The School of Greatness - 5 Money Beliefs To Rewire Your Mind For Wealth
Episode Date: April 11, 2025Get my New York Times Bestselling book, Make Money Easy!Money may seem complicated, but financial freedom comes down to mindset first, then strategy. In this powerful episode, I sit down with three le...ading financial experts - Jaspreet Singh, Codie Sanchez, and Glennda Baker - who each share their transformative journeys from financial struggle to abundance. Jaspreet reveals how our subconscious beliefs about money shape our financial reality, while Codie challenges conventional wisdom about entrepreneurship with her counterintuitive approach to "boring businesses." Most movingly, Glennda opens up about selling her Rolex at a pawn shop after making impulsive purchases, a painful lesson that later helped her build generational wealth through real estate. Whether you're struggling with debt, considering starting a business, or looking to invest wisely, these conversations offer practical strategies to make wealth-building accessible for everyone.Jaspreet on InstagramCodie on InstagramCodie’s book Main Street Millionaire: How to Make Extraordinary Wealth Buying Ordinary BusinessesGlennda on InstagramIn this episode you will learn:How to identify and transform your subconscious money beliefs that may be sabotaging your financial successWhy buying existing "boring businesses" can be less risky and more profitable than launching exciting startupsThe critical differences between employee and entrepreneur mindsets, and which might be better for your personality typeFive strategic criteria for identifying undervalued real estate investments with significant growth potentialHow to avoid the common trap of making financial decisions based on ego rather than long-term wealth creationFor more information go to https://www.lewishowes.com/1757For more Greatness text PODCAST to +1 (614) 350-3960More SOG episodes we think you’ll love:Jaspreet Singh – greatness.lnk.to/1644SCCodie Sanchez – greatness.lnk.to/1701SCGlennda Baker – greatness.lnk.to/1651SC Get more from Lewis! Get my New York Times Bestselling book, Make Money Easy!Get The Greatness Mindset audiobook on SpotifyText Lewis AIYouTubeInstagramWebsiteTiktokFacebookX
Transcript
Discussion (0)
I have a brand new book called Make Money Easy.
And if you're looking to create more financial freedom in your life,
you want abundance in your life, and you want to stop making money hard in your life,
but you want to make it easier, you want to make it flow, you want to feel abundant,
then make sure to go to makemoneyeasybook.com right now and get yourself a copy.
I really think this is going to help you
transform your relationship with money this moment moving forward. We have some
big guests and content coming up. Make sure you're following and stay tuned to
this episode on the School of Greatness.
In a moment of time when it seems like inflation is rising higher than ever, it seems like
people are more in debt than ever, and it seems like we don't know who to trust.
The government seems like some of them could be lying to us potentially about the economy.
There are so many wars that are causing transfers of money
that we're not sure where the money is going.
Student loans, debt is at an all time high
and it's harder and harder for people
to make money these days.
We brought on one of the leading experts
on the internet today, Jaspreet Singh,
who is a trusted individual and advisor to millions
around the world about money,
managing money, making money, understanding money in their lives. I'm
confused and I feel like a lot of people are confused around money. Can you give
us any insights on how we should first emotionally navigate the money troubles
that millions of people are dealing with today? There's a lot to unpack there.
So I think the first thing is understanding now
how money plays a part in your life.
And I know we've talked about this before,
but I really think the key here is understanding
the number one, money is important,
and understanding your personal relationship with money.
And what I like to define that is
there's a few things that you have to understand.
And number one is that it is my duty to become wealthy
number two money is a tool
number three money is abundant and
Number four is I will become wealthy. Can you say those one more time? Sure
Number one is it is my duty to become wealthy. Yes
it is my duty to become wealthy.
Yes. Number two is that money is abundant.
Number three is that money is a tool.
And number four is that I will become wealthy.
And the reason why I say this is because you really have to understand that you
can do it. Now there's,
there's a difference between now what I'm talking right now and thinking and
growing rich. Because if we kind of now dissect this,
everybody wants this outcome and the outcome is I want financial freedom.
I want to be rich. I want to be wealthy. I want cashflow.
You can use whatever term you want for that outcome.
Maybe you want some sort of financial freedom in order to receive this outcome.
You have to go back a little bit, which means I have to take certain actions,
right? I have to do things on my money. I have to do things to achieve this outcome.
But let's go back even more.
How do you get that action to happen?
I have to have a thought to go out and do something with my money, right?
I have to think I need to invest.
I have to think that I can become wealthy.
And this is where most people think that you have to start, right?
Think and grow rich.
If I think rich, I can take the right actions and have the right outcome.
But that's a lie.
Because what you'll realize, many of us have this is in the back of our minds, you might
have this little voice saying, I know this is not true.
So you can sit there and say, I'm going to grow rich and try to manifest this wealth.
I'm going to grow rich.
I'm going to become wealthy. Money is going to fall rich and try to manifest this wealth. I'm going to grow rich. I'm going to become wealthy.
Money is going to fall into my laps,
but it won't happen if that voice in the back of your mind is saying,
I know I'm just doing this so I can have this outcome. I don't know if it's true.
Somebody like me can't become wealthy.
Somebody that looks like me can't actually do it.
Somebody from my background, somebody with my upbringing,
somebody with whatever circumstances I have can't do it.
And when you have that back of that mind thought, it doesn't matter what you're thinking. You're
trying to just, you're trying to out speak your mind. It doesn't work like that.
So your mind and your words and your actions need to be in congruency and alignment.
Right. And that's where we need to go one step back. Where we talked about we want this outcome.
You need to take an action to have that outcome.
You need to have a thought to have that action.
But what's before the thought?
I call this your subconscious or your pre-thought.
Where this is now really getting into your true beliefs.
Not just your thought, your true subconscious beliefs.
And that's what you have to work on first.
That way you can actually think the right thing
so you can have the right outcomes.
Because what ends up happening,
if you're just thinking this with the frontal part
of your mind, and I don't know which part of your brain
does this, I'm just saying this.
If you're just thinking this,
but you really know deep down that money is evil,
money is bad, I can't become wealthy.
You're never gonna actually achieve the outcome that you want,
which is why you have to start with really that deep understanding of your
relationship with money and why you have that.
Because the real reason why generation or poverty is generational,
is it because of the circumstances that you're dealt with externally?
It's because you grew up being told, we can't have this.
We can't afford nice things. We don't have money for this.
We're not rich like them. Rich people are evil.
When you grow up hearing this, you grow up living life thinking this is true.
Believing it. You believe it. And why wouldn't you? That's what you were told.
Everybody around you said that. People in your school probably said the same
thing. You live this life thinking that, you know, money is limited. It is taboo.
It is bad and we can't have nice things because we're not rich.
Okay, no big deal. That's what's normal.
Now you grow older, you get a job, maybe you're making some decent money,
but you're going to have the same money beliefs.
And then maybe you start having kids.
I know your kids want to have the nice PS four, five, six, whatever we're on.
