The School of Greatness - 7 Habits That Separate Truly Happy People from Everyone Else
Episode Date: December 24, 2025Everyone seems unhappy right now, but the happiest people you know aren't lucky; they're intentional about seven specific daily practices. You've probably been taught that happiness is something you s...tumble into or find out there somewhere, but the truth is more empowering than that. These seven habits aren't complicated or require massive life changes; they're small, consistent choices that compound over time. You can start building one today and watch it pull every other area of your life in the right direction, because when you show up for yourself with these practices, joy becomes something you create instead of something you chase.Make Money Easy: Create Financial Freedom and Live a Richer LifeThe Greatness Mindset: Unlock the Power of Your Mind and Live Your Best Life TodayThe Mask of Masculinity: How Men Can Embrace Vulnerability, Create Strong Relationships, and Live Their Fullest LivesThe School of Greatness: A Real-World Guide to Living Bigger, Loving Deeper, and Leaving a LegacyIn this episode you will:Master the art of curating your circle intentionally, shifting from quantity of connections to quality of relationships that actually lift you up and reflect your best selfTransform your daily experience through gratitude practice that goes beyond surface positivity, learning how to bridge morning and evening with appreciation that compounds into genuine abundanceDiscover why taking full responsibility for your joy is the single most powerful shift you can make, and how to stop giving your emotional power away to circumstances and other peopleBreak through people-pleasing patterns by setting boundaries that protect your peace, and develop the courage to disappoint others without abandoning your self-respectUncover the connection between physical movement and mental clarity, understanding why you can't think your way out of stress but you can move your way through itFor more information go to https://lewishowes.com/1867For more Greatness text PODCAST to +1 (614) 350-3960More SOG episodes we think you’ll love:SadhguruKen HondaMatthew McConaughey Get more from Lewis! Get my New York Times Bestselling book, Make Money Easy!Get The Greatness Mindset audiobook on SpotifyText Lewis AIYouTubeInstagramWebsiteTiktokFacebookX Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
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Is it just me or is everyone really unhappy in the world right now?
Everywhere I seem to look, I see sadness and stress.
I've spent years sitting across from the world's leading psychologists,
neuroscientists, spiritual leaders, teachers, athletes, billionaires,
and some of the happiest, most fulfilled people on the planet.
And you know what I've learned?
Happiness isn't an accident.
It's not something you stumble into.
It's a practice.
And the people who seem the most genuinely joyful, they're not lucky.
They're intentional.
So today, I want to break down the seven habits of truly happy people.
The habits that have transformed my own life, and I want to share these with you.
Let's dive in.
Habit number one, they take responsibility for their life.
Happy people don't hand their power to someone else.
They don't wait for a partner or a job or a circumstance to make them feel okay.
They say, my joy is my job.
And they show up for it every single day.
So the lesson I'm going to share with you is that agency is everything.
And the moment you stop seeing yourself as the victim and start seeing yourself as the author,
your life begins to change.
When you start seeing yourself as writing the words on the page of the book of your life,
instead of someone that is reacting to what other people want for you, everything in your
life starts to change. And for years, I would just blame people. I would blame coaches, teachers,
you know, partners that I was in relationships with, friends, parents. I was just blaming everyone.
I thought blame would protect my pride. But it only made me angry, resentful, more guarded,
a people pleaser, and honestly just feeling stuck in my life. And the day I started taking
responsibility, my confidence started to return. I could feel a weight of
emotionally, physically, literally lifting off my chest. There was like a ball of pain that sometimes
would come and go. And it's almost like it just disappeared. It wasn't about how everyone else was
affecting my life. It was about actively choosing to not let them. And an action step I want for you
is to pick one area where you feel stuck in your life. Maybe it's in your finances or a relationship or
your health or whatever might be. And I want you to ask, what can I do today to take ownership of this
situation. And then I want you to take one brave step in actually taking that ownership. It might be
having the conversation, it might be discerning something and not taking action on something you know
is not good for you. It might be doing something, making a change. I want you to take that brave
step today. And that is the end of habit one. They take responsibility for their life. They
don't react to it. Habit number two is a big one. They practice gratitude every day. You have
probably heard me talk about this over and over again.
