The School of Greatness - 11 Habits To Completely Turn Your Life Around [SOLO ROUND] EP 1404
Episode Date: March 8, 2023https://lewishowes.com/mindset - Order a copy of my new book The Greatness Mindset today!Today’s episode is all about the 11 habits Lewis has cultivated in his life that has led to him feeling more ...fulfilled, happier and healthier. Building new habits isn’t easy, but you can trust that if you implement even just a few of these into your life, you’ll start to see the shift in areas that are causing you stress and frustration. It’s all about putting yourself first and showing up for yourself, so that you can show up for the world and everyone else as the best version of yourself.In this episode Lewis discusses how to create a vision for your life, how to have a positive attitude when everything is going wrong, how to create healthy relationships, the importance of physical and mental health, how to take responsibility for your life, and so much more!For more go to: www.lewishowes.com/1404MILLIONAIRE MORNING GUIDE - https://www.themillionairemorning.com/The Wim Hof Experience: Mindset Training, Power Breathing, and Brotherhood: https://link.chtbl.com/910-podA Scientific Guide to Living Longer, Feeling Happier & Eating Healthier with Dr. Rhonda Patrick: https://link.chtbl.com/967-podThe Science of Sleep for Ultimate Success with Shawn Stevenson: https://link.chtbl.com/896-pod Â
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And when we appreciate everything that we already have,
not focusing on all the things that we don't have,
but appreciate the things we already have,
it puts us in a mindset of abundance rather than scarcity.
And this is huge because gratitude drowns out negativity
and it brings positivity into our life.
Welcome to the School of Greatness.
My name is Lewis Howes,
a former pro athlete turned lifestyle entrepreneur.
And each week we bring
you an inspiring person or message to help you discover how to unlock your inner greatness.
Thanks for spending some time with me today. Now let the class begin.
So today I want to go over the 11 habits that have transformed my life that I believe will
help you build a happier, healthier, more loving life for yourself as well. And habit number one
is to create a vision and life-fulfilling goals. Really creating a clear, intentional vision. And
without a clear vision, you'll end up running in multiple different directions instead of staying
focused on what truly matters
in your life, your relationships,
your health, and your business.
And this can lead to your success being delayed
a lot longer than it needs to be.
And so you really wanna get clear and intentional.
And you can have a different vision
at every different stage of your life,
when you're 10 years old or when you're 50 years old,
but it's important to have a clear vision.
Without that, you'll just be kind of wandering around. And when we're wandering, we feel aimless. And when we feel aimless,
we feel like, what's the point? What's the purpose? What's the intention for me being here?
And that causes a lot of stress and anxiety when we have those thoughts. So in my life,
when I wasn't clear on my vision, I was really running around and stressed out a lot. I was like,
what should I be doing? I don't know. I don't feel good enough.
I don't feel worthy.
I don't feel like I matter.
And those thoughts really don't help me improve the quality of my life.
And a question someone had asked me is, what was your life like when you didn't have a
clear vision versus when you created one for the school of greatness?
And for me, I remember different moments in my life.
It was mostly in transition when one goal was finished,
when one dream had ended,
whether it be sports dreams or business ended.
It's kind of like the transition period
where I was like, well, what do I do next?
And it's that discovery phase of the transition
where you get to get clear.
Start doing the things that you really love.
Do the hobbies, hang out with people
you love to spend time with, travel.
Do the things you've always wanted to do and do them to the best of your ability. When you do that, you'll start to
spark ideas. Things will start to come to you naturally. And that's what I really did in between
transitioning before the School of Greatness into the School of Greatness. I was living my life.
I was playing sports. I was being active with friends. And that process, I remember going
through transition thinking, you know, I
wish there was more tools when I was growing up that would help me overcome the different challenges
that I'm faced with my life. I wish there was a school of greatness that could teach me about all
these different things. And that was the spark in the transition from one business to the next
on why I created the School of Greatness. And the mission now is to serve 100 million lives
weekly to help them improve the quality of their life. And we do that through a lot of the things that
we do in the School of Greatness. But I'm very clear on the vision and on the mission. It's very
intentional. I wake up every day thinking about it. And I act based on vision. Without that vision,
I would act based on, well, what am I supposed to do? I'm not sure. I don't feel good about myself. I have no direction. And again, when we have no direction, we're just kind of
wandering around in a circle and that doesn't help us move forward. It doesn't help us grow.
