The Ramsey Show - App - Stop Buying Things You Can't Afford - You'll Drown

Episode Date: July 17, 2025

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Live from the headquarters of Ramsey Solutions, it's the Ramsey Show where we help people build wealth, do work that they love and create actual amazing relationships. I'm Dave Ramsey, your host Ken Coleman. Ramsey personality number one best-selling author, host of Front Row Seat, one of our big hits right now on Ramsey Networks. He's my co-host today. Open phones here at 888-825-52225. Katie is in Newark, New Jersey. Hi Katie, how are you? Hi, it's nice to speak with you. It's a privilege speaking with you. You too. How can we help? So I'm calling because I'm currently six months pregnant with my first baby. Wonderful. And thank you. And I'm actually preparing to become a single mom.

And so my question is, how can I financially prepare for that? Especially considering that I do not anticipate filing for child support and receiving it because the father of my child has become an unfaith person. Um, so I don't, I, I, um, don't anticipate receiving any income there. How old are you? I'm 25 years old. And, um, what do you do for a living?

Um, so I work for a university. I work from home. Doing what? I do like admissions counseling. Okay, cool. And what do you make? So this past year I just checked my W-2 and it said I made forty five thousand last year. Okay good good all right and so you were already established as a single person and eating on forty five thousand dollars were you not? Yes, sir. Alright, and so you may have to do some things to add some income, some work from home income during this time to be able to cover some additional expenses, some diapers and some

pediatrician visits and that kind of thing, but you know the news media thing of children cost so much is really just not true they don't cost that much some diapers or some pit pediatrician visits and you know it's not it's not the end of the world on that and you're going to be working from home which is great so you're not going to be taking a big maternity leave you really can't afford to take six months off you were going to be working right yes sir i i do receive 12 weeks of paid maternity leave okay and then i plan to just go

right back to work afterward that would be awesome and i won't have to worry about child care expenses because thankfully my job is pretty flexible where I can keep the baby with me and hopefully have maybe some family members come by in case I need additional help at home. Sounds like a good plan. I like your plan and if you can get back to work doing something before 12 weeks and add some income during that time that just gives you a little bit more pad, right? Yes sir, because that's my my fear right now is I don't have a lot of debt, but I don't have a lot saved either. I have a thousand dollars in my bank account and that's what scares me. In three months I'm gonna have a little baby. Yeah. So here's the thing, the baby adds emotional weight, the responsibility, it

can loom pretty large, it's a noble calling to be a parent, right? But the actual mathematical weight, it's not that heavy. So what you're feeling is just this, I was, you know, just a 25 year old single girl on my own. I didn't really have any responsibilities except to pay the light bill and buy some bread, right? And now all of a sudden I got this other creature that God has tasked me to take care of, right? And so the weight of that emotionally is more than the weight mathematically. Does that make sense to you?

Absolutely. And that's a good thing. That's a good thing. I also think that I was raised with different values and I was actually engaged to my baby's father and then as soon as he found out I was Pregnant he changed his mind and left and so this is not what I had planned And I really wish I had done things differently and so I'm just trying to do the right thing moving forward But I'm just really scared. I understand understand, you, one of the things I would love for you to do, this is just practical, I want you to talk to other young moms that you may know, get a reality check on when the baby gets to a certain age,

what's baby food gonna cost, what are diapers gonna cost, you can do this on your own, but don't feel like you have to do it alone. But a lot of this fear is the unknown, and Dave nailed it. It's very natural, because all of a sudden you've got to take care of somebody else. But I would channel this fear into, okay, let me figure out what it is I'm actually going to have to provide for this little human. And once you do that, and you can actually run real numbers.

This is how many diapers they're probably gonna go through. This is how much baby food we're gonna go through. You don't have to worry about childcare, but put a real number around this, and you'll find that it becomes less fearful. Then it gets a good exercise for you to do. And then you realize, okay, I do have some debt. I'm gonna, if I gotta sell some stuff,

if I gotta work a little extra, get family around me to help out with watching the baby, knock this debt out, and also run the numbers on if you paid off your remaining debt, how much of a raise would that give you of income that you now don't have to spend on debt? I think if you walk through that, you're gonna see what Dave is saying.

This is very doable, and you've got what it takes. Yeah, yeah, you can do this. And you're got what it takes. Yeah, yeah you can do this and you're up for it and I don't disagree with you that that this wasn't your plan and so I think there's a little bit of a you know I guess you said regret I think is what I think it's shame I think the word you use, yeah. So that's all fine, but I think right now we just concentrate on being a great mom and this wonderful baby is coming

and just take care of this child and just focus on all that rather than all the junk in the rear view mirror, right? Because it's really gonna be an awesome event for you. And so regardless how we got here, we're still here. And so, yeah, you, you just, you're right. You have to reset your mind of this wasn't my plan. So now I have a new normal, now I have a new plan and how am I going to prosper? Well, I'm going to grow my career and I'm going to grow a child. And, um,

and we're going to, you know, you've done a really good job of putting the key pieces in place you you already had it solved before you called here so I think you're probably better off than you feel like you are that's my point and so I think you're gonna be a great mom I'm proud of you thank you for calling in and if we can help you in any way you let us know you call back anytime hon we'll be here for you it's what do. Open phones here as we talk about your life and your money. The phone number is

triple 8 8 2 5 5 2 2 5. That's triple 8 8 2 5 5 2 2 5. You jump in, we'll talk about you right in front of you. Music Victoria is in Tampa, Florida. Hi Victoria, how are you? Hi Dave, hi Ken, thanks for taking my call. Sure, what's up? Yeah, so my husband and I are 34 years old. We make about 220 a year. Now we are starting on the baby step process and we need some guidance. Okay.

So, yeah, so we made a few dumb decisions lately and we really feel stuck. So about two years ago, we paid off our first home, but the home was very small, was not fit for our growing family. So, um, and on top of that, we were actually also really afraid of not being able to afford a home with the, uh, crazy prices going up. Um, so we felt that home, we moved to a cheaper town. We were able to buy, um, a better home us and we put about 60% down on that home

and really added a value to our lives. The mortgage is about $2,000 a month with HOA, so it's actually $15 plus HOA. It's not terrible, but we really want to pay that off eventually and feel like working on the big step to and in paying off the mortgage it's going to delay us leaving so we were actually considering selling our home moving to again a cheaper maybe moving again and then Yeah, maybe selling your home and how many times you're gonna make this decision? Why is it I?

Don't know I've been talking to you for three minutes, and you've already moved three times. Oh my gosh So yeah, what is your question? We I don't know it's buying this home was a wise decision. What do you owe on it? What's the total you owe on it? 167. Okay, well you got a 24,000 dollar a year payment. I mean, two thousand dollars a month, right? And you make 220,000 dollars a year. It's affordable.

It is affordable. We are on BabySep 2. So what's wrong with it if it's affordable? um, I think it's just that we we've had a paid off home in the past and No having the freedom We lost that freedom. You have other debt other than this Yes, we're so maybe step two that was before we started the process, the baby steps. So we have about 50,000. What other debt do you have? About 50,000. On what? On a seat alone, 15,000 on a seat alone,

about 17 on a car, and about 10,000 on credit cards. Yeah, it totals just under 50,000. Okay, and how long y'all been married? 10 years. How long you been making50,000. Okay, and how long y'all been married? Ten years. How long you've been making $220,000? The past two and a half years, yeah two years. Well I think what I hear happening is all of this is doable. You can clean up this $50,000 worth of debt pretty easy, making $220,000 with a $2,000 house payment. But it does mean you're not going on vacation and you're not going out to eat and the two of you are going to sit down and do a written budget

before the month begins on the EveryDollar app and both of you agree that what we're doing is we're going to clean up this $50,000 and000 and we're gonna clean up the 220,000. Mm-hmm. And we do have some savings. We have about $35,000 saved up. Oh, good. That we're keeping as an emergency fund because our jobs, I don't feel safe anymore with our jobs. It feels like they're always, they're going through rewards in my job and my husband's job. What is the probability you're gonna lose your job by the end of the year? Um, unknown, but I'll say low. We, we, you're worried.

You're a worry ward is what you are. You're just worrying and wringing your hands. You're a worry ward. You just worry, worry, worry, worry about nothing. You guys need to line up, take that money out of the bank, pay off your stupid credit cards and cut them up, pay off your stupid car and then line up and knock out the student loans and then lean into this house and get it done. You just worry worry worry worry and then you move and then you worry and then you move and then you go run up a

credit card debt and you're not gonna get laid off by the end of the year. You just are worried. You need to go do it. You need to get after it. So take $34,000 out of savings, put it on your debts, smallest to largest, knock the car out the credit cards, then we'll lean over on the student loan and you've just reduced your payments substantially get on a written detailed plan knock out that student loan then rebuild your emergency fund and then let's tear into the house and follow the baby steps that you've been hearing me talk about you're overwhelmed because you don't do anything about it that's why you're overwhelmed so just roll up your sleeves

and punch this thing in the nose, become very decisive, which is the opposite of worry, and plow right through the worry, right through the anxiety, and go do something. Action removes anxiety, Ken. Yeah, you're trying to do the wrong thing. Your strategy is, well let's keep moving further away, cheaper areas, smaller house, to address an issue that you have the ability to address today. My goodness, you're only gonna have $7,000 left on that student loan if you do what Dave just told you to do.

And now all of a sudden, you've got a raise, you knock that out quickly, so you don't need to move. And Dave's exactly right. You're trying to solve the problem the wrong way. And the baby steps solve it. So just do exactly what he told you. You're going to find that all that worry disappears. Folks, 80% of what we worry about never occurs to start with. That is actually a statistical fact. And then on top of that, if you are in the business of doing something a person of action you don't have time to stop and worry and so you're plowing through a system it removed and you just are in attack mode

action and and proactive movement slows worry down because you're doing something about you're doing all you can do about it. And then if you get laid off in the middle of that, well good, you just still, you keep working. You go get another job and you just keep moving and you keep moving and you keep moving. But most of the things we sit around and try to anticipate and dodge cause us to do stupid things. So a lot of your decision making to this point has been fear based, is my point. And fear is not a fruit of the spirit. Fear is good if it keeps you from touching a hot stove. But fear is bad when it paralyzes you when it's false evidence appearing real.