And what do you say? Oh, we can't afford that. We can't afford the nice things. We don't have money for that.
That's where rich people, we're not rich.
It's now the starts to get passed down. And this is where now the first step,
but we've talked about this many times.
The first step to building wealth is to start with the money mindset,
the beliefs that you have around money and understand number one,
that you can become wealthy, not just that you can become wealthy,
you will become wealthy and that money is abundant.
There's a lot of money in the world.
When people start to enter this financial education space,
we start to assume that if you're rich, I can't be rich.
If you have money, I can't have money.
So it starts to create that jealousy
or just this negative association with,
oh my God, I don't want to tell you my business idea
because what if you steal it and take my money?
Well, both of us can have money
because there's a lot of money in the world.
If you look at it from a financial perspective, the Better Reserve Bank is printing trillions and trillions of dollars. There's a lot of money in the world. If you look at it from a financial perspective,
the better reserve bank is printing trillions and trillions of dollars.
There's a lot of money out there.
You just need a small sliver of it and you can have millions and live a life of
true financial freedom.
And not just that understanding that money is a tool because the reason why we
put these smoke screens around money, the money's bad, it's taboo, it's evil.
This because many times people are insecure about their own money.
And so when I can't go out and buy the nice vacation for my kids, I can't buy my
husband that thing that he wants. I can't buy my wife that YSL or Gucci purse that
she wants. I can't go on the nice vacations. Well, you know,
money's bad. We shouldn't stress about money.
It's these stupid vocations.
We don't need those.
We can enjoy our time here.
It's such a scam to go out there and sit on an all-inclusive beach and have food delivered
to you, right?
I mean, we start to create these smoke screens where, oh, why would anybody want to have
an expensive car like that?
Why would anybody want to have these nice and expensive things?
Judging people who have money. Yeah.
And so now it's, you know what, if you don't want it, that's completely fine,
but make sure you can afford it. And understanding now,
money is not going to make you a good person.
It's also not going to make you a bad person. It's just a piece of paper.
It's fuel. It amplifies who you are. When you have more of that money,
you can do more of the things that money can buy.
One of those things is have freedom, have options. Options to choose what you want to buy,
options to choose where you want to eat, options to choose when you want to go on vacation,
not just can you go on vacation, and options to choose how you want to live your life. And
not just that, unfortunately or fortunately, depending on how you look at it, it also can
influence what type of healthcare you can get,
what type of healthcare your parents can get,
what type of healthcare your kids can get,
what type of college your kids can go to,
what type of education your kids can go to. It matters.
And so now at the end of the day, you can hate it or you can understand it.
And so we create these smoke screens without really understanding how money
plays a part in our life.
Because at the end of the day, money talks and the people who have money will get to
be able to live their freedom and the people who don't, you become subservient to the people
who have money.
And I don't say that to be mean.
I say this to be factual.
The facts.
Yeah.
Right?
The rich get richer, the poor get poorer and the middle middle-class has been shrinking because most people don't understand
money. They don't know how to use their money.
They don't understand what inflation is.
They don't understand how the system works.
The system is designed to produce inflation and you can say, well,
how do you know that the federal reserve bank says this? They publish this.
All the time. They say that we want a 2% inflation target. Why?
Why not 1%? But why not 0%? Why do we want a 2% inflation target. Why? Why not 1%?
But why not 0%?
Why do we want inflation in the first place?
Because that's the way our economic system works.
Our economic system runs on spending.
And inflation increases the monetary supply.
It increases the amount of dollars out there.
That means the government has more money to spend.
If the government has more money to spend, they can continue spending money and giving people jobs, right?
If they, if they go out and give a contract to greatness,
so you can produce some content where you can go out and hire some people to go
out and do things. But the question is, how are they paying for that?
Because if I'm paying you to do that,
I have to make a profit or I have to generate revenue from my business, right?
To go out and write you this check.
The government can just levy a tax or they can just get the money printed,
which is a whole lot easier.
And so then one of these things can create more inflation in that sense.
And that's why, again, our system is this way.
We talk about why is financial education so important?
Because it is designed to benefit the financially educated.
It's designed to benefit investors.
And anybody can be an investor,
but we're never taught to be investors.
We're taught to go to school to get a job
and spend our money.
We're never taught what to do with that money.
We're never taught to start a business.
And we're never taught how to take this money
that we're earning and convert it into wealth.
We're taught to turn this money into cars and clothes.
Flashy things.
And vacations.
So you say then that the government is designed
to keep people poor unless they're willing to invest
in financial literacy and education
and make the right choices to get them
into creating more wealth.
Our economic system is designed to keep people poor.
The government continues to spend money, which creates inflation,
which keeps people poor.
And this is where now in order for you to break out of that system,
you have to number one, learn the system. Number two, believe you can do it.
Number three, do something about it. Yes. And do something about it means
you gotta stop spending all our money,
which is uncomfortable, right?
Because we want to have the nice things.
But I'm not saying
don't ever have a nice thing again.
Don't ever go to, you know, Starbucks
or go to Gucci.
No, what I'm saying is
go through the decade of sacrifice
of spending less,
earning more.
It's tough financially,
but that's going to give you some more money. Now, when you take this money, you're going to start investing it. Spending less, earning more. It's tough financially,
but that's gonna give you some more money.
Now when you take this money,
you're gonna start investing it.
You're gonna be very disappointed in the first couple of years
because you see no returns.
You don't see anything happening,
but you gotta stick with it.
Yes.
And you keep doing it.
You built your financial education,
you learn more about how to invest.
You start studying the financial trend.
You keep building the financial preparedness.
Maybe you see a market downturn
that creates more opportunities for you to invest, but you just stick with it. You keep building the financial preparedness. Maybe you see a market downturn that creates more opportunities for you to
invest, but you just stick with it. Then what's going to end up happening?
You go through the decade of sacrifice.
This now you turn around and you don't recognize the person that you were 10
years ago. You won't even recognize yourself three years ago,
but this is where now you will start to build this real wealth
fund for yourself. And now you can start spending more money,
but it's not necessarily coming out of your paycheck.
You can start having nice things.
You don't have to worry about the price because the money is being funded by
your investments.
And that's why now understanding the system is designed to keep the majority
people broke.
And the reason why is because they want you to spend all their money and they
want you to spend money you don't have, because that means you get to spend more
money, right? If I make 50 grand a year,
I only have $50,000 worth of buying power,
you would think, but no, you have more because of credit.
We live in a credit-based economy.
So if I can only spend $50,000,
I mean, I can only stimulate the economy by $50,000.
And that's where this clever financial strategizing came in
and said, well, how do we get somebody making $50,000 a year to stimulate the economy by $80,000
a year, credit cards, lines of credit, other forms of debt that we now,
what is that you're taking next year's income, spending it today,
and then you pay it back next year plus interest.
So now you constantly you're working just to make everybody else rich.