So have a clear vision. I don't care if the vision is for one month or for 20 years. Have something
you're working towards that will help increase the happiness and the quality of your life.
towards that will help increase the happiness and the quality of your life. Habit number two, this is something I learned in sports early on, is to have a
positive attitude when things go bad. Now the world is filled with a lot of
different negativity, drama, stress and sometimes it's hard not to fall victim
to joining in on the negativity. This is one of the reasons why my father growing up would not let us watch the news. He would not let us
watch commercials that talked about a lot of harmful things or the news
because he didn't want us to be susceptible to hearing about things that
maybe are happening in a micro level that are blown out of proportion that
seem like it's happening all over the world but it's really only happening in a
small level.
He didn't want us to emphasize on all this negative energy and this negative attitude.
So he eliminated those thoughts from our mind to support us in the positive.
In sports as well, I would also have coaches that, you know, things wouldn't always go our way.
And I used to be so negative.
I used to be so reactive when I missed a shot, when I dropped the ball,
when I messed up, when something that I did was wrong or was a mistake. I used to beat myself up
so much. Or when we'd lose, I was such a sore loser. I'd have such a bad negative attitude.
And our coaches over the years would really teach me like, that isn't helping you. That isn't
supporting you or your teammates around you. But having a positive attitude when things go wrong will lift your teammates up,
will lift you up to help you improve for the next play in the next moment.
It's really all about having that positive attitude.
Because the negative doesn't usually serve us for anything ever.
There are times, absolutely, to speak up and be a stand
for when bad things are happening to you or happening to other people or around you.
But that's not what I'm talking about.
I'm not talking about that specific moment in time.
I'm talking about spending hours of your day thinking about yourself negatively
and thinking about the world negatively around you.
Just ruminating on how negative everything is.
That prevents you from showing up as the best version of yourself.
And I believe you're robbing
yourself and your loved ones and the world of your gifts and who you truly are when you sit
in that negative state. So when I began to shift into having a positive attitude, it really helped
me in every area of my life. And negative things or things that I don't like happen around me all
the time. But it's a practice, even today. And when I'm hit with these adversities or
these obstacles, I try to ask myself how could it possibly serve me in the future
or if it's worth putting so much energy into it around a negative attitude. Is it
really worth it? Is it helping me and my health? Is it helping me in my joy and my
love for others and my love for myself by holding onto this negative energy?
It's usually not worth the energy.
So why do we do it so frequently?
You know, there's this book called
Don't Sweat the Small Stuff
because it's all small stuff.
You know, obviously there's adversity and there's challenges,
but when you can have the attitude around it,
it really shifts your life and the people around you.
So you've got to do the work to develop that awareness, to realize that for yourself.
This isn't easy.
This took me a long time.
And having a positive attitude is, in my opinion, one of the most important things to manifesting,
to attracting, to feeling better about yourself.
But one thing that I've learned from the different guests and the experts on the show in the last few years is that what's most important is getting to the root of what's causing you the stress, the pain, the anxiety, the negative feelings that you're having.
Because positive affirmations can only get you so far if you're not also doing the deep work on what's really going on, what's underneath the trigger, the anxiety, the fear.
Dr. Caroline Leaf has been on the show a couple of times. I really love her message and her expertise.
She said, it's like putting a band-aid on a bullet wound when you're just trying to have a positive
affirmation without actually going to the root cause of what that trigger and negativity is.
But if you're able to get to the roots of some of the things causing you so much pain
and suffering and the negative attitude that you have and then begin working to stay positive
and having an abundance mindset, that's when you can really start to create real change
and start to see and notice the feelings of positivity, notice the feelings of happiness
flood into your heart, into your body, into your
soul. And that's what this is all about. So habit number three is an important one. It's all about
giving back, volunteering your time, helping others, mentoring, coaching, being of service
in any way possible that you can. And you might have heard me share this before, but
if you're going to be addicted to anything in life, be addicted to service. I believe it's, you know, not addicted in the
negative sense, but if you're going to be committed to doing something and living an intentional
practice, be intentional on the act of serving other people. And in whatever way that works
for you, whatever you have to do, do that for you. It's been my mission since the
beginning of this show and every single day I aim to show up and give back to you, to people
watching, to people listening, my friends and family, my team members, and anyone possible that
I can. And it's very important for me. And it also brings me a lot of joy when I can know that
something I did caused a positive impact on someone else's life.
