Live Like a Girl with Dr. Mindy Pelz - Navigating Perimenopause: Metabolic Health, Brain Fog & Belly Fat with Dr. Carrie Jones
Episode Date: September 30, 2024Dr. Carrie Jones returns for another insightful episode on perimenopause and menopause, focusing on hormonal shifts starting around age 35. She discusses metabolic health, the role of lifestyle change...s, intermittent fasting, protein intake, strength training, and the importance of managing stress and sleep. Dr. Jones and Dr. Mindy explore how the brain begins to rely on ketones instead of glucose and advocate for a personalized approach to health amidst the information overload surrounding menopause. They also highlight the cultural shift towards better menopause education and the journey to self-authenticity and joy in post-menopausal years. To view full show notes, more information on our guests, resources mentioned in the episode, discount codes, transcripts, and more, visit https://drmindypelz.com/ep255 Carrie Jones, ND, FABNE, MPH is an internationally recognized speaker, consultant, and educator on the topic of women's health and hormones with over 20 years in the industry. Dubbed the "Queen of Hormones," Dr. Jones is a Naturopathic Physician who did her 2-year residency focused on women's health and endocrinology. She went on to get her Master of Public Health and was one of the first to become board certified through the American Board of Naturopathic Endocrinology. She was the first Medical Director for Precision Analytical (the DUTCH Test) and the first Head of Medical Education at Rupa Health. She co-hosts the highly popular show, the Root Cause Medicine Podcast, that has over 10 million downloads. She is the Clinical Expert for the Lifestyle Matrix Resource Center, was on Under Armour's Human Performance Council, works with the new League One Volleyball (LOVB) organization and is an advisor to Metapause. Currently she is the Chief Medical Officer at NuEthix Formulations and Head of Medical Education at Metabolic Mentor University. Check out our fasting membership at resetacademy.drmindypelz.com. Please note our medical disclaimer.
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On this episode of The Resetter podcast, I am bringing you not only a hormone expert that is like what I call the OG of hormones.
She has been educating the world about hormones for decades.
But I'm also blessed to call her a friend.
And I really want you to know this woman because she can provide not only incredible tools to you for helping your hormonal journey, but she'll do it with a whole lot of laughter.
So you're about to hear my conversation with Dr. Carey Jones.
And Dr. Carrie Jones is a natural path.
She also used to be the medical director of the Dutch test, which is a hormone test.
And you're going to hear us talk about that because this is important to this conversation
because she saw hundreds of thousands of hormone tests.
And she saw some similarities in those tests.
she saw lifestyle changes that needed to happen.
She has a very unique lens when it comes to hormonal education.
Now, mix that with the fact that she has been educating on social media hormones for
almost two decades before any of us were on educating.
In fact, you'll hear it in this conversation.
She was one of the people, as I was trying to put the hormonal picture together for my
patients and for myself, Carrie was an advisor.
that I leaned into often.
She was pivotal in helping me come up with the fasting cycle idea,
if those of you that have read Fast Like a Girl.
So she's wise.
And I wanted to bring her to you to specifically talk about the perimenopausal journey.
And I wanted to talk about it through the lens of our metabolic system
because this is where so many of us get tripped up.
If we go into our 40s with poor metabolic health, our menopausal journey becomes very wild.
And there's multiple factors for that.
So you're going to hear in this conversation why metabolic health is the most important
health and the most important system for perimenopausal and menopausal women to work on.
It's also going to lead to that conversation that so many of you have,
which is around belly fat.
What is that?
And what about our brains?
Let's talk about our brains.
Where does our metabolic health translate to brain fog?
So what you're about to hear is a beautiful conversation about the perimenopausal journey
through the lens of metabolic health.
And then we end on what I think is a beautiful place, which is, where are we going to
in this menopausal journey?
what's the destination?
We keep talking about the turbulence of the journey, but where is the destination?
And that's at the back half of the conversation.
So I'll let you hear both of us hypothesize about what the post-menopausal years
are meant to be and what they should look like and how we can use our perimenopausal
journey to end up in perhaps the most beautiful place that we have ever seen.
So Dr. Kerry Downs, enjoy.
Welcome to the Resetter podcast.
This podcast is all about empowering you to believe in yourself again.
If you have a passion for learning, if you're looking to be in control of your health and take your power back, this is the podcast for you.
Okay, well, my sweet, sweet friend, Dr. Carrie Jones, I think this might be the third time I've brought you.
on to my podcast. Is that correct?
Yeah, I'm here for it.
I love it. Third time's a charm.
Here's what's interesting and why I wanted to bring you back is, well, for starters,
I need to publicly make sure that everybody knows that you were instrumental in putting
the fasting cycle together for Fast Like a Girl.
I know you were excited about the acknowledgement in the back, but it was way more than that.
And I loved collaborating with you from a lens of lifestyle, what we were both seeing,
clinically and like being able to put for people that didn't know I literally drew out the fasting
cycle on a whiteboard and then I zoomed with Carrie and I was like what do you think of this?
How you know am I thinking this through? And so she geeked out on the fasting cycle with me for
a good month before I was brave enough to put it in the book. So I have to give you credit for that
and thank you for that. Oh my gosh. Any time and now hundreds of thousands of copies later
fast like a girl of course is super globally.
And I love when people go, have you read fast like a girl? Are you familiar with the book? I'm like, I am actually. I'm in the acknowledgments. Let me just hair toss that. But this is why I'd love having a conversation with you is because when it comes to hormones, you and I, because of our background, because of the way we were trained, we see things from a very holistic lens. And mix that with, I mean, you and I were talking just before you came,
on like you were like one of the OGs that were teaching lifestyle and hormones on Instagram for
years. I mean, when I was a newbie just understanding hormones, you were my go-to. Like I went to
everything on your Instagram to learn what I couldn't find in textbooks. So when did you, just
out of curiosity, when did you start your Instagram? Oh my gosh. Well, I honestly, truth be told,
I started an Instagram that I lost the password. So it was a dead Instagram.
for a little while. And then I could do the password reset and got it all figured out. But gosh,
when did I, 2014, 2015, maybe? Way back, playback. Back when I had no idea what I was doing.
Yeah, but you had a lot of Dutch tests. So talk maybe a little bit before we dive into the good stuff.
You got to see women's hormones through like, I don't know, hundreds of thousands of Dutch tests.
Yeah, so it started out. Which is a really big lens.
Huge and global, too. That's what was so neat. It started out in an integrative clinic. I live outside of Portland, Oregon. So it started there. So I got to see firsthand, you know, boots on the ground, all the women that came through my clinic. And then it expanded out to the Dutch test where I became their medical director. And very quickly, from the beginning when the Dutch was startup. But very quickly, hundreds of thousands globally. And we have, they had accounts in Australia and South Africa and Hong Kong and all things.
through Europe and China and et cetera.
And so I got to see not only what's happening
in the United States and Canada, but all across.
