The School of Greatness - Abundance, Self-Discovery, and Global Transformation w/ Gurudev Sri Sri Ravi Shankar EP 1445
Episode Date: May 29, 2023The Summit of Greatness is back! Buy your tickets today – summitofgreatness.comGurudev Sri Sri Ravi Shankar is a globally revered spiritual and humanitarian leader. He has spearheaded an unprecedent...ed worldwide movement for a stress-free, violence-free society. Through a myriad of programs and teachings, a network of organizations including the Art of Living and the International Association for Human Values, and a rapidly growing presence across 180 countries, Gurudev has reached an estimated 500 million people. Gurudev has developed unique, impactful programs that empower, equip and transform individuals to tackle challenges at global, national, community and individual levels.In this episode you will learn,How to forgive the people who have hurt us the mostHow to elevate your own vibrations to a positive and conscious placeThe power of the Sky Breathing TechniqueWhy so many people want their partner to change before changing themselvesThe keys to creating a conscious, healthy relationshipFor more information go to www.lewishowes.com/14451. Notes for the Journey Within - Essentials of The Art of Living: https://aolf.me/journeywithin2. World Culture Festival (Edition 4): wcf.artofliving.org3. SKY Breath Meditation: www.artofliving.orgThe Wim Hof Experience: Mindset Training, Power Breathing, and Brotherhood: https://link.chtbl.com/910-podA Scientific Guide to Living Longer, Feeling Happier & Eating Healthier with Dr. Rhonda Patrick: https://link.chtbl.com/967-podThe Science of Sleep for Ultimate Success with Shawn Stevenson: https://link.chtbl.com/896-pod
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invite your friends, and I'll see you there. See, you are forgiving somebody so that you could be
free.
Otherwise, they occupy your upper chamber and trouble you day and night, right?
It's not for the other person you are giving forgiveness.
It's for your own sake.
You don't want to punish yourself.
You don't want to carry the garbage.
You don't want to carry stress.
You want to be free.
Welcome to the School of Greatness name is lewis howes a former pro athlete turned lifestyle entrepreneur and each week we bring you an inspiring person or message
to help you discover how to unlock your inner greatness thanks for spending some time with me today. Now let the class begin. You've been continually for decades serving humanity
to create more peace, harmony, alignment, congruency, joy, abundance, and fulfillment in
life. And so I want to acknowledge you for your continual service and how you show up for the world. It's a beautiful thing.
And I wanted to ask you first about how can we forgive the people that have hurt us the most,
whether intentionally they tried to hurt us, whether they are emotionally abusive,
verbally, physically abusive, or unintentionally we interpreted they did something that hurt us how do we learn to let go of that hurt and pain i want to ask a counter question why do you want
to forgive why do you want to forgive well what happens if we don't forgive it's very painful
right we hold on to stress and yeah that's it see you you are forgiving somebody so that you could be free.
Otherwise, they occupy your upper chamber and trouble you day and night, right?
It's not for the other person you are giving forgiveness.
It's for your own sake.
You don't want to punish yourself.
You don't want to carry the garbage.
You don't want to carry stress.
You want to be free.
Right.
And you just, I might forget and forgive and move on.
But why is it so hard for people?
Some people hold on to that anger and resentment for years, and it's so hard for them to let go of the pain.
I tell them, see, if you find it hard to let go, don't struggle.
Do the easy way.
Is it easy to hold on the grudge?
It's painful.
It's painful.
What appears to be easy is not easy.
And what appears to be difficult is not difficult.
We must wake up and see this.
This is the fact
you know
you are holding
grudge against
somebody
and
you are
creating toxins
in your own body
and you are
spoiling your health
you are
spoiling your mood
you
you go
sleepless nights
so do the easiest one
right exactly speaking on relationships You go with sleepless nights. So do the easiest one.
Right, exactly.
Speaking on relationships,
I feel like life is about relationships,
the relationship we have to ourselves,
the relationship to others, the universe,
all these different things.