You're working to make a bank rich. You're working to make Gucci rich.
You're working to make everybody else rich except yourself.
And this is where that's what the system is designed to do.
But if you want to build wealth, you got to number one,
learn and stop spending all that money.
Who should be most afraid?
People that are making.
Under one hundred thousand dollars, people that are making it from $100,000 to $500,000 a year, or people that are making $500,000 to $1 million a year.
Over the next few years, with the elections, the economy, wars, inflation, who is at the biggest risk financially? Well, I think it's everybody I would have said one over the other it depends on the percentage of money
You're keeping for yourself versus spending because if you make a million dollars a year and you're spending 110% of it money a year
But you're making 50 versus somebody else is making 50 grand. I'm living off of 75,000
I'm more worried about the million dollar a year person because you are one bad step away from bankruptcy
Versus if you make a 50 grand a year, but you're smart with their money, which I've met a lot of people
Doing that you are
You're ready for whatever happens and you said bring it on because I'm gonna find the opportunity
It's a very different mindset and you're not living in you know
You're not living out of your means. So you're, you've figured out how to have
a comfortable lifestyle, a lifestyle that suits you,
that aligns with your financial income,
and you're not choosing to overspend.
Right.
And I've met a lot of people who have, you know,
who rent, who have great relationships,
who have good family ties and community,
that are able to
use their time without having to spend money to have fun, to enjoy their life.
Yeah.
Beyond, obviously you gotta buy food and you gotta pay rent and bills and expenses, but
they don't need to overspend.
They can go in nature, they can go on walks, they can be with their dog or their friends or family and do things and activities that stimulate more fulfillment and joy than spending on watches and clothes.
You know, the first, my was expressed that she would want to,
she'd always wanted, you know, a designer purse
or some other things like that.
And so she went out and I wanted to make sure
she had whatever she wanted.
So she got, you know, the designer purses
and all that nice stuff.
And then pretty quickly she realizes,
okay, this doesn't really give me much fulfillment.
Now what? Now what? I can buy my purses, but it doesn't really give me much fulfillment. Now what?
Now what?
I can buy my purses, but it doesn't,
the attraction to these things are the highest
when you can't afford them.
When you can comfortably afford it,
you no longer really crave that stuff.
Now you realize, well, what's something bigger?
What's gonna really give me that fulfillment? What is gonna give me those memories? And it really goes back to what you were just well, what's something bigger? What's going to really give me that fulfillment?
What is going to give me those memories?
And it really goes back to what you were just saying,
which is a mindset shift because everyone says,
Oh, it's going to suck living smaller. It's going to suck doing this.
Well, it doesn't have to. When I'm sure when you were starting your business,
you were working hard, but you were probably having the time of your life.
It was a, yeah, it's the thrill. It's, it's, I mean, there's ups and downs.
But it's, it's, I mean, there's ups and downs.
But it's, it's when I was first getting started,
when I started my party promotion business, I knew nothing about anything. I was a naive 17 year old kid. I mean, I was really, I mean,
financially dumb,
but I knew I wanted to start building some income and start doing more things
than my money. And I had two other guy friends that were doing this with me.
They were kind of like partners that we worked hard with and we were working
around the clock, but we were having the time of our lives. It was tough.
I mean, we were working hard, but we were having so much fun.
They were laughing so much because we were just having fun.
And it's really like, it can be exciting to all this new adventure. Yeah. And it's really that
mind again, people also need perspective. I think you gain a
mindset when you experience a perspective that wakes you up. We're
just talking about, you know, Indian culture. I've been to India, I've been
to Guatemala five times. I go to Mexico all the time, even in, you know,
wealthy areas of Mexico.
You know, the thing that breaks my heart the most and gives me a lot of perspective and a lot of
appreciation for my life is when I see seven-year-old girls walking in the street, nine-year-old boys,
nine-year-old boys, four-year-old girls walking by themselves with little candies
working all day and all night to survive that day because their parents don't have money and their parents are out working as well selling whatever they can sell and you see a girl trying
to get 20 pesos for a little piece of gum or something or a little candy and that is her life
every day she's walking the streets in Mexico or Guatemala or India or whatever it might be
to survive that day and it puts your mindset in perspective. Yeah. When you're eating at a
nice restaurant and you're getting your cup of coffee, and you're spending $80 for coffee,
and you see a child working 12 hours a day, because she needs to support the parents to
live that day. It puts your life in perspective. It makes you realize, oh, okay,
maybe I can be more fulfilled with what I have. Maybe I can make some different choices.
Maybe I can appreciate where I'm working right now, or I can appreciate what I've created
for myself far.
Maybe I don't have to be so jealous of everyone else around me, of what they're buying and
consuming or where they're going on their trips.
I can value my life in a different way.
And I think perspective like that wakes you up in a big way.
It's a cultural shift too.
I mean, it's, it's when you grow up in a country like America where resources are plentiful,
it's hard to sometimes see them because in other countries, they're not always there.
And people, you know, unfortunately, a lot of people don't realize that when you're in a country like America,
like if you can understand the words that I'm saying, you have the opportunities to build wealth.
You have the opportunities to do whatever you want where you might not get those opportunities in other parts of the world.
And when you have so much, we'll call it privilege of being able to speak English, of being able to be in a first world country, you start to then create victimizations of yourself
and you start to create these like,
it's difficult for me because of X, Y, and Z
versus where other parts of the world,
you might not have that privilege.
Again, I make a lot of mistakes,
so I would definitely not want to put myself as, you know,
a perfect person or anything even close.
I make a lot of mistakes in every which way,
but I think the goal is always just to try to be a little bit better every day.
You can improve no matter where you are.
I think all of us, myself included, especially have a lot to improve.
There is opportunity and availability free to go out and live
a life financially of more freedom. But that requires you to number one, breathe, understand as possible, take action.
And even when things get tough, you keep going.
And beyond that, you got to make those financial sacrifices.
That way you can do more of the financial
things, travel, spend money and not have to worry about the price because now you have
the money. Right. The goal is not to ever enjoy the nice things, is to be able to afford
the nice things, but the habit to worry about the price because you've put in the work and
now you earned it.
What is the personality type do you think that is for starting or buying a business
versus a personality type that is not for owning a business?
Yeah.
Well, I don't think you can spell rich without risk.
And so if you really want richness in your life, like if you want to be very, very rich,
you are not going to get there if you take no risk, unfortunately.
I've never seen it done that way.
Maybe you guys could tell me if I'm wrong.
And if you want to get rich, here's the stats.
One thing that's cool stat, 79% of all millionaires in the US are self-made.
That number shocked me.
Because if you heard in the news, you'd think, no, no, no, it's all handed down.
But 60% of all millionaires own a business.
So you immediately know, well, I have a 60% higher likelihood
of becoming a millionaire if I own a business.
And if I want to make crazy levels of money,
like $30 million plus, 88% of people who are worth $30 million
plus own a business.
