The School of Greatness - Heart-to-Heart Conversations: Zane Lowe's Approach to Unveiling Artists' Personal Stories EP 1452

Episode Date: June 12, 2023

The Summit of Greatness is back! Buy your tickets today – summitofgreatness.comZane Lowe's interviews with artists often transcend their music, delving into their personal lives and creative process...es. He shares his approach to these conversations, creating a comfortable and insightful space for artists to open up and share their stories. Zane highlights the power of storytelling in fostering a deeper connection between artists and their audience.Recognized for his ability to spot potential in up-and-coming artists, Zane Lowe shares his insights on discovering emerging talent and offers advice to aspiring musicians looking to break into the industry. He emphasizes the importance of originality, authenticity, and a strong work ethic in standing out and making a lasting impact.In this episode you will learn,The power of building personal connectionsHow to create space that fosters intimate one on one connectionHow storytelling can break boundaries and connect us on a deeper levelSteps to finding your own voice and using it to inspire positive actionWhy empathy, vulnerability and understanding should be at the forefront of every relationshipFor more information go to www.lewishowes.com/1452Scooter Braun on building an entertainment empire: https://link.chtbl.com/1244-guestFreestyle rapper, Harry Mack on channeling musical creativity: https://link.chtbl.com/1321-guest

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Starting point is 00:00:00 Calling all conscious achievers who are seeking more community and connection, I've got an invitation for you. Join me at this year's Summit of Greatness this September 7th through 9th in my hometown of Columbus, Ohio to unleash your true greatness. This is the one time a year that I gather the greatness community together in person for a powerful transformative weekend. People come from all over the world and you can expect to hear from inspiring speakers like Inky Johnson, Jaspreet Singh, Vanessa Van Edwards, Jen Sincero, and many more. You'll also be able to
Starting point is 00:00:37 dance your heart out to live music, get your body moving with group workouts, and connect with others at our evening socials. So if you're ready to learn, heal, and grow alongside other incredible individuals in the greatness community, then you can learn more at lewishouse.com slash summit 2023. Make sure to grab your ticket, invite your friends, and I'll see you there. True art is when the inner voice and the outer voice meet in harmony. That's what true art is. And that would and the outer voice meet in harmony that's what true art is and i don't just mean singing i mean any form of expression writing you know when you write a piece of literature that is just like so mind-blowing and moving that's that meaning that that or that
Starting point is 00:01:16 and it just blows welcome to the school of greatness my name is lewis howes former pro athlete turned lifestyle entrepreneur. And each week we bring you an inspiring person or message to help you discover how to unlock your inner greatness. Thanks for spending some time with me today. Now let the class begin. With all the interviews you've done, what would you say are maybe three big takeaways that you've found maybe not from the guest who was inspiring but just the process the the big takeaways from the last two decades of all these conversations for you what have you learned from this experience well first of all that as much as we hold artists and people we admire who inspire us through expression or performance of some capacity, that it's a very human experience for them.
Starting point is 00:02:18 We put posters on our wall, wear them on our chest, sing this. In music, we sing their lyrics back at them at concerts we are invested and um i think as i've moved from being only a fan to being a fan with privileges like this doing this kind of work um that it's a very human experience the creation of the art um and i and i'm quite into that idea of uh blurring the line between um you know deity and humanity right because you meet all these big artists who are kind of godlike to a lot of their fans yeah and i think we take it really far as people because we look we're always looking for something to be inspired by something to um um and give us a purpose you know or a reason to get up or a reason to work harder or do something
Starting point is 00:03:06 with more emotion or be more open or even just to heal a heart sometimes it it breaks a heart sometimes it heals a heart whatever and these are very in a lot of cases through the art through the lens of art it's from it's magical it's very spiritual experience um and so i i always try to preserve the magic of the music but recognize the human that made it. So that's definitely one. Yeah. And I think that a knock-on from that is that, you know, I used to go into a lot of conversations with artists. We were talking about this before we were rolling with this kind of idea that I needed to know everything before I
Starting point is 00:03:46 sat down. And I think it's better to not think about stuff as much as feel things. So I really come into this kind of experience now with a feeling rather than a list of questions or a roadmap. I try to take it out of the brain and put it back in the heart. Absolutely. As corny as that sounds, it's sort of really where I sit. And it just means that I'm thinking and feeling with a real sort of sense of appreciation for the art and appreciation for the person rather than just the text or the information that's being presented to me. So I listen a lot more than I used to. You didn't used to in the first, what, decade or something? I was told outright. I did some work with somebody because I felt like I was getting stuck in a rut. So I went and spoke to someone who was probably not unlike yourself, had a lot
Starting point is 00:04:37 of really good insight and helps people get over humps, whether it's athletes or performers or anyone who has to perform into something. It could be business, whatever, they kind of give you this sort of advice, the sense where you might be kind of ignoring the obvious next steps to grow. And she said to me, you know, you don't listen enough. And that was really hard for me to hear because I wasn't listening enough. It's like right there in front of me, like I immediately want to block it out. And she said, you know, a lot of times in conversation, people present you with something really interesting. It's there to go deeper on and you either scoot past it or you try to protect them from overexposing themselves.
Starting point is 00:05:15 And really, you just need to let and be present enough to hear what someone is saying and have the confidence that I had the ability to move in that direction with little to no preparation, that the preparation was in me because I felt where I was. Does that make sense? Why do you think you weren't listening that well? Oh, fear. Just fear of being caught out, not having the right question, not knowing where to go. out well? Oh, fear. Just fear of being caught out, not having the right question, not knowing where to go. Silence terrified me in conversation with cameras and microphones. Yeah. Because I'd be like, wow, it looks like I'm unprepared. It was all very ego-driven. I think looking back on it. Need to look good. Yeah. I had it all around the wrong way. To me, it was almost like a performance.
Starting point is 00:06:00 It's not a performance. I only realized that now now i think at the time i was like no i'm just i'm doing the work you know i'm as into this conversation as as as anyone can be and and then i think looking back on it i was just um just kind of focused on how i was coming across all the wrong things and it's like dude just be a be a sponge and be a conduit you know so what year is this when you kind of started to reflect on it and start to get that support or coaching or feedback? Well, I always felt like I did good work. I wouldn't have continued to create more opportunities or be given more opportunities
Starting point is 00:06:34 unless I didn't do the good work. And I never watched my stuff back. So I was low on the edge. I never did either. Yeah. Yeah. It's not like a, that's not an ego thing for me. I don't go, yeah, amazing question.