F-E-A-R. Okay? And, you know, that's exactly what this is. Well, the irony is here is that by cutting out these three debts in short order, and you can, we just walked you through it, you're going to end up saving more money than you would on a smaller mortgage.

That's the reality. So if you do what Dave said and you literally knock out two debts and we cut the other one in half, you look at the amount of money you're saving, focusing on that, you're going to start to breathe easier. That just feels good. If you'll stay out of stupid restaurants. That's right. And if you'll quit buying crap on Amazon and get on a detailed budget that the two of you are

were stuck to and you live on beans and rice and rice and beans you can be debt free but the house with a fully funded thirty thousand dollar emergency fund by Christmas with your numbers. That's right. But you've got to knock it out and you've got to roll up your sleeves and do this. And take a deep breath and just punch it in the nose. The bully is always a bigger deal than in his mind than he actually is. And there's nothing real here.

Go do this. Lean into it. You're gonna get a sense of relief, a sense of power as soon as you turn those switches. And it starts tonight with paying off the credit cards and paying off the car and chopping them up. Light a candle and have a plasectomy party. Plastic surgery, baby. Chop, chop, chop, chop, chop, chop, chop, chop, chop.

I hear it's big in Tampa. So try it. It's great with fried bologna too, because that's all you guys can be eating over the next 90 days. By the way, don't knock it, because there was a whole generation of us that we looked forward to fried bologna when we were kids.

It's a delicacy, man. I know. Don't knock it. Delicacy. God, the golf course is doing smoked jalapeno bologna. Oh, I'm in. My mouth is just... I'm already excited.

I got stuff running down my chin right now. Just thinking about it. That's how you know you're enjoying it if it's running out of both sides of your mouth. That's how you know you're a redneck. Getting after that too. You might be a redneck if smoked jalapeno bologna makes your mouth water. Yes, sir. This is the Ramsey Show. that gets smoked jalapeno bologna. Makes your mouth water. Yes sir. This is the Ramsey Show. So Well, it's not just another summer sale.

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up? Hey, pleasure to speak with you Dave. Thank you for taking my call. Sure, how can we help? So I am 20 years old. Man, I feel very lost. I need your help. I don't know exactly where to go from my current point in life, but like I said 20 years old I have twenty thousand dollars in debt and that is student debt from when I dropped out of college I went to a university for two years Had an unfortunate circumstance where I had to leave but also I was not passionate about the degree like I thought I was so I left

Now I have this money money I'm trying to pay off. I work a job 40 hours a week making slightly under $40,000 a year right now. And recently, I've been listening to you, you've really changed my perspective. It's helped a lot cutting my lifestyle down a lot to be able to get this debt paid down. So I'm going to be able to start building some wealth. But I don't know where to go as far as should I go back to college and try and find a degree that suits me? I'm just really scared to go back to college and spend all this money and find something that I don't like.

I don't know what I'm passionate about at the moment, at least not passionate enough about to go to college to study it. I'm pretty well established at my job. It's nothing crazy, but I know that with some hard work, if I dedicated myself 100% to that instead, I could work my way up the managerial ladder kind of over there, and I could also make some decent money. So I don't really know what I should do. Yeah. Okay. Let me ask you this. When you went to college the first time and you chose a major,

what were you thinking that that was going to lead you to? I wasn't even totally sure. I chose my major the first time based off what I did at my job. I'm a supervisor at a grocery store and I kind of am like one of the bookkeepers, so counting the money every night and making sure everything's in place. I really liked doing that at the time and so I thought, well, let's go to college for finance because it seems to align with what I'm doing right now. And I still like my place of work, but I realized that I just, I like working at different areas

of the company. I'm not as much into the finance part. So it led me to drop out. All right, so let me throw a couple little fun things at you. And you don't have to overthink this. And I think your brain will select for you. So there's four types of work. I could take every job on the entire planet, every career path, and I could put it

into four buckets of work, OK? One is idea work, OK? And this would be kind of the space that Dave and I are in. We create content. We take ideas like the baby steps to people to help them transform their life. So ID work, it could be a marketer, but it's idea-based. Another type of work is process work.

I want you to think operational, finance, accounting, anything that's process driven. And then you've got people-focused work, right? So that could be anything from medicine, a physical therapist, you know, accounting, anything that's process driven. And then you've got people focused work, right? So that could be anything from medicine, a physical therapist, you could even say the type of work that Dave and I do is also people and ideas. And so our work falls into those two buckets. The fourth type of work is what I will call object work. In other words, I'm working with my hands, I might be a carpenter, I might be a plumber,

I might be a carpenter, I might be a plumber, I might be in the trades. And so if you look at work as idea work, people work, process work, or object work, why don't you just tell us, what do you think of those four areas, where do you think your natural talent lies? To be honest, I would like to say people and idea work. I have passions that I'm trying to pursue now a little bit on the side that I like to do, like posting content online and digital photography, like doing photo shoots with people and stuff. There's things that I do outside of work, but my issue that I run into is that obviously these things do not make me very much money, if any, right

now. That's not the question. That's not what I'm talking about. That's not the question. We're not analyzing the income. You're just trying to analyze what you get, what your gifts are. That's right, because you presented to Dave and I, I don't, I'm not clear. I don't know what I want to do. So what we want to do is begin to open up for you to see where you could end up. And now you're in a good job that you like, and it will become the foundation or the launch pad for where you will go next. So this also leads into, should you go to college?

And the answer is, we don't know. But I can tell you, my simple grid is, if a degree is the only way to get qualified to do the work you wanna do, yes. If it's the best way, yes. If it's not, there's another way. We don't know where you wanna go yet. So let's say you're people and ideas.

That's where you think your talent lies. And my guess is if I could give you a great job where you were people-facing or people-focused and you were taking some type of idea to make their life better, you would also probably be pretty passionate about that, yes or no? Yes. Okay, great. Now, you don't have to answer this on the air. We don't have time to do a full-blown thing, but I'm gonna give you some practical tools. There's three questions I want you to answer

before you go to bed tonight, and then I want you to come back and revisit these three questions for the next seven days. Okay? Here are the three questions. You got something to write with or type with? Yes, I do. Okay, here we go.

Super simple. The first question is, who are the people that I want to help? And I want you to answer that as long and specific as possible. Who are the people that I want to help? And I want you to answer that as long, as specific as possible. Who are the people I want to help? Describe them. Alright, now the second question. What problem or desire do those people have?

Now you've probably already answered that question in the first description, but this is a process. Second question. What problem or desire do those people have? And the third question is, what solutions, could be plural, could be singular, to that problem or desire do I get most excited about? Now I can tell you this, Connor, if you diligently ask and answer those questions and you keep revisiting it, I'm telling you, your heart and head will align and you will get clear answers. At which point you take those answers, you begin to look into the

marketplace. Now I'm gonna gift you the Get Clear Assessment and the book Find the Work You're Wired to Do, so I'm gonna hold your hand, but I'm just giving you the exercise that the assessment is gonna lead you to. But here's what will come out of this. As you begin to see all of the type of jobs and or career paths that align with the answers to those three simple questions, now you will be able to answer the question you asked us, which is, do I need to go back to college?

And if the answer is yes, well, we don't have to go into debt. You've already done that deal, so we're going to pay off the, we're gonna save up the money in the job you have, a second job, a third job, because you're young enough to do this, and you will cash flow your way through whether it's trade school or some type of certification or a degree. The next step is, once I know what I want to do and what I must do, education and experience to get there,

now I will cash flow it. And you're not lost, you aren't stuck, and you aren't behind the eight ball. You've got plenty of time to figure this out. Now that's the quick version. I wanna get Dave's take on this. I think that's exactly what you're doing. I don't mean anything to add to that,

except there was this mysterious thing that happened that got you thrown out of college that we drove past. We did. And I'm not gonna drag it out and embarrass you here on the show. Yeah. But you need to address that too. That's great. From a spiritual standpoint, what was the

integrity faux pas that was so bad that you get thrown out of college for it? What was the character breakdown? Because you got to address that too so you don't go back. Yeah. That was part of my healing process after going bankrupt at 28 years old and losing

everything and having a brand new toddler and a baby and a marriage hanging on by a thread. I've got to actually look in the mirror and go, okay, what kind of doofus builds a house of cards like this and allows it to come down on his head? What's broken with this guy in my mirror? And there's a lot. And so it begins a lifetime of walking with Jesus to figure that out and to build the character, build the integrity, build the thing so that whatever that thing was that

tripped you, it doesn't trip your new plan again. We don't go back there. But probably what contributed to whatever that thing was was your boredom. That's a great point. Probably. Could be wrong. But hang on, Christian's going to pick up. We're going to send you Ken's assessment.

Take it as soon as you get it. Read over it. Go over it with people that love you enough to tell you the truth and say, this is you or this is not you. See if we nailed it with this assessment. I'm telling you, it's incredibly accurate. I'll be shocked if you don't find anything else. But it'll give you a good roadmap and a good direction to go and then you can decide if you need additional education or not. You may or may not. I've been. Our question of the day is brought to you by WhyRefi. If you're struggling with

defaulted private student loans, WhyRefi offers a great solution to get you back on track. For a low fixed rate and more flexibility go to WhyRefi.com slash Ramsey. That's the letter Y-R-E-F-Y dot com slash Ramsey. Might not be in all states. Today's question comes from Carter in Maine. I'm 34 and married with no consumer debt. We live on a budget and I earn $125,000 a year, but here's where I'm stuck. We can't afford to live where the jobs are in our area.