It seems to me like a lot of people are struggling in intimate relationships these days,
finding a healthy partner and
relationship. Why do you think it's so hard for people to attract a healthy partner and really
keep a happy, healthy relationship? Coming back to the previous point you said about forgiveness,
you know, usually we think when we forgive somebody,
we think we are doing a favor to someone.
It's not so.
That's secondary.
That's only a side effect.
Favor to others is a side effect.
But it's favoring yourself.
Every time you are angry, you're punishing yourself. For someone else's mistake.
Right.
So you get double the pain.
They hurt you and you keep hurting yourself.
Wow.
Coming to this, why we attract people,
how do we manage that, you know,
it all depends on our vibrations.
Our vibrations.
Our vibrations.
See, if our vibrations are positive,
then we attract such people.
If our vibrations are negative or doubtful or, you know,
greedy sometimes.
So we get into relationship with people who have similar
similar vibes. Have you heard about this I mean maybe have all heard about this
saying, you know birds of the same feather flock together. Yeah of course yeah. So we need to
improve our own vibrations. We seldom pay attention to that.
What should our vibrations be,
and how can we get them to a healthy conscious place?
First of all, broadened awareness,
a bigger context to life.
Ability to let go of the past and be in the present
moment. Second is doing breathing techniques and meditation. Making music a part of your
life. Singing, dancing, playing, having fun, all this can create a very positive vibes around you.
And many times it feels like easier said than done.
It feels not so possible, not so easy, and it's difficult.
But you know, you have to move through that.
You have the power to make it possible for yourself,
if you wish.
Yeah.
But when someone's feeling stuck or anxious or depressed,
like their life isn't moving forward,
or things keep happening
that don't support them in their growth,
how can people get...
Sky breathing technique. What's it called? What's? How can people get... Sky breathing technique.
What's it called?
What's it called?
The sky...
Sky breathing?
Yeah.
Sky breathing technique.
The Siddhashtana Kriya
and the breathing exercise,
Pranayama meditation.
This does it.
Really?
Yeah.
How long does this breathing technique take?
Oh, it just takes a couple of days, two, three days to learn,
and then you can do it on your own,
five, ten minutes, ten minutes every day.
Can you share a brief example of what that looks like?
You need to learn it.
I don't believe in piece meals usually.
So it's a thing that there are a number of instructors
in this country, and it's being offered in many college campuses. About 107 universities in this country have taken while veterans are taking it and they're benefiting from it. So you can just Google and go into the...
Right. Sky breathing technique.
Correct. It was called Khajo. Why do you think so many people are desperate to be in a relationship,
an intimate, loving relationship?
Why do you feel like that's happening in the world right now,
that people are struggling to find love, keep love,
and they want it so badly?
No, it's a human nature to relate to people.
Human nature is to be together, express their feelings,
share their feelings.
There's nothing wrong in it.
But in this process, we need to see how
enduring is our relationship.
Enduring.
And how we are able to accept the other person.
Yes.
You know, sometimes we want everything in our way only.
You know, that doesn't work.
In relationship, there is always a compromise.
There's always, you have to give and take.
And today, with so much stress in our lives, you life, our communication system has broken down.
It keeps breaking down.
And then our perceptual ability is also taking a beat.
Our perception abilities?
We're not able to perceive the right thing properly.
We're not able to perceive the right thing properly.
We don't go beyond our own mental and emotional bubble to see what others are in need and what do they see and what do they want.
You know, that sense of caring and sharing is essential in any relationship.
And all this can come only when we have patience.
A lot of people struggle with having patience
and they struggle with accepting another person in a relationship.
They want the other to change.
Yes.
Why do so many people want their partner to change
and why can't they accept them?
This is my question.
This is a question we need to ask because one is not aware. One is not
aware about oneself. We are not conscious about what we think, what we do, how we behave
and what impact it has on the others. We don't pay attention to that at all. We only see
the other, what they are doing, how it is affecting us so you know the human mind swings between a
victim consciousness and a culprit consciousness both are not healthy in any relationship
they both will destroy intimate relations really if you feel you are a victim that's it you cannot
have a normal relationship and if you feel guilty that you have done something wrong and you are a victim, that's it. You cannot have a normal relationship.