And it was very, very, very similar.
Even though those countries' rules around hormones
or rules around testing or how they approached
it might have been different,
the symptoms women were having,
the outcomes women were having,
it was really interesting to see.
And again, predominantly first world countries,
how women were experiencing PMS, P-COS, Fertility,
perimenopause,
menopause and get that feedback and do all the consults with all the practitioners all over the
world gave me that huge lens on how to educate for hormones. And were there some like commonalities
that you saw like things that you were like predictable for all women going through menopause?
Stress and sleep probably over and over and over again. Yes. And I would say nutrition,
but I think stress and sleep because that's what the test also evaluates stuck out the most.
to remember being in a conference in Guadalajara, Mexico, and the doctor brought me, and OBGYN
brought me a Dutch test and said, look at her hormones, what would you do? And her cortisol was off
the chart. And I said, okay, before we get to her hormones, estrogen progesterone, what's going
on with her stress? And the doctor waved her hand and she said, oh, she's very stressed. But everybody is.
Tell me what to do with her estrogen progesterone. I was like, no, even here, anywhere,
we have to work with the woman's stress. It's going to impact her hormones. And I'm
Unfortunately, I don't remember the age of the woman, but probably early 40s, if I recall,
and how that can really impact sleep, weight gain, energy, brain fog, the whole thing.
So, and I just saw that globally.
Yeah. And, you know, it's interesting because I'm at where I'm at, I'm about a year and a half without a cycle.
And when I go back and I look at my 40s, I think if I could have told her one thing, I would have told her just chill the fuck.
out. Like your stress is causing more hormonal problems than need be. And so I really, really
resonate with that. The other thing I've thought about, and again, we're going to get into some
really meaty topic here, but one of the other thing that I've thought about is the way we use
HRT across the globally. And the most current statistics that I can see is that actually in Japan,
they, like 4% of women going through menopause use HRT.
Whereas we're now approaching 50% of women.
I don't know if that's accurate,
but that was the most recent I saw of Americans
going through menopause that are using HRT.
And I'm not, I mean, we can dive into the pros and the cons of that,
but my concern is that as HRT is making its comeback,
that we are losing the language of love.
lifestyle and women are going through this process and they are saying to themselves,
oh, okay, it's horrible.
I just need to find the right doctor with the right HRT for me and this will all go away.
Whereas the lens that I think through is actually, I think the process ultimately is happening
for you.
And we can talk about that.
And in that perimenopausal process, you have an opportunity to change your lifestyle.
you have an opportunity to come back to a more authentic version of yourself. You have the opportunity
to heal some traumas that maybe, you know, needed attention. And if we start lathering creams on
ourselves and patches, we lose that opportunity. Does that, does that feel, does that resonate with you?
100%. And I've seen this posted before in social media and I love it. I see practitioners say,
yes, we love estrogen. Yes, we love progesterone, but it's not going to tell you to go to bed and
stop scrolling mindlessly. It's not going to tell you to put that second glass of wine down.
It's not going to tell you or encourage you to lift the heavier weight or get your steps in for the
day or say no set boundaries, schedule the therapy appointment. And I thought, yeah, we need,
we need both. We need the best of both worlds to really help women thrive through this.
Because I definitely see the benefit, of course, of the hormone therapy. I see in the thousands
of comment sections about it changed my life. I feel so much better. You know, mood and hot flashes
and what have you. And I also see the women are like, yeah, it helps some things, but I still can't
sleep that well, or I'm still, I've still have 20 pounds on me I can't get rid of, or I'm still
in an unhappy relationship, or whatever it may be. And I definitely think taking the 360
approach to the perimenopausal transition is ultimately where the pendulum needs to go. We've gone
from no hormones. You know, we've swung way to the no hormone with the women's health initiative.
And now we're swinging all the way to the other side of we need to put it in the water, pass it out like Oprah gives out cars.
Everybody needs hormones, you know, completely forgetting all the other lifestyle important things that we need as women to get the 360, you know, not just survive, but thrive.
Yeah. Where are you in your menopuzzled journey?
Well, I don't, yeah. When you said you're a year and a half out from your cycle,
I almost said to you, did you get a medal? Do I get a watch?
No.
Did somebody throw you a party?
You were supposed to give it to me. Nobody threw me a party. Nobody gave me. I was waiting for you.
You were my home.
I should have. I should have sent you the Rolex, right?
Showed up at my doorstep.
Congratulations. No more bleeds. So I'm 47. I am technically by definition.
There are two stages of perimenopause early and late. And that drives me crazy.
because early is classically defined as your cycles are off by seven days,
and late is defined as your cycles are off by 60 days.
And I'm like, well, I'm not really either, but I'm 47.
So I would describe if I could redefine it.
I'm in the middle.
I'm in middle perimenopause.
They definitely have symptoms, but I still have regular cycles.
They're shorter than they used to be.
And, you know, labs are starting to change.
So I feel like I'm right in the middle.
And at 47, you know, you and I've been.
chatting for close to probably 10 years now, where let's just say at 47, do you have a personal
different perspective on perimenopause compared to your 40-year-old self? When I was in my late
30s seeing patients, and I'm sure you had the same thing, I would have women older than me go,
you just wait. And they would laugh, right? You just wait. You just wait. On your 45th birthday,
you won't be able to sleep. You won't be able to accomplish your task like you used to,
where you have to write everything down.
You won't be able to drink wine like you used to.
Your liver can't handle it.
And I was like, no, no.
I'm a functional integrative doctor.
I'm sure I, no, no, none of that was true at all.
I definitely remember the day I went to open a tab on my computer and I thought,
what was I doing?
What tab was I just going to open?
And I thought, oh, no, it's starting.
And same for names.
It's somebody I've known a long time.
And I thought, what was their name again?
Oh, right.
It'll come.
It's very stuttery.
The sleep, for sure.
By the 43, 44 years old, I could tell I was starting to wake up a lot.
My hormone testing was showing my progesterone was down.
I wasn't creating it like I used to.
The alcohol, not my friend, interferes with sleep, gets in the way my stress, heart rate variability.
So all the things the women ahead of me told me were true.
Now, I will say at 47 years old, and I don't think it's genetics, I feel like I've had a fairly good time of it.
Even my husband has pointed that out.
but like you, I have an in-depth lifestyle degree.
I'm in a lot of debt for what I know about diet, nutrition, exercise, supplements, and all the things.
And that's what I'm very well said.
That's what I'm trying to like you get out there for education to help everybody else.
But yes, I'm not as sharp as I used to be.
I get probably tired.
I don't handle stress as well as I used to.
Ooh, and here's another one.
Leading up to my periods, I feel like my moods are a lot more labile.
In fact, I looked up the definition, the DSM-5 definition of premenstrual dysphoric disorder this last cycle.
Because I thought, oh, no.
I think this is not just every day needs chocolate PMS.
I think this is the next level.
And I need to evaluate this.
Yeah.
Yes.