So first, you've got to be honest with yourself.
What do I really want?
If I want to be a millionaire and if if I wanna be worth 10 million plus,
hard to get there without having some version
of ownership or equity.
And taking risk and working your butt off nonstop.
100%.
Like I giggled,
because another YouTube video did a video of me
and it was like, make millions, it's easy, no work.
Who's the title?
Passive.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
I was like, I'm pretty sure I've never said that in my life.
How many hours do you think you work a week?
Oh, a lot.
I mean, when I was in finance,
I was working 70, 80 hours a week.
I remember one of my colleagues, Eduardo,
we were walking back from a,
we were in New York at the time,
and we were walking back from work one day,
super late at night,
and he just passed out in the middle of the
road.
And I was like, holy hell, Eduardo, are you okay?
What's going on?
And he just, he was exhausted.
It was like passing out from exhaustion.
So.
Working 80 hour weeks for years, probably.
Yeah.
And he was young.
So, analyst program, I was only there for like two years.
He would have been about the same, but just that compounding plus, you know, it's a work
hard, play hard.
Yeah, yeah. And that was an employee job. It was an employee job. You were an employee. just that compounding plus, you know, it's a work hard, play hard environment.
And that was an employee job.
It was an employee.
You were an employee.
But you were making a lot of money as an employee,
but that was what it took to put in the time,
to have a skillset at the right business,
to be able to deliver results, to get that type of income.
It took you 78 hours a week.
Yeah, for sure.
So you can't do it with like 40 hours a week,
just kind of casually showing up
and expect like multiple six figures.
I don't think so.
Do you know any business that's paying someone
to just do the bare minimum?
No, unless you are the capital.
That's where you start.
Unless you have the money.
Unless you got the money.
Then I have many businesses that I do no work for now.
Right, right, right.
But that's because I did rents.
You invested.
I put money down.
And you can lose it all.
And I could lose it all.
And the only way you get around that
is you work really hard as an employee for somebody else
and you get a percentage of the company,
which is something that we do for our employees
and I think really important.
But you gotta become valuable enough to do it.
How valuable do you need to be?
How much do you need to be earning for that business?
Like bringing in for that business?
Well, there's two ways that you can actually get equity
in businesses that we learned in
private equity that I think are useful for people.
The first way is you can ask to buy in.
So you can say, hey, I don't have a lot of cash, but like, we're going to do this deal
over here.
Could I put $10,000 into this business deal?
You know, hey, you're going to do this partnership.
Could I like buy into the partnership for 10K?
And we don't, we're not taught how to do that as normal people,
and we should think that way.
Because what is that telling me?
That's like, hey, you're willing to put a little risk
on the table, and also you're not trying to sell me
that you should get XYZ entitlement,
you're saying let me put some skin in the game.
That's the worst.
Right.
And that's how most private equity guys
make their first dollars,
is they are just allowed to put some skin in the game, which is great.
And then the second way is you become so valuable that the business can't see itself operating
without you.
And this is typically how startups do.
So it's like, hey, you're so valuable, you're going to do the first stage of XYZ of the
company.
Because of that, we're going to give you a percentage, and every single year you'll get
a little bit more of that percentage over like three to five years.
So two ways to get a percentage of a deal.
And we teach one in the book called partial acquisitions.
And so basically if right now you're working,
like let's say somebody's working for you or me, right?
And if you're working for a company right now today
and you love what you do and you wanna stay there,
but you wanna get some income on the side, You have a skill set. You're a photographer.
I don't know. You're a videographer. Then what could you do? You could go to other companies
that have that need your skill set and you could say, hey, if I can increase the revenue
of your business, if I could decrease the costs of your business, or I could decrease
your pain of the business, could I get a percentage of the business?
And you could do that both for distributing equity,
that's where you cash flow, or regular equity.
This is what I'm teaching a lot more people to do,
because there's a stair-step way to buy a business.
Maybe you're not ready to go all in.
Well, learn how to get a small percentage instead.
Yeah.
Yeah.
So if you're not a personality type that doesn't like risk,
you shouldn't be a business owner.
Not outright.
Not outright.
I don't think you're gonna want the call on a Friday night
when you're gonna run out of a cash.
How many hours do you put in a week on average
as a business owner versus when you're an employee?
Well, I like work.
So I just worked a lot both times.
I think, you know, I was probably working
from seven until seven or eight or nine.
As an employee.
As an employee.
And now as an owner.
I'm probably working from seven until six as an owner,
but a little bit on the weekends.
And maybe when I was an employee,
I wasn't working on the weekends.
And you know, I think when you're an owner,
your schedule kind of looks more, I think, you know,
when your name's on the door,
it's easier to work more hours.
Like let's be honest, it's just easier.
Yeah, it's yours.
It's yours.
And so, but when you're the owner,
it's also easier when you set the hours
to work more of them.
And so, for me, I got no problem taking four weeks off
and going to Europe.
And I'm checking on stuff every day a little bit, but they're mainly running the business. I got no problem taking four weeks off and going to Europe.
And I'm checking on stuff every day a little bit, but they're mainly running the business.
When I was an employee, that wasn't an option.
But when I did go on vacation as an employee, wasn't checking.
You know, I was like, good luck.
Bye.
So it really depends on how you want to run your life, too.
But I think the one thing that I do want to impress upon people is like, there is nothing wrong with being an employee.
Being an employee is amazing.
It means that you do not carry all the risk and you can actually become massively
wealthy as an employee.
If you understand how to become so valuable that you get a piece of multiple
gains. Like, for instance, right now, we're, we're hiring a president for one
of our companies and he's from a huge company.
So, do we have a right, like, it's not really reasonable
that he would come and do this for one of my companies,
given what he's done in the past.
And you couldn't pay him the salary
for what he's making in a big company.
Maybe one fifth of that.
And so, why would he come work for me?
Because I'm like, listen, you could go work
for this one company and have one shot at goal.
If that company wins, you're going to win big.
But the founder's got to sell at the right time.
You guys got to hit these huge milestones.
The investors got to get paid.
You've got one bet.
Or with me, you can come into this company and you can take an equity bet on this company,
but also a bunch of these other little bites.
And so that's why I think private equity's so interesting
and why people stay as private equity employees
for decades.
I mean, I have a friend, let's call him Frank,
who's probably one of the richest guys I know,
and he has been an employee in a private equity firm
for like 30 years.
He's like dating celebrities, has a plane, he's an employee,
but he gets little bites at the apple.
And so I'm trying to really explain this to my employees less risk
No risk. Yeah, he's not in fired right right, you know and that you have to work a lot
He's not managing payroll. He's not having to hire and fire people necessarily or maybe that's his job. Yeah, not
Dealing with having to bring in all the money constantly to keep the business running right?
Well, and let's talk about the truth of the matter here, is that 90% of startups fail in a 10-year period.
Most startups fail in the first three to four years,
and in those first three to four years, you make $0.