You might think this is like a broken record.
You might have heard me say gratitude or have me talk about gratitude in my books.
It is something that I live by.
And here's why.
You can't be grateful and miserable at the same time.
You just can't.
It's almost impossible to be grateful and miserable or grateful and angry or grateful and
upset at the same time.
You can only hold one of those in your hand at that moment.
Now, it doesn't mean you might feel grateful for a moment and then you switch into
sadness, but it's so hard to be grateful and miserable at the same exact moment.
So the more you focus on gratitude, the more abundant you'll feel.
Happy people make gratitude a practice, not a reaction to something.
They look for what's working even on the hard days, even when they're struggling, even when
things are not working their way.
They look for what's working.
Because when you train your mind to recognize the good, you create more of it.
Gratitude shifts your focus from what's missing to what is actually in your life, what's present,
what is fueling you, something in your environment, someone in your life that's bringing you joy.
Gratitude shifts your focus from what is missing in your life to what is present.
And when you focus on what is present, the good, more good will start to happen.
I always say that gratitude and generosity are the gateway to abundance.
And when you lean into being generous with your time, with your attention,
with your words of affirmation to people, with your resources, more good things, more joy,
more happiness will come to you. Every morning, I start my day with gratitude. I wake up and I say,
thank you God for another day. Thank you for another day of life. Because 150,000 people die
every single day. And I'm not one of them. Thank you, God, for another moment. Thank you, God,
for another opportunity to see the people I love. Thank you, God, for another opportunity to express myself,
to be artistic, creative, to be loving, to be generous. Thank you, God, for the black sins that I get
to receive today. Thank you, God, for getting to live this long with a healthy body and a conscious
mind. Thank you, thank you, thank you. Man, you wake up every day and you start praising the things
that you're grateful for. You start intentionally speaking those things. You create more of those things in
your life. It's just how things work. And it is so powerful.
when you start to do this, everything starts to shift.
You will be one of the happiest people you know if you do this every single day.
And every night, my wife, Martha, and I share three things that we are grateful for and appreciate
from that day with each other.
We talk about it and we reflect on them.
So we start the day in gratitude and appreciation and we end the day in gratitude and appreciation.
And throughout the day, I'm stringing those two things together.
I'm tying them together and pulling the morning and the evening together and connecting them.
And the more of a bridge of gratitude I had from morning to night, and you repeat that bridge every single day and night, it compounds over time.
It is so powerful.
You will be so happy if you do these simple acts.
The simple practice breaks through the emotional armor that so many people carry, so many people hold.
hold onto the weight that you can let go, let yourself be, and let yourself actually be happy
because you deserve it. An action step for you is to write down three things that you're grateful
for every day for the next seven days. That's it. Just keep it simple. Just write them down. What are
three things every day that you're grateful for? You will notice your mind will shift,
your heart will shift, your energy your shift, and you'll start to see opportunities.
of why life is beautiful, even when there's challenge and even when they're stressed and even when
there's heartbreak and all these unfortunate things have happened. But we have an opportunity to
create happiness. And it starts with gratitude. Habit number three is they set boundaries that
protect their peace. Oh my goodness. I wish I learned this habit earlier because, man, that I deal
with so much unhappiness because I was not willing to have the courage to set boundaries to protect
my piece. If you're always making everyone else happy, when are you doing it for yourself?
When are you doing it for yourself if you're always pleasing other people by discounting yourself,
by doing things that maybe you don't want to do? I'm not saying you shouldn't be of service
and also find ways to make others happy. But if you're doing it to people please, man,
you are discounting yourself in such a big way. You're doing yourself a disservice. Happy people
know their limits. They protect.
their energy from negativity, from drama, and from things that drain their emotional bandwidth.
Peace isn't a luxury, it's a strategy. You have to be focusing on this. Happy people create healthy
relationships and they have boundaries in those relationships. Let me say this again for you. Happy people
create healthy relationships and they have boundaries in those relationships. A big part of being
happy is respecting yourself. And I want you to ask the question right now. And you can put this in
the comments. You can send me a DM somewhere. You can even just reflect on this yourself. On a scale of
one to 10, how much self-respect do you have for yourself? Ten being you have the ultimate self-respect.