Oh, my God.
So well said.
So here's why I asked you that question just so you know, I noticed your posts started changing.
Oh, yeah.
And I was like, and I think this is a really important.
one. This is honestly why I am not a fan of men talking about menopause because I don't walk around
and talk about erections. I don't know what it's like to have an erection. So I don't, it's not my,
it's not my thing. So why would you be coming in as a man teaching women hormones? It never
makes sense because you have to only teach it from your educated brain. You can't teach it from
your experience. So when I look at your post right now, I mean, your post,
always been good, but they're really good right now because I'm like, oh, Carrie's teaching from
experience now. Like she's having that experience and all your tools that you've been teaching
forever have to now you have to lean into and apply, which you can see in the depth in which your
stuff is on Instagram. I'm like, oh yeah, she's there, which is so beautiful. I think that's,
that's what we should do as women is like, I'm having this experience. Here's how I'm doing it.
And if you're having an easier menopause, then shoot, let's share it with the world.
Yeah, and I say this all the time.
You and I've talked about this.
Like, why this wasn't taught at some point?
Why didn't we have some sort of refresher?
Could you imagine if we all had some sort of really good cool refresher at like 35, 40 years old?
Assuming you haven't had surgical menopause.
You didn't have a hysterectomy.
Because so much of what you and I know is not difficult to comprehend.
it's just not talked about.
But if I knew it at 40, if the average woman knew it at 40,
I feel like their perimenopausal transition this whole journey would just be that much easier
for them.
They wouldn't be slammed into it.
They wouldn't be so confused, lost, concerned, depressed, anxious.
They'd have tools to work with whether or not they do choose to go on hormones or not.
Or they would know how to ask for hormones or what even a hormone is, you know?
And I feel that is, that crucial.
is starting to change in the education world, so I'm really grateful for it. But if you're not on
social media at all, then, or you're not on it very often or you don't know what you're looking
for, then, you know, I still see it in the comments. Women are really floundering. And I thought,
man, there's a huge disservice. We need this education out there. So I just give it freely on
Instagram. I'm like, here, take it. This is what I learned. Good luck. Yeah. Yeah, right.
Which is why, like, we, I feel like we all, we have to bring everybody into the conversation because the, you know, there's a lot of information out right now about how many gynecologists don't know anything about lifestyle.
And even the ones that are, you know, popular and teaching, they're just learned it themselves.
Whereas the schooling you and I came from had lifestyle built into the whole thing because the theory is the body heals itself.
So then what is going on with the body during perimenopause?
really leads me to why I brought you today, which is I really feel like there needs to be a manual
for the woman after 35. I want to like tap her on the shoulder and be like, hey, hey, I got to tell you
like everything about your lifestyle is going to have to change. But the one place that I think
is the most important outside of stress and sleep is the metabolic system. And this is why, like,
I sit in awe looking at the reviews on Fast Like a Girl.
I never read my reviews this long.
But the reviews keep coming in like all my menopausal symptoms improved when I learned how to fast like a girl.
So can we start this conversation with blood sugar and what changes at 35 as those hormones?
Oh my gosh.
And you and I are talking ahead of this that I was just writing an article for my newsletter about
even something like stress and blood sugar. So blood sugar is glucose. They're same same, right? So you go
get a fasting glucose. So maybe you have a continuous glucose monitor or you check your glucose at home
with a glucometer. And we have resilience. We have the ability when we're a lot younger.
As my friend called it, you know, the beer and pizza diet. We can stay up late. We can handle stress.
We can eat like crap. And our body tends to bounce back. Not always, but it tends to bounce back.
like, okay, I got you. And then we seem to cross the threshold of 35. And because our hormones are
shifting, which impacts the way that we can or can't handle stress, which impacts the way that we even
utilize glucose in places like our brain, it all starts to shift. Now, it's not overnight,
but it is this sort of subtle downhill slide if you're not paying attention. And this can result
in things such as mental fatigue. So I will, people go, I'm so tired. I'll go, can you go for a
or is it studying something? Can you read a manual? And they'll go, oh yeah, I can walk for hours. I love walking
my dog. I love walking on my neighborhood. I walk the beach. Oh, yeah, you're right. It's the long
mental focus that's hard for me, helping my kids with their homework, reading a manual,
reading through a lot of slides. Like I get very distracted and tired. Again, brain, right? Or they go,
they're like, well, I feel good and then I'm hangary. It's immediately I go, I'm hungry, I'm moody,
you know, I'm quiet or I've got headache. And so we start to get these subtle metabolic shifts that can
also result in things such as our weight gain, changes around the middle in particular, that sort of
spare tire change. And again, it can be subtle. It doesn't mean it like you wake up on your 35th birthday
and all this happens. But these are the changes that we start watching for. Now, the reason this is so
important is because our metabolic health impacts, just like our hormones, every single system in our body.
It impacts your skeletal system, your nervous system, your immune system, your cardiovascular
system, I mean, absolutely everything.
And so by tightening up, improving, focusing on your metabolic health at 35 and older,
it's going to have system-wide, literally system-wide benefits for the rest of your life.
And that's where it's important.
So would you say going into your 40s, making sure your metabolic health,
health already. Like if you go in with your metabolic health off, this is going to get even
crazier for you, this perimenopausal journey. But if you go in with your hemoglobin A1C around
five, you've got the, you know, you can build a fasting lifestyle. Like you're going in already
metabolically healthy, then it'll be a much easier experience for you. Would you say that? I find it over
and over the answers, yes. I find the women who go into their 40s with those solid numbers, glucose,
hemoglobin A1C, insulin, leptin, triglycerides. So these are all easy labs that can be done.
You can order them yourself often. Your primary care can order them. Insurance often covers them.
And if you're in a great optimal range, these women, it's not that they'll not have no symptoms,
but they tend to do better. They tend to have it easier than somebody who is pre-diabetic or diabetic
or insulin-resistant going into perimenopause, where we become more insulin-resistant
by default at that time.
We tend to have better brain health if we're metabolically healthy compared to somebody
who's not because glucose plays a big role in whether or not our brain does or doesn't
work.
So some of things,
absolutely, everything from even like wound healing, recovering from illness.
I hear this.
Women go, I just feel flu-like all the time.
Or I keep thinking I'm getting sick.
I feel like, and I'm like, ooh, yes, estrogen does play a big role in that.
But so does metabolic health.
And they go hand in hand.
And so it could just be a dialing.
up where you were at like a level three going into it and now you're dialing it up to a level
eight where somebody who was down at a zero or one, they're only at a four or five when they come
into perimenopause. And so it's this relative difference that I see in women with better
metabolic health. So with estrogen, we know is at, or let's just call it, let's just be more
specific. I call estradial the diva. I feel like she's like a diva who's like, hey, guess what?
magic I've been doing for you every month that you didn't even know. And now I'm going to go away.
