The Ramsey Show - App - Protect Your Wallet From Other People’s Chaos

Episode Date: August 11, 2025

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Live! Ramsey show where we help people build wealth do work that they love and create actual amazing relationships thank you for joining us America Ken Coleman Ramsey personality number one bestselling author and host of the brand new runaway hit on the Ramsey networks it's called front row seat where he does long form interviews with all kinds of famous and big people that are giving you insights into success it's really really good. Ken, who's dropping this week? Of course you asked me, and I don't even know who's dropping tomorrow. I want to say it might be Rachel Cruz. She's in the hopper. That was a fun

conversation. Gary Sinise is already out. That already came out. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And we have Ethan Cross has been out for a week. It's doing very well. Ethan is a professor and a two-time best-selling author on Pivot, and it's all about mindset. And so this is all about emotion in the professional setting, in your personal life, how do we shift our mental mindset to win? So it's pretty deep stuff. I can't say the word pivot anymore after COVID. I get PTSD. Actually, I said that wrong.

The name of his book is Shift. Oh, that's much better. That's a good book. Okay, now I know the book. It's a runaway bestseller called Shift. It's a great book. I didn't know what you're talking about. Well, yeah, I used the wrong word.

What was the other COVID word? We can't say more. Oh, unprecedented. Oh, my God. And you're right. That was ruined in about three days. I'm just over both of those words for the rest of my life. All right.

Pamela is in Alabama. Hi, Pamela. How are you? Hey, thanks for having me on the show today. Sure. What's up? Hey, well, this question is a mix of financial and family issues, maybe words of caution for your listeners, Mr. Ramsey. We recently changed our financial advisor.

I was with him for 40 years, and my husband moved his money over there 13 years ago, a second marriage, and we both retired. Myself as recently as 2023. My advisor was my brother. I come from a larger family of seven. There seem to be a lot of unspoken rules. Use your sister as your insurance agent, your brothers as your financial advisor, your other siblings for such and such. And I have to admit, I was on autopilot Ms. Ramsey for about 40 years, finishing college, marriage, kids, growing a career, getting divorced, remarried, you know, life. I simply handed my brother money over time and occasionally looked in on my investments. I do want to be clear, he did no harm, however, he did nothing special either.

And now that I'm retired and I've been studying in-depth about retirement planning, I think I've got a great deal of ground to make up around tax planning, things like Roth conversions. got hammered on deferred compensation plans, things like that. He never had those conversations with us. So before I retired, my husband and I requested of him multiple times of a retirement plan, and it just felt like it fell on deaf ears, even tax planning. And then our net worth increased more, our last parent died. And I got, I don't know how to say this, I wanted some privacy in what our financial position was.

we did eight months of really hard work and research and we jumped ship and we hired an advisor that's meeting and exceeding all of our needs and we feel relieved and confident every day where we're going I mean financially tax planning charitable plans legacy this was not an easy thing for us to do oh it's very painful I'm sorry but very painful but very wise so here's my question And telling my brother, the news went horribly, disastrous. He didn't want to hear our reasons. He heaped a flurry of F-bombs on us. He announced I was dead to him, other unpleasant trees.

Even his wife and one of my siblings piled it on. I mean, I was beyond shocked. And when we hung up the phone because we live in different states, my husband looked at me and said, I guess we made the right decision. And I said, I guess our money really wasn't our money. And it's been almost a year and virtually no communication from nearly any of my siblings. And I know I have had turned down at least one family event because I was concerned, I might get attacked there. So, gosh, is there reconciliation here?

I mean, our financial life is our lifeline. And we have to do what was right for us. But I hate this family risk and fracture. What have you seen in all of your journeys in life? Wow. I'm sorry. That's so painful. Yeah.

Well, you did, obviously, your husband's right. You made the right decision, and this all confirms it. Reconciliation, it sounds to me like, is up to him. Hmm. I don't think that's, I don't think that ball's on your side of the net. Okay. You know, he's the one that said you're dead to me. He's the one that sicked his wife and the sibling on you.

those kinds of things and so um you know i'd do a couple things i just sit back and and let it cool um you you might consider writing and rewriting and rewriting and rewriting a letter before you send it um i don't think that boundaryless people people that don't respect boundaries will ever accept a reason for the boundary in other words there's no amount of logic that's going to make him okay this is not a logic scenario this is just hey listen i know you don't it might sound something like this i know you don't understand what we did um i wish i could have explained it better i'm sorry for that our goal was not to hurt you our goal was to get some privacy and to get a new set of eyes and we've done that but we're very sorry we hurt you in the process that was not something we

wanted. And anytime that you, I love you, and anytime you want to talk and, you know, have a relationship, I'm here. Or just something that's something open-handed like that. And, you know, and sometimes that changes it. But don't try to get him to be convinced that this was the smartest thing you ever did. It's just simply, this was something I had to do, and I know you don't understand and I'm so sorry. That's simple. Because the more you get into it, the more it picks the more the poor salt in the wound. Right, right.

Because basically you're telling him he sucks at his job, which by the way, he does. Well, he does. I mean, that was the conclusion you came to anyway. Right. No point in bringing that up. No point in bringing that up. It's just like no is a complete sentence. Okay, I'll give you an example of a similar situation that evokes the same emotions.

Ramsey, we've got 1100 team members, and sometimes someone's time here is up. We've warned them, we've talked to them, we've coached them, we've been through a process of unpleasant conversations, and finally, their last day is today. We don't have a long conversation. It's a minute and a half. Right. We've talked about this, and the decision has been made that today's your last day. All the emotions, all the stuff, and all that. I understand.

But the decision has been made that today's your last day. The less you say, the better, in other words, in those things. Yeah, Pamela, I would say this very quickly. I would have a boundary to protect yourself, but I also wouldn't give him more power than he deserves. In other words, I'd show up at family events, smile and wave, and don't give him power to exclude you and you did nothing wrong i'd consider that now if it's just crazy wacky then get away from it yeah dr henry clout's book boundaries would help your mind john's with us in oregon hey john welcome to the ramsie show

hey dave how you doing better than i deserve what's up so i have a question for you um i'm in college now and I just, I'm starting my sophomore year. My siblings, my parents have been, took money for me in high school as like borrowing it to supplement their income and then just didn't pay it back and now they're doing it for my siblings. How much money did you have in high school? I had, well, I was making about $5,000 to $8,000 a year just working part-time and then full-time during the summers. How much money did they take from you? about $3,000 total before I could get my own bank account,

and then all my money isn't there now. And you said you're off at school now? Yeah, I'm in college now, so I have my own bank accounts. It's all separate. I'm good. You're how old? You're how old? I'm 19.

Okay. Wow, I'm sorry. And now that's happening to your little brothers and sisters, okay. Financial abuse. Yeah. Yeah. Okay. What's wrong with your parents?

parents. That's so weird. I mean, I think they, I mean, we've had some issues where the mom had an injury that's been working through like a legal case or whatever and stuff, and they just, she lost her job, and so they've just been running on not much, but like, it's okay, you know, I get if, you know, they pay you back in something in a month or two or something like that, but when they spend years, it's really not okay. I mean, grown-ups don't take kids money. That's just not okay for any reason to borrow or otherwise it's just wrong i mean there's just something wrong with the family script isn't there yeah so i don't i'm just wondering your advice because i'm i'm okay

now but um i just want to know what your thoughts i because they're they're smart they're going to be successful but you know when they're trying to get ready to you know go into college or get their first car it's like you know how are they supposed to do this so Wow. That's a tough situation. I'm sitting here thinking through this because they can't try to, any ideas that I had, and I had two or three pop in my mind about how they could protect their money. But the problem is they live in their house.

And if they're being abused in that way where they're taking their money, them hiding money from your parents isn't a legitimate solution just because of the tension and all of that and the craziness. So there's not much they can do. Have you ever talked to your parents about how this, made you feel yeah and they just justified it because like you know it's either we're going to put food on the table and like you're going to eat or like we're going to you know you know that kind of thing that was what they mean why don't they work well they work and they make good money they just don't

they don't they don't what is good money because food on the table is not good money if you have to take it from a teenager yeah they don't have good money well i think they make definitely over 100 grand um that was a couple years ago i heard it so these people are just whacked they're just whacked okay how old are your siblings uh like uh 16 17 in high school so like right around they used to get a car and then um you know saving up for uh getting out of or going into college are there equally wacky stories that you're not bringing up and we don't have time to cover but is there a lot of wackiness besides this issue for them and your parents?

I think there's kind of a weirdness around money. You know, I was the first one to actually start making money and, like, have, you know, to give a joint bank account as my first account, and then just start making money with summer jobs to save for college. And I think just as things were tight, it was like, oh, it's right there. It's so it's just easy to transfer them over. Hey, we'll pay you back 500 bucks to 500 bucks and when we get paid or whatever. So I guess, I mean, you've, you've spoken to them about it.

They don't give a rip. Um, they justify it, which is absolutely ludicrous, um, typically what's some kind of weirdo like this will do. Um, I mean, you have two options. One is just make peace with it and move on with your life. Uh, two is interfere. And that is to call your siblings up and say, hey, if you want to open up a bank account over here, I'll help you open up one. Yeah. And you can put all your money over here and I'll help to do that. You can do that at 19. And, um, you know, have side of bank. It's not hiding it. It's just saying, mom and dad. And if your parents saying, Well, you stole all my money. I'm trying to keep you from stealing theirs. Right. That's what I'd say. I would just say, you know, you're freaking thief. Would they kick your siblings out if this were to happen?

I'm not sure. I don't think they would, but it wouldn't add a lot of attention to any and all family gatherings we have after that. Yeah. Yeah. Well, they've already done that. Let me help you with this. There's a big old elephant with his butt sitting in the middle of your living room already.