One being, you have very little self-respect. Where are you on this spectrum? And I'm going to
give you context here. For most of my life, I thought I had self-respect. I was like, no, I'm going
after what I want, but I wasn't able to create boundaries.
I people pleased everyone.
I would beat myself up.
I would sabotage things.
I would cheat, lie, and steal.
I would do things that wasn't showing my self-respect in my, you know, eight to 16-year-old
self.
My early 20s, I was doing things that I wasn't respecting myself.
And I was letting ego drive my life rather than joy drive my life.
Part of being happy is respecting yourself. I was probably at a two out of a 10 out of self-respect
because I was discounting myself. I was sabotaging myself. I was people-pleasing to try to gain
attention. This is huge. If you could start to say, I'm going to go from a two to an eight,
nine, or ten of self-respect, everything will change for you. Everything will change your life when you
start to respect yourself differently. This doesn't mean you have to be a jerk to someone,
but it does mean you have to have courage and be willing to disappoint or let people down and that's
okay respecting yourself means saying no happy people know how to do this it's uncomfortable at first
trust me it took me months to practice saying no to people and then have them react to me being
frustrated or upset or hurt uh why can't you do this for me louis well i just can't do it right now
and learning to be with people's upset was one of the most challenging things that I've ever had
to do. Comment below, leave a like, let me know if that resonates or speaks to you in any way,
that being with someone's upset, it was something that's been hard for me. If you know what that feels
like, let me know. But happy people, they understand this simple truth, that every yes to something
draining you is a no to the life you actually want.
And when you set boundaries, you are creating breathing room in your life.
You're creating space.
You're creating the ability to be creative, to imagine, to dream.
And that's what we need.
We need that space.
But if you're just overcommitting, saying yes to everyone, pleasing everyone, you're
not respecting yourself.
You're doing your future self a disservice.
When you set boundaries, you create breathing room.
And in that space, you rediscover your energy.
You reimagine your creativity, and your joy comes back to life.
Boundaries aren't walls.
They're filters that allow the right things in and keep the wrong things out.
And there's an important distinction here.
A big action step for you is to choose one area of your life where you feel drained,
where you feel exhausted from.
Maybe it's a person, a relationship.
Maybe it's a behavior or commitment or a pattern that you've created.
and then I want you to ask yourself, what is one boundary that I can set this week that would
protect my peace? Your peace is so important. And you can't buy peace, but you can create a boundary
and have courage to speak up to create a boundary of peace, to create a safe space within yourself.
And I want you to keep it simple, make it small and specific, like not answering work
texts after a certain time. Like limiting conversations with a draining person to only a few minutes
as opposed to waiting until they're done with the conversation. Like saying something like,
I can't commit to that right now instead of over explaining why you can't commit to something.
I know I've done that for a long time. Another example is taking one evening a week for yourself
with no obligations. No over commitments. Just one evening for you every week. Then you,
communicate it calmly and clearly once and honor yourself. Boundaries become powerful the moment
you fall through on them. If you say you're going to do something and you don't do it, again,
you're going back to disrespecting yourself. You're limiting yourself on that scale of
one to ten on the self-respect scale. So if you want to gain self-respect, you need to
honor the commitments you make to yourself. Habit number four, they move their
body daily. You can't think your way out of stress. You have to move your way out of it. And
Harvard researchers show that just 20 minutes of physical activity can reduce depression by
up to 40%. A strong body creates a strong mind and movement is medicine. Happy people don't wait
to feel motivated. They move first and the motivation follows. And during some of the hardest moments of my
life when I was depressed, when I was broke, when I was broken on my sister's couch for about a
year and a half, trying to figure out what do I do with my life? How do I get out of this credit
card debt? How do I pay off the student loans when I have no money coming in? How do I get
healthy? How do I do all these things? I was just like broken, right? During one of those
hardest moments, movement literally saved me. The gym became a sanctuary, a happy place.