In fact, you spend, on average, $30,000 to $50,000 a year
attempting to make money.
Oh, man.
And then, when you eventually do make money in year three
or four, the average entrepreneur pays themselves
anywhere from $40,000 to $60,000
year in salary.
So you go five years making no money, essentially.
Exactly.
Working more hours than as a employee.
Right.
What's the benefit then, if you spend
a half a ticket of your life,
or most likely you're going to fail?
I think that is the question we have to ask ourselves.
It doesn't seem exciting, Ned.
No, that's why I get excited about boring businesses,
because what are the two reasons that most businesses fail?
Well, 60% of businesses fail
because they don't have product market fit,
which means like, I had an idea.
I wanted to sell these graphic mugs.
These graphic mugs are amazing.
I asked all my buddies, you're gonna buy one, Lewis?
They're like, yeah, of course, great idea.
You should go be your own CEO of a company.
Everyone thinks it's the best idea ever.
You're gonna sell millions.
Right, then you go and create the company,
and all of a sudden, Lewis is a little cheap.
Nobody's buying my mugs, right?
So the market didn't actually want what you were selling.
And then the second reason most businesses fail,
which is about 20% of the reason, is lack of cash flow.
So you have this big idea, nobody wants it,
you run out of cash before you get to figure it out.
And so I think we've been sold a total lie
about business creation and startups, which
is that employment sucks and also we should go start a business instead.
And what often happens, and I hire a lot of these people, is they go start their business.
They're like, oh my god, this is worse than employment and I'm not making any money.
And so if you're going to play the odds, if you're gonna go gamble,
you can play the slots and know
that you have the worst odds out there playing the slots.
And if you're gonna gamble,
you at least are probably gonna play blackjack
if you're good at it,
because you know that's where you have the best odds.
Business is very similar.
The best odds is somewhere
where the business party has product, market, fit,
and the business is already cash flowing.
It's already making money.
It's already profitable.
And it's been doing it for years.
So that's why I'm obsessed with this idea of boring businesses and buying them because
statistically it has less risk and it has more ability for you to earn over time.
It's not no risk, but it is less risk than a startup.
And nobody talks about that.
What are the main reasons people are selling their profitable businesses then?
If a business has been profitable for five or 10 years
and it's so hard to be successful, why sell the business?
There is a huge gap in education between asset value
in business owners and ability to sell your assets.
Think about it this way.
If you owned a house anywhere in the country
and that house was too small for you and it was still livable
It's still a house. Maybe it's not the nicest house. It's not really what you want. You would never just go
Let's just light that fire and like walk away, right? It would be that would be crazy. You'd be like, okay
Well, let's sell it for whatever it's worth or let's put a renter in there or let's do something with that asset
We think about a house like an asset in the US, we do not think about our businesses as assets.
We do not think about our business lines
and divisions as assets.
And so what do we do instead?
We just walk away from the house
that somebody else could live in.
And so, you know, there was a, who was I talking to?
It was, oh, it was Sean Radd, founder of Tinder.
So him and I were chatting the other day.
Yeah, he's a buddy.
Love him.
I got him connected to, he's lost a lot of weight in the last year because I got him
set up with my trainers.
He looks great.
No way.
Yeah, so he's been, you know, just transforming his health.
He's been doing great.
Oh, good.
I got it.
I didn't tell, I'll have to tell him that we're buddies.
So he was funny because I was explaining this to him and he's like, you know, it's interesting
because I went into a, oh god, I might mess this up slightly, but let's say that he went
into like an old bookbinding shop.
And in this bookbinding shop in LA,
he looked over to the left and there were like these racks
and racks and racks of books.
And he was like, these are some cool vintage books.
And so he was going through them and he was like,
hey, I wanna buy a couple of these from you.
And she's like, nah, I don't buy them,
you can just take them.
And he's like, no, no, I'm gonna, I wanna pay you for them.
What's the deal with these?
Why do you have thousands of books here?
And she's like,
oh, well, my husband had a bookstore
and he died or they got divorced.
And so we shut down the bookstore.
So what are all of those books?
Those are assets.
And if they had been thinking about their business
as a house, what would she have done?
She would have done an appraisal,
had somebody come out,
look at what the books are worth.
She might've had somebody come and look at what the lease
was worth for the business.
She might've sold the whole business or done an asset sale.
And so Sean ended up buying a bunch of one-off books
and then he was laughing.
He's like, God, I felt bad because I went
and checked them later and I'm like,
totally underpaid for these things
because they were worth something.
And so people sell their business
because they don't understand the value of the business and they don't think it's sellable. Then like an example
that I would probably give you is like you've done it. Like you've had a
business line before right? Let's say your education business and you're like
this isn't serving the current business right now. I'm gonna shut it down.
Reasonable. You're like I'm the face you know it's not set up to sell. You haven't
prepped a business that you created to be a business you could sell, because most
business owners do not know how to do that.
And so you shut it down, because you're like, well, we're a putational risk, all of these
things.
But let's say that you went through our program that we teach, and we talk about prepping
a business for sale like a cake.
You would have done all these tasks, which meant that you would have removed yourself as key man,
and you would have had a business
that somebody else could take over.
And the benefit there is somebody else gets to steal
your 10,000 hours, and you don't have to close
a 10-year asset bill that you have.
I did that with my first business,
and the person that took it over,
it was kind of like all my online courses
before I launched School of Greatness.
And the person that took it over ran it to the ground.
Did you sell it?
I sold it to him.
But then it was also a sell over like three years.
So he ran it to the ground after like four months.
Did you get your cash out of it?
First few months, and that was it.
They sold me a lot.
So that was a challenging thing.
But it was a lesson.
Yeah, but I think this is a perfect example. I bet if third-party people looked at that,
they'd be like, why would Louis sell this business? He's making, I'm going to make up
numbers, making $100,000 a year from the business. That's a great business. Nobody would sell $100,000
a year business. But why would you sell it? Because you had a million dollar opportunity over here.
And so, you have opportunity costs. So, there's $900,000 that's waiting on Lewis
to make a sale, right?
Well, the big lesson is kind of what your biggest mistake was,
it sounds like, was, you know,
it was a partnership that wasn't working out.
And we weren't seeing eye to eye for like many months,
probably six to nine months.
And it was exhausting trying to be in partnership
with someone where we just didn't have the same vision.
I'm not blaming him or myself, we just weren't aligned and we didn't ask those questions
early on.
I didn't ask those questions, he didn't ask those questions.
And so we didn't, we had clarity over like, let's go make some money over the next year,
but we weren't thinking years in the future.
We were assuming the other person wanted the same things.
And that created a lot of stress.
Yeah.
Well, there's a whole chapter in there
about partnerships and how to not f*** them up.
It's not perfect, but I have like 12 key lessons
about partnerships that are really important in selling it.
But I bet, did you do that sale with seller financing?
Was that like largely hey,
a percentage of future profits?