Whether it be a piece of content, someone I interviewed, something they said, something I said,
a way we put it out there that connected with people. That brings me so much joy. It brings
me so much happiness knowing that my life has had meaning on one person's life. And it continues to feed and fuel my fulfillment
and my soul every day.
And that's why I continue to be committed
to habit number one, which is the vision
and staying true to that vision.
And in a New York Times article by Tara Parker Pope,
she wrote that several studies suggest
that supporting others helps buffer our bodies against the
detrimental effects of stress. And a five-year study of 846 people in Detroit found that
stressful life events appeared to take a greater toll on people who were less helpful to others,
while helping others seemed to erase the detrimental physical effects of stressful experiences.
Now for me, that is crazy to think that those who were more self-centered,
who weren't focusing outward and trying to help other people,
those that were only thinking about themselves, not helping others,
had more physical pain and ailments based on the stressful environment.
Whereas those who were focusing out, that started to go away. And for me that says something
about how service is truly important in our lives.
Habit number four is a big one. Something I do all the time is to express
gratitude and appreciation. This may seem like so basic. This may seem like the
dumbest thing because it's so simple.
But it will transform and change your life. And when we appreciate everything that we already have,
not focusing on all the things that we don't have, but appreciate the things we already have, it puts us in a mindset of abundance
rather than scarcity. And this is huge because gratitude drowns out negativity and it brings positivity into our lives.
It puts us into perspective in the moment of what is meaningful, what we have created,
what we have, the people in our life right now.
And we can channel that positive energy into everything we're doing and we can shift that
positive energy into our vision and our mission.
And I can't speak for everyone, but gratitude has been life changing for me.
It's something again that I do every day.
It's non-negotiable. When I wake up it's on my voicemail. When someone calls me I
say tell me what you're grateful for and I'll get back to you. In our team
meetings we talk about it. When we start a meeting, what are you grateful for
today? It's just something when I go to bed at night I express three things I'm
grateful for. All these things help me continue to stay in the present moment, not focused on the past of
what I did or how mistakes I made, not worry about the future, but really be present. And that's the
key to being happy is focusing on what you have right now and the people in your life. And many
other psychologists that I've interviewed on this show tell me that gratitude is proven to create a happier life
This isn't just some fluffy woo-woo, you know personal development thing. This is now science
It's been researched. It's been studied and proven that gratitude decreases depression
Increases happiness in people's lives
So don't let gratitude be something you just do from time to time or once in a while or on a holiday or Thanksgiving.
You need to find time and place to do it every single day.
And the more you do it, the more frequently you do it, the happier, healthier, more fulfilled you will be.
And it'll put your life in perspective.
It'll get you out of the things you don't have and focus on things you do have.
The simplest way to do that is just to add gratitude to the start of something you're already doing. We talked about
this with what I do. We do it before team meetings. You could do it while you're
making coffee. You could do it right before you eat every meal. You could do
it when you wake up, when you go to bed. Whatever you're about to start something,
have a moment. It could be five seconds. I'm grateful for this moment. I'm grateful
for this thing. I'm grateful I have this.
And really be intentional on that.
Spend a few minutes and use that time wisely to express gratitude.
For me, again, I wake up every morning and I express the things that I'm grateful for.
I really just wake up and say thank you.
Thank you for another day.
Thank you for my health.
Thank you for the people in my life.
Thank you for the challenging times that have helped me grow and improve myself. I try to just say thank you for my health. Thank you for the people in my life. Thank you for the challenging times that have helped me grow and improve myself.
I try to just say thank you for it all.
And that really supports me in the day.
And you'll be able to love deeper.
You'll create more light for other people.
And you'll appreciate the little things around you
more than ever.
I'm telling you, a ritual of gratitude will change your life.
It's, again again it seems so
basic it might seem like so you know this is not some crazy life hack or some thing some app or
something that's gonna switch something on your brain this is just going back to the basics to
help you improve your happiness habit number five is to create healthy relationships with boundaries
i didn't know what a boundary was until really a few years ago in certain areas of my life.
And personal boundaries are essential
in healthy relationships
because they provide the foundation
for your expectations, behavior,
and how you communicate with others.
Sometimes setting the limits
can be challenging and difficult,
especially if you want everyone to be happy around you.
Now raise your hands if you are a recovering people pleaser like me
and you want everyone to like you,
you want everyone to be happy around you,
you don't want anyone to ever be mad at you for anything.