And on my exit, I deserve like, you know, the full, the full pomp and circumstance because this,
I'm out and then you're going to notice me gone. And you're going to regret that I would,
that I'm gone. Yeah. So when estradile goes away, you become more insulin resistant.
Is would you would you agree with that? Yeah. Okay. And so the message is starting at 35,
really 40, but let's let's let's say it's now getting earlier like it's in your late 30s
you may notice your old tricks that used to keep you thin don't work anymore. Is that would that
would you say that? Yes. And I'd say you probably have heard this two women are like I thought I could just get a
way with. I haven't really had to do anything. I haven't changed anything, Mindy, and everything all of a
sudden changed. Like, you're right. And now it's time to make big changes. You're a whole different
person. Right. Okay. So, but then as you get deeper in now you're 47, as you get deeper into the
perimenopause experience, then there's this strange thing that happens where you look down, you're doing all the,
you're new right things. You've got the fasting. You've got the food figured out. But then you look down
at your belly and you're like, what the fuck is that? Yes. Yes. And in fact, there's even the theory
that's, I've seen it a bunch in the literature, and I see it given the amount of lab work that I look at
because when women have a lot of estrogen, we tend to have more estrogen receptors and our hips,
our thighs are booty. That's often the shape. That's where we gain our weight. If we're going to gain
weight, not as much around the middle. It doesn't, you can't. It just means estrogen plays a role
of directing where fat goes. Testosterone and other androgen hormones, which we all have as women,
likes to keep it around the center, the apple shape. And what happens is our testosterone doesn't
decline usually at the same rate as estrogen. So we become relatively out of balance
testosterone and estrogen. We become relatively higher than testosterone. Even if it is going
down, it's still out of balance relative to estrogen. So in a seesaw, testosterone's up and estrogen's
kind of down. Because we have this imbalance, now all the receptors around the belly area are getting
super stimulated, and that leads to that visceral adipose tissue gain, the weight gain around all
our organs that's putting on the spare tire around the center. Now, other reasons can be for that,
high cortisol, right? High insulin. Like, we have other reasons. But that decline when you, when you
mention that estrogen's like, I'm out, I'm out. I'm outy. Best of luck. I bet you miss me.
That is one of that ratio is something they're starting to study in the literature to go,
you know what? Estrogen really does play a role in relation to testosterone and where you're
going to gain weight. It tends to move up as opposed to down and can be infuriating for a lot of
women who go, I'm doing all the things. I'm doing all the things and my body shape just changed.
And their weight on the scale may not change, but they do notice everything kind of moved up versus down.
So is there anything we can do for that? I will definitely tell you I'm throwing a lot of things at my own body right now.
And they're reacting very differently to things. Like some things that didn't really work for me before are now really working. And I can I can share what those are.
and some things that used to work for, you know, keeping my weight where I want are not working
anymore. So I've, like my toolbox for not just metabolic health, but loving the body I'm living
in is what I call it, has dramatically changed as I've gone through that experience. So let's just
take the menopausal belly weight. Is there anything we can do that we know will work?
And because weight gain is very multifaceted, I just wanted to point out that to stuff,
testosterone, estrogen ratio that they're kind of looking at in the research because it's new.
It's very interesting. And it is something to keep an eye on because some women will go.
I don't want to go on estrogen or I'm afraid of estrogen or I don't think I'm a candidate for
estrogen, but can I do testosterone? And then their practitioner is like, yep, let's put you on
testosterone. And poof, they gain a lot of weight, especially in the middle. And they're like,
what the heck? Where did this come from? This could be a contributing factor for that. So just
Yeah.
And eye out for that if this happens to be you.
Or your practitioner puts you on estrogen with progesterone and testosterone.
And maybe the testosterone's a little higher than you need it to start with.
And poof, you gain weight around the middle.
And you're like, oh, that's not what I wanted.
You know, maybe I feel better, but I don't want all this extra weight in the middle because it's very inflammatory.
So right now, there's like the blanket things for the weight, right, where the weight comes.
We hear it all the time.
It's, are you eating enough protein that we,
women need a lot more protein than we think we tend to under protein and then going into menopause
we've gained weight and so women cut back on calories and that could include protein two is the weight
lifting lifting heavy weights and getting that in to stimulate the use of glucose and that you know
to the fatty acid so when we the what's stored in our fat cells are fatty acids such as triglycerides
And what happens is when they are to be used, to be burned, when we don't have estrogen,
we don't have estrogen, we can, as women can struggle to make that mechanism.
Like the fat burning factory is just not as efficient than it used to be when you were in your 30s.
And so then the fatty acid is like, well, I can't get into the fat burning factory.
So I'm going to get redeposited like in the liver or around the center area.
And that can contribute to that.
So it's even with the weightlifting can be really helpful at improving that.
There are certain nutrients such as coline, phosphatidyl colonin or foods with coline to help make that whole process work better.
Same with carnitine.
Carnotine helps make that process a little better for some women.
Then we get into stress because stress, of course, plays a huge role when it comes to weight gain, blood sugar, all the things.
And we know we become less tolerant of stress.
We don't have the resilience we used to.
We've often been burning the candle at both ends leading up to our 40s.
And with the change in our hormones, I call it the trampoline.
The trampoline of life becomes more threadbare.
So now you go to bounce on the trampoline of life and instead your foot goes through.
Or it's not as bouncy as it used to be.
And so that cortisol impacts your glucose and your insulin contributing to the weight gain.
So there are obviously a lot of ways we can work with cortisol and help our body feel safe,
our nervous system feels safe. And then lastly, of course, is the nutritional aspect. So
fasting plays a big role in that. But then also, what do you have at the end of your fork?
If you've been living on the beer and pizza diet all the way up until your 40s, it's
probably not going to work into your 40s. If these are some goals of yours, this metabolic health
is a goal of yours, time to make some changes. Oh my God, that was a beautiful list.
I, the only, the other thing I would add in there that I've noticed, two things that I've noticed
for my own self that I'm, I'm curious about. One is definitely more fiber. When I, when I put protein
and fiber first in my meals and I'm like, boom, I'm going to eat, like, just before I popped on here,
I was like, I ate a ton of microgreens and a whole bunch of tofu. I'm actually bringing tofu back into
my life and soy back into my life. And so if I bring fiber in at every single meal with the protein,
I feel like that tire around my waist shrinks.
So how do you feel about fiber?
And here's one of the big reasons why.
When we lose estradiol and progesterone, it has a negative impact on our gut health.
So when we say that change in hormones affects all 12 systems of our body, I literally mean all 12 systems, including your GI tract.
So as an example, the decline in estrogen means in our GI tract, in your small and large intestine, we have little gates in between all the cells.
they're called tight junctions.
And think of it, you know, like a toll gate or a police gate where it will allow certain
things through and things that are bad.
It doesn't let through.
You've got it.
Like, let's get rid of those.
Let's poop those out.
So when we have a decline in estradiol and progesterone, it can cause a dysfunctional gate.