Starting point is 00:06:43 Like, I just- I'm the man with that question. You know what I mean? I'm just, I love the moment and then I leave it to someone else to figure out. Right. Um, and so I was never worried about that, about not doing great work up to a point. It's just that I felt like I was uninspired in my, in my line of questioning and conversations weren't inspiring me. I wasn't inspiring the subjects or the people in line of questioning. The conversations weren't inspiring me. I wasn't
Starting point is 00:07:05 inspiring the subjects or the people in front of me. Because you were still interviewing the most inspiring artists in the world. It's all still happening at the time. Yeah. I can tell you exactly when it was. What happened? It was when we launched Apple Music and I was trying to help build this radio model for the streaming era and help the streaming model get started on the steepest learning curve of my professional life and trying to deal with relocating a family to LA there's just so much going on that the thing that got me there in the first place was the thing I was least focused on and so eventually that thing kicked back up and people were like well let's do the interview things like let's get you back in that in that mic
Starting point is 00:07:38 uh on that mic and and I just wasn't prepared for it and that's when I was like look I need to I need to find at least an hour a week where I can not deal with all the other things going on and just find out what this is saying to me. And it may be that I don't have it. I'm not good at it or I don't want to do it anymore. this person, Sarah, unlocked that aspect of it, it meant that I could actually manage all these other priorities and do this at the same time because I just had to simplify my process and just come in with a sense of trying to feel what the artist is saying and feel where they are in their life and just be as human about it as possible.
Starting point is 00:08:21 It's interesting you say this. I have a similar mindset around conversations and interviews. And I think it is more of an art than anything. And I'll have a bunch of questions here that are pre-prepared that I'll glance at, or if I need to go and look at, I will, but I almost never look at the questions. It's always what's on the heart and mind of the guest as you come in. The feeling we have, you know, right away, we gave each other a hug and you were like, that was a nice embrace. I go, want another one? Let's do it. And we're talking about New Zealand and other things. And, and for me, it's always about
Starting point is 00:08:54 starting with a question, which I feel like is on their heart and then allowing it to evolve. Yeah. I don't even, here's the thing, right? I never even know what my first question is going to be anymore. Like I try to get to a place where it's as immediate as possible. Like whatever the last person thinks somebody said or how they walked in the room or how they reacted to this or how they drank their drink or whatever. I'm just searching for where we can begin right here, right now. I saw that with the Harry Styles interview you did. I think it was about a year ago or the last year.
Starting point is 00:09:22 I think the first question was, why do you paint your nails? Yeah, because he was sitting there and I noticed it two seconds before we started. You're like, let's start last year. I think the first question was, why'd you paint your nails? Yeah. Cause he was sitting there and I noticed it two seconds before we started. You're like, let's start with this. I like the color. Would you get that? Yeah.
Starting point is 00:09:30 Let's start with this. Why'd you do this? Yeah. And so for me, it's just, um, you know, this dude,
Starting point is 00:09:36 this started when we met. So it's the pre-show is the show. Yeah. And it's good. It's good. If we, if we're analyzing a process and there are people weirdly enough that are interested in what this side of things is. It always blows my mind. If
Starting point is 00:09:46 someone comes up to me and goes, I really love your interviews. I don't know what to do with that because I'm like, I'm not the most, like, I'm just getting you the info, right? That's all I'm trying to do, right? So I take it now and I appreciate it and I've done it long enough to not be about that. I'm just grateful for the acknowledgement. But the truth is like, you want to know your subject to the point where it's respectful. I can't interview someone unless I hear the music or I watch the film or read the book to some degree or know what the subject's about. But then that just has to sit there. And then if I've got the knowledge in my head and I understand what the human has achieved,
Starting point is 00:10:18 then I just want to come at it from a place of feeling. It's really about the feeling. If I'm not in a place where I'm open enough to feel what you're trying to achieve with this music right now, then I'm not prepared to sit down and talk to you about it. Yeah. And you may not be interested enough or excited enough to dive into it if you don't know that, have that feeling. Yeah. I mean, I get emotional in these conversations too, because I know when we talk about that song, what it's about, because it made me feel that way. And it made me bring up things for me, which some people may think is a bit indulgent but i love a two-way conversation i don't i'm not a q a guy i don't i'm not like a thank you next question my next question is like let's say i can't have it so that we're sharing
Starting point is 00:10:56 and opening up together at least and i try to get the line right and sometimes i overstep it and i overshare a bit too much and my editors are a bit generous with my take on things. But man, I've been doing this a long time. Like I did that junket thing. It's not fun. Yeah. You got to be able to share a two-way street. I'm curious about how,
Starting point is 00:11:20 you know, a kid from New Zealand was able to eventually go to London and then come to Apple Music and be the go-to guy for the biggest musicians in the world to essentially come to first before they do any other interviews. How does that even happen? Why you? What makes you and your story unique that has allowed this to occur? Because it didn't happen by accident. It's not like someone just plucked you out because they're like, Oh, this guy could be good.
Starting point is 00:11:46 Yeah. There was a path that you followed, whether it was deliberate or undeliberate and you just kept showing up. But how did that happen? I mean, you know what it's like, it's still happening. So it's hard to know when you're still kind of like enjoying the experience
Starting point is 00:12:01 and you're still in your life. Maybe there'll be a time when you sort of look back and reflect on it a little bit. Because it's been, what, eight years in Apple Music now? Yeah, yeah. Well, coming up nine and then before that, it was like nearly 13 at the BBC and before that it was MTV. So yeah, I mean, I could put it in a nutshell
Starting point is 00:12:17 and it could seem like a really quick, short journey from Auckland to here. But there's so many moments of just luck and realizing there's a moment that you should happen that you should take like live in that moment and make the most of it and and work i mean it's true you know the you know the hours and hours you spend doing what you love it's not work but it's still effort and the effort pays off so you, you know, that equation is well documented. And you know this.
Starting point is 00:12:48 I mean, you deal in greatness. You've spoken to great people. I'm sure that, you know, everyone kind of lives by the same principles to some degree, which is find something that you love. Be solely focused on it to the point where it's obsessive. Take your opportunities graciously and with real gratitude, work, be good to people, right? Learn to say no, make sure that the yes is the right yes. All these things are kind of the roadmaps there for people to use. Now what's
Starting point is 00:13:21 unique for everybody is, you know, how you put those pieces together how it shapes your picture and the only thing i know that's been a constant in my life is that i really am just a real fan like of the music of the artist i'm just a fan really like the fan like everyone's you are the super fan i'm in my mind i'm like i am a massive fan of music i'm not going to put myself above anybody else but i really love it and it really moves me and it really generates an enormous amount of energy in me like if energy is tangible it comes out of me when music is playing that i love like emotion like i was driving here listening to this playlist i made yesterday for queens from the queens the stone age from their back catalog but it's not
Starting point is 00:14:04 hits like there's not one single in there it's all just album songs they're just driving music right it's just like mexicola and turning on the screw and just like someone's in the wolf and just all this stuff that's just so heavy and it's like when i'm driving listening to that like i'm in the band really yeah it's like it's very, very sort of tangible for me. And so I think if you believe in the laws of attraction, which I certainly do, if you love something that much and when you listen to it, you feel like you're inside it or a part of it, then you maybe eventually become a part of the process.