That's been me pretty much my entire life up until recently
when I learned how to create healthy boundaries
and know that I'm going to disappoint people.
But the most important person that I I'm going to disappoint people. But the most important person
that I'm not going to disappoint is myself.
And I was always abandoning myself
to try to please others.
And I was hurting myself in the process.
And you should never hurt yourself.
You obviously don't want to hurt others,
but you should never hurt yourself.
And we often react differently
when we don't get what we want or when what is
happening around us isn't what we expected. When that expectation kind of hangover happens to us,
results in frustration or hurt feelings. I know. I know the feeling. You expect someone to say
something or do something. They don't do it. You get let down. It hurts. That's why communication
is so important. And whether it's an intimate relationship, a family member, a business relationship, when the boundaries we have
set are not met, we feel violated, or for myself I felt abused, taken advantage of,
and all these different things. And that doesn't feel good. I understand those
feelings. They don't feel good. So when you create a standard, create a boundary,
you've got to communicate and talk
about your expectations in that communication process. Sometimes this can be extremely
challenging and difficult conversations, especially if you've never done in the past.
And oftentimes boundaries are not discussed and that can cause bitterness and resentment. And if
you take the proactive approach by discussing boundaries with your partner, you can avoid a
lot of that pain and stress and disaster.
So I highly encourage you to be willing to be uncomfortable in those boundary conversations.
And I loved this moment that I had when I interviewed Nedra Tawwab.
And she said, she's like the boundary expert, and she said, when we think about boundaries,
we think about them as something with someone else. But a boundary
could be a morning routine. A boundary could be having some quiet time after lunch. It's not just
all these things that we need other people to do. It's also what we need to do with ourselves.
And I think it's so important for us to reflect on what are the boundaries we're keeping with
ourselves. Not about significant others or family or reflect on what are the boundaries we're keeping with ourselves.
Not about significant others or family or friends.
What are the boundaries of integrity you're keeping with yourself?
So think about that for yourself and the boundaries you want to set in the specific relationships
in your life.
And really, are any of them being crossed already?
What are the places in your life where you feel like boundaries are already being crossed?
Make a list.
Write these down. And are you not respecting the boundaries yourself? Are you
crossing boundaries that you shouldn't be crossing with someone else in your life? It's a difficult
thing to do, especially if you've never really thought about them. But when I began setting
boundaries in my life, as well as started to hear about the importance of them from different
therapists and psychologists that we've interviewed on the show
It made a huge difference in my emotional mental
Physical well-being as well because really when you think about boundaries, you know when an emotional mental
Spiritual boundary feels crossed you almost feel it in your body. I know I did I would feel tightness tension
I would have like
Eczema flare-ups when a boundary was crossed and I didn't know how to handle it. And you feel the boundary being
crossed emotionally and it physically manifests. So this will continue to help
you be happier and physically healthier when you create boundaries. Which leads
me into habit number six, which is to take care of your physical health. Work
out, eat clean, physical and mental health. The emotional and mental stress can
really lean into the physical damage if we don't have a clean, healthy
relationship with the mental and emotional side of ourselves, creating
boundaries and all that other stuff. But taking care of your body consistently,
moving your body, exercising is so important for your overall physical and mental health.
We've had so many different experts come on and talk about the research and the science of how physical movement increases happiness,
increases dopamine, makes you feel more confident, all these things.
Being stagnant for two weeks and not moving your body will make you feel less and less confident, make you feel weak.
And all those different feelings will create stress and anxiety in your life.
When you don't exercise, you're not giving your body the clarity it needs.
It's not cleansing itself.
It's not moving.
And you've got to move in order to get you closer towards your desired goals as well.
So you've got to think about these things.
What does your body need?
It's something that I've started talking about more and more as I've started to integrate
this more and more in my life.
And I started taking boxing lessons a couple times a week six months ago and it's transformed
my physical and mental health.
You might have to reassess like are the physical activities I'm doing right now supporting
me or do I need to mix it up?
Do I need to try something new? Do I need to try something new?
Do I need a new challenge?
That's what I did with boxing.
I've been able to lift and run and play sports my whole life,
but I felt like I needed something to shift me physically,
and boxing was something I'd never done,
something that was challenging.
It's mental, it's emotional and physical,
and it's one of the hardest workouts I've ever done.