Y'all are walking around it. Yeah. acting like it's not there he's a big sucker the elephant in the room you know what i'm talking about right that your parents are thieves yeah there's tension in the room you've already addressed it it's just that they don't feel it that's the only difference the rest everybody else goes oh yeah we kind of watch out for them it's like the flirty step-uncle i mean you got to stay away from bob you know oh my god i just like no of course we don't we talk about bob and we keep Bob away from you know oh i mean come on i'm sorry bob call me out on this david if i'm wrong

there's a bob somewhere really pissed right now if i were i'm trying to put myself in your brother's shoes 16 and 17 if my mom and dad did this to me and i'm trying to be as honest as i can i legitimately think that if i confronted them i'm talking about your siblings and they were still doing it i think i would have left i would have gone to family i would have gone somewhere because i think that's such a breach of trust. It's just so nuts. Yeah, it's really the lack of integrity here. The ethics of this are just scummy. So, yeah, you know, is that extreme? Call me out if I'm wrong. I just trying to be honest. The other thing is I just, you know, I don't know what to do because here's the thing. You're not going to fix them. No, nothing in this is going to fix them. That's right. But denial doesn't fix them either.

I know. So I don't know. I like throwing a grenade in the middle of it personally, but that's just because I'm a hillbilly, so I like throwing a grenade in the middle of everything. Just in case, just to see what will happen. What would you have done if that scenario was happening to you when you were 16? Well, I mean, in our culture, we all left every, for a lot of reasons, you know. It's just like, we're getting out of here. You're not welcome. You don't want to be here.

I'm going to do some better somewhere else. And, you know, and part of that was just getting the little eaglets out of the nest, you know, that's okay too. But the, you know, no 28-year-olds in the basement in our culture. So, but anyway, the, yeah, man, I'm sorry. That's just, God, that's two in a row of these things, and whacked family stuff. Yeah. We're just going to sell Henry Cloud's book all day.

Yeah. It's an old book, but still selling it, you know. Boundaries. I, I, I, John, I tell you what I'd like for you to do. I'd like for you to take advice from someone other than us. Yeah. Because we're just stirring up trouble here, and I don't think that's wise either. So if I were you, I would get with a local person.

pastor there. And if you're not plugged into a good church, get plugged into a good church and get some good godly counsel from someone that is a pastoral council that just says, okay, what should happen here? I mean, if this was another kind of abuse, it would be against the law and social services would come in. But this is just financial abuse. They're just stealing the money. And they don't need it to eat. That's absolute hogwash. If they make 100,000 and they're not choosing food over choosing stealing their teenagers money. They're not choosing. That's just bull crap.

That's a narcissistic bull crap line. Whether they're a narcissist, I don't know, but it's a narcissistic line. It's gaslighting. So, yeah, wow. I don't, I hesitate to send the 19-year-old in to do battle in this. I agree with. So, but, you know, you can either do nothing and just, you know, talk to your siblings on the side and say, hey, how to have the money or talk to them on the side and just be right up front.

Say, I'm going to help them open a bank account because of what you did to me and you've never paid me back and they can't get a car because you keep taking their money. And then if they're pissed, they're pissed. I mean, so what? Worse things could happen than pissing off people like this. So somebody needs to do something. But John, I hate to send you into the battle by yourself. So I'd put some counsel in your corner and let me.

Let them talk through it with you. It's just know from us that we're verifying that this is cray-cray. It's nuts. Okay. Thank you for being with us. We're so glad you're here. If you're tired of living paycheck to paycheck and feeling like you can't get ahead, join one of our free every-dollar trainings.

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And so it's fair to state personal finance, the problem with personal finance is people. that the people that we find that are successful in their careers, which you work with all the time like at front row seat and all of that, and the people that we find simultaneously that are successful in their wealth building and that are successful in their spiritual walk and so on, they overcome the people, and they embrace the people, the good people. they overcome the bad people and embrace the bad the good people um everyone has it some get more

than their share uh more of a dose of craziness to start off life coming from a dysfunctional family and my family put the fun in dysfunctional yeah that one yeah you come from that family it's a it's a rough start you know like that kid there that was tough yeah and um but what i want to point out to our listener base right now is that Unless and until you deal with those things, not only between your own ears, but you set healthy relational boundaries that do not allow the takers to interfere with your progress, whether they take your joy, take your hope, or take your money. You don't allow the takers to take advantage of you and to interfere with your progress until you set up boundaries.

I'm going to love you from a distance, about two miles. get your butt out of here because you're just nuts your negative nanny every time i'm around you all you can do is talk about negative crap and i need to move in another direction and so learning to set those boundaries is very painful but the sooner you set them the faster your progress begins and you will not overcome those things unless you put some fences up you cannot, they are bigger hurdles than any mathematical 401k question you can ever ask me. Any stupid Bitcoin idea you've got. Whatever it is you're trying to do with money is not going to work until you learn

to deal with the people in your life. And that includes some of you that are dating right now, and you don't need to marry that one. That one's going to be a long life. They're fun right now, but you know in your heart of hearts that one's going to be rough. you're going to spend your whole life dealing with nutty and you're going to wake up every morning with nutty and go to bed every night with nutty

and that's crud man that's a long for don't don't marry that one I'm sorry but that's the truth I mean one of the reasons that I've been able to accomplish the things I've been able to accomplish is my wife's sanity and strength she adds to value to the whole process every day

she does not cost me emotion hardly ever she does not cost me you know ridiculous scenarios that I have to deal with while I'm trying to get my freaking work done and it's one of the things that and one of the reasons she's got a good life is the same thing is I do that for her add value to her in those areas you same I've watched you and Stacy do this for 20 years 25 years we've known each other same exact thing you just can't overcome it This personal relational roadblocks, if you don't take a bulldozer and build some fences, some boundaries, it's just impossible. I'm glad you said to everybody, and I hope you heard Dave, he said, it's going to be painful.

But here's what successful people do that Dave's talking about. They choose their pain. So it's going to be painful. Both of these phone calls illustrate that there was pain in making the right decision, but there was also more pain in not making the right decision. So choose your pain. And I just think that's what successful people do. They go, this is not a win-win from an emotional standpoint, but when we take the emotion out of it and acknowledge that this is going to be dirty and nasty and ugly because of somebody else, them being unhealthy, then it makes that painful decision a little easier to make.

Choose your pain here is the lesson I'm taking from what you said. And I agree with you. I mean, it's proactive. Somebody's going to be pissed. So proactively decide who. Yeah, right. Piss off the right peep. That's, that's right.

You know, like, you're mad because I'm doing this with my kids. Well, I choose you're mad over my kids dysfunction and being in counseling when they're 30. So I'm doing this with my kids. Screw it. You know, you're okay. You'll make it or you won't make it. I'll choose who will be mad. And like some of you send in hate mail or you post stupid butt stuff in the comments thing.

It's like, it's not relevant. I've already chose who I'm on, who I want. If you're who's mad, I chose the right one. And, you know, that's perfect. And so versus the people that come around want help and need help and we can help them and get our arms around them and give them some information and some inspiration and they move forward. That's who that's who I want to spend my energy on in the business here and in what we do. But same thing's true with your family. You're going to choose.

Okay, who's going to be mad? My children are my parents. because grandmother is a travel agent for guilt trips. And so, Mom, we're not going to be able to spend Thanksgiving there this year. Having a duck fit, as we call it. Yeah. That's so true. That's what a duck sounds like when they're having a fit, actually.

I'd rather have a peaceful Thanksgiving at the cost of making the family upset than making them happy and being miserable. Cousin Eddie's doing heroin. Cousin Eddie's not invited to Thanksgiving. Cousin Eddie's pissed. Oh, well, Cousin Eddie's pissed. The heroin addict cousin is pissed. I can deal with that. I can deal with that.

I just set a boundary. You're not coming. You're not blowing up my sewer. It looks like Christmas vacation, whatever it is, right? But, you know, if you got Cousin Eddie and you have to piss off somebody, cousin Eddie's not having access to my children, okay? That was funny in the movie. It is not funny in real life, okay?

And so you've got to decide these things ahead of time. and the problem is it is painful because it's oftentimes people who you wish would be cheering for you friends family whatever they are but they're not and it's like okay second grade teacher that said I'm never going to mount to anything you don't get a vote actually that happened you know and you know third grade teacher who said you could be anything you want to be oh you get a vote yeah and actually had her here at the building a while back and honored her because we love of teachers that don't mail it in. And so, you know, it's just, callie, folks.

So, but it's a, what I'm trying to point out is I don't think people realize how heavy the correlation is between your ability to manage relationships and set boundaries with relationships and whether or not you actually end up with any money. That's right. Very few people bill wealth until they learn to say no to the right people, until they learn to piss off the right people your brother who's managed your money for 40 years and did a bad job oh well you're pissed i can deal with that your sister who got a real estate license three weeks ago no you're not selling my house you don't even know how to spell house we're not doing it

somebody else is selling my million dollar house not a newbie well i'm your sister i know this is why we're not doing this one of the other reasons we're not doing this well i'm going to be mad well good You're going to be mad. But I'm going to not screw up a million-dollar transaction because you don't know what the flip you're doing. This is stupid. But this is the kind of stuff you have to deal with all through your life, right? That's right.

And if you don't deal with this stuff, you end up with a horrible life and no money. And no pattern of success anywhere in any part of your life. So these things are inextricably tied to each other that are woven together. So it's why this stupid stuff ends up on this show. It starts sound like Jerry Springer sometimes. This is The Ramsey Show. Andrew is in Tennessee.

Hey, Andrew, how are you? Doing pretty good. How are you doing? Better than I deserve. What's up? I was calling to try to get some advice from you. I'm thinking about going back to college to get my architectural degree. and it's a little late in life.

I mean, I'm 40 years old, but I was going to see what your thoughts on it were, going back to school that late in life, if it's a wise decision or not. Why? Because it's expensive. No, no, why would you go be an architect at four? What are you doing now and what's your dream?