Starting point is 00:14:43 Wow. I mean, I've seen it over and over again. I mean, you know, I want to get it right. I'm sure it was Janelle Monáe who told me a story about walking into a room to play a show that Stevie Wonder was also playing. And he was soundchecking her song when she walked in and we talked about the law of attraction from being a young person a fan of stevie to that moment of realizing that stevie was playing her song this is this happens all the time all over the world in lots of different ways right how else do you end up playing football on the same team as your heroes just that's how it goes
Starting point is 00:15:23 inspiration brings this kind of attraction. So she had this really cool take on it, which was that if someone inspires you enough that they end up altering the course of your life in their direction, then it goes without saying that at some point you will come face to face with that person. And what may happen in the case of Stevie and Janelle is that that person is then reflecting
Starting point is 00:15:50 your version of them upon themselves, right? Wow. So Stevie hears in Janelle's music what Stevie knows about himself. Oh man, I get the chills thinking about this. Why he's drawn to that song to play it because it's a mirror image in many respects. That's beautiful. It's the beauty of connection. That's the beauty of why we as young people find people that make us want to go and train harder and learn instruments and make beats for 12 hours a day
Starting point is 00:16:16 or learn to rap or whatever. Who was the first inspiration for you or the first couple in music when you were kind of growing up and you heard something like, oh, I want to learn this instrument or I want to get into this or I want to be the DJ because of this person. Yeah, I wanted to be in all kinds of bands. I mean, I literally would create a fantasy world when I would be at home. As a young kid, I'd set up these drum kits made of like old thick phone books and I'd turn the edges of the cardboard off and that would be my hi-hat with chopsticks and I'd make these crazy drum kits and I'd just play Led Zeppelin for like two hours or i'd pretend i was in depeche
Starting point is 00:16:48 mode like i mean the imagination was my refuge because my reality was at best pretty quiet auckland chill chill not much going on much going on sports in school and then i also also came from this kind of pretty um difficult divorce background in terms of like my parents had a rough a rough end to their relationship um you know at a time when divorce wasn't common and so and at an age when i was very um i was open to that trauma i was i was in the moment of trying to establish my identity. And it was a really classic sort of divorce story, which has gone on hundreds of millions of times, who knows, billions of times around the world
Starting point is 00:17:32 where something happens in your life and it attaches itself to you. And so my way through that was music. I would just be in the band. Your own band, like in your imagination? In their band. Like, you know, I am in those minutes. Sure.
Starting point is 00:17:49 Like, you know. But that was your escape. Yeah, it was my escape. It was my way of just imagining what life would be like if I was in their band and how wonderful it would be. And that's really where the idea of wanting to be more than just a music listener. And I guess I began this kind of journey of wanting to get as close to the music as I can. This is fascinating because there's so many great musicians and
Starting point is 00:18:14 artists out there. And I feel like, you know this way better than I do, but I feel like a lot of the music is created from a place of yearning to want something, yearning for love or something they wanted or escaping pain. Do you think it's possible for great artists to produce and create amazing music that is connected around the world without some type of trauma or lack? is connected around the world without some type of trauma or a lack? Well, I think the question is, does anyone go through life without some kind of trauma? I mean, I think that I've never met anyone who could literally sit there and go, man, my life was perfect from start to finish. You know?
Starting point is 00:19:09 from start to finish you know um i think that the desire to express yourself through the arts often comes from um not feeling like you have a uh a sort of natural pathway to explaining those things or figuring those things out and and often it And often it's just a way to communicate and to express yourself in ways that conventional communication just doesn't work for you or the environment isn't there for you. So yeah, I think that a lot of the arts, a lot of people who make art or express themselves and it's across the board, not just in music. I mean, I know a few people who work in canvas, work in sculpting and work in more sort of like tactile arts, absolutely their way of seeing the world. Why do you think it's easier to create art and express yourself than it is to sit across someone, open your heart, be vulnerable and have
Starting point is 00:19:55 a conversation eye to eye? Oh, that's a great question. I mean, I can only speak from my experience. I didn't have the tools. I think you have to know yourself really well to be able to express yourself really well. Scary. And I think that the fear kicks in because you're like, well, what if it doesn't come out the way I mean it? Or what if I don't really understand
Starting point is 00:20:13 what I'm trying to achieve here? I mean, I'm still figuring out. I mean, that's the beauty of life, right? We're all still figuring it out. And I think we're so results obsessed that we forget that actually, you know, it's the learning that as we established here, this is about learning from each other. And I'm not here to learn from you.
Starting point is 00:20:31 So, you know, it's like, you know, I think we have to really be kinder to ourselves on that level. I think very quickly at a young age, it's like competitive sports. This is all healthy, by the way, but competitive sports education grades results results results results and and i think maybe part of where we're going in the future hopefully is that um we can actually start to uh tandem that with this idea of what the inner voice is saying because true art is when the inner voice and the outer voice meet in harmony that's what true art is and that would just mean singing i mean any form of expression writing you know when you write a piece of literature that's just like so mind-blowing and moving that's that meaning that that or that and it just flows yeah and that's when people talk about the magic is that's the intangible that's the magic place where great
Starting point is 00:21:20 art gets created is is when um we you, somehow for some reason, the stuff that gets in the way gets switched off, you know? And I think when we're young and we don't know how to do that, not even when we're young, when we don't know how to do that or ignore it, it's never off. And if it's not off, how do you express yourself in other means? Sure. Right. How do you open the lanes for the art to flow, for the music, the inspiration and things to flow? It's all just channels. Right. And when you were going through this kind of period of time, the inspiration and things to flow. It's all just channels. Right. And when you were going through this kind of period of time with the divorce and your parents, that's when you started to lean into the music
Starting point is 00:21:51 and lean into this world? I was always moved by it and I was always motivated by it. But I think every kid is. I think rhythm is a very natural place for us to land. And when we're figuring out what the world is, it's a pretty good place to start. Dancing, things like that, it's a natural form of expression and joy.