So I go early in the morning and I do that because that's been huge for me because it
means I can take care of the most important and often the hardest things first, which
set up the rest of my day for success.
And when I finish a workout early in the morning and I realize, wow, there's still a lot of
people that are asleep who haven't gotten up, who haven't done anything, and I'm finishing
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human. That makes me feel more confident. Makes me feel happier. That detoxes things that I need
to let go of. When I do that, I feel like, wow, what's next? What is there that I need to do? I
can do anything. Bring it to me.
I will take on the world today. And when you start the day with that momentum,
I really support you with your overall happiness. Now, if you're not often physically active,
don't overwhelm yourself and say, I'm going to do two hours a day of activity,
and I'm going to go crazy here, and I'm going to sign up for all these classes because you'll
burn out quick or you'll hurt yourself. You can start as small as just going for a 10, 20-minute walk around the block
five days a week and really get started.
Just get yourself moving on the process of consistency.
And even if you're making small progress,
that progress is signaling your brain of the changes that you are wanting to make.
And again, 5, 10, 20 minutes a day will eventually be 30 and 60 minutes a day.
And it'll continue to build and compound over time.
So don't overwhelm yourself by thinking you have to go extremely crazy right off the bat.
And I'm going to eat perfect seven days a week.
I'm going to train like a machine.
And I'm going to get 12 hours of sleep.
And all these things, you're probably not going to be able to sustain that within two weeks.
But getting started and being consistent is the key. So anything is better than nothing when it comes to
moving your body. And the next thing is really to focus on your diet. I know when
I'm not eating clean consistently, I kind of take the 80-20 approach for
nutrition and food. 80% of the time I try to eat as clean and healthy and organic
as possible. 20% of the time I'm traveling.
The weekends I have more sugar and desserts and things that I know aren't the best for fuel for my body.
But they taste good and I give myself that balance.
And you can work out all you want, but you can't outwork your mouth.
That's for sure.
You cannot outwork your mouth.
You can train for an hour and then if you're having all this cakes and cookies, it's not going to do's for sure. You cannot outwork your mouth. You can train for an hour and then
if you're having all this cakes and cookies, it's not going to do anything for you. You're actually
not doing any favors for yourself. You might be maintaining, but you're not really improving.
And our guests all the time talk about eating things like, I've asked so many different
scientists, doctors, and nutritionists about the top food you should be eating and they all consistently say blueberries foods that are high in omega-3 fatty acids like
salmon and walnuts and avocado oil dark chocolate the list goes on and on from
there leafy greens all that stuff but eating more of those things adding more
of those things into your your body will support you and you don't want to put in so much effort in your workout
routine and then just go have alcohol and sugar and pizza every night. That's not going to really
support your growth. You can have cheat meals in moderation or you can just call it balanced meals
in moderation if you don't want to call it cheat meals. I do the balanced 80-20 kind of percent
rule. And having a clean diet will not,
but having a clean diet will not only serve you physically
in your health, but also in your mental health.
Because we've talked about so many different experts
who have come on and share that the foods
that actually increase your mental health
and affect your mood.
We've had a lot of these different doctors and nutritionists
come on and talk about that.
And when you're eating poorly, it can increase the feelings of depression, anxiety, and stress.
And I believe we're starting to really understand more about how much our diet really affects us,
how much food really can either hurt us or heal us. So for your future self, it's best if you
focus not only on putting your body through the workouts, but also giving your body the cleanest foods possible to eat.
Which brings me to habit number seven, the power of breathing.
This is something that I really started to practice in sports,
but didn't start to really learn how to...
I wouldn't say I call myself a master at this,
but I really didn't start to learn how to, I wouldn't say I call myself a master at this, but it really didn't start to learn how to master breathing until five years ago when I went to India to study for two
weeks meditation and then becoming a meditation instructor. And then from there, meeting with
Wim Hof and doing the Wim Hof breathing techniques, then interviewing James Nestor, talking about
breathing. Andrew Huberman, the famous neuroscientist from Stanfordor talking about breathing Andrew Huberman the famous neuroscientist
from Stanford who talks about breathing in the brain and how it connects to the brain and the
body connection and really the deeper that I've gone down this rabbit hole of learning about the
mastery of breathing and applying it to myself I've noticed incredible results and it's like I I'm
noticing it quicker and quicker so it's been really helping me improve my peace
improve my mental health improve my mood just with breathing and that is a
powerful tool you don't need anything you don't need to buy anything you don't
need to eat anything you don't need to buy anything. You don't need to eat anything. You don't need to
do anything different. In a few moments, you can change the way you feel through your breath.