And it wasn't about getting a six-pack or looking good. It was about feeling grounded, moving the
energy that was stressing me out out of my body, regaining confidence, creating structure in my life,
creating boundaries in my life, and gaining control. And it was a powerful shift. The action step for
you is move today. Move your body. We sit so much. Move. Walk. Do a workout. Stretch. I don't care.
Throw your hands in the air a few times. Do something where you're just getting energy out of you.
Moving it is going to make you feel better.
do something and do it consistently because that builds confidence and confidence builds happiness so
big habit number five they surround themselves with supportive people oh my gosh is this a lesson i
needed to learn the hard way over and over and over again i wish i learned it sooner the happiest people
in the room are not the most popular happy people choose their circle intentionally
They spend time with people who lift them up, who challenge them and empower them and reflect the best in them. They see the best in them.
Joy is amplified in the right community that you have. But again, if you are surrounding yourself with people that make you feel miserable and you're just familiar with that feeling, they're not friends. They're just holding you back or you haven't had the courage to speak up yet to create a new agreement with those friends.
A friend is one that knows you as you are, understands where you have been, accepts what you have
become, and still gently allows you to grow.
A story that I share is it's not about having the most friends.
I've had all the friends in the world, thousands of connections, relationships all over the
world and industries.
I had all these connections that I thought were friends.
it's not about having the most friends that doesn't work.
It's about having the best friends.
Best for motivating you, listening to you, and best to help you get to that next level.
That's what it's about.
I had to learn this the hard way.
I tried to please everyone, tons of people, getting back to everyone constantly helping
everyone, but not helping myself.
And my current circle now, man, I have had to create boundaries and structure and, you know,
hold people to the side.
not be able to be there for everyone all the time.
And I've really curated a small circle now.
I've really learned this about the quality of people in your life,
not the quantity of people in your life.
And it doesn't mean I don't have relationships of a lot of people,
but my core circle is just a few people.
It's really a few people that I show up for and they show up for me consistently.
And sure, there's different levels of relationships and, you know,
people can come and go in that circle.
from time to time, but really it's been a core
for a while now. And that core is people that I can rely on, that I can
be myself, that I hold them accountable, and they hold me
accountable. And we can be honest with each other. We can be
honest about what's working, what's not working, and not take offense
to it. So an action step for you is to take a few minutes
and make a simple two column list, column one and column two. And
in column one at the top, put people who energize you. And in
column two at the top put people who drain you. Write this down. Then choose one small shift that you can
make this week to upgrade your environment. And I want you to be thinking about the people in your life.
Just write down the names in those columns. For example, you can spend an extra 10 minutes with someone
who inspires you in that good column. You can schedule a coffee with a supportive friend.
And then you can reduce time with someone who constantly drains your energy in that other column.
It doesn't mean they're a bad person. It doesn't mean you have to kick them out of your life forever.
it just means you want to notice who brings you more joy.
Who do you feel anxious when you see?
And how can you start communicating to those people in a calm, loving, conscious way
about how you want to shift your relationship with them,
but how you want to talk about things differently,
but how you want to hold each other accountable,
empower each other in a beautiful way,
accept one another, et cetera.
You can also join a group or class or a community aligned with your personal growth.
There's lots of them out there.
The School of Greatness Community,
It's all about people who want to have a conscious mindset,
being around people who are empowering and joyful.
So if you connect with people in the comments of YouTube,
my social media posts,
you're going to find other people in a community
that think and act like you.
Because you don't have to overhaul your entire circle of friends overnight.
Just tilt your environment 1% towards the people who lift you up
because that 1% will compound pretty fast.
And that's the end of habit number five.
They surround themselves with supportive people.
If you find a happy person, they are not surrounding themselves with a circle of miserable
people trying to pull them down.
They just won't put up with it.
They only surround themselves with people that are supportive.
Or they create boundaries with those in their life who aren't and communicate clearly.
Habit number six, they have a vision and life fulfilling goals.
Purpose doesn't make life easier.
It makes life clearer.
And clarity is where happiness begins.
And the only thing worse than being blind is having sight, but no vision.
I love that quote by Helen Keller.