And if you feel guilty that you have done something wrong and you are a culprit,
then also it cannot happen.
So you need to find that fine balance
and move yourself away from the action and all those things,
even for a few seconds, few minutes every day,
and be a witness and create that inner awareness from within you,
then you know your intuitive ability works,
your vibrations become so harmonious,
and you become a more loving and lovely person.
Right.
What would you say then are the keys
to creating a conscious, healthy relationship?
It's to be free from stress.
If you are stressed,
you are far away from creating a healthy relationship.
Really?
But what about the people watching or listening saying,
okay, that sounds great,
but I've got all these responsibilities
and kids and bills and debt.
How do I not be stressful with so much going on?
Well, being stressful,
are you able to manage those things?
Not well.
Not well.
Yeah.
So how does someone overcome stress?
You should have that confidence.
You look back, look back in your own life.
This is not the first time you're getting stressed.
You got stressed so many times from years,
and you have overcome all those situations.
That should give you enough self-confidence
that you can, hey, well, I can get
over this. There's nothing.
You see?
Looking back at
your own experience, you can
number one. Second is see
that any stressful
condition that you are in at
the current moment, it's not going to stay there like that
forever. You'll be able to manage
it. It's going to to stay there like that forever. You'll be able to manage it.
It's going to change. It'll all change. That confidence that things will change for better will help you. Third thing is, know there is a higher power which is so caring and loving. Your
own higher self, or you say God, or whatever. Know that the highest power has the power to change things
and you offer it to the higher power.
What if someone doesn't believe in a higher power?
Never mind.
Never mind.
You believe in your own power.
Right.
Yeah.
You're capable of overcoming this.
Yeah, you're capable.
Why do you think so many relationships end?
Intimate relationships.
In being bitter and sore and all that, right?
Well, this is not a subject which I am too familiar with,
but still, by my observation,
what I can say is, in relationship,
it's like two lines focusing on each other.
And sometimes they will have to go part their ways.
If you police your partner too much, this is what is going to happen.
If you police them too much.
much. But if both the partner have a single goal of doing something big or something good,
then it's like two parallel lines that can go on forever. But if you are focused just on each other, where are you going, what are you doing, what did you do, you know, all
that stuff. What did you say, what I didn't say, and stuff like that.
Sooner or later, it's going to
become messy. Right.
And the second thing
is if the relationship piece
is coming from the space of
giving, contributing in the
relation, not taking,
then also it will be long-lasting.
But that
has to come from both sides.
It's not that one person is giving,
the other is only taking all the time.
It won't work.
Because the giver will get frustrated,
the taker will feel there is no charm in the relation.
They will move away.
It's the taker who feels there is no charm.
They move away.
So here again, that should come from both sides.
We contribute to each other.
And we have a bigger goal in life,
a common goal to move on.
What is an example of a goal
that a conscious relationship could have?
Yeah, it could be many things. Both can work towards environmental causes or can work
for making the society better or art or culture. You know, there could be many things.
Something more than just the relationship.
Yeah, more than just you and me, you and me all the time.
You know, that sort of.
Yeah.
Why else do you think people struggle in intimacy and relationships from your observation?
Is it a lack of communication?
Is it a lack of choosing the right partner because you don't accept them?
You see, many times people say there's a right partner they choose and and after a while they don't find them any more right.
Right.
They were right, now they're wrong.
Yeah, they were right.
And then they say we never got along after 20 years of being together.
So this is all the mind game that we go through, you see.
Again, here you should know that any relationship, it could be a Mr. Toad's wild ride.
You see, there could be a bumpy ride.
But you have to move past that.
There are speed breakers in small roads, you see.
You're on highway, there's no speed break.
But in small roads,
there will be speed.
Stop signs.
And you have to stop.
Potholes, yeah.
What it sounds like to me
is we've got to learn to,
you know, the journey within
also is in unison
with mastering our minds,
is learning how to manage the minds
at different seasons of life.
Exactly.