And so now think of the gate between you and your neighbor's house instead of a nice tight gate
that's keeping, you know, random people out but keeps your dog and kids in the backyard.
Now the gate's holy or it's falling off or, you know, anybody can just push it and falls over.
and that's what it can be like in your large and small intestines.
So that leads to more inflammation because now things are coming into the gate.
They're coming into the backyard.
You don't want in your backyard, just like you don't want it crossing through into your body.
And now the immune system gets involved.
So now the immune system's pissed and it's creating all of these inflammatory messengers, cytokines is what we call them.
And it where is your immune system?
Well, it's right there at the belly area.
And so it's just going to contribute to waking around the middle or bloating things of that.
nature. Now, fiber, prebiotics, probiotics, postbiotics, postbiotics are what our microbiome kind of
poops out. The food for the large intestines. Now they can keep the cells down there, the microbiome
itself, the bacteria, and then the cells that line the wall happier. So whether you are or aren't on hormones,
I'm an advocate for hormones, if it's right for you, but at least fiber is a great start for
supporting the whole microbiome. We're more microbiome than we are human. So we want to be real
nice to our microbiome. I joke all the time. We don't want our microbiome to, you know, rise up and
rally against us. We want it to work with us. And so fiber can play a huge role there. And that's just
one example of what changes in our GI. So if you feel like you're going through this transition or
a transition through into postmenopause and you're like, yeah, I'm having heartburn or gas or
bloating or I just feel bloated all the time, this waking around the middle, more constipation or more
diarrhea. This is a contributing factor. So more, so then you got to think through the lens of the microbiome.
Like those symptoms should take you back to here's the microbiome. We got to think about this through
that lens. And we like diversity in our microbiome. We want, we want the color of the rainbow.
We want everything to be as diverse as possible. And so I also tell people besides fiber, we want to
increase diversity. So fiber helps with that. So we have lots of kinds of good microbes.
But so does your food. How many people yourself included probably eat the same thing every day.
When you go get Thai food, you order the same dish every time it doesn't matter. When you cook Monday
versus Tuesday, once you know, for a lot of people, they're very scheduled and they're like,
well, Monday we have this and Tuesday we have this. And it never changes. They never introduce new
vegetable. They don't eat seasonally. They just sort of do what feels good or what the family's
used to and that lacks diversity. So experiment. Get out. Try a new vegetable. Try a new fiber. Try a new
things. Get out of the rut. You know, if you're a meat eater and you, you know, never eat
buffalo, try buffalo. Or if you're always chicken, try turkey. Just some of the vegetables. If you
only do, you know, carrots and peas and celery, it's like, well, there's a whole world of
veggies out there, you know, as Mindy said, even microgreens, like really start to diversify. And that
will only help order something different at your favorite restaurant that you eat at every Friday.
Yep. And people think I'm crazy until they read the literature and then they're like, oh,
oops. Yeah. I actually think variation is a really important concept for the perimenopausal
woman because you need diet variation. You need exercise variation. So I'm going to add to
your strength training here in a second. And you need information variation.
because you need to stimulate neuroplasticity,
and you do that by hanging out with new people,
reading new things, traveling.
So I think where aging starts actually happens for women at 40
because we're same, same, same workout, same food, same people,
same road I take to work and everything's same, same, same.
Then we get all these symptoms, and if we don't step out and go,
okay, wait, I need to vary my food, I need to maybe vary my friends,
I need to vary my exercise, then you, the brain just becomes so linear. The body starts to
wither away at that moment. Variation is like a key anti-aging piece that I just don't think we talk
enough. I love that and I couldn't agree more. Everything from even when you said I take the same
path to work every day, think about even your exercise. You probably, a lot of people listening
probably only move in a forward and backward plane. So even when they're doing, you know,
a squat versus walking or on the treadmill or lunges, they're usually forward and backward.
We don't ever often go up down or left and right or at an angle and even just switching up
those things, focusing on balance because our frailty increases as we get older.
You know, some of these fun things, our muscles are like, whoa, you just did lateral and I never
go lateral.
I don't usually do this right left.
Like that's huge or, you know, jumping, jump up your stairs.
Can you still jump as a 40-year-old?
You know, the brain is like, what are we doing?
Oh, this is new.
Yes.
And then we lay down new tracks and it's good for us.
Yeah.
I brought it to my podcast producer is a huge fan of and has been learning under Katie, Katie Bowman.
She came recently and she wrote a book called Move Your DNA.
And the listeners, that has probably already been released by the time they listen to this.
And she had this pyramid that she talked about, which is that you want to make sure that the bottom of the pyramid, which is the thing you should do the most, is look at the positions you put your body in.
And I teased her.
I was like, well, I can tell you, I put my body in three positions, standing, sitting, lying down.
Yeah.
And she's like, yeah, and you're aging yourself very fast.
I was like, okay.
But it got me really thinking about the importance of variation as we age.
So the one exercise I would add in that I started doing is really seriously.
No, walking.
Even better.
But I, but yeah, because, but I'm doing it in two different ways.
I'm in L.A.
I split my time now between L.A. and Northern California.
And there's a bunch of hills here.
So I'm walking hills.
And then I drank the Kool-Aid and decided to put a weighted vest on.
I was like, fine, I'll just do what everybody else is doing.
Wow.
So walking up hills with a weighted vest, I've been doing that for a month now.
And nothing has improved my fitness as dramatically as that.
So I have been, I have my first weight vest ever.
I bought in 2015.
I bought it at the Army base.
My husband was active duty military at the time.
And I must have seen a YouTube video or an informal.
on TV or something back in 2015 and I said can we go the army base can we go to the
PX and I want to get a weight vest so my first weight vest I still have it it's all stretched out
and then I went and bought one of the plated one of the a 25 pound a rucksack I bought a rucksack
so I have a 20 that's a little bit too much for me I'm not according to that level
I'm like wow I'm doing I know no no no you're impressing we're that's that's on like a real
good strong sleep day follicular face type of thing only and then and then because of my
vest is stretched out. I actually bought a new weight vest. But I have the arm bangles. I have the
arm, like the weight arm bangles from the Shaline Johnson, Tybo type era. Like, they're that old. And I had
to buy new ones because I wear them. I wear them when I clean the house. I wear them dishes. I wear
them putting away clothes. I just wear it off. I'm the crazy lady who walks my dog with them
in my neighborhood. You know, once you're in your 40s and 50s, you just don't care. And all the
middle school kids are looking at you and you're like, you just wait. You'll do it too.
So I love it. I agree. I bought the Kool-Aid a long time ago and do it all the time.