Man, happy people don't just wake up and drift and say,
oh, see where the day takes me.
They wake up with direction, with a purpose, with a plan.
And that direction comes with clarity, clarity of what steps they're taking that day,
where they're going, where they're headed.
They're not just saying, ah, la-di-da, why is life not working out for me?
they are clear on the direction.
It doesn't mean that it's always a straight line.
They might have to go all around the place to get to the destination,
but they're clear on where they're heading,
where they're going.
And they allow that direction to guide them from a purpose.
And purpose doesn't have to be some giant world-changing mission.
I'm going to cure cancer.
I'm going to heal the world.
It doesn't have to be that.
And it doesn't have to be something flashy also.
It doesn't have to be public or perfectly defined all at the same time.
purpose is simply knowing why you do what you do.
Why do I do what I'm doing?
Because I care about making the difference.
Why am I showing up this way?
Because it's helpful for me to make today matter.
Whatever it might be.
It might be showing up for your family in a beautiful way.
It might be serving your community, building something meaningful,
being an artist, writing music.
It might be expressing your creativity and a unique expression that only you can do.
It might be I'm on a spiritual path and I'm growing every day.
spiritually. It might be helping others heal, mastering a skill, or becoming the most authentic
version of yourself and actually showing up authentic daily and making that your purpose.
Purpose just gives you a North Star. It just shows you where you're heading,
which direction you're trying to get to. And when you have a North Star, you make decisions
differently. You're clear. There's a yes or no. When there's an opportunity in front of you,
a decision you need to make, you know where you're heading. You know where you're heading.
And so if that opportunity, thing, relationship doesn't serve your North Star, it's a no.
If it does serve it, maybe it's a yes.
It all depends on what works for you in this moment.
Again, you make decisions differently when you're clear.
And happy people are clear about where they're heading.
You stop chasing every distraction or saying yes to everything that's pulling your energy.
You stop comparing your life to others because you're focused on your vision.
and your goals, your dreams, you're not thinking about, ah, what is everyone else doing
and comparing yourself and putting yourself lower than them, that will make you very unhappy.
You stop letting the world pull you in thousands of different directions and distracting you
all over the place.
Happy people live intentionally, not reactively.
And they ask themselves, does this align with the life I'm trying to build?
Does taking this action?
being in relationship with this person, eating these types of foods, living in this city,
being in this environment, taking this class, learning this skill, does this align with the
life I'm trying to build? And if the answer is no, then they let it go. And if the answer is yes,
then they go all in. And man, it doesn't mean it's always going to be perfect, but they're going to
be happier from the decision they're making out of alignment. Purpose simplifies your life. It calms your
mind. It makes even the challenging seasons feel more meaningful and more manageable. Because when you
know why you're here, the how becomes much easier to navigate. When my football career ended,
I broke my wrist playing arena football and I just felt broken because that was my purpose. It was
like, I am an athlete. I'm going to go play professional football. This was my whole life's mission
to be a professional athlete.
So imagine you spend 15 years from the moment you can remember the dream of being a professional
athlete.
You spend your life wanting something.
You get a small taste of it.
I didn't play in the NFL.
I played in the arena football league, but I got paid to catch a football.
And I was like, man, I'm living the dream.
Even though I was only making $250 a week, I was so happy because I was doing what I felt
I was meant to do.
So when I broke my wrist and I was in a cast for six months,
full-arm cast in this position,
sleeping on my scissors couch for a year and a half with no money,
three credit cards, student loan debt,
and unsure of who I was in the world or the future I was creating,
it was a scary, daunting time for me.
At moments I pretended to be happy,
I pretended to be a happy person and told people,
I'll figure it out, it'll be okay,
but inside, I felt like I was disappearing.
I felt like I was losing myself.
I felt like there was no point, there was no purpose, there was no, why am I even alive?
And the moment I created a vision, boom, a spark, a new dream emerged.
The moment I created a new vision in my life, I had to grieve the loss of an identity
and a vision that was no longer there.
And that took some time.
That was challenging.
And the moment, boom, I created a new vision.