Relationships, career, money, objects.
It's all in there.
It's all in there.
See, you can't move within
unless you see that there is harmony all around you.
And how to create harmony around you?
By your attitude, by your understanding and
by your communication skills and improving your vibrations. And this is
all what you talk about in this, how to manage anger. It's normal to be angry,
it's normal to feel greedy, it's normal to feel jealous, it's normal, all these
negative emotions are normal. But if you don't know how to handle them, manage them, or get over them,
then you're stuck. Then you make a mess out of your own life. This is all
what in this few days, I mean few pages of journey within. You know, it started in 1995 when I sat with
a group of people and they had all these sort of issues and then time to time every Wednesday
we would sit and we would come together with some points of wisdom from life.
It's not taken from any books or here and there.
It's life experience.
And then we call it the knowledge faxes.
Those days there was no email, there was no social media, you know,
and not even cell phones.
So we used to fax this around the world to people around the world.
You have one in here on page 109 that says,
Fools will make you wiser.
Why will fools or people that upset you or frustrate you make you wiser?
It's interesting you go through that.
Read it.
I mean, many of these topics are just out of the box thinking.
They're not just the normal, you know, conceptual thing, but something which triggers
your imagination, triggers your thinking into a very unconventional manner.
Yes. You said here,
respect everybody
as you respect your spiritual teacher,
but don't expect from everyone
what you expect from your spiritual teacher.
Yeah.
That's great.
I'm curious about money and happiness.
We're here in Los Angeles,
and a lot of people,
not everyone, but a lot of people come to LA because they want to make money, they want to become famous, and they think that will also make them happy.
Can you speak into what is happiness? How can we generate happiness? And does money and fame support you in being happier?
and does money and fame support you in being happier?
Well, there's nothing wrong in wanting to be rich,
wanting to be famous. That's normal for people who want to progress in their life.
They want to achieve something.
It's quite normal.
There's nothing wrong.
But if you see when you get there only,
then you'll be happy. Then you nothing wrong. But if you see when you get there only, then you'll be happy.
Then you are wrong.
Look at all those people who are rich, who are famous.
Are they happy in their lives?
You will get the answer.
So you can be happy now
and then work towards whatever you want to achieve in life.
You see?
Don't postpone being happy.
That's what I tell.
Yeah.
Otherwise, it will be a continual postponement.
You may start postponing to the next lifetime.
Right.
You see?
So, I swear, you know, you can do whatever you want.
You can work towards it.
But when you are happy now, here,
it will give you more energy and ideas to go where you want to go.
Yes.
You'll simply be feverish to make more money.
Even if you make money doing all sorts of things,
you don't know where you will end up later on.
Correct?
Right.
sorts of things, you don't know where you will end up later on.
Correct?
Right.
So your goals must support your end.
Your goals must support your end.
Your goals, yeah.
Your means for the goals should support your end.
Right.
Right?
And the means should not be an end in itself. Right. Right? And the means should not be an end in itself.
Right.
You know, there's, speaking of, you know,
wealthy people and are they happy,
there's definitely wealthy people who are happy,
but there are some wealthy people who are not happy,
that are miserable and have a lot of stress.
You've been to, you know,
some of the poorest places in the world to be in service, and you've seen children who have nothing very happy.
Very happy.
Very happy.
I've seen the same thing.
And it's amazing.
They have maybe one meal a day if they're lucky, but they have friends, family, they have community, and they're running around playing soccer with rocks on the field and a broken ball ball and that's all they have, but they're happy.
Why are some poor people extremely happy and some rich people extremely poor in happiness?
This is something that everyone has to think about.
That gives them idea happiness is not just connected to your richness or
poorness or where you live. I wouldn't say all the poor people are happy there
are poor people who are unhappy too. And I don't even say that all rich people are
unhappy. That will also be wrong. There are some very rich people who are happy
and they are happy doing service. There two type of happiness you know one is the happiness that you feel when you
get things you know you get a birthday gift or you get a Christmas gift and you
are so happy the joy in getting something is normal. It's there from the childhood, right?