A modest home in a safe neighborhood within 30 minutes of my office is completely out of reach. If we did buy farther out, I'd be commuting 8 to 10 hours a week. We're not looking for anything fancy. I just want my wife to be able to walk the dog and feel safe. The advice I often get is to find a job in a lower cost of living area, but those jobs don't pay enough to make up the difference. What would you say to young families doing everything right but still feel like they can't afford having a simple roof over their heads? Well, I you know your last question contradicts the the meat of the previous question and you can't afford a

Simple roof over your head sounds like you can afford a pretty nice roof where your wife can walk the dog and feel safe It just happens that the current role that you have is in a city where, again, you can't afford to live super close, and that's one of the trade-offs. Life is a series of trade-offs, and what I think I see here is, is you're deciding in this season to consider this trade-off,

the trade-off being the commute of eight to 10 hours a week, and that's what you gotta decide on. You're in Maine, and so again, you have agency. I'm not telling you like everybody else that you have to take a job you don't want to then be able to afford. I would rather be doing the work I love and have the professional mobility that it seems like you have, then I would to settle and make a living choice based on that. That's my take, but I think that you're fine and this is what I would call a season and you got to choose your trade-offs. Yeah, absolutely. And either you wait a little while and go up the career ladder before you buy,

because you live in a very expensive area and you live in a state that is very sparsely populated. And so it's expensive to live in and there's a very few big population centers that, you know, they give you a lot of options for career. And so you may have to move to an area that is a population center to get your career going and then be on the outskirts of that

in what we would call the suburbs so that you can afford to live and work there. But someone driving 45 minutes to work, 45 minutes home from work, fairly standard in America right now. It might not be fairly standard in Maine, but it's fairly standard in America. I mean if you live where we're sitting right now and you live in downtown and you work in downtown Nashville, you've got a 35 minute commute without traffic.

And so that's, you know, and we consider this Nashville and we're not. We're one County out technically But you know so that that it's just not that unusual now a two-hour each way commute I'm not gonna sign up for that But eight hours Over five days, that's 45 minutes each way not too bad. That's not that's not really the end of the world so I'm sorry, but I'm gonna be real blunt. There's a lot of whining in this email.

There's a lot of, it's not fair in this email. And it is fair. It's perfectly fair. This is where you chose to live, it's where you chose to work, and you chose the parameters. You can also choose to be somewhere else if you don't like it. But it's like, wah, wah. I want to get a house and I want it to be close

and I want it to be pretty and I want it to be safe. And that's just not too much to ask. Well, yeah it is, apparently. So you're gonna have to deal with it. And you gotta adjust your situation to your situation. And I don't care which one you do, you can move to another state, you can move to another career, you can choose not to own right now, or you can choose to make the commute. But there's a price to be paid for greatness, my man.

And you just got to choose your price. And the great news is, you know, you're in America. You get to choose. I just came back from Sharon and I just did a two week trip in Europe and some of the areas we were in were former communist bloc. And of course, 1991, 1989, when the Iron Curtain came down and yet I am still flabbergasted that someone speaking English to me with a Slavic accent indicating Russian or communist block area

would do anything to have this guy's problems. Oh, $125,000. They'd do anything to have this guy's problems. Oh, $125,000. They'd do anything to have this guy's problems. I'm unaware of high crime areas. And they're 20 or 30 years the other side of communism. I mean, you know, but they still, they would go, yeah, anything.

If this was my problems, I'd have had no problems. While we're calling stuff out, I had a hard time with, I'm just unfamiliar with the crime rate in Maine, I don't think it's very high. Yeah. When he said that part, I was like, what's? If it's unsafe to walk your dog,

it's usually because of a bear. That's exactly what I was thinking. If it's Smokey the bear we're worried about, then okay. But I just am unaware of the, but anyway, I think this is a situation where everybody wants everything that they want at the same time. And I just have never met anybody of success that I look up to that always had it at one time. Trade-off. Amen. Bella's in Oklahoma City. Hi, Bella. What's up?

Hi, Dave, Ken. Thank you both so much for taking my call today. Sure. I I'm I would like to go back to school. I do not want to take out any more student loan that I'd like to cash flow It why why are you going back to school? The first time that I went I went for something stupid. I didn't really use it. Why are you going back to school? Not why you didn't go the first time. Why are you wanting to this time? I'd like to make better money and I would really like to obtain some hard technical skills to be able to do that.

Okay so what's your specific plan? What major, what degree are you wanting to get and what do you think that's going to do for you? I'm kind of torn between two pathways. I would either like to go to something like cybersecurity and then on the other hand something maybe a little bit more in the wheelhouse that I'm currently in the medical field. What is that? An associate's degree.

But what are you doing in the medical field? I work in specialty pharmacy currently. Do you need a degree to move up? Well, I can tell you the answer on cybersecurity. You do not need a college degree to get into cybersecurity. No, not necessarily that, Hathaway, but I would like to do something like a boot camp because of the structure. Great. But I would like to do something like a boot camp because of the structure.

I've tried to do the free things, but it's kind of flounder in that lack of structure. And I've tried to just be real with myself and say, if I'm going to do this, I need something that is going to put the accountability factor. No, I'm going to tell you right now, the idea that because I've got some personal flaws that I don't like and I'm gonna go to college and the structure of college is gonna help me get through this flawed. Help you get good at beer pong. I just think it's the wrong solution. But here's the bigger issue, you're not clear enough yet to make a decision on college. You're just not. You just generally are dissatisfied and ambitious, which that's good. But you're getting ready to fire a rocket and don't have a target. That's right. You need a very clear, precise target before you pull trigger on firing this rocket. Okay. And it can't be just money-based. It can't be I want to make more money.

So I'm going to give you a really tried and true strategy. It's called the proximity principle. I want you to get around people in that health space of what you're saying, pharmaceutical something. You need to actually spend time with people that are doing that role. Good, bad, and ugly. Think high school book report. That's all this is.

Ask enough questions to where you can do a high school level book report on that career path. Same thing with cyber security. Do the same thing. And if your head and heart aren't going ding ding ding together on either one of them, I got good news and bad news. The good news is you're not going to spend any money on either one of those. The bad news is you got to start over. But that's the process that's before you, before you think about education on any level. And we'll send you the book and the assessment of finding the work you're wired to do that Ken put out. I'll send it to you as a gift so you can enjoy taking that and hopefully that'll help aim this rocket ship that's called Bella. No matter what you want to do with your money, you need a budget. Start budgeting for free today with the EveryDollar app.

The easiest way to budget. Track your expenses and reach your goals faster. Go to EveryDollar.com today. Live from the headquarters of Ramsey Solutions, it's the Ramsey Show, where we help people build wealth, do work that they love and create actual amazing relationships. Ken Coleman, Ramsey personality, number one bestselling author. I'm still moving big right now on Ramsey Network. It's called Front Row Seat.

Hey Ken, what are some of the people you have interviewed for Front Row Seat in the past that have dropped in just the last few weeks or might drop in the next few weeks? Yeah, well we just said John Maxwell dropped two weeks ago. That's going crazy. He's talking, dropping some leadership bombs. We've got Michael Knowles, who's a conservative commentator. Daily Wire guy. Daily Wire. That one just dropped Tuesday. It's blowing up. He's got quite a following on YouTube. And I'm really excited, just in a couple weeks, we're gonna be releasing a conversation with Jimmy John. And if you love a good sub sandwich and you're thinking,

I wonder if it's that guy, it is in fact, great, true American dream story. Started out with used sandwich equipment and he only offered three sandwiches. And it's such a great story. He's got a great heart, he's a great character and he only offered three sandwiches and it's such a great story he's got a great heart he's a great character and he gives some unbelievable He's moved to our area and has become a friend of Sharon's and mine they came over for dinner the other night yeah and he was telling us a story at dinner and I'm crying yeah and

everybody else at dinner tables laughing and crying I mean he's an entertaining dude very good guy and a great guy billionaire multi-billionaire and And so I said, hey, you gotta go on Ken's show. I'm grateful for that. Apparently it's a great show. It is. It's a masterclass for entrepreneurs. He gives real wisdom. It's not a guy who's ever gonna write a book, but he gives real practical advice.

A very inspirational story. Probably one of the sweetest stories I think I've heard in a long time of somebody who invested in him. And that's all I'm gonna say. You don't wanna miss it. He gets choked up telling the story. And so that's just a sample of some of the stuff. We've got some really fun, Gary Sinise, American Hero.

When's Gary coming out? Gary releases next Tuesday. Okay. And that's a powerful story. That is a genuinely nice man too. Yeah. Another friend of Dave. Yeah. Lieutenant Dan. That's you another friend of Dave. Yeah, so

Dan that's right Yeah, so they can catch it on YouTube or wherever you listen to podcast comes out every Tuesday morning Sylvie is with us in Colorado Springs. Hi Sylvie. How are you? Hi, I'm doing okay. Thanks for having me on sure. What's up? so Recently started reading the total money makeover and we're on baby step two, feeling really overwhelmed and thinking that we've gotten ourselves into a situation because of some unwise decisions. Some background on that,

my husband and I were doing okay. The only debt we had was student loans, but we were living in my in-laws based in an apartment. We decided we wanted to get a house we moved close to my family we got a house that my parents had to cosign on because we couldn't afford the loan and we decided that we could afford the house if we built ourselves a basement apartment and rented it out. Oh man you were stretching and reaching yeah. So you bought a house you can't afford is what we're saying for sure.

I mean, no, no, period. I mean, you got a co-signer and a renters. The only way you pulled it off. Yeah. This is for sure. You can't afford it. They don't even have renters yet. Yeah. No, our basement is half finished. It's just framed. My husband's been trying to do it himself and it's been a lot more work and a lot more time and a lot more cash intensive than we thought it would be we've got like $10,000 on credit cards just from the basement renovation we've got a 14,000 that we owe my mom because she also gave us cash for the down payment what is the house what do you owe

on the house we owe 400,000 okay and what's your household income we make a little over a hundred thousand a year that's pretty new just as of a few months ago My husband's been getting some promotions and raises recently you need to call a Ramsey trusted real estate agent and put the house on the market this week So the one issue is that I'm worried we can't get more than 400,000. You don't know You don't think you've worried about it in the middle of the night. You have no data. If a good real estate agent comes out there and tells you you're screwed then maybe you're screwed but right now we don't

know. Okay. So you pay you what you pay for it? Um we are deal with whoever we bought it from was that we paid $80 and they gave us 20,000 in concessions and so our loan is 400,000. I got that and so and how long ago did you buy it for 380? A year and a half. Okay yeah you may have trouble getting out of it that's possible. But even if you come out with 15 or 20,000 dollars worth of debt to write a check to get out of it and go rent, you're going to be better off than you are right now.