So he sounds like he actually got a pretty good deal
out of you.
He got a great deal.
Yeah, because he was able to talk you into his vision of future because I knew he couldn't pay me up front right
He wasn't able to do it
He was like I'm gonna use this money to do the marketing and the ad spend and he just ran it to the ground
And you probably didn't do a real deal process to have multiple people come in and potentially vet
Yeah, exactly. But why and I also just like
Exhausted you know is like a lot of people are exhausted running their business for years,
well, they might sell it on the cheap
because they just want to get out.
That's exactly right.
That's the seven D's, which is, you know,
death, divorce, distress.
I always forget this.
You move,
death, divorce, distress.
You move locations.
You have disagreement.
So that would be like a business partnership.
You have...
Debt.
Yeah, that's not the exact one,
but we could use that one.
We've filled it in since I'm forgetting it.
And somebody on the internet will tell me
what the seventh is. Sure, sure.
But for most small business owners,
And somebody on the internet will tell me what the seventh is.
But for most small business owners,
they're in the pain cave when they're looking to sell.
In this case, largely retirees,
because 60% of all small businesses are owned
by people 65 plus in the US, which is wild.
So a lot of them just want to retire.
And they've been running it for 10, 20, 30 years,
maybe some of these businesses.
Right. But a lot of these business owners too
just have the same thing you have,
which is opportunity costs.
Like, ah, I'm running this landscaping business
but this roofing business is really taking off.
Exactly.
So I think that's a beautiful story to share
because a lot of people don't think it happens.
It happens all around us.
It can be exhausting.
And that's, I mean, not to be opportunistic,
but that could be the time where you could swoop in
and find a business that is distressed,
that's struggling, or a partnership is falling apart,
and they need to sell.
Yeah, it's one of the seven slash three and a half days.
Here's a question that I thought would be perfect for you.
I was actually getting a coffee last week,
and I went in this coffee shop.
There was a couple of people sitting there,
but no one was in line.
It was like at three o'clock, right?
So after the rush of the afternoon.
And for whatever reason,
I like to talk to a lot of people when I meet them.
I like to say hi to people at stores.
I'm from the Midwest, so I'm just kind of welcoming.
Most of the time, not every day,
but most of the time, I'm just like,
hey, what are you grateful for?
I just kind of have these questions.
And I could tell this woman who was behind the desk
making coffee was not having a good day.
The energy was low.
She's probably in her mid-20s, maybe late-20s, I'm not sure.
Her name was Phoenix, I don't know her last name,
and I won't say where she was working,
but I was just asking her a few questions.
I was like, what's going on?
And she goes, I'm just asking her a few questions. I was like, what's going on? And she goes, I'm just tired.
I'm not enjoying the job.
The pay isn't that good.
Things aren't going in my favor in life.
There's a lot of stress,
and it feels hard to get out of it.
For someone like Phoenix,
who's listening or watching right now,
who is just at a job they're not enjoying, they're not making the money they want, and they don't feel
like things are going their way, what's one thing they could do to start
shifting their energy and start seeing the world differently so they can have
more of a positive experience rather than a soul-sucking experience?
So good. Go make something a little bit better at the job you have right now.
Like step number one, if that coffee shop isn't giving you what you want out of it, you're
not making enough money, you don't love what you're doing, how can you actually give more
to the business, which sounds counterintuitive.
But I would come up with every single day, what's a little bit more that you can be doing?
Can you be going around and seeing if anybody wants some additional orders?
Try to take note how much the business is making
each time that you're on shift,
and then how much it makes
after you start making these changes.
Create a little list of the things you did
to affect your will on the world.
Show that, hey, you actually know how a business works
and you want it to grow.
Small little changes.
Maybe you go outside, you're starting to say hi,
you hand out a little coffee sample to people.
Think like an owner.
Have an ownership mindset.
Because when you have an ownership mindset, that transfers to ownership eventually.
Then the second that you do that, I want you to go to the owner of the business and I want
you to tell them, just a little brief, hey, here's the stuff I've been doing at the business.
No ask.
I've been doing this little list of things.
It seems to be working.
Here's some of the experiments I've been trying.
First of all, they're going to be shocked. Nobody's some of the experiments I've been trying. First of all, they're gonna be shocked.
Nobody's gonna ever have done something like that to them.
You are already now the 1%.
Second step, you do it for a few more weeks.
At the end of a few weeks, you go,
hey, I've been doing these extra things.
Love to make some additional money here.
Is that possible?
Can you show me what a career progression looks like here
for me to move to the next step
for me to make additional money.
Here's the thing, if they say, nothing, this is Starbucks,
we don't hire this way, you're stuck here,
then that's a bad company
and you need to start looking elsewhere.
And you need to, as you're looking for your next thing,
not just have a resume, but have some case studies.
Here's what I did in my last business
that they didn't ask me to do.
Here's how I realized that I could provide positive value.
I can promise you one thing only, that capability is so rare and desire is even more rare.
And so if you can show those two things in the world, you will go from having an owner's
mindset to an owner one day.
I think it's 80% of businesses fail within the first five years and the other 20% barely
are holding on or struggling.
It's really rare to succeed in business and it takes a lot of kind of luck and timing
all these different things.
But a lot of people you hear horror stories in the stock market as well as in real estate
for people.
They went out and bought their first home and they lost all their money or it took so
much time and energy it just exhausted them that they gave up. Maybe they just try
to start a business, it failed and they just feel like, God, every angle I go to try to
earn money, I struggle, I spend so much time and I get defeated. What wisdom can you share
to someone today on whichever route they want to take on how to emotionally and mentally
overcome the obstacles
that may come their way.
Don't ever put yourself in a position to have to sell.
If you never put yourself in a position to have to sell,
you're never losing money on real estate.
I haven't sold a house in the last 30 years
that hasn't sold for more if the person was able to wait and sell it when they
wanted to.
When you put yourself in a position, you over leverage.
You buy in an area that is transitioning or that is high crime.
That is a gamble.
Those people, you're going to lose money.
But when you put yourself in a position to never ever have to sell, you're always gonna
make money in real estate.
Now, I don't know about you, but those people who bought Blockbuster, it doesn't matter
how long they wait.
They're never getting that money back, are they?
No.
And that's the difference between real estate and stock.
People say, oh, well, you know, Glenda, if I had, if I put $130,000 in this stock,
it would be worth a zillion dollars. Correct. But if you put down $6,500 on $130,000 house,
you only have $6,500 in it. Right. If you lost it, you only lost $6,500. You didn't lose $135,000.
That blockbuster stock, you lost all $135,000.
People don't think about it from that perspective.
You talk about appreciation.
You bought a $150,000 house in 1975.
That house is now worth a million dollars.
Guess what?
You also had a place to live.
Okay?
Or, you had an income generating asset.
So that's the thing is like,
the last time I checked those stocks
aren't doing that for you.
And all I know is real estate.
Like I'm old, I wanna see, touch, feel my money.