But there is a different type of happiness,
the happiness that you get when you give.
This is the joy of a grandmother, I would say.
You know, a grandmother would make many dishes
when the kids come home, and she'll bake the cake and make the cookies and she'll make pasta.
I mean, her joy is in feeding.
Her joy is in giving.
So in life, someplace we have to get to this joy of contributing.
So if you're contributing to society, the immense
gratification it comes to you,
gives you. When you wipe
the tears of
even one person around the corner,
you know, that
gives such a cool
breeze to your heart
and to your mind,
such joy to your mind.
This is the joy that we should not miss in life.
We cannot die only grabbing things till the last minute.
We must learn how to contribute and feel happy about it.
Right.
What about certain people that maybe don't feel like
they're receiving anything in life?
They're not receiving any gifts or support.
They're struggling. And they don't feel like they have anything to give. They really feel like,
I'm in lack. I don't have anything to give as well. How can they turn that situation into joy
and happiness? My dear, you can at least give a smile. Right. I agree. You can say a few nice words to people of comfort.
Can't you smile?
What is big in just smiling when everything is okay,
when things are falling apart,
if you can stand up and smile,
I know I can manage.
I know things will pass.
That smile, that positive vibration from you
amidst all the troubled water
itself is a hope.
Your positive mindset
itself creates such a
positive vibration around you
and helps other people.
Absolutely.
So you don't have to be
giving something if you don't have.
You can only give what you have.
Nobody expects you to give what you don't have. You can only give what you have. Nobody expects you to give what you don't have.
But whatever you have,
you can definitely share with others.
Absolutely, yeah.
This is what we see in some of the poor communities.
They may have very little, but they share with others.
Right.
And they feel a lot of love and joy
and community and connection and fulfillment.
How does someone develop an abundant mindset?
Something where they believe that abundance of love and joy and opportunities can come to them
versus staying stuck in a limit of what they're capable of creating or achieving?
staying stuck in a limit of what they're capable of creating or achieving.
One should, first of all, become aware of the reality in the world.
Get out of our little well that we are into and see the ocean of humanity, where it is,
and compare with that, and you'll see you'll be grateful.
You are at least much better off than so many people
who don't even have the basic things that you have.
Right.
That itself will give you a breathing space.
See?
Feel better about yourself.
Number one. Second, again here I would say
meditation will help one to get out of grief and sense of lack. You know? It's
just a state of mind. You can continue to feel like even if you are a billionaire. It's true.
It can continue
with you forever in your life.
So here meditation can
bring that
inner sense of abundance.
And when you have that
inner sense of abundance, I tell you
abundance will start
flowing to you from outside as well.
What should that feeling be inside of us
in order to feel abundant?
What does that feeling look like, experience?
There's no, it should be this way.
Your feelings are feelings, just be with it.
Those feelings come because you have
certain misconceptions in your mind, wrong notions in your mind, or
stress, too much stress, then everything appears to be very bleak.
Yes. And you don't enjoy even simple things. You know?
So I feel stress is the biggest enemy of mankind.
Really?
Because stress destroys the relationship.
It destroys your own peace of mind.
Your health.
Your health.
Your communication goes for a toss.
You react more.
React.
But it seems so hard for people to let go of stress.
To just let go of it.
No, because nobody taught them how to get out of this.
Interesting.
Neither at school, nor at home.
No one teaches us how we can be free from stress.
We're seeing how to be stressful,
but not how to get out of stress.
Get out of stressful. We see other people stressed, and we're mimicking that, but not how to be stressful, but not how to get out of stress. Get out of stressful.
We see other people stressed, and we're mimicking that, but not how to be peaceful.
Yeah.
Because this education is missing.
That is where I feel it's very important.
Now, intellectually, you know, oh, I shouldn't be upset.
I shouldn't be annoyed.
I shouldn't lose my temper.
All this intellectually, you know, as a concept, you know, you understand all that. But in practical life, it doesn't seem to become
a reality. It doesn't translate into reality. Your thoughts are different, your actions are different.