Starting point is 00:22:11 So I think if it takes hold, it's because it's serving a purpose. It became a purpose for me. It became a purpose to get up. It became a purpose to leave the house and walk to school, put my headphones on. My intention that day was not to hurry to school my intention was to be able to listen to music on the way to school wow what year is this through
Starting point is 00:22:31 school and listen to music on the way sure what years was it was i don't know in the 80s i mean you know probably like you know i'm whenever i got my first walkman you know probably 10 11 years or something like that i'm just figuring out like what do i need in order to um just go somewhere that's mine just my place um i still get an enormous amount of emotional satisfaction out of putting headphones on on a plane or on a walk or something um because i know i'm the only one having that experience it's entirely me and you know that thing sometimes when you listen to music and it's so it's so immersive that in your head everyone can hear what you hear and then every now and then just for fun you'll pause
Starting point is 00:23:21 and you'll hear the birds or the cars or everyone's just going about their life talking like i love that because there's something very comforting about knowing that life is just moving on all right it's a really good reminder that everyone's just doing the best they can and getting on with life right and you know music just helps me do that. It's just, it continues to be this amazing place that allows me to feel things that are intangible. I don't know how to access those things sometimes without the help of music. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:23:59 Was there ever an aha moment for you when you were playing, you know, growing up or when you started interviewing people where you were like i cannot believe i'm playing with or interviewing this individual that i've been a fan of for so long oh there were so many i mean from a really early age because when i was working in new zealand you know there wasn't a huge amount of outlet for artists to kind of do press or whatever but eventually that kind of all come through um so yeah i mean before i even went to london i had this kind of show tape of like you know i mean i talked about it within
Starting point is 00:24:34 the other day i mean we're on our 20th plus interview now nearly 30 almost 30 years i've been talking to billy corgan and i remember in 1994, sitting on a grassy bank. In Auckland. Yeah, the first day of a big day out where the band were playing just after Siamese Dream came out. They were on like 4.30 in the afternoon. And I'll never forget it. I knew that album,
Starting point is 00:24:55 but I didn't really... But I sort of... I kind of fell in love with him before I really got the band. And that was a big thing for me. I interviewed him and just thought, this guy has something about this guy. He's just really... love with him before i really got the band and that was a big thing for me like i interviewed him and just thought this guy is something about this guy is like he's just really um got some crazy vibe about him or about him and then i heard the music and i can make the connection between
Starting point is 00:25:16 the two and then that album has been my companion my whole life so that was crucial i mean being at radio one and getting that first j Jay-Z conversation was a game changer What was that like? It just changed everything for me. What year is that? Well, it actually was the second, well the first one happened around blueprint 3 But the one that really was the game changer was the second or third one which was around Magna Carta Holy Grail at Abbey Road and just yeah, it was the He was just so generous and thoughtful and unafraid of the questions and really willing to go there and
Starting point is 00:25:54 just like he he made the decision to do it and so he came in without any armor on he didn't have some pr responses and yeah it fell away immediately it felt immediately like we could talk for hours and hours and hours and hours. And we did. We talked for like two hours. And I remember after that day, I was like, okay, yeah, you can do this. Like you can... Right. He was probably the biggest in the world at the time, right? Yeah. And you can still, and you can go into the room with him and he just made me feel in that moment like it was a worthwhile experience.
Starting point is 00:26:28 And it's different for you because you've built this amazing experience where people want to come into this room with you. You've established through really thoughtful, great conversation and very smart kind of sort of complimentary branding and everything else so it's like oh i want to go on that like i was excited to be asked you know yeah i knew would be a great use of time but for me at least um but most people start at least back in the day before podcasts were really the avenue you really came in on everybody else's sort of priority list and what you know you're a tool like you got to promote this record you got to you know ask these questions do this job it's so i was very i never felt like i really had much of a role to play beyond kind of doing my job and the jay-z one was a big one for me where i felt like you know what beyond what the label needs,
Starting point is 00:27:26 what the BBC needs, what the audience expects, just that experience of me and this person I admire to such a degree, such a huge degree, that was enough. It made me feel like you can do this. You can be of value to people in this environment. Did you ever have doubts before that? Or did you have insecurities when these artists would come in? Like i've got to deliver and what if they don't like me and not
Starting point is 00:27:48 just that man i mean i think a lot of that was what drove some of my my techniques was the fear that i um i had to prove myself right i had to leave and make an impression all these things it's just dude we just spend so much time focused on what if we fail that um you forget that actually the reason you're there in the first place is because something inside of you believes that you can be of six of value that you can succeed in whatever capacity others think is success right so we forget that and we bury that deep down within and that's why execution is so hard that's why people make and don't execute that's true but that's it sounds like that gave you a big confidence boost. It gave you more belief in yourself after that Jay-Z interview. Yeah, it's huge. And then everything kind of kicked off from there and it was like Kanye
Starting point is 00:28:31 and then Eminem were within a sort of six month period. And then I feel like that was sort of the moment when, um, a chain of events sort of unfolded that ended up, you know, positioning me at Apple and moving to Los Angeles. Yeah. Was that how, how much earlier was that before you moved to LA? So 2012, 2013. So if you think about it, three years, but if you think about it in terms of the conversations began in 2014, it really was only about a year. Cause then we did, I did Rick Rubin who'd never done anything really on camera and hadn't done an interview, at least to my knowledge in a long time. and now obviously Rick has built a beautiful wonderful empire of conversations and books and I mean it's he just makes the world better by sharing his knowledge
Starting point is 00:29:13 but at the time I just didn't it just didn't seem to be what he was focused on so we had this cool Shangri-La moment and that was big and so it just so that a couple year period there's a lot of big kind of powerful conversations you got to have with people that really didn't open up. Yeah. What do you think allowed you to be able to create those iconic conversations in that short period of time and allowed you to book them and for them to want to open up vulnerably and share? Well, Jay-Z is what allowed it. I mean, he's the one who said yes in the first place and he's the one who encouraged us to put it on youtube which i had no presence on youtube
Starting point is 00:29:48 in fact i was like why youtube's for like short form comedy and he was like nah we should should put like this hour-long interview up on youtube see if people like it and it was he really encouraged that um so we did that and then people watched it and then he kind of gave you the credibility the stamp of approval yeah he just was like'm going to do one or maybe two of these things, I want everyone to see it. So put it where the audience is, right? Valuable lesson, put it where the audience is, right? This is about visibility. I want people to know my music's out. I want people to know what it's about, right? I've chosen you to have one of these rare conversations, so let's put it everywhere. I'm like, of course.
Starting point is 00:30:21 Makes total sense. But at the time i'm being like super overly curatorial in the whole experience out of fear because i'm like what if i what if i put my stuff on youtube and people don't care right that's all that stuff so that's and he just cut through it was like no one has time for that put it up so he put it up it happened and then i mean there's luck involved there's timing timing involved, but the truth is, you know, when I spoke to Kanye West around the Yeezus project, which was quite a significant conversation at the time, where he really sort of did a lot of talking to camera and really addressed primarily the fashion industry and kind of outlined what he was going to do. Right. At the time, we had been putting breadcrumbs around the place for a while. I'd spent the last couple of years trying to get to him and see if he didn't want to
Starting point is 00:31:15 talk. Again, he had spoken for two or three years at that time. It was a bit of a media blackout for him. He was just making music and wasn't really doing many interviews. But you were putting feelers out Sending it to his team or people he knew and say I'd love to have him on still do that I mean, I made a call yesterday I've tried to get something teed up that won't happen for another year really all the time But now you're running up Apple music. Isn't it easier to get these artists who want to promote a new album?