And breathing is the number one way to give your mind a reset and to get you back into a balanced,
peaceful state. When you're nervous, stressed out, feeling overwhelmed, or catching yourself overthinking
something or overanalyzing, breathing exercises can help you get back to calm and control. And
that's what this is all about. The power of breath is that it lets you steer your energy. It lets you
get back on to habit number one, your vision, as opposed to being distracted, stressed, and overwhelmed.
And I did this as an athlete.
I would do this going up for big moments in a game in football.
Breathe slowly.
I've had different sports psychologists come on and talk about how in practice you
want to actually get yourself up and practice like it's a game.
And when you're in a game time situation you want to slow down because you have so
much adrenaline. You want to calm and slow down so I do that as an
athlete before I get on stage right before I really tried to think about how
do I slow it down because I know when the lights turn on when the music gets
on I'm gonna be hyped I'm gonna be pumped but how do I slow down so I can
communicate my message effectively as opposed to being all anxious and excited about it. So I want to share three steps to properly help
yourself incorporate breathing into your day today. Number one is to bring
awareness to your breath. So really just think about it and bring awareness. And
when we're breathing all the time, all day long we're breathing, but we're
rarely paying attention to it. We hardly
really think about it. But when we think about it by taking a moment to bring
your awareness to your breath just as it is, you can get out of your head and into
the present moment. So when you're focused on breathing and that's all you
focus on and see how it feels in your body, see how it feels in your mind and your heart and see
how it's naturally calming your heart rate.
You can actually feel your heart rate go down and you put your attention on that activity
for 60 seconds.
You can eliminate other distractions by putting attention on that and get back into a rhythm
that will help you in that moment.
This habit is great for when you catch yourself overanalyzing things, stressed, anxious,
worried, uncertain about the future.
Just turn your focus back to your breath and temporarily let go of any other stress.
The second part is to focus on and lengthen your exhale.
This is something I learned in India when I went there five years ago.
They take inhales through the nose.
And whatever the time amount through the nose,
they teach you to practice twice as long exhale out of the nose.
So if you're taking an inhale for two counts in the nose,
four counts out of the nose.
two counts in the nose, four counts out of the nose. And by repeating that process, it'll calm your heart rate, it'll calm your mind, and get you back into a peaceful state. And you just repeat
that process over and over again. Or it could be four inhale, eight out, three inhale, six out.
The exhale is just as important, if not more important than your inhale.
So drawing out your exhale will slow your heart rate down
and again bring you into a calmer state of mind.
And number three is to use a deliberate sigh.
So Dr. Andrew Huberman, who's a neuroscientist from Stanford,
who's been on the show a couple
of times, showed me an exercise that involves breathing with a double intake and an extended
exhale.
So still the same extended exhale, but a double intake.
And by doing this exercise for just two or three cycles can really help you calm down.
And it also expands the oxygen level in your body as well.
And I urge you to try it a few times during the day
when you feel overwhelmed.
I've been doing this a lot since he taught me.
It's simply, you breathe through the nose
with a double inhale like this.
So a double inhale.
And twice in a long exhale that way.
By doing that a few times,
it really opens up the oxygen level,
calms you at the same time.
So practice that a couple times throughout the day.
Habit number eight.
This is huge.
Again, this is no secret.
This is no crazy hack.
It's just sleep more.
Sleep more.
Recover.
Your body is going through so much every single day,
especially in the last 20 years with all the data and information
we are consuming from our smartphones, from computers.
We're getting so many data points every day.
The body needs more rest.
We're working harder. We're trying to be more productive.
We're trying to squeeze the juice out of life more.
Whether it's play, work, relationships, we're squeezing more juice out of life more. Whether it's play, work, relationships, we're squeezing more juice
out of life. And we need proper sleep to recover. And if we're staying up till 2 or 3 a.m. and
feeling exhausted from the day and anxious about tomorrow, then we're going to be in a sleep
deficit. And we need to get back on track with our sleep. So here's a few ways to start getting
better sleep. Number one,
stick to a sleep schedule as often as you can. Now, this can be hard if you're traveling,
I get it. But as often as you can, try to go to bed at the same time. Proper sleep recovers and
refreshes your mind. So the next day can be stress-free. But it's important to say, okay,
I'm going to be in bed by 10 every night or 11 every night or whatever that time is for you.