A mission rooted in serving in being grateful and being happy and being joyful and being curious
about other people and finding way to help other people and learning and growing and developing
as a human being and overcoming my fears. My life began to shift and I became that happy person
that I was wanting to be. I became that. And so there's an action step for you today is to set three
goals today. One for three months away, one for six months away, and one for 12 months away.
Just write down, one, two, three. What are these three goals for yourself? It can be something
simple, it can be small, it can be something big. It doesn't matter to me. Look at them every morning.
Let your vision pull you forward. The more clear you on what you're trying to create, the more joyful
you'll be. And here's the thing, even if they don't happen, even if they don't come true or you don't
them happen, you are working towards something that excites you, that's interesting for you.
And you're going to build skills. You're going to build emotional resilience. You're going to build
confidence in working on something every single day, three, six, and 12 months. That's going to
bring you closer to the vision you have for your life. That's the end of habit number six.
Happy people. They have a vision and life fulfilling goals. What are those goals for you? What is that
vision for you. Write those down. And if you haven't gotten my New York time bestselling book,
The Greatness Mindset, I have so many exercises and examples from some of the top minds in
the world about how to create this clear vision, about how to set goals, about how to structure
your life, about how to heal the things that have held you back from trying to please other people
most of your life. So you can reclaim your power. If you were looking to have a clear path in your
life. Get the greatness mindset right now and check it out. I'm telling you what you will go through
in here will help you overcome so many challenges in your life. This is the book that I wish I had
early on. This is the book that I wrote for my younger self to help me overcome those challenges
that I face for so many years. So check out that if you're looking to improve. Habit number seven
of happy people as they practice emotional honesty. Oh my gosh. They practice emotional.
honesty, happy people aren't always positive. They're not always positive. It's hard to live a full
life when you can't be your true self. I love this quote from Dr. Mark Brackett came on the show.
He said it's hard to live a full life when you can't be your true self. A lesson is that happy people
feel everything. They feel the wide range of emotions. This is not about positive, by spirit,
spiritual bypassing and not feeling your emotions. Happy people feel everything from sadness,
fear, frustration, disappointment. They feel them. They don't just hide from their emotions or let them
control their lives. And they don't bypass their emotions and just say, I'm happy, I'm happy,
I'm happy. You're not if you're bypassing. They practice something called emotional honesty.
They tell themselves the truth, even when it's uncomfortable, even when it's scary. They say,
I'm overwhelmed. I'm hurting. I'm scared. I need support. I need help. I need rest. Whatever it is.
They practice that emotional honesty because that honesty is powerful because it becomes the
doorway to healing, to clarity, to connection, to releasing the emotions, right? So it doesn't
stay in your body or on your mind. And when you suppress emotions, they don't disappear. They expand.
They grow. But when you acknowledge your emotions, they lose their
grip on you. Literally, the moment I just say, ah, I'm feeling overwhelmed right now. I start to feel
less overwhelmed just by getting it out. That's why moving your body every day also helps you get
your emotions out if you've ever worked out, feeling stressed. And you're like, oh, man, I feel so much
better after I worked out for 30 minutes. Yeah, because you're moving that energy, that emotion inside
of you, and that's what you need to do. Speak your motion. Write it down. Move your body.
Acknowledge them. Don't hold on to them. Feel them. Let them go.
and recommit to your vision.
Happy people give themselves permission to experience the full range of being a human being.
I'm not saying you dump your emotions on every person around you and you just unload on people
and say, I feel better.
That's not consciousness.
But it's finding a way to consciously communicate your emotions so that you can express them
and let them go.
They process emotions instead of numbing them or instead of just drinking or drugs to just
like numb the emotions, they process emotions.
They find ways to do things consciously, and instead of numbing themselves, they talk about what they're
going through with people that they trust, but they're doing it in a conscious way.
And they choose expression over repression, and that's a big one.
That's why they feel lighter.
That's where they're like, man, I feel so happy.
There's no weight on my shoulders.
I don't feel stressed.
They feel way more grounded.
And this is why they feel more authentic.
And this is huge.