Starting point is 00:31:40 It's not the point though So the point the point isn't to isn't to wait for them to want to promote the album the point is to get the conversation that is of the most value amen right the the point is to have the conversation with someone that is really impactful and you can have that when there's something to promote that's where it's our job to get behind the record or behind the project and get inside the human experience but you know there's someone i've wanted to talk to my entire life. Who's you're having a conversation with. Who's an older artist who is like a ghost cat, like Walter Mitty, like waiting for the cat to
Starting point is 00:32:12 come out of the... And I'm three, four conversations in several years into trying to make that happen. That's part of it. It's a fun part of it. I know. A lot of it's timing. There's been guests I've been trying to get for 10 years that I have been on top of the publicist that I'm- You know. I have five relationships with their closest. I'm in the mix somehow, but they, it just hasn't worked timing wise. Bill's the same. Bill Simmons is a good friend of mine. He's the same. We talk about it. He's like,
Starting point is 00:32:38 man, it's been years to get that one. It's how it goes. Right. He's massive. Yeah. By the way, it's whack to rest on your laurels and anything you've achieved is done. Yeah. It's unworthy. You've got to keep building it. Done. Done. It belongs. It exists. It's there. You know, Neil Young said something really cool
Starting point is 00:32:56 to me when I talked to him and had this awesome conversation with him and Rick Rubin and Neil Young said to me, I tried to ask him about Harvest and he was like, yeah, you know, I'll give you like a minute about Harvest, but anything beyond that, you're going to have to ask that guy. And I'm like, who's that guy? He's like, that guy who made that album, he's still back there. Just got to go find him.
Starting point is 00:33:15 And I'm like, well, how do I find him? He's like, I don't know. Go back there. Somewhere back there. He's like, there's been thousands of me. I don't know what that guy thinks about Harvest anymore. I know what I think and I'll give you a soundbite on it but i'm thinking about this today right now that's cool that's cool i'm curious about this is fascinating i love hearing this from someone who also does
Starting point is 00:33:36 interviews because i don't have a lot of people that do similar things as me on here which is fascinating this might get you in a little trouble but and i know every artist that you've had on has been inspiring in their own way oh it's the list it's the who's the most it's not the who's the most it's the because everyone will ask me like who's your favorite guest and it's it's actually i am obviously exactly right i tell you not because of me because i'm the one today right now yeah and it's not a favorite guest uh question because i don't think that's fair yeah uh but the the three artists that really spoke to you it may be in an emotional way i guess they all do obviously but maybe it's something that was on your heart and mind that that season of your life where they said something that really spoke to you maybe it connected to you with your family
Starting point is 00:34:23 or your career or something from your past or where they said something or their energy or their presence that day was really memorable for you and of course every artist you've had on is amazing and talented and great but this top three artists moments or memories in those interviews, if you could share. I mean, I can't do a top three because I mean, I've done, I've been doing it, like you say, 30 years. And I mean, I wouldn't have, I don't have the fuel to get me back that far. To remember that much. I'd run out around 2012. You know what I mean? And I've got to go back to 1997. It's a lot, but just a few moments. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I mean, look, I mean, dude, I had to dry my eyes the other day. I was having this really deep conversation with
Starting point is 00:35:14 someone and they talked about bottoming out with Josh McQueen and what it is to find the courage to carry on. And that really hit me, right um but i think in terms of sort of i mean my time the last time your conversation i had is was one of the very few times i've ever watched anything i've done been a part of back in full um because i'd waited my whole life as a fan to have that kind of unobstructed pure conversation with him um you know we had good conversations in the past and very awkward ones in the 90s and the 2000s when Radiohead were just holding on they're just holding on right because the whole world was like what does Radiohead think and they're like we're just holding on just trying to make the best out we can you know interviews are not our friend you know um but that was a really for me it was a it was wrapped i had very little sleep i had no sleep i had the worst jet lag ever some
Starting point is 00:36:15 some reason i found myself in a total tailspin i'd flown in the day before from la to london it's not a good jet lag i um i had stayed up till like seven in the morning just spinning out about this conversation. I got about two hours sleep, woke up. It was a morning conversation, which was good. It was good because I actually had a tailwind of like, you just got to do it. Had a couple of very strong cups of coffee. Another one at the pub, which was they just closed down for us, sat down. He sat down and he was just in amazing form.
Starting point is 00:36:38 That's great. Very generous with me. And so that to me was like a moment. And other artists have talked to me about that moment that was a moment for me when um it was emotional for me because i i just had been waiting to have a just this really genuine it's all on the table we can talk about it conversation with him and he was really generous with me and very enthusiastic to be there it was beautiful and i was so scared and it turned out to be the opposite that was beautiful i i think
Starting point is 00:37:09 probably when when hayley williams and i had our first real proper deep conversation about therapy and about the work that she was doing at the time and may still be i mean you never stopped doing the work and um and i was getting back into my therapy and everything else there was a we had we had some really great conversations that was very they were very moving and i think it's where i kind of had to learn to let artists be emotional my job was always to i felt always to steer them away from that and i just the good stuff is yeah i know i know but i was scared that it was like i felt like i was emotionally mugging people you know what i mean by letting them get emotional in my space right and actually it's just not up to me to do make that decision at all it's not nothing to do with me so that was
Starting point is 00:37:57 a really she was that was a great moment um and you know, anytime that, um, anytime that sort of the parental influence in particular right now comes up, um, is pretty sort of deep for me because my relationship with my mother in particular was changing. You know, she has dementia and so I don't have the same relationship I had with her. Because my relationship with my mother in particular was changing. You know, she has dementia. And so I don't have the same relationship I had with her. And whatever answers I needed on why our relationship was amazing but also challenging at times are gone. I'm not going to get any more answers, right? So whatever I got to go on now, I got to go on. But she's still here and it's awesome.