Yeah. Okay, great. Well, yeah, it's like mine a hot new thing. So, okay, here's what the other part of metabolic health that happens during those perimenopausal years that I actually don't think it gets discussed enough is our inability for our brain to use glucose. And I had Lisa Mascone on this.
on this podcast and we talked about this and I said to her, so as we go through the menopausal
process, is our brain more sensitive to ketones than glucose? Now, she's a scientist and so
she's only going to give you the scientific answer. And she said, well, we don't have any science
on that, but it does appear that we are not using glucose. We are more sensitive and receptive
to ketones. So I'm curious from your clinical experience and just knowing that you're a lifestyle,
hormonal lifestyle expert, do you feel like that's accurate? Like we need to lean a little more into
ketones as a great fuel source for our brains as we go through this process. Yes. And I even,
so 2017, Dr. Musconi wrote that article, published her paper on glucose and women going through
the perimenopausal transition. So that's how I found her was back then. I thought, I don't know who
this woman is, but I need to become her best friend and follow everything she does. And sure enough,
of course, she's amazing and I adore her and she's doing all this women's brain research.
But when our estradiol goes down, one of the factors is it slows down the transport of glucose
up into our brain effectively. So normally we have these transporters. They're called glute.
So G-L-U-T, glucose transporter. Think of it like a bus. And so when we don't have the estrogen to
stimulate this, the estrodial, our buses slow down. They don't really do what they're supposed to do.
And now we can't get glucose up there to give us to do the cycles that help make ATP, which of
course is our energy between cells. And that's why we feel powered down. And Dr. Casey Means described it
as running by candlelight as opposed to running by full spectrum light. And I thought, yeah,
when you're trying to remember something or you're trying to multitask or think of somebody's name,
it's like candlelight up there.
And I want full spectrum light up there.
And I started looking into ketones and it's proposed heavily.
Yes, that the estradiol effect of glucose may not be as heavy as effect on the ketones.
And so leaning into the ketones is going to save us and save our brains possibly.
But anecdotally, it's what I see.
When I do it myself, when I'm doing the long fast and getting my ketones up there,
I can notice, I'm like, well, there it is.
I'm an N of one.
I see it in your comment section, right?
So I'm like, there's an N of 52,000.
So yeah, let's roll with this.
Which is really interesting and why I really want to highlight this,
because I feel like we've gone from a cultural hush
around menopause to cultural chaos.
Like everybody's like, right?
Everybody's like, do this, don't do that, do this.
And I'm like, oh, God, these poor menopausal women
are like, who do I follow?
Who do I know?
know and one of the things that is coming out a lot it just came out on hoobberman is that menopuzzle women
shouldn't fast and i know you said that yeah and i anecdotally see it completely opposite of that
along with the with the research so i actually brought stacy sims on this podcast because i'm like
let's all come together as hormone experts we need to all come together and have really just
deeper discussions about this.
And what she was saying is that fit women shouldn't fast before they work out.
She said the same to me.
Yes.
Yes.
Okay.
But what gets sliced in a 90 second reel, my new thing is don't base your health habits
off a 90 second reel.
What gets sliced in that 90 second reel that this just came out last week from
Huberman was women shouldn't fast.
And I just really like it.
I feel like if that message gets out there, more and more and more women are going to stay suffering.
So what you're saying is totally lines up with what I see as well.
Like when you teach a menopausal woman how to fast, you give her her brain back.
Yes.
And even in a perimenopausal woman like myself, I still cycle, as I said, and I do 24-hour fast in the follicular phase and feel great.
Now, like anyone listening or anyone who's gone through your programs, you have to build into it.
If you've never done a fast before, do Mindy's programs, buy her book.
Don't just decide one day, you know what, I'm going to do 24-hour fast and how it goes.
You may hate it, and then it may ruin it for you, and I don't want to ruin it for you.
I want this to be a very positive experience for you.
But I do notice, one, the more I do the 24-hour fast in the follicular phase.
And I just keep a basic follicular phase that works in my schedule when I do it.
And the more I do it, I'm like, oh, my brain is so, by the end, as I'm getting 24, now I'm like,
all right, I need to go longer because I can definitely tell my brain is feeling so good with all the
ketones.
It just comes, yeah, just comes back online and it's like, oh, yeah, okay, now I can think straight.
On the days that I work the longest, I don't eat on those days because now my, you know,
the way I approach the fasting cycle is different because I don't have a cycle.
So I'll just kind of do it based off of where I need the ketones and where I do.
don't so that I'm sort of still have a rhythm to it.
Yeah.
Which, which leads me to a bigger question that I had, which is, you know, how can we help
women see where they're going?
Like I feel like perimenopause is a bus stop.
Yeah.
And we need to approach it as maybe there's a long wait.
Like you might be waiting a really long.
It's going to get a little cold.
You're going to need a jacket.
Like the bus might not be coming for a whole long time.
Yeah.
But you might get a little.
hungry in it. You're going to get pissed at the other people sitting at the bus stop. But then one day the bus is going to come and it's going to pick you up. And where you're going is an incredible place. And when we look at the research of like Lisa Mascone and I'm geeking out right now on the grandmother hypothesis of like how the amygdala stops shouting at you that you're not safe, it calms down. There's this beautiful place. This metaposal bus is taking us.
Do you have a sense of what that beautiful place is and how can we start to get out to women?
Don't worry, honey.
Like, hang in there, girl.
Like, it's, it's, it's, it's, you're going somewhere good.
I posted recently on Instagram things that I say now that I'm in perimenopause.
And it was like, no, no thank you, you know, F that.
I'm not doing that.
It was very sort of no filter things with a few other, you know, how old are they now? How old are your kids now? How am I so old?
Mixed in. And it kind of went viral. I had so many women go, yes, finally, I feel like I'm this stronger, better next level version of myself.
I don't have my anxiety. Maybe it was worse in perimenopause. It's so much better now. I'm confident. I cut through the BS. I know who I am.
or where I'm going, and I love seeing that.
I love just by a post of things that are coming out of my mouth now,
and the esteem in which I hold myself is resonating with women also who are going,
yep, I too am there.
And I'm also a doctor of and, meaning I will see out there people go,
oh, you just, yeah, you just need to lean into it.
You just need to lean in it.
And I'm like, yeah, and we can acknowledge it sucks.
Like, we can acknowledge the truth, which is you may have a lot of mood stuff, the weight gain,
you can't sleep, you know, you may not be thrilled with your hair or your skin, hot flashes,
night sweats, you know, bone pain, vaginal pain, all the things.
And you're about to become this whole new very cool person.
And I think what's missing in the end is that education.
You said, like, we're now in menopausal chaos.
I mean, it's definitely a movement of, gosh, there's so much we can do.
And there's, there's so many options.
Just nobody knew we're available unless you, like you and me, we just went into a lot of debt to get the degree.
And that's not fair.
And now it's coming out there.
So yes, it can feel miserable at this bus stop and the lights, the lights of the bus are coming.
And it's going to be, it is going to be awesome.
There's going to be tweaks you have to make.
There's a lot of stuff we can do.
but and it's going to be awesome i you know i'm i'm putting my next book together and it's you're
hearing a lot of what's going to go in it because because i really feel like we need to start
talking now about where you're going like where like it's getting good like don't don't lose
sight of how good this potentially could be but i also feel like we have literally gone from this
place where we've had no answers for women to having too many answers and it's becoming difficult.