Well, before what I did, before what I do now, I was in the drafting and design business for 20 years, almost. Designing what were you designing? Houses or commercial or what? Millwork and steel buildings, you know, different things like that. So what would the art? Here's the simpler question. Okay. What would this architecture degree allow?

you to do that you cannot do now, and how much would you make versus what you make now? Well, what I make now, it would just add on to what I make. We own rental property, and that's what I've done for the last couple of years. It makes pretty good money. So what would you make? So how much more would you make? Let's fast forward and assume you have the degree right now. How much more would it allow you make annually because of the architecture?

your degree? Probably 150,000. I mean, 100, 150,000. Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait. So, something's wrong. So you're currently managing an entire portfolio of real estate, and that's what you live off of. Is that what you said? Yeah. And how much is all this real estate worth? We bring in about half a million a year. Yeah, and how much is all this real estate worth? We've had offers of like $4 million for it a couple of times. So it's an it? It's like one apartment or something, or what? No, it's a mobile home park.

There's 54 homes. Okay, so you own and manage 54 mobile homes. You make a half million on them, and the value is about $4 million. Yeah. Okay. All right, that's what I'm trying to get a hand. No, we don't bring home. We don't bring home half a year.

This has nothing to do with architecture whatsoever. So if you quit managing this, how does it get managed? I'm not going to quit. I won't quit managing it. Honey, you can't do two full-time jobs. The idea of a full-time job is it's a full-time. No, no, we would still own it. I would just hire someone in.

That's what I asked. Okay. So you bring a manager in so that you could go be an architect. Yeah. Okay. And now what do you want to build? What do you want to build as an architect? What do you want to draw?

hotels and houses okay and hotels that be helpful houses you don't need an architectural degree to draw houses I'm living in a house that's millions of dollars in value it was drawn by a guy who has made an architectural degree but it has to be stamped by an architect

not houses in the state of Tennessee in the state of Tennessee I just built one honey oh I thought you had to have an architect actually stamp off on the drawings not a house what do you pay yourself I want to get to the cost so you said this is so expensive and should I spend the money

let's go to what you pay yourself what do you pay yourself me and my wife together make about a hundred thousand a year Okay. And what is the – I'm looking at the cost of in-state schools in Tennessee. Nobody cares where you got your architect degree from. Tennessee State, you know, you're looking at an average of $8,300 per year. That's not a whole lot of money. The University of Tennessee, average tuition is 13. Now that doesn't include all the fees. But as you're looking at this, how much money are you thinking you've got to spend to get this degree? The school I've currently enrolled in and done a summer semester at Academy of Art in, it's in California. It's the only online architecture school. What's it setting you back per year? What's the cost?

It's going to be $150,000 by the time I do all five years. That's not including interest. I think it's too much money. You don't need to spend that for that. It's not a good value exchange. You get a four-year degree in architecture from the state of Tennessee at University of Tennessee in Knoxville for 13,000 a year? That's for the whole year.

For the year. Yeah. Not for semester. That's for the year. For the year. So this is not a good value exchange. You're getting ripped. Okay.

Okay, so two things, two things. One is, yes, yes, I want you to go get in the business of drawing things for other people. It's a passion that's inside your stomach. I love that, okay? I want you to go do that. The two questions we have that we want you to solve for after you get off of here is one, what is the least expensive and fastest way I can get this, get what I need to go do that. And then question number two is, do you really need an architectural stamp to do what you want to do?

Well, if I'm going to draw like hotels or church. If you're going to draw a large commercial, you're going to need an architectural stamp. I can tell you that. Right. Yeah. Okay. But you're also competing with huge architectural firms for that same job. Right.

Well, in my area that I live in, there's actually not many architects in this area. There's like three. But here's what I'd want to know. Then there's not many hotels being built. Right. There's some evidence there. There's what? There's evidence that there's only three.

I'd find out why there's only three. In other words, does the market can it? There's not enough. Not enough economic activities support more than that. Well, I'm in Pigeon Forge. Yeah. So there's plenty of economic. The point is that people obviously are not using Pigeon Forge architects to build the stuff.

They're using architects out of Nashville and out of Knoxville and out of Atlanta and Chicago and whatever else, depend on which company is coming in to build the thing. Right. Okay. So, you know, what you've got to do is get in to figure out exactly, A, what is needed to do what you want to do. And I'm questioning whether you need an architectural stamp if you really want to go that far, if it's necessary.

If it is necessary, if the answer is yes, then figure out the least expensive way to do it. And if you're in Pigeon Forge, honey, go down Knoxville, knock this thing out. I mean, you're an hour away. Go on the drive, just commute your little butt down there and get a four-year degree. And take it all in three years.

You're like a grown-up and stuff. You're not trying to play beer pong. You're just getting the degree. Okay? Okay. So just go knock it out as fast as you possibly can and find out if they have any kind of adult learning for the architectural school. But the University of Tennessee's architectural school has got a great reputation, by the way, just as a side note. And I've used two or three architects on projects that graduated from there, and they all were excellent in their knowledge base. So if you do need it, that's the way to do it.

But online for 150 grand versus 50 grand. and no no not doing that yeah especially given that you told david and i as we question what your process was that you were going to continue to you were going to hire someone to manage the trailer park so in this case now i can do a similar version of this and still manage to do school you don't need an online school in california to the tune of 30 grand a year go and put your manager in now and haul your little butt down to knoxville yeah that'll work Yeah. But I got to mention this to our greater audience. There's four qualifying questions that I wrote about from paycheck to purpose. When you're looking to get qualified, here's four questions you have to answer, and it comes up with a very simple, doable plan, and it's not intimidating. First question is, what do I need to learn? This is, is, is, is, is there a degree that I must have to do the thing I want to do. If not, there's certificate programs, there's boot camps. So the first question is, what do I need to learn? Second question is, what do I need to do? experience will I need to get to eventually do the thing I want to do? That tells me where on the

ladder I need to enter. Third question is, how much is it going to cost? Get the best options, get all the options. The fourth question is, based on cost and what I got to learn and do, what's my expectation? How long will it take to get where I want to go? Those four questions when you answer give you a clear path that is not scary to do. And that will keep you from spending $250,000 on a master's degree in social work to make 38,000. That's right. Live from the headquarters of Ramsey Solutions, it's the Ramsey Show, where we help people build wealth, do work that they love and create actual amazing relationships. Ken Coleman, Ramsey personality, number one, bestselling author and host of front row seat, a runaway hit on the Ramsey.

Network. He's my co-host today. Vincent's in Ohio, or Idaho. What do I say? Idaho. Hey, Vincent, what's up? Hey, how are we doing, guys? Hopefully your Monday's treating you well. It is, sir. How can we help? The question I have is I just recently joined the Air National Guard, and with that, I get a $50,000 bonus. So my question is, what? I'm thinking of investing it, right? I don't want to blow it on a nice new car, you know, like a lot of people do. I want to invest it and make my money work for me. What would you guys recommend me doing with it. Well, thank you, sir, for serving your country. I appreciate that. Oh, yeah, for sure. Okay.

How old are you? I am 22, and I just recently graduated from the university. Okay. All right. And are you going to be full-time guard, or is this just your... No, I'll just be part-time. Yeah. And they have a $50,000 sign on now.

Yeah, I think that crazy. That's pretty incredible. That's awesomeness. I know it is. Yeah. Okay. So, cool. So what's your career going to be?

So my career, it's kind of like a smaller one. It's called industrial organizational psychology. Basically, what I want to do is apply like statistics and stats to be able to go into businesses and be able to improve it, right? Okay, you just graduate school. You got the job? No, I don't have a job yet since I'll be going out to like basic training and everything. So right now I'm just kind of in like la la land.

I'll ship out in like a week or two. And then when I come back, I have to get a master's degree. first well I don't know if I have to but okay um okay so if you come back and you get a job and you're sustainable you won't need this 50,000 to live is my point yeah exactly no I'm not I'm not banking on the 50K well that's all I was I was just trying to verify we don't need it to eat okay and the uh you have any debt uh zero debt cool good for you what are you driving uh I have in uh like a 2007 uh camry it's treating me well decent mileage No complaint.

Okay. All right. I'm going to put 10 with that and upgrade your car. I appreciate you not complaining, but your car sucks. Okay. So let's say. Well, I mean, I do want to, I mean, I think I'll put a little bit towards my car, but I think I want, like, this is my idea, and obviously you're the expert.

I want to put most of it into like an investment, right, like a mutual source. I would love for you to do that, okay? But I want you to create a sustainable lifestyle so you keep your freaking hands off of it. And if you're driving a 2007 and it blows a gasket, three weeks after you do your investment, you're going to start cashing out the investment and do a stupid bad car deal. Yeah, I mean, I also. That's what I'm trying to keep you from doing, okay? Yeah, that makes sense.

So I, if I were you, I would invest 40 and I'd put 10 into a car. If I woke up in your shoes and I'd put it into good growth stock mutual funds, sit down with a smart vester pro in your area. You can find those at Ramsey Solutions. They have the heart of a teacher, and you will begin. your financial investing education by sitting with a pro that can teach you about mutual funds, how they work, what the track records are,

and they love the good ones, and we only let the good ones into our program. We don't endorse the bad ones, okay? But they love sitting with the young person because they know the power of compound interest. And they know that 40. You said you're 22? Yeah, 22.

Yeah, so when you're 29, that's 80. when you're 36, it's 160. When you are 43, it's 320 if you don't touch it. Yeah, leave it until I retire, right? Yeah, it's going to be millions of dollars at retirement. If you just keep doing the formula, I was just doing it. Now, that's the trick. Now, you may want to use some of it someday to buy a house.

You may want to use some of it someday. That's okay, but let's learn. Let's start the learning process because you have the seeds of greatness in you because you're willing to ask at 22 years old about doing something smart instead of going and buying a brand new F-150, which you can't buy a WF-150 for $150,000, I'm sorry, my bad. But anyway, buying a stupid car. Yeah.