When I wanna be able to get my money out,
I wanna be able to get my money out. I don't want to be at the mercy of the stock market. So, while I have
stock market investments, that is not where I keep my money. I keep my money in houses
where I can see, touch, and feel it. And the worst case scenario is that you have it rented
out and it's renting for less than your
payment. Okay? So this is the worst case scenario. Your payment is $2,000 a month
and you're only getting $1,500. That's a $500 savings deposit that you're making
per year into that account. And if you keep that house and you sell when the
market is high, you're gonna make all of the money that you put back in it.
Right.
Right.
What about if someone says, well, what if, you know, I've got to fix all these things
and there's all these extra costs and expenses that I have in the house over a few years
and it's just maybe I chose it wrong.
Remember the realtor?
I didn't see these things.
The inspector missed something.
Whatever it is.
Yeah.
And I got to pay $20,000 for a new AC,
the roof, the this, the bathroom,
and it's like I'm in tens of thousands of dollars more,
$100,000 more than I have or wanted to be,
and now I gotta hold on to this for 20 years
to make a profit.
How does someone wrap their mind around that
and not feel like they're losing money,
they don't have access to that cash,
and they have energy invested into a house versus kind of just that money in the bank or in an index
fund.
Right, exactly.
So, what happens is, it's critical to understand what you're buying.
It's critical to do your homework on what you're buying.
Not just having a great real estate agent, not just having a great inspector,
but getting in the weeds with it.
And what I mean by that is driving through the neighborhood,
getting lost in the neighborhood.
Did you do your own recon in the neighborhood?
And that's what I want people to do,
is don't depend on somebody else to tell you everything.
I want you to understand how to do it. And so a lot of times when I'm with buyers,
I'll put them in the car and we'll just drive around, get lost, turn off the GPS,
eat in the restaurants, shop in the grocery stores. And this is such a simple thing that a lot of people don't think about.
If the grocery store has great produce, that means that people are spending money in that
grocery store.
That means that people are concerned about what they're eating.
They're probably going to take care of their house.
Nobody ever talks about stuff like that.
You probably never thought that if I have good grapes at my grocery store, it probably means
that I'm living in a neighborhood that's well kept.
If you're concerned about the food that you're eating,
what you're putting in your body,
you're probably concerned about
how you're taking care of your house.
Wow.
What would you say are five things people should look for
when finding a great deal or an investment in real estate?
The best investment in real estate.
Grandma's house, okay?
Something that needs cosmetics, not infrastructure.
Infrastructure may not sound sexy,
but infrastructure is a wonderful thing to have.
Number two, look for an area that is not at the top,
but that is growing, that you can kind of see like,
oh, wait a minute, they're doing work here,
there's a dumpster in the driveway here.
And do that kind of research,
understand like what direction is the neighborhood going in.
Number three, I would probably say
when you're looking to invest,
make sure that you understand what you're buying.
A lot of people don't understand,
like is this house on a two lane street?
Is that a problem?
Does this back up to the retention pond?
Are there mosquitoes?
It's Atlanta, Georgia.
It's hot as hell.
There's all kinds of mosquitoes.
Do you understand how much less you're gonna take
for a house that's on a retention pond?
So that's why I always want people to understand
exactly what it is that they're buying.
I hammer on that a lot.
And again, I don't want you to get caught up in your ego.
A lot of people buy for vanity.
Really?
Oh.
What's the ego mean when they invest in ego?
Because they want you to drive up,
pull in the drive and say,
oh! What a nice home. Oh my stars you don't want that
Literally, that's your living in it, baby
Not you don't even want to win you're living in it
Literally you want to live in the house that works the best for you and your family
Like do you want to like out here in LA? It's a little bit different
But in regular markets like like, think about it.
And I'll talk about Trey Young.
I love basketball.
Trey Young bought a $20 million house out here in LA.
Signed a contract for $215 million.
Praise the Lord and passed the money, right?
Do you know how much the taxes on that house are?
$600, dollars a year.
Okay?
Do you know how many houses, investment properties you could buy with twenty million dollars?
So you could have bought a fancy five million dollar house in Atlanta, Georgia, which would
have been the same as a twenty million dollar house out here for God's sake.
Then you could have bought some investment properties and built generational wealth.
Not that his two hundred and fifteen million million isn't going to be generational, but ask Evander Holyfield how
that works out.
That's the thing.
You look at Evander Holyfield, a fighter who sacrificed his body, his well-being, his quality
of life, made hundreds of millions of dollars in his career and loses
his house to foreclosure.
And think about that.
So that's why when I talk about vanity, anytime that you're trying to impress somebody else
with what you have, I'm just going to ask you just let's just rethink that just for
a second.
When did you really learn about how to manifest in your life? Was there a time or a season
or a decade where you started to think a certain way when it came to either
attracting the right clientele as a realtor in terms of attracting the right
homes that you wanted to buy and invest in in terms of business deals that you
wanted to do? Was there a season or a time that you learned about manifestation?
Making mistakes was probably the biggest teacher for me.
Really?
Not just making mistakes in my real estate business, but making mistakes in my personal
life cost me so much time and so much money.
I think the reason that I'm passionate about it
is because I went out and bought the Mercedes.
I made $137,000 on one house.
I went out and bought a Mercedes,
I went on a shopping spree,
and within 12 months, I
was selling my Rolex at a pawn shop.
Really?
Yes.
Oh my gosh.
Really.
I was selling my car, my Mercedes, I was selling that Mercedes, and buy it.
No, no, no.
I didn't sell it first.
I didn't sell it at first.
At first, sit down.
It was paid off because, you know, I made all that money. What that money what you really don't realize down in half after a few months well what you
don't realize is that you got to pay taxes on all that money but anyway so I
buy the car and I realize I have a cash flow issue so what do I do I go get a
Tothenote at 27% Ooh. So you wanna talk about,
oh Glenda, what would you do?
When I talk to you,
I'm just telling you straight from the horse's mouth,
I made this mistake, don't make the same mistake I did.
I went out and bought the fancy Rolex,
that's why I have the $130 ring from Ross Simons.
I mean, it looks fancy, it looks nice, it works.
It matches my outfit today.
So that's what I want people to focus on is like,
the mistakes that I made, don't do what I did.
Learn from me.
And so that, I mean, how do you manifest it?
When I sit, I never will forget, I saw this agent who sucked as a real estate agent and
that guy was making more money than he could count.
Really?
What was the secret?
He was a good talker but he was investing in POS houses.
He was investing in these little houses and he was fixing them up and selling them and
fixing them up and renting them.
And I remember thinking to myself, somebody that is not as good as I am at real estate
is doing a thousand times better than me.
And every time I thought about going out and pissing the money away, I thought about that guy.
It pissed me off.
It made me so mad.
It just made me crazy.
Every time that I think about doing something that's probably impulsive or ego-driven.