Starting point is 00:38:48 And so I'm grateful for every minute I spend with her and the times I get to kind of have these little moments of cognitive awareness and we laugh a lot and there's tears and it's it's it's a it's a brilliant human experience for all of the sadness attached to that really awful disease yeah um whenever I get into conversations and the parental thing comes up uh you know i gotta i gotta take a sharp breath on that and just stay composed because the thing is like when when you when when you get to a place when you're trying to get as inside the human experience as possible right whether it's through music or you you cover the such a broad spectrum of people's interests and things that affect the world um it's hard for it to not sometimes tap into something you're going through and so it's just knowing when you you want to allow yourself to go there and i mean
Starting point is 00:39:38 you must feel this too oh man i mean even you just sharing that story about your your mom how long has that been happening for you know we the the symptoms came on about four years ago. Maybe we start to notice, but in 2019, it became quite evident. And then we were still traveling around. I was taking her on road trips and I flew home to New Zealand for one night to take her to U2 because she couldn't really go on her own. And so I wanted to give her, because that was her favorite band. I wanted to give her that experience. She had a great night and then quarantine kicked in and that was that and the next time i saw her everything had changed you know because i think it's pretty
Starting point is 00:40:07 well established that quarantine and and isolation was not good for those who were dealing with cognitive issues and this isolation is not it's tricky you need the stimulation man yeah i mean i have a a story that's close to the heart for me my father actually uh got in a car accident in new zealand and had a severe brain trauma and they had to cut the car open uh the helicopter him to uh hospital in christ church yeah and uh for 17 years was alive but not emotionally mentally here so it wasn't dementia but it was a brain trauma where every time i would see him, it's like, where'd you go to school again? He could speak and have a conversation, but he didn't have memory. And he emotionally and mentally wasn't the same human being.
Starting point is 00:40:57 There were moments of that humor and like some of the personality, but it was almost like he was a different human being. So this is, this was close to home for me. He passed away a year, a little over a year ago. And for 17 years, I did my best. It was almost like, again, he was, he was alive, but emotionally gone, mentally gone. And so I wasn't able to fully grieve the loss of my father as i knew him because he was still physically here and it's been a a journey of grieving and and almost feeling closer to him now that he's physically not here because i don't have that struggle and barrier anymore and so i you know, it's, it's close to my heart with this. I can relate to that. And in my own way, um, it's about investment, right? It's, it's the, it's the time and the energy you put into whatever's changing, whatever's going on around you that, that allows you to, to, um, try to try to get, get as much out of it as possible.
Starting point is 00:42:00 Absolutely. And, um, you know, my brother and i often talk about the times we spend with with mom even though sometimes it's really hard to kind of feel that we can even be present for her um that that but but even when we just leave and we go have a beer we we just toast and say man she's bringing us together like she's still giving us reasons to stay together and to come together and to talk and to process and to work things through and so i yeah i that's a really really that's a hard one and i'm it's tricky i'm sorry that he moved on but it was tricky and it was it was challenging because it was for the first four or five years was like i thought he was gonna get better and it just didn't really happen i mean maybe moments of it but he was never able to get
Starting point is 00:42:45 back to a fraction of who he was his personality and his energy and his he was you know uh intellectual he just didn't have it anymore because of the brain trauma so i can i ask you a question yeah yep so if you if you sort of take a look at the overall experience of that, that era of your relationship with your father, um, from the, from the moment that he was who you knew him to be versus who he became. Um,
Starting point is 00:43:18 what did you learn about life in, in, in its most kind of micro micro potent way. The challenge is I had to learn how to hold like two things in my hands at the same time, like extreme sadness, pain and agony, but also like the beauty that comes from that. And there's no way that I would be where I'm at without that accident happening. Because in a lot of ways I didn't have the emotional courage because my father was able to support me emotionally,
Starting point is 00:43:56 mentally, sometimes financially. I was in college, right? So it's not like I had a career and I was doing my thing. He was kind of like, okay, if,
Starting point is 00:44:02 if things don't work out, like I can go work with my dad, you know what I mean? And he'll make sure that I'm like taken care of and I'll get paid and have a job. Yeah. So when he was not able to support me in any way, emotionally, mentally, spiritually, financially, it was like, oh, I need to become something greater. I need to figure out life. And I don't have him to, I wouldn't say baby me, but to like make sure that I'm taken care of. And so as tragic, and there was so many other tragic things around it. Um, just try, it was just all tragic. I don't think there was anything good about the situation, but who I became. And I, I just cared deeply about human beings and the human condition
Starting point is 00:44:48 and human psychology. And it's one of the reasons why I started this show was because I was just fascinated by humans and I knew I needed a lot to learn myself. And so I wanted to find the greatest mentors that I could, cause I didn't have my mentor anymore to learn from to soak it in and I was doing this for four or five years before I started this show and I was getting so much value from these conversations that I was like I need to record these and just put them out there so there is beauty for me from what I had overcome and learn and who I became in this journey of that accident. But it was also extreme sadness and loss and tragedy. Did you ever hear or see Colbert, the two-minute piece, where he talks about loving life and loving all of it?
Starting point is 00:45:38 Yeah, where he gets emotional. See, that would be the third example of that for me was when I sat with Fred again and he played me his reworked version of that speech with just some really beautiful drones that you know inspired you know influenced him and you know he's a he's a prodigy of you know and just these beautiful very delicate drones and played that speech and that was that was saying what you're saying which is the idea of like you know we're always one step behind change, but it's what do you do with it? Yeah.
Starting point is 00:46:05 And how do you apply it? And it's, man, we are so fragile as a species. Any moment, man. This was a moment. Happened in one second, he got in a car accident. It was a moment. And the rest of his life and everyone in his life changed. Yeah, yeah.
Starting point is 00:46:22 One of the greatest pieces of advice I got was from another mentor, a friend of mine, in Jason. Three, two and a half years ago, he said, hey, you know, I know you're going through this challenge with your dad. And I didn't know if he was going to live. We didn't think he was going to survive 17 years ago, right?
Starting point is 00:46:40 I thought he was in a coma for three months in Christchurch. We didn't know he woke up eventually. And I didn't know every year he had so many health problems after that. I didn't know if he was going to survive or pass every year, but he just kept chuffing along for 17 years. And I go, man, he's a stubborn son of a gun, you know? And, um, and my friend, my mentor, Jason, one of my friends, he said, but he was in Ohio, my dad, and I'm in LA. And I'd go back once a year, maybe twice to go visit him, right? But it was just hard. It's just hard to see him and just process the same conversation every time.
Starting point is 00:47:14 Yeah, it's a real tough one. I'm your father not knowing really. Well, so you have this kind of built in, not to drop you, you have this built in kind of sense of responsibility and ultimately guilt of not being more present. But at the same time, it's like, why would you consistently put yourself through this pain sadness constant pain which i did for the first four or five years seeing constantly and it's just like this is and he said listen you should go see your father more frequently like make it a make it a point to go there if you're going once a year go there three four times a year just do it like even if he doesn't
Starting point is 00:47:43 appreciate it i'm telling you you will appreciate it in. Like even if he doesn't appreciate it, I'm telling you, you will appreciate it in the future. And if he can't express it, he still appreciates it. Because he never called me after this accident. He never acted like he cared and he didn't want to be around his kids anymore. Where in before that he wanted to be around us all the time. So it was just a big transformation, big change. And, uh, so I made a commitment to do that. And this was during the pandemic when I did this actually, when it was just a big transformation, big change. And so I made a commitment to do that. And this was during the pandemic when I did this, actually, when it was less convenient to travel and less convenient to go. And I did it and I asked him every question I could. And I filmed as many things.