I would just add, Vincent, I would also do the homework on do you need the master's degree because you were unsure, that's okay, but let's figure out, do we actually need a master's degree to do the work that you want to do. If the answer is yes, how soon do you? we need it? Are there rungs on the ladder to that ultimate role that I can climb without the master's degree? Think this thing through. Don't assume that I got to go get it now when you may not need to get it now. And also do your homework on where I can get it from the absolute cheapest, because I sing this note all the time. Nobody who is your future customer is going to ask

you where you got your master's degree. So make a smart decision there as well. let me help you there most of the time not even going to ask if you got a master's degree right that's right the only thing we got 1100 people working here the only thing we're concerned about is can you do the job if the master's degree is an indication that you know something that's good but sometimes it's an indication you know nothing so um you just weren't smart enough to stop going to school so uh you know we need to get into why you need this and what it is and how it applies and industrial organizational management it does not require a master's degree to be successful. It might to get in the door with a certain Fortune

500s, but to do the actual job, the knowledge base is not needed. It's like an MBA, a master's in business. It's a great degree. There's nothing wrong with it, but you can do the job of business, running a business, understanding business, building business acumen without an MBA. I don't have one, and I run a $300 million company. So it's very possible. It can be done. Got to have a couple brain cells to rub together, and then you'll figure it out. But there's an idea that somehow degrees are your deliverance, as Ken's point, we've got to get away from as a society teaching people that the answer to everything is go get another degree. Because that's $1.7 trillion in student loan debt with people that spent $250,000 to get a degree in left-handed puppetry,

and now they're puppetry, and now they're a barista. And they are figuring out, trying to figure out how student loan debt forgiveness works. and it doesn't work. So it's a problem to when people just go get degrees that they don't need, especially if you're borrowing money to do it. It makes it even worse. So it's a big issue. The documentary that was award winning that we did a few years ago, you can now watch it free on YouTube. It's called Borrowed Future. It gets into in detail, you know, what is needed. And we're not against a four-year degree. We don't hate colleges and universities. I hate what they charge because of some of the stupid butt stuff they build on campus. I hate that. But

you know, what I hate, what gets, what I don't want is people believing lies that lead them down a trail. And the lie is you have to have a degree to do this. And you don't. Exactly right. Yeah. And the question is, is a degree the only way or is it the best way? That's a two-part question. If the answer is no to either one, folks, listen, there's some great news here. A lot less money and a lot less time to get qualified. Yep. But you've been sold this bill of goods that the degree is always the grade A best option. Well, if my life is bad, the answer is go back to college.

That's right. Like, that's going to solve it. That's going to make your life worse. Yeah. No. Noah is with us in Phoenix. Howanoa? How are you? doing good Dave how about yourself better than I deserve what's up hey so me and my wife are

currently on baby step 3b and we're trying to see what our next step should be so right now we're able to save about 40,000 a year give or take and we're trying to decide should we save for two years and then buy with 20% down to avoid PMI at a 15 year fixed or should we just keep renting for the next seven years and then just pay for a house outright in cash? What's your household income? About 150,000, give or take. What do you all do? I'm in sales, and she's in social media marketing.

Okay. So your seven years assumed your household income would be staying at 150? Yes. Which is not true. Because obviously your income is going to go up during your second. seven years. Agreed? I would hope so, yes. I would hope so, too.

Otherwise, we got other problems, yeah. So we're probably looking at five years. So how old are you guys? I am 24. She is 22. Okay. So when she's 27 years old, you pay cash for a house, and when you're 29 years old, you pay cash for a house.

Or in two years, we put 20% down. Yeah. Okay. All right. That's what we're laying out here. So the answer is neither one of these are horrible options. None of these are in the stupid column. None of these are in the, I'm going to yell at you, don't do something stupid.

Please, please, please, please just call them, okay? Very smart choices that you've proposed in both cases. And the answer is whichever one you would like to do. That's the answer, because they're both smart. Now, and I will tell you this, I am bound by a, this is the only answer on the Ramsey show that I give that is not what I would do, okay? Because I do not borrow money ever for anything ever again, period, no matter what. So I would have personally, Sharon Ramsey, Dave Ramsey, we'd have one option.

And that's the five-year plan. And we'd turn it into a four-year plan because we'd work like maniacs because we'd be so pissed we didn't have a house. But all that, right? I mean, we would just go crazy. But that's what we do and what we have done throughout our lives since we went broke and decided that the borrower is really slave to the lender. And we really don't borrow money anymore. Now, so I don't have a choice.

That's what I – but that's a decision that I made based on my understanding of scripture and the pain that we went through when we borrowed money. It is the one thing on this show, again, that I don't tell people that I don't tell people they have to do. other than that, I never borrow money for a car. I'll just yell at you. Don't borrow money for a car. It's stupid, okay? Write a bicycle for you borrow money for a car.

It's just dumb, okay? You want to be middle class? Get a car payment. You'll be middle class the rest of your stupid life. Okay, just don't do that. You know, there's some stuff like that that I'm just going to hold you to and hold me to and hold everybody to just because it falls in the smart column. The other one's in the dumb column.

Now, buying a house and you outlined their exact Ramsey way, 20% down if you can do it, is preferable because you avoid private. at mortgage insurance and a 15 year fix where the payments no more than fourth of your take-home pay, you just recanted back to me exactly what we teach. So it's obvious you've been studying it. And you knew that that was the answer I would give you. So that's perfect. If you do that, you are obviously borrowing money, which I can't do, but I still don't yell at people for doing that. I don't think it's dumb. Is the other way better? Yeah. Yeah, I think never borrowing money against better. It's why I chose to do it. But I'm not going to yell at you for being

dumb in doing that because it's what we teach and what we've taught here for years. It's the only time that debt comes up. The only time the debt comes up on the show in 30 years that we've said it's okay. And with these very strict guidelines, where you turn around get the house paid off as fast as possible. Yeah, I put myself back into their shoes. And if I had it to do all over again, and we were smart with our first home. We didn't buy something that was too expensive. We went pretty modest. But if I had it to do all over again and I could get the entire payment in five years, I'd absolutely rent. Especially when you're in your early 20s. Yeah. Freedom's that early in life, financially, emotionally to have no

house payment, I would definitely take that choice. Keep in mind, folks, the social pressure to do otherwise is a massive. Everyone's, yeah. Get a house, get a house. Oh, you're renting. Oh, like you're going to hell if you're a renter. You know, it's like, it's a salvation. issue. Oh, my God. It's just the it's, oh, you're horrible. You're dumb. Oh, oh, oh, oh. And these are all broke people making these noises. Doug's in Allentown, Pennsylvania. Hi, Doug. What's up?

Hello there, Dave and Ken. How are you guys doing today? Great, man. How can we help? That's great. I have a question regarding life insurance. I have a term life insurance policy through the VGLI. It's a $50,000 payment or a $50,000 benefit, and I pay $300 annual. I also have a... What is the VG-L-I? The Veterans Group Life Insurance. Oh, okay. Didn't recognize the initials. Okay. All right, thanks.

That's okay. I also have a whole-life policy. Now, I'm going to be 60 this year, and my mom got this policy for me when I was five years old, and she's been paying on it, and then I eventually took it over, and I've been paying on it ever since. It has a debt benefit of $11,350,000. It's like a family pet. Yeah, exactly. No kidding. It's got $7,000 in total assets, okay, with a taxable gain of about $3,300. No.

I doubt that. Sure. Okay. Who told you that? I call New York Life. I called them and asked them with a taxable gain list. Out of $7,000 total assets, it's got $3,300. taxable gain.

Which means you guys have only put $4,000 in this in your entire life. Basically, yes. I pay $129 a year for that policy, and it has $10,000 debt benefit. Okay. All right. So if you take out $7,000, if they, if you die, they're going to give your beneficiary $11,000 check. They're going to keep the $7,000.

Correct. So you have $4,000 worth of insurance. So my question is. So you have $4,000. thousand dollars worth of insurance no no no no no the actual debt benefit is 11,000 i know honey but there's seven in there that your money they're going to keep that so they're only giving you they're they're going to they're going to give you your seven and four thousand dollars for 11 okay seven and four is correct correct okay so my question is i have about 20 thousand dollars in debt credit card

and a personal loan trucks paid for now that doesn't include my mortgage should i cash this out and pay off some of my debt. Yes. For God's sake, yes. Okay. That's what I was thinking also. So I just wanted to hear what you thought about it. You have a savings account of $7,000 that when you die, they keep it.

Exactly. Yeah. Somehow that doesn't work for me. Okay. It is that simple. And so it's how bad this product is. and New York Life talked this family into keeping this for 40 years. Like it's a family pet.

And not only did they, not only did his sweet little mama buy it and get screwed by New York Life, but on top of that, she handed this piece of crap product, this turd wrapped in a box to her son and said, I pass this to my son. as if it was the family bible or something it's unbelievable the emotions tied to this crap yes cash it in honey as fast as you possibly can and run from that company as far as you can run a company that would do that oh my god but this is this is why they have tall buildings and you live in small houses think about in the old days what was the skylines in the in the average city the average skyline was

banks and life insurance companies that was where all the money was and who gave them that money santa claus no your mama your daddy your grandma when she bought you that policy eleven thousand dollars at a time we screwed america seven out of 10 Americans die without a will. That just, that kind of fits because 78% of Americans live paycheck to paycheck. So people suck with money. So that just that just kind of solves that, right? I mean, it kind of fits, but it just blows your mind to think that seven out of ten

Americans die and let the state decide what happens to their kids. If you have minor children and you both die and you don't have a will, the children's services decides. That's a dumb bud idea. Do you not love your kids? I mean, you don't even need money to need a will. If you're 18, you need a will. Get your will.

Howard Hughes died with two and a half billion dollars. in 1976, almost 10 years later, they settled his estate, didn't have a will. 600 people put in a claim. He had cousins he didn't know he had, apparently. He had people that he loved that he didn't know he loved. Who knew? They came out of the woodwork, right? No will.

