was tightening our belt more. and not spending as much or whatever surplus we have at the end of, you know, each week or each month, our checking account will just apply to our bills. But when I do our budget between our net income and all the bills, or the credit cards, the loans, et cetera, we're like 1,300 in the whole. So you're going to continually go into debt at this, right? Yeah. Yep.
Starting point is 01:47:58 You can't even live off of 9,400. a month. Yeah. So there's no tightening. And is she working full-time? Yeah, we both work full-time. So there's no, you know, there's no dream here where we go, well, we're making double now because she's working full-time.
Starting point is 01:48:17 So if there's no room here to wiggle on income, you don't see your income shooting up in the next six months and you're going to continually go into debt, then I think we just have to cut our losses and get out of this house. I would try to still get as much as you can for it. Yeah. But you don't have any equity, so it doesn't really, it doesn't solve your problems. It's going to cost you money to get out of this house, and you don't even have that money. Yeah.
Starting point is 01:48:42 What could you sell the truck for? On KDD, it looked like it was valued around $10,000, so I'm a little upside down on it, which is what I'm trying to put my, you know, I drill monthly for the Army, so I'm trying to put those checks toward this to pay it down as quickly as far as. possible. Man. And this, I'm trying to figure out how you have $5,000 or $6,000 or $7,000 of expenses on top of the mortgage.
Starting point is 01:49:11 Yeah. You guys are spending like you're in Congress. There's a lot of just entertainment, luxury, eating out here, I think. I think it's more than just covering the bills. Yeah, I agree. My wife, you know, well, when we got in the house, it was, we were spending like kings in queens it was our own fault you know we we had a really a tough conversation about it about a month ago and we're like you know we really tried you know we went to like a cash budget where you know
Starting point is 01:49:43 we'll take out X and out each week once we get paid and this is what we have to spend there's no credit cards um we're not putting anything on debit card um so but even in that it's we're still we're still in the whole like it's just between kids stuff and now a new you know a new you know new one on the way. I just don't see it working out in our favor by staying in this house. Yeah, I mean, you're going to, could you go rent somewhere for two grand, three grand? Yeah, in our area, there's, there's some places that are rent for about 25 or 3,000. So that'll save you the two grand that you're, you know, losing. So instead of going 15 grand into debt, maybe we could save five grand. Here's a question I have, George. Tyler, I'm asking
Starting point is 01:50:26 this on your behalf. You know, every dollar. which is, obviously, it's not just a budgeting app. I mean, it's FPU. It's the baby steps. I mean, it's helping people. And when we talk about it on the show, we're telling people, this is real, that in less than 15 minutes, people are finding thousands of dollars or margin. We know that from every dollar.
Starting point is 01:50:45 That's what we're hearing. My question is, if you're sitting in his kitchen right now, okay, how much? I think you could find money in this current situation. And that's why I'm saying whenever I see, well, the mortgage is 4,500, they're bringing in 10 grand. there's room here. There's some spending that we can ratchet down on. I think there is. There's more cutting. It's going to be a fight. It's going to be, well, I'm used to doing this and now you're taking this away from me. And so I don't want this to be you versus her. This needs to be you walking hand in hand, looking in the same direction going, we need to come to Jesus meeting because
Starting point is 01:51:16 we're going to go 15 grand into the whole the way we're spending. We already can't get out of this as is. We need to do something drastic. And that means selling the house and renting and cutting our spending and working a second job for at least two years to clean this up. I really want you guys in every dollar, and that's going to be our gift to you. So Kelly's going to take care of it. You and your wife got to commit to using it. Do you understand what I'm saying? Because it literally, it will coach you up.
Starting point is 01:51:43 It is so unbelievable, all the new things they've added to it. So you guys are going to commit to getting in control of the spending and finding ways to make some more money after selling this house just to give you more margin. By the way, George, I want to mention this is super. exciting. The premiere of the all new every dollar is September 25th. You're going to see some amazing success stories. You're a part of that. We want you to turn on your YouTube notifications to get notified when the premiere drops. And I've said it a couple times a day just kind of naturally. George, 10 seconds. Give us five seconds on the new every dollar. It's unreal.
Starting point is 01:52:17 Well, it's going to digitally coach you like we would on the Ramsey show and walk with you step by step through the baby steps on top of helping you do your budget. All right, remember there's only one way to get financial peace and that's to walk daily with the Prince of Peace, Christ Jesus.

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