Starting point is 00:48:16 I almost interviewed him as much as I could and asked him every question. And every once in a while, there was actually a little nugget in there. Most of it was kind of, you know, all over the place. But every once in a while, it was actually a little nugget in there most of it was kind of you know all over the place but every once in a while i was like a little nugget in there and i have those memories and then he passed the next year and so i was really grateful that i invested that time that i made it the effort to go there not knowing that it would be that it would be his time because it's scary and i think we you know we we are quite simple as complex as we are as a species we're quite simple it's like pain equals bad right so regardless of the incentive and the emotional need to go do that and the knowledge that it's the right thing to do it's painful for it is man it's painful so there must be a reason why i can't go this week right
Starting point is 00:49:02 there's always a excuse and it's and it this week, right? It's always a risk. And it's totally, I think it's very normal. And I think getting over that pain barrier is really important because then you get into a place where you face these things down, you invest in the reality. And being invested in your reality, no matter what it is, ultimately is the closest we can get to being ready for the entire unknown. Exactly, man. Yeah. I've got a few final questions for you. This has been powerful. I'll
Starting point is 00:49:30 make sure I'm mindful of your time here. So Calvin, you got therapy after this. This is kind of therapy anyway. I got therapy tonight for me too. I love it. The journey, the healing journey is a journey. We've never arrived, you know, and I think there's different seasons of life where we got to unpack and take on new things. Before I ask you the final few questions, I'm curious about maybe an artist or two that really surprised you. Maybe you had a conception about them based on their music, based on what you'd seen in the press before you've interviewed them, based on their persona and personal brand and kind of character type that they portrayed to the masses. But when you interviewed them, there was a different side
Starting point is 00:50:17 of them that really opened you up or thought, wow, this is really a unique individual in a way that I wasn't even thinking about. Is there one or two that you can... There's a group. I mean, I would call it my sort of 3.0 or 4.0 kind of era of working in the pop music space, really, because before that I always came from the corner of the room. I knew what music I liked, and I didn't really want to compromise on that.
Starting point is 00:50:45 So I knew it was a slower journey and I knew that it wasn't going to be any shortcut to big numbers or big audiences. It was like, you know, if you want to be the first person to play the hives on the radio, you know, you're not going to be, no one's going to kick your door down
Starting point is 00:50:56 for a mainstream Saturday night, you know, NBC show. You know what I mean? It's like, no, he's the hives guy. He's happy in his corner, right? He's doing his thing. He's a new music person. And it worked really well for me and and i had an amazing time breaking what a lot of people sort of misguidedly called including myself at times
Starting point is 00:51:13 credible music like music is all credible but at the time we were all caught up in like daytime for pop evening time for cool whatever whatever whatever Then I came to Apple and I realized like, if I'm going to listen more and I'm going to be, and I'm going to change the way that I approach these conversations, I need to find people who are doing things I don't really know about. I don't really know what drives the pop mentality. I don't really know who Justin Bieber is. I don't really know what kind of life Selena Gomez has actually lived. I don't really, I've Bieber is. I don't really know what kind of life Selena Gomez has actually lived. I don't really, I've never really interviewed Taylor, who's not really, I mean, she is, but Taylor's like, as we know, is like the songwriter of a generation.
Starting point is 00:51:54 But it's like, you know, at the time she was making pop albums. And so it's like, how do I fit into that world? And so when I started having those conversations, it became clear to me and very surprising that with a bit of listening and some genuine curiosity and probably a bit of naivety as to what kind of goes into the pop world, we unlocked these kind of stories and these conversations that really surprised me how transparent modern pop artists have become. Really? Yeah. Because in my time, when I was coming up to the twenties and thirties or whatever, trying to find my voice, pop was just so, hi, we're the Backstreet Boys, right? It's like, Hey, what's been the hardest thing on tour? I didn't know, man. Kevin ate my hotdog last night. That was pretty tough going. You know, MTV News, you know?
Starting point is 00:52:46 Yeah, yeah, yeah. That was like the headlines. But you knew there was stuff going on. You knew that people didn't like each other. You knew there was drama, people getting ripped off. I mean, it's not like... I mean, pop music has been one of the most exploited sort of things, right? From an artistic point of view, it's very exploited.
Starting point is 00:53:03 I mean, music, any artist is. You know, hip-hop, country music, dance music dance music whatever the artists have a tough time so you knew that didn't stop at pop you knew it was drama and pop but you could never get to it it's like it was always just like and cut we're good here you know find a light yeah sell the records sell the record sell the dream and what was really interesting to me was when I started having conversations with these artists, just how honest and inspiring conversation they were. I mean, I've found my times talking to Selena Gomez to be some of the most fascinating and honest, amazing conversations I've had in my career. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:53:41 Why is that? Because she was so vulnerable and open and real. She's a no human. She's a no human. She's a no human. And if you get her on the day, she knows where the line is, but she doesn't mind walking up to it, you know? And I always thought pop music was way behind the line. You know, you want to go have those conversations, go talk to your favorite rock star or rapper
Starting point is 00:54:01 or singer songwriter, folk star or whatever, you know? I never thought pop stars would show up like that. And that's really where it's gone. I mean, sitting down and having that conversation with Justin Bieber, where he was that vulnerable, that open, that honest, let the tears flow, let the voice crack, let the body language tell you everything that you needed to know. That was very surprising to me. It was not what i was expecting when i showed up to the studio that day and i found the whole thing to be um incredibly brave and honest and i think inspiring for other stars who perhaps felt like they had to put them present their best and protect the rest
Starting point is 00:54:41 it's okay you can just let it all go if it's the right time and the right place and you want to. Kelly Clarkson says something to me today in our conversation where she talked about being less of the yes, but sort of being more willing to just walk away from things and not try to defend things all the time. And this in terms of relationships, I can't remember the context, but she was like, it was exhausting. I remember she just said it's exhausting. It's exhausting to continually have to sort of put things together. She started saying no and creating boundaries. Yeah, and just saying it's easier for me just to say, I don't want to do that, or I'm going
Starting point is 00:55:12 to move on, or it's just, here's my honest truth. It's exhausting to not. And that's what I saw in Justin. I just saw at the time, you can watch it. I'm not saying anything you can't see. He just looked exhausted and he just looked like he wanted to just stop, you know, with the whole, he just wanted to be like here's how i feel today bro i may feel different tomorrow but today i'm tired i don't know where i'm i don't know what's going on you know i'm wearing heavy and so that that has been a very inspiring thing as someone who's curious about what goes into music and art the the true stories, the humanity of it, to see so many artists who have so much to lose by being honest, hundreds of millions of followers and constant attention,
Starting point is 00:55:55 constant eyeballs trained on them from a young age to actually be able to say, this is bulls**t, I'm upset, Or that really hurt me. Or this is my truth. And I think that in many respects, and this is the thing, this is my little headline from this conversation, I think that this generation of people who were raised in the public eye and have gone on to develop careers in pop music from a young age are ultimately paving the way for pop stars to be able to um walk the line with more knowledge with a better understanding um just a stronger sense of self yeah you know um
Starting point is 00:56:34 and now you have like the billy arches of this world who are just all around amazing yeah she's amazing and just you know seem to be able to position things and be honest and be them be their true selves. And it took that generation, sorry to go on, but took that generation of pop stars to come out and say, you know, let's break that spell a bit. Absolutely. Yeah, it's beautiful to watch this stuff. And you do a great job, again, on your show, The Zane Lowe Show. Make sure you guys check it out on YouTube, everywhere else, on Apple as well.