So everybody lined up like his lotto ticket. 22 people ended up getting some of the money almost 10 years later. You know who got most of the money? De laos. De laos, yeah. You know what De Laos is, yeah, right? You know, that's who got the... So you need a will.

So August has created a will month. Who knew? Who cares? You need a will. You need a will. And so here's what I want you to do. Take five minutes. Take a quick quiz at Ramsey Solutions.com slash will quiz.

It's free. Click the link in the description if you're listening. And we can help you figure out. exactly what type of will if you can do a quick easy one like with mama bear legal forms or if you've got a complicated estate and you need a lawyer we'll walk you through that but either way you need a will the people you love will hate you if you die and make them untangle your mess they will want to dig you up and kill you again if you die without a will it's I mean it's such a dadgum disaster don't do

this Jonathan's in Miami hi Jonathan how are you How are you doing? Good. How can we help? I'm doing well. Yeah, so just question. My fiance, and now we're both in our 30s and we're coming up finally in our career and we're both about $700,000 in debt together. And we're wondering, you know, after about, say, a year of saving and paying our loans.

And 14 years of training or we allow to kind of start living our life finally like by getting a house and whatnot. Wow. So what in the world do you do for a living? We're both positions, actually. I was hoping, okay. So tell me this household income is huge. Yes, it should be, it will be huge.

What is it now? Right now, right now we're both in between our training and are actually starting our positions. Oh, okay. So you're just coming out of residency? we're coming out of fellowship yes out of fellowship okay so when will you when will you get the big boy job we won't start till next month okay when you start what will the two of you be making actually yeah um five both combined

about 900 okay all right um pre-tax obviously okay Jonathan I so you guys you've been in school your whole life I don't know anything else but a test and now you're going to make a million dollars a year as a return on that investment. Congratulations. That's amazing. I'm so proud of you. Thank you so much. You're the kind of doctor I want, one that actually knows what the flip they're doing. Thank you. That's pretty incredible. So you're not going to like my answer, but I will explain it to you, okay, as if it were a, as if the patient had a prognosis and we needed to give him a treatment plan, okay? This patient, you and your wife, are a couple of things I know about you just based on your story.

I'm 100% but sure both of you are very bright. Dumb people can't do what you all have done. Okay? The other thing I know about you that you maybe have not admitted to yourselves, but I'm sure of, is that you know how to delay pleasure for a greater good. you can suffer long periods of time for an excellent result if you believe the result is there. You have that emotional maturity, that spiritual ability that most people who can't make it to Friday, you made it till 30.

Work and work and work and work and work and work and work for tomorrow. Work and work and work and work for tomorrow. That's delaying pleasure. You follow them in me here? you have that muscle built beautifully and I'm going to try to beg you to use that muscle just at least one more time 900,000 minus 600,000 is 300,000 I'm going to ask you to live on 300,000 your first year and be debt free before you buy a house. and before you buy a new beamer or two, by the way.

No cars whatsoever. Well, there's a thing called duck. We have observed in my world a thing we call Docitis. Docitis is you've been holding your breath through grad school, through med school, through residency, through fellowship. And when you finally get the big job, you exhale, and it looks like consumer purchases at the wazoo. That's what it looks like. And that's Docitis. You've been holding your breath so long to ring the bell to get the prize that when you finally get it, you do stupid on steroids for about two years.

And it takes people in my world about 10 years to clean up the mess you made for you, even though you make really good money. So I'm trying to get you to tap in. You have this unbelievable ability. Not only are you smart, but you have the ability to delay pleasure. That's an emotional maturity factor. And you've got the ability to do that. and if you will clear this debt before you start living your life like buying a house and get that whine out of your voice like you had you were whining like a four-year-old when you

can I now get a house please daddy get that out of your voice and go finish this like a man and finish the mess you made clean it up and then you're going to be so stinking rich and be able to own any house in any car you want to own you make a million dollars a year with no payments and no debt of any kind you are you're going to have so much money and such a great life and that's what you've been promising yourself while you went through all these sacrifices and I'm asking you do it for one more year live like you're in residency or fellowship for one more year and use all of this fabulous income clear the dead in one year did I make a sale it makes total sense okay it's not easy it's not easy because you're you've been you've been

waiting all this time it's been waiting to get it here. Now you're finally here in this goober on the podcast is telling you not to do this, right? I don't blame you. I mean, it's a normal human emotion, but dude, you guys are, you, the both of you, you're a power couple. How stressful is this work going to be on a scale of one to ten? What you know about it? Your work. It'll probably be seven to eight, maybe. Okay. Now, I want you to think about the added stress if you do what most doctors do, and they live high on the hog coming out of college and all this and grad school and the whole nine-house and a house and seven-hurt thousand hours and just imagine the stress of the job plus the stress of the

debt if you make no headway just seriously sit with that over the next three days do some research read stories about doctors that are just overwhelmed by debt get a picture of what dave and i are talking about he's seen it peace and imagine having peace and no stress over money you got a stressful enough of a job. Hey, 900K, how much signing bonus you're getting? A sign on is about 20, not much. Oh, okay. All right.

It's an academic place, so they don't necessarily want to give you. I'm just curious. Which specialization? I'm gastro. And what about her? And she's pulmonology, so I'm pretty sure she's the smarter one out of the two of us. I think both of you, I think both of you going to be okay, dude. I'm so proud of y'all.

Well done. Y'all are amazing. Absolutely amazing. Yeah, if you'll just slow down a half a notch and do this right, it's going to relieve stress, anxiety. You're going to be able to work on the work rather than work on the checkbook. The Ramsey Show question of the day is brought to you by YREFI. Defaulted private student loans can wreck your peace of mind, your finances, even your relationships,

why refi offers hope with custom refinancing based on your unique situation and ability to pay. For private student loans that gone sideways, visit yrefi.com slash Ramsey today. That's the letter Y, R-E-F-Y.com slash Ramsey, not in all states. Today's question comes from Andrew in Michigan. I own a small business which is growing to 10 employees plus my wife and myself. one of our growing pains has been our manager who has been with us for two years at times he shines and is excellent and proactive other times he does random things like borrowing small amounts from the tips hiding small checking errors and lying about dumb mistakes we've had numerous conversations about

these lapses in judgment should we fire him or give him one more chance um you know again i don't have enough details here to say why i would give him one more chance it feels like we've had numerous conversations. And so numerous at this point, we've not seen any behavior change. And what's tough is, is that this is somebody who carries a lot of water. Sounds like he shines in a lot of areas, but in an area that is a legitimate red flag where you've talked to him multiple times and it's not changing. Yeah, I don't think one more chance is necessary unless you have not communicated that this is in fact now the last chance. We don't have this conversation ever again.

This is a tough decision emotionally at times, but you have to separate the emotion from maybe your fears of what would happen if this person, a high performer, leaves. But ultimately, you've got to do what is right, and you've felt like this is a problem. You're right. This is a character issue, and it will turn into something bigger if you don't get,

rid of it. Yeah. The my, I mean, we've, we coach a lot of restaurant folks in our small business program, Ontario leadership, and I'm not a restaurant person, but my understanding is most restaurants with what you're talking about here. At the end of the day, the tips are, some people either put them in a pool or they are, you know, each, each server keeps their own tips for the night. But if they put them in a pool and split them up among the servers and the busboys or whatever, and then the manager is taking money out of that. He's stealing money from your other employees. That's not something you need to give grace to.

There's not a single person that works in that restaurant that thinks this guy's awesome. He's stealing from them, and they know it. The servers are a lot of things, but they carry heavy trays, and they know where their tips win. I can tell you that. okay they work their butts off their feet hurt their back hurts when they go home they want to know where their tips went and my manager took my tips what do you do you can't really go back and go well my manager took my tips who you're going to confront uh yeah let me tell you everyone in the

place is going to cheer when you fire this guy he's stealing their tips it's not real hard for me to figure out so i'm a little i'm not quite as easy going as ken is on this um you don't have to be mean to him or anything but when someone has, steals from the tips, hides small checking errors, is that code for embezzlement? What does hide small checking errors mean, really? Okay. Like, he doesn't know how to do this stuff and lying about dumb mistakes. Yeah, I think you have serious integrity issues with this individual, and you've got him in

leadership. And so, um, and you've had enough, you've had enough conversations. I've had enough just reading this. He's gone. I'd fire him right now. I mean, I'd be nice about it, but we give people warnings around here, and we will talk to them, help them change behaviors and do things. There's a couple things we don't, okay? You know, one of them is you steal.

I don't really need to renovate. I mean, I don't need to spend time rehabbing a thief. That's one I need to work on because I've got to look over my shoulder all the time, and I'm giving them my money to work here. So, no, you're done. the day you know i just i just i thought i would get put it back later you know what yeah you're just gone okay and the other one was you know we find you know somebody accidentally left a bag of cocaine and the you know what no no we don't have a second discussion about that you're just you know to start with there's a bag of cocaine and then there's accidental oh my god these two things

don't go together you're gone i mean this is not we don't have we don't have a big we don't need a drug test we already got the drug it's okay get it you're gone and so So it's just, no, I mean, that, you know, so we, but that stuff doesn't happen here because of how stringent we are on hiring, but that's the type of stuff that we would have a zero tolerance on. And, because I don't need to discuss you if you, if you don't have integrity, now, if you're just not good at your job or you got a bad attitude or you're nasty to somebody, I can talk to you about that, give you a chance to change your ways, you know, we can coach you along and

coach you up and give you, give you a chance to stay. The problem is, and you pointed this out, is when you have 10 people, you are at the stage where we call it the second stage of business. The first stage is treadmill operator, and the next stage is Pathfinder. And so when you are at the Pathfinder stage, it's like hurting cats. You know, 10 people, they're running in 10 different directions. Everything's not aligned. There's a lot of chaos. It can be that all of them are working hard.

had 10 people one time. I remember. I mean, it's like everybody's working hard, but they're running 10 different directions. It's not a lot of alignment, not a lot of good strong cultural values in place and that kind of thing. And you do have this sense of if I fire a key person and I have 10 people, the whole place is going to shut down. Well, let me help you. Andrew in Michigan. The whole place is not going to shut down. Instead, they're going to cheer for Andrew in Michigan. They're going to going, Andrew, Andrew, Andrew, because the guy that stole our tips, Andrew got rid of him. Andrew is the man. I would charge the gates of hell with a water pistol for Andrew because he had my back. The guy that stole my tips, he fired him. That's what's going to happen. You're not

going to cave. You're not going to fall in. You're going to be stronger. And the longer you do this, the more sure you'll be footed you'll be in your decision making on these things. And you'll make fewer and fewer mistakes on who I keep and who I give this to. But don't keep somebody because you think this place isn't going to run because of them. Dude, he was never the secret sauce in the first place. You are the secret sauce. That's why you have a successful concern, but now you have to have a backbone and be a leader and fire a thief. Yeah, you've enabled it by just using language borrowing. I thought that was interesting. He's borrowing tips. Here's what we know. If he's borrowing or stealing from his coworkers, it's only a matter of time before he borrows or steals from you.