You are completely handcuffed. And I'd stop the madness on this basement. Stop now. Yeah. Yeah. So we stopped everything that we haven't already bought the supplies for. We literally have like a hole in the side of our house because we created a new entrance and haven't put the door in yet.

So we're going to do that because we already have bought the door But we're gonna stop everything else that we haven't bought our supplies for Yeah, you need to call a realtor go to Ramsey solutions comm and get a Ramsey trusted real estate agent over there this week And start talking to you about what we can list it for and what you've got to get completed on this renovation before we can actually put it on the market because right now it's so torn up nobody's going to look by it unless they've got imagination and they're going to discount you for that so you got to get the freaking door in and some of these other stuff paint the walls get the stuff done get it ready to sell and let's see if we can't get enough out of it to break even and get free. You are standing neck deep in a bear trap, girl. So we don't have like walls downstairs,

it's just framed right now. And we have to put a lot of cash into it, even to buy drywall. I understand, I understand. I don't know what you've got to do to get it ready. I just know that you've got to get out of it. And you can't make a bunch of excuses as to why you can't get out of it until you talk to a real high quality, high octane real estate agent that can tell you, okay, you can't get rid of this house as long as that craps down there.

You're going to have to go finish that drywall. Okay, that's fine. Now we know what we got to do. Or I can sell it just fine and it'll bring 460 right now with that stupid bare studs down there. Okay, then let's put a sign in the yard and get rid of this stupid thing. There's nothing about this that says blessing. It all says curse. Okay, so if we can't sell it for more than 400,000, then that's what the rule is. Then you're going to have to borrow the money. I don't know. You're going to have to borrow the money, the $10,000 because you sold it for 390 or

whatever it ends $3.90 or whatever it ends up being. But you're going to have to start working a plan aggressively to where as soon as you possibly can that you're out of this house and no excuses to keep it. It was a bad deal. You stepped into a mess. You bought something you could not afford. And now you've got co-signers and borrowed money on credit cards and

mother-in-laws and renters that aren't even there yet. Oh my God, what a mess. And also you could do something that you just couldn't afford to do. You guys just made up a mythical plan that nobody could execute. You know, I'm going to do all these renovations. When? Because I'm at work.

Yeah, okay, there's that. You know, and here we go. You're going to be sitting here five years from now and this house is still going to be hanging around your neck like a millstone. You've got to get rid of this thing as fast as you can with as little loss as possible. If you get out of this and put $5,000 in your pocket, you need to run out of the attorney's office after the closing and stand in the parking lot and do a dance. That's what you need to do and just go, I'm free. Yeah, that's not debt free. I'm just house free. Folks, buying a home is sometimes not a blessing.

Take note. When you do a smart thing a stupid way, it's stupid. It's no longer smart. That was deep, wasn't it? Well, I mean, here's a smart thing. Getting a car that's reliable to get you back and forth to work. Going and leasing a car that costs more than you make in a year is doing a smart thing, buying a car, a stupid way and so you made it stupid. I've done that. All of you have done that. If you've made mistakes with money, you know what that makes you? Over 12. Everyone has. Everyone's done something dumb with money and I think one of my pet peeves, I guess

because my parents were in the real estate business growing up and I got in the real estate business immediately. Three weeks after I turned 18, I got my real estate license, sold a house two weeks later to a guy who buys a house from an 18 year old. I'd managed to pull it off. Anyway, so I love real estate and I love the idea of home ownership and all of our data around becoming a millionaire says that home ownership and getting a paid for home is a key element to your first one to five million dollars of net worth. So if you want to become a millionaire there's really two basic things you have to do the data tells us one is steadily invest in your retirement like 401k's and

Roth's in good growth stock mutual fund over a 10 to a 15 year period of time and the other ones get a nice home that you can afford and get it paid off. If you do those two things, the data says you are more than likely going to be a millionaire as soon as that happens and it's about a 10 year curve to a 15 year curve something like that but then we took that or we took the idea of hey getting getting extra skills get getting an education a four-year degree it's a good thing but we turned it into a stupid thing because we did a smart thing a stupid way

and people go two hundred fifty thousand dollars in debt to get a degree in left-handed puppetry and so you turned education into something stupid which is oxymoronic as it can be. So buying a home is the same thing. Broke people shouldn't buy homes. Well that's mean, no that's love. Because you know what happens if you're broke and you buy a house? You get broker. That's why they call them brokers. When you're broke and you buy a house, a house will bury you. And so I live in my mother-in-law's basement and I want out, so home ownership

is on the horizon. No it's not. You're broke. So you've got to work and, you know, start getting yourself out of debt, build some savings, and get yourself up on solid ground before you buy a house, otherwise the house is going to snap your neck. It's going to crack the whip on you. So buying a home is not a blessing when you're broke. If you are living in your mother-in-law's basement, and you want to be free, I don't blame you. Go rent a one-bedroom apartment. This is what normal human beings do. They don't go buy a half million dollar house with a co-signer. Let me tell you, if you have to borrow money to do this stuff,

you shouldn't be doing it. If you're going to borrow money to buy a house, a 15 year fixed with no co-signer is the maximum we're going to do. But co-signing is straight up dumb. If you have to get a co- cosigner, it's because you're broke. It's because you're not credit worthy. The bank who loves to lend money more than my dog loves to eat, which is a lot. The bank loves to loan money more than anything else. They want to loan money. And if they they won't loan you money it's because you don't need to be borrowing money hello so proverbs it's even in the Bible Proverbs 17 18 says one lacking

in sense cosines for another if you look it up in the CEV the contemporary English version it says if you cosign for someone else you're stupid. That's what the Bible says. Wow. So don't be buying a house because always buying a house is a good idea. Always going to college is a good idea. No, it's not! Going to college is very smart if you know exactly what you want to do and you're studying to do that thing and it is a thing that doesn't have you end up being a barista.

A failed college student that got a degree in something that's absolutely nuanced and worthless and you've got a freaking master's degree in it which makes you double stupid. Same thing buying a house. Let's go buy a house in a way that the home becomes a blessing. So you're out of debt, you have your emergency fund in place, you take out a 15 year fixed rate loan where the payment is no more than a fourth of your take home pay. And you don't need a co-signer. That's it. And then you're ready to start talking about buying a house. Until

then, the house is not a blessing. It's gonna snap your neck like a twig, man. And there's all these smart things that are out there and it's like there's an entitlement thing and it's like, well, you know, it's just not fair that people can't buy a house and you shouldn't make fun of broke people. Well, good God, I've been broke people a couple times in my life and I've decided I don't like it. So I'm not going to do it anymore. I'm going to do what it takes to not be broke people.

I'm going to work like a maniac, save like a maniac and not spend like I'm in Congress and have a plan, you know, and execute, execute, execute. And you know, it's the same thing with a career. It's always smart to be a doctor. No it's not. If you hate being a doctor, that's a dumb idea. My dad always wanted me to be a doctor. That's a dumb reason to be a doctor. I don't want to be your patient. No thank you. And so we do these smart things in dumb ways and they destroy our lives because people put them in the bucket as no matter what, no matter what the cost, it's worth it to own real estate, it's worth it to go to college. No,

it's not. No, it's not. You think about that last call, that young couple, of course they're miserable, you know, living with a set of parents or in one case a set of in-laws. And so what happens is we go from, we don't want this part of our life, so then we go, what do we really want? And we skip the whole, what do we actually need? And what they needed to do was look for a one bedroom apartment over some old lady's garage that they could get for an absolute,

I mean, next to nothing for the transitionary period. That's all a young couple needs. I know when I was born, my mom and dad were living in a one bedroom apartment above a drug store. And that's all they had. And I was okay. You know, I'm messed up for completely different reasons, but not that one.

Yeah. You know, and I just think that there needs to be this exercise on what do we need? What we need is four walls and a roof, and it's okay to rent. And that's the crux of what you're talking about. Everybody wants the house, and so we suspend logic because of desire. Well, I mean, it is, everybody makes fun of the baby boomers and, oh, you bought your house for a basket of strawberries or whatever.

Yeah. And... Yeah, George loves saying that. He dropped that one on me the other day. That's great. But the truth is what we've done is we've adjusted the house. The typical home in America today is two to three thousand square feet. So when my parents moved to Nashville in 1963, they bought a 1,000 square foot, one and a half bath, which means there was a half bathroom in the master. The doors were holocore.

I don't even know if you know what that is. I don't. What is it? It's these doors that are almost like paper mache. Like in a movie when they bust through the door, it's so thin, it's a couple of tiny pieces of wood with some other stuff, that's kind of what they were. And so, you know, there was zero privacy in this house.

You could hear, it's a tiny little house to start with. And I spent the first 16 years of my life in a 1,000 square foot home, one and a half baths, three bedrooms and the bedrooms, I mean, you can put most of the house in this studio right here. But if you ask somebody to move into that today, oh well, no. You can't even find that today. Nobody even makes it. I mean it's just a half-notch

above a tiny house. Yeah. You know? And I'm not suggesting tiny houses. Don't get confused. Oh my gosh. Folks, let's just calm down a little bit here and live within our means. It's a new concept. I've made it popular again. If you're tired of living paycheck to paycheck and feeling like you can't get ahead, join one of our free Every Dollar trainings. There are new trainings every week this month and they're hosted by one of the Ramsey personalities. Today was George Campbell by the way.