This is where the breathing techniques and Sudarshan Kriya sky techniques all come in so handy.
Yes.
Because it helps when it gives tools and techniques for people to, you know, just let go.
Yes.
Of those.
And feel the freshness from within.
How often do you feel stressed or angry today with all the wisdom that you have?
Do you ever feel stressed or angry?
Do I look stressed?
Not right now.
Do you ever have a moment since I were like, I don't like that person did this thing or said this or does it ever like just a little bit and then you go back to your...
It will be so hard to believe, but it is the truth that I don't get this at all.
That's got to feel amazing.
That's got to feel peaceful then.
How much does the ability
of someone needing
to learn to heal
support them
in overcoming stress?
If they still have
emotional or physical wounds
from the past
or memories from the past
that hurt them.
That need to be healed.
And again, heal. This will help you to heal.
Our breathing technique, meditation helps you to just come out of it.
And that's what we have been doing in this country for all the war veterans.
You know, they had tried all psychological things and then they have seen doctors and PTSD syndromes.
8,000 of
war veterans
in America
alone
have undergone
these programs,
healing breath workshops.
Wow.
And
you must hear
their experiences.
It's so heartwarming.
You know,
the mothers
and the wives of those people have said, we got our sonwarming. You know, the mothers and the wives of those people,
they've said,
we got our son back.
You know,
these same war veterans
who just hide in their basement
or not have any family life.
And the trauma of war,
wounds of war,
the psychological wounds they had undergone, moral wounds, were
very difficult to heal.
But just in a few days' time, three, four days' time, they're completely under.
Wow.
So a gentleman even made a movie out of it.
Almost Sunrise is a movie they made on our technique, how this has helped many war veterans.
It's a very interesting movie.
I feel like it's hard to be peaceful
if we haven't learned to heal.
It's hard to not react and be stressed
if there's still a wound inside of us.
Absolutely, absolutely right.
That is where wisdom
combined with techniques
would help them to get all.
Right.
Wisdom, techniques, and integrating these techniques consistently.
Yeah.
And I'm not saying, oh, you have to practice for a long time,
then you will find the effect.
No.
Within a few days, within a few sittings,
three, four sittings, you can find the change.
Yes. The healing is the change. Yes.
The healing is so fast.
Yes.
So at some point, sometime, we even call this healing breath workshop when we started.
But then, you know, healing breath means its scope is very limited, only for those who need.
But many don't even realize they need these exercises,
these, you know,
to be more happier.
So we change it
into happiness program.
That's good.
I like it.
Yeah, I like that.
You talked about
the education system
and what we aren't teaching
our kids at home
and in schools.
If you could require,
in a hypothetical world, if you could require, in a hypothetical world,
if you could ask that teachers or schools teach only three things to support the youth,
what would those three lessons be?
Teach them how they can manage their emotions, number one. Number two, we have to teach them how they can accept others and how to create a very cordial atmosphere, make more new friends in their schools and colleges, wherever they are.
Third thing is to be resilient.
You know, failures come in life.
You know, you get fights.
You get into some unpleasant situations.
And how to snap out of it
without hanging on to it in your mind
and worrying about it.
Going along with that,
I think those are beautiful.
Going along with that,
I believe
one of the biggest fears for people is the fear of rejection.
The fear of other people's opinions and rejection. How does someone learn to be okay
with others rejecting them, with nasty comments online, with people saying no to them over and over,
how does someone learn to still love and appreciate themselves
in the face of rejection?
You need inner strength for that.
That's where the journey we think will help you a lot.
Yeah.
You need inner strength to be able to be solid
and not worry about what others say,
not to be football of others' opinion.
For that, you need that inner strength.
And it's a gradual growth.
You can't say it can happen right tomorrow
after listening to a podcast.
No.
For that, they need to do a little bit of meditation,
a little bit of wisdom,
and all, let's still be the journey with it.
Yeah, for sure.
But why do you think people hold on to the opinions of others so much?
Why do we care so much about what?
Because you don't have a bigger context about life.
You don't see all the thoughts, all the opinions of people are changing, including your own.