So you have a schedule so you know you're going to get the certain amount of hours you need.
Number two, pay attention to your diet that day. Try not to have big heavy meals before sleeping
and also try to limit your caffeine intake after, I would say, 10 a.m. to noon. You don't really want
to have caffeine after that. The research has shown it's going to make it harder for you to go
to sleep at night. So number three is creating a peaceful environment for your sleep is crucial. My friend
Shawn Stevenson talks about this in his book Sleep Smarter that you want to create a sleep
sanctuary. You want to make sure that your bedroom where you sleep is a sanctuary for you to shut off
and go to sleep. And that can be hard for some of us as we work from home, we sleep at home, we work, we've got a lot of activities happening in the same place.
It's hard to really shut it off when you're used to picking up your phone in
the morning or being on your phone at night, watching TV in bed, or doing all
these other things in your sleeping space. But you want to create a sleep
sanctuary. You want to create a routine that helps you separate yourself from the other areas of your
life like taking a bath it'll help you rest and recover better so what is the routine what is the
sanctuary that you're going to create the environment of peaceful restful sleep it's one of
the most important things you can do and as an athlete i used to sleep a ton i knew the importance
of sleep because your body would be so sore.
We would take naps.
We would sleep as much as we could.
I used to sleep in as long as I could to get that quality sleep.
As a business leader, when I'm traveling, I know now I'm not 21 anymore.
I know the importance of my sleep.
Even if I get two or three hours less sleep than I'm used to, it will affect me.
I'll need more caffeine.
There'll be other things you'll need to supplement.
So it's important to know that if you are living a high performance life,
if you are trying to squeeze the juice out of life,
if that's the season of life you're in right now,
you've got to make sleep a huge priority for yourself.
So you have the energy, the focus, and the clarity to move towards your vision.
Habit number nine.
Oh, this is a big one.
It's a big one because a lot of people don't like to do this,
is to take responsibility for yourself,
for your actions, and keep yourself accountable.
Now, it's easy to be the victim.
It's easy to say, make excuses for yourself and say,
well, I didn't want to do this.
I wasn't feeling this or this thing happened or this circumstance happened.
But you cannot negotiate your dreams and your goals. You cannot negotiate
with your goals through
Circumstances or excuses that will make you unhappy
It's up to you to take responsibility for your life
And you have to decide today that you're going to get in shape that you're gonna start that side hustle or that business that you're
Gonna take on a new hobby
Whatever may be for you, you've got to decide.
And only you can decide to take that first step.
And then, most importantly, be consistent on those steps day after day, week after week,
year after year.
But the next step that matters just as much is being held accountable for the goals in
front of you.
That is important.
The accountability is so key.
And you need to create a habit of checking in with someone on a daily or
weekly basis that can hold you accountable and call you out if you're
falling short. This is why we have our greatness coaching program that
high-performance leaders in our community are members of. They have joined.
They have monthly accountability. They've got partners, they've got myself, they've got a coach, all these different things to help
people stay accountable. An accountability partner could be a friend
for you, could be a family member, could be a co-worker, could be a coach that you
hire, could just be someone you pay as an accountability person to check on you
daily. Whatever it is for you, accountability is key. And the effects of
accountability are
strongest when you and your partner have similar goals so you can grow together with them. It's
huge when you guys have that common goal. Just having one accountability partner can do wonders
for you. Just one person to hold you accountable, to give you checks and balances. But you can also
consider surrounding yourself with a team, a community of people who inspire
you and hold you accountable.
I hire lots of coaches.
Personally, I try to find the experts in every area of my life, hire them to hold me accountable
for what is important to me.
Only what is important to me, I have them do.
If it's not important and if it's not part of your vision, it's not part of your overall
life plan, then you don't have to do. If it's not important and if it's not part of your vision, it's not part of your overall life plan, then you don't have to do it. But for me, what's important, I hire people. I
have accountability in those areas of my life. Fitness, relationships, spirituality, business,
mental health, financial health. I mean, I hire people in every category. And I understand you
may not be at a point right now where you could do that, where you can afford that.
And I understand you may not be at a point right now where you could do that, where you can afford that.
But find friends, find mentors, find people that can hold each other accountable.
And if you want to improve your fitness, one of the best things you can do is surround
yourself with fitness-minded people.