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Sure. My question is this, back in the mid-80s, I had a young family and I was convinced that hey I should have life insurance. Well I got hooked up with a life insurance company at the time. It was called Mutual Life Insurance of, well the Mutual Life Insurance Company of New York. You know obviously the name now I think is just money. But I was, I actually signed up for one of the, what they refer to as the vanishing premium policies. And the story was you pay, you know, for 10 years, I think I paid like $145 a month, came out of my checking account for 10 years.

And the deal was that I was thoroughly convinced by the, obviously the life insurance person that, hey, once this is done, you know, you won't have to pay another premium ever. You're done for. So after the 10 years was up, I think I may have had one year where I didn't make a payment, but then the next year it was like $350, and then I think the year after that was $450. So for about three or four years, I actually made those payments and hit about the two thousands and and I was in a little bit of a money slope or a crunch and so I just said hey you know these guys at the time the policy value was close to forty thousand dollars that I paid in over all that time

and so I'm thinking geez I wish they've got my money they've got it invested somewhere I mean and finally I realized that so much of what they were charging me was these exorbitant processing fees and all. So anyway, I got kicked off the situation and I didn't make any payments for five years. Well, after that, between the premiums as well as the, uh, 9% interest rate, and I think at the time it was even higher. It might've been 12 or 14 for those early 2000s. But anyway, long story short and 25 years later, my outstanding balance is about close

to $80,000. And again, I've never taken any cash advantages, advances other than what they've pulled out to pay for the premiums over the years So I was hoping that you might have some sort of an answer to whether I should just Write this policy off and say hey screw it. I have a hundred and fifty thousand dollar policy They're showing they're showing a cash value of how much against the eighty five thousand dollars. I think Right now I think they're only showing about $800 on it. So that would be net. Okay. Oh okay then. That means you're out of an $85,000. Listen,

they don't, they would take the policy out of force. They'll cancel on you if you run out of cash value. Oh really? I think I'm getting pretty close. Yeah, so you're about to break, you're about to cross the lines and they're going to cancel on you. That's what normally happens with these things. The lines cross and they implode. How old are you? I'm 70. My wife and I are both 71. What is your net worth now? Well, you know I've got five residential real estate homes and part of it is worth about two million with all of them.

They're all free and square. So if you die today at 70 years old without any life insurance, is your wife okay? Oh yeah. Okay. Just call them and cancel it. You think so? Oh, absolutely. I mean, we should have done this about 30 years ago, but we'll go ahead and do it today.

I was in the impression that there were some lawsuits on this kind of stuff saying that this kind of thing was illegal and you know, it was taking advantage of people, but I guess it should be illegal and it is taking advantage of people, but I'm not aware of any class action on it. You may be right though. I haven't looked, I haven't heard that, but if you can find a class action on it then I would, but yeah, you got screwed royally, there's no question about that. No, I know. You were lied to and everything else and that's what these people do. It's just a horrible, horrible product and the guy that sold it to you has been out of the business for 30 years, he's off doing something else now.

Yeah, well he's actually passed away a few years ago, but long story short, yeah, it was a real ripoff and I look back and I say, gee, what a mistake that was. You know, wow. Yeah. Now, in regard to you had asked me about the net worth. That was kind of a second part of my question, if you have a few moments. Again, I've got the five houses, free and clear.

I've got about another 100,000, kind of like in savings and stuff like that. Is it prudent given the current market time that I should sell one or two of those homes and put that money in where my wife and I are both 71? I mean, should we do that or is it better holding on to the real estate? It all depends on whether the real estate that you have is good real estate, it's going up in value and it's cash flowing and you like it. If I hate it, if I hate it, it's the neighborhoods deteriorating, yeah I'm going to probably

drop those. Okay, but if you like the properties and you think they're positive things to own, you actually make more money on rental property that's managed well than you do on mutual funds, but there's more hassle because you have to deal with these things called tenants so thanks Bob I'm so sorry that happened to you all right folks let's recap that there's no such thing as a paid up whole life life

insurance policy in this case they named it a brand name called Vanishing Premium. Whoo-hoo-hoo-hoo-hoo-hoo. Vanishing Premium. David Copperfield's involved. Bullcrap. Okay, so what he did for 10 years was he prepaid his life insurance and overpaid dramatically for 10 years. By overpaying he threw a bunch of money into a savings account called cash value. Then they started using that savings account to pay the premiums until as he got older the premiums kept going up

and they burnt up the savings account. That's what he described. Okay, so anytime someone in the life insurance world tells you that you can make your premiums go away, they are a liar. Because as long as you are breathing there is a probability of your death. And as long as there is a probability of your death, there is an actuarial table, a

mathematical factor that tells us what it takes to cover you for life insurance. And so it's based on probability of death. That's why old people life insurance is more expensive than young people life insurance, because the probability of death is higher when you're old. Duh! Okay? So, but anytime someone says they can make that go away, no they can't. It's somewhere in there. And in this case, he just overpaid. He paid way more than he needed to.

And the extra, they threw into a bad investment. And the bad investment was not big enough to continue to pay the increasing cost of giving him coverage as he aged and now they have burned through all of the money that he prepaid and overpaid and they're getting ready to cancel it on him at 70 years old. Which seems kind of timely because well you're more likely to die at 70 so looks like they milked this thing at about the right time didn't they? Hmm think about how this math works. What a screw job, but this is cash value life insurance at its core This is a particularly egregious type of cash value another type. They'll come up with they'll call it single premium Just give me a hundred thousand dollars. We'll put it in an investment

That's your premium and you never have to pay you never have to pay premiums again well no no kidding you know really no kidding of course you don't put a hundred thousand dollars in a mutual fund it would create ten thousand dollars a year in income you buy a lot of life insurance for that for for the rest of your life, and not have it completely self-destruct like Bob Steel did. So, I mean, think about it. If you give somebody a bunch of money, what's the opportunity cost on that money?

What could you have done with that, and how much life insurance or other investments could you have bought with it? A lot! God, these people! It's amazing how powerful words are. They just put vanishing in front of premium and duped Hundreds of thousands of people because it's a fun word vanishing I'm gonna come up with a product

It's gonna be called vanishing waistline. Yeah, you need to yeah, I don't know what it's gonna do But it's gonna you should wear a hat with a rabbit Come on now. Wow. Vanishing premium. Folks, if you like what you hear, help us out by subscribing or following the show. Click those buttons, that subscribe button, that follow button.

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appreciate you. Jake is in Knoxville hi Jake how are you hey Dave thanks for taking my call and how are you guys doing today better than we deserve sir how can we help excellent so I'm a baby steps millionaire and I'm trying to figure out how to manage steps four five and six just quick rundown I've got two million in the 401k I've been contributing the max allowable that the government allows to contribute since about 2010 and I'm considering dropping that down to the company match which is 6% and putting the remainder in either a liquid brokerage account to contribute to kids to continue

contributing to kids college or to just dump it into the house which has 225 left on it. What's your income? My income is 250,000 and my wife just got a job as a teacher. So she'll be making about 50. Okay, so you got 300,000 on our income. Yeah. You know, normally we say 15% of your income going into retirement so that you have some. And kids college is baby step five and then pay off your house is six and you're how old? 42. How old are the kids? Kids are 12 and 8 and we do have a hundred twenty five thousand saved for

them already. Okay. We've been putting $1,200 into a college fund since they were born. Yeah I'd probably just keep doing that and I would drop it back to the match and let's just get this house paid off because you're sitting out of balance way heavier than the 401k and yet your house isn't paid off. So yeah, I want to get that straight. I want to get that balance straightened out a little bit, rebalance these accounts so I'm gonna, you know, violate baby steps, which is something you hardly ever hear us do, but your situation is very weird. You've done an amazing job of saving, and if

we'd have caught you ten years ago, you know, your house would have been paid off, right? Yeah, yeah probably so. Yeah, because you'd only been putting 15% away, and you've been maxing this stuff. You're a savings animal. Way to go. Congratulations. So what's your home worth? My home's worth about $600,000. Okay, cool. Cool. Yeah. Yeah, we don't plan on leaving there anytime soon. Yeah. So you're going to be worth three or four million dollars when you're 45 years old. And congratulations. That's pretty stinking cool. But But yeah you do want to get this house paid off and I would lean into it hard

for the next couple years and and I went back down to match and just keep the 1,200 bucks going in the kids thing that's not a big deal but that's hot your case is highly unusual yeah but I love that you've done it I'm proud for you. I'm certainly not gonna argue with a guy that managed to get two million bucks by the time he was 40 something years old. That's pretty cool, Ken. It's incredible, you know, and I just wanna make this point. There are a lot of people that are new to the show

and you're listening, you're watching this. This is a young guy who's already achieved that and the income is not insane. 250 is great. 250,000 is a great income. Yeah, he's not making 750. Right, but he has really been diligent to save. It is very,000 is a great income. He's not making 750. Right, but he has really been diligent to save. It is very, very possible to do this. And here's a guy that committed early on $1,200. I think it was a month.

No, that's for the kids. Yeah, for the kids. What I'm saying is it's just... 125,000 in that account. Yeah, just tremendous discipline. It can be done, but you have... If we'd have kept him on, we could have learned all the things they said no to over the years to get to those numbers. But to have two million in your retirement account

at that age, it's phenomenal. Reach the point you're gonna be able to do anything you wanna do. Oh, for sure. Pretty quick. Okay, let's just kinda talk about something for a minute. It's good to remind you guys, here's how math thing works. There's an old math trick that's accurate called the Rule of 72.