If he hasn't already, 100%. So that's the thing. Yeah, 100% chance his wife doesn't trust him. All right, Peyton is in Harrisburg, Pennsylvania. Hey, Peyton, what's up? Hi, how's it going? Better than I deserve. How can I help?

So I kind of have a little bit of a math problem for you. So just a little bit background about me. I'm a chemical engineer. So, like, I'm trying to figure out the best way that this makes sense to do. So I currently have gone from a job that was paying me $80,000. dollars a year to a job that's paying me 104 a year plus commission so i can get up to 40 to 60 grand of commission at the end of the year if i perform well in this job okay and so my problem is is that i'm working on your debt snowball method i'm in baby step number two um i cut down my

i'm a little short on time go straight to your question honey yeah so the straight to the question point is that I'm going from a company that had a company car to not a car that you can get into this program, but the problem is that the car to be qualified for the program has to be a new car to four years and age under 50,000 miles and has to be a hybrid to qualify for the program. I'll pass. I'll pass. It's not a raise. The amount of money they're going to give you will not cover the loss in value because you're

Driving an expensive car into the dirt because you're putting a lot of miles on it, you're doing sales calls. Okay. So you're going to put so many miles on the car. You're going to take a $40,000 or a $50,000 car and you're going to make it worth $10 every year. And you cannot absorb that with the amount of money that they're offering you. That's why they don't do company cars. They trick you into taking the bite. It's a pay cut.

It's not a benefit. Don't take it. Just drive whatever you want to drive and forget it. And drive something cheap because you're ruining whatever you drive. Live from the headquarters of Ramsey Solutions, it's the Ramsey Show, where we help people build wealth, do work that they love, and create actual amazing relationships. Ken Coleman Ramsey personality, number one bestselling author and host of the show that is a runaway hit on Ramsey Networks. It's called Front Row Seat, where he does long-form interviews with Highly's, successful and famous people to get the success principles from them that help you live a better

life. You'll love it. Chuck is with us in Pittsburgh. Hey, Chuck, welcome to the show. How can we help? Thanks, Dave. Thanks for taking my call. Sure. What's up? Hey, I've been following the baby steps for a decade, and thank you so much. It's been so good for my family. It's helped our marriage. It's just made putting three kids through college a lot simpler. Way to go. I'm proud of you. My question is for Ken. Ken, what are the baby steps for somebody that's looking to move out of a 32-year career into something that he can do into his twilight? Get clear is the first step. The second step is get qualified. Third step is get connected. Fourth is get started. Then we get promoted and ultimately into what we think is the dream job in this new path. So that's the quick answer. do you know what you want to move into, or are you trying to figure that out? That's what I'm trying to figure out.

Okay. Well, we've got a tool for you that'll make this a little easier on the phone. I'm going to give you the book, Find the Work Your Wire to Do. It's the Get Clear Career Assessment. And there's three wires that every human has. Talent is one wire. That's simply what you're really good at doing. And you're born with that.

And then through education and experience, we hone that ball. of clay of talent into sharpened skills or useful things like a bowl or a cup. So talent is what we want to start with. And that gives us the clues as to where we can go. The next two wires, one is passion. And that just means what work do I love to do? I look forward to it. When I'm in the middle of it, I lose track of time. And then the third wire is all about motivation. And that's, we call it mission. In other words, what results do I want my work to create, what do I want to contribute to the world? So it looks like this in a simple sentence. If I use what I do best to do what I love to produce results that matter to me, I am in fact

on purpose and I'm doing meaningful work and the money's going to be the best possible option because of those factors. So, you know, I'll put you on the spot. I'm going to give you that assessment and you take about 18 minutes. It's going to really read your mail. It will make specific suggestions to you. But I want to boil the world of work down into four buckets. people work, idea work, process work, and object work. Object work would be something where I'm working with my hands. Maybe I'm a carpenter, maybe I'm a plumber. And so in the world of work, where do you think your greatest talent is knowing what you know about yourself being 56? What area of work? People work, idea work, process work, or object work? Definitely people work. That's been my whole

whole life. Okay, great. So if you allow yourself to wonder, and I know you have, and I'm putting it on the spot, not for you to be locked into this, but if you could go a direction tomorrow and you knew you couldn't fail and we just tried it for 90 days, what would you try tomorrow? Well, I've got a face for radio, Ken, so I'd have to say, I did some radio years 30 years ago at KDK and Pittsburgh a long time ago. But couldn't make it into a career, but I kind of miss it, you know? Okay. So you would be communicating.

If we take radio out, you would be doing some type of work that's heavy communication, and that involves people, correct? Correct. And you like the pressure of communicating? That doesn't freak you out. You kind of enjoy it. A little bit of butterfly, but you really enjoy it? Love the deadlines.

Okay. you know, hey, we're starting in 3-2-1, you know, that kind of thing. So let me ask you this. What do you make right now? What have you been doing and what do you make? Well, I've been in sales for 32 years and I've been blessed to be in over six, you know, six digits. Okay, great. Now, this is what's great.

100 to 150 depending on the market. Okay, so here's what I know about you. So you're very good communicator because you've been very successful in sales. And a good salesperson knows how to truly communicate, not just talk. or read people, listen for what's below these. So you've got a lot of experience here. Now, I'm going to be very honest with you, radio is not an industry where there's a ton of opportunity because of the nature of podcasting and YouTube and the culture's listening habits.

There's just not a whole lot of radio opportunity. So then you go, okay, what is it that I love about the radio piece? And it's I like communicating something that I believe will help people. Is that a fair high-level statement? Yeah, yeah. Okay, great. So as you begin to take the assessment, you get your results, you're going to start to ideate. And here's three questions that you will answer.

And if you got something to write with, write them down. If not, go back and listen to this. Three very simple questions that will bring you an idea, or two or five. Who are the people I most want to help? What problem or desire do they have? And then what solutions, plural, to the problem or desire that I just out. line do I most get excited about what you're going to find if you wrestle with that day in and day out your mind and heart will start to come together and you'll begin to throw things out and so

you are going to communicate it's people work we know it's people people people uh there might be a little bit of idea work involved here um and so if you can begin to figure out who are those people I want to help at this stage of my life and what prom or desire is is jumping out at me and then how does the marketplace address that with my skill set? And so that's the exercise for you in the days ahead. But the assessment that we're going to give you is going to give you a very detailed report. I want you to read it. And I want you to then answer those three questions. And what you're going to find is you'll see multiple opportunities that you never saw before. But you've got to be able to understand what it is that I'm looking for. And I want you to pan back further than just the two

things, sales and radio. Yes. okay those were those were very nuanced possible uses of everything kens talking about and there's a lot of different ways to do what you're doing um and i'll just you know i'll give an example of that i was being interviewed the other day by a trade publication in the broadcast world and they said how has ramsie prospered and survived um you know satellite radio the internet coming on with podcasts now used to be streaming in the old days and now with the advent of the power of YouTube as our shows and what I said was and what I want you to think this way is we are platform agnostic we don't care

where what medium or media this message goes out on if it goes out on Instagram or TikTok or anything we don't care it's fine we're fine with any of it okay but um if i said instead i'm a talk radio guy i'm not doing podcast and i'm not going to be on youtube that's for cats chasing lasers and tic-tacks owned by the communists i'm not doing that if i said that which i'm kind of tempted to at times okay if i said that and i held myself to being only a talk radio guy i would have 8 million listeners a week instead of 40. So that would be stupid, narrow-minded of me to focus on one thing.

Instead, I'm saying how many different ways in a huge buffet can we apply the delivery of this message? In your case, their messages are talent. How can I put myself out there? How many different ways can I put myself out there? Be platform agnostic. Hang on. We're going to send you a copy of both books.

one that has the clear path that's paycheck to purpose and the assessment as well buyers selling a home these days with all the drama is a big deal and the clickbait headlines all the garbage that's out there on social media and all the broke friends that have an opinion

about you buying a house let me help you with a drama how you cut through drama facts when drama or trauma is occurring facts are your friends. Facts will talk you off the ledge. Facts will take you and put you in a cold shower and get you over a buying fever. Facts will tell you this is what I need to do and this is a smart thing to do. Facts are facts. And you need some facts in the middle of all this. So what we've done is we've built out a full website called the U.S. housing market trends. And you can jump on there

any day and see what exactly is happening with the real estate world. And like, for instance, 15-year fixed rate is still steady at 5.95, just under 6%. That's a fact. Hadn't moved in a while, by the way. That is also a fact. The median house price is still $441,000 in America today. It has gone up a little bit every month. The inventory right now is a million 882,520 homes on the market today. And that's the highest inventory rate since in 2019. However, demand is higher than it has been, and so that is why house prices have not dropped. High interest rates, high inventory would normally mean

you'd see house prices come down has not happened because demand is higher than inventory. When demand is higher than supply, economics tells us prices go up. When more people want a beanie baby than there are beanie babies, the price of beanie babies go up. That's how it works, okay? Some of you are old enough to get the reference.

some of you weren't born yet, but there we go. So, anyway, that's the thing. Go to ramsysolutions.com slash market, and we'll catch you up to date. Andrew's with us in New York. Hi, Andrew. Welcome to the show. How can we help? Hi, Dave and Ken.