You have some opinion about somebody,
and then it just changed very fast,
in a few days or in a few months, right?
Your opinions do change.
So you must give others also the freedom to change their opinions.
It's true.
And we don't have to think their opinion is...
Is right. Is etched in stone and same all the time
it's just a ripple
on the surface of water
and you have no control
over that
and the bigger
context to your life
again
and more being conscious of
the different treasure of wealth that you have,
the beautiful qualities you possess as a human being will help you to overcome those things.
Broadening your perspective about life.
Shazak.
I've heard you talk about, you know,
we have so many thoughts every single day in our minds, right?
Thousands, millions of thoughts a day.
What are the thoughts that we should be
trying to focus on the most consistently
when we have a negative thought?
How can we replace it with something else?
I feel you shouldn't fight with any thoughts.
The more
you resist, the more
those thoughts will come to you.
There is a skill in dealing
with the thought, turning the
negative into positive.
That skill is what meditation
is all about.
And if you are stressed, however you
struggle to get rid of negative thoughts, it is impossible for you to get rid of them. And if you are stressed, however you struggle to get rid of negative thought,
it is impossible
for you to get rid of them.
If you don't get rid of stress
and try to only manage the thought,
it is not going to work.
Root cause of all this negativity
is the stress.
You get rid of stress
and you will see naturally
you will have only positive.
Right. And if you start to heal, you'll start to get rid of stress and you will see naturally you will have only positive.
Right.
And if you start to heal, you'll start to get rid of the stress.
Absolutely.
Yeah.
Is it possible to be happy and hurt at the same time?
Have like a wound emotionally or psychologically or physically?
Is it possible to be happy at the same time that you're dealing with?
Maybe partially.
There could be some more.
But, you know,
to be really totally happy,
you have to get rid of the wounds.
The wounds.
And I don't see it as impossible.
Right.
I see it as very much possible.
Even if they take a little bit of inner journey, make that inner journey, meditate a little bit, have a broader context to life, and serve in society in whatever capacity they can.
Yeah.
What do you think people struggle with the most that you've seen over the last few
months in society? Is it dealing with... See, post-pandemic, what I see is there is aggression
on one side and depression on the other side. People are swinging between these two extremes.
people are swinging between these two extremes at the drop of a hat
people lose their temper
and become so aggressive
on one side
on the other side
there is depression
and suicidal tendencies
and feeling bad about themselves
this is also prevalent
and both I feel is not good
for the health of a society of an individual.
So we need to get rid of these two extremities.
What's the root cause of aggression and depression?
Again, lack of robust mental health. And this is the talk of the town,
you know,
everywhere,
mental health,
we talk about it.
But we are not thinking about
remedies which are time-tested,
like breathing,
meditation,
yoga,
and all these things.
Nature walk,
and we are only thinking about
what type of medication
we can stuff ourselves with with and steroids that you take
and then, you know, you blow to yourself even more.
And I think the lifestyle changes really to adopt to ourself.
Why are people so influenced on these things
or on things that really don't matter
about the journey within?
Fancy things, superficial things,
you know, more and more and more.
Why are people so focused on these things in life
versus feeling peaceful and happy?
See, nature of mind is to wanting something new.
Mind always goes for something new.
Right. And fashion.
And more. But heart
always longs for something old.
You take pride
in an old friend, not in a new friend.
Right.
And you take
pride in having the latest model of car,
or a computer, or a watch, right?
That's the latest thing that the mind wants.
So life is like that.
Life is a combination of old and new.
Like the roots are old, but the shoots come new.
Right.
And we have to balance them.
And if you don't attend to the roots at all, there is no life.
That's true.
How do you balance that in your life by having the mission that you're on
and dealing with everything else that's happening?
Life is already balanced.
You don't have to make struggle, make any attempt to balance it.
It's been like this for me.
Right.
Because I want nothing for myself.
What's that?
I want nothing for myself.
Right.
I'm here to cave in whatever I have.
Yeah.
That's it.
Right.
Have you always been like that?