The Rule of 72 says if you take an interest rate and divide it into the number of 72, it tells you how long it takes a lump sum to double. So if your interest rate was 7.2, divide that into 72, it would tell you in 10 years a lump sum would double invested at 7.2, divide that into 72, it would tell you in 10 years a lump sum would double invested at 7.2. Invested at 10% every 7.2 years it will double. Okay? It's an easy one too. So if we take $2 million at 42 years old and he never adds anything to it, when he's 49 if it's invested in decent mutual funds averaging less than market returns, down around 10%, when he's 49 he's got 4 million, when he's 56

he's got 8 million. Keep going boys and girls. When he's 63 he's got 16 million. When he's 70 he's got 32 million. This guy's changed his family tree. Yeah. Okay. That's if he doesn't add anything to it. If it just sits there and he doesn't touch it. That just that 2 million. That's not his house. That's not his additional investing. And so I'm talking to a young man there that if he lives into his seventies is probably going to be worth north of 50 million dollars. In Knoxville, Tennessee. At 42 years old, he's got this started. So that's when I say I'm proud of him. I mean, that's pretty impressive. When you think about how these numbers work, this is how you change your family tree. Now, do you, you know, is money everything? No,

money's not everything. But when you have 50 million, you're not worried about the cost of Advil if you have a headache. Okay. If you have 50 million and your car breaks, you get in one of your other cars. That's a good point. Well that's a real nuisance. That's a problem. That's an inconvenience. The tires are worn out. Oh, that's an inconvenience. I'll drive the other car this week. Yes, it's the blue one. We'll just have to select a different vehicle today.

And so again, we're not saying money is everything, but what it does do is it gives you margin and it gives you, it lowers your stress level because you're able to do things for you and your family. You're able to help others. Your generosity factor can go through the roof on this stuff and still have an incredible life and still change your family tree. A godly man

lives in inheritance to his children's children, scripture says. So, you know, these are real things that people do out here. And so when I hear these communist socialist types that are out there going, well, the American dream is dead. I submit to you, Jake from Knoxville. I don't think it's dead Ken. No, nor by the way did he mention any inheritance. This is just discipline. Oh, I'm positive he had no inheritance, 100% sure. Phoenix is on the line and that's Lyndon calling.

Hi Lyndon, how are you? Good Dave, how are you doing? Better than I deserve, how can I help? There we go, yeah good to talk to you. I kind of need a little bit of advice here. Okay. So, summing it up quickly, we have about $90,000 in debt right now over three cars, one motorcycle, three grand in student loans and 10,000 credit cards. One of the vehicles, one of the cars is up for sale and one of the motorcycles up for sale. That'll give us about five grand and it'll knock about 30 grand off the debt.

Perfect. And it gives about five grand in cash. Now my wife's income is stable. She makes about four grand a month. She needs an SUV with work. She has to carry sensitive medical material around so her car is kind of set. My income is very sporadic. Some months we make four or five grand, you know, three, four grand more than we spend and some months we make five grand

less than we spend. I own a business, just started it last year. It's yearly recurring services. This is our first year, so we're in the process of signing all those first customers up next year. What will you pay taxes on in your business? What will be your taxable income? About 20%, I believe. No, no, honey. I mean, what will be your taxable income?

How much income will you have on the business that is taxable? Oh, sorry. Yeah. So I make, we make together about 120 a year. No, honey. What do you make on the business? About 65. Okay, so out of all this volatility,

you're still clearing, out of all this volatility, you're still clearing five grand a month average. Yeah, some months it's zero, some months it's 10 grand. I know, but five grand a month average, I got that. So all you gotta do is just leave a little money in the business to cover the back and forth. That's all you do. Leave a little bit in there and then work your plan at home and you'll be fine. You're really on track. You've done well. And of course the

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have any advice on how to get out of this. Wow. So you and your mom are 50-50? More or less a third a piece between my grandfather, my mother and myself, yes. Oh, okay. And you're cosigned with your grandfather and your mother? My grandfather put the down payment. My mother and I legally own it on paper. Oh, okay. So the two of you are on the mortgage and on the deed, but morally he owns one-third because of the down payment. Yes. I see. Okay and what is the house worth? Online it says $575. And what's the current mortgage? $240-250. Okay so there's $300,000 so your share is worth a hundred grand give or take. Does that sound right? That's right. Okay. All right. I don't think you're gonna get your money out kid unless they're all willing to sell. I don't know probably not my grandfather so he's 80 something upper 80s. Um,

so that was, does he live there? Who lives in the house? We all live in the house together. Oh, joyful. Yeah. So 25 when this deal went down, now I'm like, my lower thirties and I'm like, wait a minute. Took a little while to realize how dumb it was. It didn't sound great at the time but I wasn't too concerned. That's where my brain was. Yeah gotcha. So what's your mother's financial situation? Not the greatest. I don't think she has much retirement. And is she retired?

No. She's probably working for the next 15 years. What does she make? 70, 75. Well, I don't hear your 80 something year old grandfather buying you out and I don't hear your broke mother buying you out. So there's only one way out because I mean if your mother made $200,000 a year and she could go get a mortgage, a new mortgage and borrow enough extra to give you 50 or 60 grand and you could go away, I would

suggest you take a deep discount and take that and leave, okay? And that would also get you off the mortgage, which I'm actually more concerned about you getting off of the mortgage liability than I am you getting your money out of this, because you didn't put any money into it, but if you go live somewhere else and then she doesn't pay the bill because you're not put any money into it. But if you go live somewhere else and then she doesn't pay the bill because you're not there to help support this house anymore, you're gonna get foreclosed on. Right.

And we can't do that, that doesn't make sense. I have a quick question. You said you're mobile and what you can do. I work remotely. Okay, so it seems like you probably want to spread your wings and go somewhere else. Is that true? Yeah, the cost of living here is actually ridiculous. What do you make? A hundred thousand.

If you were to go somewhere else... You pay one-third of the payment? Yeah, that's what I was wondering. Yeah, so I'd probably do a third of the mortgage, which is like $700. Invest rate on the mortgage is $4.25. And then the living expenses probably brings me up to like $1,500. And just regular bills. See, the problem is, the answer to your question is how do you get out is the property gets sold?

But I don't know where your grandfather and your mother lived then That yeah I mean, I don't know how I don't know how I can move off to be successful While they also continue to be successful if you live somewhere else I'm guessing you've thought about this before you call this if you live somewhere else Have you run some numbers on how much you could reduce your current cost of living? I just see, I don't know if I have the numbers exactly, but I see there are like other places,

let's say Delaware for instance, where the house, for the amount of house that you get for the amount of money is, you know, I'm cutting in half. Mm-hmm. Okay, so, if we could find a place to park your grandpa and your mom, we would sell the house and everybody would get their money out and everybody would be going on their merry way, okay? He'd have 100 grand, your mom would have 100 grand,

you'd have 100 grand, and we'd be out of this this convoluted horrible idea that you guys have engaged in. But if they don't have a place to live with a hundred thousand dollars, that's not going to work. Nobody's going to sign up for that, okay? So I think I'm going to begin a lot, and if you could figure that out, that's the way to do it. If you can't figure that out, and I don't know what to tell you on that right now So I can't figure it out yet Yeah, it's just I would start I would tell your mom when pop dies for selling the house

We have had that conversation and I'm we're also the family gathering house, so I'm slowly trying to That's irrelevant. They can just go rent an apartment. I mean they go rent a music hall, a dance hall or whatever. I don't care. I don't have to be the dad gum event center. That's ridiculous. So no, mom, mom, mom, mom, when pop dies, we're selling the house. Yeah. Because I have to get off this mortgage and I'm not going to put, I'm not going to demand that we do this now and put everybody in the street, but you need to know I'm going to Delaware, I'm going to keep paying my share until he dies and when he dies, we're selling the house. Okay. Yeah. And you need to have that like a very kind and low key but very blunt conversation.

I don't want any nuance around this and follow it up with an email. Mom, this is what we talked about, this is an uncomfortable conversation, but I'm letting you know I cannot stay in this until you die. But I will stay in it until Pop dies. Right. And I had that understanding at 25 that it was until my grandparents. Yeah, I know. But everybody has short memories. Because these ideas of the kind of crap you all have signed up for is what you're... It's just a horrible deal.

Who would... So moms and dads and grandparents don't do this to your kids. You're not blessing them. You're trapping them. Sylvia is in Houston. Hi Sylvia, welcome to the Ramsey Show. Thanks Dave, thanks for taking my call. Sure, what's up? So I'm 56 years old and I would like to retire by 65 at the very latest and I'm starting to stress about if I'm on track and how to manage the next nine years financially so that I'm in a good position. How much is in your nest egg now? Well, so I have like 1.2 million in my retirement account.

I owe, so I have $125,000 in my savings account, but because I'm self-employed, I put the money there to pay for my 401k, my quarterly taxes, my office overhead and everything like that. And my income is very inconsistent. So some months I make a couple thousand. What is your annual income? It's usually between $350, thousand. Okay and do you have any debt? Yes I do. I still owe two hundred and ninety two thousand dollars on my mortgage. I'm on track to have that paid off by 2030. like within the next 10 years I'm on track to pay that off.

Okay. All right, so nine years from now your house is paid for, your 1.2 if it's in good mutual funds will be 2.4, probably more like 4, probably around 4 million. Okay. If it's in good mutual funds, is it? Yes, I have it professionally managed. So it's, it's, the rate of return is close to 11%. Okay, good. Alright, and it's gonna double. And then your lump sum that's already there

is gonna double in seven years. Okay. So your 1.2 will be 2.4 and you've got nine years, so let's call that 2.4. Let's call it three, three three and a half something like that and plus you're gonna be adding to it so let's go ahead and call it four and a paid for house and you'll be 65 yes okay paid for house and four million dollars and no other debt well I do have some other debt. Well, I do have some other debt. I mean at that point Well, and that's one of my one of my questions is do I do I because I'm self-employed I'm solely responsible for funding my 401k So my question one of my questions today is do I put more money towards my 401k or do I pay off my car?

notes I know your car notes, you stop putting money in retirement until you get your car paid for and then you quit borrowing money quit what? quit borrowing money stop it if you want to retire with dignity if you quit borrowing money you pay your car off and then you start your 401k and you make three hundred grand you're gonna do it this and then you start your 401K, and you make 300 grand,

you're gonna do it this year, okay? You're gonna do it by Christmas. So it's not the end of the world. Pay it off fast. Get done with it. And then systematically pay off your home. And I try to get my house paid off faster than your plan. I think your plan's a little weak.