It's a really cool to talk to you guys. I've been a big fan for years. Well, thank you. What's up? So I have a situation that I've been discussing with my dad and my sister, and I thought it might be something you'd have some, suggestions on. My dad set up a college savings account, 529 accounts, for my twins who were born in 2010. These were his first grandchildren. He was working at the time, so he was able to fund

the accounts for a few years. They've grown to a total of about $100,000, half of which he contributed. He stopped working shortly after that and was unable to start additional counts later when I had additional children and my sister had a child. He hadn't really thought about them since, but now a question of fairness has arisen, at least between my sister and me. He only recently learned from an elder care attorney that accounts like this can be shared or split among other children, and he's now wondering if he should draw from his limited retirement savings to start an account from my sister's child or portion off some of the

savings from the twins accounts. I know that it's his money to do with as he pleases, and I'd want my nephew to receive something as well, but my... So how much does your dad have in retirement? I don't know exactly how much he has, but, you know, he has enough that he... Well, I mean, what? $300,000, $5 million. What's he got in there?

No, I think something like three or four hundred thousand. Okay, cool. And is your mom gone? They are separated. They're separated. They're divorced. Divorced. Okay, all right.

And he has now retired. How old is he? He's 77. Okay. What's he seeing an elder care attorney about? He was looking into protecting the house in case something happened to him and he needed to go to care or something. Okay.

That's a waste of money, by the way. Okay. I can help you with that. We could use that money to fund the kids college. Okay. So I'm not against some elder care situations, but here's a situation. There's only two kinds of nursing homes. One's you pay for or ones you go into when you're on welfare.

Welfare is Medicaid. It's for poor people. your dad's not poor people okay okay he needs to quit trying to hide assets using an elder care attorney so he can go on welfare you don't want him and he doesn't want to be in a welfare medicaid nursing home not if i got 300 grand in the bank that ain't where i'm staying okay okay you know if i got 300 grand in the bank i don't want to live in subsidized housing okay okay you catching on my drift here That's where this guy's leading him, and he doesn't need to be leading him this way.

It's a bad plan. His house is not protected. It's protected only if he goes on welfare. And so don't try to design a life so that you can go on welfare after working your whole life and you've got 300K. That does enter. It's a sidebar, but it's not because that leaves you then in a situation so that these kids. How old is your sister's kid? he's seven okay so he's got time for money to grow and my twins are so your dad's 300k is invested

yes and um here's what i would do if i were your dad okay i'm 64 65 almost okay here's what i would do if i were him if he doesn't live until these kids go to college 10 years okay If he lives to 87, we'll do something different. But if he doesn't live, leave enough specifically in the will for the three kids, yours. There's only two kids. Your one kid didn't get money, and your sister's one kid didn't get money, right? I have two additional. Okay, so leave enough in the will for your two that were not the twins that have zero,

the sister's kid who doesn't have anything that has zero, to play catch-up and leave the twins out of that portion of the will. so make it right upon death and then split up whatever's left between you and your sister okay but he can make it right upon death in the meantime he's got 300k growing and it'll be 600K if he leaves it alone in seven more years and it's in good mutual funds okay so it'll be plenty of money to send these kids to school that's if he dies before they go to school how old are your two that we're talking about the don't have money the younger the don't have money.

13 and 7. 13? Yes, 13 and 7. Okay, so 7 years, if he doesn't die, if he dies, anytime the next 7 years, the 13-year-old gets made whole, and the 7-year-old gets made whole, the twins are obviously older than 13, and then your sister's 7-year-old gets made whole upon death. That's what I would do if I were him in my will. Then, if he doesn't die, when they get ready to go to college,

I'm just going to write checks. Okay. Simple. I don't have to fund a 529. I'll just write checks out of my wealth until I equal and do a little math and you figure out, you know, what is equal at that point. But we've got at least five years, four years, five years before yours is in school and, you know, up to 10 before the other two are in school. And then he's going to be writing some checks out of his then half million or whatever. and you know if he puts in some similar amount plus growth because he got the growth okay

if he gives you 25k today instead of 10 years from now he's going to get all the growth on the 25 so he could let's call that 50 okay so he could put in 50 for a future kid and it be the same as 25 was back then you follow me yes yes so just have his financial plan or not his elder lawyer do the calculation and and just run that out and go, okay, if I'm alive, I'm going to take care of the 13-year-old to this equation because that equals 25K back then, okay? And how old are the twins, by the way? They're 15.

Okay, all right. So, and then they get nothing. They've already got theirs in either scenario. Unless he wants to leave the overage above college to the kids and not to you and your sister. But otherwise, the twins don't get any more. they've already gotten theirs. And so just lay it all out like that, and that'll be fine. Ken, I'm glad you had input on that.

Well, I was going to say, Dave, you had several holes there that I was going to fill, and then you just tied it all up there at the end, so I don't have anything to add. Sorry about that. In the lobby of Ramsey Solutions on the debt-free stage, Michael and Rosalie are with us. Hey, guys, how are you? Good, how are you? Better than I deserve. Wonderful.

Welcome. Where do you guys live? Buffalo, New York. Oh, cool. Welcome to Nashville. Thank you. And how much debt have you two paid off? About $70,000.

Awesome. And how long did that take you? Just over five years. Good for you. And your range of income during that time? 100 to 150. Okay. All right.

And what kind of debt was the 70? Well, to borrow your phrase, the paid off for mortgage has taken the place of the BMW is our status symbol of choice. I got a paid four hours, baby. I love it. Congratulations. Well done. Very well done.

What do you all do for a living? So Rosley was an interior design and now has the hardest of jobs, a stay-at-home mom. And I'm in financial analysis and side business as a financial coach. And a special thank you to your team and unbelievably talented team of Ramsey coaches you have. Oh, well, thank you. Thank you. We appreciate you being here. Very cool.

How's it feel, guys, to have the house paid off? Feels really good. Amazing. Yeah. I bet that's amazing so what a goal and five years you so you got everything else paid off and then you work just the slow plan worked four five and six like you're supposed to yep and paid off the house gradually how old are you I'm 36. 44. And a paid four house.

What's the house worth? We bought it for about 200. It's worth about 300 now. All right. Very cool. Good for you guys. And how much have you guys built up in your nest eggs and your retirement and so forth? We'd rather not say, but in the last five years since we worked the plan between investing

more and the market growth, it's over doubled in that five years. All right. Well, very good. So it smells like maybe your baby steps millionaires already. I'm proud of you. I'm just going to go with that. I'm going to pretend like I know that. The way to go, y'all.

I'm proud of you. Thank you. At 36 and 44 years old. So give us your perspective on why, after getting out of debt and walking through the baby steps, you went, all right, yeah, let's go ahead and let's keep on going. Let's keep being disciplined and let's pay the house off. Why for somebody who's wondering, what's the reason for that? What is your why?

Yeah, so we entered marriage, completely debt-free. We had debt before marriage, but we entered it debt-free. But, you know, I stumbled across the Ramsey show back in 2020. and started watching YouTube highlights and watching the show. And so, Dave, I'm a... Start driving Rosalie crazy. Probably, yes. I have an accounting degree and a CPA license.

So, of course, when it comes to personal finance before finding your show, I knew almost nothing. Yeah. So my parents did teach me to live on less than you make, so I followed that and married well because Rosalie lived on less than she made also. But quickly from watching your show, realize there are a lot of blind spots and a lot of things were missing. We were not saving 15% for retirement. We were tracking our expenses instead of budgeting, and there's a huge difference

between those two. We had James, our son, and our daughter, Lillian was on the way. We didn't have a will. We didn't have life insurance. So there were just a lot of blind spots we were missing, so we had a good foundation, but finding your show developed an actual process that we could follow. Yeah. And when you check all those boxes, the weird thing is the result is peace.

Absolutely. Yeah, you can just relax. House is paid for. We've got retirement. Got a will. We've got, you know, we've got life insurance. We're, you know, we're rocking. You've got the system down.

You get in the groove, and there's a chance that you can just let, you can just breathe then. And it really is financial peace, two words that don't go together, like airline service. It's like, you know, pretty cool, guys. I'm so proud of you. Thank you. What do you tell people the key to getting out of debt is? Well, so it's working together.

It's communicating. It's the budget. It's being intentional. All of those things are. are very, very critical. I know for us with having kids, that's our main motivation, is our kids, our generational wealth, setting them up for life. Yeah.

That's our huge driver. So, I mean, for us with kids, that's what we focus on to. Yeah, it's your why. Yeah, it's your why. It's your driver, yeah. You've got to have that. Because the other stuff that's too weird to do if you don't have a real reason. Absolutely.

Yeah, we decided to attack steps five and six, obviously doing stuff four, too, but five and six aggressively to get them both done. So we front-loaded their 529 accounts. So before they even got into kindergarten, they're all set with their 529s that what grows should cover at least a public university. And then they can decide from there if they're going to work or get scholarships for anything beyond that. But they'll get that by not taking on any college debt. So that was our goal that we can get them to have no debt other than a mortgage for their entire lives. That this is going to be their last recollection of debt as being on the debt-free stage year.

So you guys have been married how long? Almost eight years this October. Okay. And you started on the house five years ago. So it sounds like you started very early in the marriage on this whole thing. Yeah, we bought the house right as we got married. So it was a total of under eight years that we paid the house off. It was five years since we got very serious on the Ramsey plan.