And I think that a lot of times you get caught up in being ego-driven because it feels good
when everybody looks at you and they think that you're successful.
But for me, every single day, I focus on what moves me from here to there and here is freedom for me.
Freedom with my children, freedom with my family, freedom with my little
grandchildren. My one and only goal is to be able to do whatever I want to do
whenever I want to do it and not have to worry about going up another set of
steps, not worrying about what next house I have to sell.
And what turns me on is helping people, inspiring them.
And so I just say to myself every single day,
my name is Glenda Baker,
only amazing things happen to me.
My name is Glenda Baker, I'm a woman of action.
And my name is Glenda Baker,
and everybody's gonna know my name.
And all I wanna do is just help people build generational wealth through real estate.
Wow, that's beautiful.
And inspire them through my mistakes.
Sure.
Because we don't all need to make the same mistake.
Let me have been the guinea pig.
What would you say are the three most painful mistakes in business that you've made over
the last 30 plus years that really
taught you an important lesson. Maybe you had to learn it over and over again.
I didn't pay my taxes. That was probably the most eye-opening thing.
Because I mean I grew up with a single mother. Like I didn't have anybody
explained. Like I didn't even know you that when you only
got paid when you sold a house.
I'm in real estate school and the teacher says, now when you sell a house, you make
this much money.
And I'm like, like you don't get paid on Friday?
Like you have to sell to make money.
Like I mean, I didn't know, I didn't know that.
And I don't even try to get a job as an assistant. Nobody would even hire me.
Because I mean, I'm barely out of high school,
didn't go to college.
And so, you know, I didn't understand about paying taxes.
I mean, I made $137,000 on that one house for God's sakes.
Like, how much could the taxes be, right?
Right, a lot.
A lot, had no clue.
So, the biggest financial mistakes in business I have made have been I didn't pay my taxes.
I made purchases based on ego.
I let people that didn't matter influence me to make purchases that I shouldn't have.
Really?
Yeah.
Because...
You mean people you knew or people you didn't know?
I think it was a little bit of both.
People that I knew and I thought, oh, well, you know, they're doing well and they're putting
all of their money in this.
Maybe I should do that.
Or I believed all of the hype.
And I think that that was a huge mistake.
Just believing all of the hype
that wasn't really the truth.
Not being able to discern well enough.
But being distracted.
Probably one of the biggest money sucks of my life
has been being distracted.
What type of distractions over the last 30 years did you find? But being distracted, probably one of the biggest money sucks of my life has been being distracted.
Really?
What type of distractions over the last 30 years did you find?
All kinds of distractions, but mostly for me, I've been distracted by the shiny penny.
I've been distracted by feeling like that I needed to be married to somebody, to be
somebody.
For many, I mean, I can remember it so vividly in my head
that I wasn't going to be worth anything unless I was married to somebody.
Really?
Some big person, like Ted Turner.
I'm thinking like, oh, I should be married
to some like
big shot person.
I wouldn't be worth anything without that.
Where did that come from?
I don't, I don't, you know, I don't know.
I think about like, I think about in my head,
I was the only child in my school
whose parents were divorced.
Really?
And I remember like seeing Mr. and Mrs. Myers and Mr. and Mrs. Bouchoir and I
remember seeing them and thinking you know they had the two kids, the three
kids, the dog, the house with the swimming pool, like the mama stayed
at home and the daddy took care of everything.
And I remember thinking to myself that I was so cheated.
You didn't have that.
That I didn't have that life.
And here was my mother.
First off, she was old because she was 44 when I was born.
So my mom was the oldest mom. She was the
only divorced mom, single mom. My dad wasn't really in my life and so here I am
and then on top of that I have to have this back surgery. I'm in a body cast
for a year in seventh grade and just everything it just and I've got this big
accent which I don't think I have but lots of people think I do but it just I mean there was just so many
things and I kept thinking that I was like the odd man out I was like I was different
than everybody else and rather than appreciating that difference I worked so hard to be like everybody else. People-pleasing,
trying to fit in, doing whatever others do. Oh yeah, trying to fit in. I mean, I, you
know, the hero was the last kid picked on the playground and I wanted to fit in so
bad. Yeah. And I couldn't ever figure out how to get those pieces of the puzzle together.
Back when I was in school, I mean, I graduated from high school in 1984, you didn't call
it bullying.
Like today, you would say, oh, she was bullied as a child.
But you didn't call it that then.
You didn't call it anything, toughen up.
Suck it up, toughen up. Is it more than a life? Yeah, suck it up buttercup.
And I think that for me a lot of the distractions were just trying to be like everybody else,
get somebody's attention and prove that I was worthy.
I know that feeling.
And you felt like you only had worth
based on who you were with, it sounded like.
Or who you were friends with, or who you were dating,
or who you were married to.
Who I was associated with.
Who I was attached to was what defined my worth.
Wow.
And I think that that was huge.
Once I realized that my value was determined by me was a turning point in my life.
When did you learn that?
2017.
Really?
Yeah, not that long ago.
What made you think that and what made you realize and actually start to believe that? I stopped, I struggled with drinking,
and I stopped drinking at the end of 2015.
And I think that that really started giving me
a lot of clarity.
I think that alcohol had disguised a lot of issues
that I had, but I think that when I stopped drinking
and I was focused on being my best self, that helped.
And then I went to a Tony Robbins event
and he talked about just being present in these moments,
just being present and building these moments.
And I went with my son.
My son was really struggling at that time.
Old was he then?
He was 16 years old.
Wow.
And he was really kind of going through
a difficult season of his own life.
And I took him to the UPW for him.
You're right.
You got more out of it than he did probably.
And we were there four days. for him. You're right. You got more out of it than he did probably.
And we're there four days and at the end and my son's tall and he puts his arms around
me and my ear is right at his heart and I can hear his heartbeat and he leans down and
he says, I'm never going to forget these four days with you. Wow
And I remembered in that very second in that moment
Like here was this child watching me
Like you he deserves it he deserves
Your value he deserves you. He deserves your value.
He deserves you to be worthy.
And so, I left that moment and I said, my life's goal is to string together moments
of a lifetime, just like that one, that I could just feel.
And I just, everything I do, every single thing I do
is built around how I can build a moment in time
for like my life, my children,
and the things that, the people that I love.
That's beautiful, Glenville.
I hope you enjoyed today's episode
and it inspired you on your journey towards greatness.
Make sure to check out the show notes in the description
for a full rundown of today's episode
with all the important links.
And if you want weekly exclusive bonus episodes
with me personally, as well as ad free listening,
then make sure to subscribe to our greatness plus channel
exclusively on Apple podcasts.
Share this with a friend on social media
and leave us a review on Apple Podcasts
as well. Let me know what you enjoyed about this episode in that review. I really love hearing
feedback from you and it helps us figure out how we can support and serve you moving forward. And
I want to remind you if no one has told you lately that you are loved, you are worthy, and you matter. And now it's time to go out there and do something great.