But either way, either way, either way, at nine years, you're gonna be sitting on $4 million or more in your mutual funds with a paid-for house okay now okay if you invest that continue to invest that at 11 and you were to pull off eight and it grows by 11 every year until you die you're gonna continue for it to grow by three because you're gonna consume eight eleven minus eight is three. You follow me? Yeah. Okay. So if you let it grow by three to cover some inflation, pull off eight. So eight is going to be two hundred and forty thousand dollars a year. Okay. So that's what four million dollars at eight percent is and

That and you're not even touching the four million and you're growing it by three percent a year and That's you in nine years. Okay, you're fine But you got to execute if you can't go screwing around I'm doing a bunch of stupid stuff, right? But I mean if you execute the plan that you already were on and we just fine-tuned that's where you'll be So you're saying to you maybe not fund my 401k the plan that you already were on and we just fine-tuned that's where you'll be. So you're saying to maybe not fund my 401k this year? No for two or three months. How much do you own your stupid car? On my car I owe 15 and on and it's only one year old so I've been I can I pay extra um my my car only oh 15 it's one year old.

My, it's not that 4%. My son's car that I pay for is 11%. How old is your son? It's 11. He's in, he's in college. He's 19. And so I felt, and I have college tuition at about 25 K a year. You need to pay off these stupid cars and quit borrow money. You don't have too much money coming in to be borrowing money on cars, particularly 11 freaking percent. My God. No, no, no. I'm sorry. It was $11,000 at 2.5%. I misspoke. But car debt with your income and your net worth is just lazy. Okay. You know better.

Okay. It's just, you know, you know better than that. Just clean that mess up. Okay. So, I can pay off, so take the money out of my savings account pay off both these cars tomorrow Yeah, yeah, and then rebuild your savings account and you probably can still do your 401k this year with money you make Yeah, I can fund part of it. Just maybe not the max right? Yeah, but you're still gonna be okay You got nine more years and you're gonna get your house paid off now, and you're gonna have four million dollars, and you're gonna be living on a quarter million dollars a year.

It's a pretty good situation. I'm not sure she heard you. She's still living in the present, and I already took her down there to nine years. Yeah, I thought that was the means. I'm pretty comfortable at nine years. Yeah, I think that's means her celebration. Yeah, but you gotta execute all the way through.

Right. You gotta keep going. You gotta do the whole thing and Don't stop Ava's in San Jose, California. Hi Ava. How are you? Hi, good. Thank you. Thanks for taking my call. My question is about where to keep my money I am with us think it's where I always have been but I've heard of this online banking called so fine I don't know if you've heard of this online banking called Stofi. I don't know if you've heard anything about it.

Oh yeah, I know a little bit about it. I'd stay away from those people. They're about the only thing I can think of that's worse than US Bank. Oh, that's what I told you. Listen, you need to go to your local community bank or go to a good credit union like Fairwinds Credit Union that we endorse. And these are banks that actually know the human beings that do business with them. The people that you're talking about you're a number with. Oh I see. Yeah and then get you a good high-yield savings account to park your emergency

fund in. Fairwinds Credit Union is an endorsement of ours. We endorse them because we believe in credit unions, we believe in ours we endorse because we believe in credit unions we believe in good ones and we believe in good small town small community banks but we don't do business with the Wells Fargo's and the Bank of America's the US banks the fifth-thirds and God help you the sofas oh we'll help you get out of debt oh bull crap You're gonna shovel so much debt down your throat you won't be able to breathe. Hey, how you think you sponsor a stadium? It wasn't by helping you get out of debt, I can tell you that. There ain't no Ramsey Stadium. We noticed that, okay?

It'd be great, though. Do what? I said that'd be great. It's funny, he's asking Dave Ramsey if he's heard of Sofi, is like asking a Catholic if they've heard of the Pope. Well the Pope would be an authority for the Catholic and Sofi would not be an authority for us. Just the idea of, yeah, I'm fairly familiar. It's run across my desk a few times.

Heard of Chevrolet Ford, yeah. Right. Oh man. That's fun. Yeah, a good high-yield savings account with a, you know, a click and mortar is fine. Just make sure you're checking in, you know, you're looking at what you're doing. I personally bank at a regional bank in our area is our primary and then another regional bank is our secondary. And then I've got is our secondary and then

I've got a few odds and ends accounts but I don't do any business with the Bank of America's or the fifth-thirds of the world. I mean think about it, here's the one I can't get past was the old Wells Fargo they had 200,000 employees that committed fraud in the last little debacle they had. I can't even imagine having 2,000 employees and then having them commit fraud. And then somehow they're still open.

It's like, gee! It just shows the power and the size of that kind of money. It's unbelievable. In the lobby of Ramsey Solutions, there's always about 50 to 200 folks come by, sit and watch the show. We do it on the glass from one to four every Monday through Friday. So come watch and hang out. It's a free coffee. It's wonderful. Homemade chocolate chip cookies are amazing.

And also in that same lobby is the debt free stage. And that's where Erica's standing. Hey, Erica, how are you? Hey, I'm good. How are you guys? Better than we deserve, welcome. Good to have you, where do you live? I live in Denver. Fun, and here to do a debt-free scream.

How much have you paid off? $206,000 in 22 months. I love it, in 22 months? Yep. Woo hoo hoo! Okay, and what was your range of income during this time? I started at 100 and I went up to 250 annually. In two years? Correct.

What in the world do you do for a living? I'm a forensic accountant. Ah, okay. So you just kind of came out of school and went crazy? No, actually I was working a salaried W-2 position to start and just doing some side hustles in the beginning. And then a few months into the progress, I actually got cut loose from that job and took a couple different routes

to finally figure out that I was gonna go off on my own and do independent contracting. So that's what I did and have been. And it doubled your income. Yeah, exactly. Wow, very impressive. Yeah. Very cool.

Well, that makes a lot of sense then on how we can get after 206,000. What kind of debt was that? Mostly student loans. About 71% of it was student loans. Then the rest of it was some credit card and then a little bit in cell phone and medical loan and things like that.

Okay, cool. So your degree's in accounting. Correct. I assume, okay. Yep, and I have a master's as well. Good for you. Yeah, cool. So your degree's in accounting? Correct. I assume, okay. And I have a master's as well. Good for you, yeah. I can imagine. Wow.

So what made you decide to get this fired up and this intense? Because you went after it, girl. Yeah, I'm just, I mean, I'm a disciplined person to begin with, but I think coming out of school, there was a lot of pressure around, you know, I need to start paying these things off, but in my first job, I wasn't making a whole lot of money and just couldn't

figure out how I was going to do that exactly. But started dating somebody who's here with me today and could tell that he had his financial picture together. And as we, and he didn't have a master's degree in accounting. No. And as he and I got to talking more you know we wanted to have deeper conversations about finances and I just couldn't bring myself to have those conversations. I was embarrassed and that ultimately told me that this is an insecurity that I need to fix. How'd you find out about Ramsey or get tied to us? Well my mom actually did FPU and my dad did too and when I was in high school and my mom paid off a bunch of debt using your program as well.

Mm-hmm. So that comes back to memory when you're sitting with this embarrassment you called it? Yeah. Yeah and you know just I had kind of remembered your program through the years and figured you know I gotta give this a try. I gotta fix something because this isn't working for me. I don't like this stress and embarrassment and insecurity I'm feeling. Okay I gotta ask a disciplined person, self-described, and obviously you've proven it. This is unbelievable. Thank you. How intense and I mean practical, what were you doing? Did you even live a life other than sleeping, working, and putting money away? Give us an idea

what you did. Yeah, I mean I worked all the time, as you guys say to do, all the time, so initially it was just side hustles. I worked in the day and overnight where I could, and then as things got better with my day job, I picked up any other independent contracting gig I could get. So I was working all the time. I had to cut away from traveling, which I love, and fun and trips, and often had to say no

to some of these friends who are here with me today because the goal was more important than anything else. away from traveling, which I love, and fun, and trips. And often had to say no to some of these friends who are here with me today because the goal was more important than that. It's cool to see them here though, Dave, because even if they thought you're crazy, they don't now, because they're over there admiring you. Oh, they did.

They thought I was crazy. I'm sure. So 22 months though, I mean, you turned up the heat and beans and rice, no life, leaning months though, I mean you turned up the heat and beans and rice, no life, leaning in completely, single person, I don't have to talk anybody into this, I'm just gonna go do it and I'm gonna knock this out fast with great gazelle intensity. Was it worth it?

Absolutely, I would not go back. Yeah, and I tell everybody that, even if they still think it's crazy and nuts what I did, I'm like, it is so much better on the side of it. And I was just saying to somebody a few minutes ago where we're waiting for the segment that I just don't feel guilty anymore about taking these trips or having fun.

I feel like I earned it. You did. Mm-hmm. That's why you feel that way, yeah, yeah. And you more than earned it. I mean you did something highly unusual, which is that's the sign of being a successful person by the way. But yeah, pretty impressive. Yeah, because I wonder if you had done it at half speed like on a 44 month schedule rather than a 22 month schedule, if you'd even made it.

Yeah. Well, initially that's the way it kind of looked was that it was going to take much longer. I think beginning looking at. But you turned up the heat on the income. Yeah. And each time I got a new opportunity, it just opened up more money. It opened up better work-life balance or, you know, people that I, I worked with in my office, it just became better and better and better. So all of a sudden, you know, the timeline shrunk little by little. And here I am at 22 months later, done.

How much did your skill and experience as a forensic accountant play into your crunching numbers and budgeting? My guess is your budget is unbelievable. Oh yeah, I'm a total nerd. I'm down to the last cent. That's what I thought. Yeah, I really am detailed about that kind of thing.

Yeah, it was 71% was their student loans. Very specific. I picked up on that. I'd be terrified to submit a budget to you. I really would. You should, you should. That's fun, I'm very proud of you. Thank you.