So where if if a woman is 45 and like listening to this podcast, you know, what do you do with all
the information that's coming at us right now? How do you decide if it's right for you? Because you and I
are both huge fans of one. We are both like personalized individual medicine. But how
How do you take this moment where all this information is coming and figure out the right path for you?
Think of it how you, if you have children, think of it how you would approach the health of your child, or think of it how you would approach new food at a new restaurant.
Try it. Try it on for size.
If you don't like it or it doesn't feel right, let it go.
So I mentioned sprinting earlier.
I said, are you going to mention sprinting?
So Stacey Sims said, we need to start doing sprinting or on the row machine in doing cycles of like really fast.
And I thought, holy, I hate running.
But okay, Stacey said to sprint, so I'll go fucking sprint and see what happens.
And I felt great, great.
And I'm only going to sprint once or twice a week.
I don't think my hips can handle much more than that.
But I felt amazing.
And I thought, well, I did it.
I just tried it on.
And if I hated it or I hurt, I was telling a girlfriend of mine who's 50 about it,
she said, oh my gosh, I could never.
My Achilles, my hips, my this, my that.
I'm like, yeah, see, you tried it on and you hated it.
do it. And I think that it's the same with anything. When I did my first 24-hour fast,
I just kept thinking it's a mind game. It's a mind, like you can go 24 hours. You're not dying
of starvation. It's okay. And now that I've done it several times, I'm like, I love this. This is,
this is great. I feel so good on the days that I do this or even longer fast. And so I think it's
like anything. And if it doesn't fit in your budget, do what fits in your budget. You're going to
hear a lot online about this supplement or that supplement or every week.
women needs. And I'm like, maybe, yeah, maybe. But if you, it doesn't fit in your budget,
then do what does work. It's, it's okay. My, my prayer for women is that we fix the lifestyle
first and we go into the light, like go into your 40s with a different lifestyle. Like,
if I could take all the women that were like 39, 38, even the third, between 35 and 40,
and I could sit them all down, I'd be like, okay, here's the, here's the deal. Everything that you've
is about to completely not work.
And it'll go away in small different ways.
But let's fix your lifestyle first.
Then from there, we can look at the creams, the patches.
I too, I'm not anti all of that.
I am only anti it when we think it's gonna be the savior.
Just like we look at all other medication.
So then we go and we go, okay, well, let's try that
and see how that works.
And then there needs to be part of the story
that I would like to start telling, which is,
and look where you're going.
And it looks like this.
I don't know if you have this thing,
but I now, like my filter to be able to hold back
what I really think about things has completely gone.
And so I have this.
I want to begin with.
So.
No.
No, it's like I,
my brain is like literally observing itself.
Like I will sometimes look at myself and go,
are you really going to say that?
And I'm like, yep.
There goes.
I'm going to say that.
Yeah.
There it goes.
it goes out it goes but it feels so freeing and i was recently told about a feminist philosopher and my
listeners have been hearing me talk about this but i want to geek out on this with you about how they
have discovered that women lose their voice at 12 and 13 and the reason they lose their voice well they
don't say why i think it's hormonal and i'm sure you would say the same thing but at 12 and 13 is when
girls decide to quiet themselves, change who they are, do what they need to meet the demands
of the patriarch. And I think what happens is in the post-menopausal years, when those hormones go
away, actually the most authentic version of you now comes out. And for many of us, we didn't
have the possibility to speak our truth. And we're now like, I'm going to speak my truth. And I don't
fucking care what anybody thinks of it, but it's really a coming home to yourself.
And if we look at our reproductive years as almost we sort of lose our way, but we have a
lot of life experience, and now we come in our post menopausal years, that is where you deserve
to be the happiest version of you because your hormones won't block you from living a life
that actually you were meant to live.
Yes. Amen.
Hear, hear to that for sure.
And I see that.
I see that in my friends.
I see that in colleagues.
I see that on speakers on stage.
I'll hear speakers on stage or in webinars,
and I'm like, well, I know how old they are.
They'll just say the thing.
And I'm, like you, I'm a very generally straight shooting type of person.
And so I really appreciate that in somebody else.
So it's really fun to watch somebody get their voice back as they make this transition or stand up for themselves.
No, it doesn't mean it will come without bumps.
If your friends and family aren't used to you being your authentic, mouthy self, it can be, you know, just keep that in mind.
But I agree.
And it's also, somebody said the other day they were PMSing.
She was PMSing.
And she's like, I'm just saying all these things.
And I think it's hormonal.
And I was like, maybe that's really who you are.
Your hormones are down.
Exactly.
your PMS is bad, quote unquote, to you, but to who?
Society, you know, maybe that's really your authentic self.
And then you get your period and you're thinking, oh, thank God, I'm back to my quiet ways.
But maybe the other way was the better way.
That is exactly the conversation that I feel like the next level conversation of all this perimenopausal transition should be,
is that it creates like an armor.
I call it the neurochemical armor.
When your hormones are in, there's a little bit of a buffer between you and the situation and other people.
But when those hormones go down, there's actually just you and your authentic self.
And so you may feel bad for what you said in those moments, but actually maybe it was what you really wanted to say.
So it would be really interesting to tap into that, which leads me to another deep thought I have, which is then, I know, we haven't talked to forever.
It's why we should be neighbors.
But I think the anti-aging culture is actually doing a tremendous amount of harm for women.
And I'm not saying that everybody needs to look old, but if we are searching to be our youthful selves,
we're all aging.
We're all going into those years.
Really what I would hope is that people would make a decision at some point in the aging process that
to really find worthiness, to really find self-love that isn't attached to how we look.
And in order to fit into the patriarch, so many of us have had to think about how we look to feel
love. But when we come into these post-menopausal years, there's this opportunity to love
ourselves in the deepest way possible. And the more we try to freeze our face and look like
our 20 and 30 year old selves, the more we potentially may be moving away from our own
authenticity, our own worthiness, and the aging process is happening whether you like it or not.
So you have a possibility to get to know yourself in the aged version or try to cling to the
younger version. But either way, at some point, you will find liberation in just embracing who
you are and loving who you are despite how you feel or look. And that is what I think is the opportunity
in those postmenopausal years. And I think to add to that, I always say, because I get asked,
are you for anti-aging? I said, oh, I'm okay with aging. I want to age gracefully because what I'm
trying to do, we know my family lives a long time. The women of my family tend to live a long time.
So I'm going to have decades in the post-menopausal years when I get there. And I want to
to avoid what my girlfriend, Dr. Eve Henry, calls the four horsemen. So we've, or four horse
women. Cancer, right, cardiometabolic disease, which we've been talking about, heart and blood sugar
diabetes, neurodegenerative, so brain dementia Alzheimer's, and then diseases are frailty. So break a hip,
right, trip and fall, osteoporosis. I'm trying to avoid these things. Because my goal is health
span. I know I'm in a long time, and I'd like to do it traveling. I want to pick up my suitcase.