Yeah. So Rosalie, when you first met Michael or when he first started talking about all this stuff, did he drive you crazy with it? I'm used to it because this is kind of his background. He's into finances and this is, you know, this is his passion. And, you know, this is kind of his wheelhouse. So this wasn't anything new for me. And I wasn't surprised when he found you and brought all this up and wanted to, you know, go on this plan and attack it. I was right with him because, like I said, the kids and everything, I know I drive him crazy because with being in a tiered design background, I'm always looking at stuff around the house.

So that drives him crazy. So we always have to communicate about things that, you know, I might want to do to the house or, you know, what's going on. We, communication is big. So I wasn't surprised. And now you can. I can do whatever you want to. Well, don't tell him that. Well, maybe I need to.

I don't know. What does live and give like no one else look like for you guys going forward? Have you begun to dream and discuss what that could look like? 100%. Honestly, on the car ride over down here, we were definitely talking about how we can now give and how we can be more generous with our giving and to our church and things like that. That's definitely been a conversation more and more and more now that We don't have the mortgage hanging over our head.

And what's the big nice thing you're going to do for yourselves? I don't know. We don't have an answer to that one. I think, you know, I think. That's live like no one else. Later, you can live like no one else. I don't know if we have an answer to that one. You know, we're still trying to get our cars through two more winters.

So, and they're 13 and 11. So we're. I think you need some cars. Time to get some cars. Don't have any house payment. Don't have any debt. Yeah. Just, you know, now you can breathe a little, y'all.

I mean, it's good to do that. And that won't be wasteful and that won't be irresponsible or anything else. And so it's actually why you did all of this, that and those two beautiful kiddos. So very, very cool. All right, bring them up. Let's meet them and names and ages. Come on up, kiddos. Do we have time for a quick story?

Sure. So it's very appropriate, Ken, that you're on the show today. So I called you five years ago debating whether I should take financial coach master trading as our daughter was on the way. and I asked you, I said, is this a good thing to do? And you kept saying, ask your wife. And I said, well, if I've done that, I'm calling the expert. But right before we got off the call, you gave me two words.

You said, do something. And those two words were huge, and they're huge for everybody in finances, in faith, and fitness, whatever it might be. And then on the way here, we stopped at a rest stop in Kentucky, and I saw a U.S. Army veteran on his jacket. And I said to him, thank you for your service. And these are the true heroes. And his response was, you're worth it.

And so I just want to combine those two thoughts today. Do something because you're worth it and because your family's worth it. So combine those two thoughts for all your listeners today. I think that's a really important message to hear. Amen. Thanks for sure. And cool. That's fun.

All right. Kiddo's names and ages again? James is six and Lillian is four. All right, guys. You look like you've been practicing a debt-free scream. I think you're ready. All right. Michael and Rosalie, James and Lillian, 70,000 paid off in five years.

house and everything making one to 150 count it down let's hear a debt-free scream three two one we're debt free they are into it yeah those kids are completely changed their lives have changed before they were born and they didn't even know it pretty incredible this is what happens when you change your family tree and at 36 and 44 you put yourself in a position a baby steps millionaire you've got your house paid off everything and you make it a hundred and a half and you can do anything you want to then the rest of your life you've got you've got the uh the thumb of society off of your neck you don't have city bank anywhere in your vocabulary oh god that's good to be rid of you know you don't have american excess anywhere in your

vocabulary that's good to be rid of wow way to go guys what great what a great power couple Excellent. Our scripture of the day, Job 2221, submit to God and be at peace with him. In this way, prosperity will come to you. In other words, that is prosperity. Peace, the peace that passes understanding. Winston Churchill said, for a nation to try to tax itself into prosperity, It's like a man standing in a bucket and trying to lift himself up by the handle.

Yeah. And another famous English leader, Margaret Thatcher, said socialism is fine until you run out of other people's money. Yeah, agreed. Yeah, that's a problem. Math thing. That's a math thing. Reggie's in Cleveland, Ohio. Hey, Reggie, what's up?

Hey, Dave. Kind of pleasure talking, you guys. You too. How can we help? I actually, uh, I came across. course about 13 years ago in high school and I was lucky enough to take it and I've been an avid listener uh listener ever since so thank you uh it's been quite life-changing thank you of course um so kind of my dilemma is is I own two bakeries and I co-own one of them and one of them

had to close uh briefly here due to the lack of employees and the other one is quite successful and in you know 2027 we're forecasting a million plus So my question is, is given my full-time employment and other businesses I have on the side, is it a smart idea to try to pump a little more money into that other bakery just to make some rudimentary upgrades, changes, you know, new stuff, just to kind of try to revive that and gain back the trust in the community? So a couple of questions here before we dive in. is the one that's struggling that you had to temporarily shut down?

Is that the one you co-own or the one that you're the sole owner? Soul owner. Okay. And you said to us that the problem you identified was not being able to get employees. And so then you presented another solution. So what is the big problem? Well, the problem is, was the lack, it's an underdeveloped area and it's being developed as we speak. in terms of about 1,000 houses within 4 square miles.

So it took me about eight months to really turn. Underdeveloped, you mean it was a bad neighborhood that's coming back? Rural. Oh, it's rural. I'm sorry. Okay. No, I just didn't understand. It's my fault.

Okay. All right. So it's way out of town, but town has come to it. Correct. It's kind of the city is creeping out there to it. Correct. And can you hold on long enough for the city to get there? Well, that's my concern because I would be paying like I'm paying now currently out of my career salary, you know, to keep everything open and getting the rent paid and stuff to that effect.

All right, so you said you temporarily shut it down. My question then is can you keep it shut down until the market gets to the point that it needs to? In other words, can you ramp it back up at a later date? I really have a bad feeling about borrowing money. I'm 100%. I wasn't asking you. That wasn't a part of the scenario. He just said, if you don't reopen it, what are your costs?

And can you maintain those easier than you can maintain feeding it? I would not be able to long term. Okay. So what is the profit on the million dollars back home at the other bakery, On the million dollars on it, what's your net profit? So on the million dollars that we're forecasting in the next year, profit will be about $2.50. Okay, which is split two ways. And you have a full-time job on top of this?

That is correct. And you make what at your full-time job? So I am a pipe that is a penis, and this is my last year. So right now I'm sitting at about 70. And you'll go to what after you finish? It'll go what? it'll it'll go to about 95 okay all right and that's without any overtime right and does your

does your wife work outside the home sir I am not married you're not married okay that's easy okay all right so let's just reverse engineer the other bakery that you singularly own the point is you got to the party early and there's no people that's what you told me right you built out on the edge of a growth ring and um You thought it was going to happen faster or that the current people there were going to be able to support you and they're not able to. It doesn't, there's not enough population currently to support the business. I think you said.

Well, there is that the problem is it's not going to be supported staff-wise. I mean, I have people that pop up here and there, but I think my core demographic of people that I'm waiting on is still up and coming. As workers, not as customers. If you had it fully staffed, would it be profitable? Yes, sir. Okay, so staffing is your problem, not renovation. Correct. I'm saying...

No, I'm not going to spend money renovating it until I get it staffed. Why wouldn't you just spend all of your efforts staffing it or close it, one of the two? Correct, yes, sir. It is between the population that's growing and the actual staffing problem itself, it does cost a, I'm going to like to do that. I mean, I've sustained it short term, but the only problem is to really be in the green. One population would need to increase the customer base. It would be... You've talked yourself into closing it.

Every sentence you've said has told me that. And I think that's obvious. There's not a simple solution to your staffing problem. But you're done. Every sentence you bring up is negative about closing it. You've lost hope that it's going to work, so it's done. You need to close it, yeah. Okay.

And you know more about it than I do. But you don't even realize it, but you're telegraphing everything in every sentence you're using is all about how it can't be done. It can't be done. I'm just too early. There's this problem, that problem. And, you know, you've given up hope that the problems can be solved in time before you go broke doing it. And so I wouldn't want the stress. I just close it.

Have you got a lease? it is a lease yes how long it's uh that runs out in January oh praise God okay so you own all the equipment yes sir debt free that's free great put it in the garage so all you got you got some lease till January and you're out of business that's awesomeness and next time you get ready to start now you'll be wiser when you open your next one someday you'll know that the staffing as well as the customer base has to be there before you you can open it and it has to be a the location cannot be a risk the location has to be a no-brainer you took a risk location on a business that is um that location is everything

absolutely yeah anything in food service world location location location and location i was a little early to the party yeah you were you got there before the people did yeah so i'm sorry man so hopefully you haven't lost a lot um i've learned a lot so the rule and the Here's what I did, what Ken and I both were doing, listening to you. We use Henry Cloud's book, and Henry's a friend, but we've been using this book for a long, long time called Necessary Endings. When you lose hope, with all logic and sound wisdom, that something is going to get better, it needs to end. And that is a relationship, it's a job, it's a marriage, it's a business, it's a what, an investment, when you lose hope that it's going to get better,

then it requires a painful and emotional, necessary ending. Yeah. And Reggie, in this case, really, really proud of you for doing this debt-free. I love that you've been working on a trade. You've been apprenticing. You're about ready to see tremendous increase financially. You're making money in the other ones. So you learned a lesson here.

This is one of those, our dear friend John Maxwell wrote a book years ago, called Failing Forward, then he retitled it. Sometimes you win. Sometimes you learn. Most people say lose. And in this case, I want to encourage you. You learned here. You didn't lose. You learned something. You're going to come out of this thing without being in big time financial trouble. Chalk this up to great experience. I learned a lot here. But man, I've set myself up beautifully for the future. So I applaud you for being debt-free and being really smart here. Even though you made a mistake here, this is not something to be ashamed of. It was an experiment.

That's right. Yeah. It's not a failure. It's an experiment. And the way you learn from experiments is you fail and you form a new hypothesis. Then you experiment again. Game on. Welcome to business.

That puts this hour of the Ramsey show in the books. We'll be back with you before you know it. In the meantime, remember, there's ultimately only one way to financial peace, and that's to walk daily with the Prince of Peace. Christ Jesus. Thank you.