I'll talk to your mom and dad at the break a minute ago, getting a picture. They're just busting at the seams, they're so proud of you. And they should be, they should be. It's very, very cool. Way to go. How old are you?

31. Wow. Oh, man. Okay, now when the income levels off to normal now, I mean the hours level off to normal, what do you think your income's gonna stabilize at? It's actually still at the 250. Oh, is it?

Okay, so you've just been able to get the right kinds of clients, but in a normal amount of hours now. Yeah, exactly. Like I can work as much as I want to, so I think that number I provided is more on the safer side, more conservative, but I could work limitless if I really want to.

Of course it was. Yeah. Of course it was conservative. Yeah, okay, all right. So that's not, I mean that wasn't like you working 90 hours or something. Yeah, in the process, of course I was working. You got there, but I mean that wasn't like you working 90 hours or something. Yeah, in the process of course I was working. You got there, but I mean, but today you don't have to work that 90 hours to get that number.

No, I don't have to. That's what I'm saying. Right, exactly. Way to go. There's a young guy over there that is hoping it stays that way. He might get to see you now. That's good stuff. All right, so someone listening that doesn't have a master's degree in accounting,

what do you tell people the key to getting out of debt is? What was it emotionally or mathematically? What was the key? A few things. One, just being disciplined. And I kept using the metaphor that, you know, even when you go, people wanna go change their body to look different.

A lot of people don't wanna do the hard thing, which is diet and exercise. It's just the discipline factor of like, you got to buckle down, you got to say no to stuff. You have to cut off the credit card use. I think things really changed when I started using a budget massively. I use a lot of visualization too. So one thing that I always practiced in my overnight job was listening to the podcast and pausing the debt free scream if pretending that was me and how would I respond to this and just using that visualization, I was said, you know, I'm going to get here. I'm going to be right here on this stage.

She's rehearsed this once or twice. Well, you should have. I'm glad you did. Yeah, that's amazing. You know, the, um, yeah, what you said there really doesn't matter. You have to see, when you can see yourself doing it, that's called hope. And people that don't have hope don't move forward on whatever it is. And it's interesting too, with a master's degree in accounting, and I've got a degree in finance, we weren't taught how to do a budget. A personal budget that didn't ever come up. I mean a business budget or to analyze a P&L, yeah and see where the problems were and what the issues were with the cash flow which is

your forensic accounting what you're doing but you're doing analysis obviously. But we weren't taught to do okay the light bill is this and here's the grocery bill and here's what the rent is. That never came up. Personal finance is not part of an academic training in our world. And so for you to sit down and do that, it's kind of like, it sounds so stinkin' obvious

that a master's in accounting would do that. But I'm so proud of you. Well done. All right, Erica from Denver, 206,000 paid off in 22 months, making 100 to 250. Count it down, let's hear a debt-free scream. Three, two, one, I'm debt-free! Yeah!

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Jennifer's in Little Rock. Hi Jennifer, how are you? Hi sir, thank you so much for taking my call. Sure, what's up? Well, I'm desperate for some sound advice. My mom is in the middle of escrow. She's actually very near the end of escrow trying to sell her home. Very late in the process. We discovered that there were three liens on the home from a loan that my dad took out in 2007. Now my dad died in December of last year, and this was news to us. My mom did not know about these lanes.

And since we feel like we're running out of time, we don't have any answers questioned as far as if my dad ever tried to pay these back, if the person ever tried to collect over the last 18 years. So my question is, do we continue with the sale of the house and cut the lien holder a significant check due to the supposed interest at the crude? Do we pull out of the sale of the house? Have you been in touch with the lien holder? do we pull out of the sale of the house? Have you been in touch with the lien holder? The lien holder has been negotiating with the real estate office and they've let us know in no uncertain terms that she is difficult to work with,

not a very nice person. What's the lien from? We don't know. Our best guess is that he was trying to borrow some money to help the house not to be in default Way back, but he borrowed it from an ex-co-worker And she is listed as the trustee and her company her real estate company is listed as the beneficiary But this is all we know all we know is that there were okay? So you actually have you've had contact and they gave you a payoff amount and you

just don't like it. Yeah. Well, no, they haven't. We have been told that she wants the amount that was owed plus interest. That would be reasonable. Right, but she won't let us see anything. And we were told this week actually that she would give us numbers. We've asked for a promissory note. We've asked for any indication that any of this has ever been touched, paid, or sought after over the last 18 years. How much is it?

So the loan was $33,500 and so we're looking at upwards of $67,000. And what's the equity in the home? It's still a very large amount. My mom is trying to sell it and so far she might only walk away with $180,000. She's selling it for $900,000. And you said there's other liens? Well, it's all three separate liens to the same person in the total of $33,000. Oh, I got you. Okay. Well, you've got two choices. One is you get a number, a solid number from this person and you pay them that amount and you get clear title. And even if you don't like it. Two is you delay escrow. Just call the buyer and

go we can't sell it because we can't get settlement on this lien. I can't give you clear title. The contractor you sign says you have to offer them clear title and you can't because you can't get to the bottom of this lien and then you sue the woman that's what I was the other option is do we just get rid of money and then come back for it no no you know you don't give her the money if you're gonna sue her you stop the sale okay don't sell the house okay give her give her nothing Don't give her money to buy the attorney to fight you with. And that's the other aspect. We've been turned down by two probate attorneys and one real estate attorney who refused to

take our case and we don't know why. But we don't have access to my dad's bank account and we know that he was given a large sum of money before he died that we are hoping and praying that maybe he applied to this loan. But we just don't have the time to research because we're not sure how much time we're going to get. Well, you think this woman is ripping you off is what you're saying. Yes.

Yes. We just don't pressure. You think she's been paid and she's acting like she didn't? Yes. Yes. I mean, she's threatened to foreclose on my... When she found out that my dad had died and that we were seeking to, you know, fulfill this loan or whatever, she said,

so sorry for your loss. I was actually about to foreclose on this property. So it's been very difficult. You're going to have to get, you know, it's not unusual for you to ask some kind of forensic proof on how the balance was ascertained and and and you know why do you not have access to your dad's how long got your dad died I was this last December and unfortunately he was not good with money so my parents know kidding and so the but I mean why do you not have access to his accounts yet well we tried to get it through probate, but like I said,

we've had two attorneys tell us that this is just too much of a big mess and either they don't want a part of it or it just, I guess doesn't matter to them to try to pursue this for us. But your mom didn't have access? No, she did not. She was not listed on the account anyway. And when you try, she's locked up. You just hadn't found a good attorney yet. I mean it's not a big deal to get access to accounts.

That's what we've been told, but no one will to accounts. And if you get access to the accounts, then you can tell whether he actually paid something. And you've got proof that he paid something against this lien. But we don't know what the original lien is. There's no paperwork on any of it anywhere. Right. Right. Yeah. So we're asking for more time, but we're feeling backed into a corner with escrow closing. You have a choice. You have a choice. You either delay the closing and sue the woman and get the thing in probate and get the account information out and do a full forensic on it and figure out what's really owed, if anything, on this lien or you just write her a check and move on with your life. Yeah. Yeah. And by the way, just to be very clear, I don't know that this woman's a crook.

And by the way, just to be very clear, I don't know that this woman's a crook. Your dad is the one, sorry, that's to blame for all this. Oh yes. Not this woman. She probably, she very legitimately loaned him hard cash at some point. And he didn't document squat and she wants her money back. I really don't hear anything wrong with what she's doing except that she's a bit of a butt. That's the only thing I hear from her, okay?

But she could be just disgusted with your family. That's very possible. I mean, so I'm gonna give you a better than 50% chance. She's giving you real numbers I don't hear anything here that sounds crooked to me Other than the fact that she's got an attitude But if you think that if you have some reason to believe she's cooking the books Then the only thing you can do is delay the closing or stop the sale completely lose the buyer

Get another buyer later after you sue her and get to the bottom of this and you get the you get the you know but you may go through $20,000 in legal fees only to find out that you actually owe all this that's very possible but now I will tell you in your defense since I took up for this lady the lady ought to be able to just provide you guys with some basic documentation and go look your dad loaned me I loan him this much money he never paid on it I'm aggravated with him so therefore I'm aggravated with y'all even though you didn't do anything technically but he loaned me 33,000 I loan him 33,000 dollars on this date I never have received anything here's the interest rate here's the promissory note or here's the email that we used to do the

agreement with I don't care what's what's the structure of this loan provide some kind of documentation so that she's got a little bit more credibility rather than just flipping you the bird but but it doesn't sound like nobody in this whole story has done a good job. Your attorneys haven't done a good job, your real estate agent hasn't done a good job, your dad didn't do a good job, this lady hadn't done a good job, so nobody in here is blameless, but I got a feeling, just listen to this, that your dad borrowed $33,000 from her and never paid her. That's just kind of what it sounds like. That fits the pattern of the other stuff he did.

So you may wanna just add up the interest on the $33,000 and pay her and move on with your life and then go get a probate attorney and try to get those accounts unlocked and figure out if there's any money in there and then be shocked if there is. Wow. Could a forensic accountant help with this?

Yeah, but you gotta be able to get a hold of the information. Yeah, so the probate's first. The lady that just did the debt-free scream could help her, you know? Well, I was wondering if a forensic accountant could do the research on the lady who loaned dad the money. But you got to be able to lay your hands on documentation. Somebody's got to have a file somewhere. E-file or hard copy, either one. You got to be able to say, here's the actual promissory note, here's the terms of the note.

And so, yeah, he's in default and I was getting ready to foreclose. Yeah. Ouch. What a mess. Yeah. I think you, it's a coin toss, Jennifer. I don't know which one I would do. I'd want to learn a little bit as much as I could learn and I got a feeling she's probably got a fairly legitimate claim. That puts this hour of The Rims. You're showing the books. We'll be back with you before you know it. In the meantime remember there's ultimately only one way to financial peace and that's to walk daily with the Prince of Peace, Christ Jesus.