I'm going to be able to jump up a stair if I want to.
I want to continue to go hiking and interacting, playing, seeing, and hopefully not shriveling away at home.
And so I want to embrace getting older, but I want to do it with some flexibility.
I want to do it with, you know, with my filter off.
And I want to do it as is who I am and enjoying life.
And I think that's all a part of enjoying life.
Do you have an ethos around natural, like do you always look through the lens of I want to do things naturally or are you okay dipping in?
I'm a gray area doc, right?
I just say I'm an and.
I'm an and.
I'm a gray area doc.
Yeah.
First of all, I feel I'm definitely like, you know, you do you.
If that's what you want to do, it makes you feel good about it, whatever it is, go for it.
Whether that applies to injections, fillers, Botox, or we're talking about hormones.
replacement therapy or you want to do nothing, you know, that's, it's, as long as you have
the information, as long as you've been educated and you can make an educated decision, that's what
I'm for. What I'm not for is when you don't have the education, nobody's told you or they've
tried to dictate it for you and you don't feel like you have a voice in the matter, that's what I'm
against. At least to be educated about all your options and then you can choose from there.
So then when you look at yourself aging, so like let's say 30 years from now, yeah, you'll let's
see, you're 47. 77. That would be 57, 67, okay, I'm like all of a sudden, wait, did I get the math
right on that? Yeah, so you're 77. You have a way you want to prevent, you want to prevent these
four diseases or four horse women. I thought that was really, really good way to look at it.
Do you have a sense of what you want your aging body to look like?
Strong.
And I don't mean wrinkle-free.
I don't mean cellulite-free.
I don't mean lumps-and-bumps-free.
But what I do mean is strong.
I want to be able to, at 77, I want to be on those European river cruises,
able to carry my own suitcase as I watch Europe go by.
And then I want to walk the cities and I want to go to Christmas markets.
And I want to, you know, right?
Like, I want to be with my grandchildren.
And like I want to be able, so strong, strong mind.
I want to be very cognitively aware.
My mother-in-law is in her 80s.
And I, we just, I just saw her two Fridays ago.
And she still drives, like super cognitively pretty sharp.
And my husband and I walked away from that and thought, yeah, at 80, like, that's pretty phenomenal.
You don't always see that when you go to the airport or you go to Walmart or you can whatever, see the news.
And so strong in all of those regards.
is what the word I'm looking for.
Do you think about your future self in today?
Like when you are thinking about like the day,
the moment you don't want to go strength train,
do you bring your,
that future vision of yourself up to motivate you to do the right?
I do often only because as I said,
my family tends to live my,
a long time.
My dad and I were just talking about this on my,
like my four grandparents.
They were 95, like 90 and 89 when they,
three of them died and I was like short of a bus or something catastrophic I need to be prepared for
longevity but health span strong that's what I'm going for yeah yeah yeah and I think that should be
the target like I really think you know to sum this all up I feel like we need a better target of
where we're going and it's if we don't have a target of what we want to be like in our 80s then it's
hard to navigate some of these lifestyle decisions today. And that's the only reason I bring up
the anti-aging because for me, one of the things that is really important is connection to humans.
And so there's many reasons why I won't Botox. But one of them is I want you to always know what
I'm thinking when you look at my face. And I don't want to lose that connection with people.
It's just it's part of my personal system. And I feel like what I want to do at 80, I want to be hanging
out with all my girlfriends and be like, exactly, like traveling the world together and having
fun. And I want to be in relationship with amazing humans. And I think sometimes, you know,
how we look and how we show up, it really is an energy that we can play off each other when we can
see what's going on on our face. So that's just, that's just me. And I agree like you,
like you do you. I totally feel the same thing. Like everybody do themselves. But, but, but make
sure you're making an educated decision of who that 80-year-old should be. And I understand now
it can feel like chaos is such a great word. You feel in the moment right now going through this
transition, it's pure chaos. So it can be hard to think about your 80-year-old self when you don't
even know who your 45-year-old self is because you feel slammed into this. And that's why, again,
I love all this education. I love podcasts like yours. So we can get this information. So maybe this
generation, Gen X, late millennial is just getting it. But by the time the Gen Z comes through,
they're going to be like a whole different level of education, a whole different level of choices,
a whole different level of the way they handle perimenopause. So, you know, us,
Gen Xers, late millennial, we'll just lead the charge, set, you know, set a good example.
And then hopefully paid the way for everyone behind us.
what I think we're doing is creating a new paradigm oh 100% yeah we do deserve metals yeah yeah right
the generation behind us is going to get to come in yeah okay well I can talk to you forever and
in light of that I'm actually heading to the dermatologist after this to go get a bunch of moles
checked and things and things so but here's my last question and this is something that I've thought
a lot about that has very different answers so I've been asking every guest
this and that is what is your definition of health and how do you know when you're healthy?
Oh, behind me, which you can't quite see, but up on this board right here, I have a sign that
says healing happens at joy. And for me, when it comes to health, I'm going to go back to that
it's all 12 systems. Like what is my mindset? How is my body doing? Are I able to do the
things I want to. How do I wake up in the morning? How do I go to bed at night? So my definition
of health for me is an end of one is looking at all of those checkboxes of like, yep, another good
day. Like, you did good. Excellent. Whether it was my nutrition, exercise, you know, the disciplines
that I do. Because I know when I build on that now, again, going back to that 80 year old cell,
well, for me, it'll probably be in the 90s. My 90 year old self, you know, she's looking back at me like,
Keep doing it. Keep doing it. Strong, joyful, good community, able to accomplish the things you want
because you're going to need to do it for four more decades. Right. Right. Yeah. So yeah,
I love that. And the reason I ask this question is because I feel like everybody's searching for
something that is uniquely defined. And we should define it for ourselves. And everybody I've had
on this podcast this year has given me a different answer. And I think, there you guys.
So like we're searching for health, but you have to define it for your own self and then you'll know the target you're searching that you're trying to hit
So yeah. Yeah, yeah, that I think okay. How do people find you? How do people find you?
Well, Instagram for one. I'm at d.d.karyjones website dr.karyjones.com. Those are probably the two big places. I have dipped my toe in a TikTok, but I haven't
Oh God
figure that out, but I am at Dr. Carrie Jones there as well. Yeah, you'll do great on TikTok.
you should totally be there.
So, you know, yeah, you're brave.
My team does TikTok for me.
And I'm like, I can't be on there because it makes my brain to ADD.
Like if I scroll through, my dopamine, I have to be very careful, very careful.
Yeah, yeah.
It's really a toxin for me.
So, okay, my friend, thank you so much.
And I'm sure this won't be the last time we have you on the Resetter podcast.
So love you.
Love you.
Thank you.
Thank you.
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