If you're not being authentic to yourself, you're not going to be a happy person.
you're just not because emotional honesty builds self-trust it builds self-respect it's huge and self-trust
is one of the deepest foundations of lasting happiness because when you trust yourself to handle
your feelings to handle your emotions you stop fearing them you stop running from life you stop running
from everything that's scaring you and you start actually living life to the fullest.
So the action step for you right now is once a day, once a day, morning or night, take a few
minutes to ask yourself three honest questions. This might be one of the most powerful things you
do because you'll actually be speaking something out loud, naming it or writing it down.
Number one, what am I feeling right now?
And listen, you know, I come from the world of being a guy growing up, you know, playing sports.
Well, we didn't talk about feelings.
We didn't talk about these things.
It wasn't manly.
It was just kind of like, don't be a wuss.
Don't be lame.
Just like, whatever, man.
Just suck it up.
Don't cry.
Like, this was a conditioning of don't cry.
You're fine.
Everything's okay.
Toughen up.
Who cares what you're feeling?
Move on.
But just find a way to write it down if you need to.
Here's what I'm feeling.
I'm feeling sad.
I'm feeling hurt.
I'm feeling lonely.
only. I'm feeling misunderstood. I'm feeling a little bit overwhelmed. I'm feeling like nothing
I do is ever enough. I'm feeling whatever the emotion is. Write it down. Name the emotion.
Write it down. But do it without judging yourself. Do it without making yourself wrong or saying,
ah, I should be doing better. No, none of these shouldas, no blame, no judgment. Just write it down.
The second thing to write down is why might I be feeling this way?
So I start to identify the trigger, the situation, the thought, the relationship, whatever it is.
Identify the trigger of the feeling.
And the third thing is, what do I need to do?
Do I need to rest more?
Do I need a boundary?
Do I need a conscious conversation where I create a new agreement with someone?
Do I need to move my body?
Do I need to eat differently?
Do I need some type of support?
Do I need therapy?
Whatever it is, what do I need?
These three steps, these three questions will help you in such a big way.
What am I feeling right now?
Why might I be feeling this way?
And what do I need?
Write the answers down or say them out loud.
You can just say them out loud to yourself or someone else to you trust or just write them
down in your journal.
This tiny practice is going to build emotional awareness.
It's going to reduce your stress.
And it teaches your nervous system that it's safe to feel.
It's safe to express.
It's safe to be authentic.
And over time, you'll notice you're calmer, you're clearer, you're more grounded because
you're no longer running from your emotions, you're listening to them and you're processing them.
To feel free, to feel authentic to be yourself is a gift, but it takes courage sometimes.
And these seven habits aren't just ideas, they're practices.
They're the small choices that happy people make every single day.
And the truth is, you don't need to master all.
all seven all at once overnight. You just need to start with one. Because happiness isn't something
you find out there. It's something you build in here through responsibility, through gratitude,
boundaries, movement, community, purpose, and emotional honesty. The happiest people I've
ever met, they're not perfect. They're not fearless all the time. They're not always confident
every single moment, but they're consistent. They show up for themselves, even on the days when
they don't feel like it. They choose habits that support the life they want, not the life they're
trying to escape or not the life to please other people. So my challenge for you is simple.
Pick one habit today, one shift, one pattern that you're ready to start building, to start strengthening.
And I want you to practice it for the next week. Then I want you to be consistent.
the week after that. Because when you build one habit of happiness, it starts to pull every other
part of your life in the right direction. It starts to compound and build this, this energy of just
goodness and richness and joy where people notice like, huh, what's different about you? What are you doing
differently? Something that's about you is amazing. What are you doing? Because most people in the
world are not happy. They haven't figured this out. You can be the one to create that energetic shift in the
community and friend group around you and be the leader of happiness in your life.
And I want you to remember this. You deserve to feel joy. You deserve to feel peace.
You deserve to feel proud of the life that you're creating. I'm going to thank you for being here
and investing in your growth and for choosing a path of intention. And I want to remind you,
no one's told you lately, that you were loved, you were worthy, and you matter.
I hope you enjoyed today's episode and it inspired you on your journey towards.
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And I want to remind you if no one has told you lately
that you are loved, you are worthy, and you matter.
And now it's time to go out there and do something great.