Or did you have to train your mind?
No, no.
I didn't have to do any training or nothing.
I've been like this.
Really?
Why do you think you've been like that?
It's been easy for you.
Well, I don't know myself.
It's been like that.
It's my nature.
I've been like that from my very young days.
So, you know, when you have a purpose,
and the nature is taking over that.
You're not even thinking, I have to do this, this.
Nature makes things happen through you.
Right.
Did you always have a purpose, or did it
come to you later in life?
No, always from childhood.
Really?
I knew that to unite everybody.
Really?
Make people realize, hey, we are all one human family.
When you were a kid?
Really.
When did you realize that you could truly make an impact on people's lives?
Like how old were you when you noticed that you were able to?
See, I did not think about, oh, I had to do this and this and this and that.
And I just let life take over and I flew with however the time took me.
Right.
I've heard you talk about mental health, about creating the journey within,
meditation, breathing, and really broadening our
perspective of life. What do you see happening over the next couple of years after the pandemic
and after where everything's at with aggression, depression? What do you see things moving into?
Do you want me to be predicting, looking at a crystal ball?
Just curious if you have any insights of what you think might happen.
No, I don't see that.
I think more and more people are getting more conscious.
Conscious, yeah.
Conscious they are realizing where we are going wrong
and how we should get our life back on track
and how it's important for us to share
and care for the environment, for people, care for peace in the world.
Right.
You know, when this war broke up between Ukraine and Russia,
we started a Stand for Peace campaign.
A tremendous response was there in people.
Right.
Because we were feeling so,
the population was feeling so trapped and so helpless.
See, we can't do anything.
Someone is fighting there, what can we do?
This sort of despondency was in the public.
So when they all stood up and said, oh, I stand for peace, there is something that you can do for, even from the thought level and intention of goodness, peace
for the world, it empowers you. It helps you to come out of despondency and a sort of helplessness.
This is what I would tell everyone, don't underestimate your power, your mental power,
your spiritual power.
Each one of you have
an ocean of wealth,
energy within.
Tap into that.
Yes.
And you can do,
you can make a difference in the world.
Absolutely.
That's beautiful.
I've got two final questions for you
as we get close to the end of our time. Before I ask them, I want people to get the book
Notes for the Journey Within, Essentials of the Art of Living. Make sure you guys get a few copies
for yourself, for your friends. This is going to help you stay spiritually aware, keep your
perspective broadened, and really help you let go of the stress that's
causing you a lot of the pain and suffering right now. So make sure you guys get a few copies of
this. Follow you everywhere. I love your YouTube, your Instagram, your social media superstar now.
So make sure to follow everywhere on social media. We'll have it all linked up. I want to acknowledge
you, Guru Dev, for your consistency in your journey of service. I love the example that you set. You inspire me, you inspire so many people, so I'm so grateful that you keep showing up and giving to the world in the way you do to stand for peace and harmony.
last time. So I'm curious if the answer is different now that it's been a couple of years,
but this is a question called the three truths. And I have your answers here from before.
But if you could share only three lessons with the world and they wouldn't have access to this book or this conversation or anything else you've shared, what would those three lessons be?
Or those three truths? See, if you go to a pharmacy and ask
them, give me three medicines, what would they do? Say, come on, what is the medicine that you want?
You pick up. Say, you go to the ocean and give me three things that you have. The ocean would only
say, come on, you pick up what you want. Salt from me, fish from me, oil from me,
gas from me, pearls from me.
You pick up.
Wisdom is an ocean.
And so you pick up what you want.
And that's what journey with you is.
I like it.
Final question.
What is your definition of greatness?
Why do we have to define greatness?
You don't need to define anything
that is very big,
very significant in your life.
It goes beyond definition.
You can't define love.
You can't define compassion.
How can you
encamp something which is so
sacred, so intimate to you
like compassion or
love
in few sentences
same with greatness
it's something that uplifts you
elevates your old spirit
when you feel
more than what you are
yourself and then you want to define it what
gratefulness is then we are not doing justice to those qualities or those words even i hope today's
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