Starting point is 00:57:09 um on youtube everywhere else on apple as well and um i love the way you get these artists who seem untouchable to open up in such a beautiful vulnerable loving compassionate way and so you're you're the master of it and you do an amazing job of creating a safe environment and also knowing your stuff so it's what that's what decades of putting in the consistent effort and work and research will do for you. So big congrats to you. And I want everyone to go check out these interviews cause they're so inspiring. I appreciate that. Um, I want to acknowledge you Zane for your emotional generosity, for being here, for showing up vulnerably, loving, opening your heart and just being a real dude. I wouldn't expect anything different from a Kiwi. So I appreciate you for how you show up and for
Starting point is 00:57:52 being an inspiration to so many people around the world, the way you curate conversations and how you show up as a real human being in these talks. I really acknowledge you and appreciate your skills, your generosity and your humanity. Wow. Well, thank you very much. I really acknowledge you and appreciate your skills, your generosity, and your humanity. Wow. Well, thank you very much. Of course, man. Of course. I appreciate the opportunity and I appreciate you coming into the human experience with a sense of openness and wanting to know about what makes us tick. Absolutely, man. It's a nonstop fascination for me. Right. Yeah. I can learn from everyone, something. This question, the last two questions, this one is called the three truths. So it's a
Starting point is 00:58:33 hypothetical question. Imagine you get to live as long as you want, but it's your last day. You get to accomplish everything you want to accomplish. Your dreams all continue to come true in the future. the beautiful things but for whatever reason you've got to take all of your content with you on this last day so you've done all the interviews content this conversation for whatever reason it's gone it's gone to the next place so no one left behind in this world has access to your information anymore your content but you get to leave behind three final lessons three truths that are true for you that you would share with the world and that's all we have to kind of remember you by what would be those three truths for you that our memories are our single most
Starting point is 00:59:19 important and valuable experience that all this fades, right? Everything fades and eventually your memories will too, but that's the only thing I truly like to collect. I have no problem cancelling something or spending money on something or whatever if I'm going to get a great memory out of it right um to accept and acknowledge that um it's you know that in order to love people in your life in a way that is rewarding to yourself that it's it's totally valid to love yourself. And that often we project
Starting point is 01:00:07 what love is, but we don't really love who we are. And it took me a long time in my life to actually be able to say to myself, like, I like you, dude. Like, I love myself. And it changed every one of my relationships for the better. It made me a better guide for our kids, my wife and myself and our children. And it allowed me to just, to listen to my own voice and to not want to turn it off or not want to ignore it. So I'm a big believer in like finding the time and the space to not just sort of learn to love other people and to put your identity through that, but to actually, to not be unafraid to love yourself. I want to follow up with that really quick. When did you realize that you didn't fully love yourself? From a young age, I realized pretty early on that something inside of me was stuck in this
Starting point is 01:00:55 trauma. And I never felt complete. I felt really entirely comfortable with myself and I and I think it took me to go to therapy and to really um realize that ultimately my role in all of this is is is to be a family member and to be you know the best possible kind of to be the most value to the people I care about requires me to value myself otherwise it's all just bull right you know it's it's and so i had to be really miserable and then realize it's just not gonna sustain me i need to find you know i couldn't you know it's like that whole thing of like can you actually stand in front of a mirror and tell yourself you like yourself when was that when could you actually stand in front of the mirror and say i like you i love you i accept you yeah it was during the time when i became a parent i realized that if in order for me to be able to to be a father a real parent i needed to
Starting point is 01:01:54 be able to acknowledge that wow yeah in a big way um and um that music is despite what a great job we've done of condensing it and monetizing it and commercializing it and making it into these beautiful little package things, that at its very core it is magic it's it comes from an intangible space and it inspires us in a very intangible way to the point where we try to understand it as much as we possibly can we analyze it i analyze that's my job but the more time i spend doing it the more i realize it's just magical it's more spiritual it's pure magic it finds you when you need it um it stays with you it holds you it comes out of you um it is i truly think it is um it's the biggest trick we've all played on ourselves is that it's not the truth. It's not the true experience of life. Art is the true experience of life. That painting is what it is to be alive.
Starting point is 01:03:16 That song is what it is to be alive. That film or that script or that written word or the conversation, anything that is a form of expression is is it is true nature um that is that's that's that's the magic of being here i think so you know really it's just about um you know allowing ourselves to be human allowing ourselves to love and allowing ourselves to to to appreciate art. I just sometimes we're just not kind to art. That's true. Do you know what I mean?
Starting point is 01:03:50 Very critical to art, yeah. Yeah. And I think I think art is it's really magic. The longer I go in this life the more magic I realize it is. That's beautiful.
Starting point is 01:04:00 Yeah. Final question. You've you've had a lot of beautiful memories and you've been around the greatest achieve in the moment, albeit in conversation, albeit through ambition or whatever, acknowledging in that moment that you have achieved something and utilizing that to go and inspire you to do something else. The balance between those two things is really
Starting point is 01:04:47 what that is. I think the aspiration is very important, the desire to focus and to train, work hard to achieve these goals is great. But I think true greatness is in balance. That's what I think. I think it's in loving what you do and achieving things, inspiring yourself to continue to achieve things, but never at the expense of living a life that is rewarding in every way. I'm big on balance, man. That's what I think. I hope today's episode inspired you on your journey towards greatness. Make sure to check out the show notes in the description
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