So if you're hanging out with people that are lazy and on the couch and aren't working
out ever, then start spending more quality time with people that are getting up at 6
a.m. and doing joint runs
together. There's run groups in every city around the world. There's different things you can do
to support you. So think about the accountability in your life, what's important to improve right
now, find those people to support you, and move forward. Habit number 10, learn to cope with
tragedy and let go of regret, anger, and resentment.
Holding on to our past trauma is one of the most painful things we can do for ourselves.
I am speaking for myself here that I held on to trauma and resentment and anger and frustration for 25 years,
if not more, in different parts of my life.
And that is a recipe for suffering, reaction, stress, painful moments, all these
different things. So you know the therapist who's been on who reminded me of this, Guy Winch,
talks about you know the ruminating of our past wounds and holding on to these past wounds and
how to heal the broken heart. We've got that episode that you can dive in more and
so many different therapists have come on and talked about this. But I try to really look for
the positives and what I can learn from these events and feelings and channel those feelings
into growth as a person and really how can I serve others who might be going through something
similar in that situation. I remember hearing a story from Tony Robbins. He said, you know, when I was a kid my mom used to beat me. She used to pour soap
down my mouth because she thought I was lying. She used to do all these things
that caused a lot of pain and trauma for me. But I loved my mother because she
gave me the capacity, the expanded heart to want to help other people rid themselves from
their suffering.
So he used the painful moment not as resentment to hold on to, being angry at his mom, but
to say, I love my mom for this.
She didn't know any better in these times.
She was doing her best.
She was also loving in other ways.
But those moments I'm not going to hold on to them and suffer.
I'm going to use them to end
suffering for those around me. And I think that's really powerful. So really think about how you can
let go of the emotional traumas. This might take some work for a lot of people. For me it took a
long time to really learn how to do that. It's one of the reasons why I started School of Greatness
because I wanted to interview these experts to teach me. But it's created so much freedom and peace in my life and happiness in the process. And habit number 11 is to eliminate
things that don't make you happy and focus on what does make you happy. So I asked Matthew McConaughey
this and when I interviewed him I said you know what are five things that we should be eliminating
in our life. And he mentioned this list of these five things. Number one, we should be eliminating
bad people. Eliminate people that don't promote your growth and that don't bring you joy. We often
cling onto these toxic relationships or people because they validate us in the short term,
but they're very harmful in the long term. So eliminate those people or at least distance
yourself. You know, distance yourself and start spending more quality time with people that bring you joy number two to eliminate is bad places stop going to
places that encourage unhealthy lifestyle behaviors like bars or fast food restaurants etc
again don't go to these places if you know you don't feel good when you're there or afterwards
and if a certain place continually makes you feel bad, do whatever you can to eliminate
or distance yourself or go there less.
Our environment can really impact our mood in a big way.
It's hard to not notice that.
So create those environments for yourself that are healthier.
Number three, you got to eliminate the comparison to others.
Stop comparing yourself to others and eliminate jealousy because what is it the quote, comparison
is the thief of joy.
I think Einstein said that.
When we're constantly comparing yourself to yourself of what you think you should be or
whatever, it's like always in comparison mode is not going to do anything good for your
happiness.
Number four, overthinking your failures.
Instead of dissecting all your problems, start dissecting all your success,
all the things you've done to overcome the challenges.
And ask yourself, how can I replicate my successes
rather than how can I stop my failures?
And number five to eliminate is instant gratification.
This is a big one.
Fight the cravings for instant pleasure and results and be okay with delayed gratification. This is a big one. Bite the cravings for instant pleasure and results
and be okay with delayed gratification. Knowing that you're going to be doing the work consistently
and your future self is going to be grateful for your current self and the consistent effort
you're putting in. You're going to reap way bigger rewards in the future if you can delay
that gratification. So there you have it.
These are the 11 healthy, happy habits
to increase the overall joy of your life
and set you up for a better life.
If you can commit to implementing these in small ways
over the next couple of months,
I'd be curious about what would happen in your life.
What do you think you could create
and transform in your life just by implementing
a few of these things consistently
for a couple months?
Leave a comment below of one or two
that you enjoyed the most
or one or two that you know you need to improve on
in your life.
Which one impacted you?
Which one, ooh, that resonated, I've gotta do that more?
Or this one has been working wonders for me for years?
Leave a comment below on YouTube and let me know.
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